Binge Eating Recovery - A New Approach
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- čas přidán 23. 03. 2021
- BINGE EATING RECOVERY - A NEW APPROACH
This video is for you if you are feeling thoroughly disheartened about your binge eating. You may be spending a lot of time trying to figure out how to recover from your binge eating disorder and in this video I explain a new way of how to stop binge eating that actually feels possible.
Because recovery is possible.
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You are the first person I have found who talks about binging/bulimia exactly the way my experience has been. Thank you so much for making these videos. Still currently in state A, but not feeling so helpless after watching your videos.
How are u doing x
Thank you for your honesty, Sarah. I had an epiphany listening to you…I kind of knew but was never able to articulate that dissatisfaction with food is a trigger for me too. If I eat something I am dissatisfied with, especially after a restriction, I eat and eat and eat in an effort to find that satisfaction that I was denied. And I’ll eat everything and anything and I’ve NEVER been satisfied during a binge, now that I think about it. NEVER. This was really eye-opening and is something I need to reflect on long and hard in order to get a handle on it better. But I cannot thank you enough for bringing it to my attention. I’m truly grateful. Thank you!
This is incredible. I've battled bingeing and restricting for years and listening to you talk has put words to a lot of things I didn't even realize I was thinking. Thank you, you are doing amazing work
Thank you Sarah .. this chronic illness is difficult and needed to hear you over again and again and want to try to be in state B … love your saying it is a place of freedom
What u said made sense, I suffered in the last 3-4 years with Binge eating and Bulimia on and off. Once I managed to stay on State B for 6 months, then crisis happened in my life and I went to state A again.
I struggled on my own, I found your channel very comforting and very helpful. I listened to your book in my spare time, over and over again.
Since I discovered yr channel, I have been recovered ..second week so far 🙏
Totally agree, was exactly what I found too! It's about time spent there. and also about the fact that most people need to be "drugged"with sugar to just...not think anymore. and when you're free, you're...basically exposed to being alone.
Great information. I don't always binge, yet I have periods of binges. Food freedom
Wow, this is the best description of recovery I've ever heard. You literally articulated that concept in the way Eckhart Tolle describes spirituality, you know when you're like "Gosh YESSS you just described that in such a simple way that I connect with wholeheartedly but couldn't for the life of my find the right words!" Haha Amazing! 💚 Thank you 🙏
I do love Eckhart and my work is certainly influenced by his philosophy. I’m glad it resonated so deeply ❤️❤️❤️
Girl...Ive been having trouble signing into my yt account so i just started watching it without being logged in... i just made a new account to be able to like this and follow... ive been binge free pretty much for a year now and made so much progress and last week i binged every day and ive been struggling SO hard with forgiving myself and moving on forward... i caught myself saying ok you wont eat for the next two days to make up for it, but i kind of knew this was the exect mindset to get me deeper in the binge spiral and make everything worse, so i searched for help and you showed up. thank youuu so much and everyone struggling with it im glad were not alone in this and im so sorry because it is absoutely horrible
Beautifully articulated!
Wow, just amazing!
Thank you so much.
Amazing
Thank you so much
I love your channel, thank you
this help me so much thank you
Such a helpful concept. Thank you for this work, Sarah.
I can’t believe how right on you are about all of this - it feels like a “yes!!!! That’s it!!” experience over and over listening to you. Thank you SO much for all you do. You are changing my life.
Thank you. Your content resonates with what I’m going through. ❤️
thank you so much for your work. it really helps me so so much!
I am so glad I came across your channel. It's making me realize I really need help. I do not remember a time in my life that I did not binge eat.
This video makes me feel so scene. Thank you so much for sharing♥️
Amazing video! Thank you for making these videos. You have helped me so much! ❤❤
This resonates so much for me. I’ve been struggling for awhile and this is truly helpful. I’m so grateful I found you. Thank you for the wonderful information you share
You are fantastic. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. It is so helpful!
Hey Sarah, thank you for this video! I am in a very hopeless state lately and someone just recommended me to watch this... I'm glad i did and really hope it will do me something good. I was a bit shocked as i saw the amount of views since your channels deserve waaaay more attention!! You are doing an amazing job with this, i think i will look through all your other videos aswell
Hi and welcome! I’m glad you’ve found me andI hope my content is helpful for you. Feel free to reach out if there are subjects you would like to see covered ❤️
I've been in state A for a couple of weeks now, and watching this video is just so liberating, and soothing and means a lot honestly. Just the idea of knowing that I've already recovered, for shorter periods of time, in the past, is very helpful and liberating. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
Using totally different vocabulary and logics I have come to very similar conclusions and it worked for me. It just shows we are all very unique and therefore the path for 'recovery' (however you define it) must be unique as well. THank you for this video.
Wow! I wish I had the words to how positive and settled this makes me feel. Instead of seeing it as never recovered like AA's thinking of, always an alcoholic but never a recovered one, to having moments then days of recovered. I have had a taste of that recovered state recently and the binge state only in small bits and with the presence of mind to know that recovered is just a change of thinking once again and the freedom returns. You saying that dissatisfaction with your food is really triggering, it so is for me too. I experienced that tonight! Again, I thought it was only me. LOL I just love how you light up when explaining your ah ha kind of moments that worked for you. Thank you once again...
Wow! This is by far the best video I've seen on binge eating and I'm presently more in state A. Just today, I told my elder sister that I was tired of this weight loss journey which I keep sabotaging and almost immediately, I cautioned myself knowing I have a community of people looking upto me and I need to get this right for myself too! I also realised that not pressing reset is worse! Hence my search for help through CZcams which lwd me to you! I feel so glad seeing this, I'll settle to watch more of your videos.. You have a way of simplifying this that resonates with me.. I'll become more intentional and work towards staying at state B more often. Thank you so very much🙏
Thank you for being so honest, I think it's a fab way to look at recovery, I'm feel like I'm in state A.5 at the moment!! I love your videos, I could listen to you all day x
Ahhh, thanks for your comment! Maybe A.5 is your state B for now. There could be a danger of idealising what state B is supposed to look like ❤️
The idea of this approach has really given me some peace. Thank you so much for this new outlook
I’m so glad to hear that ☮️ ❤️
Thanks Sarah. I love your book and I love the way you communicate. Your experience as well as your expertise is priceless! Keep up the outstanding work!! 💕
Thank you 🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Sarah. That really makes a lot of sense. The ‘big’ recovery that I am hoping for is definitely more black and white thinking. I realise now that I will move in and out of this but hope to really starting using the tools I am learning to get back to state b’ more quickly that I have been. I’ve decided to scale things right back and am literally taking it one meal at a time. Thanks for the C&R group on Sunday too, I really got a lot from that 😊 x
I love the idea of scaling back and simplifying as much as you can ❤️
What an excellent video! Thank you Sarah! I’ve been struggling with binge eating disorder for almost 60 years. Any therapist I went to didn’t really ‘get it’ and tried to teach me ways to modify my behaviour that were completely irrelevant (basically, eat less, move more! 😠)
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and saying it like it is! ❤
You are the best ❤️
You are amazing,🤩for the first time i fell freedom because of you ,really you have changed the way i think , you have changed my mindset already. I appreciate that thanks alot
First I want to thank you for doing what you’re doing! 💕 you are the first person talking about binge eating and recovery in a way that feels real and honest. I’ve been dealing with binge eating for years and made massive improvements with the help of watching other CZcams videos, journaling and trying to understand myself better, however I haven’t found anyone talking about this stuff like you do - I tried no restrictions/ unconditional permission to eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted and I fell into overeating all the time because I felt as if without any structure, I was simply confused and had to say Yes to ALL urges/ cravings all the time. And my cravings for “processed” foods didn’t magically disappear like people say they would…
Then I took the advice of having structure and that led me to feeling a lack of freedom again because what if I wanted an additional meal or a snack? But I was supposed to follow a structure of 3 meals a day and 1-2 snacks…
When you talk about the states of being - that makes so much sense. I now have weeks sometimes months without binges and then when one happens, it does feel catastrophic and it does feel like I’m starting from 0, so looking at it the way you talk about it is really really helpful.
Thank you for taking exactly what I am going through and putting it into words!! And also for starting with a Wayne Dyer Quote! (He is my all time favorite author) You are great at simplifying something I fell is so complicated in my mind. Appreciate you Sarah!!!
Ahhh. Thanks Trisha. I’m glad it was helpful. (And RIP Dr Dyer ❤️❤️❤️)
Thank u for this it is really helpful for me. 💗
I’m very happy to hear that ❤️
This video was really an eye opener for me.. can you make a video about tips to get quicker longer to state B? Because this is what tares me down so much. The longer I am in State A I get more and more insecure and physically weaker. Thanks so much
Your video appearing on my reccomended really feels like a blessing or a sign thank you so much! I really needed to hear this. I'd been in state b or the recovered state for a few days a while back and I was so happy I was riding high on the idea that I would never binge again. I was super proud of myself, I was really in tune with my hunger cues and would stop eating after I was satisfied and I gave myself food freedom and was trying to be less judgemental about my own body. But then yesterday I stayed up later than I normally do and ended up binging I was beyond disappointed in myself and I've been feeling so hopeless because of it. But hearing you say that recovery is closer than it may seem really helps. I like the perspective approach and how trying to see recovery as two different states can really make things feel easier and not as overwhelming. I appreciate you so much thank you
Ahhh, well I’m glad CZcams connected us and that my video was so well timed for you ❤️❤️❤️
Waaaw, this is mind blowing!!
Happy to blow your mind 🤯
this really makes so much sense! i am struggling with bulimia for so so many years and i always feel like a failure that i could not get out of the binge and purge cycle. watching ur videos are very very helpful for me. so so happy i came across ur channel.
I’m glad you my videos are helpful. Welcome! 🙏🏻❤️
Completely agree! The idea of having a state of recovery and progress looking like spending more and more time in that state is a far more balanced mindset than the abstinence/counting days of abstinence approach!
I think so! Otherwise people spend years feeling like they are just repeatedly failing at recovery 😕
I needed this so much right now, I was in state A for what felt like "forever"; I thought I was "there" had finaly reached recovery and then I let my guard down at beginning of February and I haven't been able to stop binging. Feeling stuck here feels soul crushing like you said Sarah
It feels horrible when you get sucked back into the binge eating vortex. I think I need to do some videos specifically about the process of pulling yourself back into balance. Sending ❤️
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist that would be amazing, this time feels especially dark, maybe the darkest for me and I know it's because I thought I "had figured it out".
This reminds me so much of the alcohol problems I had for years. Gave that up almost 6 years ago, however now it shifted to food, losing weight and binging at times. Not as much as I read from other people, but still feeling very guilty, ashamed, worthless, lost etc. I am a male btw, seems like this is mostly a woman's problems but I think there are a lot of men struggling as well ❤️🩹
Thanks as always Sarah. I find the state A and B idea really helpful, and particularly your tips on how to move from A to B without all the guilt and binary thinking.
I would like more of your tips about how to set intention, moving from one state to another. Xx
Cheers Janette. I will have a think about how to incorporate tips and intentions into a video ❤️
Hey Janette! I’ve just put a video up about setting intentions, hopefully it’s useful ❤️
Well, I should have listened to your recovery video before I made my last comment. I cant tell you appropriately what a life ring you are. Thank you and keep talking. Not too late for me after all.
I agree. Also, episode 22 of my podcast (not yet released, I think we’re on 18) we talk about the experience of struggling for decades with this and what it means for recovery. That may be useful and resonant for you ❤️
Thank you. This all sounds very encouraging, but I find I have more questions than answers. Just borrowed your book on kindle unlimited an hope to find out more there. Shell X
I hope the book is useful for you and I see you have found the audio version here too ❤️
Thank you, a lot has changed for me and I can say that the last two months were so liberating for me BUT I lost control again... I've been binging for four days now, I'm in chaos now and I want to go back to freedom again, your point of view seems really helpful
I’m very happy to hear it’s helpful. I hope you regain your balance soon ❤️
Beautiful ❤
Can you talk more about how to move into state B?
Hi Sara! I love your channel and listen to it daily. I am single for the first time in about 20 years (that makes me feel old!) - I used to be highly co-dependent and I'm working on that for the first time in a long time. Anyway, as a single woman, I thought it would be good to lose some weight to "prepare to date" (this was at the beginning) and of course, that triggered the diet mentality, which then triggered binge eating (I have been through this before but years ago). My binge eating consists of eating loads of sugar in the very middle of the night (like, between midnight and 3 AM). I have attempted to notice the thoughts/feelings in my body when I wake up, before I go downstairs to eat. And there is of course the "f it" thoughts and associated excitement feelings in my body with "oooh sugar!" but I have also noticed these thoughts around - do I really want to be thin anyway?! If I am thin (or thinner), will that be scary? What will I focus on then and won't that push me towards being "ready" to date (e.g., once I lose the weight, then I can date). Do you have any experience with the association between holding on to weight/binge pattern as your identity and maybe a sort of an armor? I'm even wondering if I'm getting addicted to the cycle of self-sabotage and then the self-hatred in the morning. Thank you so much in advance for any thoughts or direction to a video you have already made on this topic.
Hi Hannah,
I haven't done a video on this. I touch on it briefly on a short Instagram video instagram.com/p/CFrSPW3j85I and Stef and I talked about doing a podcast episode about it. Let me have a think about it.
I’m so angry that I can’t stop overeating, I love the thing that’s making me a physical shape that I don’t want and I refuse it! I want too not want too overeat through the day nor love the thing that I love (food)
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Sara. So much has been said about eating what one wants, when one wants which I have done for years. I just eat too much of it. Should I consider that this is now my life or should I place half the volume on my plate and muscle through wanting more? I eat 3 times a day and have all of my life. I'm 72. Sometimes feels too late for me.
Oh wonderful thank you. Im really struggling 😪
I’m sorry to hear that Jemma 🙁❤️
Do you do one to one support if so how much are sessions and where is info please xx
thebingeeatingtherapist.com/prices-services/
Can I ask, did you purge too...as that's what I need help with stopping
I did for around 5-6 years. The reason why I haven’t done a video about how I stopped was because it honestly felt like a decision I arrived at. I had a moment where I truly realised that the purging made my bingeing a million times worse. I could binge repeatedly and purge, but without purging, bingeing more than once a day was unlikely (occasionally happened). I haven’t done a video about it because I have no idea what to say that will help people reach that point. I wish I did.
i have to say no to food because of a chronic illness, not diet mentality. and it fucking sucks 😭
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Sarah did u ever try OA?
I feel depressed sitting in those meetings
The idea of powerless! Wow that’s so depressing - let’s sit hear in these meetings and listen to people talk forever
Yep. Did it for 7-8 months. Still have a good friend in my life today from my OA days. I found it a relief not to be alone, but I ended up feeling more ashamed some ways because I could never achieve the elusive abstinence. The only people I saw who were ‘abstinent’ came from a much more restrictive background
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist yes so true! The label just feeds the powerlessness. Once you know healing is possible and you see others u just can’t sit in those rooms and hear them say “I am a compulsive overeater” and then sing from the same hymn book so to speak and praise bill w who was actually begging for alcohol on his deathbed and had various mistresses. He was high on other drugs after alcohol - I’m so glad u feel the same 🙏
Their cure was worse than the problem lol
Adopting a low fat WFPB lifestyle has resolved all my eating problems and I would thoroughly recommend it. It allows large portions so you feel satisfied and you gradually stop obsessing about food. I also keep my environment clean of trigger foods. 2 years of happiness and weight loss and counting. Please give it a go.
So you recommend a diet... On an eating disorder page? P.s your body needs fat. Low fat diets are so old fashioned too!
Thank you so much for this video 🥹
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