What Are The Most Toxic Filipino Traits? | Rec•Create Unfiltered
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- čas přidán 6. 03. 2020
- In this episode, Einj, Jan, Maui, and Adea discuss the most toxic Filipino traits found within family members, friends, and in society.
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COMPARING CHILDREN TO OTHER CHILDREN. THAT REALLY SUCKS.
Yeah, I hate that so much. Same in our place
Kailah Weygan same i hate it so much
True
Hindi lang to Filipino toxic mentality. meron din nito sa ibang bansa.
It truly does suck to be compared
toxic ung stereotyping/judger.. lol.. XD
pag malinis ung lalaki - bading
pag tatooan - adik
may hikaw na lalaki - sanggano
magcorrect ka - ikaw na perfect
mdami ex - chickboy
mdaming lalaking tropa ang girl - malandi
nagttwo piece - pokpok
mali grammar - bobo
may punto - bisaya
paglate 20's kana - magasawa kana
walang bf/gf - tibo/bakla ka
nakikinig ng hugot songs - emo
nkikinig ng anime songs - isip bata
nakikinig ng kpop - kinain ng sistema
nakikinig ng rap - gangster
pag d pareho sa opinion mu - bash/hate
palamura - masamang tao
palasimba - ipokrito
nagcorrect ka - nagmamagaling
ndi ka magsalita - duwag
gwapo/mgandang lgbt - sayang
nagsumbong - pabida
nagpakabait 1million times, nagkasala 1 beses - bashed
nagkasala 1million times, naggood deed 1 beses - praised
MERON PA: *PAG MAGTRY KA MAGREPORT TUNGKOL SA ISANG ARTISTA O KAHIT HINDI ARTISTA* - NANINIRA KA NA AGAD
@Tyler Durden ..gulo dba.. aq dun sa anime songs part.. lol wirdo daw..XD at isip bata..
@@lrumramatia4787 grabe talaga Ang mga mindset ng mga Pinoy swerte ako meron mga taong katulad. Ko
tama to lalo na family ko 18 nako pero di pako nagkaka-gf sinasabihan ako ng bakla -__-
all the young filipinos need is a great teacher that teaches on how to accept mistakes and to be humble
and one more toxic thing is when you're speaking english to young non speaking filipinos instead of "Ayy Pasensya na hindi ako marunong ng english ihh tagalog nalang puwede?" they just talk to me like "English english ka diyan arte mo hindi kanaman matalino bakit ka nag Eenglish englishan?" It doesn't mean If you speak english that doesn't mean you're smart it sometimes means that you know how to speak english and tagalog if someone can relate You're not alone😂
As a filipino myself, this is what I hate about my own culture the most:
1: gossip the f*ck out of everything
2: always late
3: colonial mentality
4: crab mentality
5: inconsiderate or thoughtless of everyone
6: pinoy pride
7: ignorant of rules/laws
8: onion skinned (hypersensitive/over emotional)
9: extremely short tempered and impatient
10: hypocrite
11: double standard or two-faced
12: constant shaming or guilt tripping
13: always attention grabbing
14: talks too loud and too much
15: mental illness is never taken seriously
16: religious fanaticism
Edit:
I forgot 3 more elements:
17: racism (thanks to those who pointed this out in the comments section, totally slipped my mind)
18: indecisiveness. At least from what I've seen in my own filipino family.
19: poor financial planning or irresponsible when it comes to money
20: incapable of paying attention
2nd edit:
21: narcissistic personality disorder
22: greedy and selfish
23: bullying is acceptable behavior (refer to #4, 16 and 17)
24: victim blaming
25: hyper sexual
26: too emotional for our own good
27: low emotional intelligence
I appreciate that u listed it out 🤘🤘
the last one tho
@@jimhcanencia8245 now more than ever
What makes gossiping worse is when they gossip while your around.
ᜁᜄ᜔ᜎᜒᜐ᜔ᜌ ᜃᜆᜓᜎᜒᜃ whole car decked out with Filipino flag stickers and ornaments
*One of the most toxic Filipino traits is: sobrang uhaw tayo for foreign recognition. KSP kumbaga na pang-international level.* Filipinos usually want foreign or outside-the-country approval so we can reassure ourselves that we’re worthy. We over-appreciate and over-obsess anything foreign, especially from the west. Basta galing sa ibang bansa, or State-side for example, ah, definitely the best na kaagad. That’s why we’re frequently not that proud of what we produce within the country-our own products, our own artists, our own films, our own food, our own youtubers, our own music, our own inventions, etc. We are quick to prefer anything foreign over what is home-grown or home-produced. Tapos andaming Pilipino na palaging nagsasabing “Proud to be Pinoy” or “Proud Filipino here.” But the thing is, you’d usually see Filipinos say that when something or someone is only recognized by other countries or an international organization. Para bang we’re only proud of who we are when other countries approve us. It seems may pagka-ipokrito tayo, and at the same time, para bang mababa talaga ang tingin natin sa sarili natin. We have a shallow sense of patriotic pride. We console ourselves through external sources, always looking for outside approval, and not from within. It’s such a disconnect that our sense of nationalistic pride is only worthy if other countries approve.
I can't, this is so true esp in the music industry, there are a lot of underrated artists and people just can't appreciate them or their music
Kahit yung mga sikat at walang ginagawa, binabash, nakakainis na
Catherine Calmerin, exactly. kahit sobrang galing nila, hindi sila pansin within our own country. Pero kapag ni-recognize ng ibang bansa ang mga underrated artists na yan, suddenly many Filipinos would be joining in the recognition and saying “proud to be filipino” kuno. Makikisawsaw bigla na proud sila na ka-pilipino nila ang pinaralangan o ni-recognize ng ibang bansa. it’s a semi-fake sense of nationalistic pride.
@@froeloe I don't really want to mention artists pero sige, A lot of people are bashing Moira dahil pabebe raw boses I-- have y'all seen her songs with her cousin Nieman and her other collaborations? Tapos si Morissette, di ko maintindihan pinuri na nga't lahat ng mga taga-ibang bansa binabash pa din na puro sigaw daw, the crab mentality is so fresh from the Philippine sea : ) Then we have SB19 our own idol group, may nagbabash sa kanila at may kinocompare na ibang artist na either di nila ka-genre o irrelevant. Tss. I'm sorry if your not interested, I just want to rant how stupid and envious people can get. It's so tiring to see these kinds of people.
Thirst for international recognition. Yes I agree. Tsaka lang natin nakikita yung value ng kung anong meron sa Pinas pag napansin na ng mga foreign people. Tsaka lang tayo nagiging proud pag napansin ng mga foreigners. Very true.
Personally, what I hate the most are:
1. Filipino Time
2. Colorism
3. Expectation for women to need to have kids/be married
😬😬😬
LOUDER!!!!!!
Jaime Abellar i feel number 3
@@0401412740 most Filipino's reliance on religion in general, not just being preoccupied with it, it's a bad trait though those 3 I listed were the ones that really stood out and came to mind immediately
@Janna Maglinao same
Pinaka hate ko filipino time tangina
As a small creator, one toxic Filipino trait that really hits home is crab mentality. Everyone wants to see you fail but when you finally make it they're all there to congratulate you. That really sucks. :(
I think that happens in most cultures
Especially when you've became popular because of your success gashh!!
Mine still tried to put me down by ignoring me after I succeeded.
Same same
its ok lang po, lulutang naman lahat yan pag bumaha 🤣
Filipinos love to point out flaws.
1. Boys esp tease flat chest like you're not a girl when you don't have boobs. I never thought of my flat chest as flaws and that it would affect my dating life, but pinoys love bringing it up.
2. The most common one is grammar or knowledge.
Especially with this freakshow of reading comprehension battle.
They laugh at you and make fun when you don't know a certain fact.
I've befriend some Japanese, they never bring each other down. Even when pinoys tease them because they're english aren't fluent etc
3. Degrading jokes. So toxic. Just to make the whole room laugh, they sacrifice someone's insecurities
The "making fun of chest" is just straight up body shaming😕
Marami sa kaibigan ko may kaisipang "Flat is Justice" HAHAHAHAHA kasama ako doon.
Natawa ako sa number 1. Feel ko hindi naman flaws yung pagkakaroon ng flat na chest.
That's because Parents won't teach their child about body shaming, toxic comments etc. Argh.
"Degrading jokes" oppss vice ganda left the group.
Though di naman lahat ng jokes nya ay puro panlalait pero may times na nakakasakit na sya tas tinatawanan lang then sasabihin na "gusto lang kita pasayahin, patawanin" kahit na below-the-belt na ung jokes and di na magandang pakinggan. di un comedy bar nasa national television sila, for me medyo napapahiya kung sino man ung nakakabiruan nya.
The toxic traits I see:
1. Denying that there is something wrong with you, especially sa parents.
2. I do this before but expecting boys to be a man or something.
3. Usapang politikal madami ng nagaaway.
4. Parents think na it’s the same thing happening to us as they did back then especially when you open up.
5. Even speaking the truth especially in a respectful manner you could muster is a form of disrespect.
6. Stereotypes anything as long it screams to them that you’re “Rich Kid”, “Maarte”, mga ganun
Agree!
Number 3 ay madami din sa mga American talaga lalo ngayon
Yung 1. I could had sworn dinig na dinig ko nung nasa isang restaurant ako sa Manila, yung dalawang mag ina ata, mag auntie or maglola (hindi ako sigurado) pero yung mas matanda (70's na siguro edad, may puti na siya sa buhok) nagalit dun sa mas bata siguro nga nasa late 20's na niya, DAHIL LANG TINAGALOG NIYA YUNG WAITRESS, MALAMBING PANAMAN YUNG BOSES, MAGALANG SA WAITRESS MAY PO, tapos ang lakas ng boses ng mas matanda para sabihin sakanya na SANA INENGLISH NIYA KASI ANG CHEAP AND BAROK KAPAG NAGTAGALOG ANG ISANG TAO SA RESTAURANT, *SINAGOT SIYA NGAYON NG MAS BATA SABI* "AT KAILAN NAGING CHEAP ANG SARILI NATIN LENGUAHE? COUNTRY NATIN ITO, MAY SARILING KAYANANG PANANALITA AT PROUD AKO DUN, ENGLISH AMG SECOND LANGUAGE NA DAPAT YUN NGA YUNY CHEAP KASI HINDI NAMAN ORIGINATED SAATIN EH, AT LEAST MAY GALANG AKO AT APPRECIATION SA TAGALOG HINDI TULAD NG IBA KINAKAHIYA" *napikon yung mas matanda, nag away sila*
@@wilfarplaylay8469 grabe nakakahiya yung matanda. Colonial mentality nga naman. Sana multohin siya ni Jose Rizal at Gen. Luna hahaha 😆
Number 3. Kapag naghahapunan sa bahay, tapos magiging political yung topic ng usapan... umaalis talaga ako sa hapag-kainan...
Like, who the **** cares about your political beliefs??? I applaud you for exercising your freedom of speech, but please don't impose your belief throughout the whole family!
pag depressed ka, automatically ang layo mo na kay God tas u need to pray more (my dopamine levels are shaking)
true, at di naman porke di lng madasalin malayo agad kay God
my mom tells me that having anxiety or adhd is an excuse for being stupid
@@kokohoreboketsu-chan1575 does your mom have anxiety or adhd then? :D
@@KatherineSinahon yes....yes she is
True, ganyan si Mama
watching this infront of my mom and she's listening lol triggered sya lmaooo
🤣🤣🤣
Lmao not necessarily same but I'm legit watching this with max volume so that my parents can overhear
Hahhahaha
Ana Dominique Reyes LET EM KNOW
same. HAHHAHAHHA. Galit sya ih
When parents compare their lifestyle before to what the child has now. Although it’s more on appreciation, it becomes more conditioning for the child.
Ayaw ko rin nang ganyan pero feel ko ganyan din tayo pag may anak tayo. Baka sabihin natin "Pagod ka?..Nun panahon nga namin sasakay kami ng Jeep ngayun Flying Car Reklamo ka pa".
@@kathleenabbu8553 that's what I'm afraid of...☹
Kathleen Abbu : Very true! 🤣 Sa younger nga na mga teens ngayon pagnagrereklamo nagkokompara na agad eh lmfao.
But hopefully pagdating sa parenting yung generation natin learn from this, it’s not always the best thing for the child. We should be more appreciative as well
True not only parents my siblings do it too because i'm the youngest and i'm a "princess" that they only have 5cent to spend....don't they know things get more expensive
@@kathleenabbu8553 kaya nga eh nakakabobo sa totoo lang, kaysa matututo yung bata hindi pa rin niyan maiintindihan kung bakit siya magpapakahirap, at dito magsisimula lahat ng hindi magandang mangyayari sa bata.
Elders exclude the youth from important discussion and use the Toxic line:
"Bata ka pa, wag ka muna mangielam. Wala ka pang alam"
Okay, Boomer! 🥴
true, they aint ready for that conversation 😬🤭
age =/= wisdom/maturity
Umm positive nman po Yan in a different pov tulad nlng may mamatay sa family(lhat namn tayo mamatay) oh di Kaya matters na dapat hindi mainvolvé mga Bata. Yan lng hahahaha yan pov ko
@@rizardofloramor9734 Is it necessary to belittle kids?
@@zaggitoriuzgamez4402 pero kapag wla nman talaga alam yung Bata bakit ka ijojoin.... Tulad ng 10 years old gusto makisale sa convo tungkol sa calculus.... Hindi naman yan derogatory Kung totoo😅, Naka depende lng yan sa pov nung mga taong involved lol.
@@rizardofloramor9734 boi if u don''t.....how is calculus related to family matters,no shit talagang hindi alam ng mga bata yon.I'm not talking about calm responses like "bata ka pa hindi mo ito maiintindihan",I'm referring to agressive responses that make kids feel belittled.Those are not positive no matter what context or POV.
For me, the most toxic Filipino trait is blind optimism. Aspiring to be optimistic all the time leads to repressing issues and not dealing with them head on. It also leads to other related unhealthy coping mechanisms such as repressing memory and revising narratives to create a more positive outlook.
Louder for the people at the back!
This is exactly the reason I'm seeking a psychometrician (sa guidance office) right now.
ang timely neto
@@tsukipuppy how are u now?
@@aeiouhenz5284 Lockdown occured kaya di ko na nalaman ang resulta ng tests ko
One toxic Filipino (boomer) trait (in connection with getting married): using your children as retirement plans. Aren’t you supposed to have a retirement plan *before* getting married?
Bro wtf u talking bout
I've noticed this alot, sometimes the parents guilt trip their children or only have children for the sole purpose of being of financial aid when they get older
@@user-np6gq2ht4x Basically what Jerry A is talking about is that the parents covince their children to become the parents retirement plan aka when i grow old you have to provide me money as i did not do that when i was younger (Which can jeprodize the child's plans and have to rely on their children to become their only source of income and the cycle repeats).
We know this is toxic, the problem is, it's too late bago nila malaman na it was wrong. Tsaka most of them grew up in poverty and LESS access in education, kaya pagtanda nila background nila is low so kaya d sila nagsucceed.
Isa pa, dahil din sa pagtanda nila nagkakasakit sila kaya nauubos pera tsaka sa dami ng problema. Back then kasi, hindi nila alam kung ano ang masamang pagkain sa hindi. Tas andami pang factors. Everything about financial knowledge and background, kaya hindi na nila maaasahangmabubuhay sila kapag nakapagretired na. Bukod d2 kailangan nila tanggalin sa mindset nila yung "fixed mentality".
Pero out of all doon, I highly believe this is very toxic and kailangan na natin syang baguhin. Imagine passing all the burden and pressure sa mga bata. I mean it's not na walang utang na loob, pero dapat hindi obligahin ito.
I remember my chismosa auntie asking me when I'm gonna get a girlfriend?
I answered "maybe today, tomorrow, next year, next decade. But either way, I don't think it's any of your business"
Can i steal this? 😂
Oooooh fanaccaw, baka masabi ko rin to uwo lol
If i say that my auntie and my other relatives would gossip about me being rude and disrespectful
@@rinkachidotomoji9038 I'm at the point where I don't give a fuck anymore.
I'm not trying to win my auntie's and her friend's approval. I used to care about the what they thought of me but then I realized that their existence mean nothing to me so why should their opinion matter?
Back then, they would chismis anything bad about me even if it's not true. At least now, if they chismis that I'm a fucking asshole, at least they have some basis now.
Chismosa: I heard from your auntie that you are disrespectful towards your elders and you're an asshole.
Me: YUP! That's me! WTF r u gonna do about it?
@@arukakirigiri5055 Oooo rebelling huh? I wanna join!
i think it's also a toxic trait na when they use grades to define someone as "matalino" like i mean, hindi naman lahat ng matataas ng grades matatalino. and hindi naman siguro lahat ng mababa ang grades is bobo or what. Nakakairita lang kasi pag nakita nilang hindi mo na reach yung expectations nila abt. sa grades mo they'll call you Pabaya, Tamad, Bobo without knowing kung ano yung main reason.
Sexism. Filipino parents/titas and titos/ and grandparents really be taking pride in boys dating at a young age (say 13-19 years old), but girls dating at a similar age are viewed as something very shameful, and is often followed with "don't come to us if you get pregnant". I've been literally told that it was OK for my male cousin who's the same age as me, to have a girlfriend, but it wasn't okay for me because I was a girl.
Also, as you guys said, depression is often swept under the rug. I know many who had died of suicide, and many eldery filipino wouldn't accept the fact that it was due to depression or such, but because they had a "defect" or they were "special".
Alam mo sa totoo lang bata ka pa talga para makipgdate.
Kahit boy ka pa maxado pa bata yung 13.
Siguro ok pa yung 18, pero minsan nasa sayo din ang problema hindi siguro nila nakikita na your mature enough para mahandle yung isang relasyon.
@@robertalexis6470 I'm 20, was 18 when that happened. And the problem didn't lay in the fact that I was too young. The problem was that I'm girl.
@@yvekris so single ka pa rin ngayon?
Hindi ganun karame ganyang parents. Wag mo iconsider na toxic yan...
Ibig sabihin lang nyan may pakielam sila sayo.
Hindi toxic pinoy trait yan.
@@robertalexis6470 Tbh, I didn't really bother caring about their opinion, mainly because I was tired of being their angelic little girl... I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. The toxic trait in this is them, and literally all of the titas and titos, lolas and lolos bragging about the boys having girlfriends at the same age as I was, while I was almost viewed upon as slutty and "malandi". I was literally told that it was fine for them to have girlfriends because they were boys, while I was not allowed because I was a girl. I'm not saying that all filipino parents are like this, but it is a very common trait in the filipino community. This is only one example of the sexism, but it is there, and it's not healthy
@@yvekris oh.. Mas maintindihan n kita.
I agree...
Isang malaking kalokohan yung ganong paniniwala.
Bilang isang lalaki, kabaliktaran ng experience mo.. Samen lage sinasabi na mgsyota na agad.
Mas masama pa nga gusto pa nila na maging babaero kame...
Thats toxic.
“Ilang taon ka na sa college, di ka pa din nakakagraduate” or “Ang tanda mo na di ka pa din graduate”
We have our own pace po sa life.
THIS!! They all treat me as if I'm a waste of space, not something worthy or even helpful to the family.....like a burden ganon.
Lol depende to kung Bakit ang Tagal mo na sa school
@@bettinasantos9682 wala kaming pangenroll....so nagtrabaho ako...idk why things are like this kahit alam nila na hindi naman makokontrol yung ganun
"We have our own pace po sa life."
I agree to some extent because some use it as an excuse to purposely slow down or to do nothing at all.
@Jessica.. Your parents' money that they use to pay for your college tuition also has its own "pace".
one toxic trait is that they divert their anger towards another person to the person which is in front of them
The “Be Positive” trait that Filipino’s have hit hard because my mom always told me and still is telling me to just move on from the bad things. The time I found out it was toxic made me a bit angry and frustrated because I can’t talk to my mom about feeling helpless at times because I’m afraid she might tell me the same thing again and again, this is hard as a 12 year old. I’m too young to be sad.
Lol relate ako
At Kung nagagalit ako o kung ayaw kung mag smile sina sabi na nila "tatanda ka nang maaga nyan". Putangina bawal ba akong magpakita nang emosyon?? Hmmm dapat lang nakangiti lagi?? Ano ang kahulugan nang iba kung emosyon? Hahah nakakatriggered skl
Fellow 12 year old here! I'm sorry you have to through that. How are you doing now?
relate to this ahaha. i'm sorry na naeexperience mo ito,, everybody's feelings are valid and shouldn't be dismissed. and it's okay to be sad, there's no such thing as being sad at a young age. you're allowed to feel sad kasi tao ka lang naman at di ka naman programmed na maging palaging masaya.
Aha! Mga bata magsaing na kayo! Dito pala kayo nag uusap usap sa yt ha?! Pinag uusapan nyo kami mga magulang nyo! Hahahaha🤣🤣🤣 ✌️✌️✌️
@@kristellepascua7909 ano ba condition mo if u dont mind?
Filipino toxic traits:
1.masyado pang patriarchal especially in provinces. Kung ano gusto ng magulang especially ng father yun ang masusunod i.e. course and career ng anak.
2. They expect you to attain something at a certain age. Dapat may family or successful ka na
3. Mañana habit/Filipino time/money management
4. Grabe ang pressure sa panganay
5. Smart/rich shaming
6. Mental health stigma
Not true, the Philippines is matriarchal especially compared to other countries like Japan, China, Korea, India, Western countries, the Middle East, etc
Matrialchal samin wag ka!
@@pofomorales1468 Same
Hahaha totoo yung rich shaming. Rich = no rights/burgis.
I hate people who are rich-shaming
"Filipino time" talaga pinaka nakakainis. I dislike people who don't respect your time.
Agree 😒
They even had the audacity to make a term for it. It's literally sugar coatting the fact that you don't know how to manage your time.
Mas malala pa nun, hindi pa sila mag sosorry. Parang natural lang na malate. 🤦♀️
Truuueeee I also hate that... Ayokong pinag aantay ako... And most of my friends do that... Kung halimbawang may lakad or practice and magkita sa gantong oras at gantong time sila madalas na late.... I'm always on time tho...
Me too!!!
Hi, kids. As a mother, I've never forced my kids what to do in their lives. If they ask me for advices, I give them. Not all parents treat their sons and daughters as ATM OR Retirement plans.
Sana ikaw na lang mama ko.
:0 naol
That's nice because I've seen plenty of parents that treat their sons and daughters the opposite way that you do.
This is based on what i've gone through personally:
- using religion as an excuse
- body-shaming as a form of "helping someone to be healthy"
- expect that everything is your fault in finance when not doing well/struggling
- "why are u so quiet? Tell me why?" then just few minutes in to explaining "u rude to elders, shame"
- so-and-so kid have achieved well in something therefore i shall go for it too
- "mental health can be healed when u pray, do the novena, read the bible etc."
I really hate it when people tell me, "Why are you so quiet?" I just don't like expressing my feelings and thoughts to others more often.
@@uosdunopu4550 same lol used to
The body shaming is ridiculous!
Overweight, underweight and dark skin…they will insult you for it.
I was literally shamed by a random fast food employee for not being fluent in Tagalog. She shamed me AND my parents.
I really hate using religion as excuse,
Is it only me? I'm half Spanish and when I say something like: "Kulang akong budget" or "wala akong pera", some filipinos react saying stuff like: "huh? father mo Spanish" or "Half ka so mayaman ka". Like seriously? my arguments are always invalid because I’m half.😭Since when nationality is attached to social status?. I don’t poop gold! 😭
Lany JG This is truu
Lol same, I'm not mixed but my mom is working a nice job abroad, whenever I complain about money, my friends would also be like that. Like,, just because my mom has summ doesn't mean I have them too. I'm just a broke bitch 😭
Samee
that's so toxic:(
Pano pa kung OFW ka!
Para bang hindi nila ma-gets na kung anong sinasahod mo yun din ang binabayaran mo. Mas mahina lng ang piso kesa sa $, €, ¥ atbp kaya mukhang mayaman ka eh. Jusko lord.
Toxic Filipino Trait:
Using their kids as insurance. Usually mga one day millionaire then di nila pinapahalagahan yung pag-iipon for their future tapos kapag tumanda na sila iaasa nila sa mga anak/kamag anak nila yung buhay nila.
Yung toxic traits na pinaka ayaw ko based on experience is
1. When i told my mom i was feeling depressed for a long time and i couldn't focus on my studies, her reply was "Di ka depressed, kilala kita, hindi ka depressed" and laughed it off, and now i developed a coping mechanism that i always say im fine.
2. the blame always gets put the the younger person, and the older person wins, even though the younger person is explaining RESPECTFULLY we are in the wrong and disrespectful.
3. Parents using their children to figh with ther rivals. I was abused and forced to study with almost no breaks as a child all because my mom is using me to fight with a rival, it led me getting panic attacks that i mostly hide to myself. And more unhealthy coping mechanisms.
3. Guilt tripping and using Súiçidę as a reason to get attention. I am not saying everyone does this, but i have. due to my family not giving me enough care i used to do sęlf hąrm a lot. and since they don't really put care into me that much they didn't even know i was doing self harm. and i guilt tripped my friends leading to the others to get depression and also harm themselves. i have grown out this toxic traits and have said sorry to the friends ive harmed.
4. Being judgemental/Body shaming ive heard these common sentences in my family like "Maputi lang sya, pangit naman." "Sus, di naman sya maganda" "ay, umitim sya" "ay ang taba nya, dapat magpapayat sya" and i am really tired of it.
sorry if this was too long lmao
Ang honest ka, I hope you're getting treated na from the past experiences
Grabe yung points mo po especially dun sa pangalawa since I'm the youngest😭😭
yup meron akong student na ganito, she talked to her mom na depressed sya kasi yung mom nya papatigilin na sya sa pag aaral, sabi ng mom nya hindi na daw nya kayang paaralin (single mom with 3 studying children), na de depress sya kasi yun lang yung paraan ng bata para maka ahon sila sa kahirapan, mas inuna pa daw ng mom nya mag pa rebond ng hair pero sinabihan syang titigil na sa school. Nagsabi na depressed sya sabi ng mom nya hindi ka depressed wala tayong lahing siraulo. RIP to her, hanggang ngayon shaken pa din ako sa ginawa nya. Kinakausap ko sya na marami namang paraan pwede syang mag student assistant sa akin para may pang gastos sya. Kinakausap ko sya dahil napapansin ko yung mga signs pero ginawa nya pa din.
I'm really sorry for what you went through.
relate ako sayo sa #4 tuwing nakikita ako ng mga kapit bahay ko sasabihan akong "tumataba ka." naooffend ako.pero pinili ko na lang sakyan. sabi ko "masarap.kasing kumain kaya tumataba ako."
“Taking your ancestor's (or countrymen's) success and passing it off as your own in aim for recognition is a problem.” I've read this from an article and I just realized the another weird trait of some filipinos... the excessive and exaggerated way of expressing how proud they are of their race. lmao. I once came across a post where the comment section is literally filled with 'I am pRoUd tO bE a FiliPino' comments. There's nothing wrong with it though. I just find it weird to see them being too proud of their nationality even though we all know someone's achievement has nothing to do with the person's race. I don't know what's the right term..if they should be called overly patriotic or chauvinists lol.
They are insecure people they know they cannot be that person so they grab some of his or her shit to feel included.
Toxic Filipino trait:
Sobrang religious natin and it makes us hate someone na hindi natin kilala dahil lang sa iba ang religion at paniniwala nila.
Idk how religious Filipinos are, they are very very poorly catechized
Yung tipong nangshi-shit talk yung kakilala mo the whole week tapos makikita mo siya sa church na akala mo saksakan ng bait.
Kaya di na ako napunta sa church, lalo lang nadadagdagan negative thoughts ko.
Dito sa Pilipinas, kailangan ka maging religious and magbelieve ni God upang marespeto. At kapag religious ka dito, may rights kayong mag degrade sa mga taong may ibang beliefs (e.g. mga LGBT at mga atheists and etc)
The paradox of religion
lalo na sa LGBTQ+ community
Toxic Trait:
RELIGIOUS HYPOCRITES
You preach the word of the Lord but never practice it. Judges people on how they look outside but never consider looking inside.
In addition, people in general tend to look for mistakes and broadcast it to the world but never think of the good deeds they have done before that one mistake.
YES YES YES!!!! My parents arent like this most of the time ig? But my yayas look at fb posts and talk abt their looks. They didnt mean to be mean but honestly sometimes i even think that one of them is toxic...
I think pangworldwide na po toh😂Lahat talaga hindi lang mga pilipino ay meron nito
@qυιηтεssεηтιαl qυεεη Relihiyoso? Hmm🤔need to rethink about that now especially sa panahon natin ngayon. Marami nang mga kabataan ang nakakalimutang magsimba pero di nakakalimutan ang magtiktok at mag internet araw araw, nakikiuso sa trend ika nga nila. Same na rin toh sa ibang mga bansa. Lol.😂 Sa opinyon ko, Religion doesn't really matter kung kinalakihan mo na talaga ang pagiging toxic at pagiging close-minded. Therefore, toxicity depends on the environment na kinalakihan ng isang tao. Kung toxic ang mga taong nakapaligid sayo.....alam mo na✌✌✌✌#myopinion
@qυιηтεssεηтιαl qυεεη okay~~~ Malapit na ring mangyari yang 'dying' na sinasabi mo sa atin. Wala namang taong di hipokrito. Aamin ko rin na naging hipokrito ako, lahat naman tayo dumaan diyan😩. Nakakalungkot pero di na talaga maiwasan ayssss...😩baka sa future titira na lang ako sa isang isolated place para wala nang mga hipokrito sa paligid na nanghihila pababa ng iba.😬😂
@qυιηтεssεηтιαl qυεεη para po kasing pang generalization yung comment ni ateng. 'Religious Hypocrite'...ay ang damiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii.........
I'm Indonesian learning Filipino so I watched this to know the difference in our cultures but I was quite surprised to know our toxic traits r vvv similar😂👍
Thanks for appreciating our language(s)😄!
Hello fellow neighbor
My godfather’s friend is also indonesian.
Wow we really are similar..
Guys chill lang : I learn this through my experience.
1. YOU CANNOT PLEASE EVERYBODY.
2.WHAT EVER YOU DO GOOD OR BAD THEIR ARE PEOPLE WHO WILL CRITICIZE YOU.
3. AS LONG AS YOUR HAPPY AT WALANG TINATAPAKAN NG IBANG TAO ! GO FOR IT AS LONG AS GOD WILL BE GLORIFIED.
I guess ito ang panlaban sa mga toxic people. Let them say what they want!
And also we human so we're not perfect. Anyone can be have their freedom.
One toxic trait is speaking the truth and being silenced. Either by your parents, relatives, or the government.
enzmondo Kailangan ito makita ng sobra
"or the government" aray ://
Preach!
Tutal na nabanggit sa talk ang Filipino time, allow me to give you a historical perspective from a history graduate like me haha. Filipino time didn't invent by natives or yung mga Pilipino ngayon. It was during the Spanish colonial period that natives of elite class followed the habits of their colonial masters, Spanish friars and other important persons, arriving late on a social gathering. Historians interpret this behavior as a form of classism. How? Because arriving not on time means you were important guests or honors worthy of others waiting for you. Kaya ginaya ng mga Pinoy yan. Hindi ugali ng mga ancestors natin yan. Never. Pwede ang pagiging tamad, pero yung late na dumadating sa work, school, or meeting, it was adapted.
Salamat sa kaalaman
You hit the nail on the head.
That was years after the colonization, i believe so...but nowadays, filipino time means walang respeto at pagpapahalaga sa oras mo at oras ng ibag tao.
@@micabell3677 isang consequence yun since na-adapt ng mga Pinoy from Spaniards. Pakiramdam kasi ng mga umaabuso ng Filipino time habit, sila ay importante na hihintayin ka no matter how long it takes.
OMG mindblown
I also find it strange how Filipino people romanticize cheating as if "as long as you give him/her another chance, your relationship will succeed)
Siguro for me, isa sa mga pinaka sobrang toxic na trait na na-encounter ko e yung mga tao na pag may nag suicide sasabihin: “Tanga naman nila at nagpakamatay. Di man lang naisip mga naiwan na pamilya. “ A lot of people won’t acknowledge the existence of depression and mental health and tingin nila inarte lang yung “sadness” and that one should get over it. 😔
tama ka jan naalala kolng yung sinabi ng mama kona yung mga nag suicide daw ay dna naniniwala sa Diyos and I disagree to her opinion kac I'm also struggling in mental health issues tapos sinabhan dn akong baliw at atheist daw lol
This need to be aired on TV.
Magalit na kung sino dapat magalit, lalo na nilang pinapalabas na may pride sila
I would only see this as a left propaganda
Dapat nga tong ipakita sa telebisyon. Nang sa gayon, mas maraming makaalam.
magagalit kung sino magaglit or matamaan hahahaXD
matrigger na kung sino ang matrigger ahaha
Here are my input.
1) Chats inside a cinema while watching a movie.
2) Txting while watching a movie in a cinema.
3) Chats while in a mass
4) Unnecessary side comments
5) Using and applying "bahala na" in a wrong way without thinking of implications to others
6) Making English language as the basis of wealth and intelligence.
7) Brand hoarders
8) Hoarders in general
6 pinakaiinisan ko
@@renskillart4690 6 👍🏻👍🏻
6. It stresses me out when people think I'm smart just because I'm a Filipino who's first language is English. Like, no. I'm dumb as heck.
I'm kinda number 6. Sorry 😖 it's been an opinion of mine for a while. While i don't expect everyone to have the best english ever, they could even be richer than me. One day i won't think that way though. One day. 😔
@@chess4072 make that day today, I've seen many non rich kids who are fluent in English.
Romanticizing Filipino people's resiliency too much wherein some of the fellow citizens are shaping their heads to invalidate their bad feelings, catastrophes even sharing their hardships as well. Instead they always serve us this sort of toxic positivity.
"Kaya mo yan!"
"Matatag ka, dba?"
"Madali lang yan para sayo."
"Respect should not be AUTOMATIC, They should be EARN. They should be BASED on Parents Performance. Some Parents deserves it, Most of them don't period"
-GEORGE CARLIN
Agree, pinaka hate ko kasi palaging payohan ako na respect the elderly tapos ang may edad ang ginawa poro kagagohan, e tahod pa ba yan??!!! Tama, ang tahod hindi e limos o demand. Earn! Kung gusto mo ng tahod ayusin sarili.
Filipinos, or people in general, who intentionally hurt someone but then use the excuse, "I am human. I am not perfect." Then other people enable that toxic person by advocating to be "not judgmental" and "everybody makes mistakes". How can they learn from their mistakes if you dont call them out or instantly "forgive and forget" without a true apology/change in behavior? Filipinos are too "forgiving" in general without justifiable reason for it.
I would love to say sa mga ganyang tao na "may mga pagkakamaling hindi nakakaproud"
Meron pa yung "edi ikaw na magaling!", "ikaw na matalino!", "dami mong alam", at "ikaw na perpekto".
@@papongpapong1047 true. But a real apology is changed behavior. So if they keep doing the same thing and apologizing then repeating, then they truly arent apologetic. 😔
I know who that is
This. It’s frustrating and so toxic to experience this always especially to people you care about
i think one of the toxic filipino "family" trait i always encounter is the "utang na loob". i mean i get you sacrificed a lot for me growing up (i.e., basic needs: education, food, shelter). but you do not have to point it out to the point na you hinder us from doing what we want to do in this world. some family members try to limit the things you want to do. they always expect you to give them money every single time. they think na wala kang ibang binabayaran???? so hindi na po kami kakain or bibili ng mga needs namin? i think some family members need to acknowledge that this has become toxic since it is already overused.
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Tama po 😔
We didn't even ask to be born. It's not our obligation. UR right
basta piliin mo gusto mo pero pag nakapili ka na aayawan nila. I wanna be an artist pero sa totoo lang gusto nila akong maging mas successful kay papa
@@jamestudtud fr
*when you're making a lot of mistakes they will more put u down
*when you're succeeding or achieving something and they will find a massive mistakes to u to prove that u are still not worth it.
And that is why I never show my capabilities to others.
I'm very relate to this, etong college porket nag mature lang ako ng onti dinadown na ko ng mga dati kong kaklase to show them that they are still above me but no idiot that's one of the most toxic traits that we had kahit naman sa ibang bansa ee
Yes, as if you have no place anywhere.
yes
Filipino parents carry with them what they have observed from their own parents. My grandma used to thrash and throw things at my mom as a discipline, now my mom's doing it to us. Some of those leaves permanent scars on my body *which I have now on my elbows*. My father is frustrated for not living up to my grandfather's expectations. Now he casts all his frustrations to us. Raising us as if we're just his investment, retirement plan. I also can't go home with a B as a grade. I graduated Senior high school as Valedictorian but it was like nothing.
My father used to thrash and punch us even at trivial blunders. Now my brother is thrashing me when he's angry. My mother is very eloquent in her use of swears and threats to us. Now my sister is replicating her. I'm afraid I have become like them too. "Children grew up watching their parents". I don't know what that means before but now that cloud has cleared. I am tired of playing family and keeping a "you should at least be happy you got roof over your head, food on your table, clothes to cover you body, all provided by your parents" mindset. I wish this toxicity should stop. What will happen to our future children? Will they receive the same fate? This should be stop!
I’m sorry 😞.
“Ay ma eedi wow ako. Okay I’ll just be mediocre.”
This hit me. HAHAHA I was once a very participative student but then I heard stories about my classmates calling me “pabibo” because I always raise my hand every time our teacher has a question. It was agonizing to the point where I just shut my mouth for the whole 3 months. Di talaga ako nag participate. Wla skl.
People might be insecure with you, just keep on raising your ✋ ...
"you are not the opinion of someone who doesnt know you"
-Taylor Swift
Tinawag akong pabibo sa classroom namin dati. Di talaga ako nagpaparticipate sa recitation. Feeling ko kase na nagyayabang na ako na "TIGNAN NIYO AKO SOBRANG TALINO KO JSHFJAKSFMCKSANSB".
Kung iba ang nakasagot ng mahirap na tanong sasabihin nila
"Ang talino mo wow"
Pero pag ako
"Edi wow, ikaw na matalino"
Nag rant na ako dito sorry
everyone expects you to be "generic" just like them
I feel you bruh. They're the reason why I don't trust people too much. Highschool pretty much ruined me
Mom:*sees my step brother's post about depression and pain*
Mom: Di pa din talaga sya nakakaalis sa mentality na yan? Dapat move on agad.
Me:*disappointed but not surprised* "Mama, iba't iba ang tolerance ng tao pag dating sa pain. Don't expect people to have a mindset like yours"
I'd like to be as strong as my mom in the future but please naman, hayaan nyo muna kami maging down kasi we also need the healing. Everything has a process.
Wala kasi silang kpop, korean drama shit at hannah baker before ang aarte naman kasi talaga ng mga kabataan ngayon. Jusko. Pa-cool din kasi minsan, "uhmm i'm so depressed #SaveMe" ulul.
Happy Life ang tinutukoy mo d'yan 'yung ibang pabida at fame whore, pero 'di lahat ng youth ngayon gan'yan. isipin mo ha, lahat tayo iba-iba. 'di lahat buo 'yung pamilya, 'di lahat biologicallly connected sa pamilya nila, 'yung iba walang pamilya, 'yung iba buo 'yung pamilya pero nang-gagamitan lang. isipin mo rin 'yung emotional tolerance nilang lahat. 'di naman lahat matapang tulad mo, 'yung iba may trauma from childhood, 'yung iba natututo palang; kaya kuya/ate, don't judge a person base on what they like kasi they may or may not want to adapt the traits it transcends. malay mo they're just starting to find their happiness :))
@@freiyawatanabe2339 This this this. Sumasang-ayon ako sa lahat ng sinabi niyo po :
@@happylife5071
One of the reason kung bakit natatakot ako mag open up sa mga magulang ko kasi baka ganyan isipin nila sa akin.
@@vindric8330 Then wag mo sila sisihin dyan. Problema mo yan. Ikaw nga, pagaralan mo ngang mahalin at respetuhin ang sarili mo, seek professional help, then kung anu mang resulta nyang hinahanash mo na galing sa mga experto at hindi lang "kasi feeling ko", keep your family involved, no matter what they think of you. YOU GOT TO TAKE CARE OF YOU.
"Adults are always right"
"Respect your elders"
"Dapat ikaw ang nagaalaga sa mga nakakatanda sayo"
"Asus depressed daw"
"Aba nagtatalk back kana ah"
"Filipino time"
Let me put this on your pebble sized brain excuse me! For all the elders out there!!! JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE OLD DOESN'T MEAN ENTITLED KANA!!! RESPECT EVERYONE NOT
JUST OLD PEOPLE!
Isa pa "yes alam ko ikaw nga mas nakakatanda sa aken pero doesn't mean na hindi din ako napapagod huh!?
2nd depression is not a joke and joking about mental health is not okay you cant always be positive abt everything you need some time to process and overcome your stress too.(for my fellow gen z's and people with mental issues this message is for u
Fucking 5th exodus command abusers... Nakakaput*ngina Yung mga ganyang magulang eh (hate me pero Alam ko ganito rin naiisip mo)
no one:
literally no one:
every filipino in the comment section when Philippines/Filipinos are being praised by foreign people:
“pRoUd tO bE FiLIPino!!🇵🇭”
Kung pwede lang sana burahin ko yun lahat e! Kakahiya!
plot twist: clowns tayo lahat
It's more fun in the Philippines they say.
And sometimes some filos pretends to be a foreigners and say "I think filos is the most..."
true
When I'm at school, I love to speak English and to learn different language also then your classmates be like: Ang Perfectionist neto! Sobrang talino mo!
When you are having depression and anxiety since 12 years old, it was diagnosed and napacheck up ko na. I get offended to those people that will say na kulang ka sa prayer, mahina faith mo like how do you know na kulang ako sa pagdadasal?
There are also a lot of Filipino who uses the term "Ang Squatter" kapag rude or uneducated daw yung isang tao. Like how? Lumaki kase ako sa squatters area pero I grew up with class and proper attitude.
I feel you,I'm a bibliophile kasi so sometimes nag qo-quote aq ng mga nababasa q sa books when I'm in a certain communication,and I like studying different language and used it everyday 😂 pati yung pag aanime nung highschool to college days my goodness. Nag mamaige o na aabnormal nnmn syndrome hehehe
Dude ify huhu been experiencing that ever since and even up till this day
Literally the reasons why i'm embarassed of this country and why i always dream of moving out of this country (like that'll happen lol)
CrankyAsh no need to be embarrassed of your countries flaw, be prt of the change. if you don’t like one thing and you think you’re well within your rights to dislike it then go against it. it’s not like prejudice and bad morals doesn’t exist in different countries just because they’re painted perfectly. every country has their flaw, you have to choice to be the better citizen and make a move to change that in your community, family and friends
@@qxrx wow well said 👏
things toxic about PH:
1. shaming on what ur work is (ay waitress diay siya dri? naunsa naman na siya)
2. shaming on your fluent english ("char BLUETOOTH". "unsa diay? BLU TUT?")
3. shaming on what ur wearing (ayaw pag shorts kay makakita unya ato kauban sa church)
4. shaming if ur expressing your point (ayaw pag sig tubag tubag kung maka tubag ka mura kag naa nay na abot)
5. shaming if ur an achiever (ah ni graduate na si kuan? nya cum laude? ah mao ba?)
True. As if kung wala kay naabot, wala na kag say sa mga butang lol
shetttt bisaya 🔥🔥🔥
@@takumorisaki2828 hahah 🔥
Kanang daghan ug tuohan piste kusog kaayo manalangin sa simbahan
Bwiset mga Tawhana(2)
When you're feeling so down and they say you're OA or dramatic.
When you're the youngest and have to abide with your older siblings AT ALL TIMES.
I'm glad that my parents are supportive of what I want to do. They would just say "Don't regret it or you're just wasting your time."
yes!
Definitely
My parents are literally the personification of every toxic filipino trait
same...being emotionally manipulated is just 🤧
But you gotta that appreciate for feeding you since you were a kid.
@@lumpystilskin5367 As if being fed is some sort of special treatment?Its every parent's responsibility to feed their kids.
@@lumpystilskin5367 If they aren't doing that then they aren't being good parents.
Since you've been feeding us good points about parent-child interaction, can you talk about parents' invasion on their child's personal space? Like its limitations etc.
This is such a big problem for me!!!
Same!
back when i was 13 yrs old, my step dad really touched my phone and looked at some of my messages. then when i caught him, i just snatched my phone and that felt worst. 💀
soon to he 18 years old and my parents still secretly checking my phone once a month lol akala nila di ko alam
Finally I found this comment!
When you fail at something you're a failure, hindi nila ineencourage na it's okay to fail since failing is just part of success, hindi sila nagiging okay sa try again until you succeed
This. It results to people being so scared to make mistakes that sometimes creates another toxic trait that when they do commit one they're gonna defend themselves even if they're wrong.
I am learning more about my culture from the internet then my own Filipino relatives. I feel like I am finally understanding how and why certain things happened and are happening in my life now. *-*
Para saken yung Filipino Time nga especially pagiging palaging late sa usapan. Like whenever may lakad kami ng friends ko, nagpa late na nga ako at lahat, mas late parin sila. Like whaaat?!!! Kaya I would just make sure to bring my earphones para makanood ako ng YT habang nakatambay sa coffee shop. Hahaha! Pero mas malala yung pagiging "drawing" kasi nakakasira sya ng schedule. Time is too precious!
"Nag pa late na nga ko at lahat" you're a part of it and you have the audacity to complain about it. I never experienced it since I was never late in any meeting. You are finding things on others that you lack, lmao. The audacity.
That's what we inherited from the Spanish.
Isa pa.., yung ginagawang parang investments ng ilang parents ang mga anak nila...tapos wala kang utang na loob pag hindi ka na makapag bigay... At pag galing abroad at uuwi ka ng pinas, everyone is expecting pasalubong... As if naman tumulong sila sayo para maka alis ka
Yung mentality kasi ng pinoy na pag OFW ka, mayaman ka. Well siguro sa ibang cases may malaking kita nga pero yung sacrifice and hardships ang di nila nakikita.
Dem Babs tama lang yun.... As if namang di ka pinalaki at di ka ginastusan ng Sobra nung bata ka simula palang sa gatas at pagkain mo sila nagpapakain sayo, everheard of "Utang na loob"
@@blackpinkhub7953 hindi naman masama ang mag pay back sa parents natin. Pero hindi rin naman maganda na iaasa nalang din satin lahat. Yun ang kulang satin eh, enough financial literacy, kaya ayun mostly lahat ng parents iaasa lahat sa anak, di nakapaghanda financially pag nagretire na sila or tumanda na.
@@blackpinkhub7953 FYI, monthly ako nagbibigay ng allowance sa parents ko at never pa pumapalya pero never nila ako inobliga na magbigay sa kanila... Sabi nga ng father ko, the moment na magkaanak ka, obligasyon mo silang buhayin at pag aralin..walang utang kahit piso mga anak mo sayo at never expect something in return when the time comes because in the first place, duties mo yun as parents na mag provide sa anak mo.. Sabi pa ni tatay wag na lang mag anak kung di mo rin naman kayang buhayin...gets?
Naalala ko Tito ko. He also said this one to my grandmomma like they're expecting na may pasalubong and then my Tito said "bakit tumulong ba sila, e kayo lang naman tumulong sa'kin"
"Ah basta, Diyos na ang bahala diyan" without any real effort to change or fix things yourself first.
Philippines has more people be like this than other nations. Blame shifting , backstabbing , gossiping in front of that person, can't accept criticism/feedback and insult back to protect themself. Something like these are very common . I believe Filipinos who have good upbringing are not like this.
For me it would be Stereotyping
Filipinos put lgbtq+ and straight people and every aspect into one box they always tell you how to act in a certain way like how women should be fragile and very feminine like maria clara,how men should be manly and tough,and how gays should want to be a woman
Ah, the gender roles. I'm not a fan of them -_-
The gender role thing. I don't like at all. ☹️
Historically back then is more accurate and common, not as today but still a lingering issue.
Good thing I celebrate myself liking things that are florals, vintage, magical and no one can stop me now
really love that they discussed the "be positive" issue. Unfortunately, it's really true and tends to lead to peeps keeping all the heavy shits to themselves and get even more depressed or feel even more alone
That's what lead me to mine, heck even when I'm already an adult, I can't bring myself to go talk to someone professional in this about the things I feel...Kasi feeling baka I sweep under the rug lang nila, like how most people do. And I feel like they'll tell my family about it or something...and I'll end up being asked bakit Ako depressed, Wala ka namang problema? Or something like that...I love my family, but sometimes they're not serious about how you are and why you're feeling like that. They think it's so easy to change my mindset, like ✨poof✨ depression gone
as a first generation filipino-american, it is relieving to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I didn't even know that this was a conversation that was happening in the Philippines because my only exposure to the culture is through my parents
As a third generation Chinese-Filipino. I really REALLY hate Filipino pride.
this is acttually why im quiet in all my classes, i hate my classmates toxicity and their attitude. they body shame me many times.
Finally somebody gets me
You should really livestream this. It’s nice to be included in the conversation rather than a viewer who wants to be heard but stopped by the CZcams comment section, of all things.
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Yass
Yasss
THIS!
YES TO THIS!!!!!
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@@armangerezbautista8703 nalaglagan ng dumbbell nung time 😂 pero okay na ko
Maui Tang ingat palagi:) mamahalin pa kita charot 😂
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1. Palautang or Borrowing Money. Some (if not most) would even borrow money just to buy coffee or milktea to keep up with their lifestyle. A few days after payday, they would start borrowing money from lenders, friends, credit cards. Yung kahit wala na silang pera sa bulsa nila pero they own the latest gadget.
2. Marites/Chismosa- people from all walks of life. Maski mga nasa corporate world meron ganyan.
Lack of skepticism. Most Filipino often believe what they heard/seen without even doubting/asking whether it is legit or not. 🤦♂️
As a Gen Z for me a Toxic Filipino Trait is that people always complain na di mo malaman at di makontento at mga positive na post magugulat ka may negative comment kahit wala naman nakaka negative sa post. I hate people who down's you na lagi ka ginaganun kahit ano gawin mo wala paden.
Elders often think if you dont let them direspect you, you are disrespecting them. They think respect is only for the elders and thats toxic af
Something that needs to be stopped.
Thats why it needs to STOP
i agree
FACTS
Facts. If I try to explain my side they will always tell me “why are you defensive?” When all I am trying to do is express my side and my feelings. But if I say something back I’m disrespecting them. Like the whole family will go against me : ( so I just no longer say anything or listen.
tutal aware naman pala tayo lahat, edi wag na natin gayahin sa susunod na generation Tangna gusto ko ng i-angat yung Pinas grabe kung maliitin tayong mga Pilipino sana kasama ko kayo
oo talaga pagod nako
I hope this new gen Filipinos will thrive. Maybe If I were a parent in the future, I would be like Dad of the century if I let go of toxic Filipino cultures and start opening my heart, mind and soul to progress
Aware na aware tayong mga millenials at gen z kaya nga pinagbibigyang pansin natin 'to. Sa totoo lang hindi lang naman din sa Pilipinas may ganito kundi sa buong mundo.
They congratulated you for your success, but deep inside gusto ka rin naman nilang bumagsak. Nalalaman mo nalang sa chesmosa mong kapitbahay. "inggit"inggitero/inggitera (toxic Filipino traits)
One toxic trait is that when you are the eldest of the family. The burden of responsibility is all yours. They'll pressure you to study hard to soon took over the responsibilities of the whole family. Also that trait that they expect you to live extravagant once you finished you study.
Guilt-tripping is one. Very evident yun sa mga parents or older relatives natin.
I love the talk encountering toxic Filipino traits which is highly present until now. Well these traits are definitely the reason why some people doesn't succeed for what they want to achieve. It feels like a barrier to be a better person.
The trait I hated the most is talking back to our elders. Thinking it's bad when in FACT you just defending yourself from their negative critcisms. 🙄
another toxic trait, is when you put pressure on your eldest to be the best and become successful so they can rely on them and support your family. its not bad to support them, its just that they also have lives and dreams for their own. so what if they didn't become successful? are they a disappointment? another is gender roles and yung "ako mas matanda, kaya ako ang masusunod"
may hugot? haha. i love your channel :D
Yung mga relatives mo na todo okray sayo nung nasa baba ka pa pero pag naging successful ka na sila pa yung unang magiging proud sayo wtf
Masaklap pa kung parents mo
Haha tama. I experienced this. Nung highschool at college pa ako, mismong cousins ng tatay ko mag chichismis (actually naabotan ng Nanay ko na ganto sinabi) na d daw ako makakagraduate dahil walang pera pangpaaral mga magulang ko, puro daw kami utang at minsan lang maka-kain ng masarap.
Parents when you on your decline: Being toxic and emotionally and mentally draining to you.
Parents when you on your success:
“pInAlAki kO yAn! aNaK kO yAn!”
“ pRoUD aKo sAyO aNaK”
Shut the f*** up !
adjusting the respect they'll give to someone according to their job/profession 🙄
Haha. Kaya nga, before I became an engineer, mga maykayamg relatives ko, d ako kilala, nung board passer na, special mention sa ocassion. Sinabi pa, papuntahin mo si Van2. Their repect varries with our educational achievement.
Toxic traits
1.mismong kamag-anak mo ichichismis ka.
2. Gusto nila lahat Ng pera mo napupunta sa kanila kapag Hindi selfish ka.
3. Kapag nag-aaral ka expected na kailangan mataas lagi Ng grades at ishoshow of pero Wala Naman Pake kung paano ka nag-aaral or kumusta Ang pag-aaral.
yung feeling na nagi-guilty ka tuwing nagpapahinga ka kasi lagibg nasa isip ng parents mo ay nagse-cellphone ka or pagiging tamad
I feel that this more of a rant rather than an open discussion.
Onga haha
Shhhh. Di ka woke kung sila na awayin mo. Hahaha.
It's an open discussion hence they're letting it all out in one swoop.
I think it's because this comment section allows them to get out the repressed emotions that they were bottling up for years. Just let them be hahaha
@@hannajmendoza8080 yeah,I feel them too
Toxic Filipino trait: ma-issue sa lahat ng bagay
toxic traits:
1. parents who consider their kids as their retirement plan
2. religious fanaticism
3. crab mentality/ reeks insecurity
4. arrogance a) english fluency b) nagyayabang ng designer clothes/material c) yung mga OFW na paguwi ng pinas akala mo kung sino na d) minamaliit yung work ng ibang tao (for ex. if caregiver - ah nagpupunas lang naman ng pwet yan ng ibang tao - like so what. thats a decent job)
5. admires/brags physical fights - like no. thats cringy and barbaric. idaan mo sa lawsuit okay
Watching this in my mom's presence. Full volume. Para ma realize niya na iba sila pinalaki at iba rin tayo, and they'll realize na literal na grabe ang epekto sa anak nila dahil lang sa pinagsasasabi nila.
Yaaan tama yaaaan
When some women fight for equality and equal rights but they are calling out men for not being a "gentle man" to them in public transportation.
pota legit af
this all depends on what u see as being a "gentleman", because it's not being a "gentleman" if what ur doing is merely just basic human respect. if i open a door for someone whose hands are both occupied, it's not being a gentleman, it's basic respect. if i offer my seat for someone who's pregnant, disabled, the elderly, etc then it's not being a 'gentleman', it's basic respect.
cus feminism =̷ wanting women to be put on pedestal.
@@janusmendoza9477 toxic feminism dinescribe mo; I hate those kind of women. Advocates equality pero nagagalit kapag d pinapaupo lolololol
Most toxic trait? Probably not supporting us when we're down or judge us when we make mistakes but the moment makaangat sa laylayan or make something of ourselves, lakas maka-"anak ko yan" or "pinsan ko yan" or worse will be leeching off you for money or pressure you na manglibre kasi nakakaluwag ka na.
Yeah, pag mababa ka wlang tutulong sayo. pero pag mataas ka kapatid tawag sayo. memessage klang kpag kailangan ka
Another filipino trait:
just because some peeps knows how to english, doesnt mean nagyayabang na o nagmamarunong!!
Nasa pinas ka tpos ang lenggwahe mo english?
di ba un parehas lng ng nag mamayabang
D nmn, depende ren sa pag-gamit at tono. Yung iba kasi genuine na first mother tongue lang talaga ang english lol
@@cakiilunicorn7929 ahh ung name ko? Half ako gnagamit ko to sa school
I'm glad we are talking about this. It just proves that we are really very behind. I hope other Filipino yt influencers will try to open this on their platforms, not just make up tutorials, pranks, etc not against it tho but this needs to be heard.
The toxic filipino trait im dealing with rn is that my family expects too much. Specially nakahanap nako ng first job and sobrang taas ng expectations nila na pati ako nasasakal sa sarili kong trabaho
I’ve always hated sayings like:
- nung babae/lalake pa sya
- hindi yan tunay na babae/lalake
- ay sayang sya
- they caved in/gave into being gay (and similar sentiments)
Yung parang mas mababa ka or hindi ka kasing buong (insert gender here) compared to their straight counterparts, dahil lang sa sexual preference ng tao. I don’t think people who say those things realize the insensitivities and ignorance of their words. Their toxic heteronormative/homophobic views are pretty blatant in that they’re at most willing to tolerate people of that community, not so much truly understand and accept them. Really bums me out.
Janna Maglinao ahh that’s interesting. Well for one, I wonder if they’ve given much thought about whether or not YOU (as their child) even want children, as opposed to their desires of wanting grandkids. Not everyone wants to have children (not even all straight people).
The other thing too is pwede naman magka anak even if you’re gay (adoption, IVF, surrogate, etc). But even if you say that, sasabihin parin na “iba pa rin pag sarili mong anak (pag ikaw ang nagluwal).” Basta laging may dahilan kung bakit hindi sila sang-ayon. Sometimes it’s hard to differentiate their masked homophobia and their genuine concern for you. Ewan, basta mahirap lang talaga minsan with older generations 😂😫😪
@@feliciasaywhat I really hated the phrase "iba pa rin pag sarili mong anak" kasi kung lahat ganyan mindset, edi wala nang nag adopt at tumulong sa mga batang nangangailangan tlga. If you want to have your own biological child go ahead I fully support you pero please lang wag mo naman idiscourage ang adoption kasi ang daming batang nadadamay
jackrush 122 onga eh, I have family members na ganun rin ang mindset. They think it’s sad na hindi nagkaanak or hindi nagkapamilya whatsoever, yung friends nila. Parang their greatest marker of success/achievement is having a family, and they look down and pity anyone that doesn’t have that.
What’s most important naman talaga is how you love, care for, and raise your children-not whether or not you birthed them yourself. Ganun lang talaga cguro yung mga makikitid ang utak-anything that strays away from normalcy or tradition, may pwedeng negative na masabi without even recognizing or fully accepting the value and validity of adoption.
hay sinasabihan nga ako na magkaanak na, pero sila nga hirap na hirap pag-aralin mga anak nila, hirap sa buhay. sabi pa nung tita ko ano padaw HALAGA ng MARRIAGE kung hindi daw magkakaanak. WALA AKONG NASABI. jusko gnun kakitid ang utak ng ibang tao.
Actually one good example of "ay sayang siya" is Jake, he does not deserve to be known as "sinayang mo lang" like why cant people let others happy
Phew, After watching this, I knew I'm normal after all, I found a place that I'm understood.
Same here. 🤚
Filipino Time. Di lang dahil late, pero kung kelan lang gusto gawin ang isang bagay at walang respeto sa oras ng iba.
1. Crab-mentality.
2. Hypocrites.
3. Gossip spreaders.
4. Undisciplined.
5. "Asa system".
6. "Pakikisama system".
7. Inggitero.
8. Insecure.
9. Bragging too much eventhough having nothing at all to brag.
10. The list goes on..
Okay, I learned something here, again. So, just last year, I transferred here in the Philippines from the Middle East. Growing up in the Middle East, I use the term "expat/s" as an ordinary word. So, when I finally resided here in the Philippines to continue my studies, I would often use "expat" instead of "ofw" whenever I share my story. Little did I know the locals here are not familiar with that word kasi nga, based on the video, "first world term" siya. Huhu thanks for the enlightenment!!
Never knew Intsik is a derogatory term!? I remember it’s used in textbooks in gradeschool😨
Wait it's used in textbooks??? I don't really remember seeing that but i think i have. Some people normalise it just to refer to Chinese people. To me it's just the tagalog tranlastion to "chinese people". I didnt know it was derogatory 😖
Well... Most Filipino cultures describes intsik(Chinese) hápones(japanese) kastila(Latinos) and Islam communities as terrorists like wtf, we Filipinos are actually more racist than westerns actually.
@@dominguezcharles3069 latinos are different from the kastila as far as i know. nonetheless, racism is something that even in today's generation it just doesnt brush off, sadly
Yes it is…
You guys added subtitles!! Thank you so much 🥰
Isa sa toxic trait ng pinoy(if not, all over the world siguro) sa music scene: minention na to ni Miggy Chavez ng Chicosci sa isa nilang interview sa Wasak episode ni Lourd de Veyra, if ang banda di mag iiba ng sound/music style, sasabihin ng mga fans wala silang improvements. Tapos if mag shift naman ng style/sound, sasabihin naman nila na iba na sila, di na sila ang dating sila. Hayyyy.
Edit; add ko lang din.
May parents/titos/titas used to call me."jeproks" di ko alam ano yung pinaka-meaning nyan, pero binase ko lang sa kanta ng Juan dela Cruz Band, na "laki sa layaw". Every family gathering, sasabihin nila, "oh, eto na ang Jeproks". I am always compared kasi sa mga matatalino kong pinsan na ka-age ko rin. Sila pilot section sa kani-kanilang schools, tapos ako, normal lang naman. Wala namang failing grades pero ako pa rin ang kulelat daw. Ewan ko ba bakit naging race ang education/mental capacity ng tao. Hayyy ulit.
Nakakalungkot we see toxicity in everything we see, we hear and we feel. Sa music scene, it's the demanding fans that has problems kc yes pinoy were appreciative kaso di sila marunong magembrace ng changes.
I think alot of the “toxic Filipino traits” you mentioned actually exist in other parts of the world too.
keep saying that to yourself in the next five years 😂😂😂
PlaystationFanDude your reply makes no sense
Yes. I agree. Some of them. Yes
Not a lot just some
@@playstationfandude746 hahahaha ano?
Narcissistic. An extremely bothering personality and there's just too many of them out there. And also, what's horribly disgusting is, tongue-lashing or gossiping about other people's past lives to deliberately hurt others. Usually caused by enviousness or jealousy.
Me, playing this on loud speaker with my Mom beside me. Ha! That's what I'm trying to do, explain my side Re create!
Ikaw ang toxic eh, ikaw.