How Cats Apologize to Their Humans?
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- čas přidán 16. 06. 2024
- Cats have a reputation for doing things on their own terms. But are they capable of knowing right from wrong? does your cat know when you’re angry at them or feel remorse after knocking things over or clawing at the furniture?
And how do they apologize for their behavior?
Do cats know when they have done something bad?
Cats don’t have a sense of right and wrong. They don’t understand why knocking things off the table or scratching the couch is a bad thing. But they know when you are displeased at them.
Cats know when you’re upset because your attitude, facial expressions, and your tone of voice becomes unpleasant.
A study published in Animal Cognition has found that cats are very responsive to the sound of human voices.
When you are happy, you use a voice that’s friendly and pleasant.
But when you’re angry or upset, you have a tone that your feline friend isn’t accustomed to, which lets your pet know that something is wrong.
Cats also use visual cues to know that certain things upset you.
Another study conducted by Oakland University researchers revealed that cats can distinguish different emotions in humans by recognizing facial expressions, such as smiling and frowning.
Do cats feel bad when they hurt you?
Cats don’t feel bad when they hurt you. Although cats very intelligent animals, there have been a number of studies that have found cats don't experience secondary emotions such as guilt, shame or pride.
It’s just that cats act on instinct. If your feline friend hurts you or causes you pain, it’s probably because they felt threatened or were fearful of a situation in some way.
But if cats don’t feel bad when they hurt you, you may wonder why they always want to snuggle up shortly after a negative event takes place?
Remember, cats know you are upset because of your voice, attitude, and facial expressions.
Your behavior toward your pet, after they hurt you, might prompt your cat to want to comfort you. This doesn’t mean that your cat feels bad for what they did. It means they want you to stop being sad.
Do Cats Apologize?
Cats can’t apologize, because that would require them to feel guilt. Cats can't experience such complex emotions.
But although cats don’t understand the concept of being sorry, they do understand when you are displeased or angry at them, and they will try to re-establish a connection with you. They often do this by showing affectionate behaviors that they know will get a cheerful reaction from you, such as licking you, snuggling up next to you, or meowing.
How do cats apologize to each other?
Cats don’t feel guilty when doing bad things to other cats.
In the feline world, the goal is safety, not the feelings of other cats.
But cats want peace and a safe place to live. They want to know that other cats in their social group are not hostile toward them.
If cats fight and then appear to make up, it is because they want to encourage safety and prevent further violence.
Cats may attempt to calm the tensions and remain in good standing with their social group by licking each other, sleeping close to each other, and rubbing heads.
Why cats misbehave
Cats do not have malicious intent. Their actions have reasons. For example, when they scratch up your furniture, it’s because their nails get too long and perhaps you should provide a suitable alternative.
Remember, it is easy to assign human emotions to cats. But cats are creatures with their own distinctive ways of thinking.
How long do cats stay angry?
What if you have done something to offend your cat?
Perhaps you unintentionally stepped on your cat’s tail. Now, of course you feel bad about your actions, and want things to go back to normal.
Many people mistakenly believe that cats never forgive their owners’ mistakes.
A study published in Applied Animal Science Behavior tested cat reactions to being restrained against their will at a veterinary surgery clinic. It was found that the cats didn’t avoid that location or people afterward.
Scientists believe that one-off bad events fade away within 16 hours from a cat’s memory.
So if you accidentally step on a cat’s tail and apologize, the cat won’t hold a grudge against you. However, cats remember abuse and repeated mistreatment for the rest of their lives.
How to say sorry to your cat?
Apologizing to your cat is the best way to keep your relationship strong after you’ve committed a feline faux pas.
It’s possible that your cat needs some space before they’re ready to connect with you again.
When you cat is finally relaxed, talk to them with a calm tone of voice while blinking slowly at them. Avoid loud, panicked, or sudden exclamations that will only startle or upset your cat more. Remember to praise your cat and reward them with treats. Spending some quality time together, with lots of petting and games, should ease your cat.
Cats are also accidental computer geniuses...by stepping on your keyboard they will activate functions (or keyboard shortcuts) that you never knew existed..
Hilarious! Thanks for that wonderful "insight."
Learned the hard way, alt + F4 on my homework lol 😂😂😂
That's a cat
YEEES! Mine managed to print the essay I was working on Word just by trying to lay down on the keyboard while I struggled with her.
My cat turns my PC off or starts the process.
Came back from a friend's funeral last week, I wasn't crying and I don't think I looked too upset, but my cats didn't leave my side until the next morning, only to keep bringing me toys and their food. Beautiful animals.
My cat would just slap me when I cried.
@@LordAlpaca555 Them tear drops is targets!
But also a testament to the relationship you took the time to build with them. Cats understand gratitude :)
We all are empaths ..cats dogs birds we talk to them ..they talk to us ..👋👊😁👍😂🤪♂️☪️♀️☮☪️⚕☮🎵💖💙💚🎵🎵
So sorry about your loss
I like how the video starts out trying to explain how cats apologise, concludes that they don't (can't) , and ends up telling YOU how to apologise to your cat.
This video is wrong. Some cats do indeed apologize. Cats are not mindless automatons, but are intelligent, thinking creatures. No, not like Albert Einstein, but they are smarter than a sheep or even a dog.
Must have been written by a cat!
There are definitely times when we owe our cat or dog an apology and we do need to know how to best go about it. It's not as instinctual for everyone
🤣🤣🤣🤣@@christinageorgieva
it`s the not remembering if you do something negative cracks me up! my girl is 14yrs and when she was a baby one of my friends teased her, to this day grace will put her tail in the air and stalk off whenever said friend calls lmao and she used to love her vet right up until the day she had to have a tooth out now my extremely sociable quite calm kitty cat turns into a tasmanian devil when she sees her vet! the last day i had to bring her out to the car in a crush cage because i couldn`t get her back into her carrier! her mortal enemy was there and she wasn`t going to be packed up where she couldn`t get her! tg my vet remembers what she is normally like and doesn`t hold a grudge cos if grace did that to me i think i would be banning her from the surgery!
If I tear up watching a movie, my cats come running from just about anywhere else in the house to give me affection. I'm pretty sure they have empathy and compassion. Also, I'm pretty sure my cats try to apologize if they play a little too hard.
I'm replying to my own comment because earlier this week, my partner was over and teared up watching Water for Elephants. My void took 0.2 seconds to run DOWNSTAIRS, JUMP ON THE COUCH, and HEADBUTT his tears away.
I was working and my cat kept meowing at me and I was getting irritated and yelled at him. He looks at me, lowers head, takes a few steps, lays down, and stays quiet. I felt so bad I apologized to the cat and fed him right away, haha.
Several years ago, my cat did something interesting. If he ever throws up (for normal reasons, like eating too fast, or eating grass, or ridding himself of hairballs), I always check him out to make sure he's okay, and then grab a paper towel, and spray to clean it up. One day, he was in the other room, and I heard him throw up. I was in the middle of something, so I wasn't immediate to help (just a couple of minutes). So, I grabbed the paper towels, and went in the room, and I saw him grabbing a piece of paper that was nearby, put it on top of the puke, and moved it around, like he was cleaning it the way I do. I was... baffled, but amazed. I love that lil fur ball. lol
Making me weep. I hope you’re together for a long time.
I'm gasping for air! Shock and laughter all at once!! You have a special one. I hope she keeps you on your toes for a very long time. ADORABLE!!! 💕
Aww he was copying momma lol, so cute!!!
That never happened
@@currychips Thank you for your relevant and detailed input Curry Chips.
One of my cats accidentally scared his brother. When he realized how scared his brother was, he went up to him and started licking his face. The two of them nuzzled each other after that. It was such a sweet moment. Loved them both.
Then how did u comment this
@@SandwichMrSandwich..
@@SandwichMrSandwich lmao
@@SandwichMrSandwich HELP LMAO
@@SandwichMrSandwich I died reading this reply.
I remember carrying shopping bags in the snow, and just as I reached my porch I slipped and injured my knee. The pain was so bad I started crying. As soon as I sat down on the sofa, my cats jumped up around me, nuzzling me and looked so concerned, meowing at me. I stopped crying and started cuddling them. They knew I was distressed and let me know it. Wonderful little babies. So smart and beautiful.
The emotional spectrum of a cat is so much more broad than this video even touches on. They’re as domestic as they’re going to get and they feel things like remorse, spite, anxiety, happiness, etc because of how long they’ve been exposed to us humans. They’re not just instinctual creatures, they do have emotions and feelings and I think it’s kind of hilarious that we as human beings think that animals don’t share that even though it’s very obvious in the way they act.
i think whats hilarious is that we humans keep trying to humanize animals and project our feelings and the way we feel on them. They ARE very instinctual creatures, and their feelings are different from ours because they process feelings in a different way. I see humans feel the need to humanize everything because they cant conceive emotions differently from how we experience them, but that simply doesnt work
Tell me you never had a cat without telling me you never had a cat. Even if you "claim" to have a cat it's clear as a crystal you never bonded with cats. They might not be as exactly same as us in having emotions but to say they have none is such a reach and everyone who owns a cat and have a bond with their cat knows it ;)
The research keeps changing everytime anyway so I would rather believe on my experience than on random researchers whom researches changes time to time.
@EveTheRaviolo
I’m not entirely convinced that cats can’t apologise. There was one time where our cat fell off the couch while we were feeding her some chicken, accidentally scratching my mum’s leg. Our tone didn’t change at all and we were even like hey you okay in the baby voice. She put her paw on my mum’s leg. Unless she was doing that to get more chicken, I feel like she was apologising.
She wanted more chicken.
My cat does the same. When she’s had enough of me fussing her or if she wants my attention she nips my hands and her claws come out, she immediately starts licking where she nipped, I believe she’s telling me to stop and it’s okay because she still loves me.
@@geraldmartin7703 how do you know? Answer, you don’t you’re just trying to be clever….don’t, you’re clearly unaccustomed, and might strain something.
She wanted more chicken
My cat does those kind of behaviors too. He acts like “I feel bad, my intention was not to hurt you. I mistakenly hurt you and I feel sorry for that. I was just playing”
My cat once knocked a plant over and it fell on the floor, her face when she turned her little face around was priceless..it was like "mum please don't be mad"
Oh yeah, Im familiar with that face!
My cat knock Al my cats biscuits Al over the floor he said sorry gave me cuddle I never get angry or shout I say that was naughty
it's amazing how many facial expressions cats have. They also get their feelings hurt and they go and hide for awhile.
I call that the “oh shit” face. One of mine is very good at it. Because he has to utilize it so often. 😅
@@ShannonSaundersXO lol
They are the animal equivalent of "I'm not apologizing but I'm sorry that you feel that way"
But honestly my cat has cuddled with me when I'm sad so, I think cats though they might not feel sorry, they do care about your mood and will be there for you. They are precious.
My cat has always been in tune when I'm happy, sad, or sick. Especially when my Mom recently passed away, and I was alone to deal with it, and my father decided that going on vacation with his wife was more important. I couldn't have gotten through it without my cat.
Being a cat means never having to say you're sorry.
🤣😂🤣Good one.
Cat Story
My sorry?
@@irondude71 Yes, your sorry. 😂 Sorry, not sorry.
*you’re😊
I was crying one time cuz I was super sad and my cat saw and came up to me and cuddled me.. it was the sweetest thing and it did comfort me..!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
My cat does that too. Even if I'm sick she will lay next to me. They are very observant and they care.
@@TheRealEvvonne aww! ☺️💕
@@TheRealEvvonne I'm convinced cats are far smarter (socially) and intellectually than humans give them credit for. Similarly for many dogs, who are always credited as "man's best friend" but so are cats to their human companions!
I was grieving a recent death and my kitty also laid down and cuddled next to me. Even when I'm not feeling good, she will lay next to me in bed and sleep next to me. I love her so much 🥺
I stepped on my cats tail accidently that one time and she started headbutting and meowing at me after I started to panic as if to reassure me that she's alright
Pretty convinced they feel waaaay more than we think they do 💞
They’re way smarter than people think? My cat 🐈 understood me, and I wouldn’t yell at her, but she always knew if I was unhappy. She passed November2020 and I still miss her. She was my bud! I tell near the end that she would get upset because she would urinate a little on the way to her box.
I think cats definitely feel some secondary emotions. I know my cat feels embarrassment, like when she misses a jump or after she gets in trouble for doing something naughty. She'll immediately start grooming herself to self soothe, save face, etc. I'm convinced.
My cat knows when I'm sick sad an upset he will lie on my bed sleep with me all day until I'm overit
We had a cat who would exhibit total humiliation if he fell. He would run and hide, with his tail between his legs.
Yup😂
classic example of cat emotions! i've had many cats and they all have had the same look of embarrassment when they miss a jump
@Carly D What very few people understand is that cats have the exact range of emotions that humans have. It's why they bond with us more intimately than dogs do. Dogs can bond intimately with their humans, but rarely with the same deep understanding of human emotions
My cat is very aware of his actions. He once unintentionally scratched my leg really well when leaping off me after being started by a noise and, man did I howl. Since that day, although he still loves getting on my lap, he is extremely cautious about it and won’t do it unless I encourage him. And as he comes onto my lap, his steps are extremely tentative and he looks at where he steps.
Our cats never ever scratched me intentionally. Whenever they felt that they touched any exposed skin, the immediately pulled their claws in in order to not harm me. The only cases when they did leave a scratch mark was when I got in the way when they were trying to flee from the bath tub. And even such cases, during bathing, they always pulled their claws in when they knew they touched my hands. It was only when they were trying to grab something and I put my hand there before they could realize. It was always just a fraction of a second and once they scratched me, they immediately retreated as to not cause me intentional harm. The cuts were never deep and I never tried to "punish" the cats for them, because it was clearly not intentional from their side.
Your cat scratched you which elicited an unfamiliar and unwanted response from you which the cat did not want to repeat. Since then YOU have been wary and helped the cat shy away from cases where they jump claw first onto you. If you think that cat learned not to claw or bite you from that one little interaction, you are far dumber than the cat.
@@contumelious-8440 Or maybe you are far dumber than the OP and their cat if you think the cat didn't.
@@contumelious-8440 There was no reason to be so rude. Especially when they did not ask for your input to begin with.
@@contumelious-8440 I'm not sure who you were trying to reply to, but you were putting words in their mouths. Not only was this unwarranted, but completely incoherent to the people you were replying to, making it even worse.
I find it hilarious that a cat doesn't feel guilt, but it will feel like it wants to comfort you after it scratches you because it realises the scratch made you angry. Like they can't put two and two together but they have the same result.
Once, my cat got locked into the main house (his cat box was in my place that i rented) and he went to the bathroom and did his duty in the shower. I was so grateful. Another time, i laughed at him and he jumped down off my bed and sat in the corner with his back to me switching his tail back and forth with his ears down. I learned to say loving things to him and to love him up after he had his bath from that point on.
My cat, very young (she only grew to be 1 year old, a car drove her over) was never cuddly or affectionate and she played very rough whenever i decided to play with her, leaving my arm a mess of scratches, but I (a kid myself then) let her, I did want her to interact with me. One day though I was very depressed and unstable, and as I just leaned to pet her, she kind of jumped me and did her usual routine. I pulled back and started crying because I was already down, somehow that gave me the rest that day. My cat proceeded to follow me around for about half the day, trying to get me to look at her, sitting behind the door when I closed it behind me. Never doing anything else, just following me everywhere and trying to get my attention. Only after i finally gave her a pet on the head, to kind of show her 'we're cool', did she leave to go about her cat things. I did take this as an attempt to apologize, she clearly understood that I was upset with her.
I miss her.
I'm sorry that you lost your fur baby 😔
Just lost my cat yesterday in the same way..she was only 2 months ...it was horrible having to bury her..she was the sweetest girl and always following me around...her sister who I got with her is so sad it is horrible
@@fredahwiwu5219 I'm so very sorry. Losing a pet breaks your heart in a special way, you can't help to feel that there's a kind of innocence to them because they don't understand the world around them like humans do. I would hug you if I could... All I can say is that I understand.
@@katharinafisher394 it is truly horrible I can't stop crying ... you are very right she must have seen the tire as just another big ball to play with ...and thankyou for understanding that helps alot
@Katherina Fishy. Do you regret to have run her over now? I'm kinda relieved cos i thought it was me. I was much too young to be driving, plus I was a little bit wired after all that speed. But nevermind, am pretty sure it wasn't me afterall. By the way I 've changed my name but you should be able to Guess who I really am... Especially if I tell that little story about thé
., Er no, nevermind, forget the whole thing.
Whenever I walk in on my cat cuddling with another family member, he always runs back to me before I can see what was happening, and starts purring and snuggling. I don’t know if cats really aren’t able to feel any sort of embarrassment, but this one definitely acts like he is worried I might be jealous)
Lmao ..... because they are jealous little creatures themselves
Whenever my last cat would catch me cuddling one of the other cats she would immediately beat the crap out of them, then ignore me for a couple hours.
I tried to get my cat to apologize by picking him up without warning and hugging him, I'm glad to announce that I am doing well and expecting to make a full recovery from my injuries.
I've had cats for 20 years and I had to get antibiotics for a cat scratch. It puffed up and was draining pus. Now I have alcohol pads, Neosporin and hydrogen peroxide. 🤔🐱
Sounds like a good hard kick in the arse is warranted
It only took my 4 1/2 week old kitten 2 weeks to understand that playing with claws out hurt me - it didn't, but she quickly learned that claws meant loud "Ow's" and the end of play. Cat's don't feel guilt, but they don't intend to harm their adopted human either. Mushi often hugs me and puts her paws around my neck or on my face. Soft, warm little paws with no hint of a claw. She doesn't know guilt, but she knows love.
I love how these videos are so absolutely sure of their facts: cats can, cats can't etc. Unequivocally??? Personally, as a devoted cat dad, I believe cats have a mental and emotional capacity that we simply can't comprehend!
Honestly not nearly enough study has been done on cats to know as much as they claim about cat emotions and mental states. Partly because cats are hard to work with and won’t cooperate with researchers like dogs do (haha.)
@@NanciBK realistically speaking you won't ever know what an animal truly thinks of you because they can't speak, and so you can't ask them.
Also a lot of claims here seems to be far to similar to human behaviors. I mean usually i we know that a bad thing we did to a person do not distress them or make them act negative to us we do not bother apologizing. We are very driven my pleasure pain in the same way. I don’t see or emotions so much more complicated. We have more complicated ways to express and handle them yes. But you can’t expect a cat with very different evolution to act as us all the time.
Apparently cats have the same emotional spectrum as humans.
Yeah, I think I see what the video was getting at, they’re just not explaining it well. It’d be clearer to state that, if a cat goes too rough on you in playtime, it’s not going to be thinking about how the scratch on your skin caused you pain, and that the scratch is it’s fault. But it might notice a negative reaction and be more gentle in the future so you can still play together.
When I forgot to change the litter box the other day, one of my fur babies left me a "brownie" in a bedroom slipper. I could swear they were laughing at me when I got up, shoved my foot into a slipper and got a squishy smelly surprise.
While I don't know if cats can apologize, I think they understand the concept of retaliation.
No, they were telling you the box was not a suitable place to eliminate.
My experience with cats does not suggest that cats retaliate on purpose. And once my cat peed in my opened photo-bag containing my camera and lenses. Lucky for me, the lens survived. I cleaned it and eventually sold it after some months (it was still working and not smelly).
One time my cats left a single “brownie” right infront of my sink. Nothing else just a single “Brownie”
When i was a kid my step dad hated cats. He always made loud noises and stomped his feet to scare the cats. So they routinely pissed on his clothes and shoes. Never touched anyone else's stuff, only his. So yeah, cat's understand retaliation.
One time my mom offended my cat and that night while she was asleep my cat came in her bedroom and peed on her.
my cat Luna used to get abused(boxes were thrown at her, etc) but now we have her and she’s safe with our 2 other cats(Sunray and Moondust). im glad we found her. shes very chill with us and the two other cats now. we’ve had her for 3 years.
When I was dealing with extremely painful "shingles " I was in bed most of the time in excruciating pain.
Both my cat's layed down on either side of me the whole time. They could feel my pain and were doing their best to comfort me. I❤them so very much.
It’s so sad that there are terrible cat owners who abuse these friendly cuties 😢
Its the opposite for me
Too bad they wouldn't be treated the same way!
They should be put in jail. A cat that can get out of the house will run away if you are mean to it.
Empathy is returning . As well as truth honesty and compassion...Have faith..!!
There is sick evil people out there
I’ll never forget the time my family’s cat had peed on the floor. I just cleaned it up calmly. Our cat sat right next to me as I was cleaning. It really felt like she was apologizing.
You sure they weren't sick cause cats will usually never not use the litter box unless theirs pain or they are sick and they will pee near you as a sign to tell you something is wrong
Cats have perfected the ability of saying "Sorry you feel that way"
My cat definitely knows when she’s done something wrong. Anytime I hear her clawing at the corner edge of the entrance to our hallway I shout “KIKI!!!” and she stops immediately.
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My cat has a special noise she makes for when I'm about to collide with or accidentally step on her. If i do, which happened a couple of times, she makes her distressed noise but doesn't lash out or run away. I know it's tempting to antropomorphize our pets but it really feels like she understands it's an accident. (I had never seriously hurt her, thankfully)
Maybe she just loves you
I'm not convinced anymore that cats can't feel sorry or apologize. One of my cats has anal gland issues. As you can imagine, its very unpleasant having to express those at the vet's. When she was almost a year old and getting an expression the first time, I assisted in restraining her. She was understandably upset/violated and bit my hand just above the cmc joint, drawing blood for the first time. I wasn't upset because I understood she didn't mean to hurt me, so there was no negative emotions for my cat to read. But the whole car ride home she kept trying to lick the wound. That entire day she would check on it, wanting to groom it. When she napped, she even curled her front paws around my hand to snuggle with me. She has never ever drawn blood on anyone since then, not even the vet techs that assist with her gland expressions now. One of her favorite ways to play is to rough house and she is very self aware when she "bites" my hand that she applies no pressure. She is one of the sweetest, gentlest cats I have ever owned.
My cat once bit my hand when having an issue with an aggressive neighbourhood cat.
I misread and approached from behind and scared her in her heightened state. She bit one of my fingers, even then she realised and didn’t draw blood. It only hurt for a few minutes.
Later on she checked my finger exactly where she bit me and was most concerned.
Like you I didn’t scold her.
I hope that you have many years with her. Cats can be the best of friends when we allow them to.
Our cat once bit my husband's hand and drew a little bit of blood when we took her to the vets and they were trying to give her an injection. My husband said that it seemed like she realised her mistake right after she bit him and didn't bite very hard after that. We understood though, she was frightened and in pain so we didn't scold her. Afterwards she never bit us that hard anymore, she always knows how hard she could bite when she's play-biting.
My cat knows what I’m talking about. When I tell not to do something and she keeps it up; I lower my voice “you’re not stupid you know better than that “ . Game’s up. She gives in 😅 and walks away. Bit later she’s on my lap and all’s forgiven 😅. Love that girl!
"This doesn't mean your cat feels bad for what it did, it just means they want you stop being sad" I'd say that damn accurate
I have trouble believing cats don't care if they hurt you. My cat gets vicious when he wants to play. It's all play biting and scratching, but it's still rough.
Yet, the second I show discomfort like it hurt or it's too rough, he immediately stops biting and changes to licking me. He does this every time.
i been a dog person for most of my life but...im in my mid 30s now and the older i get the more i find myself gravitating toward cats. i simply dont have the toolset anymore to deal with "dog energy". they are so incredibly needy and dependent. and theyre "always on".
Good grief only in your mid thirties? Wait until your in your late fifties, and try being a pet parent to a rambunctious little Lhasa Apso it’s enough to drive you nuts! I love dogs too, but like you I am sort of leaning towards preferring cats in my old age, and when I say cats I don’t mean kittens. I mean older more settled in pets. The last cat I had was just the sweetest, most loving little girl. She just laid on the bed never bothered me, all she ever wanted was love and snuggles, and of course food, and clean water, and a clean litter box.
same
There are quite a lot more reasons to prefer cats; the most important one for me being their purr! It's proven to be healing for humans and dogs just can't do it...
@@SEJ3333 I don't know which I prefer, both are amazing. And yes, purring is great
I grew up with dogs, now I have cats. Cats are infinitely easier than dogs. The cats sleep with us every night and snuggle, they play with my kids, they follow us from room to room, they come when they’re called, they’re hilarious and adorable and independent. Having a dog is like having a kid. A cat is a hairy entitled roommate.
As a long time animal lover who has spent his life (36 1/2 years, many of them with few human friends but with many feelings and canine ones) I can verify that cats are very much capable of feeling remorse well as all of the rest of the human emotions. One caveat is that they have a short emotional duration and and that they've done something wrong rather quickly.
My cat once bit me on the lip by accident and as soon as he did it his ears went back and he put his head down, I knew he didn't do it on purpose it left a mark and drew blood, but ever since then when we play and we get close to each others face he pulls back and just gentle nips or just pushes away he has never bitten like that again. I think they know and do feel remorse.
Cats do feel secondary emotions like pride and guilt, they show it in their own way. I'm not going to go into an in depth description but you'll see it all in their body language and energy.
Yeah, I've never heard someone claim that cats aren't prideful 😂 how silly
The young cat I have was severely traumatized (as a young kitten) and almost died from the abuse from the previous owner. It's taken a good few months (the time she's has been with us) for her to start actually trusting people. She's coming along slowly. A total indoor cat now. But this story has given me useful information that will be of help going forward. She has just started sleeping on me a couple weeks ago, but has been sleeping on my bed after the 1st few weeks
Thanks.
Ironically: I accidentally stood on her paw a few minutes before watching this. I apologized. She is happy.
Keep the info coming
u r right Jos 👍🏻👍🏻
I adopted a cat who was so completely traumatized from his previous owners that he was literally catatonic when they dumped him off at the spca. The spca staff wondered if he should be euthanized because he was practically comatose. But they worked with him for months. Eventually i adopted him and he was such a sweet boy. It took months for him to trust me. I loved him dearly and he was grateful to me that he was safe.
@@Heather-xz8fk im glad you have a happy cat. It's a wonderful feeling when their happiness and love wins out over a horrible past. 💖
@@joskubl6017 sadly my sweet boy crossed the rainbow bridge after 10 years together. He came back to me in a dream to let me know he was at peace. I miss him.
@@Heather-xz8fk hugs to you. My one is still new. So hopefully we will have good times together. Previous owner tried to feed her to a dog. Poor thing survived. But her back was damaged. She's just learnt to jump amd and stretch
My cats will turn around and check on me if we bump into each other,as if to say "excuse me,are you ok? I'm ok".It is so sweet.
I once had a cat that we would put outside every time he knocked stuff over.
He then did that when we didn't hear him meowing at first for some reason, and he wanted to go outside. He trained us, lol.
But I love all my cats. The first one I can remember, Simba, walked me to school throughout all of elementary (it was a block and a half), and whenever I am feeling down or having a meltdown because of mental health or sensory overload, my cats come to cuddle me.
I think cats know when we are sad. I have a rescue cat who was feral. I tricked her into coming into my house with tuna. I hid behind the door and when she came in, I shut the door. For monthd, she only came out at night when she thought the household was asleep. Eventually, she started sleeping at the foot of the bed but would take off and hide the second we woke up. Two days after my husband passed away, I was sitting on the bed crying, and she came and got in my lap for the first time. Now she's my lap cat. I can even pick her up and carry her around.
Last night I had something I was working on laid out on the floor and of course my cat decided he needed to lay on it. I said no in a stern voice while removing him. He tried again twice with me doing the same thing and eventually he just laid next to it. After it was done it had to dry and he tried to walk on top of it. The second I said no sir he stopped and walked around. I'm not sure if that's normal for a cat but I'm glad he listens and I don't have to use a stern voice often.
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My cats know the stern voice, and my one even argues with me vocally quite a bit 😂 but, as long as I stand my ground, he will eventually back down and he knows what he is and is not supposed to do.
@@intermidable lol my other cat is a "Queen" and no one tells her what to do. If she listens to you it's because she deems you worthy of being listened to. To be fair though she's also my protector lol she's saved my butt several times from a possible fire or leak. 💛 my other cat though psh he doesn't understand danger 😒🤣
@@stevenhenry4127 hello Steve i am doing nice , how are you
I remember once one of my cats had a jealousy explosion because I was giving attention to other cat. He hissed at this cat (something he never does) and ran away from me for a while, i struggled to get him to cuddle with me and tell him that I am sorry that I made him jealous lol
My cats do a form of apologizing when they do something on accident. They get stressed and meow. They also get extremely cuddly. When they do something on purpose for attention they kinda get chase ready, even though I don't chase them. They don't get angry at me when I do something on accident to them and give me a cuddle afterwards
Some cats remember “one-offs.” One of mine accidentally got between a fly and a fly swatter at the worst possible time. I was able to slow down my swing significantly but, unfortunately, not stop, so my kitty wasn’t harmed when he got what was basically just a tap, but he was frightened by the experience. It was years ago. If I pick up a fly swatted, he’s like, “peace out,” and runs from the room as fast as he can.
Awww 😭 mine are like that with brooms cuz the brooms are always falling around them especially when they got the zoomies. They know brooms now as "scary falling stick" they haul ass not when I pick it up but ONLY when I put it back down 🤣🤣🤣🤣
My cats know exactly when they’ve done something wrong. No one has to be in the room when they do. When someone enters, they run and hide, even without any reaction from us.
I hope that little girl got so many hugs after that shot. She looked so scared!
Recognizing tone of voice is soo true with our cat. She doesn’t care for pets or cuddling usually and even dislikes it but when we start arguing during gaming, she’ll rush over from wherever she was, lie down in front of or on the keyboard and won’t leave no matter how we pet her stomach or paws XD this instantly calm ourselves down and break the arguments and we had to move her away cause she’s blocking the keyboard during game. She’s sooo cute.
My cat gets miffed whenever I’m away for awhile, and “ignores” me to prove a point, but never lets me out of his sight 😂 I love that boy, he’s my baby. Even sing “You Are My Sunshine” to him, and he’ll usually purr ❤
I used to sing that to my cat too. That and Minnie Ripperton's Loving You (is easy cos you're beautiful)
I'm blind so I have a habbit of accidently kicking or almost sitting on my cat. She's used to it apparently and is just like "welp, that happened. Let's cuddle." But if I am away from home overnight and after every vet visit it takes about a day for her to come out of hiding and forgive me. Claw clipping takes her about an hour to get over.
My cat seems very aware of upsetting us & acts almost embarrassed. When we reassure him with affection he seems relieved. Some of them definitely have a sense of whether or not they've "offended" others by their behavior
I had a horrendous operation & was away from home 2 months. My cat hissed at me from the top of the kitchen cabinets for 3 days! Little by little she came down & allowed me to touch her. It was touch & go for several days. 😻😽
Idk about them apologizing but i can agree that stepping on tails or scaring them on accident makes me apologize profusely and they run at first and end up curling their tail and rubbing their head like "its ok i know you didn't mean to ". if they scratch and i say ow they do the same thing
I think that cats are even more intelligent. The do apologize, and understand complex situations. They are better than anything else.
Amen to that.
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Intelligence and emotonal intelligence are separate things. While cats are intelligent creatures compared to most species, their emotional intelligence is limited. Not because they are stupid or inferior to us, but because throughout their evolution they never needed to be emotionally intelligent. Emotional intelligence is found more commonly in species that live in large groups and co operate for survival (humans, for example, or chimpanzees, orcas, and dogs, who are pack hunters whereas cats hunt solo). These species needed to develop better communication skills in order to get along with their own kin and survive, and as a result, we developed and passed down the ability to express more complex emotions. Cats never had this need in the wild, but have evolved some traits over their domesticated history for their advantage (such as the meow, that they use for human interactions specifically).
Even as a cat lover, it's important to recognize and respect cats for what they are instead of trying to fit them into our own mold. The thousands of years we took to develop the ability to feel things like guilt, responsibility, morality, etc., cats have spent developing sharp claws, heightened hearing and smell, sharper night vision, and high agility. All things we will never match. So, are cats emotionally intelligent like we are? No. Are they inferior because of that? Absolutely not. We just went in different directions for the benefit of our species.
I'm still an amateur in the study of animal behavior but for a random youtube video I can tell this one is pretty accurate in what it teaches. You will find this information in most basic articles and textbooks about feline psychology.
@@FigliadiSephiroth Yes, I agree that you have great points here. Everything indeed is relative...
@@sherrys.2259 I'm going to add a little more. It is amazing, isn't it, that we can find common ground and not just peace but genuine enjoyment making our cats happy and comfortable. Here we are, two different species, living together in harmony. the fact that they aren't human nor just like us makes that even more wonderful, challenging, and interesting.
They do apologise and a whole lot more besides. My Tonkinese helped me overcome a migraine very quickly by laying her belly on mine and getting me to breath with her which brought the Relaxation Response. A most profound experience. I’ll never forget her.
The best “studies” are the ones we have with our cats individually, not some academic study.
My cat knows what "sorry" means and then forgets to not weave between my feet or trip me. He makes a crying meow tone, and he tells me all about it while I pet him. Since I spend so many hours at home and have since I've had him more than 12 years ago, we both know how to communicate to with each other. How many people here have had arguments with their pets? I am half-cat now.
I only recently got my kitten, but we still have bonded like crazy, she only allows me to hold her with her belly up. I was once holding her like that, and my uncle wanted to hold her cuz it was his first time meeting her. He tried to hold her the same way I was but she kept turning herself over. She also has found things that steal my attention and realized how they sooth me when I’m upset. She noticed once after I was crying really bad, she started licking me with occasional little nibbles, after I calmed down she left and js layed on my bed with me. I was also talking to someone a small bit after that and the conversation made my heart rate increase, and she came back and started doing it again. She’s the sweetest ever and I couldn’t be happier to have her.
This was a bit of a ramble but I hope you get my point, sorry for grammar mistakes or if things don’t make sense, I’m too tired to proofread.
Whether they stay angry or hold grudges.... my cat avoided all contact with us for three or four days after a very traumatizing vet visit. The trip to and from was the worst part. Even after finally letting us near her again it took a while before she was back to her old self.
She runs whenever someone picks up the cat carrier.
Yes, it was exactly the same with my cat: it took just one traumatizing vet visit (the first one) for her, and now she panics once she's in her cat carrier in the car.
The video affirms things with such certainty. I'm not sure we, as humans, understand animals enough to affirm what they do and do not understand.
My current kitten went to the vets several times with no issues. We were his third family in the first 10 weeks of his life. He was fine in all journeys, he used to find the crate and get in it as a make do bed and he was fine when we took him for his vaccination twice all with no issues. No crying, nothing.
We took him for the neutering and as normal he was perfectly behaved on the way in, quiet looking out of the window However when I collected him st the vets he was calm and friendly. In the car as soon as door closed he screamed, he howled the whole way home and all night eventually only going to sleep when he was so tired he couldnt howl. (He had being even laying zonked flat on his side, eyes closed, howling for an hour before sleep).
I put it down to pain or bad medicine reaction etc because the next morning he was fine. He ran round, played, wouldnt stop jumping etc, physically smashed his cone off, physically ripped the collar pad alternative etc but after 3 days was in perfect health and behaviour. Got to three weeks and had to go back for the checkup and all hell broke out. As soon as the crate was picked up he was howling from another room, we had to eventually close the door on the room to keep the area he could run down to a minimum, It took 30 mins to get him in screaming. On the way to the vets ten minute journey, whilst howling and hissing he deliberately sprayed urine out of the door twice, i know it was done as a weapon because he turned from facing the door to do it and did not make any attempt to bury it. Twice. When that failed he curled up in the smallest ball at the fare end of the bag, and crapped on everything, the floor, his blanket, his bedding, himself. For like 3 minutes using pooh as a hose. He had being going solidly at home before we left so god knows where he had stored that. When we got to the vets they let us clean him before his consult and he was fine. With us but when the vet came in he howled again, back in the crate he went and on came both urine and pooh hoses. He covered everything, deliberately.
The vet helped clean examining him and he hissed! Physically attacked her (the first ever time ever in violence), so back in he went. On way home he howled, urinated everywhere again and screamed.
When home within minutes he was out, started purring the second the zip was down, came out, ate, used litter with solid results and slept/ played as normal. Now he is the most angelic cat until the crate is seen. Every-time he goes in it now same game, even with a new crate. Even if not going to vets.
I really would like to know what they did to him, other then cut his nuts off, i am certain one of them did something physically to hurt him in the crate. He would have been sedated and not associate the crate with that pain or procedure. But whatever they did to him in there it is so embedded in him that he is soo soo scared he seizes, he shakes with fear, howling in agony, and looses both bladder and bowel control he is that scared. Even in his new crate. I tried taking him out a few times to reacclimatise him to car and crate but he just will not overcome this immense fear. They must have done something so brutally nasty to him. For absolutely no reason. He has a new vet now.
My cat has a ledge on the window above my bed. For a while she would use my stomach as either a launch pad to jump into the ledge, or a landing area to jump down. But after a few surprised cries of pain from me being rudely awakened by 16 pounds of cat landing on my shomach, she now lightly steps on me instead. All Hail Our Feline Overlords!
Oh good lord my cat used to do that. Oh Lord it hurts when they land. That was pretty much the only time I actually cussed at my cat. Like really cussed him out. The little turd taught his sister to do it too. Thankfully I've moved the bed & he can't land on my stomach anymore.
He still jumps on my shoulders though with no warning but other than a startled scream it's ok. It doesn't really hurt because he doesn't use his claws. He just likes to fly out of nowhere to land on my shoulders startling.
i got my two furbabies about 7-8 months ago and ive been loving these videos.
I've lived with cats most of my life and learned that they interpret a slow blink as a sign that you are not hostile. I've met cats in stressful situations and blinked slowly, and they visibly relaxed. Just make sure you mean it!
Tried that - even my cat of 12 years doesn't take any notice.
My cat knows when I'm sad even when I don't say anything.
❤❤I just follow the old saying, “Dogs have masters. Cats have staff.” I love my cat, but I know my place.
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I was surprised to learn that my cat prefers one thing as a scratching post: an easily replaceable, inexpensive door mat by a certain Swedish mega-store. Cat passed up a tree trunk with bark, various furniture pieces, commercial scratchers, or cardboard (previous favorite). You go with what you can get!
5:43 Ya, my cat wasn’t a big problem at the vets until he had to get some wounds cleaned and glued shut. After that, he was an absolute menace once he got through the door even with sedation. It got to the point where they just said “unless he’s sick or injured don’t bring him”
Doing Doordash for 3 years, full time.. I've noticed a lot of my common customers that have cats. Sometimes the cats will run away. Mostly they will just ditch, for a minute, until I take a picture of the delivery location and the cat(s) will swarm. But they never actually mess with the food, strangely. Weird's me out, how protective they are.. Im about to start carrying cat/dog treats just for this purpose.
I adopted a deaf and blind cat 3 years ago. The first two were rough, but this year has been amazing. I use touch and breath to communicate what he can’t see or hear.
I do have a cat that knows she has done wrong like going in spaces that are restricted. In our house it's the basement or high up in the kitchen on the fridge. When she does it and get caught, her body posture shows she know it's wrong. She will lay on the floor like I am sorry let's play. It's so cute you can't stay mad. Our cat Pitty was the lone survivor when her mother and other kittens were killed by a wild animal attack. When she opened her eyes as a baby kitten, humans were her mom. This cat thinks a lot more like humans than our other cats. She is like half cat and half human in her thinking. She can read were sad and need support. It's something special. We are blessed having her.
I was very fortunate that our cats trusted us so much, that they let us be with their kittens right from their birth. They allowed us to touch them, to hold them, to comfort them. The mommy cat was well aware of this all and in no stress whatsoever when we handled the little, defenseless kittens. When they grew older, it was her who was stressed by the kittens roaming around. She started to bit their back legs in order to make them limp and not run away that fast, when we were not near. We have caught here doing that. Of course, whenever we were around, she was quite relaxed and let us handle the still blind kittens. She really trusted us. She passed away early this year, due to old age.
Bottle babies are always extra bonded to humans. They can be very needy. Some people like that quality. Some people hate it. Personally, I prefer a very strong bond with my cat.
My Calico had a terrible habit of biting me for no reason.
I would never hurt her and yelled and stomped the ground as she would run off. Then an hour or so later she's back with the cutest adorable little special weak meow...different from all of her other sounds. She Does apoligize! I've seen it many times. I miss those adorable apologies but not the bites! My first cat would ignore me for days if I went out of town for a week or more.So how did I solve that? Stayed home cause I loved her that much!
My cat sure knows what she's doing-both to get in and out of trouble.
This girl keeps a running tally of everything I've ever told her no for. When she's either super playful or upset, she runs down that list and hits damn near every one until she gets "in trouble".
Then she immediately jumps up and tries to walk on my chest or snuggle up and I'm like, "No. I'm mad at you." But... obviously it secretly works, so I don't stay mad but for 30 seconds or so lol.
I ignored my cat for a full day after he went after my Frenchie (he was already in trouble for trying to sneak out the door and she just happened to be in the way of his escape, he had never hit her before). He love bombed me so hard the next day. I was gone for a week once and he chose to sit in my lap for an hour, something he’s never done before and has never done again. I love my emotionally complex bb man
I LOVED MY TWO CATS VERY MUCH, THEY WERE MY JOY.
Not a story about apologies or misbehavior, but cats definitely seem to have empathy and concern… at least for each other. I have two cats, and both dislike it when I clip their nails. They are usually very happy otherwise, so the sound of one of them complaining or protesting is very unusual. Whenever this happens, inevitably, the other cat comes over to check on the one in distress. Usually sniffing or observing them, before deciding that all is still well and going about their business. So I take this as evidence that cats do care, in their own way.
I know they can sense sadness. I was sad the other day, and one of my two kittens stopped what he was doing when he saw my face, meowed and hopped up and butted me
Cats totally feel pride. They're VERY proud animals. Lol
I mean, considering I've seen cats that would hide the fact they landed badly by acting like nothing happened, I have to agree that at least quite a few of them are proud.
seems like that's all they know is pride.
A _fun_ complimentary video to this one is a video from the felines perspective.
"How your human apoligize to you?"
"Give your human a short time-out to make sure you're the one in charge"
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My cat likes to use my shoes as his personal cat box and then apologizes by tea bagging me while I sleep.
I still remember the vet completely flabbergasted, holding her bloody hand, saying "that's incredible, this is the first time I see a cat bite out of revenge and not to defend itself".
Literally so much of this can be relatable to human personalities it legit astounds me lol. I too do dumb shit to others I like with no remorse until I see their reaction and then try to do things to comfort them afterwards 😅❤
Good to know. I have a cat but he's mannerless and has never, ever apologised for all the mean things he's done to me! And I might dispute that thing about knocking stuff off the table and not knowing it's not welcome behaviour. My cat just looks defiant the moment before he pushes something over the edge (including me) and definitely gives me a look of "So what you going to do about this? Yeah, I know.... nothing!" I do agree he feels love for me though... on his terms of course, not mine! 🤣
I think they are just really curious about our reaction. My theory is: Its instinctual for a cat to test out the environment and how other animals react to an object falling and creating noise. You know a big part of being a cat is being stealthy. But to be a perfect cat ninja you need to know your environment. So in this case your cat takes you as a test subject.
Id consider its as a compliment, this playful learning is what cats do with their kin. In other words it is another expression of their love and that they feel comfortable around you.
I swear my cat does this on purpose if I am busy working and ignoring him. He knows that knocking things over will get my attention.
Yeah, they definitely seem to take particular delight in causing mischief when they know you're not actually gonna do anything about it!
@milkandcereal you should feel honored ;)
this video has led me to conclude that ONE HUNDRED PERCENT of youtube videos are professional and aptly and thoroughly researched.
7:40 Peeing outside the box.
We adopted a small, old, stone-deaf cat from a refuge. She was obviously intelligent but frequently peed all over the place. Eventually, my wife noticed she had an ingrowing claw. As soon as this was trimmed back, she stopped shouting at us and (more importantly) peed in the box. Evidently, digging with an ingrowing claw hurt too much to do it. She tried to tell us, but we did not understand.
My cat definitely knows she did something wrong as she tends to run away if you call her out. She does apologize if she bites too hard by licking and she knows where shes allowed scratch with her claws.
Whenever I'm sick , my cat, very carefully, jumps up on the sofa, softly tip toes and lays down on me, just staring at me until I go to sleep.
My lil boy is 22 weeks old he's my precious beautiful best friend.. we live alone and love each other.. he absolutely knows ad he loves mommy
Sometimes he says he's sorry, but usually just pretends it didn't happen.
My one cat talks all the time. I talk to her and ask questions and she responds and talks back to me
I've noticed that when my girl does something especially naughty and earns a scolding, she will become as cute as possible. Instantly, she'll flop onto her back and wiggle around, exposing her belly to me. She'll purr louder than usual, makes air biscuits, and just generally takes on a submissive posture. She's aware that I can't stay mad at her when she makes herself so cute and vulnerable. Adorable little monster. Manipulative demon. The tiny beast has me wrapped around her dewclaw, and she knows it.
since I was one I used to have a cat friend and we would play in my patio for hours and she was so nice and once she scratched me but afterwards she came back and apologized, she was a great friend
I literally LOL at the cat biting the girl on the forehead at the beginning 😂 and im not sorry about it
We went away for 3 weeks and when we returned our cat was mad at us for one solid week. Wouldn’t sit on our laps. Wouldn’t come when called, wouldn’t purr when placed on lap and scratched and patted although this was allowed. Did sit around and glare at us though. Obviously had a very good memory and we really had to work at it to make up. I think the word offended covers the situation.
I have 5 cats and had cats all my life. My experience is that what they mostly react to is the combination of Adrenalin and emotions. In a human this usually is coherent with the tone of voice and facial expression. But the actual sensitivity of the cat is to your emotions and you potential physical energy. some how they sense this very acutely and through that interpret the potential danger or the chance for comfort. That is also why it is harder to educate a cat to not do certain things. They don't relate to the thing they did but relate to their safety. The thing i learned is that cats need to be educated with positive reinforcement. For example telling them not to scratch the couch will seldomly produce results , but encouraging them to scratch a scratching carton or a coiled rope will make them do more of the later and can remove them from the first habit. The other experience i have that, in a general manner, i can say that the fluffy long hair cats are easier to educate - especially Persian ,Siberian & long hair maycoons.
I’d say positive reinforcement works with everyone and thing lol works better for children, grown adults, teens, dogs, cats even birds! Dont know why people are still using negative reinforcement given again, it works better with practically everyone and thing
I have 2 cats , one is gray and white the other is all black. My white one is a sweet average cat. My black one is brilliant , he takes direction ,understands a wide range of words and always apologizes.
I love this video.
But the thumbnail is just PURE ADORABLE
How about this one?
Over the years, I've had several cats who ran to their litter box to upchuck a hairball or grass wad. I had another cat, Valerie, who would scrape around the litter box or a food bowl and leave a ring around the base which I would find when I moved whichever to sweep. Thank you Earth M😊omma Valerie.
Cats are very intelligent...they do understand when you treat them differently
Hi there. I totally disagree. When I was playing with my cat Vester under some blankets he attacked my hand through the fabric and bit into my hand. I pulled back with a minor shriek and ran to the bathroom to clean the bite. After making sure the wound was cleaned, disinfected, and bandaged with white gauze I went back to Vester to comfort him and to tell him it wasn't his fault it was a simple accident. However, when I would pet him and cuddle him if he saw the bandaged hand he would stop and lower his head and walk away. He did this every time we interacted, if he saw the hand with the bandage he walked away. When my hand healed and the bandage was gone Vester played and had fun again without worry. To say he had remorse and a feeling of guilt was an understatement. They understand and respond accordingly. Don't underestimate your cat they understand more than you think. Stay safe out there. Take care and God bless.
Very great info ℹ️ thank you 🙏🏽