How Cats Choose Their Favorite Person
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- čas přidán 24. 05. 2024
- If you’ve ever lived with cats in a household of multiple people, you may have noticed that cats often tend to prefer a particular person over others.
Believe it or not, there are several behaviors and characteristics that make people appealing to cats. Anyone who meets these certain criteria is likelier to receive a cat’s affection.
In this video, we will talk about how cats choose their favorite human and how you can become your cat’s favorite person.
Handling
Handling is key to earning a feline’s admiration and respect.
Cats want to remain in control of their environment. This means that being cornered and scooped up without request can agitate a cat.
This is why many cats will gravitate more toward people who don’t like cats, or who are allergic to cats.
The best way of winning a cat’s affections is to not insist they interact with you. Instead, encourage your pet to want the contact. Don’t hug, pick up, or corner your feline friend against their will. It’s best to let the cat make the first move.
Communication
Studies have shown that any person who can understand and respond to a cat’s cues, whether purrs, meows, or physical touch, is likelier to receive feline affection.
This means understanding when a cat wants attention and when they want to be left alone. It also means feeding them quickly when they want to be fed. Cats want to be understood and have their body and verbal language cues respected.
Cats have a special appreciation for people who can understand their needs.
Your voice
By default, cats are nervous and afraid of humans.
There are particular behaviors and characteristics that can make people less appealing to cats.
For example, cats find loud noises or sudden movements to be stressful. Cats may even try to avoid people who behave in ways that are impulsive, frightening or distressing to them. This explains why many cats avoid unpredictable children, and why they enjoy the company of elderly people. Kids are distressing to cats because they make loud noises and sudden moves.
If your cat views you as a source of safety rather than disruption, they will be more likely to be drawn to you.
Additionally, a study conducted by Animal Cognition has found that cats know your voice compared to the other voices in your home. If you speak in calm, softer tones, your feline friend will enjoy your vocalization a little more because cats are naturally drawn to the calm of it all.
Scent and Appearance
For example, a cat may show dislike toward an individual who remind the cat of somebody that mistreated them in the past. This could be due to appearances, such as hats or facial hair, or scents, such as perfume or cologne. It could even be because of certain noises the person makes or even the tone of their voice.
Quality Time
In addition to being a good communicator, a cat’s favorite human is often the person who puts effort into spending quality time with them. Don’t get this mixed up with the person who spends the most time with the cat. There’s a difference between quantity and quality, and your feline friend knows it well.
That favorite person could be the person who brushes the cat, invites them to nap in their lap, or simply talks to the cat while keeping them engaged in their everyday life. Interestingly enough, a recent study by from Oregon State University discovered that out of human interaction, food, toys, and a scented cloth, cats preferred human interaction the most. So taking 15 minutes every day to twirl the feather wand or toss a catnip mouse is a great way to curry favor with a feline.
Food
Survival instincts govern animals for a large part of their day, and few things are more important than food. So it should come as no surprise that cats show affection to people who offer food to them. This means the person providing nourishment to a cat will be highly valuable to them and is likely to win their favor, although other factors can foil this.
It is important to remember that although almost all cats will have one favorite person, this does not mean that cats only care about one person. A cat’s signs of affection indicate that they love all members of a household. The cat will just gravitate toward one particular person more than others.
Some cats innately distrust all humans. Oftentimes, such a circumstance applies to feral cats who have never been properly socialized with humans.
To know if you are your cat's favorite human, you'll have to analyze your relationship together as well as how they interact with other people in your household.
When a cat chooses you as a favorite, they will begin to foster a much closer bond. You shouldn't be surprised if they sleep on top of you, follow you around, rub against you, or hang out near you. These are the personal and close behaviors which undoubtedly indicate a cat feels close to you. When they give them to you more than others, it is pretty certain you are their favorite person.
There is no greater honour in life than being chosen by a cat.
Someone dumped a cat near my property. She chose me and was the best cat I’ve ever had. She was so sweet. She’d snuggle all night like a teddy bear. Her name was Zuku. She even got along with my other two cats. She passed away tragically after a neighbor cat attacked her. She got a deadly infection and passed away. I’ve never cried so much.
hai ragione,e questo e vero in qualunque posto al mondo, qualunque lingua noi parliamo: loro parlano tutte le lingue!
When a cat chooses you, you then become ✨THE CHOSEN ONE✨
My cat chose me when she was kitten. She hung on my screen porch for 15 minutes meowing at me. She was young, so I wasn’t sure if her mother would come around looking for her. She stayed outside the porch meowing for like 45 minutes, the mother never came. We took her in, the rest as they say is history. She’s nothing short of family.
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When we went to the shelter to meet our cat she came to me straight away and sat on my lap. Being liked by a dog feels awesome but being liked by a cat feels MAGICAL.
It means you smell like tuna.
dogs are the ADHD pet of pets. They are fun and are great companions but if you don't like that kind of attention a cat is more your thing. Cats are fine being left alone and still capable of communication and the same petting behaviors you can experience with dogs. Just not as overly present as with dogs.
The thing is, for most dogs, anyone can gain their love/attention. I've even had friends upset because their dog was paying me attention, just because I patted it and fussed over it. Cats aren't like that, they're harder to win over which makes it more worth it.
@@dgray3771 That is why i am not a dog person. A dog is like a needy child. You must really devote yourself to them and i just can't do it.
Cat's are much easier, less noisy, less needy and more clean.
Its Simple
Men are like Dogs
Cats are like Women
A cat will Sit and Judge, analyse you before saying "hello"
Dogs are free, they directly say "hello".
I struggle with self loathing a lot but every time I remember that my cat clearly loves me I think "well I can't be that bad if she likes me" and it helps lol
Lots of time, cats know best - trust your cat. Indeed, you came across as a lovely gal just now.😸
Shane Dawson: Heavy breathing
@@gottfriedhub I've never wanted to like and dislike a comment before 😭
Same! Having my cat has been very therapeutic.
Nah you just gotta get over yourself. Self loathing is caused from egotism.
Being the chosen one by a cat feels like you won at life.
Because you have
my cat is still on my lap after three and a half hours, this afternoon. Can’t get rid of him! He is a young, neutered , loving cat.
If that's your requirement to winning at life you have already lost
The chosen one....
In a nutshell: respect your cat's boundaries. Which is already a challenge for a lot of people with other humans. Good luck with that.
This. It’s literally just about respecting their boundaries, remaining calm, communicating effectively and meeting their needs
neve owned a cat myself but most of my friends have had one. and you very much start learning a cats boundaries the very first time they have your arm in a 4 paw death grip and their teeth are sinking into your hand....
I plan on living by myself woth just cats so it should be a breeze
Cats are good at teaching you how to set and respect boundaries, but they're also good at teaching you that sometimes when power dynamics are skewed in your favor, you have to respect boundaries more than you establish them. Or at least that's what I tell myself when I'm trying to go to the bathroom in peace.
God seriously.
The amount of times I've had to tell someone 'don't manhandle my cat, it's a living creature with free will' and I was greeted with shocked pikachu face would disgust you.
My cat Sterling was fat, lazy, self-centered and occasionally argumentative. I think he and I got along so well because he shared my best attributes. I still miss him a lot.
Lol. But yeah… 🙏🏼
hahahahaa!!! i hate ppl i prefer a cat over an actual person any day
@@1digitalsmith I like people and cats 🐈💗✨💗🌈💗🥰🙂‼️‼️‼️‼️
@@vanessasamayoa9329 what emoji
Did he also love lasagna and hate Mondays?
I thought I was a dog person until I met my cats. I rescued them during the pandemic. One of them is a young female, she was really sweet and playful right away. She loves pets! The other one, a 6 years old male, was very independent and distant for over a year, and just recently started following me everywhere, sleeping with me, keeping me company while I work...
Cats really are very often so much more affectionate than people know.
My husband and I thought the same. We were dog lovers. Have two when my husband rescued a cat from a construction dump. She was just a kitten about to be crushed under a weight thing they drive up on. They searched for mom and more kittens but found none. Brought her home and we kept her in a bedroom my husband uses as a office so he was bonding with her. Our big 90 lb dog laid outside the door and she pawed at him under the door. This went on for a few days. He laid there all the time. Our little dog took interest too. We would bring her out and let them smell her. He would hold her. One day she flew out of the room and we freaked out. She went right to our big dog and he just let her climb on him and lay with him. She’s been her almost a year now. They are all buddies. Especially our big dog and the cat. They sleep together.
I applaud you for adopting a cat instead of a kitten. So many people gravitate toward the babies and the others get left behind 😢
My last cat that died last year would "scream" at my feet until I picked her up and rested her in her favorite position on my shoulder. She was a special girl :')
I had the same cat but mine was a male cat, but it was awesome
Why an special girl?
sorry for your loss
I reluctantly adopted a Siamese cat that my wife had before we met. When we got married, the cat came as a package deal. I tolerated and even ignored this cat at first, but one day she came up to me and looked into my eyes and purred deeply. She broke the ice and chose the moment to make her move. That moment began the closest relationship I ever had with a pet. This cat latched on to me, much to my wife’s dismay. This cat would greet me at the door when I got home every time and would not accept a patronizing hello. If I didn’t authentically give her a warm greeting, there would be backlash. Every time I sat, this cat would jump into my lap. She would sleep against me every night.
She died a few years ago at the age of 18 and a half. I still miss her. She was my pet flame, and there will be none like her ever again. I would say that when a cat chooses you, you are forever changed. This is something that cannot be forced. You are their world and reason for being when a cat chooses you. Don’t take it for granted.
I got 3 cats in a "package deal" too. I've never been close to cats before because I am allergic. But after some time one of them died and I never cried so much in my life even when my granpa died. I love them so much now I can imagine living without them even with all the allergic crisis haha
Beautiful story.
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I cried when I read this. You are lucky person that you've exprienced that in your life! Wish you all the best!
It is still a mystery for me why I was the favorite human of my first cat. You see, my family had him before I was born, and he was not the biggest fan of anyone of them (or humans in general), but the moment I was brought home from hospital where I was delivered - I was his and he was mine.
He slept with me, followed me everywhere the moment I started moving around by myself and was the first one to comfort me when crying. He was that strong, halfway feral, scarred from fights, incredible hunter type of cat. Each summer my family moved to countryside to live in our village home, and the most incredible thing is that after some time no dog attempted to bark at me. My cat was fast to pick a fight, and he literally trained all dogs in the village that the moment I get scared - they’re FUCKED.
That’s why it’s a mystery - I was a new born, than a toddler, etc., I was loud, I was not feeding/petting him (every now and then I had dead mice in my bed so it was HIM feeding me), he never saw a newborn before me; the only thing I was doing is forcing him every day to pretend he is playing with me (any time I could grab him and place near my toys, and he calmly sat there with me for HOURS, watching me play and responding with meows to me talking to him). I could call him by name any time and he was rushing to me (in his place I would rush away FROM me, but who am I to judge).
I still miss him sometimes, although he is long gone.
I think your first cat decided you were his baby. You were a helpless child, so he took on the job of being your protector. What an honor!!
Dude was a warrior protecting you. Long live he!
I really envy you.
Sounds like fantasy to me...
@@alvodin6197 I believe it. My family had Jill, a scraggly calico. 😅 She would sit at the foot of my bed when I was around 4-8 and stand guard. If my Mom came in, Jill would be like, “She’s resting, what do you WANT?” and watch very anxiously to see what Mom wanted or what she would do. All this despite Mom being Jill’s former person.
She’d wait outside my door when I’d have it shut. She’d wait for me to get home from school. She’d wait for me to wake up so she could curl up next to me and get snuggles before I got out of bed. When I was sick or hurt she’d hardly leave my side.
I was a kind of quiet kid and I knew that I needed to not scare the cat, and I was pretty good at not startling her, so I think that’s part of why it was easier for her to “pick me.” But for whatever reason, she decided to be all Momma Bear about me, even being protective against my human mom! Sometimes it just happens. 🤷🏻♀️
I still remember the first cat my family got.
She was a beautiful calico my dad named "Precious". We brought her home in the cardboard carrier and I sat outside of it talking to it (I had to be 3 maybe 4 years old) and stuck my finger by a slat to say hi. She grabbed my finger, pulled it in (kitten claws suck) and nuzzled it repeatedly. Dad opened the box and she slowly walked out, and curled up in my lap. My family said that she picked me as her favorite and I thought it was a cute joke for many many years.
Sadly, nearly 20 years later and her health was on a decline (arthritis in her hind legs among other things) and she had a stroke in the hallway (blind spot we couldn't see from the living room) before dragging herself about ten feet to my bedroom doorway. I saw her and just held her because I knew. I just... knew. That was the moment I also realized that the jokes weren't jokes, I was her favorite human and shared her last moments with us just like I shared her first.
Over 15 years later and I still miss her, every day.
they are magical!
I love cats mine is dead i cry all the time😭😭😭😭
what a beautifully moving story
Jesus christ I rarely cry this just made a tear form
Went to a cat cafe once. I chased around and pet whoever cat I can during my stay. There's this one cat though who backed away from me when I asked her if I can pet her. So I decided to give her space and sit at the far corner. I did not know she followed me there, and 2 minutes later, she climbed on my lap and tried to take a nap. 😹
That moment made my year! ❤️
My girlfriend got a cat, but then it would always come to me and ignore her. If my girlfriend and I were sitting on the couch watching TV, the cat would jump up and really force itself in between us and push my girlfriend out of the way, so that the cat had all my attention.... It was such obviously jealous behaviour. My girlfriend mostly found it amusing.
An ex-girlfriend got a cat while we were together (about a year). I came back to visit once and met her current bf. While we were all sitting in the living room, the cat got in my lap like I was an old comfortable chair. I don’t think he knew our past, but I’m sure that sight probably made him wonder. 🤭
@@jimm.6542 One day I visited a friend because she needed a new roommate. One of cat, "Judge" (because, from what I understood, will just stand there while staring and disapprove of people) jumped on my lap. My friend said: "Wow, that never happens."
I don't know why, but I often noticing that cats prefer guys to girls
When I first got my kitten (she passed away during adulthood several years ago) she would gravitate toward my male roommate. I think it was because her original owner was male.
Lol! Adorable
I have always been liked by cats. Mine, other peoples', strays, you name it. What makes them like me, I believe, is that I always talk to them like they're human. Cats love communication.
I won't ever let you near my cat. Sounds like she would cheat on me.
@@mistersir3185 Lol ;P~!!!
Same goes for me. I'll pet any cat that come to me or near me but never needy to try play with cat that ran away. Eventually, the ran away cat start coming closer as it watch I play with other cat.
Aww!
my aunt's cat miguel hisses at everyone he sees. I walk right into his room, sit down and wake him from a dead sleep he looks at me in shock and a little terror and then I start scratching the ears and he went 180 into 'yeah alright i'll allow it'. Stills hisses at everyone else.
Haha this is so true. One of my ex gf had two cats, one of which she claimed hated strangers and was afraid of men.
I just ignored that cat, didnt move when it came close etc.
After a while it laid down next to my leg when we were watching tv, and after a few weeks it would lie on my belly all the time and even greet me when I entered the room.
It even "made my bed" whe it was time to go to sleep by patting it with its paws like "look, all set, you can sleep now, human."
That was quite funny.
I had a neutered Siamese cat while I grew up. Never in my years on this earth have I had a stronger bond with anything ever. This cat became like a brother, best friend, mentor and soulmate.
none of that arrogant, selfish and insecure BS you get from a human, a relationship based on survival together in the window of time you share. Something that transcends anything in books.
surfing this universe together for 21 years is honestly indescribable.
Not so sure this is a reflection on the cat as much as it is your inability with cohabitation with your own kind... don't grow up or mature - life will be brutal, even with a pet. Good luck with that, cheers...
I wholeheartedly agree. Animals, in general, but especially cats are able to transport your souls together to a different dimension. That may sound corny, but it’s very spiritual and not easily explained. I have never been able to feel this way with any other being.
When my cat was younger she was always afraid of me, she never came to me or interacted with me in any way. But one time she fell out of the window, nobody saw her. When I finally realised that I went to search for her and found her hiding unter a tree. After saving her she immediately slept near me for the first time and after that I gained not only her trust but her love.
I had two cats from the same litter and one of them was uncertain and nervous around my partner when he was a kitten. I don't know why - maybe because my partner is a bit louder when he walks? Anyway one day that kitten was in the courtyard and some birds on the branches overhead were squawking at my kitten and scaring him but they were in between him and the door. My partner noticed he was scared and picked him up and carried him past the birds and inside. After that he became confident around my partner.
And all you had to do was chuck her out of a window. The things we do for love.
Sweet story ♥️ My stray did the same thing ! He wouldn’t let me touch him for weeks…he had a vet appt and it was extremely hard to catch him. We finally did and had no choice but to keep him in cage for a day. It’s a huge dog cage, he had room….but I was the one that let him out the cage , IM THE ONLY ONE that he lets hold him now. Cuddles me. He WANTS to Go in that cage now and I gotta put half my body in it to cuddle him , he loves it!!!
We adopted a random cat. First we were feeding her and all she would do is cry. So we petted her. And realized she just wanted affection. She prefers that more than food
Each cat is unique, even if the video covers like 90% of cat behavior some cats are just different. There are cats that love being around kids. Even if loud and annoying to other cats. And like my moms cat, he always comes if called indoors and is fine to pet but as soon as he is outside forget calling him. It's like he lives 2 lives.
cats cant cry. she was probably sick
@@majanv11 crying also refers to the sound of crying or "crying out", she isn't saying the cat was sitting there sobbing with tears 🤦♀
@@majanv11 nope...doctors said she was healthy. She was just lonely. I pretty much know this cat well by now. She is super vocal. She has her sad meows, angry meow and happy meows.
@@mischr13 yup!
I’ve told this story before, but I love it and it also applies here.
Once I decided to adopt a cat and surprise my fiancé. So off to the shelter I went. I walked in, and it was quite a small place. They had basically just a room for all of the cats to roam and play on all of the cat furniture. The door had a huge glass window that was from hip level to head or top. I had just come in and two other guys about my age also were there. I was wearing a black suit, and they were in more casual shorts and T shirts. I often wondered if that played any role in what happened next. All three of us went into the room at the same time. But instead of the two guys who’d come together standing next to each other, I was centered. This is when my cat, Oscar, saw me and went nearly berserk! He completely ignored the two guys and came directly for me. He was extremely vocal, and loud! Even as they left, and I had clearly been adopted by him, as I walked out of the room, he gave chase and pawed at the door all the while still meowing as loud as he could, and he could sing!! So the worker there says, “Well, it looks like you’ve been chosen!” And so I was. All these years since I have wondered what exactly made him react that way. And I guess many of these cues answer that. Such a proud moment! I was the chosen one!!
I'm not necessarily "cat or dog", but dogs for the most part love you no matter what and blindly adore you, but earning a cat's love and respect is truly a magical connection ✨ 💖 💗 ❤ 💕 💛 ✨
Ah I’m crying when he said cats have long term memory, cause now I’m thinking about my old man and how he must remember all our times together through so many years
I went abroad for university and the family cat at the time 100% remembered me even only coming home once a year for a few weeks. Cats definitely have long term memory.
One of my current cats remembers how to do tricks I taught her over a year ago and havent practiced in at least 6 months.
He said someday you'll leave this world behind, so live a life you will remember.
I only see my favourite two cats when I catsit them which is sometimes quite far apart but they've never forgotten me - there's no warming up period, as soon as they see me they know exactly who I am. They have really good memories for people in my experience.
Same, but now I know she remembers her kittens who have passed on :(
I’ve been chosen as a favorite by 7 cats in my 61 yrs of life. It’s a great honor and they have been my best friends. ❤️
I'm only 20 but I already know I'm a cat person for life and I want to own cats for my entire life as well, I hope I'll be able to do that, what makes me unsure is I don't know how I'll deal with death, and if I'll be able to get another cat after such an experience. How did you deal with the death of your cats?
@@Kain1805 How do you deal with the death, get a kitten a month or 2 later. TRUST me, you'll be so busy running after the lil thing you won't have enough time for grief....3 years ago I lost the best kitty I ever had, all we BOTH wanted was to be together. He followed me every where, talked to me A LOT, and was my constant companion. I grieved HARD over him, I lost my only friend. I'm disabled and unable to leave the house without help so when I say he was my only EVERY thing, he WAS.
My best friends told me get another kitty, I said I couldn't, that I could never love another cat like they deserved to be. They gave me "the speech"...stray kittens without a home, sitting in shelters alone, yes I might not love them like I did my other kitty but they knew I'd give w/e animal I have the best of every thing, ect ect...SO, I caved n got a kitten and I can tell you if I HADNT, I'd be grieving til this day.
@@DovesSweetSonnet thank you for this reply. I needed to hear this
I never comment but I have to here. I've been chosen as favourite by every cat I've had AND lived with.
My last relationship started off with my ex's cats sleeping with him and going to him for attention and ended with them sleeping with me and following me around. I've been told by people I have the perfect personality for cats. I'm quiet, respectful of their boundaries, and I take care of them. Make sure they're fed, watered, and they get attention when they want it.. Even if that means pausing what I'm doing to love on them.
@@DovesSweetSonnet My advice is actually to get the kitten a few years before hand before hand, so you're older cat can help "coach" the kitten. It's really hard to replace a pet, but very easy to get your pet a companion.
I was having an extremely bad day, and a cat on the sidewalk walked up to me and rubbed on me and gave me pets as if I was another cat. I really love how cats can pick up on your feelings.
This was very good! I feel like many people don't get the first point, that cats want to be respected and handled on their own terms rather than forced to cuddle etc.
It took about 2 years of daily food for a neighborhood stray before she would allow me within arm's length. Of late, I noticed she began to remain in proximity when I was working in my garden. It seemed to me she began to want companionship and knew I posed no threat. The day came when she hovered about my feet, arching her rump and vocalizing. I was amazed that she accepted a light stroke along her flanks and in awe when she leaned into a bit of rubbing along her neck. She likes a little brushing too. Now it is part of the daily routine. She comes and yells at me for breakfast but requests some mild petting before she dines.
Achievement unlocked: you have been domesticated
cats also hate being stared at when stressed so makes sensew
Some cats are like that... and some are like the one i found the other day, a cat i never knew, appeared out of nowhere and started rolling on my shoes, meowing and also purring, i've never seen such a kind cat, and the town i encountered is full of them
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Kitty trained you
About a year and a half ago, I went to this one shelter to adopt a cat (and I had my mom with me). Fifteen minutes into the search, I spotted this one cat hiding inside a stuffed igloo, and all I could see were his two black ears sticking out of the hole. I asked who he was, but the woman who was there with us said he wasn't up for adoption. So I started to move on, and then a minute later, my mom exclaimed, "Honey, you've got to look at this cat!" I turned and saw this big, sleek, BEAUTIFUL cat approaching us, and he was looking directly at me. He followed us into the next room, and when we sat down, he started sniffing out my mom. Then my mom told him, "No, no, no - go see Phoenix!" So the cat walked to me... and curled up in my lap! My jaw DROPPED when he did that, more so when he started purring. My mom smiled, looked at me, and said, "I think you just found your cat."
More like he found ME! LOL
As if that wasn't crazy enough, I managed to convince the lady at the shelter that I wanted to adopt him. So while my mom went to get the cat carrier, I started signing adoption papers. A minute later, my mom walked back inside with the carrier... and then exclaimed, "Oh, my God, he just jumped right in!!!!" I knew right away that he was truly mine - and he wasn't going anywhere!
I later named him Romeo, after the character who fell in love at first sight. To this day, we're still the best of buds... and while I spoil him with treats, he spoils me with cuddles! I can never stress enough just how lucky and happy I am to have him in my life. Love you, Romeo!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
TY for sharing that story.
Cats pick you.
Sounds like my Romeo.
Why did she say he wasn't up for adoption? I'm so glad you have each other now. :)
@@mindybunny it might be because they were trying to socialize him more and get his self-confidence up before sending him with a family
He gives his love to you - UNCONDITIONALLY
I appreciate my lil guy so much 💜 he sleeps against my side, follows me everywhere, and even sits in the bathroom while I shower. He's my little protector :')
Once had a kitten that I never picked up. When he chose to sit with me he was always free to leave whenever he wanted. As a result, when he grew up, he ALWAYS came when I called him. Give them respect and they usually respond well.
“Kids are distressing to cats because they make loud noises and sudden moves.”
Confirmed: I am a cat.
Then I am too! Funny!
lol
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I was looking for a comment like this! I knew I wouldn't be the only one thinking it HAHA
I don't even own a cat, but get surrounded whenever I enter a home with them. I never bug them, and I've never been a loud person. So watching this makes a lot of sense.
your the novel experience in their lives. must investigate
I love cats but I don’t have one either
Nobody “owns” a cat. Cats own us.
@@aWomanFreed Almighty God owns all. Man has dominion and responsibility over all animals.
My cat showed up on our doorstep and we took her in. I don’t like cats even to this day and she was supposed to me by sisters. She chose me and now she’s my cat and I love her to death.
There was a time in highschool when my family had three cats, one favoured my mom, the other my dad and the other favoured me, it was almost comical, but really sweet
I've lived with cats my whole life. My biggest fear of adopting one by myself was that it would choose someone else in the house. So I was very happy to hear that whenever I'm out of the house, he goes looking for me, and when I come back he wants cuddles :3
1:30 Understanding cat behavior is BY FAR the most important thing to gain the trust and affection of your cat. PERIOD.
As said in the video, not doing anything, not watching, caring (thinking, forcing, understanding), is a key thing to gain trust.
So not wanting a cats affection solves all your problems. You will get it. Is that too easy ?
@@holger_p -No, it's not like that.-
You just need to understand the protocol.
Cats like the sense of control.
You just need to give a cat space, show you're interested in him, but let him come to you on his terms.
The more you consistent in this approach, the more your cat becomes ADDICTED TO YOU.
Then your problem will be the opposite: your cat will follow you everywhere, show separation anxiety, and even hiss at ppl talking loud and nervous in your presence.
I had a cat that died from sporotrichosis, in his final days he would only eat or drink if I put my hands in the bowl...
Recently I was chosen by a feral cat, that didn't let anyone pet him, that drank dirty water, raw meat and that was used to live under warm parked cars.
A few days with me, and he looks like a couch cat. Very affectionate, very educated. He let me pet his belly, even his 4 paws, no problem.
@@DMPontes Holgen literally said the short version of what you said...
@@mischiefthedegenerateratto7464 Sorry, I got lost in translation... specially about that last sentence. 😉
One thing that helps to gain a cat's trust is to blink your eyes slowly, and let the cat see your eyelids. To a cat, that gives the impression of you lowering your defenses, and makes them see you as less of a potential threat.
I Heard that before!
Yes and avoid doing the opposite. Don't stare them directly in the eyes. That is how a hunting feline operates when she prepares to make a kill, eyes wide open, alert, and focused on her prey.
It's better then staring. Yes. But not looking at them, ignoring them, is easier and more effective.
Better then "lowering defense" is not appearing as a threat or as something that could defense itself.
@@valkyriesardo278 also our eyes literally have big pupils like cats in hunting mode so they must think we are ready to strike at all times loll.. i got tiny pupils tho so my cats must think im a lazy hunter lol
@@kamilm5614 Vanity fair article from the 50's. I am most cat's favourite person and no way am I doing that bs.
My dad and stepmom have 8 cats and two of them really love me. One of them, who is actually the friendliest, has chosen me to be “his person.” He has sat on my lap twice! He’s licked me, he’s rubbed his head on me multiple times, he ALWAYS curls up next to me or behind me (on top of the couch) while I’m watching TV with my dad, and every time when I leave to go back home after visiting my dad (we live half a continent away) he always gets so upset when I leave that he poops in the shower, which he only does when he’s EXTREMELY angry!
One of my brother's cats realized that I give her her favorite type of pets. She understands that if someone is laying down that is invitation to cuddle and she cuddles with me more than anyone she lives with or interacts with regularly.
I stay at their house overnight sometimes and I just sleep on their couch. Every morning I wake up with her cuddled up to me, much to everyone's surprise. She even slow blinks me! None of their other cats will.
My cat is such a cuddling love bug, and has been since I adopted him at 2 months old. He's 16 years old now, and still is the same way. And I love every single moment of it!
Sounds exactly like my Desi, a male Norwegian Forest whom I've loved for 11 years.
I got my kitty when she was 15. she's 22 now so hopefully you've both got loads of years of cuddles to look forward to.
May he live another 16.
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I have a golden rule with cats, if they're sleeping don't touch them. That way they'll feel safe when sleeping, nobody likes to be woken up from a nap :D .
Mine will be like “Oh Hai, it’s you! 😸 OK, now please to let me go back to sleep.”
It sort of depends. Most cats are never 100% asleep. They're constantly monitoring their surroundings when asleep, unless they are truly at ease in your household. Being "at ease" means that when you touch them when they sleep, they "jolt awake". You surprised them. They were sleeping very deeply. Completely relaxed. Cats not so deeply sleeping will not react this way when you touch them while they're sleeping. They'll generally open their eyes to see what you want instead.
The cat I used to own would always greet me when I woke her (impulsive child, I was). She'd trill at me, look me over, and then usually want to wash my hair. So, I would sort of snuggle in and let her wash my hair until she got to the "hair pulling" phase of the washing and started hurting me.
I keep this same practice with other cats. A gentle stroke of their ears to let them know I'm there and then sometimes a "snuggle in" to them. I think it makes them feel more at ease since my natural body temperature is fairly high, so I'm very warm and comfy to most cats. Most cats also adopt this practice of simply snuggling into me and then falling asleep on me while I pet them. The only difficult part of that is figuring out when they're just "done being petted" while sleeping and just want my warm hand/arm over them to keep them warm as they do so. Some cats absolutely love my petting them all through their sleep... others "have enough" at some point and will wander off to sleep on their own if I persist too long. It's a lot about just "reading" the cats. Most often, if I see them "wander off" during the petting of them sleeping, I know they've got a limit. So, that limit is "when they fall asleep, hand/arm just rests on them while they doze". If they don't have that limit, then it is "pet until my hand is tired".
Nah. My cat don't care if I'm sleeping at 5 AM either, she's still gonna screech like the devil until I let her in.
So... Revenge!
@@bugcatcherjacky1334 lmfaooooo I felt thissss! My cat be banging on the door like he’s the mf police 🤦🏻♀️
Yeah, I always announce myself by making soft noises so I don't startle them.
I rescued an 8 year old cat 13 years ago.
Took a long time for us to bond, now at 21 she's my soulmate
Our barn cat has such a sweet little "mew" when she is requesting food.
Her mew is slightly more demanding when she is requesting to get in/out of the house.
She is also tolerant and understanding of our elderly dog.
I believe that cats are smarter than most people realize.
I had a cat who was previously feral, and she hated people, everyone except me. That was one of my most cherished relationships.
I just rescued a kitten about a month ago and the entire month he’s been following me around my house literally anytime i leave the room (even when he’s sleeping), anytime i come home from work and he hears my voice he runs downstairs to me, he purrs when he’s around me, he cuddles with me every night by laying above my head or beside me, he sits on my lap when I play on my computer, and he even licks me. It melts my heart when he does all these things, I love this little kitten.
I hope you'll get him a friend❤ give your pet a pet
I’ll never forget the love I shared with my cat 😩
I remember the time I found a feral kitten in the garage all alone with cobwebs covering his eyes. He tried to bite and scratch me at first when I picked him up, but that very same day after I fed him he was quietly sleeping on my shoulder. He's been bonded to me ever since.
My Bosley, it was love at first sight. He jumped out of his cage at an adoption event and chose me. Been together close to 10 years now.
My Oliver (Maine Coon mix) frantically reached his arms out at me through the cage at the pet store 14 years ago. I lost him last year to cancer, but I swear he was my best friend and the closest bond I've ever had with anybody, sans maybe my Mother.
Same with my cat Timmy although that was when he was at home, I also find ignoring them works wonders for bonding as well (like sitting with them while they sleep without petting them for example)
@@Teremei I understand this so much. Sorry for your loss, I'll be unconsolable when my 17 years old best friend dies, it's all I can seem to be thinking of recently, it's like I feel she'll go soon and I can't bear it.. I'm constantly in tears thinking about it. We're in osmosis really.
My Suki climbed up her cage, to get at me
So sweet
Never seen my cat soo happy since i started laying down in the grass with him. Now he follows me everywhere outside on walk. If he hear our voice he will join us, he even asks us to come outside!
I’m not the cat’s favorite at home, but I still love him and spend dedicated time every day petting him and telling him he’s a good boy.
I was one of my cat's favorite people (the other was my dad). When I got up in the morning, she'd greet me with the happiest meow you've ever heard. She was extremely affectionate, especially towards us. RIP Kitty.
An aspect I've found that keeps cats from being destructive to indoor furniture and the like is to establish a place or two in the house that is strictly their domain. Comfortable bedding that is just their space where no one will bother them; or better yet, comfortable bedding at a window they can look out of can make them very contented.
its better to put stuff near places you spend time in as they will wanna be in there with you and right next to the thing they wanna scratch if possible. bedding you want mabey in a seperate quiet place high up if you can or big cat tree. im saying this after raising like 10 cats (5 atm) and watching jackson galaxy for years. windows with tables in front of them or big windowsills are the best for cats!! so muchgh ro watch
My cats have obliterated several laundry baskets. They don't claw sofas or carpets or anything else. Why would they? The box in the cosy cupboard that smells of Mama and Papa is theirs to shred without consequences.
I have had cats my entire life. My wife calls me the “cat whisperer” since our cats always gravitate to me. When I sit the couch I would sometimes have a cat sitting on each knee with me (and my wife would look at us and say “ you guys suck!” Since she was not getting any kitty love) The key things I’ve found is being the one who feeds them, give them attention by petting or talking to them when the want it and I have an even keeled persona.
the cats in the stock footages are so cute, my heart melted at 6:43, i wish my cat did that to me
This video made my day. Thank you for reminding me, that the bond with my cat is special. Sometimes we need a reminder of those things.
Yeah, there was no questions who the favorite human was in my house growing up. Our cat was very loud, early every morning he'd run from room to room yelling at everyone to wake up; then come to my room, make a little noise, and hop onto my bed to sleep in with me for another half-hour or so. Even now, any time I go back home for a visit, he's right beside me as soon as I walk in the door, or just sleeps on my bags if he's tired.
I had a cat that loud before. Not to wake us up but just to announce he's home 😂😂 My dad was always the cats favourite. All of our cats over the years (Not at the same time.) will at sleep with him even though my dad rarely interact with them. Most of them feared my sister even when she's the one who interact with them the most 😂😂
@@AIIXIII0 The reason why the cats feared your sister was her loud of taking actions. I started to realize that cats need boundaries at first, so I try slowly to gain their trust and it worked. One of the other stray cat gave birth and she was comfortable around me everytime I open my back door. I was greeted with her and she's very a sweet cat. I sometimes pet her since she looks tired to take care of her children at the same time.
But oh boy, she's pregnant 4th times again 🤣 her stomach grew big when she came for food I gave to her last time
@@amanekaze Yup. She was loud. She often chased the cat while calling them out loud (Basically, shrieking.) 😂 My mantra is simply "It chose you." so calm down and just act aloof. Its like hanging out with introverts or crazy shy person 😂
Me and my mom sheltered and fed two lovely kittens who were mercilessly left besides the trash can a few months ago, being less than 5 days-old.
One of them grew up to be very sociable and playful, but the other one is quite avoidant and shy. The latter only seems to gravitate towards me, i.e. purrs everytime she sees me, responds enthusiastically to my touch and looks and interacts with me in the most adorable way imaginable.
This is something I struggle to undrstand given that I rarely feed her and sometimes even stumble upon her (I'm blind). I assume it somehow comes down to the fact that my lack of vision makes me more physically passive towards cats and thus she sees me as a safer person to be around, given that I never know where she is, it's always her who approaches me.
Your cat gravitates towards you because its afraid you don't like it.
your not looking her in the eyes. people do that to communicate but cats really dont like it. she feels not threatened by you and the stuff you said about you being safer to be around would make sanse too
I remember hearing about someone who had a cat and they were both blind, so the cat learned to meow when they were close to each other so the person would know where she was. Made me smile thinking about it.
I have 2 cats, & I became their favorite person through one simple act: feeding them...
😂
You're telling me I shouldn't just pick up my cute tabby and hug him... BUT I WEALLY WEALLY WANT TO!!!
My beloved cat Fiesta chose me and saved me from my demos of depression and anxiety. When she passed away on December 17, 2020, my life was torn apart (I had her for 12 beautiful years). After a month I decided to adopt again. Our local cat cafe had this beautiful tuxedo cat named Brodie. He was a former feral cat and needed someone to give him time to be the cat he needs to be. My Fiesta was telling me to adopt him, so after three days of deciding on January 8, 2021 he found his furever home with me.
After a month he started to get used to me and before you know it he's my love bug. I'm very proud of him and the process he's made. Ty Fiesta and keep watch over us. RIP.
Please follow these instructions in the video. It's very important for your cat and human. Adopt don't shop.
fiesta means party in spanish
@@arandomstormtrooper5865 yes it does. Her color pattern looked like a party of colors.
I was always a dog person, but when I moved out of my moms I wanted a puppy so bad. The problem is, I couldn't afford to adopt a puppy, and my friends cat had kittens. I got a kitten immediately, and she is truly mine. She follows me around everywhere, hangs our with me during the day, and sleeps with me every night. I wouldn't say I'm a dog person or a cat person now because they're different, but I love them both.
I love reading all these stories. Cats are truly amazing. My 17 yr old died 2 years ago and I have another cat but still miss and lovey Molly. I find my Kitty Girl helps me at times with my mental health, I just love her like a child, she is a kind hearted little Kitty and makes our family happy and we make sure she knows that she is loved unconditionally ❤
I get along with all cats typically because I understand them well, but the cats in my household that I specifically adopted obviously gravitate towards me. One thing I found that is sharing a bed with cats and typically just providing them with the same area of closeness with them is a great way to grow a bond. I literally have a scratched up chair that I set beside my own while playing video games so that if a cat wants to sit next to me, she can. We just hang out and I give her scratches and love in the downtime of things.
I've got a cat by the name of Daisy. She's the most important thing in life to me. I've had her for 8 years, I'm not sure when, but she became attached to me during that period of time. I helped raise her entire litter, and out of all the cats I helped raise, she was the one that stuck by me. Maybe it was the calm demeanor in which I spent most of my time nearby and silent, or maybe it was the joy I had when spending time with friends online. But no matter what she was always climbing into my lap, or laying right by my side for when I got stressed. She sleeps by my side even on the hottest nights in summer, and snuggles up under my blanket in winter. I've even gotten her to know a couple hand motions and words naturally without any real training. She's truly the only thing in life that I feel actually loves me. But that's okay, cause I cherish and treasure each moment with her, I love to gaze into the steely blue eyes she has, and to hear her crackly meow when I get home from a long day. She's always excited and eager for attention. I'm glad that I've been given the chance to have a true companion, one that can love me just as much as I love her.
I was at a kill shelter rescuing a cat slated to die the next day, when another cat started poking me with her paw through an adjacent cage. I ended adopting both. I remind Scrappy, the poking cat that she chose me when she rough plays & I’m bleeding. 🤣🤣🤣
Bless you for adopting both babies!
@@barefootgirl67 ❤ Thank you, my friend. It was one of the best decisions I’ve made. Pets are family. Rescues seem to know they hit the jackpot & are incredible companions.
My cat used to play really rough. I started yelling OW when he hurt me, and then ending the play session, and over a few months he became much more gentle. Now he only hurts me by accident when he's too excited.
The less you try to gain their affection, the more you gain of it. Thanks for a nice video.
Watching this while petting my cat. I am definitely her favorite person.
My bf's cat definitely knows my voice. She was outside and refusing to come in, and I just went out and called a ridiculous pet name and she came charging at me. My bf was so jealous since he witnessed it. 😆
I think I'm her favorite person, while my bf is her mother. She lets him get away with annoying her, and she'll have a look like "I'm barely tolerating this", while she acts more catlike but still affectionate with me. He raised her from the second day of life when her mother died.
My friend owns this cat that does not do well with strangers. She sniffs them then either walks away or hisses. She hates it when people (except her owner) try to kiss her too. Even my friend had a bit of trouble connecting to her when she first got her and still doesn't allow my friend's mum to touch her.
First time I met her cat, she sniffed me then immediately purred and rubbed against me and even showed me her belly! My friend was shocked as the cat had never done that to any stranger. She even let me kiss her, even though she would swipe anyone who tried! It was pretty amazing
You speak cat.
You must be from Lumeria where cat was king
that cat seems very reactive to smells. might hiss if smell dogs or cats some people dont have pets so no hiss. cats dont like you being in their face ven if they know you well. i have a cat who if possible im sure wou make a shrine to me hes so attached bu hates kissis lol.
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I'm definitely my cat's favourite. I found her on the street when she was 2 months old, and she instantly took to me. I've had her for about 3 months now, and as much as she likes her personal space and alone time, she spends most of her time following me around. When I do the dishes she lays by my feet waiting for me to be done, when we sleep she is either on my chest or next to me on the bed. right now I'm at my desk and she's sleeping next to me. My bedroom window leads to a bench that she can hop down onto and go outside. she is an outdoor/indoor cat, so she always has access to outside. I've gotten really good at knowing when she wants me to open the window for her and she's gotten better at telling me what she wants. we've really grown together and it makes me really happy.
I sat outside and a neighborhood outdoor cat walked past me and I talked to it a little as I'd put out a bowl of water in the summer for animals around the neighborhood during the warm summer and I just said aloud "you go drink, I'll watch your back" and it went to drink as I scanned around and was just relaxed.
I once had a feral cat that I had fed a couple times come into my camper and sit by me. She then began having a littler of 5 kittens! She left them with me and went in and out to feed them. I felt quit honored! 💕
We have four cats, three of them definitely chose their favourite person but I have to say that there is the oldest one who doesn't play favourite at all, he just spends equal time with everyone, for example when sleeping for one month he sleeps with me, the next one with my brother, the next one with my parents and so on, I really don't know why but I love that he shares his time equally with all of us
My older cat normally does her own thing too, usually has her own routine
In the book *All Creatures, Great and Small* there was a cat known by three names in three villages. Whenever his humans took him for granted, he'd move on to his next family, where he would be greeted as the prodigal returned. Only the vet put the pieces together...
@@jakeg3126 almost like they are their own living self and not a robot lol. they got a life too
@@animeloveer97 lol.. She's deaf, so my sweet pain in the butt goes in her spot, then goes to whereever she sees and opportunity for a good head scratch, butt scratch, whatever. or just makes a lot of noise to get what she wants. She also meows extra loud before she drinks half of the time. Supposedly since she's deaf, she probably does that and doesn't know she's doing that. I like how she owns me.
My dad got me this cat as a christmas gift back in 2017. Never been so honored that my own gift actually chose me ♡
I still live at home and we have one cat. I don't feed her nearly as much as my mum and I spend a lot of time in my room. She comes and sleeps in my room a lot, sits on my lap and just seems to generally prefer me. It's a nice thing to have.
"In the mind of a feline, you're just an enormous, loud and clumsy creature". 🤣Couldn't of said it better myself.
I swear I have 5 cats and they look at me like I’m stupid 😂😂
I remember going to disneyland paris and waiting for a bus there and a cat literally appeared from nowhere, jumped on my lap and wanted attention. i never grew up with them but ive been around them more lately, and they definetly own me :')
We have 6 cats, and have earned the trust of two out door strays. One of The outdoor kitties never leaves our porch now! The second is always there once in the morning and once at night for food! Our indoor kitties clearly love us all, but a few definitely favor me vs my bf and vise versa! Such a cool video!
Great video! I’ve been chosen by cat during pandemic - I was so lonely but she came from nowhere and did not want to leave. Novika the Cat changed my life!
My cats are not lap cats, but once you’re lying down they’ll lay on you, their favourite time to do this is between 1-4 am, generally to wake you, for a feed then to be let out. I love the selfish lil monsters
I always thought it was easy to decipher cat body language.. to tell when they are happy, mad, sad, wanting affection or needing space. But sometimes people just don't realize what they're trying to say. I guess knowing what a cat wants is just inherent in cat people. 🐈✨💛
my cat i got from a shelter is very much afraid of strangers and anxious about change, the first time i met him he was in the corner of the room hiding under blankets, i just kept talking to him without touching him and i somehow knew i had to get him or i would regret it
i have this stray cat in my neighbourhood and have not ever become friends with any other cats at all, the first time i have ever realised she "chose me" was when she came up to me and then looked at me for a long time before coming into my lap to sleep. honestly super super precious
I remember when my parents got a cat for my sister, at first I hated that cat, I thought she was mean and she would always hide behind a wall while I went up the stairs only to jump up and scare the living daylights out of me.
But then one day that cat started acting super sweet to me and always slept on my bed and followed me around every where and then I had no choice but to love that cat and soon enough she became my best friend.
My boy Leo loves my whole family, but I am the favorite person. It truly is an amazing feeling. I haven't bonded this closely with a cat in 15 years, I honestly never thought I would again.
I have cats for 40 years, and most of the thing mentioned, i learned over time, but there are things i dint know😊 always like to watch youre vids!
Respect and treating them with genuine love and patience.Allow them to come to you ,and they will,in their own terms and time.My cat is terribly afraid of thunder& lightning storms,and she is so afraid she literally shakes.She got that way on July 4th too with my neighbor setting off loud and whistling fireworks until 2 am.She comes to me for comfort and reassurance and the trust and safety she feels from me to do that is very loving and makes me feel good she trusts me souch!
I have 4 cats in my house and 4 people and they each have a different favourite
That’s good lol
I had a cat I grew up with and he really didn't like me when I was a kid since I was too intense and would pet him all the time! When I got older I figured that he'd probably never like me and left him alone. Then he started to spend time with me since it was on his terms. We grew a really nice and close bond after that ❤
Dude, I had a kitty for a while and really enjoyed it. Whenever I would come down the driveway and past the house, she would be the first thing I see going thru the door. She'd stretch, meow, and plop down looking at me. I'd promptly give her pets and attention, make sure she had some food and water, and the litter box was cleaned every day. She loved the peek-a-boo game, boxes, lil bits of paracord I'd cut for her, and then also the trimmings off of shoe insoles haha. Never an actual cat toy of course. Morning routine was jump around my room for a bit so I wake up, then go to my bed for some attention, chill, and maybe go to sleep haha. Kitties!!!
When my boyfriend was on vacation for one month I showed the cat his photo, her eyes became wide and filled with tears, pure love I tell you
“Vacation”
your cats eyes were watering cause you blasted its eyes with a bright light... they dont do well with that kind of things. cats dont cry when they are sad. they just dont lol
@@animeloveer97 Waiting for some ppl to disagree bc they don't like to remember that animals are not as emotional and expressive as humans.
Umm.. cats just do not cry- period. They don’t have tear ducts. So, it either had an eye infection all of the sudden, or you’re just making this up. I think it’s the latter.
@@animeloveer97 Cats can cry if they're sad (or overwhelmed by emotions), but it's very rare. There's a popular video on yt with female cat crying after being traumatized due to miscarriage, when she was given another kitten (who lost his mom) to adopt.
Watching my neighbor's cat while he's on holiday and now he seems to really like me.
Even insists on cuddling before eats, the fact he prioritizes me over his food is such an honor
I petsit a shy Siamese. Allow him to hide until he decides to come out and sit near me.
I've had my time being a cats favourite. Felix died 2 years ago aged 16 and was always with me. None of our other cats are like he was.
I'm the favorite of my kitty, we have a great relationship. These videos have been great, and my cat has been so much more affectionate, just making little changes. A cat's love is a wonderful experience.
Back over 40 years ago, I worked as a TV repairman in people's homes. I lost count of the number of times that cat owners were amazed at how their cat would instantly want to be my best friend. Often they said how weird it was because their cat always hid from strangers. One day a customer who was a veterinarian asked me if I had a cat or a dog. I did not. She said that was likely a big factor because I didn't have the aroma of any threatening animal on me.
My cat loved receiving unexpected affection. I would give it all the time. That's what made him my cat. He could always count on me to be loving, kind, give pets and affection. My mother fed/watered and cleaned the litter box, but she had no interest or affection in him, and he could sense that.
We have two cats at home. Brother and sister, 2 years old now. My family more naturally gravitated toward the girl, as she enjoys laying on your lap (though generally only for a short period, before she runs off again). Meanwhile the boy is not generally keen on sitting on your lap, but he is very affectionate in terms of wanting to rub against you and enjoying pettings so long as he can be anywhere other than your lap. He'll also happily follow you around, and even tends to listen to some "commands" like a dog would, when you call him over. Family didn't enjoy that a lot, saw the boy as "not affectionate since he won't sit on our lap", so I particularly paid a lot of attention to him (though I love both of these precious furballs a lot!). For so long now, my family is always baffled about what a close bond me and the boy share, and how he seems to naturally gravitate toward me most of all. But to me, it was only a matter of understanding and respecting his boundaries, and realizing that he too, was very effectionate, albeit in his own way. Then one day he suddenly jumped on my lap and decided to sleep there for hours. It felt like pure magic. It felt like the highest honour. He's still not much of a lap cat, don't think he'll ever be, so moments like that always feel magical with him. Meanwhile my family also learned to appreciate him more, and now realizes that he truly is affectionate, just not in the same way as his sister.
when i was pregnant with my son, we went to a shelter to get a second cat as a companion for our first. there were so many cute kittens, and my husband was really enamored with this little playful one-eyed boy that another family was also looking at. i was looking in another cage and saw this little sweet boy near the back laying in a way to hide his sister behind him who was utterly terrified. i looked away for a moment and the next thing i knew i had a tiny purring creature on my chest! the little kitten's terrified sister leapt out of her cage (all of the doors were open while our family, the other family, and the worker were in there so we could pet the kittens and hold them etc) and grabbed onto me and would not let go.
the worker was so shocked, and said that the kitten was terrified of everyone and everything, and had never responded like that before. i, of course, started to cry about it. i was like two months pregnant and basically 50% nausea and 50% emotions. i was worried i was going to have to fight to adopt her, since my husband liked the other kitten so much, but i guess my crying convinced him real quick since he only tried one time to get the other. it was a struggle to get her into a crate because she didn't want to leave me (or be touched by anyone else), and she's been stuck to me like glue for almost fourteen years now. she's much less scared of people and things, and even vaguely tolerates our dog! she'll cuddle with my son for about three minutes, which is a million times better than she was in our first few years together when he was a baby/toddler. she's so so chatty, and if i'm around she's purring the whole time. i call her my little purr box, and my barnacle, and my tripping hazard. she's my little baby and i love her so so much.
my other cat, who i also adore, chose my son as his favorite, and he's got that boy wrapped around his little paw 100%. he just has to do his cute little murr-urr-ooww and that kid has the brush out faster than you can say "where's the brush" XD the only time he ever comes to me anymore is when he's hungry, thirsty, or the boy's bedroom door is closed and he wants in LOL
(the other kitten was adopted by that family! we were signing papers at the same time, it was very cute)
When we brought our lil lady home she was very depressed for the first month or so. She would hide in her little cat teepee, and turn away when we came in to check on her. I would sing to her and offer her little pieces of chicken. Then one day I was lying on my bed, and she jumped up and settled down on the foot of the bed next to me. Later that day she padded onto my husbands lap, curled up and went to sleep on him. Now she is a total lap cat and follows us from room to room 💓
This is my sweet girl yukki. My girlfriend and I adopted her from a rescue. She chose us: immediately upon walking in, she sat up and locked eyes on us, patiently waiting for us to say hello to all the other cats. She watched us the whole time. When we got close to her she stretched her head out to us and gave us affection and let us pet her for maybe 10-15 minutes? She is beyond affectionate for both my girlfriend and I. We love her.
This video explains so much to me. Thank you.
This tells me a little more about how I observe my niece and mother's relationship with our cat Lily. She came from a stray mother. Very feisty as we learned she was fighting off larger cats to protect her brother from a foster's home. In the beginning she wasn't too friendly. However within a day my niece had no problem getting her trust. Since my niece was home with her everyday so she gravitated to her. But as she started growing she'd gravitate to my mother. What I learned when I was visiting for several months and watching her grow over that time (I went for a Spring visit then ended up there until Fall). This would be my first time seeing her as growing kitten. Because she had grown since they picked her up in May. She'd get my mother up at dawn to feed her. She'd look for my niece for playtime, but she'd go to my mother to get everyone up. My learned immediately that there was always a reason why she'd call. It was either food, litter box or everyone should be up to keep her company. My mother knew that whatever she was calling about it had to be one of several requests. If it wasn't one it had to be the other. I voluntarily would clean her litterbox, and she'd make a game out of it. But as she started getting bigger, she'd have her schedule set. Get mom at dawn, tell mom to get everyone up. Go scratch the scratching post like an alarm clock in my niece's room. Check the birds around 7am, which would somehow make me wake up as I'd be up and getting ready for work (as I'd commute from mom's. I live in NJ, work in NYC. Mom also lives and works in NYC). She would continue to watch for my niece to wake up as she wanted her to be up to spend time. If my mom leaves out, she'll start calling for someone to get up. But at night when mom comes home, she'll spend time with mom and stay in mom's room. She almost never sleeps in my niece's room unless a reason to. And that's if no one is in the other room. If my mother is home she'll stay the night with her. We learned that all of us play different roles in her life as she seems to call the shots. Even though she might spend more comfy time with my mother at certain times or rely on her to set the tone, she prefers my niece to play with her even though my niece thinks she's not preferred despite her stalking, play biting and smacking her. They run through the house, stalk each other, hide n' seek. I can see who the favorite is. Me I'm just the fill in but she knows I'm part of the house. She knows I can get her to play hard to tire her out. When she was tossing teeth at me when I would pet her I got her to think twice from sound of my voice. Since then she's grab my arm but she'll think twice about her teeth and then lick. Then we all have fun.
I win by default...I'm the only person in my cat's castle!🤣