Why Aren’t Indian Women In Charge of Their Birth Control?
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- čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
- This week, we explore the history of contraception in India, and why women get shamed for wanting birth control.
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Around 2 years back, I used to live in a colony where there was a single mother raising her only 5 year old girl child. Society aunties used to gossip a lot about her and used to say 'shaadi nhi ki hogi bachha ho gya hoga'. Due to very much pressure, one day she revealed that her child was an IVF kid which shocked the aunties even more. Not only woman are judged for not having kids but they are also judged for having kids without husband or through medical methods
That's quite saddening considering the social environment she was raising her child in but immensely inspirational considering she was raising a kid without being bothered about the traditions of marrying a person. In a married life, it becomes comfortable to share responsibilities and continue the cycle at home. But again, it's not guaranteed.
@saurabh singh the lady herself didn't want that "farming"... The point in the above story is that people couldn't accept that women is raising a child without bearing it in her womb "as it is supposed to be". Child is a child, let that be even a test tube one. Also, please be wise in your words because your comment making a sense that a child is a food resulting from sex, denoted as farming practice. I'm not comfortable rn to imagine a child as my food at least.
@saurabh singh Yes very unfair for fallow lands like yours. All you want is some action but your stinky attitude prevents you from getting 🐱.
That's sad
It's quite disturbing that it's mostly a woman who puts the other woman's self esteem down
Y’all are doing a great job. We need videos like this to change people’s mentality.
Yes but this channel didn't say a word against triple talaq. I guess they want only one religion woman freedom.
@@indexcel5099 lmao triple talaq bill has already passed and they are getting their freedom now
@@indexcel5099 bro triple talaq is a crime now. Why would they need to speak about it? Plus its not like its their last video. They can speak on religion nuetral topics in the later videos too
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 maybe in the future then. Who knows?
@@dumb_me195 I'm saying they didn't make a video when this topic was alive in India not a video bro. We want freedom for girls but this should be for every girl of every religion. This and the Quint is against only Right wing and Hinduism. I'm atheist but I assure you that
This is actually a very important topic that often goes unnoticed. You're doing a great job!!
I am a doctor and in my days as a medical student I have seen new moms not being able to take decision about birth control without asking their husbands and in-laws first and it’s just sad how our women’s own bodies are being controlled and used by a patriarchal society with them having no say first .
Procreation for family lineage.
That's why they are married.
Birth control measures will lead to infidelity in society.
Avinash Tiwari Nope.. dirty mindset leads to infidelity. Birth control will save this planet from population explosion!!!
So are women not supposed to discuss with their hsubands their families? What kind of female utopia are u dreaming of?
@@chaitanyagupta6668 I am saying “no less than equal say“ . Their importance is reduced to free labour and functional uterus a male child that’s why they are married to in the first place . In a conflict of opinions who do you think should have the final say ???
That's the defination of marriage but nowadays marriages are romanticized as something that brings two People in love together ..... Serch up types of marriages in Hinduism ...you will know what marriages are actually about .... nowadays those ek chutki sindur ki kimat tum kya jano ramesh babu type of people don't even know that it's from Rakshasa pratha . According to rakshasa pratha , when the bride was forcefully abducted her head was banged against a rock until the bride bleed and it was a symbol that the girl was now the groom's property and no one should touch her .
Me a feminist - *closes the door while watching the video* 🙄 The fear is too real.
Damm these ppl can't stand these stuffs and blaming us for being these type
Same here.
I'm watching this.. in front of all family members without earphones and in full volume.... If uh are a feminist.. then firstly uh have to become fearless while facing the society...
I am watching this with my older sister lmao 😂
me being a stranger to you and unfamiliar with the situation in your household, I can't tell you something to do. all I can do is share my experience and suggest you and support you either way. I have been in the same situation. but one day I just thought what worse that could happen if I don't close the door or if I don't change the channel or if I don't lower the volume. so, I just went with it. honestly, nothing happened. I have been given side eyes by my mother but nothing more. at this age I sometimes talk about stuff that makes my mother uncomfortable but when she objects or try to shut me up I just say that it's not like people don't know about this and our generation is much open with this because we need to know about things. so, I can suggest that once you can gather some courage and don't close the door and increase the volume a bit more so that they can hear you watching it. but of course you know what worse can happen, so the decision is entirely upto to you. and as a sister, I support you whether you do this or not. cheers! :)
Their are so many issues to be addressed, but nobody actively does that......thank you for speaking fiercely for womens unspoken rights
@shanmukhi shikaram This is gradual movement.
Normalise "sex awareness" It isn't a taboo , it is not uncultured if its before marriage or not , it's a choice to stay virgin or not , and it is absolutely okay to use birth control ! A women who is not ready to have kids shouldn't be forced to ! Having a kid is also a choice and there is absolutely no shame in buying a contraceptive or using it !
@Mayurakshi Ghose You go girll !!!! Lemme grab my speaker yoo
Hobi biased?? 💜
@@AvrgDocChick yeahh but I am ot7 too :)
@@tnag2595 im ot7 too
@@dumb_me195 annyeong
Can we also address the overhyped notion that becoming a mother is the ultimate goal of being a woman.
Aren't women conditioned to feel this way from other external factors?
The toll it takes on her physical and mental aspects and the sacrifice on career front and lifestyle.
Its unfortunate the society including the husband forces this on her and she has no say in any of this.
The thing is the whole concept of marrying is settling down, finding a person to spend life and forming a family. Aint no family without kids. The thing is it is important to announce at the time of marriage setting that " i dont want kids" . If one thinks they wont say anything and later convince the husband and inlaws, then it is not going to happen.
@@chaitanyagupta6668 there can be family without kids. Yes that won't be the "traditional" family which society expects you to have
@@taylorswiftie3069 yes u are right. But i meant it in another way
Men go through the same things in India, once you cross mid twenties in India, all of your family members and friends all ask the same question when are they going to marry? Once married, within a couple of years family pressure is on you to become a father or the society starts suspecting problems in you and throw things at you like you're "Namard" or the female is "Baanjh".
Thank god my fam isn't like that. They instead use those society waale questions for teasing me so that I go back to studying..😬. They want me to be a strong, financially stable who can put on her own in life. tho the shaadi waala facts still hangs in air, it will always be my wishes they pay heed to first
Wowwww, i will adopt kids and will be a "single parent" and i will be.
Best of luck
🤩Amazing
We need more people like this. I find it unnecessary to contribute towards the Growing population. Jo pehle se h, unhi ka hum dhyaan rakh le Bahut h. Naye addition ki zarurat ATLEAST INDIA ko toh nhi hi hai.
All the best.
@Mayurakshi Ghose i m a boy.
Ignore him
It's not contraception but the choice to have or have not kids. Men and many women cannot digest the fact that not all women want to be mothers!
True.
Louder
It's been selected by nature that those of female bodies are mothers and those of male bodies are fathers. Nature as it it's known by science. Physical conditioning and psychological truths that have existed for millions of years, are not merely social constructs that can be done away by feminist brainwashing.
There was never a feeling of guilt or shame associated with motherhood. Only in the past 50 years have these things been pushed artificially.
Responsible people take the responsibility and it's a great feeling to be a mother or father. It's the most memorable moment of life to hold your own child in your arms for the first time.
Don't let the feminist propaganda confuse us. Simple natural truths of human condition are the fundamentals which the idiot feminists will never be able to grasp.
@@amarkantkumar4233 If I don't find any joy in staying up all night, suffering for 9 months, suffering in labour, cleaning diapers and constantly attending a creature I don't even want....it's not feminism. It's me, not wanting to be a mother. It's not propaganda. It's a life choice. If you are educated enough to know how to spell feminism, you should be educated to understand this simple concept "not every woman wants to be a mother." I do not want to waste my money, energy, health in bringing up another human just to spread my genes. I do not want to have a responsibility shoved at me just cuz I am supposed to do so. I do not like children. I don't want any within 2 mile radius of me. That's all.
@@amarkantkumar4233 And over population is a serious issue bruh. You should be happy if not every one wants to push out babies. Also, if anyone thinks parenting is just that, squeezing out kids cuz it's nature, then they probably won't be a very good parent. Because it's not just that. It's a lot more, and half a life is invested in it. Neither do all want that. Nor is it okay to demand everyone to sacrifice their life doing something they don't want.
We need these ideas to be knocked into the male dominant culture of ours where your man can buy contraceptives without anyone eyeing him but a woman gets stared at when she does the same..
Sex is sex and should be safe and same to everyone
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 are you kidding me rn??
Tubectomy on ladies who are never married??
The hormonal disbalance caused by IUDs
So is it a lot for a girl to ask for her freedom to get what she deems safe for her body without "men" like you interfere with it and bring everything down just to word "empowerment"
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 i never felt that any man should have any say on what i deem fit for my sexual relationship.. It is not "women empowerment"... it is just the basic idea of "APNA KAAM SE KAAM RAKHO BHAI"
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 the actual thing here was not specifically about condoms if you can open your eyes clearly.. It is broadly about contraceptive methods and its views in society. So you can take you whining opinions somewhere else
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 oo well then why don't you take your male concerns somewhere else where it can be fed with some submissions rather than confrontations and stop watching their videos..
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 bro condoms save from stds too. And read first... After unprotected sex, women are at more risk of stds than men. And pregnancy risk ki toh baat hi rehne do. Vasectomy is a much easier procedure but the percentage of men doing it is much less than the women asking for tubectomy. IUDs cause hormonal imbalance and CuT has so many complications. Why are you suggesting permanent and semi permanent methods when condom is actually the best and the safest method to prevent std and have safe sex? Normalise girls and women buying condoms brother. And please get a vasectomy next time you have sex... If ever
Okay so I have pcod and was diagnosed about 3 years ago my dr advised me to have birth control(oral contraceptive) as a preventive measures to regulate my hormones and the best part not to be a mom(phew). And so I said okay I'll think about it so as expected my mom gave a very loud reaction but I thought to just go with it and I went to a pharmacy stores so buy my plan. The look he gave me was mixed with disgust and shame and maybe upset I was so ashamed of that sight that I decided to just go with the hormonal therapy and would not buy them. Not atleast till I'm married.
Hey I'm so sorry that happened!But if your doctor really thinks you should go with those pills you should;you can order them online! It'll save you from those unwelcome looks and conversations and you can follow through your plan. I was diagnosed with pcod last year too,but I'm 16 so my doctor advised me just to be cautious with healthy diet and exercise and I just take pills sometimes to induce my periods if they are very long due(on the doc's advice only)cause she said I'm too young to start with pill plans and be dependent on them. But if your doctor thinks it's the best option for you I think you should go for it by ordering online.
Even I want to share my Opinion on this..
1) Motherhood can just not be achieved via Pregnancy.. Can go for ADOPTION
2) Talk to that Medicine vender.. That you have. This.. This.. Condition.. So my Doctor advice me this.. Can buy easily..
In short.. Talk/address your problem. We can't just blame their Reactions. Their reactions are coming from Social conditioning. 🙂
Hey! Sorry to hear that.I dont think this should happen at a reputable pharma outlet..and if it did happen it is distasteful..unless ofc you were too young at the time you went to the store...keeping the moral lens aside even i would be a bit hesitant to give birth control to a person who looks well below the legal age of consent(assuming he wasn't aware of your condition and reason for buying the pills)
Either that or i have misunderstood the story.
PCOS MATE ♡
BTW NOW WE HAVE SPECIFIC PILLS FOR PCOS.
I AM CONSUMING THEM YOU CAN TOO GET CHECKED FROM THE GYNECOLOGIST TO KNOW FURTHER ABOUT IT.
@@quizudita I don't think she should offer any reason to the pharmacist as I don't think it's any of his business. She should just buy the pills confidently and let him think whatever he wants too.
When I decided to go on Brith control my parents thought it was a bad Idea but my husband was very supportive! I also feel more open about my sexuality when my husband told me it is natural thing and I do not need to be worried what other people think about my steps towards family planning and sexual independence!
I am a guy but i still. Don't get it why women sexual pleasure is uncultured Or "ASANSKARI" in our country 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
Ask your elders
Exactly there was time when kamsutra openly described women as sexual beings , as longest chapters in kamsutra are on women pleasure , it's more about women s pleasure than sex , but don't know what happened later that it became a taboo ,today society is not ready or atleast resist to accept that women too are sexual beings n there s nothing uncultured in it
@@thecurious82 I tried and now I am black sheep of family
@@justsaying7783 it's our old generation who made it asanskari and only for women
@its_yo_ dad maybe one day india will
Once I went to buy birth control pills in a medical shop , the shopkeeper aunty just reacted "What! What you want!" Finally she gave me and murmured "what ashamed for a unmarried woman! Now a days ladies have no shame!.."
I'm sorry about that but .... just don't mind them lady. At best they are just jealous of ur freedom and should be pitied.
At worst they have fallen so deep into misogyny that they are slaves who betray thier own gender and again deserve pity.
A boi talking here. My parents own a pharmacy and my mom is like that too but seriously I just feel real sorry for my mum. She was raised in such a way that even with a real cool husband ( I'm not too biased cause he's a good dad and he really is a great husband, not perfect no but he really was much better than any of my relatives , and he definitely was a far better and empathic husband than my mom deserves ), she's still finds something to be miserable about and goes around kissing her horrible relatives asses even tho she hates them too and doesn't miss an opportunity to be a two faced b*tvh. She has no self respect . Idt she knows how to live without feeling self hatred or hating others. That's just the way her family raised her. So yeah , I think that other 'aunties' are the same if not worseoff since they usually have terrible husbands and perhaps much worse in laws and sons/daughters ,making them even more miserable
The uncles/younger men-women usually have the same problems too.
Usually it's broken ppl who try to break others.
It's like in the movie "
Django unchained " , a story about a slave trying to win freedom for himself and his lover where the principle obstacle he faces is not the white slaveholder but that dude's old slave who's so used to being a slave that he supports his master blindly against someone who you think he would be sympathetic to.
You should feel angry ofcourse but try to pity them too. They never had the options , education , freedom and choices you do
The best we can do is educate them if possible , ignore them if not.
And be better , braver citizens for the kids who are growing up now.
Ugh I really hate those kind of people like that shopkeeper auntie and if I were you I would have told her to mind her own business and that she has no right to judge me .What did you say? How did you react ?
@Worldwide Handsome um sure it can be ..... But y would anyone do that for ? I mean it's just a waste of money and major irritant to ur hormonal cycles without any benefits
You could just tell her she needs to feel ashamed of herself for being so ignorant and uneducated.
@@abhiprakash74999 good reply
Reminded of how Gandhi was against birth control.
Mahatma Gandhi was the main opponent of birth control in India. His opposition was the result of his belief that self-control is the best contraceptive. However, Periyar saw birth control as a means for women to control their own lives.
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 "classic whataboutery"
Gandhi did have some real crazy and impractical ideas. Like thinking a village centred economy and lack of industrialization would end castism and poverty and thinking education and availability of contraception would ruin indian culture to some extent.
Oh wow this chakra guy is spinning circles. Ofcourse he posts a biased right wing article from a source famous for posting false news and being blacklisted on Wikipedia, rather than a neutral, trust worthy source. Troll is commenting on everyone's comments. Just ignore him
Wow this Periyar guy is amazing. Can't believe I Haven't heard much if him before. Read about him in Wikipedia after reading ur comment. Rallied against upper caste ( who were then seen as descended from north indian Indo Europeans under the Aryan invasion theory ) dominion in indian society . Noice. Still idk what to think about the language movement tho. My mother tongue is Kannada, a south indian language, but eh idk it's just a language. I like hindi and english just as much . I mean i know no one's asking for my opinion but I really never understood linguistic divisions of all things. Esp when one has English as a mediating language
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I am all about people having choices and doing what they want. but people talk about having their "own" children as if it is a huge deal, as if the parents themselves are Einsteins or something like that and their children will be the saviour of the mankind. just chill out and adopt kids and give them a better life, education and help them be Einsteins or whatever the children want.
Well said.
@@arnavdharadhar5198 thank you, brother!
@@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife Welcome. It's good to see people like you on the internet instead of trolls.
That is the spirit!! Innovative
@@arnavdharadhar5198 I totally understand! at this point I think yt is filled with more trolls than people who want to talk. also I'm glad that you think the same. it means there's still hope.
So true so many women aren't even aware of birth control methods yet alone make empowered choices but this gotta change...u r indeed doing a great job👍👍
Make a video on how family planning is tagged as responsibility of only women by doing tubectomy, even when vasectomy is safer😇🙏
🙌🏻
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 dude. What is tubectomy? Vasectomy is way easier and safer. I'm a doctor. I know this. But some males get it in their heads that they're not man anymore. Which is false. My grandfather got vasectomy done aftee having two kids. He was not even that much educated but knew the difference. Bhai get educated yr
@Amey Tiwari female condoms won't protect against STDs
Lol. Blame Indira Gandhi. People were doing vasectomy in the 70s still she started forcing them on everyone. Then it got a very bad reputation.
@@jkhajuria2974 A condom is a condom and if used properly will protect against STDs
Why do you think a female condom won't protect against STDs when it forms a barrier between male and female just like a male condom
Yesss. This was so needed.having a kid is a big deal especially for the female given the body changes and all other changes related and after birth care is so bad... it's better not to have a kid . most often the responsibility of looking after the kid falls on the mother and mothers are expected to have their life center around the kids from then on.
Ikr! Adoption is better if you want to take care of a child. Population is bursting the entire country at this point, everyone is having their own child not even glancing at the ones who really need acceptance for once. And ofc. life is easier without a child at all. I wouldn't blame someone if they decide not to have a child.
@@dumb_me195 I agree
@@user-go9kw6wf4m ❤️
@ais ... I think you mean, better not to have a child, If they don't want one...
If you don't want to have a child you should not have it just because your family members or relatives are pushing you to have a child you should not have it rather than you really want to have it
I was overthinking about this yesterday 😂 this channel acts sometimes like a psychic.
I was just asking myself "why aren't contraceptives for women so scarce in our society? Why the expensive pills and surgeries so unavailable here? Even if they are available, why are women shamed for it?...." Etc things like that.
People have been trying to gatekeep women's sexuality and control over their child. Many families just straight up refuse women to abort the child if she's not ready to be a mom. A bhabhi of mine was pregnant a few months ago and my mother and aunt told her to take care of babies, you can do your jobs later when they get older. I was a little too amateur at that point, like they aren't against abortion but I know that they will call her "weak" if she somehow tries to control her conception.
That's wrong with society, they won't heed more if someone is getting r*ped but dare them if a woman wants an abortion. If you have read this long ass comment, happy new year my swaddle fam 💜
I agree with you. Everyone will stand to preach and mock women into not going through an abortion but these people will never help her one bit in raising the child... "That's her responsibility". Also, the same family often force women to abort a girl child. Female abortion rates are still very high, in the 21st century
@@ARMY_of_knowledge damn that really pierced my heart 💔 much power to these Beautiful and powerful Women.
@@AdityaAnand-oy3nc I don't forget men's contributions in this. In today's world, young couples do discuss on this and make combined decisions related to contraceptives as well as abortion. The sad part is that older family member don't value either of these decisions and expect their children to shut-up and do as the elders say.
I hope in another 20-30 years this situation will be better
@@ARMY_of_knowledge that's so true that's why I really appreciate the private lives of young couples. Like it's their life Karen! You are not supposed to control your children's actions
Ting ting 🔔🔔
And pressure is real to have kids after getting married
One of the most important topic to be discussed! Women should be empowered over their own bodies! More power to u & your channel !! I dnt understand the hypocrisy behind a man is man when he do sex for pleasure but stigma arises when woman say the same !!! Sex should be pleasurable for both its not a women duty to satisfy only others
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 if it would be so easy as u said & I quote are yarr, than why female of India die out of unhygienic & illegal abortions !! Becoz yarr women are not given that much privileges, education & rights !! So keep your gyan within yourself or teach to the woman u date !
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 Abey apna pseudo feninism vala gyan yaha mat faad
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 “just don’t have sex if a guy refuses to wear condom” wow you must have used all your brain cells coming up with a brilliant solution, right ?
I have seen you begging swaddle to make videos on triple talaq. Here is the solution to triple talaq given with the same logic.
“Don’t marry men fi they will divorce you.” Simple as that
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 well then stop begging for videos on triple talaq and topics not relevant to the video
@sudarshana chakra 3.0 u skilled in seeking attention! I think u never get it from your parents & friends !! Go to psychiatrist if u are feeling worthless or constantly in need with attention! There is a high chance of u getting depressed after everyone stop giving u shits .... so get a psychiatrist
India, a country of 1.4 billion people and still sex is considered taboo
irony dekh rahe ho
Yeah and if they use condom it may go down to less population but nah we gotta shame ppl and create more population bomb of a misery for this stupid country
It's a shame that our society having "Kama sutra" Acts in this pathetic way. This great book is used just for mocking n yes is not even allowed to be named in front of others. This book is a collection of beautiful n scientific ways to live a great life with all pleasures n yet it is uncultured to read/practice such a cultured book
@@gayathree8783 no my friend it is not like that only 2 chapter in book inculcates the sexual pleasures where different phases for both men n women are given. Rest of book contains how to live a pleasurable life in different forms at different ages with partners.
@@gayathree8783 No not right, it explains very clearly how to enhance the pleasure of woman during intercourse. You got to read it before talking about it objectifying women. It is not a book primarily about positions, thats just a small part of the book more popularised by the western thought process. You should get inputs of indigenous books from referring to them yourself rather than looking at western sources that see it through the filter they want to.
Books are for civilized, educated society. Savages don't read to learn.
If you like overthinking with us :
Me : yeeasss , ❤️
Great vedio
They are...The patriarchal North Indian population is bringing down the name of the country...I am from the South, Birth control methods were popular even from my grandmother's time...
hey man I'm from south India too and blaming people isn't gonna work it's kinda taboo everywhere I guess.
@@ankitahosalli6545 I am just saying women here have a better say in having a child...and abortions are not frowned upon in South India... Don't trust me just check the population survey
@@ManojKumararch @Manoj Kumar well I will check the survey but the thing is I have a friend who's aunt was rumoured to have had an abortion and now in her village she is treated very badly and I've seen people being pressured into having children. so maybe comparatively there's less of that in the south but it still exists and blaming others really just creates more conflict.
Yup since I’m working in the capital.. I can see huge difference between the north and south populace. Seriously though north India has a long way to go🤦🏻♀️
nice bro... u succesfully made it a north vs south issue... why not bring in religion and caste into this as well?? coz that would be a steal
Feeling so proud to subscribe the channel, this type of content should discuss very often and long time ago but sadly in our India giving 'sex education 'is treated like something uncultured,but at least now people r coming and try to make this world more beautiful by giving proper education and understanding each other and not being so judgemental about others personal life, and yes trying to be a good human being. Lots of love for sharing awareness 💕
Jazbaat mein beh jaate hain sums up most men's attitudes towards birth control. 😡
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Can you please raise the issue about if a woman can't have a baby or she is not capable carry baby due to medical or any reason then is considered to be useless or incomplete. It's like she is not an individual, she is just a factory to produce baby.
Abortion should also never be made illegal in this country.
There are many countries(even developed ones) who are banning abortions. It's a right to a woman's body. She should be able to decide whether she wants to have a baby or not.
Too real and required topics you guys are picking. Seriously, great work..
The problem with our country's way of dealing with the issues of population control or even contraceptions has been excessive focus on women. It's the direct result of the lopsided view of women being the sole of caretaker of the child and thus primarily responsible for population boom. This in turn resulted in development of various contraptions mainly for women. Further, if you ask a typical men in a "men's circle" about doing sex by using a condom, they are ridiculed or they themself feel ashamed (result of toxic masculinity). So now we need to find a proper holistic solution which could include both men, women and transgenders(Which is usually ignored). I hereby, propose some measures:
1) Just talk and talk and talk more about sex openly becz the more we talk, the easier it becomes to remove the tag of it being a taboo.
E.g. Thailand's condom man was one such example who just literally promoted use of condoms in Thailand and we can clearly see the results.
2) EDUCATE youths about the use of contraceptions and the associated misogynistic policy framework that exists in our country.
3) Educate gram panchayats in rural areas to help them to deal with this issue in a more comfortable manner.
I would appreciate it a lot if I am corrected in case I might have missed or kept some incorrect viewpoints.
I love how all swaddle videos start with ancient 'Indian culture' recognizing these tabboos.
I would love you to make a video on "why people think drinking and smoking is cool and also that women shouldn't do the same" in the overthinking series... Thankyou ❤️
No one should do drinking or smoking.
I don’t think intelligent people think that. Also drinking and smoking has a direct cause - effect relationship with cancer
because of you I getting to know things that I don't know before so thank you very much for this great videos
I don’t have words to thank you guys for starting a platform like this to discuss the real issues that have led to a toxic culture that we live in today. Thanks so much and pl keep doing this great work.
Not every woman or man wants to have a child (at least a biological one) and this should be discussed openly
Shout out for this brilliant edit! 👐👐
It's the choice of women here it should respected.
This is a serious topic which no one talks about. Thank you Swaddle❤️
Normalise woman's choice and right to say NO to pregnancy. Stop rolling your eyes if ur sister gf or wife don't want to have child. It's completely normal for any girl or woman who doesn't want to be a mother. Stop labelling her as "heartless" if she doesn't want to have child. 🙏
This isn't over thinking. This is REAL TALK 👍
Doing great work , breaking taboo . But I think if you could deliver the msg in hindi than more people can get benefit.
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U are doing a fab job Swaddle by bringing up such topics that need attention and exposure.Thank you.
U know even so many of educated women thinks that using a pill can imbalance hormones( which can be true actually i don't know) , but if u are considering a pill just once visit a gynic .
because it does cause an imbalance in your hormones. Taking the pill is very difficult.
It really makes you weak. REALLY WEAK. The world around is just shrinking.
According to someone i know 👆
I'm a doctor. Ask me. Pills are actually hormones only... Whether it's a morning after pill or the 21 day long pills. And gulping pills for long years will cause complications. The best temporary method is to use condoms and jellies and if you have completed ypur family, then go for permanent methods.
I fking had to go through crippling depression when my doc gave me contraceptive pills for pcos. Had to visit doc again and changed pills
So I guess you can understand how much imbalance pills cause
Better to use non invasive methods like Male and Female condoms or rhythm method
You missed an important point that men have better and safer contraceptives and still don't use them.
The gynecologist list on social media made it to the video. Thank you, to all the women who shared the information and made the non-judgemental gynecologist list a possibility and resource for thousands of women across the country. Thank you, Swaddle, for amazing content and highlighting resources available. 👍
The worst thing is, In school they teach about the side effects, making it look scary. But they never teach us about the benefits except the fact that it prevents ovulation.
I'm assuming you've not looked up the risks of birth control.
Any exogenous hormone is going to be dangerous regardless what it's used for.
@@jeanniemaycrawford4466 ik. But only teaching the side effects and not teaching us how to use it properly or benefits is bad too.
@@jeanniemaycrawford4466 also, I have looked up the risks. But it's alright as long as u are using them properly
@@Mashamellow_2424 I'm assuming you have seen the part where it can cause cancer (like breast and uterine) and reduce fertility.
The only benefit I can imagine apart from birth control is that it helps protect from uterine, ovarian and colorectal cancer.
@@jeanniemaycrawford4466 u fail to mention that it depends on factors such as an individual's age, general health and other risk factors such as smoking, drinking etcetera. If a woman Is completely healthy and such factors aren't a concern then the chance of her getting breast cancer is low
Truth hurts!!! Overthinking series is best.
Thanks a lot swaddle for these reformative videos. I hope your channel has millions of subscribers soon.
Ok lots of ppl are telling thier stories of aunties and uncles being a%%holes to them , I'm sorry about that but .... just don't mind them lady. At best they are just jealous of ur freedom and should be pitied.
At worst they have fallen so deep into misogyny that they are slaves who betray thier own gender and again deserve pity.
A boi talking here. My parents own a pharmacy and my mom is like that too but seriously I just feel real sorry for my mum. She was raised in such a way that even with a real cool husband ( I'm not too biased cause he's a good dad and he really is a great husband, not perfect no but he really was much better than any of my relatives , and he definitely was a far better and empathic husband than my mom deserves ), she's still finds something to be miserable about and goes around kissing her horrible relatives asses even tho she hates them too and doesn't miss an opportunity to be a two faced b*tvh. She has no self respect . Idt she knows how to live without feeling self hatred or hating others. That's just the way her family raised her. So yeah , I think that other 'aunties' are the same if not worseoff since they usually have terrible husbands and perhaps much worse in laws and sons/daughters ,making them even more miserable
The uncles/younger men-women usually have the same problems too.
Usually it's broken ppl who try to break others.
It's like in the movie "
Django unchained " , a story about a slave trying to win freedom for himself and his lover where the principle obstacle he faces is not the white slaveholder but that dude's old slave who's so used to being a slave that he supports his master blindly against someone who you think he would be sympathetic to.
You should feel angry ofcourse but try to pity them too. They never had the options , education , freedom and choices you do
The best we can do is educate them if possible , ignore them if not.
And be better , braver citizens for the kids who are growing up now.
Always noticed that only females comment on such videos.
Absolutely not 😑🙄
Yess...
you know we men dont think " oh i forgot how women feel during periods, let me search" or "I wanna know the contraceptive situation of females". Also youtube algo, since u are a woman, you will get such recommendations. We get the types u wont get ;). No need to create an issue over everything.
@@chaitanyagupta6668 This isnt about makeup vlog or vaginal hygiene. Birth control is a social responsibility and taking care of someone who's close to you is humanity. I know many women try to understand men's condition when they have kidney stones or penis cancer. And why not men try to understand PMS and uterus issues. If you're being like this, its called ignorance. Basically you're not willing to know this.
@@sumalathabalamurugan8068 I get it. But i am just stating the factual explanation as to why men are less on these sites.
I love her way of speaking.....no wonder swaddle has great topics and pentrable speaker
You guys should have mentioned the influencers and the progressive gynaecologist website in your video
Very educative
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Why this series is called OVERTHINKING. When we are not :)
I have a genuine question...
Can an unmarried woman get an abortion due to contraception failure like if the pills don’t work or the condom breaks or some other reason? Is it allowed according to Indian law?
Yes
yes you can do that if you are not ready. Pregnancy is no joke, *phew*
I have certain medical conditions, where I need to control the hormones of my body. And the easiest solution to that, happens to be oral birth control pills. And every single time I go to buy it, I'd face odd looks, straight out questions about my marital status and what not. Including things like "these aren't good for your future kids", while totally assuming both my sexuality and my choice regarding motherhood. This is what the issue is, people don't think women can ever not want to be a mother or prevent a pregnancy. Which is, extreme nonsense. The point is, I am an adult, buying something I need with my own money, making my own choices, and I should not be subjected to any form of humiliation for doing so. Can people mind their own business and let us be?
This video deserves millions of views...from the editing to the content... everything was perfect....kudos to you 👌
I wish to like either dont marry and simply adopt children...or if marry also, then I would adopt children... looking at what kind of pain of like gender determination is there in india, I don't want to go through it...
Glad to see ,, such depth of knowledge on basis or should I say #dont_talk_about_it topics !! Keep it up .. people need to address these things for actual change 👍
Even in 2021 We are given pads wrapped in black plastic
It's not a big deal.
You Explain the Best on the whole Channel.....😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
I love how this channel pays attention to all points of the everyday life issues which commonly get overlooked. They are not one sided in any way, in fact, the channel pays attention to mens problems just as much as women. And yes, this is a real issue, sometimes, women are forced to deal with having kids which they most possibly don't want. Its concerning how families who cab barely fend for themselves think it's O K to add another member to the chaos, and often neglect them
Yes mam each of ur videos just waoooo..thnks for such a great thoughtful discussion ..we really need this.love u mam😘😘😘😘😘
Great job.. lots of love..,♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
When will this channel hit 1M subs and 5M+ views??
I'm waiting for that moment :))
Best video we need more videos like this👍🏻👍🏻
Now this is called real feminism not men are trash or men should die... literally your videos are very good...I hope this channel gets million of views so people could about these kind of topics..
This is a non issue.
Society's stigma can't be changed.
Luckily, in India, women nearly have complete reproductive rights.
@@jeanniemaycrawford4466 yep! I hope our country gets better and we can get all of this society's stigma....
@@Geetakhr great progression has already been made. It's just we never focus on the positives as it doesn't get that much traction.
@@jeanniemaycrawford4466 yeah! Great progression has been made and we should appreciate in the good things but we can't just avoid the negative things as they exist...we can't just focus on the positive things to forget that negative things which are holding us back
These are really great issues you're addressing. Love this video :))
Where can I find the list of gynacs?
Guys I would really like to know that what is the actual backup of this channel
I mean to say that who conducts this researches, information and yes the content you express here..
Is there a team of historians or litterateur or something else....🤔🤔
You are damn awesome🤙 sometimes.
Finally! The channel I have been looking for the past 2 years!. I showed this to my mom, and she agreed to all your points. My dad too agreed to all your statements.
Great video..👍
Yes yes yes! It was much needed.
I like how Priyanka Chopra from Aitraaz was included in slides for "Women empowerment"
Asusual excellent content
Mam will you please tell me from which programme you had done you graduation? Nice video☺
To all the girlies out there, guys are stupid and selfish take care of yourself. Know what you want and don't let others persuade your decision. Be safe and take care of your body.
Great video!!
Gonna share everywhere
Great job guys...
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This is great! Please keep educating us❤️
This channel is so underrated ❤ Great content!
I have always felt that this "birth control",overpopulation was more of racial inequality leading to economical inequality. Riches have swimming pools,gardens. Poor lives in BHK flat
Why is it called "overthinking" firstly??!!!
I'm only one who watch your videos repeatedly
I told my mom that I don’t want to get married or have kids. She said everyone has to. 😭 I’m going to run away
Thankyou for making this.
Please have a conversation about how condoms play a major role in preventing STDs and isn't for just the prevention of undesired pregnancies. The content handled is impressive
Love your channel
Who says women are not valued as men , I respect and love my mother more than my father
But do you respect a random woman as much as a random man?
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This all comes down to one conclusion: "No uterus, no opinion.". (I think most of us know where this line came from, lmao, but can it BE anymore accurate?)
This is literally the content i live for 😍
As a guy if I get a contraception I'll definitely try it once or more than once 😄 but still there is long way for it to happen