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Parental Overprotection: The Consequences of Not Letting Kids Grow Up ( Covert Incest , Enmeshment )

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  • čas přidán 20. 10. 2023
  • Silently Seduced book link - amzn.to/4762nY9
    Hi everyone, in this video I go over what enmeshment is , as well as the dangerous effects of enmeshment on a human being in their adult hood.
    Here are some of the long-lasting emotional effects that are directly tied to growing up in an enmeshed family. Try to think if any of these relates to you just in case if you want to learn if you’ve been affected by enmeshment while you were growing up in your family.
    Mental Health Issues aka personality disorders like borderline personality disorder, or bipolar personality disorder
    Self esteem issues because of lack of identity and years of being humiliated by the enmeshing parent.
    Boundary issues and this is huge one with those who suffered enmeshment because they grew up in an environment where their boundaries were violated 24/7 - 365 by their own parent or parents in some cases.
    Unstable adult relationships because of the instability they encountered during their childhood.
    Victim mentality- When an enmeshed parent refuses to take responsibility for their actions and enmeshing behaviors , not only is the child walking around with a confused state of mind , almost like in a fog, like I said earlier, but it also teaches the child to be just like them and walk with a victim mentality that’s filled with shame. This is especially true if there is elements of parentification involved in the child-parent relationship.

Komentáře • 16

  • @MackSteele1
    @MackSteele1 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Wow, I wasn’t expecting to get hit with this analysis this morning. Will take some time to process it. Thanks for sharing.

  • @pretheeshgpresannan4172
    @pretheeshgpresannan4172 Před 4 měsíci +9

    Parents can be like "I have the right to eat you up because you are my toy" --shameless boundary destruction.

  • @b_b_b5146
    @b_b_b5146 Před 9 měsíci +5

    Thank you for this vid 💗
    It's very clarifying.

  • @jessicastortz9138
    @jessicastortz9138 Před 25 dny +2

    I know a 28 year old male who has terrible toxic emeshment problems with his mom.
    He once said to me " why do I neeed a girlfriend when I got my mom".
    😮😮😮 WTF. That is creepy!!!

    • @jomymatthews
      @jomymatthews  Před 22 dny

      That's deep conditioning. He is oblivious to what a true relationship is supposed to look like. His mother has conditioned him to think that his relationship with his mother is the norm. He may not even understand the creepiness of that because to him it's "normal". ( He could also be reaching out to you subconsciously, but you have to draw a line when it come to things like that as well ) Thanks for your comment.

    • @jessicastortz9138
      @jessicastortz9138 Před 21 dnem

      Sad part is, he's the younger of his 3 siblings.

    • @jessicastortz9138
      @jessicastortz9138 Před 21 dnem

      For some reasons I feel that his mom sexual abused him.

  • @shade1427
    @shade1427 Před 9 měsíci +3

    This was very helpful and insightful! Thank you!

    • @jomymatthews
      @jomymatthews  Před 9 měsíci

      You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful!

  • @Katerina11788
    @Katerina11788 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Thank you Jomy

    • @jomymatthews
      @jomymatthews  Před 3 měsíci

      You're welcome! I am glad it was helpful

  • @Ryan-is-me
    @Ryan-is-me Před 10 měsíci +3

    3:43

    • @jomymatthews
      @jomymatthews  Před 10 měsíci +5

      Hey Ryan, the book is called "Silently Seduced". I just added the link in the description! Thanks for your question!

    • @Ryan-is-me
      @Ryan-is-me Před 10 měsíci +4

      @@jomymatthews Thank you!

    • @icmichaela3
      @icmichaela3 Před 2 měsíci

      💯💔My God … this is real and pretty spot on.. I still prey everyday that the truth will set me free somehow.. my parents still to this day have control over me -
      The thing is - they will never , not once or ever will admit any wrong doing , or try to see things from my point of view..
      yet I always forgive them, love them unconditionally.. I’m always in a secret battle within myself- is it me? Am I bad/ worthless.. etc.
      I’m scared