DIDDY, POWER, & CONSENT

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    Ep 200 | Josh and Alvin get heavy on
    0:00 Preview
    4:05 the rumors been around for a while
    10:02 DIDDY, POWER, & CONSENT
    17:44 AITA For telling my daughter she is average looking
    28:01 early experiences in value (or devalue)
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Komentáře • 51

  • @rubybrown1676
    @rubybrown1676 Před 7 měsíci +41

    Average is damnear synonymous with ugly to many. It probably would've been best for the mom to say she looks good and count the ways. Sure she'll roll her eyes but those examples can ring in her ear and redirect her thinking. Then follow up by going out her way to vocalize when she likes something she does or wears. If they have a good relationship and its done not too frequently, it'll be valued and even encourage said behavior

  • @TrillyThough
    @TrillyThough Před 7 měsíci +37

    Man, I appreciate y'all being so vulnerable and this episode. Y'all brothers doing God's work!

  • @samsprague3158
    @samsprague3158 Před 7 měsíci +12

    Josh’s little hypothetical speech to his daughter at 26:56 made me cry. I’m crying right now. I wish every kid could be told that by someone they trust.
    Fuk dude I gotta go get groceries now.

    • @wombat7961
      @wombat7961 Před 7 měsíci

      Dude this video was so short but Josh talking about taking on an unprecedented amount of humility and learned behavior. And as an adult recognizing it for what it is but also standing up for himself. That was a beautiful moment. Im pretty sure that he was fighting tears, and they had to edit out some tears. But that was healthy masculinity & communication that i wish was easier to have outside of paid therapy.

  • @andie599
    @andie599 Před 7 měsíci +14

    “When people don’t show up for me, it’s like ‘I’m used to this’” 😭😭😭 that truly is fucked up and I just pray everyone’s inner child heals from that
    Edit: yooooo that next point about how the world will make withdrawals, and so as a parent, don’t also withdraw from your child 🤯

  • @WillieEarlSon
    @WillieEarlSon Před 7 měsíci +29

    Alvin dad cool for doing that, especially getting the music you listening to see what you on. If my dad did that alone i would’ve lost it. This dude still don’t check on ya boy.
    Y’all got me in feels and stuff. Appreciate what y’all do✌🏾

    • @TrillyThough
      @TrillyThough Před 7 měsíci +11

      Man, that story inspired me to step my game up as a father. Damn, I really gotta step it up with my youngest. I don't want him to feel like my dad made me feel. I have to stop framing his accomplishments as minimal expectations and praise him more. That's exactly what I needed at his age.

    • @WillieEarlSon
      @WillieEarlSon Před 7 měsíci +5

      @@TrillyThough you gotta boost them up, cause the world ain’t see them or treat them like you will. I don’t have kids but if i did i would definitely be his/her biggest fan

    • @kel-A-3414
      @kel-A-3414 Před 7 měsíci +2

      Man I know what I saw in Josh's eye...of what a father could be. Especially when you juxtapose Alvin's tale of his dad going out of his way to get Jay z albums against Josh's dad being like "nigga everyone can make eggs."

  • @fuckinney
    @fuckinney Před 7 měsíci +11

    Brilliant episode. I love the jokes, but nothing warms my heart quite as much as seeing us focused on healing. Big ups. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @LeboniWatts
    @LeboniWatts Před 7 měsíci +13

    When you 1st learn how to make eggs, chile... can't no body tell you nothin'.

  • @twistysunshine
    @twistysunshine Před 7 měsíci +13

    The person reading the AITA skipped over a good chunk of text where OP details the ways her daughter is obsessed with her looks. Like the extent of it. Having read all that changes the tone to me. I think her daughter needs a therapist not a "force you to talk about something youre uncomfortable talking about with me then call you average"
    Edit: the more i think about it the more she should have said your beautiful, and even if you dont feel that, whats the worst that could come out of that? Being average and then? And helped her daughter work through her fears- OR go to a therapist so they can do that. I have to wonder how many other times, like Josh's eggs situation, this mother has failed her daughter for her insecurities to already be so high

  • @amigadecachorros
    @amigadecachorros Před 7 měsíci +43

    The mom didn’t do the right thing because the problem isn’t the truth, it’s checking in to see if your kid has the tools to cope with what you told them. Obviously this parent dropped a nuclear bomb and then was like 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @TheMPExperience
      @TheMPExperience Před 7 měsíci +9

      Exactly!!!! No emotional support. And maybe an explanation about how it isnt about being objectively attractive to majority of people, it is about feeling beautiful from within.

  • @amiraameera8302
    @amiraameera8302 Před 6 měsíci +2

    These Eddy impressions are amazing

  • @iiWaffles95
    @iiWaffles95 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Alvin coming in with the withdrawal/deposit metaphor was so powerful. Holy shit, I'm taking that with me.

  • @cameronrice1351
    @cameronrice1351 Před 7 měsíci +83

    Looks like these videos are getting shorter. Can't be doing that

    • @scaredskeletor8177
      @scaredskeletor8177 Před 7 měsíci +23

      Fr imma need these pods to be an hour minimum

    • @amiraameera8302
      @amiraameera8302 Před 7 měsíci +11

      Seconded

    • @papi_sativa
      @papi_sativa Před 7 měsíci +17

      They mans gone whatchall mean?
      Last video was over an hour let them cook just wait till bro back cool out

    • @essbee1641
      @essbee1641 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Right!

    • @amiraameera8302
      @amiraameera8302 Před 7 měsíci +7

      @@papi_sativa since when is anyone on this channel besides Alvin advocating for chill?? 🤣🤣🤣

  • @CommunitySage
    @CommunitySage Před 7 měsíci +1

    I appreciate the present vulnerability in this conversation

  • @allforthenukie
    @allforthenukie Před 3 měsíci

    This episode had me tearing up. Love what you're doing here

  • @marcuss.3247
    @marcuss.3247 Před 7 měsíci +2

    12:59 I wanted to hear that example. It could have helped my quality of life. I've been slowly growing financially, but I still have poor people spending habits. Learning from people who don't want money from me for basic knowledge, would help a lot of us.

  • @brandymercedez
    @brandymercedez Před 7 měsíci +2

    So happy y’all did this!!! I have been patiently waiting for y’all to cover Diddy!! I was getting mad, like now I know WTRF ain’t just gone let this slide by and not say nothing. ❤

  • @EayuProuxm
    @EayuProuxm Před 7 měsíci +2

    Damn, Alvin dad came through late, came in the last quarter, but he really came through clutch.

  • @kadeemk4679
    @kadeemk4679 Před 7 měsíci +2

    When Dexter got that aptitude test that called him averagein Dexter's lab 18:38 😂

  • @omarigjose1
    @omarigjose1 Před 7 měsíci +5

    Boule secrets 💀

  • @kallmeej9106
    @kallmeej9106 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Love you guys ❤

  • @bonniem5963
    @bonniem5963 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I really enjoyed today's episode ❤

  • @EdTheCrimson
    @EdTheCrimson Před 7 měsíci +3

    Another great podcast gentlemen. I wish Eddy the best in his battle with Mark Wahlberg Syndrome. Make sure to keep him away from Asian People at this time. I don't want him to catch a case while suffering from a case.

  • @SolomonNatureLife
    @SolomonNatureLife Před 7 měsíci +5

    Brother loveee

  • @kjsakuma
    @kjsakuma Před 7 měsíci +1

    I think that power just brings out more of what someone is but w that it's not justfication for senseless violence, r@p3,etc of ppl. Thank y'all for this n get better Eddy!

  • @kevincarvalho5054
    @kevincarvalho5054 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I really love this episode

  • @Cnichal
    @Cnichal Před 7 měsíci +1

    Good episode

  • @Beebeetaylor15
    @Beebeetaylor15 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I love this episode, I laughed and I ended up crying? Lol y’all unlocked something in my brain that I threw away, idk how that just happened but it did. Anyway, I’ll be listening to this when I give birth! Thanks!

  • @erievhs
    @erievhs Před 7 měsíci +1

    I laughed so hard at that egg story lol

  • @XeniasWorld
    @XeniasWorld Před 7 měsíci +5

    I overstand what Alvin is saying. But he's tripping. He's foine. He'll look good bald as well.

  • @XeniasWorld
    @XeniasWorld Před 7 měsíci +1

    Not Josh talking to his daughter like a whole pimp 😂

  • @MkayKaye
    @MkayKaye Před 7 měsíci +1

    I agree that a certain amount of money and power can corrupt anyone. Now I'm thinking about the juxtaposition between that and a woman (anyone for that matter, but I'm a woman) who has an opportunity to be in that orbit. It's hard for me to put myself in the place of the woman who shaved her head and Cassie who had her boobs REDONE but if I picture myself being given the opportunity to, say, go to a diddy party for free at his place in Florida? Ok, now it wouldn't happen. But could it have happened in 2010? Scary how that works. Gross.
    I do think a type of people PURSUE these positions of power, though. Psychopaths and those who get off on that power differential. It's so gross and so ubiquitous.

  • @sinovuyobudaza7167
    @sinovuyobudaza7167 Před 7 měsíci

    As an ordinary person who has met other ordinary people who don't like the word no, I don't entirely believe that "absolute power corrupts absolutely- *everyone*". From my childhood and throughout my corporate career, I've met, worked, and known people who do not like the word no. A lot of the times, these people climb the corporate ladder and do well in politics and business. Because we like living in a bubble, we prefer to think that it was money and power that made them corrupt.

  • @JacqulyneEWhite
    @JacqulyneEWhite Před 7 měsíci

    It is true that you cannot escape the harsh realities of others opinions and outlooks; however, as a parent it is our responsibility to sew into our children self confidence or high concept of self. That way if a MF called themselves tryna clown my child, my child knows with full confidence that that slight is not about him but more so about the person that it is coming from.
    I don’t believe that the mother in this instance was affirmed by her parents or guardian because otherwise she wouldn’t have told her daughter what her “truth” was if that makes sense.
    We as parents are put in a space to protect our children, and not just physically, but also holistically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. That daughter, although a teenager, will have her mamas voice in the front of her mind every time she looks in the mirror and will downplay her looks because her mama confirmed what others said she was.
    Granted, I’m aware that the mama may not have meant no harm and there is always an opportunity to course correct what she said but if she doesn’t, her daughter will face challenges of her own acceptance until she comes to a point into her own life where she understands that her worth is not determined by anyone else but self.

  • @5TailFox
    @5TailFox Před 6 měsíci

    The battle rapper Daylyt put us on to how much of a weirdo Diddy was a long time ago, but at the time, everybody just brushed it off like he was trolling.

  • @wyattrussell7496
    @wyattrussell7496 Před 7 měsíci

    so, the bubonic plague thing was serious? that's still a thing i gotta worry about?

  • @LPno.9
    @LPno.9 Před 3 měsíci

    Mother's need to downplay the role of beauty in their daughters' lives. She should have pointed out the good qualities of her daughter's character. The fact that she was so brave and honest to even want to work out this issue is admirable. She's got to have a certain kind of confidence to do that.
    The issue to me is that the mother put too much of a priority on looks. I always tell girls to look at the most powerful women in the world. Very few of them would be considered to be the most beautiful. Look at government, athletes, the Supreme Court, writers, architects, business, teachers, tech, activists, etc. They are good at what they do. That's what we need to tell our girls. Focus on being good, not on being pretty. Take care of your health and your mind.

  • @myuziksohl
    @myuziksohl Před 7 měsíci +1

    Tell her she can do both. That she has options. And the pros and cons of both being pretty and being ugly because one feels better but theyre both navigable and some people dont need pretty attention.
    Tell her she the Biggest Bird.

    • @myuziksohl
      @myuziksohl Před 7 měsíci

      Average stats are often quite balanced and easier to build or enhance.