I recorded several of our fights because I didn't know about narcissism yet and couldn't figure out what the heck was happening and wanted my friend of thirty years to hear. And I didn't sound good on the recordings I wasn't trying to make her look bad I just wanted some honest input. But anyways I sometimes play those messages and its like a miracle to remember how sick this person was. I know narcissists are supposed to be the ones who does that but its helped me many times when I'm missing her and thinking about holding each other in the water at the lake snorkling etc. Its a wake up call to hear that tone of hers
@@everett8610 good idea to do that, I saved all his terrible text messages so I can go back as read all the horrible names he called me. We are forgiving and we need a reminder sometimes to keep us on track
I must have gone back 30 times. I was gaslighting myself, not believing all the things that occurred. People such as ourselves i.e. empaths can’t fathom their behaviors because we don’t think like them. As tough as it was, we introspect and learn from this and never repeat again.
I don’t remember any good times. I only remember the lies, cheating, and abuse. God has protected my heart bcuz I have only horrible memories and it keeps me strong to never allow him any access to me again. I went black out no contact forever. Praise God!!! 🙏❤️
Welcome back, Dave! Man...this one hit hard! My ex told me those EXACT words. She needed time to work on herself and then the text messages became scarce. The final conversation is that she needed a man to be soft and supporting. I said, "You mean stupid and subservient. Not gonna happen, may your next man give you all of that and more." 🤣 I speak and talk about it and am self-cleansing my mind and heart from her. She believes she is hurting me by not speaking...little does she know it has helped me tremendously. Knowing that the next man is getting love-bombed only to be let down, it gives me time to heal and peace of mind...God is great! 😁😁😁
@@caryjoslinjr4194 Hey, I cannot warn him. He fell for the bait and thinks he’s got the prize. 🤷🏾♂️ He will soon see, because the car looks great in the outside…but he’ll know the truth when he checks under the hood. 😉😉😉
I went back, andwered the hoovers over and over,let her back in again and again. And surprise surprise, nothing ever changed . She'd spend the night, then walk out the door and ghost me like she'd never been here. I was her "dirty little secret. None of her friends knew since she had already ruined my relationship with them through her smear campaigns.
Hi And Thank You For Sharing I Was Used By The Narcissist In April And Discarded Like Trash . What Is So Hurtful How A Person Can Use You And Discard You And Treat You Like You Don’t Exist That Is What Hurts I Went Back A Total Of 9 Times Each Time I Went Back It Got Worse.Never Again Narcissistic Abuse Is Beyond Brutal….
Yes it is so hurtful. I’m in same situation. After 6 months of discard. I still feel so painful. He treat me like I don’t exist, like thrash, find new supply through online dating. I feel God is with them not us
@@chiphan05 I’m So Incredibly Sorry It Does Hurt Deeply. I Would Get Hovered I’m Completely In The Devaluation As Soon As The Narcissist Is Done Using Me He Would Immediately Discard Me. The Abuse Only Gets Worse.This Person Has Destroyed My Life.
Because they KNOW WHAT THEY DID! STay strong people, and keep the no-contact rule SOLID! DO NOT GO BACK! Become the strongest and best version of yourself !!! 🥰
I'm healed a 100% bro but I gotta tell ya this video triggers me a little because this is what I went through in my discard. She ghosted me many times till I just gave up trying and she never told me where she was going when she left me. 100% spot on! If I was new on here and the discard was fresh just listing too this would make my heart sink! Don't give up new comer's it's hard I know first hand but keep getting the education Dave won't steer you wrong. You will get stronger trough time believe me you will if you keep fighting through you will come out as pure gold never wanting this demonic driven person back ever in your life!!! We got your back! Because we all have been through this nightmare you will make it too. Jesus loves you! ❤️🙏🏾
Yes, they definitely get off on seeing others suffer. It just gives them fuel. They're soulless, energy vampires that never change. Thankfully, mine has never tried to Hoover me, which is the best thing he has ever done for me!❤
My narc ex gf used this excuse. “I need to heal from my trauma, I want to be alone, I don’t have anything to give anyone in a relationship right now”. Only to rush off to her ex bf days later, while still acting like my friend for a short time. Wonder if she ever got that divorce?
Thanks Dave mines fully blocked and his staying blocked. The freedom i feel is amazing. I’ve started to enjoy my life and I haven’t had an once of missing him. All the toxic suffocation he tried on me has completely vanished because he’s vanished. Amen to a new life but a strong boundary. I laughed when I found him in messenger where he blocked me so I blocked him straight bk. thank-you so much Dave for your amazing advice.
I hope you enjoyed some time off with your love brother ❤. I ran into my narc at our daughter’s college graduation 👩🎓 and he was bragging about getting employee of the month 😑 Bless your heart 💜 and thank you all for your fellowship 😇. By His scars we are healed !!!! 🙋♀️. Praise Jesus 🎉🎉🎉
My narcissist cheated on his new supply with me and hide her.. i didnt know he had a new until his friend told me.. He still want to meet me . He asked me to meet him in a hotel. I sad NO . I told him he is sick and i dont want him . I told him he now is used in my eyes. I asked him who he loves and he sad" NO ONE " 😂. I think that was a honest answer for the first time . Because the guy is a sociopath .. narcissist. Thank you for your videos i need those to stay no contact .
Why is it so hard to believe that it was all fake.i finally realized after 4 years that this was actually true. Broke my heart, I am an empath, and now trying to heal through therapy. Never any good communication ,
This is very interesting Because when he first asked me out, and I looked at his Facebook page, he had crosses all over the place. I thought it was a little odd and now, after listening to this video. Now it makes sense that he was hoping that I would be religious and a Christian, however I think I really threw him off because I’m actually an atheist. I think he just didn’t know what to do with that. Every night he would get down on his knees and pray, and I did think that was very admirable because he was saying that he had been an alcoholic and if it wasn’t for God, he would be dead, but of course, I know now, that all of that was a lie, he was just seeing if I was a Christian to see if he could maximize his take.
Because they don’t want to listen to their “nagging buzzkill” spouse while they’re trying to f**k anything that moves. (My experience anyway) ugh so glad to be healing and accepting that it’s over. I grieved him for years and years before I understood what I was dealing with. Knowledge is power!
Fool me once. Now i see them for all the negatives that they are. I just discovered that the ones on the lower spectrum do not even know when they are being insulted. It was almost a a fear while laughing and trying to understand what had happened. It was funny then sad and then voila, a weakness was exposed.
Yep. I went back at least five or six times. I'd guess it was about 12 times over 25 years. We had four main periods of being a couple over those 25 years, being a couple for about half of them. Half of the main break ups were one of the main break ups was a true discard. The other three were me being Mrs A in the moment, only to be Mrs B later because of rubbing other supplies in my face. The other eight or so were little discards which didn't really result in break ups - ie he was enjoying different supplies. This all started when I was 17. Im now 42. I've just door-slammed him three months ago, Mrs A revived. This time, I've closed the door quite quietly, bolted it, then welded it shut. Then concealed it behind foliage, the foliage of my new garden in a new town where he doesn't know where I am. He's blocked on all outlets. Furthermore, I have removed all flying monkeys and people associated with him. This was the crux. I took nearly 100 people off Facebook. I ignored friends. One or two of them were true friends. But I know him, and it's way too fresh. I know his tactics, and how he uses these people. He will never, ever be able to do that again with me. This time, chuckle and cackle, I don't know her name other age or where she comes from or how thet met, nothing. It's brilliant. And he knows NOTHING about me. It's the first time that's ever happened. I'm kind of drunk on freedom right now, but in a good way, call it loaded with freedom. If there's one good thing about oppression, it makes freedom taste sweeter. My relationship with my teenage daughter was very damaged by this whole process, so I have my woes, but thar might be fixable in the future. She's not a narc. He, though, is not fixable. It's hard for us empathic souls, who actually have souls, to understand this. When you accept that we are stuck with the Devil here, you understand it. It's a very painful lesson to learn. My parents are atheists and my dad is a narc. I still love him. But I understand he has no soul, no ball of light. In It's place he has a black hole. It is very sad, but that's how they get you engaging again. So you have to say, okay, that's sad, and I love you at a distance, and then just move on with your day, doing all the things you want to do it with it, and making sure any long conversations are only with other empathic beings. Love your channel Dave! Regards from the UK!
Bless your day Dave , not hearing from that Narcissist, but their everywhere , like a plague of walking death ! Need to ask , who made who , and who made you ! Jehu , had a little hostility, didn't finish his meal , without realizing, though she was a cursed women , she to was a daughter of the king ? God has been permissive, so all were covered by His mercy , we are seeing the rebellion coming to its full , and those who have nothing but thumbed their noses are being handed over to their reprobate mind ! Defending our putative lifestyle ? Be not found with the triflers . They only seek their own gratification, and justify it ! Agape !
Because he is afraid that he gets rejected. He lied many times to my face. He knows that I will not tolerate his evil behavior anymore after I learned a lot about their behavior from this channel and other channels.
This part is funny to me. Now it's not that I want to hear from her... And I wasn't discarded...Not the last time! Infact I was the one that became soo hardened and aware knowing her soo well that when she kept saying things like "I will end up in a relationship, I won't be waiting around forever" Because I wouldn't allow her back into my heart, in the end she has completely Vanished, to the point that I've actually considered that fact that she may have ended up in jail for a stretch being she had a cpl things on her, one of those things being that she got into a fist fight with a minor, one of her toxic little daughters friends. Funny thing too, the entire time she thought she was not in the wrong about it saying well she started with me or she threw the first punch etc. I do know there was another guy in the picture kind of also, a guy that was one who was aware so he was very reserved as she had explained , she was having a tough time reeling him in. He ended up moving to another state while she actually was hitting bottom, eye balls deep in DUI charges, lost her job, her job in which she had been suckimg and F ing her boss the entire time while I always thought she was just at work lol.. With that after I knew and she admitted most of it, she was saying that he was sexually assaulting her and pinning her into corners etc. Yet she always did blow him and whatever else he wanted, a married man, a millionaire furniture company OWNER... she would magically get money from him saying he would give her loans but didn't have to pay them back. So what sense does the word LOAN make?!?! Lmao. Classic Narcissist terminology! I got a loan I don't have to pay back. Lol... More like I was paid lumps of money for sexual favors or from fantasies being played out. I'm talking money amounts like $2,500 etc. But back to where I started, she has completely VANISHED... and I'm actually shocked about it because she always hovered, ALWAYS! Now in the end I was able to deal with her, she just couldn't get the best of me anymore, I was SAFE! She even would cry at times saying I'm not showing her any emotion anymore, and that she NEEDED that lol... obviously for those of you that have enough experience know exactly why she NEEDED my emotion! Because she needed to control and hurt me again and couldn't. So yea... Either in Jail, or went on a mission to gain control of the other guy. But at the time she had completely fallen apart. Looked very Ill losing alot of weight, lost her job, lost her apartment, lost her new car that she had actually destroyed before it was repoed. She may have even lost her daughter to either her Narcissist mother or her daughters deceased father...in which I think she had something to do with his death to get his house and disability back pay. The house and money was supposed to go to her daughter upon his demise, but the $56,000 went to total waste so the child got nothing, and the house was plagued with a negative energy in it. Ther was a Evil that lived in that house, I've felt it, when I would stay there I wouldn't want to leave the house and I ALWAYS felt the evil presence, when I'd head home after 2 days I'd be soo drained after doing absolutely NOTHING I'd go home a sleep for a cpl days. That house and her were draining my energy, but the house was like Amityville... Something Very Dark was in that house! But yea she ended up wasting her child's money on house repair the house didn't need, she claimed mold issue in the walls etc. She paid the contractor up front in full, and he got maybe halfway done and he vanished. He closed his business and moved to Florida. The bill was around $30k the rest of the the remaining $20k or so she and her child blew on hotels for the cpl months the house was supposedly being reconditioned!
Dave, Wow holy cow this is soooo true!!, This exactly what she did when I found numbers on her phone and recently on POF dating site. Can’t be trusted! Thank you for this specific session because this totally focused on my current situation now. Thank you for all of your inspiration. But I am celebrating a year I left this narc and bought my own home. 🎉 🎉🎉😊
I don't even have the narc blocked. I just straight up ignore everything they send me and thus a relationship can never be formed. And after I completely ignored the hoovers over the holidays [so typical], they never sent me a message or anything again. I even saw their sig other and just didn't even care. Didn't say hi or anything, just didn't care. It's great when you have become indifferent. The narc hates it when they can't reach their old grade A narc supply doormat. It's because I am no longer the doormat Ms B. I became Ms. A!
i suspect they getting their supply elsewhere and may come back when that supply inevertably ends, good luck i say after been educated by these videos they the ones whos going to need luck. i feel bad for anyone that still hasnt figured it out yet, someone is out there been abused without knowing whats happening. i didnt know this thing existed myself i thought they were just been difficult because of past relationships so i let things go. not no more! if it comes back im prepaid to give them hell in the nicest possible way, i wont be fooled by the bait again thanks to all these videos raising awareness. DONT fight a narc thats what they want! they enjoy the arguements simply give them a cold welcome they seem to hate that! NO and I DONT CARE are the simple key words to make a narc feel pain!
They also try to stay in your blood with leaving things of theirs behind after a discard. That's one big clue that you were really dealing with a narcissist. What normal healthy person does this? 🤷🏾♂️ They took everything else. My ex put a book of hers right were I can clearly see it! I was like was that their before 🤔 I don't remember that being there. You see they like to make you question your realty. 😵💫
Dave I just ABSOLUTELY love watching and listening to you! While it's 💯 percent true, I literally spit my coffee out when you said the narcassist says, " yeah I had to ghost you to work on myself but I guess i can tell you where I live now, it's 3 blocks from you." 😂😂😂😂😂 omgosh is that ever the truth but the way you said it 😅. Ty for another great episode.
Because they forgot about you. You were never the big deal to them that they made you out to be. It was a bunch of BS. You were never important or special- despite the love bombing. Get over it. Be happy they forgot about you. Forget ABOUT IT! 😊
@@BJBlaskovichGaming it was a figure of speech- of course they don’t forget. But they might as well have cause they greatly exaggerated what you meant to them. Do we ever forget about an acquaintance? No but we don’t think about them either. Even if married for years- you were about as important to them as an acquaintance. Sad but true. Out of sight out of mind.
@@jamiecronin967 Nothing wrong with that, but there is an amount of realism that we must accept as well. These people are always on the prowl. You’re just up on the shelf right now, like I am. The term “narcissistic harem” exists for a reason. Thankfully, you and I can (and hopefully have) remove ourselves from that harem. The important thing is to NEVER let them back in your life. My ex gf had her chance to do right by me, just and your ex had a chance to do right by you. They failed. They’re out.
I commented on a narcissist site and he once again he was following me. “You need to take accountability for you part” iit said. I commented being in a sexless marriage as he refused to touch me after we got married. Pretty hard to have sex with someone who turns their back on you and covers their private part!!! He finds sneaky ways to hurt me and blame me for his narc behavior….
I didn’t get a full discard, I got a “let’s be friends” and “I’m not the woman for you, I WANT TO FIND YOU ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND”. I was feeling gutted about that. She basically decided I was too into her and she wanted a new cure, but she wanted to keep access to me and for the door to be open. She wanted the status of friendship and yet have all of the commitment from me and access like a relationship. No other woman would put up with having a narc ex that wants to keep control and access over you.
I went through six times - me dumping him for cheating and then forgiving and going back. Then he went out with the same girl on my birthday - repeat. I guess the other woman left and blocked, and I took him back again (he said she dumped him because he refused to give me up). Six months before the next discard/ghosting (4 days before my birthday). We got back together two months later (yep! right AFTER Christmas). Devaluing started after three months and I ended it after six. He has sent me stupid reels and such, but i have ignored them. ..
In my experience I didn’t hear from him when he was entertaining someone else. I didn’t know about narcissists and their patterns at the time so I would take him back. I was his back up pretty much, when he failed to find new supply. Not anymore. Been no contact going on 3 years now
Dealing with a NARC has turned my belief in GoD to Atheism. How can God allow these kind of people to move the way they do and still can’t to bless them. Weird to me.
Remember... Satan is the god of this earth. That, is why. Be of the world not in the world. These monsters are everywhere. Use your discernment, however difficult.
Feel ya, I am spiritual but not religious over this belief. Not trying to convert anyone 😂. Divorced one after his abuse and unfaithfulness. Tired of the bs. He under JUDGMENT though.
I got a random contact last weekend. Started the weekend before with the call and hang up. Then a week later pretended to be his cousin in text with every sentence beginning with sorry. Wanting to know about my son. God forgive but I responded: homeless in the ditches where your cousin left us and blocked. This is the most response he has in a year . Why don’t they just leave us alone
And when elvis was having an affair with Ann Margaret he wanted to get rid of Priscilla because she got mad..., but when it was in his best interest to marry Priscilla he ghosted Ann... She tried to call and he didn't respond. Although, later they became friends... Hmmm prob. Keeping her on the hook. Even though she was married by then.... He made sure he always sent her flowers to her shows.
Over 9yrs went back around 7times I stopped flogging the dead horse back in February this year I know enough about narcissam never to return I'm getting back to my old self slowly but surely the past is history never to be repeated
Wellllll…I most definitely will not hear from the narc. I was a horrendous supply for her. Let’s just say, I’m not worth it….to her. 😂 She has a too many choices to select from. Me not on the list makes me super duper happy. 😅 She has a CZcams channel with a NA platform-imagine if you may--allll ALLLLL-- of the empaths who look up to her. I know--because I was one of many! 🙈 Satan is definitely using her!
This is my second time with a narcissist. I didn’t know you could meet a narcissist twice in your life. This time is worse we share a daughter. We have contact only for our child. I never reached out to him after the discard and he doesn’t have to come back because I am done with him and his family. They helped him cheat on me. I was a Christian but I am not anymore. How could God do this to me. I can forgive the narcissist but not myself for making the same mistake twice. And 2 times I was mises A
Please don't lose faith. That's the evil in your ex winning. Stay strong and trust the holy trinity. God and Jesus are always with you even if you feel all alone. God bless and I will pray for you.
Darling, please, that was the devil and not god!!!! Please, understand. We are in the endtimes war and battlefield about our souls, please don't let the devil win. That's what he wants, your soul, you giving up you faith. Don't ever do that. Then evil has won. This wasn't god!!!!! The devil played us good, but god rescued us from that pit of narc hell. GOd rescued us!!!! We are free now and can live a peaceful life as believers, helping others to find Christ, be strong faithful believer. That's our mission, to work for god here on earth. We have godly plans to fulfill. Keep your mission, keep your faith. The devil is a liar, we weretold lies, all the time, Gaslighted ......i know, the hardest is, to forgive ourselves, but we can do it, god did it right away. GOD has a life for you!!! Don't miss that. Keep your faith. Never give it up, that's what th enemy wants!!!! Don't. We are all in this, we have the same struggles but we will overcome!!!! Marc survivors are CHOSEN ONES, BELIVERS, TRUTHTELLERS, CURSEBREAKERS, WE ROB HELL, FIGHTERS WARRIORS IN THE ENDTIMES BATTLE, GODS REMNANT ON EARTH, THE FEW WHO TAKE THE NARROW ROAD. repent and go back to god. He waits for you!!!! God bless you, I love you, your sister from Germany. ❤️🌹✝️🇩🇪💕🌸☀️🙏🌼💐😘🌺🌻😍😊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Like a fool I went back 3 or 4 times. I was so trauma bonded to Mr. Look bar. He is who I wanted. He was the love of my life. I made the mistake of dating someone for 3 months when we broke up for 2 yes 2 years. I ghosted the new man and ran to the loving arms of my covert narcissist. It was payback time for me however I didn’t know that. Mr. Narc informed me he hadn’t dated anyone while we broke up (lol). Had I been with someone??? I said nothing but he knew. So we got reengaged. I put on the previous engagement ring he had given me No big deal. No formal announcement. Just slam bam let me abuse you mame. The devalue started even before the wedding which none of his friends came to but one. You can’t dare date during a break or they will let you have it!
No, there was no let’s work on things threw me out and said don’t ever come back. I’m done with you. I only heard from him twice within the first three months and now it’s been 10 months no contact.
The ex narc was suppose to get a Apt and I would have my place, he have his and work on “us” lol 3 days later he was living with a new supply ..he had her on the back burner the whole time and a few others. I was hurt and shocked as I’m still single and healing.
We lived next door to each other. He wud drive me so crazy, that I wud take " Breaks" From him sooner or later he wud make the " Grand jester" And b rite back iin it. 3 yes, post narc, no contact.
Dave, I never got a list just a last minute text with minimal effort put into it ( similar to a note passed around at recess) ..Should I feel like I'm missing out? 😂 Btw, my Graceland has been razed, what remains is a beautiful garden full of life and goodness.I will never regret washing my hands and kicking the dust off my feet from that past nightmare. God bless
I am so very happy not hearing from heath is a Blessing from God 🙏 , heath just does not realize he is helping me run right into the arms of another man ♂️ thank you for Discarding me all I need you to do is to send Divorce papers that would be so sweet
He discarded me and his son in december. I was under the impression that there is someone else because he moved to another town and because was bragging about his rich cousin. And he was always calling someone and putting the phone down when i came near.And his friend also mentioned how good she is with his foster children etc. Found a picture of them he made for her for christmas.Suddenly he texted me 2 months ago, wanting to talk to his 3 year old son an saying how he only wishes the best for us and his sorry about what happened etc. And that he is sick and that we should 'stand' each other for the sake of our son and for the time that is left. I blocked him. He does not want to pay child support, not going to let him see his son. Why does nt he block me. He blocked me after the discard......he has not blocked me since he asked to talked to his boy. He updated his profile pic with n picture of a lady. Do not know who she is, it ia not the rich cousin he moved to. It would be so much easier if he just blocks me......is this a hoover? And yes. Stil not coping. Stil bonded. So i still check his profile once in a while....
Question: can you make a video or comment on your breakdown of the titles Mrs. A and Mrs. B, you refer back to it as if its common knowledge and I tend to disconnect from what’s being said without a full understanding.
The replacement fail and they were so rude when they were on their way out pride is killing them especially if you was the one that did the discard and divorce
Question: If passive aggressive covert narcistist don't need supply after discarding you and is type lonelyner and thriving on her own ...Its probably not narcistists? Rather psychopath. ? Or different disorder?
Tucker Carlson doesn’t like the green M&M’s Dave. It’s the boots 👢 Get it together man. I’m just acting like my ex husband and being silly 😜 You are great 😊 and I needed a giggle after that graduation experience 🙌🏻
I’ve had two narcs try to goad me into loosing weight for their approval esp after the discard. The first one I became anorexic, the second one I had developed a binge eating disorder during the relationship, so I weighed more than I wanted to, however, I was wise to the game, so instead of reacting and starving myself after the relationship, I continue to eat as normal and had faith that things will get better. Two weeks into moving into my new apartment away from the narc and the weight just drops off. The narc was angry when we were living together and digusted by me still eating the same, while they starved themself down to bone. I know it was in part for the new supply and Idk if they thought I’d also find it attractive but I didn’t. Because unlike them I wanted to see them healthy and thriving. I’ve heard you mention weight and physicality a few times. Can you talk about this a little bit more?
I happen to believe my discard was pre-planned, whilst I was sending her money during the last year she was incarcerated. I believe she already had new supply lined up for when she got out of jail, and using the money I would put on her books, to communicate with other men who could and would help her obtain methamphetamine and hard drugs. She had no intentions whatsoever in changing her life, or becoming a youth drug counselor, as she told me. Or cooking for me every day a good breakfast, and all the hundred other promises she made me from within the cell. Yeah, the magic of Jailhouse Religion lasts about as long as "Jailhouse Rock" once someone is incarcerated. Once they get out, they go back to what they did to put them there in the first place. They seem to forget God too, once they're out. That's my two cents on my experience.
No, it wasn't a traditional scammer. It was someone I grew up with in the same town , and someone who I had loved for 25 years prior to this incident. We had radically different life paths, and once I left my hometown, I hadn't heard from her in years. Then, we reconnected after I broke up with my first ex, because my ex's grandson nearly killed me six years ago. So I was actually happy to have reconnected with her, but I didn't really know her as well as I thought.
Mine really was obsessed with half sweetened tea! Where did you get that one? I have researched the crap out of this and never heard someone else say it.
It was her bday yesterday. Been 4 years since we dated. Now I know shes a narc so I text her and talk with her sometimes every now and then bc I will NEVER go back But heres the thing. Its funny to me, I just love to see how she thinks she is cool and sexy and successful when she is not even close and she is getting older. Started dating her at 23 shes 34 now… boy time is a great humbler, except in case of the NaRc they aren’t human, and they are never TRULY happy 😂
there was definitely red flags in the love bomb stage i was just to foolish at the time to see them and i had no boundaries and was a people pleaser so he got me pretty good lol but God helped me see the truth! lol so i went back and checked these messages from 2019 and he was so fake it was so awful lol so basically he tested me in a game to see if i was lying to him about doing some challenge in the game without him...... which i did because i could just sense something was off so thats why i lied about it but also its a stupid game why does that matter LOL so because i lied i had to tell him something super open about myself before he could "trust" me again and save our relationship........... how stupid is that and i fell for it too LOL
Because they are blocked.
😂 lol
Lmaoooo 😂
Right. The demon I know is going to prison😂
I blocked mine been 4 years no contact..I'm feeling much better
What’s funny (and childish/petty af) is when THEY block YOU.
It’s been almost a year now- and I WANT my life back, my health back, & color back in my face.
It's called a euphoric recall, I keep going back to those good times and forget all about how they treated us like crap.
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I recorded several of our fights because I didn't know about narcissism yet and couldn't figure out what the heck was happening and wanted my friend of thirty years to hear. And I didn't sound good on the recordings I wasn't trying to make her look bad I just wanted some honest input. But anyways I sometimes play those messages and its like a miracle to remember how sick this person was. I know narcissists are supposed to be the ones who does that but its helped me many times when I'm missing her and thinking about holding each other in the water at the lake snorkling etc. Its a wake up call to hear that tone of hers
@@everett8610 good idea to do that, I saved all his terrible text messages so I can go back as read all the horrible names he called me. We are forgiving and we need a reminder sometimes to keep us on track
I went back 3 times because I was uneducated and believed in his false self. There will never be a 4th time!
I went back like 500 times
I must have gone back 30 times. I was gaslighting myself, not believing all the things that occurred. People such as ourselves i.e. empaths can’t fathom their behaviors because we don’t think like them. As tough as it was, we introspect and learn from this and never repeat again.
Ditto I went back several times. I was stone walled and then he would show up at my door and I would fall in the rabbit hole more than 30 times.
Ghosted for 5 years LoL
Don't care
I've moved on and met an amazing woman
I don’t remember any good times. I only remember the lies, cheating, and abuse. God has protected my heart bcuz I have only horrible memories and it keeps me strong to never allow him any access to me again. I went black out no contact forever. Praise God!!! 🙏❤️
GOOD FOR YOU TO PROTECT YOURSELF.
Welcome back, Dave! Man...this one hit hard! My ex told me those EXACT words. She needed time to work on herself and then the text messages became scarce. The final conversation is that she needed a man to be soft and supporting. I said, "You mean stupid and subservient. Not gonna happen, may your next man give you all of that and more." 🤣 I speak and talk about it and am self-cleansing my mind and heart from her. She believes she is hurting me by not speaking...little does she know it has helped me tremendously. Knowing that the next man is getting love-bombed only to be let down, it gives me time to heal and peace of mind...God is great! 😁😁😁
Pray for the Lord not to let it be one of our brothers 😂
I know how you feel truly😊
@@caryjoslinjr4194 Hey, I cannot warn him. He fell for the bait and thinks he’s got the prize. 🤷🏾♂️ He will soon see, because the car looks great in the outside…but he’ll know the truth when he checks under the hood. 😉😉😉
They even use our Love for God against us, thats the most narcissistic thing ever😂😂
Somewhere lying to someone else good riddance 😂
yep…see ya😂
Lie so much don't know when they are telling the truth
PROFESSIONAL LEVEL LIARS. ROTTEN WAY TO LIVE.
Their blocked 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 and all around social media. Dont even find them attractive like that anymore. The illusion wore off
it does wear off
your right !!😊
Same ! Now I know what they are and seen the mask fall off ! ✨💖🙏
I went back, andwered the hoovers over and over,let her back in again and again. And surprise surprise, nothing ever changed . She'd spend the night, then walk out the door and ghost me like she'd never been here. I was her "dirty little secret. None of her friends knew since she had already ruined my relationship with them through her smear campaigns.
Hi And Thank You For Sharing I Was Used
By The Narcissist In April And Discarded Like Trash .
What Is So Hurtful How A Person Can Use You And Discard You
And Treat You Like You Don’t Exist That Is What Hurts I Went Back A Total Of
9 Times Each Time I Went Back It Got Worse.Never Again
Narcissistic Abuse Is Beyond Brutal….
Yes it is so hurtful. I’m in same situation. After 6 months of discard. I still feel so painful. He treat me like I don’t exist, like thrash, find new supply through online dating. I feel God is with them not us
@@chiphan05
I’m So Incredibly Sorry It Does Hurt Deeply.
I Would Get Hovered I’m Completely In The Devaluation As Soon As The Narcissist Is Done Using Me He Would Immediately Discard Me.
The Abuse Only Gets Worse.This Person Has Destroyed My Life.
I TOLD HIM I WAS DONE AND WALKED AWAY. I TOLD HIM TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE.
I discarded him and he can’t or won’t ever contact me again. I’m at the point now where I never want to see him or hear from him again
Yes
Because they KNOW WHAT THEY DID! STay strong people, and keep the no-contact rule SOLID! DO NOT GO BACK! Become the strongest and best version of yourself !!! 🥰
I'm healed a 100% bro but I gotta tell ya this video triggers me a little because this is what I went through in my discard. She ghosted me many times till I just gave up trying and she never told me where she was going when she left me. 100% spot on! If I was new on here and the discard was fresh just listing too this would make my heart sink! Don't give up new comer's it's hard I know first hand but keep getting the education Dave won't steer you wrong. You will get stronger trough time believe me you will if you keep fighting through you will come out as pure gold never wanting this demonic driven person back ever in your life!!! We got your back! Because we all have been through this nightmare you will make it too. Jesus loves you! ❤️🙏🏾
He's depressed and needed some alone time. In reality he was alone with his new supply.
Thanks for involving God.. that’s exactly who we all need
Amen
Because i dont go back to garbage 🗑! No contact till i die!
Exactly my experience. 27 yrs of marriage, 34 yrs together
Because they are punishing you, getting you under control or have new supply, whether new or old supply.
Yes, they definitely get off on seeing others suffer. It just gives them fuel. They're soulless, energy vampires that never change. Thankfully, mine has never tried to Hoover me, which is the best thing he has ever done for me!❤
My narc ex gf used this excuse. “I need to heal from my trauma, I want to be alone, I don’t have anything to give anyone in a relationship right now”. Only to rush off to her ex bf days later, while still acting like my friend for a short time. Wonder if she ever got that divorce?
Because it is written into my divorce decree he is not permitted anywhere NEAR me.
Thanks Dave mines fully blocked and his staying blocked. The freedom i feel is amazing. I’ve started to enjoy my life and I haven’t had an once of missing him. All the toxic suffocation he tried on me has completely vanished because he’s vanished.
Amen to a new life but a strong boundary.
I laughed when I found him in messenger where he blocked me so I blocked him straight bk.
thank-you so much Dave for your amazing advice.
I hope you enjoyed some time off with your love brother ❤. I ran into my narc at our daughter’s college graduation 👩🎓 and he was bragging about getting employee of the month 😑 Bless your heart 💜 and thank you all for your fellowship 😇. By His scars we are healed !!!! 🙋♀️. Praise Jesus 🎉🎉🎉
Oh wow!
Mine found a new victim.
My narcissist cheated on his new supply with me and hide her.. i didnt know he had a new until his friend told me.. He still want to meet me . He asked me to meet him in a hotel. I sad NO . I told him he is sick and i dont want him . I told him he now is used in my eyes. I asked him who he loves and he sad" NO ONE " 😂. I think that was a honest answer for the first time . Because the guy is a sociopath .. narcissist. Thank you for your videos i need those to stay no contact .
Why is it so hard to believe that it was all fake.i finally realized after 4 years that this was actually true. Broke my heart, I am an empath, and now trying to heal through therapy.
Never any good communication ,
The cure 😂😂😂😂😂 they need so many 🤦♀️ Ms A…. Finds out quick , flees , & locks 🔒 ALL the gates
Dave is dropping some gems as usual.
This is very interesting Because when he first asked me out, and I looked at his Facebook page, he had crosses all over the place. I thought it was a little odd and now, after listening to this video. Now it makes sense that he was hoping that I would be religious and a Christian, however I think I really threw him off because I’m actually an atheist. I think he just didn’t know what to do with that. Every night he would get down on his knees and pray, and I did think that was very admirable because he was saying that he had been an alcoholic and if it wasn’t for God, he would be dead, but of course, I know now, that all of that was a lie, he was just seeing if I was a Christian to see if he could maximize his take.
Because they don’t want to listen to their “nagging buzzkill” spouse while they’re trying to f**k anything that moves. (My experience anyway) ugh so glad to be healing and accepting that it’s over. I grieved him for years and years before I understood what I was dealing with. Knowledge is power!
Yayy, Dave is back...hurraaayyy! You were greatly missed. You look great, btw. God bless you for all you do❤❤❤
You're the best!
Fool me once. Now i see them for all the negatives that they are. I just discovered that the ones on the lower spectrum do not even know when they are being insulted. It was almost a a fear while laughing and trying to understand what had happened. It was funny then sad and then voila, a weakness was exposed.
Yep. I went back at least five or six times. I'd guess it was about 12 times over 25 years. We had four main periods of being a couple over those 25 years, being a couple for about half of them. Half of the main break ups were one of the main break ups was a true discard. The other three were me being Mrs A in the moment, only to be Mrs B later because of rubbing other supplies in my face. The other eight or so were little discards which didn't really result in break ups - ie he was enjoying different supplies. This all started when I was 17. Im now 42. I've just door-slammed him three months ago, Mrs A revived. This time, I've closed the door quite quietly, bolted it, then welded it shut. Then concealed it behind foliage, the foliage of my new garden in a new town where he doesn't know where I am. He's blocked on all outlets. Furthermore, I have removed all flying monkeys and people associated with him. This was the crux. I took nearly 100 people off Facebook. I ignored friends. One or two of them were true friends. But I know him, and it's way too fresh. I know his tactics, and how he uses these people. He will never, ever be able to do that again with me. This time, chuckle and cackle, I don't know her name other age or where she comes from or how thet met, nothing. It's brilliant. And he knows NOTHING about me. It's the first time that's ever happened. I'm kind of drunk on freedom right now, but in a good way, call it loaded with freedom. If there's one good thing about oppression, it makes freedom taste sweeter. My relationship with my teenage daughter was very damaged by this whole process, so I have my woes, but thar might be fixable in the future. She's not a narc. He, though, is not fixable. It's hard for us empathic souls, who actually have souls, to understand this. When you accept that we are stuck with the Devil here, you understand it. It's a very painful lesson to learn. My parents are atheists and my dad is a narc. I still love him. But I understand he has no soul, no ball of light. In It's place he has a black hole. It is very sad, but that's how they get you engaging again. So you have to say, okay, that's sad, and I love you at a distance, and then just move on with your day, doing all the things you want to do it with it, and making sure any long conversations are only with other empathic beings. Love your channel Dave! Regards from the UK!
Bless your day Dave , not hearing from that Narcissist, but their everywhere , like a plague of walking death ! Need to ask , who made who , and who made you ! Jehu , had a little hostility, didn't finish his meal , without realizing, though she was a cursed women , she to was a daughter of the king ? God has been permissive, so all were covered by His mercy , we are seeing the rebellion coming to its full , and those who have nothing but thumbed their noses are being handed over to their reprobate mind ! Defending our putative lifestyle ? Be not found with the triflers . They only seek their own gratification, and justify it ! Agape !
I never want to hear from that demon again me and my boys are at peace ☮️ someone else can deal with the dysfunction and chaos
I blocked them on everything.
SHE FOUND A NEW SUPPLY.
Because he is afraid that he gets rejected. He lied many times to my face. He knows that I will not tolerate his evil behavior anymore after I learned a lot about their behavior from this channel and other channels.
This part is funny to me. Now it's not that I want to hear from her... And I wasn't discarded...Not the last time! Infact I was the one that became soo hardened and aware knowing her soo well that when she kept saying things like "I will end up in a relationship, I won't be waiting around forever" Because I wouldn't allow her back into my heart, in the end she has completely Vanished, to the point that I've actually considered that fact that she may have ended up in jail for a stretch being she had a cpl things on her, one of those things being that she got into a fist fight with a minor, one of her toxic little daughters friends. Funny thing too, the entire time she thought she was not in the wrong about it saying well she started with me or she threw the first punch etc. I do know there was another guy in the picture kind of also, a guy that was one who was aware so he was very reserved as she had explained , she was having a tough time reeling him in. He ended up moving to another state while she actually was hitting bottom, eye balls deep in DUI charges, lost her job, her job in which she had been suckimg and F ing her boss the entire time while I always thought she was just at work lol.. With that after I knew and she admitted most of it, she was saying that he was sexually assaulting her and pinning her into corners etc. Yet she always did blow him and whatever else he wanted, a married man, a millionaire furniture company OWNER... she would magically get money from him saying he would give her loans but didn't have to pay them back. So what sense does the word LOAN make?!?! Lmao. Classic Narcissist terminology! I got a loan I don't have to pay back. Lol... More like I was paid lumps of money for sexual favors or from fantasies being played out. I'm talking money amounts like $2,500 etc. But back to where I started, she has completely VANISHED... and I'm actually shocked about it because she always hovered, ALWAYS! Now in the end I was able to deal with her, she just couldn't get the best of me anymore, I was SAFE! She even would cry at times saying I'm not showing her any emotion anymore, and that she NEEDED that lol... obviously for those of you that have enough experience know exactly why she NEEDED my emotion! Because she needed to control and hurt me again and couldn't. So yea... Either in Jail, or went on a mission to gain control of the other guy. But at the time she had completely fallen apart. Looked very Ill losing alot of weight, lost her job, lost her apartment, lost her new car that she had actually destroyed before it was repoed. She may have even lost her daughter to either her Narcissist mother or her daughters deceased father...in which I think she had something to do with his death to get his house and disability back pay. The house and money was supposed to go to her daughter upon his demise, but the $56,000 went to total waste so the child got nothing, and the house was plagued with a negative energy in it. Ther was a Evil that lived in that house, I've felt it, when I would stay there I wouldn't want to leave the house and I ALWAYS felt the evil presence, when I'd head home after 2 days I'd be soo drained after doing absolutely NOTHING I'd go home a sleep for a cpl days. That house and her were draining my energy, but the house was like Amityville... Something Very Dark was in that house! But yea she ended up wasting her child's money on house repair the house didn't need, she claimed mold issue in the walls etc. She paid the contractor up front in full, and he got maybe halfway done and he vanished. He closed his business and moved to Florida. The bill was around $30k the rest of the the remaining $20k or so she and her child blew on hotels for the cpl months the house was supposedly being reconditioned!
Dave,
Wow holy cow this is soooo true!!, This exactly what she did when I found numbers on her phone and recently on POF dating site. Can’t be trusted! Thank you for this specific session because this totally focused on my current situation now. Thank you for all of your inspiration. But I am celebrating a year I left this narc and bought my own home. 🎉 🎉🎉😊
Grey rock is a awesome tool! On narcs, toxic people, anyone who's annoying!!
I don't even have the narc blocked. I just straight up ignore everything they send me and thus a relationship can never be formed. And after I completely ignored the hoovers over the holidays [so typical], they never sent me a message or anything again. I even saw their sig other and just didn't even care. Didn't say hi or anything, just didn't care. It's great when you have become indifferent. The narc hates it when they can't reach their old grade A narc supply doormat. It's because I am no longer the doormat Ms B. I became Ms. A!
i suspect they getting their supply elsewhere and may come back when that supply inevertably ends, good luck i say after been educated by these videos they the ones whos going to need luck. i feel bad for anyone that still hasnt figured it out yet, someone is out there been abused without knowing whats happening. i didnt know this thing existed myself i thought they were just been difficult because of past relationships so i let things go. not no more! if it comes back im prepaid to give them hell in the nicest possible way, i wont be fooled by the bait again thanks to all these videos raising awareness. DONT fight a narc thats what they want! they enjoy the arguements simply give them a cold welcome they seem to hate that! NO and I DONT CARE are the simple key words to make a narc feel pain!
They also try to stay in your blood with leaving things of theirs behind after a discard. That's one big clue that you were really dealing with a narcissist. What normal healthy person does this? 🤷🏾♂️ They took everything else. My ex put a book of hers right were I can clearly see it! I was like was that their before 🤔 I don't remember that being there. You see they like to make you question your realty. 😵💫
Dave I just ABSOLUTELY love watching and listening to you! While it's 💯 percent true, I literally spit my coffee out when you said the narcassist says, " yeah I had to ghost you to work on myself but I guess i can tell you where I live now, it's 3 blocks from you." 😂😂😂😂😂 omgosh is that ever the truth but the way you said it 😅. Ty for another great episode.
You rock!
@Narcologyunscripted ty Dave you too! Ty for still doing this for so many who need it
The exact words "let's work on ourselves." then boom the discard.
Because they forgot about you. You were never the big deal to them that they made you out to be. It was a bunch of BS. You were never important or special- despite the love bombing. Get over it. Be happy they forgot about you. Forget ABOUT IT! 😊
They don’t ever forget you if you spent a decent amount of time with them.
@@BJBlaskovichGaming it was a figure of speech- of course they don’t forget. But they might as well have cause they greatly exaggerated what you meant to them. Do we ever forget about an acquaintance? No but we don’t think about them either. Even if married for years- you were about as important to them as an acquaintance. Sad but true. Out of sight out of mind.
@@jamiecronin967 they ruminate just like we do. Make no mistake, you are being compared to the new supply and vice versa.
@@BJBlaskovichGaming ok. I just like thinking he forgot. For some reason.
@@jamiecronin967 Nothing wrong with that, but there is an amount of realism that we must accept as well. These people are always on the prowl. You’re just up on the shelf right now, like I am. The term “narcissistic harem” exists for a reason. Thankfully, you and I can (and hopefully have) remove ourselves from that harem. The important thing is to NEVER let them back in your life. My ex gf had her chance to do right by me, just and your ex had a chance to do right by you. They failed. They’re out.
I commented on a narcissist site and he once again he was following me. “You need to take accountability for you part” iit said. I commented being in a sexless marriage as he refused to touch me after we got married. Pretty hard to have sex with someone who turns their back on you and covers their private part!!!
He finds sneaky ways to hurt me and blame me for his narc behavior….
I didn’t get a full discard, I got a “let’s be friends” and “I’m not the woman for you, I WANT TO FIND YOU ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND”. I was feeling gutted about that. She basically decided I was too into her and she wanted a new cure, but she wanted to keep access to me and for the door to be open. She wanted the status of friendship and yet have all of the commitment from me and access like a relationship. No other woman would put up with having a narc ex that wants to keep control and access over you.
I went through six times - me dumping him for cheating and then forgiving and going back. Then he went out with the same girl on my birthday - repeat. I guess the other woman left and blocked, and I took him back again (he said she dumped him because he refused to give me up). Six months before the next discard/ghosting (4 days before my birthday). We got back together two months later (yep! right AFTER Christmas). Devaluing started after three months and I ended it after six. He has sent me stupid reels and such, but i have ignored them. ..
Makes so much sense on why they never actually changed!
In my experience I didn’t hear from him when he was entertaining someone else. I didn’t know about narcissists and their patterns at the time so I would take him back. I was his back up pretty much, when he failed to find new supply. Not anymore. Been no contact going on 3 years now
Dealing with a NARC has turned my belief in GoD to Atheism. How can God allow these kind of people to move the way they do and still can’t to bless them. Weird to me.
and how they live long lives while my wonderful husband died 8 yrs ago.
Remember... Satan is the god of this earth. That, is why. Be of the world not in the world. These monsters are everywhere. Use your discernment, however difficult.
Feel ya, I am spiritual but not religious over this belief. Not trying to convert anyone 😂. Divorced one after his abuse and unfaithfulness. Tired of the bs. He under JUDGMENT though.
I got a random contact last weekend. Started the weekend before with the call and hang up. Then a week later pretended to be his cousin in text with every sentence beginning with sorry. Wanting to know about my son. God forgive but I responded: homeless in the ditches where your cousin left us and blocked. This is the most response he has in a year . Why don’t they just leave us alone
And when elvis was having an affair with Ann Margaret he wanted to get rid of Priscilla because she got mad..., but when it was in his best interest to marry Priscilla he ghosted Ann... She tried to call and he didn't respond. Although, later they became friends... Hmmm prob. Keeping her on the hook. Even though she was married by then.... He made sure he always sent her flowers to her shows.
I try to forget the time I lent him money and gave him a ride to go cheat on me. Didnt know at the time.
You need to take breaks! We will be here I don't even know what my narc is up to but i know he wishes i was calling. i do. 🙏
Your insight is so spot on. Exact words! Thanks for revelation.
Your hair style is looking sharp 👌 😎 I like the look slicked back Ala the pat Riley look👌
Because I changed my number!
Cause I stopped giving him money, which was all he really wanted with me. But, I think I have forgiven him.
Over 9yrs went back around 7times I stopped flogging the dead horse back in February this year I know enough about narcissam never to return
I'm getting back to my old self slowly but surely the past is history never to be repeated
Wellllll…I most definitely will not hear from the narc. I was a horrendous supply for her. Let’s just say, I’m not worth it….to her. 😂 She has a too many choices to select from. Me not on the list makes me super duper happy. 😅 She has a CZcams channel with a NA platform-imagine if you may--allll ALLLLL-- of the empaths who look up to her. I know--because I was one of many! 🙈 Satan is definitely using her!
This is my second time with a narcissist. I didn’t know you could meet a narcissist twice in your life. This time is worse we share a daughter. We have contact only for our child. I never reached out to him after the discard and he doesn’t have to come back because I am done with him and his family. They helped him cheat on me. I was a Christian but I am not anymore. How could God do this to me. I can forgive the narcissist but not myself for making the same mistake twice. And 2 times I was mises A
Don’t be so hard on yourself, their assignment is to get you away from Jesus, your faith and your reward in Heaven!!! Don’t give up!!!🙏😇🙏
I’ve dealt with 3 in my life unfortunately
Please don't lose faith. That's the evil in your ex winning. Stay strong and trust the holy trinity. God and Jesus are always with you even if you feel all alone. God bless and I will pray for you.
Darling, please, that was the devil and not god!!!! Please, understand. We are in the endtimes war and battlefield about our souls, please don't let the devil win. That's what he wants, your soul, you giving up you faith. Don't ever do that. Then evil has won. This wasn't god!!!!! The devil played us good, but god rescued us from that pit of narc hell. GOd rescued us!!!! We are free now and can live a peaceful life as believers, helping others to find Christ, be strong faithful believer. That's our mission, to work for god here on earth. We have godly plans to fulfill. Keep your mission, keep your faith. The devil is a liar, we weretold lies, all the time, Gaslighted ......i know, the hardest is, to forgive ourselves, but we can do it, god did it right away. GOD has a life for you!!! Don't miss that. Keep your faith. Never give it up, that's what th enemy wants!!!! Don't. We are all in this, we have the same struggles but we will overcome!!!! Marc survivors are CHOSEN ONES, BELIVERS, TRUTHTELLERS, CURSEBREAKERS, WE ROB HELL, FIGHTERS WARRIORS IN THE ENDTIMES BATTLE, GODS REMNANT ON EARTH, THE FEW WHO TAKE THE NARROW ROAD. repent and go back to god. He waits for you!!!!
God bless you, I love you, your sister from Germany. ❤️🌹✝️🇩🇪💕🌸☀️🙏🌼💐😘🌺🌻😍😊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Why is this so amazingly accurate? 😂 omg thank you for this❤
Like a fool I went back 3 or 4 times. I was so trauma bonded to Mr. Look bar. He is who I wanted. He was the love of my life. I made the mistake of dating someone for 3 months when we broke up for 2 yes 2 years.
I ghosted the new man and ran to the loving arms of my covert narcissist. It was payback time for me however I didn’t know that.
Mr. Narc informed me he hadn’t dated anyone while we broke up (lol). Had I been with someone??? I said nothing but he knew.
So we got reengaged. I put on the previous engagement ring he had given me No big deal. No formal announcement. Just slam bam let me abuse you mame. The devalue started even before the wedding which none of his friends came to but one.
You can’t dare date during a break or they will let you have it!
same. I ruined a fantastic relationship with a great person to run back to the narc
Sooooo Mrs A, now!! Ur keeping real with humour!! Thank u, fave. Bummed ur not doing videos, anymore.
Thanks so much Dave for reading my comment ! Your the best !! God bless you Dave just ❤ you !
You are so welcome
No, there was no let’s work on things threw me out and said don’t ever come back. I’m done with you. I only heard from him twice within the first three months and now it’s been 10 months no contact.
The ex narc was suppose to get a Apt and I would have my place, he have his and work on “us” lol 3 days later he was living with a new supply ..he had her on the back burner the whole time and a few others. I was hurt and shocked as I’m still single and healing.
My narc husband told me to leave his life alone. Thanks Dave!
We lived next door to each other. He wud drive me so crazy, that I wud take " Breaks" From him sooner or later he wud make the " Grand jester" And b rite back iin it. 3 yes, post narc, no contact.
And forgive yourself
I went back once. I don't ever want to be in that place again. I am working on me now. I have only seen him once in a year. I've blocked him.
I love Elvis 😂
Who don't
I am Mrs. A. The gates to Graceland are firmly locked. Germany will always keep the gates open though and Elvis knows it.
Hi Dave I have blocked the narc on all there is no contact from me ever
Dave, I never got a list just a last minute text with minimal effort put into it ( similar to a note passed around at recess) ..Should I feel like I'm missing out? 😂 Btw, my Graceland has been razed, what remains is a beautiful garden full of life and goodness.I will never regret washing my hands and kicking the dust off my feet from that past nightmare. God bless
Yours was even too lazy for a to do list lol
I am so very happy not hearing from heath is a Blessing from God 🙏 , heath just does not realize he is helping me run right into the arms of another man ♂️ thank you for Discarding me all I need you to do is to send Divorce papers that would be so sweet
“I need to clear my head, I need to find myself” Bullshit, you were out hunting for new supply, do they think we’re that stupid?.
He discarded me and his son in december. I was under the impression that there is someone else because he moved to another town and because was bragging about his rich cousin. And he was always calling someone and putting the phone down when i came near.And his friend also mentioned how good she is with his foster children etc. Found a picture of them he made for her for christmas.Suddenly he texted me 2 months ago, wanting to talk to his 3 year old son an saying how he only wishes the best for us and his sorry about what happened etc. And that he is sick and that we should 'stand' each other for the sake of our son and for the time that is left. I blocked him. He does not want to pay child support, not going to let him see his son.
Why does nt he block me. He blocked me after the discard......he has not blocked me since he asked to talked to his boy. He updated his profile pic with n picture of a lady. Do not know who she is, it ia not the rich cousin he moved to. It would be so much easier if he just blocks me......is this a hoover?
And yes. Stil not coping. Stil bonded. So i still check his profile once in a while....
Whishing you all the best🌱🚁💛🌹
Hi dave 👋
Hello
@@Narcologyunscripted 🙏♥️
Question: can you make a video or comment on your breakdown of the titles Mrs. A and Mrs. B, you refer back to it as if its common knowledge and I tend to disconnect from what’s being said without a full understanding.
The replacement fail and they were so rude when they were on their way out pride is killing them especially if you was the one that did the discard and divorce
Question: If passive aggressive covert narcistist don't need supply after discarding you and is type lonelyner and thriving on her own ...Its probably not narcistists? Rather psychopath. ? Or different disorder?
Tucker Carlson doesn’t like the green M&M’s Dave. It’s the boots 👢 Get it together man. I’m just acting like my ex husband and being silly 😜 You are great 😊 and I needed a giggle after that graduation experience 🙌🏻
You rock!
@@Narcologyunscripted and roll on the floor laughing 😂 about Naked Gun!!!! Still!!!! Thank you brother 👊🏻
I’ve had two narcs try to goad me into loosing weight for their approval esp after the discard. The first one I became anorexic, the second one I had developed a binge eating disorder during the relationship, so I weighed more than I wanted to, however, I was wise to the game, so instead of reacting and starving myself after the relationship, I continue to eat as normal and had faith that things will get better. Two weeks into moving into my new apartment away from the narc and the weight just drops off. The narc was angry when we were living together and digusted by me still eating the same, while they starved themself down to bone. I know it was in part for the new supply and Idk if they thought I’d also find it attractive but I didn’t. Because unlike them I wanted to see them healthy and thriving.
I’ve heard you mention weight and physicality a few times. Can you talk about this a little bit more?
I happen to believe my discard was pre-planned, whilst I was sending her money during the last year she was incarcerated.
I believe she already had new supply lined up for when she got out of jail, and using the money I would put on her books, to communicate with other men who could and would help her obtain methamphetamine and hard drugs.
She had no intentions whatsoever in changing her life, or becoming a youth drug counselor, as she told me. Or cooking for me every day a good breakfast, and all the hundred other promises she made me from within the cell.
Yeah, the magic of Jailhouse Religion lasts about as long as "Jailhouse Rock" once someone is incarcerated. Once they get out, they go back to what they did to put them there in the first place. They seem to forget God too, once they're out.
That's my two cents on my experience.
You just bought yourself a valuable education. Hopefully that will save you tons of money in the future. Don't be scammed
Lol. Are you ready for some truth... you mug!
Don't do it again! ❤
No, it wasn't a traditional scammer. It was someone I grew up with in the same town , and someone who I had loved for 25 years prior to this incident. We had radically different life paths, and once I left my hometown, I hadn't heard from her in years. Then, we reconnected after I broke up with my first ex, because my ex's grandson nearly killed me six years ago. So I was actually happy to have reconnected with her, but I didn't really know her as well as I thought.
Thank you so much
Any time
Mine really was obsessed with half sweetened tea! Where did you get that one? I have researched the crap out of this and never heard someone else say it.
It was her bday yesterday. Been 4 years since we dated. Now I know shes a narc so I text her and talk with her sometimes every now and then bc I will NEVER go back But heres the thing. Its funny to me, I just love to see how she thinks she is cool and sexy and successful when she is not even close and she is getting older. Started dating her at 23 shes 34 now… boy time is a great humbler, except in case of the NaRc they aren’t human, and they are never TRULY happy 😂
Because I have her blocked on everything I can block her on ….
God brought you to me
Amen
there was definitely red flags in the love bomb stage i was just to foolish at the time to see them and i had no boundaries and was a people pleaser so he got me pretty good lol but God helped me see the truth! lol so i went back and checked these messages from 2019 and he was so fake it was so awful lol so basically he tested me in a game to see if i was lying to him about doing some challenge in the game without him...... which i did because i could just sense something was off so thats why i lied about it but also its a stupid game why does that matter LOL so because i lied i had to tell him something super open about myself before he could "trust" me again and save our relationship........... how stupid is that and i fell for it too LOL
Luv uuuu DAVE🦋
Love you