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Are You Obligated to Go to a Wedding You Don’t Support?
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- čas přidán 8. 06. 2024
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I was asked to be a Maid Of Honor 30 years ago. I dropped out and ate the cost after a DV incident leading up to the wedding.
I was cut off and yep, they ended up divorcing. That was the 1st time I’ve ever risked a close friendship and I have zero regrets.
Ohhhh and I stopped going to baby showers for the unwed around the same time 🤷🏽♀️. STOP participating in things that don’t align. It’s scary at first!
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Sometimes you have to do what you have to do....and sometimes you DON'T.
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I'm wondering why you have to send a gift for a marriage you don't support.
Probably the gift would make it a little less likely that the whole family would turn on you.
you don’t
If things don’t line up with my beliefs and I don’t support it, why do I have to send a gift?
Why reward sin?
It isn't your place to approve of or disapprove of who someone marries but you go to the wedding because you love the person who is getting married. If you don't then when the marriage blows up like you think it will they will not turn to you for help to get out. So the answer is how much do you love the person who wants you at their wedding. You go for them. No one should only support their family members if they make all the choices you want them to make.
If we don't support the wedding then we wouldn't send a gift.
Depending on how close we are we are an explanation may be a good idea.
Seems she is more concerned about the bride and others being offended. No one can make everyone happy. No obligation. Keep it moving. Don't let potential guilt move you to do something you're not comfortable doing.
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I got conned into going to a wedding for my nephew. In today’s era I do not believe in marriage because of how toxic it is for men. I went, under protest, but I did it for my mother, my sister and because my daughter has not seen some of the family members for 13 years (she is now 22). I made it clear this was a one time exception since I live much further away than everyone else. As for this caller, I can understand a first marriage, but a third? Absolutely not! One factor is what type of relationship does my spouse have with the sister and do I agree with the wedding? When I got married I invited all my family (it was in South America) guess who came? None of my siblings so why should I go to a wedding she has?
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well said!
For myself, being a witness at a wedding is in itself saying that I support the union. So if I do not support the marriage, I cannot in good conscience attend.
As a Christian, I believe that a marriage is a sacred covenant made between the couple and God, so I cannot attend a wedding that goes against God's word. For example, the Bible says that Christians should not be unequally yoked to non believers. So a Christian should not marry a non Christian. So I could not go to a wedding between a Christian and a non Christian because I cannot support a marriage that defies God's word.
Now, after they are married, it is done and from that moment on I will pray for their marriage to be successful because even in unequally yoked marriages, God tells the believer to remain married and not to divorce.
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I never liked text messaging. I thought it was impersonal. There is a phone in your hand, call the person. I did use texting at work when I wanted something documented, or saved. I never really liked texting. Dr. Laura, no, no one is OBLIGATED or REQUIRED to explain, but could that be interpreted as rude, stand offish, or disinterested? Yes, send the gift is a class act, very nice, polite, but why no explanations given, even if they are not required?
Why explain? An “Awwww I can’t make it” is simple enough. I never question when someone tells me that.
I just say “Awww maybe next time, I’ll miss you.”
@@thatbemefool Good answer, thank you.
@@thatbemefool And if the wedding party knows the real reason for them not attending, would they really bring it up and make it weird? If so, their problem. (Don't ask a question if you can't handle an honest answer).
This woman Clearly wants an excuse To attend! 😂
Love it.
Unfortunately, people don’t take “no” for an answer. This sister-in-law will persist in forcing her to reveal the “real” reason, knowing full well what it is. People ALWAYS instinctively know the true reason - that it’s based on some sort of rejection. Just like how it never suffices when, during a ‘break-up’ conversation, when one lover says, “it’s me, not you”. People NEVER let the person just leave it at that. “Something suddenly came up,” “can’t make it,” - these seemingly benign replies are all very PROVOCATIVE to most immature, self-centered types. THIS is what the woman is getting at. Dr. Laura’s advice often presupposes we are dealing with people that will take “no” for an answer and just say, “aww, ok then, thanks for telling me” and just go away. But they WILL NOT. In fact they may be so provoked that the entire ‘relationship’ could be destroyed over THIS KIND OF THING. Which, of course, wouldn’t be a bad thing. BUT it would be traumatic to all involved. And to omit this VERY likely outcome and send this caller on her way with only her script is incomplete preparation.
I wish the doctor would've responded with this instead of making faces and looking disgusted with the question. This is it right here. She needs to have patience and explain to the listener why it's okay to say no instead of looking and sounding annoyed that the listener even called. 😒
No. Don't go
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Lady, these people clearly like you and love the fact that they get to talk to you. They need that push and would like to hear it from you. Why are you being mean and harsh with your response. Making faces and giving judge Judy vibes 😂
I didn’t think it was rude. It was encouraging the woman with an assertive answer.
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Yes, you do. If I had to go to my rich cousins weddings, then you have to come to my union hall wedding where beer is the fanciest drink. Even tho my mom and one brother has talked shit about my groom, yes, you have to go. Btw, we’ve been married for 30 years this summer, while the other marriages produced 4-5 kids and got divorced.😂
Stand by your morals.
What difference does it make? It'll probably end in divorce as the people didn't live together first to make sure they're compatible 24/7. Dating is not the same as marriage. Everyone should live together first, otherwise known as shacking up. Marriage is not a casual thing... And there's no way people should be getting married without first living together So as not to put children through divorces, Dragging hundreds of people into your wedding. Dating is on and off 3 hours a day. Marriage is basically 24 hours a day. I think you should try it first (i.e live together) before getting married. How are you going to get to know someone 3 hours a day 3 times a week? And then just wing it and say let's get married. Marriage should not be winging it.
One foot out the door is not a commitment.
According to many many studies done over the last several decades, couples who live together before marriage are statistically more likely to divorce than those who don't.
Dr. Laura has been around for quite some time. Have you ever listened to her program or read her books? Just as dating isn't the same as marriage neither is living together the same as marriage. Please reconsider your stance on this issue.
Multiple studies have shown that living together before marriage significantly increases the likelihood of divorce.
@@bunny_0288 yes there's multiple studies to prove any point you want and vice versa...