Sally could've caught that bs by asking that girl, "She doesn't want to be around me? Did SHE tell YOU that? Because I notice you like to twist words." I ain't afraid to call people out on they foolish instigating.
Everyone is not raised to have this direct communication in fact most people have been raised by narcs or people with heavily narcissistic traits so communication using mediators, indirect communication, and subliminal communication is their norm, they have been conditioned for red flags so likely Sally wouldn’t notice that she twists words. It doesn’t ring an alarm when someone else tells them about something another person said. Though it’s educational to know about the tactics it’s even more useful to recognize the childhood programming..most people are successfully programmed for narc abuse by the age of 12. Note that Sally never even asked Bree if she said it, she just took it for facts. Another phrase they may use when they do this “don’t tell her I told you, she told me to keep it a secret I just don’t feel right keeping this from you”
@@shelleymichelle9215 yo it isn’t but many narc survivors ( and narcs) can think back to childhood and recollect moments of confusion amongst their parents, siblings, and other family members. As a child some of us were trained not to question this confusion. Long term narc abuse causes emotional immaturity so all the individuals involved in this scenario would be acting upon that stunted growth. Narc abuse really only works on people who were already programmed and narcs immediately recognize who they can and cannot do this to. That is why so many people blame the victims of the abuse, because on the outside looking in it looks like it was a pretty easy choice to just ASK Bree or Bree to ASK Sally, but both have an emotional deficit and programming that forces their silence and they are actually very comfortable in the confusion as a result. Like a frog who is sat in boiling water jumps out but a frog who is sat in cold water and has it gradually boil will not. The latter is how narc victims are created.
My mom too. Now my 2 daughters are grown(20&24) and she did it with us for a little while until about a year ago my youngest finally realized it & got with the program. Now we are allies and handle my mother with kid gloves. Thank God
My mom does this all the time, turns everybody in the family against eachother. We all finally wised up and distance ourselves from that bs and talk before coming to conclusions, but she did a lot of damage with this shit when we were young and too afraid to question her
Damm I wish my sister was as smart as you. I know my mom's bs but she believes every word she says. And I'm 30 years old still dealing with this crap. Any time I have an issue with my mom she contacts my sister and turns her against me with lies I supposedly said about her.
I know someone just like this. They wouldn't let me have a normal life for nothing. Turned his family against me and made me feel so isolated. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist PLEASE DON'T STAY!! You are so much more important put You first.
They triangulate by flirting blatantly in front of you. My ex narc bought the waitress cookies at the checkout at Perkins. She was about 19. He’s 60. So glad I blocked him in all five arenas, including changing my phone number. So peaceful now.
That would have went over my head. I would have just assumed he's being nice because the person young with a bad paying job. I'm not the jealous type though. My mentality is do whatever you want, but if you fuck me over I'm cutting you out of my life.
There used to be a girl in my friend group like this. So sad for her that I and another one of us are peace keepers. It didn't take long for us all to see her for what she was, a narcissist...and out of our group.
i used to do this, i was so narcissistic and manipulative in high school, and literally its bcs at the end of the day my parents never loved me enough, i was probably the most insecure person that no one actually realised was. I cant even explain to you how i used to feed of being like this, the control, its all i had. and then school finishes and im left with no friends who realised my truth, and im left to think back on these situations and basically cringe and regret.
I was in a a three way "friendship" like this for a year, me and the other girl that got played against eachother only found out a year later after we reconnected and talked about the experience we had with the other girl
My ex kept me away from friends for a long time and then did this after I met some of them... I never found out what he said to them. But he kept saying to me that I was upsetting them and needed to work on my social skills. That they told him I seemed snobby or cold, when I thought we all had a great time. It was so confusing. Then after I left him, I heard from one of these friends and she said that they (her and another friend) had been defending me for all these years. Unfortunately she said this in the context of me being an ungrateful b, rather than a realization that my ex was manipulating them that whole time too.
They were never your friends that's whar narcissists exposed. Fake family and friends. If they loved you they would shut the narcissists down instead of joining in the circus
@@farfetched9296 I agree. I don't talk to those people anymore. I can't trust anyone who sees the narc/sociopath as a decent person. They are forever under his spell.
My husband has done this many times with me and our children. I didn't recognize it at the time but after learning about this, I was able to look back and see what he did. I'm very aware now and shut it down quickly!
Yup. Everyone in my family has learned to just call each other and ask after my NPD mother has said something about one of us. We're all so exhausted from her trying to make all of us fight and get us to rely on ONLY her for "reliable" information.
Absolutely!! My Ex didn't have time to give to me but made it a point to hang out all of the time with friends, co-workers, even his child's mother (who is a mutual friend)...anyone but me. So glad I'm free!!
@@KiKi-te9yd Yesssss!! He would do those things to purposely get a rise out of me. That was always an issue for us and he wanted that chaos. When I woke up out of the fog babyyy he was sick of me. I had absolutely nothing for him!!
@@finallyfree3847 Fog... yup! They have no respect for others. Sad thing is, I see him turning his daughter into an even worse version and there's not one thing I can do about it.
My old Boss is like this. At first no one realized it because no one would question is but when she showed me other signed and I caught her doing it to me I made sure to find a new job quick.
"I saw your friend today at the store." Him Me " nice how is she?" Him " she was acting strange I didnt speak to her long?" Me "what was heppening?" Him " oh blah blah nonsense crap I made up that doesnt matter about anything or really make sense." Me " that's odd that doesnt sound like her." Him " then when we were talking she said something bad about you." Me "oh what was that? I havent spoken to her recently. I thought we were friends." Him "dont worry I just ignored it and walked away." Me "oh ok." Me left in a state of confusion never go out of my way to see friend and build a closer relationship. What he did to my friend was alienate her from me. By saying I've said things about her. That's the part I didnt get till too late!
My ex was like this…we got in a huge fight that went on for about an hour… he spit in my face so I punched out the window in his truck… the cops came… luckily they were on my side… but I slowly lost friends and then got the questions about me punching his window out…. He conveniently forgot to tell them he started it and spit in my face 🤷🏻♀️ what was I supposed to do
I have a so called friend like this and I hate this behavior. Not only she twists my words but I also she twists other people's words in front of me and make me feel bad about myself. She also puts the blame on me all the time. Let's say there is a party she doesn't like to go and I have sth to do that specific night so I won't go either. She tells the party host later that "I" didn't like to attend such "party" so she didn't come either. The sad part is that I don't know how many of this bulls*ts have actually happened without me even knowing.
Wow. Thank you for this. It's very relatable and enlightening. I guess both my ex and I were narcissists, the difference is I acknowledged it and did self help and counselling. After I stopped doing triangulation manipulation, I realised he was doing worse to me. He was telling his family that I was crazy and was making it look like I start the fights all the time. Damn. I had to detach, heal and move on.
That is exactly what my ex narc did. And then accuse me of being jealous. Lol. I actually kirked out and said I wasn't jealous but I'll be damned if he was going to disrespect me right in my face. I ended up getting physical etc. Took me 6 months to realize that I would have made a bigger statement just walking out and not saying a word.
I've been on the receiving end of this as an older half-sister came into our lives about 10 years ago. We welcomed her with open arms. My younger sister and I were best friends for most of our lives but our "new" sister worked hard to cause division, attacking me. I set boundaries, forgave, and it happened many times. I then told her we could treat each other like work colleagues and be courteous but to not ask me anything personal. I also asked my family to not discuss anything about me with her. That seems to be working. I recognized the narcissism and after her 2nd attack sent her information on that disorder. We are in our 60s. smh
@@hitzoneproductions7858 I agree with you 100%. I was so hurt by her attack on me on Christmas Day (also my birthday) about 4 years ago that I had a panic attack and left. It was a gut reaction on my part.
Group chats are a great help for these situations. There are a few people in my life that I rarely talk to without ‘witnesses’. Established group chats have an air of fun, like a party-line, with the side benefit of interfering with triangulation.
Holly sh*t.. my mom does this, everyday.. with me and my sisters. Shes always creating problems so she can fix them.. but there was never a problem until SHE said something.
@@mydarlinrose3271 i am. We call eachother when our mom says "she said this.. she thinks that" .. that way, we hope she can't continue her drama starting.
This happened to me right before my birthday by my siblings and all of the narcissistic behaviors came completely out the day of my birthday…. So sad smh
So entittled, no one should be allowed or made available to say otherwise. That keeps them in their bubble of toxic mind disorder. I'd rather experience and enjoy fun in mine 🙏👍 When I triangulate I need about ten good friends. Hell, why not call that a party! Triangulation..? Learn to count ✌
Holy cow!! So that has a name? Lol! Wow, I'm glad I'm not crazy. That's the whole reason I'm happier having a couple true close friends rather than a slew of acquaintances. I'm not anti social, just anti drama. Its draining.
Today I have learned the term for this type of behavior! My ex would do this all the time with everyone! Then once they got to know me and we talked they would tell me what he would say about me and then say you’re nothing like that!😩
I had a friend like that I got ride of them. Hopefully the other one found out that she wasn’t a good friend and if she didn’t figure it out i feel bad she was already ruining her marriage so too bad
JESS is a perfect example for my narc coworker. The narc has been triangulated me with coworker A, and I think she is now triangulated me with coworker B (I can feel and see coworker B has suddenly changed to me). Now the narc is also playing nice to me. Grey rock is the only way for me to face that narc lady.
My husband triangulated me and our daughter. He told her , every time they went somewhere,” your mama didn’t come with us because she doesn’t want to be with you “ I only got like two date nights a year with him and found out years later that he told her ,” you can’t go with us , this time , because your Mama doesn’t want you with us”
Monster in-law movie showed this to its finest which is all about sabotaging a relationship by putting them against each other with rumors, gossip&lies being spread to manipulate them to their likes
My mom has been with a narcissist for 7 years and he would always do this to me and my mom. We would constantly get into fights with each other, wish we realized what was happening sooner.
I swear this just happened to me last night right before my ex blocked me. Do I ask the person she claims is “talking shit about me?” Or do I let it go. It’s really bothering me & wondering if she made it all up!
I'd have picked up on that first text right away. Even if what Sally said was true... The other person as causing the issue and I could just kindly see if Sally was OK in person latter in private.
😂 yep although it would be "oh our lass doesnt wanna come out tonight her anxieties playing up" *to me* "babe why dont you wanna go out tonight? "Because your friend is there and he scares me" *tp friend on phone * yeah shes being weird again but illl be there tonight 😅
My mother in law did this to my husband and his brother for years before they finally talked about it and compared notes. She did the same to me and my sister in law.
yes this almost worked two years ago when my BFF and I thought we had a new friend and then the new friend apparently was stealing from me and I didn’t even know it. And then you know how it is when you’ve done a bad thing to someone you have to make them out to be the bad guy? So that’s what she did and she tried to break away my friend. But this friend is a friend I’ve known since she was four years old and I am 60 so then wass58 -still not drama free. You’d think some people would grow up. She was younger than me only in her mid-40s. Sad thing was I was really hurt because I really liked her. That lady just moved to Florida goodFucking riddance and I gave her sons who are always very cute boys gifts as she laughed and pretended that there was no problems between the two of us. Always be the bigger person if you can.
Sally could've caught that bs by asking that girl, "She doesn't want to be around me? Did SHE tell YOU that? Because I notice you like to twist words." I ain't afraid to call people out on they foolish instigating.
that is nice to know 😍
Everyone is not raised to have this direct communication in fact most people have been raised by narcs or people with heavily narcissistic traits so communication using mediators, indirect communication, and subliminal communication is their norm, they have been conditioned for red flags so likely Sally wouldn’t notice that she twists words. It doesn’t ring an alarm when someone else tells them about something another person said.
Though it’s educational to know about the tactics it’s even more useful to recognize the childhood programming..most people are successfully programmed for narc abuse by the age of 12. Note that Sally never even asked Bree if she said it, she just took it for facts. Another phrase they may use when they do this “don’t tell her I told you, she told me to keep it a secret I just don’t feel right keeping this from you”
The text reply "I don't know why you're upset" would have my brain questioning.... (what makes you think I'm upset ...hmmm confusion isn't fun)
@@shelleymichelle9215 yo it isn’t but many narc survivors ( and narcs) can think back to childhood and recollect moments of confusion amongst their parents, siblings, and other family members. As a child some of us were trained not to question this confusion. Long term narc abuse causes emotional immaturity so all the individuals involved in this scenario would be acting upon that stunted growth. Narc abuse really only works on people who were already programmed and narcs immediately recognize who they can and cannot do this to.
That is why so many people blame the victims of the abuse, because on the outside looking in it looks like it was a pretty easy choice to just ASK Bree or Bree to ASK Sally, but both have an emotional deficit and programming that forces their silence and they are actually very comfortable in the confusion as a result.
Like a frog who is sat in boiling water jumps out but a frog who is sat in cold water and has it gradually boil will not. The latter is how narc victims are created.
@@hello7thgod That was the greatest job explaining and you helped me remember the boiling 🐸 analogy. Thank you!
I'm so glad I found out that this is real, I feel like I was crazy.
My mom does this with my siblings and I.
She turns us against one another.
Oh my god! I didn’t realise it until you mentioned your mom, mine does it too!
Not nice!
Mine does the same. Lol. Idk why
My mom too. Now my 2 daughters are grown(20&24) and she did it with us for a little while until about a year ago my youngest finally realized it & got with the program. Now we are allies and handle my mother with kid gloves. Thank God
Mine does also. And my ex husband does this to our kids towards me.
Triangulation is the worst. You know there's something strange going on but when you figure out one lie you're already far behind the next lies
My mom does this all the time, turns everybody in the family against eachother. We all finally wised up and distance ourselves from that bs and talk before coming to conclusions, but she did a lot of damage with this shit when we were young and too afraid to question her
Damm I wish my sister was as smart as you. I know my mom's bs but she believes every word she says. And I'm 30 years old still dealing with this crap. Any time I have an issue with my mom she contacts my sister and turns her against me with lies I supposedly said about her.
i think my aumty does this, my mum tried to have a family meeting for it, but no go lol
When it happens to me it starts out with “don’t tell her I told you but... blah blah blah.”
Narc love division amongst friends, family, whomever you're closest to...don't engage...be unbothered!
I know someone just like this. They wouldn't let me have a normal life for nothing. Turned his family against me and made me feel so isolated. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist PLEASE DON'T STAY!! You are so much more important put You first.
These type of friendships is built on gossip bonding. It's not real. They will eventually turn on each other.
They triangulate by flirting blatantly in front of you. My ex narc bought the waitress cookies at the checkout at Perkins. She was about 19. He’s 60. So glad I blocked him in all five arenas, including changing my phone number. So peaceful now.
He sounds like a pervert with no boundaries. x
How old are you jw
@@abrahamlincoln3607 I’m 53
That would have went over my head. I would have just assumed he's being nice because the person young with a bad paying job. I'm not the jealous type though. My mentality is do whatever you want, but if you fuck me over I'm cutting you out of my life.
What are the 5 arenas?
Just realized that one of my bosses was a narcissist -- he used this triangulation tactic a lot!
Yeah. My old boss pretended to be friends with his staff but pit us against each other while preaching teamwork in meetings.
@@FionaChandoll Wow! The toxic job environment. These people are truly..
Most people in authority are narcissist.
My to
But it's also a tactic bosses use...
We call those instigators in simple terms! 😂👍🏾
😂🤣
I'd now like to see a video on how to tell if this is happening and how to respond in a healthy fashion, if it is.
There used to be a girl in my friend group like this. So sad for her that I and another one of us are peace keepers. It didn't take long for us all to see her for what she was, a narcissist...and out of our group.
This is so spot on it's sickening how anyone would drop to that level
Chillingly accurate.
My sister and I decided a long time ago we just need to check in with each other every time my mom says something to one of us about the other.
WE call it messy...
Omg that was the best example EVER
i used to do this, i was so narcissistic and manipulative in high school, and literally its bcs at the end of the day my parents never loved me enough, i was probably the most insecure person that no one actually realised was. I cant even explain to you how i used to feed of being like this, the control, its all i had. and then school finishes and im left with no friends who realised my truth, and im left to think back on these situations and basically cringe and regret.
It’s good to hear you changed. My faith in humanity has been restored
If you were a narcissist then you're still a narcissist
@@yermom420 Is it incurable? Unchangeable? I honestly dont know. But I'm realizing my mom is one.
@@kylas1902there's no cure for it. I mean you can change but you'll always be one and it will be work to change
@@kylas1902 im sorry your dealing w that my father is one and then I spent 17 years w one bc that's what I knew and expected so be very careful
I was in a a three way "friendship" like this for a year, me and the other girl that got played against eachother only found out a year later after we reconnected and talked about the experience we had with the other girl
I LOVE all these narcissists being called out
My ex kept me away from friends for a long time and then did this after I met some of them... I never found out what he said to them. But he kept saying to me that I was upsetting them and needed to work on my social skills. That they told him I seemed snobby or cold, when I thought we all had a great time. It was so confusing. Then after I left him, I heard from one of these friends and she said that they (her and another friend) had been defending me for all these years. Unfortunately she said this in the context of me being an ungrateful b, rather than a realization that my ex was manipulating them that whole time too.
Good that you found out! Gosh they can wreak havoc on your sanity.
They were never your friends that's whar narcissists exposed. Fake family and friends. If they loved you they would shut the narcissists down instead of joining in the circus
@@KiKi-te9yd it's not a disorder it's a choice to be evil and enjoy it.
@@farfetched9296 I agree. I don't talk to those people anymore. I can't trust anyone who sees the narc/sociopath as a decent person. They are forever under his spell.
wooow this is that mind-f-urr-rie those narcs be doing. it makes so much sense now.
My husband has done this many times with me and our children. I didn't recognize it at the time but after learning about this, I was able to look back and see what he did. I'm very aware now and shut it down quickly!
I fell in this trap a few times! This is on point! Thanks for sharing!
That's why I don't listen to noone and friends with everyone!
Yup. Everyone in my family has learned to just call each other and ask after my NPD mother has said something about one of us. We're all so exhausted from her trying to make all of us fight and get us to rely on ONLY her for "reliable" information.
They will triangulate you with friends,bosee,coworkers,family too
It's all wrapped up.
Nobody, atleast nobody else gets a say let alone deserves one. 🤭😀
Absolutely!! My Ex didn't have time to give to me but made it a point to hang out all of the time with friends, co-workers, even his child's mother (who is a mutual friend)...anyone but me. So glad I'm free!!
@@finallyfree3847 ugh same. That's exactly how it goes down. You think you sort one issue, then they create another like this.
@@KiKi-te9yd Yesssss!! He would do those things to purposely get a rise out of me. That was always an issue for us and he wanted that chaos. When I woke up out of the fog babyyy he was sick of me. I had absolutely nothing for him!!
@@finallyfree3847 Fog... yup! They have no respect for others. Sad thing is, I see him turning his daughter into an even worse version and there's not one thing I can do about it.
The accuracy tho! My ex did this with EVERY friend of mine/ours. So disgusting.
Everybody should’ve learned this from Mean Girls 😂 Remember that 4 way phone call lmfao
I look forward to the more in-depth take on this
My old Boss is like this. At first no one realized it because no one would question is but when she showed me other signed and I caught her doing it to me I made sure to find a new job quick.
Yuuuut. It’s pitiful. Truly
🎯
"Always drama free" lol yep.
"I saw your friend today at the store." Him Me " nice how is she?" Him " she was acting strange I didnt speak to her long?" Me "what was heppening?" Him " oh blah blah nonsense crap I made up that doesnt matter about anything or really make sense." Me " that's odd that doesnt sound like her." Him " then when we were talking she said something bad about you." Me "oh what was that? I havent spoken to her recently. I thought we were friends." Him "dont worry I just ignored it and walked away." Me "oh ok." Me left in a state of confusion never go out of my way to see friend and build a closer relationship. What he did to my friend was alienate her from me. By saying I've said things about her. That's the part I didnt get till too late!
When you watch this and realize you've been Sally and your boyfriend made u doubt you could trust ANYONE!
People are too damn scared to call others or on their bullshit nowadays. Shouldn't be, that's how you end up with shitty circles of friends.
I'm in one of these most f up relationships owned by a narrsacistic I'm reverse hovering can't seem to get out please keep me in your prayers godblees
My ex was like this…we got in a huge fight that went on for about an hour… he spit in my face so I punched out the window in his truck… the cops came… luckily they were on my side… but I slowly lost friends and then got the questions about me punching his window out…. He conveniently forgot to tell them he started it and spit in my face 🤷🏻♀️ what was I supposed to do
It’s cute when they do this …like Bruh, do you need an attorney?💀
I have a so called friend like this and I hate this behavior. Not only she twists my words but I also she twists other people's words in front of me and make me feel bad about myself. She also puts the blame on me all the time. Let's say there is a party she doesn't like to go and I have sth to do that specific night so I won't go either. She tells the party host later that "I" didn't like to attend such "party" so she didn't come either. The sad part is that I don't know how many of this bulls*ts have actually happened without me even knowing.
Wow. Thank you for this. It's very relatable and enlightening. I guess both my ex and I were narcissists, the difference is I acknowledged it and did self help and counselling. After I stopped doing triangulation manipulation, I realised he was doing worse to me. He was telling his family that I was crazy and was making it look like I start the fights all the time. Damn. I had to detach, heal and move on.
They will triangulate you with prior or new girlfriends also
Yup
Yep
Mine used his child as no1 tool of triangulation. Then blamed me for getting resentful towards her.
That is exactly what my ex narc did. And then accuse me of being jealous. Lol. I actually kirked out and said I wasn't jealous but I'll be damned if he was going to disrespect me right in my face. I ended up getting physical etc. Took me 6 months to realize that I would have made a bigger statement just walking out and not saying a word.
aw hell naw, I wouldn't be able to deal with this kind of craziness.. ppl are out of their minds!
If the third person sent that to me I'd have been like "girl im not upset do your thing, shit happens".
I've been on the receiving end of this as an older half-sister came into our lives about 10 years ago. We welcomed her with open arms. My younger sister and I were best friends for most of our lives but our "new" sister worked hard to cause division, attacking me. I set boundaries, forgave, and it happened many times. I then told her we could treat each other like work colleagues and be courteous but to not ask me anything personal. I also asked my family to not discuss anything about me with her. That seems to be working. I recognized the narcissism and after her 2nd attack sent her information on that disorder. We are in our 60s. smh
Sending them information on themselves has proven useless for me. They need professional help.
@@hitzoneproductions7858 I agree with you 100%. I was so hurt by her attack on me on Christmas Day (also my birthday) about 4 years ago that I had a panic attack and left. It was a gut reaction on my part.
And I die laughing at every try! Lol I can't stop myself. It's so absurd its hilarious.
Group chats are a great help for these situations. There are a few people in my life that I rarely talk to without ‘witnesses’. Established group chats have an air of fun, like a party-line, with the side benefit of interfering with triangulation.
Holly sh*t.. my mom does this, everyday.. with me and my sisters. Shes always creating problems so she can fix them.. but there was never a problem until SHE said something.
Be careful even moms can be against you rather than for you.! Its very sad.
@@mydarlinrose3271 i am. We call eachother when our mom says "she said this.. she thinks that" .. that way, we hope she can't continue her drama starting.
This happened to me right before my birthday by my siblings and all of the narcissistic behaviors came completely out the day of my birthday…. So sad smh
I LOVE the raised eyebrows you give. Says it all. You can be funny..but very helpful.
Omg he used to do that to me with my friends! “Oh she didn’t answer the phone? Oh yeah she don’t wanna talk to you!” I’m shook!!!!
He tried that a lot in the beginning. If a friend couldn't make it to hang out he said they probably didn't like me....
That is actually a 100% right because I could feel my emotions getting ticked off listening to her and that scene
Oh Yeah! I love the examples you give
Ex friend. I always knew she was toxic.
Perfect example.
Narcissists is all the victim and they play with people mental so they can get them on there side and them started woth that triangle situation
So entittled, no one should be allowed or made available to say otherwise.
That keeps them in their bubble of toxic mind disorder.
I'd rather experience and enjoy fun in mine 🙏👍
When I triangulate I need about ten good friends.
Hell, why not call that a party!
Triangulation..? Learn to count ✌
Your head is screwed on Barbara. 😉
Holy cow!! So that has a name? Lol! Wow, I'm glad I'm not crazy. That's the whole reason I'm happier having a couple true close friends rather than a slew of acquaintances. I'm not anti social, just anti drama. Its draining.
Bosses I meant earlier
I'd thought maybe boozos or bozoes.
Better understood 😉👍
Fuck, this Channel is taking me down memory lane... 10 years next April since I broke free
Today I have learned the term for this type of behavior! My ex would do this all the time with everyone! Then once they got to know me and we talked they would tell me what he would say about me and then say you’re nothing like that!😩
That all narcissist do drama all day long 365days drama
Say triangulation is the new expression for having an audience.
Meanwhile they take yours away and palm it off as a leap year. 😭
And they always say "I hate drama".🤔
@@mysterious7092 something desperately required to disguise. They are pitching a possibility for when they might display a truth.
@@chickenbiscuit4525 just like my sons mother until I exposed she was Enchantress.lol
Interesting,thanks,be blessed all in Jesus shalom
I would confront both of them, showing screenshots and all 😁 Luckily, I'm an introvert & cynical to trust easily 💀
I had a friend like that I got ride of them. Hopefully the other one found out that she wasn’t a good friend and if she didn’t figure it out i feel bad she was already ruining her marriage so too bad
Omg I've been done this way... they twist what you say and use it as a weapon
JESS is a perfect example for my narc coworker. The narc has been triangulated me with coworker A, and I think she is now triangulated me with coworker B (I can feel and see coworker B has suddenly changed to me). Now the narc is also playing nice to me. Grey rock is the only way for me to face that narc lady.
My mother always did this, but not with text, with actual phone calls. She loved that crap.
My husband triangulated me and our daughter. He told her , every time they went somewhere,” your mama didn’t come with us because she doesn’t want to be with you “
I only got like two date nights a year with him and found out years later that he told her ,” you can’t go with us , this time , because your Mama doesn’t want you with us”
Sick🤢
Monster in-law movie showed this to its finest which is all about sabotaging a relationship by putting them against each other with rumors, gossip&lies being spread to manipulate them to their likes
This is a good one!!!
I remembered he tried this with my teenage daughters and myself
Very good example.... Messy!
My mom used to do this to me and my siblings… someone was always on the “outs”
This describes my boss to the dot
So friggin true it’s painful
🤯 I have people like this in my life!!
Ugh I’m a victim of this in every aspect 🤦🏻♀️
Spot on .
People (“triangulators”) got too much time on their hands.
Also in a book called Games People Play. Let's you and them fight.
My mom has been with a narcissist for 7 years and he would always do this to me and my mom. We would constantly get into fights with each other, wish we realized what was happening sooner.
I swear this just happened to me last night right before my ex blocked me. Do I ask the person she claims is “talking shit about me?” Or do I let it go. It’s really bothering me & wondering if she made it all up!
DaaAmmmmnn.... I wonder how many times this happened without me knowing?
Oh my goodness! My daughter is a narcissist 😭
I'd have picked up on that first text right away. Even if what Sally said was true... The other person as causing the issue and I could just kindly see if Sally was OK in person latter in private.
😂 yep although it would be "oh our lass doesnt wanna come out tonight her anxieties playing up"
*to me* "babe why dont you wanna go out tonight?
"Because your friend is there and he scares me"
*tp friend on phone * yeah shes being weird again but illl be there tonight 😅
Ohhh😳I totally see my narc and the triangulation
My mother in law did this to my husband and his brother for years before they finally talked about it and compared notes. She did the same to me and my sister in law.
yes this almost worked two years ago when my BFF and I thought we had a new friend and then the new friend apparently was stealing from me and I didn’t even know it. And then you know how it is when you’ve done a bad thing to someone you have to make them out to be the bad guy? So that’s what she did and she tried to break away my friend. But this friend is a friend I’ve known since she was four years old and I am 60 so then wass58 -still not drama free. You’d think some people would grow up. She was younger than me only in her mid-40s. Sad thing was I was really hurt because I really liked her. That lady just moved to Florida goodFucking riddance and I gave her sons who are always very cute boys gifts as she laughed and pretended that there was no problems between the two of us. Always be the bigger person if you can.
Wooooowww.....chills....yup that's my mom smh
I'm convinced that narcs are possessed by the devil himself.
WHAT, really, was THAT?!
Playing two people against each other sp the narc is centre of attention and looks like a good friend to both.
Not me getting distracted by her old iphone
Absolutely tools
Please put the names of the characters in each scene ... I got confused
Lmfao this sounds like some shit from Mean Girls 😂
🤯 my mom 👆
I love straight lines now.
I knew someone who did this, and they actually said afterwards to me privately (when the truth came out) that they enjoyed it 😳
😧😧😧