I Have No Friends and Family and How I See It As A Positive Thing
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- čas přidán 22. 01. 2024
- So these days many people have no friends and view it as a bad thing. This can lead to more negative action. How bout we see this as a more positive thing and use it as an opportunity to improve our lives.
The most happiest moments in my life when I was alone. It's better to be alone and at peace instead of having back stabbing friends or family members.
Eventually, you'll get to the point that you see through back stabbers before they get too close and enjoy making them 'beg' for time which you never give them. i actually get more pleasure walking away from women than what i ever got sleeping with them. The best response i ever got was, "BUT I'M A GOOD WOMAN!" i replied, "i'll be the judge of that..." (as i walked away)
BTW, consider married men to be your enemy...they have lot's of bosses to answer to and will use female tactics against a single man. They are often 'communist' in that they believe they should do less and get more just because they are a "family man"
Yes but even better if you have someone who can actually be accurately defined as a friend.
I agree with you 💯
@@thegoldentree6913Definitely true! I don’t know what I would do without my gf she’s legit my best friend. But bad friends or a bad gf definitely make you less happy.
Agree with you 100% and that is where I am ...In peace and harmony.
People are so toxic these days. You have to protect your peace
Wise words my friend 😁
This! 👏
And your soul
Exactly!!! You find disappointment.
Realtalk
The competition and jealousy in so called friendships is alarming....
This!!!!
As a woman, this was my experience of every friendship I had with other women. Then at about age 40, I decided no more female friends. It's much better for me this way.
Truth
@@kyliemoronoguesame, but family can be worse in my experience
Even when you are not trying you are made to feel like you can’t be content with what you have. Not all are trying to be millionaires.
Humans are so afraid to the point that friendship has become a threat.
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That's what trauma does to your brain...You think everyone hurts you because someone hurts you...When someone traumatized you,you also expect the world to traumatize you.When someone abandons you,you also expect the world to abandon you.When someone bullies you,you also expect the world to bully you.When someone abuses you,you also expect the world to abuse you.That's how defense mechanism does to your brain
Let no man fear the things in life if they have Christ.
"No weapon formed against me shall prosper. "
I used to live a happy life being alone...when i transferred to a new apartment, i made friends who eventually backstabbed me and ruined my peaceful life. Most people are toxic...to stay happy you really have to choose the people you associate with... good people are so rare.
Extremely The Truth .
I turned 36 today and I'm celebrating it alone.
🥧🌷🌹It´s just a day like another one, but anyway,...happy birthday🌻🌻
Happy belated birthday 🥳
Happy Birthday to you!🥳
Happy birthday🎉🎉🎉
@@santalobasantaloba896No. It is called a birth day. Not just a day. You should celebrate if you feel like it.
A wise man once said “It is better to be alone than in bad company”.
“Better to travel alone than in the company of fools “
Exactly, my circle is small, and I will keep it that way until death. The majority of people are not for your success.
Well said!
Or ANY company at that. Being ALONE just because is more peaceful than anything in this world. Doesn’t have to be a reason to just be alone
Amen to that! 👍🏾
Less family, less friends, less drama, less headache. You GAIN peace of mind 👍
@Minnie--ru2ew You are so right. I blocked my family from contacting me. Now with less family I have less drama, fewer headaches and peace of mind. And I am more successful and happier.
*fewer
@@tpmedia3784 thank you! lol!
Precisely!! 🔥🖖
Absolutelyy correct❤🎉
Some of the stupidest choices I have ever made were made because society "told" me that if I didn't I wasn't "normal". Got married for this reason and it was a horrible experience. I really enjoy being by myself and I feel that is my natural state of being for the most part.
I'm with you on that Jen :)
No family no friends no headache no problems no pain no stupidity no failures
thats not what family and friends is about bro
@@thegoldentree6913 im not bro not everyone here is male
@@quantaVastitude2021 have you been living under a cave sis? bro has another meaning other than the male sibling. bro is like saying "my friend".
And NO DEBT
@@ExitExistense I have no debt
In my experience, knowing less folk = less trouble
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😂😂
Sad but true
Straight up! This is why I don’t really hang with people
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The one who walks alone has the strongest direction 💯
Musashi Miyamoto The Way of Walking Alone
What does this means?
I grew up with lots of friends, only to realize later in life that those friendships were because I was so messed up and was a people pleaser. It wasn't till those relationships were tested - including familial - that I realized how shallow and fake they were; now at 60 I'm left with one sibling and 2 friends. Finally at peace
Gosh ..same here
I'm so proud of myself to have been able to realize that 12 years ago at 24 years old
The last few yrs the so called friends that I’ve known for more than a decade turned out to be traitors, idk what happened; perhaps ppl change or perhaps their true color is finally showing! Took my kindness for granted and betrayed my loyalty. I believe Karma will catch up with them tho.
Ditto.
Someone said solitude can become addictive. I think it is true. Being alone is much less complicated than having people around.
that's interesting. i think that's true. ultimately it's not really very healthy but it's easier on many ways.
Solitude brings depression and unhappiness. Lots of loneliness.
@@RaquelJoYT unless it’s for a very long time
@@RaquelJoYT No. Loneliness brings depression and unhappiness. Solitude brings peace. The two are extremely different.
I have no friends or family. Most of my family is dead or dead to me and I genuinely enjoy my life more than ever.
Facts
Good for you Sophia! Pretty much the same here.
Same! We got this!
💯
Doing what?
We are born alone and we will die alone. Being your own best friend is probably a good idea. I have a big family and a few friends but nothing beats my own company. Many of the things I enjoy doing I can do solo such as reading, meditating, painting, and playing music. I never feel alone when I'm by myself but I have felt alone around others. It's important for me to preserve my peace.
Being touched and sleep with someone is the best feeling and I cannot experience it because of loneliness. Do you have bf? It is easy to write things like this when youre not really alone.
I needed that 🎉💯
I hate when people say that. Youre not born alone you literally are surrounded by people from the moment you are born.
Just because you're hanging out by yourself does not mean youre alone.
Being alone is something most humans are really bad at. Were highly social and dependent upon one another for survival.
@@MegaAbgtI don't have a boyfriend. I choose to stay single because I love to invest in myself. Being alone is not for everyone but for me personally I can truly say that's when I'm the happiest. Although I'm alone I actually don't feel lonely.
@@skrrskrr505 Well being alone is not for everyone. Some people actually enjoy it and others don't. We are social creatures by nature. However, some individuals do enjoy being alone. No one will ever know me as deep and personally as I know myself. Learning about my own interests and investing in myself is important to me. Like I said though it's not for everyone.
Cutting out a toxic friend group that has been plaguing my life for years was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Same for me. A hug from Brasil
I have no friends and no family. Literally. My birthday and all holidays pass by like normal days.
I have a few friends now because I volunteer and have lots of cheapy interests. I have social anxiety too but I have friends who have similar values and interests. It is a bit easier for me as we have things in common. Most evenings during the week I am at home, but I like being at home in the quiet.
❤❤❤ You are loved.
Same here. Holidays and my birthdays always makes me a bit sad knowing that "dayum, this is my reality," while all my cousins have their own families spending holidays together while I'm the idiot at work wasting my life. It makes me feel at times that I'm forced to be alone and that this is my destiny.
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@@boratsagdiyev522
I’m sorry 😢
I purposely removed everyone from my life. I feel so much better. No drama at all. I work from home I don't leave the house. I have everything delivered. I'm not a shut in I just love being alone. I've been like this since around 2010.
I don’t blame you tbh. I stopped hanging out like that around 2020 and I have gained so much peace because of it
I work from home too and get everything I need delivered! I really don’t leave the house much either…
I got my cat, comfy home, good food and I go outside to get fresh air and take walks in town when it’s nice. 👍 most people just drain me. I love being alone ❤
@Pepperthecat11 I 100% know what you mean. I was never happy before. One day I realized you really have to be happy with yourself. Another person isn't going to make you happy.
I thought I had some kind of depression but all it was is people are exhausting. I don't get mad or anything ever. I'm glad your doing well to. There's nothing wrong with being alone.
@@jackinmyhoggoff807 same! I thought there was something wrong with me. I used to go out partying a lot and had a ton of “friends” in my 20s.
I’m 34 now, and I don’t drink or smoke anymore and stay home all the time…never been happier or more productive. Glad you are happy too-being a homebody is honestly awesome
Awesome!😊
SOLITUDE is priceless! No friends is better than a bunch of fake nice individuals, moochers, BS, backstabbers, traitors, etc. SO PEACEFUL and HAPPY to be ALONE!
A guy I've known for decades since age 7, is like this. He calls everybody "buddy". "Hey buddy this hey buddy that" but he never comes to visit when invited, never initiates calls to talk, never helps with things that you occasionally need 2 people to do. He's totally fake and self-centered. This is probably most people today.
@@user-jl8yy5ir7s Just about everyone around me is the exact same like you mentioned. Also, last minute cancellation seems normal - the same person would cancel 3X consecutively. So, having learned the hard way, these days I am so much happier enjoying MY SOLITUDE - so happy and peaceful - SOLITUDE is priceless!
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So true, these days many ppl are only users and just like parasites, they only nice to u when they need u, I helped some ppl that I had called “friends” but they ended up betraying me and betraying my kindness. Hopefully Karma would kick their as5 soon!
TOTALLY AGREED. Being alone is so much better than being fooled by fake friends. After several experiences of fake friends "inviting" me to lunch but on the day of the lunch, they had "forgotten" about it, and a bunch of fake friends who always "left their wallet at home" after they had eaten the food at the restaurant, and asked me "can you pay for me first and I will pay you back" but they never paid me back, I finally realized the fake friends had scammed me for a free lunch - I AM NOW FRIEND-FREE.
I'm a loner, too. I think that it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. You may not even have poor social skills. It just means you don't enjoy people all that much. You may not enjoy socializing and seeking out people. If you are introverted, you should just accept yourself for the way you are. Be happy in your own space !
Thank you for saying that. That's awesome
@@billybobscat6233 Yes, completely agree!
Being alone or a loner and a BLACK SHEEP is DEFINITELY NOT a bad thing. It makes you STRONG ,INDEPENDENT,and SELF SUFFICIENT!!! We live in a FAKE and SHALLOW world/society! Martin got it right on his outlook. 👍🏻 Once you get over the hump of NO friends or NO family it gets EASIER and EASIER to live a peaceful, productive life.
Same here . Was the Black Sheep of My family and was always the outcast growing up . Was born to stand the fuck out . 💪
Very well said! ❤
@@Chelschelsie03 TY
@@OnThePrecipiceMedia I’ve ALWAYS been different and go to the beat of my own drum. When your young and a child it’s HARD to understand. But once you get older and realize it’s a roundabout GIFT it’s all good. The covid “PLANDEMIC “ was NOTHING for me. Mask less and REBELLIOUS to the Corrupt system
I BEAR WITNESS! 🖐🏾
Friends come and go. They will backstab you, borrow money, and never pay back, they get mad when you ask to get paid back, like what???? I thought we were friends?? theres no such thing as a friend anymore. My " best friend " borrowed tons of money during his divorce and bankruptcy. When he was doing well again. Even bought himself a pickup truck, big off road tires, a Harley motorcycle, furniture his new home. I asked when he can repay the thousands I let him borrow. He got reeeeaaally mad. Like u have the nerve to ask your friend for money???? What an ungrateful person. I guess he learned how to steal, manipulate, backstab people working as a Corrections Officer in New York. Right Michael.
There has never been such a thing, only smoke and mirrors.
bro are you ok?
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384he outta pocket but he's right😂😂😂
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384no, I'm bitter. I plan on dwelling on it so my daughter sees it. She won't be trusting , naive, with smooth, smiling, people, while their hands are reaching for your wallet
@@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384still bitter
I think its sad we've become conditioned to be alone. That's the direction of society. Remote working, zoom, gaming, FaceTime, Amazon. All designed to keep people apart. Im a 60 year old woman and I don't recognize the world anymore. I feel sorry for the younger generation.
I'm 62, I love my family/being with them, don't have any friends, but i'm busy with my grand kids, I do like my a lone time, but if I didnt have any family, I'm sure I would need a friend or two, yes, this younger generation is totally different!
Most of the people I know just end up talking about when you aren't around. You know this when other 'friends' leave and they start talking about them.
Exactly.
I have nobody but God and the angels
Rapture soon! ⚡⚡
blessings for you
And my Son that’s truthfully it
Amen
Be blessed
I once had "friends." But they only came to me when they fuck their lives up or need money. Once they get what they want, I'm back to being invisible. It's better to be alone than being a means to an end for everybody.
I deliberately have no friends … and no family
and how are you?
Search for the Vedas and secret of Universe. One time youll should be with someone. I am like you and very stronger person. A hug from Brasil
I’m not alone I have a small family and a couple friends. But I am the most alone I have been in life. I was reading my study Bible just yesterday and it said alone and lonely are not the same! Amen
I just entered my 30s, on the verge of earning my (MA) Masters.
Both of my parents, who are still my heroes, passed away when I was 8.
I couldn't care any less about anyone else. I just focus on my life.
sorry you lost your parents so young. congrats on getting your Masters degree. That's a huge accomplishment. I hope you can find a loving special person one day but I think you're wise to focus on your own life. Just don't give up hope for connection. That's what we were made for. Take care. W
@@wordswordswords8203 Wow, thank you for this reply. I'll never give up on human connectivity, nor am I seeking it. I think because of my parents showering me with their attention and love, when I was a little boy, before they died - as an adult, I never feel the need for "love" outside of myself or from anyone else.
If I somehow meet someone and we have a kid or two, then that's fine. Although, if that were to never happen; that too, is also fine. I wish you well, friend 🙂👍
@@waedjradi Thank you! I'm glad you have that inner stability.
l’m almost 53 and have absolutely no friends or family… who cares, l only miss my mom, l could care less about anyone else.
I feel like you are me in the future.
Yup. Everyone else can fuckk off
I'm the same. I'm 47 and have absolutely no one. Not one single friend or family
Same, 41F here! @@rebekah4078
Can I be your friend?
1 real friend is priceless while 1 fake friend can be deadly.
I feel blessed when i am alone. No one to bother, no one to disturb.
Hell is other people
There’s definelty advantages of being alone, there’s a lot of drama associated with most relationships
True, but let's face it, we all want friends and family that we like. Life is much more fulfilling that way if we can have it. Humans are not ment to be alone for long periods of time.
@@boratsagdiyev522Introverts *cough*cough*. 😗
I can’t found genuine nice people to be friends with, family and relatives are only interested in my financial affairs so I found 10 homeless canines to share a nice, big house , we look after each other , we are very happy.
I am 75 years old, I am always alone wherever I am ,I am the happier person.People who loved to have friends ,are the one with no confidents.
Bro....i'm 45. My only true friend is my wife. As for family, they are too much work and a waste of time.
Same here with my husband. No drama with no family, is a relief.
Same here just my wife and kids ❤
Well imagine people.who have no wives or kids.... so it's important to make meaningful connections.
Same here my partner our grown kids and my mom,happy and content with just them.🙏
@@dianagonzales5113 Same here. I have no gf or kids ;(
i love having zero people to be accountable for
Me too!! It’s the best!
54 and my family always think I am strange because I prefer to be alone. I enjoyed my own company and many ppl thinks I am not normal because I can go to dinner or movies by myself. As I got older I realized how great it was to be alone and I treasured my simple life and come to realization that being alone doesn’t mean lonely. When I have to go to family gatherings or friends social I find I get anxiety as most times it’s shallow and chaotic. You are correct when you are alone you accomplished many things faster
Are you married?
We are Twins! Can we be Friends please?
@@lysianeamougou definitely.reach out anytime 😀
I grew up with a lot of family and friends around me, until I realised they all used me, so I got rid of all of them.
I used to get pushed away by people since I was very little. I began to accept the thought that I was never going to fit in society's activities. I learned that I enjoy creating art. Photography became another joy for me. I learned how to compose music. I wrote a few books. Completed me educational goals. I 'm still taking college courses. I stopped drinking in 1996. I learned that being alone, and pushed away wasn't so bad. I knew someone that didn't want to associate with me, because I didn't have a high school diploma. I got my high school diploma then one day I saw them on the street. I walked by them like I didn't know them. They never recognized me, because I had changed. I looked really good. Better than when we last spoke. I just kept walking by. I felt happy, and didn't need them as a friend. I became successful by myself without the need to be around others. It wasn't my fault. I was pushed away. I built my own world. I'm happy.
You are ENOUGH. 👍
Amen dear
Congratulations 🎊 on your new life and success. 😊😊
I ❤ this for you
I love my peace and happiness. I have no friends but I'm friendly to anyone in public that likes to have a small chat about the weather or chat about their pet.Thats as far as it goes.But I do love people. I just love them from a distance. ❤❤❤
Are u me?😂❤
@@oxytoxic7006I am she and she is me 😂😂😂
😅😅😅 we are sisters from another countries
This is my life🎉
I grew up in an alcoholic family. The town I grew up in everybody drank. I drank to fit in. For a while I did fit in, but when I branched off to get healthy and get my finances in order, people don’t like that. They feel like we are arrogant when we want to make these positive changes and have to leave them behind. I made the choice to drink but it is so bad for you. I would never drink again. I don’t like the way it makes me feel. I just want to be peaceful, happy and healthy and sleep well and that’s enough for me. The Bible is real. The Cain and Abel scenario is real, so is the Joseph and his brother story. My point is, family and friends are usually the first to betray you and that has been my experience.
Amen
Feeling loneliness is a call to oneself. Your soul needs something that no one else can properly provide.
When I saw myself alone I could see the beauty around me. There was no pulling of distraction. Just me, and my mind in silence. It's total silence.
Very wise comment!
Thank you 🙂
@@normapadro420I had a very similar experience. There’s so much going on around us.
If you believe that soul non sense
Greta video! I’m 35 and deleted my social media and stepped away from drinking with friends/partying. I go to gym. Spending time in prayer church and family. It’s positive gains! Thank you for your positivity. We are blessed to have this singleness and other distractions.
Agree!! All we need is Jesus 🙏🏼✝️
You outgrew everyone🎉
Keep going🏅
Alot of people cant be alone with themselves, i love my own company doing what i love, or want to do, its peaceful ☮️😊🙏🏻
I am at peace. No friends. No family. 💯👌🏾OK
Same.. I used to *dread* going to family holiday gatherings 🙄 drama, passive-aggression, rudeness etc.. I swear people have nothing positive or interesting to talk about so they just make up the most lame shit.
Finally I decided I don't want to force myself to do things I'm not comfortable doing anymore and I've never been happier 💗 holidays are now peaceful & beautiful ✨
😂-- they over eat, then somebody farts, then they don't talk for a year, and then they do it again
@@stephenw.9647 Pull my finger.
@@gr5382 😂-- that's bad, sounds like Biden sending an email to Kim
@@stephenw.9647 You had to ruin it with a political jab. There are other things in life. Just open your eyes.
Does your family give you crap for not attending fam gatherings?
The only time I feel really painfully alone is when I travel. When I am at the airport and know no one cares. No one waits. No one messages me in general. I have no emergency contact to leave at work. Or no one to give my second apartment key to. That is why financial stress makes me sick and miserable. I have only myself to rely on. It was always like that and it will be always like that. Even my own parents never cared for me, they even were jealous of everything I had, even of me smiling. I learned how to whole heartedly laugh when I had my own apartment and was safe... Without being afraid of rage out of the blue from people I should be able to trust. Most people out there just don't develop their emotional intelligence and refuse to grow mentally. Not my problem anymore. I'm out and walk my own lonely but peaceful path.
I am a hardcore lone wolf, the only time I have a problem with being on my own is when I'm sick and there is no one to care for you
I understand! Same Here!! 😢
@@Kelly-oe8krthen care for someone else. God will send you someone.
For me it’s being hospitalised… esp during “ visiting hours “. Literally the only patient ( room of 8 ) without a single visitor… 😮😮😮😮😮
@@food4444lyfe I understand.Went to Turkey alone to have a stomach surgery. No one even knew, no one cares anyway. Reminds me of the time when I was in hospital as a 6 year old for a small heart surgery. I was in Munih for a week, all alone. My father just dropped me there from Frankfurt and was gone... Not even my mother called.
One problem is that we do not understand friendship as a society any longer. We call people friends who join our Facebook page or group. A true friend requires what any other serious relationship requires: loyalty, respect, humility, love, and a desire to make each other better. It is a critical and important relationship in making a civilization. Yes, alone time is necessary and beneficial too, but friendship is a necessity personally and for society. However, we should work toward having a small circle of true friends instead of numbers of friends. Many comments here claim that there are too many back-stabbing friends or unloyal friends "these days." People have not changed. They are the same as always. The ancient philosophers provide great insight into how we should choose our friends and how it's necessary to remove yourself from anyone who is not a true friend. It is better to have one or two close friends than 1000 Facebook "friends" or hangout friends.
So true. Society likes to push us to make friends since we're young and it's frowned upon to be lonely. The thing is society never taught us what is a friend. A friend shouldn't be just anyone you know or hang out with. It needs to be someone working towards similar goals as you or at the very least someone who can be there with you to have a genuine conversation and connection without the need to have a degenerate activity to do together (drinking, partying, playing video game, smoking, etc).
It’s tech that has retired people to be lonesome and isolated
@hiitsmartin It's probably always been like that to a certain extent, but you just hear about it more with social media. Although, your generation stayed in the house all day in front of a screen, so that's most definitely contributed to it.
What a refreshing video to watch. I am an older person and all my life I was told to make friends.
You are told there is something wrong with you if you have no friends. Even before social media, TV made you a failure if you weren't the cool person. I have learned to enjoy my own company and enjoy the silent times. Social media is not reality. You are a smart man. Most people only have a few good friends in their lives. As for family, I have none. Sometimes it is the luck of the draw. But I am okay.
Your video only reaffirmed what I knew all this time. Being true to yourself is the best reward. Having tons of friends, social media, distract one from their purpose in life. Thank you for a great video. I hope others draw inspiration as I have. 🎉
The most important friend you need is yourself. After that you need some friends and some family.
No the most important friend and only friend you need or I need is Jesus Christ, the Son of God who came to earth as a human and died on the cross to pay a debt we cannot pay so we no longer HAVE to be separated from God! Accepting that free gift (not cheap, but freely given) and trust in Him, read the Bible to learn what pleases Him, what He hates! Time is almost up. Accept Him now before He comes to take His bride home for the wedding. After that the worst times EVER on the earth and to trust in Him then WILL cost your life. The anti Christ, a human indwelt by Satan will seek out believers and kill them. So choose Him now. The door is closing soon. I am not talking about religion, God wants relationship with you! Friendship, not enemies of God.
agreed
@@beaulieuc8910Amen!!
@@DaughteroftheKing67Amen!!!
I realized that I prefer my own company. Friends are huge waste of time and money. In the past I was always investing much much more human energy and resources in friendships which were one sided. I could also say the same when it came to dating and romance. I’ve given up on both and I feel fine. I guess I m not cool enough good looking enough but I’m ok with that and I m finally gonna take time to know me and learn to like myself because at the end of the day that’s the only true friend who will have my back.
Sounds like a massive cope. Socializing with friends is pretty essential to the human experience.
Relationships and friendships are always one-sided and not reciprocated by individuals. It seems that one person contributes more or less than the other person. It's all a scam and sets one up to be exploited and abused
At the end of the day, you're all you have and no one else
Not at all.@@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807
@@nick8670no it’s not. People used to need each way more that’s why we think we’re “social creatures”
Im one of those people with no friends and no reliable immediate family but the people around me are toxic. Makes me appreciate my alone time more.
I'm 38 and I always had friends around me.. from good to toxic .. I finally realized that only I can make myself happy.. I've been friendless for 5 years now.. I got into hobbies and goals and a peace of mind
I Rock with God, blessed with 2 narcissistic parents, parental Alienation and neglect was my world. ZERO family and no fake friends, I do better Solo
yoooooo !!!!!!!!
@@LuvKitKatt Many Stitches, many broken bones homeless by 15 Marine Corps by 17 (SOLID 15 YEAR CAREER) survived a bad situation, no one's victim because I'm the one that got away. I survived
SAME
Same here, brother.
Same 😊
Finally a positive person, I always wondered why everyone complaining about not having friends, I'm glad to be alone, too many backstabbing friends these days
Great video, i am 52 and an orphan, my insight is that it all worked out. I have a beautiful network and memories. Hang in there everyone. ❤
This also made me consider the fact that having friends and having acquaintances are two different things. If you’re following your interests, you can at least find like-minded people to can have good conversations with. That kind of fulfills your social needs without having to have “friends”.
Most especially, they will only remember you when they need something from you. Money money money!!
4:16 you're right, it's better to be alone than have friends who have bad habits like alcoholism and drug abuse.
its not really friendship though. i would never consider anyone, who has such bad habits that inflict negativity on me, a friend. Same goes for family.
Everyone has bad habits, its not a reason to cut someone off unless its to the point to where they are actively encouraging you to partake in something you know you shouldn't.
@@nick8670 if you hang out with wise ones, you will be wise. If you deal with stupid ones, you will fair badly.
I agree, you should choose your friends wisely, but having a problem with substances doesn't make you inherently stupid.@@AZrakoon
@@nick8670 Why waste time on people that are ruining their own lives?. They can drown alone
Yep I have no family or friends. And you know why? Because my family abused me and set up in life to be abused by others. I cut them all off and everytime I attempt to make friends, they are either toxic or fake. I love hard and I’m authentic and can’t stand fake, indirect, and inauthentic people so I avoid now instead of allowing people to take me granted.
I was in a relationship with a man that was a narcissist that abused me for nearly 6yrs I recently left him a month ago. I mean isolated me, refused to do anything with me, treated me like I didn’t exist in the home. It’s a horrible and midway to be treated. I’m happy I’m gone.
I’m happy alone and I’m content being by myself. Some people are just meant to be by themselves. No one to abuse me. No one to make me feel less than. I don’t age time for people like this.
This younger generation is very honest and open about their issues. Back in the day people wouldn't ever admit to having any friends bc it feels like social rejection. Having just one good friend you can talk to is the best thing. As you get older, you do not want to be alone.
I LOVE not having close ties with family. And I have dumped all my friends. I have no regrets. Best decision I have ever made.
Yes the less friend the more peace in life . Very true . Gods love is the only love that counts .
Yes Amen ✝️🙏
It is God's love that will wash away all our earthly moments and fully restore us with the light of gladness. All else means nothing. We won't look back.
Amen. I only ever truly need God! God provides!
The matrix is slowly collasping from the "survivors" point of view.. Pity parties are old.. Generations need to catch up on a galactic interstellar level. I wish everyone luck on their spiritual soul journey. May the peace find you all one day on earth. Blessings. ❤
I got friend in Jesus
Where ever i go he goes
Who else do i need.
Jesus is a friend who sticks closer than a brother , mother, father. He's is my savior 🙏 my friend
Amen!!
Having jesus is really just having yourself
@@user-jk1zq7fx3h Amen. Self healthy awareness is really important before being with anyone else
Lies
Amen
I feel more happy alone than I do around people I have experienced nothing but abuse and pain and humiliation around people I dislike humanity I became a misanthrope
Facts ^
Same
It’s simple math and science. You have to be insane to continue on with your abusers
I agree! I have like three friends and I don't even want anymore, lol. Seriously be your own best friend. You won't regret it.
Your one intelligent, handsome man with a sense of humor. I am alone 90% of the time, too many friends or people that are not on the same page only slow me down and can be unproductive distraction and energy vampires, so I currently chose to spend most of my time alone to work on and to improve my self, that way I can be available to one day help others which is one of my life goals.
Most people will approach you to take from you.
exactly
This is true but not everyone.
My experience as well. 65 yrs old now, zero friends is just fine.😊
@@missdesireindependance5194 My statement says "Most".
All my life I've had no friend, just acquaintances and coworkers. I used to live on my own, but now I live with my sister. Before it kind of bothered me that I didn't have a single friend. But now I'm grateful because I've learned to enjoy my own company and I am at peace. Everyone has their own problems, some have more than others. Once you learn to not create your own problems, it's hard to be around those that do.
I took a step back from friends in my 20's and never bothered with them again. Then I started to find out the truth about the character assassination they used to do on each other including me.
One person who I thought was my best friend in my early 20's and was in college and working part time. I always bought lunch and helped out because I was working full time. He turned round to me one day and declared "Oh I'm buying a house."
"How an earth can you buy a house?" I asked
"Oh I managed to save up £40K for the deposit."
Yeah he had been giving everyone the pity story and living of us and stashing his cash for a few years. Once he got the house he started lording it over everyone.
I just walked away from that friendship!!
No family and hardly any friends and very happy.
Imagine waking up on a Saturday morning and being able to do whatever you fancy without anyone criticising, demanding or giving you a guilt trip. Also another big deal is it's my money, my house and I will do whatever i please.
Life was never meant to be lived all alone, we just live in dark times.
Correction. We are living in the END TIMES
Most people just suck in this timeline.
@@SC-gw8np 😔 It makes me sad that you think that. I can definitely relate, but there are good people out there, I promise.
Very true. Still...being alone is perfectly fine as we are never truly alone. God's watching over us all.
@@ninawestlake5005 It’s not just about God watching over us but being one as Christ and the Father are one and loving one another as he loved us.
“The rich have many friends” 😂😂😂
😒🤪
@@SanDiegoBiz I don't know how to make good money I'd rather be broke then constantly look behind my back for traitors u know
@@SanDiegoBiz ppl are after ppl with money alot of the time not poor brokies like me
@@SanDiegoBiz life sucks
Being young is such a blessing. Now I'm 59 I know.
With all due respect what age would you say is the peak of youth and what age would you say youth ends? Thank you.
@@insanoibro6331 I'm in my 60's and it's all down hill after 30. Each decade your body gets worse. As for "youth' that's a mental thing. If you stay young at heart things will look differently to you.
@@insanoibro6331 I'm 62. You asked "what is the peak of youth and what age does youth end?" What do you mean by "peak"? "Peak" in what sense? If you mean biologically, it's probably around your mid-20s, and you probably can't say you are "young" (biologically) once you hit 30" If you mean "peak" financially or materially, then it's probably in your 40s or 50s. If you mean "peak" in terms of your ability to attract women, it's probably about 40. If you mean "peak" in terms of your own personal happiness or contentment, I'd say it's 60+. Or at least, that's how it's been for me. As you get older, you don't have the physique and energy that you used to, but you have learned a lot, grown so much in confidence and competence, become able to set aside so much Bullshit that plagues the young, and after a lot of false starts and mistakes, you build a good life for yourself. That's been my experience, anyhow.
@@Arven8 thanks for the response sir. I'm almost in my mid twenties almost 24 just feel like it's getting late to really turn my life around before im stuck in my bad habits.
@@insanoibro6331 Never too late! I'm still working on breaking myself of bad habits and I'm 62, lol.
Me too.. people like us want inner peace… not like we detached ourselves from people…. Life is so stressful nowadays…. We just love to be alone peacefully… just free… and it feels good… it heals my soul…
I have 3 friends at 58 years old. My life is drama free. I rarely feel lonely.
WINNERS ALWAYS HAVE NO FRIENDS!! MOST OF IT IS PEOPLE ARE JEALOUS AF! LETSGOOOO
Now there's a cope.
We have 3 children and our middle son was always a loner. Never was invited for birthdays and had to deal with racism. When I talked about it with him, he didn't seem to care at all. Now there are some children who like him and wants to play with him, but he is just better off alone. And one time when I was painting and at the same time watching tutorials, he was watching tv and playing with his lego, drawing and sometimes in his bedroom to live in his fantasy world like pretending he's a hero, that he can fly etc. he told me "Mama. These are my happiest moments." He didn't felt pressure from me that we HAVE to do something, like my husband always wants to do things with us: games, playing music, going out for a walk. And that is a good thing of course. But I also discovered that I prefer just to be alone because deep in my heart I'm a loner too.
When you can truly be @ peace & content with yourself.. you become more powerful & resilient.
Isolation is addicting. Your name becomes less involved in confusion and drama. I became much happier when I stopped communicating with people. Most of my stress came from having friends and communicating to regularly with family.
I literally have no friends, not one, nobody to talk to and no family
Talk to people online if youre lonely, you're honestly better off with virtual relationships than real ones these days.
ITS HARD DURING HOLIDAYS
blessings Rebekah
Me too, but life is more peaceful thanks to this. I can't believe I am saying this, but it's true, online relationships are often better than real life ones. When you find good people online, they are more kind and nurturing than people in real life in my experience.
As a 65-year-old man I have no friends. Nobody that I’m really close to. Of course I have distant acquaintances and family that live in other states towns, etc. that I occasionally talk to. But other than that I spend most of my time working and or alone. recently, I adopted a rescue dog, and I know that when she looks into my eyes, she loves me with her entire heart and soul. There is nothing more that I need.
People area drain, and a waste of time!
Thank you for your honest video. You will not follow the herd just to have company. You will follow interests and pursuits that will help you grow as a person and this will bring you into the company of people also on a self-improvement path and you will make friends. I can count friends and family on the fingers of my left hand and I waited many years for the right people to come into my life. I don’t have many but they are loyal.
You are a very strong person and you are realising that it’s quality not quantity that counts. I wish you all the best that life can bring you
After being divorced I have no friends and only 1 family member left who lives 1000 miles away. I feel isolated and alone, but I'm trying to make the best of it. Never drank, did drugs or smoked. Only focus on survival each day.
Same happened to me nine years ago. It will be fine. Use work as your social time if you can and be friendly to the store workers when you go out. You don't need permanent people just occasional conversation. Eventually you will find that someone to be with a few days a week. Enjoy your "self" time. Do what you want. It becomes your life.
Can I be your friend? If you don't mind... I am lonely but I try to survive everyday and try to be positive. Enjoy everyday and be happy as you can be !
Move to the beach , smoke 🥦
Ftw 😂
Try to reframe not having family or friends and being in survival mode by telling yourself you get a blank slate, no toxic people wanting to shame you for your past. You can reinvent yourself and be whoever you want to be.
@@Kelly-oe8kr That's a great way to look at it. Thank you.
I met both sides of my family as an adult... I love being alone, I ditched all of my friends and cut everyone off and left my home state Florida. My world is free. I love being alone. I don't wanna date. I don't want any friends either.
Bless you. ❤
Best decision
So sad life 😞
You sound like my groomsmen. I moved away to Florida from Jersey.
I try to reach out to them for over a decade. Would talk to them through FB messenger when ever they " felt " like it. I got really sick and needed friends, family to just care about me. They were nowhere to be found. It was like " like you claimed " my issues and troubles felt like " drama " to them. So what they really did, was neglect me. I even got divorced bc I moved to Florida while my ex wife was whoring around doing her internships.
I think most of you are just covert narcissists. That used " friends" til life got harder and yall wanted to bounce lol 😆
Like the moment yall get sick, THATS when you start having thoughts of wishing you had friends or family lol
Many of you remind me of emotional un intelligent weasles lol 😆
I'll explain more in detail. It's not " social media " it's not " society "
It's unaware humans in low vibration who neglect, who have zero tolerance, who have major ego issues. And we cause trauma to each other litterly for no reason other than being a scum bag human.
The fact i could EASILY be any of your friends. With out " drama " and even if a friend asked you for ur advice and now you think that's drama helping a friend out bc you think it's " negative " is so childish lol 😆 the fact you people are " stuck " not ever forming friendships yet yall can be Dr's is crazy to me. Lol
Your not listening, it can be anything but sad.@@nilcesilva4612
Very truth. It's better to be alone with yourself to cultivate self-improvement that will lead to peace and happiness than in a toxic environment that distracts and sabotages your growth. Congrats Martin for coming to this realization.
I've had 23 solo birthdays and Christmases since the last of my family died and friends have either predeceased me or moved away: although I wouldn't wish these circumstances on anyone, if I get 'down' I remember that there are people all over the world who don't even have what I have, so what am I moaning about? Yes, I'd love to have a loving partner, close family and huge circle of friends but I can't magic these into my life so I do the next best thing - be of service to those less fortunate than even me. And that sustains me.
Finally someone who thinks the same, i like to socialize a little as a human, but I don’t like to be close to ppl and have them in my house.
I use to be social having many friends but one by one they all started to fall off when I decided to do something with my life. Now looking back, all of them were envious of me sneaking in these subliminal disses when we hang out.
Now a days I feel so emotionally rejuvenated and refreshing. Zero care of these fake MF’s who were never a true friend to begin with..Btw when you cut yourself out of these people’s life, the feelings of not giving a F’k gives you all the powers! You control the game because they don’t know which direction to attack you 🙌🏼
"There's positive and negative things about being alone." Very true.
We are not alone. I am walking with Christ, focusing on goals which I am accomplishing 1 at a time. I don't focus on fitting in with the masses. And yes, I have joy and the peace that surpasses understanding.
It’s all good bro most of my family turned on me life seems to be better when your alone
Why? Are you a criminal and evil?
This has been happening for decades to be honest. I’m over 50, alone but not lonely. No super close friends, because female friends in particular have stabbed me in the back or let me down far too many times. I see a few longtime friends and family sparingly. I’m at peace, content and happy. ♥️
I so agree with you. I used to be pretty codependent and not liking to ever be alone, until a series of unfortunate events forced me to be literally alone with no friends no job no anything for probably about almost a good year and being alone like that and losing every possession I had and almost homeless Was the hardest best thing I ever went through because I learned to like myself and I learned my boundaries and what I want and what I don't, Iwhat I will put up with and what I wont. And I learned now that I'm in a complete opposite place in my life I know that I could lose everything again and I'd be just fine because I've already survived it! And you learn a lot about yourself and a lot of reflecting and you find your "why" or what drives you in life. And I'm back around three important people and even that is hard for me a lot because I'm a very compassionate caring person, but the stress and drama that they bring is a lot for me after being in a place that I could cut out the issues. So I think this is a good channel. He sounds like he going up from a positive mindset and I wish the best for everyone on this channel and in the comments
I am turning 50 years old and these word really touched me. I have been very happy all my life and felt joy being alone. Yes I’m married and have acquaintances but I don’t have a bestie, bro, or BFF type. My wife is concerned I don’t socialize with others the way she does. I don’t even talk to my mother, father or sister much and it mutual because we are there for each other if needed. People need to realize that some humans just function better alone.
Friends are a positive thing, but not anyone of the world. That is the problem, the world is vibrating at a lower level to me, filled with hate, sexual imorality, corruption and all the rest. With no immediate family I walk alone, but not alone as God fills the void. You walk with God he fills your heart with peace and with peace you are happy, content.
Yes!! I just posted a comment bout low level vibration. I litterly know it's just human failures.
Amen 💯
Amen 🙏🏾
Ever since I been on my self love journey after a toxic ex girlfriend broke my heart I been rocking solo and I saw all my so called friends disappeared when I started putting myself first. Best thing I ever did. I’m in better shape than I was before. My creativity has gone through the roof. I love myself more than I ever did in my teenage years or ever. My happiness has skyrocketed. I could go on and on. And there’s a huge difference in being alone and being lonely. Even around a crowd of people I felt more lonely than when I was by myself
same