All the bs that I hear on CZcams with virtue signaling “inspirational speeches”, this was the only one I genuinely resonated with and really needed to hear right now. Thank you to whoever this man is ❤️
You can read any number of books, you can attain any height of education, you can acquire as many degrees as you like but you can not acquire wisdom by any means other than time. Such is the quandary of man, by the time you gain enough wisdom to grasp life and really begin to understand things it's almost too late to matter.
What a truly profound statement. We can go through time living our lives not realizing who and what we are missing but in the end as much as you want to you can’t go back.
He's absolutely right, and I practiced this up until recently when everything started becoming outrageously expensive. Life is more expensive now. Many of us have no choice but to work longer and harder not just to get ahead, but just to hang on to what we have ALREADY worked hard for. It's a burden we take on not by choice, but out of fear. Trust me, we hope the tunnel is short and there's light at the end of it sooner rather than later.
True happiness in life is having enough time to spend with family and friends. Everything else is less important because the only thing one can't bring back is time that's passed. Unfortunately, most of us realize it only in late stages of our lives when not much can be relived.
Nearly 39 and I wish I had made better decisions. I feel so alone and unloved. I promised myself after cancer treatment I would not waste it. Now I feel trapped.
You are only 39! Believe me, that's nothing, you are still so young! You've still got plenty of time to turn your life around and create a life that makes you happy. Trust me. All is not lost!
He's 100% correct. Work to live, don't live to work. Enjoy life a little bit each day, because once time is gone, you never get it back. Things are just things, money comes and goes, joy is priceless.
I agree that you should follow your dreams, but dreams without goals are just dreams. I also think that you should take time to enjoy the little things in life, like Robert Duval in lonesome dove said, a cold glass of butter milk
EXQUISITELY and POIGNANTLY said! I adore adults that are playful; I'm one of them. It is utterly beautiful to meet those rare strangers who are approachably friendly and kind - who express their joy openly without embarrassment. Yes, use extreme caution on who you allow into your life and trust yourself when things go wrong. I struggle alone, but I'm rediscovering simple joys from my childhood that I practice as often as I can. I'd love a partner in crime - fun!
He’s not wrong .. the shift is .. he has 80 years of experience and because the brain is designed to fine what’s wrong.. he is focusing on the lack over the 100% of life that was lived. Play IS important and as a performance strongman it’s my gift to the world.. and as a strategic intervention coach I I can tell you that we all feel the same way this 80 yr old does .. if we choose to focus on it.. but when we choose to focus on the good? 80 years of memories .. what a gift.
Be driven to work hard but take some time also stop and appreciate life. It is the balance that makes someone happy I dont think that we will get a price or that we will be proud when we age. So that is the point of everybody choosing their own way of living and setting their own goals.
I'd say it depends on what "working hard" means. If it means working 60+ hours making very little in a menial job, that's just being taken advantage of. If it means working 32-40 hours while being highly efficient, honing your skills in a higher level occupation, then that would be ideal, I feel.
This works both ways. True that it's important to appreciate life as we work through it, but also it would be a tragic waste of life to never realize your true potential having squandered the opportunities to achieve success. Balance and focus are both important.
As you get older and have less time on this earth, priorities shift and achieving full potential, imo means working to live, not living to work. To find joy in everything one does and to spend the precious time with the loved ones. Balance is the key and often this subconscious drive to justify our existence does not allow for the balance.
@@TG-po9vo I agree, but he is not speaking about his later years, he speaks of youth - "If I had it to do over again" and "I wish I hadn't worked so hard", is offering advice to a young person.
You just have to love Dr. Maté 💝 What an inspirational and emotionally intelligent human being 😮 One of the few people "out there" worth listening to. When he recited the last words of the book, it brought tears to my eyes too!
Balance is important. Yours and mine are both different. Nobody is wrong and nobody is right. Why the quandary? Why doubt yourself as that ship has faced countless storms?
No one needs to validate their existence. Enjoy your life now as much as you can. Don't feel guilty at all. Let go and make the best of what you have 😉
Jesus Christ that alone sentence is what i feel like i have been feeling all my life like i need to justify my existence like i have a purpose but in the words of alan watts so many people get so caught up in the process of achieving something greater then themselves that they forget that the simplicity of life is just to live
מהמם. ערבבו קמטים, מוזיקה נוגה ותובנה בשני שקלים וקיבלתם אלפי צפיות. אין לי ספק - אף אחד לא יודע שהוא צריך חופש לפעמים, תודה לאל על הקליפ המדהים הזה, שינה את חיי בשנייה.
Absooolutley. Ya know. I have a background in classical music. Competitive field. My goal in the past was to be the greatest guitarist in the world. I did my studies at the top conservatories in Europe. Was an amazing experience though. I started with passion bit whole there for a time I started trying to justify my existence with it. At the end of the day that pursuit will leave you cold. What you wanna do is - do the things that when you get old you'll be happy you experienced them. For me that is generally being healthy and living a lifestyle i love. It's not always about ignoring finding meaning but finding meaning in a path you like. For me as a guy in his early 30s and fit women are a big part of my life. Beautiful women have always been some of my greatest memories and enjoyments. Also family. Parents being happy is a big thing. These things far outweigh and Lamborghini or mansion.
My ex is an entrepreneur, she could really benefit from watching this, we could have had that joyous life together, instead she was disappointed in herself for not going after a millionaire. It would be on and off, the next day she'd question why I'm not happy in the relationship and ask me to just leave. Finally I left and she has tried to call and text to get me to come back. Unless she understands the ideas of this video, she's never going to be happy and that's sad.
I think this particular regret is probably quite common among older men. I am pretty sure my own father probably had the same regret, but in the '50s and '60s men were the breadwinners, so to speak. They had to work extra hard to pay the bills and fulfill the needs of their families. They did what they had to do. What they probably didn't or don't realize is that their loved ones still love them regardless.
We should regret every morning, every evening, every second, minute, hour, day, week, month we failed to give Glory to God, to praise his Holy Name or at least stayed in prayers to hear his Voice for guidance. Everything God wants us to know is written down in the Holy Scriptures. To regret something is when we want to make Peace with Our Father.
I’m a bit of the opposite. After those grueling years in dental school I’ve finally made it and now I’m taking it easy and I’m happy but it makes me think sometimes should I start climbing again?
well, seems that old guy wasn't even aware how important belongingness to people he loves until he read the book at age 80 you guys are pretty much the same, i presume.
That guy did not miss anything ! Everyone chosen and blind to other choice we never know end of the road of choice "B" becuase we went to choice "A" and found choice "A" not perfect maybe nice and alright... And you know what choice "B" at the end is "not petfect maybe nice and alright too!" Every choice dose ! No perfect choice , ONLY real bad bad bad choice that is real You did not miss anything !
It’s not childhood trauma. It’s adult realities. You have bills, rainy days to protect against, competition you have to win or be shunned. People tend to know what’s best. Plenty of work people have unrewarding party/personal lives, but that doesn’t necessarily mean those aspects of their life would substantially improve if they worked less, so they’re better off working. Similarly, plenty of party people or relationship people don’t get that much from work/aren’t going to get life changing money or social services or personal reward from it, so they’re better off living for the fun times.
Well I’m 50, I’ve worked from 17 full time in various fields. I’ve served my country overseas, I’ve raised 4 sons. If I stopped to play, they don’t have a home. My existence is to work and provide for them. Moreover, if the governments stopped mismanaging the economy I might be able to play with them. Cost of living today… who can afford to stop?
74 years old and regret nothing but getting caught in 1969 and catching a felony conviction. Maybe I should have stuck up more drug stores in the sixties other than that no regrets.
Every soul will taste death. And you will only receive your full reward on the Day of Judgment. Whoever is spared from the Fire and is admitted into Paradise will ˹indeed˺ triumph, whereas the life of this world is no more than the delusion of enjoyment. (Qur’an 3:185)
I regret everything I did which was not fair towards God; that I was depressed, that I had sex before marriage, that I was not good to my little brother. People are so stupid when they regret they did not have enough fun. When this life is a split second and next Life It s for ever.
And how about making money? Sustain a living? Taking care of our family and kids? Money dont just fall from the sky to 99.99% of the people in this planet. If we dont do that, a bigger, negative impact it would bring to our future lives. Work play balance is always a lie to people of that age.
Actually disagree to a certain extent , people work hard and long and sacrifice to validate to the employer eating, having a roof over their heads and their children. Maybe even being hopeful of a brighter future for their offspring
And then the offspring does the same thing, and the offspring of the offspring does the same thing. Then what's the point? To hope that somewhere down the line your watered out DNA is thriving in the year 3215? I understand what you are trying to say, i do appreciate what my parents did for me, and surely will do for my own children. But this man is asked what HE regrets. He worked to much, and was to driven. Essentially that's just a better meal or a fancier roof over your children's head vs spending the day, the week, or the month with your son or daughter.
@@frankdramli2151I understand what you are saying and i understand his personal opinion but I disagree with it because it is a very polyanish kind of view. For him the sacrifice made were for transitional rewards better car, house, etc. And in a sense he is right all rewards are, because there is death - the prince and the pauper bears this. From a societal point of view he is a prince, he has status, recognition to a certain extent and probably has left a legacy of opportunity to his offspring etc. but for others - (paupers) just being able to have the next generation survive is a win and their answers will be different . For example the poor/ dowtrodden in countries like India or Latin America, Caribbean may answer quite different because they are still on shaky ground with the only hope being the next generation i a dangerous society that crushes those on the ladder (and there is no escape from the ladder, except for the poor to be fodder for the rich)
Its all part of life. There is no right way too live. The most valuable thing you can have in life is being grateful for what you have now, since history is fiction and the future doesnt excist. You only have now.
One decision changed my entire life for the worse.
Be *very* careful with your decisions, especially the people you allow into your life.
Amen.
Same
Do not be misled: bad company corrupts good character.
I did that too !! took the wrong path ! Sorry I did ,but we can't go back and choose again ,we must forgive ourselves and others ❤
Things always get better !
That's Gabor Maté. Amazing guy, great books, speeches and interviews.
I hope I look that young when I reach 80. And he makes an equally youthful and wise point.
It's the hair
All the bs that I hear on CZcams with virtue signaling “inspirational speeches”, this was the only one I genuinely resonated with and really needed to hear right now. Thank you to whoever this man is ❤️
His name's Gabor mate, he's a Holocaust survivor and a pro Palestinian.
@@Sukunaglazer12 No, he es an excellent psychiater...
@@fifikusz search up, he's a pro Palestinian.
You can read any number of books, you can attain any height of education, you can acquire as many degrees as you like but you can not acquire wisdom by any means other than time. Such is the quandary of man, by the time you gain enough wisdom to grasp life and really begin to understand things it's almost too late to matter.
It takes a long time for us to have the wisdom that we were born with as children.
Stated to perfection pal!
What a truly profound statement. We can go through time living our lives not realizing who and what we are missing but in the end as much as you want to you can’t go back.
He's absolutely right, and I practiced this up until recently when everything started becoming outrageously expensive. Life is more expensive now. Many of us have no choice but to work longer and harder not just to get ahead, but just to hang on to what we have ALREADY worked hard for. It's a burden we take on not by choice, but out of fear. Trust me, we hope the tunnel is short and there's light at the end of it sooner rather than later.
Agree..your last statement struck me
This is unexpectedly beautiful. He is right of course. Joy is so important!
Joy is the strength of God!!
“Being driven by unconscious needs to validate your existence, and where does that come from?” Well said Sir :)
No one ever has been quoted when dying. : I'm glad I worked all that Overtime"
True happiness in life is having enough time to spend with family and friends. Everything else is less important because the only thing one can't bring back is time that's passed. Unfortunately, most of us realize it only in late stages of our lives when not much can be relived.
The glory of a young man is his strength while the glory of an old man is his wisdom.
Nearly 39 and I wish I had made better decisions. I feel so alone and unloved. I promised myself after cancer treatment I would not waste it. Now I feel trapped.
You are only 39! Believe me, that's nothing, you are still so young! You've still got plenty of time to turn your life around and create a life that makes you happy. Trust me. All is not lost!
Such a beautiful man. The world will be a much poorer place without Gabor
Winnie the Pooh is a great teacher. I learned a lot from him and his friends.❤
He's 100% correct. Work to live, don't live to work. Enjoy life a little bit each day, because once time is gone, you never get it back. Things are just things, money comes and goes, joy is priceless.
I agree that you should follow your dreams, but dreams without goals are just dreams. I also think that you should take time to enjoy the little things in life, like Robert Duval in lonesome dove said, a cold glass of butter milk
EXQUISITELY and POIGNANTLY said! I adore adults that are playful; I'm one of them. It is utterly beautiful to meet those rare strangers who are approachably friendly and kind - who express their joy openly without embarrassment. Yes, use extreme caution on who you allow into your life and trust yourself when things go wrong. I struggle alone, but I'm rediscovering simple joys from my childhood that I practice as often as I can. I'd love a partner in crime - fun!
Being a work-driven workaholic is never a good way to live. BALANce is key to everything-work-play-etc.
Most humans recognize too late what is life about.Not money.Familly and people that you love is the most important for me.Life is too short.
This hits home so much. I feel his every word and filly agree with him on this…
He’s not wrong .. the shift is .. he has 80 years of experience and because the brain is designed to fine what’s wrong.. he is focusing on the lack over the 100% of life that was lived. Play IS important and as a performance strongman it’s my gift to the world.. and as a strategic intervention coach I I can tell you that we all feel the same way this 80 yr old does .. if we choose to focus on it.. but when we choose to focus on the good? 80 years of memories .. what a gift.
Be driven to work hard but take some time also stop and appreciate life.
It is the balance that makes someone happy
I dont think that we will get a price or that we will be proud when we age. So that is the point of everybody choosing their own way of living and setting their own goals.
I'd say it depends on what "working hard" means. If it means working 60+ hours making very little in a menial job, that's just being taken advantage of. If it means working 32-40 hours while being highly efficient, honing your skills in a higher level occupation, then that would be ideal, I feel.
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@@tylerbenjamin3842❣️
@@tylerbenjamin3842 agreed
@@tylerbenjamin3842it's different for everyone
This works both ways. True that it's important to appreciate life as we work through it, but also it would be a tragic waste of life to never realize your true potential having squandered the opportunities to achieve success. Balance and focus are both important.
As you get older and have less time on this earth, priorities shift and achieving full potential, imo means working to live, not living to work. To find joy in everything one does and to spend the precious time with the loved ones. Balance is the key and often this subconscious drive to justify our existence does not allow for the balance.
@@TG-po9vo I agree, but he is not speaking about his later years, he speaks of youth - "If I had it to do over again" and "I wish I hadn't worked so hard", is offering advice to a young person.
Make yourself rich!Enjoy life!
You just have to love Dr. Maté 💝 What an inspirational and emotionally intelligent human being 😮 One of the few people "out there" worth listening to. When he recited the last words of the book, it brought tears to my eyes too!
Balance is important. Yours and mine are both different. Nobody is wrong and nobody is right. Why the quandary? Why doubt yourself as that ship has faced countless storms?
What a legend. Always soulful and to the point. Leading thinker❤
No one needs to validate their existence. Enjoy your life now as much as you can. Don't feel guilty at all. Let go and make the best of what you have 😉
Greetings from SoCal. So articulate and sincere. Great short video, glad I watched it. 👍👍👍
Jesus Christ that alone sentence is what i feel like i have been feeling all my life like i need to justify my existence like i have a purpose but in the words of alan watts so many people get so caught up in the process of achieving something greater then themselves that they forget that the simplicity of life is just to live
מהמם. ערבבו קמטים, מוזיקה נוגה ותובנה בשני שקלים וקיבלתם אלפי צפיות. אין לי ספק - אף אחד לא יודע שהוא צריך חופש לפעמים, תודה לאל על הקליפ המדהים הזה, שינה את חיי בשנייה.
Absooolutley. Ya know. I have a background in classical music. Competitive field. My goal in the past was to be the greatest guitarist in the world. I did my studies at the top conservatories in Europe. Was an amazing experience though. I started with passion bit whole there for a time I started trying to justify my existence with it. At the end of the day that pursuit will leave you cold. What you wanna do is - do the things that when you get old you'll be happy you experienced them. For me that is generally being healthy and living a lifestyle i love. It's not always about ignoring finding meaning but finding meaning in a path you like. For me as a guy in his early 30s and fit women are a big part of my life. Beautiful women have always been some of my greatest memories and enjoyments. Also family. Parents being happy is a big thing. These things far outweigh and Lamborghini or mansion.
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Nah bruh I'm not a bot lol. And not looking for cpmments. Just speaking truth
As a man child I agree
I keep watching this.
My ex is an entrepreneur, she could really benefit from watching this, we could have had that joyous life together, instead she was disappointed in herself for not going after a millionaire. It would be on and off, the next day she'd question why I'm not happy in the relationship and ask me to just leave. Finally I left and she has tried to call and text to get me to come back. Unless she understands the ideas of this video, she's never going to be happy and that's sad.
an interviewer asked actor Paul Newman the same question Newman said I wouldn't have worked so hard
Every person facing death says the same thing - historically.
Chldhood trauma can quickly convert an innocent child into an Adult cautious of risks and danger.
I always put fun first ❤
no words👏
Wise man ✨
I never did that mistake and I m so grateful for it and so are my kids.
Wow ...
💗
If kids are what justify your existence, then one would be righteous to assume no human being is self-justifiable....
I get you❤️🌺
I think this particular regret is probably quite common among older men. I am pretty sure my own father probably had the same regret, but in the '50s and '60s men were the breadwinners, so to speak. They had to work extra hard to pay the bills and fulfill the needs of their families. They did what they had to do. What they probably didn't or don't realize is that their loved ones still love them regardless.
💯.
U can work hard for ur family just balance your time or give them time
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Wow
We should regret every morning, every evening, every second, minute, hour, day, week, month we failed to give Glory to God, to praise his Holy Name or at least stayed in prayers to hear his Voice for guidance. Everything God wants us to know is written down in the Holy Scriptures.
To regret something is when we want to make Peace with Our Father.
I’m a bit of the opposite. After those grueling years in dental school I’ve finally made it and now I’m taking it easy and I’m happy but it makes me think sometimes should I start climbing again?
This is why I like not working farting on my couch and eating Wendy’s !
Some people prefer working - they find socialising stressful - everyone is different
well, seems that old guy wasn't even aware how important belongingness to people he loves until he read the book at age 80
you guys are pretty much the same, i presume.
well he didn't really say anything about socializing. He said to spend time with the people you love - wife, kids , family.
Well, looks like I am doing at least one thing right :D
He's right
Bidenomics has me working my balls off just to afford groceries so i wish i could follow this advice
❤️🙌🤲
That guy did not miss anything !
Everyone chosen and blind to other choice we never know end of the road of choice "B" becuase we went to choice "A" and found choice "A" not perfect maybe nice and alright...
And you know what choice "B" at the end is "not petfect maybe nice and alright too!"
Every choice dose !
No perfect choice , ONLY real bad bad bad choice that is real
You did not miss anything !
I came from reels
It’s not childhood trauma. It’s adult realities. You have bills, rainy days to protect against, competition you have to win or be shunned. People tend to know what’s best. Plenty of work people have unrewarding party/personal lives, but that doesn’t necessarily mean those aspects of their life would substantially improve if they worked less, so they’re better off working. Similarly, plenty of party people or relationship people don’t get that much from work/aren’t going to get life changing money or social services or personal reward from it, so they’re better off living for the fun times.
Damn
Like the end of Toy Story 3.
This guy, Alan Watts and a combination of edibles and shrooms, helped me understand why I was using meth and helped me get off it.
Alan Watts is indeed worth hearing. And well done! 👍💚
What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare
Indeed! 👍
Of all sad words of tongue or pen,
The saddest are these, "It might have been."
Well I’m 50, I’ve worked from 17 full time in various fields. I’ve served my country overseas, I’ve raised 4 sons. If I stopped to play, they don’t have a home. My existence is to work and provide for them. Moreover, if the governments stopped mismanaging the economy I might be able to play with them. Cost of living today… who can afford to stop?
74 years old and regret nothing but getting caught in 1969 and catching a felony conviction. Maybe I should have stuck up more drug stores in the sixties other than that no regrets.
Being driven to succeed comes from childhood trauma? Ok bro.
Who is the man that Gabor is speaking with?
Dr. Chatterjee
@@connectwithgrowth Thank u!
If you're lower class: this makes no sense
If you're middle class: you'll soon understand
If you're upper class: this is spot on
whatever you say
You’ll soon understand…as if social mobility is a one way street. Lol
Every soul will taste death. And you will only receive your full reward on the Day of Judgment. Whoever is spared from the Fire and is admitted into Paradise will ˹indeed˺ triumph, whereas the life of this world is no more than the delusion of enjoyment. (Qur’an 3:185)
I regret everything I did which was not fair towards God; that I was depressed, that I had sex before marriage, that I was not good to my little brother.
People are so stupid when they regret they did not have enough fun. When this life is a split second and next Life It s for ever.
Lol this couldn t be more relevant I am here just waiting to die
Someone told me all that’s important is to find a job that will provide for your family eight hours a day and come home to your family.BTW I’m 78 yo.
And how about making money? Sustain a living? Taking care of our family and kids? Money dont just fall from the sky to 99.99% of the people in this planet. If we dont do that, a bigger, negative impact it would bring to our future lives. Work play balance is always a lie to people of that age.
Just realised after a lifetime pursuing worldly desires/pursuits , he has nothing fullfilling to show for it !
Hard work never killed anyone. I 'm not taking any chances though.
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Tell that to the japanese or Korean
@@corniel657 I would if it didn't seem like a lot of effort.
So much bull in the comments. Cant you guys just listen without jumping to conclusions for five minutes?
Actually disagree to a certain extent , people work hard and long and sacrifice to validate to the employer eating, having a roof over their heads and their children. Maybe even being hopeful of a brighter future for their offspring
Could be. But I imagine many of us are chasing unnecessary goals while scarifying joy too much. This definitely resonated with me
And our valued destiny ,very often ,comes to nothing .
Depends on their blue print for life. Nobody works without reason but we all have regret when we chose to find it.
And then the offspring does the same thing, and the offspring of the offspring does the same thing. Then what's the point? To hope that somewhere down the line your watered out DNA is thriving in the year 3215?
I understand what you are trying to say, i do appreciate what my parents did for me, and surely will do for my own children. But this man is asked what HE regrets. He worked to much, and was to driven. Essentially that's just a better meal or a fancier roof over your children's head vs spending the day, the week, or the month with your son or daughter.
@@frankdramli2151I understand what you are saying and i understand his personal opinion but I disagree with it because it is a very polyanish kind of view. For him the sacrifice made were for transitional rewards better car, house, etc. And in a sense he is right all rewards are, because there is death - the prince and the pauper bears this.
From a societal point of view he is a prince, he has status, recognition to a certain extent and probably has left a legacy of opportunity to his offspring etc. but for others - (paupers) just being able to have the next generation survive is a win and their answers will be different . For example the poor/ dowtrodden in countries like India or Latin America, Caribbean may answer quite different because they are still on shaky ground with the only hope being the next generation i a dangerous society that crushes those on the ladder (and there is no escape from the ladder, except for the poor to be fodder for the rich)
He's not wrong, but if he didn't work his ass off he might've ended up broke at 80. That's the whole point, for better or worse.
No, the whole point is that what works is balance. Work AND play! Don't do too much of one at the expense of the other. That's what he's saying.
Yea winnie the pooh is good
My biggest regret was not helping the Germans and bin laden. Now we got Joe and trump 😢.
Becos he was a rich physician who gave his life the best financially. He suddenly feels bad cos he has a house and pension for feed him at 80.
Thanks for ruining it.
Its all part of life. There is no right way too live. The most valuable thing you can have in life is being grateful for what you have now, since history is fiction and the future doesnt excist. You only have now.