Yeah, I can see him asking to stop turning into a negotiating, guilt-tripping, gaslighting situation where they say things like WHADDYA MEAN, YOU DON'T WANNA BE THE BEST? They claim they can read their kid and know when to stop, but I kind of doubt the quality of their judgement.
That is exactly what happened to me, my dad pushed me way too hard. Nothing is ever enough. It's been tough building my self confidence up and seeing my self worth
I can tell u it leads to a very unhappy child, full of despair. My best friend killed herself because of pushy parenting and she was valedictorian of our highschool and successful in college.
I'm scared I'm going to lose my best friend the same way. I try to protect her, emotionally from her family's high expectations, but I feel like I need to try harder.
@@VanDowall I don’t get why some parents seem to think that when they become parents they’re probably a god they know everything when they don’t they’re still human
I get that you want to push your kids to be the best they can be, but if you push them to the point where losing is absolutely unacceptable, two thing can happen. One, when the kid becomes an adult he basically throws a big tantrum and hissy fit anytime he loses, even if is as something as simple as a card game. Or two, you I instill such a big fear of losing into a child, that they will try to win at any cost, even if cheating or worse is involved in that process.
People need to realize that this so-called "I want the best for you" can actually be toxic and abusive if you're not careful. That's why when children grow up they end up resenting their parents, because they were led to believe they will only be loved if they do what the parents want. And that's not ok.
What's sad is that my parents are just like these parents. Ever since I can remember my parents always pushed me to be the best, in sports, in school, everything. It's honestly hurt how I feel emotionally though, when I lose, or don't succeed at something I tell myself I'm not worthless, and my parents get angry with me. An example is when I got one 90 on my report card and my parents started yelling at me telling me I need to work harder, they took my phone away for one whole semester and wouldn't give it to me unless I got a 100 on my report card. I did end up getting an 100 but I wasn't truly happy with the person I am.
Same... my parents would be so angry with me with me if I don't get straight A's on every report card (well except pe i suck at pe) .... this has caused me to hate myself when I don't get an a in something. Whether it'd be small or big.😔
I have a friend that has super bad anxiety and says he's feels that it's because his parents pushed him too hard when he was growing up. Once we got to college he pretty much completely broke ties with them and doesn't plan on reconciling with them.
I know how it feels because i was pushed by my family too as i was growing up....i mean...i know they did this because they thought this was the best for me and they love me so i won't break ties...but i was always pushed to be the best student at school and "act like the genius i am"...but all i want is a simple happy life...i am a nervous wreck now as an adult and not even well socialized so now i do not know how to interact with other people properly...
A lot of times, this so-called "I want the best for you" crap actually does more harm than good. And people need to realize that it's not cute and stop getting love and control confused.
I hate the blond women -_- the kid is 5 !!!! Let him do what he wants !!!! Put him in activities he likes. I was never forced into anything I went to gymnastics and till this day I'm 27 and still love t and can still do it cuz I loved it. And was never forced. Same with swimming I been going since I was 7 and It came naturally to me but again till this day I love it ! I was just never pushed
Making them feel like crap after they lose is not helpful. I think kids need to learn how to lose correctly, but losing correctly means being ok with yourself if you make a mistake. If the kid feels bad every time he/she makes a mistake, they won't want to try anything new due to the fear of mistakes.
These parents need to take child development classes. Believe it or not there is a right and a wrong way to raise a child. Not allowing a child to cry and telling him he's a "crybaby" if he does is wrong, plain and simple. It is developmentally appropriate to cry at that age, in fact, crying to receive sadness, stress, and frustration is appropriate at all ages and it's actually good for you. Please, before you adopt a parenting style that is considered by others to be "extreme" read the research on it.
I know, only physical activity? If they want him to be successful, they need to help him with brain development and creativity by giving him options of music, art, theatre, etc.
They’re probably the kind of people who think art isn’t a good field to go into because it “doesn’t make good money” they want him to be good at sports because schools pour money onto athletes They only care about financial success, not personal or creative success
art is amazing right and so is music and basketball and stuff but they parents should really give the kid a break he'd like 3 he needs to make his own decisions one day and you really shouldn't tell a kid not to cry whether it is a boy or a girl it will make them all sad now and when they're grown up emotions are important people
I've heard of football teams who's coaches make them take ballet classes because it helps with balance. I'm a musical theatre major, and it upsets me how unsupportive some parents are of their kids who are interested in art.
If you cry your a baby ?? uh I’m 20 and still cry not because I’m a baby but because I’m a HUMAN. They’re not letting their kids be human. I * *disagree* with their parenting style 100%
“He’s gonna go to a good grad school.” Oh...oh no. She’s going to sob if he grows up and says he doesn’t want to be a doctor, engineer, or lawyer. Oh boy
“If you cry, you’re a baby” *It’s okay to cry sometimes, it really is. Sometimes you just need to let it out, holding it in isn’t good, I just hope Austin won’t let his parents take advantage of him* ❤️🥺
That’s what my parents did all my childhood, I’m now 13 and just got suspended and then expelled from my school. I cracked under the pressure. It’s borderline abuse
Austin's parents are obnoxious AF. When the dad said that they are taking a barometer reading of their child I thought maybe they aren't so bad. But then in the same breath he says that if they sense their child having trouble it gets "CORRECTED IMMEDIATELY." Smdh these people are not good parents. Not only that, mom and dad voth come off pretty shallow and narcissistic.
When I was younger, I did this to myself. I was in almost every extracurricular activity. I used to play a lot of sports, and I played two musical instruments. I burned out at about age 13 and became sad and unmotivated. I’m not saying this will necessarily happen to those kids, but I would still be cautious about it.
He will get to a point where the "no failing" attitude destroys him because he will never feel good enough for his parents. They are setting him up for failure by expecting him not to fail.
"crying makes you into a cry baby. You wanna be a cry baby?" THE FUCK?! Yeah, make the kid afraid of you, parents are supposed to teach, nurture, and raise their kids to be strong, not to be a dictator or be afraid. That's disgusting. It's ok not to be ok. But this, that's too far. He's a fucking toddler! Let him play with other kids and not be subjected to the life YOU want
You named over 3 subjects a day he has to complete to YOUR standards that are too high for him. He's 5 for fucks sake. "I don't think that's a lot" TO YOU! He's a little kid, he needs time to himself, free time when he doesn't feel like he's gonna be judged for not being "good enough" by HIS OWN FUCKING PARENTS! It might not be "a lot" to you, but to a little kid, that's a lot on their shoulders. Kids shouldn't have to have anxiety from their parents. God, I can just see the depression and anxiety now
Pushing your kids to always give their best in everything they do is one thing, pushing them to be #1 because anything else is unacceptable is a very different thing.
Poor little boy, telling him that he is a baby if he cries .... what kind of insensitive person and tyrant he is going to become .... and though it is to teach some endurance and strength in children, we must alsor remain human and be nice and kind and sensitive.
A teacher told us the strongest man is the man who expresses his feelings and lets it out. The weakest man stores his feelings in and then explodes later on.
Mentally abusive. Teaching your kids that crying means you're weak, and that you need to be the best at all times to a small toddler that barely knows anything about subtraction is disgusting. Kids learn their own ways, and I can tell this kid needs a loving home and encouragement, not harboring and discipline when he doesn't do "better than what's expected"
It’s this type of parenting that caused my cousin to try to kill himself, he started failing school and stopped eating and didn’t care to do anything because it was never good enough for his parents expectations, so he just quit functioning under the pressure. His parents luckily realized the damage they’re doing and finally pulled back and let go quite a bit. He’s still struggling but he’s learning to grow but he still lives his life without knowing how to function doing things he enjoys and directing his own life, he just expects his life to be like a game of sims and his parents are the ones controlling it. It’s heartbreaking
The day my son was born, he was a miracle and I did not ever need to push him to be more than that. He is as much a miracle as the day he was born. I am so proud of my son, he is a compassionate and brilliant young adult. He excels in whatever he puts his mind to, and he knows how to PLAY and take a break.
they forget its about balance. being too focused on success and winning can be just as bad as being too lazy. theres a time for work and a time for play.
If children really want to do something. They’re naturally going to give 110% My parents wanted me to play the piano and made me practice all the time and I hated every second of it. When I found an activity that I liked I practice every chance I got.
The only problem I have with this is wanting your child to be a winner all the time. As much as you want to tell them, “sometimes you win, sometimes you lose”, the tone, attitude and way you guide your child speaks louder.
I had a pushy parent, and I ended up not doing anything close to what they wanted me to do. While it is okay to push your kids, you cannot live through them, nor can you expect them to not go through failure in life. They need to learn how to process what failure means. That it is okay to cry, that it’s okay to hurt. Failure means you tried. And these parents push just a tad to hard.
Honestly I wish my parents signed me up for extracurriculars. My parents allowed me to play the violin, but I wasn’t allowed to be in sports or anything like that, and I feel like I would’ve had friends in high school if they signed me up for even one of the extracurricular activities I asked to be in.
I disagree with pushy parents, especially when it comes to sports. If a child has a natural drive to excel in a sport and they have a competitive spirit, they'll do a lot better than a kid who is being forced to play.
Pushing kids is important but more important teaching them to appreciate who they are. Let their inner creativity shine and let them figure out while you guide them.Teach them to cry. Teach them to talk and express. Teach them to love unconditionally. When they love their inner self, they do good on their own
The same people who were going off about the radical unschooling parents are here screaming about these parents. You can't expect perfection from humanity, so however they want to raise their children, whether or not it comes back to bite, that's their ideals and goals.
Being extreme on either side is bad, that's why people are opposite, There's a good middle ground and these parents don't get it, the unschooling parents don't get it. That's what upsets people. They are way too extreme on both sides.
She is teaching her children that winning is everything. What happens when they meet someone they can not beat. They have a meltdown and metal issues because there own self worth is wrapped up in winning.
Push them too hard and they'll have no confidence. My parents don't push me to do stuff. I play 5 instruments participate in marching band, symphonic band, and jazz band, as well as do drama *BY CHOICE*. Don't force your kids to do something that they don't want to do.
The parents are pushing their child so far, and he is being taught to push as hard as he can, even if he has to suppress his emotions to achieve it, and even if he's burnt out, fatigued or doesn't want to. More success can come from taking breaks and letting out emotions. Even if Austen does become successful, he will probably be depressed and there will be a bigger problem.
ages newborn to 5 yrs make them feel loved, secured, have a routine, set limits, use words thank you / please, read , play, sing and introduce to music. After that it will be a breeze.
I started playing tennis at 13 and I have 3 trophies 1 metal for just being good and the best and my mom never pushed me yes she motivated me but never pushed me I could of gave up anytime I wanted to but I didn't you don't need pushing long as you believe in yourself honestly
If you are pushed to do good in school and get good grades, I don't think they'll learn much. If you try your hardest and don't get good grades, but learn alot, you'll be successful. This is just something I think. It's not fact.
Why do they feel they have to focus on the future? Why can’t you just live every day like it’s your last and enjoy the present? Like, duh, that’s why it’s a gift.
I am fifteen and one of six children and I’m the oldest outta all of them, and let me tell you this is not a good way of parenting. You have to remember children’s brains are still developing, whatever you do will influence them in some way. This child will either become someone who is an extremely sore loser, or he will become a pushy person to please and is all out rude to people. When this kid is in his teens he will probably rebel, and hate his parents. You have to be a little pushy with kids of course or they will grow up being spoiled, but you can’t be to pushy. Congratulate them on any good thing they do, but when the time come to be pushy don’t be afraid of that.
My mom was “pushy” as FUCK. Fast forward 25 years later, I graduated undergrad and law school from Ivy league universities and 2 full dean’s scholarships. “Pushy” parents rock.
Maybe. Maybe this may help a very select few. And I know my experience may differ and is probably less extreme than this. But mostly, if you push your kids too much, they break. I'm smart. I've never made anything but a 4.0 GPA and I'm almost finished with highschool. I dont need to be pushed because I know my future depends on my grades. My mom will tell me it's ok to make a B. But a B is not good enough for me. I love my mom. My dad however. He cares about my grades more than me. Urges me to do my homework even after he knows I've already done it. Urges me to study all night for my tests and quizzes. But I also have to get a good night's sleep, do a school sport, get a job, spend time with family, keep my grades up. And eventually, I stopped thinking of my dad in a good light. He became an asshole who expected the best out of me when I already pushed hard enough to be emotionally reliant on what grades I get. Because if I get a B, study harder, not good enough, pull that grade up, it's not like me. If I dont become his religion, worthless, piece of trash, wasted, all your mothers fault. Eventually I became deadened to his opinions and his strict rules because, why does his opinion even matter again? Why did it even matter in the first place? Even though I am the perfect child that did everything he asked, I am still not good enough. His house is cold and dreaded and filled with yelling. His opinion doesnt matter. What he wants doesn't matter. Because its MY life and i like to think I'm leading it down a damn good path. Dont be strict with your kids, because they'll just turn out like me. Cold, hardened and dead to anything you say, praise or nay. Don't push your kids until they break. Because that's a relationship you might not be able to repair. I've wanted to leave this god awful house for years and yet he, he doesnt seem to notice a fucking thing. And I dont think I've loved him like a father for a long, long time. Please. Please. Dont push your kids too hard. Because eventually, that kid will look at you with numb eyes and wonder why they ever cared. That kid will move on. That kid will leave you in favor of those who actually respected them. And years layer when you ask them 'what happened to us?'. They will respond as I stated above. 'I haven't loved you like a parent in a long, long time.' And it's all because you pushed them too hard. And they broke. Is this what you want? Signed, A child who was pushed too hard
I have no problem with what they are doing but sometimes, what they say might be hurtful to the child like "If you cry, you're a baby". To be honest, it is okay to cry. I just want them to do what they do, but be mindful of their child's feelings and make sure to remind him that if he wins or looses, they still love them.
Telling your kid they are a baby if they cry and giving it a negative connotation?! That’s shitty parenting. Sure, teaching your kids to be good sports is essential, but denying your kids natural emotional responses is horrible. It’s perfectly fine to be disappointed. It’s perfectly fine to cry because you’re disappointed. And, this is how we constantly grow:
To be honest, it depends on the kid when it comes to what parenting methods work and what doesn't. The way my parents were, I ought to have been a really rebellious kid who got into a lot of trouble out of the anger from how strict they were. But that wasn't who I was, I honestly don't believe my parents are the reason I did really good in school or never got into any serious trouble. I mean they definitely cared about me, I'm not trying to say that I don't love them or anything, it's just that I decided who I am and they didn't have much to do with that decision.
The son is either going to resent his mom or become a carbon copy of her, 'cause that's all he knows. I pray he'll grow up to be a loving dad and just explain to his kids, "It's one thing to do your best, but don't push so hard to be 'the best over everyone else.' I will love and respect you, unconditionally." Mom seems to believe there are only two kinds of people in the world: winners and losers.
This is not as an extreme example, but I always Remembered my mom teaching me that I could always push myself to be even “better”. Ever since I was 8 if I got one less grade letter than an A it was never a passionate kind “good job” it was more of a disappointed look followed by a “You can do better than that” from then on I only ever think on how much better I could’ve done to improve on results, even if it was pushing my limit. It’s not a healthy way to parent and it’s embarrassing these parents even want to show them yelling at their kid like that encouraging other parents to do the same. 🤦🏽♀️
This doesn’t work. I know a kid at my school, has ultra-pushy parents and has every academic achievement known to man. But is he happy? Hell no! He learned the square root of 5 trillion and 16 thousand but never learned how to make friends
You're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't. Just do what works for your family. There is not 1 perfect way to raise a child into a perfect human being. I see parents that care so much for their children. My parents were pushy, but they never hurt me in any way. I would get a 98% on my math exam and my dad would make a joke like, hey where did you lose those 2 points as a joke. And that made me want to do better. I'm not perfect, just like everyone else but I will raise my children exactly how I was raised.
I don’t know who wants this more, the kid or his parents. Although I’m all in for kids getting more opportunities and challenging new things. But the decision should be up to the kids not the parents. Adults tend to forget that you can only be a kid once and for a very short time and that being an adult is for a lifetime. These precious times can never be traded in for anything.
This is not about being a good sport, it’s all about the parents. Austin will spend his life trying to please his parents, but he will never be good enough.
This is what happens when you raise expectations. You gotta be lazy and sluggish about everything they want from you, rarely/barely do your chores (if you have any), make mostly C's and a few D's maybe the occasional B but never make more than 1 B at a time, and if you do you gotta make an extra D or two the next time. Always go to bed later than they want. Pretend to be slow/under performing (not too slow, just not fast) when you are showing what you've learned or what you know or can do. Seriously, if your parents think they can milk another molecule of effort or performance out of you, they will. You have to make them think you are entirely incapable of doing nearly anything they want you to do and that you could never improve. Another big thing though, is you can't push it too hard in the other direction or you could end up getting punished or even worse they might try to do something major to change your ways which could end up being worse. This is why you also have to make change slowly, and most importantly never show them your full potential. Once they see what you can do, anything less will result in scolding and punishment.
That little boy is going to hate his parents one day.
I already do.
+Jacob Castle I'm so sorry, is counseling going well?
I hate my maternal grandmother... bitch sent me half insane, left her 3.5 years ago, I think it's more than a phase of emo hatred of her
I win XD
Meredith Kavanagh 😂
And that kid is going to be your boss one day.
Austin will rebel. One of these days, he will rebel.
Or he will become like a snobby and have no friends because of his parents
It will probably happen when he reaches his tweens or teens XD
"If he says he wants to stop, then we'll stop." He hasn't said it, because he's afraid to tell you, Mom.
Yeah, I can see him asking to stop turning into a negotiating, guilt-tripping, gaslighting situation where they say things like WHADDYA MEAN, YOU DON'T WANNA BE THE BEST? They claim they can read their kid and know when to stop, but I kind of doubt the quality of their judgement.
Exactly.
Push them too hard and not care about their feelings that leads to hating themselves
That is exactly what happened to me, my dad pushed me way too hard. Nothing is ever enough. It's been tough building my self confidence up and seeing my self worth
NumNumNum same
And probably having a horrible relationship with their parents.
Exactly...
I can tell u it leads to a very unhappy child, full of despair. My best friend killed herself because of pushy parenting and she was valedictorian of our highschool and successful in college.
666 Horsepower I’m sorry for your loss.
I'm scared I'm going to lose my best friend the same way. I try to protect her, emotionally from her family's high expectations, but I feel like I need to try harder.
I want these parents to meet the unschooling parents lol
Audrey Vasquez yesssss
That would be the definition of chaos...
I need to see that.
Yeeeeessssss oh my god all their heads would explode at the same time
I would pay to see that
Audrey Vasquez can we do a mom swap with the unschooling and the pushy parents?? Lol
It's easy to see that these are very narcissistic parents living their lives through their children.
I was thinking exact same thing pushy parents are the kind of parents who want their kids to achieve what they didn’t achieve
Yeah you’re not wrong
Hes gonna snap one day and those parents are gonna be held responsible.
They wont because they will be his first victims.
It looked like he enjoyed it
LOCO808 noone will, they never blame the parents
Parents: "We're the adults. We know what's best." Guess again, you don't. Push him and he'll push back.
@@VanDowall I don’t get why some parents seem to think that when they become parents they’re probably a god they know everything when they don’t they’re still human
This kind of parenting becomes abusive too easily and the child ends up hating or even abandoning the parents
I get that you want to push your kids to be the best they can be, but if you push them to the point where losing is absolutely unacceptable, two thing can happen. One, when the kid becomes an adult he basically throws a big tantrum and hissy fit anytime he loses, even if is as something as simple as a card game. Or two, you I instill such a big fear of losing into a child, that they will try to win at any cost, even if cheating or worse is involved in that process.
***** Or they could get anxiety and/or depression
Or they don't try at all, cause better not try than try and lose
People need to realize that this so-called "I want the best for you" can actually be toxic and abusive if you're not careful. That's why when children grow up they end up resenting their parents, because they were led to believe they will only be loved if they do what the parents want. And that's not ok.
I didn't see any talk about pushing musical lessons on the kids. These kids look like they are going to grow up to be jerks.
They should rename this video "How to make your kid a jackass"
What's sad is that my parents are just like these parents. Ever since I can remember my parents always pushed me to be the best, in sports, in school, everything. It's honestly hurt how I feel emotionally though, when I lose, or don't succeed at something I tell myself I'm not worthless, and my parents get angry with me. An example is when I got one 90 on my report card and my parents started yelling at me telling me I need to work harder, they took my phone away for one whole semester and wouldn't give it to me unless I got a 100 on my report card. I did end up getting an 100 but I wasn't truly happy with the person I am.
Be who you are, not who they want you to be.
Mine are like that but I'm alright
Mine are like that too but I know they just want the best for me
My parents are the exact same. If my grade in a class is below a 95% I will be grounded
Same... my parents would be so angry with me with me if I don't get straight A's on every report card (well except pe i suck at pe) .... this has caused me to hate myself when I don't get an a in something. Whether it'd be small or big.😔
She literally told the FIVE YEAR OLD not to cry because people will call him a baby.
"He is going to be a fantastic man that day"
He sure will be, if you like Hitler of course.
I have a friend that has super bad anxiety and says he's feels that it's because his parents pushed him too hard when he was growing up. Once we got to college he pretty much completely broke ties with them and doesn't plan on reconciling with them.
I know how it feels because i was pushed by my family too as i was growing up....i mean...i know they did this because they thought this was the best for me and they love me so i won't break ties...but i was always pushed to be the best student at school and "act like the genius i am"...but all i want is a simple happy life...i am a nervous wreck now as an adult and not even well socialized so now i do not know how to interact with other people properly...
kevin 8039 he sounds white
A lot of times, this so-called "I want the best for you" crap actually does more harm than good. And people need to realize that it's not cute and stop getting love and control confused.
Austin will probably hate his parents one day
Or probably get depression.
remove the probably
I hate the blond women -_- the kid is 5 !!!! Let him do what he wants !!!! Put him in activities he likes. I was never forced into anything I went to gymnastics and till this day I'm 27 and still love t and can still do it cuz I loved it. And was never forced. Same with swimming I been going since I was 7 and It came naturally to me but again till this day I love it ! I was just never pushed
Jennifer Aguirre b
Jennifer Aguirre I mean I don’t think the answer is not pushing your kids at all lol
Jennifer Aguirre it’s woman
I mean you dont know he seems to like the golf and maybe he likes all the other sports you dont know that
Joyce Tucker wtf does blonde hair have to do with any of this💀
Making them feel like crap after they lose is not helpful. I think kids need to learn how to lose correctly, but losing correctly means being ok with yourself if you make a mistake. If the kid feels bad every time he/she makes a mistake, they won't want to try anything new due to the fear of mistakes.
V Cabrera so how are your adult children doing.?
When the mom missed the kick
She is like Bruh
These parents need to take child development classes. Believe it or not there is a right and a wrong way to raise a child. Not allowing a child to cry and telling him he's a "crybaby" if he does is wrong, plain and simple. It is developmentally appropriate to cry at that age, in fact, crying to receive sadness, stress, and frustration is appropriate at all ages and it's actually good for you. Please, before you adopt a parenting style that is considered by others to be "extreme" read the research on it.
Why no arts
I know, only physical activity? If they want him to be successful, they need to help him with brain development and creativity by giving him options of music, art, theatre, etc.
They’re probably the kind of people who think art isn’t a good field to go into because it “doesn’t make good money” they want him to be good at sports because schools pour money onto athletes
They only care about financial success, not personal or creative success
art is amazing right and so is music and basketball and stuff but they parents should really give the kid a break he'd like 3 he needs to make his own decisions one day and you really shouldn't tell a kid not to cry whether it is a boy or a girl it will make them all sad now and when they're grown up emotions are important people
I've heard of football teams who's coaches make them take ballet classes because it helps with balance. I'm a musical theatre major, and it upsets me how unsupportive some parents are of their kids who are interested in art.
If you cry your a baby ?? uh I’m 20 and still cry not because I’m a baby but because I’m a HUMAN. They’re not letting their kids be human. I *
*disagree* with their parenting style 100%
Mari & Gabi Takeover I’m 28, and I cry too. This poor child, they are setting him up for failure 😢
all work and no play makes johnny a dull boy
“He’s gonna go to a good grad school.”
Oh...oh no. She’s going to sob if he grows up and says he doesn’t want to be a doctor, engineer, or lawyer. Oh boy
“If you cry, you’re a baby”
*It’s okay to cry sometimes, it really is. Sometimes you just need to let it out, holding it in isn’t good, I just hope Austin won’t let his parents take advantage of him* ❤️🥺
0:34 how she gonna talk about pushing for success and teaching him when she can't even get the ball in the net
Wait till he gets one little taste of freedom… he's going to be wild and impossible to control
His future might be guaranteed, but what about just being a kid.
kid?*
His future isn't guaranteed. Pushing too hard can actually make the child less successful because of upcoming emotional problems.
WHO THE HELL WROTE IN PURPLE SCRIPT ON MY DAMN WHITEBOARD?!
Savannah Spanish dry board* “
(That’s what she called it)
These poor kids...
That’s what my parents did all my childhood, I’m now 13 and just got suspended and then expelled from my school. I cracked under the pressure. It’s borderline abuse
16 now big guy
Austin's parents are obnoxious AF. When the dad said that they are taking a barometer reading of their child I thought maybe they aren't so bad. But then in the same breath he says that if they sense their child having trouble it gets "CORRECTED IMMEDIATELY." Smdh these people are not good parents. Not only that, mom and dad voth come off pretty shallow and narcissistic.
You're suppsosed to let kids learn mistakes so they can grow from them and be a better person!
When I was younger, I did this to myself. I was in almost every extracurricular activity. I used to play a lot of sports, and I played two musical instruments. I burned out at about age 13 and became sad and unmotivated. I’m not saying this will necessarily happen to those kids, but I would still be cautious about it.
He will get to a point where the "no failing" attitude destroys him because he will never feel good enough for his parents. They are setting him up for failure by expecting him not to fail.
"crying makes you into a cry baby. You wanna be a cry baby?" THE FUCK?! Yeah, make the kid afraid of you, parents are supposed to teach, nurture, and raise their kids to be strong, not to be a dictator or be afraid. That's disgusting. It's ok not to be ok. But this, that's too far. He's a fucking toddler! Let him play with other kids and not be subjected to the life YOU want
You named over 3 subjects a day he has to complete to YOUR standards that are too high for him. He's 5 for fucks sake. "I don't think that's a lot" TO YOU! He's a little kid, he needs time to himself, free time when he doesn't feel like he's gonna be judged for not being "good enough" by HIS OWN FUCKING PARENTS! It might not be "a lot" to you, but to a little kid, that's a lot on their shoulders. Kids shouldn't have to have anxiety from their parents. God, I can just see the depression and anxiety now
Jami Christine exactly he should have time to be a kid
Pushing your kids to always give their best in everything they do is one thing, pushing them to be #1 because anything else is unacceptable is a very different thing.
Poor little boy, telling him that he is a baby if he cries .... what kind of insensitive person and tyrant he is going to become .... and though it is to teach some endurance and strength in children, we must alsor remain human and be nice and kind and sensitive.
A teacher told us the strongest man is the man who expresses his feelings and lets it out. The weakest man stores his feelings in and then explodes later on.
run kid and never look back
"So if you cry, you're a baby"
Yea, remember that when your kid won't talk to you anymore
Pushy and over protection parents are making there children weak
blind
this is sooo going to create some problems for that kid later in his life
Who else came here after watching “free Range children”
It is right on top of this video.
By pushy, do you mean like abusive? Cause if it's like that, damn I'm a be a millionaire
This mother is not abusive
he was talking about his own parents and yes she was slightly abusive. she was verbally abusive but its whatever.
Mentally abusive. Teaching your kids that crying means you're weak, and that you need to be the best at all times to a small toddler that barely knows anything about subtraction is disgusting. Kids learn their own ways, and I can tell this kid needs a loving home and encouragement, not harboring and discipline when he doesn't do "better than what's expected"
You are less likely to be successful with parents that are abusive. That doesn't mean you can't be successful.
It’s this type of parenting that caused my cousin to try to kill himself, he started failing school and stopped eating and didn’t care to do anything because it was never good enough for his parents expectations, so he just quit functioning under the pressure. His parents luckily realized the damage they’re doing and finally pulled back and let go quite a bit. He’s still struggling but he’s learning to grow but he still lives his life without knowing how to function doing things he enjoys and directing his own life, he just expects his life to be like a game of sims and his parents are the ones controlling it. It’s heartbreaking
The day my son was born, he was a miracle and I did not ever need to push him to be more than that. He is as much a miracle as the day he was born. I am so proud of my son, he is a compassionate and brilliant young adult. He excels in whatever he puts his mind to, and he knows how to PLAY and take a break.
they forget its about balance. being too focused on success and winning can be just as bad as being too lazy. theres a time for work and a time for play.
If children really want to do something. They’re naturally going to give 110%
My parents wanted me to play the piano and made me practice all the time and I hated every second of it.
When I found an activity that I liked I practice every chance I got.
The only problem I have with this is wanting your child to be a winner all the time. As much as you want to tell them, “sometimes you win, sometimes you lose”, the tone, attitude and way you guide your child speaks louder.
when he gets his freedom he's going to do a 180 and become a complete slob cause that's what he's never allowed to do
When you're rich and bored and try to make the "perfect" son.
I had a pushy parent, and I ended up not doing anything close to what they wanted me to do. While it is okay to push your kids, you cannot live through them, nor can you expect them to not go through failure in life. They need to learn how to process what failure means. That it is okay to cry, that it’s okay to hurt. Failure means you tried. And these parents push just a tad to hard.
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Honestly I wish my parents signed me up for extracurriculars. My parents allowed me to play the violin, but I wasn’t allowed to be in sports or anything like that, and I feel like I would’ve had friends in high school if they signed me up for even one of the extracurricular activities I asked to be in.
The kids seem sad
Which kids?
You mean the little Hitlers? Yea they do
Lord Cinnabon you watch Donald Glover?
I disagree with pushy parents, especially when it comes to sports. If a child has a natural drive to excel in a sport and they have a competitive spirit, they'll do a lot better than a kid who is being forced to play.
If my parents did that to me I would die. Just flop over like a dead fish as my body gives out.
Pushing kids is important but more important teaching them to appreciate who they are. Let their inner creativity shine and let them figure out while you guide them.Teach them to cry. Teach them to talk and express. Teach them to love unconditionally. When they love their inner self, they do good on their own
These parents are clueless.
Chloe looks like she was about to cry during that video chat.
The same people who were going off about the radical unschooling parents are here screaming about these parents. You can't expect perfection from humanity, so however they want to raise their children, whether or not it comes back to bite, that's their ideals and goals.
What's your point. both cases were extremes, which is why people complained about both
Being extreme on either side is bad, that's why people are opposite, There's a good middle ground and these parents don't get it, the unschooling parents don't get it. That's what upsets people. They are way too extreme on both sides.
Kat Leigh exactly
She is teaching her children that winning is everything. What happens when they meet someone they can not beat. They have a meltdown and metal issues because there own self worth is wrapped up in winning.
Push them too hard and they'll have no confidence.
My parents don't push me to do stuff.
I play 5 instruments participate in marching band, symphonic band, and jazz band, as well as do drama *BY CHOICE*.
Don't force your kids to do something that they don't want to do.
The parents are pushing their child so far, and he is being taught to push as hard as he can, even if he has to suppress his emotions to achieve it, and even if he's burnt out, fatigued or doesn't want to. More success can come from taking breaks and letting out emotions. Even if Austen does become successful, he will probably be depressed and there will be a bigger problem.
ages newborn to 5 yrs make them feel loved, secured, have a routine, set limits, use words thank you / please, read , play, sing and introduce to music. After that it will be a breeze.
I started playing tennis at 13 and I have 3 trophies 1 metal for just being good and the best and my mom never pushed me yes she motivated me but never pushed me I could of gave up anytime I wanted to but I didn't you don't need pushing long as you believe in yourself honestly
"If you cry, youre a baby" that is the most terrible thing you could say to a child. It will probably impact him so much :( and not in a good way.
Bro, the kids five. Of course he’s gonna cry if he loses
i would rather have parents showing the kids life is hard instead of sheltering a kid from everything
If you are pushed to do good in school and get good grades, I don't think they'll learn much.
If you try your hardest and don't get good grades, but learn alot, you'll be successful.
This is just something I think. It's not fact.
Why do they feel they have to focus on the future? Why can’t you just live every day like it’s your last and enjoy the present? Like, duh, that’s why it’s a gift.
One thing that Austins mother said that I think is true is that every parent wants their child to be the best deep down, but are too afraid to say it
to do their best yes! but my best is not my sisters best, and her best is not my brothers best.
It's like "if you cry your gonna be a baby do you want to be called a baby" it's like I am a baby
I started tenis at 4 and now I am 12 and I still do tenis and I compete in nationals now I have won over 20 medals
tennis*
Played it for 8 years and can't even spell it correctly lmao
Are you happy with tennis or do you feel like your parents force you to do it?
I actually really like Jennifer's parenting . Yes , she is strict but she knows her kids limits and actually seems like a good supportive mom.
I am fifteen and one of six children and I’m the oldest outta all of them, and let me tell you this is not a good way of parenting. You have to remember children’s brains are still developing, whatever you do will influence them in some way. This child will either become someone who is an extremely sore loser, or he will become a pushy person to please and is all out rude to people. When this kid is in his teens he will probably rebel, and hate his parents. You have to be a little pushy with kids of course or they will grow up being spoiled, but you can’t be to pushy. Congratulate them on any good thing they do, but when the time come to be pushy don’t be afraid of that.
My mom was “pushy” as FUCK. Fast forward 25 years later, I graduated undergrad and law school from Ivy league universities and 2 full dean’s scholarships. “Pushy” parents rock.
Mentions Dance Moms: *Shows the one people barely ever watch.*
Me: Uh, what about, um, ABBY LEE MILLER?!??!
Love these parents. We need more parents like these. The ones who want sucessful and happy kids.
Austin looks exhausted 😩 😴 💤 he has dark circles under his eyes for crying out loud! Let the kid enjoy being a kid!!!
These are parents who have never gotten their hands dirty. I want them work in retail or food handling, and see them "cry like a baby"
Maybe. Maybe this may help a very select few. And I know my experience may differ and is probably less extreme than this. But mostly, if you push your kids too much, they break. I'm smart. I've never made anything but a 4.0 GPA and I'm almost finished with highschool. I dont need to be pushed because I know my future depends on my grades. My mom will tell me it's ok to make a B. But a B is not good enough for me. I love my mom. My dad however. He cares about my grades more than me. Urges me to do my homework even after he knows I've already done it. Urges me to study all night for my tests and quizzes. But I also have to get a good night's sleep, do a school sport, get a job, spend time with family, keep my grades up. And eventually, I stopped thinking of my dad in a good light. He became an asshole who expected the best out of me when I already pushed hard enough to be emotionally reliant on what grades I get. Because if I get a B, study harder, not good enough, pull that grade up, it's not like me. If I dont become his religion, worthless, piece of trash, wasted, all your mothers fault. Eventually I became deadened to his opinions and his strict rules because, why does his opinion even matter again? Why did it even matter in the first place? Even though I am the perfect child that did everything he asked, I am still not good enough. His house is cold and dreaded and filled with yelling. His opinion doesnt matter. What he wants doesn't matter. Because its MY life and i like to think I'm leading it down a damn good path. Dont be strict with your kids, because they'll just turn out like me. Cold, hardened and dead to anything you say, praise or nay. Don't push your kids until they break. Because that's a relationship you might not be able to repair. I've wanted to leave this god awful house for years and yet he, he doesnt seem to notice a fucking thing. And I dont think I've loved him like a father for a long, long time. Please. Please. Dont push your kids too hard.
Because eventually, that kid will look at you with numb eyes and wonder why they ever cared. That kid will move on. That kid will leave you in favor of those who actually respected them. And years layer when you ask them 'what happened to us?'.
They will respond as I stated above. 'I haven't loved you like a parent in a long, long time.' And it's all because you pushed them too hard. And they broke.
Is this what you want?
Signed,
A child who was pushed too hard
The children don't seem stressed. They seem to actually be enjoying themselves.
This isn’t what kids want, this is what the parents want! Think about the kids before yourselves
I want to KNOW WHERE THESE KIDS AT NOW
I have no problem with what they are doing but sometimes, what they say might be hurtful to the child like "If you cry, you're a baby". To be honest, it is okay to cry. I just want them to do what they do, but be mindful of their child's feelings and make sure to remind him that if he wins or looses, they still love them.
Telling your kid they are a baby if they cry and giving it a negative connotation?! That’s shitty parenting. Sure, teaching your kids to be good sports is essential, but denying your kids natural emotional responses is horrible. It’s perfectly fine to be disappointed. It’s perfectly fine to cry because you’re disappointed. And, this is how we constantly grow:
Prime example of why some people should never be allowed to have kids!!
To be honest, it depends on the kid when it comes to what parenting methods work and what doesn't. The way my parents were, I ought to have been a really rebellious kid who got into a lot of trouble out of the anger from how strict they were. But that wasn't who I was, I honestly don't believe my parents are the reason I did really good in school or never got into any serious trouble. I mean they definitely cared about me, I'm not trying to say that I don't love them or anything, it's just that I decided who I am and they didn't have much to do with that decision.
The son is either going to resent his mom or become a carbon copy of her, 'cause that's all he knows. I pray he'll grow up to be a loving dad and just explain to his kids, "It's one thing to do your best, but don't push so hard to be 'the best over everyone else.' I will love and respect you, unconditionally." Mom seems to believe there are only two kinds of people in the world: winners and losers.
This is not as an extreme example, but I always Remembered my mom teaching me that I could always push myself to be even “better”. Ever since I was 8 if I got one less grade letter than an A it was never a passionate kind “good job” it was more of a disappointed look followed by a “You can do better than that” from then on I only ever think on how much better I could’ve done to improve on results, even if it was pushing my limit. It’s not a healthy way to parent and it’s embarrassing these parents even want to show them yelling at their kid like that encouraging other parents to do the same. 🤦🏽♀️
I don’t think Jen is the comparable to the first family. She seems like a normal parent.
This doesn’t work. I know a kid at my school, has ultra-pushy parents and has every academic achievement known to man. But is he happy? Hell no! He learned the square root of 5 trillion and 16 thousand but never learned how to make friends
Understand that some kids will be stressed because their parents are pushing them to much. No child or parent is perfect.
Tell them to do their best yes ... but that kind of you must be the best at all times is not only dangerous but destructive ...
Id rather have these parents than parents that ignore , neglect , not care what happens to their children.
You're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't. Just do what works for your family. There is not 1 perfect way to raise a child into a perfect human being. I see parents that care so much for their children. My parents were pushy, but they never hurt me in any way. I would get a 98% on my math exam and my dad would make a joke like, hey where did you lose those 2 points as a joke. And that made me want to do better. I'm not perfect, just like everyone else but I will raise my children exactly how I was raised.
I don’t know who wants this more, the kid or his parents.
Although I’m all in for kids getting more opportunities and challenging new things. But the decision should be up to the kids not the parents.
Adults tend to forget that you can only be a kid once and for a very short time and that being an adult is for a lifetime. These precious times can never be traded in for anything.
I can't imagine saying that to my son. He does hip hop dance one day a week and loves it. Children need play time. This is heart breaking.
This is not about being a good sport, it’s all about the parents. Austin will spend his life trying to please his parents, but he will never be good enough.
This is what happens when you raise expectations. You gotta be lazy and sluggish about everything they want from you, rarely/barely do your chores (if you have any), make mostly C's and a few D's maybe the occasional B but never make more than 1 B at a time, and if you do you gotta make an extra D or two the next time. Always go to bed later than they want. Pretend to be slow/under performing (not too slow, just not fast) when you are showing what you've learned or what you know or can do. Seriously, if your parents think they can milk another molecule of effort or performance out of you, they will. You have to make them think you are entirely incapable of doing nearly anything they want you to do and that you could never improve. Another big thing though, is you can't push it too hard in the other direction or you could end up getting punished or even worse they might try to do something major to change your ways which could end up being worse. This is why you also have to make change slowly, and most importantly never show them your full potential. Once they see what you can do, anything less will result in scolding and punishment.