How To Create Battle-Tested Confidence - Dr Nate Zinsser
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
- Dr. Nate Zinsser is the Director of West Point's Performance Psychology Program, a Mental Performance Coach and an author.
Having genuine faith in our abilities is a trait all of us want. To be able to step into our chosen arena and not only perform well but to do it without dreading that we'll fail. Nate has coached some of the US Army's best and brightest for 3 decades alongside world champion NBA, NHL, NFL and track & field stars to fulfil their potential and create true confidence. How do you become more confident?
Expect to learn how to stop negative self talk, why self-deception is a tool you can use to enhance performance, what Dr Zinsser learned about confidence from Lady Gaga, how to break a negative performance cycle, how to overcome negative experiences, how to deal with imposter syndrome, Dr Zinsser's daily practices to tie everything together and much more...
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00:00 Intro
01:30 Why Army Cadets Need Confidence Training
09:00 Eli Manning’s Competitive Mentality
18:49 How to Start Building Confidence
23:26 How to Deal with Negative Self-talk
27:27 Getting Rid of Imposter Adaptation
35:16 Principles Learned from Tony Gwynn
45:10 Proactive Confidence for Future Events
51:32 What Nate Learned from Lady Gaga
1:00:08 Where to Find Dr Zinsser
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Hello cult members. Here's the timestamps:
00:00 Intro
01:30 Why Army Cadets Need Confidence Training
09:00 Eli Manning’s Competitive Mentality
18:49 How to Start Building Confidence
23:26 How to Deal with Negative Self-talk
27:27 Getting Rid of Imposter Adaptation
35:16 Principles Learned from Tony Gwynn
45:10 Proactive Confidence for Future Events
51:32 What Nate Learned from Lady Gaga
1:00:08 Where to Find Dr Zinsser
Thanks cult dad
Top shelf Chris! You're really doing a great job of drawing the interview out of the guests lately!
Chris Williamson u r quickly becoming one of my favorite interviewers. Wishing you much success going forward.
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So here's what I gathered from this talk, what other things I connected the info to and how I plan to put it in practice
ESP - Effort, Success & Progress
How it works: Identify your top 10 moments of (quality) effort, success & progress (ESP) - this is your psychological capital - this are the only moments you will care about,
ASR - Acknowledge, Stop, Replace
Use your psych-capital to counter negative self-talk until it becomes a habit. You will make the top 10 moments hold more weight than negative moments. Objective truth doesn't matter here. This is about pragmatic truth.
Habit sequence:
1. Acknowledge (Zinsser) - My personal way to get it done: mindfulness practice. Every time you catch your thoughts drifting counts as a rep, 10 minutes of meditation counts as a set.
2. Perform physiological sigh to lower cortisol (Huberman)
3. Detach - literally, physically step back from whatever you are doing and take a look around (Jocko)
4. Replace negative shit with top 10 moments (Zinsser)
5. Make a call (Jocko)
Hope somebody finds this useful.
Great episode Chris!
Cheers!
Appreciate it!
Thank you for this sum up! I've seen a lot of people review the main points of a video in the comment section and I think it's a great practice to really soak in the information instead of passively listening, even though I'm engaged. Thank you for the inspiration!
Great comment man
Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.
I was gifted at running.
I was the 2nd runner in my family.
My oldest brother even was recruited to the army to run in the summer games.
I just ran for fun, I had never pushed myself.
In 11th grade I ran a 4:12 mile without trying.
I attended all the summer runs and fall cross country meets, I ran all winter in a field through deep snow till spring.
I'll never forget it.
Myself and the track coach and a few people just doing there own thing. I hit the first lap at 60, the second also at 60, I had my pace and pushed up. Third was 58 and I could really feel it now. Gave it my everything till I saw the vision tunnel with stars at the edges, got this smell in my nose and this fluidity I never had before.
3.56 mile.
I'll never forget it till the day I die.
I had to work to shave almost 20 seconds, my walk changed, my gait, my leg shape even changed shape to this day.
It was a mindset, I was going to break that 4 mins, and nothing could stop me.
such a beautiful memory, thank you for sharing that
The success part reminds me of Goggins’ cookie jar. Very interesting
Well the Dr did say he worked with the military. Knowledge seeps in everything it seems.
The same thing came to my mind, too.
Spoken like a true Gogginite!! #Stayhard.
Man, this is one of the best channels in youtube ive found in a while.
These are things i can apply in my personal life and clinical practice. You really help me push forward.
Thank you, your effort is appreciated. Your work is tremendous.
Greetings from Chile.
My pleasure. Welcome to the cult, Clemente
That hitter focussing only on the footage of his successful hits is so alien to me. I'm a practical person. I look for problems to fix and try to think of a way to fix them. Focussing on things that are going well seems like madness to me, because they're _already_ going well. These things over here are not going well so they need attention.
I've been doing precisely that for my entire 37yr existence. It ain't workin 😒. I've never heard it so simply and clearly put before.
As somebody who gets irrational anxiety in tall buildings and couldn't reconcile why I continue to feel like loser despite achieving things that seem impressive - this video was particularly helpful. I liked Chris' idea about impostor adaptability, I must get rid of that pattern. Dr. Zinsser's comment on being big enough for the stage you are in, also seems like an interesting one to try and apply.
The latter part of your first sentence resonated. Agree, one of the more helpful videos on the subject I've seen in awhile. I've returned from unique adventures, yet feel quite small at times. My walls have always been bare and I have no photos in my livings spaces, I suspect now - this lack of visual evidence allows my defeatist thoughts to bother me more than they should. Recall verse critical framing.
I'm off to the print shop to buy many, many canvas prints of photos I took while on those adventures. I’ve been polite about my achievements and clearly it has been detrimental to my mental health. Time to remind myself, I've done some deeds and come back with receipts. 20yrs of adventures and I have nothing to about me to remind me for the ‘Bank as he put it.
32:00 turns out neuroscience actually knows how much focus on failure we need for optimal learning or improving a skill. Dr. Andrew Huberman talked about this in one of his podcasts. It's 85% success and 15% failure that focuses the brain for maximum learning or progression in a skill. So 85% confidence and 15% sighting of areas that need work seem prudent.
One of my all time favourite interviews! Came at just the right time. Thanks Chris for providing such valuable wisdom to us . 👍🙏
"That is brilliant and that is absolutely the case!" favourite part of the pod! Love the energy
Maybe the best interview I've seen on practical, usable methods to improve not just performance but attitude and outlook and well being.
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Regarding 'battle' confidence. The confidence ideas and principles are awesome - but the reality of modern warfare is fucking grim.
An ex-military guy I spoke to just a few weeks ago told me about how he had to put the remains of his friend into a bag in Afghanistan. Not sure that did much to help his confidence.
I've heard similar stories from other soldiers. My sister's ex-boyfriend had PTSD for years after serving in Afghanistan. Took him half-a-decade to get over it - and the guy was a strong person - mentally and physically.
A number of men in my family died for the cause in the Irish liberation movement, then others in a later generation fighting for England in the 2nd world war - they lasted less than six weeks on the front line. Confidence doesn't mean a fucking thing when you're in the trenches in -6 degrees getting bombed, shot at and gassed. My grandad insisted that none of his children would go anywhere near the army, and this passed down to me and my brother.
Aside from that - this guys principles are really good - particularly for sports. Remembering successful moments is key to building up your belief - particularly when you start to step up to a higher level of competition where the margins are slimmer.
Perfect! Just as I got home from work!
Great interview questions again Chris. Keep up the good work.
I'm so surprised this doesn't have more views. This was one of the best podcasts guest you have had. I learned so much about myself from it.
Thanks guys!!
Brilliant discussion
45:10 - When I was a kid I remember thinking that "I only live once, I'd better make this a good one".. about 30yrs later I'm suffering from severe lack of confidence in nearly everything, social anxiety disorder and still living with my parents. I used to think it was strange that some people deliberately killed themselves. Not anymore
OOOOOHHHHH this is such a good podcast, thoroughly enjoyed the whole thing and I'm taking away a few beautiful 'wisdom nuggets' to keep. Zinsser is awesome! Thanks! Newly subscribed, already looking at the other videos...
The only method of cultivating confidence that made sense to me was described by John Danaher in multiple podcasts including his most recent one with Lex Friedman. It's echoed by all of his students including GSP and Gordon Ryan. It's basically almost the opposite of what Dr. Nate here says - it's repeated success that builds confidence. As Gordon put it: "Why would I belive I had a good double leg take-down if I can't hit a single one in practice? It doesn't make any sense"
I agree with them and don't buy this affirmation/vizualization crap to be quite honest with you. I'm sure it works for some people but it failed to produce even a small step in the positive direction with me.
Great episode. Really insightful questions and points from Chris as well.
This episode was such a joy to listen to. I want to be like Nate when I grow older!
you know the bankn account of past experiences actually correlates with david goggins cookie jar concept, it's scarily accurate and the thing is that goggins arrived to that conclusion on his own, how ridiculous is that lmao what a legend
Thank you for the video Chris!
This is full of brilliant lessons - thanks so much to you both for giving us this 👍
Loved this.
Excellent video Sir!
I believe that the confidence is built in our genes. It's not something that you can develop with techniques and coaching if you're not confident. Those techniques can work only to improve a human nature, revealled a human nature but not creating a human nature.
It's not about harbouring a loser mentality as you have written in a comment below in response to someone saying that it doesn't work like this. It's about being aware of our possibilities and not everybody is able to transcend a daunting task and it's okay, no problem. At the end of the day everybody dies the same because a fate is a fate ( Koby Bryant ). Greetings from France
Great as always Chris
Ok i am going to listen this inbetween sets in the gym
This one was really helpful. Thank you
Great interview and very timely for me. I've subbed.
Great content as usual Chris ! Thanks
Thank you very much for this
This guy was great! Wonderful man. And great interview! So much of it is in the mind...
Amazing!! Thank you!
Love it!
Listening to this with Beatles - I Want You (She's So Heavy) on repeat in the background.
Great interview. I sent it to my wife.
Alex Honnold is the master of this
Wow this helped me a lot thanks 🙏
amazing, thanks mate
Serious episode this one
Les Goh
Ps. WW2 in colour on Netflix is cracking!! Thanks for the recommendation
Lol why are the comments so shady. Chris always puts out good content. He will be on my
Podcast one day 🙏
Because its regularly shallow information made to feel deeper than it is. Its a nauseating pantomime.
It's called the "manosphere" lol
Risks and courage....risks make men interesting because they give them stories to tell
Worst day. Telling my 3 children their dad was dead. After that, I can do any task and nothing frightens me anymore.
How can you front load the confidence if you have not proven to yourself you can do it? If you don't believe your capable, how can you feel confident?
Try to do some stuff first/ At some point you will get the positive references.
Roy Kent. That's the character in Ted Lasso that I think he's talking about. Ted Lasso is an amazing show, so watch it if you haven't 👍🏼
Where and what are Nate's credentials? Did he serve? What are his areas of research and so on?
Interview Sam vaknin about narcissism
Pretty much true. However; you’ve got no idea how small (and worthless) you feel when struggling through some apparently difficult technological challenge.
It feels like the self and the ego compresses to a point of utter insignificance.
It gets easier with time.
9:24 Actually the World Cup gets millions more viewers than the Superbowl.
Do don't talk - but with extra steps 🤦♂️
Cmon guys.
Everyone wants to see Rollo Tomassi on here, but I think Dr. John Gray would be a better get. He was talking about mens and womans sexual dynamics way before Tomassi did and he is good friends and Warren Farrrel.
Does this guy know how many people watch the world Cup? Lol
Bring Alex Hormozi
I want him! The guy’s dope
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9:26, not sure what World Cup you are referring to but i doubt its the football world cup