The FIRST 48 hours w/ our newborn
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2023
- This is the first 48 hours with our newborn baby. Immediately after having a c-section, my wife already wanted to leave the hospital. The first 48 hours of our son's life were some of the hardest in our experience. We got very little sleep, breastfeeding was a challenge, and my wife was recovering from a major abdominal surgery. If you're a new parent and life is hard right now, know that you aren't alone.
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How refreshing!! I hate how birth is made out to be dreamy and then at the same time everyone tells you all the horror stories. So SO nice to see something in the middle, like it is hard but there’s lots of love and happy moments slotted in between the tough parts. Shows the full picture and makes it seem doable! Well done guys! Congratulations and thanks for the great video xx
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@@ThedodgerproI hadn’t noticed! Wow! Thanks!
I love how real and raw this video is. I’m so sick of other people making it look like birth and recovery is always perfect. This is exactly how my experience was as well and how my husband and I felt with each other during that hard time. Took me right back to those days and they are HARD. Thanks for keeping the hard stuff in. It’s realistic and it’s just life
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Keep it up and with family around let them help you Abby. I had 2 c section 17 months apart with no family around. My second child was a demanding baby for feeding don't discourage yourself.
Agree. Abby was on point when she said that there is so much focus on the baby & physical needs of the mom -that sometimes moms are struggling with emotional needs.
Also,how the nurses go do vitals every hour, I understand it’s needed ,but “Annoying “.
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Oh Abby's face of pure exhaustion made me feel for her. She's absolutely incredible for having a baby, pushing herself to get up and about, socialize with friends and family, feed her baby, not kill her husband, and also do her job / participate in the vlog at once. You're a champion
Is it normal or c section??
Especially not killing him! He comes off like a tool! You can see that from one video. If he’d shut up (instead or worrying about “content”) maybe she would have gotten sleep.
This is what all pregnant people go through?? And it was c section.
@@MountainPearlsthank you for seeing past his facade. he pouted and ignored his wife and newborn for TWO days except when he “needed” content.
@@mxxnlightt Yeah I think all people who give birth are absolute champs. I personally would not be able to socialize with family/friends or work that soon after so I was feeling both empathetic and amazed
I love how you don't shy away from showing how real and tough this experience is. You fight and disagree, and get stressed out and sleep deprived and that's ok. You just made a life and it's their first hours here it's not an easy thing
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Yeah, that's why this should be private. Extremely private things are shown and I'll never understand people who say "I love how you're showing us everything" it's really weird of you. They have to do this for the money, so I'm sure they wouldn't be doing this if they didn't have to.
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I took it as a personal attack when my husband wanted to feed the baby formula. I felt like a failure or defeated. We had a few heated nights because of sleep deprivation and a screaming newborn. You got this Abby!! You’re doing a great job 💪
OMG so true. I was exhausted and in pain but I was very determined to breastfeed my second baby. My biggest support was my husband. So when he suggested to feed the baby formula, my heart and brain didn't love it at all.
I think its how its viewed. For me breastfeeding my daughter was the worst mistake i ever made. She fed well. Don't get me wrong. But when it came to weaning she literally stopped eating. She didn't want antrhing else and I was unable to produce enogh for her and had to undergo a surgery to repair my wrist. She was put on a ng-tube for a few weeks before she decided she wanted to eat with her mouth via spoon or bottle. I felt like breastfeeding her caused all the feeding issues she has had since. I felt like a failure too. My mom was the one who kept pushing me to breastfeed since that the only way she would ever be healthy. Even though i had 3 other kids who literally bottle fed and were totally fine. But mom knew how to play on my feelings. Never feel like a failure cause something doesn't qork out. In my case i wish i listened more to my husband when he said hey lets just bottle feed. That way i got rest and she could eat and not have issues later. Idk its how one views it. But never take it as an attack. We all want whats best for our kids. And sometimes bottle feeding is it. Even if u just pump and not give formula.
@@RareManiac18 I'm sorry this was your experience, but I'm not sure how breastfeeding caused weaning issues? I know tons and tons of breastfed babies that wean just fine. Isn't it possible she would have had trouble weaning from a bottle as well?
I've just never heard of this before, and I'm wondering if you are blaming breastfeeding when it was actually caused by something else. Breastfeeding is extremely healthy and has tons of good things that help them build immunity. I just feel sad that you feel like it was a mistake and caused all these problems. But I really can't see how that's possible? And how bottle feeding would have been any different.
Oh and lots of babies have allergies to formula and struggle with it. So formula feeding could have given a whole host of different issues. So don't feel bad for breastfeeding! I highly doubt it was the cause of these problems with eating.
@@desieka4037I could have typed this myself 😅
I struggled really bad with my second baby with nursing and I was so bound and determined to do it that I hated when anyone suggested anything else. I am so glad things are improving with that, don’t hesitate to work with lactation consultants as many times as you need. And as her husband, go with. They teach so much and it’s helpful for both of you to get that information so that you can help when she is discouraged.
Yeah. I get that people are just wanting to give permission to make it easier on yourself as the mom, but sometimes you just want to be allowed to try and press through it for a little while.
From a mom of a 21 and 17 year old.... those first 48 hours (esp of my first born) were the most horrible and hard of my life. It does stay hard for a bit but it gets immensely better. Thank you for being real and not sugar coating how it is.
Hormones are crazy, you did great Matt! Abby you're a trooper, IT WILL GET EASIER!! I had 2 under 1, they are now 19 & 20, I survived, they survived, my marriage survived, and my boobs survived.
I'm sure there was some hard times. But it does take strong people to make it work so it sounds like you and your partner put in the time and effort!
You guys are the best parents ever! Your boys are so lucky to have you guys
I’m so happy for you guys! It’s just good that you guys get to use all of Griffin’s baby stuff for Auggie. That way you won’t have to buy new baby clothes or buy new baby toys. Just use hand me downs. Which is better than buying new it saves money now that everything in the economy is going up. I’m so proud of you Abby! Enjoy the baby phrase because they grow up fast. I have a 14 year old nephew and it seems like he was a baby just yesterday and then in a blink of an eye he was 14. Can’t wait to see him meet griffin make sure you video it. They will be the best friend since they are close in age.
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its for privacy reasons auggies just a baby and doesnt need to be exposed to social media@MadisynEugene
@MadisynEugene because they said not too long ago they need to start blurring out the babies faces for protection.
This video makes me realize how I had absolutely no one, no village. Just my partner. Didn’t hit me until your family was singing happy birthday to auggie. You all are blessed ❤️
I don't even have a partner. A tragedy happened in my personal life, and I am so alone in the world I couldn't even get a simple hug.
@@amym1460 That is so sad to read. Hope you're doing okay. How old is your little one?
@courtneyp1578 It is tough when you don't have family around to share the experience and get emotional support. I was the same as we moved around. I suppose, though, even couples who do have family around are still mostly doing the tough stuff on their own. Your family isn't there for middle of the night crying, sick kids, cracked nipples and stuff. But yes, it would have been lovely to have family share in the ups and downs.
💔 I was the same as you. My mother was even hostile. My husband became very distant and it got ugly. I was so alone and under fire. Be good to you, as no one else will be and because you deserve it. ❤️
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Here’s a hug ❤️. God is with you. Believe that and hold your head up.
I read somewhere that a mother produces different milk at night compared to the day; night milk has more melatonin to help the baby sleep. It might help to keep night milk supply separate from morning/day milk to help develop the baby’s circadian rhythm :)
I've never heard this before! Our bodies are amazing!!!
I just had my second baby two months ago. And I just want to thank you for showing how beautiful and challenging it can be. Neither of my hospital experiences were dreamy. Being a parent is hard. Being a mom is hard. Carrying a baby in the womb for 9 months and delivering a baby is hard. I had a c section for both. The recovery is hard and dealing with all the emotions after having a baby is hard.
I loved this video!! My daughter is now 12 weeks and I just had so many flash backs watching this. Wow, very similar experience but wouldn’t change it for the world because baby girl and I came out of there healthy! So proud of you guys, thank you for sharing.
We just had our first baby 8 weeks ago…my husband has only had one day off since we left the hospital. Taking care of a baby is so rough yet so rewarding. Congrats y’all! 🤍
You know Aggie was once the Youngest person in the world for like 1 second
I just love how raw, real, and emotional Abby is! She reminds me of myself and I nearly cried seeing her upset 😢 Having a baby is a lot!! On your body, mind, soul, emotional etc I could go on and on
and Matt is profiting off of her raw, real emotions by shoving a camera in her face.
Love love love that you guys kept it real enough for everyone to understand that those days in the hospital are anything but easy and beautiful all the time. My husband and I just had our first baby 3 months ago and I resonated all too well with the tense arguments, breastfeeding struggles, lack of sleep and constant interruptions. It’s so so hard but it’s a normal part of learning how to be a new parent.
I love how real this video is! So similar to my husbands and my experience at the hospital with both our girls. You guys are doing awesome!!!!❤
Seeing all the newborns meet each other was adorable! Also thank you guys for being so real with your journey because that shows both of your strength during this. Proud of you both and so happy that you guys have Auggie in your arms 🩵
How dare u take the piss out of Connor and Liana and Molly mae!! Then call your child Auggie🥴
I love how raw and real this video is. Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent with us.
I also appreciate how tense the breastfeeding situation was for you both but also how supportive and loving y’all are towards each other throughout this video. Y’all are such a great team!
After losing both of my parents at such a young age and watching you both over the years becoming yourselves and becoming new parents warms me up inside, makes me happy and whole to experience this with you and to think this is going to be me one day and it excites me more than life. Congratulations
Thank you guys so much for being so vulnerable in sharing your experience ❤ Y'all are doing so amazing!!!
I agree. Seeing how genuine they both are 🫶🏻. Sharing some “parts” of their hospital experience to help make anyone out here feel less alone…..TRULY AMAZING.☺️😊
Abby is 100% on point about sticking it out for the breast feeding and not breaking down giving a bottle. Its so important that Augie latch every time he is hungry because that's what tells her milk to keep coming. It took 3 days for my milk to come in so my baby was constantly at my breast until it did but she barely dropped any weight at all and piled the weight on when my milk came in.
“Breaking down giving a bottle”. It’s okay to give your baby a bit of formula to keep them comfortable while your milk comes in. It won’t ruin your milk supply.
And just giving formula is a okay too. I hate when women shame other women for using formula.
I love how real this video is. No one talks about the struggles of BFing or the fights and lack of sleep. This brought back lots of memories of when I had my twins almost a year ago. But you guys are doing awesome! Much love ❤️
You two are amazing parents, Griffen and August are very blessed. Congratulations 🎉
Matt: “…And stay married to me.”
Abby: “That was the hardest part”
Matt: “Hey, watch it!”
Took me out 🤣
I know 😂😂
Agreed 😂
Hilarious😂😂.
Time is so fluid in the newborn stage. Postpartum is so hard. You guys are doing great! Thanks for keeping your content real and raw.
Most wholesome video on the internet. Period. Good job Matt & Abby! Yall are doing amazing showing the real & rawness of parenthood!
The first 3 weeks with a newborn are extremely tough!! Breastfeeding is a new experience each kid. Give yourself and each other grace!! You both are doing an incrediable job!!! Proud of you Abby!! You are incrediable mama!! Congrats to you both!!
You guys rock. Thank you for being so raw & genuine.
I’m a medical student and I read a lot all of this. I’m also a female in a healthy relationship with my boyfriend who I wish to marry soon but the thing that scares me is the whole pregnancy and postpartum
I do want a baby but to go through all of this, recovering from all of this is very intense and hard! All the mothers in the world have my respect for doing this.
Accurate! Just had our second baby on Aug 18th and we totally understand the sleep deprivation / feeding the hungry baby when it feels like you have absolutely nothing left! God is good and always praising Him for providing the strength it takes physically, mentally and emotionally to be a mama. To God be the Glory!
My husband and I experienced something like this for the first 2 weeks of our daughters life. Seeing this made me feel so validated and seen. We also stayed married and she turns 1 in October, but those 2 weeks were intense and hard. We’re so much closer now. Thank you for sharing your story, proud of you guys for getting through it 🤍
Congrats! I’m due with my first baby in a month and am trying to prepare for all the possibilities. Thank you for keeping things 100% real!
Congratulations and Wishing Mommy, Daddy, and Baby All the Most Wonderful Blessings During This Special Time♡♡~Luv, Holly in the Desert of Broiling Arizona☆☆:)
I feel like you guys are literally the only ones who genuinely keep it real on here. You guys share the ups and the downs. The good and the bad. Thank you guys for doing so.
As somebody who LOVES her husband and has had 3 c-sections and all three times, baby didn't want to latch, I am so grateful for your honesty in depicting how these moments can be. You guys are so lovely to one another and your audience. Marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies. There are hard moments. But when you choose to commit your best self to somebody else, that means getting through those moments together. God bless you guys and your sweet growing family 💙
Great job you two!❤❤ Thanks for showing the reality of child birth. It's not always easy, and people need to see that to be prepared for when things aren't always peachy
Love how honest this video was. Brought a lot of memories back to me. I think sometimes dads prefer bottle feeding as they feel more in control. But Mothers are so strong and know what's best for baby.
Working and caring for a newborn y’all are doing AMAZING.
These moments are so hard but y’all fall on eachother and make it work. ❤️
This was such an accurate, refreshing example of what the hospital stay is like after your baby is born. Thanks for being real and raw!!! 💕😊
Oh sweet Abby, I feel your pain in hearing your baby cry. I know how hard breastfeeding can be, especially in the early days, but I commend you for fighting on for baby Auggie!
You guys are great parents; so excited to see your little family grow. 😊
Those first days in the hospital are literally the worst you get no sleep with hospital staff in and out of the room constantly it’s so overwhelming!! thanks for shining a light on reality and making the rest of us in baby parent mode feel less alone. You guys are doing great hugs to Abby from one mama of almost 2 under 2 to another ❤
I don’t blame you guys for having an argument. You were both sleep deprived, poor Abby went through major surgery after cooking a 9 pound baby for months, the postpartum hormone changes must have started hitting, Matt was trying to help settle a screaming new born and support his wife through everything she’s going through. Tempers rise in less pressured circumstances, and sometimes you snap because you’re overwhelmed and JUST NEED TO SLEEP! Glad the nurse came to save the day so you both could get some uninterrupted sleep before going it alone with a newborn and a toddler.
Abby's walking after c section surgery was amazing. I had a c section 9 months ago & it was so difficult to stay upright. Congrats!! 🎉
So happy for you guys!!!!! Your doing great! And your such an amazing role model!!❤
congrats guys! we all love and appreciate all the hard work you do! never give up ❤
My son is 9 months, I also had a c-section, and I watched this so that I could remember what those first few days were like. Utter shock, feeling like you want to/are going to die from exhaustion, and the constant worrying about feeding….I feel your experience on a deep level. Thanks for keeping it real.
I’m so thankful for this video. I’m due November and I’ve been a little worried that hubby and I won’t have a “dreamy” experience. I know we will both be so happy to meet our baby, but I also know I have a tendency to try to power through the hard stuff even when I need to take a second for my emotional needs. This video gave me the unspoken permission to have a labor and delivery experience that isn’t just sunshine and rainbows without feeling like it’s the end of the world. I feel better going into parenthood knowing that my marriage isn’t doomed just because we may have disagreements at the hospital.
Know that if it turns out you can't breastfeed you are NOT a failure as a mama. Sometimes it's just not in the cards and that's ok
It’s easy to see the positives from other’s experiences but that’s cause it’s easy to hide the hardships. No one wants to see that, but it’s often a very real part of the process. It’ll be hard and good… but won’t last forever. ❤ Such a special season many dream of experiencing.
I absolutely love this. It shows the highs and lows of giving birth and it was really beautiful to watch.
You guys are amazing! Keep up the great work! Love watching your podcasts.
The realness of this video is so incredible ❤ thank you for being raw and vulnerable with us and showing us the truth of being new parents
Abby im so sorry. You love him so much and know YT is his dream. You do everything to allow him to film when you probably dont want to and days after birth he has a camera in your face and is doing high fives and asking your opinion...camera in face. Girl the best thing you ever did is put that boundary to not show your children online and i support you. Im sorry you didnt get a private birth with your husband and family and care. You deserved a week without cameras at all.
100000% agree
You guys are such incredible parents. Auggie and griffin are the cutest xxx
I see why breastfeeding was challenging. Baby should be with mum and on mum for the first few hours/days until breastfeeding is well established. 11 people in a hospital room? Introducing a pacifier so early? So many visitors in general? The dad suggesting formula and putting pressure on her (that really pissed me off).
I had my second a year ago and shared the hospital room with another second time mum. Best decision ever. We both hardly had any visitors and were just with our babies, supporting each other when it was needed.
“My wife got mad at me”
*proceeds to film wife*
Thank you for sharing your journey. Your videos are really helping me prepare for delivering my baby via c-section tomorrow. I’ve been so nervous but I appreciate you guys keeping it real.
Best of luck with the comings weeks and months. It’s lovely to see you guys grow as a family x
Bless you two ❤❤ for keeping strong through the hard stuff. Auggie and Griffin are so lucky to have you as their parents
You guys are so strong so glad Abby and the baby are healthy❤
I am so thankful that you guys put this video out there for everyone. You guys are so open, and it is amazing. Congratulations on being a family of 4. Love ya
I love how real and raw you guys always keep it. Birth is HARD. It’s not always rainbows and sunshine and I think it’s so important to show that!! So glad everyone is healthy and safely back home!❤️
grateful we get to see the vulnerable side of you both and really get a good picture of how things really are!! you both doing amazing!! congratulations on another addition to your beautiful family🥰🥰🥰
I have never felt more seen with a video before... thank you so much for sharing this!!!! I had an unscheduled c-section and your first 48 hours was very similar to mine. I just think videos like this are so important for new parents to see to know they are not alone.
So great to have Matt there for you and the baby day and night.
This is the most validating video I’ve literally ever seen from the first 48 hours + some. Thank you!!
My sister is 2 and a half months and we love watching your videos especially your journey as parents. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for keeping the “realness” in there! Having a baby is so so seeet but not all rainbows and butterflies! You guys are doing a great job and always always remember you’re a team!
This is exactly how it was with me , 22 first time mom , had to have a C-section , both of us first time parents and we didn’t know what we’d were going but we’re so grateful for the nurses we had for our 4 day stay , there was even a point where we sent baby to the nursery for one night just to get some sleep and so I could pump enough for her , she didn’t latch at all even with a lactation specialist, turned out she had a tongue tie but even after it was clipped she wouldn’t latch I didn’t want to give her formula but she was starving ! Love how raw and real this video is❤️❤️
I’ve only had one baby. I did have a c-section after failed vaginal delivery.
I’m in tears watching this because alllllll of the emotions came rushing back! It’s been 14 years and I remember it like it was yesterday.
You guys are so brave to put this online but it is needed so much. Labor (or no labor) having a baby is frickin hard in so many ways. ❤
I love that you showed this because it was SO hard in the hospital after my c-sections. My husband and I were cranky. I barely got sleep before my C-section because I was so nervous. My milk was not coming in. I didn't sleep for like two days and it felt like everytime the baby and I finally fell asleep someone came in and woke us up. Then they had the audacity to insinuating that we were like in an unhealthy relationship or something because we were quietly bickering in our room like whisper fighting but we were just exhausted!!!! And I didn't want to be mad at the nurses because they were just doing their job but I wanted to be like can you just leave me alone for awhile. Hospital stay was the worse part of each birth I could not wait to go home. With my last pregnancy I kept asking about going home and they could tell I didn't want to be there long.
And baby makes 4!! Congratulations Matt and Abby! Welcome to the world, little Auggie 💙💙💙
Matt i just wanted to say, i am SO impressed with the way you were still able to capture all of this and still keep your baby private 😩 you’re doing SUCH a good job with these videos!
I really love how you are real and being so real and not showing just the good side you are really good parents
Mad props that you're keeping August's face blurred.
why do people blur babies faces?
@@maciekoerschner Privacy and lifestyle under the radar. August, just like you and me, deserves a normal lifestyle as a normal person, not a celebrity or influencer. He can opt in once he gets older ofc, but it's best if his face is hidden as he grows.
@@kevinyang4149 what abt griffin? they don’t blur his face and he his definitely not old enough to decide that
I love y'all so much. August is just a sweetheart. I've been watching y'all for a year now and I can't wait to see falls family grow big❤❤❤
“Thanks for feeding him” that’s SO sweet to say to your breastfeeding wife. So simple but so sweet.
Your authenticity and honesty will help more young adults than you realize. More people need to be honest about the good AND the "bad." I put it in quotes because most times, when you look back at those moments later in your marriage, you realize that getting through those together, were the most strengthening for your marriage and make the good times, that much sweeter. My hubby and I just celebrated 25 years of marriage and looked back at the years we've been together and were kind of shocked to realize this. It's just another moment of realizing just how true the words, "He never promised it'd be easy, He only promised it'd be worth it." are. You guys are in our thoughts and prayers. Remember to celebrate even the smallest of victories and enjoy the seemingly small moments, because they each moment only happens once.
Just to let you know, as crazy as it seems, I had 3 kiddos at your age and was getting a hysterectomy because I had horrible endometriosis. Being empty nesters in our early 40's has allowed us to go through a second courtship and resolution to enjoy everyday together. I used to wish that we'd had more time, with just the two of us in the beginning but now I'm glad that we have that time now. Especially before our family of 5 expands with weddings and then grandchildren!! I will DEFINITELY have my daughter and future daughter-in-laws watch these videos so they're more prepared for the ups and downs of the birthing process.
For me, staying together with my fiancé once our kids were born was easy. He's been my person for 11 years now and our oldest is now 4 as of yesterday and everytime I have gone through delivering a baby, I always want him right there holding me and making sure I'm okay. He comforts me more than anyone else ever could so the only way we would end up separated is him leaving
Thank you for sharing this. You two are such good parents & seem to support each other really well. I absolutely hated my hospital experience. I begged to go home as soon as I could. They wanted to keep me one more night, but I just wanted to go home as soon as I was cleared to do so. My son's father wanted to push formula & we definitely had a fight about it. He thought he was helping by pushing it so much & I felt like he was not giving me a chance to even try before pushing the bottle.
Very proud of ya’ll,this gave me a lot of hope and encouragement for the day I have babies,if that ever happens,really appreciate you guys 🤍
I love the realism.and I love how supportive Matt is
This is what both of our hospital stays looked like. This is the kind of stuff that needs to be shared. My husband and I have never been more pissed off with each other than those two days in a hospital 😂. But honestly, no one prepares you for that! Good on y’all for sharing the truth on hospital stays. Dad’s role is most important in those first 2 days than most of the recovery, IMO, so the mom can recover as she needs to. She’s done the hard work for 9 months and then to have to deliver a baby, either vaginally or via c section, takes everything out of you. Well done.
Allow yourself to heal my love and know that it’s okay to feel more rub down and tired this time… you just spent two years making babies love. Not full two years but dang close enough! I did it too and I know how harder it was on me having them close together vs years apart. You guys are amazing and thank you so so much for showing the real raw unedited version of life bc the world does not have enough of it. They only see the glitz and glamour of it, not the real life and you guys definitely give us the real life❤ love you all!!
This is giving me major flashbacks with my second. The first few days in the hospital are so hard no matter what kid you’re on. The lack of sleep and constant checks made me break down completely in front of family. I had to keep reminding myself that it’s only a season and to keep going. Y’all are doing great. Thank you for your vulnerability in your marriage. You’re not alone and no one is perfect.
You two are VERY blessed to have each other and SO much support from people who love you. It is so hard being new parents without support. My hubby and I had 4 pregnancies in 5 years with 3 live births and the loss of one baby. We lived far from family and only had each other, no one came to help. I love to see how your family surrounds you all with love and care! Thankfully, we were young like you so we had some resiliency to fall back on ❤ It’s 30 years later and the kids are grown! This time will fly so enjoy every moment of it. Congratulations!!!!!🎉
there wasn't an need to keep insisting on brestfeeding auggie the first two days. a little formula wouldn't have done anything bad. you could have gotten to relax a little bit on these earliest hours after birth. just felt like it wasn't right to disregard matt's opinion about giving a bottle to calm him down
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True but it is her choice at the end of the day as long as shes not killing herself i dont see the issue personally. An issue to consider when you give a baby formula or a bottle especially in the early stages is they may develop strong preferences. Im not saying its the case for all but its not uncommon for babies to have a bottle once and prefer it of the breast, then they refuse to take the other due to it’s different shape (in some cases taste too). Babies are going to cry regardless, soothing via bottle/breast/dummy isnt always something all parents allow theyd rather just push through. Its not harming either of them at the end of the day so i really dont see the issue
@@_Hollie_ baby would've stopped so Abby could sleep, Matt was trying so hard to help the baby so she could rest, but in stead she refused (her choice I know), but the baby would've stopped. I'm not saying ignore the baby's cry, I'm not but think how much harder it is for the baby, in momma's tummy for 9 months & then BAM he's in a world he knows nothing about, & can't tell momma or daddy he's hungry or its something else. I understand the 1st 48 hours are hard. I wish them the best I really do, but you also have to think she had Matt's help the WHOLE time, she got to sleep anytime she wanted, take time out for herself, Matt did it all with their 1st baby, & took on 2 that first night, (yes, she had a c section), but think about this, single mom's don't even have that. And I know my parents (even though there gone now), wouldn't have packed up to move to help them. My parents would've said, you made those baby's thats on you both. We'll baby sit here & there but to do what there doing. Grandma & Grandpa already did there duty. Also Matt's brother just became a daddy too, I feel for their baby too as they don't get to see that grand baby as much. A lot of single parents don't even have what they have yes, I know they feel grateful, not saying they don't, but both parents should help each other, I see Matt doing most of it. That's not fair to Matt. Matt was frustrated & needed mommy's help & instead of helping him & the baby she got upset. Baby could sense daddy was trying ot ehlp sooth him, but could hear it in momma's voice she was upset. Babies can pick up on these things.
You 2 are the best seriously ❤️ Matt what an awesome dad you are After Abby went through all the surgery and having to have the baby carrying him for 9 months and The fact that you actually take care of your baby while she was trying to Rest is a miracle. There are very few men like you Matt You are one of a kind you as well Abby You two are wonderful people your parents raised such good people❤
This is the most real thing I’ve seen right after having a baby 🎉congrats Abby!! U did amazing, so did u Matt! Happy birthday Auggie!!!
I developed PPD with psychosis the first 48 hours. It was hell for an entire month. My son is now 8 months and it’s been better. ❤
It’s crazy how hospitals do things so differently in different places like I had dissolving stitches and my nurses were in every 3ish hours instead of every 1! I’m still so happy for y’all!
I'm so glad we get to come through this journey with yall! We love you all and support you so much. Keep on doing what your doing and never give up! Love this vid❤
Thank you for sharing this. I had my first baby last week and it’s been so hard. Minimal sleep, learning how to care for this baby, deal with all the hormones and emotions coming up, and still take care of myself too… so hard. I do feel less alone knowing it’s not just me who has had a less then dreamy experience.
I really appreciate the honesty and vulnerability that you've both shown. I personally haven't had any children, but it's lovely to see and learn. Thank you for sharing. ❤
How you stand this man I don’t understand… all these comments praising him 😢
Apparently they deleted/soft blocked some of them
What do you mean?
Thank you sincerely for this. You made a choice to show reality over happy fields of roses and sunshine. This video is so helpful for me and my husband seeing a potential reality for after birth so we have have these conversations about tough situations that come up after birth. I so greatly appreciate the window into reality you provided for your followers. Thank you! And congratulations on little August ❤
After my c section I remember trying to do anything was so difficult. I didn’t realize how much we use our abdomen muscles but it was so so difficult to do things as simple as coughing or laughing or talking to much at once. You got this mama.
I follow you guys because of the real life you show. Congratulations on growing your family! You’re doing great🎉
Dad- you did a great job supporting mom and baby too! Congratulations you two! 🎉
No he didn't.. watch the podcast and he literally tells how he ignored her for the first 48 hours of the baby being born.. because of his career goals being set aside?? To raise his own baby!! And support his wife!! He's a jerk. Don't believe what he puts out. If you pay attention he's always trying to make Abby look bad.
@@sourflower3727 I found him to be incredibly annoying and not helpful at all. At first I thought "Wow how lucky to have dad be able to stay in the room and help." Then nope. He was not helpful especially on her about giving him a bottle.
y’all are going to be such good parents with 2 kids!!💗
I agree ❤
Thank you for being real and vulnerable with us. My gosh that was incredible
Loved watching this. Brought back memories. Next, do the first 48 hours at home. You guys are such a strong couple - so loving, supportive and understanding of one another. I feel like you two will have more children. Beautiful family!