Do THIS If A Man Seems Attracted To You But Is Acting Distant (This Makes Him Value You Again)

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  • Find out how to make a man value you again if he seems attracted to you but is acting distant or pulling away in this livestream with Alex Cormont.
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  • @HelenaHartCoaching
    @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +90

    Alex has generously offered to give away his eBook (an Amazon Best-Seller) PLUS his "7 Powerful Messages To Make A Man Change His Behavior" report for FREE to my community! Get them both here while they're still being offered for free: click.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/7-powerful-messages-special-offer?affiliate_id=2242878

    • @laurieparr5274
      @laurieparr5274 Před 4 lety +3

      How would you suggest a woman deal with it when they are being distant and you know they are talking to other girls but denies it. He blocked me on messenger and blocks me on Instagram. We've been seeing each other for five years.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +14

      Hi Laurie, this doesn’t sound like a healthy, good-feeling situation to me. I’d consider moving on. ❤️

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +2

      You’re welcome, Brown Flower! 🌸

    • @donna2693
      @donna2693 Před 4 lety +6

      Laurie that's major disrespect, a guy will treat you how you allow them, you deserve so much more than that...I would cut him loose and let him have permanent space (the loss of you) xo

    • @nrc7788
      @nrc7788 Před 4 lety +4

      Hey Helena, it’s corona time and I just started seeing someone before we were all put into isolation. I am feeling disappointed that he doesn’t call or text or do any FaceTime videos as I thought we’d use this time to get to know each other more. We managed to see each other once or twice during this period when we felt it was safe to visit. But I did somehow bring up that I feel I’m getting mixed messages or that I’m confused where we stand (I didn’t do it very directly.) when we’re apart he texts me almost every day or every other day but the convos are short. When we’re together we have a lot of fun and get along! Finally I sent him a voice note explaining that I’m confused where we stand and I need more communication. He said he feels he’s disappointing me because he just can’t give more right now and that corona and being stuck at home is really affecting him and this is all he can do (I know he does zoom calls with friends etc. and is still active at home with brewing beer or cooking elaborate meals. It’s not that he’s depressed. Yet he just can’t give ME more energy right now.) it’s been about 6 dates and I don’t know if it’s corona, or his feelings towards me or I’m expecting too much. I want to just back off but how can I course correct any demanding energy or “urgency” I just put out there? I know leaning back is important which I’m practicing now but any course correction at this point?

  • @passionawexplore7652
    @passionawexplore7652 Před 3 lety +723

    I really lost interest in a man who pulls away , there’s nothing more unattractive than a man who pulls away , that’s immature and not manly.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +90

      If that causes you to lose interest, I’d say that’s a great sign! 💜

    • @leesteal4458
      @leesteal4458 Před 3 lety +8

      True.

    • @KimK_AllDay
      @KimK_AllDay Před 3 lety +77

      Can't agree with you anymore. I really liked him but the push and pull, hot and cold behavior has turned me off! I'm friend zoning his ass.

    • @LisaGemini
      @LisaGemini Před 3 lety +41

      @@KimK_AllDay Yes, that hot and cold crap is immature, in my view. Who needs it?

    • @LemansSunset350
      @LemansSunset350 Před 2 lety +1

      Same

  • @Professional_Nobody
    @Professional_Nobody Před 4 lety +1435

    Keep him guessing by marrying someone else

  • @kimgordon3695
    @kimgordon3695 Před 4 lety +824

    If a Man tells You he doesn't want a relationship... Believe Him!! 🌐

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +27

      Yes, absolutely! 💕

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 Před 4 lety +7

      xo be SAFE ❤️

    • @alfreire72
      @alfreire72 Před 4 lety +3

      Yes 😉

    • @alfreire72
      @alfreire72 Před 4 lety +3

      Do the man really come back? 😉 I don't think so

    • @bambiiii4858
      @bambiiii4858 Před 4 lety +1

      Kim Gordon is it in general? I mean what if he told you thAt he thinks he’s not ready yet to be in a relationship (we’re still trying to get to know each other we’re constantly talking to each other going 3months now) and we’re like friends when we are chatting BUT if we’re on our date he is sweet. Well i told him on the first day that we met that i dont like guys who are “agressive” or guys that would tell me that they like me even if we just only knew each other on a short period of time. So i guess thats what he wanted to show me. We never talk romantic topics about us when we are chatting oe texting. Well maybe thrice or twice, i said i like him he said he like me as well but both of us said we are not trying to go fast with everything,.. does this mean that he really likes me? That he just wanted us to know much more with each other? He’s not dating anyone i would know that cause we’ve been talking from morning til night even if he’s at work Lol and he cares for me sooooo much. I’m just a bit confuse

  • @23magneta
    @23magneta Před 4 lety +484

    If you have to manipulate a man into chasing you, then he isn't the right guy for you. If a guy is distant, then he isn't truly into you anymore, and that's ok. At this point, it's best to move on. If a man is being distant because he's playing games, then he is a boy, not a man. Women and men should be able to directly communicate their needs. If they can't do this, then they have no business dating. People need to leave the games behind in high school.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +11

      Thanks for sharing your insights here, I agree!

    • @hadiapilar6413
      @hadiapilar6413 Před 4 lety +17

      This is true, but my cousin is naturally just a more independent person, and this happened to her, but I don't think she really thought to much into it. She went about her life, did her own thing, and he came back, and they have been together 3+ years now, and likely will be engaged soon.

    • @elizabethsepulveda9743
      @elizabethsepulveda9743 Před 4 lety +16

      Is not about games, rather being smart and strategic.

    • @Ana-rb7ws
      @Ana-rb7ws Před 4 lety +4

      Thank you for stating an obvious truth that we tend to lie to ourselves about.

    • @elizabethsepulveda9743
      @elizabethsepulveda9743 Před 4 lety +14

      Sometimes it's also about giving space, to someone and not being clingy, and setting boundaries..too, is not about manipulating, anything. Once they don't even respect that or don't change their behavior, that is different.

  • @vitabuonavita2565
    @vitabuonavita2565 Před 3 lety +210

    when Right man is interested in you, HE doesn't play games, he stays interested, if he pulls back,. MOVE ON, too many nice Guys out there. Don't analyze him. ignore him.....he will come back. BUT ladies move on.

  • @barebyerin
    @barebyerin Před 4 lety +307

    "It's not about playing a game, it's about changing your habits."

  • @vanessaceilley3868
    @vanessaceilley3868 Před 4 lety +160

    Take him off the pedestal! Soooo true, im going through that right now with someone...i need to set boundaries!

  • @redstar7292
    @redstar7292 Před 2 lety +46

    You can't really manipulate them to like you when they don't - best to let it go. But you will get more respect, and less dramas and unnecessary heart ache.

  • @ptyh27
    @ptyh27 Před 4 lety +93

    My lover being hot and cold to me during quarantine. I'm at one point where I don't care anymore and finally told him I'm walking away and he can have much space as he wants. Now he keeps texting me everyday and asking me to come over. I refused him it's not that I'm playing hard to get but I just need to take a little break from pain. Men tend to take us for granted when they think we women can't live without them and vice versa. They can only realize when they feel threatening from you.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +7

      Sorry to hear you’re going through this right now. This video Alex and I recorded might be helpful: czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html

    • @hailiedances
      @hailiedances Před 3 lety

      How did it end up?

    • @ptyh27
      @ptyh27 Před 3 lety +5

      @@hailiedances it went well for awhile, then he acted distant again (he was depressed and he was brokenhearted with his ex) so I decided to let him go again and told him I'm seeing someone else now and this new guy looks better than him. I guess that hurts his ego. So he apologized and explained why he has been this way, he said he cares about me and wanted to see me again. Now we are happily together

    • @ptyh27
      @ptyh27 Před 3 lety +1

      @Christy LeGrand Thank you. I have done that for 3 weeks and it was really painful and sleepless. Then he reached out and asked how I'm doing and asked when to see me but then he was being wishy washy and flaked on me at times, so that's when I decided to tell him I'm seeing someone else and sent him a picture of the guy ,told him to not text me anymore, after all these things he apologized. But then I'm still guarded cuz I feel like it will happen again.

    • @amyk8488
      @amyk8488 Před 3 lety +4

      When he explained why he was like that what did he actually say his reason was? Was it legit or bull crap excuse? Asking cause my man does this all the time. I feel like he's testing to see if I'll get upset. Why the hell would someone do that?

  • @perkieperf1028
    @perkieperf1028 Před 4 lety +93

    I’m sorry if a man act distant towards me I’m letting go, next!!!!!!..... a man knows what he wants from a woman the minute he lays his eyes on her, I don’t have time for that, I’m too old to put any work into a guy and I won’t allow him to make me question myself neither sorry bye

    • @melanieward4534
      @melanieward4534 Před 3 lety +8

      I completely agree I’m so tired and I lose interest men don’t want to leave something they treasure

  • @fallintoreality6819
    @fallintoreality6819 Před 4 lety +275

    Always WITHIN, my beloved feminines))) In my experience as a feminine counterpart, the feminine counterpart (man or woman) needs to put all attention on self love. In other words, the feminine needs to utilize her (I will just use the term "her" for the feminine) energy toward meeting all of the aspects of the self which the masculine triggers to the surface (not good enough, not beautiful/thin/smart/sexy enough/young enough, reject able, unworthy, etc). When the feminine stays true to herself by remaining in her feminine energy, meaning, she remains in HERSELF (when the compulsion is to reach out to the masculine), and when she receives the pain and hurt and confusion triggered by the masculine, and when, in doing so she parents/partners/loves herself the way her ego desires the masculine to love her, then she becomes extremely attractive and desirable to the masculine, because in reality, she is reflecting his potential to become an integrated masculine, a balanced being, and this embodied feminine is a rare creature indeed...like a fairy tale feminine that the masculine always dreams about... A feminine who does this is the embodiment of the goddess. She is a testimony to human potential, and there is no greater magnet of inspiration and adoration to a masculine of conscious intent than a feminine who reflects his potential. (she reflects his spiritual potential which inspires his worldly potential) Now, this will not attract every masculine, only the masculine who is interested in living his true potential. Every time the feminine unconsciously reaches out to the masculine to receive loving, accepting, validating attention, it is for her to become aware of the conditioning to turn away from herself, to stop, and redirect that energy within and give herself that attention. When she becomes skilled at redirecting her attention consciously within, she will attract a man who is seeking a woman to light his path for his own growth, rather than fulfill his needs or exceed his egoic expectations. He will be naturally drawn to the most self loving mirror. He will not be intimidated by a feminine who is stepping into and shining her feminine power, he will realize he actually needs her in order to fulfill his potential. So, beloved feminines, do the inner work. Come into conscious relationship with your unconditional self. Redirect all of your available, loving, compassionate, generous, gentle, sensitive attention away from the masculine and place it on holding safe space for all of the fractured, rejected, abandoned, hurt, hated aspects of yourself. Hold those broken pieces. Love them deeply. Make this your commitment and you will, at some point, draw in a masculine who is a clearer reflection of your true self rather than a confused masculine who isn't sure if he wants to step into his potential or remain sedate and lazy in his egoic programming. When you take this conscious step and you devote yourself wholeheartedly to it, you will never again need to figure out how to navigate anything with any masculine energy. You will always know that the direction you need to take whenever you fall into confusion, fear, doubt, uncertainty, hurt, etc; is WITHIN. Always within, dear goddesses. That is your superpower. Self love. xoxox

    • @Jessicajasminm
      @Jessicajasminm Před 4 lety +31

      fall into reality this was absolutely beautiful and calmed my soul to the deepest level, bless you for this!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +17

      This is beautiful, thanks for sharing your insights here! 💖

    • @fallintoreality6819
      @fallintoreality6819 Před 4 lety +8

      @@Jessicajasminm I am so glad that these words felt so supportive, love! That makes my heart absolutely sing. :)

    • @fallintoreality6819
      @fallintoreality6819 Před 4 lety +6

      @@HelenaHartCoaching So very happy to share whatever might be helpful!

    • @tashdennison4861
      @tashdennison4861 Před 4 lety +5

      @fallintoreality This left me breathless‼️☝🏽thank you so much

  • @roniwatson2664
    @roniwatson2664 Před 4 lety +201

    No he feel like when he got you and he knows you really like him that's when he starts ignoring you because he knows you will always be there

    • @mediaproduction6015
      @mediaproduction6015 Před 3 lety +16

      This is what is happening to me he knows I love him that why his taken advantage from me

    • @roniwatson2664
      @roniwatson2664 Před 3 lety +19

      @@mediaproduction6015 You have to set boundaries even if it hurt trust me he will start acting right that's how they do when they feel there getting ready to lose you

    • @feistygato9821
      @feistygato9821 Před 3 lety +14

      @@roniwatson2664 this one. sometimes you gotta love yourself more than the idea of love.

    • @darling8848
      @darling8848 Před 3 lety +7

      This is true, I told him also how much ilove him.. but at the end he can't give what a relationship I want. We're still friend but no talking. Still love him

    • @roniwatson2664
      @roniwatson2664 Před 3 lety +8

      @@darling8848 That's what they do want to be friends and live like you in a relationship soon as you speak up about it they say we don't go together it's like why bye the cow when you can get the milk free

  • @SimplyBeautiful516
    @SimplyBeautiful516 Před rokem +16

    My husband has also done this throughout our 39 year marriage. I wish I had understood what was happening sooner. Implementing the “leaning back approach” has retrained both of us to a healthier state. It’s my cue that I have put an unhealthy amount of energy into our interactions and that I need to take some time for my own interests as well. Thank you for your tremendous help !

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před rokem +1

      You’re welcome! Thanks so much for sharing your experience here. This video might be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: czcams.com/video/9KxQ1Z07_Xk/video.html

  • @HankiMaus
    @HankiMaus Před 3 lety +46

    Alex is smiling like a little boy... so adorable.☺️

  • @ruhi2811
    @ruhi2811 Před 3 lety +67

    Men are confused.. I'm peaceful without all that drama...

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach Před 3 lety +3

      Men are NEVER confused. There Hunters. When they want something they go and get it.

  • @sheenamaeoracion7411
    @sheenamaeoracion7411 Před 3 lety +77

    I love the feminine energy advise! Let the man do the work ladies and just focus on you until he is committed ❤️ thank you for this advise always remember this Alex! 🙂

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +1

      I’m glad this was helpful! 💚

    • @claudiacocciolo9817
      @claudiacocciolo9817 Před 2 lety +3

      @@HelenaHartCoaching I save this video for when my guy pulls back and I don't know what to do. It helps me remember just mirror his actions. This happens to me alot. When they stop pursuing as much as the beginning, I push forward taking on the masculine role accidentally without even realizing it. Now I'm being the pursuer. This just happened with me. He slowly became more distant after we slept together. Then I accidentally started pursuing, it's subtle! I didn't even realize I was doing it. Asking him what he was up to this weekend, if he was still coming over. He disappeared. It's only been a day now. But when he does come back I'll be busy, whether I'm really busy or not. Keep it friendship type conversation, and let him pursue. If and when we get together, then we'll have a conversation... But then that's the problem. I know how to mirror him, but if he comes back what do I say?

    • @heatherwoodley8244
      @heatherwoodley8244 Před 2 lety +1

      @@claudiacocciolo9817 Any update on what happened and how it went Claudia?

  • @luvbeautybyshrae442
    @luvbeautybyshrae442 Před 2 lety +30

    I love how you (Helena) kept reiterating that we as women have to do these thing for us, and not just him. Boundaries, Value, and Respect go a long way with both parties.

  • @lanamiccoli7056
    @lanamiccoli7056 Před 4 lety +153

    Love the content of this video 😍 I was in a situation where the attraction was strong at the beginning, but then the guy got cold feet. The need to understand what was happening with him and to clear things up made me engage completely in my masculine energy, and I became the pursuer. If only I had known then what I know now (famous last words) I would have implemented the tools that you teach, and it would have taken 2 days and not 2 years to get myself out of that compulsive and exhausting and not to mention self blaming because I felt responsible routine. In the end however, I stopped all contact and changed my phone number too. What I learned was to ask myself, “is this how I want to be treated in a relationship, or by any person?” If not, I don’t give it anymore of my energy. When I started watching your channel, I began to stop chasing, and started allowing things to be. Thank you

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +6

      You’re welcome, Lana! Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here, I know many women can relate. ❤️

    • @treethompkins226
      @treethompkins226 Před 4 lety +18

      Omg, I'm currently going through this very thing. The connection was immediate, the conversation was awesome and genuine. Within days he said he wanted to pursue a relationship with me, and he was feeling me and attracted to me in every way. I agreed with him to enter into a relationship and enjoy the process. And then the distance. Wth? We were talking and texting all day everyday for hours, and then down to one text and maybe a reply. Now we are day 4 with no contact. We are still friends on fb, but don't communicate. At first I thought he was ghosting me, but I don't think so. But I'm definitely falling back and living my life.

    • @heatherwoodley8244
      @heatherwoodley8244 Před 2 lety +4

      @@treethompkins226 Any update? What happened in the end?

    • @treethompkins226
      @treethompkins226 Před 2 lety +7

      @@heatherwoodley8244 it never went anywhere. He would show up several more times saying the thing but never actively doing anything. The truth of the manner there were other factors that got in the way, long distance, shared custody of a small child, etc. I've met someone else and we're taking our time to build something special. Thanks for checking in!

  • @celissewillis9399
    @celissewillis9399 Před 3 lety +44

    I loved this & its so true! A guy just recently came back into my life that id known for over 4 years & I approach him completely different than before... where before I was pretty needy, anxious & frustrated when he would or wouldn’t do certain things, the last couple of months, I shifted massively, so I was living my own life, I do the mirroring thing with him - not to be petty, but just that I don’t feel the need to respond right away or interact like crazy. My texts to him are shorter & lighter & since my habits has changed, his have changed more & more as well. I don’t make a big deal about any silence either, because I know he has stuff going on in his life & so do I. He’s even admitted certain things to me about how he feels & sees me, that he never did before, but I’m just going with the flow & enjoying life!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +3

      Love it, Celisse! Thanks so much for sharing your experience here - that’s exactly how it works! 💖

  • @naturesantidotes6784
    @naturesantidotes6784 Před 2 lety +10

    I'm going through this 110% right, and found this video comforting. It is a very confusing landscape to navigate, when a man acts like you're practically his girlfriend, then does an 180 and freezes you out. So hurtful and so confusing, and having no clue on how to react.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 2 lety +2

      These videos might help give you some clarity: czcams.com/video/7FBAsHoLSOA/video.html, czcams.com/video/aHDHiOJALjc/video.html, czcams.com/video/VcjFqtaGj3Y/video.html, czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html, czcams.com/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/video.html and czcams.com/video/z6Gskn7EOGk/video.html.

  • @cuarajhyrojayju4397
    @cuarajhyrojayju4397 Před 3 lety +56

    I like the advice of this guy he is right to the point lots of love coaches go around the bushes and give you nothing wasting your time

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +3

      Yes, Alex gives great advice!

    • @Meyouletsgo
      @Meyouletsgo Před 3 lety

      Yes simple and to the point without extra ! And unreachable actions

  • @patriciascholz6713
    @patriciascholz6713 Před 4 lety +56

    I know I should ignore him, yet that is so difficult as I have so many things I want to share, but I really have to learn to stop. Thank you both.

  • @tianiemitchell5692
    @tianiemitchell5692 Před 3 lety +19

    I agree with Alex Clermont and when your boyfriend text you back saying, " Hey Where've you been for a week?"
    Say," I'm an extrovert."

  • @donnaberryman4241
    @donnaberryman4241 Před 4 lety +80

    Since I’ve started what you have said to do , he’s been in contact heaps more , still sitting back . I can actually feel the empowerment for the first time in my life . Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +5

      You’re welcome Donna, I’m happy to hear this is working for you! 💗

  • @gigiguzman2747
    @gigiguzman2747 Před 3 lety +9

    Honestly I don’t even know why I am watching this video when I know that I just need to be patient and work on myself, make my self better for me and if is meant to be it will be.

  • @pocahontas330
    @pocahontas330 Před 4 lety +58

    My current situation has made me go through deep healing about my self worth.. I am worthy a deserving of people's time, effort, appreciation etc and yes, it is so much easier once you join him on the pedestal as your equal. EFT ra is brilliant for all of this. 💕

  • @jenniferhizzy6591
    @jenniferhizzy6591 Před 3 lety +19

    Do the walk right out the door.

  • @tessouiddir
    @tessouiddir Před 3 lety +7

    I love both of you :your empowering people with mindfulness and boundaries and self confident ; that is why I am becoming health and life coach

  • @evelinaandromeda4989
    @evelinaandromeda4989 Před 4 lety +26

    You guys are absolutely adorable! The best duo by far! Enjoyed your sweet, positive energy and the great advice! Thank you so much! Looking forward to seeing some more interesting videos from you two! 🙂🤗😘❤️

  • @briggskaty
    @briggskaty Před 4 lety +7

    Thanks very much Helena and Alex. This was enlightening. I appreciate your time and messages.

  • @amb2810
    @amb2810 Před rokem +6

    I like how you don’t demonize men who go ghost or cold, and how you acknowledge that it’s usually unconscious and it’s less likely to be a sign of narcissism or abuse. There’s always room to create change in their behavior but we as women have to be open to change ourselves and our reactions/behaviors to their confusing actions. To stop assuming these men are narcissists and being so quick to cut them off and blame them. Men are usually reflecting our energy, so to change what they’re reflecting we need to change what we’re energetically projecting. Thank you for this video!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před rokem

      You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your insights here. 💞

    • @jlady1595
      @jlady1595 Před rokem

      But what should they do to keep a woman? Feeling women are taught to embrace our feminine but what does he need to do to embrace his masculine to allow women to do that?

  • @patricenicole1644
    @patricenicole1644 Před 3 lety +15

    This is really great stuff Helena! I love how Alex broke everything down. Could you one day consider doing a video on how to deal with a man who is grieving? Who has lost someone close to him such as a sibling?

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you! I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, and this one might be helpful in the meantime: czcams.com/video/0rmusjkH-l0/video.html

  • @nadaudsmith9571
    @nadaudsmith9571 Před 3 lety +21

    This is exactly what my life story is about right about now....OMG Alex, you are preaching good stuff my brother! “Word for word” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽you are on point! It’s like you’re in my head lol. I needed to hear this. Thank you & God bless both of you for what you do. 💜💜💜

  • @beebee32002
    @beebee32002 Před 4 lety +7

    Please do this more!! So great to see you both together on the video! x

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +1

      Thanks Kathy! Here’s another video we recorded together if you haven’t seen it yet: czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html

  • @prettyshield5070
    @prettyshield5070 Před 4 lety +1

    OHMYGOSH...Alex is feeling so adorable...

  • @arrianathierry5937
    @arrianathierry5937 Před 4 lety +9

    Great collaboration between two super coaches!👏👏

  • @marthaayalew2505
    @marthaayalew2505 Před 4 lety +13

    I love his smile! 😍

  • @nikkilove6128
    @nikkilove6128 Před 4 lety +6

    Aw Alex is so sweet!❤

  • @pambrunelle8772
    @pambrunelle8772 Před 4 lety +32

    YES !!! If he tells you he can't commit , do not interview for that "relationship" and date other men !!!!

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini Před 4 lety +8

    Alex is so adorable and very smart. I love his accent. This was a great video, Helena. You're my favorite woman dating coach because you have wonderful guests.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +1

      Thank you so much, Lisa! I’m glad you enjoyed this one. ❤️

  • @HindustaniQueen
    @HindustaniQueen Před 3 lety +5

    this is what I did intuitively and its true. create new habits to occupy ur time away from him. if yall live together you have to leave and let him be with his bs, take care of your thoughts and self care is crucial. make new friends, nurture your friends and family, always be graceful but stand up for your values and beliefs of what you want from the relationship and never settle. it's not your job to teach them except how to be around you.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety

      I love what you said here Victoria, thanks for sharing your insights! 💕

  • @carolenaforbes9872
    @carolenaforbes9872 Před 4 lety +5

    I love Helena & Alex’s advise, awesome, thank you both, love ya ❤️

  • @Femininelovevibes
    @Femininelovevibes Před 4 lety +40

    It’s difficult to not think of him when I’m under quarantine. Stuck home and at this point relying on him. If I was busy, working, just going out it would be so much easier. I asked him to call me today and he he said he would call me in a bit there was a family issue going on. That was hours ago. He hasn’t called and on top he didn’t open my message that I was letting him know, Ok. But it showed he was active. I may not pick up his call when he does call. Then later say I missed it. Setting the boundaries.

    • @sarahjaynescott545
      @sarahjaynescott545 Před 4 lety +18

      just move on sis

    • @adj5767
      @adj5767 Před 4 lety +9

      Don't hang on unless you want to play yourself. The fact that you're considering playing games shows you're not in the right company.

    • @samarztk
      @samarztk Před 4 lety +10

      He might be going through a lot rn. Give him some space and regroup. Men aren’t like women jeez.

    • @whitney8822
      @whitney8822 Před 4 lety +15

      write down your day by the hour starting at 8am to 8pm, fill your day up with productive things. If you're still at home you can always read, cook, garden, journal, study, spend time with family. Be so involved into your own self growth and development that you don't have time to constantly check your phone and play mind games. Also set boundaries for yourself. You are a busy woman, tell yourself, I will only reply to a mans text messages or calls between 6am-8am and 6pm-8pm. Respect yourself. You should not stay up waiting around for a text or text him late into the night, you have to get your beauty rest. Life is short. Trust me, when you are 80 years old playing bingo you're not going to be thinking about this petty issue. Leave a legacy, what work can you do now that will make this world better? Much love to you, blessings, and most importantly peace. xoxoxo dikaios18woman.blogspot.com

    • @sindhusekar1918
      @sindhusekar1918 Před 4 lety +6

      Please block and delete his number and all social media handles. Don’t leave any text or last words. Value and love yourself not some douchebag who’s looking for ways to avoid you. Why the low self-esteem?

  • @febaberite2094
    @febaberite2094 Před 4 lety +23

    When he started distance on me,I tell him block me and have a happy life then suddenly he did it😂😂😂

  • @Tiamovlogger
    @Tiamovlogger Před 3 lety +5

    Yes,if the guy ignore you
    Ignore him also wait till to come back if not
    We move on wait for a month let see what will happen

  • @flea7510
    @flea7510 Před rokem +4

    I know this is from 2yrs ago, but this is so relevant in my life today. I had to set the boundary... And it sent me such relief doing so. Thanks,

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před rokem +3

      You’re welcome! These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: czcams.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/video.html, czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html, czcams.com/video/uReS5YeiShE/video.html and czcams.com/video/hzhoT8YzOSk/video.html.

    • @flea7510
      @flea7510 Před rokem +2

      @@HelenaHartCoaching thanks again. It's been interesting to say the least. I'll take a listen for sure 😃❤️❤️❤️😊

  • @DGilra
    @DGilra Před 4 lety +5

    Now i relieved from my fears ..thank u Both of you

  • @a.a.a.651
    @a.a.a.651 Před 4 lety +13

    I love his accent n dimples too, so cute

  • @kipgill
    @kipgill Před 3 lety +6

    Really the BEST DATING video and essential to ur personal growth. Thanks so much. Alex, you are so smart and have really nailed and explained what men think. Thanks for filling in all the gaps to our understanding of men.

  • @y.h.8022
    @y.h.8022 Před 4 lety +6

    I’m not comfortable putting myself on a pedestal. Not because I lack anything, it’s just because I think it’s unnatural. Im a humble, kind, down to earth gal and I think that many wonderful men appreciate this. what worked for me is just trying to connect authentically with a man.. showing love and affection without losing self respect.. meaning not behaving needy. But, some neediness is ok.. men want to feel needed and desired too! :)

  • @ginaalesha2
    @ginaalesha2 Před 2 lety +16

    I really needed this again! Shifting back to having myself on a pedestal instead of him! Love this! Thanks again Helena!❤️

  • @phillyFoReal
    @phillyFoReal Před 3 lety +2

    I absolutely love the message Alex and Helena.. even the comments are good

  • @elainefyler6142
    @elainefyler6142 Před 4 lety +6

    Great video, I like the way Alex explains what to do and why.

  • @kaitlinmontgomery2750
    @kaitlinmontgomery2750 Před 3 lety +6

    I don't mean to be fresh; his accent is lovely! Just beginning the video now, Thank You both! 💜

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +1

      You’re welcome, Kaitlin! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex if you want to check them out: czcams.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/video.html and czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html.

  • @raquelnicolau4961
    @raquelnicolau4961 Před 4 lety +1

    omg this is amazing!!! you guys are great! Thank you so much for this!!!

  • @hildekatjizumo6521
    @hildekatjizumo6521 Před 3 lety +3

    OMG you are making our lifes moving Alex, 💪Bravo

  • @christinesoto3283
    @christinesoto3283 Před 4 lety +10

    I love hearing him talk ❤️

  • @MissOnelove28
    @MissOnelove28 Před 2 lety +3

    Thanks guys!… really appreciate your time and energy!…🙌🏽

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 2 lety +1

      You’re welcome! These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: czcams.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/video.html, czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html, czcams.com/video/uReS5YeiShE/video.html and czcams.com/video/hzhoT8YzOSk/video.html.

  • @cherieknight7931
    @cherieknight7931 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you both so much, your videos and recommendations are among my very favorites! ♥️🙏🏻☺️

  • @catherine8499
    @catherine8499 Před 3 lety +4

    I needed these pieces of advise right now. Thank you so much to the both of you

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety

      You’re welcome, I’m glad this was helpful! 💝

    • @catherine8499
      @catherine8499 Před 3 lety

      @@HelenaHartCoaching Hi Helena. I am glad too..☺️.. looking forward to see more videos of you..☺️

  • @sheenamaeoracion7411
    @sheenamaeoracion7411 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you so much both

  • @h.a.nicola-heather-anne1426

    The chemistry between you too was brilliant. You both look comfortable and at ease with each other which I personally like as a viewer. Alex well done for challenging yourself. Your communication skills are brilliant you must have worked so hard. Your clarity was brilliant and it’s obvious that it is important to you to elevate your English skills. Mission accomplished. Amazing guys👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @hanee8049
    @hanee8049 Před 4 lety +2

    Sooo valuable information for me. Thank you!!!

  • @marion1476
    @marion1476 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for sharing these drops of wisdom. Really helpfull

  • @elle381
    @elle381 Před 3 lety +6

    This video is especially good. The chemistry and the accuracy is magic. Great job!

  • @Revolution-tl5wo
    @Revolution-tl5wo Před 2 lety +5

    What would be really interesting is to see on your channel an exploration into attachment theory and how it intersects with a lot of these topics. Mainly these types of behaviors are frequently found in insecure attachment, especially Dismissive or Fearful Avoidant types. Going silent is generally a red flag unless you want to put in a LOT of work and do a LOT of self-abandonment and repressing your own emotional needs just to have this guy in your life.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 2 lety +1

      I actually have several videos on my channel on that topic - here are a few of them: czcams.com/video/xu9mQ6mtfcU/video.html, czcams.com/video/Smr_BATJ830/video.html, czcams.com/video/v2NkEPYVovA/video.html and czcams.com/video/LqF0Qz_nTSU/video.html.

  • @valarieivory1082
    @valarieivory1082 Před 3 lety +2

    I just found your channel and I can't get enough. I had to subscribe. Love your channel lady.

  • @booksteaphd1613
    @booksteaphd1613 Před 2 lety +1

    I'm finally mature enough to follow your advises :) THANK YOU!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 2 lety +1

      You’re welcome! These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: czcams.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/video.html, czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html, czcams.com/video/uReS5YeiShE/video.html and czcams.com/video/hzhoT8YzOSk/video.html.

  • @hoiliswu6070
    @hoiliswu6070 Před 4 lety +3

    Alex powerful massage and behaviour change I love it awesome and see you next time

  • @rosegaldamez1442
    @rosegaldamez1442 Před 4 lety +8

    This was very informative, thank you. It makes sense and it's like an inside secret as to why men pull away. Thank you both of you! and thanks for helping people!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +1

      You’re welcome Rose, I’m glad this was helpful! 💗

    • @rosegaldamez1442
      @rosegaldamez1442 Před 4 lety +1

      @@HelenaHartCoaching Put it this way, I stopped working in a place as a nurse and the situation surrounding it was extremely difficult and to top it off the guy I was starting to like, worked there and he and I stopped talking. I didn't know why he stopped talking to me, when he showed interest towards me at the very beginning. Now I know: great!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +1

      This video Alex and I recorded might also help give you some clarity: czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html

  • @h.a.nicola-heather-anne1426

    Skin is glowing Helena. Natural beauty. Alex your English has improved so much. Alex this was brilliant clear advice 👌🏾👍🏾

  • @drac464
    @drac464 Před 4 lety +19

    Helena is a rare gem, like myself, who thinks like a man. This was a good video.

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften Před 4 lety +4

    I do love that guy! To listen.

  • @traceyscott5852
    @traceyscott5852 Před 4 lety +15

    Oh wow after 9 years single I have just made this mistake 🥺 I should of stayed celibate and single it’s brought up emotions I didn’t want!!!! I walked away last week and haven’t heard from him

    • @Melody9616
      @Melody9616 Před 4 lety +7

      Tracey Scott
      I know it hurts. But is being untouchable so much better? We are human and that‘s part of the experience. Put your heart out there. Again and again and again and some more. At least you will have lived while being alive ❤️

  • @vickykaragiannis8430
    @vickykaragiannis8430 Před 2 lety +2

    so good to listen to this Alex.
    Where have you been all my life when i needed you?

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Vicky, here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex that should also be helpful: czcams.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/video.html and czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html.

  • @miller5170
    @miller5170 Před 2 měsíci

    You have reminded me that leaning back is really easy the tough part is that at first it’s a leap of faith and trust! Ladies please trust that the higher power out there and within yourself will attract the energy you want from a man when you lean back regarding romantic love

  • @patriciamasuda2506
    @patriciamasuda2506 Před 4 lety +7

    Helena you present a wonderful show every time because your energy is so very positive! Alex Cormant is absolutely a wonderful cohost as his energy is just as positive as yours and offers his wisdom in such a comforting way! Really enjoyed both of your thoughts and thank you!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety

      You’re welcome Patricia, I’m glad you enjoyed this! I’ll be interviewing Alex again next week! 💙

  • @marianasonslegacy194
    @marianasonslegacy194 Před 4 lety +46

    I love his accent!

  • @8a.m.agentpamelamitchell556

    Grateful, I live this....now many are verbalizing it....AWESOME

  • @brendasabater4100
    @brendasabater4100 Před 2 lety +1

    WOW this is truly the best advice on your channel! He is awesome and thank you for putting this together.

    • @brendasabater4100
      @brendasabater4100 Před 2 lety +1

      God has brought me to your page.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 2 lety +1

      You’re welcome! ❤️ These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: czcams.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/video.html, czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html, czcams.com/video/hzhoT8YzOSk/video.html and czcams.com/video/uReS5YeiShE/video.html.

  • @lubnazidaan7487
    @lubnazidaan7487 Před 4 lety +7

    I love Alex's formulas
    He is superbbbbbbbb

  • @cherisrae
    @cherisrae Před 4 lety +9

    This is the kind of video/podcast advices/insights i need to watch and hear. Experiencing this right now esp in the midst of pandemic. Thank you for sharing your insights and advices Helena and Alex. You two made me feel a lot better!

  • @Chigr8t
    @Chigr8t Před 4 lety +4

    I just join ur channel and Alex is really good and thank you and of course to you Helena 💕🙏💕

  • @deborahocampo852
    @deborahocampo852 Před rokem +2

    Always great videos. Talking with common sence....i emjoy very much.

  • @chafarrahburney4535
    @chafarrahburney4535 Před 4 lety +5

    It’s time for women as well as for myself to play my role correctly not a game but understanding men way of thinking so we can have successful.healthy.challenging relationships.

  • @brittanycrawford6432
    @brittanycrawford6432 Před rokem +7

    When they lose interest I don’t even want to do it anymore. What’s the point?! I don’t want a man who can live without me ! I want a man who wants me because he can’t imagine a life without me . That we love fully . Or not at all.

  • @lyndamcmullen9410
    @lyndamcmullen9410 Před 3 lety +1

    Great video thank you both ♥️

  • @Pretty60s
    @Pretty60s Před 4 lety +2

    Fantastic thank you both.

  • @s.confidential3993
    @s.confidential3993 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you for the books, and thank you for all the help you have both given us! I have learned a lot from this session!

  • @pridababy
    @pridababy Před 2 lety +7

    Wow this was so deep 💯 I really appreciate it he is blocked rn giving it time getting myself together done chasing

  • @annejaurigue9748
    @annejaurigue9748 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you for what you are doing. God bless you!

  • @jenniferschroeder7781
    @jenniferschroeder7781 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for this, Helena. Helpful as always.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +1

      You’re welcome Jennifer, I’m glad this was helpful! 💗

    • @jenniferschroeder2315
      @jenniferschroeder2315 Před 3 lety

      I’d be so curious to know your thoughts about getting to know someone online. In crazy times of Covid and quarantines, how can two people get closer?! Is this possible? I would love to hear a video about online dating & getting to know someone online. (btw, yes we met online and have also met in person 🙂...).

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety

      Thanks for the great suggestion! 💕

  • @Diabeteslovewithdee
    @Diabeteslovewithdee Před 4 lety +3

    I love you both Helena and Alex for sharing your true authentic experiences and insights. Thank You! I deserve better and stop giving men excuses!

  • @donnaberryman4241
    @donnaberryman4241 Před 4 lety +3

    I love you Alex thank you so much

  • @chonamacalisang1131
    @chonamacalisang1131 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you so much same tips to share w/ us Mr. Alex..

  • @angiezimmerman5868
    @angiezimmerman5868 Před 3 lety

    Hi guys you are amazing. Thank you for such good advice!

  • @HAPPYLIFE-co1ir
    @HAPPYLIFE-co1ir Před 3 lety +4

    Hi from Russia! Amazing expert! Blessing man!! Thanks a lot! Simple and wise

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 3 lety +1

      I’m glad you enjoyed this! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex that should be helpful: czcams.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/video.html and czcams.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/video.html.

  • @amysnewlife84
    @amysnewlife84 Před 4 lety +9

    Why are some men so dodgy and don't like showing they like someone , just because they could be committment phobic? If you confront them about their behaviour, why they are getting cold towards you, that's gonna send them miles away! It bothered me for years, but now it's a turn off. If he isn't available, then he rather FO!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Před 4 lety +2

      Yes, that would be a red flag in my opinion. If you’re feeling turned off by that behavior, that’s a good sign!

  • @valerierich8607
    @valerierich8607 Před 4 lety +2

    Alex is soooo adorable!