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I dont have Spotify though, only CZcams Premium... :( Cant you still put podcasts on youtube please just with a picture on.

Thank you for that video! Im so grateful 🙏 There is just too much "advice" out there in regards what should you do if a man pulls away, if he is hot and cold, its all about the guy, which makes us dismiss our needs and wants while being miserable trying to please the guy neglecting our needs.

This is hard to do long distance when you are busy and can't spend time together

So I have to try to not contact him too much once every now and then reach out to him. I should give him a chance to reach out to me. I got to develop a connection with him when I'm with him and have fun with him. Have a kind secure conversation with him.

I'm friends with a guy and I want him to want to spend time with me.

I'm interested to join your community

Hi Helena and Matt !! It feels very reashuring to listen to you both. I love this!!! Reashuring to myself to keep making me feel like a Queen in every area of my life❤.

What if we have small kids and coparent. Should I speak only about the kids and just limit it as much as possible... Like when I really really have no other choice?

💕💕💕💕LOVED THIS SO MUCH!

I was dating a girl that was incredibly narcissistic, I realized I had been love bombed, and tried to explain I just wanted to not rush, and she took it so personally I was completely put down. Time after time. It got dark, she came to me at first, and I loved her very much. Over time she started acting different though, she was angry that I was starting college, even though it doesn’t take that much time, and she hit me multiple times, and was trying to turn me against my family, I really wish that I could meet the person that she pretended to be. She would never get physical with me because of alcohol, I really think that if she was really the same way she claimed to always be, and stayed sober, we’d have gotten married. I’m still mindfucked. Just saying, I don’t think I’m avoidant, I actually let a lot of disrespect go, and communicated politely and often, I think I actually put a lot of effort into what she said was a “soul-tie” but she would just use the things I told her against me later. I’m still processing the entire thing. It made me realize that I had ignored obvious red flags and was in a trauma-bond because she seemed like the ideal woman and I wanted to believe that I was just projecting, but that she was different, but no, there are some things you just don’t do, and I felt like I was being completely wronged and put down. Yet, I miss her, and part of me would be run right back to her if she hadn’t shown so many traits connected with narcissistic behavior, and had already gotten violent with me. I decided maybe I needed to look in the mirror, I hope to meet somebody that likes me for me someday, but maybe I should just focus on myself. Idk. I can’t get down with somebody trying to turn my family and friends against me because they LOVE ME. I know not all women are like that. It’s just discouraging.

I think generally men who have avoidant attachment style will seem attentive and motivated at first, then when they feel attached start to pull away.

Very useful advice, thank you

is it also applicable for women?

Im very confused i had 6yers relationship didn't work then 7yers didn't work i tried again 3years didn't work now just 2yers he gosted me im trying to get out of the pain 😢 im happy i saw your video please every one pay for me 😢

Effort is Attractive

Set a deadline and adhere to it. It’s ok to be busy but if it over an extended period of time than it’s a problem.

Taking notes!

Such a great info, thank you! 🙏

Ok this was actually so informative and helpful! 💗

🎉this is empowering...im so glad I not losing my mind by rolling this way 🎉

Thank you, ladies! Helena, you always bring on the best guests that bring various perspectives to the same consistent truth. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏💖💖❤

How about her silence?

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Recently going through this. It will be 14 days tomorrow and I am already doing the mirroring as he hasn't responded to my last message or even called me. I've used these 2 weeks to work on myself and my fitness. If he dares to reach out after all this time I will use it as opportunity to ghost him back as I can do so much better 💯