Charli D’Amelio: When I Hit 100M Followers I Was At My Lowest Mentally…
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- čas přidán 1. 05. 2024
- Today, I welcome Charli D’Amelio, the 19-year-old who became a celebrity thanks to her rapid rise on TikTok where she has amassed over 150 million followers, making her the most followed person on the platform.
In this interview, Charli doesn’t hold anything back. She openly discusses how she preserves her self-esteem and identity while navigating the challenges of online bullying and fame. She talks about her breaking point and what led her to change the way she talked to herself by implementing self-compassion. It’s a reminder that checking in with yourself is important in order to sort out emotions and assess your physical and emotional needs.
In this interview, we’ll discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:59 Did Charli Just Get Lucky?!
04:17 Her Online Identity vs. Her Real-life Persona
09:50 Learning To Focus On What Actually Matters
12:06 On Losing Her Identity
17:34 Finding Joy In Everyday Life
23:22 Treating Your Friends With Kindness
31:03 Navigating Difficult Family Dynamics
35:00 What It’s Like To Film A Reality TV Show
37:30 On Being Trust In The Adult World At The Age of 16
43:44 Gossip, Rumors, and Clickbait
46:00 Being Friends With Other Influencers
48:40 Having A Famous Boyfriend
53:00 Learning To Ignore The Haters
56:53 Raising Her New Puppy!
59:04 Finding Her Personal Style
1:00:30 Learning To Use Her Voice
1:07:59 Finding Peace With Animals
1:11:37 Visiting Africa
1:16:00 Charli D'Amelio On Final Five
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Charli's journey is truly inspiring, what did you learn about her in this conversation? I’d like to invite you to join this community and subscribe to the channel. By hitting the 'Subscribe' button, you're not just becoming a subscriber - you're choosing to make a positive difference in your life.
Truly inspiring??? Interesting yes….
How you introduce people is awesome! Always an uplifting positive summary with a nice opening to the conversation ahead ❤
Thank you! Hope you enjoyed the episode!@@individualattributemodel
@@TheOzzyLoveryou are a grown a$$ woman go care abt your kids behaviour instead talking shi abt a teenager
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she’s literally just a teen. if you posted and randomly got famous would you basically be like omg guys please stop following me? like no. she didn’t have control over who followed her don’t be mad at her success, yours will come.
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Exactly right. Her Parents are at fault, let her down and used their own daughter for profit
Nobodys mad 💀
@@lilmama8718exactly. I watched the hulu show and the dad said “our first rule is do no harm to the family” … imo you only need to make a point to state that you will do no harm if ur not purposefully putting ur kids in compromising situations
she didnt have to run with it
Didn’t expect to get so much from a 19 year old but wow she’s really got a good way of explaining things that will definitely help me going toward. ❤
So glad!
Jay said something very significant at the end of the video, we live in a world where we claim to care so much about mental health, yet when we hop online and make nasty comments and criticize/judge people we don’t even know, we’re not prioritizing mental health at all. It’s so important to remember to extend grace to people, just bc someone is famous, doesn’t mean they’re not human! Thank you Jay!
It’s sad but even the schools in our area talk about how important mental health is but when my son needed a mental health day where he could step back and have a break from everything and reflect on certain news he received the school would not excuse his one day absence. It seems like children and elders are excluded when thinking of mental health.
Adults that get mad at teenagers is insane to me . Don’t you remember how you thought at that age ? I was a wild one and don’t have the same believes anymore . Give kids/teens influencers a break
I will actually never forgive and forget the way ppl treated this poor girl when she was a literal KID. The death threats and hate she received for no reason literally hurts me so much to this day and hearing how much it affected her in this podcast is so hard to listen to. I really hope she's proud of herself cuz that is so so much pressure and sad for a 16 yr old to deal with. And the fact that grown adults were nit picking this child for their own benefit of views. I knew exactly who she was talking abt Trisha paytas. Disgusting. Anyways so proud of charli she's genuinely so strong .
100 million followers don’t matter, knowing her followers are irrelevant and irregular to all social channels you think she has those 100 million on TikTok, compared to Instagram, Twitch, and CZcams, Meta. No all those followers never followed all pages it’s FAKE AND SO IS SHE
There is so much more to this girl than being a ‘Tik Tok’ teen. She is very wise, very in tune with everything around her, she loves deeply and truly cares for her friends, family and fans. I’m 31 and I’ve taken alot from her and what she’s said in this video. I love how open, honest and how her teenage self came through. I’ll be rooting for her. Thank you for sharing, it was a pleasure listening and seeing more of who she is.
Charlie expressing her feelings and emotion so well - and jay creating a comfortable space to speak about these important topics :)
The way she deals with the hate she receives is so mature and honestly inspirational but also sad that a human being has to deal with that ❤️❤️
I love seeing Charli coming out on top of the mental health game! She’s an inspiration to Gen Z and other famous people trying to balance fame and being an independent human. I love seeing her growth! ❤
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And to Gen Y as well, we can learn from the younger gen a lot sometimes.
😂😂 what a joke
What a fabulous interviews and conversations on the podcast! A ton to learn about trusting yourself & your personal boundaries! Life taught me a ton! I feel valued by continuing to have the difference in my life growing up! Keep up the great work Jay ❤🎉😊
Such a strong, genuine and intelligent young woman. I think we can all relate to some of the things she mentioned about growing up and finding yourself, she just happened to experience it with the world watching. I wish my younger self could watch this episode and see how similar we all are, no matter how famous or rich. I really enjoyed this episode :))
Glad you enjoyed!
You can totally tell she’s done so much work on herself ALOT of therapy. I wish I was this wise at freaking 19yrs old just Wow . Proud of you Charli!!
This is a great one. We can learn a lot from the youth, stop being so ageist people. Everyone should have a voice!Charlie has a unique experience and insight to share. Love it!!
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I had no idea about her before seeing this interview but I am so grateful for her vulnerability and transparency during this interview. I absolutely love the part where she shares her process in discovering her values and using positive talk as she is figuring out life. Her bravery is admirable.
I ❤loved it interview so much..!!!! I needed to hear this today 🙏
The amount of emotions I’ve experienced throughout the course of this video is crazy. This interview hit home in so many ways.. I’ve always been a fan of Charli whether it was in 2020 where I would edit her, to now where every now and then I’ll see one of her videos and like it. It blows my mind that people don’t think about her as a genuine human being, and instead just see her how she perceives herself online. When she mentioned positive self talk, and being afraid to be yourself, I felt that so hard. I’ve always been the one to follow, and be afraid to show who I am and this was such a reminder that it’s not just me, and that everyone, even the people who never show it experience the same things I do.
I might've been living under a rock but I had no idea who Charli was before this interview. She really is more emotionally mature as 19 yr old than most and maybe it's because she was rushed into growing up. I hope she realizes that her choice to embrace the uncomfortable and grow is HUGE. At 25 I didn't expect to relate to her journey as much as I have so thank you Charli for sharing. Also props, cus being in the eye of the public is BRUTAL but you seem to be making it out okie 👏🏼
I relate so much with her and alot of the stuff she talked abt in this podcast especially when she said that she 'doesn't know anything' cuz same, like I feel so confused with what I like and I don't and I feel like I don't know myself at all. I just don't know what I want to do with my life and what's gonna happen next and fear if being judged. That resonated with me so much and I'm glad charli talked abt it since young kids nowadays feel the same way. I love that
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What an amazing interview. Thanks so much guys 💖🤗
Glad you enjoyed!
It's one thing to be famous, it's another to be treated like a normal human. Thank you Jay for giving her the space to let her to open up
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Despite how famous she is, her story is incredibly relatable to a lot of girls. As a nearly 30 year old women, I am still figuring out what I like as a person and finding myself while healing from the people pleasing mindset.
who seeks will always find Libra. Feel the same!
I am an adult and I am listening to her advice which is so beautiful. I really need to be kind to myself.
Omggg This interview was so uplifting n Powerful n mindful. This young lady was so intelligent. I learn soo much from her. Thank you Both you all are soo Dope❤❤❤❤ much Love n Respect
I L😍VED her answer to question 5…. “Lead with more empathy” 👏👏👏
I didn't know much about her before and didn't follow her, but this was so nice to listen to. I think she's different then the world has perceived her. She seems really sweet and has such a calming voice too! This and Kendall Jenners podcasts may be 2 of my faves. Theyre very calming and you can relate to the emotions and anxieties they both have felt in life.
I absolutely loved listening to the podcast with Jay Shetty and Charli diangelo. The wisdom and insights shared by both of them were truly amazing. Every word resonated deeply with me and I was left with so many valuable takeaways. I truly believe that both of you are an inspiration to so many and are making this world a better place to live in. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences with us. It is truly a blessing to have such wise and compassionate individuals like you in our lives. This podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to gain wisdom and make a positive impact on the world. Thank you for all that you do!
Jay shetty- I can’t believe how early on I found your page, the algorithm had my back.. but through all the years I have grown so much from reading what you’ve wrote and watching what you put out.. it has never been easy but you have brought me so much peace and assurance that I can and will keep growing even when I can’t see how or why things are happening
his response always starts with i love that he is a burst of positivity
Good job Charlie!!! So articulate. I’m excited for you to embark a new journey to understanding who you are and what you like :) speak MORE. Your voice matters. ❤
Thank you very much for this podcast ! God bless you ! This podcast help and made me feel great ! Thank you to Jay and Charli ! 😃 This podcast represent me a lot !
Why not take something positive out of all these interviews, like how Jay has a quality conversation with everyone, no matter how popular or not that person is? 😊💫
Wonderful interview❣️It dove deeper than I initially expected- I watched beginning to end. Thank you for this!
Glad you enjoyed!
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so inspiring to hear an individual who also struggles with wishing life can fall into place perfectly and happily every second of every day. hearing and seeing her share her story, words of encouragement, while still acknowledging shes still just doing her best is so refreshing and uplifting. thank you both
Love Charlie so much ❤️ shes really strong and amazing thank u for this episode jay
I just love Charlie❤ Her voice is so soothing btw
I love how at peace you are about being yourself, Charli☺love it🥰
this is really a great podcast in the entier social media ever you are doing a very important job keep doing it please it helps so many people in the world; i am listening from ethiopia and i want to tell you that you have made a very big difference in my life and mental health hearing to your podcasts give me a clear vision so thank you for doing this 😍.
Loved this conversation!!
Thank you for this episode. I didn't even know how good she's at dancing. Hats off ☺️
Am not missing out after all. Thanks jay
She so nice!! Even her voice - soft and melodic. With that mindset she has a great life ahead of her. You go giiiirl!!!!
❤❤❤ amazing interview 🔥🔥🔥
Thank you for sharing charli🧡💛
I enjoyed this interview and love that she's passionate about animal rights. Also, the fact that its completely normal to not know who you are at the moment. Thats what your 20s, 30s are about. Just enjoy the journey of finding out!
I'm 19 too and the last few days have been extremely tough it was making me lose my mind I was crying constantly, I was feeling all this anger all the time and I just didn't know what I want, or why I am reacting this way and then I came across a reel of this podcast where she mentions how she doesn't know what her favorite movie or song Or other stuff is and listening to that I just saw myself in my brain and I realized that's exactly the case with me and that just made me tear up again. Idk who she is but I definitely know one thing that today she said some words which made me realize that I still have hope and I still have time to figure out she's a 19 yr old and if she can do this and find herself I can do it too and maybe it's difficult I don't know how it will be but the words "I actually don't know who I am" that's something I will change about myself no matter what I want this to be my birthday gift for myself I'll be 20 next year only a few months left so I want my 20 yr old to know what her favorite song is not the popular song what her fav movie or book is not the popular once. Whoever she is I'll always be grateful to her for helping me find a way on how to just start because this whole year I've wanted to become better but i just didn't know how to do it
Well.said .
I don't know who is she but she is literally great person.
I am also 19 at the age of this when you just get into adulthood there is so much confusing thig there is so much to learn there is so much to know
i think she is more mature than her age i am literally proud of her ❤
Wow excellent conversation!!
went into this with an open mind and i was excited to see how charli talked. but she doesn't seem to be grateful at all for her position financially nor career wise, it's a bit strange. the struggles she points to are internal; no one forced her to do anything. i am seeing a bit of a victim mentality... the way she talks about her fame is as if it is a curse and a burden that she is trying to escape, yet she is actively using social media and has a reality tv show.
Interesting perspective. I see a sweet strong kid who was thrust into public platform at 15 who dealt with MASSIVE hate and death threats. She talks abt being pushed into fame early on. She actually didn't expect it or asked for it. She gained popularity with public. That's a lot of attention and a lot for a teen to take on. Part of her whole talk also has been how the fame effected her mentally to point where she never left the house. It seems to me, she was just being a kid and showing off and posting stuff on social media. She didn't think she would gain the massive popularity she did. You might need to work on your empathy there a bit for saying they has a victim mentality and she did this all herself.
@@saijanaswamy7210 of course she has her struggles and she has been through a hard time, i totally see and empathize with that. everyone has their own story and i am not making light of her pain at all, i'm sure it was very difficult for her. however, you cannot deny that she fails to acknowledge any of the privileges she has gained from the fame. she also frames all of the criticism she has received as being pure hate, when she has in fact committed some wrongdoings as well. i understand that she was a young kid and didn't deserve death threats by any means, but she should be able to say (at this point in time) that she did display bratty behavior at times which was why people like trisha paytas said things about her online. she does not come across as humble or grateful AT ALL, and that shows in this talk.
we can agree to disagree here, but i do not lack empathy at all lol. i don't think i need to work on that but thanks for the advice anyway
@@mia-ek9be i mean i dont think there is much to talk about the extremely obvious benefits of being famous and wealthy. i dont think its a topic anyone really cares about, and maybe she is specifically trying to raise awareness on the hardships of young celebrities growing in the spotlight as teens. Sure sounds cool and has plenty of privileges but she is still a kid to this day, the pressure is huge. just think about all the famous young celebrities over the years (disney celebrities, singers, youtubers etc) that nowadays have depression, drug or alcohol issues, or are completely burned out. i dont think u lack empathy, i think u just watched this ep expecting something different and stayed w that feel
I don’t know how to describe your podcasts keep Going mr. Jay shetty ✨
She is amazing. I love every word of what she had to say on this podcast. I think she is so lucky that she is already working on herself. A lot of people even at age 50 don’t know who they are and what they like: i believe she is going to help a lot of people in her lifetime.
She’s so mature and real- love that
great one❤
I love her ! She seems like the sweetest girl ever
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So am i
Great interview
great interview
Thanks!
I was 13 when I found out who Charli was and now I am 17 . Like I literally grew up watching her all my teen years and the thing is I really really feel connected to her because I feel the things she feel , the things she went through as a teenager , I without knowing what actually she is going through feel exactly the same way , like I always keep repeating 'i don't know ' phrase weirdly somewhat the way she does , I really don't know how that happened but it just really keep happening , with so many similar feelings that she shared on the podcast . So what I'm trying to say is she is just telling the truth and telling everyone just the things that happen to ever other teenager . I have been a really big supporter of her's for a really long time now and I really am very thankful that I found her on the internet . She just helped me in the ways she doesn't even know or anyone does and I am really proud of her ❤ love her
I didn't even watch this part before writing this 1:03:04 . There it iss
people made her famous and soon after that people started asking why she became famous.. 💀
Yup! Then hate on her and say "she asked for it"
Plz add subtitles plz it helps us a lot ❤❤
My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.
Charli is so sweet💗💗💗
“I’m sixteen, I don’t know anything!” -Charlie D’amelio
“its not my fault. i blame others for my poor actions and cant own up to it!”
She’s so nice. She deserve the world ❤
Great interview!!! I love Charli and the whole Demelio family! It would be amazing to see you interview Dixie as well! She has so much going on it would be nice for her to share her journey for others to learn from
Lead with empathy
Wow beautiful words
Thanks J.
Thank you for this, I love her and I’m 25 lol no shame!
The red white and black sweater is SO HARD Jay...I need it
Her story reminds me of Michael Jackson, grow up so fast and missed his youth. She is lucky to identify this quickly and I think what she is experiencing is LIFE. LIFE is brutal, everyone wants something from you but what do you want for yourself? I have a feeling that her mates troll her, and that's because as young people, they are not fully formed adults yet. They get to the age of 25 before they mature properly. Some of them are jealous of her fame. The older ones are using her because of her fan base, not all of them are interested in her growth and development. She should work with a mentor, who guides her for HER.
Great channel 👍
Charli deserves a huge apology from the way the Internet treated her you can dislike her that’s fine but if you were going to go on her page, write hateful stuff about her, telling her that she doesn’t deserve what she has. It’s just really unnecessary.
Cuz she doesn't deserve anything
@@MeyersFamily15dude what’s your problem
@@Itsallgravybaby777 she doesn't deserve it
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I Don't like this girls family show, it feels like they mock mental illness by throwing words around for attention. Words which otherwise would mean something really deep/ there are actually people suffering from these. They just throw them around for views. It's either they lack vocabulary to express or articulate basic emotions so they take heavy terms to discribe every small thing. It's unnecessary, especially Dixie. This is their identity now and not about the real issue. What a shame. I feel like this little girl is actually a sweetheart surrounded by toxicity, sadly and that's her family. She seems like she would know better.
Can someone give send me a link to the book mentioned at 25:00.
staggering Charli 19 year old girl profoundly leading TikTok community I'm excited haven the chance to such conversation big thanks to jay shetty
This was an interesting interview. However, it’s silly that social media “influencers”/creators who care too much and are unhappy with what the public is saying about them don’t just think “hmm, this is too much for me. Let me do something private and simple with my life” and delete their social media accounts or make them private. It seems like they want everyone to like them even though they’re not really contributing anything of value (other than pushing products for companies). The truth is, it’s easier money compared to professions that require strengthening your mind and contributing something that societies need. They love the fame and what comes with it. Period. It’s disingenuous to pretend like there’s any other reason.
I don’t think you really understood what she was saying. At a young age, she was just doing what she was told and what felt right. After she became famous, her entire family depended on her financially. I’m sure they would have supported her in whatever decision she made, but as a teen girl that’s A Lot of pressure. I don’t think she necessary desired to be famous, it’s something that happened to her and once she was in it she was doing what she thought was going to make everyone around her happy and give them all a good life. Now that she’s fully embraced it, I think she’s able to use her platform to share her story and inspire, teach, and warn young girls. She’s also incredibly talented. She’s not just a social media influencer. If what she’s doing is something she’s good at, why wouldn’t she continue to do it? I don’t think it’s just for fame.
I completely understood what she’s saying. What I said still stands. Her parents were well off before the fame, to say that they depended on her financially is a stretch to say the least. She prob told them she wanted to move to LA and pursue TikTok bc of the reasons listed in my original comment. There is nothing wrong with her doing that. But then to constantly want people to only say positive things about you when you’re doing a (sorry to say this as I truly don’t mean to offend) shallow career and making a ton of money is unrealistic. Either develop a thick skin privately (and stop bringing people into your personal life) or come off of the app.
@@katies2067 I think to expect that type of logic and maturity from a literal teenager is a little unrealistic.
Bro ppl are dramatic if she put her foot on the ground they will hate on her or point her out for no reason, this generation is so fkd up parents are not raising their kid well
Very self aware for a 19 year old. She understands the value of hard work and how the accumulation of small things can lead to success. She is a talented dancer too!
oh my god Charli is such is sweet soul, love her so much😭
Great one
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❤ you are awesome!
Lead with empathy, I love that
I love documentaries too 🥰🫶🏽 she’s such a beautiful girl 💯
Her voice is so soothing
❤️✨️ Always very Cool Podcast 🎉 Thank you very much ✨️❤️
Glad you enjoyed it!
@@JayShettyPodcast. Yes ) My favourite podcast)
Its fairly obvious the ppl hating on Charli in this comment section alone do not *l i s t e n* and lack zero empathy..but i'm glad yall were so perfect at 15, 16, even 19. Charli seems a little more at able to handle things now. I'm glad therapy is helping her and she is finding that specs that give her joy. She is very eloquent and aware for a 19 yr old! I was not at all like that at her age. Or 15. Speaking as someone recovering, i understand the impt it is for us to find joy in our life. I too enjoy spending time with my furbaby. Sensitive ppl tend to be more compassionate toward animals. 😅 it makes me glad to see she is getting help and learning tools at expressing her emptions and navigating through life...she's learning abt herself and slowly the mad world! Enjoy your youth girlie. Create memories, share lessons you learn along way (if you want to). I'd love to see her continue to thrive through her life. Thank you Jay for providing Charli the safe space, listen, encouraging her, without judgement. I think it's helped her be more herself and open up. 💖
Adjusting well. Good for her. Smarter than me emotionally at 19
Ive been filming my whole life to
Hate does not bother me but i do cry
I love you Charlie.
Ily2
I love her voice
Love her
TikTok is an app with an abnormal algorithm
She's famous cuz her video reached a lot of people
You can hate her all you want but she didn't do anything wrong or abnormal to be in the place that she is today 🙃
Luv u charlie❤ from Mozambique 🇲🇿
So many negative comments here. It's not necessary to say mean things about her and Jay.
Older folks may not know who she is but this is an opportunity to learn about her. I bet your younger kids or grand kids knows who she is. She's more popular that the president and DT combine with 150 million viewers compared to 80 million votes and 70 million.
If we are only interested in guest we know then we are the uninterested people.
They definitely are anxious☠️ get a life and care abt your mental health *not you the immature haters* and care abt your lives it’s not a big deal
ADELE ❤ would be perfect to be on his podcast ❤
I love you Jay !!!!
I’m a big fan Charlie! 🩷
She’s the sweetest ppl don’t get that a human changes and grow but unfortunately they don’t now you see 50yrs old woman hating on teenagers it’s lame
She was never “not sweet” y’all just judged her for no reason
I love this guy 🥹🙏💖
I actually have no idea who she is and I still really don’t but regardless… this girl is far beyond her years and she definitely needs more credit for how mentally strong is.
Ive been on for 4 years too