I am white and listening to her I feel my internalised sensitive white supremacist getting offended and defensive. This lady ain't taking no shit and although it's intimidating to me as a white woman, I am so so in awe of her!! She is out there speaking for her and her kind and not prioritising white feelings which is amazing. Keep doin you girl, I'm here to keep listening and learning from you!
Samira Tha Goddess no no, I'm listening because she has important (though challenging) issues that she needs to talk about. She could easily just try to hide her blackness to make white folk like me comfortable but she's embracing and being completely outspoken about black issues. I try to think that her skin colour isn't affecting how well I accept and listen to what she says
Kira S they are not responsible for what happened in the past. They are responsible for how they deal with or at the very least acknowledge the past. Many Whites today do absolutely nothing to repair the damage done by their ancestors and they continue to live the life afforded to them directly BECAUSE of the atrocities their ancestors have committed. Yet anytime someone of color brings up race we are written of as racist and the issues continue to get swept under the rug. If you honestly identify as Black and don't understand this then I feel sorry for you.
I see a lot of white people offended by her video.. if your not guilty of the stuff she said than you shouldn't be offended because she's not talking about you. She's black and proud and aware of peoples behavior, knows her history and is not going to spoon feed you how she feels. 🤷🏾♀️
Perfectly Imperfect I think some people are offended because she said " she isn't very nice to white people " which is racist . It don't bother me but I can see how people can be offended
But she implicates white people are guilty by existence, even though individuals may have been racist or oppressive. I'm not offended and I understand her point because yes, guess what, on the whole white people do that exact same thing and do not or have not gotten proper flack for it. I just think that's why white people are offended at first glance. However, given this wonderful comments section, I think enough points are flushed out to understand no, white people such as myself aren't supposed to be comfortable, but that's because we declare ourselves a nation of freedom and justice, and as white people we ignore or even contradict that in our day to day lives. I hope those people who are reactionary understand.
Wow... You boldly verbalized so many things I have gone through, felt, and personally experience as a WOC. I want to stop letting ignorance slide... thank you, Terri.
She didn't acknowledge her light skin privilege though. She can talk all day but at the end of the day she is white passing and so will be treated way differently than other black people who actually look clearly black. People are probably more open to listening to her just cause of that
She clearly stated she makes a point of showing her blackness so folks know who and what she is. She wasn't passing then and, 7 years later, she probably still isn't passing.
I was prepared not to like this...still not sure that I do, but I appreciate her perspective. She's speaking against privilege, but I see a lot of privilege in her being. It's great that she is not preoccupied with White fragility, but Creole fragility also exists in the Black world
+Jeannette Guzman in 7:30 min "im not as nice to white people so they are not as comfortable around me" in 8:15 min "their world denies my humanity and existence" Like what the actual fuck.
GirlYouAlreadyKnow She just sounds so stuck in the past. Move the fuck on. Additionally, you can't deny that her tone sounded like " Its us against them, its black people against white ". Thats honestly the vibe Im getting from her.
A dinner party with this woman, Francesca from MTV, and their husbands would be whiter than my neighborhood barbecues. As someone here brilliantly said, she wears blackness like drag, and doesn't suffer it- she enjoys the social mobility and apparently excuse for rudeness it gives her.
wearing her blackness? how ridiculous is that comment. She wasn't rude she was speaking her truth..... & it should be heard no matter how uncomfortably it makes people. sometimes its just hard to listen to a black woman whose more articulate then oneself 😂👍
Maybe people don't like her because she assumes the worst in everyone around her, not because she's black. I'm very offended. You don't know what is in someone's heart just because of what their skin looks like.
Same impression here. If during polite conversation she would call me curse words (in Poland "bitch" is extremely rude word) and start treating me like shit (she gives such vibes), I would turn and walk away. Not because she is black, I couldn't care less to be honest, but I would let anyone be rude to me, I don't have time to people who are racists or have prejudiced against me. It's just self-care. Respect goes two-ways.
I live in London England. I'm half Irish and when my father came from Ireland in the 60s all hotel windows said no blacks, no Irish, no dogs. My family is full of Jamaicans now and in London people mix. I find this very sad as there is so much anger which only eats at you in the end. My beautiful mixed race nephews and neices are loved and excepted by our family and community. Forward thinking is the way.
We live in a fallen world. Theres no paradise here. The mountain top speech by Martin Luther king Says it all. As on earth as in heaven. People who choose to be racists in this life, opt for hatred, which is anti love and therefore anti God.
This was absolutely beautiful and so so relatable.The childhood/school dynamic she described is 100% like my experience. I, like her, wonder what the hell my parents were thinking. It's a fucking traumatizing way to develop. This gives me hope I can overcome and shed that weight. Thank you.
I understand why white people get offended when we talk about white supremacy becuse your history holds alot of negativity and it makes you feel uncomfortable but mainly because you can't deny it.The fact the only response you can use is it happened hundreds of years ago, but ignore the fact we are still dealing with these issues today just as much as white people benefit from what happened hundreds of years ago. I'm just curious to know why be so ignorant about it, you choose to get offended about the truth when you see it everyday. your always so quick to say "it's 2000 - 2017 get over it" as if the time of year automatically changes the racism that still exists today. How do you not acknowledge racism and at the same time your telling ppl to shut up about how they are being treated.... and think that alone isn't racist???? your telling people to just Deal with racism and not complain about it because it's a new year????????
OurTruth This is what bothers me! I'm white, it's my responsibility to TRY and understand but at least RECOGNIZE the struggle of POC and black people. It's 2017, so wake the f up people and educate yourselves.
OurTruth I don't feel guilty for what a bunch of old dead assholes did. I hate their sin but I don't carry the guilt because it's not mine to hold on to. I know what's in my heart.
OurTruth should the crimes other people committed be our own just because we share the same skin color? Sound awful racist to me. I've never done anything shitty to someone because they had a different skin color than I. It's people not looking at the hearts of others that perpetuates racism.
crazy how your race has always killed because of the color of skin and still happening till this day! and you say we should be nice about ?! despite our mistreatment we ahould still be friendly and nice, but thats all we have ever been. if you focus more on ending the RACISM of YOUR people that would help contribute to end racism, you are in no place to tell someone how to cope racism.
As a mixed race person I find her "me and mine and you and yours" rhetoric fundamentally divisive and unhelpful. There aren't 'my world' and 'your world', there is one world in which we both live and in it I have happened to get the shorter straw in comparison to my white family members. What to do about it? Set the example. I acknowledge my privilege as a highly educated person and use that to help others who have not been so fortunate in the hope that someone will use theirs at some point to help me out should I need it.
She is not biracial but mixed. She comes from a long line-- 10-15 generations-- of "high yellow" parents. Probably from New Orleans. Black light skinned creoles in Louisiana are a unique ( not as insular) culture.
Seriously, the glaring cognitive dissonance between what she's saying and that fleur de lis (a French royalist symbol) of her tattoo popping off her arm is mind blowing...
Yes Queen! Idk who she is but I love her! 😍😍 I agree on changing groups of friends, I don't let (w) people get away w all the slick shit they feel comfy to say around me. I am happy she is educated and not afraid to educate others! Xx
Millennials think they are so important as individuals it is sickening how self centred some of us have become....This lady is so unlikable and so full of herself she is going to be a very lonely and sad person if not already
This is amazing. Its like some sort of therapy I would need for myself, just take everything out of me and accept the way I am. This channel is so inspiring. Thank you.
Don't get me wrong, I love how she speaks her mind, how full of knowledge she is about her culture and background and how much pride she takes in being herself, shamelessly. BUT then again, I do pity her for holding the amount of anger that she does. She is really REALLY angry. We can't fight fire with fire my sister; we just can't. Look around you: We're trying to fight fire with fire, and look how that backlashed. "Be the example you wish to see in the world."; never gets old.
Celina Liya And white people started that damn fire. Your comment makes it seem like its a black persons responsibility to end the racism that white people created.
white ppl are always like "hey. ueah there is racism and you are going to be treated likeshit but don't fight against it... just do your best to continue to spread love and be nice" 😑😑😑😑😑😑
Guys I get it; I'm not picking sides here in anyway or form. I'm a child of a black man, his great grandparents were slaves too. But I'm also the child of a white woman; so I've got to see this from 2 perspectives. ALL I'm saying is this fight will not be solved this way. We'll only create even more anger and hate between the blacks and whites. But anyway; this is all probably just wishful thinking. Lets just keep blaming the white people of 2017 who had absolutely 0 control over what their great grandparents caused.
clearly. your still not getting it your talking about your great grandparents when were talking about the racism that still exists today. are you denying that???
I'm not denying that at all! As a mixed woman, I have been discriminated against by both "sides"; so don't start with me. Our sister in this video is talking mainly about slavery though; so that's what motivated me to write my initial comment.
Just an opinion and I completely understand the point she is trying to make but I feel like it's more of a push towards separation rather than unity.. I'm an immigrant and i got bullied throughout school as people look very differently at someone they're not used to. As much as I believe in what she is saying I feel as if you can't go through life with such hatred.
"...and from that point forward we have consistently maintained our sense of self - that's a radical act" so well put, and it's an important thing to acknowledge and appreciate.
What's Underneath? Loads of racism and prejudice apparently. Weird how anger (albeit justified anger) as a result of experiencing racism can make you racist yourself. You'd think it'd make you determined not to be like that. None of this sounds particularly personal. It sounds like she read a history book about all the terrible things that happened to other black people and rehashed it illustrating it with personal examples that pale in comparison to everything those poor people went through. I'm not American so maybe I've missed something but why do a lot of people use the word "We" when describing what their great grandparents experienced? My grandparents lived through a civil war but I don't use "we" when I talk about it, you know, since I wasn't there. I wasn't even on the planet yet.
because you still aren't feeling the effects of your grandparents living through a civil war but she is still experiencing racism.. Its easy for you to just say " you think experiencing racism would make you determined to not be like that" Until you have experienced what she has please don't speak on a topic you know 0% about.
Venus In Furs umm you have no idea about what she is talking about. You aren't from America and your not a minority so I assume you don't know what it feels like to not be included and feel safe in your own skin. This is a good thing be because no one should feel this way in America especially if they are born in this country.
You don't have to be patronising. Actually I did, for years I was judged just for the accent I had. I do still live the effects of it, my country is still filled with sectarianism. You say to not talk about what I don't know about. You don't know about my situation but jump to conclusions about it. But that's ok isn't it? Because double standards are fine in america. From where I'm sitting it looks like if white people say something racist in america they are being racist but if black people say something racist about white people they are empowered, strong people. I'm not racist, I have mixed race kids. (Who are half american by the way.) I hate racism, hence why I commented on the fact that she is being racist.
I also hate the way she says "what you and yours have done" as if the stylelikeu team have directly contributed to racism in america. Aren't they doing the opposite through filming these and giving her a voice? It makes me sick, not just the racism, but the rudeness.
I appreciate showing an example of question denial, because I have seen people who are non-white just exclusively block or ignore those who want to be educated because it is not their job to educate the ignorant, and that's true! At the same time, it leaves nothing to learn from or even the possibility of the desired growth. What Terri does is deny the question but explains why, which puts things into an unbiased perspective and makes me realize what I'm living on and what I need to do if I truly care about creating a more unified movement in growth that still embraces diversity. Thank you, Terri. I would say Ms. or Mrs. Coleman but I do not know the name situation, if you kept your own last name or not.
I'm a white woman, I agree with many of her views. Facing past atrocities and their echoes in society today is confronting when my caucasian ancestors are the perpetrators. (even though I'm not from America, my own country has it's own tragic past involving a minority which is echoed today). I think there is LOTS of generational trauma and white supremacy in society. However, like other commenters have said - it is hard to deny that this woman is white passing in society therefore has so much more privilige than a dark skin woman. She appears like a caucasian tumblr type of girl - nothing wrong with that however there's definitely an irony of her preaching about colourism and injustice when she does not in fact, have the imbued pain, abuse, margenalization and cruelty which a dark skinned woman deals with. The historical aspect of white slave masters raping their slaves which in turn created mixed is mentioned by her: well why 'weaken' or shall we say "whiten" your children. This contradiction or flawed concept is confirmed by her marriage to a white man?! She can be less kind to white people, that's not what irks me - it's the complete fakery and hyper exaggeration of the black experience which baffles me. Preach the experience, spread the message - those are positive things but I am genuine intrigued to know how non-white passing black women or men feel about this? A recent stylelikeu profile ob Roselyn Lionheart comes to mind where she speaks about being at a protest - a woman attacking her and her wanting to fight back _ then having the poignant realization that she would be arrested, mistreated immediately. Lets flip that - this lady here would most likely be perceived as white or 'less aggressive'. I suppose at the end of the day, her message supports and fights for people who are relegated as second class citizens however I do question her approach and self indulgence of a white passing - white pass on- experience.
I don't understand people who allow their identity to become their culture. You are NOT your culture, your culture IS you. Don't minimize your being to your roots. Maximize your being by being present and designing the future.
Wow, hearing her story about her hair when she was growing up really made me sad. When I was growing up during the early 2000s (MIND YOU my family was the only black one in the small town where we grew up, its a european country btw). I didn't notice it back then but my parents started early, they would just drop comments like after my mom had braided my hair (she braided and took care of my hair all throughout my childhood, I never had a relaxer and my mom is totally against that anyway), my mom would say look how beautiful you look, and she would let me look in the mirror and put my braids in the front and I just felt so fucking beautiful, and when I looked at her I saw myself. And when my dad saw my new hairstyle he would always tell me how cool I looked and that just boosted my confidence even more! For my parents it was all about teaching self love and being proud of where you come from. I could get teased at school but that didn't mean shit to me because I knew my truth and nobody could take that away from me. But the majority of comments I got about my hair from white people were positive, most people were just interested and fascinated because they had never seen black hair before, and they would always say that my hair looked beautiful. I remember this one time a white girl in my class (btw my siblings and I were the ONLY black kids at the school that we were going to) who just kept looking at my hair (I had cornrows) and after a few minutes I was just like why are you staring at me for? And she was like oh nothing I like your hair its cool! And I was like thanks. GUURL after summer break she came back with the exact same hairstyle but with a bunch of hair ties so that her braids wouldn't unravel, I walked passed her during recess and her face turned REED haha..
I understand her thought processes here, and agree with the majority of points she raised but that doesn't stop her from having a rude personality. I don't neither think she's goals nor do I think she's racist (except she does a good job of ignoring Native Americans), I just think she's rude and doesn't appear (from this snapshot of her) to possess the humility or empathy which makes people kind
@@witchsistah For what it's worth: I agreed with the comment because in my experience, showing humility and kindness gives a better chance of a message being received and an attempt made to understand. She is describing how she chose to marry a white man and then how her inlaws are just too white and basic to get her and she's annoyed by them. If she instead used that combative energy to try to talk to them with love, it might bridge to a better place as family. Her vibe is maybe what's hard to connect with, not her anything else. She can feel/act/present however she wants to as can we all. And none of it is wrong. I mean this all with respect, as an observation, not as an instruction of any kind as if I know more/better. Just answering your question from my perspective. 😊
I see in the comments she struck a lot of nerves lol! But the truth is the truth..so be mad! I'm glad she was able to educate some people on the history of this land
pssshhht after hearing what she said I knew the comments section would be a complete mess. This is why I just watch these videos and almost never read the comments. It's important, interesting, and socially responsible to take in new perspectives and sit down to see how it interacts with and informs your own perspective. I suggest 95% of the people in the comments do the same instead of reacting quickly, and with anger. Whether you agree or not, you might learn something
I love her unapologetic blackness and the sensitivity in the comments is so so laughable. When you don't experience racial oppression so you think anything slightly mean to your whiteness is full on terror and racist. Lmaooooo
Maybe you just don't get it; what she says isn't necessarily for you. I can guarantee you that a LOT of black people who grew up around white people experienced at least some of what she spoke about. Also not clear on how she is racist when she's literally just talking about things she has dealt with in life. No one was putting down another race in this video.
Look at how she talks about her in laws... Not just them, close to everything she says will suddenly seem extremely offensive and racist if you switch the races. I wish all the best to her ,but shes very bitter person and that hate filled attitude of hers is so sad. People should build their identity on traits, character and actions. Instead they build it on skin color and what their possible ancestors have experienced, make a banner out of it and shout it out loud whenever theres possibility. That sickly obsessive attitude is huge obstacle in archiving racism free society.
She’s incredible. Makes her point with no chaser. I once read an intriguing article highlighting how (obviously) family plays a crucial role in enculturation: transmitting a "world view" from generation to generation. I guess all we can do as individuals is work hard at growth across generations. I imagine her children being highly intelligent & informed. ❤️
I want to find a way to acknowledge the pain and terror and the evil that people were subjected to while also somehow looking to the future. I want people of all color, gender, race and creed to assume the best in each other. I want to honor the memory of people that were hurt and raped and killed while also letting the blame die with those to committed those crimes. We have to forgive and unite somehow.
First off as a Black Woman, I Completely Support what she is saying. BUT she is a HUGE CONTRADICTION of Everything She Stands For! In her OVERCOMPENSATION in Being "Black AF" she knows she will find SAFETY in marrying a White Man that escapes her from being held Accountable for her personal values. And though this Completely Bothers Me & Many Others, she is showing & representing The Complexity of Blackness & how America's Influence on Our Culture/Heritage/Race Makes Us ALL Living Contradictions! #REALtalk!!!
yes, that's the word I was looking for .. overcompensation .. there's some point around blackness she's trying to prove to herself .. its all interesting
I'm not surprised she ended up with a white man: she's an academic, so she's probably around a LOT more white men than black men. It's been the same way with me, tbh: academia, from grad school onwards, is a white (and asian) world. I'll probably end up with a white or asian man. As long as he's not problematic, and wants the D on a regular, idgaf.
I felt the same way. Sort of a hypocritical stance really. She sounded so militant, I couldn't imagine her marrying white or passing this knowledge down to her children. To each their own, but she had me right up until she said her husband was white.
So a conscious black person can't marry a white person ... and their children won't be able to be take on the same kind of knowledge their mom has? What kind of fucked up reasoning is that based on? She can love anyone, man or woman, black or white, without giving up her black card.
I'm not offended by this video, I agree with almost everything she said but I do think that her way of moving forward isn't the best. White people have done beyond awful things to blacks and an option will always be to hurt white people as much they have black people, and they'll 100% deserve it. But when we're mainly dealing with a new generation that tends to be more liberal, progressive and understands the wrongs of their ancestors but doesn't choose to continue their behaviour I think a better way forward is to build a more integrated and open community rather than getting even. I hope people perceive this right not as brushing history under the rug.
Wait, she has three kids?? DAMN...I don't think I could like this any more than I do. I wish I could give it a thousand likes. I'm glad this blackademic is in my corner and I look forward to hearing more about her in the future. With a mind like that...it's only a matter of time! Thanks for another amazing interview.
2020 and i am still her for my SISTER. In this life there will be sheeps, movers, shakers and agitators for change (AFG). Being an AFG is people who are committed to love and light. They cant stray away from it. Guardians of the full TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH! Thank you for being here in this lifetime. For all lives to matter. Black lives have to be respected, loved, supported and MATTER! 💓💓🌸
I like how she talks with her hands and it helps better tell what she is trying to say. a lot of her hand juestures are very lecture like. thank you for sharing! :)
I love the pits, and her style! My great grandparents ran to the states from Romania as Jews. They had to change their identity and everything, and that is an act I am in awe and blessed for. My grandmother rebelled and became a Christian Missionary. I was not close with her, nor my father and I am unfamiliar with why she made that decision, but it was one I believe out of spite and I can only hope she had that appreciation for them that I feel now. My fathers dad was English and Native American from the Powhatan tribe I believe. My dad is tan, black eyes, black hair. My moms heritage is German, Swiss, and Native. We can tie our family history back to the Mayflower just like 10% of the entire U.S. She is fair, freckles, reddish hair. I am apparently white while the rest of my siblings took after my dad much more. I experience white people feeling far too comfortable around me, and people of color telling me I have no voice on the topic of racism. I have two half sisters that are full Native and it's crazy to see how different our lives ended up just having different mothers. It's SO obvious that they were treated differently. I HATE that, and I have genuine ANGER, but I worry that maybe I am just a "basic becky white bitch" (as I've been called) that only wants to seem like they care. I have been going through this identity crisis around race as long as I can remember. Always wishing I could identify more with my Native side, and feeling disgust towards white people all the while feeling defensive for being white myself. Idk, I hear what shes saying.
If you heard what she s saying you're a better more understanding person than I. To me, she made some good points but her manner is so abrasive and unnecessarily so, it's hard to listen to her, especially when she demonises whites people the way she does. She is contradictory and difficult to believe she's truly being real, saying she dislikes white folk so much, yet marrying a white man, disrespecting and hurting her mother in law needlessly. Someone up thread said she's hard work. I agree. I'm an African person in western society with dominant 'white' culture but found her kind of unbearable. Fromthe brief history in your post and your and others attempts to really hear what this very unpleasant woman had to say, seems any one of you would have been a more suitable subject for the video /style like u project.
I do find that kind of interesting. How must her partner feel? I generally think anger is useless and try to be patient and calm. Reflect before I react. Kindness speaks and inspires. When people get offended their brain is wired to protect itself from pain and they get defensive as to not feel sad. It's kind of science that being abrasive is not as effective in reaching a general audience.
She’s got soo much anger and hurt in her but I LOVE how she teaches through it. As a fellow redhead I recognize the fire in her soul. I wish people would just treat each other with the respect and acceptance they would want for themselves.
as a white person, I'm not offended by her but more concerned for her negativity towards white people, and yet she married a white man and won't respect his family?!!! like it's important to acknowledge racism exists and the disgusting history of it in the US, but there is no reason to disrespect someone who protests for the same things you do just because of their skin. and it also makes so many assumptions about skin colour, like I look Caucasian but I come from a Latin American family, so you're going to not talk to me? - this only enforces stereotypes on so many levels. the black community have and do experience racism, but you are not fixing the problem with revenge and doing the same towards white people. people don't get the simple fact that peace won't ever be a result from racism and violence, in whatever form it may be.
If you're not gonna be nice to me, then of course I won't feel comfortable around you, no matter what you look like. I haven't done anything to you. And just because I'm white living in America doesn't mean my ancestors have done anything to yours either. My ancestors could have come from various places that had nothing to do with slavery or what-have-you. And even if they did, They aren't me. So why do you have to take the actions of others and just assume I'm the same. That's a crap way of thinking.
chelsiemalfoy ummmm. hmm. back up. stop getting defensive. We have instituionalized and systemtic racism against black and non black POC. She doesn't have to feel comfortable with white people, no black person does because of what we have to deal with and put up with white people. Stop looking into your feelings. Furthermore, do not dismiss slavery and racism. Yeah your ancestors participated in it, but you still benefit from their wrong doings. Maybe you should educate yourself and your world view a little bit more.
Not being defensive, just telling it like it is, like she was doing. You don't know me, so how can you assume who my ancestors are? Like I said before I'm white living in America, but my ancestors are from Sweden and Norway. But acting like it doesn't matter and that everyone should have prejudice against white because of history is just as bad as saying it's okay to have a prejudice against people of color because of their history as well. The only way to fix racism in the current time isn't to dwell on the past. It's to take action on the here and now. Yes history is important to know and learn from, but only so we don't repeat it. If you're dwelling, then you're repeating even in the subtlest ways. And I wasn't dismissing slavery, I was just saying that their is a possibility that a white person can have ancestors that had nothing to do with it.
I want to reply to you both because I agree with both of you. Slavery and black history can and will never be forgotten. What happened back then was beyond horrible, no body should have gone through that. But I agree that it's important that we learn from those horrible times when black people had no rights. It's not good to hold grudges, please don't get that mixed up with forgetting. We ALL as human beings shouldn't MOVE on but move FORWARD from this. Bearing in mind, back in those days no one knew what we know now. White people didn't consider black people as important and black people had every right to f*cking hate them back, but that doesn't mean all white people today should pay for that because a lot of white people hate the history where white people treated black people badly. I say if your gonna hate someone let it be individual, not because of race. I mean that for both sides, thank you
Lisa Smith oh way to go, just another example on an uneducated swine. Don't you dare go and target the non-white victims of a fabricated system created by the WHITES in order to deny them the right from growth and progression. They don't risk their lives for shit, because they're lives have already been taken from them. For years we've known and witnessed the fall of many countries due to the Brits and Americas. Maybe next time they wouldn't have to flee, if their land isnt strip away from them, their families murdered and resources stolen.
"MY SOCIAL CIRCLES HAVE GOTTEN A LOT BLACKER AND A LOT BROWNER BECAUSE I'M NOT NICE TO WHITE PEOPLE SO THEY GET UNCOMFORTABLE". I have been doing this as well; this resonates in my recent entry to adulthood.
"My social circles have changed a lot. They've gotten a lot blacker and a lot browner. Because I'm not as nice to white people so they aren't comfortable around me." Why is that something to be proud of? Why would you want to purposefully be mean to someone based on their skin color? I get the past has been terrible. But why not give the people of now a chance. We do not have to be our ancestors. We can create a new and better future. But not with this outlook. We should never be proud that we are purposefully rude to someone based on their race. Or proud that your friendships are based on skin color. This makes me sad. This is the first one of these videos that has made me feel sad.
Wow!! What an amazing, intelligent, insightful, beautifully articulate, passionate, knowledgeable, powerfully strong woman. She blew me away! I wish I could have even 1/2 of her many qualities.
Powerful! I personally try to simply accept others as they are and have made a concerted effort to make sure my son does so as well. I felt I had made headway when Miss Kentucky (who I have since learned is African-American) came to his school to speak. When I asked about her, he simply said she had short hair. This video made me think that maybe I'm naive about what others may be thinking or feeling.
This was the best and the most profound video that I’ve seen on your channel so far. We need Terry to run for a political office and represent us, her people (women, women of color, Black women, mixed women, Black people, woke people of any race) ! Where can I find her on social media I’d like to follow her and encourage her and applaud her. Thanks 😊✨👏🏽 Terry Coleman is real and is the Future for beginning to eradicate and end White supremacy...... yes I said it “end white supremacy “ we will do it with people like Terry Coleman leading the way and changing laws to accomplish it!!!
i don't disagree with a lot of what she was saying but this girl just babbled the whole time and it clouded out the points she was trying to make. came off as abrasive and condescending. learn how to communicate honey
1) Why is it ok to use the terms "black people" and "white people" in the context of negativity? 2) Why does voting for a republican make a person a snake? 3) Why is it ok to meet "white people" with hostility for asking her ethnicity? 4) Why is it ok for her to blame all "white people" for slavery that happened over 100 years ago? We are all just people at the end of the day and the color of our skin should not define the content of our character nor should it be a crutch to carry around unwarranted anger. When I look at a person I'm seeing them. Not their skin, not their hair, not their clothes or their political beliefs. I look for the best in people and find that kindness and compassion are the best way to defeat racism and hate. For a person who wants other to be accepting of her, she sure has a problem accepting everyone else. P.S. Out of all the What's Underneath video's, this is by far the least inspiring and most disappointing.
The stories these people / women tell are amazing by itself but what amazes me more is that I actually kind of forget that they're taking off their clothes. I just listen and the naked skin they show doesn't matter, it's not about being sexual. It's like sitting with a very good friend or a lover, just listening to them.
While I appreciate her presentation of herself, life, and experiences, I was shocked when she said her husband is white. Yes, love transcends all; however, it still shocked me. Regardless of how supposedly aware her in-laws are, they have not had the exposure and experience of the BIPOC society. I have a white husband and friends whom I had to deeply educate about their role in society and how it affect BIPOC society. To hear "I don't see colour" was a statement I had to help them understand is/can be hurtful. I am English and speak "the Queens English" so I constantly othered or fetishized because I don't fit the mold of what black women should be or look like.
Why can't we all just get along? leave your grudges behind people, we're all human. The past has already been lived, but the future is ours to create. Heal your heart, let go, forgive.
Eve lyn Are you blind in what is going on in the world TODAY and the SAME discrimination that exists today just in a different form. An institutionalised form that is legitimised. Like police killings.
I am white and listening to her I feel my internalised sensitive white supremacist getting offended and defensive. This lady ain't taking no shit and although it's intimidating to me as a white woman, I am so so in awe of her!! She is out there speaking for her and her kind and not prioritising white feelings which is amazing. Keep doin you girl, I'm here to keep listening and learning from you!
Eliza Kate cause she light or ?
Because she seems powerful and speaks full of passion
Samira Tha Goddess no no, I'm listening because she has important (though challenging) issues that she needs to talk about. She could easily just try to hide her blackness to make white folk like me comfortable but she's embracing and being completely outspoken about black issues. I try to think that her skin colour isn't affecting how well I accept and listen to what she says
James David Tell me how you really feel.
Kira S they are not responsible for what happened in the past. They are responsible for how they deal with or at the very least acknowledge the past. Many Whites today do absolutely nothing to repair the damage done by their ancestors and they continue to live the life afforded to them directly BECAUSE of the atrocities their ancestors have committed. Yet anytime someone of color brings up race we are written of as racist and the issues continue to get swept under the rug. If you honestly identify as Black and don't understand this then I feel sorry for you.
Preach the truth! No lies being "exposed", "we already knew!" Perfect answer and awareness.
I see a lot of white people offended by her video.. if your not guilty of the stuff she said than you shouldn't be offended because she's not talking about you. She's black and proud and aware of peoples behavior, knows her history and is not going to spoon feed you how she feels. 🤷🏾♀️
Perfectly Imperfect no sugar coating
Perfectly Imperfect I think some people are offended because she said " she isn't very nice to white people " which is racist . It don't bother me but I can see how people can be offended
But she implicates white people are guilty by existence, even though individuals may have been racist or oppressive. I'm not offended and I understand her point because yes, guess what, on the whole white people do that exact same thing and do not or have not gotten proper flack for it. I just think that's why white people are offended at first glance. However, given this wonderful comments section, I think enough points are flushed out to understand no, white people such as myself aren't supposed to be comfortable, but that's because we declare ourselves a nation of freedom and justice, and as white people we ignore or even contradict that in our day to day lives. I hope those people who are reactionary understand.
Uncle Shaun you should look up the meaning of racist in a dictionary, pretty sure it doesn't translate to "not being nice to people"
SupraSoulStar don't look up racism in the dictionary. it oversimplifies it to the point of being inaccurate. like just don't
Wow... You boldly verbalized so many things I have gone through, felt, and personally experience as a WOC. I want to stop letting ignorance slide... thank you, Terri.
If I saw her I would tell her, thank you so much for speaking for those who couldn't speak for or defend themselves.
Can't lie I wanted to turn this off after she said she's married to a white man seems like a huge contradiction
She didn't acknowledge her light skin privilege though. She can talk all day but at the end of the day she is white passing and so will be treated way differently than other black people who actually look clearly black. People are probably more open to listening to her just cause of that
She clearly stated she makes a point of showing her blackness so folks know who and what she is. She wasn't passing then and, 7 years later, she probably still isn't passing.
yesss!! she said " I can do it in MLA or I can come for you"
I was prepared not to like this...still not sure that I do, but I appreciate her perspective. She's speaking against privilege, but I see a lot of privilege in her being. It's great that she is not preoccupied with White fragility, but Creole fragility also exists in the Black world
I love her vocabulary, she is really graceful with how she arranges her statements.
so she's basically prejudiced towards white people.
How is she prejudice towards white people?
+Jeannette Guzman in 7:30 min "im not as nice to white people so they are not as comfortable around me"
in 8:15 min "their world denies my humanity and existence"
Like what the actual fuck.
or maybe she's speaking out about racism she's experienced by white ppl. What do you want her to do? be silent about it?
GirlYouAlreadyKnow She just sounds so stuck in the past. Move the fuck on.
Additionally, you can't deny that her tone sounded like " Its us against them, its black people against white ".
Thats honestly the vibe Im getting from her.
Jeannette Guzman she said she doesent want to be around white ppl and she showed an overall disgust toward whies eventhough she is ateast 50 % herself
A dinner party with this woman, Francesca from MTV, and their husbands would be whiter than my neighborhood barbecues. As someone here brilliantly said, she wears blackness like drag, and doesn't suffer it- she enjoys the social mobility and apparently excuse for rudeness it gives her.
_"She wears blackness like drag."_
Couldn't have said it better myself.
So much about her is hypocritical, I didn't even make it through the video.
wearing her blackness? how ridiculous is that comment. She wasn't rude she was speaking her truth..... & it should be heard no matter how uncomfortably it makes people. sometimes its just hard to listen to a black woman whose more articulate then oneself 😂👍
Maybe people don't like her because she assumes the worst in everyone around her, not because she's black. I'm very offended. You don't know what is in someone's heart just because of what their skin looks like.
Same impression here. If during polite conversation she would call me curse words (in Poland "bitch" is extremely rude word) and start treating me like shit (she gives such vibes), I would turn and walk away. Not because she is black, I couldn't care less to be honest, but I would let anyone be rude to me, I don't have time to people who are racists or have prejudiced against me. It's just self-care. Respect goes two-ways.
+Arnikka coming from a person who calls black people terrorist you are the real racist
ja345 Yeah stop spreading lies only because you can't read properly and you lack reading comprehension.
She is not black anyway
any black person who dresses like they just left Africa and says rich white men with distain and marries a white dude is a complete joke
I live in London England. I'm half Irish and when my father came from Ireland in the 60s all hotel windows said no blacks, no Irish, no dogs. My family is full of Jamaicans now and in London people mix. I find this very sad as there is so much anger which only eats at you in the end. My beautiful mixed race nephews and neices are loved and excepted by our family and community. Forward thinking is the way.
Forward thinking is genocide got it
It's been over 400 years...and we are still treated less than... what forward thinking!!!
We live in a fallen world. Theres no paradise here. The mountain top speech by Martin Luther king
Says it all.
As on earth as in heaven. People who choose to be racists in this life, opt for hatred, which is anti love and therefore anti God.
This was absolutely beautiful and so so relatable.The childhood/school dynamic she described is 100% like my experience. I, like her, wonder what the hell my parents were thinking. It's a fucking traumatizing way to develop. This gives me hope I can overcome and shed that weight. Thank you.
This needs so much more exposure! I love this type of unapologetic conversation.
I understand why white people get offended when we talk about white supremacy becuse your history holds alot of negativity and it makes you feel uncomfortable but mainly because you can't deny it.The fact the only response you can use is it happened hundreds of years ago, but ignore the fact we are still dealing with these issues today just as much as white people benefit from what happened hundreds of years ago. I'm just curious to know why be so ignorant about it, you choose to get offended about the truth when you see it everyday. your always so quick to say "it's 2000 - 2017 get over it" as if the time of year automatically changes the racism that still exists today. How do you not acknowledge racism and at the same time your telling ppl to shut up about how they are being treated.... and think that alone isn't racist???? your telling people to just Deal with racism and not complain about it because it's a new year????????
OurTruth This is what bothers me! I'm white, it's my responsibility to TRY and understand but at least RECOGNIZE the struggle of POC and black people. It's 2017, so wake the f up people and educate yourselves.
OurTruth I don't feel guilty for what a bunch of old dead assholes did. I hate their sin but I don't carry the guilt because it's not mine to hold on to. I know what's in my heart.
where did I say you should feel gilt???
OurTruth should the crimes other people committed be our own just because we share the same skin color? Sound awful racist to me. I've never done anything shitty to someone because they had a different skin color than I. It's people not looking at the hearts of others that perpetuates racism.
crazy how your race has always killed because of the color of skin and still happening till this day! and you say we should be nice about ?! despite our mistreatment we ahould still be friendly and nice, but thats all we have ever been. if you focus more on ending the RACISM of YOUR people that would help contribute to end racism, you are in no place to tell someone how to cope racism.
As a mixed race person I find her "me and mine and you and yours" rhetoric fundamentally divisive and unhelpful. There aren't 'my world' and 'your world', there is one world in which we both live and in it I have happened to get the shorter straw in comparison to my white family members. What to do about it? Set the example. I acknowledge my privilege as a highly educated person and use that to help others who have not been so fortunate in the hope that someone will use theirs at some point to help me out should I need it.
She is not biracial but mixed. She comes from a long line-- 10-15 generations-- of "high yellow" parents. Probably from New Orleans. Black light skinned creoles in Louisiana are a unique ( not as insular) culture.
Seriously, the glaring cognitive dissonance between what she's saying and that fleur de lis (a French royalist symbol) of her tattoo popping off her arm is mind blowing...
Not to mention the other Sailor Jerry 'style' tattoos...that's some straight up White cultural symbology permanently inked on your body right there
A mess of hypocrisy and rage.
As another commenter stated, _"she wears blackness like drag."_
Thank you for participating Terri. I appreciate you bringing your experiences, ideas and facts to this space.
Yes Queen! Idk who she is but I love her! 😍😍 I agree on changing groups of friends, I don't let (w) people get away w all the slick shit they feel comfy to say around me. I am happy she is educated and not afraid to educate others! Xx
Why does it always come down to white and black ?! I'm a white woman and listening to this kinda offends me.. 2017 people, step up !
PleaseQuite offended why?
PleaseQuite exactly. Why? Because she's acknowledging history? And she's not doing it an apologetic or sugarcoated way?
you asked why it always comes down to white and black, then offered the fact you're white?
PleaseQuite a white woman is telling us to 'step up' . Oh my
Stop wasting all that white skin. You're going to hell for doing so
wild hair and unshaved armpits. Definitely is a person I can look up to. she's real
she has awaken me even more.... to just stop being so damn nice
loving this video as usual, as any other video you have ever posted, they all touch my most inner self. thanks and thanks again, and again.
Millennials think they are so important as individuals it is sickening how self centred some of us have become....This lady is so unlikable and so full of herself she is going to be a very lonely and sad person if not already
The level of self-absorption in this video is incredible. The over-compensation & lack of authenticity is nauseating.
How, where, why?
Cause she's honest?????
@@onamiilove777
She's not catering to people's feelings about the truth.
Lol you’re mad because she called you out, huh?
@@ClayMastah344 I'm a woman of color, sit down.
This is amazing. Its like some sort of therapy I would need for myself, just take everything out of me and accept the way I am. This channel is so inspiring. Thank you.
Sara +
Don't get me wrong, I love how she speaks her mind, how full of knowledge she is about her culture and background and how much pride she takes in being herself, shamelessly. BUT then again, I do pity her for holding the amount of anger that she does. She is really REALLY angry.
We can't fight fire with fire my sister; we just can't. Look around you: We're trying to fight fire with fire, and look how that backlashed.
"Be the example you wish to see in the world."; never gets old.
Celina Liya And white people started that damn fire. Your comment makes it seem like its a black persons responsibility to end the racism that white people created.
white ppl are always like "hey. ueah there is racism and you are going to be treated likeshit but don't fight against it... just do your best to continue to spread love and be nice" 😑😑😑😑😑😑
Guys I get it; I'm not picking sides here in anyway or form. I'm a child of a black man, his great grandparents were slaves too. But I'm also the child of a white woman; so I've got to see this from 2 perspectives.
ALL I'm saying is this fight will not be solved this way. We'll only create even more anger and hate between the blacks and whites.
But anyway; this is all probably just wishful thinking. Lets just keep blaming the white people of 2017 who had absolutely 0 control over what their great grandparents caused.
clearly. your still not getting it your talking about your great grandparents when were talking about the racism that still exists today. are you denying that???
I'm not denying that at all! As a mixed woman, I have been discriminated against by both "sides"; so don't start with me.
Our sister in this video is talking mainly about slavery though; so that's what motivated me to write my initial comment.
Seems like she has more of an issue with herself over anyone else.
Lmao I’m not white 🤣
Roscato Marie seems like you forgot she IS white tho 🤣
Roscato Marie she’s half white . She said it in the video. Actually the wholllle video is about her being torn due to being biracial. So she’s not?
Just an opinion and I completely understand the point she is trying to make but I feel like it's more of a push towards separation rather than unity.. I'm an immigrant and i got bullied throughout school as people look very differently at someone they're not used to. As much as I believe in what she is saying I feel as if you can't go through life with such hatred.
Maybe the “hatred” is in you.
conflict is not violence my friend
"...and from that point forward we have consistently maintained our sense of self - that's a radical act" so well put, and it's an important thing to acknowledge and appreciate.
You can't stop racism with more racism, you need to better yourself just as much as everyone else
@Stephany Svorinić They meant 'you can't stop fear/ignorance/hatred with more fear/ignorance/hatred.'
What's Underneath? Loads of racism and prejudice apparently. Weird how anger (albeit justified anger) as a result of experiencing racism can make you racist yourself. You'd think it'd make you determined not to be like that. None of this sounds particularly personal. It sounds like she read a history book about all the terrible things that happened to other black people and rehashed it illustrating it with personal examples that pale in comparison to everything those poor people went through. I'm not American so maybe I've missed something but why do a lot of people use the word "We" when describing what their great grandparents experienced? My grandparents lived through a civil war but I don't use "we" when I talk about it, you know, since I wasn't there. I wasn't even on the planet yet.
because you still aren't feeling the effects of your grandparents living through a civil war but she is still experiencing racism.. Its easy for you to just say " you think experiencing racism would make you determined to not be like that" Until you have experienced what she has please don't speak on a topic you know 0% about.
Venus In Furs umm you have no idea about what she is talking about. You aren't from America and your not a minority so I assume you don't know what it feels like to not be included and feel safe in your own skin. This is a good thing be because no one should feel this way in America especially if they are born in this country.
You don't have to be patronising. Actually I did, for years I was judged just for the accent I had. I do still live the effects of it, my country is still filled with sectarianism. You say to not talk about what I don't know about. You don't know about my situation but jump to conclusions about it. But that's ok isn't it? Because double standards are fine in america. From where I'm sitting it looks like if white people say something racist in america they are being racist but if black people say something racist about white people they are empowered, strong people. I'm not racist, I have mixed race kids. (Who are half american by the way.) I hate racism, hence why I commented on the fact that she is being racist.
I also hate the way she says "what you and yours have done" as if the stylelikeu team have directly contributed to racism in america. Aren't they doing the opposite through filming these and giving her a voice? It makes me sick, not just the racism, but the rudeness.
Everybody can be racist regardless of their skin colour.
I applaud her candor, though through her "black af" demeanor her white privilege is showing.
I appreciate showing an example of question denial, because I have seen people who are non-white just exclusively block or ignore those who want to be educated because it is not their job to educate the ignorant, and that's true! At the same time, it leaves nothing to learn from or even the possibility of the desired growth. What Terri does is deny the question but explains why, which puts things into an unbiased perspective and makes me realize what I'm living on and what I need to do if I truly care about creating a more unified movement in growth that still embraces diversity. Thank you, Terri. I would say Ms. or Mrs. Coleman but I do not know the name situation, if you kept your own last name or not.
I was moved to tears by her candid presentation. Although I am a dark skinned 62 year old "sister" Terri speaks for ME!
I'm a white woman, I agree with many of her views. Facing past atrocities and their echoes in society today is confronting when my caucasian ancestors are the perpetrators. (even though I'm not from America, my own country has it's own tragic past involving a minority which is echoed today). I think there is LOTS of generational trauma and white supremacy in society. However, like other commenters have said - it is hard to deny that this woman is white passing in society therefore has so much more privilige than a dark skin woman. She appears like a caucasian tumblr type of girl - nothing wrong with that however there's definitely an irony of her preaching about colourism and injustice when she does not in fact, have the imbued pain, abuse, margenalization and cruelty which a dark skinned woman deals with. The historical aspect of white slave masters raping their slaves which in turn created mixed is mentioned by her: well why 'weaken' or shall we say "whiten" your children. This contradiction or flawed concept is confirmed by her marriage to a white man?! She can be less kind to white people, that's not what irks me - it's the complete fakery and hyper exaggeration of the black experience which baffles me. Preach the experience, spread the message - those are positive things but I am genuine intrigued to know how non-white passing black women or men feel about this? A recent stylelikeu profile ob Roselyn Lionheart comes to mind where she speaks about being at a protest - a woman attacking her and her wanting to fight back _ then having the poignant realization that she would be arrested, mistreated immediately. Lets flip that - this lady here would most likely be perceived as white or 'less aggressive'. I suppose at the end of the day, her message supports and fights for people who are relegated as second class citizens however I do question her approach and self indulgence of a white passing - white pass on- experience.
I don't understand people who allow their identity to become their culture. You are NOT your culture, your culture IS you. Don't minimize your being to your roots. Maximize your being by being present and designing the future.
her attitude and demeanor are horrible
is nobody talking about her passing 100% as a white person?
She’s not passing.
Wow, hearing her story about her hair when she was growing up really made me sad.
When I was growing up during the early 2000s (MIND YOU my family was the only black one in the small town where we grew up, its a european country btw). I didn't notice it back then but my parents started early, they would just drop comments like after my mom had braided my hair (she braided and took care of my hair all throughout my childhood, I never had a relaxer and my mom is totally against that anyway), my mom would say look how beautiful you look, and she would let me look in the mirror and put my braids in the front and I just felt so fucking beautiful, and when I looked at her I saw myself. And when my dad saw my new hairstyle he would always tell me how cool I looked and that just boosted my confidence even more! For my parents it was all about teaching self love and being proud of where you come from. I could get teased at school but that didn't mean shit to me because I knew my truth and nobody could take that away from me.
But the majority of comments I got about my hair from white people were positive, most people were just interested and fascinated because they had never seen black hair before, and they would always say that my hair looked beautiful. I remember this one time a white girl in my class (btw my siblings and I were the ONLY black kids at the school that we were going to) who just kept looking at my hair (I had cornrows) and after a few minutes I was just like why are you staring at me for? And she was like oh nothing I like your hair its cool! And I was like thanks. GUURL after summer break she came back with the exact same hairstyle but with a bunch of hair ties so that her braids wouldn't unravel, I walked passed her during recess and her face turned REED haha..
I understand her thought processes here, and agree with the majority of points she raised but that doesn't stop her from having a rude personality. I don't neither think she's goals nor do I think she's racist (except she does a good job of ignoring Native Americans), I just think she's rude and doesn't appear (from this snapshot of her) to possess the humility or empathy which makes people kind
Yep.
I agree. 😊👌
Why do Black people always have to be "humble?" Just sounds like a new way of saying, "know your place."
@@witchsistah For what it's worth: I agreed with the comment because in my experience, showing humility and kindness gives a better chance of a message being received and an attempt made to understand.
She is describing how she chose to marry a white man and then how her inlaws are just too white and basic to get her and she's annoyed by them. If she instead used that combative energy to try to talk to them with love, it might bridge to a better place as family. Her vibe is maybe what's hard to connect with, not her anything else. She can feel/act/present however she wants to as can we all. And none of it is wrong. I mean this all with respect, as an observation, not as an instruction of any kind as if I know more/better. Just answering your question from my perspective. 😊
I see in the comments she struck a lot of nerves lol! But the truth is the truth..so be mad! I'm glad she was able to educate some people on the history of this land
pssshhht after hearing what she said I knew the comments section would be a complete mess. This is why I just watch these videos and almost never read the comments. It's important, interesting, and socially responsible to take in new perspectives and sit down to see how it interacts with and informs your own perspective. I suggest 95% of the people in the comments do the same instead of reacting quickly, and with anger. Whether you agree or not, you might learn something
holy smokes this woman is psychotic
I love her unapologetic blackness and the sensitivity in the comments is so so laughable. When you don't experience racial oppression so you think anything slightly mean to your whiteness is full on terror and racist. Lmaooooo
Caucasian fragility.
she seems really mean and not open minded at all....
I am not your feelings Mamie. Very powerful and very fucking accurate. Thank you..
I love hearing about this histery.....thank you so much for this
I'm canadian and I honour you for being so clear and excellent.
Shes smart and beatuiful woman, but, listen, shes plain racist. so much prejudice self pitty. What year is this..
Eliza Lensa the year your opinion doesn't matter!! HAHAHAHAHA
Eliza Lensa lol I love that she says she loves her in laws and then say they are a product.
What demographic does she have power and prejudice over? I'll wait...
Maybe you just don't get it; what she says isn't necessarily for you. I can guarantee you that a LOT of black people who grew up around white people experienced at least some of what she spoke about. Also not clear on how she is racist when she's literally just talking about things she has dealt with in life. No one was putting down another race in this video.
Look at how she talks about her in laws... Not just them, close to everything she says will suddenly seem extremely offensive and racist if you switch the races. I wish all the best to her ,but shes very bitter person and that hate filled attitude of hers is so sad. People should build their identity on traits, character and actions. Instead they build it on skin color and what their possible ancestors have experienced, make a banner out of it and shout it out loud whenever theres possibility. That sickly obsessive attitude is huge obstacle in archiving racism free society.
I LOVE THIS WOMAN!! she was making me screaaaam at my computer. sooo much wisdom. I LOVE IT ALLLLL
I Love her!! She was preaching so much truth and educating folks.
I love this soo much. To release code switching as a black women is resistance in and of itself. I see you sis!🤎 Speak your truth!
Wow Queen, you so eloquently expressed so many of my emotions. Thank you for giving me clarity
Literally gives off the most intense aggressive negative vibe... Eeek
She’s incredible. Makes her point with no chaser. I once read an intriguing article highlighting how (obviously) family plays a crucial role in enculturation: transmitting a "world view" from generation to generation. I guess all we can do as individuals is work hard at growth across generations. I imagine her children being highly intelligent & informed. ❤️
I want to find a way to acknowledge the pain and terror and the evil that people were subjected to while also somehow looking to the future. I want people of all color, gender, race and creed to assume the best in each other. I want to honor the memory of people that were hurt and raped and killed while also letting the blame die with those to committed those crimes. We have to forgive and unite somehow.
First off as a Black Woman, I Completely Support what she is saying. BUT she is a HUGE CONTRADICTION of Everything She Stands For! In her OVERCOMPENSATION in Being "Black AF" she knows she will find SAFETY in marrying a White Man that escapes her from being held Accountable for her personal values. And though this Completely Bothers Me & Many Others, she is showing & representing The Complexity of Blackness & how America's Influence on Our Culture/Heritage/Race Makes Us ALL Living Contradictions! #REALtalk!!!
yes, that's the word I was looking for .. overcompensation .. there's some point around blackness she's trying to prove to herself .. its all interesting
J.Rene Daven contradiction? or.smart as f....more Black women need to catch a clue.
I'm not surprised she ended up with a white man: she's an academic, so she's probably around a LOT more white men than black men. It's been the same way with me, tbh: academia, from grad school onwards, is a white (and asian) world. I'll probably end up with a white or asian man. As long as he's not problematic, and wants the D on a regular, idgaf.
I felt the same way. Sort of a hypocritical stance really. She sounded so militant, I couldn't imagine her marrying white or passing this knowledge down to her children. To each their own, but she had me right up until she said her husband was white.
So a conscious black person can't marry a white person ... and their children won't be able to be take on the same kind of knowledge their mom has? What kind of fucked up reasoning is that based on? She can love anyone, man or woman, black or white, without giving up her black card.
I'm not offended by this video, I agree with almost everything she said but I do think that her way of moving forward isn't the best. White people have done beyond awful things to blacks and an option will always be to hurt white people as much they have black people, and they'll 100% deserve it. But when we're mainly dealing with a new generation that tends to be more liberal, progressive and understands the wrongs of their ancestors but doesn't choose to continue their behaviour I think a better way forward is to build a more integrated and open community rather than getting even. I hope people perceive this right not as brushing history under the rug.
Wait, she has three kids?? DAMN...I don't think I could like this any more than I do. I wish I could give it a thousand likes. I'm glad this blackademic is in my corner and I look forward to hearing more about her in the future. With a mind like that...it's only a matter of time! Thanks for another amazing interview.
Jesus, this woman sounds incredibly painful to be around
@Roscato Marie I don't know.
I've never actually seen that term defined.
Why?
2020 and i am still her for my SISTER. In this life there will be sheeps, movers, shakers and agitators for change (AFG). Being an AFG is people who are committed to love and light. They cant stray away from it. Guardians of the full TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH! Thank you for being here in this lifetime. For all lives to matter. Black lives have to be respected, loved, supported and MATTER! 💓💓🌸
I like how she talks with her hands and it helps better tell what she is trying to say. a lot of her hand juestures are very lecture like. thank you for sharing! :)
I love the pits, and her style!
My great grandparents ran to the states from Romania as Jews. They had to change their identity and everything, and that is an act I am in awe and blessed for. My grandmother rebelled and became a Christian Missionary. I was not close with her, nor my father and I am unfamiliar with why she made that decision, but it was one I believe out of spite and I can only hope she had that appreciation for them that I feel now. My fathers dad was English and Native American from the Powhatan tribe I believe. My dad is tan, black eyes, black hair. My moms heritage is German, Swiss, and Native. We can tie our family history back to the Mayflower just like 10% of the entire U.S. She is fair, freckles, reddish hair. I am apparently white while the rest of my siblings took after my dad much more. I experience white people feeling far too comfortable around me, and people of color telling me I have no voice on the topic of racism. I have two half sisters that are full Native and it's crazy to see how different our lives ended up just having different mothers. It's SO obvious that they were treated differently. I HATE that, and I have genuine ANGER, but I worry that maybe I am just a "basic becky white bitch" (as I've been called) that only wants to seem like they care. I have been going through this identity crisis around race as long as I can remember. Always wishing I could identify more with my Native side, and feeling disgust towards white people all the while feeling defensive for being white myself. Idk, I hear what shes saying.
If you heard what she s saying you're a better more understanding person than I. To me, she made some good points but her manner is so abrasive and unnecessarily so, it's hard to listen to her, especially when she demonises whites people the way she does. She is contradictory and difficult to believe she's truly being real, saying she dislikes white folk so much, yet marrying a white man, disrespecting and hurting her mother in law needlessly.
Someone up thread said she's hard work. I agree. I'm an African person in western society with dominant 'white' culture but found her kind of unbearable.
Fromthe brief history in your post and your and others attempts to really hear what this very unpleasant woman had to say, seems any one of you would have been a more suitable subject for the video /style like u project.
I do find that kind of interesting. How must her partner feel? I generally think anger is useless and try to be patient and calm. Reflect before I react. Kindness speaks and inspires. When people get offended their brain is wired to protect itself from pain and they get defensive as to not feel sad. It's kind of science that being abrasive is not as effective in reaching a general audience.
That being said I am far from perfect and am in the practice of serenity, sometimes my mind flares. Must. Refrain. From. Insults. lol
She’s got soo much anger and hurt in her but I LOVE how she teaches through it. As a fellow redhead I recognize the fire in her soul.
I wish people would just treat each other with the respect and acceptance they would want for themselves.
as a white person, I'm not offended by her but more concerned for her negativity towards white people, and yet she married a white man and won't respect his family?!!! like it's important to acknowledge racism exists and the disgusting history of it in the US, but there is no reason to disrespect someone who protests for the same things you do just because of their skin. and it also makes so many assumptions about skin colour, like I look Caucasian but I come from a Latin American family, so you're going to not talk to me? - this only enforces stereotypes on so many levels. the black community have and do experience racism, but you are not fixing the problem with revenge and doing the same towards white people. people don't get the simple fact that peace won't ever be a result from racism and violence, in whatever form it may be.
She is literally who I want to grow up to be❤
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mashaundasings94 she's so outspoken and intelligent! Her hair is to die for and her tattoos though!!!❤
Me too :)
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If you're not gonna be nice to me, then of course I won't feel comfortable around you, no matter what you look like.
I haven't done anything to you. And just because I'm white living in America doesn't mean my ancestors have done anything to yours either. My ancestors could have come from various places that had nothing to do with slavery or what-have-you. And even if they did, They aren't me. So why do you have to take the actions of others and just assume I'm the same. That's a crap way of thinking.
chelsiemalfoy ummmm. hmm. back up. stop getting defensive. We have instituionalized and systemtic racism against black and non black POC. She doesn't have to feel comfortable with white people, no black person does because of what we have to deal with and put up with white people. Stop looking into your feelings. Furthermore, do not dismiss slavery and racism. Yeah your ancestors participated in it, but you still benefit from their wrong doings. Maybe you should educate yourself and your world view a little bit more.
Not being defensive, just telling it like it is, like she was doing. You don't know me, so how can you assume who my ancestors are? Like I said before I'm white living in America, but my ancestors are from Sweden and Norway. But acting like it doesn't matter and that everyone should have prejudice against white because of history is just as bad as saying it's okay to have a prejudice against people of color because of their history as well. The only way to fix racism in the current time isn't to dwell on the past. It's to take action on the here and now. Yes history is important to know and learn from, but only so we don't repeat it. If you're dwelling, then you're repeating even in the subtlest ways.
And I wasn't dismissing slavery, I was just saying that their is a possibility that a white person can have ancestors that had nothing to do with it.
I want to reply to you both because I agree with both of you. Slavery and black history can and will never be forgotten. What happened back then was beyond horrible, no body should have gone through that.
But I agree that it's important that we learn from those horrible times when black people had no rights.
It's not good to hold grudges, please don't get that mixed up with forgetting.
We ALL as human beings shouldn't MOVE on but move FORWARD from this. Bearing in mind, back in those days no one knew what we know now. White people didn't consider black people as important and black people had every right to f*cking hate them back, but that doesn't mean all white people today should pay for that because a lot of white people hate the history where white people treated black people badly.
I say if your gonna hate someone let it be individual, not because of race. I mean that for both sides, thank you
If you're black, how tf are you going to be mad at the people that sacrificed hundreds of thousands for your ancestors freedom? What a waste of life
Lisa Smith oh way to go, just another example on an uneducated swine. Don't you dare go and target the non-white victims of a fabricated system created by the WHITES in order to deny them the right from growth and progression. They don't risk their lives for shit, because they're lives have already been taken from them. For years we've known and witnessed the fall of many countries due to the Brits and Americas. Maybe next time they wouldn't have to flee, if their land isnt strip away from them, their families murdered and resources stolen.
She's super blunt. Says exactly what she thinks and feels
If your feelings are hurt then she did her job.
"MY SOCIAL CIRCLES HAVE GOTTEN A LOT BLACKER AND A LOT BROWNER BECAUSE I'M NOT NICE TO WHITE PEOPLE SO THEY GET UNCOMFORTABLE". I have been doing this as well; this resonates in my recent entry to adulthood.
"My social circles have changed a lot. They've gotten a lot blacker and a lot browner. Because I'm not as nice to white people so they aren't comfortable around me." Why is that something to be proud of? Why would you want to purposefully be mean to someone based on their skin color? I get the past has been terrible. But why not give the people of now a chance. We do not have to be our ancestors. We can create a new and better future. But not with this outlook. We should never be proud that we are purposefully rude to someone based on their race. Or proud that your friendships are based on skin color. This makes me sad. This is the first one of these videos that has made me feel sad.
Of course be proud you have friends of every color, shape, size whatever. Everyone is special.
I LOOOOVE HER
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Wow!! What an amazing, intelligent, insightful, beautifully articulate, passionate, knowledgeable, powerfully strong woman. She blew me away! I wish I could have even 1/2 of her many qualities.
Outstanding.
Powerful! I personally try to simply accept others as they are and have made a concerted effort to make sure my son does so as well. I felt I had made headway when Miss Kentucky (who I have since learned is African-American) came to his school to speak. When I asked about her, he simply said she had short hair. This video made me think that maybe I'm naive about what others may be thinking or feeling.
Rachel Dolezal?
bry I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this 😂😂😂
you tried it
all i see is her spreading hate
LORD this is everything !!!
@stylelikeu These videos are wonderful. Watching them feels like therapy.
She is not a nice person at all
This was the best and the most profound video that I’ve seen on your channel so far. We need Terry to run for a political office and represent us, her people (women, women of color, Black women, mixed women, Black people, woke people of any race) ! Where can I find her on social media I’d like to follow her and encourage her and applaud her. Thanks 😊✨👏🏽 Terry Coleman is real and is the Future for beginning to eradicate and end White supremacy...... yes I said it “end white supremacy “ we will do it with people like Terry Coleman leading the way and changing laws to accomplish it!!!
She know what's she talking bout I loved this video too
i don't disagree with a lot of what she was saying but this girl just babbled the whole time and it clouded out the points she was trying to make. came off as abrasive and condescending. learn how to communicate honey
My attention level markedly DECREASED after she said her husband was white. JS..
I guess her husband and his family acknowledge the black dynamic and respect blacks? But still... quite contradictory to her stance.
shee's very unapologetic and articulate. I do think that she would have had a harder time in a black school though.
Loved this video. Powerful personality & perspective.
I loved listening to her speak. She is just so real and she doesn't mince words.
"Be your feelings mammy" guuurrrl!
So well put. I’m gonna use that description.
This woman is poetry in motion. 😍
1) Why is it ok to use the terms "black people" and "white people" in the context of negativity? 2) Why does voting for a republican make a person a snake? 3) Why is it ok to meet "white people" with hostility for asking her ethnicity? 4) Why is it ok for her to blame all "white people" for slavery that happened over 100 years ago? We are all just people at the end of the day and the color of our skin should not define the content of our character nor should it be a crutch to carry around unwarranted anger. When I look at a person I'm seeing them. Not their skin, not their hair, not their clothes or their political beliefs. I look for the best in people and find that kindness and compassion are the best way to defeat racism and hate. For a person who wants other to be accepting of her, she sure has a problem accepting everyone else.
P.S. Out of all the What's Underneath video's, this is by far the least inspiring and most disappointing.
The stories these people / women tell are amazing by itself but what amazes me more is that I actually kind of forget that they're taking off their clothes. I just listen and the naked skin they show doesn't matter, it's not about being sexual. It's like sitting with a very good friend or a lover, just listening to them.
While I appreciate her presentation of herself, life, and experiences, I was shocked when she said her husband is white. Yes, love transcends all; however, it still shocked me. Regardless of how supposedly aware her in-laws are, they have not had the exposure and experience of the BIPOC society. I have a white husband and friends whom I had to deeply educate about their role in society and how it affect BIPOC society. To hear "I don't see colour" was a statement I had to help them understand is/can be hurtful. I am English and speak "the Queens English" so I constantly othered or fetishized because I don't fit the mold of what black women should be or look like.
Bless you for this channel. 💕
I love how unapologetic she is; it's a breath of fresh air
She's lovely, I don't understand why there's so much hate in the comments.
Why can't we all just get along? leave your grudges behind people, we're all human. The past has already been lived, but the future is ours to create. Heal your heart, let go, forgive.
Eve lyn girl bye.
Maybe because it isn't the past. Maybe because we're still living it.
Eve lyn Are you blind in what is going on in the world TODAY and the SAME discrimination that exists today just in a different form. An institutionalised form that is legitimised. Like police killings.
this woman is #goals of who I want to be. So honest and upfront about saying the truth. Loved this!
She is so empowering! So strong! Such an example!
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