as a straight haired girlie i PROMISE EVERYONE that no amount of "curly hair techniques" make my hair wavy/curly. even a curling iron my hair will straighten out in a few hours.
Yeah, just like unless I straighten my hair it's not gonna behave enough for braids (I have a type of wavy hair, so of course it flows wherever it wants and not in a pattern like most of other types).
Opposite for me, my family swore up and down that I had straight hair but every time they put a flatiron to my head within a few hours it'd be wavy and curly. I'm now 30 and embrace my curls and honestly, my hair never looked so good and healthy. My aunt has straight hair, I mean stick straight, and she even got a perm to curl her hair, it didn't last long and her hair is back to being straight.
I sometimes feel bad for hairdresser she really tried hard but after few hours they are almost gone, for her and my money because I shouldn't have bothered for two hours. 😅
THIS. Last year I chopped my 2+ feet of hair which was already QUITE curly, down to a heavy undercut with maybe 2-4 inches on top. That mfer curled so hard, so fast, I couldn't even get FINGERS through once I was out of the shower. And as it grows out, every few inches it's slightly looser up top but the ends are still somehow staying in little ringlets. I don't even DO styling on my hair, I use regular shampoo, conditioner, rough towel tf out of it and don't do anything at all... still curls up into ringlets. Frizzy ringlets, but ringlets allt he same.
One of my friends is white and she’s got super curly hair. Recently she just started learning how to properly take care of it, and her curls have started becoming a lot more defined and manageable. Before, her hair was frizzy and tangly because no one taught her how to take care of it. Even her mother, who had curly hair as well, didn’t know how to take care of her own hair. Fr people need to stop gatekeeping curly hair and certain hair products because it just leads to more people who don’t even know how to take care of their own hair types and makes them feel bad about something they were born with.
Yes! I am white and have curly hair. As a kid I was constantly being told to brush my hair which did absolutely nothing to tame my hair and just made it even more frizzy and wild. The crazy thing is, my mom also had curly hair and her hair was never out of control like mine. You'd think she would have taught me how to manage my hair but somehow I don't think she realized I had curly hair too? But also, my hair is a much different texture than hers. She had coarse hair that wasn't particularly frizzy whereas mine is soft and fine and wants to fly away in all the directions. Looking back, I don't believe she knew how to care for her curls either, she just lucked out that her hair was more manageable.
Sometimes I'm quite frustrated with my hair. There is some texture there for it to go puff after brushing and my baby hair being curly. Unfortunately, that's kind of it. I tried a curly hair routine, but it's loosely wavy at best
@@serbskaholca loose waves need love too! Your hairs are beautiful no matter how they bend, move, or curl. The more you care for it the more you’ll see your pattern, I wish it was an overnight process 😅. But Rome was not built in a day.
I'm also white with wavy hair, it's very difficult to manage as my hair is really long, because my father has curly hair while my mother has wavy hair like mine, if it's short it's like my fathers but while it's long it's more wavy and it tangles really easily
I have straight, brightly dyed hair and I sleep in a bonnet!! It’s made my hair stay SO soft and silky between washes and I love it! Bonnets really are for all hair types and I’m so thankful for the women sharing that knowledge with the rest of us! 🥰❤️
Quick question, since I tried a bonnet recently: doesn't it bother you when it's over the ears? Also, I always wake up with mine off, I assume because I take it off while asleep since it's unpleasant over the ears. But if it's above the ears, it slips right off :/
Ikr… like enter the Jews 😂 white with 4C curly hair. Some people need to look at cultures and countries outside 10 square blocks cause the US education system sure won’t tell them.
The reality is that white women had ample opportunity to come up with hair typing. They didn’t. I understand the biracial and internet community has made them aware of hair typing, but they cannot co-opt Everything. At the same time, I think black women should ignore them. They are taking up too much space in the world and ignoring them is best.
Man it’s so weird to grow up with people complimenting your curly hair and then getting older and being told your Scottish hair is actually SECRETLY straight and frizzy because you use leave in conditioner
Fr like I have loose curls that kinda straightened itself after bleaching, but after months of hair care I got some of that curl back and people don’t believe that my hair naturally falls like that.
If your hair naturally curls up on its own when you're in the shower with nothing in it you have naturally curly hair the reason your hair doesn't always stay like that is because it's not used to staying like that so conditioner and Greece and stuff just helps the already curly hair to form neatly I have a whole afro in my profile and I just let that dry with a little bit of conditioner in my hair so I find it funny that people are in denial that people can have natural curl hair but it wouldn't be the first time someone tried to say my afro wasn't real but I also remembered people saying my hair is nappy and I needed to get it done. I love it when people think they know everything under the sun. 😂
@@Sofiaode18I had no idea this was a point of conflict and racial tension. I'm a white man and I got really tight curls, it turns out, but I didn't know, coz I had kinda killed them by bleaching tf out of my hair since I was 13. And before puberty my hair was always cut short. But as soon as I could make my own decisions I have had mermaid or rainbow colors, punk cuts and such. I'm going natural now and it's almost like Weird Al's hair. Except shorter. So I'm trying to grow it long for the first time ever. I wanna see if I can have long curly hippie hair, before I lose it. 😅 Most men in my family went bald in their 20's. But I'm 39 now with a full head of hair, so maybe I'll get Lucky.🤞🤩 I really hope so. It would be great. 💁♂️
When I was in foster care I was in exclusively black families, im a pale ginger with blue eyes and freckles, but my hair at the time was really short and HELLA curly, so they got me like 20 different bonnets and would tie little braids into my hair (no weave, just a bunch of really short braids while my hair was wet) so my curl would be tighter when I woke up and took them out (one of their biological granddaughters nicknamed me "poodle" when they went a bit overboard and put some product in that made my hair fluff up a bunch lmao) and I still have each and every bonnet they gave me, even though my hair is longer now and gravity is making it only curly at the ends :)
That poof thing is so real. I come from a family of women with very straight hair, but my father, who was not around, give me his thick curly hair and my entire life I was raised to take care of my hair, the way that the women on my mom side did, and I absolutely hated my hair, because it was poof and frizzy and frustrating to say the very least. It wasn’t until I got older that I stopped cutting off all of my incredibly thick hair because I didn’t know what to do with it and started trying to figure out how to take care of it. It’s been a process but I finally feel like me. So hard to explain how my whole life I never felt like myself until I learned how to care for my hair. I feel happy when I look in the mirror now, I feel like me and everyone else says I look more like myself, like I was meant to have this hair (because obviously I was)
I feel this so much! Had the same issue... after the age of 8 or 9 when most kids with curly hair as little people had started just having wavy or straight hair, mine was just frizzy and unmanageable and I had nobody to tell me how to take care of my curls...hairdressers would cut and blow dry my hair the same way they would a person with straight hair, so it would look good for a couple of days until I washed it and then it was even worse! The Internet has been a lifesaver helping me identify my hair type and teaching me how to nourish and care for my curls and now I treat my hair like it's a living creature that needs love and attention ❤
@@fbiagentfrankFor real!!! Even the most scorching hot 500 degree curling iron won’t keep curls in my hair for more than two hours TOPS. Salon blowouts don’t last on my hair for more than two hours either, no matter how much hair spray. Such is life with having actual straight hair!
I can’t manually make mine straight for more than a couple hours (see profile pic). God help me if I went outside 😂mine shrinks clear up to my chin even grown out from that 👈 embrace it, it’s gonna do what it wants!
Actual straight hair doesn't hold a curl without literally MULTIPLE cans of hairspray and HOURS of heat and non-heat curlers on the hair. Even then, you might only get 2 hours before they flatten out again. I had a friend with straight hair, actual straight hair. It was a NIGHTMARE to curl. She tried every method in the book and NOTHING held for more than 2 hours or so. Scrunching straight hair does literally nothing to it. I have curly hair that is a texture that gets weighed down like this young woman's does. I never really knew how to care for my hair. My sister and I just desperately tried to keep our frizziness under control. My sister often straightens her hair and puts a TON of anti-frizz products in it. I never really did much with my curls. I was taught to wash and condition my hair literally every single day and brush it twice a day - twice EVERY DAY. My mum had, mostly, straight hair. My dad had curly hair but kept it short, so he didn't know how to care for it. Despite this, I'm pretty sure she is just making sure her hair dries nicely without frizzing out when she scrunches her hair. That's not going to curl someone's hair...
I have a teensy bit of wave in mine. Mom would try to curl my hair on picture day when I was younger. By the time I got to the photographer my hair was always inevitably flat and stiff. It's literally enough to give it a little natural bounce when short but that's it. My baby sister? Has straight up Merida hair.
My friend curled my hair for a party and it was gone in three hours. If I run my hand through it, it will go back to being straight in thirty. It might last long with product but no that much longer. It goes wavy after having it in a bun all day but a brush will get rid of it pretty quickly. People just need to mind their own business.
Even that depends on hair texture, I have completely straight hair naturally, long or short. When it was long it couldn’t hold a curl because the weight would drag it down. Now that my hair is short I can get it to hold curls for days with very little product, but only with heatless overnight curls, I use foam rollers. My hair is very thick though, like thick coarse strands. If I use heat I get a couple hours max. There are multiple different types of hair even within straight hair, my sister is ginger & has very fine strands, she’s lucky to get a beachy wave for 10 minutes even with overnight curling. But yeah, just scrunching straight hair will Not make curls magically appear.
Exactly! I get so annoyed when people say that when they have curly hair and assume scrunching will give a wave. Absolutely not my hair can't even hold a curling iron curl. Straight hair lacks the type of protein needed to make curls so without heat and product in LAYERS it won't work, especially if using a curly hair technique.
I have curly hair (it's very short atm but I can see the curls forming!) and I literally couldn't straighten my hair when I tried. Curls, though, held beautifully and lasted for hours. I never knew how to take care of my hair though, so I usually just brushed it and it'd be a slightly wavy frizzy poof.
I was in a FB group (that I ended up leaving) because they were constantly “correcting” ppl on which type of hair they had. “Your hair is wavy not curly; you shouldn’t be using products for curls.” And then turn around to say “we don’t police other ppl in this group.” It drove me insane…I just wanted help with my damn curls!
My niece was half white, half black. She had all her mother's coloration, blonde, pale, blue-eyed. What she got from her daddy was his amazing 4c hair, and I had to learn so much to take care of it! CZcams and a Nigerian owned salon near our neighborhood taught me so much, and I'm so grateful to those ladies who took the time to help me. But let me tell you, I had to keep a picture of my niece with her daddy on me at all times because people really thought I was doing all that with her hair for attention or something.
"Hair care not race" ❤ It's really nice to see silk bonnets become popular with everyone, as opposed to just one hair type. Hair is hair, and every hair type needs care and protection.
Yass I have that straight af hair that wont take even heat curls for an hr. Once it reaches a certain length I have to cut it or wear a bonnet to bed or else I wake up with a rats nest of tangles that's so painful to brush out.
I’ve been wanting to buy one so my hair isn’t as frizzy and tangled in the mornings. I have wavy/curly hair and if I leave it up at night, it’s frizzy and my head hurts. But if I leave it down it’s frizzy and tangled, so I’m forced to either go out looking like a tangled mess or brush it out and ruin my hair. I’ve heard from so many people then a silk bonnet would help, but if you move a lot in your sleep will it fall off?
Been using a bonnet now for 3 months maybe and every morning my curls are so beautiful to behold. I literally cannot go back to sleeping with my hair any other way lol
Coming from a straight hair girlie, shes right. The only way im getting any texture/curls into my hair is with heat. Styling products will not give me curls, they just reinforce pre-existing curls
Sameeee my hair has no texture or curl except for maybe a slight wave at the end like unless I product the f- outta my hair it ain’t getting more than a beach wave 😂
I perm my hair adda texture volume and a little curl. I do two or 3 different sized perm rods to get a more natural look and I don't go too small or I'd look like a poodle.
Also have straight hair but heat curls never hold for me even when I use a ton of hair spray. I have better luck with the air drying overnight curls then I don’t really even need hairspray! Just scrunching my hair like in the video would never work without half a can of mousse and even then it still ends up looking flat and also greasy.
I tried doing heatless curls, left it in overnight. Come morning, I remove my curlers, and all I get is wavy. Thirty minutes later, the waves are gone.
My sister is the same, even with heat and product she's lucky if the curls last more than a few hours. Meanwhile if I twist my hair while its wet and let it air dry, my loose curls last days. I didn't know I had curls until I cut my waist long hair into a bob. Ended damaging the crap out of my hair from all the straightening. So many regrets lol
As a curly/wavy haired girlie who still can’t take good care of my hair because of cultural restrictions and stereotypes, it’s always great to see others with similar hair and how to take care of it. Btw I’m Indian and basically my mom and my family believes curly hair is bad for the health of the hair and should be brushed out or straightened at all times. I generally avoid having to deal with this issue by just ponytail braiding my hair all the time😅
@@jasminejeanine2239 that’s my issue. My favorite/only solution is to just keep it in a basic braid at basically all times. Hey at least it appeases the Indian aunties and moms 😂
My long, brown, Irish hair was frizzy as **** as a teenager. I looked like I was wearing a tent. I wish I had known I have wavy/curly hair back then. My 'friends' talked me into getting it cut. By a man. Instead of teaching me how to care for my hair, he gave me a mullet. A MULLET!! I HATED IT. Not only was it the worst cut possible, I felt like I had been beaten up. Why do male hairdressers insist on leaning on your shoulders, pushing your head until your neck snaps, and flicking your hair in your face?! The second (and last) male hairdresser I went to did the same crap. Be gentle and back OFF! 45 year later, I have long, silver, cwirly locks, which I 💕. Better late than never. I don't let anyone tell me what to do with my hair anymore and I am very grateful for the women who put themselves out there to share their knowledge. 💯
She is totally right. I've got straight hair and even having my hair in curlers overnight won't give me the same look that she has. Hell, it won't even stay all day without so much product that it crunchies. When you have straight hair you can't get it to curl that easy. We wish we could though.
I feel that so much. I used to have to do curls for dance competitions, and it was awful because it was killing my hair trying to keep the curls in, days in curlers (I literally went to school in them), so much product, and they still didn't last as long as they needed to, which was only a couple of hours. I couldn't brush it at all, or it would immediately fall. Springing for a wig was the best thing. Those curls were permanent! I still have that thing well over a decade since I danced last, and those curls are still gorgeous. I wish my hair could've done it but that was never going to happen 😂 and I did try sooo many different techniques and products. It really doesn't matter unless you're using like hair _cement_ or something, in which case it is *not* going to look that nice.
Same. If I curl with a curling iron or "scrunch it" it will be straight again within the hour (yes, even if it's dried and sprayed with hair spray). A hairdresser explained to me that my hair has string straight bonds and doesn't accept curl. Nothing wrong with however your hair is, it's yours, but all hair from any race or ethnicity is *not* the same.
I don't style my hair but honestly, to even have one wave on my straight hair, I needed to tie them extra tight for days to even have it stay in a day 💀 Idk "fake curls" was even a thing until this year
My dad has the tight Italian curls my mom only had super straight thin hair and had no idea how to care for my hair. It was always just chopped off. A black woman in a salon saved me from that. She sat me down explained everything to me and how to get my hair to grow and not dry out. Thanks to her my daughter has the most beautiful head of long thick curly hair ever because she was kind enough to teach me these things. This isn't a race issue, every little girl deserves to feel beautiful so when they grow up and their children get these traits their children can have pride in themselves too.
Aww I wish you were able to find that hairdresser now and tell her this ❤ cuz it’s such a cute thing! Or maybe you were able to tell her cuz you still know her idk but if you don’t I hope you’re able to meet her again one day to tell her this sweet story! ❤
@@misspacino4081 I used to cry because my mom just cut my hair off. Then the straightening every day to where she'd burn my scalp. My mother is a terrible human honestly. Her jealousy knew no bounds.
It was a black friend that taught me how to care for my hair too. She taught me to oil it, though I couldn't leave it in like she could I'd put it on at night and wash it in the morning. And she taught me to use better shampoo and conditioner I actually used to buy afro Caribbean shampoo and conditioner until the european conditioners started doing argan oil ect. And before everyone gets up in arms i lived in Birmingham uk and bought it from the market so that didn't raise the price of it by one teenager buying it. My hair grew the longest it had ever been and was curly instead of frizzy. If i use 'normal hair' shampoo and conditioner it goes so dry and snaps.
Oh flashbacks! My hair was always just chopped off so everyone thought I was a boy until I turned 13 and just refused. But I had no one to teach me how to handle it so I looked like... ehm well.. imagine a dried out blonde Jackson 5 hairdo 😬 that was me. Did find some ways to tame it but Its still very very dry & never found anything that really helps with that so any tips are welcome 😁
I love my straight hair, but I’ve tried so many times to make curls, and my hair knows who it is. It’s straight. It will not care if you scrunch dry, it doesn’t even curl if you used Elmer’s glue and a curling iron.
i have curly hair and scrunching it up when it’s wet doesn’t magically make it more curly, it just helps the curls look better/more defined when they dry lol
Yeah seriously. Scrunching barely adds to the curliness! Just helps with definition and getting products in. It doesn’t make the spirals suddenly tighter.
Oh absolutely! I naturally have curly hair, and I usually keep it very short so it's easier to maintain. When I had it longer than is my usual I had to use a curling iron to make prettier over the top curls for a theatre play... Only to realise later that I could have the exact same effect if I just dried my hair in that way... And it would probably take less than all the time the make-up girl had to on my hair right before the play 😅
I... *vividly* recall being 12, surrounded by girls in a dorm with curly hair, all scrambling to share a single straightener, and being unable to do literally *anything* to make my straight hair 'interesting'. If curling straight hair was really this easy, perms wouldn't be so expensive.
This! So much this. As someone with wavy hair that has the “curl” pattern of very loose ringlets (almost like you’d get with a curling iron that has a 2” barrel), I have TRIED to get my hair to hold a tighter curl pattern and it absolutely does not happen no matter how much product I put in or how much I try to twist the curls by hand. It just ends up feeling greasy or crunchy and looks all stuck together 😂 You can’t force curly hair without perming it or using heat on it. It just doesn’t work that way. I don’t even have curly hair and it drives me batshit every time I see someone say people who do a curly hair routine don’t have “real” curly hair.
@ofCourseIgirl i have curly hair and if i don’t put products in my curls don’t look good, the top gets all frizzy, & while the bottom looks fine it doesn’t look good. i style my hair with multiple products and i even finger coil some curls on the top if i feel like they aren’t curly enough. no one would look at me & say i don’t have curly hair. i get compliments on my curly hair all the time. it’s just a matter of finding what works best for you, & finding out how you like your hair to look
You don't have curly hair you style your hair this is what curly perms are for because you don't have curly hair the thing about straight hair is that you can style it curly that's what a curling iron is for it's not like your hair is stuck in its natural state you can manipulate it with that being said you don't have curly hair and it never will be curly if you don't have a spiral coils you don't have curly hair and you cannot jump on anything but we going to keep our Crown act because you guys have been lying on our hair being curly we have curly hair in your hair is straight. And yeah for us it's about race because there's no such thing as nappy hair there's no reason to be calling people hair slurs racial slurs and you guys try to make it into a victim party for you is not happening Yep this is going on a definite block you see you guys make fun of the woke anti-colonial thing for a long time and now look at Palestine you're not right and you're not right about this either.
As someone with straight hair who asked for curls for a wedding, my hairstylist was cursing and losing her shit when no amount of curling and hairspray helped those curls stay. Within an our my har would loosen back up 😂
I love this! As a mixed blasiantina, I spent my entire early education years training my hair! And I mean from about age 6 to age 16! You cannot skip your moisturizing treatments root to end on curly hair. These treatments have to be repeated 2-3 times per week at least! Repeated tight braiding will only train your hair to crimp and kink. Make sure you change it up by switching your hair patterns to loose braids and low buns in order to train your hair from root to tip to grow, bounce, and lock in moisture. I used Vaseline at the roots and combed it through, along my ENTIRE hairline, after a shower and hair wash at least 1-2 times a month. If you need it weekly for frizz and thickness, do it, you're future self will be so grateful. 🙏🏽
i’m convinced that the curl police are all bald because anybody with hair knows that you can’t make it do something that it’s not supposed to do. if they have curly hair they would know what a curly hair routine does for curls but if they have straight hair they should know that no amount of curly hair routine will make your hair curly if it’s straight. so I’m convinced they just look like Aang from avatar.
Saying that patting your wet hair is “curl manipulation” is just crazy. If your hair is wet and gets curly, the best way to dry it is by patting it. If not you either get it matted from rubbing it with a towel or wait hours to let it air dry. Patting it helps it to gather itself and keep it a little neater. And as someone with a straight haired sister, I can confirm you can’t make straight hair curly by scrunching it, because when she does it her hair just bends rather than organizing itself into a curl
@@njmoonfrost6145 Yep but I chopped mine off a few months back to chin length. Want to get rid of split ends as felt it was thinning out and wanted to get my curls bacm.
Exactly. I have pretty wavy hair that kinda borders onto curly sometimes (I have very confusing hair) but my sister has Straight hair and it cannot hold curls at all
I truly TRULY do not understand what people are so mad at. Like, why are we shaming and gate keeping HAIR?! I knew a white woman who had damn near 4C hair. It's not a skin color thing it's genetics. My hair is wavy/loosely curly if I have the time to actually treat it right. If I let it air dry, a lot of it goes kinda straight bit I still have some waves here and there. It's genuinely not that deep. We aren't trying to colonize a hair texture.
Try pinning it loosely on top of your head as it air dries and use a lighter leave in conditioner, I even have a favourite spray leave in that I use when I'm in a hurry. Could be fun to see what your hair looks like when it's less weighed down as it dries.
She's soo right! When I don't take care of my hair it's straight as shit *you can see it in my profile pic* I use to have ringlets growing up so I recently started taking care of my hair properly and my curls have come back, I don't even use a diffuser or special hair products, turns out just washing my hair while my head us upside down and using shampoo that doesn't dry out my hair my curls do there thing.
The fallacy of trait based race really made people think we have anything but stands of keratin growing out of our heads with different textures and shapes. Hair type isn't race based. The racists just gaslit us all into thinking that.
Pretending like curly hair doesn't exist in some races more than others is hilarious and acting like curly Irish hair for example is the same as kinky Black hair is laughable 😂 I'm half Irish half Black and people pretending there aren't differences between races is like saying you don't see color. It's a typa racism 😶
@@mikorisheridan6769saying you don’t see color means you don’t judge someone based on their race. You cannot know someone’s experiences just looking at them and to make an assumption about them based on stereotypes is wrong. It’s like now everyone is the racist teacher from everybody hates Chris.
those comments about "your hair isnt really curly" piss me tf off cause when i graduated primary school my parents let me get my hair professionally styled. i thought curls were beautiful and wanted that, so my hairdresser helped me out (i have pin-straight hair). we put a bunch of products in it and guess what? less than 4 hours later it was back to absolute pin-straight. if your hair doesnt curl, NO AMOUNT OF PRODUCT IS GONNA HELP YOU WITH THAT.
I've been asked a million times if I get tired of straightening my hair everyday? No because I never straighten. It dries this way. A perm will fall out in less than 48 hrs. A curling iron curl will fall out within the hour if it even holds to start with.
Ya, I had a very sweet guy compliment me on my long, stick straight hair. I, confused, said, "thank you? But I didn't do anything. This is naturally straight." He replied that he knows some girls take a long time to straighten their hair so he makes a point to compliment them as well. Again, very sweet, but not me! I can put gel, mousse, curl cream, Curl it then hair spray it & I'm lucky if it stays 4 hours.
I've finally learned how to take care of my natural hair now that my hair is short, it definitely keeps a curl better, if any one tells me it aint natural imma show them a picture of me when I was little, obviously having a fulllll head of curls, like 💀💀
@tandylynnennis9639 That was my hair before my 2nd kid now the top half (of my skull) is wavy and the bottom is straight. The products that stop the frizz on top do not in anyway make the lower hairs wavy still.
I have multiple textures and colors in my hair.. The crown of my head is blonder in color, oily, and straight. While the underside is a deep red, dry, with super frizzy curls... I always hated my ginger hair growing up... 😖 Your videos are changing the way i see my hair, and you've inspired me! Thank you! I can't wait for school shopping to be done so I can order one of your bonnets!
I was never allowed to have short hair growing up. Wasn't allowed to cut it shorter than mid back. At 21, I chopped it all off up to my shoulders. After ONE shampoo and condition, POOF. Waves turned to rings SO FAST. Hair was still wet and I had a head of spirals. So yes, weight plays a HUGE part in what your curls look like, especially when you have super thick, heavy hair.
i will NEVER respect anyone who is so chronically online that they think having curly hair is a racial trait. edit: LMAOO one of the chronically online people is mad in the replies. gave me a good laugh, feel free to read through it.
Hehe this made me chuckle Sometimes on here you answer someone or vice versa and then they talk nonsense, that’s the moment you know it’s either a child or someone that’s chronically online and hasn’t touched grass for a long time
@@skinnylegend2431yes, you can curl your hair, but for people with straight hair it eventually falls back to what it looks like aka straight, whereas someone who defined their curls would still have curls by the end of the night 🤷♀️ product wears off, curls do not
@@skinnylegend2431I have hair that is as straight as straight can be. I have spent hours using curling irons, tons of products, pin curlers, etc. to get curls, and it lasts an hour *max*. Your hair will not hold a curl if it is straight, no matter what you do to it besides a perm. Why is someone taking care of their hair in a way that is best for their hair type such a big issue??
Thank you for addressing this, I've been seeing a lot of shaming towards white women for saying they have curly hair. Telling them they're race baiting and can't have curly hair, it's very unnecessary and sad
It is. I'm a white woman with curly hair and yes, it looks unusual, but it's my natural hair. When I started learning about better hair products for myself, I was embarrassed for buying "black" hair products because I felt like I was taking something away from the black community, but the products work really well on me so that's all that matters.
@ExplosionMare Honestly, to me it's not unusual in any way. I had multiple white classmates with different curl patterns. One had very tight curls, almost afro level. SO MUCH VOLUME, I was so jealous! Another one had looser curls with less volume but still a gorgeous texture and then there was me, the greasy weasel with pin-straight hair that would fly all over the place when wearing fleece because it's so fine.
This is a thing now? I’m 56 and I have hair like Merida from Brave (just with more gray). It’s been this way my whole life. I just put leave in conditioner on it and go. Edit I’m white
As a native woman, I heard this ALL THE TIME growing up that I shouldn’t wear bonnets and that my hair doesn’t/shouldn’t naturally curl. So I spent years brushing out and straightening my natural hair because I never learned to take care of it so it always just looked frizzy. 19 years later and I’m finally figuring out what works for me and how to treat my natural hair
I'm Greek and I have 3c hair. Lots of tight spirals. In sick of being talked shit about because I had the audacity to be born with such tightly curled hair and not be black.
The early 2010’s Tumblr “cultural appropriation” discourse did so much damage to peoples collective psyche. I swear. I swear back in the early 2000s it was just common knowledge that any race/ethnicity could have a curly hair texture. It’s just more common in some than others, but now just existing as a white woman with curls is enough to get accused of black fishing and other crazy stuff. Discussion of complex, nuanced issues such as cultural appropriation should’ve never left academia because the average person does not have the critical thinking skills or capacity for nuance to actually have these conversations. Which has a lot to do with our education system failing people but that’s another topic.
people cant fathom the idea that cultural appropriation is complicated and is easily tied with cultural appreciation done ignorantly, which can be solved with educating and culture sharing, not gatekeeping. Not that cultural appropriation has anything to do with peoples NATURALLY grown curls.
@@pimpinainteasy yeah, 100% agreed. it’s like I said, the education system is failing us and because that you have people that care a lot, but really don’t get the nuances and unfortunately it leads to more harm that good. Like how most cultural appropriation is done with no ill intent and especially when being done by individuals and not massive corps there’s plenty of room to be gentle and letting be a teaching moment because we will all have our blunders, so it’s best to be empathetic and to give benefit of the doubt. But where I also see a problem is just calling someone caring for their hair properly appropriation, this lady’s page is full of her finding cases of this. Also, don’t even get me started on the amount times Mexicans have had to stop gringo keyboard warriors for going after and even threatening people celebrating Dia de los Muertos while looking too white or well, Mexicans have a long, messy ahh history of people speaking over us about the issues of cultural appropriation and it’s just rough. It’s just a dangerous game letting these concepts out when our education system is in shambles, outside of cultural appropriation, another concern for me is looking at how a lot of therapy terminology is now basically being used as a manipulation tool often unintentionally by people that don’t understand the full picture. Or how toxic masculinity went from meaning “unfair social expectations placed upon men that negatively impact their mental health” to “A man doing something that I don’t like”. A world where these concepts can exist in common lexicon with no major issues is absolutely possible, it’s just not a world where our schools are basically teaching obedience and conformity rather than critical thinking. It’s just a deeply distressing state of affairs to me.
@@nickie7nicole7 oh yes, nice to meet you too! My wake up call to all of this was when I was still a teenager. I’m the youngest of my parent’s children by a significant margin so I already had school aged nieces and nephews by the time I was 16. Coming to the realization how much my parents had to take my education into their own hands and teach me important concepts themselves watching my older cousins/siblings having to go even harder than they did because it’s only getting worse made we realize just how dire the situation is. I’m about to be 25 and even now while I’m not a mother yet and still dating, I’m doing research into alternative schooling options because the most important thing to me is that a child of mine is kind, compassionate, and a critical thinker. I fear empathy and individuality is not something standard schooling cares about at all.
Girl I totally feel you. I was always told I only had straight frizzy hair. But my hair was long so of course gravity took it’s place creating long waves then curl up in the end. Shaved my whole head (x8) for my mom bc she has cancer and when it grew out, everyone in town was shocked how curly it was.
I have exactly the same hair. On older pictures with shorter hair it looks even shorter than it is, because of the locks. I hope, your mom and you stay in good health!
That lady has naturally curly hair. If I did my long a$$ hair the EXACT same way she did with the same products, there might be a little bit of a wave to it, but no actual curls! The only way I can get any type of curl is with a curling iron & even then, they only last a few hours if I'm lucky.
Hair that long is going to weigh a lot, so if it’s a little bit curly, it might end up looking more straight. I bet if she cut half of it off, nobody would question whether or not it’s curly. It’s also damaged because she obviously bleached it at a point. Bleached hair often ends up having the consistency of straw.
the worst part is that I'm absolutely sure that those people trying so hard to gatekeep curly hair are like, paper white and their hair is painfully straight and brittle
@@urubudopix976I’m white with straight, blonde hair, but man even I’m tempted to start scrunching my hair. I wanna see what happens. I wish people wouldn’t gatekeep hair. Your body your choice.
I've occasionally needed to curl my hair for plays and stage work, I need to use mousse, and hair spray and gel, even then the ''curls' fall out within a few hours.
@@orastellathefirstI do the wet braids! My hair is needle strait and even when I braid it wet it doesn’t matter how I twist it I don’t get curls I get really pretty waves! If I ever want curls I would have to chop half my hair off its down to my ass and thick
Gosh, the way people go out of their way to harass people on a subject they know nothing about is honestly wild to me. As a straight haired girly, I assure you my hair will not curl no matter how much I scrunch it. It ain't happening. Plain and simple. Some of y'all need help if you feel the need to write a whole paragraph to correct someone on a subject you haven't even done the most basic research on
yesss i have 3a to 3c type of curls. i’m hispanic mixed with french (i have a light tan olive skin tone ) i don’t have texture but i have curls. ppl always think it’s fake or i curl it with a curling iron bc im not “”colored” but i take it as a compliment bc at least my hair looks good enough it looks like i curled it. it took many years to make my curls healthy im not going to let a white girlie with burnt frizz hair say anything about my hair bc their uncultured😚❤️❤️ppl hate on anything now a days.
it's wild to me that anyone would suggest white people can't have curly hair because like my BIL has insanely tight curls, he just keeps his hair in a ponytail all the time because if he cut it short it would turn into a puffball. there are so many white folks with obviously natural curly hair, including celebrities, these idiots must be living under a rock.
... Are these people that stupid, fr? There are literal bronze and marbled statues as well as Portraits from ancient Greece, Rome, Germania, etc with most figures having curly hair....🤦🤦🤦🤦
It makes me so happy to see a video like this, my sister has very thick and curly gorgeous hair that she does routines for and uses silk bonnets, etc. My mom is ignorant and when my sister asked her for hair care products she was like, “I’m sure black people wouldn’t want us to be using their hair products” …I genuinely cannot believe that woman raised me sometimes, me and my sister were legitimately baffled that she would say something like that. Luckily she still got the products anyways 😂👍
Idk your mom but in this particular instance maybe she didn't mean harm she was just ignorant. Unless of course it's more complex than that, you know her better.
I mean you don’t need black hair care products… they make white hair care products for curly hair too. The problem is when you start buying it, it gets changed! Insert rosemary oil… I was pissed! You have so many products to choose from I just don’t get why you want to invade our tiny section of the aisle. I’m mixed and I feel this way so please don’t even try the race crap I’m just being real! My daughter has 4c hair and the amount of research that goes in to buying her products because white ppl have taken out products and reformulated them for their hair which just made them suck for ours, is insane! It’s just annoying!
I haven't used heat on my curls for over a decade. Not even a diffuser. Most of the time I wash it, use wide tooth brush or comb, use some moisturising curl products and plop or wear a bonnet... I go to bed and when I wake up it's curly af! Usually still a little damp so I just scrunch with a little mousse or curl gel and within 20-30 minutes I give it a little shake and it's done... I can get 3 to 4 good days of curls if I wear a bonnet every night and just refresh the next day since I don't like washing it more than once or twice a week. It's red so I get "Merida from Brave" comments all the time or people asking if it's permed... I've had tight ringlets since I was 3 years old. Those comments are crazy! Thanks for making this video 💖❤️
In my family we have ALL different types of hair and skin colors and types (we're made up of mostly fostered and adopted kids with a few bio siblings in the mix) and we appreciate this channel for keeping things real My hair is poker straight, my older sister has tightly textured hair, our youngest sibling has hair like the young lady you featured in this video You have no idea how many bonnets we've made since watching your videos! Thank you!
My hair is straight and no matter I do, it will always straighten itself out in a matter of minutes. Some people just have no idea about white curly hair and it shows. It takes work to maintain it.
The funniest part about this for me is that for years I had poker straight hair, curls would fall out in minutes no matter what I did. Roll on 7 years ago my hair started with a curl... no reason whatsoever for it, they just happened. Tldr: you're right, straight hair absolutely won't curl 😂
@@katiegilpin2774Curls are formed in your hair sac. Some medical treatments like chemo etc can cause a change in your hair sac ( they call it chemo curls). Did anything happen during the time your hair started curling up?
I’ve got straight/wavy hair and she’s completely right, you can do all this work to make it curl and it’ll just fall right out. The hair wants what the hair wants.
Yeah, the opposite is true as well, I've been in denial about having curly hair my entire life (due to bullying), I always tried to straighten is as much as I could, but it took HOURS because my curls were that damn stubborn. Now I've just accepted it and even when my hair is wet, like literally under a shower head, it retains its curl. I don't know who I was fooling, lol.
the fact that i can leave my hair in sponge curlers for 10 hours and it takes them 20 minutes to fall flat is all the proof i need i have straight hair. meanwhile my daughter's hair makes these beautiful ringlets right out of the shower, but we don't have time or money for an extensive curl routine so she usually ends up with gently wavy hair by the next day.
Yep, I’ve tried my entire life to have wavy or curly hair (being bullied for having super flat/straight hair made me super insecure about it) but no matter what I did, I would get about an hour of wavy hair, at the max. I’ll never understand why people get so upset about someone taking care of their hair in the way that is best for their hair type
But thats the thing, obviously if your hair has never held after doing what you need to treat curly hair, then yeah, it isnt curly. But some people never knew how to care for their curly hair, and when they do treat it right, now it holds, because they learned how to care for curly hair.
Yes women we have to help each other with hair no matter what race we are, we all have different hair types and we can use different products to help with our hair. Im black and Indian and do not have 4a,b, or c hair I have a mixture of like 3b and 3c and often was told that I was putting a perm in my hair to make it loose curls but I literally went to school with my hair not done, and then showed them in the bathroom that all I have to do is wet my hair and it curls up, no products needed for the loose curl. I only need the products to keep it moisturized. Let's embrace all hair types. They all are cool in their own ways. ❤
I've had people insist that they could get my straight hair to curl before and it's like, no you can't. I once spent an entire day trying to get curls with various methods. I've tried sleeping in curlers with wet hair so that it dried overnight with curlers in. My stepmom took me to get a perm and my hair fell flat and the poor hair stylist had to try again
White woman here... Bonnets are a blessing! I wear one to bed for my straight salon colored hair. It's more fragile now so a bonnet has allowed me to keep moisture in my hair with fewer to no tangles. I don't need to wash it as often and I even get a little extra body and wave in it. Love them!! ❤❤❤
Same, I always move so much in my sleep so my hair gets soooo tangly and it’s so annoying >:(( But now my hair is less tangly and actually so easy to brush while my hair is wet, even my mom was so surprised about how silky and smooth my hair is when she touches it.
Im thinking about getting one today, im tired of waking up with my hair losing my curls or messing them up Update its fckn amazing wtf my hair has never been this nice when I woke up
Black woman here! I’m trying to get women of all backgrounds to wear satin bonnets and satin scrunchies to protect their hair from drying out and getting damaged! Throw a satin scrunchie in that too! ❤
I grew up not knowing how to care for my curls. No one in my family has curls and I had no idea. The diffuser was the only advice I got, even from the hairdresser. I avoided mousse like the plague and only recently discovered from a reel to scrunch the crunch. My curls are much more defined and not frizzy. I can’t believe it took this long to find out what to do.
My hair has volume but my daughter had full curls. I took her to a salon where they cut her hair horrendously when she was 9. After that I took her to a Latina salon because their hair was closer in curl, and volume. Of course shortly after all she wanted was straight hair lol
I'm 50 and STILL looking for products, tools, and techniques that will work for me. My hair is very thick, dry, coarse, and high porosity. Super frizzy with way too much volume, so trying to work with my curls while not creating a giant bush on my head is a never-ending fight. My hair is long and layered or else it would be so much worse.
Almost 30 and just finally found out how to take care of my curls. For me specifically, not brushing helped A LOT. But people think I’m using a curling iron or sleeping with rollers in cause my hair has been frizzy and just slightly wavy my whole life. All I did was stop brushing and bleaching my hair every month. I put a small amount of coconut crème in there sometimes but that’s it, who fkin knew 😅 The hair care process has been a journey haha I had no idea how common this story was 😆
As somebody with wavy hair and straight hair, she is 100 percent correct on this fact,, no matter what I do to my wavy hair after it's wet, when it's dry, it goes back to straight on the top stays wavy mostly down.
So true! I have extremely course curly hair so I keep it longer now so it’s heavier and pulls the curls out more. My daughter has very straight hair and it takes a lot of heat/curling wand and product to make her curls stay and they’re gone in 8-10 hours! I used to be so embarrassed of my coarse curly hair and would straighten it flat but now I wouldn’t wish my hair to be any other way! 🥰🥰
I needed to hear this! My curly hair lives in the “poof” stage like 75% of the time. The only time it looks good is a few hours after a shower. I need to learn.. all the things.
Girl the biggest tip I can give another curly girl is to stop using shampoo! Conditioner only or a co-wash! Also no heat and if ur using a blow dryer then make sure u have the diffuser attachment. Get some curl activator or leave-in conditioner specifically for curly hair.. trim anything dead off and always wear a bonnet to bed to prevent breakage and frizz!
Using shampoo is fine just only do it on your wash days. It does sound like your hair is too dry, which is a common problem for curly hair types. You can get a hydrating shampoo and/or conditioner to help. Now a lot of people who post their "curl routine" have dozens of products and lots of time and effort. This is all fine, but extra. Its for people who are very passionate and have money to spare. You don't need all that if you just want your hair to look a little better. You just need a curl cream (sometimes they're called styling curl creams) you put it on when your hair is still wet after a shower and it keeps frizz down and defines your curls. I've used like 4 different brands in my life, my favorite is the "SGX NYC curl power nourishing curl cream", but "hairitage ahead of the curl curl crème" is my second. Just so you know the type of thing to look for
It's a lot to learn and it's a process, but worth it! I damage my curls out of existence because I bleach and dye my hair a lot... but when my hair was it's natural color, I learned the curly girl stuff and I had such gorgeous curls!
Absolutely use as little shampoo as possible! Secret for easy curly life is, plop your hair into a t-shirt to dry, then diffuse the rest of the way if you cba to air-dry. If your in the UK try Bean and Bee their Kalahari melon stuff is literally magic for curls 🎉👍🏼
@@chelsearenard9081I have very fine hair, albeit a lot of it, but I would be a greaseball without shampoo. I would never recommend that to someone unless I knew they had coarse hair that wasn't porous(aka does not hold build up easy). Yes. Please, shampoo. I recommend normal ol yellow johnsons baby shampoo. It's the best for balanced hair. I would not use SLS shampoos except for maybe once/twice a month for clarifying. I shampoo every couple of days, used to shampoo more than that even. It is not cleansing often that dries out the hair shaft, it is in combination with your products, hair types etc. I'm sure you know this. I shampoo basically whenever I feel too greasy. That could be a day, two, three, sometimes I can go 5 days and simply wear in a clipped bun or Dutch braids. Cleansing my hair often has kept me from developing scalp problems, build up, clogged pores/follicles, and even face acne. There is a huge fad saying " we used to only wash our hair a couple times a year, what happened?" Modern science happened. We have availability to use, see, and try out what works best for us individually. You can ask for pointers, but no one will be able to find your secret sauce except for you. Just saying, resist the fads. Find your own best routines.
I went to a black owned salon with my one friend the other day and when I asked the lady if she recommended any products for my curly hair my friend interrupted me and said my hair wasn’t curly and that it was just the product I put in it , my hair has loose ringlets which definitely is curly hair and the lady flat out said to my friend “ Your race doesn’t define what your hair should look like “ and I was so grateful for her 😂
I am white & I have curly hair. When my hair is drying-no product/it curls without me doing anything to it. I use products & a difuser to make my curls look good but it curls all on it's own.
I have straight hair and I wear a bonner at night, omg it's SO nice to not have to worry about dry, frizzy, tangled hair in the morning 😍 bonnets are a godsend
I sleep like CRAZY and stay on my right side. I would always wake up with super knotted hair (sometimes a rats nest) I realized I should be worried I would have significant hair loss there compared to the rest of my head.I tried a bonnet in the past and it just fell right off! I was looking for suggestions online and in the end it was pretty simple… just clip it to your hair line 😂 Anyways, it’s completely transformed how my hair looks between washes. I just put my hair in two loose braids and tuck em up, it’s been working great. I use 4 rubberized snap clips on my forehead hairline and look like a damn fool but I’m so happy I’ve figured it out ☺️
I’m white and my hair looked like Hagrid from Harry Potter for most of my life, I’m 25 and I’m finally getting to the point where I can style it into natural curls and waves. I remember my mother and father, telling me that my hair was my fault because I should’ve been brushing it more, and I brushed my hair, 100 strokes every morning and every night just like they told me to. I was made fun of so much, mostly by my family who all had straight dark hair and I was the only one with curly blonde hair. I tried so hard to style my hair straight my entire life in total denial of reality, it was finally the Internet that got me to see that my frizzy hair was actually curly. I really wish someone told me sooner and I can’t wait to raise my kids and teach them how to properly take care of their hair, instead of making them feel shame for their entire life for the way that they were born.
I recently found out the way we were taught to brush our hair out to look less frizzy actually made it worse and that it causes oils to be produced more since we are overstimulating our hair follicles. Man oh man our parents gave us some bad advice with our hair 😂
My hair is straight and if I want curls or waves I have to use a tremendous amount of product to get them to set and cannot touch it at all. I have to keep my head still for the day, because the moment the product breaks a little the curls flatten. After 5 hrs it’s basically limp waves. You cannot make straight hair curly without product and styling, and it’s really odd saying white folks don’t have curly hair. My husbands hair is blonde and curly, my best friend has Italian ringlets naturally, my nieces have very curly hair- it’s almost like it’s about genetics and not skin color lol
I'm black, and if I don't use products in my hair, and then brush it, it does just go poof or gets matted. We absolutely have to use product to get our curls to look nice and defined, there is literally nothing wrong with using product to define your curls, and idk why people don't get that.
Im mixed, native Australian with an Irish grandfather, so I have have a thick head of thin, curly hair. I was never taught properly to care for my curly waves and personally find these videos extremely helpful. I've only recently started working on my hair care over the passed few months and the difference is insane
That's actually really helpful, thanks 😉 mine is naturally in ringlets & can be insanely curly if it's short (like a Labradoodle) so simple straightforward tips always help
She's right. I can literally do overnight curls, pin curls, curling iron curls, flat iron curls, dryer brush curls and it falls flat within a few hours no matter what products I use to maintain a curl. Short of shellacking my hair in hairspray to the point that if is closer to cement than hair... my hair will fall flat. You cannot make straight hair curl like hers with the products/techniques she is using.
Love what you're doing, lady! I got nicknamed "chia pet" in middle school so straightened for decades. Just now learning I actually love my wavy/curls. Look forward to get some of your things soon. Haircare, not race is a beautiful reminder that it all of us against "Them". Let's all enjoy the bbq/kickback and bond together
Lol for those with straight hair... we def cant crunch it to make curls. When a curling iron, i eould have to use to much products just so it stay in place or else i have about a couple od hours before it gets straight again
No, as an 1A girl, I cannot scrunch my hair to curl it. Nothing will curl my hair longer than 5 minutes. Not curling irons, rollers, or spit curls. The only thing I can get my hair to do is play dead.💀
My (white) sister has always had beautiful ringlets in her hair but my curls/waves are much looser and my family didn’t know how to take care of them 🤷🏼♀️ I think it’s really wholesome that white girls like us are learning how to take care of our hair thanks to mostly black women online, because our white parents didn’t know how to take care of our curls. Idk. It just feels nice.
I am the same! The only one in my family with tons of thick, huge curly hair that has always been a huge frizz ball (as my daughter once put it lol) and my mom not only didn't know what to do with it, but is the type to not spend time on appearance, so mine was all cut off like a boy when I was little, then often in Laura Ingalls braids or one french braid. But never anything was learned on how to care or style my dry, frizzy, curly hair!! I watch mostly black women's hair videos, as even white women's curly ones don't work for me. My hair texture is not like most white women, but I'm a very fair skinned, blue-eyed Swede/Norwegian, so I'm not mixed race or anything, but swear my texture is closer to those who are. I'm forever trying to find products and techniques that will work for me. I feel like I'm in a dead zone and I'm on a deserted island and no one "gets it". Hair dressers, even after having their hands in my hair, still do all the wrong things, even those with curly hair because our textures are so different.
As a kid, I was repeatedly burned by the hot comb because my grandmother raised me and always wanted to straighten my hair. I continued her efforts as a teen and began flat ironing my hair to make it more “manageable” because the lesson I learned was that my coils were bad and straight was better. Then I started chemically straightening my hair. My hair never grew past my shoulders. As an adult, I got sick of buying relaxers and stopped all together. And I learned to care for my natural hair after cutting all the processed stuff off. Trust and believe, black homes reinforce negative assumptions and stereotypes about black hair and I had to find random black women on CZcams to set me straight too! 😂😂😂
Yeah my hair is curly and I'm European/Mediterranean descent. I can put no product in my hair and it still curls. My hair was such a mess growing up and into my thirties because I was never taught how to care for my curly hair properly. I'd say I have a medium curl pattern and my hair is thin so it would just poof and tangle. I used to go in and have hair dressers make negative comments on the condition of my hair. I thank all the black women who post hair care vids because it has been a game changer for my hair care. My last hair cut the stylist told me how beautiful my hair was and I could have cried. Curly hair has all types and exists in all races. There so much we can learn from each other!
As a kid I was bullied so badly for having curly hair I’m now in my 30’s and finally embracing my curls and it’s liberating! But years of straightening has left me with a lot of frizz so I have a mixture of frizz and tight curls I never know what to do with my hair honestly.
My curls used to be really damaged and loose (I'm Hispanic btw) because my hair was long and heavy. I cut my hair super short and my curls tightened and I got significantly less headaches. My point: take care of you and your hair ❤
Yes thank you. My whole family has super curly hair. I one time was told by a girl at work that I need to not sleep in curlers. I pointed out that curlers make your hair turn in symmetrical directions my girls go in every direction, and the ones underneath my hair are a lot tighter than the ones on top. If you have curls, you're better off not straightening it because it will damage your hair really really badly. You're better off using natural oils and butters depending on the thickness and tightness of your curls. I know I had to learn this the hard way from a friend at college who said I needed to stop trying to look like all the other white girls in our class because my hair doesn't work the same as a girl with thin light texture hair does. ❤ thank you Chandra she changed my life and of all of my cousins I taught them the same thing she taught me and all of us have a lot happier hair now.
I was told the same thing growing up that my hair wasn’t curly if it required products and scrunching to be curly. So instead I had a big frizzy mess that I would straighten every single day bc I had no idea how to deal with it otherwise. Now that I’m older I’ve learned how to care for my curls, and haven’t touched a straightening iron in years. 💗
@@SugarSnapz Immediately after I get out of the shower I add some curling creme, and brush my hair with a wide tooth comb while it’s still dripping wet. After I brush, I flip my head & scrunch my curls. I use the plop method (a heatless drying technique that involves wrapping the hair into a micro-fiber towel to air-dry curls, you can look up an example to see what I mean), Once it’s no longer dripping wet, but still very damp, I take it out of the plop & add mousse by scrunching it into my hair. & then I plop it again. Once it’s dried little more I take it out of the plop and let it air dry down the rest of the way. I don’t use a diffuser at all because I think it makes my hair more frizzy than air drying, but that may be different for others. Sometimes I don’t plop in between the crème & the mousse, and sometimes I don’t plop at all. This is what works for me, and I’m still figuring out my hair. You just have to remember that everyone’s hair is different & experiment different methods to find what works for you (:
@@SugarSnapz also it’s important to experiment with different products to find what works best for your hair. Both the curling crème and mousse I use are from the brand “Beyond the Zone” and the product line is called “Noodle Head”
I’ve stopped chemically straightening my hair a decade ago after realizing my hair doesn’t have to be straight to be manageable. It’s bad enough that women already feel self-conscious about their hair. But to have other women make them feel bad for their hair choices doesn’t make loving our hair any easier. I’m glad you learned to love your curls!
as someone with wavy hair, IF YOUR CURLS STAY, YOU HAVE CURLY HAIR. my hair, when i try to scrunch (without following the natural folds for my waves), twisting my hair and styling it, goes right back to wavy after i do ANYTHING (rest against something with my hair let down, sleep, brushing it etc) 💀 and even worse, i do all this when it's wet and it becomes ALMOST STRAIGHT WHEN I BRUSH IT WHEN IT'S SLIGHTLY WET (i don't brush it when it's dry either way)... keep it mind i have 2b, not even 2a
I am going to be buying a bonnet and your ebook as soon as I get the funds. I support women business owners. My sister is a business owner, and she is a stylist, esthetician, she does electrolysis and she is going to school for nursing just to expand her business. As much as my mom and I try to support her business, offer to pay her, she DOES NOT want us to schedule an appointment with her shop. We have no idea why? Then she turns around and gets mad at us when we go to someone else.😂😂😂
Even as a no arguement curly hair girl (4b-4c) I even have different textures dependent on the product and technique I use. Did I use a pick that day, a detangler, my hands, a shower comb? Is it second day hair? Did I use the product my hair eats up and makes bouncy volume or just the every day moisture upkeep for lounging around the house? Did I use rollers, curlers, or finger curls? Twist out? Braid out? Wash n Go? My 10 minute routine or my 30 minute routine with curl custard? My hair looks so different dependent on what I do and how I do it and it's all beautiful and still curly all the same. Not all curls start and end at ringlets. And just because someone is a different race doesn't negate that they have curly hair too. That's why we have a texture chart to begin with.
Exactly!! My hair can go from barely 2A wavy to 3A ringlets depending on what I do to it. If I've neglected it, not washed it, brushed it every day, then it's 2A. If I have been taking good care of it, moisturized it, put styling creams in it after washing, then I get ringlets! Not to mention that when my hair was shoulder-length it was wayyyy more curly than now when it's mid-back. It literally depends on the situation and treatment and the curly police is so dumb.
If your hair is straight scrunching will do nothing 🥴 but it adds definition to some peoples curls, even some black women scrunch bc their specific hair type works with scrunching obviously not all curls are the same or require the same care and routine.
as a native woman with thick heavy hair.. i literally spent TWO HOURS working on it to get it curly and to the perfect look i needed for a character at an event....it went flat and frizzy (not to mention kinda gross looking because of all the product in it) about 20minutes of me arriving at an event.. its just not meant for us babe.
Yes Queen! People give me so much flack about my curls. I fought for years with frizzy, dry hair and i never used any products, heat or anything on my hair. Started taking care of my hair and now i have curls just like my grandma. Couldnt be happier ❤
Bruh as someone with painfully straight hair it is utter bs to say anyone can do a curly hair method of styling or care to make it look like that. I can assure you. My mum could do it and her hair would look fab because she actually has curly hair, if I did it my hair would just look like it really needs a brush 😂😂
As someone with pin-straight hair, I will never truly understand the struggle of curly hair. My problem is in the opposite direction - my hair is so straight and fine that it will not hold any kind of styling even with the extensive use of styling products. No joke, the one time I had my hair professionally styled (for senior prom), it had fallen flat within the first hour.
as someone with super straight hair i promise y’all that no matter what i do to it, even if i were to try a curly/wavy hair routine my hair would still be straight after. i let it air dry, it will be crunched up, laying in a funky position, it’s still straight after. everyone’s hair is different. if a curly or wavy routine works for someone that would be because that person has wavy/curly hair
@@romarialavia3041 I believe you, no need to show proof. I’m commented that because I had someone who wasn’t even black tell me that only black people can curly hair and that I’m faking my curls. My hair isn’t even that curly, it’s more on the wavy side.
@@electraheart5276 those people annoy me to. One time I was hanging with my friends (all white) and we saw another white girl with braids. One of my friends asked me if it didn't annoy me. I said no, because 1) why should I be offended by someone else's hair style. Like, the hair didn't slap me in the face or something. 2) also black people weren't the only ones wearing braids. People like the Vikings also wore braids. That's where the Dutch and French braids came from. So I'll never be offended if someone wears braids lol.
Very easy way to tell the difference between straight, waves and curls. Straight is well, straight. Waves are 2D and Curls are 3D. If your hair creates a coil of any tightness, its curly.
Also, straight hair can't hold a curl, no matter how hard you try. My hair won't hold a curl with a can and a half of hairspray in it, and my dad has had perms fail to give his hair shape. Straight hair doesn't have the necessary growth pattern to hold a curl. If you can curl your hair, then it isn't straight hair, it's wavy.
@@transsnackI can’t curl my hair for the life of me. Styling tools, sleep in products, tricks, Velcro rollers, nothing works. Tho when I’ve been waving my hair, with a heated tool, it’ll hold til my next shower. I’ve been able to hold perfect wavy hair for days upon days (around 5-6) with no issue. With no styling it’s mostly straight with some volume. If I get my hair curled at a salon it *may* hold for a couple of hours🤷♀️
I have really curly hair all my life, and I can promise you regardless of whether I scrunch or not style or not those curls are always there ! This opinion baffles me !
I’m white and I don’t have curly hair but I do have wavy hair. I blow dry and straighten my hair all the time because it’s so hard to maintain. There are many different types of curls and waves!
Throughout my young childhood my hair was always very long and seemingly straight. But whenever I brushed it, it would poof like a pufferfish. Until one day I got bored of it and got it chopped real short, then it curled naturally, even without any oil or management. The point of this, I didn't know my hair was curly because it never got any attention to be curly. If I had had this information and influence as a tween, I could have rocked long, curly hair.
Same tho. I had relatively straight hair growing up. One day heard that straight hair doesnt curl like that when wet. Well mine did. Now that I actually have figured out how to care for it I get like the loosest ringlets out there.
Irish and Hispanic here. I have a buzz cut rn, but normally have wide curls. If i dont take care of my hair, it's just frizzy and poofy and wild. Lol you can actuallt see my pattern in my hair when i let it grow out a bit. :3
As someone with straight hair, whenever i try to curl my hair, it falls out in less than an hour (much to my mom's dismay lol). I even tried doing the scrunch thingy when my hair was wet, did not work one bit.
I have curly hair when it’s wet and no matter how much I scrunch and what sort of products and methods I use it ALWAYS dries fully straight! And the opposite is true for many others, everyone’s hair is different, just because someone’s hair is straight when wet, or is just ‘frizzy’ when unstyled, doesn’t mean it can’t have a natural curl pattern to it 🤷🏼♀️
I am white, at one time people called me china doll white. I have mostly spiral curls, does not matter humidity percentage or temperature, it curls, it has a brain of its own. I threw out my diffuser years ago, why do i need it? I get plenty of curl air drying. I bought a hair dryer from the thrift because i use it so rarely like after a late night shower (Wet pillow? Yuck). One hairdresser from 3 decades ago told me to throw away my hair brush, it only damages my curls. So I did and use my fingers to comb. A person can call me racist if they want, their opinion does not define me. This perm was done by the best stylist ever, God. It took a while for me to understand how to care for my hair. I love my hair.
I have naturally curly hair(Scottish born) turned mostly white now( 63 years young) I love my hair and I receive compliments from men and women who ask if it is permed or natural. I use no heated appliances, I use a shampoo and conditioner for silver hair and a leave in conditioner then I leave it to air dry.
As a hair dresser and a white person, if someones hair is straight, like actually straight it is usually SO HARD to get curling irons to work in their hair. Their hair literally wont hold a curl it dont matter if its eveen dry and then heat styled some people will never be able to hold a curl with their straight hair. So when it "scrunches" or is "manipulated" into place its udually to make it dry prettier but as someone who always has "ratty" wavy hair its so tiring. My hair was curlier as a teen but puberty made it more wavy. And now i struggle to style it cause ive went SO LONG straightening it and heating it.
as a straight haired girlie i PROMISE EVERYONE that no amount of "curly hair techniques" make my hair wavy/curly. even a curling iron my hair will straighten out in a few hours.
Yeah, just like unless I straighten my hair it's not gonna behave enough for braids (I have a type of wavy hair, so of course it flows wherever it wants and not in a pattern like most of other types).
Omg same!
Opposite for me, my family swore up and down that I had straight hair but every time they put a flatiron to my head within a few hours it'd be wavy and curly. I'm now 30 and embrace my curls and honestly, my hair never looked so good and healthy. My aunt has straight hair, I mean stick straight, and she even got a perm to curl her hair, it didn't last long and her hair is back to being straight.
This!!! thank you, my curls fall out like 1-2 hours after I do it.
I sometimes feel bad for hairdresser she really tried hard but after few hours they are almost gone, for her and my money because I shouldn't have bothered for two hours. 😅
If she chopped her hair... that thing gon' curl up real fast!!! She has curly hair.
She'd have a curl-fro. 😂😂
Probably... I got a very similar curl pattern but only mid to ends, once I did a Bob cut and my hair was barely wavy.
THIS. Last year I chopped my 2+ feet of hair which was already QUITE curly, down to a heavy undercut with maybe 2-4 inches on top. That mfer curled so hard, so fast, I couldn't even get FINGERS through once I was out of the shower. And as it grows out, every few inches it's slightly looser up top but the ends are still somehow staying in little ringlets. I don't even DO styling on my hair, I use regular shampoo, conditioner, rough towel tf out of it and don't do anything at all... still curls up into ringlets. Frizzy ringlets, but ringlets allt he same.
hee hair would look so cute as a little curly french bob i love!
Yep the length weighs down and elongates the curls. My daughter's hair behaves just like this when wet. Curls up beautifully. People are ignorant.
One of my friends is white and she’s got super curly hair. Recently she just started learning how to properly take care of it, and her curls have started becoming a lot more defined and manageable. Before, her hair was frizzy and tangly because no one taught her how to take care of it. Even her mother, who had curly hair as well, didn’t know how to take care of her own hair.
Fr people need to stop gatekeeping curly hair and certain hair products because it just leads to more people who don’t even know how to take care of their own hair types and makes them feel bad about something they were born with.
Yes! I am white and have curly hair. As a kid I was constantly being told to brush my hair which did absolutely nothing to tame my hair and just made it even more frizzy and wild. The crazy thing is, my mom also had curly hair and her hair was never out of control like mine. You'd think she would have taught me how to manage my hair but somehow I don't think she realized I had curly hair too? But also, my hair is a much different texture than hers. She had coarse hair that wasn't particularly frizzy whereas mine is soft and fine and wants to fly away in all the directions. Looking back, I don't believe she knew how to care for her curls either, she just lucked out that her hair was more manageable.
Sometimes I'm quite frustrated with my hair. There is some texture there for it to go puff after brushing and my baby hair being curly.
Unfortunately, that's kind of it. I tried a curly hair routine, but it's loosely wavy at best
@@serbskaholca loose waves need love too! Your hairs are beautiful no matter how they bend, move, or curl. The more you care for it the more you’ll see your pattern, I wish it was an overnight process 😅. But Rome was not built in a day.
Take that mindset with you across situations.
I'm also white with wavy hair, it's very difficult to manage as my hair is really long, because my father has curly hair while my mother has wavy hair like mine, if it's short it's like my fathers but while it's long it's more wavy and it tangles really easily
I have straight, brightly dyed hair and I sleep in a bonnet!! It’s made my hair stay SO soft and silky between washes and I love it! Bonnets really are for all hair types and I’m so thankful for the women sharing that knowledge with the rest of us! 🥰❤️
Amish people wear bonnets all the time. I never saw the issue with bonnets
The bonnets you see now descended from the bonnets Europeans wore. If they came from us, why should we apologize for using them?
Quick question, since I tried a bonnet recently: doesn't it bother you when it's over the ears? Also, I always wake up with mine off, I assume because I take it off while asleep since it's unpleasant over the ears. But if it's above the ears, it slips right off :/
Gate keeping a hair type is CRAZYY!! Let the woman live with her curly hair
For real, gatekeeping hair is just nonsensical
Ikr… like enter the Jews 😂 white with 4C curly hair. Some people need to look at cultures and countries outside 10 square blocks cause the US education system sure won’t tell them.
@@crystalm4324 white people can’t have type 4 hair it’s literally afro textured hair
The reality is that white women had ample opportunity to come up with hair typing. They didn’t. I understand the biracial and internet community has made them aware of hair typing, but they cannot co-opt Everything. At the same time, I think black women should ignore them. They are taking up too much space in the world and ignoring them is best.
@@crystalm4324see above
Man it’s so weird to grow up with people complimenting your curly hair and then getting older and being told your Scottish hair is actually SECRETLY straight and frizzy because you use leave in conditioner
So weird! I also use leave-in conditioner, but my hair is pin straight. Why do people think that that's how things work 🤣
NOOO FR alike 😒it’s not straight
Fr like I have loose curls that kinda straightened itself after bleaching, but after months of hair care I got some of that curl back and people don’t believe that my hair naturally falls like that.
If your hair naturally curls up on its own when you're in the shower with nothing in it you have naturally curly hair the reason your hair doesn't always stay like that is because it's not used to staying like that so conditioner and Greece and stuff just helps the already curly hair to form neatly I have a whole afro in my profile and I just let that dry with a little bit of conditioner in my hair so I find it funny that people are in denial that people can have natural curl hair but it wouldn't be the first time someone tried to say my afro wasn't real but I also remembered people saying my hair is nappy and I needed to get it done. I love it when people think they know everything under the sun. 😂
@@Sofiaode18I had no idea this was a point of conflict and racial tension.
I'm a white man and I
got really tight curls, it turns out, but I didn't know, coz I had kinda killed them by bleaching tf out of my hair since I was 13. And before puberty my hair was always cut short.
But as soon as I could make my own decisions I have had mermaid or rainbow colors, punk cuts and such.
I'm going natural now and it's almost like Weird Al's hair.
Except shorter.
So I'm trying to grow it long for the first time ever.
I wanna see if I can have long curly hippie hair, before I lose it. 😅
Most men in my family went bald in their 20's.
But I'm 39 now with a full head of hair, so maybe I'll get Lucky.🤞🤩
I really hope so.
It would be great. 💁♂️
When I was in foster care I was in exclusively black families, im a pale ginger with blue eyes and freckles, but my hair at the time was really short and HELLA curly, so they got me like 20 different bonnets and would tie little braids into my hair (no weave, just a bunch of really short braids while my hair was wet) so my curl would be tighter when I woke up and took them out (one of their biological granddaughters nicknamed me "poodle" when they went a bit overboard and put some product in that made my hair fluff up a bunch lmao) and I still have each and every bonnet they gave me, even though my hair is longer now and gravity is making it only curly at the ends :)
That poof thing is so real. I come from a family of women with very straight hair, but my father, who was not around, give me his thick curly hair and my entire life I was raised to take care of my hair, the way that the women on my mom side did, and I absolutely hated my hair, because it was poof and frizzy and frustrating to say the very least. It wasn’t until I got older that I stopped cutting off all of my incredibly thick hair because I didn’t know what to do with it and started trying to figure out how to take care of it. It’s been a process but I finally feel like me. So hard to explain how my whole life I never felt like myself until I learned how to care for my hair. I feel happy when I look in the mirror now, I feel like me and everyone else says I look more like myself, like I was meant to have this hair (because obviously I was)
I feel this so much! Had the same issue... after the age of 8 or 9 when most kids with curly hair as little people had started just having wavy or straight hair, mine was just frizzy and unmanageable and I had nobody to tell me how to take care of my curls...hairdressers would cut and blow dry my hair the same way they would a person with straight hair, so it would look good for a couple of days until I washed it and then it was even worse! The Internet has been a lifesaver helping me identify my hair type and teaching me how to nourish and care for my curls and now I treat my hair like it's a living creature that needs love and attention ❤
If I could make my straight hair look like THAT from just scrunching then I would have won the hair lottery
Even a dyson won't curl my straight hair for more than an hour. "Styling" my @$$
@@fbiagentfrankFor real!!! Even the most scorching hot 500 degree curling iron won’t keep curls in my hair for more than two hours TOPS. Salon blowouts don’t last on my hair for more than two hours either, no matter how much hair spray. Such is life with having actual straight hair!
i have curls like her but its so much upkeep ive just been straightening my hair for months now 😭 so much easier
@@Pinchibabycat preach sista!
I can’t manually make mine straight for more than a couple hours (see profile pic). God help me if I went outside 😂mine shrinks clear up to my chin even grown out from that 👈 embrace it, it’s gonna do what it wants!
Actual straight hair doesn't hold a curl without literally MULTIPLE cans of hairspray and HOURS of heat and non-heat curlers on the hair. Even then, you might only get 2 hours before they flatten out again. I had a friend with straight hair, actual straight hair. It was a NIGHTMARE to curl. She tried every method in the book and NOTHING held for more than 2 hours or so. Scrunching straight hair does literally nothing to it. I have curly hair that is a texture that gets weighed down like this young woman's does. I never really knew how to care for my hair. My sister and I just desperately tried to keep our frizziness under control. My sister often straightens her hair and puts a TON of anti-frizz products in it. I never really did much with my curls. I was taught to wash and condition my hair literally every single day and brush it twice a day - twice EVERY DAY. My mum had, mostly, straight hair. My dad had curly hair but kept it short, so he didn't know how to care for it. Despite this, I'm pretty sure she is just making sure her hair dries nicely without frizzing out when she scrunches her hair. That's not going to curl someone's hair...
I have a teensy bit of wave in mine. Mom would try to curl my hair on picture day when I was younger. By the time I got to the photographer my hair was always inevitably flat and stiff. It's literally enough to give it a little natural bounce when short but that's it. My baby sister? Has straight up Merida hair.
My friend curled my hair for a party and it was gone in three hours. If I run my hand through it, it will go back to being straight in thirty. It might last long with product but no that much longer. It goes wavy after having it in a bun all day but a brush will get rid of it pretty quickly. People just need to mind their own business.
Even that depends on hair texture, I have completely straight hair naturally, long or short. When it was long it couldn’t hold a curl because the weight would drag it down. Now that my hair is short I can get it to hold curls for days with very little product, but only with heatless overnight curls, I use foam rollers. My hair is very thick though, like thick coarse strands. If I use heat I get a couple hours max. There are multiple different types of hair even within straight hair, my sister is ginger & has very fine strands, she’s lucky to get a beachy wave for 10 minutes even with overnight curling. But yeah, just scrunching straight hair will Not make curls magically appear.
Exactly! I get so annoyed when people say that when they have curly hair and assume scrunching will give a wave. Absolutely not my hair can't even hold a curling iron curl. Straight hair lacks the type of protein needed to make curls so without heat and product in LAYERS it won't work, especially if using a curly hair technique.
I have curly hair (it's very short atm but I can see the curls forming!) and I literally couldn't straighten my hair when I tried. Curls, though, held beautifully and lasted for hours. I never knew how to take care of my hair though, so I usually just brushed it and it'd be a slightly wavy frizzy poof.
I was in a FB group (that I ended up leaving) because they were constantly “correcting” ppl on which type of hair they had. “Your hair is wavy not curly; you shouldn’t be using products for curls.” And then turn around to say “we don’t police other ppl in this group.”
It drove me insane…I just wanted help with my damn curls!
“It’s not curly, it’s wavy” is like saying “it’s not a dress, it’s a purple dress” lmao, that is so dumb
My niece was half white, half black. She had all her mother's coloration, blonde, pale, blue-eyed. What she got from her daddy was his amazing 4c hair, and I had to learn so much to take care of it! CZcams and a Nigerian owned salon near our neighborhood taught me so much, and I'm so grateful to those ladies who took the time to help me. But let me tell you, I had to keep a picture of my niece with her daddy on me at all times because people really thought I was doing all that with her hair for attention or something.
"Hair care not race" ❤
It's really nice to see silk bonnets become popular with everyone, as opposed to just one hair type. Hair is hair, and every hair type needs care and protection.
Yass I have that straight af hair that wont take even heat curls for an hr. Once it reaches a certain length I have to cut it or wear a bonnet to bed or else I wake up with a rats nest of tangles that's so painful to brush out.
I’ve been wanting to buy one so my hair isn’t as frizzy and tangled in the mornings. I have wavy/curly hair and if I leave it up at night, it’s frizzy and my head hurts. But if I leave it down it’s frizzy and tangled, so I’m forced to either go out looking like a tangled mess or brush it out and ruin my hair.
I’ve heard from so many people then a silk bonnet would help, but if you move a lot in your sleep will it fall off?
i have like super super thin hair, so i sleep with a silk bonnet to help reduce breakage
Been using a bonnet now for 3 months maybe and every morning my curls are so beautiful to behold. I literally cannot go back to sleeping with my hair any other way lol
i have slightly wavy hair and want a bonnet SO bad!! i really wanted to keep my hair intact for school once and i used a DAMN SHOWER CAP
Coming from a straight hair girlie, shes right. The only way im getting any texture/curls into my hair is with heat. Styling products will not give me curls, they just reinforce pre-existing curls
Sameeee my hair has no texture or curl except for maybe a slight wave at the end like unless I product the f- outta my hair it ain’t getting more than a beach wave 😂
I perm my hair adda texture volume and a little curl. I do two or 3 different sized perm rods to get a more natural look and I don't go too small or I'd look like a poodle.
Also have straight hair but heat curls never hold for me even when I use a ton of hair spray.
I have better luck with the air drying overnight curls then I don’t really even need hairspray!
Just scrunching my hair like in the video would never work without half a can of mousse and even then it still ends up looking flat and also greasy.
I tried doing heatless curls, left it in overnight. Come morning, I remove my curlers, and all I get is wavy. Thirty minutes later, the waves are gone.
My sister is the same, even with heat and product she's lucky if the curls last more than a few hours. Meanwhile if I twist my hair while its wet and let it air dry, my loose curls last days. I didn't know I had curls until I cut my waist long hair into a bob. Ended damaging the crap out of my hair from all the straightening. So many regrets lol
As a curly/wavy haired girlie who still can’t take good care of my hair because of cultural restrictions and stereotypes, it’s always great to see others with similar hair and how to take care of it.
Btw I’m Indian and basically my mom and my family believes curly hair is bad for the health of the hair and should be brushed out or straightened at all times. I generally avoid having to deal with this issue by just ponytail braiding my hair all the time😅
I noticed this trend when I went to India. My hair is only slightly wavy but hell if they didn't want to beat it straight. 😅
@@jasminejeanine2239 that’s my issue. My favorite/only solution is to just keep it in a basic braid at basically all times. Hey at least it appeases the Indian aunties and moms 😂
My long, brown, Irish hair was frizzy as **** as a teenager. I looked like I was wearing a tent. I wish I had known I have wavy/curly hair back then. My 'friends' talked me into getting it cut. By a man. Instead of teaching me how to care for my hair, he gave me a mullet. A MULLET!! I HATED IT. Not only was it the worst cut possible, I felt like I had been beaten up. Why do male hairdressers insist on leaning on your shoulders, pushing your head until your neck snaps, and flicking your hair in your face?! The second (and last) male hairdresser I went to did the same crap. Be gentle and back OFF!
45 year later, I have long, silver, cwirly locks, which I 💕. Better late than never. I don't let anyone tell me what to do with my hair anymore and I am very grateful for the women who put themselves out there to share their knowledge. 💯
She is totally right. I've got straight hair and even having my hair in curlers overnight won't give me the same look that she has. Hell, it won't even stay all day without so much product that it crunchies. When you have straight hair you can't get it to curl that easy. We wish we could though.
I feel that so much. I used to have to do curls for dance competitions, and it was awful because it was killing my hair trying to keep the curls in, days in curlers (I literally went to school in them), so much product, and they still didn't last as long as they needed to, which was only a couple of hours. I couldn't brush it at all, or it would immediately fall.
Springing for a wig was the best thing. Those curls were permanent! I still have that thing well over a decade since I danced last, and those curls are still gorgeous.
I wish my hair could've done it but that was never going to happen 😂 and I did try sooo many different techniques and products. It really doesn't matter unless you're using like hair _cement_ or something, in which case it is *not* going to look that nice.
Same. If I curl with a curling iron or "scrunch it" it will be straight again within the hour (yes, even if it's dried and sprayed with hair spray). A hairdresser explained to me that my hair has string straight bonds and doesn't accept curl. Nothing wrong with however your hair is, it's yours, but all hair from any race or ethnicity is *not* the same.
I don't style my hair but honestly, to even have one wave on my straight hair, I needed to tie them extra tight for days to even have it stay in a day 💀
Idk "fake curls" was even a thing until this year
My dad has the tight Italian curls my mom only had super straight thin hair and had no idea how to care for my hair. It was always just chopped off. A black woman in a salon saved me from that. She sat me down explained everything to me and how to get my hair to grow and not dry out. Thanks to her my daughter has the most beautiful head of long thick curly hair ever because she was kind enough to teach me these things. This isn't a race issue, every little girl deserves to feel beautiful so when they grow up and their children get these traits their children can have pride in themselves too.
Aww I wish you were able to find that hairdresser now and tell her this ❤ cuz it’s such a cute thing! Or maybe you were able to tell her cuz you still know her idk but if you don’t I hope you’re able to meet her again one day to tell her this sweet story! ❤
@@misspacino4081 I used to cry because my mom just cut my hair off. Then the straightening every day to where she'd burn my scalp. My mother is a terrible human honestly. Her jealousy knew no bounds.
It was a black friend that taught me how to care for my hair too. She taught me to oil it, though I couldn't leave it in like she could I'd put it on at night and wash it in the morning. And she taught me to use better shampoo and conditioner I actually used to buy afro Caribbean shampoo and conditioner until the european conditioners started doing argan oil ect. And before everyone gets up in arms i lived in Birmingham uk and bought it from the market so that didn't raise the price of it by one teenager buying it. My hair grew the longest it had ever been and was curly instead of frizzy. If i use 'normal hair' shampoo and conditioner it goes so dry and snaps.
Oh flashbacks! My hair was always just chopped off so everyone thought I was a boy until I turned 13 and just refused. But I had no one to teach me how to handle it so I looked like... ehm well.. imagine a dried out blonde Jackson 5 hairdo 😬 that was me.
Did find some ways to tame it but
Its still very very dry & never found anything that really helps with that so any tips are welcome 😁
@@binkie3366 keep it moist, curls dry out easily and break. Always use a diffuser if you use heat.
I love my straight hair, but I’ve tried so many times to make curls, and my hair knows who it is. It’s straight. It will not care if you scrunch dry, it doesn’t even curl if you used Elmer’s glue and a curling iron.
I'm in my 50's and JUST started wearing a bonnet. I wish I knew sooner! It's so helpful!
i have curly hair and scrunching it up when it’s wet doesn’t magically make it more curly, it just helps the curls look better/more defined when they dry lol
Same!!!
Yeah seriously. Scrunching barely adds to the curliness! Just helps with definition and getting products in. It doesn’t make the spirals suddenly tighter.
Oh absolutely! I naturally have curly hair, and I usually keep it very short so it's easier to maintain. When I had it longer than is my usual I had to use a curling iron to make prettier over the top curls for a theatre play... Only to realise later that I could have the exact same effect if I just dried my hair in that way... And it would probably take less than all the time the make-up girl had to on my hair right before the play 😅
Yep, if I do nothing with my hair, I get curls but with a halo of frizz added in, if I add product, all its doing is gluing the frizz to the curls...
I... *vividly* recall being 12, surrounded by girls in a dorm with curly hair, all scrambling to share a single straightener, and being unable to do literally *anything* to make my straight hair 'interesting'.
If curling straight hair was really this easy, perms wouldn't be so expensive.
This!
So much this.
As someone with wavy hair that has the “curl” pattern of very loose ringlets (almost like you’d get with a curling iron that has a 2” barrel), I have TRIED to get my hair to hold a tighter curl pattern and it absolutely does not happen no matter how much product I put in or how much I try to twist the curls by hand. It just ends up feeling greasy or crunchy and looks all stuck together 😂 You can’t force curly hair without perming it or using heat on it. It just doesn’t work that way. I don’t even have curly hair and it drives me batshit every time I see someone say people who do a curly hair routine don’t have “real” curly hair.
@ofCourseIgirl i have curly hair and if i don’t put products in my curls don’t look good, the top gets all frizzy, & while the bottom looks fine it doesn’t look good. i style my hair with multiple products and i even finger coil some curls on the top if i feel like they aren’t curly enough. no one would look at me & say i don’t have curly hair. i get compliments on my curly hair all the time. it’s just a matter of finding what works best for you, & finding out how you like your hair to look
You don't have curly hair you style your hair this is what curly perms are for because you don't have curly hair the thing about straight hair is that you can style it curly that's what a curling iron is for it's not like your hair is stuck in its natural state you can manipulate it with that being said you don't have curly hair and it never will be curly if you don't have a spiral coils you don't have curly hair and you cannot jump on anything but we going to keep our Crown act because you guys have been lying on our hair being curly we have curly hair in your hair is straight. And yeah for us it's about race because there's no such thing as nappy hair there's no reason to be calling people hair slurs racial slurs and you guys try to make it into a victim party for you is not happening Yep this is going on a definite block you see you guys make fun of the woke anti-colonial thing for a long time and now look at Palestine you're not right and you're not right about this either.
As someone with straight hair who asked for curls for a wedding, my hairstylist was cursing and losing her shit when no amount of curling and hairspray helped those curls stay. Within an our my har would loosen back up 😂
I have super straight hair and it will not hold a curl I can spend hrs curling my hair and it will fall out in a hr , I can't stand racist people
I love this! As a mixed blasiantina, I spent my entire early education years training my hair! And I mean from about age 6 to age 16! You cannot skip your moisturizing treatments root to end on curly hair. These treatments have to be repeated 2-3 times per week at least! Repeated tight braiding will only train your hair to crimp and kink. Make sure you change it up by switching your hair patterns to loose braids and low buns in order to train your hair from root to tip to grow, bounce, and lock in moisture. I used Vaseline at the roots and combed it through, along my ENTIRE hairline, after a shower and hair wash at least 1-2 times a month. If you need it weekly for frizz and thickness, do it, you're future self will be so grateful. 🙏🏽
i’m convinced that the curl police are all bald because anybody with hair knows that you can’t make it do something that it’s not supposed to do. if they have curly hair they would know what a curly hair routine does for curls but if they have straight hair they should know that no amount of curly hair routine will make your hair curly if it’s straight. so I’m convinced they just look like Aang from avatar.
Saying that patting your wet hair is “curl manipulation” is just crazy. If your hair is wet and gets curly, the best way to dry it is by patting it. If not you either get it matted from rubbing it with a towel or wait hours to let it air dry. Patting it helps it to gather itself and keep it a little neater. And as someone with a straight haired sister, I can confirm you can’t make straight hair curly by scrunching it, because when she does it her hair just bends rather than organizing itself into a curl
Truthfully anyone with long hair should pay it dry to avoid their hair getting matted
Yeah. My hair can take two days to dry.😂
@@DarkAngel2512Let me guess, thick and long? Before I cut my hair it took half the day to dry on its own
@@njmoonfrost6145 Yep but I chopped mine off a few months back to chin length. Want to get rid of split ends as felt it was thinning out and wanted to get my curls bacm.
Exactly. I have pretty wavy hair that kinda borders onto curly sometimes (I have very confusing hair) but my sister has Straight hair and it cannot hold curls at all
I truly TRULY do not understand what people are so mad at. Like, why are we shaming and gate keeping HAIR?! I knew a white woman who had damn near 4C hair. It's not a skin color thing it's genetics. My hair is wavy/loosely curly if I have the time to actually treat it right. If I let it air dry, a lot of it goes kinda straight bit I still have some waves here and there. It's genuinely not that deep. We aren't trying to colonize a hair texture.
Try pinning it loosely on top of your head as it air dries and use a lighter leave in conditioner, I even have a favourite spray leave in that I use when I'm in a hurry. Could be fun to see what your hair looks like when it's less weighed down as it dries.
She's soo right! When I don't take care of my hair it's straight as shit *you can see it in my profile pic* I use to have ringlets growing up so I recently started taking care of my hair properly and my curls have come back, I don't even use a diffuser or special hair products, turns out just washing my hair while my head us upside down and using shampoo that doesn't dry out my hair my curls do there thing.
This is why I love you. You don’t tell people there not what they are you tell everyone that anyone can have any type of hair ❤️❤️❤️
The fallacy of trait based race really made people think we have anything but stands of keratin growing out of our heads with different textures and shapes. Hair type isn't race based. The racists just gaslit us all into thinking that.
it’s a peculiar phenomenon indeed, the attempt to make curly hair a racial problem… but this time like, in reverse 😂.
Actually our hair shafts tend to have different structures but no, curls are not a race exclusive trait. I agree, racists ruin everything.
Pretending like curly hair doesn't exist in some races more than others is hilarious and acting like curly Irish hair for example is the same as kinky Black hair is laughable 😂 I'm half Irish half Black and people pretending there aren't differences between races is like saying you don't see color. It's a typa racism 😶
@mikorisheridan6769 No one's saying that
@@mikorisheridan6769saying you don’t see color means you don’t judge someone based on their race. You cannot know someone’s experiences just looking at them and to make an assumption about them based on stereotypes is wrong. It’s like now everyone is the racist teacher from everybody hates Chris.
those comments about "your hair isnt really curly" piss me tf off cause when i graduated primary school my parents let me get my hair professionally styled. i thought curls were beautiful and wanted that, so my hairdresser helped me out (i have pin-straight hair). we put a bunch of products in it and guess what? less than 4 hours later it was back to absolute pin-straight. if your hair doesnt curl, NO AMOUNT OF PRODUCT IS GONNA HELP YOU WITH THAT.
I've been asked a million times if I get tired of straightening my hair everyday?
No because I never straighten. It dries this way. A perm will fall out in less than 48 hrs. A curling iron curl will fall out within the hour if it even holds to start with.
Ya, I had a very sweet guy compliment me on my long, stick straight hair. I, confused, said, "thank you? But I didn't do anything. This is naturally straight." He replied that he knows some girls take a long time to straighten their hair so he makes a point to compliment them as well. Again, very sweet, but not me!
I can put gel, mousse, curl cream, Curl it then hair spray it & I'm lucky if it stays 4 hours.
I've finally learned how to take care of my natural hair now that my hair is short, it definitely keeps a curl better, if any one tells me it aint natural imma show them a picture of me when I was little, obviously having a fulllll head of curls, like 💀💀
Ong and the fact they worry about the girls hair and not their own is crazy
@tandylynnennis9639 That was my hair before my 2nd kid now the top half (of my skull) is wavy and the bottom is straight.
The products that stop the frizz on top do not in anyway make the lower hairs wavy still.
I have multiple textures and colors in my hair..
The crown of my head is blonder in color, oily, and straight. While the underside is a deep red, dry, with super frizzy curls... I always hated my ginger hair growing up... 😖
Your videos are changing the way i see my hair, and you've inspired me! Thank you!
I can't wait for school shopping to be done so I can order one of your bonnets!
I was never allowed to have short hair growing up. Wasn't allowed to cut it shorter than mid back. At 21, I chopped it all off up to my shoulders. After ONE shampoo and condition, POOF. Waves turned to rings SO FAST. Hair was still wet and I had a head of spirals. So yes, weight plays a HUGE part in what your curls look like, especially when you have super thick, heavy hair.
i will NEVER respect anyone who is so chronically online that they think having curly hair is a racial trait.
edit: LMAOO one of the chronically online people is mad in the replies. gave me a good laugh, feel free to read through it.
Hehe this made me chuckle
Sometimes on here you answer someone or vice versa and then they talk nonsense, that’s the moment you know it’s either a child or someone that’s chronically online and hasn’t touched grass for a long time
RIGHT LIKE GO OUTSIDE AND LOOK AROUND 😭
@@skinnylegend2431yes, you can curl your hair, but for people with straight hair it eventually falls back to what it looks like aka straight, whereas someone who defined their curls would still have curls by the end of the night 🤷♀️ product wears off, curls do not
@@wifflewaffle5006this. If I style my hair like that it does NOT stay because I have actually straight hair. I get like an hour tops
@@skinnylegend2431I have hair that is as straight as straight can be. I have spent hours using curling irons, tons of products, pin curlers, etc. to get curls, and it lasts an hour *max*. Your hair will not hold a curl if it is straight, no matter what you do to it besides a perm. Why is someone taking care of their hair in a way that is best for their hair type such a big issue??
Thank you for addressing this, I've been seeing a lot of shaming towards white women for saying they have curly hair. Telling them they're race baiting and can't have curly hair, it's very unnecessary and sad
It's ignorant af
@@AsproKaiBleh It is incredibly ignorant.
It is. I'm a white woman with curly hair and yes, it looks unusual, but it's my natural hair.
When I started learning about better hair products for myself, I was embarrassed for buying "black" hair products because I felt like I was taking something away from the black community, but the products work really well on me so that's all that matters.
@ExplosionMare Honestly, to me it's not unusual in any way. I had multiple white classmates with different curl patterns. One had very tight curls, almost afro level. SO MUCH VOLUME, I was so jealous! Another one had looser curls with less volume but still a gorgeous texture and then there was me, the greasy weasel with pin-straight hair that would fly all over the place when wearing fleece because it's so fine.
This is a thing now? I’m 56 and I have hair like Merida from Brave (just with more gray). It’s been this way my whole life. I just put leave in conditioner on it and go.
Edit I’m white
As a native woman, I heard this ALL THE TIME growing up that I shouldn’t wear bonnets and that my hair doesn’t/shouldn’t naturally curl. So I spent years brushing out and straightening my natural hair because I never learned to take care of it so it always just looked frizzy. 19 years later and I’m finally figuring out what works for me and how to treat my natural hair
I'm Greek and I have 3c hair. Lots of tight spirals. In sick of being talked shit about because I had the audacity to be born with such tightly curled hair and not be black.
The early 2010’s Tumblr “cultural appropriation” discourse did so much damage to peoples collective psyche. I swear. I swear back in the early 2000s it was just common knowledge that any race/ethnicity could have a curly hair texture. It’s just more common in some than others, but now just existing as a white woman with curls is enough to get accused of black fishing and other crazy stuff. Discussion of complex, nuanced issues such as cultural appropriation should’ve never left academia because the average person does not have the critical thinking skills or capacity for nuance to actually have these conversations. Which has a lot to do with our education system failing people but that’s another topic.
But they have blm in their profile pic, so if you say anything against them, they’ll just call you a white supremacist!
people cant fathom the idea that cultural appropriation is complicated and is easily tied with cultural appreciation done ignorantly, which can be solved with educating and culture sharing, not gatekeeping. Not that cultural appropriation has anything to do with peoples NATURALLY grown curls.
@@pimpinainteasy yeah, 100% agreed. it’s like I said, the education system is failing us and because that you have people that care a lot, but really don’t get the nuances and unfortunately it leads to more harm that good. Like how most cultural appropriation is done with no ill intent and especially when being done by individuals and not massive corps there’s plenty of room to be gentle and letting be a teaching moment because we will all have our blunders, so it’s best to be empathetic and to give benefit of the doubt. But where I also see a problem is just calling someone caring for their hair properly appropriation, this lady’s page is full of her finding cases of this. Also, don’t even get me started on the amount times Mexicans have had to stop gringo keyboard warriors for going after and even threatening people celebrating Dia de los Muertos while looking too white or well, Mexicans have a long, messy ahh history of people speaking over us about the issues of cultural appropriation and it’s just rough. It’s just a dangerous game letting these concepts out when our education system is in shambles, outside of cultural appropriation, another concern for me is looking at how a lot of therapy terminology is now basically being used as a manipulation tool often unintentionally by people that don’t understand the full picture. Or how toxic masculinity went from meaning “unfair social expectations placed upon men that negatively impact their mental health” to “A man doing something that I don’t like”. A world where these concepts can exist in common lexicon with no major issues is absolutely possible, it’s just not a world where our schools are basically teaching obedience and conformity rather than critical thinking. It’s just a deeply distressing state of affairs to me.
Wow.
A fellow observer, history lover, and diplomatic peacemaker.
Nice to meet you. 😊
@@nickie7nicole7 oh yes, nice to meet you too! My wake up call to all of this was when I was still a teenager. I’m the youngest of my parent’s children by a significant margin so I already had school aged nieces and nephews by the time I was 16. Coming to the realization how much my parents had to take my education into their own hands and teach me important concepts themselves watching my older cousins/siblings having to go even harder than they did because it’s only getting worse made we realize just how dire the situation is. I’m about to be 25 and even now while I’m not a mother yet and still dating, I’m doing research into alternative schooling options because the most important thing to me is that a child of mine is kind, compassionate, and a critical thinker. I fear empathy and individuality is not something standard schooling cares about at all.
Girl I totally feel you. I was always told I only had straight frizzy hair. But my hair was long so of course gravity took it’s place creating long waves then curl up in the end. Shaved my whole head (x8) for my mom bc she has cancer and when it grew out, everyone in town was shocked how curly it was.
I have exactly the same hair. On older pictures with shorter hair it looks even shorter than it is, because of the locks.
I hope, your mom and you stay in good health!
That lady has naturally curly hair. If I did my long a$$ hair the EXACT same way she did with the same products, there might be a little bit of a wave to it, but no actual curls! The only way I can get any type of curl is with a curling iron & even then, they only last a few hours if I'm lucky.
Hair that long is going to weigh a lot, so if it’s a little bit curly, it might end up looking more straight. I bet if she cut half of it off, nobody would question whether or not it’s curly. It’s also damaged because she obviously bleached it at a point. Bleached hair often ends up having the consistency of straw.
What’s crazy is I’ve seen people with type 3 and 4 hair scrunching as well. Hell, I’m one of them. I wish people wouldn’t try to gatekeep curly hair.
the worst part is that I'm absolutely sure that those people trying so hard to gatekeep curly hair are like, paper white and their hair is painfully straight and brittle
@@urubudopix976I’m white with straight, blonde hair, but man even I’m tempted to start scrunching my hair. I wanna see what happens. I wish people wouldn’t gatekeep hair. Your body your choice.
As a straight haired woman, NO WE CANT DO THAT. People are so stupid and so miserable.
Fr💀 my sis has pin straight hairs and I have curly hairs and no matter what she does her hairs ain't curling 😭
I've occasionally needed to curl my hair for plays and stage work, I need to use mousse, and hair spray and gel, even then the ''curls' fall out within a few hours.
I second this. My straight hair won't get body and a curl like that without product, heat, or braiding when damp.
@@orastellathefirstI do the wet braids! My hair is needle strait and even when I braid it wet it doesn’t matter how I twist it I don’t get curls I get really pretty waves! If I ever want curls I would have to chop half my hair off its down to my ass and thick
@@heathergarnham9555try curling at a hotter temperature but please god use heat protection and don't do it daily
Gosh, the way people go out of their way to harass people on a subject they know nothing about is honestly wild to me. As a straight haired girly, I assure you my hair will not curl no matter how much I scrunch it. It ain't happening. Plain and simple. Some of y'all need help if you feel the need to write a whole paragraph to correct someone on a subject you haven't even done the most basic research on
yesss i have 3a to 3c type of curls. i’m hispanic mixed with french (i have a light tan olive skin tone ) i don’t have texture but i have curls. ppl always think it’s fake or i curl it with a curling iron bc im not “”colored” but i take it as a compliment bc at least my hair looks good enough it looks like i curled it. it took many years to make my curls healthy im not going to let a white girlie with burnt frizz hair say anything about my hair bc their uncultured😚❤️❤️ppl hate
on anything now a days.
thank you for saying this. as a white woman, i am constantly told that my hair can’t be curly bc I’m white and it’s honestly annoying.
I literally got called a racist for saying my curly hair was natural 😭 I was complaining because I wish I had straight hair
A black woman I know from high school used to be told that she's not black enough to have her own hair textur. People are stupid.
I don't really go what they mean pray it not being natural. @@emilyjohn2034
it's wild to me that anyone would suggest white people can't have curly hair because like my BIL has insanely tight curls, he just keeps his hair in a ponytail all the time because if he cut it short it would turn into a puffball. there are so many white folks with obviously natural curly hair, including celebrities, these idiots must be living under a rock.
... Are these people that stupid, fr? There are literal bronze and marbled statues as well as Portraits from ancient Greece, Rome, Germania, etc with most figures having curly hair....🤦🤦🤦🤦
It makes me so happy to see a video like this, my sister has very thick and curly gorgeous hair that she does routines for and uses silk bonnets, etc.
My mom is ignorant and when my sister asked her for hair care products she was like, “I’m sure black people wouldn’t want us to be using their hair products”
…I genuinely cannot believe that woman raised me sometimes, me and my sister were legitimately baffled that she would say something like that. Luckily she still got the products anyways 😂👍
We want the money and the clout. Buy them products baby😂
The products are for sale in a location that is accessible by all, and made by someone who knows they work. Buy the products!
Idk your mom but in this particular instance maybe she didn't mean harm she was just ignorant. Unless of course it's more complex than that, you know her better.
It was funny. That's coming from a black woman. The joke was funny dang.
I mean you don’t need black hair care products… they make white hair care products for curly hair too. The problem is when you start buying it, it gets changed! Insert rosemary oil… I was pissed! You have so many products to choose from I just don’t get why you want to invade our tiny section of the aisle. I’m mixed and I feel this way so please don’t even try the race crap I’m just being real! My daughter has 4c hair and the amount of research that goes in to buying her products because white ppl have taken out products and reformulated them for their hair which just made them suck for ours, is insane! It’s just annoying!
I haven't used heat on my curls for over a decade. Not even a diffuser. Most of the time I wash it, use wide tooth brush or comb, use some moisturising curl products and plop or wear a bonnet... I go to bed and when I wake up it's curly af! Usually still a little damp so I just scrunch with a little mousse or curl gel and within 20-30 minutes I give it a little shake and it's done... I can get 3 to 4 good days of curls if I wear a bonnet every night and just refresh the next day since I don't like washing it more than once or twice a week. It's red so I get "Merida from Brave" comments all the time or people asking if it's permed... I've had tight ringlets since I was 3 years old. Those comments are crazy! Thanks for making this video 💖❤️
In my family we have ALL different types of hair and skin colors and types (we're made up of mostly fostered and adopted kids with a few bio siblings in the mix) and we appreciate this channel for keeping things real
My hair is poker straight, my older sister has tightly textured hair, our youngest sibling has hair like the young lady you featured in this video
You have no idea how many bonnets we've made since watching your videos! Thank you!
My hair is straight and no matter I do, it will always straighten itself out in a matter of minutes. Some people just have no idea about white curly hair and it shows. It takes work to maintain it.
The funniest part about this for me is that for years I had poker straight hair, curls would fall out in minutes no matter what I did. Roll on 7 years ago my hair started with a curl... no reason whatsoever for it, they just happened.
Tldr: you're right, straight hair absolutely won't curl 😂
@@katiegilpin2774Curls are formed in your hair sac. Some medical treatments like chemo etc can cause a change in your hair sac ( they call it chemo curls). Did anything happen during the time your hair started curling up?
@XnuttymeX nope, that's what makes it so fun!
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@@katiegilpin2774mine too. It was straight until I was 18/19. My aunt was the same and now she has super tight ringlets
I’ve got straight/wavy hair and she’s completely right, you can do all this work to make it curl and it’ll just fall right out. The hair wants what the hair wants.
I've got straight hair with a bit of wave and my hair barely curls when I scrunch it.
Yeah, the opposite is true as well, I've been in denial about having curly hair my entire life (due to bullying), I always tried to straighten is as much as I could, but it took HOURS because my curls were that damn stubborn. Now I've just accepted it and even when my hair is wet, like literally under a shower head, it retains its curl. I don't know who I was fooling, lol.
the fact that i can leave my hair in sponge curlers for 10 hours and it takes them 20 minutes to fall flat is all the proof i need i have straight hair. meanwhile my daughter's hair makes these beautiful ringlets right out of the shower, but we don't have time or money for an extensive curl routine so she usually ends up with gently wavy hair by the next day.
Yep, I’ve tried my entire life to have wavy or curly hair (being bullied for having super flat/straight hair made me super insecure about it) but no matter what I did, I would get about an hour of wavy hair, at the max. I’ll never understand why people get so upset about someone taking care of their hair in the way that is best for their hair type
But thats the thing, obviously if your hair has never held after doing what you need to treat curly hair, then yeah, it isnt curly. But some people never knew how to care for their curly hair, and when they do treat it right, now it holds, because they learned how to care for curly hair.
Yes women we have to help each other with hair no matter what race we are, we all have different hair types and we can use different products to help with our hair. Im black and Indian and do not have 4a,b, or c hair I have a mixture of like 3b and 3c and often was told that I was putting a perm in my hair to make it loose curls but I literally went to school with my hair not done, and then showed them in the bathroom that all I have to do is wet my hair and it curls up, no products needed for the loose curl. I only need the products to keep it moisturized. Let's embrace all hair types. They all are cool in their own ways. ❤
I've had people insist that they could get my straight hair to curl before and it's like, no you can't. I once spent an entire day trying to get curls with various methods. I've tried sleeping in curlers with wet hair so that it dried overnight with curlers in. My stepmom took me to get a perm and my hair fell flat and the poor hair stylist had to try again
White woman here... Bonnets are a blessing! I wear one to bed for my straight salon colored hair. It's more fragile now so a bonnet has allowed me to keep moisture in my hair with fewer to no tangles. I don't need to wash it as often and I even get a little extra body and wave in it. Love them!! ❤❤❤
Same, I always move so much in my sleep so my hair gets soooo tangly and it’s so annoying >:((
But now my hair is less tangly and actually so easy to brush while my hair is wet, even my mom was so surprised about how silky and smooth my hair is when she touches it.
I rolled over in my sleep once and got tangled up in my own hair and pulled it so hard it hurt so bad I woke up. Now I wear a bonnet.
Im thinking about getting one today, im tired of waking up with my hair losing my curls or messing them up
Update its fckn amazing wtf my hair has never been this nice when I woke up
100%! I wear one too and it has been a blessing to my hair!
Black woman here! I’m trying to get women of all backgrounds to wear satin bonnets and satin scrunchies to protect their hair from drying out and getting damaged! Throw a satin scrunchie in that too! ❤
I grew up not knowing how to care for my curls. No one in my family has curls and I had no idea. The diffuser was the only advice I got, even from the hairdresser.
I avoided mousse like the plague and only recently discovered from a reel to scrunch the crunch. My curls are much more defined and not frizzy. I can’t believe it took this long to find out what to do.
Scrunching out the crunch is a game-changing technique!
My hair has volume but my daughter had full curls. I took her to a salon where they cut her hair horrendously when she was 9. After that I took her to a Latina salon because their hair was closer in curl, and volume. Of course shortly after all she wanted was straight hair lol
I hated the diffuser !!!!! I'm guessing you grew up in the 90s too lol
I'm 50 and STILL looking for products, tools, and techniques that will work for me. My hair is very thick, dry, coarse, and high porosity. Super frizzy with way too much volume, so trying to work with my curls while not creating a giant bush on my head is a never-ending fight. My hair is long and layered or else it would be so much worse.
Almost 30 and just finally found out how to take care of my curls. For me specifically, not brushing helped A LOT. But people think I’m using a curling iron or sleeping with rollers in cause my hair has been frizzy and just slightly wavy my whole life.
All I did was stop brushing and bleaching my hair every month. I put a small amount of coconut crème in there sometimes but that’s it, who fkin knew 😅 The hair care process has been a journey haha
I had no idea how common this story was 😆
As somebody with wavy hair and straight hair, she is 100 percent correct on this fact,, no matter what I do to my wavy hair after it's wet, when it's dry, it goes back to straight on the top stays wavy mostly down.
So true! I have extremely course curly hair so I keep it longer now so it’s heavier and pulls the curls out more. My daughter has very straight hair and it takes a lot of heat/curling wand and product to make her curls stay and they’re gone in 8-10 hours! I used to be so embarrassed of my coarse curly hair and would straighten it flat but now I wouldn’t wish my hair to be any other way! 🥰🥰
I needed to hear this! My curly hair lives in the “poof” stage like 75% of the time. The only time it looks good is a few hours after a shower. I need to learn.. all the things.
Girl the biggest tip I can give another curly girl is to stop using shampoo! Conditioner only or a co-wash! Also no heat and if ur using a blow dryer then make sure u have the diffuser attachment. Get some curl activator or leave-in conditioner specifically for curly hair.. trim anything dead off and always wear a bonnet to bed to prevent breakage and frizz!
Using shampoo is fine just only do it on your wash days. It does sound like your hair is too dry, which is a common problem for curly hair types. You can get a hydrating shampoo and/or conditioner to help. Now a lot of people who post their "curl routine" have dozens of products and lots of time and effort. This is all fine, but extra. Its for people who are very passionate and have money to spare. You don't need all that if you just want your hair to look a little better. You just need a curl cream (sometimes they're called styling curl creams) you put it on when your hair is still wet after a shower and it keeps frizz down and defines your curls. I've used like 4 different brands in my life, my favorite is the "SGX NYC curl power nourishing curl cream", but "hairitage ahead of the curl curl crème" is my second. Just so you know the type of thing to look for
It's a lot to learn and it's a process, but worth it! I damage my curls out of existence because I bleach and dye my hair a lot... but when my hair was it's natural color, I learned the curly girl stuff and I had such gorgeous curls!
Absolutely use as little shampoo as possible! Secret for easy curly life is, plop your hair into a t-shirt to dry, then diffuse the rest of the way if you cba to air-dry.
If your in the UK try Bean and Bee their Kalahari melon stuff is literally magic for curls 🎉👍🏼
@@chelsearenard9081I have very fine hair, albeit a lot of it, but I would be a greaseball without shampoo. I would never recommend that to someone unless I knew they had coarse hair that wasn't porous(aka does not hold build up easy).
Yes. Please, shampoo. I recommend normal ol yellow johnsons baby shampoo. It's the best for balanced hair. I would not use SLS shampoos except for maybe once/twice a month for clarifying. I shampoo every couple of days, used to shampoo more than that even. It is not cleansing often that dries out the hair shaft, it is in combination with your products, hair types etc. I'm sure you know this.
I shampoo basically whenever I feel too greasy. That could be a day, two, three, sometimes I can go 5 days and simply wear in a clipped bun or Dutch braids. Cleansing my hair often has kept me from developing scalp problems, build up, clogged pores/follicles, and even face acne. There is a huge fad saying " we used to only wash our hair a couple times a year, what happened?" Modern science happened. We have availability to use, see, and try out what works best for us individually. You can ask for pointers, but no one will be able to find your secret sauce except for you. Just saying, resist the fads. Find your own best routines.
I went to a black owned salon with my one friend the other day and when I asked the lady if she recommended any products for my curly hair my friend interrupted me and said my hair wasn’t curly and that it was just the product I put in it , my hair has loose ringlets which definitely is curly hair and the lady flat out said to my friend “ Your race doesn’t define what your hair should look like “ and I was so grateful for her 😂
Her curls are so so so beautiful any girl with natural straight hair would never put comments like this
I am white & I have curly hair. When my hair is drying-no product/it curls without me doing anything to it. I use products & a difuser to make my curls look good but it curls all on it's own.
My mom has wavy hair and wears a bonnet, and she has said it saved her hair. You’re absolutely right
I have 3b curls and finally started sleeping with a bonnet and my whole life is changed for the better because of it 🙌
I have straight hair and I wear a bonner at night, omg it's SO nice to not have to worry about dry, frizzy, tangled hair in the morning 😍 bonnets are a godsend
I sleep like CRAZY and stay on my right side. I would always wake up with super knotted hair (sometimes a rats nest) I realized I should be worried I would have significant hair loss there compared to the rest of my head.I tried a bonnet in the past and it just fell right off! I was looking for suggestions online and in the end it was pretty simple… just clip it to your hair line 😂 Anyways, it’s completely transformed how my hair looks between washes. I just put my hair in two loose braids and tuck em up, it’s been working great. I use 4 rubberized snap clips on my forehead hairline and look like a damn fool but I’m so happy I’ve figured it out ☺️
I’m white and my hair looked like Hagrid from Harry Potter for most of my life, I’m 25 and I’m finally getting to the point where I can style it into natural curls and waves. I remember my mother and father, telling me that my hair was my fault because I should’ve been brushing it more, and I brushed my hair, 100 strokes every morning and every night just like they told me to. I was made fun of so much, mostly by my family who all had straight dark hair and I was the only one with curly blonde hair. I tried so hard to style my hair straight my entire life in total denial of reality, it was finally the Internet that got me to see that my frizzy hair was actually curly. I really wish someone told me sooner and I can’t wait to raise my kids and teach them how to properly take care of their hair, instead of making them feel shame for their entire life for the way that they were born.
Bahahahhaa I thought I was the only person that referred to their hair as Hagrid hair.
I recently found out the way we were taught to brush our hair out to look less frizzy actually made it worse and that it causes oils to be produced more since we are overstimulating our hair follicles.
Man oh man our parents gave us some bad advice with our hair 😂
As someone with ringlet curls and no idea how to care for them I'm happy that this is something being brought up and discussed.
My hair is straight and if I want curls or waves I have to use a tremendous amount of product to get them to set and cannot touch it at all. I have to keep my head still for the day, because the moment the product breaks a little the curls flatten. After 5 hrs it’s basically limp waves. You cannot make straight hair curly without product and styling, and it’s really odd saying white folks don’t have curly hair. My husbands hair is blonde and curly, my best friend has Italian ringlets naturally, my nieces have very curly hair- it’s almost like it’s about genetics and not skin color lol
I'm black, and if I don't use products in my hair, and then brush it, it does just go poof or gets matted. We absolutely have to use product to get our curls to look nice and defined, there is literally nothing wrong with using product to define your curls, and idk why people don't get that.
Im mixed, native Australian with an Irish grandfather, so I have have a thick head of thin, curly hair. I was never taught properly to care for my curly waves and personally find these videos extremely helpful. I've only recently started working on my hair care over the passed few months and the difference is insane
That's actually really helpful, thanks 😉 mine is naturally in ringlets & can be insanely curly if it's short (like a Labradoodle) so simple straightforward tips always help
I'm so glad everyone has their lives so together that they have time to worry about someone else's.
She's right. I can literally do overnight curls, pin curls, curling iron curls, flat iron curls, dryer brush curls and it falls flat within a few hours no matter what products I use to maintain a curl. Short of shellacking my hair in hairspray to the point that if is closer to cement than hair... my hair will fall flat. You cannot make straight hair curl like hers with the products/techniques she is using.
Love what you're doing, lady! I got nicknamed "chia pet" in middle school so straightened for decades. Just now learning I actually love my wavy/curls. Look forward to get some of your things soon. Haircare, not race is a beautiful reminder that it all of us against "Them". Let's all enjoy the bbq/kickback and bond together
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Lol for those with straight hair... we def cant crunch it to make curls. When a curling iron, i eould have to use to much products just so it stay in place or else i have about a couple od hours before it gets straight again
No, as an 1A girl, I cannot scrunch my hair to curl it. Nothing will curl my hair longer than 5 minutes. Not curling irons, rollers, or spit curls. The only thing I can get my hair to do is play dead.💀
My (white) sister has always had beautiful ringlets in her hair but my curls/waves are much looser and my family didn’t know how to take care of them 🤷🏼♀️ I think it’s really wholesome that white girls like us are learning how to take care of our hair thanks to mostly black women online, because our white parents didn’t know how to take care of our curls. Idk. It just feels nice.
I am the same! The only one in my family with tons of thick, huge curly hair that has always been a huge frizz ball (as my daughter once put it lol) and my mom not only didn't know what to do with it, but is the type to not spend time on appearance, so mine was all cut off like a boy when I was little, then often in Laura Ingalls braids or one french braid. But never anything was learned on how to care or style my dry, frizzy, curly hair!! I watch mostly black women's hair videos, as even white women's curly ones don't work for me. My hair texture is not like most white women, but I'm a very fair skinned, blue-eyed Swede/Norwegian, so I'm not mixed race or anything, but swear my texture is closer to those who are. I'm forever trying to find products and techniques that will work for me. I feel like I'm in a dead zone and I'm on a deserted island and no one "gets it". Hair dressers, even after having their hands in my hair, still do all the wrong things, even those with curly hair because our textures are so different.
Yes! My mom used to make me brush my hair and then wonder why it gets frizzy and goes poof.
100% this!
As a kid, I was repeatedly burned by the hot comb because my grandmother raised me and always wanted to straighten my hair. I continued her efforts as a teen and began flat ironing my hair to make it more “manageable” because the lesson I learned was that my coils were bad and straight was better. Then I started chemically straightening my hair. My hair never grew past my shoulders. As an adult, I got sick of buying relaxers and stopped all together. And I learned to care for my natural hair after cutting all the processed stuff off. Trust and believe, black homes reinforce negative assumptions and stereotypes about black hair and I had to find random black women on CZcams to set me straight too!
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@trinabyrd9598 I'm so sorry that you experienced that and that you and your mom felt enough of a need to justify doing those things xx
Yeah my hair is curly and I'm European/Mediterranean descent. I can put no product in my hair and it still curls. My hair was such a mess growing up and into my thirties because I was never taught how to care for my curly hair properly. I'd say I have a medium curl pattern and my hair is thin so it would just poof and tangle. I used to go in and have hair dressers make negative comments on the condition of my hair. I thank all the black women who post hair care vids because it has been a game changer for my hair care. My last hair cut the stylist told me how beautiful my hair was and I could have cried. Curly hair has all types and exists in all races. There so much we can learn from each other!
As a kid I was bullied so badly for having curly hair I’m now in my 30’s and finally embracing my curls and it’s liberating! But years of straightening has left me with a lot of frizz so I have a mixture of frizz and tight curls I never know what to do with my hair honestly.
My curls used to be really damaged and loose (I'm Hispanic btw) because my hair was long and heavy. I cut my hair super short and my curls tightened and I got significantly less headaches. My point: take care of you and your hair ❤
Yes thank you. My whole family has super curly hair. I one time was told by a girl at work that I need to not sleep in curlers. I pointed out that curlers make your hair turn in symmetrical directions my girls go in every direction, and the ones underneath my hair are a lot tighter than the ones on top. If you have curls, you're better off not straightening it because it will damage your hair really really badly. You're better off using natural oils and butters depending on the thickness and tightness of your curls. I know I had to learn this the hard way from a friend at college who said I needed to stop trying to look like all the other white girls in our class because my hair doesn't work the same as a girl with thin light texture hair does. ❤ thank you Chandra she changed my life and of all of my cousins I taught them the same thing she taught me and all of us have a lot happier hair now.
I was told the same thing growing up that my hair wasn’t curly if it required products and scrunching to be curly. So instead I had a big frizzy mess that I would straighten every single day bc I had no idea how to deal with it otherwise. Now that I’m older I’ve learned how to care for my curls, and haven’t touched a straightening iron in years. 💗
How do you do it?
@@SugarSnapz Immediately after I get out of the shower I add some curling creme, and brush my hair with a wide tooth comb while it’s still dripping wet. After I brush, I flip my head & scrunch my curls. I use the plop method (a heatless drying technique that involves wrapping the hair into a micro-fiber towel to air-dry curls, you can look up an example to see what I mean), Once it’s no longer dripping wet, but still very damp, I take it out of the plop & add mousse by scrunching it into my hair. & then I plop it again. Once it’s dried little more I take it out of the plop and let it air dry down the rest of the way. I don’t use a diffuser at all because I think it makes my hair more frizzy than air drying, but that may be different for others. Sometimes I don’t plop in between the crème & the mousse, and sometimes I don’t plop at all. This is what works for me, and I’m still figuring out my hair. You just have to remember that everyone’s hair is different & experiment different methods to find what works for you (:
@@SugarSnapz also it’s important to experiment with different products to find what works best for your hair. Both the curling crème and mousse I use are from the brand “Beyond the Zone” and the product line is called “Noodle Head”
I’ve stopped chemically straightening my hair a decade ago after realizing my hair doesn’t have to be straight to be manageable. It’s bad enough that women already feel self-conscious about their hair. But to have other women make them feel bad for their hair choices doesn’t make loving our hair any easier. I’m glad you learned to love your curls!
as someone with wavy hair, IF YOUR CURLS STAY, YOU HAVE CURLY HAIR. my hair, when i try to scrunch (without following the natural folds for my waves), twisting my hair and styling it, goes right back to wavy after i do ANYTHING (rest against something with my hair let down, sleep, brushing it etc) 💀 and even worse, i do all this when it's wet and it becomes ALMOST STRAIGHT WHEN I BRUSH IT WHEN IT'S SLIGHTLY WET (i don't brush it when it's dry either way)... keep it mind i have 2b, not even 2a
I am going to be buying a bonnet and your ebook as soon as I get the funds. I support women business owners. My sister is a business owner, and she is a stylist, esthetician, she does electrolysis and she is going to school for nursing just to expand her business. As much as my mom and I try to support her business, offer to pay her, she DOES NOT want us to schedule an appointment with her shop. We have no idea why? Then she turns around and gets mad at us when we go to someone else.😂😂😂
Even as a no arguement curly hair girl (4b-4c) I even have different textures dependent on the product and technique I use. Did I use a pick that day, a detangler, my hands, a shower comb? Is it second day hair? Did I use the product my hair eats up and makes bouncy volume or just the every day moisture upkeep for lounging around the house? Did I use rollers, curlers, or finger curls? Twist out? Braid out? Wash n Go? My 10 minute routine or my 30 minute routine with curl custard? My hair looks so different dependent on what I do and how I do it and it's all beautiful and still curly all the same. Not all curls start and end at ringlets. And just because someone is a different race doesn't negate that they have curly hair too. That's why we have a texture chart to begin with.
Exactly!! My hair can go from barely 2A wavy to 3A ringlets depending on what I do to it. If I've neglected it, not washed it, brushed it every day, then it's 2A. If I have been taking good care of it, moisturized it, put styling creams in it after washing, then I get ringlets! Not to mention that when my hair was shoulder-length it was wayyyy more curly than now when it's mid-back. It literally depends on the situation and treatment and the curly police is so dumb.
If your hair is straight scrunching will do nothing 🥴 but it adds definition to some peoples curls, even some black women scrunch bc their specific hair type works with scrunching obviously not all curls are the same or require the same care and routine.
as a native woman with thick heavy hair.. i literally spent TWO HOURS working on it to get it curly and to the perfect look i needed for a character at an event....it went flat and frizzy (not to mention kinda gross looking because of all the product in it) about 20minutes of me arriving at an event.. its just not meant for us babe.
as a loose irish curly hair girly, i adore bonnets!! i have this strawberry shortcake one coming in the makl and im so excited to match ym pajamas!!!
Yes Queen! People give me so much flack about my curls. I fought for years with frizzy, dry hair and i never used any products, heat or anything on my hair. Started taking care of my hair and now i have curls just like my grandma. Couldnt be happier ❤
Bruh as someone with painfully straight hair it is utter bs to say anyone can do a curly hair method of styling or care to make it look like that. I can assure you. My mum could do it and her hair would look fab because she actually has curly hair, if I did it my hair would just look like it really needs a brush 😂😂
As someone with pin-straight hair, I will never truly understand the struggle of curly hair. My problem is in the opposite direction - my hair is so straight and fine that it will not hold any kind of styling even with the extensive use of styling products. No joke, the one time I had my hair professionally styled (for senior prom), it had fallen flat within the first hour.
as someone with super straight hair i promise y’all that no matter what i do to it, even if i were to try a curly/wavy hair routine my hair would still be straight after. i let it air dry, it will be crunched up, laying in a funky position, it’s still straight after. everyone’s hair is different. if a curly or wavy routine works for someone that would be because that person has wavy/curly hair
As a black woman, I'm so done with my own race sometimes🤦🏾♀️ glad that there are a few with intelligence
Trust me when I say that some of the people saying things like this aren’t even black and are getting offended on the behalf of black people.
@@electraheart5276 well I'm Caribbean. My parents are from St.
Martin. Wish I could show you proof.
@@romarialavia3041 I believe you, no need to show proof. I’m commented that because I had someone who wasn’t even black tell me that only black people can curly hair and that I’m faking my curls. My hair isn’t even that curly, it’s more on the wavy side.
@@electraheart5276 those people annoy me to. One time I was hanging with my friends (all white) and we saw another white girl with braids. One of my friends asked me if it didn't annoy me. I said no, because 1) why should I be offended by someone else's hair style. Like, the hair didn't slap me in the face or something. 2) also black people weren't the only ones wearing braids. People like the Vikings also wore braids. That's where the Dutch and French braids came from. So I'll never be offended if someone wears braids lol.
The way you word things....is suspect
Very easy way to tell the difference between straight, waves and curls. Straight is well, straight. Waves are 2D and Curls are 3D. If your hair creates a coil of any tightness, its curly.
Also, straight hair can't hold a curl, no matter how hard you try. My hair won't hold a curl with a can and a half of hairspray in it, and my dad has had perms fail to give his hair shape. Straight hair doesn't have the necessary growth pattern to hold a curl. If you can curl your hair, then it isn't straight hair, it's wavy.
@@transsnackI can’t curl my hair for the life of me. Styling tools, sleep in products, tricks, Velcro rollers, nothing works. Tho when I’ve been waving my hair, with a heated tool, it’ll hold til my next shower. I’ve been able to hold perfect wavy hair for days upon days (around 5-6) with no issue. With no styling it’s mostly straight with some volume. If I get my hair curled at a salon it *may* hold for a couple of hours🤷♀️
some straight hair can curl but only with a curling iron really, and it's still not the same
I have really curly hair all my life, and I can promise you regardless of whether I scrunch or not style or not those curls are always there ! This opinion baffles me !
I’m white and I don’t have curly hair but I do have wavy hair. I blow dry and straighten my hair all the time because it’s so hard to maintain. There are many different types of curls and waves!
Throughout my young childhood my hair was always very long and seemingly straight. But whenever I brushed it, it would poof like a pufferfish. Until one day I got bored of it and got it chopped real short, then it curled naturally, even without any oil or management. The point of this, I didn't know my hair was curly because it never got any attention to be curly.
If I had had this information and influence as a tween, I could have rocked long, curly hair.
Same tho. I had relatively straight hair growing up. One day heard that straight hair doesnt curl like that when wet. Well mine did. Now that I actually have figured out how to care for it I get like the loosest ringlets out there.
@@leacotacohow? What do you do now that’s diff for people that still don’t know. Can you link a video or dm me your routine please
Irish and Hispanic here. I have a buzz cut rn, but normally have wide curls. If i dont take care of my hair, it's just frizzy and poofy and wild. Lol you can actuallt see my pattern in my hair when i let it grow out a bit. :3
Irish and Puerto Rican here!!! Same.
Texture is dependent on the shape of your hair follicle. Flat follicles create coily textures and round follicles create straight texture.
As someone with straight hair, whenever i try to curl my hair, it falls out in less than an hour (much to my mom's dismay lol). I even tried doing the scrunch thingy when my hair was wet, did not work one bit.
I have curly hair when it’s wet and no matter how much I scrunch and what sort of products and methods I use it ALWAYS dries fully straight! And the opposite is true for many others, everyone’s hair is different, just because someone’s hair is straight when wet, or is just ‘frizzy’ when unstyled, doesn’t mean it can’t have a natural curl pattern to it 🤷🏼♀️
I am white, at one time people called me china doll white. I have mostly spiral curls, does not matter humidity percentage or temperature, it curls, it has a brain of its own. I threw out my diffuser years ago, why do i need it? I get plenty of curl air drying. I bought a hair dryer from the thrift because i use it so rarely like after a late night shower (Wet pillow? Yuck). One hairdresser from 3 decades ago told me to throw away my hair brush, it only damages my curls. So I did and use my fingers to comb. A person can call me racist if they want, their opinion does not define me. This perm was done by the best stylist ever, God. It took a while for me to understand how to care for my hair. I love my hair.
I have naturally curly hair(Scottish born) turned mostly white now( 63 years young) I love my hair and I receive compliments from men and women who ask if it is permed or natural. I use no heated appliances, I use a shampoo and conditioner for silver hair and a leave in conditioner then I leave it to air dry.
As a hair dresser and a white person, if someones hair is straight, like actually straight it is usually SO HARD to get curling irons to work in their hair. Their hair literally wont hold a curl it dont matter if its eveen dry and then heat styled some people will never be able to hold a curl with their straight hair.
So when it "scrunches" or is "manipulated" into place its udually to make it dry prettier but as someone who always has "ratty" wavy hair its so tiring. My hair was curlier as a teen but puberty made it more wavy. And now i struggle to style it cause ive went SO LONG straightening it and heating it.