John and Ann Bender Case Analysis | Bipolar Disorder and Folie à deux?

Sdílet
Vložit
  • čas přidán 30. 07. 2024
  • This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of John and Ann Bender?
    Support Dr. Grande on Patreon: / drgrande
    Subscribe to the Bella Grande Media Podcast: / @bellagrandemedia
    Dr. Grande’s book Harm Reduction:
    www.amazon.com/Harm-Reduction...
    Dr. Grande's book Psychology of Notorious Serial Killers: www.amazon.com/Psychology-Not...
    Check out Dr. Grande’s merchandise at: teespring.com/stores/dr-grand...
    References:
    www.cbsnews.com/pictures/john...
    www.outsideonline.com/outdoor...
    www.amcostarica.com/Judicial%...

Komentáře • 458

  • @auntiebex3387
    @auntiebex3387 Před 2 lety +277

    Your content has become a part of my daily routine: one episode before breakfast and one after. One before lunch and one after. One before dinner and 2-3 after. Seriously, I’ve learned a lot from your thought-provoking commentary. Thank you so much for the quality content! 🙏🏽

    • @eadweard.
      @eadweard. Před 2 lety +16

      I do not know this Auntie Bex lady but she sounds absolutely delightful.

    • @betterbee1304
      @betterbee1304 Před 2 lety +14

      This routine sounds vaguely familiar lol

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety +5

      Auntie - please take eb's comment as the compliment I'm sure it was meant to be. You obviously have very good taste in entertainment!

    • @sellyourassets
      @sellyourassets Před 2 lety +2

      Me too!

    • @RunningInLondon
      @RunningInLondon Před 2 lety +1

      Auntie Bex!!! Me too! I'm also a Bex! (Rebecca)

  • @thelocalmaladroit8873
    @thelocalmaladroit8873 Před 2 lety +144

    Sometimes money is not your friend. Add that to mental illness, a foreign country, and corrupt police. A formidable mix and analysis Doc!

    • @rejaneoliveira5019
      @rejaneoliveira5019 Před 2 lety +4

      I agree.🎯

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety +4

      Of course money is passive. It does nothing by itself. What you decide to do with it reflects your personality and foibles!

    • @thelocalmaladroit8873
      @thelocalmaladroit8873 Před 2 lety +2

      @@rejaneoliveira5019 Hi Rejane , I hope you are doing well.

    • @nickyblue4866
      @nickyblue4866 Před 2 lety +6

      Yes... money can bring out the worst in some people... or bring the worst of people around you.

    • @thelocalmaladroit8873
      @thelocalmaladroit8873 Před 2 lety +2

      @@nickyblue4866 so true!

  • @redlotteryradio3426
    @redlotteryradio3426 Před 2 lety +160

    I'm from Costa Rica, and the "hopelessly corrupt" statement is about accurate

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety

      Horse's mouth.🐴

    • @loisherzog8803
      @loisherzog8803 Před 2 lety +17

      I lived in Costa Rica for a number of years. It’s very much less corrupt than other Central American countries. If the compound had been in the US, with all that opulence just lying around, I wonder what level of ethical practice we would have seen

    • @saskialolita
      @saskialolita Před 2 lety +6

      @@loisherzog8803 ya I mean money and its power to corrupt are pretty universal (and let’s face it, pretty American too) so idk how exactly things would have played out in the US. It’s of course possible the authorities here would’ve been just as greedy and crooked as the ones in Costa Rica… but one thing’s for sure at least - there def wouldn’t have been *4* _(!!!)_ f@%*&#g trials 😏

    • @X_Baron
      @X_Baron Před 2 lety +3

      Some US states have solved the problem by allowing the police to confiscate whatever they want without having to return it. It's enough that the police say that they suspect a person of a crime, or that the property in question has been acquired by some (unknown) illegal means. It's legal theft, so there is no corruption! What an invention.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 Před 2 lety +1

      @@X_Baron Definitely corrupt but isn't supposed to go to the police department as a whole and not into individual pockets?

  • @HeatherHolt
    @HeatherHolt Před 2 lety +109

    What a crazy story… 4 trials!! What!?
    They wanted those gems for sure.

  • @coffeecat086
    @coffeecat086 Před 2 lety +35

    Those poor people. That’s really really sad. They actually had enough money they could’ve gotten more than adequate treatment.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 Před 2 lety +4

      Even money can't necessarily fix mental health problems.

    • @coffeecat086
      @coffeecat086 Před 2 lety +1

      @@Catlily5 no, the point was that they could access it.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 Před 2 lety +1

      @@coffeecat086 True.

  • @ants_in_my_eyes_Wilson
    @ants_in_my_eyes_Wilson Před 2 lety +50

    What would we do without you, Dr Grande... my guess is, end up in a foreign prison a lot more frequently. So thank you so much for your advice, for reals.

    • @merk.9285
      @merk.9285 Před 2 lety +1

      Wait what??

    • @ants_in_my_eyes_Wilson
      @ants_in_my_eyes_Wilson Před 2 lety +1

      @@merk.9285 ...watch the video? He says that sometimes these videos are more of a demonstration of what not to do.

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety

      Hint and 1/2!

  • @lornaginetteharrison7168
    @lornaginetteharrison7168 Před 2 lety +165

    "…[Ann] purchased hundreds of authentic and reproduction Tiffany lamps to improve her mood. She had 550 of them." Great; now we know when to get worried if Dr. Grande’s revolving cacti collection reaches this alarming accumulation!

    • @eadweard.
      @eadweard. Před 2 lety +22

      She hoped they would lighten the mood.

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 Před 2 lety +10

      A Pet will bring you more love and happiness than anything else in the World.

    • @nickyblue4866
      @nickyblue4866 Před 2 lety +4

      @@eadweard. hahahah

    • @belladonnahigh9206
      @belladonnahigh9206 Před 2 lety +5

      @@lorimiller4301 I agree, but at the same time, when they die, like in the case of my poor Shih-Tzu just 3 months ago, it is heartbreaking, it's like losing a part of your family, a part of you. Now he lives only in my memories and videos and pictures I took of him.
      He was so miserable I couldn't stand it, he barked in pain. They offered euthanasia right away, we immediately took him back home, cause we were not ready. They also said they could remove his eyes, with no guarantee of him getting better, no, his condition would only worsen after the operation. He was already deaf, practically no communication. When we returned with him to home, he barked in pain, his eyes were bloody red, there was puss coming out of his left eye and he had a growth on it. When no one touched him he barked, he was calling his family... we petted him, but his eyes must have hurt because even though he was petted constantly, he would finally bark again. When I write this I'm opening my wound on my heart.
      I gave him the best food ever, one he couldn't eat normally and I and my parents went with him. My parents stayed behind and I stayed with him till the end. Those images of him being essentially killed are burned into my mind. I hugged him through the process because I wanted him to know, that we will meet again on the other side, wherever that may be.
      In conclusion, pets are awesome, but when they go away it sucks, sucks immensely. I wish I will die before my parents do.

    • @jkgent4087
      @jkgent4087 Před 2 lety +4

      I lost the plot here. So sorry about the tragic loss of a pet. But how does that relate to the Bender case?

  • @sierrannomad
    @sierrannomad Před 2 lety +100

    When the doc drops a new video, I'm like, it's a "Grand-day"! 🌞

  • @matthewjasper5346
    @matthewjasper5346 Před 2 lety +35

    I have Bi-Polar, and have a lot of similarities to these two crazies... thanks for the advice, no compound for me 😪

  • @rejaneoliveira5019
    @rejaneoliveira5019 Před 2 lety +15

    What stands out to me in this case is their isolation. I think it speaks to the importance of having a few meaningful social interactions in life. Perhaps if they had a close friend or a family member nearby, they could have spotted something peculiar in the couple’s behavior and even intervene, as appropriate.
    On another note, this is another reminder that mental illness discriminates no one. No amount of money, beauty or power are able to save someone from mental disorders. Therapy and/or medication appears to be the best thing we have available.
    Great analysis as usual, thank you Dr. Grande.❤️

    • @erikparent8176
      @erikparent8176 Před 2 lety +2

      One can take concious control of their mind with regular meditation.
      control of thinking eliminates mental illness.( negitive thinking)
      No matter the situation, if ones thoughts are controlled( off) there will be peace of mind.
      Many have sort of a romantic affair with mental illness. They've come to appreciate it. It's like an old friend.
      That is an insane form of ego.
      There are countless mental health professionals whom delight in giving a specific diagnosis of mental illness and an equal number of patients whom appreciate the diagnosis. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♂️
      🙏🧘‍♂️🧘‍♀️🌅

    • @nickyblue4866
      @nickyblue4866 Před 2 lety

      @@erikparent8176 well that's not true. While mindfulness can help a lot withsome aspects of metal illnesses... it's best to combine that with therapy or something like CBT or DBT amd augmented with the appropriate psychiatric medication (if needed) as well as a good amd healthy diet and physical fitness.

    • @cottontails9003
      @cottontails9003 Před 2 lety +2

      Rejane, that was a great comment 😚❤

    • @cottontails9003
      @cottontails9003 Před 2 lety +1

      @@erikparent8176 Good one as usual, Erik.👍

    • @erikparent8176
      @erikparent8176 Před 2 lety +2

      @@nickyblue4866
      Incorrect!! 🧨💥
      Depending on ones dedication to present moment awareness, absolute equilibrium can be achieved in almost any situation!!! 🤯
      There have been many cases when people have experienced severe limit situations during extreme combat situations and their egos collapsed resulting in the Peace that passes all understanding!!✝️
      There is one female serial killer who's ego collapsed just before execution and she experienced Enlightenment just before death.
      She passed while in Spiritual ecstasy!!
      The ladies are getting fiesty!!
      Let's dance!💃💃💃💃💃💃🕺
      Some people don't like it when I disagree with Dr. Mcdreamy!!!😜😜😜😜

  • @jessyg17
    @jessyg17 Před 2 lety +30

    Wow, it doesn't seem like all those lamps were able to lighten her mood.

    • @tonioshea9870
      @tonioshea9870 Před 2 lety +3

      Grande should've given you a 👍 like💓! Love your comment: you're quite "bright", funny. 😁

    • @MsSonali1980
      @MsSonali1980 Před 2 lety +2

      It's like when all those people tell they were in a dark place. She tried to change that at least.

    • @watchingitallhere
      @watchingitallhere Před 2 lety

      Yea that lamp thing came out of left field. Strange. Yet tasteful!

  • @Traderjoe
    @Traderjoe Před 2 lety +8

    Holy cow, I remember I had a Tiffany lamp shade up on eBay once and someone from Costa Rica wanted to buy it from me and I am wondering now if it was Ann? It’s crazy. But it was a long time ago

  • @helpyourcattodrive
    @helpyourcattodrive Před 2 lety +4

    I can’t believe this. I think this is my favorite Dr, Grande video. Thank you for an interesting story and analysis.

  • @georgehasleftthebuilding6621

    I read this saying about most types of relationships many years ago and never forgot it. "If you both agree on everything then one of you is not needed." Too much in common is not a good balance. Btw, Hope your book is doing well Dr Grande!!

  • @patriciamccabe3689
    @patriciamccabe3689 Před 2 lety +12

    Dr. Grand...thank you for your intellectual interpretation of the 2 people in this case, who chose to isolate themselves from any, much needed, outside interactions, resourceful outside help from loved ones & others hearts, that could have ultimately intervened in helping them onto a better path & a better outcome. I agree that the availability of so much money was definitely a factor in building a fortified life style that only exasperated their mental stability for their worst outcome of their lives. Possibly "gems" thrown about the room, was her way of releasing the fact, of realization within herself, that "money" was in fact in control of both their fate.

  • @penelopehughes-jones5265
    @penelopehughes-jones5265 Před 2 lety +30

    Wow. Well, the old saying really does hold true: money can’t buy happiness. I would have thought that anyone with their own compound on top of the world would be…on top of the world. Thanks for your very fair (as ever) analysis, Dr Grande - I agree, there’s no way this lady was conniving, she’d have hidden the gems and a whole lot more had she actually wanted her husband to die. I really hope she gets help and finds happiness, I’m sure he’d want that for her.🙏

    • @Ceerads
      @Ceerads Před 2 lety +10

      However, it’s hard to be happy if one is very poor.

    • @filipefigueiredo9847
      @filipefigueiredo9847 Před 2 lety +9

      @@Ceerads yeah, money is a tool, and a life saver at times
      My girl used to say that money wasn't important at all, blah blah blah, until her uncle got seriously ill and in need of a very expensive medical procedure (if he was to have any chance of survival)
      Let's just say that if I hadn't lent her money for that particular medical procedure, her uncle would've died two years ago, give or take
      Since that occasion, she never mentioned that whole BS about money not being important again
      Have a great day

    • @penelopehughes-jones5265
      @penelopehughes-jones5265 Před 2 lety +4

      @@filipefigueiredo9847 that's great I'm so glad you could do that but I'm not talking about having enough, I'm talking about being super rich where you can have anything on a whim...that was the kind of wealth these guys had and it didn't bring them happiness.

    • @TheTrevelyansway
      @TheTrevelyansway Před 2 lety +2

      So it's good to have just the right amount of money, not too little not too much. LOL

    • @penelopehughes-jones5265
      @penelopehughes-jones5265 Před 2 lety +1

      @@TheTrevelyansway hahaha! It gets ridiculous!😂

  • @lysawoolley9008
    @lysawoolley9008 Před 2 lety +11

    It’s tragic really that 2 people with similar background and mental health issues were in a relationship and this outcome is the worst case that I could not have even imagined.
    I hope there is peace and resolution for this woman. She has suffered physically, emotionally and severely financially. Beyond endurance really 💔 very sad case

  • @bellakatherman1477
    @bellakatherman1477 Před 2 lety +2

    I love Dr. Grande’s dry humor. I always enjoy these uploads

  • @louisal7185
    @louisal7185 Před 2 lety +5

    Bonjour de la France, docteur! Two bipolars millionaires in one family that' s .... 🤦‍♀️😳 no wonder it all ended up in such an awfull way. Your channel is too addictive, docteur, simply the best! On top of your obvious top professional qualites , the most interesting cases you analise, you are very charismatic and stylish! Merci and bravo! 👍👏

  • @maureeningleston1501
    @maureeningleston1501 Před 2 lety +29

    Their paranoia drove them to build their own prison complete with armed guards and Tiffany lamps.

    • @TheTrevelyansway
      @TheTrevelyansway Před 2 lety +4

      A cage with golden bars.

    • @ryanbrown6708
      @ryanbrown6708 Před 3 měsíci

      A prison with no walls lol?? And screens lol

    • @ryanbrown6708
      @ryanbrown6708 Před 3 měsíci

      They were robbed in 2001 on the way home that’s why they had guards

  • @mrs.reluctant4095
    @mrs.reluctant4095 Před 2 lety +23

    Great analysis of an interesting case. As great as a massive house in the jungle with windows. 💖

  • @mrs.reluctant4095
    @mrs.reluctant4095 Před 2 lety +24

    Doctor! Bipolar AND folie à deux in the same video. My favorite topics! You are a sweetheart. 🧡

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety +1

      Mrs. R - Favorite topics! As much as we adore you maybe better topics should head the list?

    • @mrs.reluctant4095
      @mrs.reluctant4095 Před 2 lety +1

      @@bthomson 😂 omg you are right! Now I notice it too. I meant 'in the area of mental health topics' . Hugs! 🙂

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety +1

      I really knew what you meant - just kidding you a little!💐

  • @studiokohl1
    @studiokohl1 Před 2 lety +11

    Love your balance of good and bad as well as real Dr knowledge and sarcasm.

  • @serendipitous_synchronicity

    Phewww.... lucky you included your 'what not to do' recommendation. 😂
    Such an obscure case.. many thanks Dr Grande ✌🏻

  • @camuscat123
    @camuscat123 Před 2 lety +26

    What did you make of Mrs. Bender's weight loss? I guess it was an effect of mania. Fascinating case! Thanks so much. Your analysis was great, and I could not agree more

    • @shimmer8289
      @shimmer8289 Před 2 lety +2

      I believe he had a case of Murchison but not for attention. I believe he was curing her with purges, injections if God's know what. And that she knew inside her life was in jeopardy. While I have no idea why he died. I believe there was control at play on his part and to be honest it is lucky for her that he passed as she was in rough shape.

    • @MsSonali1980
      @MsSonali1980 Před 2 lety

      @@shimmer8289 Do you mean Münchhausen?

    • @shimmer8289
      @shimmer8289 Před 2 lety

      @@MsSonali1980 my spellchecker there u r

  • @member5488
    @member5488 Před 2 lety +9

    It's amazing how one man may have $600,000,000.00 and find no peace of mind while another man with nothing to his name has.

    • @erikparent8176
      @erikparent8176 Před 2 lety +1

      There are many Yogi's who have mastered their minds with control of thinking.
      Turning off thought for extended periods produces Spritual ecstasy which no man made drug can touch.
      There are some meditators that spend years and a majority of their days sitting in meditation.
      Asrams all over the world are dedicated for that purpose.
      It's so powerful and intoxicating they strive for nothing else.
      They feel complete and whole and feel they lack for nothing.
      I recommend to everyone to meditate everyday with regularly.
      One will experience a life with so much joy and little fear.
      Life is appreciated at a level most cannot conceive of.
      🙏🧘‍♂️🧘‍♀️🌅

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Erik - As usual pithy and great emoji! Thanks.🙏

    • @erikparent8176
      @erikparent8176 Před 2 lety +1

      @@cht2162
      I know somthing about that affliction.
      It lead to my awakening and Enlightenment! 🌅

    • @erikparent8176
      @erikparent8176 Před 2 lety +1

      @@bthomson
      Hi B.!
      Thanks!
      Your comments never disappoint!😘

  • @ChristinePerez903
    @ChristinePerez903 Před 2 lety +6

    I hope Ann gets the help that she needs.
    Great video Dr Grande!!!

  • @thelostronin
    @thelostronin Před 2 lety +3

    Had never heard this story... thank you Dr. Grande. Your wisdom is always valued.

  • @stephaniem2743
    @stephaniem2743 Před 2 lety +3

    Congratulations on your upcoming 900K! You work so hard, you deserve it!

  • @andreasolis85
    @andreasolis85 Před 2 lety +7

    I'm a fellow Costa Rican fan of yours, bittersweet feeling that my country was reviewed by you in this case, thank you for your content :) 🇨🇷🇨🇷🇨🇷

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety +4

      Of course every location on earth has many qualities! Some good some 😱💀👺

    • @moonstruck562
      @moonstruck562 Před 2 lety +2

      I have many fond memories of visiting Costa Rica 😍

  • @jaycarl1562
    @jaycarl1562 Před 2 lety +10

    Regular TV is no longer relevant with this type of thought provoking content.

  • @ellastewart5747
    @ellastewart5747 Před 2 lety +3

    thank goodness i can’t keep up with all your uploads because at this point 😳 i don’t know what i’d do without them

  • @stephaniekanoun4409
    @stephaniekanoun4409 Před 2 lety +7

    I think this is the earliest I've ever been! ❤️ the excellent content! Thank you, Dr. Grande!

  • @maxpanicked1451
    @maxpanicked1451 Před 2 lety +4

    Closing in on a million subs! Not surprised at all. Excellent analyses and humour, always. ^^

  • @holli4445
    @holli4445 Před 2 lety +21

    It’s always a good day when i can binge watch Dr Grande videos. Definitely a ray of light on this dreary rainy day in Mississippi. Thank you from the masses.❤️

    • @deanpd3402
      @deanpd3402 Před 2 lety +5

      ...and isn't interesting that television never offers this sort of educational insight into human behaviour, yet given the choice, people are keen to watch videos like this.

    • @holli4445
      @holli4445 Před 2 lety +3

      @@deanpd3402 i couldn’t agree more.

    • @geegeep
      @geegeep Před 2 lety

      Not related, but I love your hair!

  • @CEO_of_Autism_
    @CEO_of_Autism_ Před 2 lety +9

    Dr. Grande please do an analysis on Jeni Haynes. ❤️ She inspires me so much- how she remains so incredibly strong & hopeful after the horrific abuse she endured. She is the epitome of a survivor. Her story had me bawling.

  • @helpyourcattodrive
    @helpyourcattodrive Před 2 lety +6

    I feel normal after hearing this story.

  • @kindacrazyAna14
    @kindacrazyAna14 Před 2 lety +3

    I am continually impressed by the way you're working like the rent is due!

  • @thinkingmoment
    @thinkingmoment Před 2 lety +7

    Great analysis, Dr. Grande.
    You can't run away from yourself.
    Thank you, Dr. Grande.

  • @brianpratt3224
    @brianpratt3224 Před 2 lety +25

    Who wouldn't want a moat though

  • @cwfry24
    @cwfry24 Před 2 lety +4

    Interesting case, which has some similarities with the Foxcatcher case, although that was pyschophrenia. Grateful for your analysis as always Dr. Grande

  • @zenawarrior7442
    @zenawarrior7442 Před 2 lety +17

    Mental illness and guns, never good. Cool house, strange case again. Thanks Dr G😊💙💛

  • @kristita_888
    @kristita_888 Před 2 lety +20

    Me, with Bipolar Disorder: “Darn, there goes my retirement plan. I really wanted that jungle house, too.”

  • @kellyfelly6645
    @kellyfelly6645 Před 2 lety +1

    How horrible for poor Ann. This seems like a travesty of justice. What a bum that lawyer was and the police. They robbed her blind. Obviously he was trying to slowly and painfully kill her. What a horrible case. Why are people so wicked?? I just CANT understand it. Thank you Dr. Grande for bringing this case to light. Well done!! A most disturbing case analysis.

  • @cottontails9003
    @cottontails9003 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you Dr Grande. The great content you upload, never fail too make my day .

  • @m.f.richardson1602
    @m.f.richardson1602 Před 2 lety +3

    Always interesting.
    Thank you.
    Peace 💕🇺🇲

  • @hoverpantsz262
    @hoverpantsz262 Před 2 lety +7

    This is such a shame to see how people can not get happiness even with so much money just think all the people they could have helped if they were not MAD.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 Před 2 lety

      Even many non mentally ill rich people often don't help others.

    • @hoverpantsz262
      @hoverpantsz262 Před 2 lety +1

      Very true Lilly and that is a shame.

  • @leonievanheerden7090
    @leonievanheerden7090 Před 2 lety +7

    Another flowering cactus 🌵💖 Thank you Dr Grande for another well researched, intelligent video

  • @NellieNutkins
    @NellieNutkins Před 2 lety +6

    Heard about this of wine and crime, which as you can imagine was a wild episode! So nice hearing it retold in a less chaotic fashion. This case is hella chaotic all on its own!

    • @NellieNutkins
      @NellieNutkins Před 2 lety +1

      @@JarodM something tells me despite the Tiffany lamps there was no fish and goose soirée

  • @cascadianrangers728
    @cascadianrangers728 Před 2 lety +4

    Ah, great quality, practical, every day tip you closed with, Doctor, truly words to live by!

  • @illslang7798
    @illslang7798 Před 2 lety +1

    Your videos rock ! Im obsessed with knowing why people do the things that they do and your content scratches my itch quite thoroughly!

  • @grimslade0
    @grimslade0 Před 2 lety +5

    My friends and I have a term for the fixing and upgrades those with Bipolar occasionally do, "manic renovations"... And by God, that house is the the apex of manic renovations! Move over NASA, humanity has achieved something better than a spacecraft to the moon.
    And as always, cheers for the continued great content! :)

    • @nickyblue4866
      @nickyblue4866 Před 2 lety +1

      I have bi polar and that term is a great way to describe a manic episode. When im in the middle of one ill find a project that usually includes creating or building something and for the next few months spend all day and night working on it non stop. It always ends up being a postive experience as i channel a huge amount of creative energy into my project at the time. As well as learning new skills in order to be able to do it. Ive ended up learning how to grow weed and turning my bedroom into a functioning grow room, learning how to cool dmt and turning my kitchen into a chemistry lab, turning my living room into a fortress with tapestries hung everywhere, lighting, air-conditioning, humidity control, air fitering systems all of it operated by remote controls as well as housing my bed, furniture and whatnot. As well as getting into extreme shape by working our non stop, learning about suppliments/vitamin regimes and skin care products/chemical peels.
      The onlt bad part is when the mania eventually ends I swing into a huge depressive state and all the creative energy turns into extreme depression and lack of motivation.

    • @grimslade0
      @grimslade0 Před 2 lety

      @@nickyblue4866 haha. Well slow down there Mr Psychedelic Walter White. Funny what you did to your bedroom, like you needed every possible space! Is your bathroom going to be where the nitrous oxide pump is? Ha.
      While I actually didn't mention in my comment, I was actually diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder as well. The pandemic lockdowns made me go into a bizarre state of fixing up my apartment too. I didn't get around to a chemistry lab... Instead I made everything automated, to the point of got the Starship Enterprise going on in here.
      The manic renovations phrase, origin is a little dark.. So in Australia we have a slang term for like really drunk and disoriented, being munted. And unfortunately one of my good friends had a partner addicted to Klonopin (the person would eat an entire box of 100 of the 2mg in a single day!! They should have been sent to the military for experimentation honestly, it's insane they survived that and put up with the withdrawals). Anyway, the guy would go to target, buy cheap book-shelves, return home and attached them to the wall... Somewhat crooked, he'd wait for my friend to get home, believing he'd get praise for his fine klonopin induced craftsmanship.. But instead my friend was understandably pissed off, and started calling them munted renovations.. Lol. Of course the guy would argue back and specificly say "they're not munted.... They're good!!!".
      After my friend saw my place with all of the "actually impressive work" done, we realised this is what manic renovations are compared to munted renovations.. Now we have a bunch. Stoned renovations. Tweaked renovations. You name it. Compare renovations, it's a window into the soul.
      And yes, like you, I experience the depression as a come down.. Unfortunately though whatever is in my head still keeps the mania going for a few days, causing "mixed episodes"... That are horrendous, is the only way to describe them.
      Anyway, cheers for the laugh, stay safe. :)

    • @grimslade0
      @grimslade0 Před 2 lety

      Side note (at least for me): the manic phase projects tend to be very self-serving. This is why I watch Dr Grande; I binge watched everyone one of his videos and learned a lot about the state of Psychological research (and I thank him for whole heartedly for that, brilliant content)... People are sick of hearing me not diagnosing anyone and merely speculating... But going back to the self serving point, I found unfortunately the grandiose activities I got up to hindered my ability to focus on my other responsibilities.. So yes, while I admit I've done some fun things and have learnt a lot along the way. I compare it to having "extremely strong ADHD", I think it's important for some people to be a bit mindful of what they're doing and why they're doing it, otherwise you might just go off the damn rails. Haha... Yeah, mania can be a harsh mistress, even when you feel very accomplished..... Glad I learnt this lesson during various lockdowns, before doing something very aloof when l really needed to focus on other things.

  • @maryhorton7876
    @maryhorton7876 Před 2 lety +2

    Your Virginia shade was chef's kiss perfect

  • @apptouchtechnologies3722
    @apptouchtechnologies3722 Před 2 lety +2

    DOC G!!!! 2k to go to 900k!!!!! Thoughtful reasoned analysis is popular? Who knew? I hope you’re enjoying this ride as much as we all do along with you.

  • @thomashassall96
    @thomashassall96 Před 2 lety +11

    Dr. Grande, absolutely live and appreciate your content. Please do a piece on the Erickson twins 👯‍♀️ (motorway madness). It’s truly bizarre

    • @eadweard.
      @eadweard. Před 2 lety +3

      He already did that

    • @FrankBenlin
      @FrankBenlin Před 2 lety +1

      Done done. That's where I learned what folie à deux is.

  • @666ydney
    @666ydney Před 2 lety +5

    as someone with bipolar disorder, i too see the anti-depressant potential of hundreds of Tiffany lamps 😂
    it's a shame that i'll have to scrap my plans to build a fortified house in a remote part of the everglades, though 😢 i thought i was onto something there. thanks for the heads-up, Dr. Grande!

  • @OtDawn
    @OtDawn Před 2 lety +2

    It is my belief that true and lasting happiness can be achieved by helping others, as you get to share in their joy. Obscenely rich people on the whole spend their lives on trivial self gratifying pursuits whilst trying to ignore the starving masses around them and stressing about those same people trying to take from them.

  • @rosemarieramsingh8749
    @rosemarieramsingh8749 Před 2 lety +4

    I love your content! Would you please consider a video on Heather Mack, the suitcase killer, who killed her mom as a teenager. I saw her on video recently and really wondered about antisocial personality disorder. I would love your insights/opinions please.

  • @altheacrawford3049
    @altheacrawford3049 Před 2 lety +1

    Dr. Grande, you crack me up, which is a good thing! Thank you for your thoughtful critiques, peppered with your desert dry humor. :)

  • @JackAlter
    @JackAlter Před 2 lety +4

    Dr. Grande great work as always! I'd love to see an analysis on Patrick Bateman from American Psycho, love to hear your thoughts on that!

  • @OGitGirlJess
    @OGitGirlJess Před 2 lety +2

    I’m so glad you discussed the mental health aspect of this. On true crime shows they always make her out to be some conniving, gold digger, who was happy as could be. Smh

  • @Tindometari
    @Tindometari Před 2 lety +9

    The last time I was this early, Dr. Grande's humour wasn't dry.

  • @amyprice3661
    @amyprice3661 Před 2 lety +3

    Loving all the cases that I have not heard of!! (totally unrelated to this case) But the part about Ann having open wounds and infections from the injections that John had been giving her made me think of the Anna Nichole Smith case! That much money seems to always cause more problems than it helps!

  • @RepentfollowJesus
    @RepentfollowJesus Před 2 lety +1

    This is quickly becoming my favorite channel

  • @kelligray1848
    @kelligray1848 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you Dr. Grande. This case has always intrigued me.

  • @jimc6687
    @jimc6687 Před 2 lety +7

    Dr. G's astute analysis here actually generally explains many probable diagnosis for many people I've known........shared bipolar or psychosis seems to be more prevalent than first imagined! Jim C.

  • @Big_Tex
    @Big_Tex Před 2 lety +9

    I offer the following description of Dr G’s voice: warm and buttery 🤣

    • @eadweard.
      @eadweard. Před 2 lety +1

      That boy ain't right

    • @Big_Tex
      @Big_Tex Před 2 lety

      @@eadweard. dang it Bobby!

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety

      6a.m. and already!

    • @annal7364
      @annal7364 Před 2 lety +2

      Buttery soft like LuLaRoe leggings.

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety

      Noooooo!

  • @EagleBoxx
    @EagleBoxx Před 2 lety +8

    Mental ilness + unlimited ressources + dangerous area is a freaking dangerous combination... It was a ticking time bomb from the start.
    I can't fathom why they decided to stay in a foreign country with lots of dangerous people around and a building with easy access with their crippling paranoia.

  • @audreeaudree
    @audreeaudree Před 2 lety +34

    hi dr. grande! i’d love to see your perspective on the HBO doc What Happened, Brittany Murphy? seems ripe for your analysis 🧐 hope you’ll consider it

    • @AndrewPureMI
      @AndrewPureMI Před 2 lety +1

      The new thing coming out the border patrol friend of hers? And nobody would listen to or w e

    • @Fluffimuff
      @Fluffimuff Před 2 lety

      All I think of is scorpions and mosquitoes and every kind of bug flying in and out of that house.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Před 2 lety

    Hi, again, Dr Grande. 🙋🌵🪴🌵🪴 I saw this on TV. Very curious for your Analysis! Thank You! Ps. Have a very nice night 🌃🌉!

  • @stewartmeetball3417
    @stewartmeetball3417 Před 2 lety +2

    I've got too say Dr grande. Your excellent at what you do

  • @ComeOneComeAll
    @ComeOneComeAll Před 2 lety +1

    I made a home at 700 meters overlooking Costa Ballena and Uvita in Southern Costa Rica. From my neighbors driveway you can see the Boracayan where they lived. Not only myself but many other expats I saw first-hand struggle with the challenges of living in that type of environment as a foreigner. Several times I have witnessed the breakdown of mental health and sanity from the long list of intense aspects both physical and psychological. I have four years in total living in the pueblo since 2011 and could not fathom what kind of stress, anxiety and temptation having that league of wealth at my disposal would exacerbate.

  • @harlemmeow9776
    @harlemmeow9776 Před 2 lety +3

    All I could think of was the massive amounts of large spiders and snakes just crawling throughout the house. 🥴

  • @pageribe2399
    @pageribe2399 Před rokem +1

    I was just going to suggest this - glad I checked first! Fascinating couple!

  • @X1GenKaneShiroX
    @X1GenKaneShiroX Před 2 lety +6

    Hi Dr. Grande, can you cover a interesting case of Maya Millete and Larry Millete? Talk about the 2017 movie Shot Caller and the use of spellcaster. Get Grande to 1M subs before the end of the year!

    • @moonstruck562
      @moonstruck562 Před 2 lety

      Love that movie. Watched it couple of times

  • @Somegirl811
    @Somegirl811 Před 2 lety +7

    Sad they could have helped so many people and instead they just set their cash on fire and threw themselves on top of it.

  • @suzannebeam6935
    @suzannebeam6935 Před 2 lety +5

    Can you do a video on Eric Smith? His murder or 4 year old Derrick Robie was huge news at the time and he was recently granted parole.

  • @OGitGirlJess
    @OGitGirlJess Před 2 lety +1

    That gem collection was out of this world 😩

  • @gj4257
    @gj4257 Před 2 lety +3

    Fascinating and entertaining analysis. I learned a lot of new mental health concepts from this video!
    “I guess this was a delivery fee as in a fee delivered to the pockets of corrupt officials.”
    Wahahahahah! 😆😆😆

  • @kengeorge5197
    @kengeorge5197 Před 2 lety

    You are awesome dr love your was crack I love the way you tell the story keep up the good work

  • @showducky81
    @showducky81 Před 2 lety +4

    Could you talk about Todd Kohlhepp? I found that a really interesting case.

  • @paristexas72
    @paristexas72 Před 2 lety +4

    Great content as always! Have you heard of the Barry and Honey Sherman Murders? Can you add that to your list?

  • @kaal4924
    @kaal4924 Před 2 lety +8

    Could you schedule an episode each month to answer followers question? We got many things to ask about

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Před 2 lety +3

      Here's an idea - become a patron! He does answer questions on that platform from time to time.

  • @stupidsminkle
    @stupidsminkle Před 2 lety +4

    When you're watching Dr Grande at the same time he posts new content 🥲💜

  • @lionessatthegate
    @lionessatthegate Před 2 lety +8

    Dr. Grande, would you be willing to analyze the case of Otto Zehm, a developmentally disabled man who was killed by Spokane Police officers in 2006? I would like to know your take in this particular instance of police misconduct and cover-up. Disclaimer: I am the parent of a developmentally disabled adult AND also the relative of retired officers. This was a heartbreaking case all the way around.

    • @ashleymarie3978
      @ashleymarie3978 Před 2 lety +1

      I just googled the case. Absolutely horrible! 😳

    • @lionessatthegate
      @lionessatthegate Před 2 lety

      @@ashleymarie3978 it certainly was (and still is). After watching Dr. Grande for awhile, I know he could offer valuable insight. What is haunting is that could have been my son, or many other sons or daughters who are just trying to buy a candy bar. (PS I am not related to the officer involved :(.

    • @ashleymarie3978
      @ashleymarie3978 Před 2 lety +1

      @@lionessatthegate yes exactly. Especially for parents with special needs children, this is one of your worst fears realised 😥

  • @user-pl4yq1oc1y
    @user-pl4yq1oc1y Před 2 lety +7

    Hi, dr grande, would you please do a video on the bow and arrow murders in Norway (oct 2021)

  • @TheAllianceEnt
    @TheAllianceEnt Před 2 lety +3

    550 lamps and still couldn't see disaster coming.

  • @zero_bs_tolerance8646
    @zero_bs_tolerance8646 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks, Doc.

  • @QuantumSorceress
    @QuantumSorceress Před 2 lety +19

    It’s truly insane to be that wealthy, move to a very hot place and not have any working AC. I would rather choose death.

    • @meenki347
      @meenki347 Před 2 lety +2

      Dr. Grande may be making a video about you soon.

    • @jkgent4087
      @jkgent4087 Před 2 lety

      I was in the southwest peninsula in Costa Rica for several days. The temperature was only about 89 degrees, not really too hot for a native Texan. However the humidity was about 99%. It was the most miserable few days of my life. There was no A/C and no place to get away from it. There was no way to be cool by perspiration as it would not evaporate anyway. How someone from the States could live there with no A/C, I cannot imagine. It would have made me crazy too.
      Edit: Okay, just saw the remark about altitude. Point. I would have to see it myself to believe it was any better.

    • @kindacrazyAna14
      @kindacrazyAna14 Před 2 lety +1

      @@meenki347 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @missrose7975
    @missrose7975 Před 2 lety +2

    Dr. Grande here’s a video topic “ Macin Smith” he’s been missing for six years now , he walked out of his house and just disappeared, some might wanna know your thoughts on his disappearance.

  • @wrmlm37
    @wrmlm37 Před 2 lety +2

    I saw a house so similar to this one on some program or other. I thought the idea of the bugs would be a problem, but, oh, the wildlife they did get to ENJOY! I must have missed why her weight was so low, and what condition he was treating/injecting her for...she must have reached MOF by the time she received care. But, curious about this possible "other" condition that she was receiving injections in aid of...
    Very interesting story, the police corruption expected, the 4 trials-give me a break. That's corruption, out in the open, right there. TY Dr. Grande!

  • @EricDodsonLectures
    @EricDodsonLectures Před 2 lety +4

    Deciding to live in an huge compound patrolled by lots of armed guards... hardly ever yields a positive result.

  • @kellyfelly6645
    @kellyfelly6645 Před 2 lety +5

    Dr Grande I looked for a case/subject sight below and did not see any. I wondered if you could possibly do a video on TBI (traumatic Brain Injury) specifically. on how while a person is recovering from a TBI. the most healing occurs in the first 3 to 6 months. How does smoking marijuana and drinking beer and snorting cocaine affect the healing of a TBI?? I
    Think it does not sound to good but I I CANT ask. the Doctor in this case because I Don t want this person to find out. I know it CANT be good but could you talk about TBI in general and possibly touch on what I have mentioned??.
    Thank you.
    I get it if you CANT. Its not something everyone is interested in but I thought I would ask. 💜 TY

  • @Annikins76
    @Annikins76 Před 2 lety

    I love you Dr Grande

  • @chrisraymond6448
    @chrisraymond6448 Před 2 lety +9

    Remember, He was worth $600 million and a month before dying, he wanted his life to be over. Do what makes you happy, never do what makes you rich 🙏🏼

  • @karmeluful
    @karmeluful Před 2 lety +2

    I am early here today, thanks for the summary about this case, I am digging the links that you put about the cases...

  • @lauraj8429
    @lauraj8429 Před 22 hodinami

    Everytime I hear about this case, I hear different things. In the 48 hours episode, for example, Ann Bender states they obtained armed guards after they were held at gunpoint by locals when out driving, she got all her jewels back once she paid the tax, her new boyfriend also died but it was while she was in prison; it also said John had depression but not bipolar and her psychiatrist made no mention of shared psychosis.
    I've also read that an armed intruder was actually the trigger for it all going wrong, they liquidated 90 million dollars for some reason, and that they started rehearsing a shared suicide.
    Plus lot of other details that seem to differ or which are not explained.
    I don't know what to believe!

  • @safiyaeldina4641
    @safiyaeldina4641 Před 2 lety

    Hello Dr. Grande 🥰

  • @milavargas1031
    @milavargas1031 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Theres no doubt those gems dictated how much guilt she would have once she got to court. It wasn't gonna be enough to hold on to them, they wanted to keep them, giving them or some back must have been hard for them. They didn't care if she spent her life in jail. Such corrupted system!!

  • @voltsoftruthBSbuster
    @voltsoftruthBSbuster Před 2 lety +4

    You tell me how one shoots them selves in the back of their head with out leaving gun residue on their hands. If he had shot him self there should be no reason why gun residue was found on her clothes. Also typically in self inflicted gunshots there is almost never gun residue burn marks around the area of the gun shot wound. Since most people place the barrel right up to the head to get better control of the weapon and make sure the bullet hits exactly where they intend it to hit. On the other hand when individual is shot by a 3rd partly its very rare that they would place the weapon right up against the person. The barrel is usually few inch to few feet away from the victim cause gun powder burns on the clothes and flesh of the victim. We can argue all day wheather she had intent and is actually guilty of 1st degree murder. Personally I don't have enough info to decide one way or the other. But based on the placement of the gun shot and the presence of gun powder residue, he definetly did not shoot him self that is a fact.

    • @ohdear2275
      @ohdear2275 Před 2 lety +1

      I believe she shot and killed him. Why, I do not know.
      However, if he had lived, I believe he'd have killed her with his injections and treatments. It sounds as if he was well on his way.