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- čas přidán 22. 08. 2024
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Build A Problem out on May 7
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Dodie’s flats always seem so fun and wholesome, I hope it feels even half the way it looks from the outside
yes 😭🤍
I hope this was made because dodie wanted to make it, and not because she feels she owes us anything.
same💙
yes.
i really hope so :”)
♥ bless u
I rly felt like making this! I cut out a lot and that felt good too ♥
@@doddleoddle 🤍🤍🤍
“whip out a whistle tone like it’s nothing” is my new favourite phrase
the thing about trauma is -- especially childhood trauma -- is that you don't even realize how traumatic the things that have happened to you are, until it hits you so hard and so fast. but everyone can get through it, and having people to help aid you in your journey is something everyone deserves.
THIS. i spent so long thinking i was okay and then all of a sudden it hit like a ton of bricks like oh wow there was so much trauma all along wasnt there
It's been hitting me full force, especially this semester because I've started to go to therapy. Its so hard to feel present and real. Im constantly on edge and can get forced into flashbacks basically at any moment. Its super difficult to go through but the most healing thing is having someone near you that understands, even if its not all the way. I hate that they can understand, but its incredibly validating
I definitely understand that and am working on it ❤️
The scary part of realizing you had trauma as a child is you worry that you're remembering wrong, or people will be hurt. My trauma is deep, I know it. But then I didn't realize it and it comes so suddenly and differently now that it feels false and angry and sad.
But I'll move forward, and find cope and hope and love
Oof. Hit me like a train when I was 18. Got off track, spent 4 years doing shit, now back on track.
I agree. Also I feel like I don't really grasp the magnitude of my trauma until I'm trying to make a relatable comment or joke about things I think most people go through, when those present turn pale or red and many if not all leave the room or go very quiet. I mean what can I do? Bottling everything inside is unhealthy. But if people can't see the vulnerable human side, I'll be unrelatable or seeming to keep people out. Some say comedy is tragedy plus time, but maybe I'm not saying things in a funny enough way for them to be palatable? I don't know, it's just trauma and most people go through some trauma at different parts of their lives. It's not a competition and bonding over shared or similar trauma can feel quite fulfilling. Have any of you had some luck with some of this? What is your approach?
"a fake truce of a family that... shattered"
Lord that line hurt me so bad, god
I had the exact same thought about the same line (though I heard truth not truce, but either way... h*ck).
it reminded me of sick of losing soulmates
@@emmadoesartonline it reminded me of ‘guiltless’
That song always resonated with me on a different level
Wow, there is clearly a story there that I have missed. Or has Dodie never told it?
@@greensteve9307 she hasn't, but it's entirely her prerogative whether she wants to tell it or not. It seems deeply and incredibly personal, so I expect we won't ever hear it (or at least not the full story), but personally I'm okay with that.
The abusive ex’s ex reaching out thing - just YES. Feel. You. I loved this. Child you is SO cute ohmyGOD xxx
The exact same thing happened to me, and talking to her was and is so healing.
It's been 3 years since I broke up with my abusive ex and this last months I've finally reached the point where I don't want nor I feel the need to talk with him about everything that happened. I can't imagine answering if he reached out now. It was so fucking hard to teach myself that I'm safe now and I won't compromise that for the sake of him or having a last conversation. I can't imagine how that must be for you, lots of strenght!
@@ocp5062 It wasn't the ex that reconnected, it was another woman who dated the same abusive person ( the ex's ex)
@@eytanz dodies ex is a woman I think :)
@@plantparent6469 That may or may not be the case, but she clearly says that it's the ex's ex that got in touch and that they had a shared experience with the same ex.
Dodie we love the 1% of yourself that you WANT to share so much. Thank you for sharing yourself with us.
🖤🖤🖤
I love how open and honest you are with your feelings, Dodie, but I also admire that you aren't afraid to draw boundaries. There's a reason why I've supported you for 6 years
me too
The dots under her eyes complete me
i love dodie dots :)
"a fake truth of a family that shattered" that hit hard... ;-;
An internal loneliness is so accurate
i went back to school for the first time in a long while about a week ago, and i forgot my friends were so...nice? i don’t know how i forgot how kind and beautiful and amazing they were, but when i was texting them it wasn’t the same. it was so different and to have them talk to me in real life again was so refreshing. my friend group has shifted, but seeing my friends again has helped, even if i feel as if i’ve changed too much for them. and i have new friends too, and i feel bad that they understand me more. but i’m also happy about it?? i don’t know, friendships are confusing but sometimes the shifting helps. i don’t know what the hell this paragraph has been but WE MOVE ON
i can relate to this...change can be a good thing, and so can new friendships! :) i hope you’re doing well
I relate
yes! basically the same thing happened to me
Yeah! I felt really lonely during lockdown and then when I came into school it was like a breath of fresh air hearing all my friends and teachers be so kind and relaxed
Thank you, I haven’t been connecting with my old friends during all of this and I feel kind of sad about it, but it’s also shown me who actually cares enough to be the one to reach out first, you know? I don’t think it’ll be the same as it used to be, but maybe that’s okay!
Don’t mind me here sobbing over you calling your ex abusive and saying “we can use those words....” I needed to hear that
i related so hard to this bit i'm sobbing
@@marsadams3886 sending love ❤️
A lesson we can take from this pandemic is to, well, adjust. It’s not just how we have to wear masks and stay 6 feet apart, it’s with our relationships too. This pandemic has caused a lack of communication, which we have to make okay. To the person reading this, everything will be okay in the end. Everything will turn out okay, even if it might not seem like it now
That's... good advice. Thankyou kind human being, wishing you happiness--- ^-^
thank you for saying this 🥺😭 my heart needed to read this
thank you 🥰
"I'm like the villain of 10 people's stories" "I still think about that. A lot" I feel you so fucking much
"I'm the villain in like 10 people's stories" reminds me of the show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, there's a whole song about that exact thing
I loove that show! The humor is so on point. You laugh and cry at the same time haha
that show is SO FUCKING GOOD id reccomend it to everyone
God that show is fantastic, they did such a great job making it different from other typical stories.
YES OMG I adore that show
The idea of being the villain in others stories, thanks for that
i feel like i can never forgive myself for the way i treated people even though "it wasn't that bad" which is always debatable i still feel awful
@@janerohlfing1254 if you can see how you have changed and not make the same mistakes again I think it can be healing to forgive yourself for not knowing what you know now - you can’t know what you haven’t yet learned!
@@janerohlfing1254 for some things it took a long time and a lot of learning and self improvement to be able to forgive myself, one day you might be able to too. Until then you can reflect on it- and you already are
awh IM SO EXCITED FOR BUILD A PROBLEM! i hope you all drink water today and get plenty to eat! love you alllll
I read this as "people to eat" for a moment, oh no.
“A fake truth of a family that shattered.” Holy fuck, that hit me like an anvil
hearing that broke me so yeah,,, I relate
These little talks always make me feel so safe and seen
Amen gurl!
This video is maybe sad but it's important to see we're not alone in this situation 😔
To everyone who needs this: I’m so so proud of you and I love you! Remember to drink your water and grab a snack
“Before the line in my life” she says, knowing in two months time, following her album release, that line would mean so much more :,)
THE THUMBNAIL MONTAGE I'M SUCH AN OLD FAN I'M CRYING all the nostalgia 🥺
aaaa me too i loved the ukelele vids
Dodie is so soulful
“and i was like 😛eeuughhh😛 im thirsty”
-baby dodie
This feels like a nice medium between knowing you were uncomfortable with the amount that you were sharing and someone that people might find ~unreachable~ or unreal or something in the way that many "influencers" are viewed, and i do appreciate these little slices ! like peeling an orange and sharing one slice with ur lunch friends. thank u
this is really sweet but now i’m sobbing because it really has been 5 years since i’ve been watching you and it’s crazy to see how much you’ve grown as a person oh my god.
^^ this, I feel like I’ve aged like 5 years over this pandemic but I’ve been watching Dodie for like 6 years and it feels like such a journey
yesss same, have been watching her videos for 5 years (plus a couple of months) now too!! i was 16 then and soon i`m turning 22, this is wild
Me too ❤️ found her through the song "My Face"
I think the first video I watched was the "I'm Going Blind??" video 😆 it's been such a long time, and she's inspired my style, a portion of my music taste, and yeah I got into playing the ukulele because of her 😂 it's been a good several years
did dodie’s camera lose focus or was my vision blurry due to the tears in my eyes? we’ll never know
Maybe even the camera was welling up... that's the story I'm gonna stick to anyway. 😊
2:22 about the villan is something i needed to hear today and it is nice to know i am not alone in this, i feel like it is a burden mos of us carry
That part hit me quite hard. For years I have held on to something I did when I was 13. Only recently have I actually confronted it in therapy but I still feel a degree of guilt.
Hey Dodie, I know that this will be buried under all of the comments already here but I had to say thank you. I went through hell a few years ago and spiralled through depression as a result but you have taught me so much about dealing with mental health and being stronger. Thank you for little chats like these
Same sentiments here!!! Thanks, dodie!!! 💝
I am so proud of you for being here! dodie has helped me so much too. this comment section is golden. I hope I’m not the only one who cried watching this... then my eyes burned lol. that’s beside the point. WE LOVE YOU DODIE!!
I love hearing dodie talk about her life: it's very comforting to know that people are all complex and are real you know?
It's so nice to hear your voice in this format again :) fresh and exciting because you're in a different part of your life, but nostalgic and comforting at the same time. Thank you for being here!
yesyesyes to all of this couldn't have said it better myself
I'm looking at this little Dodie and I'm crying like "Nooo! I don't want you to suffer from depersonalization/de realization when you grow up" ☹️
Oooof ye
That thumbnail slideshow was a wave of emotions
fr felt like i saw the past 10yrs of my life flash before my eyes
i feel you dodie. derealization and dissociation are hard to deal with and it feels like it takes hold of your life for a long time. with the “i am the villain in like 10 people’s stories” i felt that. sometimes the realization just smacks you in the face and it’s hard to come out of that lost feeling. i hope you are doing absolutely swell and that you can find true happiness. ❤️❤️
Dodie saying “I’m friends with my depression” pretty much convinces me that she’s a real life angel.
I think my depression is this built-in-thing that came with my brain as a weird feature that keeps breaking and bugging. I hate it and I’m pretty sure the rest of my brain hates it, too. A friend? No. A psychopath who needs to be sedated so it doesn’t whisper negativity and nonsense? Yea.
Facing the fact that you did something wrong to someone, and became the villain in their story, is incredibly difficult. As people we don’t like to face and see that we’ve done something wrong, but once you start it makes it easier to start changing certain behaviors
anyone else getting very adult vibes from this? i just love it, i think it makes for such a weird parasocial relationship watching someone grow up online for 6+ years as you grow up yourself, you know? it feels nice to watch adult dodie as adult me
I've been struggling so much with anxiety and it's gotten to the point where I think that I might need therapy or start taking meds. And to hear you just talk about your therapy experience (even in this small "dose") makes it feel like this isn't an experience I should be ashamed of but something that I should realize might be helpful. So I just want to thank you, not in an idealistic type way but in a way that helps me realize that maybe I need to work on my boundaries (which I truthfully don't really have) and maybe I should work on myself because its something that I should be able to do without feeling so ashamed, so yeh thanks.
There is good help to get from both therapy and meds, I've had both and can function quite ok now.
Mental health isn't something you should feel ashamed for, since no one chooses to feel bad.
Hope you get better and have a brilliant future! 😊
Hi. I was terrified before my first therapy session but woah it was amazing. She said things that genuinely revolutionised my thinking and will stay in my life forever. Of course, not all therapists are good so make sure you do your research 💜 it's 1000% worth it
@@floatwiththesticks this really helped a lot I really feel like hearing about others good experiences in therapy really helps a lot thanks
@@neelybolick7107 I'm so pleased! Rooting for you 💪💜
Hey there! Your comment catched my eye because we've got similar names :D
Society has always made a strong division between mental health and physical health, but we as individuals shouldn't really. Same way if you have a persistent cough you'll go see your doctor, if you're feeling constantly anxious you should do so as well.
I've always kind of been an anxious person (I am ADHD after all), but four years ago I had a spike of anxiety, and I could feel it since I woke up until I went to bed. It would paralise me, it wouldn't let me do almost anything, it was this horrible weight on my chest, painful thoughts drowning me & my nervous system about to explode, all - the - time, and it went on for almost a year. I went to my GP and I asked for help. They put me in a 1 month anxiety workshop (I was terrified at the idea of going with more people rather than having 1 to 1 sessions) and it went AMAZINGLY. They explained what anxiety really is and we did loads of exercises.
Currently I rarely feel anxious (only in very specific moments, and I know what to do), and I've learned to work with my mind rather than against it.
You can totally get better, and seeking help is nothing to be ashamed of (:
Edit: spelling
The term "friend-family" is so perfect, I'm totally stealing it ! 😅
Can we all just agree how wholesome she is and honestly she owes us nothing. As someone who lives with depression and major insecurities, this was honestly a really nice video to see someone being honest.
this is what i look like when i’m talking to myself in the mirror also monkey bars are so hard
FR i've never been able to do them
Dear dodie, you have the most comforting voice on the entire universe. The end.
Actually not the end. Also we love you and please take care of yourself as you take care of us with your songs. We love u so much our precious hooman
that thing about feeling like a “whiny woman” really struck a chord with me- i’m always there validating the things my loved ones have experienced but struggle to do the same with myself? i start to compare traumas, or think that they have to fit in a certain box to “count” as a trauma. i’ve had to realize that what i dealt with was fucked up, and me denying that fact to myself is only going to hurt myself even more in the future. it’s so hard to acknowledge what the bad parts in my life were like without feeling like a whiny woman.
the other day i was having a mental breakdown about never being successful/ never reaching my full potential because of the barrier my mental illnesses create within me. and then my friend was like “i can show you so many people that have mental illnesses and are successful, just think of dodie!!” and that really made me feel better because i relate to what you feel but i feel like i don’t handle it well and won’t ever be anything because of it but you show me it’s hard but possible :)) so thank you very much honesty is very refreshing
Okay time to get off zoom class to watch a goddess
I love you dodie you're such an inspiration to me and to many others
This is such a powerful and beautiful video Dodie
urban cottage core dream?
yes-
you have such a way with words. you somehow manage to make everything you say sound poetic.
well i mean you are a lyricist after all lmao don't know why i'm surprised but it's still very impressive to me !!!
Ooo I love the day she chose to release these on. There’s just something so ✨comfy✨ about Thursdays. Not sure why.
this felt like i was sat down just having a conversation about both our lives and it felt so nice, i miss that sense of normality honestly..
And this is why we love dodie, the brutal honesty and genuine respect for other people.
really is just like old times ! it’s crazy to think that we’re all growing as people, you knows? i started watching you 5 years ago now and everything’s changed, but in a good way. thanks for growing up with me dodie :))
May I just say as someone who also deals with identity issues and derealization, you have been a beacon of hope for me in terms of representation of our mental illnesses in the media, you're a breath of fresh air and you have shown me that it's ok to not feel real
I'm really proud of you dodie for being here and being vulnerable and taking care of yourself. It's all a journey but you seem to be doing so well.
baby dodie is actually the cutest ever i cant get over her. also i really related when dodie was talking about holding youself to a higher standard then every other woman. it doesnt make sense. i love women and i think they are so beautiful and their physical appearance doesnt matter at all as long as they are beautiful inside. but i am so insecure about my own appearance. it doesnt make sense, but it makes me feel better that someone else feels the same. love u
Two things about feeling like a villain. The first: you’re 25! Nobody is perfect at any age, but even more so when we are young we are still learning and growing and the fact you feel that way shows you likely have evolved from your past experiences and wouldn’t make the same choices again. It’s ok. You’re not a villain, you’re just human. My friend told me something which has really stayed with me, and that’s that just because people hurt us doesn’t mean we have been wronged. It goes the other way too - sometimes we hurt people but it doesn’t mean we’ve wronged them, we were simply not in a good place in our own lives or prepared to deal with a complex situation which involved the various needs of others. It’s life. The second thing is that likely you are harder on yourself than others. When I was 25 I had similar feelings and reached out to a girl to apologise to her. And I found out that actually she didn’t blame me at all for what had happened; that she was also going through a difficult period of her life and what happened had almost nothing to do with me (at least she felt that way respectively). We can’t change our past, we can just move forwards with more grace and wisdom 💖💕
I love that you’ve found your inner child and you talk to her. I refer to myself in the 3rd person a lot because, as women, I find that we’re more likely to stand up for someone else than ourselves. So, it helps me to do that. (i’m also probably crazy and she get that checked out, but i do it and it’s working so i’m rolling with it)
honestly dodie you could recite a shopping list and i would probably feel at ease. i dont know what it is but as soon as you start speaking im like entranced, and you make my anxiety so much better. thank u, have a good day
*baby dodie vids pop on screen while dodie talks about taking care of herself*
me: *tears*
im glad other people know they’re the villain in some stories. makes me feel less alone and horrid
from about September-December of last year, i was in a terrible dissociative & depressive episode. I couldn’t imagine feeling like that again & frankly I’m scared it if ever happens again. I salute you for being so strong, I don’t know that I could ever do that.
I can’t lie I’m 19 and watching this video is already helping me open up in a way where I’m realizing the trauma I had to deal with as a kid. I even fucking opened VHS tapes like dodie not too long ago and had the same feelings, it honestly feels like a different world as a kid and you crave for that again because it seemed better not to know than to know.
I just really appreciate the raw genuine vague conversation from this video if that makes sense. I know that when I finally find a way to confront my own trauma from my childhood I’ll look back on this video and know I’m not alone. I know that it’ll hit me hard and I’ll have to go through it all piece by piece.
talking about how you “take care” of your younger self made me tear up. I feel guilty when I watch home videos and see my younger self because I know I’m not very nice to her sometimes. thanks for the reminder that she’s still there, she still needs me, and I should still work on taking care of her ❤️
your videos and music have bought me so much comfort during lockdown honestly thank you
How can someone feel so kind and strong at the same time, being open about their own mental health online and on social media. My highest respect. You're beautiful.
thanks for hanging in there, your honesty and music mean so much to me, a guy who's been living with depression for at least 40 years.
dodie was so precious and wholesome as a child
and she still is :^)
Dodie, you have been a source of comfort for me for years and you have benefited my mental health journey, I have so much admiration for you!
not that you owe it to anyone, but it genuinely helps so much to see someone else taking about the loneliness they feel in trying to work through trauma, i feel like i’m the only one out of my friends that has to do this and working on your mental health is so draining and isolating and you know it’s for a good reason but it all feels very lonely and seeing someone else just say that and not try to hide their sadness makes me also feel really validated and normal. i feel like i’m constantly trying to hide how difficult day to day life is for me because being happy seems like it comes so easily to everyone else
This brought me so much comfort. Thank you for sharing:,)
I love dodie so much its unreal (no for real I love your presence whether it be in music or on the internet here, this community feels so soft and comforting)
i needed this today
i loved this. and it's so lovely to see u flourish into the WONDERFUL musician u are because i've listened to ur music since around 2015. but every damn time something is uploaded on here youtube comes up as a topic, a small part of me SHITS MY PANTS and is like "she's deleting doddlevloggle this is it, it's time to say goodbye OH GOD"
this video hits different and tastes bittersweet
I think now I've been "knowing" you for 10 years. Seriously. One of the few people on that earth I've been knowing for so long. If it was reciprocal... Who knows.
Thank you, you feel like something permanent in your peculiar impermanence \o/
hi dodie, i love you & your honesty always!
i love how dodie can be so vulnerable with us it honestly makes me feel like i can be vulnerable as well and i like that
this is a great video, it is nice to see someone talking openly about life and mood things that i think we call secretly struggle with
i’ve been rereading your book recently and this gives me the same amount of comfort :) thx for being here hun
This video is absolutely lovely... And this may not be any consolation in the long run, Dodie, but when I discuss your work with other people, I call you a singer/artist, not a CZcamsr. You're my favorite dang singer and I'm so proud of how far you've come.
i really needed an honest video like this today thank you dodie (also your hair looks INCREDIBLE)
please never stop making videos like these. They make me so happy, its like we have a direct connection. Youre helping so many people just by being here. thank you.
that part about connecting with your inner child and specifically rewarching and reliving throught old footage of yourself stirred something in me. I appreciate you for you and being honest with yourself and us. you remind me to give my younger self some love and work through trauma
"YOU can use those words, WE can use those words"
Such powerful and truthful words
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Also I'm so so glad dodie you have been able to heal even If its only just a tiny bit, and healing is good and I'm so over the moon you able to get this.
i relate to the not letting yourself use the right labels thing SO MUCH. i constantly feel guilty using the word trauma for my past experiences. i'm glad to see im not the only one that is going through / that went through not letting themself use the fitting labels
everytime you make videos like this it makes me cry because i've been watching you and listening to your music for so long it feels like you're connected with parts of me that i've lost, parts of me that i'm still mourning over. theres a connection with you that's odd and different but theres healing within each of your videos and songs. i appreciate everything you do. plus your voice is so soothing, like a hug.
THE pressure of being early and commenting something AAAAAA
yassss
i am so damn excited for this video series dodie :,) we are excited to see you again
every video of yours feels like a beautiful poem, or a movie, or a book. it just feels so safe, and soft. you have such a way with words
the stuff you said about taking care of your inner child made me tear up, gosh i wish i could go back in time and just hug my child self.
You're so lovely, I miss videos like this! It's nice to know most people are dealing with similar thoughts and feelings that I'm having. I really relate to what you said about feeling like nothing if you aren't sexy. Thank you for putting this out into the univserse!
me too! it's always hard as a woman to love yourself when everyone puts weight on your appearance but we'll get thru this. everyone deserves love even if they don't feel attractive
@@muddledmink4377 Those are such kind & true words! We will get thru this, you are right! Thank you for your sweet reply c:
Sometimes it scares me how much I relate to you dodie, but at least now I have someone kind and genuine to look up to.
You know nothing about me, and yet I think of you as a friend. What a strange world.
Stay safe dodie, (and everyone else) it's a long, quiet journey we're on with ourselves, but it's worth it.
All my love, from
another little voice x
wow was not expecting one of these build a problem lead-up videos to feel this,,, monumental ? i'm feeling like eighty emotions all at once lol this was so much.
I didn't realize how much I missed the videos like this. It's nice, even if the mood is kinda sad. It's like talking to an old friend again
sneaky before the line....
i woke up today rly excited for this video,,, i appreciate you giving me something to keep going for
aw i've missed these lil chats :') it was very nice to hear from u again in this way ty for this.
and my excitement level for build a problem has been and still is @ the ceiling !! so thrilled
i missed this kind of videos so much