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Let’s drop the shame we put on late bloomers in careers, marriage, parenthood and normalize celebrating our different levels and achievements
Talk about it
Thank you... 🎉
Ds is the perfectest statement i have heard today God has a differet timeline for every person
I couldn’t agree more
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Our married friends mocking us that our kids shall be playing with their grandkids if we don’t get “serious “ with life
Oh my God I hate this one so much 😂😂😂
That is if they don't tell you that you're getting to an age where it will be impossible to have said children at all.
Wama take your time. Some of them are struggling to put their kids through school and come asking to borrow money from you. I see them
@@kansiime2301 Yess! They say this all the time and it’s disgusting
@@Flourish_today hahahaha
Unpopular opinion should be daily dose. Everytime I'm done watching I feel like I should go and meet the world, I get so energised and encouraged
Great work girls
me too 😅
These guys give me the same feeling and confidence
They should post more often 😌
Let's normalize to liking and subscribing to the Unpopular opinion ❤
CLAIRE I COULD GIVE YOU A HUG RIGHT NOW. My mum is A TEACHER and very proud of it and because of her profession we grew up feeling shamed. it seemed like we were born of a loser but galllllll she has educated us and we are FINE as wine so thank you thank you for defending that profession coz its the FOUNTAIN OF KNOWLEDGE.
Wow... Why do people think we should be the same? We are different!! If there were no teachers, would there b other professions? It's ignorance!! It's stupidity! It's pride!!
Hey babes, i am watching from Kenya, i love your show, never miss a post ever❤...my mum's Ugandan but never taught us the language 😂so i just get lost when you jump into the real mother tongue😢😅....i love all 3 of you though. Thank you for being very relevant, very real and honest. Be validated in knowing that your channel is needed, necessary and absolutely relevant for this generation 🎉❤
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Prim, that blue is blueing. 😍Ladies you look gorgeous. Claire, yes it’s crucial for parents to identify what their children are good and passionate at. Academic success, doesn’t necessarily mean success, especially if it’s not really your calling or your passion .
"Forgive yourself for things you did when you didn't know better"❤️❤️ This spoke to me.
hello ladies, am ever so refreshed by the episodes. Its like my school of life. Among all the things I have learnt from watching this, I have realized I need to go revise myself. Sometimes we shame people, not because we are mean but we simple don't understand the implication of what we are saying. I think we all need to employ that inner filter , the one that asks why. why am I saying this and to what end. If we could all achieve that, The world would be a kinder place. So lets be more intentional. That school shaming thing, manya P.4 north for the smart and P. 4 east students even have to do exams from another center because God forbid there foreseen second grades will reflect badly on the school. Shame on all those schools, education beyond being a business ought to be a service. Otherwise thank you .
Claire chose to speak facts on the Teaching career!!! Thank you ma! As a teacher, I’m glad that you spoke on it! Thank you!!!!
Prim I’m just like, I won’t be ashamed to ask u to love me or forgive me. Yes I’ll be vulnerable but I’ll still understand if u don’t choose to forgive me or whatever and i know I won’t die but the satisfaction i get knowing that I tried and just failed is incomparable
The shame of the schools you attended and then let’s stop shaming people for what their parents did or did not do….love the show
I just feel like giving prim a warm hug because she just said it all☺️
Phiona talking about teachers. I remember feeling ashamed to tell people we were teacher's children.
Imagine, society shaming the working mums for failing in raising their children and again shaming the stay at home mums for failing in career....it's a question of what does society want really? And what do we want as individuals? Like Phionah said, things are many ....lol. Let's stop shaming ourselves for nothing even...
Well done dear ladies. Keep up the good Work in us. Personally i have learnt a lot from The
Unpopular Opinion.
Part of body shaming: Shaming girls when they start their period, when their breasts start growing. The shame women go through starts at a young age. Some of this shame starts within the family. It's so sad. We literally had a teacher in primary school who shamed girls whose bodies were starting to develop eg getting hips. I can't imagine how that affected them.
That comment from Prim on parents being open about their performance in school. A few days ago one of my professors stated he was a 70-75% student and it changed my whole perspective on my academic abilities. I always thought i could never be good enough to pursue a PhD but his openess changed that.
Pursue it. Even if it takes multiple applications!! I’m currently in a PhD student in the USA. The entrance exam I just could not get an “acceptable” score despite having 4.0 in my masters program. Several schools sent rejection letters saying that overall I’m a good candidate but they couldn’t overlook my low scores on the graduate acceptance exam (GRE).
I said the school who wants me despite my test scores will accept me!!
I’m about to graduate next year with my PhD with a 3.9 GPA.
Go for it
The fruitful conversation aside, you ladies are looking sooooooo dope! Love the color coordination. How all the colors blend in so well. Love you ladies.❤
Then about the topic, shaming divorcees or people who left toxic marriages must stop 🚮🚮🚮 Of someone chose to live instead of die. Those are people to be proud of instead! It takes so much courage actually. Infact they should inspire us.
Shame is such a great discussion ladies,thank you so much 🙏 Personally, I've been shamed over alot of things but let me share about shaming people for their appearance. I have short hair,I've had it for many years now but almost everyone had something to say about it! I've been told things like,"are you so broke you can't do your hair,why doesn't your boyfriend give you money to buy weaves and plait your hair,you look like a boy, don't you know that "envili kitibwa kya bakyala",do your hair so you look good for men,you look so kiddish with that hair,why do you wear hats all the time!"the list goes on! Then there people especially women that notice everything on your face,why don't you remove those warts,get such and such a cream for that scar,you look too plain,kwegamba😏😏😏
Anyway,thank you for this discussion ladies. You all look great.
Do they know how expensive short hair is??
@@shantaOzi I think people always want to think for us oba!
Oh, bambi, this is so painful to even read. I'm so sorry that these things have been said to you. I'm sure you love yourself enough to want to look the way you do or keep the hair style you love. Keep doing you.
I have short hair too and I have been told this as well! The ghetto! 😂
@@Berna_Aine 😅😅😅😅😅the ghetto 😅😅😅😅
I was shamed a lot for my weight(i was really tiny), especially at school. It caused me so much trauma and I became anti-social. I even hated the idea of having friends for a long time, particularly female friends because they would always make it a point to point out things about me that I already knew about myself and was battling with. It has taken me years to undo the damage that was done.
We really need to be kind to one another!
Just watched this ....and I cried and cried and ...yall brought memories back mehhhn the shaming when I was growinn'up was on another level...all I can say is Oh Claire Oh Claire Ohhh Claire l just love you girl...Thank you ladies ... A Big 🫂
Salute you Madam for being a pre-school teacher. The unsung heroes/heroines of society.
Talking about shame... I was always body shamed. But now I know better...self love
I subscribed to this channel and am very glad you guys are doing an amazing job and giving us content with no delay. Thanks for the great job all of you.
I really love your colourful dressing on this episode and the topic is very apt too.
This episode!!!! So awesome!!! So healing. Comparison is the thief of joy - Teddy Roosevelt
We need more teachers with passion
Growing up I was always skin shamed due to my deep melanin complexion.After high school I even started bleaching my skin.Its only in University that I decided to accept and love myself.As an adult am now been shamed for not been married or having children at 31years.I was the first female to get a degree in the family and my aunties constantly say it's due to my education that's why I keep turning men away.My young sister who is three years younger than me is also been shamed for not been married.It even reached an extent of family members blaming my dad got taking as to school.Despite the shaming,I don't feel bad I know one day God will bless me with marriage and my rule is that I will never have children outside marriage.Shaming is such a bad vice that we all need to stop.As human beings we go through alot let's learn to celebrate peoples success at Gods own given time.This was a lovely discussion ladies I really enjoyed.Keep up the good work.
I'm 37, educated, not married and not worried. Don't listen to negative relatives or anyone else for that matter. Focus on your life and filter out the nonsense.
Your time to shine is coming.
Pray,fast and stay focused on God everything beautiful belongs to you
❤️❤️In its time God will do it swiftly.
IGNORANCE!!!!!! Ooh this topic! Before I accepted and kicked out stigma as an autism mum I carried the shame of my child being unable to do so many things. I cannot remember how many people I had to school about his condition after they said something mean, and then if reach home and cry about it. I was fighting small battles within me but yoh! Society is so unfair and ignorant and I don’t know what we can do about this but we’ll talking about it might help in the long run
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This is one of the best conversation, sort of panel discussion I've watched. Alot of this is really relevant to everyone's situation. Thank you the unpopular opinion.
Claire.. I like the calmness with which you express issues
Thanks for the episode. Its always interesting to watch your views. Keep doing what you do. We see you and we are 👏👏👏👏👏👏 for you.
Thank you for a wonderful episode ladies ❤️
Ohhhhh what a wonderful topic guys.. This was so epic, shame is a thing i should say that holds us down.. Esp when it comes to careers OMG!!!!!
This reminds me of the after lock down effects. Grown men and women were shaming teenagers for looking like adults. It was so hurt breaking. Why can’t we keep our awful thought to ourselves 😢
Unfortunately this had been my story my entire life just went through the same yesterday broke down and cried in a saloon
Fantastic episode. I especially loved the part of living out loudly. Sharing our stories of falling and rising. Brene Brown is a proponent of this. Lets get rid of the illusion of perfection propagated by society. Lets not shame people for being human.
KUDOS claire. i love you for your boldness and the truth you tell about your experiences
Insightful episode ladies. Those outfit colors are 🙌🏾.
Dope conversation ladies💯. Shame on pipoz life choices that are not criminal is a social construct.Clare thanks chipping in with your life stories and experiences. Fiona dropped those gems too.I struggled to hear our Resident Kindazi Prim. Not sure if it's my gadgets but the volume was so low.😢
Lovely episode it was thanks for tackling shame❤
I will not be shamed for being slow at certain things, e.g as an employee, I can't be as fluid as you need me to and all the time.
Girllllssss ...just out here sending loveeeeee.. keep shining keep shining ✨️ 😍🙌🙌🙌🙌
Love this outfit Claire .. u killed ittt❤️❤️
I love your hair Claire, you'll girls are looking great,how you girls choose your topics of discussions is just awesome.the bodyshaming, career shaming and all the community standards for sure are just irrelevant.Keep the discussions coming 😊
S.E.R.E.N.D.I.P.I.T.Y! how I got here #unpopularopinion...❤
Claire u just spoke on ma brother's dyslexia...it's so great to know there pple who understand that this disability is not inability.
Shame & Fear, 2 emotions that are crippling & I despise both utterly.
Preach ladies! Thank you!❤
Thanks very much about this😊❤️it takes courage always to let go of what Was said about you again and again while body shaming you. Good thing is even those who body shame us still have their own issues 🤔😹.
In Finland but am a faithful follower. I even recommend this channel to my friends. You are the best my sisters
We truly appreciate you❤
❤ the colors on set 😍
Hi ladies, such a great topic 👏🏿 We're in a world where most people are not exposed.They're too quick to open their mouth than to think faster.
Lol
I loved today's discussion..big up ladies
I was like Claire but I thank God 🙏 for where He has out me now.
Dear God,am grateful 🙏
Ladies, you look amazing! That eye makeup and outfits🎉.
Thanks for sharing your story Claire
Thanks a bunch ladies. The episodes are educative.
Thank you ladies. all the discussions were powerful and relevant. keep it up. I love the fact that you connect with other podcasters like Ivy Over 25, Murugi Munyi and lydia KM TMI KE, am waiting to see you in a collabo with Mantalk ke. and others I love u girls its so impressing to have you here in Uganda. You are taking content creation on another level, here in Uganda people were not so serious on it but now its a thing. am really happy about it.
Jewelry plug please..i love you all❤
Well done Claire for mentioning dyscalculia and dyslexia because so many people are shamed for not excelling at Maths and English yet these are special educational needs that need to be handled in a professionally special way for these particular people to learn and excel at these subjects. It’s also unfair to mark/ assess such students using the same rubric as students without those special needs. Just like Fiona mentioned, it’s ignorance that people shame such people yet they instead need help. I know in the UK for example, students are required to mention if they are dyslexic if writing essays so that there’s a provision for them to have an additional oral assessment where they explain their research/ essay and to reduce bias based on wrong spellings or order of words.
Shame!shame! What a great conversation ladies, so enlightened
This topic is so powerful!! Growing up, I wanted to be an AIR hostess ( my narcissistic mum) gave me a peace of her mind.....😂
I do agree with most of the things that have been mentioned.However, when it comes to the issue of shaming, i believe that there's people who are not about to stop doing it no matter how much we talk about, the power however lies in someones ability to be self aware and confident .This gives someone the ability not be so affected by the outside noise. PS. you only have the power control how you react to it but not the power to control those who do it
Claire's earrings always on point and Y'all looked beautiful ladies.
Prim that outfit mwwwaaaa my favorite color
Wow... I like it wen u said that smtyms there are nice people that come our way but they ain't for us📌.. Let's not put shame on us forsure..
Even when you do wrong, you ought to forgive yourself because we are not perfect. And I also think life and the relevance of grace is about falling and rising and mistakes are part of it.
Primmmmm,,,you shining in that seat
Thank you Prim for reminding me that I can start over again and as many times.
Am a teacher but I didn’t know above dyslexia 😢😢….great lesson learnt.
Prim l appreciate u so much u have done a great job on self love ❤
YES PRIM ITS TRUE. I TOO DEAL WITH THAT SHAME OF MY FRIENDS ARE DRIVING, TRAVELLING, NOT THE KIDS PART THOUGH THANK GOD BUT THAT SOMETIMES REALLY GETS TO ME AND IT FEEL SLIKE AM NOT DOING ENOUGH AND I SHOULD DO ENOUGH.... SO TIRING
The other thing about shame if of apparent age. When you look older than your actual years. Someone told me I looked 25 when I was 15. Everytime I was uncomfortable about the way I looked.
Only heard about this page yersterday 25 May 2023 enjoyed it so much. Who is the lady with blue pants want to follow her on social media
And also shaming people who can't afford what you have
Clare,That story is in sam speedys comedy videos about mother comparing a son in school and the son said to his mother, were you also a top student in your class.
Lovely show
Can you next time please talk about crush, having a crush on a guy, what someone should do once you find yourself in that situation etc
You are gorgeous ladies😍😍 it is just satisfying only by seeing you😍🤗😊
Wow Clare thanks for sharing cause me growing up I was very poor at sciences en math but my dad used to tell mi Jacqui jst make sure da subjects u Kno u do dem very well da so
That was an excellent thing your dad did.
This vlog should be pinned because wow!!!
I'm here to see the animosity between the ladies 😂😂😂😂. Ps
Great episode ladies ❤. Love and light.
thank you for bringing this topic,since day one I've been a tiny gal,one day my colleague said I wasn't just tiny but bony. U guys I hated myself yet I can't change it oo oh.
That was too harsh.
I relate when you say this but find peace for you. It only gets better when you're comfortable in your skin and Las las...you'll glow
@@daphinenamuli7566 thank u dear,am trying to love me the way I am.
Sending love❤️
GIRLS, SENDING YOU LOVE FROM MOZAMBIQUE
Mwana, being a mom is like being the whole world, after struggling to choose a menu for the family, there's that daily struggle of what to wear too
My personal therapists♥️ abig shout-out ladies you have really done alot in my life 🥰🙏🙏u hv saved lots of souls
but prim is everything ❤️❤️❤️the outfit 👌👌👌👌
Shaming ourselves for not being a prefect image of what others look like and we expect to be them mentally
Its prima iz blue outfit for me
Thanks
Appreciate
Clare has given about I also get English is not our language, pipo awareness is cool
Am ashamed of the schools I went to, I think because I wasn't able to go to schools I dreamt of, because my dad couldn't afford them. I keep lying about the schools and guess what......................... It makes me soooooo comfortable. I am always like, ''what if this person finds out''😒😒😒.
My dear feel free with yourself,,,, you lie to impress people? No way its the capacity ur Dad had and he did his best. Of course the problem with lies they don't hide forever still one day they will find out. Be you and appreciate what you got ❤️❤️
Thanks, Fifi and I'm sorry(?) 😂. Keep letting your lights shine, ladies! 👏🏾
Shamed for loving a man that was separated from his wife. This society that chooses to pretend that separation of marrieds does not exist and all people just be married or cleanly dy-vost (divorced),kyokka nga so many people are in a gray area called "it's complicated". The rest of society judges the men and women in such relationships just too harshly. I DO NOT feel ashamed of my choice of relationship partner any more. Whoever does not approve can kindly put their disapproval where they want.
Fiona those pants, where do u buy them, u ever look dope in them
There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed in what u want to be, parents should always listen to their children and not be with the people with negative energy wow the part of acting in nollywood Claire wow wonderful father there. Body shaming should stop i have always heard such words i hear u would have had this but because u r fat u havent got it stop body shaming thx for sharing guys
Clara uncivilized me today on this show
Having worked with kids I totally understand Claire, there’s a time i was doing an assessment and a child did addition but instead of writing 9 they write p so i went ahead and asked the boy to write pot then he wrote 9 could see m instead of w. So i asked our supervisor do we really say this child doesn’t know what they are doing or we treat it as a special case and they insisted the child didn’t know what he was doing. I felt so bad
Those ones need more early childhood education.
But someone who hasn't dealt with kids hands on is the who would be surprised when a child confuses 9 and p, m and w, s and z. But all that the kids need is constant practice and different examples and they eventually get it and start to differentiate them. No need to shame a child for that.
Yes Flourish they really do and hey Zee, no child was really ashamed it was just an assessment i just meant to point out that how people are ignorant about early childhood education and cases such as dyslexia like Claire mentioned
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Prim otujja kumulamwa😂😂😂 after getting our attention you again get it😂
prim Tuula bulunji hahahaha
Hi lovelies .I really struggle to hear what you be saying your original sound is abit low could u increase please.m here on full volume but still it's sth I have noticed for sometime now