How I Became The Worst Dad....
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- čas přidán 23. 02. 2024
- Skiing and snowboarding has inherent risks. Collisions and near collisions with other people are one of the top hazards on mountain.
As a family who prioritizes skiing I want to teach my kids from an early age to do everything they can to maintain awareness and to pay attention.
We also sometimes increase the risks as a family by sometimes goofing around, pulling and holding onto each other while moving on skis. I coach my kids to only do this with each other and there are times and places where this isn't okay.
We value risky play and believe that embracing risk is an important and healthy part of life.
This was an incident that luckily didn't turn out worse and I'm grateful for that.
Every 1-2 winters we usually have 1 "incident" where there is a near-miss or a collision of sorts. And every time when I share the video I have people on social media state that the downhill skier needs to be looking up behind them before they turn or stop.
This shows me that many people do not know about or understand the Alpine Responsibility Code.
This is quite absurd to me. As the a dad who often adventures with his kids I take a lot of pride in having as much "extra" awareness as I can. I am usually one step ahead of my kids and can anticipate their next moves. This could and sometimes does involve looking behind me, but that will never supersede the importance of the uphill skier always paying attention and giving the right of way to the skiers and boarders below them.
I think a lot of people who comment negatively on this situation aren't big skier or snowboarders themselves AND many of them aren't aware just how good a skier Adia is.
I speak to my kids like they are capable and competent humans - because they are.
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Come on people. Lighten up. This guy is a fantastic dad. We should all be so damn lucky. Dad keep up the same fantastic job.
My father use to say “I’m not raising a kid, I’m raising a future adult” and I think that’s what you’re doing very well.
She’s learning earlier to be more responsible and you teaching her that is invaluable life experience, which in turn will definitely prepare her to be a more responsible adult and that’s all any good parent can ever do, so keep up the excellent work and ignore the haters. ✌️
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Just for one second imagine if Adia had run over someone else’s ski’s, this could have had a whole different outcome. He didn’t yell or scream like a lunatic, his voice was raised because he was uphill from her. The lesson was you need to be aware of your surroundings, which is true for every single person in every situation. Good on him for teaching the lesson and admitting he too had some skin in the game.
Well said!
I totally agree!! We are parents to teach our children.
Those comments remind me of what I always tell my kids….
“I can teach you, and correct you. It doesn’t mean you’re in trouble or I’m angry.”
We have to teach our kids…
That’s fatherhood for me in a nutshell. And it’s not coming from a high and almighty place.
Part of being a parent is teaching them how to fall, take responsibility for actions and get back up again. Good job dad🎉
the internet is such a weird place, when something goes bad, people change their whole personality, i think your doing perfectly fine and nothings wrong with your content.
You're hearing the flack from people who probably don't invest any where's near as much time with their own children as you. These are the best years of your life so enjoy them. I was in your shoes with 5 kids on skis at once 30 years ago. Today we challenge the extremes together because they weren't sheltered, but encouraged to challenge themselves and what they could accomplish. You are an amazing dad that I love watching since Adia was 2 years old. Love you man.
Thanks Steven. 👊
You were right. That’s how safety works on the slope.
Agree…..most likely the negative comments weren’t from skiers (kinda obvious). You always mind those below you on the slopes. A lady I know had someone who was out of control run into her. She suffered 2 black eyes (which were also bloody on the sclera) and cuts on her lip and cheeks from the other skier’s edges. The other skier came up between her skis pitching her backwards. They both fell but she got slapped in the face with the edges…..OUCH! The skier was above her but clearly wasn’t in control.
Agee 100% with your assessment, and how you handled it at the time in happened. No angry yelling, just letting her know that something unacceptable happened with enough inflection in your voice to let her know it was serious.
Love your videos and the encouragement you give the kids without pushing too hard. The kids are clearly loving what they are doing and the love you and your wife have for them is obvious.
Thanks for putting this positive content out there. There’s always going to be people with different opinions but you know what they say about opinions😜.
Agree! There’s value in a dad (or mom) speaking firmly about mistakes. Kids don’t need to be screamed at to make them aware of potentially dangerous mistakes. We’re all better off when our errors are addressed. Never mind it could save our lives in the future…
Nobody got hurt, lessons were learned….people just need to get on with their own lives (and no doubt mistakes) rather than turning into keyboard warriors.
You are clearly fantastic parents, keep doing things exactly as you are…🤛🏻
The internet needs to take a huge chill pill and just let people live their own lives and values. The internet is not responsible for raising anyone, so people using the internet should stop acting like they are the parents of the people they are watching. Everyday everyone is learning lessons and it just so happens that on that particular day Adia learnt to watch out down hill despite distractions and Dad continued to learn that his self worth is not based on the internets opinions.
Not getting distracted is a lesson that needs to be learned. It could save her life as a teenager driving later in life.
I agree, you are her father and she is learning. I thought it perfectly reasonable to draw her attention to it and to learn when there was no real harm done. Bet your adrenalin was racing though!
Had she been a few inches over, she would have smoked you, and size wise really hurt herself. She got lucky and you are teaching her a valuable lesson to stay heads up hockey
My dude, at the end of the day you are the best father in the world to your kids!
I have a 3 year old, and 9 month old, and your videos inspire me to soon have them ripping down the hill as well!
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Don’t for a minute torture yourself! We are all human, mistakes happen and you helped her learn a solid lesson! Always be aware and in Control! Love it that you quote the Skiers Responsibility Code! Yup, I am a Patroller as well! Loved the video and your adventures!
Love that you show the Alpine Responsibility Code. There it is for all non-skiers to see.
You do not need to explain yourself to anyone. The internet is full of crap just like the people on it. You're doing an amazing job. Kids will do dumb stuff. You didn't scream at her, you taught her a lesson. Love the videos!
I think it's important to hold kids accountable especially in a sport like skiing. You did the right thing reminding her about yielding to the skier ahead and always being prepared to stop on a dime. This past week a mother with her young son were merging in the lift line but it was my husband and I's turn to merge, the young boy (7) looked at us and then went in front, the mother explained to him that we were supposed to go first and then instead of correcting him and letting us go first she turned to us and said "sorry" which only teaches him the behavior is ok. This seems to be the norm with parenting now, never correct your child.. and if you do you are a bad parent. You're doing great...I like how you are assessing the negative comments, those moments can also help us grow. ❤
Correcting a child with both heart and a little backbone is healthy. 🙏
What gets me is your response was a measured "Adia that's not ok". People are treating it like you screamed and swore at her. I would say a controlled response like that makes you a good parent!
Thanks for sharing the vulnerable moments too. My boys love your videos as I start skiing with them together this season. Responsibility is definitely a must-have lesson for kids.
I think you did the right thing teaching her. Whether you were right/wrong about where you stopped, it's still her responsibility to watch for the person downhill. It was good teaching moment and good thing she made the mistake with dad.
The aggressive comments come from those who have not followed you from the start and understand how amazing you are and how beautifully balanced your kids are because of the way you and your wife teach your children! I see nothing but love and respect from your kids they are amazing. ♥️♥️
I've been skiing for nearly 50 years. Had all 3 of my kids up on skis at 2 years old. Anyone with any life experience knows the old sayings, "shit happens" and "no harm, no foul". You're good, dude. Consider it a learning experience. Love your videos. Your kids rip! You are doing a fantastic job. Don't let the "Negative Nancy's" get you down. Keep on keeping on!🤙
Thanks 👊
You are absolutely the best dad, the way you interact with your kids should be written in the text book.
You are still a great dad. You told her that her actions werent acceptable. She is only five. Ive always admired your calm way of teaching the kuds the rules of safety
As a certified ski and snowboard instructor, thank you for teaching your kids the skier responsibility code. You were not restricting traffic, and you were visible from above. Always be in control and be able to avoid other people and objects, and people downhill have the right of way, are the two biggest rules broken here. One rule that was added recently was if you are involved in a collision you are required to stop and exchange information with the other person, much like an auto accident.
People that have a problem with you teaching her the rules are either ignorant or part of the problem with our society, don’t let it get under your skin. As a dad of five I have appreciated your approach to parenting and coaching. Well done sir, keep it up!
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You took responsibility all around, as a semi retired rescue skier you've trained to do so!! As a dad you take responsibility all around, you take responsibility of your children and you teach them to take responsibility for themselves and you teach them the consequences of NOT taking responsibility of themselves!! Well done ski dad 😁👍
The fact that you have to explain yourself is so silly….keep it up your an awesome family, love your videos! ❤
100% correct! You are teaching her a valuable lesson on the slopes. You're a great dad!!
Those haters are just jealous of you being a great dad & wishing they could be as great a dad as you. ❤
OMG words cannot express how upsetting this is to hear that RAMDOM people just sitting behind a computer are expressing if you are a good dad or a bad dad. You are an amazing dad and love your videos. I look forward to watching your videos every time they come out!!
You're doing an awesome job, Erich! And the fact you always keep an open-minded, educator sense to your videos, even when you're calling out the idiot commentators.
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL DAD! I WILL SAY THIS AS A PERSON WHO NEVER HAD ONE! KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING! AT THE END OF THE DAY IF YOUR KIDS ARE CLOTHED, HOUSED, FED, AND HAPPY THEN YOU HAVE DONE YOUR JOB AS A GREAT DAD! SKI STRONG STAY STEEZY. GREAT MAN HERE PEOPLE!
Mate you taught her a very valuable skiing lesson especially if you are approaching from behind. ignore the keyboard warriors that think they know it all, half probably dont even ski.
Keep doing what you are doing and your kids will learn great life lessons.
You're a great dad. If you are going fast, like driving a car, you have to learn not to be distracted. This will teach Adia a good lesson. You are doing a wonderful job with your children. People need to just chill. Love from Australia. x
That is exactly why we need more parents like you who raise strong kids who can deal with a bit of mild annoyance once in a while without having an emotional breakdown. It didn't look to me as if Adia was particularly injured by your comment. People need to get a grip.
As well and as fast as she skis, she needs to understand her responsibilities. Doesn't matter how old she is. You did the right thing.
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Parenting is the hardest thing in the world, but I love the way you are bringing them up
I think you did the right thing. She needs to know that the slope and the skiiers downhill of you should be the main focus at all times. Of course 5 year olds are gonna get distracted inevitably but I think you did the right thing and you are NOT the worst dad.
Like sometimes you don’t need school to get great fun jobs like ski instructors but I think your kids should learn some basic school curriculum stuff. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK MAN!!!
You seem like a fantastic father who spends great quality time with his family from my perspective.
Dude you have nothing to worry about, you're as good a Dad as I've ever seen ✌
People stop on the mountain all of the time. Everyone needs to be aware. You handled it perfectly.
I remember seeing that video and I don’t think you went from being a great dad to being a bad dad. Yes, to accountability on both Adia’s part as well as your part. Which you are doing a great job teaching all of your kiddos. You corrected her, firmly, but lovingly. Which is the way it is suppose to be. Internet is a crazy place, with keyboard trolls, just waiting for someone to mess up (either literally or as far as the the mind of the troll is concerned), so that they can chew them out. Trolls are just unhappy people, who have to try and bring others down to their level, so that they feel better about themselves. Glad that you grew a thicker skin in regard to negative comments! Keep doing a great job, dad!
Keep doing what you are doing. The kids are lucky to have such good parents and grandparents.
In my opinion, that was exactly the right lesson to impart. Sure, both of you could have been more aware of your surroundings, but the uphill skier should always be paying attention to their forward field of vision and prepared to stop or alter course as necessary because you can't predict what any skier in front of you will do and they don't have eyes in the back of their head. Hopefully, she wouldn't be following a stranger that closely either. And for what it's worth, I think you're doing a great job. These are memories they will cherish for life.
Often times CZcams comments sections really bring out the worst in people.
I will admit, sometimes I catch myself being unnecessarily nasty to people because of the anonymous nature of the internet.
Having said that,
I think, and a lot of people would agree that you're doing an amazing job raising Adia and the boys to be confident, self reliant, independent, and just all around great people.
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While it was generous, and thoughtful of you to make this video explaining to the haters in the comments exactly why you said what you said to Adia,
I want to just say that
Nobody, absolutely nobody, has any cause to question your approach to parenting.
Keep up the great work, and we all will look forward to many, many more ThatMountainLife videos.
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You are just doing great. You are giving Adia confidence and fun. You should be proud to have a daughter racing over your skis and answering your comment with a simple "ok". That is what it is. Ok!
Keep doin what your doin man 🤙 love the content!
These are learning times. I like how you follow up with your kids, even when you are scared.
Ignore the negative!
As a family of skiers , we have all had near misses, this is very typical of skiing with kids. Someone stops and kids learn to be responsible and learn the rules. We have all been there. No need to defend yourself. Accidents happen. Sometimes kids are in front of you , sometimes they are behind you.
Love your videos. All of them.
I have been thinking about you and this incident all day, then told my wife about it. She agrees that as a child who grew up with both parents skiing, and her Dad was a US Marine officer - they stressed safety to all six kids. They always enjoyed skiing just as you do with your family, but you can get there were times when my father in law read his kids the riot act about dangerous behavior and held them accountable.
You did the right think. Hands down. I am certain she learned this lesson completely and it probably gave her pause to consider why those rules are the way they are. COULD you have done it better? We Dads always can. The important thing is you really thought about this and your focus is on safety and teaching.
You are a terrific Dad. Your kids are motivated and happy. What else can you want?
Thanks for sharing Rick. 🙏
Agreed that skiing protocol says that when skiing, we are totally responsible for avoiding the people below us on the hill. Important lesson we all have to learn for the safety of all. Keep on trucking.
You did a great job. Keep up the good work. These are life lessons. You are teaching her with kindness and compassion. Can’t ask for more.
you must always be aware of what is happening in front of you. it was lucky it was you and she learned something from it.
it doesn't matter if you're skiing, cycling or in a car, if you're not careful, accidents happen.
You didn't yell at her, you just told her to pay attention to what was happening ahead.👍
you are one of the best dads
Well said and done Eric. Internet is always double faced. Its a harsh reality how these "people" are always jumping in the bad wagon and I know you know that even more than someone like me. Wishing you more growth and always excited to see your family and your adventures!
You rock as a Dad, teacher, leader. Thank you for sharing. :)
People need to stop shaming someone for their way of teaching their challenge of what is right and what is wrong because nobody got hurt and now she knows how to control the situation and not run into someone while on a slope.
Just posting to support you. Great dad and love the videos.
So true kids definitely need to learn to accept responsibility for their actions... love your videos been watching for a few years. Keep up the good work.
I praise you for doing what you do and your reaction was appropriate as a teaching tool. The situation in question happens often on the hill and as such it is a great lesson of a key conduct code all of us need to remember.
You are a good Dad. You are teaching your daughter a very important life lesson. You’re parenting with integrity and intention. Well done
There will always be haters. No me. I think you did exactly what I would have done. Sure, everybody looks up but you have to still be aware of what is in front of you. It could have been a serious injury and she learned the lesson. Skiing can be great fun and can be very dangerous if those basic rules aren’t followed. You are a loving, compassionate Dad. I am impressed with your patience with all three kids. Your videos have motivated me to ski Fernie in fact! I hope if I do I run into y’all so I can shake your hand. Good job Dad
I think you both did great. Every day brings a new learning experience. As a parent of grown kids, I am so proud of how you approach things. Mistakes and unexpected moments are a part of life. 🥰
Don’t have kids, but you set an awesome standard. Keep up the good work man!
Big respect to you. We all learn and grow through failure. We fall we get back up and keep growing.
Great video, i love the attitud3e you bring to raising and skiing. I wish more parents would teach their kids to take responsibility for their own actions. All to often kids do something were their parents start blaming something or someone else. That's what creates people uncapable of taking responsibility, on the piste, in traffic and in life in general
As a ski coach, I go over these responsibilities all day every day.
You are 100% correct... It is vital for kids especially, to understand that they have responsibilities out on the mountain and could hurt themselves as well as others they may potentially run into.
I personally would have gone much harder and been m
ore forceful in letting her know that she was less than a foot from potentially breaking your leg or multiple of her own bones.
Kids do not have fear or understand the physics of the forces that come in to play with speed. She must have been skiing close to 20mph. Broken bones and concussions are definitely in the realm of possibility.
I see things on the mountain almost daily that are so close to being catastrophic that it isn't even funny.
I feel strongly that this was a major coachable moment that really needed a bit more clarification as to what you may have done wrong but also what she most definitely did wrong.
One of my biggest rules is never do a hockey stop in the middle of a run... But I'm sure you knew that.
There were extenuating circumstances with kids on the lift and wide open slopes. This is part of skiing. Amazing sport, lots of potential distractions and situations that create accidents.
From what I can tell you are a great Dad and have a great family. I love to see families out having fun on the mountain together 👍😊🙏
Love your videos and your involvement and protection, instruction, responsibility, loving and caring, your unending patience and for teaching your children accountability. You are an awesome parent!!!!!!
I'm really jealous when I see the huge amounts of snow on your videos!! How much snow do you have there? Is this normal or is this winter so rich in snow?
In Europe there is snow only at 2000 m!! Drama! Many ski resorts are standing and waiting for snow.
Greetings from Poland and Germany to the whole family - especially Adia.
You are 100% correct. What the heck are these people talking about. You and your wife are doing a fantastic job raising your children which those complaining really need to learn from. The individual responsibility part especially in my opinion. May God Bless and Protect You and Yours.
Been watching you guys for a while, you don’t need to explain yourself you and your wife are probably the best parents out there. These near misses are great learning opportunities for everyone specially the little ones and nobody got hurt but good to have on video to reflect and learn from it. She’s gonna learn a lot from this experience and that’s what counts :)
I’m seeing Best dad ever teaching his kids safe skiing. Thankfully she didn’t run into you though it could’ve been a bad collision… keep up good work!
The internet is going to internet. Keep doing what you are doing your kids always look so happy and genuinely seem to love the time spent with you. That's all that matters.
You are an awesome family. We all make mistakes at times and learning from them is how we develope and grow in life.
I think your a great role model, and what a lovely family you have....keep doing what your doing 💕
You are good!
Great lesson for your kid and great philosophy to make sure kids can take responsibility. Not something easy.
Honestly I've had these same conversations with my son skiing. You did nothing wrong as a parent and the haters can hate all they want. The best lessons are the ones when no one gets hurt.
I think you are a great Dad!! Keep up the good work!
Beautiful clarification, dad.
I think anyone who sees this incident as a “big deal” rather than just a good learning opportunity must be a non/poor skier. Sometimes (especially skiing with kids) everyone gets a little distracted or inattentive, and situations like this are a good reminder to everyone to stay aware of your surroundings…there’s really nothing to get overly upset about here!
perfect learning video! congratulations!
As a ski instructor who works with kids you are completely in the right. Of course you give leeway to kids who don’t understand everything yet but that was a dangerous maneuver Adia did so she does need to learn. I actually had an adult do something similar while I was teaching a lesson today and I was worried because he could have killed one of my students. Thanks for teaching your kids right so they keep themselves and others safe on the mountain!
Let's say it was a learning opportunity for all parties. As a teacher, I know that kids, even when you have explained guidelines and such to them, don't always see it the same way adults do. I also know that it could have ended differently, too. So keep up the good work, Dad!
sounds like people that have no idea of how the mountains work are just opening their mouth - you're doing great as a dad and even more so as one who makes sure they don't find excuses for their children or ego.
People are idiots. I love your approach and content ❤
You didn’t have to respond to the haters but I’m kinda glad you did, and you did it well. We’re so lucky to have islands of positive content like yours in a sea full of sh*tty CZcams.
Thanks Leslie
Keep up the good work….you are doing great
Thanks! 🙏
Never thought anything bad , it's nither of your fults and it's over. I think your great!
Doing a great job! Ignore the haters like you do. LOVE WATCHING YOUR KIDS PROGRESS!!
You calmly, politely, professionally corrected your child for breaking a specific rule. You then told her the rule she broke and that it wasn’t cool. You then said debriefed on the chairlift the rules and problem with what happened, probably your mistake for not posting that conversation where I’m sure she said you’d stopped in front of her and you’d have acknowledged your part. Well done! Good job! People complaining are the problem and not enough of them properly, regularly correct their kids or get outside and do activities with them, which is why we have so many problems! Ignore them and carry on!
F-All of the haters! Good on you for taking your kids up on the mountain! Winter is a season to be loved!
Thanks for being such a great dad!
Just ignore them! You are raising your kids right! Keep it up!
You are a fantastic dad! Keep it up!
Lesson learned for everybody. No need to be unkind about it. Keep the videos coming. :)
Haters gonna hate can't believe anyone gave any negativity to you! Do your thing ❤❤❤
Good take. You spoke so well and with kindness. The internet needs to chill.
Haha, you can say that again.
6 of 1 half a dozen of the other. Lesson to be learnt by both father and daughter here.
1) Dont stop half way down and in the middle of the piste
2) Always look where you're going