Spotting Autism in Adults - Common Signs and Traits of Autistic Adults
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- Hi! I'm Orion Kelly and I'm Autistic. On this video I share some of the top signs and traits to look out for to spot an #autistic adult. Plus, I share my personal lived experiences as an #actuallyautistic person. #orionkelly #autism #autismsigns #whatautismfeelslike #howtoguide #autisticadult
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I get confused when someone tells me to "just be yourself." Okay, so I drop the mask and be myself, then they tell me to not do certain things. So I've learned that no one really wants me to be myself because when I am myself, I do things they don't like. Hence, why I like being alone and by myself. I get zero criticism when I spend time alone. Its incredibly lonely but I find that being lonely is better than feeling alien. I never ask others to change who they are to fit into my life. I wish others would extend the same curtesy.
I feel like I wrote this myself 🥺🥺
@@barbieg33 It would be easier if we had some sort of visual stamp that signified we have Autism. When people hear Autistic, they don't visualize someone who looks and acts somewhat "normal". I'm 48 and have learned to "blend" in, but that just makes matters worse. It is frustrating for sure.
@@barbieg33 I hear that.
Yep... Sounds like my life. "Just be yourself". Then it's "No, not like that". Or I get ignored because I don't always have input/ am that weird guy who sits quietly by himself...
I'm like "If you don't like who I am,there's the door"lol..I'm not a people pleaser,I'm polite but to expect me to be phony,,,
1. Desire to be alone - "home is a safe place"
2. Pepper people with follow up questions to better understand others
3. Focus time and energy inwardly - focus on their passions
4. Seem to live in a world of their own, unaware of wants and needs of others
5. Struggle with muti-tasking
6. Startled by noises - sensitive to noises
7. Make lists synopsizing the video's main points in the comments section 😁
8. Voting Democrat
@@comment8767 you're displaying #3 and 4, and it's unnecessary
Thanks!
..... Damn i related to almost all of this
@@daniellefactor7745 And you are being salty for no reason, unnecessary
Having someone show up at my door uninvited is absolutely traumatic. Thank you, Orion. So glad to not be alone in this.
I didn't realize this was a symptom of autism. In fact, the whole "home is my safe space" was a revelation to me. It totally explains why I melted down (seemingly for no reason) when my in-laws were staying over a couple of years ago.
Thats every single house in the uk 😂 im portuguese so i tend to just show up and i was met with: da f u doing here? I was so confused for years…
My doorbell literally makes me jump when it rings. Takes like an hour for me to calm down.
Same here. I never thought of myself as a autism but I have to wonder as I have some of the traits.
My partner laughs at me when someone knocks at the door. It’s frightening to me. Noises also startle me that much I jump in the air and people laugh their heads off at how much I jump
People REALLY need to emphasize that Autistic traits are also parallel with trauma or PTSD, especially if you've been in an emotionally/physically abusive household growing up.
This is true with me. I have PTSD, but I’ve never gotten along with just anyone. I have a daily routine that calms me. For example I eat baked chicken every day and at a certain time of day I start dicing garlic for my chicken. I’ve also gotten along with autistic people that most can’t tolerate but I enjoy their company just fine and understand them. I freak out when there is a knock at the door. I don’t know whether this is autism or PTSD.
I completely disagree with this. Autism isnt associated w ptsd! It is a neurological disorder whereas PTSD is a trauma that has happened in your life to alter your emotions. Do some research I am not saying this to be argumentative just trying to inform. I have 2 Autistic sons diagnosed at 2 and 3 one is nonverbal. They may experience PTSD from their environment but it is in no way causing autism. God bless❤
@@MaryJ0what I think they meant is that autism and trauma can look quite similar in some ways, but similar behaviors can have a different root cause. Not that autism and PTSD are related🤍
@@MaryJ0trauma changes the brain structure literally and yes, the responses do look like autism. This is true
@@MaryJ0you are correct but the OC says “autistic traits”, not autism. And it’s correct
When you say "can you get to the point?" something to keep in mind, most conversation isn't intended to communicate information. It sounds weird, but it's absolutely true. Most conversation is to convey the emotion the speaker is feeling. If you look at it that way, finding the emotion they're trying to deliver and then acknowledging it makes everything start to make sense.
Thanks for this insight. When I finally figured out that there isn’t always an actual point to the person talking, I tended to just drift off or even leave.
Which is why all non-autistic people are liars: czcams.com/video/nGSaPGt82V0/video.html
@@missmayflower if I remember to do it, I usually get good results from saying "oh, that must be so frustrating" or sad or whatever the feeling they're trying to convey. It's a really simple game once you know the rules. Even small talk like "how's it going? is related. They're trying to acknowledge you and express a positive emotional connection with you.
Thank you, this is helpful!
@@reasonwarrior I was absolutely in the same boat. I still can't fully get the hang of it, but I kind of make it a game of "look for the emotion" and it makes "idle" conversation a lot more bearable. It's funny, because most neurotypicals don't actually know that's the game either. They instinctively try to one up the emotion instead of acknowledging it. People look at me like I'm a genius when I say "You must be so proud of your kids" or "That must make you sad".
Yep. Unfortunately a good 90% of my stress occurs when other people meddle with my day or suddenly expect you to just drop everything you were about to do, and go out for coffee with them. Last minute plans are not my favorite.
I have a friend who loves to do last minute weekend plans. Because of him. I've twice gone camping, with either little to no real budget/ the right gear. While it was fun- to an extent. I'd very much rather have it be planned at least a week or two in advance. The first time he decided we should go, there was a massive storm- and I spent most of the night fighting to keep my tent from falling over.
I can't stand this either. I meticulously plan out my day, have concrete goals, and hate it when someone pops in or wants to meet up for lunch in fifteen minutes. If those things aren't in my pre-planned schedule, it throws everything off. I am also worn out by interacting with people, even close friends - especially if it's spontaneous and unplanned or runs longer than an hour or so. I hate parties, and never host them. I have a gated driveway and keep it closed. Seeing even a friend's car coming unexpectedly down my driveway arouses instant anxiety and suspicion. It always feels like an invasion, Family members - I can stand to have them here for maybe a day or two, but am relieved (and exhausted) when they leave. I always thought I was just a selfish introvert.
I also have intense interests and hobbies that I pursue to the exclusion of almost all else., I can literally get so involved in an activity that I don't eat or take care of bodily needs at all for many hours or sometimes days. I resent being interrupted in these activities and regard them as an extension of my personal space. Music - unless I'm in the mood for it and it is of my own personal selection - is an intolerable cacophony, as is most noise or even conversation, I like silence except for sound of my own choosing, Nature sounds do not bother me, and I find solace and extreme satisfaction in solo wilderness hiking.
I am 60 years old and have been this way since earliest childhood, as far back as I can remember.
Just tell them you'd love to but you have to finish some things and set up something later or next time. If they care about you they'll understand.
I am often a last minute person because I don't know what I want to do until that moment..its annoying cus people are always busy!
@@Pipsqwak Yes. I too used to always think that I must just be a selfish person, or the biggest weirdo for loving my alone time; until I finally discovered that I am autistic! It totally gave me a whole new understanding about myself. Because, getting diagnosed with 5 disorders still didn't explain all of my needs, where I almost never feel lonely.
I often get “angry” at sudden noises. Even after the noise has stopped, I’m not necessarily afraid, but I’m unable to relax as though there is still a threat. My heart will be racing and I have to try my best not to be angry at whoever made the noise. It’s not painful. It’s not scary. It’s just an incredibly uncomfortable energy from within that is hard to express or process because there is no reason for flight, and nothing to fight.
I think my freak, senile, father is one of those suffering autism, often getting mad all of a sudden, misunderstanding in any simple idea, getting fooled by his authority figures. For I know many elders are calm, sensible, not being freak like this at all.
I use to get angry when the teacher would put on music. I saw it as a loud distraction from my work. But I never said anything,because I thought I was the problem
I get angry hearing people chew but I completely shut the anger down because it is so unaccountable and unreasonable.
Unfourtunly my brothers girlfriend was a smasher toilet seats , doors , counters , Wallis she came to live thrre and took over the house then sold it
Look up misophonia - you’ve described exactly how I feel when around noises I find too loud
Buddy I think you may have just explained 50 years of trying to understand the people around me and why I've never felt like I fit in anywhere. Thank you so much for a new road to explore. Until today I had decided that I'm just a terrible person, and no amount of inner struggle would ever change that. Thanks for a little hope my friend.
U might be an INFJ, check it out, it’s mind blowing.
Great 👍🏽
I live alone with my 2 cats. Its heaven for me. I do have a boyfriend he stays over but in a separate room. He is social so I let him have his friends over but will lock myself in my room. I dont mean to be rude but this is just where I feel safe and happy. The smaller the room the better. Socializing is so confusing and exhausting. I'm on disability so I dont work. When I did work I was always so lost. Got bullied alot.. Oh well.
You’re not alone.
If he’s having his friends round to YOUR place, not to his place, it sounds like he’s using you.
hey um Caitlin would you be okey with having a lil chat sometime? (I'm trying to figure myself out, n just interested) not trying to met up or any I live hella far away ^^ greez corinna
I have six cats. I have a difficult time when my girlfriend has a friend or two over for the evening or I must accompany her to visit her friends. Long term relationships are problematic. They confuse me. Jobs have lasted three to four years at most, do not have managerial duties, and I have little in common with my coworkers.
Wow, read my comment above. I have same experiences.
Fantastic . I am in tears. 61 years old and always asked my family." who dropped me on my head when I was a baby" literally.
This is an interesting comment. I kind of jokingly and non-jokingly mention that my parents dropped me on my head when I was a baby. I've never been diagnosed nor have I went in to be diagnosed and am 41 years old but I've always struggled with everything that was mentioned in this video except for the hyper sensitivity of tastes or smells.
The one thing that I do know is that I do not pick up on things that others do and I have always felt kind of "dumb" or just different. When I can focus on a singular task and take all the guess work out of things I am one of the highest achievers in my entire IT department. Social events are really a "fake it to make it" mentality knowing that I need to socialize but it is always awkward for me if I'm not around those that I'm comfortable with and I don't have to worry about people judging me.
I'm 50.... I may be autistic... I was just called "hyper".
Wow! Same age as you Jonathan and this was an eye opener. Several events from my childhood could have masked that I am on the spectrum. Having survived a stroke, it’s difficult for others to understand that this might be underlying my issues - but I feel encouraged to try further
Sign number one
You have a Reddit account
I've always felt brain damaged.... Turns out my brain is just a bit different and I'd have been significantly higher functioning if the world didn't only cater to those that are neurotypical. I'm clever and accomplish quite a bit when I'm left to my own devices. Freedom from the chains of societal expectations while still having the necessary resources that can only be obtained through society makes me quite the industrious cookie.
Your comment on the diference between male and female autistic people was so accurate. I'm an autistic male. I have an autistic sister. She tried her whole life to socialize (not succesfully) and now studies psychology. I havent had friends in years and really would rather be left alone and not deal with anyone.
Don't you think that's rather circumstantial?
I'm a guy, I was tired of not understanding people, I never meant to study human psychology, but I spent my own time learning, and Now I'm a social butterfly who is the life of the party. I still enjoy my me time, and I can still miss a social que here and there (but honestly the more you learn about human behaviour, the more you learn the average person, even a neurotypical really doesn't have the best grasp on all the meanings behind subtle social ques)
@@ChristopherCraven ok.
@@HermitKing731 man I butchered the spelling on a lot of that comment.
Why doesn't CZcams comments auto correct my text like typing in other apps.
..........AND WHY IS IT DOING IT NOW??!
WTF.
My capital text wasn't, but I'm used to that, but seriously for the last few months I've had to re-edit many comments because no auto correct was working.... And it's working in this comment I'm typing to you now, like I can see my (my was ny then I hit space and it became my) text correcting.
Did this bug just get fixed? Did Samsung autocorrect just get defaulted to enabled in the last few hours?
I always feel left out as a nonbinary trans person 😞
@@ChristopherCravenyoure not alone and your comment certainly made me feel less alone, I’ve obsessed over human behavior and trying to decipher social cues in interactions and I never realized I was just trying to play the social game more effectively. I often wondered why I get so obsessive over different topics and why I go on such tangents when I talk. I’m 22 now and I’ve gotten better at conversation, not interrupting constantly; making my points more effectively but it still takes considerable mental effort. I find that outward focus on the other person helps a ton but the more pressure I feel in a certain setting makes that more difficult to achieve. Anyway I’m just glad to feel less alone and understand myself a little better
As an Autistic Adult and Cook, I tend to focus on my work or "tasks" as you called them. No one I work with understands me but, I'm one of the best they have so no one really questions it, the sound of heavy doors closing really drives me nuts and I tend to freak out or get angry.. again no one I work with understands. You're doing a great thing here trying to explain it to the world. Thank you.
I'm definitely all of these, but especially the social one and the home bit. People try to say I'm just an introvert but they don't understand that like... it really does not matter who you are, how nice it feels to be around you, at some point, I will need to recharge on my own, in my own space. People always say "you just haven't found the right people yet" but literally everyone drains me, some just drain me slower than others
I mean... that is literally the definition of intriverted, but ok /lh
That does also count for introverts. The biggest identifier of autism is that it starts in early childhood, if you think you might have autism try to recall, or ask your parents/guardians if you can, if these signs have always been there and caused any struggles growing up.
I’m an introvert too… could I be autistic?
@@jesslilllove2882 me too?
@@jesslilllove2882 You would need to see if you strongly identify with a bunch of the behaviors, including motor skill issues listed in the criteria that you can look up online. Also videos on Autism from people you relate to can help you see if you relate to/identify with certain behaviors and struggles. Being an introvert alone doesn't determine being Autistic.
Also, goes without saying, an evaluation from professionals is the only surefire way of knowing.
The louder eaters & drinkers hell yeah they REALLY irritate me! Also the noise paradox; I hate loud noise, but really love loud music.
Especially when the noisy eater is eating very slurpy pasta! Ack!
I'm just the opposite. I hate loud music a lot more than most other noises such as noisy eaters and drinkers.
I hate loud RAP,cuz you can FEEL it for blocks!I hate RAP period!But I DO love loud ROCK!!🤘🎸
@@rudygracia5573 thats not autism, its racism
Loud music is great, loud people are intolerable
The way I've found to completely dispel the deep sense of loneliness has been to always have at least one project going on, all of the time ... and to keep reading and learning, all of the time as well.
For me, this shift into infinite curiosity has turned my "alone" time into "magical" time.
I hope this inspires whoever reads it. 👍👍👍
My whole life, I felt inadequate. I have never been able to maintain friendships/relationships, preferring alone time rather than social events. I always had communication issues and really struggled with understanding what other people meant or felt. This gave rise to several uncomfortable situations where I did not react in the right way. I’m also extremely sensitive to noises; as I’m writing this, I’m wearing noise-canceling earplugs in my own house.
Sadly, my parents never wanted me to get a diagnosis; they probably didn’t want me to have an “excuse” or a “crutch” and forced me to confront social situations. The result: I avoid those situations at all costs.
To make a long story short, at 34 years old, I finally decided to get evaluated at a psychology/neuropsychology clinic. The process was expensive and took about 2 months, but in the end, I had a diagnosis: ASD Level 1. Receiving this diagnosis really helped me be at peace with myself. I’m not broken; I’m just different. Also, the assessment revealed that I am very bad at identifying emotions on other people's faces, which makes a lot of sense and explains a lot. 😆
Glad you're getting to know more about yourself. Please also remember to take care of your feelings of inadequacy so that you do not project those feelings into your relationships with others.
I'm in the same boat my brother always thought I had bed genes , he's s mean guy who used me to pay his mortgage for 9 years then gave me 2 weeks notice to find a new place well he sold the house with his girlfriend who would harras me night an day and night they moved far away and I've started a new life
@@johntitorii6676Oh wow, I'm sorry you went through that! 😮
I laughed at the wearing ear plugs in my own house because i thought of doing that but thought it was silly so instead i bought noise canceling headphones music or loud videos would drown out everyone around me. I use to be the noisy one thats weird.
@@AcebloomA few days ago, my younger brother told me it was silly to wear earplugs in my own house. I replied that there is nothing silly about being at peace and feeling better. 😅 Just woke up from a great night of sleep thanks to those earplugs. Do what you gotta do. 😂
My husband is on the spectrum, and I learned early on not to have a conversation just to have a conversation. I also learned that he takes everything very literally. It is impossible to joke with him. He’s an engineer (probably no surprise), and he is definitely single-task-oriented. His work as a software developer requires a lot of focus. I can see why there is a high percentage of autistic people in that line of work.
Good luck. My ex had Asperger’s. It ended up with me having to bend myself to his needs until it got to the point where pretty much none of my needs mattered.
You say about not chatting for the sake of it, but I need to be able to talk SOMETIMES even if it was about nothing.
Every day a new thing came up - and he wasn’t aware, or wasn’t bothered, about how difficult anything was for me. If a new food made a smell he didn’t like, if I didn’t get the exact kind of paper towels he wanted, and a billion other things, he couldn’t understand why I ‘couldn’t or wouldn’t’ get it right.
I lived him and I totally understood why he was as he was- but it doesn’t make it any more easy to live with
@@clareshaughnessy2745his is my experience. I have adhd and my “erratic” and “chaotic “ nature is undesirable. I love pink and cute things but I can not have them because they are an eyesore for him. I can’t make an observation without him challenging it with statistics or his own opinions. I can’t really talk about anything except things he is completely uninterested in or I’ll be sitting for hours listening to him ranting about whatever. He wants our future home to be all white and black and I’m not getting a say. He told me I must make a certain salary before he would marry me, shocking me after 5 years of being in a relationship with him. I’m trying to get out because everyday I have to change something about myself to get peace. I just want my own apartment so I can be at peace.
@@________________.. oh, lol, you must have a most interesting household! Do you enjoy it? - mostly enjoy it, obv, no one enjoys their spouse and family all the time
what spectrum does he have problems?' or hes just a super being,, theya re two different things..takes everything very literally. - what your saying is I talk a lot of bulshit and it makes hiim upset, this your problem not his problem..
Maybe you dos stupid jokes...that have no fun,, your brian is fuked up..
No no suprise hes not stupied or retard,
well single-task-oriented. is not a problem.. Some companies need focus people, not people that talk a lot of Bs and do many things and same time but they fail a lot in everything.
@@HappyH4ppyHappy My advice: get out now. You don’t want someone who is that controlling,
When I was in nursing school, I was reprimanded because I was asking too many questions. And I thought to myself can someone learning how to take care of other people really ask too many questions? Thanks for your videos. They are very spot on.
I can relate to this. I’m also a nurse. It’s wrong that people take a good quality and make you feel bad for it. Keep being you 💕 I’d rather have a nurse like you and I, than the ones who already think they know it all ❤ I think the know it all’s are playing with fire in that field.
I was also a very inquisitive child. My Mum always made me feel like it was a bad thing too sadly. In later years, when she realised that’s just who I am, she confessed that she thought I was out to make her feel stupid. I was a child and had no awareness of that at all. I was only ever trying to understand the world we live in.
Sending love. You are not alone ❤
If only I had google growing up…. I’d have been way more introverted than I already am 😂😆😂
@Mr Mrs it’s not a bad thing at all my friend. It’s a bad thing though to take someones good quality and turn it into something bad. Stay away from those people, they are truly dangerous 🫶🏼
@@sjpercy1334 Curiosity is a sign of higher intelligence, nothing to apologize for or ever lessen. Great, rewarding discoveries are made by the curious.
Could be because you have the IQ to be in medical school.
@Mr Mrs There is nothing wrong with asking questions. It explores, learns and profits from the objective world, shows independent critical thinking preparatory to creative, productive, progressive thinking.
I'm a painter and decorator and I always favour refurbishment and renovation contracts where I work on an empty house. I consider those jobs a valuable 40-60 hours a week where I can be alone while being productive.
I have a definite limit of time i can spend interacting with other folk or entertaining guests.
Give me an empty house with plenty of work to do and good tunes. Helps me get focused and calm while also putting food on the table.
miss my old job ... 1 hour tops talking to the staff 2 hours cleaning an empty building 30 mins talking to the cleaners in the main block 2 hours on my own to get home
My new job is 8 hrs non stop team work and customers who like to chat
But new job is more money for hols hobbies home life etc
@@Dndsteve5e adapt
I've been wanting to start doing some small home projects for people because of this lol
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Omena for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this news
I’ve come here because my therapist has brought up autism. I had no idea what was wrong with me but it’s taking over my life, ruling over me 😭 This video just confirms the years and years I’ve struggled and put it down to other things
Learning about yourself, whether you end up being autistic or not, is always pretty difficult. If it is autism - there is nothing wrong with you. This is not to say that there aren't challenges involved with being autistic, namely sensory issues around loud noises and bright lights (for me anyway), but being autistic is not wrong or bad. Just different. I hope you can approach this time with compassion for yourself. It isn't easy, but it's worth it - good luck!
The 1st sign is kinda difficult to say because there are alot of adults that prefer alone time and staying at home away from people because it's pretty tough being a adult.
Pinocchio, the first "Little Boy" of Autism famously never grew up. Neither did "Rain man" or "Forest"
All of these "signs" can easily be characteristics of a normal person. I'm not a fan of this video.
That's really not autistic, just an introvert.
Its tough just being anybody. Life is not always easy.
No, the reason of the first "sign" is neither autism nor "difficult being an adult"... It simply has to do with 1) Old cultural differences between local regions, which is a consequence of variations in evolutionary human genetics, combined with the individual IQ and cultural/societal history. This you will see very much if travelling across Europe and Scandinavia for some years.
Some cultures and towns are or were more communicative, but those tend to also have more crime and/or more of drunkenness and everyday violence if for example in the present-day Balkans, and in the historical Scandinavia. In the UK it is often more a question of working class vs middle class. Working class = more social and talkative, but generally less educated and less polite. Upper middle classs = more educated and polite but less socially active or handling.
In West Scandinavia the outer coast towns are always more communicative because they have a long history of trade with other areas. The inland regions were for a while more isolated due to the aftermath of the black plague+ strict christian pietism and witch-hunting afterwards, shaping the inland Scandinavia as a very shy region culturally/mentally (Higher IQ = more reserved character, because more time is spent on reading science and intellectual literature)
2) Urbanization in present years, which always leads to less communicative and more careful majorities.
Never been diagnosed with autism but i have a lot in common with what you’re saying. I definitely feel like an alien on this planet. Id rather be alone most of the time. I tried to get help but the psychologist told me because i can look her in the eyes im not autistic. What i didn’t tell her is when i look people in the eyes for too long my mind goes blank.
Sounds rough and I find I can look someone in the eyes if I trust them. I don’t look most people in the eyes especially if I feel they might have a negative thought toward me even knowing a lot of that is just in my head. Hope you find a better one if you look again.
I don’t think I like looking people in the eyes either when I think about it.
Lol me too. I do it out of respect but look away a lot so I can process what they're saying
@@KeLLaBee09 I do the same in intense situations. My ex would argue with me and when I'd do it and she said it was disrespectful, and I do that even with work because I am thinking back to the job I did. It's just a way for me to internally focus and block everything else out.
The docs all thought i was lookin in peoples eyes…. I look at their nose or the point between their eyebrows so i can “appear normal” when inside im incredibly uncomfortable someones staring at me for more than a second 🤣 people i know though i can stare into their eyes… i just don’t necessarily “like” doing it?
I’m going to have my first autistic test this Monday. I’m glad autism is starting to be more acknowledged & addressed because growing up with possible autism during Gen X years sucked.
The feelings of isolation from the rest of the planet is what I find myself fighting. Thanks again for your podcast. David... again.
i often feel like i view the world diffrently i work so i can do fun things and to get by but i value a fun work place with a good pay system that helps me budget easier and a job that feels like i matter as an idividual and my boss values me over a well paid job
Others see it as work is a way of life bbut they hate the job because theyre treated as a job role not a person and they just want more pay even if the job is bad
This makes me feel so isolated really and i'm unsure if my thinking is because of my mental [dis]abilites but i think it is ... I don't think i fit the medical terms of autistic but i'm way more autistic(i think as part of my dyspraxia) than most "norma'l"(there really is no normal plus what is seen as normal is social media obbbessions and living your life fully online no ta i enjoy the internet but i'm low tech i hate smart device and only 10% or less of my tv viewing is netflix ect i love airwaves and ariels to get my tv)person
Enjoy your Solitude , mate , it's the best...
Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you Dr Omena for saving my son with your herbs. I’m so happy to share this news
I reconnected with my childhood sweetheart after more than 40 years. She had become a psychologist.
I discovered that I was autistic when she "accidentally" left one of her diagnostic books open on the page that listed symptoms of Asperger's Syndrome. Being a compulsive reader (another autistic trait) I was curious and went down the list, and found out that I met _every one_ of the criteria.
I went to her, book in hand, and said, "Hey! This is me." She just looked at me, with a shake of her head, and said, "Well, Duhh!" 20 years later, we're still together.
Douglas, thank you for sharing your sweet love story! My husband doesn’t know he is on the ASD. Once I figured out that direct communication is the most helpful for our discussions really helped. He is the sweetest, funniest man … my best friend. Cheers!
i loved reading this.
I enjoyed the "accidental" part. I would have told you, had you not put the word in speech marks, that there was no way that was done by accident. Take care, mate.
Glad this tactic didn't annoy you. I've had neurotypicals pull that kind of stuff on me too, and I actually find it offensive. I wish they were just more direct. The claim is that we are the ones with the communication disability, but I found that neurotypicals are very evasive and really don't say what they mean especially in tense situations where they are apparently trying to keep the peace. Yeah, I definitely prefer being alone to being around neurotypicals
thats beautiful!!! im so glad you have such a great relationship, oftentimes psychologists get us so wrong!!
68yrs old and just realising why I think, feel, say and do things the way I do. Have always been "different". Your short video has absolutely hit the nail on the head in describing an autistic adult and ITS ME!!. So thank you!
Go to a doctor ffs
I’ll be 70 soon and like you realizing only now why I’m different. That’s joy itself. It helps me so much to know why I am the way I am. More happy days to come.
51yo here. I always thought I was over sensitive and over anxious; I just don't react well to certain situations, it's mainly noises and smells with me, and the feeling I'm always stood in the way. I know it's totally irrational, my freinds call me mard, which in Northern England means stroppy or 'being difficult'. I always say "hey, that's my best quality!". @@jamesomalley9976
I feel for you friend. Sadly though, when you were young, Autism wasn't a diagnosis Dr's gave without some sort of stigma. So most of the time, the diagnosis of Autism just wasn't given - in Australia anyway, not sure about other places round the world. But I think it might have been similar, because I read stats, and in recent years (2005 - present) diagnosis of Autism have absolutely bloomed around the world. There's no logical reason that there were far less Autistic people before that, it makes sense that the diagnosis just wasn't given or it was misdiagnosed. Regardless, I hope you have managed to find your place I the world & feel like you fit, sometimes that can be the hardest part. Good luck friend 🤞🏻💕 (*less Autistic people proportionately obviously, but the % of Autistic people worldwide is now much, much higher - if that makes sense)
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MY GOD.
I have never felt so seen.
I can't imagine you just went for this video without thinking first about how vulnerable you had to be to do so. With that, THANK YOU. This has been so helpful to me.
Had to smile at “can you just get to the point?” My adult child with ASD tells me that all the time 😊
I wish my family was as warm as you.
They'd bite my head off, belittled me, or slapped me for anything like this
Diagnosed at 17, before Autism was fully understood, I spent the next 50 years learning to 'fake' normalcy, before I accepted my atyp brain. I was fortunate to be found by a person who, without knowing anything about autism, accepts, even revels in my oddities, and has helped me to (if not transcend) face, understand and manage them when in the 'normal' world.
It's not a defect... it's one of many choice that nature choose for her children.... maybe it's wrong... but maybe it's right.
I find no reason why the home should not be safe.
@@GregMoress Agree. I call it a variant rather than a disorder. There are some things that are harder, true, but in other areas (focus, intelligence, honesty, compassion) I think we excel!
I sure do relate to a lot of what you discussed. I am 60 and feel like I am undiagnosed autistic. Human relationships have never worked out for me. I love animals and relate to them, especially cats. It is very challenging for me to work, and hate office buildings with the over bright fluorescent lights. They make me feel really tense and uptight. Struggling with depression because I feel so alienated from people. Just can’t seem to connect.
I can sympathize, Lily Cat. I'll be 70 soon and altho' my doctor has mentioned that maybe I should get assessed I don't really know if there's a point. It is what it is. I've learned to be patient with myself, but sometimes life is a little tough. Hang in there, Lily Cat.
@@amjPeace maybe once you get officially diagnosed you can start researching on your traits and get to know and understand yourself better. Best of luck 🌻
Hi Lily, same with me and it seems people always try to make my life at work miserable so I am leaving on a regular basis. If u feel depressed, try changing your diet. No additives in food, try to cook for yourself, lesser sugar. I am on keto and low carb and it changed my life.
@@tarot-karma-online Me too, I lowered my carbs significantly and I feel like I can finally think. I also feel a lot less stress everday
I relate to that so much. I was always closer to the cats in my family than the humans. Sometimes I feel like one of those feral children raised by cats.
I had a a relationship with this girl once and she nicknamed me ‘jimmy cat” she could recognise it in me. I’m so comfortable alone. Sadly I have no cat as my work/life style pattern doesn’t allow for it. It pains me deeply.
The paradox! YES! That's a HUGE one and can lead to resentment because of the lack of reciprocity! A loud person with sound sensitivity. It's a hard one to fathom.
You are absolutely amazing! Watching your videos has made my whole life fall into place! I am 82 and watching your videos has been the biggest eye opener for me. Most of your story is my story. I have been in neurotypical drag for 82 years. Never diagnosed or even tested for being on the spectrum but it fits from as early as I can remember. I don't need a diagnosis as I have lived most of my life and now have arranged my life in retirement to allow me to be myself. This summer I had shoulder surgery and had a royal meltdown upon awakening from anesthesia. I won't bore you with details but I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I always thought something was so wrong with me as a child because I couldn’t talk to others or have normal conversations. Looking back now, I think someone with autistic traits would be so much more vulnerable to abuse by peers and adults. Kids with autism are more socially isolated, and maybe more likely to put themselves in situations where they’re alone, or not as able to recognize predatory behaviors.
Can be both sides. There also is the option that they have a very strong moral compass of their own and won't do anything that goes against it. Especially illegal stuff is often against what an autistic person would even consider doing
Something IS wrong with you!
@@Wandering_Chemistnothing wrong with being autistic mate
Ye ye ye . Such b--x
Parents must teach their son self-esteem and most importantly to not let people bully them, and to report it straight away, building confidence in a child is very important this what will keep him safe.
I’m a veteran with PTSD. I feel like there’s a general disconnect between me and anyone who hasn’t experienced things that I have. One of the things I do as a coping mechanism is that I spend a lot of time turning inward with my thoughts and being by myself. My son is autistic (Asperger’s syndrome) and he fits perfectly with your description. I think that I actually understand him better because of the few similarities in our conditions. By the way, as a Gulf War veteran, I have a 30% higher likelihood of having a child with autism because of what ever I was exposed to during Desert Storm. Thank you for sharing your insights so that the rest of the average (normal is a terrible description because it is a relative term, what is normal for me is not normal for anyone else) people can treat you with the respect that all people deserve until they prove individually that they don’t deserve respect.
I believe the word that’s more used now is “Typical”. You’re so right about the word normal. Not sure if typical is the best word either but it’s an improvement.
When I saw your comment a few minutes ago, it really hit hard. My children's dad was a Desert Storm vet too. My children struggled with some symptoms described here too, but we always thought it was ADD, but my grandson is definitely on the spectrum. He also has loose joints and had borderline kernicterus by day 3 as well. Can anyone point me in the direction of some good research on DS related issues w kids?
Dude, I'm also a vet (Army) and deal with PTSD in the form of hypervigilance syndrome. After listrning to this, I don't know if part of my challenges also don't put me on some level/spectrum of Autism. Some things he describes fit me to a T. Others don't bother me. For instance I can drive with windshield wipers squeaking and totally ignore it, but other things just freak me out. I don't like crowds and large social situations like parties, but I don't know if that is the PTSD or Autism talking. I've developed coping skills bimut they leave me mentally, emotional, and physically drained.
It's the vaccines. Seen statistics on MS ALS Autism etc from The Gulf War
@@pawpawstew PTSD and autism are completely different disorders even though some characteristics are similar. PTSD is treatable especially with a therapist who knows how to integrate MDMA into treatment. MDMA in a clinical setting can work wonders for PTSD.
This is so confusing. I have PTSD from a very traumatic early life. I'm starting to question everything because literally everything listed in this video are things I live with daily.
I'm crying. You just described my whole life while I tried to socialize and I never, ever heard someone describe my entire life in a couple minutes CZcams video. I don't even know what to do with this information ... that's crazy. Thank you for this, I guess a big journey starts right here
I’m crying too omg 🥹 I’m just ready to be myself without judgment. I’m tired of masking.
My sense of smell is crazy. I caught an infection early in one of our cats because I smelled it. People have learned to trust my sniffer.
I grew up in a place where strong smells were common, and only occasionally pleasant. I guess I had, in sheet self defence to learn to pay little attention to smells.
I was at a friend's house... sitting on the couch, I thought I smelled urine (this friend had a dog, cat, and a rabbit). My friend shrugged it off. Later, I got up to use the bathroom and when I came back, my friend had pulled the couch away from the wall and discovered that mice had been using the carpet under the couch as their bathroom. So, yeah, I dont ignore what I smell.
My super sniffer has helped me identify what's going on with patients in the hospital. It can also be the bane of my existence when I'm taking care of someone with candida or really bad BO
I smoke, I use it as a smell shield. I am comfortable with the smell of tobacco. Without it, all the other smells would drive me crazy!
@@peterbelanger4094 same here. the worst is the smell of trash or rotting meat. somehow it smells sweet to me and the fact it smells sweet makes me think something is wrong with me. any smell that i can smell over the tar in my lungs kinda just makes the day harder
Dude your videos HELP ME MORE THAN ANY BOOK I HAVE EVER READ AND MORE THAN ANY INFORMATION I HAVE EVER BEEN GIVEN.
You are doing a great public service and giving us the means to communicate our differences to NT people. Skills that i dont have without these videos.
Thank you.
Thank you. Your video "rings true" to me.
Sometimes I share this quote with people:
"If someone understands, no explanation is necessary ...
.... But if they DON'T understand, no explanation will do!" 🤣
Thank you again.
@Orion Kelly I am in my 60's and realized why I have trouble with people, stay in a lot, play video games like racing games, I get along with dogs and children. Am I really Autistic, I can multi-task while cooking but otherwise one thing at a time or I lose my sh*t. I get along with my wife of 36 years but have trouble every so often when she wants to vent. I love you for making this video. Thank you. I thought I was just an assh*le. A sign on my kitchen wall read, "Dogs Welcome people tolerated".
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Lol. Want to love people. They’re certainly interesting… but so difficult. And can be mean.
LOVE and cherish dogs and children.
the "get to the point" thing is something i relate with so hard, it's so vastly much easier to interact with my dad and my brother because they will just say what they want to say and that's it, whereas my mom will blab on for five minutes and it drives me nuts
So much this, and I'm NT. Just convey info please, i hate rambling and pointless blather.
That's an anciently evolved basic gender difference: females are twice as verbal as males, and by physiology more emotional and less action oriented.
Starting the day with a good laugh,,, "5 minute blab" 😂
Maybe a lot of daughters are autistic, I hear the same complaints about their mothers in many daughters I met. Of course this is an intent of a joke
@@JudgeJulieLit That makes me think my husband and I should go get brain scans or something lol. We're opposite to this.
@@middleofnowhere1313 almost all of this stuff is normal behavior. frauds in medical coats have made people think they have a disorder when its actually normal. all people are different in a lot of ways. most of whats described on this channel is simply introvert behavior
Thank you so much for this video 😢
1) Alone-time: Protects their safe space too much
2) Communication: Dissects conversations by asking detail-oriented questions & can quickly be disinterested in conversations
3) Inward-focused: In their own world
4) Executive function: struggles with multi-tasking - strong priority for tasks
5) Sensory challenges: all kinds, loud noises, etc.
My son has what used to be called, "Asperger's Syndrome". He is all of what you said! He lives with me and will be 44 in a few months. I have learned a lot over the years how to understand him, but life with him can still be difficult. Sensitivity to noise is called, "Misophonia", and my son has that to a very high degree!
I was diagnosed with autism at age of 73. I was so excited about this as it explained my whole life. I was also diagnosed with hyperacusis 11 years ago. Lots of ear protection. Slowly God has been healing this. To put it into perspective, this spring was the first time I could hear a bird sing in 11 years and not have severe pain in my ears. "Get to the point, don't ask how I'm doing if you really don't want to know, give me a deserted island with a coffee and muffin each morning..." is the story of my life. I have learned to say....no, i don't want to be around people 😮. Everyone...have a great day
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sure it will give others some hope. I believe it's given me some hope.
What took you so long to get diagnosed?
Curious because my mother is in her late 60s and refused several recommendations from her doctor to visit the psychologist office.
She has all the mental and physical (stomach pain) symptoms of Autism.
I truly believe my mother will never get checked for Autism.
Autism has many gut issues...lucky us. Going to a psychologist, in my book, a waste of time and money. Google autism diagnoses in older women on CZcams. Much information about this spectrum. Olivia Hops youtube is good. Autistic from the inside youtube.
you can see the freedom of it. Autism used to be called aspergers...but not anymore. If your mom can operate the simple way to google..she will enjoy the information. Good luck.
I've said it before and I'll say it again, it's so crazy how much autism and ADHD have in common! People with ADHD have many of the same traits and ticks, the degree is just lower or higher. I'm SUPER bothered by noises and can't multitask for the life of me and frequently interrupt long trains of thought so as not to get lost, but I have no hypersensitivities nor difficulty interpreting intent or socializing, generally speaking, but just like autism, I can find myself blowing up over very "minor" things like safe-space invasions or changes in plans. Wild!
My partner is ADHD and I'm mildly Autistic - from experience I totally concur!
ADHD is common in everyone. It's a side effect of our fast paced media society. TV may be the biggest contributor there. We are over stimulated as a whole. That's why everyone appears to have "ADHD". it's really a b.s. condition, we all just need to slow down in our lives.
Autism... that appears to be neurological damage and it's effects on behavior. We live in a very chemically toxic world that is doing more damage that people with lots of money want to admit.
Lol I have both and if I an honest I really struggle to tell the difference, both just kinda blend into one state of being.
@@peterbelanger4094 that's correct... "autism" wasn't nearly as prevalent 100 years ago
@@peterbelanger4094 I have ADHD and I don't own a tv and my screen time is less than an hour a day. ADHD doesn't come from watching TV 😂
I've lived with it for 63 years. One of my earliest memories is of a Dance Recital when I was 4 years old. We were supposed to be doing ballet and I was doing tap. The teacher made an angry face at me from the front row. So I turned my back to the audience and kept tap dancing. Seems indicative of how I've been living since then!
I turn 41 in a couple of weeks, and I'm in tears bc I finally make sense to myself. My entire life makes sense now. Everything snapped into place all at once and the relief came in so gently like a comforting hug. Thank you so much. ❤
The idea of “conversational implicature” helps me. The attack part when misunderstood is a sign of trauma IMO, which most neural atypical folks develop due to a lifetime of feeling misunderstood/dismissed.
I proper snapped at my friends on holiday a few weeks ago over a very hungover breakfast... I can't remember exactly what I said but they all took it the wrong way and it just set me off so much. So sick of people taking what I say totally the wrong way...
I’m not diagnosed or anything but I relate to a lot of what you said here. I used to just think I was an introvert but I think autism spectrum makes a whole lot more sense for me.
My brains melting rn... I'm in the same boat I've always just assumed that I didn't like people but here I am relating to way too much of this video
Came to the comments to see how far I had to scroll before seeing the first " I relate to things in this video, therefore I will now treat this video as a doctor confirmed diagnosis of autism" comment. To the surprise of nobody, I didn't have to scroll at all since this was the second comment from the top.
@@kartzzy6101 you’re reaching with that. All I said was autism makes more sense that what I was previously thinking. I grew up thinking something was wrong with me but not knowing what. There’s a whole lot of context behind my comment that you don’t know anything about.
@justjosh4035 obviously I'm reaching. I made a comment that is entirely one big over generalization. It's just under every video like this, there are the same group of people that self relate and take that as a diagnosis confirmation
@@kartzzy6101 You're taking a comment of someone relating to the experiences of autistic people as them self diagnosing. Nowhere is she self diagnosing. Lots of people with autism got diagnosed after noticing there was something different about themselves, after which they got a professional evaluation. People are allowed to write comments expressing that they relate to autism and wonder if they too are autistic.
Talking just to talk is terrific! Sharing stories to get to know each other better feels wonderful! My two children with autism need me to encourage them to speak so we are a great match!!
I believe that I have aspergers. I display all these signs, I always knew that I was different but although I have not been diagnosed it resonates so deeply. Very comforting to know after all these years. Thank you so much for posting this 👏❤️
I was diagnosed this year at 52 years old with Aspergers (though apparently, this label doesn’t technically exist anymore). My daughter told me to get tested after working with kids with these kind of issues. This video describes me exactly. You are an amazingly brave man and I applaud you.
Woah! Your Ass can make Burgers? That’s friggin cool’ what’s your secret sauce
may I ask if you were able to get the testing done using insurance? I would love to be able to be tested but cannot afford the cost on my own.
@@nikkistaniewski
I'm a Brit, normally we go through the NHS medical service. But it takes so long (6 years), I decided to go private.
It is caööed autism level one now but it is The same rhing
I've just broken down in tears watching this video. Finally I've found someone else like me. Thank you for sharing this video. I don't really have any words to express how I'm feeling right now.
being understood is a great privilege in life, the internet is wonderful
*hug* I completely get it It's very alienating feeling like you are the only one
I've been fully out since 2020, zany sense of humour, the lot. After years of masking and emotional breakdowns, I felt I couldn't take it. As others have described, people can find me annoying and rude because I am so truthful and can't sit still,(I have ADHD as well.) I have prayed for healing, nothing so far. Yes, I do often feel left out and am constantly getting funny looks. However, I feel I've earned the right to be the neighbourhood character, with people shrugging their shoulders and telling strangers that I'm relatively harmless. Ggggrrrh! Occasionally, some other oddball will rejoinder with some witty repartee and touchee, it's wonderful
Inward focus & disengagement is well demonstrated in this track from The Front Lawn [88] czcams.com/video/FOPo_LJ8FqA/video.html
Just discovered your channel today.
I haven't left my apartment except to get groceries for about a month now. Today something possessed me and I've been on an autism deep dive all day.
I'm astonished by the overlap here, and I strongly suspect I have undiagnosed Autism based on how many "flags" I resonate with. Your burnout videos in particular had me choked up because it described perfectly how I've been operating these past few weeks.
I used to just attribute all my nuerodivergency as part of my ADHD diagnosis, but it never occurred to me there could be something else at play.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I now have a whole new world of autism resources and literature I can work through to help me better understand how to structure my life so that I can function better.
Thank you for the video. I have been saying my husband was autistic for about a year now and your video really helped to understand what he is going through. So thank you
I'm recently diagnosed. For much of my life I just felt misunderstood by everyone around me. These traits are so very me. It's taken me a while, but I finally found my tribe. 😊
Ah, okay. I was wondering why people seem to seek a diagnosis. To find their tribe.... are there any other useful things that happen with a diagnosis? I can see how it would be helpful for parents to have a pattern diagnosis so as to use certain ways of educating and raising the child with aspergers . But how can that help an adult?
I might have aspergers, but since our mother raised us to be grateful for the fact that no two people are created the same, I guess my tribe is humanity and my family is God’s.❤
Has it become more difficult for you since you have been diagnosed? How has life changed for you with a diagnosis? Thank you for your time if you are able to respond
@@granmabern5283 In USA an autism diagnosis can qualify one for disability benefits.
getting diagnosed with disorders can help you cope more properly, i find. my whole life i've been called "broken" by adults for always being injured yet not partaking in any crazy activities (bc i got hurt so easily). i have had many drastic health issues my whole life, which i won't get into bc my comment would be so much longer.. but i've been in and out of hospital since i was about 11. i was diagnosed with ehler's danlos syndrome about two years ago (i just turned 24 last month♈️) and it has helped me TREMENDOUSLY to be able to take care of myself properly & has helped me mentally as well.. i used to cry a lot about being so hurt all the time & trying so hard to stay un-injured, rather unsuccessfully. but having my diagnosis makes it easier to not be so hard on myself .. like "it's okay. my body/mind is just different this way and i have to take care of myself a little differently."
i have some mental issues as well... my older bro has ASD & is high functioning, i am much like him in many ways.. & i do think getting an official diagnosis would help me balance things in life a little easier.. and it would probably help with my breakdowns and feeling constantly overstimulated to the point of freaking out every so often... have been working on that though..
i have started hand waving in public during my shifts sometimes, it's usually an unconscious action, but i definitely used to repress it a lot more.. i'm just trying to care less abt what others think and hoping they'll be accepting & not judge. to hard.. a few of my co-workers have autistic kids & i think that helps, too.
it's almost as if, when you are undiagnosed, your issues are more of an obstacle, but i feel once you have a diagnosis, you can use your "disorder" as a sort of advantage in certain ways, if that makes any sense.. maybe others who have been diagnosed can relate to what i am saying as well. but no matter what, i think getting an official diagnosis is key when you have any problems 👍🏼 i was actually the one to bring up feeling like i have EDS with my doctor.. my advice would be to speak up for yourself. no harm can be done is trying to better yourself ☮️💟 good luck to everyone 🍀
@@granmabern5283 Victimhood is currency in modern society.
Being able to say "I'm autistic" makes you one of the "good people".
You're no longer subject to standards of being normal.
I relate to everything here. I am a high functioning autistic, and due to how others treated me I do not want anyone near me that has no regard for my feelings. When others tell me to be myself, and I am myself they get angry and at that point it's time for me to leave their space. I learned the hard way that being fake is celebrated and being yourself is not. I can focus both outwardly and inwardly. I desire to be alone most of the time because I learned that my energy is not free, and not everyone deserves to be around me. I love human contact, but I NEED my alone time. I'm constantly misunderstood despite the fact I'm presenting things in a plain, controlled and orderly manner.
I usually approach a situation with an open mind but knowing it's likely going to go badly. So I'll start high masking and give them a taste of my odd sense of humor, or discuss something a normal person would consider odd. If they engage in an interesting and open minded way, then I reduce how much I mask as the conversation continues. This way I know if they are closed minded and not worth talking to, or if they are open minded, and the extent to which I can talk to them. So I know the people I can maintain a shallow relationship with, like hanging out at the bar, and the people I can have deeper relationships with, like sharing interests and hanging out at someone's home.
Never get diagnosed , find other autistic friends
@@blackoak4978 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 yes!
What you described isn't autism, just common introvert behavior.
@@incremental_failure Not true. You have no clue who I am or what I've been through. Ask me my story first before making assumptions.
Just recently, I was diagnosed, and it was like a weight lifted. That my entire life was mishandled until now. So, at 53, I finally have the answers to why I have been the way I have been.
That was great video to watch. The level of self-recognition with like every sentence was also sobering. Jeez, that type of videos help so much, thank you Orion that you do them. And you do them good, like the level of information, you really don't bore :D
Compact and the level of informational density, well spoken, thank you so much.
Sorry about the bad grammar, my head rings from hearing someone else telling me almost exactly with what I'm struggling. Thank you so much.
"Do you know what the difference between autism and psychopathy is? Not very much to the untrained eye." This is a point I've communicated to a few people. It's also easily confused with comorbidities such as ptsd, mood disorders, ocd, substance abuse, or disassociative disorders. Often a person that has nothing wrong with them can be misdiagnosed and over medicated simply for being introverted
I would say 'for being autistic,' not for being introverted, but otherwise I agree with you.
@@mstmarieprov okie dokie :)
Agree. This guy is definitely not autistic in any way
Being autistic is definitely and absolutely different compared to all of these things. I am a high functioning autistic person who has ptsd, ocd, is addicted to nicotine and have dissociation issues all the time. I could tell you that some of these things combine with the Austism. Certain sounds unrelated to my PTSD activates my PTSD. my OCD is part of the Autism. I must have a chaotic location in a very clean room. And I mean very clean room. Like that room specifically, whatever room it is, is spotless. Except for on the back left corner of the table which has two wrappers from candy, a battery and a pencil to hold down the wrappers. I use vapes, because and I'm not kidding, the vapor is pretty and I the dissociation has made it on occasion take 30+ minutes for me to be able to leave work. It's not a total disaster, I can think, I'm just not thinking right at all and can only make very big decisions like not driving. I also don't remember anything happening except me making the big decision but not where I was when I did. I also dissociate when I do the things I love. Like writing, I can read what I wrote and it's like reading someone else's work. I dunno it might just be, it's me but not really me. As a side note, psychopathy or sociopathy might seem to be a problem in an autistic person from the outside, but it's not what the problem is. In fact Autism is not a problem In high functioning individuals. They are likely to be much smarter than the average Joe. They make far less stupid decisions based on emotions and generally work harder and faster to get a job done.
Yeah, for several of these, I thought, "OK, so sensitive introvert equals autistic?"
*6:42* - I vividly remember my third grade teacher telling me to move onto the next math problem when I couldn't understand one. My dad was in my classroom after the school day was over with to pick me up that day, and he and my teacher were both trying to provide a working solution to my problem of not being able to complete the work on time, but I just could not proceed forward until I understood the one problem that my brain was vise-gripped onto. 😵💫
Thanks for sharing, I can relate. I remember I was once taken out of class in the middle of the day to do a random test, while I was in primary school (I think it was 2nd grade). 2 or 3 children were picked out of every class, if I remember correctly and we were told to do "a math test".
I was very frustrated by this incident. Nobody told me there would be a math test, so I stressed out about not being prepared and I was even more frustrated about having to leave class in the middle of a lesson, in front of all the other kids, when I was already putting so much energy into masking, because I was picked on for being "the weird one" and I was also focused on the lesson that day and on top of that, they didn't allow me to pack up my things, I was supposed to leave everything, so I was worried about what will happen to my stuff when I don't get back in time. I asked the teacher who pulled us out of class a bunch of questions, but they told me to be quiet as we were walking down the corridors, and I was even more frustrated with the fact that all the other kids didn't seem to mind that disturbance and didn't ask any questions.
They sat us down one by one in a specific order in one large room, kids of all ages mixed together, and we all had to do the same test. Everything was so bizzarre and incomprehensible to me, that I was on the brink of a meltdown. Nobody really explained what was going on and people seemed annoyed about my question. Then they handed out the tests, they were multiple pages long and didn't look like any other math test up to that point, mostly shapes and patterns. Then they told us to leave very quietly when we finish the test (or get bored with it) and wait outside the door until everyone was finished and another teacher tells us what to do next.
I was one of the last children to leave, because I could not finish the test. I didn't even get past the first question, because according to that question, I had to divide a square in half following a squence of 4 already divided squares and my answer was supposed to complete the sequence without repeating any of the previous suggestions, all the previous had cracked lines and I didn't see any way to do another similarily cracked line, that would divide that square in half, other than the ones already printed. The only option was to cut the remaining square with a straight line, but that would not fit the pattern according to my undertsanding, so I was sitting there for an hour or two, blankly staring at the first question, getting more and more frustrated about the whole situation, not knowing what I am even doing there, but I could not leave, because I was told to leave once I finished the test and I couldn't even start it.
Nobody ever explained the whole situation afterwards either, but they did announce some of the results. I was mad when they told me the answer to the first question was just a straight line. I couldn't get over it, as far as I was concerned, that would be a different pattern, because there wer many ways to divide a square in half using only straight lines and a straightr line did not belong in a sequence of cracked lines. I handed my papers over without any answers, a blank test with my name on it. Looking back at it it was obviously some random IQ test, probably for statistical purposes and I wonder how they interpreted my case. I only remember our class teacher being very dissapointed with me after the test results, because she saw me as gifted I guess and she couldn't understand why I did so bad. Can one even get an IQ score of zero? 😅
Oh my dear, I feel you so hard!!! I can relate with dozens of situations like this. Thank you for sharing!
@@Seamannon I am so sorry that happened to you. This is why it's *_crucial_* that public schools be more educated about neurodivergent children and what to identify. I wonder how many other neurodivergent kids have fallen through the cracks like that because the public schools' cookie cutter assembly line way of looking at "results".
@@WorthlessDeadEnd Thanks :)
It's not my worst school experience, not even anywhere near my top 10 worst school memories, but it seems so completely unnecessary and absolutely avoidable, that's what bothers me most about it I guess...
Just some more clear communication.
It saddens me deeply when I think of other kids being judged as dimwitted by their authority figures, due to a lack of respect, care and transparency on the adult's side!
I know that the job of a teacher in a public school is a very demanding and difficult one, yet I still believe we can do much better in the future as a society, when we stop expecting kids to always just "understand" adults and start with more curiosity to understand the child's perspective first. We're all backwards with our early education system.
School f$&king SUCKED for me. I was always seen as “different “. F#&ing hated school! I’m just glad autism is starting to be more acknowledged.
Thank you so much my 25-year-old son has just been diagnosed with autism and Asperger's and it is really been upsetting to just not know what all this is. And so now I'm trying to find out more from CZcams videos because my son is just brilliant and so kind and so loving and I want him to have a wonderful life. Thank you so much for your big smile and your kindness and honesty for sharing your life and it is makes me feel very good knowing that there's people like you out there and you seem to be doing just fine and helping others so thank you I subscribed.
Love your channel and insights! You make serious things very clear and yet oddly entertaining!! Let me clarify. You’re not odd!! The juxtaposition of a serious and important topic, delivered with humor! I learn so much from you! It’s so appreciated!!
My husband is definitely Autistic. He spends hours and hours playing World of Warcraft. He hates visitors, but when we get them, he can totally ignore their presence; not because he is a nasty person, he just doesn’t realise they are there. If I want to tell him a story, he will say, how long is this going to take? Not because he doesn’t like me, but because he needs to know. I have to make sure the labels are cut off his clothes - precisely- because they irritate him. I can ask him what 237 x 418 is and he’ll answer quicker than a calculator. He has to practice conversations and always asks me if he comes across ok. He never plays mind games and wouldn’t dream of cheating on me. I love my darling, quirky husband so much ❤
Just wondering, does he show affection towards you? Or is he more robotic with no emotions? Because I think my husband is also autistic, but sometimes I do think he is narcissistic too. Share your experience so that I can understand better. Thanks 👍
How did u neet
Maybe he just really REALLY likes Minecraft?
Aww!! That is so sweet of you for having that love and understanding with your hubby. I hope my son will meet someone like you someday. He is 9 and it seems like he has the same symptoms of ASD as your husband. Diagnosed at 9 yrs old coz we just thought he does not have it till social interactions come in play.
Or he is just like most others who play WoW who basically become addicted to it and cares more about it than other things. And he’s like most men who don’t talk much and don’t like to listen to others who talk a lot. Both things are extremely common.
It honestly feels incredibly good to hear someone else talk about these things. 😢
Brilliant, your delivery and the factual information you shared was truly eye opening. Thank you most sincerely.
My husband has Asperger‘s, I’ve learned so much more about him in this 10 minute video than I have in nearly 12 years 😮Also a few things about myself
Really? After 12 years you didn’t know how precious his personal space was and that it makes him genuinely sad to not be able to finish what he started, that he asks questions to make sure he understands and that some noises are extremely unpleasant to him? Been married for 11 years myself, I hope she knows that already :).
Being sensitive to smells is a small thing that changed my entire life. I can smell everything hyper-focused and scents are very closely associated with emotions and memories, but I don't really dislike any smells (including human decomposition, which I'd find out). It got me into researching olfactory systems and all that fancy stuff, and since I loved animals it got me into animals' insane use of smells, which got me into now training Search and Rescue dogs specializing in human remains detection and recovery.
Since I got very good at training and behavior modification, I'm also a behaviorist for a local large animal shelter, personally specializing in rehabilitating dangerous and aggressive dogs, too, and giving the "unmanagable" dogs a real job with other professional handlers.
All that cause I was a bit more sensitive to smells than most people I know. 😂
I also have an enhanced sense of smell. I smell everything a long time before others. There are a lot of smells that I can’t tolerate. Elevators are a special treat with the BO, smokers and cologne it’s an unpleasant assault. Good for you putting it to work for you. I tell people it’s not a good superpower to have.
For me that's sound. Like, I know where everyone is in my house and what they're doing.
You may have sensory-seeking tendencies for scents! Most people know about sensory-avoidance in autism, but sensory-seeking is just as common. I'm sensitive to light and can get headaches if I go out without sunglasses, but I noticed I have a lot of visual sensory-seeking behaviors
@@Reticulating-Splines I could see that. I love textures too; I have to touch everything I walk past to see what it feels like, especially anything resembling fur or leather. During the worst of covid I just had to wear gloves whenever I went out in addition to the mask, and I always wear thin reusable gloves at potential crime scenes where my dogs are needed. 😷 It wouldn't be great for me to touch or sniff a damp spot on the ground to see if it's blood and find out it actually is.
I'm glad I don't have much light sensitivity, or I'd lose it on the river with all the bright reflections! That sounds unpleasant.
I love that response. It kind of encapsulates the whole autistic thing. lol Smell is the sense most closely linked to memory. It leads to a lot of inner reflection. I wonder if our sharpened sense of smell is the key to the whole thing?
Along the same lines of being lost in one's own world, people sometimes have to say my name twice before I'll respond. It just takes a few seconds for me to process the input. By the time I respond, I know my name has been called twice. This is especially true when I'm focusing on some task or else just thinking really hard 😊
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We had to call my dad like 4 times getting louder each time before he would look up.
Oommggg ME!! 🙋🏻♀️ So relatable!
What a mood. People will ve talking to me and if they don't say my name at least once first, I don't even notice it.
Sometimes I kinda get it ghe first time, but I need to complete the thing I'm doing or the thought I'm having before responding
Loud people, snooty attitudes, gum/denture smacking, loud music, broken promises, nasty personal hygiene, but I ROCK with multitasking!!
So much love and gratitude for you opening up and sharing your awesome self and truths ❤
Absolutely 100%. I won't even answer the door if I'm not expecting someone. Won't look...don't care! Ditto with my phone. If I don't recognize the number or name, if I'm not expecting a call...I don't answer. I can't stand a bunch of noise in my house, running around, going in and out. Yet I'll listen to things loudly because of a hearing issue and in my car..alone...I have the music full blast. Of course it is a playlist I created! Ha! Dumb conversations, or conversations with dumb people, are a reason I'll walk away. I guess I appear rude and selfish. But I just don't care. I DO care deeply about certain people and that is enough for me. Don't need or want a bunch of people around, and I don't care about having many friends.
I think we might be twins... 😂
If there's a knock at my door, I go into ninja mode, trying to silently determine who's there without giving away my position. But doesn't everybody?😄
I have to pause fictional tv shows or movies when and skip when dumb stuff happens to bad when dumb stuff is like a big concept of the movie (looking at you tenet)
@@kimberleyedwards833 so happy when its just the postman
you and people like you wouldnt have enjoyed my childhood. At least once a month we'd all go to grandma and grandpas and all the aunts and uncles and cousins would be there. It was nice big farm and us grandkids would constantly be in and out of the house, playing outside but coming in to get snacks or hugs from grandma and she loved it. When kids came in the aunties would all ask questions 'what are you guys up to? be careful out there, and dont tease the animals! heres a cookie'. i came from a VERY social family and i loved it. I miss those group gatherings.
And the entire day was 'small talk', everyone catching up, asking kids about school, asking grandpa about the tractors, wanting to help with things. pretty much everything would be considered 'unimportant' to you guys i guess.
I grew up being told by my parents that I was ADD, but I only found out a year or so ago that the doctors thought I could have been on the spectrum but if I was, it was minor.
I display many of these symptoms, however I fit in pretty good with others. I think what has helped me is that because as time has gone on, I taught myself to see little social cues/changes in peoples expression, voice, maybe how their mouth trembles etc. I’ve learned to know when I’m maybe crossing lines from friendly banter or “normal” interactions and when maybe I’m monologuing or rambling on too much, or asking too many questions.
I also found what helped is only investing my time into people who love to chat/discuss various topics, whether political, intellectual or philosophy etc. they have no problems chatting/having healthy debate over subjects, which makes me feel like I fit in much more.
I also learned that all most people want is a friendly hi, maybe a how are you and that’s it. Surface/superficial stuff, they only keep that deep and personal stuff for a few people in their close circles. So just cause I’m an open book on everything and am curious to understand what makes others tick/how they see things so I can anticipate what things to chat about/avoid so I don’t end up in a bad social situation, doesn’t mean they want to be pestered.
Sigh. It’s a battle. But I feel like I’m winning it. If any others on the spectrum are struggling, You’re all doing better than you think you are! Hang in there.
This sounda eerily familiar..
Same here 😅
I feel seen, but sadly a bit embarrassed that I am acutely aware of my children’s ASD, but completely blind to my own
Don't be embarrassed. There are millions of us who were missed, particularly women and BIPOC.
@@kickpt8153
1. I don't like social events. I prefer my own company.
2. I can't hold eye contact for long as I feel uncomfortable. I trip over my own words sometimes because I'm aware of my own voice and how people may perceive me.
3. I arrive at work an hour early so I can 'settle into the environment'.
4. I hate change.
5. I feel as though I have little to no emotion.
6. I think very deeply all the time (philosophically).
7. I don't like bright environments. I prefer low light conditions.
8. I have very little interest in other people's lives, stories, experiences.
9. I don't like others being close to me.
10. Regarding my performance at work or peoples comments about me as a person etc, even in a sea of positive comments I will fixate on the one negative point and do everything to amend that but never forget it. This drives me nuts.
No idea if any of this is autism or I'm just a depressed sounding loner or sociopath 😅 Any thoughts?
OMG you described me! I’ve always thought I was ‘odd’. I’m glad I stumbled across this video.
What an extraordinary learning piece this is! Thank you for producing it 👍🏼
When I was a kid half a century ago, my mom protected me by making sure I never got labeled by the government/medical community. It wasn't until I was married for several years that I realized that I was on the spectrum, but I had hints in college. All of a sudden all sorts of things made sense. The things you mentioned here are exactly what the tools to make me understand better how to relate.
Now a days people are diagnosed and helped there’s many therapies that improve the lives of autistic ppl nothing to be ashamed of or hidden 🙄
I HATE labels also. Thats why I don't go get diagnosed but at least it makes sense to me.
Sorry why would the official label matter?
@@HallyVee They enable official discrimination.
@@AndyDeMontana what does that look like? And wouldn't it also enable official help?
I love every part of this. 🙌🏼💓 Especially point 2. I tell my partner somewhat regularly to "get to the point"! People talking without a purpose? Whyyyy? 💀
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Studied psychology to figure out why people do what they do, what motivates them. What I’ve learned: It’s likely if someone is talking and it’s not to ask for help or problem solve, then they are trying to regulate an uncomfortable emotion. I’d say it’s like stimming with the vocal cords, except they really are looking for an emotionally empathetic response, so that’s why they involve another person.
@Leahlei for me it can be like that, but I also tend to talk 'without purpose' because I also have adhd, the thoughts can twist in my head, or i come to conclusions quicker than I can say them
(for example, question 'what do frogs do?' thinks *frog-jumps- kangaroos jump in australia*, but only says out loud 'uhh australia') . This can result in annoyance or confusion, but for both parties :')
Tldr some ppl might be like me and have chronic jumble-brain
"Do you want me to fix this or do you want me to listen?"
Here’s why. Some creative people who think in pictures (like myself) seem to talk endlessly without a purpose. I do it to unscramble all the pictures in my head and intense emotions felt in my body. Words flood out of me like a waterfall and I have no idea what will come out. As I tell my husband, I have no idea what I think or feel until I HEAR it coming out of my mouth. Keeping a journal has saved my marriage and a few friendships because I can “free write”….blather onto a page with no punctuation or spelling or grammar…and achieve the same understanding of all my pictures and feelings.
Also, people with ADHD have less working memory so they can’t hold on to a thought and therefore have to blurt out a thought before it’s gone.
I can relate to the hyper sensitivity issues 100% but I am more ADHD
-no idea where I put something down
-trouble maintaining a routine
-space is cluttered because if I put it away in a drawer or cupboard then I will never think if it again (it doesn’t really exist to me, totally forgotten until I happen to run into it 2 years later)
-no recollection of where I parked my car
-burn food all the time because waiting is just way to boring so I start on another project.
-time blind…late to everything
I can spot an autistic person from a mile away. How they walk, look around, avoid eye contact, have disheveled clothing, have hair that isn’t tidy, nobody with them, standing in railway stations looking at trains, mumbling under their breath, and an air of detachment. Walking up to you to talk about Lamp posts or the manufacture of various drain covers! One man I met had literally gone on every train in the UK to make sure he had a definitive list of all the manufacturers or train seat suppliers! He had memorised each coach and could recite each serial number off by heart and there were thousands!
Spot on !!! My friend is autistic and you described him perfectly!! Thank you!! This helped!!
My husband is an introvert and a lot of what Orion is saying about autism are things my husband does. My husband has been called antisocial, even by one of his close family members, but he’s not. He just doesn’t care for small talk and likes to get to the point of a conversation wether if it’s about music, certain military topics (since he’s retired air force), and so forth. I’m going to watch Orion’s video on introvert or autistic. 😁
To be fair introversion was originally called autism or closed off syndrome. (I think the literal translation is "morbidly curious with one's own world" or something along those lines)
Being in the defence forces is a good vocation for adults on the spectrum...structure!!!
This is me as well.... just like your husband, and I prefer my mornings to start off QUIET
I was just thinking the same thing! I’m
Introverted and so far I’ve related to the first three things! Thai is very interesting to me!
Bs all it takes is practice force bro to put in the work I’m the same but I developed a chirasmatic personality especially with women
When I was child I was diagnosed with a learning disability, but my parents were in denial and I never received the help I so desperately needed to learn and grow. I struggled my whole life with Anxiety Disorder. All the symptoms you described in this video describes me . I am 43 years old now and I am convinced that I am on the autism spectrum. I am going to get myself evaluated, hopefully it will help settle my mind and bring closure.
I can relate
The damage is caused by the label not the learning disability. We need to stop labeling children it causes them harm.
I'm 44. Last week got diagnosed redone. Read comments feel better. I have Generalized Anxiety all my life. I know I'm OK. My neighbors accept me as I am. I finally live by myself. I have a cat and dolls and that's me to have a cup of tea! It's OK to be you. All my pals have cats and dolls too. I have a couple real friends. That's all you need. Oh yeah and a job. Got that too. It helps the bills and the social aspects are important. Great place to make friends. I love cats.
Have you heard of dyspraxia?
Join the club. I'm only 31, so maybe you know more on this subject... But the only thing I've noticed that separates slightly "autistic" people from normal people is their ability to learn to deal with life stressors. I might have slight autism also, but every "sign," this video touches on, can easily be a characteristic of a normally functioning person. Its all about individual capacity. Maybe more successful people grew up with a more loving household, maybe they read a more helpful self help book than you. Everyone's growth in being able to function in a more critical way differs. You can never change your past, but you can change how you find ways to elevate learning capacities by looking in places you wouldn't have before. If your will is strong enough, create your own paradigm and pave your own future. I feel like too many people just settle with, okay I have a disability, answers that.
Im 27 now, my fiance has watched me for years show all the traits and is fully trained so knows them all really and it only finally hit me 2 or 3 days ago im absolutely needing a diagnoses! But im seeing soo many comments from people in their 50s to 70s all saying they finally understand why they are different to people and man i feel for you guys! Im glad you finally figured shit out and can understand yourselves! Im glad i finally came to the realisation finally and couldnt have imagined another 30+ years of struggles without understanding
Good morning from the North East coast of the US. My grandson who is turning 5 in July has been diagnosed with high functioning autism. I am happy to come across your channel. A better understanding of my grandson is bliss for me. He is an exceptional sweet boy who is loved so very much. Thank you for making this channel 😊🌸
I have NEVER felt so understood, from NEEDING details in story’s that seem so insignificant to loud noises and unable to focus on anything but one thing. Thank you so much for this video, truly
i hate lawn mowers,motor bikes and dog barks, but dont mind other noises as long as i have controll over my exposure to it so a neighbours rap music thumping bass equels day ruined especially if its so loud defenders dont help
I was diagnosed autistic a year ago at age 42. Went my entire life through cycles of burnout, overstimulation and struggle not understanding what was going on internally. A year of therapy has helped me to finally structure my life around my needs.
the way youre explaining everything is so awesome, absolutely brilliant and clear with an amazing chill and aussie humour LOL, i love this!! thank you so much:)
This is brilliant! I've got content around fibromyalgia, but I'm also ADHD and Autistic and so much I'm learning at the moment. For instance my hyper sensitivity is down to fibromyalgia, but I'm starting to see much more conectations to those symptoms relating to AUTISM instead - which would explain a lot - because it's like you say. To others it seem disproportionate, but to us we're so overly triggered by those things. It's so overwhelming that I find it drains my energy being around other people and noisy environments. Thanks for this video!
After feeling little different from others I finally got diagnosed this summer at age 41. My wife thinks its an excuse and still thinks im lazy, don't care etc. Its a struggle everyday
Sounds like a shitty partner.
😢 I feel for you .. I haven't yet got a diagnosis and I try to talk to my gf about it she doesn't seem to understand that I need help..
Get a new wife
So sorry. I thought I was lazy and broken for many years. I believed my husband was autistic, but then I realized I am too. We have such a happy marriage. But my mom still gives me a hard time about my laziness.😢
I'm curious if you had any previous diagnosis? I've been struggling hard for a decade now. Every time I go to a doctor I get a new disorder it seems. It's started with BPD, now I'm up to BPD OCD PTSD ADHD, depression, general anxiety disorder, agoraphobia. I always thought maybe it was just aspergers. I don't take meds and I'd say I live a fairly functional life. Other people seem to be constantly frustrated with me. I don't have any friends but I enjoy it because people stress me out
This is a great example of differences in male and female autism. They are very similar, but with women, multi-tasking can be o.k, but just because you can do something doesn't mean it's not emotionally taxing. I can multi-task very well, but it is very mechanical and anxiety driven. Social cues tend to be rehearsed from previous negative responses and fine-tuned to avoid awkward interactions. Textures and sounds are still an issue, but my responses to uncomfortable situations have evolved. I no longer have meltdowns and tantrums, but I have found a way to communicate my discomfort even though I know no one cares, in hopes that in the future they will remember what I have told them. Special interests are just as prevalent in my life, but society tells me not to talk about them too much unless someone wants more information. If you want friends, and I mean at least one, you have to hold your tongue and let your friends talk, even if you can't care less about what they are saying.
And theres even more differences as females with Autism and ADHD!
I've been diagnosed as having aspergers (known now as autistic spectrum disorder) when I was in high school and I realized that the experience is much worse with comorbidity. I've also suffered from clinical depression since around there and ADHD since elementary and even been suspected of having anti social personality disorder, though in the latter case, never diagnosed
Do you have a job and are you maintain self sufficiency and independence on your own?
@jp-uno currently in pre-employment process for a company
and here I thought I was simply an introvert, I need to see my doctor for an evaluation. This video is gold, thank you Orion!
Oh, man. I’ve had my suspicions that I was on the spectrum, but this sealed it. I hate uninvited guests, and it caused untold problems, especially with my in-laws. My MIL loved to drop round unannounced, and it was hard for me to remain polite. I also have misophonia, and I am easily startled by noise. I’ve always felt misunderstood and on the periphery of things. I never feel completely comfortable unless I am at home (preferably on my own).
Edited: it seems I need to explain myself, although I shouldn't need to.
1. I am not a snowflake, seeking special treatment, want to feel special, or attempting any kind of self-diagnosis.
2. I am 54, and have noticed a lot of things that do indicate that I could possibly have autism, and these started in childhood.
3. My 18 year son has HFA (formerly Aspergers), and I have seen many things in him that I've seen in myself.
4. The example of the MIL above is one tiny, weeny example. I am not annoyed or irritated by her visiting, but deeply unsettled by the sudden arrival. I am not basing my thoughts on that one scenario.
5. Autism is not a special club with restricted access. Just because you have autism doesn't mean nobody else can, so grow up a little and be more tolerant of others.
I can totally relate. I’ve never been labelled because back in my childhood we didn’t have labels. But I’ve always had a sense that I’m on the spectrum. Now I know, lol. 😊
Uninvited guests are a common annoyance for a lot of people
@@colzbroeffectboss4619 annoyance is one thing. What I feel goes way beyond annoyance.
get a doctors notice before you say your autistic please i was diagnoses at two years old with aspergers
And no you dont get special snowflake treatment like most people seem to think we fight our own battles and need no one else to fight it f
All of these traits can relate to normal adult as well. You have to get an actual diagnosis for it to mean anything. Don’t be one of the trendy autistic people
I love this video thanks. My 20 year old son is autistic and everything you said I could relate to. I love him so much and would never change him. He knows what he likes and what he doesn’t like, and because he does not worry what society thinks of him, he just sticks to what he likes. He is more comfortable in his skin than I ever was for years. I love that. He is amazing ❤️ I think you’ve done a brilliant job of explaining this 👌🏽
Thank you for your excellent description of these common signs and traits. Profound.
The more I hear descriptions like this, the more I am convinced I have undiagnosed autism at a late age. Makes so much sense. Thanks.
When my husband moved in with me I didnt know I had autism yet. But looking back it is just 100% logical that it took a lot of time for it to go well. My home was my space and even though I wanted my husband there, the change was very very difficult. But we got through it 😊
You're lucky you have a caring and understanding partner
I love with my 27 year old son and my daughter in law who are both autistic. They have separate bedrooms. I think this helps a lot since they both need lots of alone time.
@@angelawossname do they have friends
Same. My husband pointed out my autism. I'm not diagnosed by dang really close based off the signs.
@@divinelotus19 I'm sure your husband loves you for it
I'm a physics teacher and have attended many training sessions of recognising autism in pupils. Each time I'm quietly thinking to myself, "they're describing me".
I've just done the aspie quiz and given the results, I'll definitely be speaking to my gp tomorrow.
It would certainly help explain so many things I struggle with in life and hopefully give me some strategies to cope.
Good luck to everyone on this journey!
Can they even assess autism in mature men and women? As of recently i was thinking that i could be autistic, tests online seem to say that i am but those are tests online, using diagnostic tools i can't really discern which part of my behavior is environmental and which part is result of my inadequacies, and i'm also physicist but also software and electrical engineer, it would be good to know because experiences of diagnosed autistic people i've seen are relatable to me especially in social settings.
@@upsetforever7643 in the UK you can self refer for diagnosis. I'm still waiting.
gp?
@@feelinghealingfrequences7179 it depends on you local authority but I first contacted my GP who then went me links to self refer.
Best of luck!
@@feelinghealingfrequences7179 sorry, were you asking what GP was? General practitioner... The doctor.
love you bro
I appreciate this so much! I been thinking about this for months and diving deep to figure out what is "wrong" with me for years. There have been so many clear signs that I have autism and I feel so shamed to even say that cause of no official diagnosis but literally everything you said rang through for me and I have seen so much about children and developing autistic people that I have no choice at this point that to accept it. I wanna get a formal diagnosis it will make me feel better but I don't know if I ever will. I gone to someday. Til then here's hoping I can find validity in my self diagnosis!