@@ShadowReaper-pu2hxnah man not ideas, truths, if you found the perfect partner then that means two things. That is the best day of your life but now there is a chance for the worst day of your life to come down hard 10 fold.
That's cool I'll keep bleeding I'm never giving it up again Rather bleed on others than get cut again Edit: You know I've thought about this a lot since I wrote it and I think I was wrong I found somebody that truly loves me and I truly love them now and I think maybe I just said this because I was hurt and I didn't think anybody would ever love me again You know I've thought about this a lot since I wrote it and I think I was wrong I found somebody that truly loves me and I truly love them now and I think maybe I just said this because I was hurt and I didn't think anybody would ever love me again Or maybe I thought I could never love myself again but I think I was wrong I can't love myself again and I have found somebody that makes me happy That's all I wanted to say
Unfortunately, that scar makes a really good target that gets exploited. And some will do everything they can to make it bigger, deeper, and wider. And then laugh at you as they watch you bleed out. I speak from experience.
I completely agree with you. Healing also includes acquiring wisdom from your past experiences so you better yourself and also make wiser choices when choosing a partner. People need to seriously learn how to look out for red flags because they always present themselves, it's just that when emotions are high, intelligence is low, and most tend to run only on emotions when it comes to choosing relationships.
A shallow-thinking man. Trust the new people and take risks because there will be someone who won't hurt you, who will make you happy eventually, but you need to grow up and take responsibility for yourself first. It is easy to close yourself and be like everyone else, to try to be a better man than the people who wronged you - this is what's hard.
It's called live and learn, when you see certain traits and actions from ppl you know to avoid them,only through experience and life lessons will you know what to look for..to say just keep doing what your doing and letting everyone in just bc not everyone is the same is the dumbest advice I've ever heard. At the end of the day the only person that can make you look like a fool is yourself. Stay vigilant kings!
He's correct. I loved this woman once. She was everything to me. She left me in ruin. She destroyed and embarrassed me. Took me years to recover. I hopped from bed to bed and used girls shamelessly. If a girl got too close, I shut her off cold. I didn't want to feel suicidal or broken ever again. Now, I feel ashamed of hurting those girls, they didn't deserve it tbh. Hindsight is a bitch... and deep down, I still love that jezzabel harlot.
Same situation how do you cope as I albeit I got back up after going through an irritability phase wondering how am I not suicidal losing contact with her before was bad enough a workplace health advisor ended up asking am I dead yet I replied that dead men don't see their loved ones now losing her and 3 sons just wondering how I remained a good man ended up having to not drink for a while just in case I become alcoholic besides not playering or becoming a psycho just an empathetic polite rightious sociopath plus aspergers. The story was even in the news a fair number of times but I got the articles taken down hopefully all.
I know the feeling albeit my ex was kind greatful respectful albeit slept on the side due to long distance and cover up for our families still did not work out before we started to live together.
Nah. I experience both rejection, humiliation, and being alone and feeling unwanted. Rejection and humiliation hurt much, much more. If I'm alone, there is no one to break my heart, well, break the tiny pieces of what it once was into even smaller shards.
@@spacenightmares7767 Well you certainly are not the only one who can't be loved by women. Women are ruthless, selfish, hateful monsters with no remorse or humility. But for me, instead of focusing on the pain.... I ask Jesus to heal my heart and replace the hurt with HIS unimaginable love
This truly hit a fact zone .....it's a shame that those same women are our sisters mothers grandma's aunt's and friends ....shamefully it's true seen it all too much
My ex is a player because of mama issues… the only woman to ever truly hurt him, yet every woman after her gets punished because of her ways when he was a child…
Bitch please. If Shaggy used that much of his power, everyone who watched this video's head would have exploded...and God help anyone who was in a 14 mile radius of his speech.
Craziest thing about this movie was that Matthew Lillard wasn’t acting at all, this wasn’t part of the script, this was him actually talking about life
@@unapologeticapollo4254 thought I recognized him but didn’t realize it was Shaggy all along. He must have started working out when Mary Jane broke his heart
@@Swazified yap he is an actor, but if you pay attention to all of them (actors or no) you can see when they are following the script and you can see when they actually speak from experience even though words are scripted
@@tw3638 thank you. she left me and our kids for another man almost 2 years ago. I'm almost a year out from the divorce where I got full physical and legal custody of the kiddos. I only have to talk with her once a week regarding when and where we'll meet for her 2 hour visitation... It could have been a lot worse, but the important thing now that almost 2 years have passed, I think I'm ready to get back out there without the risk of hurting others.
I'm with a girl who had a boyfriended when we slept together and now I'm fearing losing her so talking to other girls. I wish I was a psychopath sometimes cause emotions make things so difficult.
Same over here, I feel I’m not gonna be able to connect with another woman after this toxic relationship. I feel so disconnected from women it’s sad. Now, I feel I will just settle and force the love when it’s not even real. This is what giving your heart and love to the wrong person will do to you.
@@SurfingTheGalaxy200 sorry to hear about your bad experience. I have been through hell too but don't ever give up on finding someone true, honest and faithful. Heal yourself from the trauma. I am sure you will be alright 🙂❤️ What doesn't kill us make us stronger 💪. Not everyone is the same, there are still nice giving people out there.
Man, man, MAN!!! I can truly live a woman with all my heart the vibe the energy all of that complete but I absolutely refuse to compromise one iota for a relationship. If there is anything that gives you pause forces you to reconsider bump a red flag are there some light green flags that give you pause about me then bye. I refuse to adjust fire anyone anymore in this life you will deal with me my way or not at all!!!! I refuse to commit to any human.
@@stoptimestudio85 guarantee he hasn't been hurt in the worst way like a lot have. Probly thinks he has, which is why it makes it so easy to "preach" the bs. Lol
That pain will make the sweetness of finding the right girl even sweeter. There is polarity to life. Your lowest lows are met with the highest highs. If you haven't experienced a relationship that feels like the polar opposite of the one that hurt you, then it means it is still on the horizon. When you heal, you will attract your person. Keep the faith, and don't allow the pain you feel now to rob you of your future. Definitely don't date if you're still feeling wounded because you will attract another wounded person. But if you heal and become your own best partner and can feel real love for yourself, you will find it magnetically attract another person in the same state. This is how life works. May your journey be filled with much love and laughter. ❤
@@alisbai4376 I'm genuinely sorry that this happened to you. could you conceded that maybe you prematurely allowed one isolated experience to dictate your larger opinion on relationships?
Simple fact for all relationships: those who care the least, have ALL the power. That’s why psychos are so scary, they care less than anyone else could.
If you don’t care, it isn’t a healthy relationship. And no. They don’t have power. They are prisoners of their own doing. Solitude and no true human connection. They are the ones losing my friend.
@@Hot_And_Sour_Stinky But this is only after ruining so many other people's lives or tarnishing them in some way. They may ultimately lose but they cause so much damage before they get there, some of which is irreparable (just think of the people who have committed suicide over their long-term partner cheating on them).
This is simply not true. Its not the ones who care the least that have ALL the power. It's the ones who care the MOST. because it's not caring that makes you weak, it's being vulnerable that does. You can CARE, without being vulnerable. And if you care more, you give more. And those who give more to life, to people, to their PARTNERS, get the most out of their partners. Out of life. This is the best advice my father (whose been happily married for 30 years) has given me regarding relationships.
Develop thick skin become numb don’t care and you won’t get hurt get them before they get you and when she tells you she loves you LIE and tell her you love her too because when all this shit is over and she decides one day that she doesn’t like you anymore you will fall into the safety net you created this whole time
My girlfriend informed me tonight, that she had been seeing someone else for the last couple months. I’m angry, I’m hurt, and all I can do is watch this on repeat. I’m not looking for sympathy just a place to vent. If anyone has given their heart to someone only for them to rip it out.. I’m truly sorry. It’s a feeling I don’t wish on anyone. I truly hope myself and anyone who has gone through the same heals appropriately
Same here buddy. That was 3 years ago and I'm still broken and I only cope with video games and soda. I wish I can find happiness one day and not join Delta Force. :(
My wife left me a month ago on my birthday. 8 years of dedication and 60hr work weeks to provide for us only to be given up on. It's absolutely brutal.
@@Bepeze pull yourself together brother, I've been there too. Many times actually. The 3rd time was clear for me: never expect anything from these creatures. The next woman you'll find is only necessary for reproduction and make sure you build up a case on her just so you are able to defend yourself in court. Child is forever a whore is there for a moment. If that whore does not cheat, you got lucky that she never encountered a weak moment where she met the right person to cheat with. Though they can still break and destroy you when they don't cheat
@@Bepeze keep your head up champ, it don't hurt forever and the pain you feel now just add it to the mirror you look at when you're at your happiest. Truly happy people know what real pain has feelt like. I've been there physically abused and emotionally abused, left with nothing and no one, working through the worst years of my life . Now I have everything that was taken and then some, a beautiful wife, awesome marriage, wonderful kids, a full time job, and some corn growing 🤣😆. Best of luck to you, I wish you all the good vibes, my dude.
@Jj Chasten Each of us lives dependent and bound by our own individual knowledge and awareness but knowledge and awareness are equivocal, one’s reality might be another’s illusion after all we all live inside our own fantasies don’t you think that’s true?, so what I’m saying is it’s only your assumption it’s not true because you live in a fantasy world a Disney movie. But life’s not black and white, it’s grey, and it’s in those grey areas where Men are loved conditionally.
@ThotSLAYER9 NOT living in a fantasy world at all. Children love unconditionally whoever is loving them back , mother or father. Women love their men unconditionally. Men love under conditions.
Learned it too quick. Put her on the pedestal, your world will break apart. Never put anyone/anything above your priorities unless it's your family that understands you.
My heart was crushed once, I simply vowed not to date again. I didn't make a vow to crush other people. I'm sorry, I can't do to other people what's been done to me. I'd rather be alone than turn into the the kind of monster that destroyed me.
I hate that happened to you. Not all women can recognize a good man until they have had a couple of bad ones. That may not make sense but I hope you heal and don't completely close your heart off to finding a woman that deserves you
Never in all my years, have I watched a scene that so completely exemplified my 20’s and 30’s…….and sadly…almost 40’s. It’s accurate to the point of almost being painful to watch. Masterful acting.
@Your Mom the Devil's [Lucifer] sin is Pride, not excess/over endulgeance. thats gluttony. Beezlebub sin is Gluttony. Mammon is Greed. Belphegor is Sloth, Asmodeus is Lust, Leviathan is Envy and Satan is Wrath.
Everyone has a choice in life. Some people choose to work on themselves to be a good person and some choose to put this responsibility on others because it's just easier. They can then justify hurting others. That's pathetic.
Personally I just became what I hated the most (a cold person) I really didn't want to I guess my demons finally got the better of me after all these years of fighting
@@ShadowRealmProduction life can really knock you down sometimes, but we always have a choice of who we want to become. It's not easy, it takes time and courage but I still believe people can change for better and not let these demons win their beautiful souls.
Actually know a few guys like this. One of my closets friends was the extremely caring, attentive, romantic and may more things. Pretty much a guy that any girl would want to be with. He fell in love and got married to someone he thought was the "one". She absolutely broke him. He fell into a pit a depression, became heavily involved in drinking, and started to become the complete opposite of what he was. When I got back from deployment I worked to pull him out of that pit and now he's becoming a bit of his orignal self but was and is forever changed from that one gal. Some folks can recover from their first love but this guy was with her for a very long time and only loved her.
Yep its true same as one of my friends his a romantic type but, every girls he been with has left him, i told him you cant be too romantic this days girls get bored of it over time. I told him just take it easy sometimes not giving things to sudden is better, get to know them really and dont fall for someone to easy. I told him that girl will come you will find the one, you dont have to show them your romantic till you know she really loves you then you can start to show some of that side. Honestly thats helped him a lot since, this days most say they love romantic but they get over it real quick. Honestly i know many that where on the same boat as your guy friend! He almost committed suicide due to his wife they got married over seas, her boss is who she was sleeping with and he was there to witness her getting married, end of the day she left for him while he provided her a house a new car she never worked her whole life as he provided everything for her! Always people aren't happy some how, but they should be honest in a realtionship if your not you tell them straight out and work it out.
@@clau0ira it can be seen as cowardly yes, and what I’m about to say is probably just adding to the cowardice, but when you’re broken this bad, to point of being practically non functional, we don’t care about anything except taking the pain away. And that’s why the answer is to always shut down and close off that romantic and open side, it’s easier to just shove it all away and not feel it anymore. If we don’t feel it anymore we fixed it right? At least that’s how anyone I know, myself included, that’s been through this see’s it that way
@@clau0ira It's not "cowardly" - but yes one shouldn't punish other people and not believe in love just because of some asshole in the past. We owe it to the new girl
@@derpman8494 people literally get deththreats more for boycotting the idea of marriage more so than the actions of betrayal or playing with people's hearts. I tried the player lifestyle, not all its cracked up to be. turns out random hookups bore me and feel even less fulfilled. And I see people who they really are on an instinctively Savage level men and women so a full blown relationship (commitment) is an even dumber move than breaking hearts. I don't have it in me to break hearts anymore. I also won't be a doormat for a system of control I'm not designed to benefit from. So I do neither. I just stick to generating electrical energy and developing software and video games. It's the only thing guaranteed to pay off the more work you put in. With the stats being where they are at, of infidelity studies, you'll find an actual unicorn before you meet a girl who won't eventually stab you in the back. Everyone at this point treat monogamy like a game, and with the system involved, only way for anyone to win is NOT to play. Just walk away, go do something more productive. You'll feel more accomplished and get an actual return on investment, rather its money, passion, identity, and/or self worth. You're getting something back besides your @*$ handed to you. Nobody is held accountable anymore so it a free for all. You need to be asking the more accurate question "what game are you playing?" because if it's a relationship and you bring love and loyalty to the table, you're playing the wrong game, and you will pay the consequences dearly, and you will be shown no mercy. At this point if you do it again and think doing the same thing is eventually going to work, you get what you *****ñ deserve. Do the smart thing focus on yourself, and achieve greatness for your self. You're the prize. You should act like it so you can cope with all these games being played around you.
@@milaanvigraham8664 that is true. But depending on how deep the scars are and how much "scorched" that went with the burning, some people will never make a full recovery, even with therapy and anti depressants. At best they learn to cope and live. Everyone should be cautious at some level. They say keep hanging on. What happens when there nothing to hold on to. They say keep fighting. What if they have no fight left in them. What are people fighting for? What do people do when they realize this? Asking real questions.
Would rather be respected and unloved, then loved and disrespected. Better to be alone, then be with someone who makes you wish you were alone. Don't be afraid of being alone, it hurts far less
Sounds to me like you were one of the romantics this guy was talking about. If virtue is a means between two vices, your philosophy just swapped one vice for the other. While I absolutely agree that you should not be disrespected and tie yourself to a relationship that makes you wish you were alone, that doesn’t mean you have to go through life unloved. The goal is to find someone that will give you both respect and love.
Better? Really? No... He is worse than ever because a terrible incident happened and he changed... He let the incident change him, He became bitter not because he really wanted to hurt others but because he wanted to protect himself, He never wanted to feel what he felt ever again
@@leviackerman-nq9vkbenefited in which way? Becoming a male whore? Never finding a partner for life? As if your previous comment wasn't pathetic enough.
@@manasavuibaubatiwale3593 Yup! He still Voices Shaggy for the Scooby Doo animated series and movies. But his acting repertoire is stocked, I honestly think that should have been bigger. His most iconic roles are from the 90s, but he has so much more to offer and it's scandalous that he's not cast in other roles that show just how skilled he is.
This five..ten...seconds, got me in tears, and not because it's a sad fact to have to hear, but because I'm relieved to find out that I'm not the only one who has thought this exact thing.
Humans are more similar than you know. There's no problem you have no matter how deep and unique you think it is to you that someone else has not gone through. Gotta find the solution
Same here man. I got crushed 3 times.. I didn't become a player, never was, never will. However, I am not a romantic anymore. And why would I, until I know I can truly trust her to be my woman.
I felt this dude ignore the symbol on my page my daughter created it lol no I feel you on this one cause when your going through heartache and pain you never feel more alone and you wonder does anyone else understand what I'm going through they do other men do a woman will never understand but other men do
For those interested, this is from a 2007 movie called “What is Love” starring Cuba Gooding Jr. he’s getting ready to propose to his girlfriend and he found out she was moving out without telling him. So all his friends are telling him their point of view about what love is. This is Matthew Lillard’s character, Sal.
Love Is not a point of view, it's an emotion, and there exists only one love, other perspectives is some serious crap, if your friend wants to burn himself because in his "perspective" it doesn't do anything then good luck respecting that.
the more time passes, the more I lose interest in finding this so called love, I have been alone all my life, and to be honest, My mind's at peace and the power of being alone is very addictive.
I agree bro, I had 11 relationships but only 3 of them was with heartbreaking and cheating so I’m still thinking be alone is better, cause I lost some of pieces of heart after them
“Nice guys finish last.” That’s what an ex’s friend’s mother told my young and naive teenage self over the phone when I asked her why I was getting treated like shit. All I ever was, was a sweetheart to that girl (ex) and she chewed me up and spit me out. From that moment, I guess I made a vow. But not to be some heartless player, diving out of one girl and into the next. I retained my dignity and honor…I just manned up and vowed to wear my thoughts on my sleeve, regardless of consequence. Some may call me an asshole, a prick. Others call me blunt but honest, sincere, genuine, real. Either way, lady troubles became a thing of the past. What truly defeated any possibility of jealousy (can be a man’s crux) for me was when I was hanging with my cousin, who had just got cheat on by a girl he loved. He said “if he can get her, he can have her. He just saved me the time it would have taken to figure out she was screwing me over somewhere else down the line.” I’ll never forget that either.
Damn I felt that. Just broke up with a girl, and 3 days later she has a new replacement. Thank God that relationship didn't last long or else I would've felt much worse wasting my time on a hoe
Not fair to us good women who appreciate a kind and romantic guy like their former self! We end up getting punished for some immature young teen girls' indecisiveness and mistakes!
@@erievhsThe Special one’s (just a tip for the future - try to gather all the facts/words/actors names from a clip you see & google it) don’t sit and pray for one off saving grace… your welcome… your welcome
Fun story, Matthew Lillard grew up in OC California. My wife served him coffee when she worked at Starbucks (before I even knew her). She said he was a really nice dude.
No. It was just some other random woman. A lot of women just walk in to “fix” a guy who wants to blame her for what his ex did just like this but if a girl is guarded because of what she went through the next guy is going to be mad that he’s getting punished for it. Double standards
Steps to become emotionally detached #1 be nice and emotionally open #2 eventually your gonna get hurt so bad you don’t give a damn #3 cry yell etc learn that in life there are only winners and losers become better and never allow someone to dictate the relationship. #4 treat your friends with respect and everyone else that’s a stranger set the bar high. We make the mistake as men that by being cool we can have a good relationship with a girl. Most times you should make them work it if they don’t give you bull and actually care they will stick around even then you always have to draw the line if it’s crossed finish it.
Remember his voice when he was losing too much blood and realized he was dying ? In scream 1 . Well , that was a good one too that you could here the pain .
@@HKona7 like how women have respect for us? Nowadays? Do u have any idea what they say to us behind our backs? When we’re not around? No u dont but i do because i heard it all from my mom, my wife even my ex “ men are pigs, scums.” But it’s the very same people who u treat like a queen that made u become that monster in fairy tales.
I’ve been hurt several times, and one thing I’ve almost promised myself is that I won’t put someone else in the misery of what I’ve been through, no matter how hurt I may have been, I will not be like the people I loved once and pass on that pain to someone else.
It’s not easy, but someone has to break the chain. Good for you, strength isn’t avoiding pain, it’s accepting the risk and believing you’ll find the heart that beats with yours. Never give up!
I wish more people looked at things like you and I. I couldn’t agree more with you. Life can be hard but don’t make it harder for others because you know how much it hurts so why make someone else hurt
This is basically the under pinning psychology of every person that goes through this that is not able to release and it’s unfortunate bc releasing is receiving, acting out of fear makes more if the same traditionally speaking
I...can vouch for this. Went on a string of dates when the girl I really liked basically cut ties with me. Can't blame her. Botched my confession. Rookie mistake. After that I had an active love life. But all were just flings and dates. For a long time I still pined for that one girl. I just wanted her back in my life somehow. Even if it was just as friends. I only got over her completely recently. When a mutual friend of ours (and one of my best) told me they met up recently after returning from overseas. I asked, with genuine wonder and tenderness, how she was doing. My friend said he did bring up my name during their catch up. Only she had apparently completely forgotten me. And that's the end of that. Any desire to want her back in my life in any role vanished. I have my pride too.
@@Will-lh4lh Thank you. Thank you for the kindness. But really, I'm fine. And she is a sweet girl. Honestly. Very nice smile. My experience doesn't take away from that. But it would be stupid and pathetic of me or anyone in a similar position to want to remain "friends" with anyone who doesn't even like or respect me enough to remember my name. My name was the wind to her. I held her as a dear friend from my school days. But I was no one. So it was only a matter of propriety that she become no one to me too. Besides, the girls I'm seeing now are much cuter. Hahah.
@@somewhereinagalaxyfarfaraway yep. Same here. Got rocked hard as f*ck. Made myself impossible to catch until love number 3. 13 years deep now. Working on year 14.
One thing I learned that helped me alot after I made this vow is if I get into a relationship again, I will never give out 100% of my heart and no matter how happy we are I'll always have in the back of my mind that someday we'll break up and she'll grow to hate me. So that when it eventually happens, it won't hurt me as much. Just got through a breakup last month and this method helped me be numb to the pain.
I met Matthew Lillard when I was 11 and I swear to God he was the nicest person I have ever met. I was speechless and he came up to me and said “Hi Buddy, what’s your name?”. Super nice dude and deserves all the world has to offer him.
Damn, this video brought it all back. I fell in love for the first time at 14. I still remember the feeling now. It was like a wave of emotions hitting me at once, making me feel euphoric. For the first time in my life I wanted to be the romantic, I wanted to make her the happiest she’s ever been. That proceeded to be the happiest year I had in my life at that point. A beautiful girl on my arm, that was funny, laughed at my stupid jokes and seemed like she only ever wanted me. It was weird seeing all of that change in the blink of an eye. It was just like one day she was done with me and wanted something different. Of course, she never told me this and just decided to treat me badly, avoid me at times and talk to other lads. I was just so in love that even though she was killing me inside and I had noticed all of these changes and thought she didn’t want to be with me anymore, that I held on for as long as I could. I know guys, I was stupid. She then proceeded to talk to this other guy, knowing I’m there, flirting with him to my face. This lead to an argument and she said she needed a break from us. I was devastated and my friends told me to come out with them to take my mind off it. I lasted around half the night before I made an excuse to go, telling everyone I’m going home. Really I was going to hers as I just wanted to speak to her. I was almost of the top of her street, turned the corner and saw her there…with that guy. Them hugging and obviously being close. Another feeling I’ll never forget. I was so crushed in that moment, I’ve never felt anything like it since. It was honestly like my heart broke in half right there and turned black. I stood there for way longer than I should, basically torturing myself, not being able to move as I was so destroyed. That’s when the anger kicked in. I remember it boiling and just like the guy in this video said, vowing to myself to never ever let a girl hurt me ever again. It stuck with me for so long that I didn’t even realise I was treating women badly, I was just subconsciously not letting anyone in, leading them on and being a player. It’s only now looking back and having it brought up that I realise how much it did affect me. Crazy to think about now, when I’m almost 27, having opened my heart again for my girlfriend and my son, that I was like that because of someone’s decision to run over my heart. Sorry for the long post, just had to get it off my chest😂 Hope the rest of you kings are doing well🙌🏻
I also loved someone at the age of 20 i just saw him this one time and i got so commited that i would send him text messages of gud morning evening and like that for 1 year that went on like that then he told me he loves me but i am a muslim so i said we should get married but he yold me to wait for him so i wpuld always wait for his text i couldnt even get sleep but again when we talked he was just saying thing like i dont want any commitment i am not ready now if you wait for me i will send marriage proposal and i blindly waited for him for 4 year and thats when i met another person but i tried to play with his feeling i tried to cheat on him but regreted it the day after and told him everything i dont want to hurt him cuz i do love him but i just need to solve my fear first
Sorry to hear that bro. It must have been tremendously difficult to deal with that and at such a young age as well. Glad that you seem to be doing better now in that regard.
And someday when a genuine girl loves him unconditionally, then he breaks her heart coz of his past.... isn't that bad? Why would you wanna destroy someone who loves you truly...you are hurting the wrong person..
And the sad truth of it all is the player who “has all the women” doesn’t have the one that they truly want and the women who get played continue the cycle it all loops around, caused by a toxic social media culture and stress. The women who got played become materialistic and end up making more players and start to devalue themselves all out of pain from the guy who had pain himself. Look, if you’re struggling with a breakup or a loss, take time to YOURSELF, just you alone to deal with that pain. You can and will recover eventually and there is no sense in trying to force a relationship on yourself when you’re not ready for one. Take care of yourselves everyone, random biker dude on the internet out 🤘
Never apply male logic to women. That is your first mistake here. Women aren’t that way because they got played. They’re that way because of upbringing and daddy issues. Men are players because of what this video says. Women, on the other hand are unfaithful and hypergamous for completely different reasons. Their brains are wired completely different. To believe different is to give them more credit than they deserve.
The strongest men and women are the ones who have had their hearts shattered. But they stfu, dusted themselves off and continued on as before vs becoming a harmful idiot.
Someone that goes through a rough experience unchanged, is a complete idiot. Nobody's talking about revenge here, but opening your eyes to reality, which is far from a pretty Hollywood romantic comedy.
Trust me, they didn't keep quiet about it. That's not healthy either--just bottling it all up only for it to come to a boil later. Emotionally and mentally mature people voice their displeasures, respectfully. They'll let you know if you hurt them, and then they'll move on.
@@suhanipanda859 There is no need to become anything. Only realize that becoming too invested in building a life with someone in any western society is a recipe for certain disaster nowadays, and then decide how you want to proceed. Do you want to close your eyes and try something that's ending in a train wreck for 90% of people? Go right ahead, but I will personally pass.
I absolutely love Matthew Lillard. Dude has phenomenal range and crushes every role he's been in. It kind of bums me out that his Shaggy was so damn good that people only see him as shaggy.
My heart has been crushed a few times, but I tell you what, I'm not going to let those that crushed my heart in my past cheat me out of my future. I have learned to choose better and I'm not afraid to love again.
Why you should be women are all the same all the good ones are already taken or have given up on males completely all we are left with is the crazy bitches or worn out single mothers that are mentally fucked in the head why the fuck would you want to get back in the game after healing from the pain it caused you to begin with
Amen to that Jay. Love is beautiful. Hope you find that special person that will love you and take care of that heart for yours and do the same too my friend. Stay bless
@@zosletsaddressit3240 His name is Matt Lillard lol but yeah my top 3 movies with him are probably Scream, Scooby doo, and 13 Ghosts.. he definitely needs to get into some more roles. Personally I'd like to see him play detective Twitch in the new Spawn movie instead of Jeremy Renner
Right, don't become a lame player just because of a few rugrats, that karma can come back on you when playing with people hearts and find your own hearts being 100% played with. Find God and remain a good man and a good woman then you will receive rewards
We all experienced this and some of us are on this path as some of us already know, but it’s not because we’re scared of our heart being torn again, it’s because we now have leverage in the relationship to have power. Because we learned that the one that doesn’t care, holds the most leverage in the relationship. I learned it easy and I can thank my brothers and I for it.
"The ones that dont care, once cared too much"
So damn true
That's not always true. You just have some people who are just assholes whetheir it be male or female
@@mocclassit's true mate
@@tfh1898 Like i said not always the case
@mocclass no I meant I agree with u, its true some people are just cunts
Bros voice is cracking. He’s really still thinking about that one time
He thinking about Velma 😂
@@Juicepluggedin 🤣
But. In truth... Who doesn't
@@EIYO514 why would you? So many beautiful women out there. Actually getting my heart broken was the best thing for me. One woman isn't enough.
@@alfjones6377 I mean if you are honest about it and you and those women are on the same page power to you!
Whoever wrote these lines knew EXACTLY what he was talking about, every word is true
I’m glad he got his ideas out there.
@@ShadowReaper-pu2hxnah man not ideas, truths, if you found the perfect partner then that means two things.
That is the best day of your life but now there is a chance for the worst day of your life to come down hard 10 fold.
It’s not 😂😂😂😂
rather who
That’s the lyrics of experience not artistry. Whoever put that shit to paper lived it 100%. That was hard.
“Those who are heartless once cared too much.” -Capt Davy Jones
"If you don't heal from what hurt you, you'll bleed on those who didn't cut you."
Or...hurt people, hurt people
That's cool I'll keep bleeding I'm never giving it up again Rather bleed on others than get cut again
Edit: You know I've thought about this a lot since I wrote it and I think I was wrong I found somebody that truly loves me and I truly love them now and I think maybe I just said this because I was hurt and I didn't think anybody would ever love me again You know I've thought about this a lot since I wrote it and I think I was wrong I found somebody that truly loves me and I truly love them now and I think maybe I just said this because I was hurt and I didn't think anybody would ever love me again Or maybe I thought I could never love myself again but I think I was wrong I can't love myself again and I have found somebody that makes me happy That's all I wanted to say
@@minimayhem1996 Exactly
Unfortunately, that scar makes a really good target that gets exploited. And some will do everything they can to make it bigger, deeper, and wider. And then laugh at you as they watch you bleed out. I speak from experience.
I completely agree with you. Healing also includes acquiring wisdom from your past experiences so you better yourself and also make wiser choices when choosing a partner.
People need to seriously learn how to look out for red flags because they always present themselves, it's just that when emotions are high, intelligence is low, and most tend to run only on emotions when it comes to choosing relationships.
Not only is shaggy the strongest being in the multiverse. He's also a philosopher
Didn’t even realize that was him
Oh He DEF a Philosophizer
Hardly dude 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I thought he reminded me of shaggy I was like wait isn't it he's shaggy from the movie.
Little did scooby and the gang know that Shaggy was a serial killer.
“villains are just broken heroes”
Those are Anti-Hero’s your thinking of, who know the system the Hero chooses to Side with is a “Fkn Joke”
The Comedian (Watchmen) Said it Best
"If you trust one person and they break it, why trust anyone ever again."
-A wise man
Because everyone isn’t the same
"Leave quickly when you see the man cheats/ puts in no effort. Spare yourself the toxicity". A wise woman.
"Not everyone sucks"
-Me
A shallow-thinking man. Trust the new people and take risks because there will be someone who won't hurt you, who will make you happy eventually, but you need to grow up and take responsibility for yourself first. It is easy to close yourself and be like everyone else, to try to be a better man than the people who wronged you - this is what's hard.
It's called live and learn, when you see certain traits and actions from ppl you know to avoid them,only through experience and life lessons will you know what to look for..to say just keep doing what your doing and letting everyone in just bc not everyone is the same is the dumbest advice I've ever heard. At the end of the day the only person that can make you look like a fool is yourself. Stay vigilant kings!
The fact that everyone thinks of shaggy when they see this dude makes me feel old, because I see Stu from scream 😂
Or the one of the friends from "Without A Paddle"
Same here! Great actor!
Ditto!
I see Dennis from Thir13en Ghosts. 😂
I just see Stevo from SLC punk
“You cannot solve a problem with the same thinking that caused it.” -Albert Einstein.
Covid 19 shot: now that’s where you’re wrong.
It doesn’t excuse it, it only explains it.
Einstein ain’t get no hoes
Also Einstein “ I can’t drive. So I’ll take this bike to work “. Always throws me. A car broke his heart. That’s the untold story
Perfectly said
He's correct. I loved this woman once. She was everything to me. She left me in ruin. She destroyed and embarrassed me. Took me years to recover. I hopped from bed to bed and used girls shamelessly. If a girl got too close, I shut her off cold. I didn't want to feel suicidal or broken ever again. Now, I feel ashamed of hurting those girls, they didn't deserve it tbh. Hindsight is a bitch... and deep down, I still love that jezzabel harlot.
Same situation how do you cope as I albeit I got back up after going through an irritability phase wondering how am I not suicidal losing contact with her before was bad enough a workplace health advisor ended up asking am I dead yet I replied that dead men don't see their loved ones now losing her and 3 sons just wondering how I remained a good man ended up having to not drink for a while just in case I become alcoholic besides not playering or becoming a psycho just an empathetic polite rightious sociopath plus aspergers.
The story was even in the news a fair number of times but I got the articles taken down hopefully all.
I feel this brooo deep
Damn man I felt that one..
I know the feeling albeit my ex was kind greatful respectful albeit slept on the side due to long distance and cover up for our families still did not work out before we started to live together.
You still love her after all what she did to you!!
Being completely alone and feeling unwanted and undesirable outweighs any heartbreak.... Can't break a heart that is already shattered.
go to gym Jay,all the best !
"But I warn you. I will break your heart!"
"Already broken"
@@predadragos1183if a person who’s short like 5’4 then the gym won’t do a single thing for you
Nah. I experience both rejection, humiliation, and being alone and feeling unwanted. Rejection and humiliation hurt much, much more. If I'm alone, there is no one to break my heart, well, break the tiny pieces of what it once was into even smaller shards.
@@spacenightmares7767 Well you certainly are not the only one who can't be loved by women.
Women are ruthless, selfish, hateful monsters with no remorse or humility.
But for me, instead of focusing on the pain....
I ask Jesus to heal my heart and replace the hurt with HIS unimaginable love
"if you don't face your fears you become what you fear most" "the most vicious monsters are born from the kindest heart"
Life is cold and you only find warmth when the sun is up but it can only come up for so much of your life or you would never even know your warm
I will never overcome my fear of heights, does that mean I will become high?
You either die the hero, or live long enough to become the villain
Mike Tyson
Anakin Skywalker
And women say “who hurt you honey” sarcastically to mock guys like this but the answer is girls like themselves lol
U cant be mock when u are better than 99% of womens on this earth and u can have every one u want. Chad lifestyle js the way
@@s_cuzz Incoming lame feminists.
This truly hit a fact zone .....it's a shame that those same women are our sisters mothers grandma's aunt's and friends ....shamefully it's true seen it all too much
Or it’s just random Girls that have nothing to do with that guy’s sad backstory
@@MuiGohan yessir you got that right
I like coming back to this short because it's so damn real
This beyond true woman don’t realize how much we give up to be with a woman and then get hurt
Link is in my notes
Me too. It reminds me that men have feelings too. It takes a strong man to express his feelings.
Absolutely is 💯
Me too
Treat her like a queen and she'll look down on you like a peasant
that mean she wasnt the one, move along and take care king
Who hurt you?
@@slaytallicaeverything i guess
Im liking all of you because there gotta be some light in the dark
@@slaytallicaShe did
Theres an old saying that goes. “Dont drip blood on those who didnt cut you” and thats the realest statement ever.
Fuck that. Imma bleed to the last drop, except now, I'm the surgeon.
Ok Joe six pack
"But do you rather cut them before they cut you ? "
That is true, I’m not bleeding on those who didn’t cut me, for I’m busy bleeding on those who stab me.
My ex is a player because of mama issues… the only woman to ever truly hurt him, yet every woman after her gets punished because of her ways when he was a child…
It's nice to see shaggy using 0.000000000001% of his power to Inspire others.
Bitch please.
If Shaggy used that much of his power, everyone who watched this video's head would have exploded...and God help anyone who was in a 14 mile radius of his speech.
Must be hard to imagine the number of power that you have Daniel…. Pull out that microscope!!
I didn't even recognize him and had to do a double take lol
Matthew Lillard, actually a good actor.
💀
Craziest thing about this movie was that Matthew Lillard wasn’t acting at all, this wasn’t part of the script, this was him actually talking about life
He is not even acting. This sh_t is real for him.
That guy is so underrated as an actor, he has range.
Shaggy went ultra instinct with his acting on this one
@@unapologeticapollo4254 thought I recognized him but didn’t realize it was Shaggy all along. He must have started working out when Mary Jane broke his heart
Was this a movie?
If yes, what's the name of the movie?
@@VictorEveryday Clips from the movie "What Love Is".
Full clip - czcams.com/video/5gVN3zXT0HY/video.html
I’d like to see him play a serial killer or villain
I feel the pain in his voice. This man is speaking from experience.
He’s an actor wtf 😂
@@Swazified yap he is an actor, but if you pay attention to all of them (actors or no) you can see when they are following the script and you can see when they actually speak from experience even though words are scripted
@@ragebeast1790 Facts my nigga
@@ragebeast1790 no you cant! Lmao
It's Shaggy talking about Velma 😔
People who've been hurt are the ones who hurt people.
I've been hurt by a hurt woman. I'm trying my hardest not to become the man they're describing
Same brother 💯
Same🙌
She will only continue to hurt you brother. Leave now
@@tw3638 thank you. she left me and our kids for another man almost 2 years ago. I'm almost a year out from the divorce where I got full physical and legal custody of the kiddos. I only have to talk with her once a week regarding when and where we'll meet for her 2 hour visitation... It could have been a lot worse, but the important thing now that almost 2 years have passed, I think I'm ready to get back out there without the risk of hurting others.
I'm with a girl who had a boyfriended when we slept together and now I'm fearing losing her so talking to other girls. I wish I was a psychopath sometimes cause emotions make things so difficult.
Bro I just lost the ability to care.
I’m a great boyfriend and casual guy to have but I just can’t commit. Like I lost the ability.
You actually lost yourself...
Same over here, I feel I’m not gonna be able to connect with another woman after this toxic relationship. I feel so disconnected from women it’s sad. Now, I feel I will just settle and force the love when it’s not even real. This is what giving your heart and love to the wrong person will do to you.
@@SurfingTheGalaxy200 sorry to hear about your bad experience. I have been through hell too but don't ever give up on finding someone true, honest and faithful. Heal yourself from the trauma. I am sure you will be alright 🙂❤️ What doesn't kill us make us stronger 💪. Not everyone is the same, there are still nice giving people out there.
Business before pleasure.
Man, man, MAN!!! I can truly live a woman with all my heart the vibe the energy all of that complete but I absolutely refuse to compromise one iota for a relationship. If there is anything that gives you pause forces you to reconsider bump a red flag are there some light green flags that give you pause about me then bye. I refuse to adjust fire anyone anymore in this life you will deal with me my way or not at all!!!! I refuse to commit to any human.
Imagine the camera pans over and he’s talking to scooby😂
Fuck how did this make me laugh so hard 😂😂
Bro this made me laugh so hard 😂😂😂
Scoooby doooby dooooo
@shaq hightower why you gotta spoil a good moment?😂😂😂😂
“Ruh roh Raggy”
“When a relationship is over, leave. Don’t continue watering a dead flower!”
Easier said than done for some. Some believed the myth of having a soul mate.
@@stoptimestudio85 As I look at it there’s 7.9 billion people on earth, there’s someone better out there waiting for you!
@@stoptimestudio85 There are good ones, and bad ones, but there is no one. ( A soulmate is a myth, it doesn't exist, another lie you've been told.)
Oh good I'm happy you put it in the context of a flower otherwise I wouldn't have understood what you were saying.
@@stoptimestudio85 guarantee he hasn't been hurt in the worst way like a lot have. Probly thinks he has, which is why it makes it so easy to "preach" the bs. Lol
Me right now at the age of 26, my first girl left me for another man she told me he was just a friend. I'll never give it up again.
"one woman was bad to me, that means that all women must be bad and all of them will treat me badly" does that make sense to you?
That pain will make the sweetness of finding the right girl even sweeter. There is polarity to life. Your lowest lows are met with the highest highs. If you haven't experienced a relationship that feels like the polar opposite of the one that hurt you, then it means it is still on the horizon. When you heal, you will attract your person. Keep the faith, and don't allow the pain you feel now to rob you of your future. Definitely don't date if you're still feeling wounded because you will attract another wounded person. But if you heal and become your own best partner and can feel real love for yourself, you will find it magnetically attract another person in the same state. This is how life works. May your journey be filled with much love and laughter. ❤
@@ninacurran8180 I never chose this path... It was forced upon me.
@@ninacurran8180 Nina don’t judge others for their experiences.
@@alisbai4376 I'm genuinely sorry that this happened to you. could you conceded that maybe you prematurely allowed one isolated experience to dictate your larger opinion on relationships?
It is better to be feared than loved
Machiavelli
Simple fact for all relationships: those who care the least, have ALL the power. That’s why psychos are so scary, they care less than anyone else could.
If you don’t care, it isn’t a healthy relationship. And no. They don’t have power. They are prisoners of their own doing. Solitude and no true human connection. They are the ones losing my friend.
@@Hot_And_Sour_Stinky But this is only after ruining so many other people's lives or tarnishing them in some way. They may ultimately lose but they cause so much damage before they get there, some of which is irreparable (just think of the people who have committed suicide over their long-term partner cheating on them).
@@Hot_And_Sour_Stinky the thing is in the eyes of someone who does not care its not a loss and all they say is "it is what it is"
This is simply not true. Its not the ones who care the least that have ALL the power. It's the ones who care the MOST. because it's not caring that makes you weak, it's being vulnerable that does.
You can CARE, without being vulnerable. And if you care more, you give more. And those who give more to life, to people, to their PARTNERS, get the most out of their partners. Out of life.
This is the best advice my father (whose been happily married for 30 years) has given me regarding relationships.
Develop thick skin become numb don’t care and you won’t get hurt get them before they get you and when she tells you she loves you LIE and tell her you love her too because when all this shit is over and she decides one day that she doesn’t like you anymore you will fall into the safety net you created this whole time
Isn't this the dude who played Shaggy? So crazy seeing him give such an inspirational speech for someone known best for playing a goofball.
Or a complete psycho (Scream 1)......Matt's range as an actor is legit
He also plays a Cereal Killer. A stoner type who loves hacking
@@BlackFire901 he was still a goofball in scream😂
@@jameslebeau7078 he was still a goofball in that too🤣😂
@@jameslebeau7078 Jesus Christ... Did he at least add milk before he went in for the kill? What a Froot loop.
"The one cold-hearted, once cared too much"
My girlfriend informed me tonight, that she had been seeing someone else for the last couple months. I’m angry, I’m hurt, and all I can do is watch this on repeat. I’m not looking for sympathy just a place to vent. If anyone has given their heart to someone only for them to rip it out.. I’m truly sorry. It’s a feeling I don’t wish on anyone. I truly hope myself and anyone who has gone through the same heals appropriately
Same here buddy. That was 3 years ago and I'm still broken and I only cope with video games and soda. I wish I can find happiness one day and not join Delta Force. :(
My wife left me a month ago on my birthday. 8 years of dedication and 60hr work weeks to provide for us only to be given up on. It's absolutely brutal.
Man this hits different when you know exactly what he's talking about.
HITS DIFFERENT TODAY. Im sitting here with breakup hurt right now
@@Bepeze I feel your pain bro. But this is spot on!
@@Bepeze pull yourself together brother, I've been there too. Many times actually. The 3rd time was clear for me: never expect anything from these creatures. The next woman you'll find is only necessary for reproduction and make sure you build up a case on her just so you are able to defend yourself in court. Child is forever a whore is there for a moment. If that whore does not cheat, you got lucky that she never encountered a weak moment where she met the right person to cheat with. Though they can still break and destroy you when they don't cheat
@@Bepeze keep your head up champ, it don't hurt forever and the pain you feel now just add it to the mirror you look at when you're at your happiest.
Truly happy people know what real pain has feelt like.
I've been there physically abused and emotionally abused, left with nothing and no one, working through the worst years of my life
. Now I have everything that was taken and then some, a beautiful wife, awesome marriage, wonderful kids, a full time job, and some corn growing 🤣😆.
Best of luck to you, I wish you all the good vibes, my dude.
@@Bepeze sorry to hear that,take your time bro. dont rush on everything,take your time.
chris Rock: women and children are loved unconditionally. men are loved on the condition they can provide. strong words of a sad truth
A man has never rejected a woman?
Really?
not true
@Jj Chasten Each of us lives dependent and bound by our own individual knowledge and awareness but knowledge and awareness are equivocal, one’s reality might be another’s illusion after all we all live inside our own fantasies don’t you think that’s true?, so what I’m saying is it’s only your assumption it’s not true because you live in a fantasy world a Disney movie. But life’s not black and white, it’s grey, and it’s in those grey areas where Men are loved conditionally.
@ThotSLAYER9 NOT living in a fantasy world at all. Children love unconditionally whoever is loving them back , mother or father. Women love their men unconditionally. Men love under conditions.
Is that why I fell in love with a girl not sexually more like to provide and protect
He's never told anyone that story till then. So much pain inside him. It makes me think of my brother and my son
Never change for nobody. If they change u they won
I guess they won then
No
I disagree. One got make sure it doesn't repeat again by acquiring certain mindset
A wise person once told me, “there is not one person who hasn’t been hurt due to love. Everyone has”.
True
True
Thank you ^
👏👏👏
Another great saying is " RUH-ROH RAGGY!!"
Some people have never felt love to begin with
The real reason Shaggy is always with Scooby explained.
Man's best friend
Yeah man, like, Scoob would never do me like that man.
@@shaggy4667 lmao
Dogs be loyal for life
@@shaggy4667 yeah about that. Remember when you and Velma were dating
This is one of those rare moments where he’s selling this so good you know he’s been through it
Learned it too quick. Put her on the pedestal, your world will break apart. Never put anyone/anything above your priorities unless it's your family that understands you.
Pedestal is a no go
We always ask “what you doing, Shag?” But never “how you doing, Shag?”
Deep
Hit me through my core
The invincible shaganator
STU
Facts.
My heart was crushed once, I simply vowed not to date again. I didn't make a vow to crush other people. I'm sorry, I can't do to other people what's been done to me. I'd rather be alone than turn into the the kind of monster that destroyed me.
You are not alone bruh, you have my sympathy
I hate that happened to you. Not all women can recognize a good man until they have had a couple of bad ones. That may not make sense but I hope you heal and don't completely close your heart off to finding a woman that deserves you
Damn what happened to you?
Did they cheat on you? Or something a bit more involved.
Gabriel W I feel the same way.
It’s called MGTOW
This makes me tear up man.. hits a lil too close to home.
Never in all my years, have I watched a scene that so completely exemplified my 20’s and 30’s…….and sadly…almost 40’s. It’s accurate to the point of almost being painful to watch. Masterful acting.
I guess there's no right or wrong. Love and heart break makes the world go round
Since no one else ever says it, This is a movie called, what love is.
Thank you!
Thank you!
👏👏👏
thanks mate!
Thanks !! I was wondering.
"Before he fell, Lucifer was the most beautiful of the angels"
@Your Mom incorrect, he loved humanity, he was the brother of Jesus, but only in the original tellings.
POV: you waiting for that hate comment that said "But god don't exist"
@Your Mom the Devil's [Lucifer] sin is Pride, not excess/over endulgeance. thats gluttony. Beezlebub sin is Gluttony. Mammon is Greed. Belphegor is Sloth, Asmodeus is Lust, Leviathan is Envy and Satan is Wrath.
@@Voiding-ofdark you read my mind, ily
@@Human1136 Wait i did?
I mean yeah of course i did
Never thought I'd learn a good lesson from shaggy 😅
Everyone has a choice in life. Some people choose to work on themselves to be a good person and some choose to put this responsibility on others because it's just easier. They can then justify hurting others. That's pathetic.
Personally
I just became what I hated the most (a cold person) I really didn't want to I guess my demons finally got the better of me after all these years of fighting
@@ShadowRealmProduction life can really knock you down sometimes, but we always have a choice of who we want to become. It's not easy, it takes time and courage but I still believe people can change for better and not let these demons win their beautiful souls.
@merit1717 so because the man got crushed HE has to work on himself and HE has to become better?
Actually know a few guys like this. One of my closets friends was the extremely caring, attentive, romantic and may more things. Pretty much a guy that any girl would want to be with. He fell in love and got married to someone he thought was the "one". She absolutely broke him. He fell into a pit a depression, became heavily involved in drinking, and started to become the complete opposite of what he was. When I got back from deployment I worked to pull him out of that pit and now he's becoming a bit of his orignal self but was and is forever changed from that one gal. Some folks can recover from their first love but this guy was with her for a very long time and only loved her.
Yep its true same as one of my friends his a romantic type but, every girls he been with has left him, i told him you cant be too romantic this days girls get bored of it over time. I told him just take it easy sometimes not giving things to sudden is better, get to know them really and dont fall for someone to easy. I told him that girl will come you will find the one, you dont have to show them your romantic till you know she really loves you then you can start to show some of that side. Honestly thats helped him a lot since, this days most say they love romantic but they get over it real quick.
Honestly i know many that where on the same boat as your guy friend! He almost committed suicide due to his wife they got married over seas, her boss is who she was sleeping with and he was there to witness her getting married, end of the day she left for him while he provided her a house a new car she never worked her whole life as he provided everything for her! Always people aren't happy some how, but they should be honest in a realtionship if your not you tell them straight out and work it out.
@@clau0ira it can be seen as cowardly yes, and what I’m about to say is probably just adding to the cowardice, but when you’re broken this bad, to point of being practically non functional, we don’t care about anything except taking the pain away. And that’s why the answer is to always shut down and close off that romantic and open side, it’s easier to just shove it all away and not feel it anymore. If we don’t feel it anymore we fixed it right? At least that’s how anyone I know, myself included, that’s been through this see’s it that way
@@clau0ira It's not "cowardly" - but yes one shouldn't punish other people and not believe in love just because of some asshole in the past. We owe it to the new girl
@@derpman8494 people literally get deththreats more for boycotting the idea of marriage more so than the actions of betrayal or playing with people's hearts. I tried the player lifestyle, not all its cracked up to be. turns out random hookups bore me and feel even less fulfilled. And I see people who they really are on an instinctively Savage level men and women so a full blown relationship (commitment) is an even dumber move than breaking hearts. I don't have it in me to break hearts anymore. I also won't be a doormat for a system of control I'm not designed to benefit from. So I do neither. I just stick to generating electrical energy and developing software and video games. It's the only thing guaranteed to pay off the more work you put in. With the stats being where they are at, of infidelity studies, you'll find an actual unicorn before you meet a girl who won't eventually stab you in the back. Everyone at this point treat monogamy like a game, and with the system involved, only way for anyone to win is NOT to play. Just walk away, go do something more productive. You'll feel more accomplished and get an actual return on investment, rather its money, passion, identity, and/or self worth. You're getting something back besides your @*$ handed to you. Nobody is held accountable anymore so it a free for all. You need to be asking the more accurate question "what game are you playing?" because if it's a relationship and you bring love and loyalty to the table, you're playing the wrong game, and you will pay the consequences dearly, and you will be shown no mercy. At this point if you do it again and think doing the same thing is eventually going to work, you get what you *****ñ deserve. Do the smart thing focus on yourself, and achieve greatness for your self. You're the prize. You should act like it so you can cope with all these games being played around you.
@@milaanvigraham8664 that is true. But depending on how deep the scars are and how much "scorched" that went with the burning, some people will never make a full recovery, even with therapy and anti depressants. At best they learn to cope and live. Everyone should be cautious at some level. They say keep hanging on. What happens when there nothing to hold on to. They say keep fighting. What if they have no fight left in them. What are people fighting for? What do people do when they realize this? Asking real questions.
Would rather be respected and unloved, then loved and disrespected. Better to be alone, then be with someone who makes you wish you were alone. Don't be afraid of being alone, it hurts far less
Facts
Facts brother
There's no difference. You can't love without respect.
Sounds to me like you were one of the romantics this guy was talking about. If virtue is a means between two vices, your philosophy just swapped one vice for the other. While I absolutely agree that you should not be disrespected and tie yourself to a relationship that makes you wish you were alone, that doesn’t mean you have to go through life unloved. The goal is to find someone that will give you both respect and love.
That's why I won't go with a player 🤷♀️
Thanks a lot Lauren. You destroyed my heart. Call me a simp, but nearly 20 years later, I still have the scars.
getting rejected is not that bad at all, it helps u be better. see this guy, he's now better 😈 isn't he?. now he's a player
Better? Really? No... He is worse than ever because a terrible incident happened and he changed... He let the incident change him, He became bitter not because he really wanted to hurt others but because he wanted to protect himself, He never wanted to feel what he felt ever again
@@HumourusLAVand that benefited him
@@leviackerman-nq9vkbenefited in which way? Becoming a male whore? Never finding a partner for life? As if your previous comment wasn't pathetic enough.
@@HumourusLAVyeah, thats called becoming better. You win or lose in this life, learn and do what you gotta do so you never lose.
I freaking love Matthew lillard, honestly he's very underrated.
Extremely so.
Never understood why he didn’t become on of the greatest. Dude is craaaaazy underrated. His acting is so captivating.
I love him too. Such a great actor 👏
Shaggy?
@@manasavuibaubatiwale3593 Yup! He still Voices Shaggy for the Scooby Doo animated series and movies. But his acting repertoire is stocked, I honestly think that should have been bigger. His most iconic roles are from the 90s, but he has so much more to offer and it's scandalous that he's not cast in other roles that show just how skilled he is.
This five..ten...seconds, got me in tears, and not because it's a sad fact to have to hear, but because I'm relieved to find out that I'm not the only one who has thought this exact thing.
Humans are more similar than you know. There's no problem you have no matter how deep and unique you think it is to you that someone else has not gone through. Gotta find the solution
@@Kinobambino 💯
The solution for me was learn from the pain, learn to value myself, KNOW myself, and not let shitty people break me.
Same here man.
I got crushed 3 times..
I didn't become a player, never was, never will.
However, I am not a romantic anymore.
And why would I, until I know I can truly trust her to be my woman.
I felt this dude ignore the symbol on my page my daughter created it lol no I feel you on this one cause when your going through heartache and pain you never feel more alone and you wonder does anyone else understand what I'm going through they do other men do a woman will never understand but other men do
@@jokermlbbyt4517 100% brother
Brutal truth: men is loved conditionally
Love is conditional. Even for children and parents.
@@Winston.S.ChurchillEven for us women, especially by men.
For those interested, this is from a 2007 movie called “What is Love” starring Cuba Gooding Jr. he’s getting ready to propose to his girlfriend and he found out she was moving out without telling him. So all his friends are telling him their point of view about what love is.
This is Matthew Lillard’s character, Sal.
Thank you for breaking that down!
@@Idontknowhoiamanymore No problem. I shared the plot without actually spoiling the movie for those who want to watch it
This is true tho.....I feel kindaike that now......
"What love is"
Love Is not a point of view, it's an emotion, and there exists only one love, other perspectives is some serious crap, if your friend wants to burn himself because in his "perspective" it doesn't do anything then good luck respecting that.
the more time passes, the more I lose interest in finding this so called love, I have been alone all my life, and to be honest, My mind's at peace and the power of being alone is very addictive.
Good for you. I wish I had never found her, then I would just keep on living by myself, not knowing what I would miss
don't lie to yourself
@@etherealdestroyer Not Lying, I'm comfortable and quiet frankly not willing to risk the peace of my sanity.
I agree bro, I had 11 relationships but only 3 of them was with heartbreaking and cheating so I’m still thinking be alone is better, cause I lost some of pieces of heart after them
Translation: your giving up cause your having trouble finding someone
Yup, better to sleep with women than to actually give my precious heart. Loving someone is a BIG weekness.
Bro develop emotional intellegence
Damn you man. That was freaking emotional. I've never felt a fact hit so deep.
“Nice guys finish last.” That’s what an ex’s friend’s mother told my young and naive teenage self over the phone when I asked her why I was getting treated like shit. All I ever was, was a sweetheart to that girl (ex) and she chewed me up and spit me out.
From that moment, I guess I made a vow. But not to be some heartless player, diving out of one girl and into the next. I retained my dignity and honor…I just manned up and vowed to wear my thoughts on my sleeve, regardless of consequence. Some may call me an asshole, a prick. Others call me blunt but honest, sincere, genuine, real. Either way, lady troubles became a thing of the past.
What truly defeated any possibility of jealousy (can be a man’s crux) for me was when I was hanging with my cousin, who had just got cheat on by a girl he loved.
He said “if he can get her, he can have her. He just saved me the time it would have taken to figure out she was screwing me over somewhere else down the line.”
I’ll never forget that either.
Damn I felt that. Just broke up with a girl, and 3 days later she has a new replacement. Thank God that relationship didn't last long or else I would've felt much worse wasting my time on a hoe
@@EZRA0816 exactly.
Naw nice guys don't start the race they stuck in the friend zone
Not fair to us good women who appreciate a kind and romantic guy like their former self! We end up getting punished for some immature young teen girls' indecisiveness and mistakes!
No nice gyes are slow
Matthew Lillard is criminally underrated.
Wait till the fnaf movie coming out he's in later this month :D
@@Serket800what movie?
Is this why bro became William Afton?
Not really
& I'm not even being a hater
@@erievhsThe Special one’s (just a tip for the future - try to gather all the facts/words/actors names from a clip you see & google it) don’t sit and pray for one off saving grace… your welcome… your welcome
It’s not true for everyone, but sometimes it is and it’s the hardest thing to accept that she has broken you.
Fun story, Matthew Lillard grew up in OC California. My wife served him coffee when she worked at Starbucks (before I even knew her). She said he was a really nice dude.
That's cool!
He hit
@@tkay8548 Zoinks!!
Shes leaving some things out of that story bro
Bro he gave her his Scooby snack in the mystery machine on her lunch break bro she’s not telling you the whole story
Women: “where did all the respectful, chivalrous, kind men go? Where are all the “cowboys”?”
Men: “you and all your friends killed them.”
Boom! Bang on!
If women aren’t allowed to blame men for being shitty then neither should men.
Pretty much like where are all the good girls gone as guys are simping over Instagram and onlyfan models
Yesssssss 👏 I love this lol 😂
No. It was just some other random woman. A lot of women just walk in to “fix” a guy who wants to blame her for what his ex did just like this but if a girl is guarded because of what she went through the next guy is going to be mad that he’s getting punished for it. Double standards
Steps to become emotionally detached
#1 be nice and emotionally open
#2 eventually your gonna get hurt so bad you don’t give a damn
#3 cry yell etc learn that in life there are only winners and losers become better and never allow someone to dictate the relationship.
#4 treat your friends with respect and everyone else that’s a stranger set the bar high. We make the mistake as men that by being cool we can have a good relationship with a girl. Most times you should make them work it if they don’t give you bull and actually care they will stick around even then you always have to draw the line if it’s crossed finish it.
God, I felt the sympathy pain he put into his voice for a few seconds. He's a damn good voice actor.
Remember his voice when he was losing too much blood and realized he was dying ? In scream 1 . Well , that was a good one too that you could here the pain .
He is probably talking in hos own experience
SLC punk made me realize how good of an actor he really is. “Only posers die”
It wasn't acting. Just speaking the truth
@@Hansulf facts said the same thing
Treat her like a star, she'll treat you like a fan
Yep. That’s why you don’t.
So true
Comments like this are why women don’t take men serious anymore . You have no respect
@@HKona7 like how women have respect for us? Nowadays? Do u have any idea what they say to us behind our backs? When we’re not around? No u dont but i do because i heard it all from my mom, my wife even my ex “ men are pigs, scums.” But it’s the very same people who u treat like a queen that made u become that monster in fairy tales.
@@HKona7 they were probably hurt man
I started off treating women with respect and they disrespected me repeatedly but when I started disrespecting them they worship the ground I walk on.
The only woman a man will ever get unconditional love from is there mother and most men don't even get that
You can FEEL his pain by the way he talks and says the words ! Right in the feelings ! 💯
This is true
He’s speaking from experience…lol
Hey man, every villain has a backstory and a motivation.
Very few people are evil and fucked up for no reason.
Who are the villains here, though?
@@sneezyfido i suppose the ones who did that to these guys, because i very much doubt any of them had a reason
@@xXJLNINJAXx at first no, but then it becomes habit, and it will be the hardest addiction to break😞
@@sneezyfido you
Is this from a movie?
pain never heals, we eventually learn to live with it.....
I don't know who said it but its deep sad truth
That voice cracking,we all felt that brother🫡
You can actually see, the pain and hurt, in his eyes.. I too can relate to what he's saying. This is Amazing acting..👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I’ve been hurt several times, and one thing I’ve almost promised myself is that I won’t put someone else in the misery of what I’ve been through, no matter how hurt I may have been, I will not be like the people I loved once and pass on that pain to someone else.
Indeed!
Respect.
It’s not easy, but someone has to break the chain. Good for you, strength isn’t avoiding pain, it’s accepting the risk and believing you’ll find the heart that beats with yours. Never give up!
I wish more people looked at things like you and I. I couldn’t agree more with you. Life can be hard but don’t make it harder for others because you know how much it hurts so why make someone else hurt
Thats right. Letting others hurt you and change you into a bastard, they win.
“Every guy becomes a player out of fear. Fear of being crushed, by a springlock.”
This is basically the under pinning psychology of every person that goes through this that is not able to release and it’s unfortunate bc releasing is receiving, acting out of fear makes more if the same traditionally speaking
I...can vouch for this.
Went on a string of dates when the girl I really liked basically cut ties with me. Can't blame her. Botched my confession. Rookie mistake. After that I had an active love life. But all were just flings and dates.
For a long time I still pined for that one girl. I just wanted her back in my life somehow. Even if it was just as friends. I only got over her completely recently. When a mutual friend of ours (and one of my best) told me they met up recently after returning from overseas. I asked, with genuine wonder and tenderness, how she was doing. My friend said he did bring up my name during their catch up. Only she had apparently completely forgotten me.
And that's the end of that. Any desire to want her back in my life in any role vanished. I have my pride too.
Wow man!!
I'm glad you were out of those chains man. You'll be happier
That's awful.. I'm sorry.
Know your worth man, she doesn't deserve you 💪 Stay strong and respected
@@Will-lh4lh Thank you. Thank you for the kindness.
But really, I'm fine. And she is a sweet girl. Honestly. Very nice smile. My experience doesn't take away from that. But it would be stupid and pathetic of me or anyone in a similar position to want to remain "friends" with anyone who doesn't even like or respect me enough to remember my name. My name was the wind to her. I held her as a dear friend from my school days. But I was no one. So it was only a matter of propriety that she become no one to me too.
Besides, the girls I'm seeing now are much cuter. Hahah.
Can’t help but listen to this on repeat for a minute. Well articulated.
Yep watched it 4 times
Straight facts too. Least for me it is. I got rocked and this was me till I found my 3rd love. 7 years later more happy than ever before
@@somewhereinagalaxyfarfaraway yep. Same here. Got rocked hard as f*ck. Made myself impossible to catch until love number 3. 13 years deep now. Working on year 14.
@@BlerdDaddy85 respect my friend. Whatever you're doing keep doing it. Happy for ya
@@BlerdDaddy85 king 👑
may you keep eternal happiness.
One thing I learned that helped me alot after I made this vow is if I get into a relationship again, I will never give out 100% of my heart and no matter how happy we are I'll always have in the back of my mind that someday we'll break up and she'll grow to hate me. So that when it eventually happens, it won't hurt me as much.
Just got through a breakup last month and this method helped me be numb to the pain.
4,5 years later my heart is still broken 😢😢😢
man...ify... just got my heart broken last month, still hurts bro. 😢
I met Matthew Lillard when I was 11 and I swear to God he was the nicest person I have ever met. I was speechless and he came up to me and said “Hi Buddy, what’s your name?”. Super nice dude and deserves all the world has to offer him.
Damn, this video brought it all back. I fell in love for the first time at 14. I still remember the feeling now. It was like a wave of emotions hitting me at once, making me feel euphoric. For the first time in my life I wanted to be the romantic, I wanted to make her the happiest she’s ever been. That proceeded to be the happiest year I had in my life at that point. A beautiful girl on my arm, that was funny, laughed at my stupid jokes and seemed like she only ever wanted me.
It was weird seeing all of that change in the blink of an eye. It was just like one day she was done with me and wanted something different. Of course, she never told me this and just decided to treat me badly, avoid me at times and talk to other lads. I was just so in love that even though she was killing me inside and I had noticed all of these changes and thought she didn’t want to be with me anymore, that I held on for as long as I could.
I know guys, I was stupid.
She then proceeded to talk to this other guy, knowing I’m there, flirting with him to my face. This lead to an argument and she said she needed a break from us. I was devastated and my friends told me to come out with them to take my mind off it. I lasted around half the night before I made an excuse to go, telling everyone I’m going home. Really I was going to hers as I just wanted to speak to her.
I was almost of the top of her street, turned the corner and saw her there…with that guy. Them hugging and obviously being close. Another feeling I’ll never forget. I was so crushed in that moment, I’ve never felt anything like it since. It was honestly like my heart broke in half right there and turned black. I stood there for way longer than I should, basically torturing myself, not being able to move as I was so destroyed. That’s when the anger kicked in. I remember it boiling and just like the guy in this video said, vowing to myself to never ever let a girl hurt me ever again.
It stuck with me for so long that I didn’t even realise I was treating women badly, I was just subconsciously not letting anyone in, leading them on and being a player. It’s only now looking back and having it brought up that I realise how much it did affect me.
Crazy to think about now, when I’m almost 27, having opened my heart again for my girlfriend and my son, that I was like that because of someone’s decision to run over my heart.
Sorry for the long post, just had to get it off my chest😂
Hope the rest of you kings are doing well🙌🏻
I can relate to this. It happens to the best of us.. stay strong..
Keep going dude! You deserve a loving family! You learned it the hard way as many of us 👑✨
I also loved someone at the age of 20 i just saw him this one time and i got so commited that i would send him text messages of gud morning evening and like that for 1 year that went on like that then he told me he loves me but i am a muslim so i said we should get married but he yold me to wait for him so i wpuld always wait for his text i couldnt even get sleep but again when we talked he was just saying thing like i dont want any commitment i am not ready now if you wait for me i will send marriage proposal and i blindly waited for him for 4 year and thats when i met another person but i tried to play with his feeling i tried to cheat on him but regreted it the day after and told him everything i dont want to hurt him cuz i do love him but i just need to solve my fear first
Sorry to hear that bro. It must have been tremendously difficult to deal with that and at such a young age as well. Glad that you seem to be doing better now in that regard.
@@sfhaans21gaming56 thanks bro. Hope you’re doing well yourself👑
And someday when a genuine girl loves him unconditionally, then he breaks her heart coz of his past.... isn't that bad? Why would you wanna destroy someone who loves you truly...you are hurting the wrong person..
Women dont love men, women love what men provide them. Get your lies out of here.
That quote checks out! People will do stupid shit out of fear!
And the sad truth of it all is the player who “has all the women” doesn’t have the one that they truly want and the women who get played continue the cycle it all loops around, caused by a toxic social media culture and stress. The women who got played become materialistic and end up making more players and start to devalue themselves all out of pain from the guy who had pain himself. Look, if you’re struggling with a breakup or a loss, take time to YOURSELF, just you alone to deal with that pain. You can and will recover eventually and there is no sense in trying to force a relationship on yourself when you’re not ready for one. Take care of yourselves everyone, random biker dude on the internet out 🤘
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Never apply male logic to women. That is your first mistake here. Women aren’t that way because they got played. They’re that way because of upbringing and daddy issues. Men are players because of what this video says. Women, on the other hand are unfaithful and hypergamous for completely different reasons. Their brains are wired completely different. To believe different is to give them more credit than they deserve.
Had a dog named ghostie. He was a good boy. You're doing the name proud.
Wise words, Mr. Random Dude Biker ^^
I second this comment.
The strongest men and women are the ones who have had their hearts shattered. But they stfu, dusted themselves off and continued on as before vs becoming a harmful idiot.
Lots of subjective angles there though. It's tough to judge and measure.
Someone that goes through a rough experience unchanged, is a complete idiot. Nobody's talking about revenge here, but opening your eyes to reality, which is far from a pretty Hollywood romantic comedy.
@@musikinspace reality mean becoming a player.lol
Trust me, they didn't keep quiet about it. That's not healthy either--just bottling it all up only for it to come to a boil later. Emotionally and mentally mature people voice their displeasures, respectfully. They'll let you know if you hurt them, and then they'll move on.
@@suhanipanda859 There is no need to become anything. Only realize that becoming too invested in building a life with someone in any western society is a recipe for certain disaster nowadays, and then decide how you want to proceed. Do you want to close your eyes and try something that's ending in a train wreck for 90% of people? Go right ahead, but I will personally pass.
True, he wasn’t even acting here he meant all of that
"Chivalry is dead and woman killed it" Dave Chappelle
not all women
@@ilovehorses38 absolutely
I absolutely love Matthew Lillard. Dude has phenomenal range and crushes every role he's been in. It kind of bums me out that his Shaggy was so damn good that people only see him as shaggy.
Shaggy means what ?
@@rakimmalik180 He played the role of Shaggy Rogers in 2002's Scooby Doo
@@firstnamelastname-zi4mq ah ok cool I didn’t know thanks
@@rakimmalik180 definitely! The first one is surprisingly good. For sure worth the watch as there are plenty of more adult inside jokes.
I'll always know him for Without A Paddle and Scream.
If it doesn't kill you it only makes you stronger
or severely traumatised
Or stranger
If this was a movie, this would be my favorite scene of all time
My heart has been crushed a few times, but I tell you what, I'm not going to let those that crushed my heart in my past cheat me out of my future. I have learned to choose better and I'm not afraid to love again.
Why you should be women are all the same all the good ones are already taken or have given up on males completely all we are left with is the crazy bitches or worn out single mothers that are mentally fucked in the head why the fuck would you want to get back in the game after healing from the pain it caused you to begin with
Awesome. same here👏💪
You are a strong one. A lot of men dont have ur strength
Me to...hello Jeremy...I'm in the same position.
Amen to that Jay. Love is beautiful. Hope you find that special person that will love you and take care of that heart for yours and do the same too my friend. Stay bless
Mathew Lillard is one of the most underrated actors of all time
he's great!
Was just about to type that. Dude turns any part into a scene stealer and I mean thst in the best way.
Dude looks like a pile of playdough with a slash for lips
He will always be Shaggy
Cereal Killer
He's just speaking our heart
Just because you got hurt doesnt mean you become entitled to hurt anyone else...
Most under rated actor ever. He kills every role he steps into.
Yo i dont even know dude name but ive seen him in toomany movies and you aint lying bruh be on poit forreal
@@zosletsaddressit3240 His name is Matt Lillard lol but yeah my top 3 movies with him are probably Scream, Scooby doo, and 13 Ghosts.. he definitely needs to get into some more roles. Personally I'd like to see him play detective Twitch in the new Spawn movie instead of Jeremy Renner
Even 13 Ghosts? lol
@@krygerm what no "slc punk" or "hackers"?
Hey I like all his roles those were just the most memorable for me
Because that one time hurts the most and it stays with you for the rest of your life but it takes a bigger man to get back up and move forward
Exactly, head up, shoulders back and send it again.
Right, don't become a lame player just because of a few rugrats, that karma can come back on you when playing with people hearts and find your own hearts being 100% played with. Find God and remain a good man and a good woman then you will receive rewards
@@t4t806 fuck god
@MAKO 🔥 DIRECTSALES CUTCO fr these modern woman rather be thots
FACTS
We all experienced this and some of us are on this path as some of us already know, but it’s not because we’re scared of our heart being torn again, it’s because we now have leverage in the relationship to have power. Because we learned that the one that doesn’t care, holds the most leverage in the relationship. I learned it easy and I can thank my brothers and I for it.
This hit the 🎯