0:37 Too fast too soon 1:07 Two-Faced Texts 1:34 They need something 1:59 Manipulative Breadcrumbing 2:29 Word Salads 3:07 Threats 3:29 Not reading the entire message 3:54 Avoiding texts during confrontation
Very accurate. 7 out of 8. No threats. Avoiding texts during confrontation ended it though. You don't reply, I stop texting, and we disappear from each others lives.
I think that confrontations over text are actually more manipulative than ones that are face to face. There's no way to gauge how someone is feeling or their tone of voice or body language, and they can text any words they wish to placate and manipulate the conversation to turn it their way. You more often get to the real truth when people are stuck in the same room as you. Much easier to lie over text than lie to my face.
It depends. Skilled manipulator will be able to lie to your eyes with matching tone of voice, body language/mimics/gestures. Even in person, they can still steer the conversation the way they want, unless you´ve learned enough to be able to counter that. In FACT, text manipulation of any kind is easier to counter - you can give yourself enough time to calm down and think before responding. Which is a luxury you don’t have, when communicating face to face. Instead of focusing on body language, focus on overall actions of the other person. Like if their words match their behavior. Also, manipulators are generally VERY insecure people, requiring constant validation and input from others. If things don´t go their way, be prepared for literal child´s temper tantrum (it´s like when you´re in a store and refuse to buy your kid a new toy). You should also train yourself with recognizing projections, gaslighting and NEVER walk on eggshells around these people.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq Absolute nail on the head. If I may add, pay attention to how you're feeling around that person, as it's a good sign about what's going on.
All of these can also be done with no ill intent! If the person (like me) have adhd and autism we do have times where we do all of these. First, I’d like to say that I’m not defending any of these behaviors or saying that they can’t be problematic. But the things below are things that people with adhd/autism do struggle with. Don’t just decide that the person is “bad” please talk to them. It might be something deeper than manipulation. Also, all of this is written from my own experiences, friends experiences and also a lot of reading about my diagnosis. 1. Too fast too soon We are not love bombing you on purpose, the adhd can make us feel so in love so fast! We don’t mean to bombard you with love, we just can’t control our own emotions. 2. Two-faces text This one specifically could be connected to rejection sensitivity dysphoria (common in combination with adhd) If the person haven’t written to us all day, we can feel like they’re leaving us, reacting us, they’re pulling away, so we might write something like this in a way of protecting ourselves or for them to confirm that we’re wrong. 3. They need something A a lot of autistic/adhd people can have a hard time asking questions or even knowing what to ask. It’s not that we don’t care about you, we just don’t know how. 4. Manipulative breadcrumbing ADHD, sorry we have a hard time remembering! So when we do remember we like to show a lot of love and care. But we can also disappear again the next day 😅 5. Word salads Yeee we dot really know how to explain why we disappear sometimes. And some times (especially if you have depression as well) the reason could be so personal we do not want to share. 6. Threats Probably not meant as a threat, this is how it can look when a neurodivergent person finally starts putting up proper boundaries. But haven’t learned where or how to put down your boundaries yet. 7. Not reading the entire massage Sometimes we forget to answer everything 😅 and sometimes we really don’t know what to say or how to address it so we focus on the stuff we know how to handle. 8. Avoiding texts during confrontationa It’s sooo much easier for a lot of us if we can talk face to face. If we are with you we can se your body language, hear your tone of voice, which makes it easier for us to not misinterpret anything. Sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes ❤
I have often experienced manipulation from borderline women. I would never enter into a relationship again if I knew that she had a borderline disorder. Many of them don't even manipulate consciously, but the damage is enormous and they threaten self-harm if you want to break up.
@@krillin6 Of course, men can have borderline personality disorder too. It's just diagnosed less often because men don't seek help. I'm straight, so I've only had these experiences with a few women. The worst part was really blatant lies about her own parents that turned out to be untrue. I read a book about it back then to understand it all better, but the constant ups and downs were just too exhausting for me.
I'm being hard on myself because I mistreated someone by making a discussion about me because I've been frustrated these past days, meaning I wasn't doing okay. I lost my smile to wrong job choices, and I felt like..... I could just speak to the person first so I could push the negativity away, but I ended up ruining everything because I didn't let the person speak first, so I ended up making them angry. I didn't mean to. I mostly got angry with myself more than I had got with the person, like I always am getting angry with myself for most of the time. I beat myself hard by saying I don't deserve them, and all I do is just ruin everything and everyone.
@@Polza-sd1sm réponse courte au cas où tu ne veux pas lire : évite ce genre de message blessant et pas constructif s'il te plaît. L'espace commentaire est dédié à l'échange et au partage, tu peux toujours critiquer mais tes propos sont blessants et non constructifs. Réponse longue : sans vouloir trop m'avancer, je pense que cet espace commentaire est censé permettre à tout le monde de s'exprimer. C'est aussi le but de cette chaîne de permettre à tout le monde de s'informer pour éventuellement se sentir mieux. Avec ton manque d'empathie tu ferais mieux d'éviter de commenter, j'ai vu ton pseudo apparaître dans les réponses de plusieurs messages avec des propos crus ou blessants. Pense ce que tu veux mais je pense que tu ferais mieux de garder pour toi ce genre de messages qui sont juste blessants 😐
Don't push yourself too hard. It's never entirely under the responsibility of one person. I hope you will feel better soon. Maybe the person had a bad day but you were right to try to explain your concerns. I'm sure things are gonna get better! Don't lose confidence
Guys, can u do a video on a partner who's giving the bare minimum! I'm really having a very hard time in figuring this out! I feel like I'm not worthy enough for more....I just want to know 😶! Thanks for working hard for the better world!❤
Apologies but I kinda feel if you're getting the bare minimum this isn't going to work and you're better off moving on. A relationship should be something that makes you feel positive not wondering if you actually mean something to someone or not. If someone loved you they would hate you to feel this way not be the one to inflict that feeling on you.
This might be a circumstantial thing but I partially disagree with the “avoiding texts during confrontation” segment. Myself personally, I prefer in person conversations as opposed to messages because I’m neurodivergent and have a hard time understanding tone. I’d also like my tone to be correctly understood so there’s no room for confusion or miscommunication. Additionally, in person conversations held in a safe space with minimal distractions allows for effective communication and attentive listening. I don’t have a problem with texting because I have a secure attachment style and know that conflict is a normal part of any relationship as long as it’s healthy, but because I’m very thorough in communicating concerns I know some people can feel overwhelmed receiving walls and walls of texts so I think a bit of nuance should be provided in this context.
I agree wholeheartedly. I can't discern the tone of conversation over text. It's just words on a screen and the possibilities for what they could mean are limitless. I gauge people's emotions far better face to face and even just through a phone call.
Sauf que la personne le sait depuis très longtemps ! 😂🤣😂 Et la personne rigole juste 😂🤣😂😂 parce qu’elle sait tout 😂🤣😂 Quand on sait tout, on rigole 😂🤣😂
I get it, but I don’t like that. The texting during confrontation is on this list. I completely understand, but I like to talk so the person can hear the tone of my voice. Sometimes people assume you’re speaking with a different emotion than you are when they read your text messages hearing your tone. Like just because I’m disagreeing with someone through text, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m angry. But if they’re only reading my words, they could think anything.
8 Weird Texting Habits of Manipulators 1. 0:36 Too fast, too soon. 2. 1:06 Two-faced texts 3. 1:34 They need something 4. 1:58 Manipulative Breadcrumbing 5. 2:28 Word Salads 6. 3:06 Threats 7. 3:28 Not reading the entire message 8. 3:53 Avoiding texts during confrontations
@@prakhya123 You Misunderstand me... I mean at some point everyone can relate to some of the points mentioned here I only have a few habits mentioned in the video... I don't believe in using someone for my own sake... And I'm trying to be better... Better for the Girl I love the most ♥🤗
@@amanrawat3627 yes I believe everyone has some of these traits to some extent...they might use these and not know about them, it's better to recognize them and change yourself for future
Thing is though, it's HEALTHY to not have conflictive conversations over a a text message because it can easily be misread and escalate. I would be more concerned at someone only ever confronting me about stuff over a text message because it's hiding.
A little caveat about number 8: a lot of non toxic people tend to avoid texting about difficult difficult conversations and opt for in person conversations because a lot of emotion gets lost over text and it’s easier to have misunderstandings. Generally you can tell a non toxic person from a bad one because the bad one will avoid the conversation altogether, while a normal person may ask not to text about it but will be willing to talk to you about it face to face
I distinctly recall what, to me at least, was a _very_ weird habit. She would text a message, then delete it and say "No, nothing" or adapt it to be different than what was deleted. I wasn't bothered by this until I noticed it happened like three times a day, and until her passive-aggresive tendencies shined through. I am not ruling out anxiety, but it was incredibly difficult until I had a bit of insight on what was going on.
While a lot of these are true, some of these can also be misinterpreted. For instance if I know someone is busy, not responding, or if they need space…I will probably say that I’ll let them be and talk to them later. I generally don’t like to be a bother to people…ever. And even if I’m talking to someone constantly, I always ask if they need space from me or ask if they’re busy so I can figure out if I need to slow down. Or if I prefer to speak in person (or just verbally) about something specific, that’s not necessarily manipulation - it’s just because text alone doesn’t translate well for me in terms of tone and emotions. If you don’t know how I communicate in person, you’re likely to misunderstand how I text. I over think, over explain, then over explain why I’ve over explained. But over text, it can look different if you don’t know my communication or even anxious thinking style. I find that as helpful as this can be, it can ALSO lead to a lot of miscommunication. If you’re communicating with someone solely through text, I don’t advise using all of this as a way to know if you’re being manipulated or not. Unless you’ve communicated with this person in other ways. I understand a lot of these aren’t meant to all be taken 100% as gospel, but I know some people would.
Sometimes I worry whether I'm actually being genuine or not... I might be unaware that my behaviour could be seen as manipulative, even if it's not my intention
Timestamps 1). Too fast too soon 0:36 2). Two-faced texts 1:06 3). They need something 1:33 4). Manipulative breadcrumbing 1:58 5). Word salads 2:28 6). Threats 3:06 7). Not reading the entire message 3:28 8). Avoiding texts during confrontations 3:53 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
1. I always shower my bestie with compliments almost everyday.. like whenever I see a cute post about besties I share it with her.. 2. Sometimes when I'm angry I also say "guess u have more important friends than me" as a joke.. 3. I don't need to ask my bestie how was she cuz she always send photos/texts about how her day was and I share how mine was.. 4. Sometimes when my bestie sends me paragraphs about her new crush I don't really read all that and just say "nice" cuz unless about crushes or forwarded messages, she doesn't rlly send me long texts.. I've never been confused about my relationship with my bestie this much before..😅 I'm sure if I send this to her she will reply with a "why th are u watching relationship vids at 2am??"😂😂
I was a fighter my whole life. I've had fingers broken and text notoriously slow and everyone knows it, i am always quick to the act of responding though. When someone can text a paragraph to your sentence then yea, voice comms are better. That may be true that a narc would not want a paper trail but that is situational. I have no issue apologizing, or owning up. often i am the first to reach, and often the first to say sorry. The ones i love before pride and ego.
One of the most embarrassing mistakes of my life involved this sort of behavior, plus a few others. It's so hard to admit you got manipulated, and that it says more about their character than my own. This was hard to watch, but thank you.
I met one recently, they said I was "worth everything" and they loved me so much then suddenly without warning, I was nothing to them, we didn't know eachother and I'm called a manipulator for doing nothing wrong. They turn abusive very quickly if they dont get what they want.
It occurred to me that I might be dealing with a partner that has BPD. I need text to hold her accountable because if I don't have the proof to retrace our steps, it never happened. They don't innately come off as bad or manipulative but when you get to know them more personally and hear their true views about certain important topics you realize something just isn't quite right 🤔
Honestly, I want to be manipulated because I want to find someone better than me at many things especially manipulation, because it gives me the thrills especially if they're like obsessive. I just want to get best-ed on everything.
maybe a whole vid on the word salad thing?😭 bc even trying to directly express to the person ABT that very thing, they just dont address points directly and precisely no matter what and somehow beat around the bush. ik i shuld leave them yall but im lonely not in a 'romance' way but genuinely
What if they keep texting or calling you everyday even if you're busy or not, and keep asking for money or keep being dramatic about things and keeps guilt tripping?
I like when you all put out more context and nuance to your explanations. Some (if not most) of these can be learned behavior that never got addressed. I learned that thats possible for majority of people. It could be for a number of reasons that they are unaware that what they have learned, hurts people. Could there be an additional video guiding people to more check-ins for these behaviors and introduce the need we all have to become better communicators than whats been taught or learned from different relationship experiences? Id like to consider that there will be different people listening to this and defensiveness might be triggered with the thought of aligning with manipulators and not relate to the core of ths information. Also manipulation. Ive yet to come across words like manipulation not being suported by something like, "harmful manipulation". Manipulation would be interesting to dissect a bit more. Theres stigma surrounding words like manipulation. I personally always went straight to seeing it as something to be ashamed for. If you believe in things like science, we need manipulation to acheive what we have discovered in chemistry, alchemy for me. I could go on. I appreciate how we have evolved opening conversations like this because if someone does know that they are harmfully manipulating someone, thats unsafe but hopefully could help people be aware what theyre experiencing or we all hope that this could check some people to address it. If someone was taught these socially or is justifying surviving off these tactics, its just as harmful, so i get why the video is set up this way. But we do recognize time and again that we evolve with questioning, even critic, judgement. It just doesn have to come from a brute place or a need to be right place but suggestions, these are all suggestions and to consider whats being shared. Fuk its hard to be vulnerable snd share thoughts. Humans struggle and are learning to tap into their triggers...i wish you well.
i think i encountered someone trying to manipulate me or just trick me into dating them but i talked with a good friend about it and they recommended grey rocking them
When we're an open and kind person we have this experience with a manipulator/ghost/gaslighter etc. My approch to this situations: we're learning. And if we noticed it's no progress the best option it's to STOP to talk. I stopped. Now I don't waste my time to talk to unwanted contacts.
Unfortunately, confrontations via text is a trigger of mine that I'm trying to work through. I've been thoroughly degraded through messages, cursed at, called things that I still remember years later. So, the thought of confrontations scare me intensely. I do push myself through it, Communication is important, but the moment the name calling, gaslighting or cruel wordings start, I'm disappearing.
Like ik the neurotypical tradition is to lie to people you recently met who you think could actually be a real friend to you, but you have to pretend you don't have your hopes up, but weirdly brave isn't the same as suspicious. Desperate, maybe, but all of us who grew up without real friends are desperate. So should I start pretending that I don't think about the chance of this person finally being trustworthy all the time the first few weeks after meeting them??
I only relate to the first statement in this video. Because I used to use the love bombing texting method on my sixth grader friend in the past. And now even months later I still feel guilty about ruining our friendship all because of my careless behavior.
Love the videos every time, always help me in my down confused mood… but this audio was very loud! as a person who often listen and feel very calming with a person who has a more calming tone narrative on these videos from past tense, I am speaking from the perspective of a recurrent supporter, the volume is very clear and loud at the same time. This is night a bad opinion comment. This is a supporter of the channel comment.
"Text only went they need your help and want smth from you " that is all of my friends💀 but the thing is i also just talk when i need smth idk what else to talk about in text... so ya my all friends are like that and I am also like that?💀 huh is it bad?
Sorry, friend. I got blocked for being honest with someone that I wanted to go to bed instead of texting late due to a technology fast I was trying at the time. It’s a super crummy feeling, and if you’re anything like me, it’s hard that it probably won’t be able to be resolved. 😢 Ghosting is such a crummy thing. I guess the right people won’t ghost and/or block us for being honest!
This was my ex and relationship. 😢 It wasn't easy to break from them, because I knew them before they changed their whole person. When I met them back in 2012, they were a good friend. Disappeared from the net about 6 years. Come back 6 years later and say they said they were hurt when I was with my friend and when I was Off the friendship/relationship. Then, they started to text me and start the relationship way too fast! Love bombing me, giving texts all the time and when I was making the time to see them online, they would be upset if I took too long to be online or I was busy with my friends or other things and they got upset, that they would be always second. But I never thought I would be in a bad relationship, until I finally had enough of their threat text that they will leave me if I didn't do what they said they want me to do. It was hard...but I'm glad I got out just before I would be regretting ever deciding to spend the rest of my life with them.. This video was just what I was thinking about. Thank you for the insight
I'm a woman, and that texting pattern sounds like my guy friend, I stopped talking to him once we had, not talked for 2 years. ( not stop talking, I should say we took a break)
I do not find that avoiding texts during a confrontation is a manipulative tactic. Tone is very often lost in texts and create misunderstandings, especially in tense situations, which make things worse. It depends on the people texting too of course and what the argument is about, but listing that behaviour here can be misleading.
What? I’ve been talking like this with my girl best friend. I didn’t know it was manipulative, but I just wanted to hang out with her sometimes. But I don’t want more from her, besides, we’re just friends after all
A certain guy I met would ask me how my nights were and Then bombshell me with a request that Really made for grounds as a pig butchering situation... That's something that's happened to me 😓
I was in a relationship with someone and he was so toxic , but i was too dumb to notice because i thought that was love , he made me feel like he was the only man who would ever love me , i broke up with him on Friday and he started calling me a B and that he would ki*l me if he has too
Странные чувства.. Я не думала что смогу так привязатся к своему телефону только потому что мной манипулируют.. Иногда я это ненавижу поэтому что чувствую себя несвободной а иногда счастлива когда вижу сообщения предназначенные для меня.. Эта манипуляция связывает меня по рукам и ногам принося удовольствие и страдание.. Но ведь так не должно быть. Я не должна быть зависима от телефона... Одним словом эксперимент удался! ❤ P. S я уже начинаю мечтать что бы Ютуб в России закрыли)
She stopped talking to me even tho i see her online talking to others every 20 mins but when i ask her about it she would say "im just msging my friends". Thats cool and all but if you liked me you wouldnt leave me on delivered for days while i am watching you do things onine. Worst part is she would say im not her number one priority which i can understand but when your friends get higher priority then someone who youd say you love is kinda rough to hear. Basically she lost interest and made me feel like i was doing something wrong instead of just telling me shed lost interest. Sorry i had to just vent, maybe someone knows what this is like.
Yeah I was texting this person for like 3 months now, and I did feel something that this person wrote and didn't like it they shifted blame to me, and yeah all of these signs in the video were applicable on that person I had that gut feeling that yeah this person is manipulating me... So I decided to take a step and I just blocked him from everywhere. 🎉
I’m being manipulated and used to be abused by my “friend” maddy. It really sucks because there’s not really a way to stop being friends with her so um what should I do?
I wanted to see wether or not I was doing something similar with my boyfriend unconsciously Well, we are doing things too soon too fast. And I say we because he actually wants everything to happen as well. Although the reason could be because of his past and current situation
I used to manipulate my mom this way I would write paragraphs Abt how I would do better just telling her what she wants to hear. And It would work but then caught onto it ..Don worry I'm working on my lying now and I don't manipulate as much anymore
erm.... I started texting this person abt a week ago and they ghosted me. Yesterday i texted them aaking about the first day of school (what to do and stuff). They responded and apologized foe ghosting me, saying they had family drama. I replied with "oh no its fine" (im genuinely okay with it) and said "i know we odnt know each other well but im here if you need me" Was this wrong or am i just overthinking after the video? lol
Ey Psych2Go Can you make a video about survival mode and those who wants to enjoy their life. Like kinda a personality inspection and how this two kinds of people can never understand each other❤
Manipulators will text you whatever they think you want to hear, rather than anything genuine or sincere.
It’s called casting spells
💯 yes Walter manipulation is esoterism
Comme toi gros con 😂🤣😂
Oui comme toi gros con 😂🤣😂 T’es vraiment le plus con de la planète ! Incroyable 😂😂 comme cette chaîne d’ailleurs 😂🤣
La phrase du manipulateur 😂😂 qui a perdu sa bite 😂😂
0:37 Too fast too soon
1:07 Two-Faced Texts
1:34 They need something
1:59 Manipulative Breadcrumbing
2:29 Word Salads
3:07 Threats
3:29 Not reading the entire message
3:54 Avoiding texts during confrontation
Oh well I just realized something now
Thank you 😊
but if only 1-3 signs match my situation does that already mean its manipulative texting?? how many signs an enough to know
Very accurate. 7 out of 8. No threats. Avoiding texts during confrontation ended it though. You don't reply, I stop texting, and we disappear from each others lives.
You can add FAMILY this is not just about love and friendship
Heavy on family
Real
I think that confrontations over text are actually more manipulative than ones that are face to face. There's no way to gauge how someone is feeling or their tone of voice or body language, and they can text any words they wish to placate and manipulate the conversation to turn it their way. You more often get to the real truth when people are stuck in the same room as you. Much easier to lie over text than lie to my face.
Yep i think textual confrontations are more manipulative as well
What I was thinking. Its easier for them to be careful with what they say and u can't tell how they are coming across.
It depends. Skilled manipulator will be able to lie to your eyes with matching tone of voice, body language/mimics/gestures. Even in person, they can still steer the conversation the way they want, unless you´ve learned enough to be able to counter that.
In FACT, text manipulation of any kind is easier to counter - you can give yourself enough time to calm down and think before responding. Which is a luxury you don’t have, when communicating face to face.
Instead of focusing on body language, focus on overall actions of the other person. Like if their words match their behavior. Also, manipulators are generally VERY insecure people, requiring constant validation and input from others. If things don´t go their way, be prepared for literal child´s temper tantrum (it´s like when you´re in a store and refuse to buy your kid a new toy).
You should also train yourself with recognizing projections, gaslighting and NEVER walk on eggshells around these people.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq Absolute nail on the head. If I may add, pay attention to how you're feeling around that person, as it's a good sign about what's going on.
That's weird, I was just about to search for manipulator traits and you uploaded this hahaha! Thanks a lot it saved me a few clicks
she manipulated you
It’s called the Akasha
All of these can also be done with no ill intent!
If the person (like me) have adhd and autism we do have times where we do all of these.
First, I’d like to say that I’m not defending any of these behaviors or saying that they can’t be problematic.
But the things below are things that people with adhd/autism do struggle with.
Don’t just decide that the person is “bad” please talk to them.
It might be something deeper than manipulation.
Also, all of this is written from my own experiences, friends experiences and also a lot of reading about my diagnosis.
1. Too fast too soon
We are not love bombing you on purpose, the adhd can make us feel so in love so fast!
We don’t mean to bombard you with love, we just can’t control our own emotions.
2. Two-faces text
This one specifically could be connected to rejection sensitivity dysphoria (common in combination with adhd)
If the person haven’t written to us all day, we can feel like they’re leaving us, reacting us, they’re pulling away, so we might write something like this in a way of protecting ourselves or for them to confirm that we’re wrong.
3. They need something
A a lot of autistic/adhd people can have a hard time asking questions or even knowing what to ask. It’s not that we don’t care about you, we just don’t know how.
4. Manipulative breadcrumbing
ADHD, sorry we have a hard time remembering! So when we do remember we like to show a lot of love and care. But we can also disappear again the next day 😅
5. Word salads
Yeee we dot really know how to explain why we disappear sometimes.
And some times (especially if you have depression as well) the reason could be so personal we do not want to share.
6. Threats
Probably not meant as a threat, this is how it can look when a neurodivergent person finally starts putting up proper boundaries.
But haven’t learned where or how to put down your boundaries yet.
7. Not reading the entire massage
Sometimes we forget to answer everything 😅 and sometimes we really don’t know what to say or how to address it so we focus on the stuff we know how to handle.
8. Avoiding texts during confrontationa
It’s sooo much easier for a lot of us if we can talk face to face. If we are with you we can se your body language, hear your tone of voice, which makes it easier for us to not misinterpret anything.
Sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes ❤
I legit felt some of those.
Relatable.
Agreed. It's easier to confront each other through F2F rather than texting...it avoids situations like ghosting. Great vid and great comment :)
I have often experienced manipulation from borderline women. I would never enter into a relationship again if I knew that she had a borderline disorder. Many of them don't even manipulate consciously, but the damage is enormous and they threaten self-harm if you want to break up.
All true. I ended up married to someone with BPD and suffered 9 years of abuse.
Small note: men can also have BPD
borderline is the most manageable disorder with DBT
Being a narc is not about a personnality disorder
Its about machiavelism
C’est pourquoi il faut rester célibataire ! Toi tu cherches les problèmes ! Et bien tu les a eu 😂🤣😂
@@krillin6 Of course, men can have borderline personality disorder too. It's just diagnosed less often because men don't seek help. I'm straight, so I've only had these experiences with a few women. The worst part was really blatant lies about her own parents that turned out to be untrue. I read a book about it back then to understand it all better, but the constant ups and downs were just too exhausting for me.
How can someone be unconsciously manipulating people?
I'm being hard on myself because I mistreated someone by making a discussion about me because I've been frustrated these past days, meaning I wasn't doing okay. I lost my smile to wrong job choices, and I felt like..... I could just speak to the person first so I could push the negativity away, but I ended up ruining everything because I didn't let the person speak first, so I ended up making them angry. I didn't mean to. I mostly got angry with myself more than I had got with the person, like I always am getting angry with myself for most of the time. I beat myself hard by saying I don't deserve them, and all I do is just ruin everything and everyone.
Rien à foutre de tes problèmes 😂😂
@@Polza-sd1sm what
@@Polza-sd1sm réponse courte au cas où tu ne veux pas lire : évite ce genre de message blessant et pas constructif s'il te plaît. L'espace commentaire est dédié à l'échange et au partage, tu peux toujours critiquer mais tes propos sont blessants et non constructifs.
Réponse longue : sans vouloir trop m'avancer, je pense que cet espace commentaire est censé permettre à tout le monde de s'exprimer. C'est aussi le but de cette chaîne de permettre à tout le monde de s'informer pour éventuellement se sentir mieux. Avec ton manque d'empathie tu ferais mieux d'éviter de commenter, j'ai vu ton pseudo apparaître dans les réponses de plusieurs messages avec des propos crus ou blessants. Pense ce que tu veux mais je pense que tu ferais mieux de garder pour toi ce genre de messages qui sont juste blessants 😐
Don't push yourself too hard. It's never entirely under the responsibility of one person. I hope you will feel better soon. Maybe the person had a bad day but you were right to try to explain your concerns. I'm sure things are gonna get better! Don't lose confidence
@@marion853 Je m’en fous ! Je fais ce que je veux !
Guys, can u do a video on a partner who's giving the bare minimum! I'm really having a very hard time in figuring this out! I feel like I'm not worthy enough for more....I just want to know 😶! Thanks for working hard for the better world!❤
Bare minimum in what sense? I hope you don't mind me asking
Apologies but I kinda feel if you're getting the bare minimum this isn't going to work and you're better off moving on. A relationship should be something that makes you feel positive not wondering if you actually mean something to someone or not. If someone loved you they would hate you to feel this way not be the one to inflict that feeling on you.
This might be a circumstantial thing but I partially disagree with the “avoiding texts during confrontation” segment. Myself personally, I prefer in person conversations as opposed to messages because I’m neurodivergent and have a hard time understanding tone. I’d also like my tone to be correctly understood so there’s no room for confusion or miscommunication. Additionally, in person conversations held in a safe space with minimal distractions allows for effective communication and attentive listening.
I don’t have a problem with texting because I have a secure attachment style and know that conflict is a normal part of any relationship as long as it’s healthy, but because I’m very thorough in communicating concerns I know some people can feel overwhelmed receiving walls and walls of texts so I think a bit of nuance should be provided in this context.
I agree wholeheartedly. I can't discern the tone of conversation over text. It's just words on a screen and the possibilities for what they could mean are limitless. I gauge people's emotions far better face to face and even just through a phone call.
I just wanted to say I love your guys's thumbnails so much
It's all fun and games until the manipulator's target is savage, and they will roast him
Sauf que la personne le sait depuis très longtemps ! 😂🤣😂
Et la personne rigole juste 😂🤣😂😂 parce qu’elle sait tout 😂🤣😂 Quand on sait tout, on rigole 😂🤣😂
I just found out that I am manipulator😭😭😭 maybe that's the reason I got no friends 😔
I get it, but I don’t like that. The texting during confrontation is on this list. I completely understand, but I like to talk so the person can hear the tone of my voice. Sometimes people assume you’re speaking with a different emotion than you are when they read your text messages hearing your tone. Like just because I’m disagreeing with someone through text, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m angry. But if they’re only reading my words, they could think anything.
8 Weird Texting Habits of Manipulators
1. 0:36 Too fast, too soon.
2. 1:06 Two-faced texts
3. 1:34 They need something
4. 1:58 Manipulative Breadcrumbing
5. 2:28 Word Salads
6. 3:06 Threats
7. 3:28 Not reading the entire message
8. 3:53 Avoiding texts during confrontations
Watching these videos proves to me every time that I'm the biggest manipulator I've ever seen..🙂
I feel like I've heard these before, and I immediately run from the people.
Same
lucky and i was with a guy like that for 3 years :)
See? I so know. I still just want to hear about it. Feels so satisfying to be so aware.
I clicked this vid just to make sure I wasn't a manipulative texter but it seems I just know how they think but I don't do this things. Great to know
Funny , or better sad?, that the people you describe get the most attention in this society.
I didnt knew that 'I was the Manipulator all this time'🙂🤧
Now you know and can change your negative behaviour for the better.
@@prakhya123 You Misunderstand me...
I mean at some point everyone can relate to some of the points mentioned here
I only have a few habits mentioned in the video...
I don't believe in using someone for my own sake...
And I'm trying to be better...
Better for the Girl I love the most ♥🤗
@@amanrawat3627 yes I believe everyone has some of these traits to some extent...they might use these and not know about them, it's better to recognize them and change yourself for future
@@prakhya123 Absolutely... I will🫴
@@Polza-sd1smSi cette chaîne ne te plaît pas, arrête de regarder leurs vidéos !
i always have one sided conversations with myself
Thing is though, it's HEALTHY to not have conflictive conversations over a a text message because it can easily be misread and escalate. I would be more concerned at someone only ever confronting me about stuff over a text message because it's hiding.
A little caveat about number 8: a lot of non toxic people tend to avoid texting about difficult difficult conversations and opt for in person conversations because a lot of emotion gets lost over text and it’s easier to have misunderstandings. Generally you can tell a non toxic person from a bad one because the bad one will avoid the conversation altogether, while a normal person may ask not to text about it but will be willing to talk to you about it face to face
I distinctly recall what, to me at least, was a _very_ weird habit.
She would text a message, then delete it and say "No, nothing" or adapt it to be different than what was deleted. I wasn't bothered by this until I noticed it happened like three times a day, and until her passive-aggresive tendencies shined through.
I am not ruling out anxiety, but it was incredibly difficult until I had a bit of insight on what was going on.
While a lot of these are true, some of these can also be misinterpreted. For instance if I know someone is busy, not responding, or if they need space…I will probably say that I’ll let them be and talk to them later. I generally don’t like to be a bother to people…ever. And even if I’m talking to someone constantly, I always ask if they need space from me or ask if they’re busy so I can figure out if I need to slow down.
Or if I prefer to speak in person (or just verbally) about something specific, that’s not necessarily manipulation - it’s just because text alone doesn’t translate well for me in terms of tone and emotions. If you don’t know how I communicate in person, you’re likely to misunderstand how I text. I over think, over explain, then over explain why I’ve over explained. But over text, it can look different if you don’t know my communication or even anxious thinking style.
I find that as helpful as this can be, it can ALSO lead to a lot of miscommunication. If you’re communicating with someone solely through text, I don’t advise using all of this as a way to know if you’re being manipulated or not. Unless you’ve communicated with this person in other ways. I understand a lot of these aren’t meant to all be taken 100% as gospel, but I know some people would.
Ma popotte ! Il faut rigoler ! Tout ce qui publie c’est de la merde 😂🤣😂
@@Polza-sd1sm I don’t know what you just said, apologies
Omgggg!!!!!! Such creative video ideas❤ no wonder so many people have subscribed. I'm really excited dude❤Feels like a major glow up frrrr
It would be nice to apply this to friends and family members instead of just a love interest
Sometimes I worry whether I'm actually being genuine or not... I might be unaware that my behaviour could be seen as manipulative, even if it's not my intention
Timestamps
1). Too fast too soon 0:36
2). Two-faced texts 1:06
3). They need something 1:33
4). Manipulative breadcrumbing 1:58
5). Word salads 2:28
6). Threats 3:06
7). Not reading the entire message 3:28
8). Avoiding texts during confrontations 3:53
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
1. I always shower my bestie with compliments almost everyday.. like whenever I see a cute post about besties I share it with her..
2. Sometimes when I'm angry I also say "guess u have more important friends than me" as a joke..
3. I don't need to ask my bestie how was she cuz she always send photos/texts about how her day was and I share how mine was..
4. Sometimes when my bestie sends me paragraphs about her new crush I don't really read all that and just say "nice" cuz unless about crushes or forwarded messages, she doesn't rlly send me long texts..
I've never been confused about my relationship with my bestie this much before..😅
I'm sure if I send this to her she will reply with a "why th are u watching relationship vids at 2am??"😂😂
Literally everyone I know and my friends partners. Can't do anything eh. I never will trust butterflies.
Same here, it looks like this type of situation is more common than I thought…
Im early, nice video btw
I was a fighter my whole life. I've had fingers broken and text notoriously slow and everyone knows it, i am always quick to the act of responding though. When someone can text a paragraph to your sentence then yea, voice comms are better. That may be true that a narc would not want a paper trail but that is situational. I have no issue apologizing, or owning up. often i am the first to reach, and often the first to say sorry. The ones i love before pride and ego.
Thanks for teaching me how to do this I’ll keep it in mine how to manipulate better I love this content keep it up
One of the most embarrassing mistakes of my life involved this sort of behavior, plus a few others. It's so hard to admit you got manipulated, and that it says more about their character than my own. This was hard to watch, but thank you.
I usually like to confront or talk about the big stuff face to face because it feels too important for text. Is that okay?
I met one recently, they said I was "worth everything" and they loved me so much then suddenly without warning, I was nothing to them, we didn't know eachother and I'm called a manipulator for doing nothing wrong. They turn abusive very quickly if they dont get what they want.
It occurred to me that I might be dealing with a partner that has BPD. I need text to hold her accountable because if I don't have the proof to retrace our steps, it never happened. They don't innately come off as bad or manipulative but when you get to know them more personally and hear their true views about certain important topics you realize something just isn't quite right 🤔
Honestly, I want to be manipulated because I want to find someone better than me at many things especially manipulation, because it gives me the thrills especially if they're like obsessive. I just want to get best-ed on everything.
Very Good!
3:29 I am really guilty about not reading the entire message. I tell all my friends do not send me essays to my phone😂
We can just talk at this point.
Yeah, we can talk about people (me included) that think with their voice in their head makes it so slow to read, I relate, I hate and adore books
Avoiding texts during a confrontation is how it ended. You don't reply, I stop texting and we disappear from each other's lives.
You’re my fav youtuber❤
maybe a whole vid on the word salad thing?😭 bc even trying to directly express to the person ABT that very thing, they just dont address points directly and precisely no matter what and somehow beat around the bush. ik i shuld leave them yall but im lonely not in a 'romance' way but genuinely
I'm so glad I've been texting responsibly and cutting off unhealthy relationships!
What if they keep texting or calling you everyday even if you're busy or not, and keep asking for money or keep being dramatic about things and keeps guilt tripping?
Guilt trips......gaslighting.....falls upon deaf ears now
Thanks for making this video. I really need to know all this right now🙃
I like when you all put out more context and nuance to your explanations. Some (if not most) of these can be learned behavior that never got addressed. I learned that thats possible for majority of people. It could be for a number of reasons that they are unaware that what they have learned, hurts people. Could there be an additional video guiding people to more check-ins for these behaviors and introduce the need we all have to become better communicators than whats been taught or learned from different relationship experiences? Id like to consider that there will be different people listening to this and defensiveness might be triggered with the thought of aligning with manipulators and not relate to the core of ths information. Also manipulation. Ive yet to come across words like manipulation not being suported by something like, "harmful manipulation". Manipulation would be interesting to dissect a bit more. Theres stigma surrounding words like manipulation. I personally always went straight to seeing it as something to be ashamed for. If you believe in things like science, we need manipulation to acheive what we have discovered in chemistry, alchemy for me. I could go on. I appreciate how we have evolved opening conversations like this because if someone does know that they are harmfully manipulating someone, thats unsafe but hopefully could help people be aware what theyre experiencing or we all hope that this could check some people to address it. If someone was taught these socially or is justifying surviving off these tactics, its just as harmful, so i get why the video is set up this way. But we do recognize time and again that we evolve with questioning, even critic, judgement. It just doesn have to come from a brute place or a need to be right place but suggestions, these are all suggestions and to consider whats being shared. Fuk its hard to be vulnerable snd share thoughts. Humans struggle and are learning to tap into their triggers...i wish you well.
^word salad
i think i encountered someone trying to manipulate me or just trick me into dating them but i talked with a good friend about it and they recommended grey rocking them
3:08 i had a very close friend who act like he fainted when he don't get what he want
When we're an open and kind person we have this experience with a manipulator/ghost/gaslighter etc. My approch to this situations: we're learning. And if we noticed it's no progress the best option it's to STOP to talk. I stopped. Now I don't waste my time to talk to unwanted contacts.
i realized that i am manipulative, i do some of the things in this vid iand i havent realized since now.
Unfortunately, confrontations via text is a trigger of mine that I'm trying to work through. I've been thoroughly degraded through messages, cursed at, called things that I still remember years later. So, the thought of confrontations scare me intensely. I do push myself through it, Communication is important, but the moment the name calling, gaslighting or cruel wordings start, I'm disappearing.
Like ik the neurotypical tradition is to lie to people you recently met who you think could actually be a real friend to you, but you have to pretend you don't have your hopes up, but weirdly brave isn't the same as suspicious. Desperate, maybe, but all of us who grew up without real friends are desperate. So should I start pretending that I don't think about the chance of this person finally being trustworthy all the time the first few weeks after meeting them??
I'm starting to think that I'm a manipulator,and made me feel much worse
I only relate to the first statement in this video. Because I used to use the love bombing texting method on my sixth grader friend in the past. And now even months later I still feel guilty about ruining our friendship all because of my careless behavior.
Thanks, before watcvhing this, I was being controlled, now I'm back in control! Also I push them further out to sea!
Love the videos every time, always help me in my down confused mood… but this audio was very loud! as a person who often listen and feel very calming with a person who has a more calming tone narrative on these videos from past tense, I am speaking from the perspective of a recurrent supporter, the volume is very clear and loud at the same time. This is night a bad opinion comment. This is a supporter of the channel comment.
Very informative video, thank you
"Text only went they need your help and want smth from you " that is all of my friends💀 but the thing is i also just talk when i need smth idk what else to talk about in text... so ya my all friends are like that and I am also like that?💀 huh is it bad?
Thanks! Be careful everyone and take care!
Manipulating bread crumbing was a BIG ONE when I try to confront my concerns I get GHOSTED.🤦
Sorry, friend. I got blocked for being honest with someone that I wanted to go to bed instead of texting late due to a technology fast I was trying at the time. It’s a super crummy feeling, and if you’re anything like me, it’s hard that it probably won’t be able to be resolved. 😢 Ghosting is such a crummy thing. I guess the right people won’t ghost and/or block us for being honest!
As someone who has used love to manipulate someone before these usually arent true
Darn those confrontational texts!
This video some how said my exact same incident yesterday while I was chatting with some one. 😅😅😅
You shouldn’t text when in a confrontation or serious talks.
why did I join the video that fast
Because we are being manipulated badly by a closed one
This was my ex and relationship.
😢
It wasn't easy to break from them, because I knew them before they changed their whole person.
When I met them back in 2012, they were a good friend.
Disappeared from the net about 6 years.
Come back 6 years later and say they said they were hurt when I was with my friend and when I was Off the friendship/relationship.
Then, they started to text me and start the relationship way too fast!
Love bombing me, giving texts all the time and when I was making the time to see them online, they would be upset if I took too long to be online or I was busy with my friends or other things and they got upset, that they would be always second.
But I never thought I would be in a bad relationship, until I finally had enough of their threat text that they will leave me if I didn't do what they said they want me to do.
It was hard...but I'm glad I got out just before I would be regretting ever deciding to spend the rest of my life with them..
This video was just what I was thinking about.
Thank you for the insight
I'm a woman, and that texting pattern sounds like my guy friend, I stopped talking to him once we had, not talked for 2 years. ( not stop talking, I should say we took a break)
I’m extremely early for this one!
I do not find that avoiding texts during a confrontation is a manipulative tactic. Tone is very often lost in texts and create misunderstandings, especially in tense situations, which make things worse.
It depends on the people texting too of course and what the argument is about, but listing that behaviour here can be misleading.
Get well soon 🙏
What? I’ve been talking like this with my girl best friend. I didn’t know it was manipulative, but I just wanted to hang out with her sometimes. But I don’t want more from her, besides, we’re just friends after all
A certain guy I met would ask me how my nights were and Then bombshell me with a request that Really made for grounds as a pig butchering situation... That's something that's happened to me 😓
I was in a relationship with someone and he was so toxic , but i was too dumb to notice because i thought that was love , he made me feel like he was the only man who would ever love me , i broke up with him on Friday and he started calling me a B and that he would ki*l me if he has too
Странные чувства.. Я не думала что смогу так привязатся к своему телефону только потому что мной манипулируют.. Иногда я это ненавижу поэтому что чувствую себя несвободной а иногда счастлива когда вижу сообщения предназначенные для меня.. Эта манипуляция связывает меня по рукам и ногам принося удовольствие и страдание.. Но ведь так не должно быть. Я не должна быть зависима от телефона...
Одним словом эксперимент удался!
❤
P. S я уже начинаю мечтать что бы Ютуб в России закрыли)
She stopped talking to me even tho i see her online talking to others every 20 mins but when i ask her about it she would say "im just msging my friends". Thats cool and all but if you liked me you wouldnt leave me on delivered for days while i am watching you do things onine. Worst part is she would say im not her number one priority which i can understand but when your friends get higher priority then someone who youd say you love is kinda rough to hear. Basically she lost interest and made me feel like i was doing something wrong instead of just telling me shed lost interest. Sorry i had to just vent, maybe someone knows what this is like.
1:36 real.
thank you for the video ❤️
Ah poo I’ve got the Doc’s and there’s no summary comment yet 😭
3:30 only answering what they want to
Man this page is just going further into generalizing people
Finally, the answer comes up 😂🤣😂
Yeah I was texting this person for like 3 months now, and I did feel something that this person wrote and didn't like it they shifted blame to me, and yeah all of these signs in the video were applicable on that person I had that gut feeling that yeah this person is manipulating me... So I decided to take a step and I just blocked him from everywhere. 🎉
I cannot believe i do most of these things to my girlfriend.
I'm 13 rn and this is the exactly same kinda relationship I have 😢😢 what should I do? We don't talk much at school cuz of teachers, we only text
I’m being manipulated and used to be abused by my “friend” maddy. It really sucks because there’s not really a way to stop being friends with her so um what should I do?
It is easy to spot but i have better way to manipulate but i never use it since is not good
Thank you!
I wanted to see wether or not I was doing something similar with my boyfriend unconsciously
Well, we are doing things too soon too fast. And I say we because he actually wants everything to happen as well.
Although the reason could be because of his past and current situation
When it still comes down to scamming.
I used to manipulate my mom this way I would write paragraphs Abt how I would do better just telling her what she wants to hear. And It would work but then caught onto it ..Don worry I'm working on my lying now and I don't manipulate as much anymore
Manipulation via binary codes of 0 and 1. Communication is done in the real world
erm....
I started texting this person abt a week ago and they ghosted me. Yesterday i texted them aaking about the first day of school (what to do and stuff).
They responded and apologized foe ghosting me, saying they had family drama. I replied with "oh no its fine" (im genuinely okay with it) and said "i know we odnt know each other well but im here if you need me"
Was this wrong or am i just overthinking after the video? lol
You're fine. And that's all you really need to know.
@@tdesq.2463 ok. Ty
Interesting recommendations yt
Dang ya I really should drop this person that j like it is just a big bummer especially since they lied to me about so much
I sometimes get told i do word salads cus my spelling sucks😭
Ey Psych2Go
Can you make a video about survival mode and those who wants to enjoy their life. Like kinda a personality inspection and how this two kinds of people can never understand each other❤
Non ils préfèrent te manipuler si t’es con comme eux 😂🤣😂
Really should have watched this a month ago 😅
I mean my gf only has one pattern, but she is very much not manipulative