The family of 11 navigating 6 different special needs in Singapore | This Is Us
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- čas přidán 4. 07. 2024
- Tahirah and Irwan have nine children, aged 3 to 21.
They’re a big family with even bigger hearts, but what is it like navigating autism, anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and Global Developmental Delay (GDD) as a family?
Irwan describes it as “happy stress” while Tahirah calls it “organised chaos”.
Chapters:
0:00 - Meet the family
01:00 - A rare family outing
02:25 - The sibling buddy system
02:58 - What’s it like being the older sibling?
03:25 - Dates with mum and dad
03:50 - Managing as a single-income household
04:21 - Navigating autism
05:48 - Writing a book for her children
06:25 - Navigating OCD, depression & anxiety
08:25 - “Self care is not selfish”
08:46 - “We are a couple first”
09:35 - A parent’s happiness, joy & blessing
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Read more about their family here: mothership.sg/2022/05/mother-of-seven-special-need-kids/
Much respect for sharing your stories
I think they are very responsible and good parents! They care a great deal about each and every child! No one is neglected! I sincerely wish this big family well now and in future! Stay happy, healthy and blessed! Maybe, they can set a quiet time at home, so everyone can have some me-time! Cheers 🥂
The parents seem really healthy and supportive towards the kids and don't have a stigma against mental health disorders! Kudos to them!
It’s actually looks very organised in to this video. More so when compared to other local clips on large families such as those with >=5 kids
Well in this situation, probably wouldn't be feasible to be able to manage everything properly if they aren't organized
Despite having many children, they’re so attentive towards each child.
This couple is doing well as compared to many cases I've came across. Still, I wish to emphasise the importance of family planning and what the coupled mentioned 'living within their means", because a lot of people don't.
Mad respect to this family. I know people who earn almost 5 digits and still have the fear of Financial situation to raise one kid.
That's y...
They really deserve the kid and the kid really lucky to have parents like them.
I cannot imagine the chaos but MasyaAllah, this couple is really awesome. My respect to you guys. I pray that Allah bless the family with good health, mentally and physically, joy and happiness always.
I am from a family of 11.. would not change a single thing. Blessed mom and dad for all their sacrifices. Now all grown up with individual families.. yet still so close.
shhh.... there will be haters questioning..
It takes alot of patience to take care of someone with special needs and autism. They handled what he said and did so well. So kind and gentle. They way it should be.
I admire the parents for managing such a big family, with some childs being special needs..
I have one special needs child with ADHD..And it took a lot of effort for therapies etc..
i have a close friend who has 11 children, right here in Spore. They were featured before on CNA too Very hectic schedules. This couple is awesome
At first I was like “why… sometimes just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” But they have a system and ensure that each kid gets attention and love and they also respect each kid’s wish. Also, YES! SELF CARE IS NOT A PRIVILEGE, IT’S ESSENTIAL!
as a person from a big family myself this video really hit home. the struggles of the parents and the older children are so real and it can get extremely overwhelming, like said in the video. i empathise with their struggles so much as the eldest myself. wishing them well!
Wow, I have 7 siblings including me and my parents could never be like this. So, there is still family who blessed with lots of children and still happy and healthy together. I came from abusive family so this is really rare for me to see. I really wish my parents like that. Eventhough not really rich, but still happy.
May Allah grant you the highest level of Jannah!
You are so blessed!!! So many people wanted but cannot.
Their house is neat & tidy the children kid being kid will always be noisy time wil fly very fast cherish every moment they will soon grow up ..congrates to the parent who are posive and tried whatever they can to provide the best for their family...and love their every children..
This is why we need to build the old big executive flat. You don't have 4 bedrooms, how to house so many children? You need space for those few who are keeping up our replacement rate.
I grow up in a household with 4 kids. I salute them, how to manage food is a logistic challenge, must remember who like what, go at the right timing.
Salute to them. Awesome parents. Lots to learn from them.
Amazing family! Huge kudos to the mum for giving her all to support her children - they're very blessed to have parents like that!
So inspiring. Thank you so much.
This is respect.. Sending love! ❤️💪🏽
🥲🥲 Touching Family and Very Positive. May continuous Blessings be upon the Family. Thank you for kind sharing 🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️
Such a fun, loving and happy family. ❤️
The buddy system is such a smart idea
Beautiful family.. and kudos to the couple👍👏👏👏
Amazing couple, amazing family. Blessings to them.
Subhanallah what a blessing to have a big family but definitely not easy your family will always be there
Supportive parents, very intelligent lady.
You give confidence to aspiring parents
Much respect to mothership and the family
Very sweet and caring parents
So blessed!
It warms me heart seeing big families.
Noble parents♥️
Lovely family with awesome parents. Wow, respect and lots of love!!!
You guys and your family members (including village ) are amazing .May all be blessed always 🙏🙏🙏
Envy and respect!
Amazing family. Very inspiring
Amazing parents, attentive to the needs of each child. God has blessed you with many kids and abundance of love from you guys to them. It's not easy having a special needs child, that too more than 1, may god give you the strength to take care of them.
When courage and love meet
Stay strong 💪 and do not give up.😊
Kudos to you guys! And I noticed u guys stay around my block, hope to catch u all some time in the future. May allah bless all of you.
Salute this family and all the best
May Allah Bless Ur Family..
Good Job Mum & Dad
love this
this video made me cry bro wth 😭😭
Noble parents 🔥🔥🇸🇬
So sweet
😇 Really wonderful and unique video!
Super interesting and special to watch
😲
Honestly loving da fact that these parents takes selfcare and mental health as priority. Like education is important but we can learn it anytime however self care and mental health is something that at any point of time it will go downhill immediately
Respect.
This is giving me Home Alone vibes 😂
semoga dipermudahkan segala urusan.. insyallah, amin.
such understanding parents are hard to come by.
Beautiful family 👍👍👍
Sad for eldest sons/daus whose duty to take care young ones. No life for them !!! How to relax???
God bless.🙏
ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR they will mature faster and KNOWS what NOT to do so as to NOT be a burden to their Lives....
A happy family.
The buddy system is good.
Unfair for the neurotypical kids who would have to take on the roles of surrogate parents so as to offset the burdens of the parents.
wah they have so many kids but only 2 girls - those girls must be princesses of the house haha
Good people
And I thought my cousin who has 5 kids have a lot of children
Alhamdulillah i have a rather small fam
Let them go to rainbow centre specal school
❤️❤️❤️
How do they fit into a car unless it’s a mini bus
Big family hard to take care..stress financial issue..
Omg faint
I am going to state the subtle fact.
if all go into the car - no insurance coverage.
ocswoodlands, They should have written to Ellen de Generes before she wrapped up her The Ellen show in May 2022. She would have given them a 12-seater Lolz.
She had given large families houses/a full range of home furnishings/cash etc though most of the families had to take in other people's kids or go to orphanages.
She also gave to families where irresponsible couples chose to have more than they could handle or financially afford!
RUMAISAAAAA
better Singaporean having large family rather than importing immigrant from some unknown country
Grinding the baby bonus
pergh pening bai sebagai org ayah pikir mcm mana nk kasi semua ni setel
@BlackBannerz apa kena mengena rezeki dgn pening?
rezeki mmg dtg
pening ttp pening
football team
Great family! Unlike my indian neighbour of 10 is really pitying. The mum is lazy to work and dad is a alcoholic. They never really leave the house unless pick up groceries or only on free christmas party.Always i heard the mum cursing and swearing at the kids I really pity the kids.
Nice of you to show empathy. Pls also contact the social service or FSC to look into that. These children will grow up to be adults, and they in turn might have their own families. One troubled family might turn out to be nine in the future.
good that you made sure to mention it's an Indian family.
gen halilintar malaysian version
have baby bonus lol
Da mcm ni confirm tk brani cerai..ahahahahaha...
lil09, Some still do. Not every man cares about wife/kids. They only care about themselves. To them wife/kids are other people Lolz.
@TheScribe 711 sigh sad sia this type of man... if really exist
@@lil0910 A lot in reality really Lolz. No need to talk about the west. Just focus on our south east asian countries.
I don't want to be racist but I think malays are the most irresponsible bcs it's easy for them to marry more than one/divorce and marry another wife.
Then will come the Indian men bcs of the culture of drinking,even among well/highly educated ones except perhaps doctors bcs of their job.
And then there are some Chinese men who keep mistresses or gamble but generally you must agree that among the 3 races in Sg/Malaysia the Chinese are the better providers bcs they work very hard/most are in biz. You know the Chinese still hold on to the philosophy of their ancestors - hard work/perseverance/patience.
If you look at Filipino men Lolz (my family had 3 or 4 Filipino maids through the years)/Indon men/Thai men no need to waste time typing.
It all boils down to culture/socialisation/upbringing which shapes attitude & of course religious teachings.
if you decide to have that many kids.... please don't ask others to assist your family via financial means... my tax dollars is not for your family... be a responsible parents.. cheers
活生生的無病呻吟😠😠😠😠😠
are they cousins cause so much sickness
wtf they very rich ah? 9 kids
It’s a factory bro as long they don’t pester the government or public for money if they don’t have money to support the children
Classic football/basketball factory Malay family lepak relak one corner. She is the active person no wonder got 11 children damn
Honestly this is just being irrresponsible and pulling down the welfare or resources for all the siblings, creating vicious cycle for the next generation
9 children alamak... even pokemon only can have 6 children they want have 9....
I didn't watch the video, but if your disability birth rate is so high, I do think that the parents are to blame for this. Particularly for worsening the numbers. Tsk tsk.
why are singaporean malay muslims are always the ones with so many children, it's like a competition among singaporean malays about who have the most children
I say, so long as they don't bother you, respect every families choice. They look happier than chinese families who only have 1/2kids and stress the crap out of their kids. Nowadays people only want 1/2 kids and government keeps on importing from China. Nuisance.
such a peculiar way to use competition as an analogy hahaha
@BlackBannerz Agree but I do think the newer generation have started family planning which is necessary in Singapore. Our competition is no longer with the locals but with the foreign imports. I just think it's unnecessary for op to question why malays like to have big families and make it sound like a negative thing.
@Dark Note 👿 Well that is clearly your opinion and your choice. You think kids are a burden but some think kids are blessings. Why not mind your own business and go live by your "maximum 2 kids" policy? 🙂
@Dark Note 👿 Too much population? So why on earth is the government still importing and giving prs and citizenship like free vouchers?
I AM SINGLE NO KIDS
EVERYDAY I CAN AFFORD TO ORDER VIA FOODPANDA/DELIVEROO/GRAB
CAN YOU???
Publish the book 😊