"I got the closure I needed": Man reunited with 8 biological siblings at 59 after long search
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- čas přidán 23. 05. 2024
- Mr Richard Yong, who was adopted as a child, has looked for his birth family for years. His search eventually led to a reunion with his 8 long-lost siblings, one of whom was his former boss. Read the full story here: str.sg/adopted
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When the oldest brother said their mum would go “peep” at the baby, that really got to me! Richard was loved by his biological family!
If a parent really loved the child, they would not give him up. My grandpa has 13 children. No matter how hard, through the civil wars, they kept all their children. If they have a noel of rice, it will be shared 13 portions
@@anyhowsay8659 you can’t really compare, not everyone has/had the same situations
@@anyhowsay8659 she had enough already. Just let the past be the past and let it pass.
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I too found out I was adopted at 27 y/o and like Richard was shocked and devastated at the news, not so much because my biological parents gave me up but because my “parents” were not who I thought they were. All these years they had treated me better than some biological parents do their children. I have no wish to search for my biological parents nor do I need to know why I was given up. The fact of the matter is, my adopted parents love me like their own and that is enough for me.
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Good decision.
You are their own.
there have to be a reason feel with your biological parents
I find myself in tears watching this segment, I wish this family happiness and good luck. Bro no 9 is a gentleman and son no 1, a perfect eldest brother.
Me too
Me as well....
If I'm one of the siblings, I'd be an absolute emotional mess... 😅
Me too😭😭😭
Me too
I am happy for you, Richard. Family is always precious, and you now have 8 other family members to share your life with! BTW, we served in the same Air Force unit back in the days (200 SQN), so it was also good to see that you are well!
Thank you Vincent! Hope you are doing well.
Beautiful creation gods blessings to those people's😍😘💝💝
Wow!! That really is amazing to reconnect on this platform at the same time learning of his story. Some good things do come from social media😊
I’m so glad you are reunited with all 8 siblings before anyone passed away. I hope you have many more years together.🙏
What an incredible story! Made me tear up from joy that he was reunited with his biological family!
One of the most beautiful reunion stories I've ever seen!
This brings a tear to my eye. I had a roommate after my divorce whose Mother had given up her baby brother for adoption. She was single and could not afford to raise two children. Jackie always talked about trying to find him. This was over 30 years ago, before we had the Internet, I sure hope she got her prayers answered like Richard.
Yes I noticed I ave tears down my face.
Great story. So crazy that he had interaction with a brother and cousins and didn’t even know it at the time. I love how he is still grateful to his adopted parents. I’m glad on his deathbed his father told him the truth or he may have never known. Maybe they didn’t tell him sooner because he was their only child and they were afraid he would abandon them. Sounds like he had a great life which isn’t always the case with foster or adoptive parents or step parents. That was a big sacrifice for his parents to give him away when they were in hard times and didn’t think they could feed him or take care of him. At least they are reunited now.
Yeah, it's amazing how their genes led them to congregate to a certain point together. I read stories of separated families that worked together or met up because of a certain hobby without knowing that they were related.
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so his adoptive parents were the ones that snuck away in the middle of the night?
at the start he mentioned 1 sister!
The parents who raised you and loved you, nurtured you and stood by you, that is the family you cannot deny and should be grateful for. They have more merits than the one who passed the genes to you. You have not missed out on family love or anything because you not only have your family who nurtured you, you have gained another set of family. I'm happy for you. You should treasure both.
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Agree - @anyhowsay
Which one if you had a choose would you want to be with and raised? i would want to be raise with my real family! I would love that and i love and thank the foster parents also but my heart would want to be with my other siblings and parents but i love and will always appreciate and take care of them!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️
Well said.
@@pspicee3383 Rightly so. To be given away deeply seeds a sense of rejection in the soul.
That’s true but blood is so much thicker than that.
In tears. So happy for you and your family.
I feel happy for you and I am glad that you found your biological family. There are some children who were given up for adoption in the 40s and 50s because some families were big and due to some reasons
had to give up their children for adoption. You are one of the lucky ones who is united with your biological family. The couple who adopted you , did a good job raising you
Resonates❤Found and united with my biological family’s
Hi Lila, do you have a brother by the name of Paul pillay ?
@@benooi9819 no , I don't. Anyway thanks for asking. Take care.
They did a good job of raising him.
The reason behind adoption is your choice to accept or be upset.
If it was me… I’ll be upset because too many kids that being separated from your siblings is not something I want. I don’t care what is the reason unless you’re a sick baby etc.
Love richard's character. He is grateful to his adoptive parents
It's so touching and emotional to hear your story and reunion. You are lucky that you were able to trace your biological siblings after so many decades. My wife was unlucky as she was given away withing a year of her birth. From Chinese she was adopted by a Eurasian couple from a Christian orphanage in 1952 in Perak, Malaysia. She only has her adoption certificate and indicates she is a Chong. But she did not take the trouble to trace her biological parents as there was no clue at all. Anyway, her adopted parents had passed away as she is happily married to me for the last 45 years. Just to say not all adopted children can trace their biological parents so easily. Wishing you all the best with your biological siblings.
Richard adopted parents are very great too.
The pain his parents must have experienced in making the decision to give him up for adoption must have been unimaginable. Obviously there was no way to hide it from the siblings either so that pain was magnified in the hearts of each brother and sister as well. So happy they’re finally all together again.
This is a wonderful story with a very happy ending. Now Richard (No. 9 - Kau Chai) can enjoy being loved by 2 families. God bless you all.
Yes, #9 is with his blood family and so happy 😊
I am 60 years old and I do empathised with you and your life. Meeting your biological family at this age is definitely a gift from God. Best wishes to you Mr Richard Yong (Gao Zai). Love from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 🇲🇾. 🙏
So happy for the wong family. I was born in 1946, never know or seen my father. I was born in 1946. Before my mother passed away, she told me my father is a Japanese Soldier. My grandparents are from Kampar, Perak. I have been trying all my life to find my father, but with no luck.
He is such a considerate man to think of his family before himself 💝
Wherever they are, your biological parents must feel so consoled. My mother was given away as a result of my grandmother’s illness just after WW2 in Singapore, too. She was not as lucky as you in terms of parental love, but in the end, she understood that everything happened for a reason. Happy for you! 🎉
my goodness.. imagine working with your brother but you didn't know it was your brother wow. emotional reunion for sure.
I got waves of goosebumps and finally when the surname was mentioned and “gao zai” was mentioned in Cantonese, I teared up because that was my mom’s Cantonese surname too. Totally can relate to the entire experience. And all this took place in the midst of a deadly pandemic. Blessed is this family of Wongs.
My heart melt, I am adopted son 62 years ago, Many thanks!
I was an adopted child too! Those days were very common.
My family refused to sponsor my passport in my birth country and I end up having to move back to my country of citizenship. Which was a country I never stay before. We were a big family of 12. It hard to take it when your siblings refused to easily sponsor your passport for you when as citizen they easily can. I had to relocate to a new country with my wife and kids. I felt completely let down and feel totally unloved. They would like me to turn up for family gatherings and expect me to fly my entire family back every time for it. As for us they never bother to care for our welfare or life. Such a one sided treatment. In the end I refused to deal with them and kept far from them. My own family felt betray by them all and felt we are just being bully and used. I was the youngest in 12 siblings. Today I’m happily staying in a new country with my own wife and 5 kids. Not all family and siblings treat you well. Like the saying goes “ stand far from those who treat you bad but near to those who love you”
It sadden me after reading ur comments. I was told by my dad tht he wasnt my bilogical dad but i chose him then the other cos i ve no idea where or how to start searching for my bilogical dad but was later told he might not be still living.
I feel invinsible with my family now though im consider the eldest. Like your comments stated is unfair 1 sided treatment. So i feel very alone n rejected by them. I did wht i can by any means to visit them..spend more time with them cos we all are no more young. I dont get any visitation from them. They do visit the rest of the family who lives close to my area. I got no calls even when im sick. I feel down n sad.
I wish your family reception had been warm, loving, inclusive and validating. The emotional pain must have been terrible for you and your own children. It is probably better to have very little , if any, contact with them at this point. Perhaps you will find your greatest joy in celebrating the love of your own children. The love of your children is a precious gift.
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Thank you Sharon.
I live alone. My only child she lives in foreign country with her fiancee. Ive not seen her for 5yrs when November approach.
@Imelds21
Thanks im doing tht for many yrs. I still feel alone. No one to spendtime or talk to. Or eat with
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Thank you for asking.
I would like to know who im corresponding to know you better.
Yes im able but to where..guess im far from where u or ur fruends are.
Don't feel bad. At 64 I am adopted and I learnt it Ard the time I was a teenager by chance. I somehow don't feel I need to find my real siblings becos to me my adopted mom is my mom. She passed away when I was 30 some 34 years ago. To me I am glad I loved her as my own mom. It does not matter to me if I found my real family. But that's me and I don't harbour any resentments or whatever feelings becos my mom and my dad who passed away when I was only 14... It did not matter. It does not mean I don't want to know who are my siblings are. To me my close friends are my family today.
" ...i loved her as my own mum..."
You are such a grateful person!
Your adopted mum will always be your mum. She was there for you growing up and loved you, that will never change. If you searched for your biological family you will not be betraying your adoptive family. You can continue to love your adoptive family just as much. A human heart is capable of loving lots of people, we have capacity to add more people to those we love. We don’t love our children less when we have grandchildren, but our hearts add more loved ones to our list. I encourage you to find your bio family, find out what happened, find out if there are family members who will become cherished by you. Find out what traits you have, who you look like. Even if you find they are not interested in you, at least you will know and never wonder. It takes courage to reach out, but it can be a wonderful experience. In my case it was, but interestingly my love and admiration for my nonblood related mother actually grew! I love her more than ever, meeting my bio mother and siblings has been wonderful too. I have a Mum who raised me AND a bio Mother who made the difficult decision to give me up.
Very touching story. Finally, he returned home.
The parents must be very happy in heaven watching this.
So heart warming. I’m so happy for them to have found each other again. I still have a long lost sister who hasn’t found us yet. I thought about her all the time. Where ever she is, please know that we all love you very much.
Is she like 33-36 named Nancy?
@@tiffanyingram3444 no she is in her mid twenties.
Do a DNA test and if she has done one you'll find her straight away.
I am so glad to watch the reunion with your siblings. I even teared.
Oooooooo 💃❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
I'm very happy that you are united with the rest of your siblings. May God bless & protect all of you.
Such a beautiful story! As an only child, I can appreciate his happiness in being reunited with his brothers and sisters as well as their families. They seem to be really lovely people. He must feel truly blessed!
My only regret was your mum who gave you away never had the opportunity to see you returning - the same with your biological dad. I cannot imagine how it shred their hearts when they decided to give you away. But I'm sure they are at peace now knowing it was the right decision at the time for your own good.
I'm happy for everyone in his family. They all deserve so much happiness and hopefully, so many more memories with one another!!
God put brothers together in the military that is no coincidence. No accident that his good friend was actually his family put into his life..into each other’s lives
What a HEARTWARMING COMPASSIONATE story with a beautiful ending.......
I teared when the dai korh said in Cantonese, "mother, we have found gowtsai" .
This a very touching true story, but for olden giving away baby is quite common, the most important thing is your adopted parents love you, give you good education, so please continue to love n care for your adopted kind parents.
That is so lovely. Thank you to the family for letting it be filmed too so we can share the happy news. No one easily gives away a baby. My great grandmother despite being widowed twice (each time a baby) managed to keep her ten surviving children together but it was a big struggle as a widow here in the UK in those days.
Man what a beautiful story. In the end we all crave connection and belonging. Congrats on finding your lost family ❤️❤️
Coming from a family with 10 siblings, I cannot emphasize enough how catastrophic his loss must have felt, and the emptiness his birth family must have experienced, to have a wanted son and brother lost due to tragedy and finances. He and his siblings look so elated talking about eachother and spending time together. What a beautiful story.
Crying and tears of happiness. Congratulations
Omg..this is AWESOME..im in tears..
God bless the Wong family,the adopted family n to those watching this video..
Thumbs up please...
Greetings from Leeds UK...
Tqvm...
This was beautiful. The story telling and the visual animation was well done. He gained two families and that's double the love
Thanks for sharing your story. Your reunion with your family is God orchestrated. To God be the glory. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Amen
Let me first say that you were an absolutely beautiful baby. I think your biological family loved you very much and found you a wonderful family to raise you. It sounds like they went through a very rough time. Glad you have found your siblings and reunited. Thank you for sharing your story. I did have some tears.
Congratulations to the Wongs on their reunion!
Time was tough in those days.... God bless you, Richard.
How adorable this is! All siblings together again!
You are one lucky bloke. You have two fathers and two mothers. It's a double blessing so you should treasure both.Some people growing up in orphanage do not even know who their father and mother was.
Heart touching story!! May your latter years be the best years of your life!!
I had a friend who also found her biological family after 30+ years. I just can't imagine being in that situation.
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At least Richard's foster family treated him like their own
There is no way I could relate to this story, but yet I m tearful when I watch it, I love the ending. Thank you Strait-time and Richard
Happy for them.
It is a story of those who were born in the 1950s/60s. I once encountered two sisters talking so lovingly at a restaurant. I was curious and asked why the bond between them seemed so strong. They said they were separated from a young age because one of them was given away. They were pleased to meet again. My sister-in-law's sister was also given away. Luckily, the mother and daughter remained in contact. Whenever I hear these stories, I am always grateful to my father. He kept all his children, despite the hardship.
I’m crying. Richard is so lucky to have two wonderful families who love him so very much. Lucky number 9. ❤
I know this video was posted 6months but it is never too late to say what a wonderful, happy story to share with everyone. May you and all your siblings have many, many years of shared family love ahead of you. Thank you for sharing.
Welcome home,Mr Wong, I had tears of love for you, when I saw your story on ST, CZcams. Congratulations to your long lost family. Padma from Kuala Lumpur
I had my youngest sister born in 1961 or 1962 at the Chinese maternity hospital KL! She was given away at birth to the bukit nanas convent, KL. Her given name then was Lim Swee Lee. About 40 years ago, I personally visited the nunnery to enquire her whereabouts but in vain! The nunnery refused to disclose anything and frankly I dun blame them! Now that we have all aged, our parents and my eldest sister have died too I would love to know how she is doing, that's all! I have also accepted the fact that she might not acknowledge me but we have all grown old and time is of essence here. I don't want to die with this regret! I have always wondered whether I should just give up the search! Even if I could find her and she was willing to meet up, how would we face each other? What to talk about, who should start the conversation and such?🤔 Anyway wherever she is, I wish her well! Gosh, I am tearing up, so I shall stop now! 😢😭
I wish you would find each other & reunited soon amen.
What is her 中文名子？her new name will be totally different, and I bet she doesn't know she was adopted.
Don’t dwell too much on it. If you really want to meet or know who they are in your heart keep searching. Put into your heart that they may not want to deal with that (embarrassment). I hope the heartiest for you.
Perhaps the policies at the nunnery have changed in the last 40 years. If the nunnery is still in existence, you might be able to find an email address or phone number for them. I hope you find her, and if you do, don't worry. I think she would want to know about your life, and of course, you want to know about hers! Also, the hospital where she was born might be willing to help you identify her date of birth. My best to you!
Do a DNA test and if she has done one, you will match and be able to find each other.
This is so heart warming.. Blessing to all of them..
So happy for all of you Richard! What an incredibly lovely family!
I agree with you about knowing you are adopted a lot sooner.
We adopted a child and all of the counseling we received was to teach them their story at a very young age using age appropriate terms.
Our child is now 28 years old and wants to adopt as well. They said their experience was so happy they would like to bring joy to foster and adopted children as well.
Such a sweet man. I wish him all the happiness in the world
This is such a sensational and touching story - I am tearful while listening to Richard Yong aka Richard Wong . There is no word to describe his emotional status of mind. We all should feel happy for Richard although it must have inevitably hard for him to be caught in between his adoptive and biological parents. Richard has every right to put forward those 3 questions that all given away children would have wanted to know to the depth, because this is like the common statement “WHY ME?”. I have a few good friends who are in the exact shoes of Richard. Some of them are very forgiving and understanding after their biological parents gave their explanations, but some just carry hatred for being made the black sheep and being picked to give away. This is a really tough and challenging status for someone like Richard to put into words his mixed feelings after being told by his adoptive parents that they are not his biological parents. It’s a blessings that anyone like Richard being loved and cared by his adoptive parents who have made Richard’s life meaningfully healthy and blessed with Bliss. Like many adopted children, Richard is an adult now and the only person who know exactly what he wants and chooses to do to be with both his loving families after the day he stepped into the door of his biological family who received him with such welcoming warmth and open arms. I am certain that his biological family should know exactly what they are going to do even after they have found their loving brother 九仔. Happy Ending . May God bless him, his adoptive mum and his biological family.
Proud of this family and grown up all with ethics. Those parents are great to bring up well all.
OMG! Such an emotional story. Couldn't hold tears of joy seeing their reunion 😊
My cousin Greg is also adopted. My uncle and aunt never told my cousin that he's adopted. I found out from my great aunt (my uncle's mom). Greg was born in Hong Kong and his biological family also had 8 other siblings. I want to tell my cousin that he's adopted, but I promised my uncle and aunt that we will never tell Greg that he has 8 biological siblings. I find myself in tears seeing Richard's story.
If your cousin has never suspected that he is adopted then I would leave it as you could blow his world apart.
If he has suspected then all he has to do is a DNA test and he can connect with cousins, but it should always be his decision and as I said, if you tell him he is adopted it could destroy his life and relationship with his parents.
@@jmk1962 My aunt and uncle are in their 90's. My cousin has a good relationship with his adoptive parents. All my life, my cousin has wanted brothers and sisters. His adoptive parents couldn't give him any siblings. I know that he has 8 brothers and sisters somewhere in Hong Kong, but I also know that it is not my place to tell my cousin. I hope someday my cousin can be reunite with his long lost family.
@@helenwong-jew27 - Maybe wait until after his adoptive parents have passed away and then tell him because then he could do a DNA test and hopefully find his siblings.
I'm an adoptee and at 60 I have found my birth parents through DNA. My Birth mother is still alive and I spoke to her for the first time last week. She has never told her 6 children about me and doesn't want them to know for fear they will judge her. I promised I won't contact any of them until after she has passed on but I believe they should have the right to choose whether they want to get to know me or not. .
My birth father also had 6 Children so I have discovered I have 12 half siblings!!
WHAT AN EMOTIONAL TOUCHING LIFE FOR RICHARD, VERY HAPPY FOR YOU. 😮😢😊🙏
Thank GOD this man was reunioned with his family Sometimes it takes a long time but good things come to those who wait may GOD bless them
Very touching. So happy for Richard and the Wong family that they were reunited. The adoptive parents are really special people to welcome another's child into their lives. Inspiring.
My grandparents gave away my 3rd uncle and dare not move ever since, He finally came back 10 yrs ago and reunited with the family.
The saddest part was that it took an obituary to unite a family.
its kind of ironic that a death of a family member reunited the family
congratulation Richard myself in tears watching your reunion, God blesses you all in abundance
I am glad to see your newfound happiness, ie reunited with your long lost relatives. May God bless all of you.
Long lost siblings.
Awe, Family that genuinely luv and care for one another is Amazing!😊❤
God bless ya'll, Always!
What he said is truly amazing, "I can now breathe again!"
No one ever talks about the sadness of the siblings after loss!
Oh it got me. Blessed Richard. You are so well brought up by your adoptive parents. Both families have come a long way and all children are so well brought up and doing well. God bless .
I'm in tears. Such a beautiful and loving reunion! I'm so happy for Richard and his siblings.
I’m so happy he found his family. I’m happy for all his siblings, too!
My tears just flowing ...I'm also adopted, the youngest of 6 siblings.
Wow what can I say, it's like watching a movie, except this is happened in real life. So emotional, needless to say, lt moved me to tears. So happy for you guys after separated for so long, reunited at long last. Enjoy each other and enjoy you live. If possible make more videos and keep us posted. 🎉🎊❤️
Think that finally the family has come together!
God has blessed the family!
God bless
Very happy for you Richard.
Your birth mother had her heart broken a second time when she discovered your adopted family has moved away. I’m happy your reunion has been so fulfilling for everyone.
I had an uncle that was given away just like what Mr Richard had experienced. Everyone knew in the family about this uncle but didn't talk much about him. I only learnt from my mum that just like Mr Richard , he was given away due to the harsh climates of the 1950s to 1960s . My grandparents had instructed my father and his brothers not to disturb or find this lost uncle. I wonder where he is now too :(
I wish Mr Richard all the best with his new found siblings and cherish the times together , it is a big win I might say for such a story
U r a unlucky lucky guy for U found your bio.siblings.
God bless U.
So touching,it makes me cry.
Great stories and I’m glad that they are united. No matter what, the person who raise you are the most important person in the world.
Very emotional and touching story. Your Mom in heaven will be happy to see you all together now.
Good for you having found your long lost siblings. May god bless you and both of your family
Beautiful Reunion, oh my, I am all tears when they actually meet. Thank God for this ❤️🙏
So sad im in tears. Must have been difficult for the eldest especially to have witnessed his sibling being given away. It was just meant to be for all of you to be reunited again.
I am so happy for this. There is still a lot of good things happening in this world. I wish you many happy years with your family, number 9 ;)
How heart warming to see a reunion of loved ones........
I'm one of 9 siblings, 7 girls and 2 boys. I can't imagine not knowing them. Sad, but I'm glad he was finally reunited with them! Amazing story!👍☺️❤️👏👏👏🇺🇲
It has brought me tears. I just want you to be happy now that you found your family...
Love this segment of ST! Should feature more! So heartwarming and encouraging!
So heartwarming! made me cry heartily too! God bless you Wong family!
So so happy that you were able to find your family.
What a fantastic tale of " Kaw Chai "......just incredible indeed....... I am 74 and was in tears to know of your findings.......take care Richard Wong Kaw Chai.....( as I may call you now ....! )
Very touching and heart-warming story.
Thank you for sharing this lovely and heart warming story and makes me appreciate my siblings that I grew up with.