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- Compatibility between two partners is still given less priority to other factors like beauty and wealth. However, compatibility reflects the balancing factor between a couple and makes the obligations in Nikah more simpler. When marriage is performed between two people who have the right balance of compatibility, then there are greater chances of a happier life.
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In this one minute video she has spoke so much of lie… this immoral religion can no where lead you, just to a point where end up dying in spirit!
Is it applicable to Polygamist Muhammad???
Everyone knows why Zayd divorced Zaybnab. It was Muhammad's intention to do so. Muhammad wanted to do sex with Zaynab, so he made a rule in the name of Allah that one can marry adopted children.
Tabari VIII:4:
“One day Muhammad went out looking for Zayd. Now there was a covering of haircloth over the doorway, but the wind had lifted the covering so that the doorway was uncovered. Zaynab was in her chamber, undressed, and admiration for her entered the heart of the Prophet. After that Allah made her unattractive to Zayd.”
My Allah Nallah Dallah Bullah Lullah Billah Tala 🕋🐫☕💣🤲 Masha Allah Masha Nallah Masha Dallah Masha Bullah Masha Lullah Masha Billah Ameen Andhnamazi Kat Mulla 😆🤣😜🤲
Rumor has it zeyed couldn’t get it up 😂
Her mentioning compatibility means belonging from same class and mindset and upbringing and which really plays a major role in your habits and thinking also don’t forget about education and your profession etc also age and health matters so yeah it is what it really matters
Age was not a matter for prophet i guess
@Anshika, Your comment sounds like a dig but age was never a major factor or a deal breaker for prophet Mohamed P.b.u.h. He married Khadija when he was 25 and she was 40 and he married Aisha when she was 9 and he was 52. And in between those 2, the prophet P.b.u.h married widows and divorcees! In fact among his wives, Aisha was the only never-married one! May Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him forever amin!
@@flowers379_ Aameen Summa Aameen
@@anshikarathore3614 and for your info, our messenger was 60 but looks so much younger than his age and still fight in wars
Your post is definitely a dig. That’s not what Yasmin meant. You completely missed her point. I think what she ultimately meant was having good chemistry. One can marry someone from the same class but if there is no chemistry between the two then the marriage probably won’t last long
Islam has already told us about that Do nikah with a person who is your match , compatible 👍🇵🇰
But how if we’re not allowed to talk to the opposite gender or be friends with them
🤣😂 see the video of adam seeker.
Wife is slave 😂😂
4 wife 👰🤣
This show mans character
@@haki4907 Islam allows us to talk with opposite gender !
Like marrying young child????????
@@zenobiuskondo4200 adopted son wife safia also🤣😂🤣
Finding someone with both deen and character is hard enough. Tryna give us a mission impossible or what?
May Allah help us
Allah Azzawajal can make the impossible possible and the possible impossible so stop stressing and make dua ya akhi
Of course, only a man will say this.
😅
Ameen
That is also debatable: In the WEST, the entire premise for 'dating' is to look for the most compatible partner. Yet, the OVERWHELMING majority of the MINORITY that get married in the West are unhappy, and a good percentage end up in divorce and/or 'cheating'. Marriage is not about 100% compatibility. That's for Jannah.
What is meant was Deen, good characters and morals are must ( subhanAllah) , and yes, you are right, our ultimate goal is Jannah but compatibility is also very important for a healthy marriage . Even two practicing muslim husband wife may disagree on multiple serious matters or their outlooks and can be in a serious conflict all the time .
reminder that she said DEEN and values first.
They have compatibility but missed their deen. Simple.
Aslo some people are being tested with their marriage.. It sometimes have zero thing to do with what's right
. Rather it's could just be a test..
But finding someone based on deen and compatibility is a must.. This has been the guideline for Muslim marriages in searching for partners.
@@ariellewallian5364 yup so true.. So many people misunderstood that compatibility range from education to wealth. And that the deen will shape one's personality. That's why deen is the no. 1 that must be value before other compatibility. This has been said in Islam and actually normalise in Malaysia. Idk how it is everybody else. In Malaysia for Muslim we always be reminded to find someone on par with you and that's actually what Islam taught too. But verily if you choose deen that is better.
From my observation many western relationship started by lust. They have intercourse before they know each other very much. This type of relationship normally doesn’t end well
Compatibility doesn’t mean that you only stick with your culture or ethnicity, Islam holds no prejudice and we are all extremely diverse.
I have a heritage of multiple ethnicities and would need to search for a needle in a haystack in order to find someone that matches my heritage.
Compatibility is likes and dislikes, how you value life and your morals and values.
I’ve had to learn the hard way that my spouse’s complete lack of empathy and love for myself and our children caused the destruction of our marriage. In a society where Narcissism is being addressed even more, we need to protect ourselves from those who only destroy that which they are ungrateful for...Subhan’Allah
Compatibility means that your personality matches. If one person has outward personality going out, having fun , enjoying life and other person has inward personality, like staying at home , not talking too much , dont have same interests. Now that both husband and wife work . With these two types of personalities are very hard to survive. Especially in these modern times where women now have alot more choices.
Same happened with me i am outgoing and extrovert person and my husband is just opposite to me, i m not enjoying my life i feel something is lack in between us I don’t know what to do btw he is nice and caring person but never go out with me.
@@thesunshine6818 you should motivate him, he shouldn't be like that forever, I'm working on it myself as well
What about complementary relationships? Both are different but grow from each other which means that the extrovert can help the introvert to go out more and vice versa.
@@dinaf.k5372 Those are good relationships too, sometimes opposites attract :)
@@thesunshine6818 Salaam 😳
When you look someone look for 'imaan' more you prioritize the more you feel compatible. True 'Imaan' is answer for all.
Look for a companion who believe in your Faith and honesty and you build each other look at your strenghts and balance your weaknesses and make Jannah your goal
I think what she ultimately meant was having good chemistry. For example, one can marry someone who is firm on his/her deen but if there is no chemistry between the two then the marriage probably won’t last long
And also there is tolerance in marriage...
Compatibility is a result of mental or psychological uniformity in thinking, habits, prayer, work, intimacy, health, finance and a few more aspects of life. However, you cannot "choose" any partner on the basis of compatibility before marriage, because you have to live with someone to determine if you're compatible or not and that's haraam.
True said mam...thank you..we need this speakers in India too
Why don't you get trained by her and start speaking in INDIA.
Assalamu alaikum..
India already had such lioness ...
Far better than her..wallahu a'alam
Everyone knows why Zayd divorced Zaybnab. It was Muhammad's intention to do so. Muhammad wanted to do sex with Zaynab, so he made a rule in the name of Allah that one can marry adopted children.
Tabari VIII:4:
“One day Muhammad went out looking for Zayd. Now there was a covering of haircloth over the doorway, but the wind had lifted the covering so that the doorway was uncovered. Zaynab was in her chamber, undressed, and admiration for her entered the heart of the Prophet. After that Allah made her unattractive to Zayd.”
I wish this message reaches every corner of the earth.
Yes she is right. Compatibility is also essential. This does not contradict the advice of the Prophet alehyhisalaam (in an authenticated Hadith), where he said choose someone's religiosity/Deen over wealth, beauty etc. Rather it compliments his advice. So how does one find compatibility? Sadly most find incompatibility in their relationship exists, after getting married.🥴🤷🏾♂️
What is required, pre-marriage, is a psychological profile of the spousal candidate. If you can't obtain this from meeting them, then seek this information from their family, friends or people who just know enough about them. If the male is dominant in his nature (Alpha) then marriage to an dominant female will probably end in failure because they will argue all the time & this is toxic for a relationship. So a dominant male is more likely compatible with a submissive female because argumentation is less likely from her side, due to her less confrontational nature. If the male is is submissive in his nature, then he will most likely have a successful marriage with a female who is dominant in her nature because arguments will be at a minimum because he will tend to agree with her on most things & be less confrontational. A submissive male & female will likely get on & have a successful marriage because there is minimal chance of argumentation disturbing the peace because they are both unlikely to be, again, confrontational.🤷🏾♂️😇
Jazakh Allah Khair
If I can find a wife with good character guarding her chastity not interacting with non mahram unnecessarily and taking care of our children that would be a big thing in today's times whether she prays fasts or recites it's between her and Allah. It's so hard to find people with good character only nowadays deen and compatibility criteria are for sheikhs and sheikhas like her. you will remain single forever if you have so many eligibility criterias and then haram is obviously waiting for you wide open.
Can't you also take care of your children? They are your kids too right? You do know that taking care of children is not only a woman's job,but it's your job too as a man? .what is your purpose as a father if you want someone to take care of your child ,while you do nothing?
We all owe debt in time to Allah subhannah watallah azzwajal for giving us a life
Thank you sister! Hope the parents realize this and not force a marriage solely based on deen.
If you r an empath don t fool yourself to marry with a narcissist a psycho or a socio or a sadist they may have’’ character’’or ‘’deen’’ ...but it will be only a short mirage!! 😅
You won t never be compatible with such people if you r a sensible person
That s an example of what she s trying to say
There are many examples for compatibility
Your intellects should be on the same level to be compatible for ex
This is a huge theme .... but first of you should have a lot of commons
Thank you you r right 👍
You said it. I am an empath but my husband is a complete narc. He lied to me consistently throughout our engagement period and acted like he had character and deen. He did not and as soon as we were married, he dropped the mask. I wish I could say it was a short marriage but I’m stuck with him.
@Hadil Ayyad May Allah help you and give you ease ! I don t know what kind of narc he is and which level ... they r all miserable ... but you have to know that you can t expect him to change .... only some authority can change his behavior ... but his heart and mind will not ... it s a life of sorrow living with such people ... the only solution is no contact anymore ...
Very true exact my thoughts
@@victoriavictoria3941 Authority won’t change his behavior. I have prayed to Allah for the past 7 years to guide him so he can change his abusive and manipulative behaviors but he doesn’t want to change. I’ve had a mental breakdown a week ago and I had my dad kick him out the house. 99.5% chance I will be divorcing In Sha Allah. Just this week with him away has me and our 3 kids with a nice and peaceful routine, I sleep so much better now and my headaches have completely gone away.
I agree with you to some extent. But compatibility? How can you determine compatibility prior to marriage. There is no way that we can do this. We do not live with our partners we do not go out with them. I think perhaps what you meant to say was maybe look at their family background, meet them with a chaperone and speak to them a few times to see what their thoughts are about marriage. I remember a family coming to my house and asking for my hand and the mother was very adamant that her daughter-in-law would not work at all ever. That was an incompatible marriage. It was always my dream to work. Perhaps maybe you meant in this regard.
@@kickass42 🤣🤣🤣 How can I know what's best for me more than my creator does?! the religion doesnt allow you to force anyone to get married to someone else
"We do not live with our partners prior to marriage" that is the crux of the matter. You HAVE to live with your partner first in order to determine your compatibility. Marriage is a big commitment. How can you make such a commitment if you don't know your compatibility with your husband / wife to be?
If its a coworker or a class fellow or a family friend, you'd know.
@@kickass42 this is useless statement which doesn’t apply to the short whatsoever
Sister, you're allowed to vet the potential spouse and are allowed to go into her home and see how she acts. Watch brother Gabriel al romaani on vetting the spouse to she what she/he are really like.
Love her this lecturer, Alhamdulillah, Allah hv blessed her tongue n mind to present her dakwah fluently & beautifully with ref to Al Quran & hadith. بارك الله فيها❤️.
Syukran for sharing🙂
FACTS!!! Thank you 🙂
Very true ,so agree with you .been there got DIVORCED, no compatibility. Sadly true.
How do we define compatibility? I think Dean and Good values are the best choice ... Compatibility may be vague as it is almost impossible to find compatibility between 2 people ... You may have 2 or 3 thinks in common but this will not guarantee your marriage but values and attitudes is the key
Salaam u ailkum,
I understand you,
What my filosoof thought are about this topic is , you cant choose your perfect partner, you have to follow the plan of Allah -swt- and that's the maktoub the theory of destiny step by step you find your partner. May Allah bless all marriages Amin. And that's the key to ask for blessing all your life to achieve your goals in everything.🌐🙏🏽🌞
@@ramzimabrouk3534 Wa Alaikum Mussalam Sister, I see what you mean ... The think about compatibility, I have seen a lot of brothers and sisters misunderstand this word and I wanted just to add on what you already mentioned. The most important compatibility here is Islam and from Islam we get the best Values, like patient, respect, tolerance, love, life balance, right judgement, fear of Allah, Sunnah and many ... And all this comes with a good education and clear understanding of our Deen. Iman always brings balance and happiness in life. May Allah guide all of us.
@@mosimba2665 agree
100% agree. Compatibility means putting your ego to the side and compromise for each other. That's true compatibility, because no one is perfect. Marriage isn't always lovey dovey, you got to fight for each other.
You are not marrying. Robot
May Allah increase our knowledge ang guide us to the right path,choice.i have nothing to say at all from Somalia
Ameen
Ameen
I know what you mean. Am in a terrible situation because of not having compatibility to my spouse . No one understands me. But InshaAllah one day I will get out of this situation . I am sure
Mee too i agree with u sis
Go for nikah mut'ah
Go for nikah mut'ah
Why always divorse pls are u a child 😂😂😂 try to manage it
Jazzakallah Sister for this super necessary important advice 🤲💕
This is the most 100% message
THANKS For the Videor 😊
Its very important to have compatibility with your future wife or Husband.
Its the most essentiel for a happy marriage !!
May ALLAH subhana wa ta'ala guide us
It's true....I experienced that myself.
Yeah people keep finding compatible life parteners and spned half of their life just believe in Allah and adjust and be grateful what ever you get
Bismillah
Thank you 🌹
Jazakillahu khairan
You don’t need compatibility because opposites attract. Instead, what you need to look for a deen and akhlaq as prophet said SAW. After that, responsibilities and duties. However, people are not getting or understanding what that means.
Some opposites attract as they are compatible and some opposites repel as they aren't
So fire will attract water? A good person will love a narcissist?
بارك الله فيكم
MashaAllah
Compatible come both parties have to struggle for it it is a struggle gehad because our DNA is not the same ma Allah bless us all
Nicely said..
So true , i know this from experience
Assalamu alaikum Yasmin mogahed may Allah revards for the good you doing God bless you and generations we are very happy my name is Amina Suleiman from Nigeria
We must give first priority to OBLIGATIONS........before dawah abt any good deed
So true. Thank you
I genuinely believe that whoever puts in the effort and compromises, can be compatible with everyone. If two people are "opposite" of eachother, it will only fail if one or both fail to put their ego to the side. You don't have to change yourself to be with someone, but marriage is a responsibility for both husband and wife. Marriage isn't always lovey dovey, you got to fight, and you only fight it you put your ego to the side and compromise. Deen and a strong character that forgives, learns, compromise and love are the foundation for a happy and healthy marriage.
Compromises what?
@@purplelove3666 not be on your high horse and expect the world from your partner and not giving it back. We are all human, we make mistakes. Compromise in that degree that you work together as a team and put your ego aside.
We don't have to we have to work hard to build love patience forgave but make sure you are not marrying a psychopat May Allah bless everyone with good partner
Mashallahu Jazakumullahu Khairan
She through in a seed of doubt and warned people of marriage when the first 2 choices was more then enough and justified it with a rare occurance in history, who gave this person a microphone.
well said sister Yasmin
True….many things in nature have their own importance and value but are not compatible with each other. For example, Honey and vinegar are both useful and have their own benefits but are not compatible. We cannot mix them with each other but can be used individually. Similarly there are more examples. The same is with humans, some are compatible with each other and some are not and this is not the case in a husband wife relationship but also in other relations too. Both two individuals may be good or right but maybe not compatible with each other.
Absolutely great
True Imaan
ماشاءاللہ تبارک اللہ
If after having Deen, morals and a good character, people still feel it’s not enough surely they are being ungrateful truly ungrateful, (Deen, morals etc Sunnah teaches you to accept and compromise for the sake of Allah for the one who believe in Allah and loves Allah) but no some people are too practical when it comes to their Deen, worldly life and character! Those who lack knowledge and wisdom, Shaytans will always be their Friend directly or indirectly, learn to compromise, bend a bit let go of your arrogance, it’s nothing but a veil between you and Allah, be humble treat everyone with love and care, learn to understand Quran, Sunnah and than each other! So that may Allah reward you for your humbleness! Learn to accept that everyone is different and learn to love Allahs miscellaneous creation in all forms and colour and ways. rest Allah knows best. JhazakAllah
I couldn't agree more. Ms. Mogahed is just a bleepin' feminist in hijab.
True 👍
Nop
People usually see Deen as
Believing in One God, praying 5 times etc
But following And Incorporating Islam in your way of life , in each and every act every day is a total different thing.
When you act , you think that Allah is there watching you,
When you speak, you think that you are accountable for your every word and action , that is called Practicing on Deen .
That is what we are asked to prefer and choose such a man or woman for marriage .
Your children will be brought up by that chosen spouse equally and
A good Muslim child would be a sadqa jaria for you in this and hereafter.
While on the other way around, think what will happen to you if those children that you left them in this world were not brought up as good Muslims because you and your chosen spouse were not practicing true Muslims.
Reading Quran and learning Hadith is the basis of it
But
Practicing it every day 24/7 is another thing.
deen is enough
Making sure the are pretty much similar in Life.
If one spouse wants to travel and enjoys quality time with family/ friends
And the other spouse just wants to go the masjid all day and be at his mommas house
It’s not Going to work out.
Thats true 👍
100% true
MashAllah tabarakAllah ❤❤
This lady with all due respect misses how to deliver her points across. She said you have to look for compatibility, but how can you achieve that before living or getting to know someone for a long period of time? It's actually not taught nor is it required in islam.
Discussion and deep observation I guess
First of all, deforce is not a problem but a solution especially when the married couple could not get along with each other for whatever reason. The prophet SAW mentioned the criteria for selecting spouse as beauty, wealth, faith and good manners. The two main characteristics obligatory for both men and women being faith and good manners. Where does compatibility fit in here? The prophet emphasised on the Deen aspect of the person not Compatibility! Who should we listen to "You" or "the Prophet SAW" Compatibility? I smell something fishy!
Subhanallah may Allah guide us amin 🙏
I agree 100 over 100
ماشاء الله اختي
Thank you very much 💞💞💞
It's true that we should look for compatibility but how do we really know until we start living with that person? We can only make some vague guesses about compatibility before marriage if you are a deeni person.
How can we look for comparability when we are not allowed even talk to each other according to various ulmas in Pakistan
Assalamu'alaykum Sister in deen. Majority of the Ulamas are of the opinion that you're allowed to meet in order to get to know each other better but a mahram( your father,brother) must be in attendance. And Allah knows best.
You can talk with the presence of Mehram
Yes mam alhamdulillah
MaShaAllah ,jazakAllah
Woah! Sis, slow it down.
You cannot use that parting to exclaim your narrative. First of all; that was a Devine decree how the whole dynamic occurred! Secondly the implication that somehow this is an excuse to add more to the Sunnah . Our Prophet(PBUH) gave us four things for a woman to seek in criteria. "Compatibility" ain't one of them. Stick to religion (Deen), family status (good Family), wealth, means to provide, beauty(attraction). Since I assume your target is a female crowd, your opening a door to a bunch of innovation . Stick to criteria. And with the Almighty's permission. "Compatibility" will grow.
Now if you'll excuse me,I must pick up my darling wife of 23 yrs from the dentist because she can't drive on novacaine. And I better not be late or I'll here about it all the way home. Lol
You made my day with your comments:) but make sense
May Allah grant me a man who has deen and character and is compatible with me.
Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqeer.
Ameen.
Ameen
Thank You ❤🙏👍
Machallah tabarakallah barakallahu fikum
This is indeed true. But, the problem is in our Islamic society, we have no way of finding whether our potential spouse is compatible enough for us before marriage.
اللهمَﷺصَلِّﷺوَسَـــلِّمْﷺوَبَارِك* *ﷺْعلىﷺ نَبِيِّنَـــاﷺمُحمَد ﷺ
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ﷺﷺﷺﷺﷺﷺﷺ جزاکــــــــــــــــــــم الله خيرا
When she says compatability she meant physical attraction and chemistry.
No she also means personality. Looks fade but personality doesn't.
excellent
Compactability means which ...things
When she said compatiblity, i had no idea what is that mean, until i read some of the comment.
How to look for compatibility ?
Coz you always want or need more
Also, age difference shouldn't be a limiting factor. Nowadays, for some reason, so many people find it problematic when the man is a few years older, or the women is a few years older. But it isn't, because if both parties are happy, if both partners are willing to commit, then no one has the right to complain or even interfere.
Yes sister , for heavens God choose the people . Not people choose the heavens .
My Sister in Islam. Compatibility is acquire during the relation of Nikah. You cite superior Saha is of Rasullah Sallawhu alayhe wa Sallam to make your point. But, we aren't comparable to them. Their faults are superior to our best efforts. Islam is sufficient. The standards that were given for us are useful because we aren't in the company of those great people. The immaturity in relations can be cured in Nikah. Not outside Islam. We don't learn about companionship outside of Nikah Zina is Haram. Ameen.
Here is what my sisters and brothers should seek. Deen and imman yes. The most important parts are who follows the commandments of Allah and the path of Mohammed (SWA). Willing to sacrifice for Ikhira. If this is what you call compatibility? Ok then
Very true Wallah
I like you english speaking.....mises......good.......
The reason of those two (RA) were different, of course lack of compatibility was one of the reasons but not just the only reason, it was ordered by prophet (Pbuh) . We must not pass incorrect context, not everyone reads it that way. She’s got to be careful
Superb sister
Dean is must, but not sufficient. IMAAN increases and decreases. Hadith is choose one who has a dean.
"Islam is strict.." see this...it's a beautiful religion 💝
Allah with you sister
mashaallah.
maa Sha Allah
It's not easy to find someone who has all those three characteristics. You'll are lucky if you are married to one. May Allah help us all.
woman’s testimony often counts half of a man’s testimony.
The Quran in Sura 2:282 says:
And let two men from among you bear witness to all such documents [contracts of loans without interest]. But if two men be not available, there should be one man and two women to bear witness so that if one of the women forgets (anything), the other may remind her. (Maududi, vol. 1, p. 205
she is talking about her opinion on marriage from the perspective of woman and you bring up an ayah about "bearing witness" to support your flawed reasoning,, that's very elegant, logical, and respectful 👏👏👏
How to look for that before marriage. True colors and behaviour comes forth aftr marriage.. What to do
What society lacks today are men, proper men to put people in their place re:Deen and handle the pressure that comes with it.
And women who need to readjust their goals instead on prince charming, Facebook, instagram and tiktok princes; also included, all Muslim have some kind of loan(mostly student) + selfish in-laws and guardians + careers to think about for their studies and loans incurred.
The Rasul ﷺ said " if a man with good character and deen approaches for marriage, then marry them, or the world will be afflicted with much rancour and turmoil" -tirmidhi
Which we see today.
Surah 4:34
Allah and his Rasool is enough sister believe it or not . Computable in deen make sense, but comfortable in video games , money , professional level or class all can be adjusted .