This applies to friends too. I've been struggling with myself for a long time and the friends I've been spending time with reflect the lack of respect and attention I give myself.
That's an answer you really need to live into, based on your own personal values. A coach or therapist can often be useful in helping you to set the right ground rules and boundaries.
Do not leave your life. The challenge is to awake in your life and stop being afraid to loving yourself. Be honest with the life and place you are today. Turn to gratitude of what you do have and treat YOURSELF really well and that is the meaning of loving kindness. Great video. Thanks, Benjamin Smythe
I remember as a younger adult attracting emotionally unavailable men. There came a time when I realized I was the common denominator. That was very eye-opening and I started working on myself. Like attracts like.
Very well said. Thanks. Basically, what makes you feel at peace is usually the thing you should try doing (may not be right or wrong, everyone's perception is different), but you would know the choice you made was in your own accord. Again, thanks for the explanation.
The purpose of relationships is so you can know yourself. What shows up is always showing you who you are b/c life is a mirror & yes, you can attract people who are wrong for you, but that doesn't mean you'll be attracted to them. When you can love yourself & fulfill yourself, then that's what shows up.
and sometimes you have to do things you don't want that are on the path of coming to what you utlimately want...sometimes...then you do the best you can to do what you want while also doing what you want that takes stepping stones
I ligit have listened to this everyday, if not twice a day since some one showed it to me a few days ago. Going to share it in my high value woman group. Such amazing advice.
Love it! This works because everything we give to ourselves, we actually give to those around us. Everything we do for those around us, we in turn are actually doing for ourselves. The secret is that THERE IS NO SEPARATION! THAT is the wow!
I think the idea of doing what you want is harder when you are younger. Because when young you are always wanting approval. As I get older I see how it works.
It's inevitable that by being your true self you will "hurt" people. Such is life. The line you draw is up to you and different for everyone. Lately I've felt like telling certain people they're silly for being in particular relationships, but there's a part of me that doesn't want to hurt them by being so blunt and honest, which is my truth. Be true and your heart will know what to do
Love the message, but I have to question when Benjamin suggests to do what you want to do. Where do you draw the line? If you've trained all your life to become a doctor, lawyer, etc., and find yourself unfulfilled, how do you walk away from that just to hang out on a beach? We still live in a society that has standards. We still have to be able to afford life. Please explain, maybe I'm not understanding the message accurately.
Suzanne Sawyers ask yourself what would you rathet be doing with your life. see yourself doing that. know that people get fired or layed off at a place of work . it happens all the time. even those with really great jobs, how do they walk away from it. a lot of times they are lucky enough to find something better to do with thier lives, like start thier own business. if you could be doing anything right now, what would it be?
Ben I returned here after a few years.. I STILL love you god daaamn! Thanks for giving your time up, and being a fucked up crazy dude AND the most admirable, fun, funny, wise and creative creature. Lord knows if there's a pic in the dic of a human it should be you. I'm sure you've seen the lot lol. You're as real and raw as they come
I love this! But I have a question. How do you go out and be yourself and do what you want, but not "hurt" anyone. Where do you draw the line of "hurt"? Some people are hurt by your behavior, even your existence, some are hurt because of jealousy. I understand a balance is needed, but where do you draw the line?
You cannot hurt others! They do it themself by interpreting your behaviour. So it is up to them what they make out of it. I mean unless you really hit them in the face or purposely try to do harm. But if you are honest and integer with yourself you are just expressing your truth and it is up to them to deal with it. Some people have a problem with homosexuals but should they hide because of these people?!
Loved this video. I want to share it with my friend who is having some tough times with a shitty ex, but she's deaf and this has no subtitles or transcript. Help?!
I would suggest looking into The Work of Byron Katie. You may learn that THAT other person is giving himself to feel hurt. If he is jealous what you have to do with it? :-) You can't change another person:-)
Everything about this guy's body language, physiognomy, general persona tells me he is not trustworthy. If he were a guest in my house I'd have a difficult time falling asleep at night with the expectation that nothing bad would happen over the course of the evening.
This was my introduction to him, it's timeless and so right on. Love it so much.
This applies to friends too. I've been struggling with myself for a long time and the friends I've been spending time with reflect the lack of respect and attention I give myself.
"What does everybody expect of me today?" DAMN. SO TRUE.
That's an answer you really need to live into, based on your own personal values. A coach or therapist can often be useful in helping you to set the right ground rules and boundaries.
Do not leave your life. The challenge is to awake in your life and stop being afraid to loving yourself. Be honest with the life and place you are today. Turn to gratitude of what you do have and treat YOURSELF really well and that is the meaning of loving kindness. Great video. Thanks, Benjamin Smythe
I remember as a younger adult attracting emotionally unavailable men. There came a time when I realized I was the common denominator. That was very eye-opening and I started working on myself. Like attracts like.
Very well said. Thanks. Basically, what makes you feel at peace is usually the thing you should try doing (may not be right or wrong, everyone's perception is different), but you would know the choice you made was in your own accord.
Again, thanks for the explanation.
I love this Ben! I Your words, your delivery, your attitude....Exactly what I needed to hear!!!
I love these older videos.
Awesome energy and truth in this video. Respect!
The purpose of relationships is so you can know yourself. What shows up is always showing you who you are b/c life is a mirror & yes, you can attract people who are wrong for you, but that doesn't mean you'll be attracted to them. When you can love yourself & fulfill yourself, then that's what shows up.
wow! After a terrible relationship I had the realization you just told us about, except now I don't feel like an a-hole ;). Thanks for this!!
This is applicable to work relationships as well!
and sometimes you have to do things you don't want that are on the path of coming to what you utlimately want...sometimes...then you do the best you can to do what you want while also doing what you want that takes stepping stones
I ligit have listened to this everyday, if not twice a day since some one showed it to me a few days ago. Going to share it in my high value woman group. Such amazing advice.
Word up! Very eloquently put! Nothing in life will ever fulfill you or solve your problems.. Only you can do that! The rest is just the 'wow'
I love you, Benjamin! You are awesome! I needed to hear this so much!
Wow! I had to get this fix today...Ty, Ben!
another great one! thank you so much!
Oh my goodness! you have literally changed my life.. or just made me realise I am living my life.. thank you so much!!! Bisous du Paris!!!!! xxxx
thanks for sharing your light ben!
Loved this! Love your style. I'm not looking for a partner but this applies in all relationships. Thanks' x
Love it! This works because everything we give to ourselves, we actually give to those around us. Everything we do for those around us, we in turn are actually doing for ourselves. The secret is that THERE IS NO SEPARATION! THAT is the wow!
Sharp and true
Thank u
sharing this on facebook. all of it's true. love it.
I love this video. Thank you very much!
thank you, you are powerful
Thankyou for this :) it's made such a difference to me. Thankyou :)
Such clarity..thanks
Thanks!
I think the idea of doing what you want is harder when you are younger. Because when young you are always wanting approval. As I get older I see how it works.
This is the truth. Great video, Ben. I'm subscribing, and sharing this.
from now on you are my favourite person. wow.
It's inevitable that by being your true self you will "hurt" people. Such is life. The line you draw is up to you and different for everyone. Lately I've felt like telling certain people they're silly for being in particular relationships, but there's a part of me that doesn't want to hurt them by being so blunt and honest, which is my truth. Be true and your heart will know what to do
Very cool, this is exactly where I am at, Treating my self Good, and being my own Best Friend..
It’s really really really useful
I wish I learned this a looong time ago.
truly, thank you for this
Your AMAZING!
You are awesome bro. Much love
Love the message, but I have to question when Benjamin suggests to do what you want to do. Where do you draw the line? If you've trained all your life to become a doctor, lawyer, etc., and find yourself unfulfilled, how do you walk away from that just to hang out on a beach? We still live in a society that has standards. We still have to be able to afford life. Please explain, maybe I'm not understanding the message accurately.
The idea is to do what does fulfill you and the abundance will follow.
Suzanne Sawyers ask yourself what would you rathet be doing with your life. see yourself doing that. know that people get fired or layed off at a place of work . it happens all the time. even those with really great jobs, how do they walk away from it. a lot of times they are lucky enough to find something better to do with thier lives, like start thier own business. if you could be doing anything right now, what would it be?
Just came across your videos. YOU ARE AMAZING! :)
Benjamin you are wow!
Favorites list. Love this.
This is so rational i want to cry (not really) People should listen to people...
Thanks for saving this video :)
superb
So True.
Thank you.
So true. Thanks for saying it out loud
Omg...so true!!! This guy cracks me up!
This is pretty cool stuff! Did I just post this under your name Sara....? Sorry if so... Sylvia. We are amazing!
love you, thank you I needed to listen that:)
Brilliant.
great!
Ben I returned here after a few years.. I STILL love you god daaamn! Thanks for giving your time up, and being a fucked up crazy dude AND the most admirable, fun, funny, wise and creative creature. Lord knows if there's a pic in the dic of a human it should be you. I'm sure you've seen the lot lol. You're as real and raw as they come
RIGHT ON BROTHER
good question.. ask Ben that on his site or on Facebook :)
THANK YOU!
one watch and you hit my mind and i m wake up
Hey Benjamin - you are completely crazy - but really really great ...... love you :-)
Wow. Just wow.
LOL! This is incredible! Love this.. Thumbs up if you just subscribed..
Oooohhh yesss.
I love this! But I have a question. How do you go out and be yourself and do what you want, but not "hurt" anyone. Where do you draw the line of "hurt"? Some people are hurt by your behavior, even your existence, some are hurt because of jealousy. I understand a balance is needed, but where do you draw the line?
Does anybody know why he deleted his channel? I loved him and his message:(
dude is back!
You cannot hurt others! They do it themself by interpreting your behaviour. So it is up to them what they make out of it. I mean unless you really hit them in the face or purposely try to do harm. But if you are honest and integer with yourself you are just expressing your truth and it is up to them to deal with it. Some people have a problem with homosexuals but should they hide because of these people?!
Fuckin aye! Words to live by
Loved this video. I want to share it with my friend who is having some tough times with a shitty ex, but she's deaf and this has no subtitles or transcript. Help?!
So cute ...
brilliant. thank you!!!!
I would suggest looking into The Work of Byron Katie. You may learn that THAT other person is giving himself to feel hurt. If he is jealous what you have to do with it? :-) You can't change another person:-)
Great vid! :D
Lol such awesome truth xx
hey
XD Very true!
Yeeeesssssss!
This applies to both men and women?
Bottom Line..........OK
Buahahahaha !!!!!!!!!! I don't know English, so only two words: thank you :)
Jibber-jabber.
jajajaja.. loved it...
Or, in my case, it seems no one is coming into my world. lol
Everything about this guy's body language, physiognomy, general persona tells me he is not trustworthy. If he were a guest in my house I'd have a difficult time falling asleep at night with the expectation that nothing bad would happen over the course of the evening.