Healing Father Wounds
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- čas přidán 9. 03. 2022
- The battles we struggle with are an invitation to experience the heart of Father God in a deeper and meaningful way. At the same time, this deeper journey leads us to heal through the father wounds we carry. Many of the struggles we have in our relationship with God mirror the wounds we carry from our earthly father relationship.
God is a father and He designed earthly fathers to set the tone for what it means to relate to a loving heavenly father. But what has father meant to you?
Today in our discussion, we want to encourage you to move into recognizing and allowing God to bring healing to father wounds in your life. With practical questions and application, you can take new steps in your healing and freedom journey.
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I always say what wonderful people my kids are. That they’re such lovely people. When I think about them I think of how proud I am of who they are as people rather than what they do.
Their beauty I see is in who they are.
“How he did not equip you”, so many ways.
Emotionally checked out
Emotional neglect
So true -these can be devastating psychologically; source of troubles
God is healing this area in my life. God opened the doors to your ministry and I am just being blown away right now.
Melissa, I went to a “Christian” counselor (here in Connecticut, too) who laughed at me after I talked about what had been paining me in my life. It was my last experience with counseling.
I suggest you find a counselor who is not based on legalism and judgement. It certainly helps to get therapy ESPECIALLY if you are honest. Find someone not connected to anything in your regular life, therefore the fear of judgement will be reduced dramatically
Don't give up . The Lord has His councilors and Holy Spirit is our councilor...
We don’t value the emotional health, the state of heart; it is awkward to deal with emotions -great insights 👍
It's scary how much I can relate to both of you on almost everything, even your episode about your son. I cry through a lot of these. Thank you for sharing.
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31:25 or it’s your father that notices you maturing (mind or body) and instead of nurturing that part they either distance themselves or because harsher towards you and see you in a negative light
This topic should be talked about in church in depth..so good.
I see these patterns in my husband and have seen this for 17 years. He works hard, comes home, and will even do some dishes and laundry, but he has completely and utterly neglected me and my children emotionally and spiritually. He is so emotionally unavailable and closed off that I don't even want to be intimate with him anymore. I feel like he does not meet the emotional needs of my children. He doesn't play with them, have conversations, read to them, or initiate any spiritual activities in the home. Ilhe is angry all the time. I struggle with OCD, anxiety, and depression myself, and feel as if i have to bear the burdens of my own problems and my children. I have no other support system. I have thought of divorce so many times. God help me/us.
WHOA-this has been the biggest epiphany in my healing journey.. I don't know how to be loved by a father and I constantly am trying to perform and achieve beauty, success, and popularity in order to attain affection from my absent father and family. Your teachings hit home soooo much. I really love when you both talk together so I can understand what true godly parents sound like and identify where my parents were lacking during my upbringing and still are currently. I am 26 years old and been going through deliverance and inner healing with Holy Spirit for over a year now and this is the root I have been digging for.. the father wound cuts so deep.
Most of my life I felt as if I had to earn love and that it was so close but so far away .This was the culture everywhere I went .
In mental hospital I felt like I had to have false self just to be recognized as human I was constantly reminded I was not measuring up .That was my treatment .I was watched constantly so they could catch me doing anything they didnt like .I lived in this place for years growing up.
At 40 I was diagnosed with autism Finally refuted therapist who told me I chose to be mentally ill .I was abnormal from birth.I was in hospital from when I was 10 until I was nearly 17.Culture was Freudian .Sigmund Freud was crazy but in the culture I grew up in he was treated like a god .He was their messiah.Freudian psychology is a religion not a science .Please talk back to Freudian psychology.
They looked at me through what they believed and sometimes IMAGINED about me and my “subconscious “mind .All my failures were willful rebellion driven by subconscious mind .
The subconscious mind is an imaginary phantom self blamed by psychiatrist for all things that doctor doesnt like about a person.
There is no forgiveness for what subconscious is blamed for everyone makes mistakes but if i made mistakes I was told by therapist my faults were the real me .Thankfully most of staff wasn’t as negative
I thank God for you two what an awesome ministry
Dude.. Melissa is hilarious..."staying off the pole"..🤣
Thank you!!! 😉
This is definitely me this has helped me so much!! Please pray for me!!
It is no question for me to decide if my father was there for me. He was a violent alcoholic. I have been born again for 15 years and I am now realizing that I need internal healing. A friend sent me your videos and I am thankful! I just ordered one of Marks book as well. My main motivation is to live the life Christ died for me to have and be healed so I can parent my children whole heartedly!
I love that you bring the hidden in the light
Thanks very much, very helpful 😅
Fathers are emotionally distant, ill equipped and don’t show emotions which unknowingly hurt kids
I really appreciate your videos Mark, God Bless you and yours
I’ve been deathly afraid to get close to God because I’ve super imposed my earth dad with Him. Earth dad wasn’t great. Distant and abusive so it’s hard to think good when you’ve had very bad experiences.
I need a lot of healing 😰
Great Insight! Yes, we are TRAINED to be performance driven. Yet being emotional and relational cripples. We are acknowledged and recognized by others solely on external success. True success in life revolves around a balanced life. (spiritually, relationally,emotionally, physically and financially)
The message you guys are teaching hits straight to the heart and makes perfect sense. Thanks for sharing and teaching on topics so needed and necessary. Yet few are addressing.😀
Excellent comment
I just say a post that said the bible isn't a rule book. It is a love letter from God to his people. I thought of your ministry & wanted to share. I've been mad at God & I did tell him you didn't protect me just like my earthly dad.. I apologized. I need a lot of healing. 1 yr on this journey & I feel worse in some areas. God bless you a your family.
Your sense of humour is lovely lighthearted.. beautiful
You guys are so approachable...bless you ...
So good you guys.. I've been struggling all week and the issue wasn't the issue this is the issue..The Father's heart 💜.. lol.halleluyah..
We live in a Father-less generation. Its no wonder we don't have a clue what a Good Father is or should be.
You guys are so relatable, I to thought I was simply nuts..lol so encouraging....
7:00 WOW AMEN lol Its almost impossible to have a safe space to talk about father wounds when they are too busy being defensive and I'm just trying to heal here
29:27 I almost cried more so that’s the only time I hear or see my parents proud of me all because I have a “good job”. Which is funny because I really don’t like it and I’ve expressed it to them but they just shut me down and discouraged me from leaving. It made me angry made me feel like I’m only accepted if I look good
You are more than what you do, and I'm sorry you have to experience that, I'm sure there are so many wonderful things about you.. I pray God begins to really illuminate your identity and you shine bright as you truly are!
Mark I’ve been reading your book “the heart healing journey” & I can’t express how much this book has changed my life & my heart! It’s personally taking me more than 28 to get through it because my mind is always so blown away that I need a few days to sit and process ! I’ve never felt so clear in my life! Between your book, daily prayer and reading the Bible im living life the happiest I’ve been! I can’t wait to finish it! Where’s your Instagram? I’ve been promoting this book to everyone I know and I can’t tag you in the post lol
Ps if you randomly see an order of 10 to 15 books purchased at one time on Amazon.. it was me.. everyone is getting this book for Christmas lol
Such a complex issue! I have too many opinions to type so I’ll just leave it at you guys have some really great topics! Have a great day and keep shinning and bringing awareness ♥️🙏✨✨✨
Thank you 😊
Yes decosion making
Adhd problems
Thanks for this episode Mark and Melissa. There's so much here to dwell on.
Hey Marc, could you maybe make a Video for people struggling with the unpardonable Sin? I have obsessive circling thoughts and anxiety about that.
That would be great 🙏🏻
Lucas, I'm sorry about your anxiety over thanking you committed the unpardonable sin. If this were actually true I don't think you would care about it. I pray God will fill you with his peace and love.
@@bettypartin1793 Thank you for that!
@@lukastheprussian4465 in the YT search bar type in Mark dejesus unpardonable sin.
I really struggled with thinking I committed the unpardonable sin in my early years as a believer (Thinking about my sins in the past before I got saved).
Let me just say satan loves making believers think that! It's very common.
But listen very carefully, the unpardonable sin is not an actual sin that we commit. It is the total rejection of Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit's work in our lives.
The very thing that someone is terrified they committed it is proof that you have not.
It's unbelievers who couldn't care less about the Lord, and if they die in their sins, that is committing the unpardonable sin.
God bless and stop believing the enemy's lies.
God is peace. Those thoughts aren’t coming from you either because if you’re born again, you’re a child of god. They are from the enemy. The unpardonable sin is choosing intentionally to reject the gospel. If you’re saved, that’s not talking to you. It’s talking to unbelievers. People who arent saved. And if you read the context of that letter, it’s talking to the Jews who heard the good news and tasted the goodness of the message and yet they still went back to their law based practises to feel right with God. That’s offensive to God. That’s why he’s saying, if the only way to be saved is offered to you, and yet you still reject it, there’s only hell left for you. Sometimes we Christians are so quick to put ourselves in scriptures and condemn ourselves but if you read the Bible in context, a lot of times the letters are written for a different group of audience. As you study the word and deepen your understanding in the word, you’ll realise many times you’re reading someone else’s letter. Salvation is a one time event. You’re saved whether you like it or not cause it’s not about you! So why don’t we just let the Bible be the Bible and stop imposing our own opinions on it. All these distortions in your mind is all stemmed from a lack of knowing how secure and assured you are in God’s love. Like mark said, we chase the subjects and symptoms, but the problem is not the problem, at the core of it all, it’s about not growing and learning how loved you are by God.
Words cant expkain tĥe depth of pain and wound
Locked eyes with some fathers can be fearful and sexual... We need Healing so we can look into our heavenly Fathers eyes.. He looks back with Love and purity.. acceptance..
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How can a single mom affirm her son and give him his male identity that he is missing?
I'm a single mum too my son has struggled but he has father God watching over him. I'm amazed how God has walked with him without him knowing it. Praying for your son 🙏 💙
Do u have a video that discusses Father’s being really passive and not being able to show love, but overbearing, loving, but very judgmental and critical mothers? I have so many friends who are women who have had more issues with their mother’s and still til this day struggling to connect with them. Most of our moms are not real believers either as we have been the ones in the family to have our eyes opened to building a real relationship with the Lord of course with many struggles. Do u have a video that discusses any of these issues? Love ur videos by the way. I have dealt with a coldness of emotions for so many years and have trouble freely loving my husband and family and really trying to break through that barrier to experience more love from the Father as well as give more love to my husband and family.
Hi sir, can u make a video on coincidences and ocd?
I think family or origin was performance based.My oldest sister told me about her experiences.She had so much critics about what she did she felt like parents were never satisfied and she learned to hate school and said she stopped trying to get the best grades and in her head she said “screw you” and went on o get a life.She confided in her friends.When she was 6 something went wrong which led her to promise herself that shed never cry in front of parents .She had gotten some very bad feedback when she needed TLC.
Looking good but no substance That was family culture.Heard talk like “we criticize you because we LOVE you” My gut reaction If that is love I don’t want it. I’m glad someone in recent years talked about the Spirit of criticism being wrong.Toomuch criticism makes me want to avoid a person .Their “love”not worth the bullying .Also if we kids had a complaint how an adult treated us .we got the blame If YOU would behave they’d treat you better Jesus himself didn’t buy that baloney .He did good .We know what they did to him
When I was in 20s if I hadn’t needed parents money Had I earned enough at my full time job to support myself and pay ALL the bills I would have disappeared without a trace and left no forwarding address and would have told boss at work not to tell parents where I lived and changed phone number unlisted .After they didnt know where I was for a year or so I would have contacted them and told them I’d come back to see them but only if they let me be me.I would have been working and setting a needed boundary .I was living in a foster home as outpatient at mental hospital. I had a job but didst make enough money to not need some support .A full time job.Later I would be diagnosed with autism .My parents criticized all their kids .I got a lot of static because of traits related to autism.I was odd and way of thinking was odd.
I wasn’t doing anything”bad “ like substance abuse or acting out sexually or being in trouble with the law. It was being odd .
I was criticized for look on face tone of voice ,and other body language. Might as well told me having brown eyes was wrong and I should have had blue eyes .I have no idea what I could have become that would have satisfied who I lived with in my 20s.and there was such a gap between what I was and what they might have wanted I never could have crossed it .I DOUBT ANYONE KNEW WHAT THEY WANTED ME TO BE .THERE WERE THINGS THEY WANTED ME TO STOP DOING AND WAYS THEY WANTED ME TO STOP BEING .I WAS TOLD BE CAREGIVER ID NEVER MAKE IT WITHOUT HER NO MATTER HOW OLD I WAS .I WAS IN MID 20SAND REMINDED HER THAT BUT I WAS TOLD AGE MADE NO DIFFERENCE .THAT PERSON THOUGHT ID NOT DO THINGS RIGHT UNLESS SHE MADE ME .THERE WAS NOT MUCH AKNOWLEDGING GOOD DECISIONS
IF I ASKED FOR ADVICE I DIDNT GET ANY .BUT IF I GOOFED I WAS TOLD “YOU SHOULD HAVE ASKED FOR ADVICE “FLIP FLOP FLIP FLOP.
WRONG IF I DID WRONG. IF I DIDN’T. IN THOSE DAYS MY SENSORY ISSUES WERE CONSIDERED AS EXTREME SELFISHNESS AND NASTYNESS..I WAS SO RELIEVED WHEN PEOPLE FIRST TOLD ME ABOUT SENSORY ISSUES AND THAT MY PROBLEM WITH NOISE WAS REAL AND NOT MORAL FAILURE .MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS AND CAREGIVERS USED THE WORD “SICK “FOR BEHAVIOR BECAUSE THEY COULDNT SPELL ABOMINATION .
In real world sick means not feeling well but in my world sick meant disgusting worse than bad.SICK was a curse word .It could now be defined by some people as “hate speech. “ considering the meaning it had applied to me.
Thank you so much. Cqn you talk about homosexuality and sexuality and attraction in general?
Severe anger to all my family
Hey mark, I think you mentioned in one of your Gospel episodes, that you were going to talk in a future episode about freedom of Liberty .. freedom to make decisions and have your own being .. is that one coming soon?
I’m so confused on walking in the will of God, or I’ve delayed my blessings bc I’ve walked in my own will and not the lords will .. I’m making my decisions and not Gods decisions .. die to the flesh bc flesh is sinful in nature, but the desire in my heart still remains .. some say “we’ll it’s your desire, not Gods desire” it’s so confusing!
could you help on this subject? Thank you brother! God bless you and Melissa for all that you do 🙏🏽
Yes I will. Lord willing and the creek don't rise. 😀 But it does sound like the will of God has become a place where OCD has infiltrated. Those resource approaches may help more
Iam so glad u talk simply, u don't talk big words or stuff that physco babble... Example, go back to yr stunting.. lol . Ocd relational. ... Oh that makes sense.. never thought of it like that.... I think ocd comes out in me when i send links to friends a lot.. lol . Oh dear..
Every week i see another layer of trauma effects
All yhe tv sitcoms that showed the dads as bafoons didn't help either 😮
This is great but the wife is constantly interrupting her husband. He's barely able to complete a thought.
Seen and not heard. Dont speak until spoken to😮