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Jo kuch aap leh rahe h ye maine apne pati ko shuruaat me hi bata diya tha to jo parivar pura mil k meri saas ko pratadit kr raha tha wo meri saas k sath mil k mete khilaf ek ho gaya.....dhritrashtra aaj bhi maje le raha h ladwa k sabko
Marriage and parenthood are overrated in India. I am single and childfree for life.😇 Ratan Tata, Abdul Kalam, Vajpayee, Jayalalithaa, Lata Mangeshkar, Mayawati, Mamta Banerjee, Ekta Kapoor etc are single and childfree and some of the most successful people in India.
बिल्कुल सच कहा आपने असली विलेन ससुर है कितना बढ़िया अनालिसिस है आपका और कितना सटीक तरीके से समझा रहे हो आपकी उम्र के लोग अंकल जी गीता और रामायण की बातें करके खुद को बहुत ज्ञानी समझने लगते हैं आपकी उम्र में आपको इतनी अच्छी समझ असली कर्मयोग यही है जौ आप समझा रहे हो
Guruji Pranam, I am unmarried 32 years old man. I spent 3 years of my life fixing my parent's marriage problem. I was TRYING to learn simplest skills in that time so I can join the workforce again. And I achieved nothing but depression for myself. This video is so true and relatable that I watch it over and over again. I learned this through a very bitter experience and I hope people find this video before they make mistake like I did.
My Fil died, still we live separately. We have provided everything for mil comfort. Once because of joint family we were facing divorce situation now after separation of 12 years from parent in laws our marriage has turned into a very romantic one. I simply don't remember when was the last time we fought.
100% true and relatable video.what a rational and progressive thoughts... excellent analysis, maja aa gaya. I'm from an 80's generation, almost married for 14 years. Highly educated but controlled by villains. Always submissive, obedient, cultured ... But now I feel like to rebe wasted all my life's golden years listening to them as if I don't have my liking, now I want to focus on myself and my hobbies a little bit. So that after 10 more years I won't be regretting it any more. I don't want to become a villain in my bahu's life. Thanks for sharing it n showing the mirror to society 🙏
Villans not just immediate family, relative near distant...especially if you are single senior citizen every one wants to control you,relatives,neighbours,retire ke baad collegues bhi...god knows who not.
U r the saviour of all bahus of north India..nobody has ever brought this important topic that affects so many families…so relaxed to hear someone who understands problems of all ladies.. MAG
Accidentally found your channel, best thing I came across on CZcams till date! I have been binge watching all your old videos and sharing them with family. I strongly feel all of your content is spot-on, need of the hour for most Indians. Thanks for making much needed content 🙏
Maja aya. Ap ekdum sach bol rahe ho. Ek eonshabd sach hai. Sare fasad ki jad admi hai aur dosh aurat ko diya jata hai. Apke is video ne dill jeet liya sangwan ji. Jiyo mere sher
Superb video. Masterpiece in itself. I am a psychologist and i agree to all of your points. I appreciate your courage of speaking the truth. Your channel is a clear mirror of north indian upper middle class society. Seriously new generation needs to change and come out of this as much change couldn't be expected from elder generation.
@@shasankv85 my father in law was super arrogant, narssissistic and would bring the house down with shouting and yelling if something went against him....... He wouldnt take a glass of water by himself..... Someone should always be ready to serve him.
Bilkul sahi hai Mai pichley 22 saal se joint family Mai hu Pati jyada tar bahar hi rehti hain Do baccho aur in-laws ki take care karti hu aur sabki baatein sunti hoon Aapney karma exhaust kar rahi hu
I first time came across some person talking so boldly on these topics. I found your video just today i wish i had listened to this 10 years back and i would be so happy if my father and father in law thought like you.
Mai soch hi rhi thi ki kaise is video ko share kru.. jigar chahiye😅😅.. but last line helped.. dekho kaisi batein faila rha …😅😅 you are AMAZING…..!!!! Soo practical…
I got tortured so much by my in-laws and always thinking on this point and many years before already decided to keep my beta bohu to leave separately once he got married.Thank you so much for bringing the true story of Indian families 🙏
Salute to you sir, aap ne Indian family ki asli gadbad pakad li hai. Financial independence and distribution of duties is a must for families. Show off in the wedding expenses is also ruining the financial condition of the families, which could be saved and spent in the couple's stability.
Thank you..Sir you are 100percent correct... majority of Sasurs are Dhritarashtra and make us look like vamps..I already knew this but today your words proved it .Hats off
Very true, sasur ji is mostly culprit .....woh piche hote hai and saas ko aage karate hai ..... vahi hote hai kaan bharane wale saas ke ... yeh maine bahot baar (99%) times dekha hai .... its very hurtful and helpless situation for bahu........ comment..from jalandhar punjab
Very rational and progressive outlook towards saas bahu issue and love the clear straight forward attitude of yours !! Absolutely agree to every word !!
100% sahi . Most of the times I feel getting married is the worst thing I did with my life. Kam Wali baii ban gyi bs. Sab ki sewa krna hi zindagi hai bs apni to koi life nhi. Sare farz hmare hai.fir bhi khush nhi hote.
Kamati bhi nahi hogi. Phir bhi job pe husbands ko appreciation, break time, appreciation aur bonus aur society mein respect milti hain. @@hhshs3466. What does a wife get? Does one ever realise why women are so distant from household chores and proudly say they are busy in office work? Because they never get appreciation and applause. When a husband gets a promotion, everyone applauds him for hard work, what about the women who ensured the good health of the man, took all mental pressure within herself and kept him majorly from ghar kalesh. And now women are blamed for why we are so aloof from household work.
In laws just crush your personality. So do whatever is required but at your own pace and your convenience. Listening to them will make the matters worse. If they don't like then they are free to do it on their own. They never will be happy whatever you do for everyone so royally ignore them.
Sir, I am a woman who is a researcher. In last one year, I have cried a lot because of my career and mental health getting affected. Honestly, I don't see my in laws as villains but unfortunately the systems they blindly believe in. If I live like them, I have to be dead inside. After a lot of thought, I had proposed my husband that if he wants me to stay near him happily, we must develop alternative arrangements for their parents and my parents too. But, he is afraid that his parents would be hurt. But, I am very firm with sticking with my idea. In my bad financial times, except for formal asking ....no one including my husband helped me out. So, I have to think for myself even if I earn the label of a bad Bahu. I watched your videos and was honestly but happily surprised how your prescribed thoughts and solutions are atleast 90% matching with me. Also, I have tried practicing 'no' politely. Still, as a woman many compromises await. Agar wo kuch useful compromises hotey phir bhi sochti but most of them are power control to satisfy insecurities of the society and regressive family systems.
Same here sister. With 1 year of marriage gave inlaws grankid at risk of corporate job. Finally got maternity leave but they are bent on making me their housewife with earning, while keeping their clueless boy as useless to demand bedtea for himself while i am cater to the child as well. SIL wants to demean my choice in corporate attire of smart casuals by forcing chunni, ghoonghat and chamcham suits with village jewelry, Speaking derogatorily of my attempt upskill and switch jobs. They try to keep me bound to their house, don't allow me to mingle in the neighborhood, forbid me from buying my things from shop, insert inane 'traditions', even try to stop my mother's house visits.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 Sorry Divya, I am in a better position. From beginning of my marriage, I had decided not to do anything to impress but at times do all these rituals or cultural practices out of my love. But, I can definitely understand your situation. Main na isliye apne bure financial time main jab mujhe kisine help nahi kiya tab khud hi apne savings se apne college fees etc bhara. I was planning a kid but unless certain things are solved...I am not going to bring in a kid until I am emotionally and physically ready.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 It was and is tough but I do not ask permission for staying with my father. But my fil tries to indirectly pressurize me by asking when I can stay with them. I don't mind staying with them. But my food and cultural habits are different. When they force upon their food habits on me, I get uncomfortable as it is a shocker for me at a humanitarian level. I am a good cook but my mil insists to learn cooking from her so that I cook them. On phone, she criticises my choice of recipe that I cook and instructs me what my husband should eat. I am educated regarding health and infact good at making balanced diets. Since I do not criticize her or anyone's food habits , it is difficult for me to constantly face so much discussions regarding food. My mil says o you cooked only one sabzi....my Babu can't eat with one sabzi. On the other hand my husband is extremely fond of what I make.
Accidentally found your video.. ur views and opinions are very close to middle class family and parivar and I love to watch ur videos... Before I watched motivational things or listened to music while doing my work .. but now whenever I watch tv either working on the computer or phone i start watching ur videos.. which very much admires me personally ..thank u sir.. and yes maza aa gaya... Keep motivating us with all ur experience and observations... Thank u so much...😊
Greetings sir ji.. After listening your videos I must say you have observed, studied, analyzed everything in so details.. I must say you must be a great daddy for your children and definitely creating awareness and spreading knowledge in the society which is beneficial for us.. Keep going..
Please share your own family's details. How are they behaving and how is your advice having results in your in family. Hope you will have courage to do so.
Sir you are brilliant and brave ... Exposing the truth fearlessly ... Please continue ... The truth you speak is so much more helpful than fake religious and spiritual gurus who don't really help in anything ... This is the real deal ... A real social revolution ... May our unhappy society change soon
Your life lessons are so deeply connected to our lives of 80 born women. We face this truth in our household. You have correctly pointed the main villian 👌👌 Your videos help us to think about from different perspective
Love your life lessons..I happened to watch one episode..and I was hooked to your channel...watched all your episodes..almost.. Itne sateek..progressive vichaar..much needed for the society..Bahut achha kaam Kar Rahe ho aap..kitna khul ke bolte ho..wahwahwah..:):) Have forwarded to many in my circle.. !! Thanks for coming up with such unique stuff.. 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
Great analysis. I had regret before of seperating myself from my family due to all the problems you mentioned .No more after your video.My parents demands my contribution even after they earn handsome govt pension and I do help them whatever possible from my side even after leaving seperately .But they want me only and not my wife or my son in their house .
In our family my father is a retied pension holder of state govt service in group c position when he joined in service. He has been retired in the position of group b service. Now his pension amount was 30000 . From 30000 pension loan was deducted every month 8000 . Net pension was 22000 . My salary was 23000 per month. Our whole family expenses was incured by both of us. I will spend around 15000 and my father expenditure was 10000 . In family sometimes we are also fight but we will solve the issue with in 48 hours. In financial decisions all family members involved is most important.
@@sunilnayakblogs6277my father get 22000 in pension and my bro have monthly income approx 4 to 5 lakhs but he never give single penny to my mother n father and when come to home eat sleep n go to his home his wife don't allow him to give 1 rs to old parents but bro himself is disgusting I wish God will see everything may karma hits them back
Correct.. Salute sir.. Samaj ki kadvi sachai.. Bahut achha vedio banaya.. Hope sabhi ye dekh ke apna believe system change kare aut family me khushali banaye..
Uncle thanks a lot you are creating videos which is very valuable for generation like us from 20 -40 age gap . Keep it up uncle lots of love and blessings to you.❤❤❤
Sir ji... Every word you spoke is true to the core. I've seen this playout in real life with my brother. And yes I admit my father was at fault. Please continue your work. Finally someone explaining the things that our parents should have done.
Awesome . Itni sahi baatein aap bata rahein hain, mere to aasoon hi nikal aaye.itni achhi tarah expalin kiya hai aapne. Mein 1980s ki model hu ,na idhar ki na udhar ki. Aajkal k baccho k liye aap ekdum sahi advice de rahein hain . Ladka ladki dono k maa baap sirf bachcho ko supresss karte hain. Mein 47 yrs ki hu aur kehna chahti hu aapne kya sahi vidoes banaye hain. Asli culprit Sasur. Eye opener hai yeh baat !! Yeh b khoob kaha ki aapas mein old husband wife lad pade agar ghar p beta bahu na ho. Kya hi baat kahi aapne . ❤
My sister suffered from the same problem. Her father in law was the villain. She suffered from mental trauma after her marriage because of his rude behavior and taunts.
100% agree sir...firstly i was against your videos but now im totally agree ..and my marriage just some month ahead....n we took decision of court marriage after watching your video ....u doin good ...lots of love n may god bless you with more abundence
Sir....pehli baar koi itni samajhdari ki baate karta nazar aa raha h....m so glad.... someone is taking this up...and someday definitely the society will also change....❤️❤️❤️❤️
If there is a good chemistry between father n son, if they are worldly-wise then they can play a positive n constructive role in balancing the inter- personal - relationships living under the same roof. For this they will need a check upon them which is a herculian task for them because they never like to curtail their freedom . l really appreciate your sharp n strong sense of observations, Sir.
Baap aur bete mein achchi chemistry hi hoti hai, tabhi beta na maa ki taklif ko samajhta hai aur na hi biwi ki. Phir wo sasur ban kar apni patni se apni bahu ka bura haal karwata hai. Maine aise bahut se ghar dekhe hai. Bahut hi selfish males, jinhe har rishte se sirf apne liye sukh chahiye. At any cost.
I totally agree with you. The moment you said, jis ghar mai women dukhi hai, woh ghar kabhi sukhi, happy nahi ho sakta. This was my thought which came on in this video. Must appreciate your thoughts. Thanks for your videos.
Sir you are a gem of a person who is highlighting these issues which nobody talks about . I hope if people could just become mature and not take their wife for granted.
Thank you sir for showing us the right path Your thoughts are really really practical You are far sighted Thanks for your contribution to our generation
Very much true Sir. Thanks for bringing up this. But for our Beta , Father, son in law and Father in law to improve, it will take another decade I feel or more maybe. This video should reach each and every house hold of India
Appreciate your wisdom Sir 👍🙏👌quite true & factual analysis of our typical Indian society & family set up….. these videos so should essentially make people rethink on their lives around their families & make changes accordingly for a better understanding of a Happy life .. Thanks for sharing 😊
No one can explain my family situation better than this video! I knew this, came to know this last year(2021) itself and took the instant step of buying a new flat for my family... Just 2 minutes away from my parents' home. Now I hope things get sorted out smoothly! Age-31
Great Mr rohit. Here in my case, I had to move out and I m villain now for everyone. But I'm at peace now. Yes still my other half takes counseling session 4 times from his family. 👋 but I'm rock solid in my decision of not being the part of kaleshi family n living with them .
Very good advised sir, thankfully my husband understood this quite early and he was the one who decided to have our own house.But in India majority of people don’t understand this and they look down upon couple who do not live with their parents.
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Jo kuch aap leh rahe h ye maine apne pati ko shuruaat me hi bata diya tha to jo parivar pura mil k meri saas ko pratadit kr raha tha wo meri saas k sath mil k mete khilaf ek ho gaya.....dhritrashtra aaj bhi maje le raha h ladwa k sabko
I have never heard anyone speaking so boldly and fearlessly about the dark truths of the Indian middle class family
Hats off to you,Sir
Marriage and parenthood are overrated in India.
I am single and childfree for life.😇
Ratan Tata, Abdul Kalam, Vajpayee, Jayalalithaa, Lata Mangeshkar, Mayawati, Mamta Banerjee, Ekta Kapoor etc are single and childfree and some of the most successful people in India.
I agree I am his big admirer
@@anewlife5846 नरेंद्र मोदी ऑल्सो
@@sachintyagi4386 He is married to Jashoda but he just doesn't co-habitate with her.
Yhi mard prr bante h bhag jati h😂😂😂
बिल्कुल सच कहा आपने असली विलेन ससुर है कितना बढ़िया अनालिसिस है आपका और कितना सटीक तरीके से समझा रहे हो आपकी उम्र के लोग अंकल जी गीता और रामायण की बातें करके खुद को बहुत ज्ञानी समझने लगते हैं आपकी उम्र में आपको इतनी अच्छी समझ असली कर्मयोग यही है जौ आप समझा रहे हो
मैं तो पहले ही बहुत अच्छी तरह से समझाचुकी हूं आज शादी को 25 साल हो गए हैं और अच्छे से समझ गई हूंअपने घर के विलेन को
Guruji Pranam, I am unmarried 32 years old man. I spent 3 years of my life fixing my parent's marriage problem. I was TRYING to learn simplest skills in that time so I can join the workforce again. And I achieved nothing but depression for myself.
This video is so true and relatable that I watch it over and over again. I learned this through a very bitter experience and I hope people find this video before they make mistake like I did.
You are absolutely right, and don't be in any guilt now that you have done any wrong, in that consciousness you have done what you must have done...
My Fil died, still we live separately. We have provided everything for mil comfort. Once because of joint family we were facing divorce situation now after separation of 12 years from parent in laws our marriage has turned into a very romantic one. I simply don't remember when was the last time we fought.
❤❤❤ god bless you! I hope to recover just like you
Mere pati ke to dur baithe hi maa baap behan dil dimag me baithe rahte hain 🙄
Accidentally found uncle..he speaks truth .. people from all generation should listen from him
Big salute sir for talking so boldly on these topics in our country spclly 'north India ka haal'..
I am 23 ,un married, finding these videos very useful and getting mentelly prepared
Nice better to be single than facing such people saans sasoor 😂
I am engaged and I am scared of getting married bow
Then think before you are going to be married
You are absolutely right sir 💯
100% true and relatable video.what a rational and progressive thoughts... excellent analysis, maja aa gaya. I'm from an 80's generation, almost married for 14 years. Highly educated but controlled by villains. Always submissive, obedient, cultured ... But now I feel like to rebe wasted all my life's golden years listening to them as if I don't have my liking, now I want to focus on myself and my hobbies a little bit. So that after 10 more years I won't be regretting it any more. I don't want to become a villain in my bahu's life. Thanks for sharing it n showing the mirror to society 🙏
Kya bat ha!! Josh aa gayo..viedos dekh kar,
More power to u ❤
Villans not just immediate family, relative near distant...especially if you are single senior citizen every one wants to control you,relatives,neighbours,retire ke baad collegues bhi...god knows who not.
Same with me
Same feeling with me. Always don't become a naukrani in front of the villians
U r the saviour of all bahus of north India..nobody has ever brought this important topic that affects so many families…so relaxed to hear someone who understands problems of all ladies.. MAG
100% nahi, 200% nahi, 1000% true , true. Aapke video sunker bohot se log offend honge but aapki baatein seriously family problems ka solution hai. 👏👏👏👏👏
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Same
Maz
Very nice video
He is such a blessing to our society! God bless you sir !
Par kitne log is video ko dekhenge???? problem ye hai
Guruji, aap aur aise gyan jagaye aur hamare Bharthiye parivaaro ke jeevan me clarity laaye🙏🙌
Maja aya. Ap ekdum sach bol rahe ho. Ek eonshabd sach hai. Sare fasad ki jad admi hai aur dosh aurat ko diya jata hai. Apke is video ne dill jeet liya sangwan ji. Jiyo mere sher
Truth is always bitter, you are 100% true. 95% fathers are real culprit.
Superb video. Masterpiece in itself. I am a psychologist and i agree to all of your points. I appreciate your courage of speaking the truth. Your channel is a clear mirror of north indian upper middle class society. Seriously new generation needs to change and come out of this as much change couldn't be expected from elder generation.
Very true sir. Reality hai society ki aur hamare culture ki.
Sir
You are so correct.
Thank you for bringing it out 🙏
How a man can understand problems of both generations!
Superb
Hats off Sir
You are 100℅ correct. Not only in North India, same situation in South also. But this father in laws are so arrogant that they don't have any regret.
100% true
Correct, fathers and father-in-laws are super worst beings.
@@shasankv85 my father in law was super arrogant, narssissistic and would bring the house down with shouting and yelling if something went against him.......
He wouldnt take a glass of water by himself..... Someone should always be ready to serve him.
South situations are more bad I feel
Bilkul shi
Bilkul sahi hai
Mai pichley 22 saal se joint family Mai hu
Pati jyada tar bahar hi rehti hain
Do baccho aur in-laws ki take care karti hu aur sabki baatein sunti hoon
Aapney karma exhaust kar rahi hu
Karma exhaust karne ke kuch easy tareeke bhi hain....meditation and yoga
I first time came across some person talking so boldly on these topics. I found your video just today i wish i had listened to this 10 years back and i would be so happy if my father and father in law thought like you.
Sir , kindly don't delete this video.
It's a reality of our society.
Mai soch hi rhi thi ki kaise is video ko share kru.. jigar chahiye😅😅.. but last line helped.. dekho kaisi batein faila rha …😅😅 you are AMAZING…..!!!!
Soo practical…
Ha ha ha ha even I felt the same, but shared the link in family whatsapp groups 🤣🤣
💯
Maj....Maha maj sir 🙂
😂😂😂
Mag
Very well said. Grt. I hope this will make some difference to our society
Bahut badiya बिलकुल सही बात कही है अपने
I got tortured so much by my in-laws and always thinking on this point and many years before already decided to keep my beta bohu to leave separately once he got married.Thank you so much for bringing the true story of Indian families 🙏
Good thoughts
Awesome Ma'am. Proud of your thinking. 👏👏👏😇👍
Aap bohot intelligent and progressive hai , absolutely right sir, problem ye hai aajkal ke pati bhi sasur ko copy karte hai.
Say no to sasur say no to pathi stay single👍
Sir, you are excellent
Absolutely right sir.
Kal ka Pati aaj ka sasoor Hai
Aur aaj ka Pati Kal ka Sasoor Hai.
Indian *Dale Carnegie*
Superb Sir. Hatts off for bringing truth in society. Mazaa aa gaya sir. ❤
Yes you are 💯✅ right ,nobody ever thought in this line ,you are really great,please keep it up ,do make such videos .Thanx 🙏🙏🙏❤️
Salute to you sir, aap ne Indian family ki asli gadbad pakad li hai. Financial independence and distribution of duties is a must for families. Show off in the wedding expenses is also ruining the financial condition of the families, which could be saved and spent in the couple's stability.
Thank you..Sir you are 100percent correct... majority of Sasurs are Dhritarashtra and make us look like vamps..I already knew this but today your words proved it .Hats off
धृतराष्ट्र 😂
Mag. much needed video for present and previous generation
Sahi bole aap. You r the only guy with a spine n gumption.
Very true, sasur ji is mostly culprit .....woh piche hote hai and saas ko aage karate hai ..... vahi hote hai kaan bharane wale saas ke ... yeh maine bahot baar (99%) times dekha hai .... its very hurtful and helpless situation for bahu........ comment..from jalandhar punjab
I figured it out early and living on rent due to his tactics 😎😎😎.
I m from 80s and I thought I was the only one who could see this and was saying this. Thanks for raising this on social platform.
Please make more videos like this. Really felt good someone is speaking facts
Very brilliant video..we want more n more people like u....
Very progressive thought process! Happy and grateful that someone articulate like you is speaking about these issues. No one talks about it!
Very rational and progressive outlook towards saas bahu issue and love the clear straight forward attitude of yours !! Absolutely agree to every word !!
MAG
Thankyou sir
Very very true
Real picture of Indian society
U r raising very deep issues. Excellent job 👍
This ws beyond 'mjaa aa gya'...excellently said n amazingly revealed the bitter truth of middle class Indian families
100% sahi . Most of the times I feel getting married is the worst thing I did with my life. Kam Wali baii ban gyi bs. Sab ki sewa krna hi zindagi hai bs apni to koi life nhi. Sare farz hmare hai.fir bhi khush nhi hote.
Kamati Kitna ho
Kamati bhi nahi hogi. Phir bhi job pe husbands ko appreciation, break time, appreciation aur bonus aur society mein respect milti hain. @@hhshs3466. What does a wife get? Does one ever realise why women are so distant from household chores and proudly say they are busy in office work? Because they never get appreciation and applause. When a husband gets a promotion, everyone applauds him for hard work, what about the women who ensured the good health of the man, took all mental pressure within herself and kept him majorly from ghar kalesh. And now women are blamed for why we are so aloof from household work.
Sabko khus karhi nahi sakte to khud ko khus rakho dusre jalke mar jana he
In laws just crush your personality. So do whatever is required but at your own pace and your convenience. Listening to them will make the matters worse. If they don't like then they are free to do it on their own. They never will be happy whatever you do for everyone so royally ignore them.
@@hhshs3466 tumko nai milne kamane wali😂
सही कहा आप ने असली विलन ससुर ही हैं मेरे साथ भी यही हुआ है
Aapne to aankhe khol di
Bilkul sahi bataya aapne👍
Sir, I am a woman who is a researcher. In last one year, I have cried a lot because of my career and mental health getting affected. Honestly, I don't see my in laws as villains but unfortunately the systems they blindly believe in. If I live like them, I have to be dead inside. After a lot of thought, I had proposed my husband that if he wants me to stay near him happily, we must develop alternative arrangements for their parents and my parents too. But, he is afraid that his parents would be hurt. But, I am very firm with sticking with my idea. In my bad financial times, except for formal asking ....no one including my husband helped me out. So, I have to think for myself even if I earn the label of a bad Bahu. I watched your videos and was honestly but happily surprised how your prescribed thoughts and solutions are atleast 90% matching with me.
Also, I have tried practicing 'no' politely. Still, as a woman many compromises await. Agar wo kuch useful compromises hotey phir bhi sochti but most of them are power control to satisfy insecurities of the society and regressive family systems.
Don't want to prove yourself each and every one
Same here sister. With 1 year of marriage gave inlaws grankid at risk of corporate job. Finally got maternity leave but they are bent on making me their housewife with earning, while keeping their clueless boy as useless to demand bedtea for himself while i am cater to the child as well. SIL wants to demean my choice in corporate attire of smart casuals by forcing chunni, ghoonghat and chamcham suits with village jewelry, Speaking derogatorily of my attempt upskill and switch jobs. They try to keep me bound to their house, don't allow me to mingle in the neighborhood, forbid me from buying my things from shop, insert inane 'traditions', even try to stop my mother's house visits.
@@freedom4813 I earn and I have my dreams of becoming a professor.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 Sorry Divya, I am in a better position. From beginning of my marriage, I had decided not to do anything to impress but at times do all these rituals or cultural practices out of my love. But, I can definitely understand your situation. Main na isliye apne bure financial time main jab mujhe kisine help nahi kiya tab khud hi apne savings se apne college fees etc bhara. I was planning a kid but unless certain things are solved...I am not going to bring in a kid until I am emotionally and physically ready.
@@divyasinghphougat8520 It was and is tough but I do not ask permission for staying with my father. But my fil tries to indirectly pressurize me by asking when I can stay with them. I don't mind staying with them. But my food and cultural habits are different. When they force upon their food habits on me, I get uncomfortable as it is a shocker for me at a humanitarian level. I am a good cook but my mil insists to learn cooking from her so that I cook them. On phone, she criticises my choice of recipe that I cook and instructs me what my husband should eat. I am educated regarding health and infact good at making balanced diets. Since I do not criticize her or anyone's food habits , it is difficult for me to constantly face so much discussions regarding food. My mil says o you cooked only one sabzi....my Babu can't eat with one sabzi. On the other hand my husband is extremely fond of what I make.
Accidentally found your video.. ur views and opinions are very close to middle class family and parivar and I love to watch ur videos... Before I watched motivational things or listened to music while doing my work .. but now whenever I watch tv either working on the computer or phone i start watching ur videos.. which very much admires me personally ..thank u sir.. and yes maza aa gaya... Keep motivating us with all ur experience and observations... Thank u so much...😊
Uncle gi aap ki vedioes superb hoti h topics bhuat hi achhe or true hote h thanks banate rahiye
Beautiful! Extremely 100 per cent accurate 👏 The older generation in Indian society is my role model of what ‘NOT’ to be!
Greetings sir ji.. After listening your videos I must say you have observed, studied, analyzed everything in so details.. I must say you must be a great daddy for your children and definitely creating awareness and spreading knowledge in the society which is beneficial for us.. Keep going..
Please share your own family's details. How are they behaving and how is your advice having results in your in family. Hope you will have courage to do so.
Sir you are brilliant and brave ... Exposing the truth fearlessly ... Please continue ... The truth you speak is so much more helpful than fake religious and spiritual gurus who don't really help in anything ... This is the real deal ... A real social revolution ... May our unhappy society change soon
Very true analysis Sir
These thoughts were all over our minds but you have the guts to put them so simply and yet so strongly 🙏🏻
Your life lessons are so deeply connected to our lives of 80 born women. We face this truth in our household. You have correctly pointed the main villian 👌👌
Your videos help us to think about from different perspective
80 born folks are doing well. Those born around 2000 or so are always ready to 🔪 🗡 over pretty much anything. And most of them are dumb.
Same 80sborn
I agree..
No chemistry between adults.
Whether parents or in laws.
yup thats the flaw / no bonding
that's one of the flaws of arrange marriage betaji aur aisa low trust societies mein aksar aisa hota hai
Bhutttt bdia
Aise hi mind opening videos chahiyen
Mann to krta h apne saas sasur k kamre m ja k ye video chla du
Plzzzzzzzzz spread this video everywhere taki esey logon (saas-sasur) ki pol kuch to khule
Love your life lessons..I happened to watch one episode..and I was hooked to your channel...watched all your episodes..almost..
Itne sateek..progressive vichaar..much needed for the society..Bahut achha kaam Kar Rahe ho aap..kitna khul ke bolte ho..wahwahwah..:):) Have forwarded to many in my circle.. !! Thanks for coming up with such unique stuff.. 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
Thanks
MAJ
I just want to forward this to my sasuraal group offend ho jayenge bas 😅
MAJ
Bhout Badhiya this is reallty of life
Great analysis. I had regret before of seperating myself from my family due to all the problems you mentioned .No more after your video.My parents demands my contribution even after they earn handsome govt pension and I do help them whatever possible from my side even after leaving seperately .But they want me only and not my wife or my son in their
house .
In our family my father is a retied pension holder of state govt service in group c position when he joined in service. He has been retired in the position of group b service. Now his pension amount was 30000 . From 30000 pension loan was deducted every month 8000 . Net pension was 22000 . My salary was 23000 per month. Our whole family expenses was incured by both of us. I will spend around 15000 and my father expenditure was 10000 . In family sometimes we are also fight but we will solve the issue with in 48 hours. In financial decisions all family members involved is most important.
@@sunilnayakblogs6277my father get 22000 in pension and my bro have monthly income approx 4 to 5 lakhs but he never give single penny to my mother n father and when come to home eat sleep n go to his home his wife don't allow him to give 1 rs to old parents but bro himself is disgusting I wish God will see everything may karma hits them back
Excellent Video, आपने बिल्कुल सही कहा ,
Correct.. Salute sir.. Samaj ki kadvi sachai.. Bahut achha vedio banaya.. Hope sabhi ye dekh ke apna believe system change kare aut family me khushali banaye..
Uncle thanks a lot you are creating videos which is very valuable for generation like us from 20 -40 age gap . Keep it up uncle lots of love and blessings to you.❤❤❤
Sir ji... Every word you spoke is true to the core. I've seen this playout in real life with my brother. And yes I admit my father was at fault. Please continue your work. Finally someone explaining the things that our parents should have done.
Uncle ji aapane To Mere Dil Ki baten Bata Di bahut bahut dhanyvad aap log hi Hain Jo Bahu Ka Dukh samajh sakte hain
Awesome . Itni sahi baatein aap bata rahein hain, mere to aasoon hi nikal aaye.itni achhi tarah expalin kiya hai aapne. Mein 1980s ki model hu ,na idhar ki na udhar ki. Aajkal k baccho k liye aap ekdum sahi advice de rahein hain . Ladka ladki dono k maa baap sirf bachcho ko supresss karte hain. Mein 47 yrs ki hu aur kehna chahti hu aapne kya sahi vidoes banaye hain. Asli culprit Sasur. Eye opener hai yeh baat !! Yeh b khoob kaha ki aapas mein old husband wife lad pade agar ghar p beta bahu na ho. Kya hi baat kahi aapne . ❤
My sister suffered from the same problem. Her father in law was the villain. She suffered from mental trauma after her marriage because of his rude behavior and taunts.
Perfect points said today. This must be shared to all in India.
Oh My God.... Sir this is the ultimate truth, which nobody realized😢😢😢😢.
100% agree sir...firstly i was against your videos but now im totally agree ..and my marriage just some month ahead....n we took decision of court marriage after watching your video ....u doin good ...lots of love n may god bless you with more abundence
Very very true. The head of the family is utterly lazy, irresponsible but wants all the power.
👏👌👍
True
Sir....pehli baar koi itni samajhdari ki baate karta nazar aa raha h....m so glad.... someone is taking this up...and someday definitely the society will also change....❤️❤️❤️❤️
Very rightly said.....
Bahut badhiya..
Very realistic and correct
If there is a good chemistry between father n son, if they are worldly-wise then they can play a positive n constructive role in balancing the inter- personal - relationships living under the same roof. For this they will need a check upon them which is a herculian task for them because they never like to curtail their freedom .
l really appreciate your sharp n strong sense of observations, Sir.
Baap aur bete mein achchi chemistry hi hoti hai, tabhi beta na maa ki taklif ko samajhta hai aur na hi biwi ki. Phir wo sasur ban kar apni patni se apni bahu ka bura haal karwata hai. Maine aise bahut se ghar dekhe hai. Bahut hi selfish males, jinhe har rishte se sirf apne liye sukh chahiye. At any cost.
Mere apni father se banti hai
But koi thought share karo jo unko pin point karta hai wo sunte nahi
@@nidhiduggal5414 aap zyada -ve soch rahe hain
Baat karna zaroori hai, samjhna zaroori hai, pehle se -ve nahi sochna chaiye.
I totally agree with you. The moment you said, jis ghar mai women dukhi hai, woh ghar kabhi sukhi, happy nahi ho sakta. This was my thought which came on in this video. Must appreciate your thoughts. Thanks for your videos.
Sir, you're really great hero of social life in India
Sir very well explained ….that is true….thank you so much
Sooo practical sir. Excellent and amazing speech. Maja aa gaya
Sir you are a gem of a person who is highlighting these issues which nobody talks about . I hope if people could just become mature and not take their wife for granted.
Sir कितना sach bolte ho ap hasi b aa जाती hai
Roots of Patriarchal society.
True Message.
Role of Woman is Changing.
Now she has started to understand.
👍
Can't imagine ki koi mentally itna healthy h vo b is age me vrna is age group walo ko to bete bahu ka rona rote hi dekha h.Hats off to u sir .
Uncle ji U r so accurate in life mantra..I’m becoming ur fan🙏🏼
Uncle mat bolo. He is quite young
Maza aa Gaya. Very true.
Bulls eye: Villain is only the sasur always. Being a son I don't hesitate to say it.
First time seeing some person who have so clarity in life 😊bahut badiya video
Thank you sir for showing us the right path
Your thoughts are really really practical
You are far sighted
Thanks for your contribution to our generation
Waw sir ...shandar
Very much true Sir. Thanks for bringing up this.
But for our Beta , Father, son in law and Father in law to improve, it will take another decade I feel or more maybe.
This video should reach each and every house hold of India
Appreciate your wisdom Sir 👍🙏👌quite true & factual analysis of our typical Indian society & family set up….. these videos so should essentially make people rethink on their lives around their families & make changes accordingly for a better understanding of a Happy life ..
Thanks for sharing 😊
No one can explain my family situation better than this video!
I knew this, came to know this last year(2021) itself and took the instant step of buying a new flat for my family...
Just 2 minutes away from my parents' home.
Now I hope things get sorted out smoothly!
Age-31
They will be smooth
@@SangoLifeSutras make a video on orphan child how to grow in life 😒 and save yourself from Bloodlust People 🐍
Congratulations
Great Mr rohit. Here in my case, I had to move out and I m villain now for everyone. But I'm at peace now. Yes still my other half takes counseling session 4 times from his family. 👋 but I'm rock solid in my decision of not being the part of kaleshi family n living with them .
@@minidubey7445 congratulations!
super sir aap jaise logo ki jarurt hain 🎉
Very good advised sir, thankfully my husband understood this quite early and he was the one who decided to have our own house.But in India majority of people don’t understand this and they look down upon couple who do not live with their parents.
असली culprits सास और बहू बिलकुल भी नहीं है ससुर और बेटा है । यही सबसे स्वार्थी हैं ।
Very true
Lol
Correct
पुरूष बहुत कम योगदान करता है घर परिवार मे
😂😂😂 funny but true
Very deep and honest thoughts presented fantastically.
बहुत सही बात कही आपने
Correct.
मां बाप को छोड़ दे तो वो आपस में लड़कर बरबाद हो जायेंगे
अगर साथ में रहो तो डिसीजन नही देंगे , सिस्टम चेंज करने नही देंगे