@@ariannalouhela2035 just live your life and don’t think about it. I suffer from this a lot and I’m having a panic attack rn as we speak lmao but just live your life as normal. It may seem hard but if you keep yourself occupied it’ll get better this is your life and just live it to the fullest.
@@Butterfly-vd4tg mine passed it only lasted for like a week and Half , I’m completed fine now even tho the thought of it coming back scares me sometimes but I know I am safe and real
@@ProNomad244 weed caused it , it went away naturally tbh Idk how but it did , and ever since I’ve been trusting God to keep my safe , call on God and he will help you I promise you
It’s never permanent. It’s annoying yeah, but it goes away. Just embrace it by laughing at how you fucked yourself up. Once it’s gone you’ll almost be superhuman at dealing with stress the next time.
@@BehnamAshur It’s true (at least for me). Just when I gave up hope and thought I’d just have to deal with this shit forever, it went away. The brain will heal.
You’re not and it’s totally normal to think that. You see the system we have as humans that detects dangerous things is outdated, for example back in the day when we were like cave men, when we would see something like a predator we would get frightened and run or freeze and have other anxiety symptoms. But in today’s world we don’t really encounter things like that anymore what we deal with is modern stress which causes you to feel anxious but you’re brain doesn’t see imminent danger like a bear or a lion so then it’s starts to think well if I don’t see shit like that then I must be going crazy but ur not it’s just “modern stress” and once you understand that and chill out everything will be ok, I dealt with the same thing but I went to a physiologist and he helped me understand how anxiety works and I’m fine now :) hope this helps you and others 👍🏼
Same here it's so difficult to deal with We need to take it a day at a time My friend used to say *we made it through 100% of our bad days and we'll make it through this one too"
man....this life sucks why do I have to be 1 of those who has it 😭😭😭why not be 1 of those who don't have it...I would rather have other things than this, it's a living hell man, I always reminded myself that I will be okay and to never give up but now i give up, there is no point man we're both gonna be like that for the rest of our lives 🥺😢😭 atleast I'm not the only one who's going to have it forever 😞
Same here, even worse when I have to get outside, it feels like everyone is uncomfortable with my presence and somehing is clearly wrong with me, but at the same time nothing feels real, even the interactions.
@@SlightlySoberYT god bless you man if what you say is true. I had my own experience with weed and dpdr, the sad part about what happened when I had it is that I thought I was slow/dumb. Like I couldn’t even process doing little stuff, always forgot stuff, felt like my balance was off and juss felt off square. I also notice that my life eye felt like it wasn’t open all the way. Hard to explain but I felt like I was disconnected from the world honestly. It such a dark, sad, feeling knowing who you once were and now you can’t even connect with your peers because when they speak everything is muttered/or very faint to the point you would have to lean in just to hear. Prayers go out to all the people who had to live like this….🙏🏾✝️
@@mmmmichaeljacksonnnn4666 when I first got dpdr my intrusive thoughts was horrible!! One thought I had was to kill my kids, it scared me so badly. It was repetitive all day and night. I cried so much because I love my boys and I couldn't get why it wouldn't leave my mind, no matter how hard I tried to get rid of the thought it stayed, until one day it stopped. You won't hurt anyone it's just an intrusive thought. I finally stopped thinking about it through prayer. I still have dpdr but it's getting better, I don't have many intrusive thoughts. I know it's scary, but it will get better. I can't believe how devastating the brain can be. I don't get it, the brain is trying to protect us from trauma, but causing the worst trauma EVER. Over time you will be ok, I promise, and I will pray for you!!
I hate these, prayers for those who struggling with anxiety and depersonalization and dissociation or just any mental or physical health condition or sickness! Please stay strong! ❤️🙏🏻
I had a fever and now i feel like im in a dream it feels like im nit the one typing this comment right now… after watching this video i really wanna thank you because i was terrified i was gonna be stuck like that forever
That's what happen to me. I got sick and tired of being sick and tired😡 I started embracing it and said bring it on and show me what you got. It gradually went away. You have to realize nothing bad ever comes from it. Don't let it bully you. Keep doing whatever you're doing in the moment, and push through it. Face your fear.💪 you're not alone in this.
Thanks for that comment! I screenshotted it and will read it every time I feel anxious 👊🏼 it’s exactly that: it feels dangerous but it’s not harming us! So once we realize that, we can learn to not fear it anymore and then it will fade on its own 👏🏼
recovered from it in 2 days. Literally just embrace it, try to feel it deeply and even try stuff you were afraid to do for being "too self aware" something that made me quickly snap back to reality was talking to strangers. before i was too afraid to talk to people, but when i had depersonalization, nothing felt real so i just did stuff
I have been almost my whole life , am 16 now and trying its just getting worse , in this level I don't feel anything not my body , don't know who I am who am talking to is this real am I a human how do I still living I should be "dead" that what people say in the "reality"-real life . Its hard and awful as well
@@lanimations2i have it from 10 years🙂 I thought something isn’t right about me. I tried talking to my mom but she thought I was making things up. As i grew older it had got worse, i have anxiety and have panic attacks. I got to know the name of my condition few months back from an instagram account where she shared her incidents and it was very similar to mine. I talked to her about mine and she told me about all of this. All these years i have just accepted that my mind is this way and it has been working like this all my life. I have told myself numerous times that all is good until I realized that it is not.
@@sabbathoneseveneight8643 i saw your comment, you said i should face it and i'm doing that now. I just want to know how long it took to be back normal? And will it come back again after it goes?
It feeds off your fear and emotions. Stop crying over it, laugh a lot. Watch funny videos, enjoy hobbies or doing things that make you happy. Don't let it bully you. Stay positive, and surround yourself with positive people. It only takes one negative person to affect a whole room full of people.
I had this when I was 19, drug induced depersonalisation disorder, I remember I felt I was going crazy, I lost my job and isolated myself, it was a terrible experience, anyone that is going through this the only way to beat it is to force yourself to get out and continue your life and eventually it will pass
I got this from alcohol and weed i think. And now sometimes when i get to drunk it comes back. Its really scary like im being shown another reality and this reality has been shattered. Do you guys relate to that?
i have it right now after weed, freaking me out. it’s the fourth day i have been feeling this way and i thought i was sick or something but it’s not going away and i’ve never felt this when i got a cold before. update: it went away eventually 🤞 it was seriously freaking me tf out.
Depersonalization/ derealization was very real for me at one point in my life where I thought nothing was real and I kept questioning everything but I kept fighting through it and now I can say that I am back to the present it is definitely possible to get past that moment of life. I say to just keep pushing through it reaffirm yourself, take a moment, and understand your in the present.
@@Arifumikosame, but you’re not alone. I know it feels like we aren’t real but we are, it’s just our minds being annoying but it will go away. I find that being present with yourself helps. Being alone and journaling or reading helps me a lot. You are real, you are human, you are NOT alone, and it WILL pass.
Fr, it's so weird, I feel like I'm dreaming, or I'm already dead and just rewatching the day of my death over and over due to my repetitive daily schedule.
@@jordanc1910I've ignored it but I'm still the same since I was 14 after I went through a traumatic experience, now I'm 26 almost 27 and still the same😢
@@user-in4mz9go4d here’s the thing… it’ll never go away in it’s on… right it’s like a demon.. it’ll never stop untill you conquer it…. And you can…. And you will just don’t give up
I started with DR in 2001 after extreme depression and childhood anxiety/trauma. I discovered the same as this guy really on my own (the dp manual is a great guided tool). I had it for 10 years as I then suffered post natal depression with my son which I had for about 5 yrs, DP was awful, I’m not sure how I did it , it ruined my 20s, but when I had it was when there wasn’t much known about it, nothing on the internet, thought I was going to lose my mind. Doing this technique and taking citalopram saved my life. Stay away from excessive drinking because a hangover brings on DP and steer clear of too much caffeine & cannabis! If I go somewhere new, I still experience DR for a few days, but that’s only because I had it for so long in the first place, but I’m used to that. I’m 41 now, my son is a wonderful 17 year old and an Oxford University candidate , things I genuinely never thought I would live to see.,but I find so much pleasure in the little things now. I’m finally happy & it’s left me with a wicked dark sense of humour 😊x
@@IE-BS just know that it will pass. If you label it as just a compulsive thought and don''t give it too much attention, it will go away again. Do not ignore it, acknowledge it as just a compulsive anxiery thought, and then try not to engage.
Thank you so much. Honestly, I've experienced it at a young age and I felt so detached. I thought that talking was the thing that was causing it so I stopped talking a bunch during classes and lunch at school. I'm very grateful for this information and will try to use it. Thank you.
I've dealt with it since I was 7. The moment I found that state has a name, and it's not dangerous even though its incredibly terrifying, it subsided. The moment I realized it's in fact not as scary as it seems it went away. And it's true, as long as you think "oh my god, I'm going insane, what if I never go back to normal??" while in this state, it continues. The moment you realize what it actually is, it's gone.
The scariest part is growing up this way and coming out of it as an adult. Wouldn't wish this on anyone. I feel like I'm going absolutely insane but I'm more me than I've ever felt.
I had to go through it alone too as I grew up, because any doctor my parents took me never knew how to diagnose me. So I learned how to control it, it was hard but now I think I'm so well aware of my feelings because of it.
Your nervous system is biological, not psychological. So while accepting it might help you ride the waves of mental anguish, to stop the waves, you have to do that physically. Please try (in order of importance) iron supplementation, vitamin d, a multivitamin (for trace minerals), and vigorous exercise. You will see vast improvement & Immense RELIEF. Peace to you all. Good Luck
@@ioanna3572 absolutely. have you had a chance to read reddit, there’s a good amount of people who attest to finding relief through iron supplementation. furthermore, a lot of the respondents on the dpdr forum report low magnesium, calcium, etc. since your nervous system is electrical, it stands to reason that replenishing the metals (iron/magnesium) and salts (calcium/potassium) will improve the system’s operation and your experience. there are also medical studies which found associations between panic and anxiety disorders (dpdr is one) and low iron. best of luck to you!
@@ioanna3572 please note, the mental exercises as recommended by the author of the video are also important in dealing with the mental trauma of having had experienced dpdr
Lads lads listen, there is a difference between having derealization from trauma or anxiety trigger, and smoking or drinking something, if it from the second reason, calm yo ass down, like he said, dwelling on it only makes it worse, it will be good lil homie, and also, don't be a dumbass and smoke more, that will mess you up, other than that, it should pass with a month or 2, drink water stay hydrated, eat food work out, just live your life, and when ot kicks in, just relax and let it do it's thing, its a fight you can't win, so just accept it and out on something to watch, and est your favorite snacks, its easier said than done, but that's no exuse to not try, also hanging out with friends and having someone to talk to like a councilor is VERY HELPFUL, stay strong lil homie, your NOT going to die or be stuck like that, you will be chilling soon lil homie.
It's been 6 months for me, getting better, I think I'm going to therapthy bcz my parents aren't helping much and I have triggers for this stuff that go way long ago tk my childhood, basically everything below 7th grade is trauma, 9th grade is god peak, and now 10th grade was....I dont even know, idk if I can get better if the triggers are that big
@@rodrigop2198 very good, I need to go therapy to because I think my father fails to understand what my issues are without getting upset with me, I feel you homie
Thank u so much ❤❤I am going through this since 3 months my father,mother and my relatives also said that it happens to every one . Once my brother also had panic attack like this 😭 but he stayed strong and beat this
Congratulations you found my comment. The only way you can get rid of dpdr is by accepting it as a part of your life. No matter how scary or weird it becomes (like remember the times you got startled by your own reflection?). First give the experience a name. Criticise and laugh at it. Because the way you feel, it doesnt get worse dont worry. Once you can accept it you can live your life normally. And soon after the acceptance stage it will go away without you even noticing and your mental strength becomes even stronger. I wish you all luck with your issues and remember Allah is always with you.
I'm going to try to simulate my DPDR as best I can. I wake up, and I'm in my room, looking at my bookshelf. Then BAM! All of a sudden the bookshelf doesn't feel like it's mine, and the way I've always thought about that bookshelf feels altered or weird. I continue looking at the bookshelf trying to remind myself that it's mine and I think about when I bought that bookshelf, and then I'm thinking about how I felt when I first got the bookshelf back in 2002. "Wait a second, is it 2002? No, it's 2023," I keep telling myself to ground myself in the present, and then for a split second, I can't remember if buying that bookshelf was real or if was a dream. I begin to sweat because I'm looking at the bookshelf through the eyes of myself back in 2002. Snap out of it! That was just too weird. Then I stand up. Oh no! I thought it was over, but it's not because now I can't feel my feet. I look down. Are those my feet, or am I dreaming? I march in place looking down, the impact from my feet touching the floor feels like 0 gravity or something. Wait! Am I dreaming that I'm marching right now? My heart starts beating faster. When was I looking at the bookshelf? Was that 2 minutes ago or an hour ago? I look up at not just the bookshelf, but my entire room, and my heart starts beating even faster... Why doesn't my room feel like my room? It is my room, but it's not! My chest tightens. The more I breathe, the more staggered my vision gets. Woh... Did I just spend 10 minutes looking at my bookshelf contemplating if it's mine, or was THAT a dream? Wait, it's still 2023, right? We're not in 2002. My phone rings. Oh thank god, its Joey! Talking to him will snap me out of this. Joey answers, but he doesn't sound like him!!! Is Joey actually my friend? Joey tries to tell me a story about our friend Lola. Wait, is Lola real? I get a pit in my stomach and the panic attack begins. And each time Joey says something it feels like I'm going to throw up because I can't tell if he's really talking to me, or how long he's been talking to me. Am I alone? I feel so alone. I panic again because I get overwhelmed thinking that this will last for eternity. What will I do tomorrow? ...heart beats faster... And then the next day? ... heart beats even faster... And then next day? ...And the vicious cycle continues
@@ioanna3572 So sorry! Barely seeing your comment. Honestly I'm not sure what exactly helped me, but I know I just forced myself to do everything I normally did before DPDR, even though all I wanted to do was be in bed. I forced myself to get out, go places, hang with friends. It wasn't easy, but one day I was just hanging with a friend at a park and I snapped out of it. Literally from 1 second to the next. How are you doing now? Hope all is well!
Hey @jackassgd can i ask you for the reason why DPDR started? How did it come that you snap out of it all of a sudden? I'm very curious because things got better for me over time. But the recurring fear still leads to small symptoms of it
Thank you so much. Can't believe im seeing this today, impeccable timing. I've been like this for over a week and I'm very frightened. I don't even feel real. Like I'm in a very bad dream. I just want it to stop.
anxiety is very real this is a symptom, i’ve dealt with since i was in year 10 and i’m 20 now been going on and off for years and years it really sucks guys, it does come and go and isn’t there for over just know it is a stress symptom and we are here for eachother
I’m so glad that other people were having the same problems I felt like I was the only one and that I was alone, I have taken this videos advice and I feel so much more confident in my self and everything feels real again thank you god bless🙏
I’m really happy as I finally “cured” my derealisation or whatever I had, I was constantly running away from my fear and after watching this video and reading the comments I forced myself to go through that scary and panicking state and I could finally go outside without any fear for the first time or even look at someone’s face for the first time, I’m so happy that I could finally take that first big step into recovery
@@fatima.aaaaaaaaaa if I’m honest the only thing that helped me was to just accept it, I was afraid and had panic but instead of trying to distract myself I just faced it and accepted it
Wonderful advice. The problem is explaining the cure is almost as difficult as as explaining what DPDR is. It's super hard to convince someone suffering from it how to surrender and find acceptance. Truly though, once I found this out, once I stopped fighting and let go, I realized that the ability to accept pain was something I could apply to every part of my life!
I had this happen when I was 17 for a solid 6 months I still remember the day it hit me I felt like I was so high, I thought I was losing it. But the trick that helped me overcome the sensation was staying up for over 24 hours once or twice a week, it somehow neutralized the feeling and I found this out by complete accident after a long night of gaming. I almost felt the need to remember the sensation after being up for so long, it was like the 24 hours let me adapt to the feeling. I am now 28 and look back at the experience as something very spiritual and it gives me a good sense of nostalgia when I think about it and I also wouldn’t take that phase out of my life if it were possible. Good luck to those still dealing with it, but it’s something that we can all overcome.
@@anxiety_fitness I am 13 years old and I experienced it for the first time in 2021, I suppose due to anxiety, and it gave me a couple more times, and it was normal until mid-2022 when I was watching a movie with the lights off with my family, it the movie ended and since I was sleepy I closed my eyes, they were watching another movie and when I had my eyes closed I reached a point where I felt unreal, and that's where it all started for me, I don't know why that was, now then After a year and after simply not paying much attention to the derealization, spending time with my family, facing situations that caused me derealization, playing sports and distracting myself, I'm much better, or so I think, I almost don't feel that feeling anymore, only when I feel I worry a lot or overthink, but today I felt a little bad and I searched for information, I found a comment from a guy who said something like "the feeling is always there, but you only feel it when you think about it". I have some questions: 1- What the guy said is false right? There are moments where you don't feel derealization, there are moments where you feel connected, right? 2- According to what I told you, am I on the right track? Am I making progress and soon will I get over it completely? 3- I saw that in a video you explained that currently you only feel it when you have a lot of stress, is there really a way to control stress so that you no longer feel that feeling once it is over? Will the feeling always come back to me at some point? Or at some point is it going to disappear permanently? Pls if you answer my questions it would help me a lot.
I'm in a state of derealization right now. It's scary, and I don't like it. I've never felt this before, I am aware of it, but I can't figure out how to get out of this. Derealization or depersonalization is a feeling you can never otherwise experience. I am aware of my actions but I feel like it's all a dream, rhis is uncomfortable. I'll try to come back and update once I'm out of this state.
U WILL GET BETTER. in the end u will foget all this experience and fully recover. heres a tip, focus on direct experience, like playing video games or whatever it is, that you are currently doing instead focusing on thoughts, trust me u will slowly get grounded in reality
For me it’s the emotional blunting and bizarre existential sensations that are the worst. I’ve been through this before, 3 years ago, and it took 4-6 months (I don’t even know) and afterwards I was still feeling fragile for a bit. It was only due to the fact that I was constantly surrounded by my college roommates that I was able to get better. They helped distract me, while I also looked at different coping strategies and mechanisms. I was able to read comics and play puzzle games in order to get better, and eventually discovered a new special interest. This time, however, the existential wrongness about basic human behavior, violence, the concept of death, and other things, all feel a lot worse right now, I can’t focus on any stories or characters, I feel like my connection to my special interests is gone (including that new one), like I can’t relate to anyone or anything like I could before, I feel like I’m either panicking, feeling emotionally numb and cold, or depressed and hopeless. I miss my sense of humor, having strong opinions, being able to worry about regular real life issues, being able to just sit and daydream, enjoy sci-fi, anime, and my favorite content creators online, feel present and do my job, think about the future, think up interesting hypotheticals, play video games, watch cartoons, learn about biology more, laugh at random memes, and just feel like me.
So I suffered from this back in 2014.. it happened one day when I was smoking some bud on my balcony. I went inside and it just hit me for the first time. Slowly and slowly I quit smoking but the feeling stayed. It even got worse. But eventually the symptoms were farther apart and I finally felt like I beat it. Now I just get it every so often opposed to everyday all day. Stay strong friends. You’ll get thru it.
I'm going through the same exact thing. I was smoking bud in front of my house and all of a sudden it started kicking in for me too. I felt like part of me wasn't here or awake I started freaking out everyday, I still have nightmares that makes me scared to fall asleep but slowly I've accepted it and I feel like I've been recovering slowly. Im never smoking weed ever again.
i have ocd as well as dpdr, and because of this i get scared and have intrusive thoughts that i could completely fall from reality and hurt someone and myself-does anyone else relate to this fear?
Yes I started feeling this when I was just 11 .. 😭 how could I have stress at 11. Why this happened to me I just want to be normal again It is the worst feeling ever. It's even worse when you can't explain others what are you feeling. I just go mad sometimes due to this feeling and start hitting the wall or myself and cry out of so much panic 😭😭
So glad I found this video when I felt like this and was panicking as it made me feel better knowing that others go through it too and we all get past it eventually but it can be so terrifying and scary
Tbh this is the main reason it isn't worse for me. Since I don't go out much it isn't a big deal for me and I know I can just push through it which makes it happen a lot less. It happened more when I was all scared about it but now I'm not as scared and it's calmed down a lot more because I've calmed down a lot more. The main trick with anxiety disorders is to not be as afraid of it.
For me it was the process of gaining enough experiences on the new “side” of my life. It was like rebuilding myself. I remember going through the days being unable to do what I thought should be simple things, but they were impossible bc everything relied on memories from before. Gradually I realized that when I focused on things I had learned/experienced only on the “new side” I didn’t have to be afraid all the time. What was important was starting with non-emotional experiences. Like swimming or feeling cold after taking a shower. Real things that were happening to my body in the moment let me hang onto a sense of reality. Gradually I started building real emotional relationships to experiences again and not just faking my reactions to keep up appearances.
yea despite all - it also had some positive effects on my life too. I live my life now more mindfull, more honest and less fake then i did before my panic attacks. Im also feeling that i enjoy more of the „little things“ in life now 😇.
I was stuck in this „trap“ for way too long 😢 I was so scared of those sympthoms that i was focusing on them all the time, my toughts made up the craziest stories „like ive damaged my brain permanently / im going crazy“ . I even was scared of everything, even of the sun one day! Now i realise that all those thoughts where just my brain trying to make sense because i was in a constant state of fear. let me tell you: I didnt go crazy, my brain works well as before, my feelings are in a state of normal again. Those feelings come from your body being in a state of big stress / fear. Its NOT because your going crazy or whatever your mind makes up. You will also see that those feelings will be stronger and less intense through out the days - thats in straight correlation with how relaxed your body and your mind is. The more relaxed you are - the lesser intense those Feelings are. If you are in a panic attack they will get stronger. Once you truly understand that those feelings (i know they are very intense) are just a SYMPTOM of ANXIETY, you can to start healing. You have Anxiety of symptoms from anxiety itself. That is the trap i (and many others) felt. So say this to your self over and over again. Write it in a book or whatever. You have to truly understand this: „Those feelings are not the reason of some unknown thread, they are a symptom from panic - you are perfectly healthy.“ Your problem is not those feelings - its the way you react to them. I personally use the DARE Method (from the book DARE) and also visited a therapist. You also need to make calmness one of your big goals now. Try to sleep a lot, do some breathing excersises in the morning, reduce screen time, go more in nature, do sport 3x per week, eat healthy, drink water and tea, take multivitamin tablets (because iron defficiency for example can also make you feel more numb). Write a journal where you reflect on your day and what triggered your anxiety, and what went very good, track achivements and progress. Trust me as one who also was trapped in this hell for way to long - You are healthy and youre not going crazy. ❤
It can help for pain I once smashed my bare hands into a glass table and didn’t feel a thing my hands were sliced up and leaking blood didn’t feel a thing and it healed up perfectly without stitches
And I feel so sad because I realize that time is actually flying by faster then it is. I look at my pets, my nephews, my nieces growing and it feels as if it’s happening way to fast.. and I didn’t enjoy the moments but I did… stuff just feels like it’s a dream. :/ tired of feeling this
yea I know what you mean iv had it for 2 years now I got it when I was 17 I’m 19 now and I feel like since iv had it times went in really fast like 2 years feels like 1 year. do you also feel emotionally numb towards family members sometimes aswell
I feel like the 2 worst parts about it is that nothing looks like it will have an impact (like being in a dream) and having the feeling of watching someone's pov instead of living your life
I thought that I was the only one and wondered if anyone else was experiencing anything like this. I didn't even know derealization was a thing until today. Idk if this has anything to do with it but this is also something I experience. I'll be in a moving car and I'll be looking in the distance and everything will seem so clear then I'll feel like I'm falling and have to hold on to something so I won't float away. It's the worst feeling I have ever felt. I'll close my eyes till it goes away, I'll tell everyone that I'm just tired so I don't have to explain it to them cuz they won't understand. I actually feel like I'm crazy. Sometimes I can feel it about to happen and I try to suppress it but sometimes it makes it worse cuz then I start thinking of it, and when I think about it to much it comes in strong. It makes me feel like I'm dreaming sometimes. And sometimes I can't control my face expressions. I can't really go to the movies anymore for some reason. Sometimes I feel like I can't talk to my mom and siblings. I can't even see my friends anymore cuz it'll get worse and I'll just hide in the bathroom till they leave. I feel like a terrible person but I really hate feeling it and I can't explain it to anyone. I can't have a job and I can't be around people I know unless my mom is with me or something. Im 18 and I feel like a failure. I don't wanna live like this anymore, I really feel like I can't do it. Im always in a dream state and feel like I'm floating away. I'm tired of having to hold myself down so I don't float into space.
My advice would be to continue the pursuit that you were on. Whether it's school or whatever. Don't think about it and just focus on the things you want to accomplish. Sleep 8 hours , eat healthy, go for a morning walk everyday and get some movement in throughout the day. Drink 3 litres of water everyday and do some strength training, getting a gym membership would be ideal and be consistent. Focus on the pursuit of life. That's what matters.
thank you to everyone in this comment section.. you dont know how comforting this was to me, ive been dealing with dp only recently (last month) and i really thought that i would be stuck like this, not enjoying life and questioning everything if its real or not... but i truly believe that i will be ok, it is only my mind's reaction to anxiety and being stressed. i am safe and so is you!!
DP/DR is a blessing in disguise. It's the beginning of the ego not being the in drivers seat all the time anymore. The ego thinks it's dying. You're not. It's actually a very beautiful thing that is happening. You are waking up. Give yourself time to go though this process. The greatest help I found in my process was this: Acceptance. 100% accept at all times what your are feeling. You don't have to engage with it. Just as radio noise in the background. Let go. Let go of all the thoughts you have. Don't take them seriously, no matter how grotesque or annoying they are. They are just thoughts. They don't control you unless you actively want them to. Relax. Don't fight the process. Breathe. Spend time in nature. Curiosity. Be curious and face your fear. Try to find where the actual fear is coming from. You will sooner or later see that the source does not exist, and the fear will dissipate by itself. Hope this helps
i usually feel derealization didn't even know that was a thing and i enjoyed it cause it makes me feel a bit high as it feels like in a dream and like kinda blocks off my usual constant feeling of anxiety
It does get better, it did for me. Just try to do things that you would do normally in your life- exercise, go to sleep at the same time, make a routine, eat at proper times- do all these things like you did before they will help you normalise your perception and will calm down your nervous system day by day and do not panic if you start doing these things and things still don’t get better, they will get better if you stop paying attention to the derealization episode.
Thank you man. I went to a work function this weekend and I was there and not there at the same time. It felt like I was seeing myself through a lens almost like watching myself in a play and I could hear that obviously critical voice explaining and concluding the story I was watching of myself and everyone. It’s a crazy shit. Nothing feels quite real in the moment. Connecting with others becomes even harder. I couldn’t finish the night with everyone, I called it a night after an hour or so of it persisting. I really need to prioritise meditation and self care. Because life has been freaking stressful for the past few months.
I’ve been like this for a very long time, at least 3 years…and now I’m here…still fucking crying about this, I just want it to end, I don’t want to wait, I don’t want to give in, I just want it to go away.
Since dpdr is a protective mechanism by the brain( it dissociates to protect you), being scared by the feeling of dissociation and fighting it will only prolong it and make it worse. Breathe calmly and accept it and thank it for protecting you. After a while, the brain will realize there is no threat, you are safe, and the defence mechanism will be turned off. Trust me ❤ you are safe, it's just uncomfortable feeling. I had it for years before I got tired of everything and accepted it and that's how it went away ❤️
One of my traits was getting kind of tripped out by what I could see. For example the sky sometimes. Or If the sky went orange for an hour. One great technique to use is going into your living room and sitting with your family watching some tv that makes you feel comfortable and just letting them know what issues you are having with DP
Thank you so much for letting me know what this state of mind actually is, this video feels like such a wake up call, I’m feeling way better about this now..
Thank you very much. I don't know why, that since you speak, my tears are dropping automatically down my face. Something you had just mentioned. It seemed that they had happend and covered me both every now , previous and then. May be, it has been a long time. I don't even remember about it.
I always know it’s going to go away. It’s a side effect for me every time I come off anesthesia and lasts a few days sometimes a week eventually I wake up and I’m fine. Other times it’s happened to me was during EXTREME stressful situations and it would last me a week or two but I always knew it would pass & eventually I went to bed one night and woke up and it was gone per usual.
I got DPDR from a traumatic experience involving marijuana edibles. My high was so bad, that I called 911 on myself because I perceived the symptoms as myself dying. I had a 2 year long struggle with panic disorder and DPDR, but I have emerged on the other side as the victor. The only way you can change who you are, is change what you do. Act in spite of your feelings, not because of them. DPDR was legitimately the greatest thing that ever happened to me, because it forced me to stare into the void of my shallow existence and really ponder the issues in my life. I'm doing so much better mentally than I was before the condition. For anyone out there struggling, please take these words to heart and never give up. You are in control of your own fate, trust me.
10 years, chronic. No windows. It's become so severe I can't function, I'm not afraid, just extremely uncomfortable. I don't know what to do, I'm so detached from my mind
I've been dealing with this for yrs along with many other things...dissociation, derealization, depersonalization, anxiety depression. When you've had it all for yrs and yrs it all blends together. There is no getting rid of it right away or fixing it forever. Really the only way out of it is to go through, you really do have to fight your way back to the center of yourself again and it can be really hard some weeks. It does get better you just have to...do things that keep you steady on the horse and not easily knocked off again is how I'd put it. But even if you do get knocked off again, and sometimes you won't even realize you were, it's okay, let yourself go through it all and slowly you will find your way back to yourself again.
it might be adrenal fatigue for you as well..its when you cant get out of this whole stress cycle thing maybe go check it out it could help, I believe this is the main cause of it
Acknowledge it, but instead of fighting or trying to get rid of it, let it in. Live your life despite feeling unreal, don't let it stop you from doing things, even encourage it to get worse, and find it fascinating rather than something to be afraid of. The moment you start to become its friend is when it'll go away.
Do things that you enjoy. Cooking, playing guitar, whatever it may be. Create a system of rewards for yourself of simply doing things that you find enjoyable. Soon you will start feeling better. All the best
ive been dealing with this fucking shit for 3 months now, its actually making me depressed, i wanna kms so badly i dont feel like i have my own life. this shit is one of the worst things that can happen to brain mentally. if youre suffering this for longer then a month, im here ik you're pain.
@@soniakhamosh3710 still bad 5 months later, it sucks im learning to cope with it though but soon or later it'll get off hopefully its only a matter of time
I'm going through depersonalization and I feel so weird. I was given Fentanyl at the hospital for pain February 3rd, the next day when i awoke i had a severe panic attack that i have ever had in my life. The panic went on 24/7 for a week straight. I went to the emergy room everyday from fear of dying. It got so bad i had to go to an psychiatric hospital for 5 days. I have not been the same since. One day I felt I was going back to normal then I freaked out because. I didn't know if I was really " normal" or just going crazy. It's been 2 months now, and I really don't know if I can recognize what " normal is anymore. How does anything like this even exist? I have anxiety and depression as well. I have been praying constantly for this to leave😢My son is graduating highschool in June and I need to get better. I'm so scared to be in that huge stadium feeling like this. My sons know something is wrong, but they really dont know how awful it is. I have shut my family out, my siblings are my bestfriends and I told them I can't see them until I'm better😢 Everyone seems "fake" to me. Life seems fake. I pray God hears my prayers and cries. It's exhausting!! I read some of the comments and it scared me knowing people have been going through this for months and years. I'm praying for everyone , and I hope we ALL get better soon.😢❤
18 years old and survived it, it will get better I promise. And instead of shutting everyone out do the opposite and go out more and have a deep conversation with a loved one or friend. It helps I promise give it a try.
@@ThrashRetro thank you for the encouragement, but I'm laying here crying because I feel like I'm trying to get back to normal, and it's scaring me. I actually been gone 4 days doing things with friends. It freaked me out, but it made me feel better. The slightest feeling of getting back to normal scares me so badly. Everyone talks about dpdr, but not how to handle post dpdr.
@@ThrashRetro my Dr prescribed lexapro today because Celexa is not working anymore. I'm petrified to take it everything is scaring me and I'm so scared it might put me back at square one with severe dpdr like in the beginning if I take it!!
@@miriammacomson5987 your overthinking is what’s making it worse, your anxious and nervous that your not going to snap out of it. But you are going to obviously, your stress levels are probably through the roof. What you need to do is stop overthinking and just live. Its going to pass and if you can plz don’t use any pharmaceuticals. Pills don’t work for the mind. It’s a mind thing Miriam trust.
this makes a lot more sense now lmao constantly feeling watched, getting so anxious i can’t talk coherently, only being able to think about what others think of what i’m doing, even not being able to,, see? correctly? tunnel vision, you know. i knew derealization was my brain trying to defend itself from something, but i never really acknowledged the extreme anxiety as a cause. at least i know the source of the problem now
@@hilariocelis2292 i hate to ruin your day man, it’s been about 5 years and it’s still going strong. doesn’t mean you can’t get some help though! i’ve just been floating around with no clue what to do, im sure there would be some help on reddit or something. don’t lose hope just yet
Seem to get DP/DR when i get sinusitis/bad sinus infection. Had it last year and now going through it again. Keep coming back to these videos for positivity 👍🏻
I am dealing with this rn. I feel like I'm touching a stranger, I feel like it is not my own skin. It scares me so much, I feel like a stranger to myself. My dreams seem more real than reality.
I’ve had it for almost 3 years now you will get used to it ittl only js get worse if ur scared of it u js have to accept it and nothing is forever for me it’s js very calm
@@catfanciermonthly i have it for 6 months now it doesnt stop I broke down today was crying I can't do this anymore I can't do normal tasks anymore life is not the same anymore after dp/dr
@@fucc9781 i know where you’re coming from, man. i’ve been like this for around 4 years, give or take- it’s kind of hard to tell lmao. you get used to it after awhile, but i don’t know how serious your case is. you can always get professional help, but it seems like this sort of thing is tricky. in my experience, getting a lot of sleep helps. if you have depression or anxiety, get rid of that first. i’ve got some bad anxiety, so the less anxious i feel, the better the dp/dr is. to be honest, i don’t know if it ever goes away. but you can learn to cope with it. not very helpful though, haha
My symptoms were really bad in the spring. To the point where I'd skip all my classes because my brain couldn't handle the concept of society and others. Now I'm relatively a lot better! I think it's just something that fixes itself over time. All the comments saying that they can't accept it are wrong. You are only doing more damage to yourself. 1) Finding hobbies, particularly active/outdoor hobbies, helps a lot. Somewhat important but don't find hobbies for the sake of finding hobbies. That's what I did with woodworking. I never liked shop in primary school and I knew I didn't honestly care about woodworking but I still did it anyway because I felt like I needed a way to ignore my anxiety. I promise it doesn't help. Everyone out there has a hobby you can develop, no need to force something you're not interested in. Maybe you really like clothing? You can try crochet or reselling vintage clothes or posting your outfits online. Maybe you really like gaming? You can try game development or write blogs/articles of your favorite game or make videos about your favorite strategies. Maybe you like basketball? You can try other random activities like kayaking. Wikipedia has a cool list of hobbies out there, I try singing on the side despite never doing it in my life; I just think it is important that at any point of you deciding to pick up the hobby. If you ever feel like you're lying to yourself about how much you enjoy it or aren't looking forward to the activity at all maybe reconsider. 2) Obviously easier said than done but having friends that you interact with often helps. Whether it be going out or playing games with at home, whatever you are more comfortable with 3) Identify your primary source of stress and acknowledge it. Whether it be debt or death putting off the root cause of your stress is just going to make you feel more foreign 4) Optional: find yourself a faith or engage in mind wellness. There's many books out there. Even if you're half-heartedly going to church you're still surronding yourself with a culture of people that, should hopefully, care about your wellbeing. I found that making a journal outlining my current priorities with school and live to help a lot. I think the impending doom of not konwing what I actually want to do in live (combined with some substances) made me very very anxious. Once I started planning my day out it helped a lot. For some people having an iteniary of what they'll do at evey waking hour helps (i.e. at 9 a.m. you make breakfast for 30 mins, rest for 30 mins, at 10 a.m - 5 p.m. you're at work, etc) For others like me a general bullet point list helps but if anything just having a way to put all your swimming thoughts in one location helps massively. Some people have dream journals others just rant about stuff in their diary. I used to record myself and rant for 15-20 minutes. I think the common denominator to all this is outputting aka expressing your worries into a tangible form. Whether it be in the form of video or paper or a bullet list. Internalizing all your anxiety doesn't help. Having a social net is important and I think something you should build as soon as you confront your source of worry directly. Fighting all this alone doesn't help. I'm not saying you should necessarily tell your parents that you're losing your sense of reality but at the very least have people you can talk to when you "feel bad" or need to do something fun like an impromptu trip 50 miles away somewhere.
Ever since my sister passed away 2 years ago I’ve been feeling these “derealization” symptoms. It’s been going on non stop since then. This video and these comments give me a little hope at least. Maby I’ve had the wrong approach to this
Yes I wanted to go to school and I imagenid in my mind my home and school way too different like I will go to another world than and it got me like a dream and Im not going 2 weeks beacuse that's happening
Just relax. Take deep breathes. Realize that everything will be alright and that everything takes time. Wear sunglasses when going into public. Take everything one step at a time. Try meditation. Try to stop using mind-altering substances.
Please hang in there Berry. You were brave enough to get on a video speaking about your vulnerabilities for strangers. I want you to understand I’m 26 years old going through a lot of derealization from trauma and I feel VERY alone but your video made me realize people go through this. I’m not alone. You aren’t alone. We are connecting online and presently here on earth. We are fine. We are important. We are loved. Please get sleep, get sunshine, work out, do yoga, and talk to people. I hope you see my comment! ❤
Definitely right also pmo I notice after all of these things gaming pmo or eating junk food It turns up like crazy it’s like steroids I noticed and tested this for a week I stopped pmo stopped gaming and ate light but healthy food and just tried to stay stress free I was stepping back into reality again but it’s like everytime I feel normal again I go back to doing the negatives and it puts me right back to square one
Bruh I’m definitely going through this now and it’s been probably over a month now. I hate it. I’m expecting a daughter this year and I want to get right for her! I will fight this 💪🏽
I feel when was younger I didn’t really have this but when I became a teenager I started to experience Dr/Dp it seems as if I don’t have any thoughts I can barely remember things even stuff which happened a day ago like what did I do during day. Even Thinking what to say in this comment is really hard for me. I just want to experience how it is to be normal. I don’t know why. I’m like a mindless zombie , and just on autopilot as everything goes on in my life. It has been driving me absolutely insane. You’ve really given me hope to fix this though
idk if marijuana causes DPDR but i stopped smoking like 6 months ago.. but i was smoking everyday for like 2-3 years and the last year of smoking i noticed DPDR and also that’s when i started noticing anxiety. so do u think it’s anxiety that caused my DPDR? the marijuana? both??? someone let me know please THANKS!
Nah it’s from stress people have anxiety without dpdr it’s solely from stress whatever we are doing negative in our body I believe it’s the things like eating badly pmo and staying inside the house all day on technology And not getting enough sleep I believe the body got to an overwhelmed point and it needs to be calmed down in order to be brought back to homeostasis through living a more healthy lifestyle for me the problem is when I cut all the things out I start feeling normal again so I’m like yeah I feel good I can start doing negatives again and the feelings just come back
@@Drunkpunch33 makes sense bc i’ve been out of highschool for about 2 years now and since highschool ended i feel a lot of brain fog, pmo, just staying in my house not going out. so you think the problem is basically just doing negative things to my mental/body? once i stop these my dpdr might get better?
@@Drunkpunch33during high school i also wasn’t on my phone all day after school i’d go hangout with people so i was only on my phone probably 4 hours a day. now it’s average like 9-10 hours
@@jesusquintana92 don't think about it bro truss me that is the normal now, or just tell yourself you are high and say this high feels nice and by then it'll just go away
I’ve been dealing with it for a while now. Maybe around 2 years? At first I really panicked but now I just don’t care about it that much and when a dpdr episode comes up I’m just like: “Oop, I don’t feel real.” And that’s about it.
Im 19 yrs old, so let me tell u about my experience. The first time i had derealization was a little after my dad died so around 4th or 5th grade i dont remember exactly! I remember calling my mom crying on the phone everyday that i feel like im not real. It didnt last that long tho maybe 1 week/couple of days? It just randomly went away like u dont even realize it goes away it just does. Like i didnt realize bcs i was no longer thinking/questioning everything. Thats how it works tho. If you forget about something, ur not even gonna realize u forgot! ANYWAYS fast foward a LOT of years to right now college sophmore age 19. I got sick one week (first time i ever got sick somewhere alone). I think because i was really far away from my mom it made it so miserable i was so scared and worried i wouldnt get better. I just had a stomach bug so nausea, tiredness, etc. BUT guys idk why but some reason after i was sick, ever since ive had derealization. Its been 1 week from when i was sick. My anxiety is extremely high, derealization affected me so much i cried during work, left early to go to school therapist. On theusday i drove 4 hours home to my mom. The night i arrived i was happy to see my mom and my brother. The derealization thoughts werent really with me, and my anxiety went down a little. The next day (yesterday), my anxiety returned. My mom took me out shopping but i was sad the entire time, and i constantly had this thought that nothing is real. Actually, not that i was thinking nothing is real, but i kept questioning to myself is the world real? The road? Am i real? Is my family even real? I got home and cried because the overanalyzing everything/derealization makes me feel like im going insane. Thats why i wish i could be my normal self where the thought never crossed my mind. Im only experiencing derealization because now thats all im thinking about SO I NEED TO FIGHT MY BRAIN OR WHAT??? OKAY FINE BRING IT ON! GIVE ME ALL THE WORRYING THOUGHTS U CAN!!! Its all sparked by anxiety and worrying about everything for no reason. I need to learn to go with the flow again. Stop trying to analyze every fucking thing LIKE GAWD DAMN RELAX GIRL??? UR NOT GONNA DIE??? UR NOT INSANE SO STOP WORRYING!!!! Apparently if ur lacking in vitamins it can make u depressed, have horrible anxiety etc. So, during spring break (2 weeks from now) i plan to get my magnesium, b12 and vitamin d levels checked 😄 Guys… honestly just laugh. While reading the comments i began laughing and honestly i feel better. Its so silly. Why am i so worried somethings wrong with me? 🥸 NOTHING WRONG! I keep going into panic attacks bcs i keep thinking about derealization or worrying. When im busy, doing things that give me seratonin, the feeling disappears for a bit. BUT in conclusion, derealization does go away! I am experienced with it so i know! The first time i had it, it only lasted like a week. This gives me reassurance that the derealization im experiencing again will pass. Also i noticed that im not as happy as before. Depression might be causing this. I just need to not lay in bed all day. Surround my self with loving people, do things!!! Have things to look foward to!!! TO ANYONE READING THIS, DONT STRESS!! IT WILL GO AWAY!
You don’t try to get rid of it. You accept it and allow it and then your nervous system will recognize there’s no threat and it will subside
But how do u accept it ??
@@ariannalouhela2035 just live your life and don’t think about it. I suffer from this a lot and I’m having a panic attack rn as we speak lmao but just live your life as normal. It may seem hard but if you keep yourself occupied it’ll get better this is your life and just live it to the fullest.
@@ariannalouhela2035 what also helps me a lot is god. I believe in Jesus Christ and that’s really all I need
@@gioe2835 Thank u sm 💕 I'm going to do this for the next couple of days and give u a update 💕
@@gioe2835 but how do u not think about it when ur living in it rn
Don’t worry y’all trust me when I say this. It will pass, trust me
Are you recovered?
@@Butterfly-vd4tg mine passed it only lasted for like a week and Half , I’m completed fine now even tho the thought of it coming back scares me sometimes but I know I am safe and real
@@iluvmari238 Do you have any idea what caused it? Any idea what made it go away?
@@ProNomad244 I think it’s been cursed but smoke drugs to stress men this as been doing me for over two months now I neeed help
@@ProNomad244 weed caused it , it went away naturally tbh Idk how but it did , and ever since I’ve been trusting God to keep my safe , call on God and he will help you I promise you
It’s never permanent. It’s annoying yeah, but it goes away. Just embrace it by laughing at how you fucked yourself up. Once it’s gone you’ll almost be superhuman at dealing with stress the next time.
The most fake thing I've heard to be honest, this shit is like a freaking cobweb that's stuck in my head
@@BehnamAshur
It’s true (at least for me). Just when I gave up hope and thought I’d just have to deal with this shit forever, it went away. The brain will heal.
@@er1cmaurer it's been 2 years for me ever since I was 12, my parents dont take me to the therapist
@@BehnamAshur mine was 3 years but it got progressively better
@@BehnamAshurwhat do you think caused it
I’m dealing with this rn and it’s been so hard I feel like I’m going crazy
Same but don’t worry we can do this ❤❤
You’re not and it’s totally normal to think that. You see the system we have as humans that detects dangerous things is outdated, for example back in the day when we were like cave men, when we would see something like a predator we would get frightened and run or freeze and have other anxiety symptoms. But in today’s world we don’t really encounter things like that anymore what we deal with is modern stress which causes you to feel anxious but you’re brain doesn’t see imminent danger like a bear or a lion so then it’s starts to think well if I don’t see shit like that then I must be going crazy but ur not it’s just “modern stress” and once you understand that and chill out everything will be ok, I dealt with the same thing but I went to a physiologist and he helped me understand how anxiety works and I’m fine now :) hope this helps you and others 👍🏼
Same here it's so difficult to deal with
We need to take it a day at a time
My friend used to say *we made it through 100% of our bad days and we'll make it through this one too"
man....this life sucks why do I have to be 1 of those who has it 😭😭😭why not be 1 of those who don't have it...I would rather have other things than this, it's a living hell man, I always reminded myself that I will be okay and to never give up but now i give up, there is no point man we're both gonna be like that for the rest of our lives 🥺😢😭 atleast I'm not the only one who's going to have it forever 😞
Same here, even worse when I have to get outside, it feels like everyone is uncomfortable with my presence and somehing is clearly wrong with me, but at the same time nothing feels real, even the interactions.
this comment section is so motivating n it makes me genuinely have hope n smile
U need a friend to talk? Im going through this aswell😭
@@celiaaa4571how are u now bro
@@celiaaa4571brother i need a friend i am 2 mounths in this situation please lets be friends i am 23 years old
Mee too
Same
Don't give up. Nothing is permanent in life. One day you will start feeling normal like me.
How? I feel like I’ll hurt someone because of it and im scared 😢
@@mmmmichaeljacksonnnn4666 focus on direct experience instead focusing on thoughts, trust me u will slowly get grounded in reality.
@@SlightlySoberYT god bless you man if what you say is true. I had my own experience with weed and dpdr, the sad part about what happened when I had it is that I thought I was slow/dumb. Like I couldn’t even process doing little stuff, always forgot stuff, felt like my balance was off and juss felt off square. I also notice that my life eye felt like it wasn’t open all the way. Hard to explain but I felt like I was disconnected from the world honestly. It such a dark, sad, feeling knowing who you once were and now you can’t even connect with your peers because when they speak everything is muttered/or very faint to the point you would have to lean in just to hear. Prayers go out to all the
people who had to live like this….🙏🏾✝️
Idk man i feel like this every day🤷♂️ some days are extra hard tho
@@mmmmichaeljacksonnnn4666 when I first got dpdr my intrusive thoughts was horrible!! One thought I had was to kill my kids, it scared me so badly. It was repetitive all day and night. I cried so much because I love my boys and I couldn't get why it wouldn't leave my mind, no matter how hard I tried to get rid of the thought it stayed, until one day it stopped. You won't hurt anyone it's just an intrusive thought. I finally stopped thinking about it through prayer. I still have dpdr but it's getting better, I don't have many intrusive thoughts. I know it's scary, but it will get better. I can't believe how devastating the brain can be. I don't get it, the brain is trying to protect us from trauma, but causing the worst trauma EVER. Over time you will be ok, I promise, and I will pray for you!!
I hate these, prayers for those who struggling with anxiety and depersonalization and dissociation or just any mental or physical health condition or sickness! Please stay strong! ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you
Thx❤
Thx❤
I had a fever and now i feel like im in a dream it feels like im nit the one typing this comment right now… after watching this video i really wanna thank you because i was terrified i was gonna be stuck like that forever
That's what happen to me. I got sick and tired of being sick and tired😡 I started embracing it and said bring it on and show me what you got. It gradually went away. You have to realize nothing bad ever comes from it. Don't let it bully you. Keep doing whatever you're doing in the moment, and push through it. Face your fear.💪 you're not alone in this.
Hey I have a question. What about urges ? Does anxiety have urges ? I can't control them
@@mattrinehart9348 can you please elaborate on what you mean by anxiety having urges?
how long did it take in your case?
I tried, I was in my car already had ran from work and I told my self i gotta face it I went back inside confident and boom it crumbled me
Thanks for that comment! I screenshotted it and will read it every time I feel anxious 👊🏼 it’s exactly that: it feels dangerous but it’s not harming us! So once we realize that, we can learn to not fear it anymore and then it will fade on its own 👏🏼
recovered from it in 2 days. Literally just embrace it, try to feel it deeply and even try stuff you were afraid to do for being "too self aware" something that made me quickly snap back to reality was talking to strangers. before i was too afraid to talk to people, but when i had depersonalization, nothing felt real so i just did stuff
Wow, its been 3 years and i havent fully recovered
I have been almost my whole life , am 16 now and trying its just getting worse , in this level I don't feel anything not my body , don't know who I am who am talking to is this real am I a human how do I still living I should be "dead" that what people say in the "reality"-real life .
Its hard and awful as well
@@jbvcvhbvhbsame as me, I think we gotta stay postive and happy and hopefully it will subside at some point
@@aminkhan6536 thanks I needed that ❤
@@lanimations2i have it from 10 years🙂 I thought something isn’t right about me. I tried talking to my mom but she thought I was making things up. As i grew older it had got worse, i have anxiety and have panic attacks. I got to know the name of my condition few months back from an instagram account where she shared her incidents and it was very similar to mine. I talked to her about mine and she told me about all of this. All these years i have just accepted that my mind is this way and it has been working like this all my life. I have told myself numerous times that all is good until I realized that it is not.
i just want to feel normal again i don’t know what it feels like to be normal. that’s how severe it is, i always cry and cry hoping it will leave.
How did it start with you? Did you smoke weed?
@@islamsalehbader387 that's exactly how it started with me.
@@sabbathoneseveneight8643 i saw your comment, you said i should face it and i'm doing that now. I just want to know how long it took to be back normal? And will it come back again after it goes?
It feeds off your fear and emotions. Stop crying over it, laugh a lot. Watch funny videos, enjoy hobbies or doing things that make you happy. Don't let it bully you. Stay positive, and surround yourself with positive people. It only takes one negative person to affect a whole room full of people.
this is exactly how i feel.
Love you guys in the comments. You are so encouraging and helpful. The world needs more beautiful humans like you.
We love you too and wish you a full recovery!
I had this when I was 19, drug induced depersonalisation disorder, I remember I felt I was going crazy, I lost my job and isolated myself, it was a terrible experience, anyone that is going through this the only way to beat it is to force yourself to get out and continue your life and eventually it will pass
I smoked weed and got it, then it went away, smoked again months later and got it again and that was a few days ago, I’m pretty stupid.
I got this from alcohol and weed i think. And now sometimes when i get to drunk it comes back. Its really scary like im being shown another reality and this reality has been shattered. Do you guys relate to that?
Yo i have, might lose my job cause I left randomly, it made everybody in the room against me, it was weird af, second time it happens
@@nikonicholson1can you give your mail ID?
i have it right now after weed, freaking me out. it’s the fourth day i have been feeling this way and i thought i was sick or something but it’s not going away and i’ve never felt this when i got a cold before.
update: it went away eventually 🤞 it was seriously freaking me tf out.
Depersonalization/ derealization was very real for me at one point in my life where I thought nothing was real and I kept questioning everything but I kept fighting through it and now I can say that I am back to the present it is definitely possible to get past that moment of life. I say to just keep pushing through it reaffirm yourself, take a moment, and understand your in the present.
The feeling that nothing is real is so frightening and deeply painful
Hey, breath. You will be fine, just accept it and love it. It will teach you one thing or two before it leaves for good ;) ❤
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haha joking about it is for sure a good way to deal with it 😭, thank you bro
@@behrooz6675lmao that’s real
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Are you fine now?
i genuinely was almost convinced i was dreaming at times bc shit felt like a movie.
LEGIT
I'm feeling this right now and I feel like I'm not real anymore 😔
@@Arifumikosame, but you’re not alone. I know it feels like we aren’t real but we are, it’s just our minds being annoying but it will go away. I find that being present with yourself helps. Being alone and journaling or reading helps me a lot. You are real, you are human, you are NOT alone, and it WILL pass.
Fr, it's so weird, I feel like I'm dreaming, or I'm already dead and just rewatching the day of my death over and over due to my repetitive daily schedule.
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It's really so weird. Feels like we're stuck somewhere, memories become so dull i really want to come out of this shit
Hey, give it some time. But aye also….. forget about it…. Don’t over introspect too much
@@jordanc1910I've ignored it but I'm still the same since I was 14 after I went through a traumatic experience, now I'm 26 almost 27 and still the same😢
@@user-in4mz9go4d bro i become depressed my head starts to hurt whenever I pay attention to it
@@user-in4mz9go4d here’s the thing… it’ll never go away in it’s on… right it’s like a demon.. it’ll never stop untill you conquer it…. And you can…. And you will just don’t give up
@@user-in4mz9go4d how are you
I started with DR in 2001 after extreme depression and childhood anxiety/trauma. I discovered the same as this guy really on my own (the dp manual is a great guided tool). I had it for 10 years as I then suffered post natal depression with my son which I had for about 5 yrs, DP was awful, I’m not sure how I did it , it ruined my 20s, but when I had it was when there wasn’t much known about it, nothing on the internet, thought I was going to lose my mind. Doing this technique and taking citalopram saved my life. Stay away from excessive drinking because a hangover brings on DP and steer clear of too much caffeine & cannabis! If I go somewhere new, I still experience DR for a few days, but that’s only because I had it for so long in the first place, but I’m used to that. I’m 41 now, my son is a wonderful 17 year old and an Oxford University candidate , things I genuinely never thought I would live to see.,but I find so much pleasure in the little things now. I’m finally happy & it’s left me with a wicked dark sense of humour 😊x
You sound like such a nice person to be friends with. I'm glad you're happy!
The fact that i am not the only one, already helped a lot! 🙏
That was me when i found out too but now it happend again to me and im scared because this time it hit different.Could you help me?
@@IE-BS just know that it will pass. If you label it as just a compulsive thought and don''t give it too much attention, it will go away again. Do not ignore it, acknowledge it as just a compulsive anxiery thought, and then try not to engage.
Thank you so much. Honestly, I've experienced it at a young age and I felt so detached. I thought that talking was the thing that was causing it so I stopped talking a bunch during classes and lunch at school. I'm very grateful for this information and will try to use it. Thank you.
I've dealt with it since I was 7. The moment I found that state has a name, and it's not dangerous even though its incredibly terrifying, it subsided. The moment I realized it's in fact not as scary as it seems it went away.
And it's true, as long as you think "oh my god, I'm going insane, what if I never go back to normal??" while in this state, it continues. The moment you realize what it actually is, it's gone.
The scariest part is growing up this way and coming out of it as an adult. Wouldn't wish this on anyone. I feel like I'm going absolutely insane but I'm more me than I've ever felt.
I had to go through it alone too as I grew up, because any doctor my parents took me never knew how to diagnose me. So I learned how to control it, it was hard but now I think I'm so well aware of my feelings because of it.
Your nervous system is biological, not psychological. So while accepting it might help you ride the waves of mental anguish, to stop the waves, you have to do that physically. Please try (in order of importance) iron supplementation, vitamin d, a multivitamin (for trace minerals), and vigorous exercise.
You will see vast improvement & Immense RELIEF.
Peace to you all. Good Luck
Is there any chance I got it because of iron deficiency?
@@ioanna3572 absolutely. have you had a chance to read reddit, there’s a good amount of people who attest to finding relief through iron supplementation. furthermore, a lot of the respondents on the dpdr forum report low magnesium, calcium, etc. since your nervous system is electrical, it stands to reason that replenishing the metals (iron/magnesium) and salts (calcium/potassium) will improve the system’s operation and your experience. there are also medical studies which found associations between panic and anxiety disorders (dpdr is one) and low iron. best of luck to you!
@@ioanna3572 please note, the mental exercises as recommended by the author of the video are also important in dealing with the mental trauma of having had experienced dpdr
Lads lads listen, there is a difference between having derealization from trauma or anxiety trigger, and smoking or drinking something, if it from the second reason, calm yo ass down, like he said, dwelling on it only makes it worse, it will be good lil homie, and also, don't be a dumbass and smoke more, that will mess you up, other than that, it should pass with a month or 2, drink water stay hydrated, eat food work out, just live your life, and when ot kicks in, just relax and let it do it's thing, its a fight you can't win, so just accept it and out on something to watch, and est your favorite snacks, its easier said than done, but that's no exuse to not try, also hanging out with friends and having someone to talk to like a councilor is VERY HELPFUL, stay strong lil homie, your NOT going to die or be stuck like that, you will be chilling soon lil homie.
It's been 6 months for me, getting better, I think I'm going to therapthy bcz my parents aren't helping much and I have triggers for this stuff that go way long ago tk my childhood, basically everything below 7th grade is trauma, 9th grade is god peak, and now 10th grade was....I dont even know, idk if I can get better if the triggers are that big
@@rodrigop2198 very good, I need to go therapy to because I think my father fails to understand what my issues are without getting upset with me, I feel you homie
And just focus on what you wanna accomplish in life. Set goals and have a purpose.
Thank u so much ❤❤I am going through this since 3 months my father,mother and my relatives also said that it happens to every one . Once my brother also had panic attack like this 😭 but he stayed strong and beat this
@@C-dramsass been there, i have Generlized anxiety disorder so pretty anything gives me a panic attack, not fun stuff
nothing feels real after i had my first panic attack which happened at a random time. one of the hardest things ive ever had to deal with
Congratulations you found my comment. The only way you can get rid of dpdr is by accepting it as a part of your life. No matter how scary or weird it becomes (like remember the times you got startled by your own reflection?). First give the experience a name. Criticise and laugh at it. Because the way you feel, it doesnt get worse dont worry. Once you can accept it you can live your life normally. And soon after the acceptance stage it will go away without you even noticing and your mental strength becomes even stronger. I wish you all luck with your issues and remember Allah is always with you.
Going through this right now all i think about is feeling better im anxious
"Scared I was going to be stuck like this forever." SO accurate, as is everything said in this clip.
I’m 27 and I’ve had this on and off since age 11. I say a mantra that goes “you’re real, you’re here, you’re alive, and you’re okay”.
Love the mantra
Are you okay now?
I'm going to try to simulate my DPDR as best I can.
I wake up, and I'm in my room, looking at my bookshelf. Then BAM! All of a sudden the bookshelf doesn't feel like it's mine, and the way I've always thought about that bookshelf feels altered or weird. I continue looking at the bookshelf trying to remind myself that it's mine and I think about when I bought that bookshelf, and then I'm thinking about how I felt when I first got the bookshelf back in 2002. "Wait a second, is it 2002? No, it's 2023," I keep telling myself to ground myself in the present, and then for a split second, I can't remember if buying that bookshelf was real or if was a dream. I begin to sweat because I'm looking at the bookshelf through the eyes of myself back in 2002. Snap out of it! That was just too weird. Then I stand up. Oh no! I thought it was over, but it's not because now I can't feel my feet. I look down. Are those my feet, or am I dreaming? I march in place looking down, the impact from my feet touching the floor feels like 0 gravity or something. Wait! Am I dreaming that I'm marching right now? My heart starts beating faster. When was I looking at the bookshelf? Was that 2 minutes ago or an hour ago? I look up at not just the bookshelf, but my entire room, and my heart starts beating even faster... Why doesn't my room feel like my room? It is my room, but it's not! My chest tightens. The more I breathe, the more staggered my vision gets. Woh... Did I just spend 10 minutes looking at my bookshelf contemplating if it's mine, or was THAT a dream? Wait, it's still 2023, right? We're not in 2002. My phone rings. Oh thank god, its Joey! Talking to him will snap me out of this. Joey answers, but he doesn't sound like him!!! Is Joey actually my friend? Joey tries to tell me a story about our friend Lola. Wait, is Lola real? I get a pit in my stomach and the panic attack begins. And each time Joey says something it feels like I'm going to throw up because I can't tell if he's really talking to me, or how long he's been talking to me. Am I alone? I feel so alone. I panic again because I get overwhelmed thinking that this will last for eternity. What will I do tomorrow? ...heart beats faster... And then the next day? ... heart beats even faster... And then next day? ...And the vicious cycle continues
Went through DPDR back in 2014. I'm 100% myself again. Took me a few months to get out of it. This will pass! You got this!
How did you got rid of it??
Must be nice. 13 years for me.
@@ioanna3572 So sorry! Barely seeing your comment. Honestly I'm not sure what exactly helped me, but I know I just forced myself to do everything I normally did before DPDR, even though all I wanted to do was be in bed. I forced myself to get out, go places, hang with friends. It wasn't easy, but one day I was just hanging with a friend at a park and I snapped out of it. Literally from 1 second to the next. How are you doing now? Hope all is well!
@@djdb1214 I'm so sorry. You got this. You can and will come out of it.
Hey @jackassgd can i ask you for the reason why DPDR started? How did it come that you snap out of it all of a sudden?
I'm very curious because things got better for me over time. But the recurring fear still leads to small symptoms of it
Every time I start to feel it, I come back to this video. Thanks for helping me not feel alone and crazy 💙
It feels like my soul left my body.
Hope you are fine now
Thank you so much. Can't believe im seeing this today, impeccable timing. I've been like this for over a week and I'm very frightened. I don't even feel real. Like I'm in a very bad dream. I just want it to stop.
anxiety is very real this is a symptom, i’ve dealt with since i was in year 10 and i’m 20 now been going on and off for years and years it really sucks guys, it does come and go and isn’t there for over just know it is a stress symptom and we are here for eachother
Within 3 years I lost both parents and started a business. I'm going through this now and I feel the stress has finally caught up to me :(
@@what_the_fffpraying for you brother, youre gonna get through this. God bless🙏
Had this shit for over 10 years and ppl cant understand what i mean by i feel like im stuck in a dream !!
Thanks god
I’m so glad that other people were having the same problems I felt like I was the only one and that I was alone, I have taken this videos advice and I feel so much more confident in my self and everything feels real again thank you god bless🙏
I’m really happy as I finally “cured” my derealisation or whatever I had, I was constantly running away from my fear and after watching this video and reading the comments I forced myself to go through that scary and panicking state and I could finally go outside without any fear for the first time or even look at someone’s face for the first time, I’m so happy that I could finally take that first big step into recovery
how do u get through the panicking state?
Wow, that is amazing!!! Thank you for sharing!
@@fatima.aaaaaaaaaa if I’m honest the only thing that helped me was to just accept it, I was afraid and had panic but instead of trying to distract myself I just faced it and accepted it
Wonderful advice. The problem is explaining the cure is almost as difficult as as explaining what DPDR is. It's super hard to convince someone suffering from it how to surrender and find acceptance.
Truly though, once I found this out, once I stopped fighting and let go, I realized that the ability to accept pain was something I could apply to every part of my life!
I had this happen when I was 17 for a solid 6 months I still remember the day it hit me I felt like I was so high, I thought I was losing it. But the trick that helped me overcome the sensation was staying up for over 24 hours once or twice a week, it somehow neutralized the feeling and I found this out by complete accident after a long night of gaming. I almost felt the need to remember the sensation after being up for so long, it was like the 24 hours let me adapt to the feeling. I am now 28 and look back at the experience as something very spiritual and it gives me a good sense of nostalgia when I think about it and I also wouldn’t take that phase out of my life if it were possible. Good luck to those still dealing with it, but it’s something that we can all overcome.
I'm only a teen, I've been feeling this way for MONTHS and i don't know what to do.
It can happen to anyone, check out the longer videos on my channel about DPDR!
@@anxiety_fitness I am 13 years old and I experienced it for the first time in 2021, I suppose due to anxiety, and it gave me a couple more times, and it was normal until mid-2022 when I was watching a movie with the lights off with my family, it the movie ended and since I was sleepy I closed my eyes, they were watching another movie and when I had my eyes closed I reached a point where I felt unreal, and that's where it all started for me, I don't know why that was, now then After a year and after simply not paying much attention to the derealization, spending time with my family, facing situations that caused me derealization, playing sports and distracting myself, I'm much better, or so I think, I almost don't feel that feeling anymore, only when I feel I worry a lot or overthink, but today I felt a little bad and I searched for information, I found a comment from a guy who said something like "the feeling is always there, but you only feel it when you think about it".
I have some questions:
1- What the guy said is false right? There are moments where you don't feel derealization, there are moments where you feel connected, right?
2- According to what I told you, am I on the right track? Am I making progress and soon will I get over it completely?
3- I saw that in a video you explained that currently you only feel it when you have a lot of stress, is there really a way to control stress so that you no longer feel that feeling once it is over? Will the feeling always come back to me at some point? Or at some point is it going to disappear permanently?
Pls if you answer my questions it would help me a lot.
I'm in a state of derealization right now. It's scary, and I don't like it. I've never felt this before, I am aware of it, but I can't figure out how to get out of this. Derealization or depersonalization is a feeling you can never otherwise experience. I am aware of my actions but I feel like it's all a dream, rhis is uncomfortable. I'll try to come back and update once I'm out of this state.
U WILL GET BETTER. in the end u will foget all this experience and fully recover. heres a tip, focus on direct experience, like playing video games or whatever it is, that you are currently doing instead focusing on thoughts, trust me u will slowly get grounded in reality
@alvinrivera1117 I'm like phasing in and out of this state, sometimes it feels normal then out of nowhere bam I'm back
@@Theflatpancakes im suffering from it if u ever need to talk man i will be here for u i give u some tips to deal with it its not that bad after all
@@yassinboubay8947how are you able to cope?
For me it’s the emotional blunting and bizarre existential sensations that are the worst. I’ve been through this before, 3 years ago, and it took 4-6 months (I don’t even know) and afterwards I was still feeling fragile for a bit. It was only due to the fact that I was constantly surrounded by my college roommates that I was able to get better. They helped distract me, while I also looked at different coping strategies and mechanisms. I was able to read comics and play puzzle games in order to get better, and eventually discovered a new special interest. This time, however, the existential wrongness about basic human behavior, violence, the concept of death, and other things, all feel a lot worse right now, I can’t focus on any stories or characters, I feel like my connection to my special interests is gone (including that new one), like I can’t relate to anyone or anything like I could before, I feel like I’m either panicking, feeling emotionally numb and cold, or depressed and hopeless. I miss my sense of humor, having strong opinions, being able to worry about regular real life issues, being able to just sit and daydream, enjoy sci-fi, anime, and my favorite content creators online, feel present and do my job, think about the future, think up interesting hypotheticals, play video games, watch cartoons, learn about biology more, laugh at random memes, and just feel like me.
We are all here because we searched it up & are paranoid. We will be okay, we have to embrace it. I believe in you.
So I suffered from this back in 2014.. it happened one day when I was smoking some bud on my balcony. I went inside and it just hit me for the first time. Slowly and slowly I quit smoking but the feeling stayed. It even got worse. But eventually the symptoms were farther apart and I finally felt like I beat it. Now I just get it every so often opposed to everyday all day. Stay strong friends. You’ll get thru it.
I'm going through the same exact thing. I was smoking bud in front of my house and all of a sudden it started kicking in for me too. I felt like part of me wasn't here or awake I started freaking out everyday, I still have nightmares that makes me scared to fall asleep but slowly I've accepted it and I feel like I've been recovering slowly. Im never smoking weed ever again.
i have ocd as well as dpdr, and because of this i get scared and have intrusive thoughts that i could completely fall from reality and hurt someone and myself-does anyone else relate to this fear?
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I started feeling this when I was just 11 .. 😭 how could I have stress at 11.
Why this happened to me I just want to be normal again
It is the worst feeling ever. It's even worse when you can't explain others what are you feeling.
I just go mad sometimes due to this feeling and start hitting the wall or myself and cry out of so much panic 😭😭
@@dev3815 Me too for real ! My therapy is SPORT and going out every day bro !
Yes shit
same
Whenever I feel it, I just close my eyes and enter into zero thought unless it goes away. This solution always works.
So glad I found this video when I felt like this and was panicking as it made me feel better knowing that others go through it too and we all get past it eventually but it can be so terrifying and scary
same I am with u I am also suffering from this even my brother also when he was young❤❤
Tbh this is the main reason it isn't worse for me. Since I don't go out much it isn't a big deal for me and I know I can just push through it which makes it happen a lot less. It happened more when I was all scared about it but now I'm not as scared and it's calmed down a lot more because I've calmed down a lot more. The main trick with anxiety disorders is to not be as afraid of it.
And when you're with the people you are most comfortable with right?
I have to say…as someone who has this. It is the most scariest thing I’ve ever experienced and it honestly feels like you’re going mentally insane
For me it was the process of gaining enough experiences on the new “side” of my life. It was like rebuilding myself. I remember going through the days being unable to do what I thought should be simple things, but they were impossible bc everything relied on memories from before. Gradually I realized that when I focused on things I had learned/experienced only on the “new side” I didn’t have to be afraid all the time.
What was important was starting with non-emotional experiences. Like swimming or feeling cold after taking a shower. Real things that were happening to my body in the moment let me hang onto a sense of reality. Gradually I started building real emotional relationships to experiences again and not just faking my reactions to keep up appearances.
yea despite all - it also had some positive effects on my life too. I live my life now more mindfull, more honest and less fake then i did before my panic attacks. Im also feeling that i enjoy more of the „little things“ in life now 😇.
I was stuck in this „trap“ for way too long 😢 I was so scared of those sympthoms that i was focusing on them all the time, my toughts made up the craziest stories „like ive damaged my brain permanently / im going crazy“ . I even was scared of everything, even of the sun one day! Now i realise that all those thoughts where just my brain trying to make sense because i was in a constant state of fear. let me tell you: I didnt go crazy, my brain works well as before, my feelings are in a state of normal again. Those feelings come from your body being in a state of big stress / fear. Its NOT because your going crazy or whatever your mind makes up. You will also see that those feelings will be stronger and less intense through out the days - thats in straight correlation with how relaxed your body and your mind is. The more relaxed you are - the lesser intense those Feelings are. If you are in a panic attack they will get stronger. Once you truly understand that those feelings (i know they are very intense) are just a SYMPTOM of ANXIETY, you can to start healing. You have Anxiety of symptoms from anxiety itself. That is the trap i (and many others) felt. So say this to your self over and over again. Write it in a book or whatever. You have to truly understand this: „Those feelings are not the reason of some unknown thread, they are a symptom from panic - you are perfectly healthy.“ Your problem is not those feelings - its the way you react to them. I personally use the DARE Method (from the book DARE) and also visited a therapist. You also need to make calmness one of your big goals now. Try to sleep a lot, do some breathing excersises in the morning, reduce screen time, go more in nature, do sport 3x per week, eat healthy, drink water and tea, take multivitamin tablets (because iron defficiency for example can also make you feel more numb). Write a journal where you reflect on your day and what triggered your anxiety, and what went very good, track achivements and progress. Trust me as one who also was trapped in this hell for way to long - You are healthy and youre not going crazy. ❤
i have been ignoring this shit for months and pretending is not there but its still there :(
Me too
I guess acceptance is hoping for neuroplasticity. Idk its been 13 yrs for me im gonns look into hypnosis
lol I'm not scared. i have this and although it's creepy sometimes, i also love it
it helps me cope with everything else i have
Nah no one loves it, this is the worst way of your brain trying to protect you
Good for you
It can help for pain I once smashed my bare hands into a glass table and didn’t feel a thing my hands were sliced up and leaking blood didn’t feel a thing and it healed up perfectly without stitches
Bro I’ve been saying “ I feel like im in a dream for the longest”
"Live with it because your not gonna die by it" thats what i say to myself❤❤
No one can understand it, unless feel it.
I agree. It’s one of the worst feeling you can feel: not thinking you’re “real”
And I feel so sad because I realize that time is actually flying by faster then it is. I look at my pets, my nephews, my nieces growing and it feels as if it’s happening way to fast.. and I didn’t enjoy the moments but I did… stuff just feels like it’s a dream. :/ tired of feeling this
yea I know what you mean iv had it for 2 years now I got it when I was 17 I’m 19 now and I feel like since iv had it times went in really fast like 2 years feels like 1 year. do you also feel emotionally numb towards family members sometimes aswell
My intuition is telling me that it's COVID that causing this for a lot of people. When did you have it ?
I'm going through it right know it's very draining i feel very scared and feel weard i don't know if its going to leave but the comments are helping
Holy shit that’s what I have I been thinking I’m just making it up for years it’s a real thing and other people have it too!
I feel like the 2 worst parts about it is that nothing looks like it will have an impact (like being in a dream) and having the feeling of watching someone's pov instead of living your life
Same here🥺💔
I thought that I was the only one and wondered if anyone else was experiencing anything like this. I didn't even know derealization was a thing until today. Idk if this has anything to do with it but this is also something I experience. I'll be in a moving car and I'll be looking in the distance and everything will seem so clear then I'll feel like I'm falling and have to hold on to something so I won't float away. It's the worst feeling I have ever felt. I'll close my eyes till it goes away, I'll tell everyone that I'm just tired so I don't have to explain it to them cuz they won't understand. I actually feel like I'm crazy. Sometimes I can feel it about to happen and I try to suppress it but sometimes it makes it worse cuz then I start thinking of it, and when I think about it to much it comes in strong. It makes me feel like I'm dreaming sometimes. And sometimes I can't control my face expressions. I can't really go to the movies anymore for some reason. Sometimes I feel like I can't talk to my mom and siblings. I can't even see my friends anymore cuz it'll get worse and I'll just hide in the bathroom till they leave. I feel like a terrible person but I really hate feeling it and I can't explain it to anyone. I can't have a job and I can't be around people I know unless my mom is with me or something. Im 18 and I feel like a failure. I don't wanna live like this anymore, I really feel like I can't do it. Im always in a dream state and feel like I'm floating away. I'm tired of having to hold myself down so I don't float into space.
Hi Lexy I just saw your symptoms and I feel the same way. I have been like this for 2 years and I hate it. I wish I could snap out of it.
Do you know what triggered it for you?
My advice would be to continue the pursuit that you were on. Whether it's school or whatever. Don't think about it and just focus on the things you want to accomplish. Sleep 8 hours , eat healthy, go for a morning walk everyday and get some movement in throughout the day. Drink 3 litres of water everyday and do some strength training, getting a gym membership would be ideal and be consistent. Focus on the pursuit of life. That's what matters.
thank you to everyone in this comment section.. you dont know how comforting this was to me, ive been dealing with dp only recently (last month) and i really thought that i would be stuck like this, not enjoying life and questioning everything if its real or not... but i truly believe that i will be ok, it is only my mind's reaction to anxiety and being stressed. i am safe and so is you!!
DP/DR is a blessing in disguise. It's the beginning of the ego not being the in drivers seat all the time anymore. The ego thinks it's dying. You're not. It's actually a very beautiful thing that is happening. You are waking up. Give yourself time to go though this process. The greatest help I found in my process was this:
Acceptance. 100% accept at all times what your are feeling. You don't have to engage with it. Just as radio noise in the background.
Let go. Let go of all the thoughts you have. Don't take them seriously, no matter how grotesque or annoying they are. They are just thoughts. They don't control you unless you actively want them to.
Relax. Don't fight the process. Breathe. Spend time in nature.
Curiosity. Be curious and face your fear. Try to find where the actual fear is coming from. You will sooner or later see that the source does not exist, and the fear will dissipate by itself.
Hope this helps
I had it for 8 weeks. It goes away people. You just get on with your life and one day it’s just gone.
i usually feel derealization didn't even know that was a thing and i enjoyed it cause it makes me feel a bit high as it feels like in a dream and like kinda blocks off my usual constant feeling of anxiety
It feels amazing until you know its been 10 years going 11 and you have no clue what you did in your life since everything feels unreal
@borsalinokizaru9862да
It does get better, it did for me. Just try to do things that you would do normally in your life- exercise, go to sleep at the same time, make a routine, eat at proper times- do all these things like you did before they will help you normalise your perception and will calm down your nervous system day by day and do not panic if you start doing these things and things still don’t get better, they will get better if you stop paying attention to the derealization episode.
Thank you man. I went to a work function this weekend and I was there and not there at the same time. It felt like I was seeing myself through a lens almost like watching myself in a play and I could hear that obviously critical voice explaining and concluding the story I was watching of myself and everyone. It’s a crazy shit. Nothing feels quite real in the moment. Connecting with others becomes even harder. I couldn’t finish the night with everyone, I called it a night after an hour or so of it persisting. I really need to prioritise meditation and self care. Because life has been freaking stressful for the past few months.
I’ve been like this for a very long time, at least 3 years…and now I’m here…still fucking crying about this, I just want it to end, I don’t want to wait, I don’t want to give in, I just want it to go away.
When I go crowd places I feel derealization
I think you should get rid of social anxiety cuz when you get stress and anxious you get derealization
Me too
Since dpdr is a protective mechanism by the brain( it dissociates to protect you), being scared by the feeling of dissociation and fighting it will only prolong it and make it worse. Breathe calmly and accept it and thank it for protecting you. After a while, the brain will realize there is no threat, you are safe, and the defence mechanism will be turned off. Trust me ❤ you are safe, it's just uncomfortable feeling. I had it for years before I got tired of everything and accepted it and that's how it went away ❤️
Our egos are so fragile that mine breaks all the time and I forget who I am really. Also I’m young so I’m still finding my sense of identity
I had derealization and everyday was just torture for me. I always felt scared, and would wonder when it would go away.
When and how did it get better for you?
How did you get better
One of my traits was getting kind of tripped out by what I could see. For example the sky sometimes. Or If the sky went orange for an hour. One great technique to use is going into your living room and sitting with your family watching some tv that makes you feel comfortable and just letting them know what issues you are having with DP
Thank you so much for letting me know what this state of mind actually is, this video feels like such a wake up call, I’m feeling way better about this now..
Thank you very much. I don't know why, that since you speak, my tears are dropping automatically down my face. Something you had just mentioned. It seemed that they had happend and covered me both every now , previous and then. May be, it has been a long time. I don't even remember about it.
I always know it’s going to go away. It’s a side effect for me every time I come off anesthesia and lasts a few days sometimes a week eventually I wake up and I’m fine. Other times it’s happened to me was during EXTREME stressful situations and it would last me a week or two but I always knew it would pass & eventually I went to bed one night and woke up and it was gone per usual.
I got DPDR from a traumatic experience involving marijuana edibles. My high was so bad, that I called 911 on myself because I perceived the symptoms as myself dying. I had a 2 year long struggle with panic disorder and DPDR, but I have emerged on the other side as the victor.
The only way you can change who you are, is change what you do. Act in spite of your feelings, not because of them. DPDR was legitimately the greatest thing that ever happened to me, because it forced me to stare into the void of my shallow existence and really ponder the issues in my life. I'm doing so much better mentally than I was before the condition. For anyone out there struggling, please take these words to heart and never give up. You are in control of your own fate, trust me.
Can you elaborate why it helped you ? Normally im positive but i cant find something positive in it except for the mere experience
10 years, chronic. No windows. It's become so severe I can't function, I'm not afraid, just extremely uncomfortable. I don't know what to do, I'm so detached from my mind
I’m 14 and this is how I feel rn
I've been dealing with this for yrs along with many other things...dissociation, derealization, depersonalization, anxiety depression. When you've had it all for yrs and yrs it all blends together. There is no getting rid of it right away or fixing it forever. Really the only way out of it is to go through, you really do have to fight your way back to the center of yourself again and it can be really hard some weeks. It does get better you just have to...do things that keep you steady on the horse and not easily knocked off again is how I'd put it. But even if you do get knocked off again, and sometimes you won't even realize you were, it's okay, let yourself go through it all and slowly you will find your way back to yourself again.
it might be adrenal fatigue for you as well..its when you cant get out of this whole stress cycle thing
maybe go check it out it could help, I believe this is the main cause of it
Can you please give an example? Like not thinking about it at all and just living my life?
Acknowledge it, but instead of fighting or trying to get rid of it, let it in. Live your life despite feeling unreal, don't let it stop you from doing things, even encourage it to get worse, and find it fascinating rather than something to be afraid of. The moment you start to become its friend is when it'll go away.
@@anxiety_fitness thank you so much. 🙏
@@Niki-et2io you are not alone brother fight this shit we are on the same boat
I think my life is better with dpdr cuz my life before was suck I am happy dp happened me in my life
Do things that you enjoy. Cooking, playing guitar, whatever it may be. Create a system of rewards for yourself of simply doing things that you find enjoyable. Soon you will start feeling better. All the best
Much love for this video, spiralled out of control and flow state, extremely anxious. Thank you for helping me overcome my temporary symptoms 💪🏻👊🏻
ive been dealing with this fucking shit for 3 months now, its actually making me depressed, i wanna kms so badly i dont feel like i have my own life. this shit is one of the worst things that can happen to brain mentally. if youre suffering this for longer then a month, im here ik you're pain.
Trust me this isn’t the worst thing that could happen to you.
how are you doing now?hope you’re okay i’m struggling with it currently as well it’s the worst
@@soniakhamosh3710 still bad 5 months later, it sucks im learning to cope with it though but soon or later it'll get off hopefully its only a matter of time
I'm going through depersonalization and I feel so weird. I was given Fentanyl at the hospital for pain February 3rd, the next day when i awoke i had a severe panic attack that i have ever had in my life. The panic went on 24/7 for a week straight. I went to the emergy room everyday from fear of dying. It got so bad i had to go to an psychiatric hospital for 5 days. I have not been the same since. One day I felt I was going back to normal then I freaked out because. I didn't know if I was really " normal" or just going crazy. It's been 2 months now, and I really don't know if I can recognize what " normal is anymore. How does anything like this even exist? I have anxiety and depression as well. I have been praying constantly for this to leave😢My son is graduating highschool in June and I need to get better. I'm so scared to be in that huge stadium feeling like this. My sons know something is wrong, but they really dont know how awful it is. I have shut my family out, my siblings are my bestfriends and I told them I can't see them until I'm better😢 Everyone seems "fake" to me. Life seems fake. I pray God hears my prayers and cries. It's exhausting!! I read some of the comments and it scared me knowing people have been going through this for months and years. I'm praying for everyone , and I hope we ALL get better soon.😢❤
18 years old and survived it, it will get better I promise. And instead of shutting everyone out do the opposite and go out more and have a deep conversation with a loved one or friend. It helps I promise give it a try.
@@ThrashRetro thank you for the encouragement, but I'm laying here crying because I feel like I'm trying to get back to normal, and it's scaring me. I actually been gone 4 days doing things with friends. It freaked me out, but it made me feel better. The slightest feeling of getting back to normal scares me so badly. Everyone talks about dpdr, but not how to handle post dpdr.
@@ThrashRetro my Dr prescribed lexapro today because Celexa is not working anymore. I'm petrified to take it everything is scaring me and I'm so scared it might put me back at square one with severe dpdr like in the beginning if I take it!!
@@miriammacomson5987 your overthinking is what’s making it worse, your anxious and nervous that your not going to snap out of it. But you are going to obviously, your stress levels are probably through the roof. What you need to do is stop overthinking and just live. Its going to pass and if you can plz don’t use any pharmaceuticals. Pills don’t work for the mind. It’s a mind thing Miriam trust.
@@miriammacomson5987 also try staring in a bright light, that did the trick for me. God bless you Miriam✝️ you will be fine, only if you say so.
this makes a lot more sense now lmao
constantly feeling watched, getting so anxious i can’t talk coherently, only being able to think about what others think of what i’m doing, even not being able to,, see? correctly? tunnel vision, you know. i knew derealization was my brain trying to defend itself from something, but i never really acknowledged the extreme anxiety as a cause. at least i know the source of the problem now
Any better? I’m going through it bad rn, had to abruptly leave work, events cause I was literally melting
@@hilariocelis2292 i hate to ruin your day man, it’s been about 5 years and it’s still going strong. doesn’t mean you can’t get some help though! i’ve just been floating around with no clue what to do, im sure there would be some help on reddit or something. don’t lose hope just yet
GUYS
- DETOXIFICATION
-HEALING ADRENAL FATIGUE (chronic stress disorder)
- HEALING TRAUMA OR ANY DETACHMENT COPING MECHANISMS
Seem to get DP/DR when i get sinusitis/bad sinus infection. Had it last year and now going through it again. Keep coming back to these videos for positivity 👍🏻
I am dealing with this rn. I feel like I'm touching a stranger, I feel like it is not my own skin. It scares me so much, I feel like a stranger to myself. My dreams seem more real than reality.
I’ve had it for almost 3 years now you will get used to it ittl only js get worse if ur scared of it u js have to accept it and nothing is forever for me it’s js very calm
I'm 22 days sober from weed and the derealisation is fucking killing me
you still doing alright g?
@@catfanciermonthly i have it for 6 months now it doesnt stop I broke down today was crying I can't do this anymore I can't do normal tasks anymore life is not the same anymore after dp/dr
@@fucc9781 i know where you’re coming from, man. i’ve been like this for around 4 years, give or take- it’s kind of hard to tell lmao. you get used to it after awhile, but i don’t know how serious your case is. you can always get professional help, but it seems like this sort of thing is tricky.
in my experience, getting a lot of sleep helps. if you have depression or anxiety, get rid of that first. i’ve got some bad anxiety, so the less anxious i feel, the better the dp/dr is. to be honest, i don’t know if it ever goes away. but you can learn to cope with it. not very helpful though, haha
I have it for 8 months and it’s hurting soo muchhh
@@israakhalid888 i was at the hospital today and they just told me it's a stress reaction
My symptoms were really bad in the spring. To the point where I'd skip all my classes because my brain couldn't handle the concept of society and others. Now I'm relatively a lot better! I think it's just something that fixes itself over time. All the comments saying that they can't accept it are wrong. You are only doing more damage to yourself. 1) Finding hobbies, particularly active/outdoor hobbies, helps a lot. Somewhat important but don't find hobbies for the sake of finding hobbies. That's what I did with woodworking. I never liked shop in primary school and I knew I didn't honestly care about woodworking but I still did it anyway because I felt like I needed a way to ignore my anxiety. I promise it doesn't help. Everyone out there has a hobby you can develop, no need to force something you're not interested in. Maybe you really like clothing? You can try crochet or reselling vintage clothes or posting your outfits online. Maybe you really like gaming? You can try game development or write blogs/articles of your favorite game or make videos about your favorite strategies. Maybe you like basketball? You can try other random activities like kayaking. Wikipedia has a cool list of hobbies out there, I try singing on the side despite never doing it in my life; I just think it is important that at any point of you deciding to pick up the hobby. If you ever feel like you're lying to yourself about how much you enjoy it or aren't looking forward to the activity at all maybe reconsider. 2) Obviously easier said than done but having friends that you interact with often helps. Whether it be going out or playing games with at home, whatever you are more comfortable with 3) Identify your primary source of stress and acknowledge it. Whether it be debt or death putting off the root cause of your stress is just going to make you feel more foreign 4) Optional: find yourself a faith or engage in mind wellness. There's many books out there. Even if you're half-heartedly going to church you're still surronding yourself with a culture of people that, should hopefully, care about your wellbeing.
I found that making a journal outlining my current priorities with school and live to help a lot. I think the impending doom of not konwing what I actually want to do in live (combined with some substances) made me very very anxious. Once I started planning my day out it helped a lot. For some people having an iteniary of what they'll do at evey waking hour helps (i.e. at 9 a.m. you make breakfast for 30 mins, rest for 30 mins, at 10 a.m - 5 p.m. you're at work, etc) For others like me a general bullet point list helps but if anything just having a way to put all your swimming thoughts in one location helps massively. Some people have dream journals others just rant about stuff in their diary. I used to record myself and rant for 15-20 minutes. I think the common denominator to all this is outputting aka expressing your worries into a tangible form. Whether it be in the form of video or paper or a bullet list. Internalizing all your anxiety doesn't help.
Having a social net is important and I think something you should build as soon as you confront your source of worry directly. Fighting all this alone doesn't help. I'm not saying you should necessarily tell your parents that you're losing your sense of reality but at the very least have people you can talk to when you "feel bad" or need to do something fun like an impromptu trip 50 miles away somewhere.
Ever since my sister passed away 2 years ago I’ve been feeling these “derealization” symptoms. It’s been going on non stop since then.
This video and these comments give me a little hope at least. Maby I’ve had the wrong approach to this
I lived over a year with this disorder and it was hard. Extremely hard, i don‘t wish it on someone. But it will pass. Embrace it!
How can i fix this hell?
Yes I wanted to go to school and I imagenid in my mind my home and school way too different like I will go to another world than and it got me like a dream and Im not going 2 weeks beacuse that's happening
Just relax. Take deep breathes. Realize that everything will be alright and that everything takes time. Wear sunglasses when going into public. Take everything one step at a time. Try meditation. Try to stop using mind-altering substances.
Please hang in there Berry. You were brave enough to get on a video speaking about your vulnerabilities for strangers. I want you to understand I’m 26 years old going through a lot of derealization from trauma and I feel VERY alone but your video made me realize people go through this. I’m not alone. You aren’t alone. We are connecting online and presently here on earth. We are fine. We are important. We are loved. Please get sleep, get sunshine, work out, do yoga, and talk to people. I hope you see my comment! ❤
is it gone
It comes from screen time gaming and bad diet and garlic is a super food for the brain and all different health benefits
Definitely right also pmo I notice after all of these things gaming pmo or eating junk food It turns up like crazy it’s like steroids I noticed and tested this for a week I stopped pmo stopped gaming and ate light but healthy food and just tried to stay stress free I was stepping back into reality again but it’s like everytime I feel normal again I go back to doing the negatives and it puts me right back to square one
Bruh I’m definitely going through this now and it’s been probably over a month now. I hate it. I’m expecting a daughter this year and I want to get right for her! I will fight this 💪🏽
I feel when was younger I didn’t really have this but when I became a teenager I started to experience Dr/Dp it seems as if I don’t have any thoughts I can barely remember things even stuff which happened a day ago like what did I do during day. Even Thinking what to say in this comment is really hard for me. I just want to experience how it is to be normal. I don’t know why. I’m like a mindless zombie , and just on autopilot as everything goes on in my life. It has been driving me absolutely insane. You’ve really given me hope to fix this though
idk if marijuana causes DPDR but i stopped smoking like 6 months ago.. but i was smoking everyday for like 2-3 years and the last year of smoking i noticed DPDR and also that’s when i started noticing anxiety. so do u think it’s anxiety that caused my DPDR? the marijuana? both??? someone let me know please THANKS!
Nah it’s from stress people have anxiety without dpdr it’s solely from stress whatever we are doing negative in our body I believe it’s the things like eating badly pmo and staying inside the house all day on technology And not getting enough sleep I believe the body got to an overwhelmed point and it needs to be calmed down in order to be brought back to homeostasis through living a more healthy lifestyle for me the problem is when I cut all the things out I start feeling normal again so I’m like yeah I feel good I can start doing negatives again and the feelings just come back
@@Drunkpunch33 makes sense bc i’ve been out of highschool for about 2 years now and since highschool ended i feel a lot of brain fog, pmo, just staying in my house not going out. so you think the problem is basically just doing negative things to my mental/body? once i stop these my dpdr might get better?
@@Drunkpunch33during high school i also wasn’t on my phone all day after school i’d go hangout with people so i was only on my phone probably 4 hours a day. now it’s average like 9-10 hours
Hey brotha, how do you know when your back to normal ?
When you don't feel the need to ask questions like that anymore 😅
Ah man, I don’t remember what normal feels like 🫤
@@jesusquintana92 don't think about it bro truss me that is the normal now, or just tell yourself you are high and say this high feels nice and by then it'll just go away
@@jesusquintana92 cold showers meditation
I’ve been dealing with it for a while now. Maybe around 2 years? At first I really panicked but now I just don’t care about it that much and when a dpdr episode comes up I’m just like: “Oop, I don’t feel real.” And that’s about it.
Im 19 yrs old, so let me tell u about my experience.
The first time i had derealization was a little after my dad died so around 4th or 5th grade i dont remember exactly! I remember calling my mom crying on the phone everyday that i feel like im not real. It didnt last that long tho maybe 1 week/couple of days? It just randomly went away like u dont even realize it goes away it just does. Like i didnt realize bcs i was no longer thinking/questioning everything. Thats how it works tho. If you forget about something, ur not even gonna realize u forgot!
ANYWAYS fast foward a LOT of years to right now college sophmore age 19.
I got sick one week (first time i ever got sick somewhere alone). I think because i was really far away from my mom it made it so miserable i was so scared and worried i wouldnt get better. I just had a stomach bug so nausea, tiredness, etc.
BUT guys idk why but some reason after i was sick, ever since ive had derealization. Its been 1 week from when i was sick. My anxiety is extremely high, derealization affected me so much i cried during work, left early to go to school therapist. On theusday i drove 4 hours home to my mom.
The night i arrived i was happy to see my mom and my brother. The derealization thoughts werent really with me, and my anxiety went down a little.
The next day (yesterday), my anxiety returned. My mom took me out shopping but i was sad the entire time, and i constantly had this thought that nothing is real. Actually, not that i was thinking nothing is real, but i kept questioning to myself is the world real? The road? Am i real? Is my family even real? I got home and cried because the overanalyzing everything/derealization makes me feel like im going insane. Thats why i wish i could be my normal self where the thought never crossed my mind.
Im only experiencing derealization because now thats all im thinking about SO I NEED TO FIGHT MY BRAIN OR WHAT??? OKAY FINE BRING IT ON! GIVE ME ALL THE WORRYING THOUGHTS U CAN!!!
Its all sparked by anxiety and worrying about everything for no reason. I need to learn to go with the flow again. Stop trying to analyze every fucking thing LIKE GAWD DAMN RELAX GIRL??? UR NOT GONNA DIE??? UR NOT INSANE SO STOP WORRYING!!!!
Apparently if ur lacking in vitamins it can make u depressed, have horrible anxiety etc. So, during spring break (2 weeks from now) i plan to get my magnesium, b12 and vitamin d levels checked 😄
Guys… honestly just laugh. While reading the comments i began laughing and honestly i feel better. Its so silly. Why am i so worried somethings wrong with me? 🥸
NOTHING WRONG! I keep going into panic attacks bcs i keep thinking about derealization or worrying. When im busy, doing things that give me seratonin, the feeling disappears for a bit.
BUT in conclusion, derealization does go away! I am experienced with it so i know! The first time i had it, it only lasted like a week. This gives me reassurance that the derealization im experiencing again will pass.
Also i noticed that im not as happy as before. Depression might be causing this. I just need to not lay in bed all day. Surround my self with loving people, do things!!! Have things to look foward to!!!
TO ANYONE READING THIS, DONT STRESS!! IT WILL GO AWAY!