These Fathers Break Their Silence on Abortion
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- čas přidán 11. 06. 2018
- There are 55 Million forgotten men in this country who also bear the scars of abortion? These men need to share their stories so that they can show others there’s a better choice. In this amazing new video four men are stepping up to do exactly that.
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If you’re a post-abortive father and feel like telling your story please use the hashtag: #ChooseFatherhood
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When my mother found out she was pregnant with me and didn't know if she'll abort me, my father said that if she didn't want to raise me, he'd raise me by himself. They married two months before I was born, and my father left his country to be with us. I'm now 26, and I also have a younger brother.
I wish there were more men out there like my father.
That is so wonderful as that should that way regardless. In the past, men would go all the way with marriage as that is part of being a responcible and being a parent.
that’s amazing!!💛💛
You nasty demon.
@Manuel Delgado Talk about physical manifest satanism. You genuinely need help my friend.
Your father is a saint
My brother got a girl pregnant, he was so happy, but she aborted the baby behind his back. It devastated him. He's now 58, never married, & says there's not a day that goes by, that he doesn't think about that baby. It heavily affected him.
:( I'm so sorry.
How terribly sad!😢
So terribly sad.. 😥 but I hope your brother can forgive and move on... he deserves better life to live on... 🌺
Ufffffff, you made me cry for I never had any children.
I wish I could meet your brother.
This is heartbreaking! I ache for your dear brother. May God comfort him. And yes, he needs to forgive that girl for his own sake to get peace. His sweet child is with Jesus. May he call out to Him! Someday, he will see his child! I ache for him!
As a woman I have to say thank you for letting the men talk! I find it so horrific, how we exclude the men from this whole miracle of life, the men who need to stand strong with their woman, the fathers who will love their children.
As a woman myself, too I say amen! I stand with your statements!
That is so sad and yet beautiful in a way. it’s heartening to know there is a person who is that aware of what he lost - not a blob, but a human life, his child.
Amen
Thank you Iris .... ☺️
My brother & his girlfriend both wanted the baby. Her parents would have nothing to do with it. Told her if she didn’t abort they were through with her. She couldn’t get past that & as my brother walked up & down the street banging his hands on his head his child was killed. Imagine how powerless a father feels when he can do nothing to save his child from unnecessary death. 💔 God bless the men who try🙏😇👶
I had an unplanned pregnancy 12 years ago while in college. I was unhinged by the news. I had no one else to turn to when everyone around me was pushing for a ‘quiet, easy abortion.’
One person said, ‘if I were you, I couldn’t give up my education for a baby.’
It was then I realised I couldn’t give up my baby for an education.
Your life and your education doesn’t stop after kids - you take them along for the ride instead.
Jahmazmine I love your comment. God bless you :)
Amen. This made my day.
Jahmazmine beautiful!!
Thank you for your choice..
Ur kid deserves to know that u fight for them in that decision
God Bless You...
Jahmazmine I got pregnant in college. I couldn't tell my parents or my friends. I left college and worked eight hours a day in a cannery till I delivered my son. I took care of him after he was born Than gave him up for adoption. I'm so glad I had the courage to give him life. It was only four months out of my life when I found out I was pregnant. Luckily I was raised Catholic so was taught all life is precious. It certainly is.
I was 16, pregnant, out of wed-lock and scared, and chose to keep my baby and I have a gorgeous and smart 17 year old boy who loves Jesus!!! Thank you God for my baby boy!!!! And planned parenthood encouraged me to abort him.
Congratulations for choosing life. 💟
You go girl ! Hallelujah !
Amen
@@zaidkhan6296 Amen
WONDERFUL human with a heart of Gold in the right place .
May your tribe increase and HIS Blessings Abide with U and this GRRR8 JESUS - loving 17 yr old.
Interesting to see another perspective on abortion. We only ever think of the mother.
I can't imagine how it would feel to be the father and be helpless when the mother decides to terminate against their wishes.
BlueEyedSoul21 a woman doesn't even have to notified the father that she aborted the baby.
Princess Fondu I realize that. And I find it very sad. That could have been that man's only child in life. And he has no say in the matter.
We? As in women? Yes. You usually only think about yourselves.
It tears fathers up too; some literally for a lifetime.
The only one that matters in abortion is the baby. Baby is dead. That's the real problem.
My brother got a girl pregnant when he was away studying. She was pushed by her family to get an abortion because they didn't want her studies to suffer. But she refused and gave birth to my nephew and my parents first grandchild. It's been 4 years now since he was born and almost 4 months since my brother was killed, his son has given us great comfort these past few months and we are grateful he was born cause he looks exactly like my brother.
So sorry for your loss! And yet I'm happy that you have your brother with you through your nephew.
How is the mother and her parents?
@@brittroobies274 The mother and her family are ok. She knew her parents loved her and were just worried about her future. But she graduated from her University after taking a semester off and my brother graduated a years after her. After she gave birth she had a lot of support not only from my brother but also from my entire family and also her family. So it really didn't affect their studies since many people where there to help. She has a high paying job right now in the Government and my brother was a civil engineer so they where both really smart. She was heart broken when my brother died and never left his side when he was in the hospital and after the funeral she stayed in his room for almost a week crying.Now she is saying she is gonna go back to University and get her masters degree since that was what my brother said he was gonna do.
Damn imagine how hard it must be for that child to find out that there grandparents wanted for him to be killed
I'm so sorry about the death of your brother. I'm so glad his son is here and that you all have a part of him through this child.
My husband's x aborted their baby and he mourns for that child 30 some years later. I also got preg at 18 with my x boyfriend's (boyfriend at the time) baby and he wanted an abortion. That was never an option for me, ever. So happy to have my beautiful daughter. She has given me a beautiful grandson. I love them both so much.
Thank you for choosing to save your daughter! God bless you!
Gail, Blessings from Above continue to Protect and Prosper you and yours for your brave and Big 💓.
Wish we were near enough to give you a Big 🐻 Hug.
Love and greetings from lndia.
@@lauraretail3923 thank you. I would never choose abortion ever for any reason.
@@marietheresa7866 thank you for your kind words. I will always choose life🙂❤. Never ever would I have aborted my babies. Ever.
At 18, who paid for your pregnancy, post pardom, food, housing, clothing, car, utility, and other bills? Tax payers. If tax payers are required to pay for illegitimate children, then tax payers should be making decisions about whether abortion should be available or not.
ProChoice.
As they say, it takes 2. I am sorry that society has not recognized your voice in this struggle.
don't know if you mean: it takes two to conceive, or two to abort. Because it does take two to conceive, but sadly depends on one to abort:/ so sad to think of all the fathers out there who got their child taken away without any say.
It truly is a shame they're ignored. 😔
King Zak not all but thanks for telling us your hatred towards men
If these men feel so unfairly treated, blame it on nature ...... pregnancy just happens to take place in the woman's body and its her body not his ..... of course he cannot decide what she choses to do with her body ..... period.
The baby isn't just a part of the mother but the father to!!😢
So it grows on the father's inside...ok
The baby my not grow inside the father...but the baby is part of the father
Sarah Yoder having a one night fuck does not make you a ‘father’.
It is your choice to have sex or not or not to have sex...but it isn't anyone's right to say the mother life is more important
@@laraking804
The baby's DNA is a mixture of the mother and father's, so IT DOES make you the father. There would be no baby without the two.
When it comes to financial support women always say "it takes two" but when it comes to abortion women always say "my body my choice".
Miss c and the funny thing is these feminist don’t understand the human anatomy it’s not their body but a completely seperate human being they are killing a baby isn’t a selective organ they are removing.
Hope Joy so let’s just kill it instead. Isn’t it funny all people who are for abortion are already born. Abortion has never been about choice. It’s escaping the consequences of your choices by taking all choices away from another human being.
@@georgeibrahim7945 The fetus is inside the woman's body, you know that, don't you?
What always bothered me about the pro-choice movement is this: when a woman is not ready to have a baby she will refer to the life inside her as a fetus, not a baby, not a living being and she will abort; but when that same woman becomes pregnant again and she feels ready to start a family, suddenly the life inside of her is a baby, a living being, and needs to be protected at all costs. Oh the hypocrisy of the pro-choice movement. It makes me sick.
Eliza Dolittle I’ve never heard of someone saying I’m having a Fetus shower but they mention baby shower lol
My gf of 7 months found out we were pregnant and I was in shock but more excited I felt proud I felt a new sense of happiness I planned and had hopes ...but as we talked she didn't want to go through with it and was unsure I pleaded and begged her not too saying "that's my heart inside you our heart" she still had it and it broke me it's been 3 years and we now have a beautiful 14 month old boy and I still cry alone especially now knowing the joy and gentleness and love I have as a father I regret it and it hurts
@Jessie Arturo Thunder, my heart breaks for you! I'm praying for you right now.
I used to volunteer at this not-for-profit pregnancy center, RETA (www.retaforlife.com) and they have a men's program. I believe they'd love to walk with you through your grief to help you find healing and hope, if you reach out to them. 💗
@@baileyk.6197 thank you for understanding
@puglous3 it weighs heavy on me even now and I was pro choice until then but now I don't agree with it nothing is more rewarding than being a parent
I'm so sorry for your loss. Why did she keep your 3 year old and not the other baby? Have you forgiven her?
Jessie Arturo Thunder she’s senseless find yourself a better woman
Amazing. You know, I’ve been in that position of a pregnant, frightened girl knowing the father would not stick around. I toiled with adoption and abortion (even though I knew abortion was wrong). The amount of fear I had was pushing me to consider it. My mother had also been diagnosed with terminal cancer shortly after finding out I was pregnant. At that point in my life I thought having a kid was the last thing I needed. I also knew that I would regret killing my child. My daughter is now 6 years old and her father never stepped up to help. I moved to be near family and with their help went to college and became an RN. Being a single mother is hard but not as hard as I thought it would be. God gives me enough strength each day to get through it. It is making me a better person. My mom passed away 1 month before my daughter was born and I would have never survived the grief if I didn’t have this little baby to get up and take care of. Instead of giving into fear I gave it up to God and He has never let me down! God is bigger than your worst situation.
God bless you and your family for trusting HIM. He promised never to leave you nor forsake you. He promised to supply all your needs according to HIS riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
You and your daughter are both a blessing. God loves you both.
N B Awesome miraculous life! Thank you for sharing your story! I’m so sorry for your loss. Beautiful circle of life is evident in your heart. God bless!
Thank you for touching on this angle of abortion. I know a few men who, 20 plus years later, still hurt deeply because their child was murdered & they had no choice.
Caca Bear It’s not murder. Murder is a legal term that only applies after birth. It does not apply to foetuses
London Girl just because killing a feutus is not illegal dosent mean its right
There are men who had no choice but there are even more men who insist on abortion
London Girl I understand what you’re saying, legally yes. But these men who had no say feel like their child was murdered. It’s traumatizing for the men who really wanted that baby!
Amber xx so very true Amber xx, it’s a human with separate DNA, eye color, personality, gender, ethnicity etc.
I have some male friends, at least three cases who experienced it... it was very heart breaking to hear their stories..
When people hear abortions, they automatically imagine “rape” or “men ran away” and “victimized women”..
But seems like there are some/many cases that men are the ones who actually want to keep the baby but women...
Woman’s right.. woman’s body..
What about man’s right as a father of the baby?
...In japan, not mandatory but both men and women have to sign for abortions to prove both agreed to it.
Fanny Grimmesey
You don’t know my friends. Their girlfriends went to get abortion without telling them, the boyfriends found out after.
That’s so sad.
I've always said that the father should be able to raise the child if the mother doesn't want to. It took 2 to make that baby but yet only 1 gets to make the decision? That's wrong.
okametiger you know I’ve been investigating and looking into this subject a lot more lately and this is the first video I’ve seen where it ever mentions the impacts it has on the fathers. I was actually caught off guard, it wasn’t something that had occurred to me yet. I’m so used seeing only one side of the story... but you are absolutely right. It took two to make that child and that’s where the entire argument about women’s choice falls short and is unacceptable. I’m so sorry about your friends and what they’ve experience, whatever the reason. Hearing these testimonies felt incredibly heavy I can’t even begin to imagine the pain this has caused..
@Sarah R it's not her body. Nothing is done to the woman's body at all. It's the baby's body. A baby growing inside of you is not a limb of the woman, therefore it's *not* her body.
Did the women say they wanted kids? If not and you hate abortion don't have sex with her.
The father of my child abandoned me when i got pregnant(out of wedlock).I wish he had the mindset of these men instead of telling me to abort and chose to go after the selfish things he wants in life.He broke me.I was so ashamed.But once my son arrived...I won.Period.So please,if you are going through this,believe me, when your little one arrives, your broken heart will be repaired and you will be a brand new woman-stronger,smarter and a wonderful parent who's got so much love to give to that tiny human being you chose to keep despite everything.
May god bless your soul. Im sorry for your loss. *Hugs*
Thank you for choosing to keep your baby. Bless your heart and soul! God bless!❤
You are right...There is nothing like looking at your baby your little human being that you gave life to...its a feeling like no other and a love that's Priceless
Awww sorry to here your child's father abandoned you at the same time you are right you did win you are blessed with a special gift which is your child ❤️ I would also like to share a suggestion with you which is to please seek Jesus he can change that around for you. Ask God to touch your child's father's heart to come back and be in your child's life as he should rightly be there to support you and be there for his child. Have faith in God that in due time the father will come back that's if you want that though. Love and blessings ❤️
automaticchic that what my sister says to me. I pray so that empty feeling never went away I still regret decision I should have just stay single cause now he’s not even around smh this shelter in place got me thinking even more
All these years I only thought about my pain for my abortions. I never considered the pain that my husband may be feeling from these losses as well. Thank you. This will open up a conversation that is long overdue. Thank you for your stories. God bless you, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.
@Val O'Brien you do not need to add to her pain..she already has expressed regret..God has already forgiven her if she has asked for it..it is not your job to add to her pain. I chose life when I found myself pregnant as a teenager twice..but I had friends who didn't and regret their decision..I would never add to their pain by condemning them for what they already feel convicted for..Please continue to speak for the unborn..but recognize when someone already feels remorseful and needs forgiveness, not condemnation.
@Val O'Brien And you have just shown why the pro life lobby would never be successful in changing ppl's views if it was full of ppl like you. Thankfully it's not. Do the cause a favour and keep your mouth shut the next time the subject comes up you vile little shit.
ps I'm guessing, (and hoping,) you are not a mother yet. Try and and cultivate some compassion and forgiveness before you become one.
@JW McCabe Why would you say that?
@feebeedee Thank you so much. God bless you.
@@michellebarham326 Thank you so much for saying such kind words.
And this is exactly another point. You may not feel immediate remorse from abortion, but it will effect you down the road. Abortion will never be a normal thing. It comes at a huge cost.
@Lacy Monster First off, let me start off by saying, I can't even imagine what that is like. I've only been told. But second, I know there is a merciful, sympathetic God who loves you very deeply. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. I know its very easy to feel ashamed, pathetic, broken and lost. Undeserving. I fail him everyday. But the amazing thing is that, nomatter how many times we come up short, he is ready and willing to forgive us and recieve us with open arms, we need only to repent. Yes he is a just God, but He also offers grace. Do we deserve it, no. But how amazing is he for still loving us the same. We will all one day be held to an account, and we will face the Lord for what we have done, which plainly comes down to is our disobedience/sin. But for those that know him as their Lord and savior, he has offered us the gift of eternal life with him. John 3:16. I hope you know that Lacy, nomatter what you have done, its never to late to seek repentance. We will always have scars from our past, but through Christ, our sin doesnt define us anymore. We are made new in Him. Again, I cant imagine what that is like, but I do know that He deeply still loves you. I hope this rings true to you. Just said a prayer for you. ❤ If you'd like to talk more, I am open anytime.
@Oceanovo94 Mysia oh trust me they do
@Oceanovo94 Mysia BITCH ILL SLAP TF OUTCHA SO IF I DECIDE TO NOT OWN UP TO CHILD I GET ON CHILD SUPPORT RIGHT
@Oceanovo94 Mysia A FEMALE GET ABORTIONS IT'S THE RIGHT CHOICE BUT A MAN DONT OWN UP HE'S A DEAD BEAT RIGHT
@Oceanovo94 Mysia so you cant answer my question right
When that last Dad kissed his son, I couldn't stop the tears.
LIFE IS SACRED FROM CONCEPTION TO ITS NATURAL END
Oceanovo Lyanna that’s very sad.
My friend in high school had an abortion and the baby's father BEGGED her crying not to kill his baby. He called her for weeks begging. I didn't like him but I felt terrible for him. On the other side, I have a male friend who funded several abortions in his younger years and says he thinks about that with guilt now and thinks about how old they'd be. He has no living children.
So sad. But there is forgiveness and healing in Jesus, and they both need to forgive themselves. They can see their babies in heaven..... I knew a young man who saw my baby models and told me how his girlfriend aborted their twins even though he begged her not to. He was visibly still very broken about it and wished he had tried harder to stop her. A few years later I saw he had written a letter to the editor about it, then a while after that I saw that he had died. He was only in his early twenties..... Men, please get forgiveness and forgive yourselves, you still have alot to give to the world, and your testimony can help others....
brenda ann oh no that’s so sad. How did he pass?
I have agonized for the men who have gone through abortion. I ache that men have been so dehumanized that, we as a culture, do not believe men feel anything. Thank you for breaking through this silence! Men need to have a voice!
Oh please, if these men feel so unfair, blame it on NATURE ..... nature just happens that pregnancy takes place in the woman's body, its her body not his, obviously he has no rights what she does with her body .....
By the way nature also decided that women bears the pain of giving birth while men gets to have babies pain free, its not fair to women too ...... give and take, its works both ways ....
God bless Dads 😪❤️ they do have feelings too
A baby has a mother and a father, they have extended family, community and society. They are us, they are our society.
Just because a woman might be in bad circumstances or simply not want that baby does not mean that it is okay to kill the baby. It is not merely her baby. It is the father's baby, it is someone's grandchild, someone's cousin, someone's niece or nephew, someone's future best friend and lover.
Who else can we kill with no consequences? Who else can we kill to unburden ourselves?
wow.
i felt emotions with what u wrote.
u'r a great writer.
@@rizzamaeong thank you x
It's not someones future friend if it's not born 🖖🏻
an unborn child is a person and everything you said is correct about them being someone's baby, a grandchild, cousin, niece or nephew, etc. but i want to address the question you asked at the end of your post. the sad fact is that we can kill our loved ones who are sick. it's called hospice, and it is actually assisted suicide. back in the 1990s, Jack Kevorkian, also known as "Dr. Death," battled to change the law here in the U.S. to allow "assisted suicide." but most people did not agree with a doctor killing a patient, so to get around that, they started something known as "hospice." the evils of hospice are absolutely horrifying. unthinkable. people should research the beginnings of it and understand what it truly is. today, hospice is encouraged to the elderly who aren't even sick! a dear old man at my church, who was 83, was talked into going on hospice by nursing staff and social workers when he went to the emergency room for chest pain. they put him down. his daughter still suffers greatly because of his death. she is the one who told me that he wasn't even sick. but after they nagged him to go on hospice, he gave up the will to live. i worked at hospitals for 40+ years. i can tell you from personal experience how health care workers today are encouraged to kill as many on hospice as they can, as a means of population control. get rid of the sick or elderly or even mentally deficient, who are just taking up space and resources on our planet!
i have very little doubt that both my beloved husband and my angel mother would still be alive today, had they not been started on hospice. the hospital social workers talked my husband into going on hospice because his heart and lungs were both bad, he would have needed a double transplant. he was only 47 years old. a Christian doctor begged my husband not to go on hospice, but he did anyway. where they overdosed him until he was dead.
my precious mother had Alzheimer's disease. though she had had Alzheimer's for many years, she was still not at the end of her life. she had always exercised and took good care of herself. she did not smoke or drink. she was healthy apart from her poor mind... i truly believe she still recognized us, she just couldn't voice it. but she snapped her fingers to music. she smiled and laughed. but my sister had the 'power of attorney' and decided it was time to put my mother down, like a dog. i will spare you the horrifying details, but they put her to sleep a little bit every day, overdosed her until she was dead. that is the true, horrifying fact of hospice.
do not ever start your loved one on hospice, unless they are ready to die and they want it... and even then, is it ethical for us to decide to kill ourselves, so we don't have to suffer until GOD takes us home? i suppose that is a question between the person and GOD. i don't want to suffer! but can i kill myself? i don't think i can according to my faith in JESUS CHRIST. but in our world today, you can decide to die by "assisted suicide," also known as hospice. i know there are many who say i am cruel because their loved ones are suffering greatly, and without hospice, that suffering would be prolonged and worsened... i understand all that, but because a person is suffering, can we murder them? it's the same as the unborn child. it's still a life.
@@fireykitten9217 you contradicted yourself 🤦♀
Man, the guy with the kid really made me cry when I saw his son. And the father who lost two children to abortion, he made me cry too. :(
would you cry for women who died while being forced to go through pregnancy unwillingly ?
Thanks MOM and DAD for choosing me over death when you got pregnant in your late 30's in and I was "not planned " .I was you sixth child and you kept me .I will never forget that ,I am for ever grateful . Though I have lost you both ,you are still with me , LOVE YOU .
when I got pregnant 2ice I was told to abort both my kids but, because of my belief in Christ I decided to have both babies. Its not my right to destroy life which is valuable. Since I couldnt afford to raise kids and emotionally I wasnt ready because of some issues I was dealing with at the time I decided to give them up for adoption which is the choice I made for myself and my kids so that they could have a better life and for me to sort out my issues. I dont feel guilty because I made the right choice. Im pro life.
God bless you for your unselfish gift to another person who wishes to have children of their own.
Heather!!!!!!! Bless you! Bless you!! Twice for making the right choice to save your babies!!! Yes! Yes! Thank You Jesus for strengthening my sister to choose You first and foremost and then for choosing life! Bless you Sister! Speak up! Don't stop!
Every day I wonder if I should have been as selfless as you were, and adopt my boy, so that he would have had two parents. He missed out on so much, not having a father figure. I thought only of myself back then -- how hard it would be to let go. I don't know you, Heather, but I'm proud of you.
I'm guessing youre American. I really admire the way adoption is always seen as an option for unplanned/or unwanted pregnancies over there. In the UK it is never discussed. I have never known anyone who chose that as an option. I'm guessing it's down to the religiosity of the US perhaps but to see ppl, especially young kids, choose adoption over abortion is incredible. You did an amazingly selfless thing. Best wishes to you.x
Proud of you Heather.
This is awesome! Please have more of these. Men's voices have been too silent on this matter and that troubles me more than anything else.
I agree! They SHOULD NOT be excluded from this decision!
@@Mmmkay10 They should be legally excluded, a man should not be able to force a woman to give birth if she doesn't want to. If she wants to discuss it with him, fine.
Rose NoHo then don’t have sex if you don’t want a baby.
@@isaroman0 What about a woman who is raped?
@@RoseNoho What about the 99% that aren't?? Please, don't try to make the outlier seem like the majority. It's not a good argument. Women don't get to be the arbiters of life.
I’m so late but pray for these fathers as well, I feel like they’re victims too🙌🏽💕💯
BECAUSE THEY ARE ALSO VICTIMS!
Ga Bunnie I just cannot believe that people don’t even consider what the father may want 🤷🏽♀️💯
My brother has a framed ultrasound picture of his baby on his desk. His girlfriend desided to abort the baby.
I have been pro abortion my whole life, but seeing what it did to my brother is certainly one of the things that made me rethink it.
The question is whether a man should have the rights to a woman's body what she choses to do with it ........ of course not .
@@88fejithe choice should come when she has to decide to open her legs or not. Once the baby is on the way, she should have no choice. Murdering a baby to excuse her lack of personal responsibility shouldn't even be an option.
#choosefatherhood
After 15 years of wanting to be a father again, found out my soul mate was pregnant. Making it through a miscarriage with my first wife. I begged her not to do it. That even though this was going to be hard, because of the circumstances, we could get through it we could make it. June 13, 2019 10 weeks 4 days she killed our daughter Zinatreyu (zin*tray*a) it's still a struggle to get up everyday. Thank you for this video
It's been a year but I am so, so sorry. I hope you're doing well now.
I'm so sorry for your loss... You didn't deserve to go through that
Takes alot of courage for these men to talk bout this,give them so much credit.
:(
- The person i was involved with did not want me to keep his baby. I opposed, at first i was very scared and unsure ( i felt like both of us were) but i came with my decision and he came up with his. He made it very clear that he didn’t want to be with someone like me or have a baby with me... which was obviously hurting. But i could not terminate what was growing inside of me.
I regret a lot that happened between me & him but not my decision..
? I’m sorry for your pain and I hope you will find healing but you made a wise choice and will be stronger for it. That boy lost two precious people for his inability to take responsibility. He will miss out on a incredible experience.
I once ran across this advice to young people dating, it goes something like, Never date someone who is not good husband/wife material, or who you would choose to be the father or mother of your child. And that your future child would be happy and satisfied with your choice of a mate.
The idea of any child related to me, such as one of my nieces or nephews, being sucked apart in a tube is appalling and deplorable. I would gladly pay thousands, even if it meant going deep in debt and selling everything, to stop such a crime. If an organization like Planned Parenthood was pragmatic, they could probably receive more funding through donations to pay and encourage women to choose life, and to give the child up for adoption if they don't want the responsibility. Not to mention, if the government didn't subsidize organizations like them, that money could be given to new mothers instead.
The lies about adoption don't help. Just being born in America alone gives a child more opportunity than half the world.
@Psalm 27 Did you know that Planned Parenthood began as an organization to eliminate black people from America? Margaret Sanger, the founder of PP, openly hated and wanted to kill all black people. PP's mission was literally ethnic cleansing. Modern day Nazis.
My wife and I had a miscarriage of our first time pregnant. To this day my heart breaks for this loss. ...... I don't even understand how anyone could have an abortion. Life is so precious!!
Thank you for uploading this video. We never hear from the Father's perspective.
Sometimes adolescent boys think of having kids and they should be blessed
Very hard pain and I wanted to keep the baby I wanted to be a Dad, I've never felt so weak as a man
My heart's aching for you. I hope you find healing
So awesome to hear from men! They get told they have no right to an opinion on abortion. It’s ridiculous when it’s their child too! Thank you for this.
So sad..I had the opposite.. boyfriend said abort..I said no frigging way...I was 16...age 35 remarried..got pregnant..hubby said abort..I said hell no! I have 4 children..It was hard sometimes and 3 kids with first hubby..1 with second hubby and though they were jerks about it i carried those babies and they are wonderful adults starting their own families...children arent raised in a day..its a process...not scary and not expensive...be pro life...please
Funny thing is. ..when you have a child, God may not give us all we want, but with our effort and prayers, HE ALWAYS GIVES US WHAT WE NEED!!
Ellen I am for now on
I wish more women were like u instead of acting like they have to do there so stupid and then have the nerve to won't sympathy girl bye
Children are the most precious gift from God! Being involved in the murder of any innocent child will never have the outcome of anything positive. Babies are a pure gift, full of the most innocent and purest form of love.
How are children including me who are concieved out of wedlock a gift?
@@bailujen8052 because you are made in the image of God. And just because your parents decided to sin does not make you any less worthy of your basic human rights. Yes they sinned and had sex outside of marriage but they didn't comit the sin of murder by killing you. You are a blessing and God has great plans for you because He created you with a purpose. A purpose that was designed for only you to fulfill.
15 years later I’ve never gotten over it. Now I just avoid relationships. I wouldn’t be able to handle another child of mine being murdered.
How Powerful... I had consideed giving up with My baby and thankfully I was strong enough not to...
Oh and shame on planned Parenthood for not helping the situation when they saw me distraught and mourning my child before my procedure. I needed help someone to talk to.
So sorry no one was there for you.... Guess they only had one thing in mind... To move you through the line as quickly as possible..... Jesus knows your despair, he has the answer, he stands ready with forgiveness and healing for what you went through... Your baby is safe with him in paradise, you can see him/her one day!
This breaks my heart. I pray these men find peace and redemption. Every life is a gift, no matter what the circumstances.
Seeing his son at the end just smacks you in the face with perspective, if you didn't have it already. Great video. Thank you and God bless all the men out there who have lost children to abortion (or anything else). ♥
As I’m writing this, the mother of my child is getting an abortion. When I found out she was pregnant, I was so excited to be a father. I’ve begged and begged her to keep it but unfortunately us fathers don’t get a say so in it.. if you’re a woman that’s thinking of aborting, I need you to realize just how hard it is for us fathers. And if you’re a father encouraging the mother to get an abortion, you need to step up and be a man. Raise that child.. I’d do anything to be a father to that baby. I’m bawling my eyes out in the parking lot right now waiting for her to get done.. To my son or daughter that never had a chance to live life, your daddy loves you even though I never got to meet you. But the day will come when I join you in heaven. I can’t wait for that day.
A lot of these 'mens side on abortion' stories are- "we were young/teenagers when she got pregnant with ma child" like, what do you expect was going to happen?
Too many dude bros out there complaining that they don't wanna wrap it up during sex, but we're supposed to feel bad for them when one of their "scores" gets pregnant and terminates?
Don't knock her up and you won't have this problem!
It's a two way street. Was the girl on the pill - both parties were young and irresponsible.
@@ElizaDolittle yes, probably a little too irresponsible to raise a child. But i get it, both parties are at fault.
My ex-husband and his high school gf aborted their child. (We met ten years later.) It was something that was always right below the surface, leading to his alcoholism and eventually the break up of our twenty-year marriage. Killing the baby doesn’t make the situation go away. It’s a life long sentence of guilt and pain that affects not only those in the present but those in the future.
Pro-choice is No Choice for the baby as well as the father. I'm praying that every mother's heart will "come to" and these millions of hearts will rise, with righteous indignation, a deep fury against those who would harm their innocent children, and protect their babies with the ferociousness of the grizzly bear. When hearts turn with love towards their offspring, abortion will finally become extinct.
This is terrible. Men do deserve to have a say it is their baby. It is their DNA who helped create the baby. Thank you for speaking out.
I just think abortion should be illegal and people should get married first. We wouldnt have this problem nearly as much if both people got married and was responsible. Man and woman both.
@@paleindian10 where being pro choice becomes so illegal where pro choicers get stuck in solitary confinement for 9 months
@@bailujen8052 okay 👍 I made a comment three years ago. I’m not pro choice or pro life now.
I love hearing the men's side of this. Thank you. I know it has an effect on you too.
Thank you for letting fathers men speak.
My girlfriend found out she was pregnant at 22 (I was 24), we were in a loving relationship and adored each other. She decided on a termination mostly on the grounds that her mother was pregnant when they got married and didn't want to bring shame on her family. At the time I supported her and her choice to have a termination. Shortly after she moved to another country for work experience, it was only meant to be for a short while and I was still in college but the distance was too great & she decided we brake up. That was in 1990 and while I married and have 3 beautiful children I am like the first guy, when people ask how many children I have I secretly say 4. There was some counselling before the termination and I was not included only my ex girlfriend, there isn't a day goes by that I don't feel guilt and regret that I couldn't protect all my children. One month ago I bumped into a mutual friend that I hadn't seen in over 25 years, she told me my ex girlfriend never married or never had children, still lives abroad and I have to say that it didn't make me happy to hear this.
Getting married and having children isn't the end goal for everyone. For all you know, she's out there happy and having the time of her life.
@@marlenegallardo8195 doubtful..
@@marlenegallardo8195 nope she's not, life has not been good to her. She was free to make many choices in her life but she wasn't free of the consequences (neither was I). The Robert Frost poem comes to mind - The Road Not Taken with the verse - I shall be telling this with a sigh, Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.
@@theironson1043 true, she always wanted to get married and have a family, just not at 22.
I assumed responsibility for an unplanned pregnancy when I was a junior in college. I found out many years later that it was "planned" all along by the woman involved, and in her warped mind, her thinking was that I would marry her and fall in love and take care of her for the rest of her life. We did marry, but only to get her--and our daughter--out of a dangerous crime ridden part of the city she was living in. We soon divorced and I completely re-arranged all aspects of my life to the long term responsibility of fatherhood. I will be 60 in six months, and as I look back on the situation now, I really, really, really love being a dad. I learned that failure brought me to a faith I would have never had, and life is so good. Thanks for reading.
My wife had an abortion many years before i met here and God has promised me i will meet him and give him a massive hug and tell him his mummy loved him and she thinks of hik every day....she did not have a supportive family and pressured emotionly...God knows her heart and she will meet him again and boy i cant wait to witness that glorious moment...thanks for listening
Everyone woman I know who had an abortion when they were young are completely screwed up women later in life. One of my family members had three abortions and she became an alcoholic from her early 20's and never had children later in life. She still cries about it and that was 30 years ago. My boyfriend and my ex husband both had previous relationships with women who had abortions and they had alot of emotions about the loss of these children. They were both very young, but it's never left their hearts and minds. The girls made the choice in both of their situations...it was not a joint decision. People really need to think about what they are doing...it's a life...it's murder...it will haunt you in this life and for eternity.
A friend had an abortion, she wasn't ready or had the income to raise a child (neither her boyfriend) Years later, she become more successful at her job and it's with her boyfriend, now they are considering to have childs, they can now.
Most abortion are a realese to their lifes
I know a guy who got his gf pregnant and she told him how happy she was about it, they planned on having and raising the baby. She left while he was at work and ran out of town with their rent money to go get an abortion. It absolutely broke him. He became an alcoholic
So sad, so sorry. Pray for him to pull himself back together, God has a plan for his life. Alcohol is just wasting it....
Who else cried?
Finally! To hear the pain and loss that comes for men when they lose their child. I think there’s a social perception that the men don’t care. What a relief to hear the truth and for these brave men to share and genuinely express how they were impacted. I can see that their emotions in the video are just a fraction of their pain.
The gift of LIFE is GOD'S greatest gift for each of us. Please help women who are facing a troublesome pregnancy. There are many couples who are praying for a baby to adopt. Thank you.
It is sad how quick some people are to take their clothes off, but slow to think of the consequences and to think of an innocent baby's life.
This is what our world needs, more men willing to speak up.
God bless these men for speaking up and for being real! Your sweet bundles of joy, your sweet children, are with Jesus! You can see them if you place your trust in Him for the forgiveness of your sins. (For God so loved the world that He gave His One and only Son, Jesus, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish, but have eternal life! John 3:16)
This is not the end of your story. Call out to Jesus! He forgives anything and will satisfy your aching heart with His peace and joy. And some day, you will hold your sweet children. God bless you and thanks for sharing your story!
We love you dads. Don't cry. Raise your voice.
And roast doctors and feminists
God designed men to be heads of families, leading in love and sacrifice... May these men be blessed for their speaking out. May they be free from the pain of regret and guilt, in Christ's name. Amen!
So happy to hear the impact this has on men whose lives are also changed.
Fathers and mothers are equally responsible for their children's lives. They have equal rights to know about their child and to love them.
Finally! The hidden victims get to talk! Parents means both a father and a mother not just the mother. It's a joint decision. Thank you for making this video! Keep talking! You have got a sub!
more men should speak out, this is great, Lets stop abortion
No lets not. They are still rape victims
@@ioo15yearsago57 left always use worst case scenario as an excuse to say killing your own baby is ok
@@Morningstar-xz5bl people use rape as an excuse for stupid convenience
There should be a paper they sign that shows both parents agreed to the abortion.
That would require progressive women to have consciences.
I would also like to know why women have the power to murder or keep these innocent babies, but men don't have the power to protect their finances from these money grubbing scum bags.
I was brutally raped and had an abortion..i wouldve agreed with you if it werent for your choice in words..thanks for calling me a murderer I guess....
@@theemptypeanutsystem8431 You're giving an extreme example, these men are not rapists. Both parties consented to have sex in their case.
@@FrostDirt I know that. Duh. I'm just saying that you shouldnt call EVERYONE who gets an abortion a murderer..
Wivy X3 I'm very sorry that that happened to you. But that doesn't make your decision right. I have compassion for you AND your baby. Whoever did that too you should be extremely sevearly punished, but that doesn't mean you also didn't kill a little life.
@@theemptypeanutsystem8431 yes you should. If you kill a human, that is murder. GOD will be waiting for you and the rest of the murders to explain this one day. Good luck.
I am a Man that my ex girlfriend got an abortion behind my back, I feel devastated because I had no voice in the matter
We're so sorry to hear that Robin. Prayers for you and healing.❤️
"Technical" comment: these men's stories were too broken up. It was so hard to follow each man's story. I had to watch this multiple times so that i could follow one man's story at a time. Would have been better if there were less men to keep track of, or if you had let the men tell more of their story each time.
These are some brave men. Thank you for speaking up. Thank God for youtube where people’s voices can be heard. May the Lord convict the hearts of every Planned Parenthood clinic-may their eyes be opened to the pain and destruction they are inflicting. May they feel an ounce of that pain and may they fall on their knees and repent before it is too late. Lord forgive us. Forgive us for destroying precious children.
Imagine the pain they feel everyday.Thats like torture. Thanks for sharing your stories.
I wish i had support before making this decision that changed my life. I would encourage anyone thinking about possibly ending a life to please seek other options. I will never forgive myself for the choice i made that day. Rip sweet angel.
Hope you saw my post to you above...Jesus forgives all who ask, and so you must forgive yourself so you can heal. Your sweet baby is counting on you....
Brenda Ann is right my sister. I would've done the same thing if I were you, but thankfully I was never pregnant before I heard the gospel of life. All of us have fallen short of God's perfection, and all done evil. Forgiveness is available for the worst offenders, and I am one.
Every abortion.. Makes me so sad. I pray to God that people will stop having abortions in the UK and everywhere else in the world
Real men sharing real stories...I'm so touched..Thank You
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So wonderful to give the men a chance to speak!!!
If you're too young or not ready you shouldn't have sex. Even with a condom has chances of failure. In a sense it is their fault.
Exactly! They all preach “my body, my choice” but like it was your body you chose to have sex with knowing the consequences. They act like not having sex isn’t an option. For about 1-2% sadly it isn’t a choice but we are talking about the majority of people here who just don’t make good decisions.
@@TS-fh4ii And they realized that because those consequences got that child killed when they knew there was another alternative.
Thank you gentlemen for speaking up
Gee, that brought a few tears, thank you for sharing 💜
This video touched my heart 😪. Blessings to these men for expressing themselves 🙏. We need more videos like these.
Im and Father of 5 but two children of mine were aborted when i was younger one would be 13 and the other would be 10... I know they're in Heaven waiting for me. just believe and trust in Jesus and you'll see them some day and raise them :)
I was so "caught up" in thinking avout all the trauma women feel over tgis, the loss the depression.. that i didnt even think about the fathers loss.
Its terribly sad, even harder for men.. who find themselves at 50 that end up having no kids.. theyd think back at the life they created, the life that could have been.
Man this made me cry, thanks for this very important message.
Thoroughly and truly heart and soul warming! First time hearing fathers speak about abortion, thank you all for sharing your story. It means a lot!👍
Just as many men care others don't just like many women. My dad and I have met people, both men and women who have regretted having children and they wish they never did. They said they never found happiness on having children. So, I guess not everyone's born to become a parent.
I think that is the issue. If people are seeking happiness and only live to please themselves above all else and at the expense of other individuals. There is a deeper root at hand. They are essentially selfish individuals to the core. Perhaps they had children for the wrong reasons ( appearance sake , etc) parenting is difficult and was never promised to be easy. However I will agree with you that not all
People should have children. Narcissistic individuals should not have children. If they can make one good selfless choice, giving adoption would be it and ensuring they do not get pregnant.
Basically if you chose to kill my baby our relationship is effectively dead too. Goodbye.
This is such a great video. Thank you so much for sharing as it really opens the eyes to other men who think abortion is an easy out as we can see it is a lifelong scar. Thank you for all those who are sharing you stories in the comments as I was truly touched. God bless.
“Today, abortion is the worst evil and the greatest enemy of peace … because if a mother can kill her own child, what will prevent us from killing ourselves, or one another? Nothing.” - Mother Theresa
I think so many times that we forget that it takes TWO to make a baby....weather you call it a baby or a fetus, you didn't do it by yourself (even with IVF). My good friend found himself in this same situation, he wanted to keep his baby, she however did not. And he took her to court to keep her from getting an abortion, and a judge granted it.
Wow. That actually happened? That’s incredible. Does he have full custody of the child? Did the girl give up her parental rights ?
@@MistyEry yes this did happen. He now has his beautiful teenage daughter and 4 other children. She did lose her parental rights. When they went to court to keep her from aborting the baby, her lawyer let her speak and she did the entire speech on how it was her body and she would do what ever the F she wanted etc. She had a history of going in and out of the the mental health home. The judge essential put her under house arrest and she had to be escorted everywhere. Before baby was born she told the judge she wanted nothing to do with 'It". He granted Brandon custody. He paid all her hospital fees, living expenses etc. After baby was born, her and her lawyer then tried to keep the baby and even had the guts to ask for child support etc in their court papers. The judge denied it, Brandon got full custody. And Bella lives to her name sake, she is beautiful, bright, extremely selfless and caring, she is a talented equestrian and skilled Archer. It was a huge deal when all of this happened, because in Illinois the mother is almost always awarded custody, even if she is not suited to care for children. I do believe It was the fact that the mother had a history of mental instability that helped the just initially deny her to terminate the pregnancy.
Lindsay Doyle wow, I’m so glad that he received custody.What an encouraging testimony. Clearly the judge was using wisdom.
A real man is a man that can stand by his lady and also can cry , mourn and admit to his wrongs .Abortion is wron in too many ways anyone with a heart,morals and GOD in there lives cant just forget! I was supposed to be an abortion, now I I've with knowing I am always going to be "the mistake" her biggest regret
No one is a mistake Anthony! God doesn't make mistakes! If your mother said that, she is definitely sick in her mind and does not value what true gifts are. The devil would like to destroy you with that thought. Toss it into the sea of forgetfullness where God puts all our sins! He created you for a special purpose on this earth, and NO ONE can take that away from you!!! "For I know the plans that I have for you, says the Lord, plans to help you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future".... Jeremiah
Great definition of a real man!!!!
This was just heartbreaking. Absolutely heartwrenching.
Thank you fathers for sharing your story and break the silence . It's time the world listens to what you have to say. I really hope and pray that your voices will heard and you will find peace in your hearts.
I know of 2 young men who's lack of choice to raise their children , names already chosen, so 1 young man killed himself. 1 Frank himself stupid. So many lives wasted. GIVE DADS A CHANCE
So sorry, so sad. I knew of a young man who died a while after his girlfriend aborted their twins against his will. He never got over it. It is really a crime that fathers have no rights in the life that they helped create.....
Men have been demonized on this topic for so long, I think you ladies would be surprised to hear how many men wanted to keep their babies. We as a society are not handling this issue in the correct manner.
THESE MEN NEED TO HEAL!! POOR MEN! MY HEART BREAKS FOR THEM....Tears rolling down my face!!
Wow... our society needs to see this and hear these voices!!