Why I’m Going Back To My Toxic Ex - PRETTY BASIC EP.154

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Komentáře • 164

  • @DAVIDELIAZAR_
    @DAVIDELIAZAR_ Před 2 lety +237

    TK better remember that “If he wanted to, he would” rule …. Don’t be sitting around for that boy babe.

  • @cbt1901
    @cbt1901 Před 2 lety +137

    Y’all….I figured out that “2014 tumbler” is an aesthetic style choice coming into style. Look it up anywhere. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it.

    • @ItsNicoleAnderson
      @ItsNicoleAnderson Před 2 lety +5

      Ok but in 2014 I was in 4th grade and I’ve been obsessed with it since then so I’m all for it

    • @abc-eb4zh
      @abc-eb4zh Před 2 lety +4

      everything comes back into style, it’s only a matter of time

  • @trinitybatiste4193
    @trinitybatiste4193 Před 2 lety +119

    “they’re not D list enough to be on cameo” remi is a gem ahaha

  • @sirinaxiong
    @sirinaxiong Před 2 lety +71

    I'm glad Remi reminds Alisha to date when she's ready and not to do it for the content. Love the dating tips. Can't wait to have Pattie on the podcast.

  • @mollygoodrich8977
    @mollygoodrich8977 Před 2 lety +16

    I agree with the toxic ex thing to a degree. eventually if it becomes mentally draining as the friend who is constantly there picking up the pieces + the shoulder to cry on, you have to wave a white flag & you just don’t want to hear about it anymore.

  • @tyla-jeanleroux458
    @tyla-jeanleroux458 Před 2 lety +64

    The glow up for this season is 🌟 EXQUISITE 🌟. LOVEE

  • @mari-us6zg
    @mari-us6zg Před 2 lety +104

    I’m on the same boat with remi everytime Alisha talks about the women who’s an expert on relationships. The things she says don’t blow my mind, and quite frankly don’t make much sense.

  • @mnm_24
    @mnm_24 Před 2 lety +32

    I can’t get over how good Alisha looks in this video. Especially her makeup! 😍 Remi is looking fine as always

  • @diannevega2728
    @diannevega2728 Před 2 lety +3

    I think this was one of the most best pod cast you guys ever did specially with situations that is happening nowadays with people.

  • @rilesfomiles8662
    @rilesfomiles8662 Před 2 lety +15

    I love the set so much I watch a lot of podcasts but this is definitely the most homey feel like I’m chillin w the gals

    • @MarshaMilla
      @MarshaMilla Před 2 lety

      I agree my favorite podcast to watch

  • @thejennifermadison
    @thejennifermadison Před 2 lety +11

    Being friends with you two would be so fun!! I love your dynamic

  • @KimmySaephan1
    @KimmySaephan1 Před 2 lety +41

    If you're the type to wait for the guy to make plans, I think you have to find a guy who actually does do that. You won't have to ask him or wait for him to do it- he will just do it. If not, you're just going to keep going through the same experiences and wonder why it's not working out... girl, you know why it's not working out. BUT, if you know what you want then you gotta stick to your standards and find those guys. And if he's not what you want, boy bye! Don't wait!

  • @_giginnnn
    @_giginnnn Před 2 lety +7

    absolutely loved this episode! can't wait for next week's ep lol. also, Aspyn & Cove would be SOOOO cute on the pod omg!!! you guys really need to hit her up

  • @Onelove___MIA
    @Onelove___MIA Před 2 lety

    With the going back to an ex is just a realization of what everyone has said that you ignored, but still heard and needing to ‘hear’ for yourself

  • @ryleelinn2924
    @ryleelinn2924 Před 2 lety +46

    it took me about half a year of watching remis videos and hearing them say “romy” to now get the full context that romy is drunk remi hahaha. this entire time i’ve been like ok ok romy is remi but like … why?? hahaha

  • @MomDateWithSashaJay
    @MomDateWithSashaJay Před 2 lety +16

    I love watching you guys on CZcams, it definitely feels more personable like I’m sitting on the sofa with you girls!! Love love love!!!

  • @khill11929
    @khill11929 Před 2 lety +11

    Omg I have a close friend that has been in and out of this TOXIC relationship for over two years (note: he’s had a fiancée and kid this whole time and my friend has been the side piece this whole time) and I STRUGGLE with knowing how to be there for her because I want her to feel supported but I’ve also given her the same advice/knowledge hundreds of times and they always go through this insane cycle and it’s hard to not give “tough love” and be patient

    • @cnissan89
      @cnissan89 Před 2 lety +2

      Support her for what? She’s continuing to make bad choices. You don’t need to be patient towards those who make bad decisions time and time again. All you can do is reiterate what a crappy person your friend and this guy are and move on with your life. Seriously. They will suck you in.

  • @debbie9226
    @debbie9226 Před 2 lety +51

    Alisha it’s not an “ego” thing it’s an insecure thing. Either you are afraid of being turned down OR you are just “old school” and you like the guy to take the initiative. You just need to know what you want and be honest with yourself about it

  • @sunwarrior5999
    @sunwarrior5999 Před 2 lety +3

    Idk what it is, but I just LOVED this ep! I've watched all the pretty basic eps, & have my favs, but I would literally watch this one again. I'm married, so I'm past toxic exes lol, but this was so interesting & reminiscent of past relationships/friendships! Also Alisha, don't worry about dating or bringing the dating content girl! Do your thing at your pace! Wish Remi & Alisha all the happiness in the world! Can't wait to meet this love guru btw!

  • @hannahstone9448
    @hannahstone9448 Před 2 lety +11

    Queens got me through cooking my little ones dinner, my son is 3 and he just ate almost half a pizza… it’s insane 😂 to be fair it was a small personal pizza but he’s eating everything
    My autistic daughter is 6 and she’s very picky, like chicken nuggets, Mac & cheese and pizza & carrots (cheese puffs) I always feel so “proud” we go into a store and she’ll ask for “carrots” and people around me are like wow, wow look at that 😂😂 then I go and sneak the cheese puffs in cause that’s what she really meant. Love you 💓

  • @jmchi86
    @jmchi86 Před 2 lety +9

    I love watching the podcasts! I can't listen to them, if there isn't video I just can't do it! I have to see what's going on haha!

  • @Laura-ox9er
    @Laura-ox9er Před 2 lety +48

    Already listened this morning but you bet I’m gonna listen again for the video😂💁🏻‍♀️

  • @aureliavukovich3588
    @aureliavukovich3588 Před 2 lety +4

    i dont know why, but this is literally one of my all time fav episodes

  • @amandaramirez8500
    @amandaramirez8500 Před 2 lety +1

    I listen to pods while I work so I can’t watch the video normally! Happy to be here 🤗

  • @mrsbryanpereira
    @mrsbryanpereira Před 2 lety +2

    love that this podcast is on video!!!!!! but maybe is it possible to get it in 1080p ?
    🤗🤗🤗🤗 love you queens ❤️❤️

  • @EmaniBrizgette
    @EmaniBrizgette Před 2 lety +11

    I SCREAMED when you said Rancho Cucamonga/ Victoria Gardens AHHHHH
    I’m from here and I love you guys sm 😭💕

  • @kay6025
    @kay6025 Před 2 lety +1

    This is my favorite podcast🥰🥰🥰 I’m so happy you guys have video now!!!

  • @Jess___tv
    @Jess___tv Před 2 lety +7

    Yes! Would love to see Aspyn!

  • @jocelynchavez8054
    @jocelynchavez8054 Před 2 lety

    Living for the new PB banner!!!

  • @8CheerleadingGirl8
    @8CheerleadingGirl8 Před 2 lety +1

    love yall so much y’all are absolutely stunning as always. i hope y’all know and see how beautiful you both are inside and out. love yall ladies

  • @shawnwithachance123
    @shawnwithachance123 Před 2 lety

    the way that i was listening to the beginning of this ep on weds and now i'm watching the video :-)))) LOVE THAT FOR ME AND LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS PODCAST !!!!!

  • @madelyn5059
    @madelyn5059 Před 2 lety +7

    Okay but like can we talk about Alisha’s makeup 😍 yesssss so bomb

  • @manuelabarajas8881
    @manuelabarajas8881 Před 2 lety +1

    one of my favorite episodes :) luv you guys

  • @brendanalugo
    @brendanalugo Před 2 lety +2

    Been scrolling through CZcams waiting for this episode b’se YT notifications sometimes are really slow 🙄…let me listen and watch

  • @trinityrodriguez1716
    @trinityrodriguez1716 Před 2 lety +2

    Omg I literally go to Victoria Gardens for everything that’s so weird hearing them talk about it!!! I am legit obsessed with that place!

  • @adreyauna
    @adreyauna Před 2 lety +6

    Ooooo can we get an episode with the assistants?! Maybe they can be the host or guests!

  • @oyku905
    @oyku905 Před 2 lety

    I totally agree with Alisha when she said "two people can be toxic to each other"
    I had a best friend who I cherished so much but I was in a bad place and it was very stressful times for both of us because we were seniors so we had a big falling out. It wasn't one thing but I bottled so much and we just stopped talking. Yeah they hurt me so bad but I know I wasn't perfect, I've made mistakes unknowingly and I realized that after a few months. It just sucks that in their head I'm probably the villain, the one who was in the wrong and the one who broke the friendship but they don't know how much they've hurt me. In the friendship, I didn't feel loved, respected, or appreciated. I was just there to fill their void when their other friends weren't there. I miss the good times, I loved them dearly but I guess it was meant to happen. I'm not the same person as I was 3 years ago. I'm sure they arent also...
    omg, it felt great to rant because I stopped talking about her to our close mutual friend because I knew they wouldn't appreciate it and might think I'm obsessed or whatever. I think she texted me twice or maybe once but I was very anxious and was dry lol I hope they didn't think I was being mean haha
    so dude if you are somehow reading this umm I'm both sorry and not sorry, I miss the good times and I genuinely wish only good things for you

  • @amanimarch976
    @amanimarch976 Před 2 lety +3

    I love Pam!!! I used to watch her show millionaire matchmaker on Bravo.. i found her so interesting and always wondered what happened to her PLZ PLZ PLZZZZZ have her on the podcast 🥺

  • @toreemohr4051
    @toreemohr4051 Před 2 lety +1

    hi remi and alisha! I absolutely love listening to the podcast. I just wanted to say that I had a dream the other night that you hosted all your dogs on the podcast. like literally you guys were on one couch and rosie and daisy where sitting on the other couch lol

  • @chloe_evans
    @chloe_evans Před 2 lety +6

    on Wednesdays we listen to pretty basic🥰✨

  • @rebeccanguyen3818
    @rebeccanguyen3818 Před 2 lety +1

    Wow love the intro clips so cute!!

  • @nathaliabozon
    @nathaliabozon Před 2 lety +1

    Alisha your makeup looks so gorgeous in this video 💜

  • @victoria1100
    @victoria1100 Před 2 lety

    I’m LIVING for the boots from Christmas Alisha 😍

  • @oreo12432
    @oreo12432 Před 2 lety +1

    Love y’all sm

  • @rudyrehl7483
    @rudyrehl7483 Před 2 lety +2

    Every good show needs a Bert and an Ernie 🥲🥰

  • @Fringinto
    @Fringinto Před 2 lety +2

    Remi I do the same, I put you guys on my TV and I feel like I'm listening to my friends (Wish you could hear me sometimes because I do respond to you hahah) Hello from Toronto 🇨🇦

  • @emilywebb4619
    @emilywebb4619 Před 2 lety

    Alisha is absolutely serving this episode

  • @Samjams1234567
    @Samjams1234567 Před 2 lety +17

    Omg the cal story ahhhhh I felt that hahaha awww poor cal. But I’m sure those guys won’t ever remember and also he has a new story now haha. Guys I love your podcast I needed this today! Also the glam is amazing!!! You guys look so beautiful!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @oneawkwardunicorn
    @oneawkwardunicorn Před 2 lety +1

    not you guys bringing up aspyn and sierra and i literally just watched both of their videos before this !!! i love when all my favs are friends ❤️❤️

  • @LadyRosieRose
    @LadyRosieRose Před 2 lety +3

    BRB…not me going to the South Coast Plaza to wait to meet Remi because I was too shy to meet her in college 🙈

  • @aimesoto8934
    @aimesoto8934 Před 2 lety +1

    I’ve had a few favorite episodes. But I think this one tops it so far😁

  • @cz5981
    @cz5981 Před 2 lety +1

    27:30 YES i'm exactly like that too, and i think it's an INFJ thing. we are just very intense and take things seriously, we also hold grudges and can find it difficult to forget things

  • @laurennicole.rios333
    @laurennicole.rios333 Před 2 lety +3

    Rancho Cucamonga represent! Victoria Gardens is a great mall haha

  • @dorothyfleming643
    @dorothyfleming643 Před 2 lety +16

    bring alisha's roommates + TK on for a big girl chat!!

  • @shahiraifrit7992
    @shahiraifrit7992 Před 2 lety +19

    When youre upto date with Remi’s vlogs and you know she loves the expresso martini with Bay leaves.

  • @thefudgeameh
    @thefudgeameh Před rokem

    OMGGG you guys talking about victoria gardens as an IE girlie is so wild HAHAHA

  • @monicalifornia
    @monicalifornia Před 2 lety +1

    Omg Victoria Gardens is my go to😁 love that place

  • @rachelh1763
    @rachelh1763 Před 2 lety

    I’m screaming at the hometown hero convo hahahaha

  • @niinaajokatzenborn8445

    I love watching podcast videos but then when I need to drive i can listen like a podcast

  • @lexidowler8628
    @lexidowler8628 Před 2 lety

    I’m sitting here crying thinking oh my god what am I putting my best friends through. My boyfriend is the BIGGEST POS. I’m definitely gonna hold onto the girls I’ve got😭❤️ total eye opener 😭😭😭❤️

  • @audreyhamilton5765
    @audreyhamilton5765 Před 2 lety

    i absolutely loved this episode, please have patty on!!!!!

  • @cnissan89
    @cnissan89 Před 2 lety +2

    Love rems outfit. That green is excellent on her.

  • @vannylinares9667
    @vannylinares9667 Před 2 lety

    Unfortunately that happened with a friend of mine, I decided to be the one to step up because everyone hated him family and friends and I didn’t like the talking behind her back. I told her and I knew I had lost her and no longer going to be her go to person for her when she said well you don’t have to like him I do. I said oh ok, and we’re still friends but unfortunately that toxic guy is still there and it’s like walking on eggshells.

  • @taylorlazo4263
    @taylorlazo4263 Před 2 lety +1

    as an IE girly, this episode opening with victoria gardens was equally exciting and traumatizing 💀 that mongolian bbq goes hard tho .. #909things💀

  • @erincruickshank6235
    @erincruickshank6235 Před 2 lety +9

    aspyn needs to go on the pod

  • @killingmesmallsj6724
    @killingmesmallsj6724 Před 2 lety +4

    Okay I could spend hours at Victoria Gardens, the bougiest place in the IE lmao

  • @brittanypriester4962
    @brittanypriester4962 Před 2 lety +5

    Poor Cal 😂😅 I would not be okay

  • @pslivesxo
    @pslivesxo Před 2 lety

    The trumpet story. I am cackling.

  • @karagira0410
    @karagira0410 Před 2 lety +6

    You should actually bring Sierra Schultzzie as a guest!!!

  • @stardust8746
    @stardust8746 Před 2 lety

    How do you deal with grief and get over friendships that have ended with no clear answer as to what exactly happened? A girl I used to be good friends with is only seeing the situation from her perspective and blaming everything on me. When in reality I have already apologized for my actions, but she won't apologize for her wrong doing or see the situation from my point of view.

  • @ssrag_
    @ssrag_ Před 2 lety

    inland empire and orange county baddies this all makes sense why I enjoy ur podcasts

  • @jababes7208
    @jababes7208 Před 2 lety +6

    AYSPEN needs to come on!!!!

  • @lalae2023
    @lalae2023 Před 2 lety +2

    Alisha you look amazing 🌸

  • @Alicia-sv7bk
    @Alicia-sv7bk Před 2 lety +9

    get Aspyn and parker on!!!

  • @leaniiss
    @leaniiss Před 2 lety

    yesss i loveddd this episodeee!! I LOVE YOU GUYSS💕💕💕 i think you guys should have BRETMAN ROCK AS A GUESTTT

  • @vansh8816
    @vansh8816 Před 2 lety +8

    remiii......... girlll I can't the second hand embarrassment I can't

  • @miasayoko1697
    @miasayoko1697 Před 2 lety +10

    OMG YES THE MONGOLIAN BBQ AHAHAHAHAHHAHA

  • @madeline5936
    @madeline5936 Před 2 lety +5

    OMG pleaseeeee have aspyn on!!

  • @noellekarlovich1537
    @noellekarlovich1537 Před 2 lety

    i would love to see sam and colby on the pod!!

  • @Lizabef101
    @Lizabef101 Před 2 lety +2

    Alisha babe, we don't need dating tea we just want you to be happy with a good guy one day when YOU'RE ready. We love you! We love you as well, Remi!

  • @DesiraeRoberts
    @DesiraeRoberts Před 2 lety +2

    Would loveeeee to see Eva on as a guest

  • @makaylacoker111
    @makaylacoker111 Před 2 lety +1

    If y’all come to Victoria gardens I’ll buy you dinner 😭

  • @abrilbr2802
    @abrilbr2802 Před 2 lety +3

    it will be fun to see kirsten and ericka titus on an episode

  • @chloejohnson6959
    @chloejohnson6959 Před 2 lety

    Rem is right Alisha will be a great mom. No one wants to be 'okay'. love

  • @gibsonprs
    @gibsonprs Před 2 lety +1

    The musician in the Cal story is Mike Green.. Check out his album Restart.. He’s super talented

  • @jocelynchavez8054
    @jocelynchavez8054 Před 2 lety

    Omg if you guys did the velour tracksuits like Adelaine Morin I’d loveee!

  • @santho0962
    @santho0962 Před 2 lety +2

    PODCAST SWAP WITH UNSOLICITED ADVICE!!!!!

  • @sowmyaveera
    @sowmyaveera Před 2 lety

    Pretty basic TOUR pleasee.....

  • @carlyrok101
    @carlyrok101 Před 2 lety +14

    am i tripping or is something different looks wise with alisha? i cant put my finger on it but something is new!

    • @anitacudiamat7624
      @anitacudiamat7624 Před 2 lety +6

      I feel like it’s Botox or something. Or her lips. Not sure but I agree.

    • @carlyrok101
      @carlyrok101 Před 2 lety +2

      @@anitacudiamat7624 yes!! i was thinking something with her lips or even her teeth, they look super white !

    • @aspenromeiser5448
      @aspenromeiser5448 Před 2 lety +1

      I believe they got their makeup professionally done for that episode cause they had a photoshoot after the pod, if I remember their Instagram stories correctly!

    • @AshleyGulas
      @AshleyGulas Před 2 lety

      Yea I think it’s just her makeup mainly the brows I think are way more thick and dark then what she usually does

  • @bbgvic6498
    @bbgvic6498 Před 2 lety

    OMG I LOVE VICTORIA GARDENS I LIVE LIKE 10 MIM AWAY YESSSS

  • @ruebenromero2497
    @ruebenromero2497 Před 2 lety

    We need the love doctor on the show

  • @nadiadansani2139
    @nadiadansani2139 Před rokem

    Wow, I can say I’ve never gone back

  • @SelenaMarie.
    @SelenaMarie. Před 2 lety

    Hi, besties… 🤗 Sorry, I’ve missed the meet && greet!! Wish I could celebrate my 40th birthday with you… ILYSM!! 🥰

  • @tiffanyranis2081
    @tiffanyranis2081 Před 2 lety

    Will the live episodes also be uploaded to the channel??

  • @Bronnybronny
    @Bronnybronny Před rokem

    I loveeeeeee Mongolian food omg

  • @angelinamercado5200
    @angelinamercado5200 Před 2 lety +2

    Do you guys watch Euphoria? If so you guys should discuss episodes weekly!

  • @amberspade15
    @amberspade15 Před 2 lety

    YAY!!👏🏽💗

  • @simplycollegeguru1428
    @simplycollegeguru1428 Před 2 lety +1

    Lol, they went to Lauren’s boyfriends birthday dinner. Guilty for listening to both podcasts. 🤣 poor Cal.

  • @gabriellaangelone3587
    @gabriellaangelone3587 Před 2 lety +1

    I need Asypyn on this podcast

  • @Harshdylan
    @Harshdylan Před 2 lety +1

    Steph watching when remi says coves her favorite baby 👁👄👁