8 Psychology Tricks That Make People Obsessed With You
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In today’s video you’ll learn 8 habits that make people love being around you.
With examples from a celebrity that seems almost universally loved: Pedro Pascal.
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0:00 - Intro
0:07 - #1: Endearing embarrassment
0:59 - #2: Play laugh tag
1:54 - #3: Speak in hyperbole
2:40 - #4: The fake narcissist joke
3:47 - #5: Say this out loud
4:10 - #6: Pass the conversational spotlight
5:01 - #7: Use a hook that builds curiousity
5:54 - #8: Use go to stories
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I think it just comes down to "everyone loves being around happy people" and happiness comes from not taking yourself too seriously
That surely helps a lot. Being around someone who is always negative and down can be so draining. Happy energy begets happy energy.
Trust me, I feel like I’m a happy fun person, but sometimes don’t say the things that will bond-just not great at this. I need help with these things….why I subscribed
@@LollieVox......................Absolutely! These are natural traits that some people possess that manifest genuinely! One can pretend or actually feel and act happy all the time, but the feeling doesn’t always become contagious, it may seem forced at times and have the total opposite effect! Them peoples are the lucky ones!
I mean, Pedro is considered a total heartthrob, ranking along with the best, and yet, he is not particularly handsome, at least not by current general standards (my opinion only as well), but he has such a contagiously magnetic personality that he achieves such a status with little effort. Now he has a ton of sincere humility and that benefits his personality enormously!
But there’s yet hope for the likes of us (sorry, I don’t know anything about you, I’m just going by what you said, in any case, I’m speaking mainly about myself), it is possible to learn and acquire these traits to the point that they become natural, it just takes a lot of practice and hard work. This channel is a good start I suppose. Charisma on Command is my favorite channel for learning this type of skills, they have tons of videos ranging from an endless supply of subjects regarding charisma and positive/magnetic personality traits!
Disclaimer: I swear that I am not affiliated with the channel in any manner, nor am I attempting to promote or advertise anything that they might offer... seriously! Just a big fan! And I talk a lot garbage too!
which is kind of ironic, though it does make sense. we like being around people who make us laugh or feel good about ourselves. but if one is depressed, has low self-esteem or is unfriendly, that may make people avoid them. which, in turn, could make them feel more lonely and/or cynical.
This right here. Introverts like myself struggle with this, not because we're too serious, but that social anxiety kicks in, and everything we want to share that makes us happy, seems silly and we close up. It just takes us a little longer to open up to folks.
Years ago I realized how often I thought positive things about people but NEVER spoke them. I later made the New Year’s resolution to “never withhold a compliment”. If I thought something positive about anyone be it a stranger or someone I knew I would approach them, text them, whatever and tell them the compliment. It made a HUGE difference in my own life and hope in the lives of others.
Won't read all that lil bro
It's nice to be nice
I do this as well
very nice
This is very good. I try to do this when I can, but I don't do it every time, which I regret. Another thing I try to do is compliment a person's outfit, hairstyle or makeup, since they most likely put in some effort to create the ensemble.
This video should be named “Why everyone loves and is obsessed with Pedro Pascal” 😂❤
This is the comment I was looking for. Thank you 😊
A scientific approach to a very obvious obsession. haahha
I feel like there’s a subtle line between laughing at yourself and humiliating yourself in terms of comedy. A lot of humor has gone into joking “how fragile my mental health is”, which can be coping, but long-term can actually be self-berating. Pedro laughing at himself is still a self-recognition & acknowledgement that he’s funny (which he naturally is!) He hasn’t put himself down, which might also contribute to him being such a happy person.
I've got PTSD and one of the big reasons I watch this channel is to help with that interpersonal issue. Sometimes I watch a video like this and go "Huh. I've been doing something right" and it perks up my day. Thanks again!
You are trying your best, and that in itself is doing it right!
hope it goes well
🤣🤣🤣
i have ptsd too and i have been trying to get sociable again, like myself when i was 13. now 25, we can do this :)
I’m not sure that you are. Victim mentality only creates a bond with like-minded people. Nobody enjoys the company of eternal victims except for other eternal victims. Once you can drop that and start living your full life, not based in some bad experience, a whole beautiful world with wonderful people opens up. Scary af, I know, but so worth it. I don’t care how bad it was, step away from the PTSD label and live your life. You are somewhat open to that or you wouldn’t have been watching this video. It is really worth it.
Watching this reminds me of the last time I tried a narcissist joke but it fell apart in the dumbest way possible. I was with a group of friends and were discussing about sorting out something. I gave a pretty good suggestion and everyone was like "whoa" and one was like damn that's clever. I wanted to go like something like "Yes, of course, I'm smart" along that line. But what came out instead was..."Ha! ...*mind went blank and couldn't form the words I wanted to say* Me...smarts!" I caught myself after saying it so my face was like WTF. Everyone's reaction was like wot before laughing their asses off. A friend remarked "Man...I was looking at you in a moment of awe then you turned into a bloody caveman."
I'd Say that worked better 😂
Me laughing 😂
But see? That worked. You went completely the opposite, and without meaning to, so it came out naturally. That's good humor.
That worked very well for you, I'd say.
Also, I think this video gets the whole "narcissist joke" thing wrong, because it's assumed that Pedro Pascal or other actors aren't narcissists. They are, and they're not joking. They're just delivering their narcissism in a way that they've learned keeps people around them.
@@G360LIVE nah fam
I feel like people are drawn to an individual who's genuinely charming, not the superficial kind. Someome who has a wicked sense of humour/wit, empathy, and treats others really well. Just an all round positive, interesting kind of vibe. People love that. Confidence is huge too.
Thanks for your continuous love and support. ❤️it's my motivation
For how long have you been a fan of mine?
The main reason people love Pedro is that he’s wildly successful and famous at the moment. The same thing happened to Robert Downy Junior a few years back. Sure they have social skills, but the success puts everything they say/do on an amazing pedestal that’s hard to replicate if you’re not at that point.
I would say it's the other way around... he is wildly successful and famous because people love him. It's his charisma, nature and social skills that got him to that point. That's what brings success. (Along with great talent, of course!)
Yeah I agree. He’s the it guy at the moment.
He's definitely universally loved because of who he is. There are a lot of girls that have a crush on him including my sister.
I haven't seen the show or him before this video and I am instantly drawn to his personality
I really like Pedro too, don’t get me wrong, I’m saying fame/fortune is like steroids for charisma. Imagine him broke and divorced because he smacked his wife once no custody of his kids living in his buddy’s trailer’s spare room with no job or car horrible credit and felony DUI charges keeping him from getting a good job. Sure he’s nice and all but success changes people’s perception.
This is one of the best charisma breakdowns in a long time
No, it really isn't
@@StrainATP then what’s better?
indeed
@@the_boss2194 literally anything else
I always laugh at myself first, when somebody’s teasing me in public. It’s an interesting phenomenon that happens to me. I feel like I split from the personality that they’re making fun of, and I join their group and laugh together with them about that aspect of me as a separate entity. It really does work in making people like you a LOT.
One of my mottos is, "if you have something nice to say, say it!"
It's amazing how many people who you think are incredibly cool don't believe that about themselves. Everytime I tell someone something nice that I think is obvious and wouldn't mean anything from me, they're very flattered and touched.
Endearing embarrassment- laugh at myself first
Play laugh tag - touch people when laughing together; calibrate it
Speak in hyperbole - exaggerate
Fake narcissist joke - go over the top after I establish myself as someone that lifts other up
Pass the conversational spot - bounce back the question after I answer
Use a huck that bring in curiosity - surprise positive turn; i dont know if I should share this
This guy spend so much time to read people actions. I really like all his videos.
Confidence is like Show up in every single moment like you’re meant to be there.
This whole channel can be summarized:
Have sense of humor, be interested in other people and be kind toward others. Simply put... be a good person without ego issues.
The man also has the brightest smile which is so contagious. Love him! Excited to see more of his career.
I love the impact you've had with people who struggle with the ever shifting nuanced( be it setting, personal dynamic or merely timing) of sociological interaction! I subconsciously abide by a whole lot of these techniques and I still have aspects I can learn. Seeing how others utilize similar communication tactics as well as what they are called makes me aware that I as skilled as I am I still can benefits and progress. Inarguably, if you practice what this channel is informing you of without being overbearing, you will be just grand!
Post Script, A piece of my own advice would be to never try too hard. It can come off as desperate or try-hard(whether it be romantically or to a random person/friend. Do your best to enjoy these interaction in order to HAVE FUN!! That's the end result and objective. If you read my whole diatribe, thanks sooo much and you got this ❤🎉
Practice, learn, repeat.
Post Post script people are complicated and bizarre but not nearly as much as people think. ❤
Good luck, you got this!
I love his way of taking complicated mathematical science and explain it in such a vividly visual way!
Can you make one about how to talk to boring people? All the skills you teach feel natural to me AS LONG as I click with the other person, making most first dates and conversations at work a stressful hell (I freeze). It's also hard to get to know people, because I avoid talking to them after the boring conversation, although we might click if we had spent more time together! Thanks!
my advice is treat everyone like your best friend, even if they arent and even if you dont REALLY want to, it makes life so much more fun and when you give people the opportunity to really open up and share - you might make some new connections!
@@saylahvee This^^ I’m not naturally a conversation-leader, but when the other person is even more socially anxious/shy than me, I somehow turn into one. After I start leading the convo by asking questions, cracking jokes, laughing, etc., then I notice they usually start to visibly relax. Convo flows easier from there
Humor is the great healer and people-connector. Smiling a lot works, too. Smiles are welcoming. When you see people you know, light up and that will light them up, too. When I see my friends I immediately want to let them know I’m thrilled to see them.
I fall in love with Pedro Pascal for his personality (from what i saw from tiktok edits and vids from youtube) then i watch almost everything he's in it now just to see him speaking or simply breathing.
one of the best video from Charism , covered almost all aspects and broke them down so well. Thank You
I'm actually so happy that I'm genuinely the same type of person as Pedro personality wise, but im also half chilean from my father so I feel like im on top of the world with how naturally charismatic I am to Pedro pascal whether he was famous or not hahah
This was really helpful. I would definitely apply it into my life. Thanks for providing these valuable videos.
I have a few comments for those watching. If you are using the "I don't think I should tell you this" hook, be sure to commit to the story you are telling afterward. Tell the story with confidence. Remember that people often rely on cues from you on how to feel about you, so use that hook before a story you are genuinely comfortable sharing. Otherwise, you are cueing them to feel a bit ashamed for listening. If you actually don't want to share something, people will sense that, and you will deliver the story in a way that does not convey confidence, making others uncomfortable because you seem uncomfortable.
He laughs a lot, but there's a complexity to him...and also he's just so damn nice to look at.
i wouldn't be surprised if celebrities are learning from this channel
Another American celebrity meatrider 🤡
6:58 "Now, if you've made it this far into the video, you PROBABLY wanna make a stronger, more positive connection with people and make better relationships." The unspoken part there was, "OR, you're one of those people on Instagram who things Pedro is a heart-throb."
I’m definitely gonna try using these tricks someday. I’m usually a shy and introverted person so it’s hard for me to talk to people in person, especially if there’s people I’ve never met.
Ben I've noticed you've been working on your vocal range in the narrations! Love it!
Thank you for everything, keep it up bros, God bless you and everyone you care about
I was wary going into this video because I’ve never seen a charisma on command vid without the main man (I should really know his name for how much he’s helped me), but you were awesome! I hope to see you in more vids in the future!
Raise your hand if you've been watching Charisma for a long time🤚
Stick to gaming baby bro
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i added a touch at work, and now i got a meeting with HR
Having to remember stories when my brain doesn’t work like that, doesn’t sound fun. However, I love your videos snd I still agree that having good stories on standby seems useful
Brilliantly done lads. 👏👏👏👏
Wow this video made me realize I’m doing something right and this is why people enjoy my company. Having bpd can make me feel like I’m too much but I have a good personality and that’s what makes me so beautiful!
Thanks for your continuous love and support. ❤️it's my motivation
For how long have you been a fan of mine?
Charisma on Command is the most informative and entertaining channel on CZcams. Fact. Thanks for the work you do in sharing these topical gems of wisdom
Thanks for your continuous love and support. ❤️it's my motivation
For how long have you been a fan of mine?
loved all of the tips
The most important lesson you can learn from this video, and others like it; You're fine the way you are. If you want to improve yourself and your conversational skills, that's awesome. This is a great place for it. But, you're great how you are. It's not about changing yourself to make others like you, it's about finding the people who like who you ALREADY are.
Pedro is a natural ❤
I love your channel! My only regret is that I didn't find it years ago!
The only man with a mustache I can't get enough of!
Thank you 😊 you all are awesome !🎉 😊
I didn’t even connect both Pedro and the girl in game of thrones with the last of us. That’s something I learnt from this video, as well as a few useful tips.
informative video, thanks
My friends always say that I don’t need to deliver jokes, my embarrassing moments is enough to make them smile. I always say words that makes them laugh even if I don’t intend to be funny..and yeah.. touching is true.. I have the same mannerisms like Pedro😂😂😂
glad to say that this is already part of my personality traits
perfect timing
Great content, ty
Mark, this is your best video yet 🫡
Idk what's about him but the RDJ bit was the best part of this video. not that the viddeo is bad but he is so good that a small clip can make a big dent if it has RDJ
Laugh tag only works if something else makes you desirable. It doesn't work just for everyone. You still need some status to pull it off.
Very interesting examples
Pls make more videos about Pedro ! This is really interesting to me 💜
This I’ve felt before. The touch helps in making bonds deeper and increases trust, camaraderie. But to this level I didn’t know. That’s one confident person right there. However I still don’t remember where he acted though. 😂
Thanks for your continuous love and support. ❤️it's my motivation
For how long have you been a fan of mine?
this guy should totally make a podcast
I guess this helps but I believe our narrator swoon over Pedro which obviously best thing of this video 😂😂🎉🎉
This is amazing
Extremely well done, thank you so much. Love that Pascal looks like a normal guy too.
great video
mi amor!!! I love Pedro so much!!!!! He is absolutely the best!!!❤😍🥰💖💖
I didn't feel like learning about this but couldn't turn away from Pedro's charm. Good trick
Not sure if that like was for the video, or for Pedro... In other words: Great example used 👌
I learned from this channel that most actors seem to be happy
So basically vote for Pedro
Pedro! where can I get that shirt/ I have been looking all over. I love it. Can anyone tell me what or what brand it is? Thanks!
Eddie Murphy as Axel Foley is a master at this.
Pedro trying to burrow his head into Oscar Isaac’s shoulder was so cute!
Hey, I love your videos! Could you make one on how to avoid appearing like a know-it-all?
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
Hello from Belarus, just imagine you guys doing such cool staff
that in my country we watch your videos instead of lectures in real university
Oh wow, that's amazing. No wonder though, their videos are very well made. Peace upon you, Roman!
"you can turn embarassing moments to charismatic ones by laughing"
Sadly this doesnt work 100% of the time
Correct. Sometimes, laughing during an embarrassing moment can make it even more embarrassing. What I do, rather than just laughing and maybe looking like a crazy person, is point out how embarrassing that moment was, and I do it with a playful facial expression like an eye roll or a head droop. When you recognize the embarrassment, it can make the people around you relate to you, because they have embarrassing moments too, and they'll be playful in return to try to help you feel better about it.
But 90% percent of the time it works every time.
@@G360LIVE Yeah sometimes you just have to own the shame. I sometimes do the "I love Lucy" ehhhhhhh sound and face she makes.
"The intelligent one will never fall for mind games" ⚡
😂😂😂.. nice content
love this channel so much genuinely, quick question tho for the comment surfers out there. anyone else autistic and literally watches this channel to learn how to make conversation with people and be more likable in general bc the "normal" ways of integrating with people doesn't come naturally to you? no? just me? cool, well have a wonderful day yall! lmao
I feel like I do all of these naturally which I’ve never said in my life. ‘Naturally’ I’ve been watching these videos forever… maybe that’s saying something:)
Pedro and Boyd though ❤ miss my Narcos bros
my best line when people ask where I was born "I was adopted. Either to be a spy or probably adopted as the accidently child"
Gets people laughing everytime lol
finally, pedro pascal!!!!
She : did you cheat on me?
Me : yes I did..*starts laughing*
I never be boring in conversations because I’m never in one 💪🏽
Ahhh smart. Can't believe it's not on here.
Nice video 😂
i’ve seen physical touch helps but i hate when people touch me and i personally don’t like touching people because i respect their space
Pedrito Pascal ❤
Hi, Charlie. My name is Nikita and I am from the North. I've got an idea for you that you're going to like: do a self-dissection. From where? Like from your podcasts or from Improv & Dragons. I think that would be interesting. Sorry for my English, but if I said it wrong, let me clarify: My idea is that you create a video where you take apart the charisma of Charlie Houpert. I hope you like this idea. I will be very happy to get your feedback. Thank you)
I love Pedro!
Thanks for your continuous love and support. ❤️it's my motivation
For how long have you been a fan of mine?
@@Mrfirst_Fml about 10 years! Gave me goosebumbs “I will be your champion”!
Its a nice, rare day when i find out im interacting with people correctly
First time I know of Pedro
And the truth is either you have this or you don't. Perdo hasnt learned this via a class some people just know all of this without even knowing they know. Which makes it more authentic cause you know it's natural.
Glad you used Pascal. For once an actor who isn't built like a Greek god that we can actually emulate.
You forgot to show all the positive comments of the members of Charisma University.
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5:05 What move is that from with bill burr?
That first clip of him lmao
One thing I like about using a joke over again is you get better at timing
(1:08) Yeah, RIGHT.
can you make a video on family leadership please 🙏🏻 love from Pakistan ❤❤
Dr. Jordan Peterson dekh lein
The thing is u think I came here to know how NOT to be boring but in reality I came here to watch more of Pedro Pascal..
We are not the same.
I think you should make a video on Daemon Targaryan from House of the Dragon
I do like half of this naturally yet still feel isolated