The Formula For Extreme Confidence
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The number one regret of people who are dying is "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
So let’s spend this video going through how you can do just that.
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0:00 - Intro
1:00 - #1: Find your fire
2:25 - #2: Create an inner circle
3:10 - #3: Decide your core values
4:47 - #4: Leave the validation casino
7:09 - #5: Self acceptance
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"if you live by people's praise, you'll die by their criticism" - Bill Johnson
Exactly... Need some help regarding one thing ..
How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."*
How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
This is so trueee
@@Unknown-us5gc 📌 *REALITY OF ALLAH*
⚠️ *WARINING* ⚠️
🎊 *HUMOUR ALERT*
*ALLAH IS AN ABUSER BECAUSE HE SAYS:*
*ALL PRAISES ARE FOR ME*
*IF YOU LOST IN A WAR, ITS YOUR MISTAKE*
*IF YOU WIN, THEN ALL THE CREDIT OF YOUR VICTORY BELONGS TO ME*
*MY ENEMY SHOULD BE YOUR ENEMY* (EVEN IF HE IS KIND AND SINCERE TO YOU)
*THOSE WHO REFUSE TO SUBMIT TO ME ARE THE WORST OF "MY" CREATIONS; HOWEVER, I AM THE BEST OF CREATORS, Oops I FORGOT, THE ONLY CREATOR*
*KEEP FIGHTING TILL EVERYONE SUBMITS TO ME*
*DON'T BE UNGRATEFUL TO ME*
*DON'T GET DECEIVED BY THE WORLDLY CHARMS, ONLY LOVE ME EVEN THOUGH I AM THE BEST OF DECEIVERS*
*I WILL GIVE YOU MORE ONLY IF YOU THANK ME*
*I AM THE ONE WHO KNOWS THE BEST BUT YOU CAN'T QUESTION ME*
*YOU ARE MY SLAVE*
*FIGHT FOR ME AND DIE FOR ME*
*I LOVE YOU MORE THAN 72 MOTHERS (EVEN THOUGH A LOVING MOTHER NEVER CALLS/MAKES HER SON HER SLAVE)*
*IF YOU EVER DECIDED TO LEAVE ME, I WILL KILL YOU*
*THOUGH THERE IS NO COMPULSION IN RELIGION*
I just realized that by the beginning of the video
@@_EGM_ Yes. Its true.
When people think bad about you or say bad things about you is, for the most part, is a reflection of how they feel about themselves
Not always. If the person being talked about is a terrible human being, then the problem is them. Not everything is some convoluted, psychological projection.
@@Nmdixon-cu7vm Yes I understand that, but for a lot of situations this is the case, I understand sometimes people are just jerks, just like my coworkers who don’t like me, but I understand your point.
agreed
This is so true. A few years ago hearing someone said something bad about me. Made me feel aweful. Like it shook me. But now that I get this. If I know it's untrue or just to be unkind. I genuinely look at that person and think. How sad must your life be that you think that. Or have time to think that about me. Changes everything. Its freeing
@@hollynelson2626 Exactly like how sad do you have to be to talk bad about other people for no reason
A wise man once said “it’s none of my business what other people think of me”
... "As long as it doesn't Physically affect my Life or the Life of my Child" a Wise Man added.
Definitely a good way to look at it.
Amen
Marcus Aurelius
@@nevermindmyname9153 your addition was irrelevant. what does it have to do with the original message? I agree with the originall message completely
I haven't joined the program but i must say, this channel has been a huge part of my growth in the past two years. I'd always been someone who was looking to learn and grow. Having grown up with crippling (and I mean Crippling) social anxiety, I was always forcing myself outside of my comfort zone with karaoke, door-to-door sales, public speaking and more so that by the time I was about 20 I'd gotten myself to a point of just being shy instead of completely incapable to speaking to anyone new and having constant panic attacks. Then I discovered this channel a couple years ago, met a supportive girl and worked my way up at my job and now I walk into parties and bars like I'm already everyones best friend 😅 it feels great to have this much progress and I can't express enough how amazing the free content alone is from you guys!
When the world needed him most he vanished
he'll be back
Who
What happened why aren't they uploading?
he's not the hero we deserve but the hero we need
@@chaitanyavasamsetti8177he*
What happened to this channel? Charlie we need more! Thanks for everything.
Same. I still recommend it to people.
I think it's just Ben now. Him and Charlie had a falling out of sorts and Charlie left the channel in Ben's hands, I believe
@@ArchIVEDCinema then the channel is left to perish in the wastes of the internet archives. Who knows what's to come of these marvelous machinations.
The channel went downhill. Back when Game of Thrones was at it's peak Charlie's breakdown of characters and their behavior felt like watching previously unseen footage of Game of Thrones. This channel went from breaking down famous people and their charisma into quick cookie cutter tips.
@@ArchIVEDCinema damn they gotta watch their own videos
My key takeaways:
- Reframe the question "How to stop thinking about what other people think of you?" to "How do I not let other people's opinions stop me?".
- You should have something more important to care about. What would be your ideal life?
- Have a set of core values, such as honesty, and promise yourself to not break them, even if it's bad for you in the short-term.
- You are not going to like everyone. You should aim to be liked by, at most, your inner circle, but ideally just yourself.
- Leave the validation casino. Don't rely your happiness or unhappiness on people you don't care about.
- Other people's judgments affect you, because you think a hint of it, it's true. They can't make you feel shame, they can only trigger you to feel it. That's why you should fully accept yourself.
- Use the best friend friend trick.
- "You can't get where you want to go, until you accept where you are".
nice
OK: How to put your self-opinion above all other opinions.
Better: How to Become Dominant
"What other people think of you I none of your business. "
The biggest confidence game changer is progress and achievement towards the things you value.
Once you are living your dream and pursuing it, you care 10x less.
100% - if you have a passion for career or such and see success in it, all else kinda falls short of what matters to it.
@@f4llenstarr exactly. Most people have barely any confidence because they are living inauthentically - the dreams of society, not theirs
Spot on ❤
@@RussellClausse I am suffering from low confidence while dealing with bullies..
How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."*
How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
Help me... Please reply
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob it depends, what happens if you refuse, saying that it's not for me?
since you're saying the word "diffuse" i assume it gets quite confrontational and perhaps even violent.
any way you can get help from somebody or avoid this person completely?
1. Find your fire
2. Create an inner circle
3. Decide your core values
4. Leave the validation casino
5. Self-acceptance
Need some help as I am suffering from low confidence..
How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."*
How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob I think the real question you're dealing with is, what do I hate about myself so much that turned me into an online troll, and how do I fix that so I get satisfaction in areas of life that doesn't depend on hurting other people. Good luck with your self improvement journey!
@@Vivi_9 Yes.. A kind of like that...
You are so experienced... You just reached the depth of my comment... Fantastic... !
Anyway... If I answered them like this "I am not interested"
👳 Why you aren't interested?
🕵Because its a waste of time for me.
👳 How dare you called going to mosque as a waste of time for you?
What will I reply....
Also what would ypu have replied if they said. " Is that the arrogance you have towards Allah?"
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob I think you can defuse the situation the same way with any proposition you aren't interested in: "I appreciate your enthusiasm, but I have already made my decisions about this. Have a nice day." Respectful, but firm. No value judgments, simply letting them know that you are not vulnerable to their pitch and you are now choosing to move on with your life.
Then--here's the important part--DO move forward. Keep walking, head held high, eyes straight ahead. You are silently communicating as your stride matches your words.
@@WynneL Also another thing......
How can a non Muzlim🐬🏵 (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim👳 if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Accept islam otherwise Allah will throw you in hell."*
How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
Also sometimes they say this sentence..
*"is that the level of arrogance you have with Allah?"*
How to respond to these mean statements from them?
The self-flagellation certainly makes every step 100x harder. This video came at the perfect time. Thank you 🙏🏼
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Thank you. I've been living in a nightmare, being judged by other people for as long as I know. This video really made me change my view on the entire world.
Just wanted to thank you for your role in my personal development.❤
I think as long as the people you like, like you, you're doing something right, but true about the tip of not letting that necessarily limit you.
Thank you alot brother, you are a blessing to not only mine, but millions of people. May God bless you ❤✝️
This had a lot of really good points. One of the best videos on this topic.
always loving your work, your contents are a game changer for anyone who looks for growth in personality❤
Most of the people in my life don’t know this, but I didn’t have friends during my middle school. I was completely alone for years, and struggled to make friends even later in life because of my terrible social skills. Then I ran into this channel years ago, and it helped me become a better leader, friend and sister and aunt. I created relationships, and help so many people I can support with what I learned from you.
Your channel is a huge part of what made me who I am today, and I can’t even describe how thankful I am to you for that. Yet I still want to write you - thank you so much, because of you, I can smile ❤️
Hey miss these videos.
Hope you are doing well mate
And hope to hearing something form you or your team
Waiting and cheering you all on
Thank you so much for your videos, they are life changing!❤
Absolutely beautiful video, guys. Just what i needed to hear.
It's been 4 months and still no word, I don't deserve it...
I know you got my last two letters I wrote the addresses on them perfect!
So this is my comment I hope you read it.
If you post new content I'll watch the bit.
Any new videos coming up? Miss watching your content man...
For real it’s the best motivatio
Charlie has a podcast. Dropping in podcast
@@abrilcb5749 whats the podçcasts name?
Damn that last point hit home. My therapist has been telling me about self acceptance because I haven’t accepted my anxiety/perfectionist self 😅
Self acceptance isn't always an easy thing, and if it was - there probably would be too much peace and not adequate progress. And often times, self-esteem; which is similar to self acceptance is meant to be a barrier to shield us from harm or danger, and is often interchangeable. But I suppose it depends on the situation.
Really miss your videos one of the few channels on CZcams I actually looked forward to seeing new posts!
So beneficial... I feel like this is what should be taught at school
What a great video! It is evident that this was well thought out.
Thanks to the videos, I have finally developed the courage to become what I truly am, and I find that I resemble God Of War's Brok in many ways. I am very brutally honest, I speak what's on my mind with no filter, and I am not bothered if I have to pay consequences for it. If something is good, I'll say it is good, if something is bad, I'll say it is bad. And I have developed more friends than enemies this way.
Thank you command on charisma ❤❤❤
5:41 Dropping bars man. Only way I was truly able to find peace and happiness within myself was through fasting. Took me years to figure that out and have a consistent energy level💁🏽♂️
Thank you. I needed this.
Thank you so very much for this! 🙏💞
good quality video, keep up the original content
Video is like made for me, thanks a lot guys! Pure gold!
Same 💯
I truly needed this thank u❤
We all did.
Thank you charisma on command ❤
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Thanks for this video.
Easier said than done, but I keep trying!
Just discovered this channel! Loveeeee it
Perfectly timed
The clip in the elevator from "Mad Men" says it all.
Michael Ginsberg: "I feel bad for you."
Don Draper: " I don't think about you at all."
We need a video on Neal Caffrey from White Collar, the most charismatic character of all time
I don't know about other people, but i'm 34 and all these inner demons and doubts i feel like i don't have them on my own, but my parents make an effort to remind me to instal these flaws to "self regulate". The feeling of not being as good as others or not deserving of something or to bash yourself is to fuel improvement as other examples... I know it's taboo to blame the parents for your weaknesses, but i trully feel that i am a "perfect" healthy human by myself before their active meddling.
I.. have had these thoughts before
This video is life changing!
Yep
Why did Charisma on Command stop making videos??
This video change my totally mindset
Thank you!
Nice one with good text presentations🎉
Can you do a breakdown on the characters from Friends and their personalities? Would be interesting to hear your thoughts!
Thanks a lot 🙏❤
Thanks ❤
We miss your videos!!!!
Read "The subtle art of not giving a Fu** " by Mark Manson. One of the best books
I’d like your analysis of The Breakfast Clubs interview with Vivek Ramaswamy.
It’s a very fast paced back and forth with so much material to unravel between him and the female Q&A.
Where did they go?!
It's been awhile since I've watched your channel but I dropped by to say this: ever since I watched your videos on body language, behavior, correct speech, I have been a wreck. I've become so hyper vigilant of everything I do down to how I speak, posture, eye contact, everything, trying to do what you say in these videos I just can't relax and be myself anymore. Every ounce of my behavior has to be micromanaged now. I'm hyper aware of myself and every imperfection that's there and it's hell
because you must not force yourself to become like said in the video, it must become an habit which means that it takes time. You can't change everything in one day, just take your time
That’s called anxiety. I agree to some extent that watching videos like these can negatively affect you if your goal is to become socially accepted.
However if you use it as a tool to improve certain parts of your personality. It can be extremely helpful. It’s more information on how you can act if you want to be more open, genuine and confident in yourself. Not to affect others
If you're having these issues, I suggest just forgetting all the tips they give. A lot of these tips focus on communication skills, but the most important thing, just like they often talk about, is really just relaxing and being genuine. So, not micromanaging everything you do will probably make you more charismatic than being so hypervigilant - even if you are not applying all their tips. To improve, you must first accept yourself. It sounds paradoxical, but think about it this way: to improve who you are, you need to first know who you are. Otherwise, you won't really be improving who you are, you'll just try to be someone you aren't. Remember that you're imperfect and you will always be. However, you shouldn't ever think you are not enough because of that. No one is perfect, and I don't think you hold anyone else to that standard, so don't hold that standard to yourself. I know that everything I'm talking about is easier said than done, it's close to telling someone who's depressed "just be happier", but sometimes I find that I need to be reminded of everything I just said, and hearing it helps and motivates me just a little, I'm hoping it helps you too, however slightly it may be.
If that really continues to be an issue, then just seek professional help if you have to. I know there's still a stigma about that but it makes no sense to hold a stigma against trying to feel better, and seeking the help of someone qualified for that.
Thanks!
Why has this Chanel stopped posting? This video was uploaded 4 months ago.
Charlie has a podcast. Dropping in podcast
Who needs personality when you got youtube videos to watch on your own... in the cold and dark...
This was brilliant, thank you.
Please advise me about what are the best dialogues to use.
How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."*
How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob "I am happy for you that you have found your spirituality, but I too have a spirituality which is different," and then smile. And in "Pentimento," Lillian Hellman said she finds spirituality in all places. You do not have to be forced into anything. You have your own feeling and beliefs,
@@melindaaimeeroth5580 But how will we respond to diffuse the situation... Please tell me some dialogues.... You seem to be very intelligent... I am fond of your response..
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob No one should be pressuring you to be anything except what you yourself think and believe-Christian, Moslem, Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist atheist, deist, or agnostic. . . have you read "The Pit and the Pendulum," by Edgar Allan Poe when the narrator asks what proof is there of God, and the prisoner thinks that when humans dream they dream of loved ones who are deceased and that is our proof of God. Every human has a theory of an Afterlife, because this is a very difficult life because we humans leave at different times. The most important thing is that the humans respect other people's theories as long as they are not committing violent crimes. Don't worry what other people think. You have your beliefs and you are important and entitled to that. Smile and say, "We can agree to disagree."
@@melindaaimeeroth5580 Absolutely correct... I don't worry what other people think... I just worry about what extremists think because such a situation gets quite confrontational and I am afraid of their violent behavior...
You know na that anger and anxiety kills spirituality..?
Actually I am an exmuslim and I am sick of hearing the word "Allah"... I also wana get rid of Allah how can I do that with spiritual support....
Also I had a dream in which i saw that I am entering somewhere by a gate and the word Jehova is written on a board above it... It felt so calming in the dream... But, I don't know the spiritual meaning of the dream..
I Support This.
TOP G!!❤
Top Grifter!
Thank you❗️💥😊👍
Where have y’all been?
I feel like they were probably discouraged from everyone’s overreaction of using Andrew Tate as an example. You don’t have to be a great role model to learn from someone.
Charlie has a podcast. Dropping in podcast
Thank you
Thanks for the video Ben :) You provide a lot of value. How much of this video reflects your personal experiences? Charlie spoke about his feelings of co-dependence on you and you stopped hanging out. Hope the two of you are doing well!
some hot internet tea being spilled here
Know thyself. Decision is the ultimate power.
Brother please help me..
How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."*
How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
thank you
Hey man no videos long time
Apparently the best formula for extreme confidence is to watch a lot of clips of actors in Hollywood movies.
❤there's no embarrassement in struggle🤔🤔🤔💯🎯🍓🌶🌞
I don't care so much about what people think; but, I do care very much about what those thoughts propel them to do against me.
Furthermore, when they make their thoughts known to others and those people also take the actions against me.
The edit was amazing iam impressed your presentation in youtube video. so, please tell me how you edit your video?
When will you be uploading next?
Excellent
The point, I liked most was, " Behave kindly to others but ignore the the discriminatory things which they tell about you and your passion"
Just came to your most recent video to say that you guys should take a look at Action Bronson, not like you should do a video on him or anything like that, but I think he is extremely good at meshing with all sorts of people. When I think of a charismatic person he's the first person that comes to mind for me.
When I'm worrying about others opinions it can make me take comments with negative intent. So I gotta snap myself outta that.
Can you do a video on Travis Kelce? Very charismatic guy!
I struggle with the part of, someone saying something and you slightly believe it.
Although this has been carved in my brain from bullying and such.
I am a great person with strong values and workmanship, I strive for the best in life and have taken away the bad/toxic/negative things away from me. But when someone says something to me it's like I want to prove them wrong.
Any advice on combatting this? Just self acceptance/validation is it?
Amazing content...Just wondering (and i would appreciate a reply from anyone if you know this), but where do you get the clips from movies for your videos, and can you get them for free without copyright?
Where is the new content!
Yo mamas azz
Hey everything alright? It's been awhile since your last video
You guys should do an analysis on Miami dolphins head coach Mike McDaniel. I find him to be a charismatic individual that’s not an actor or celebrity. Especially in a job position that doesn’t really have the most charismatic people.
Yes
The truth is no one actually does care about what you do or think, they may for a few moments but they will quickly forget and move on with their day
If you check all the boxes but still feel sad, then your are not really checking all the boxes.
Be honest to your self, it helped me too
Will you please help me a little...
How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."*
How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
One caveat with the letting other people make you happy/unhappy part is only about external validation. You can let people make you feel happy/unhappy by caring for them. For example; I love my mom, she goes through depressive periods, every time I see her like that makes me feel unhappy. That's not because I care what she thinks or care what I think about her but because I care about her happiness.
And the 'they can't grow because they can't admit to themselves they need to grow' part is really contradicting. If I hate myself because I feel like I'm not good enough then I'm already admitting I need to grow. The mindset is toxic not because you don't have that realization but because you're in your own way by being too busy beating yourself up about it and won't even try because if you fail even in the slightest bit you've just proven that you're loser. Once someone feels like they will never get where they want to go it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So @charismaoncommand what is the 10/10 rule? It was in the thumbnail, but not in the video??
Please do a breakdown about Matthew Perry's humor. Thank you!
This video is me except the only person telling me I can't do things is myself
Very helpful advice. I do think it's telling that Tate proved his own words right not personally, but by how easily Greta Thunberg controlled *him* with dismissive amusement at his fronting on Twitter. This is a kid who's known for passionately ranting at politicians, displaying a tremendous amount of emotion--but she deemed him so far beneath her that her mocking was absolutely lowkey stuff, and he came across as the kid instead. Losing his cool like that was ultimately the reason he was collared by authorities. Should've taken his own advice.
I guess she knew her core values and self-validated better than her adult opponent. Age clearly doesn't govern personal strength. A valuable lesson.
Nonsense. Passionately ranting at politicians and showing emotions is not indicative of intelligence, but her resorting to body-shaming and amateur insult is rather indicative of her actual mental capability; that of a toddler groomed by her activist parents and serving as a puppet for politicians to push flawed policies. Her "core" values are rooted in naivety of a toddler and her only "strength" stemming from fallacious appeal to emotions.
Why did you stopped uploading?
Charlie has a podcast. Dropping in podcast
Plz come back
Where is Charlie??? No videos or anything in forever!
Live your life the way Mick Jagger dances.
"Extreme Confidence" is a sign of weakness actually; People who are really confident don't need to project it that persistently.
Also Confidence comes from self knowledge, so to be over confident or extremely confident contradicts the definition.
For example: if you are an electrician you will be confident with dealing with cables and electricity,
you can't be "over confident"
It's either that you know what cables that you are connecting or you don't, there is no room for over knowing or over conference.
A pro tip: Usually the most confident person in the room is the slowest in reaction to stimuli and responses and the least grandiose.
Because they really have nothing to prove.
Do a breakdown of Steve Irwin.
Does this channel still make videos
Charlie has a podcast. Dropping in podcast
@@abrilcb5749 thank you!!
Can you make a video about charismatic women? 🙏🏼
Most examples are about men. Would love to see a few examples of women!
Women don't need to be charismatic. If they're not ob*s*, they can get guys. It's that easy.
Great