6 Struggles Only Introverts Could Relate To
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- Are you an introvert? In the current society, there is a belief that being extroverted is required for success. Have you ever feel like an outsider because of this “belief”? There are many others just like you, who share your feelings and go through the same struggles. To prove this and hopefully help you feel better knowing that you are not alone, here are common struggles that only introverts can relate to.
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Who here is an introvert? Raise your hands up Oo.
Yeah- I am ✋
🖐
Meee
✋🏽
✋
Introverts have lot of things to speak but they are actually talkative around right people
Yaa true
I can relate I can only talk in front of two people from everyone I know, it’s really hard trying to find the right people to talk to.
@@asgharchpk yup🥺
Crct
I consider myself very introverted around people, but in class if I am very knowledgeable on a subject I'm usually very talkative about it.
Most annoying for me is people saying I should socialize more because it's "unhealthy " to be alone.
but I’m so happy being alone. by myself. No nobody humans I mean.. I just dont see the need or the health benefits
Tell them you have a cat and are fine
For real.. people around me dosen't understand introverts at all. Online people are way more understanding!
That’s an American problem
ikr thats so annoying like i am happy being an introvert
Being an introvert amd alone with your internet,books,games and pets is so much better than having surrounded with fake people
It is always us, introverts that wants to be alone but don't want to be lonely. Hates to be the center of attention but doesn't want to be ignored.
this pretty much is explains everything. exactly how I feel.
Freaking same
Ummmm I like when people ignore me because I can do anything without them interfering
I like being alone because it gives me peace and I can be myself without people judging me
My exact thoughts
It's definitely right. 💯
Introverts are not antisocial they're just selectively social..🙄😒
True 😎
So true..I am gonna quote this
Rightly said
I am happy you said the truth
Yhh and extro vets dont get it like my so called friends force me to talk to other unknown random people whom I dont even give a dam about 😑
Honestly the “Being forced to socialize with people I don’t have much in common with” part could just stop at “Being forced to socialize” and still be accurate 😂
Introverts are like cats, we socialize when we want to and with who we want to. If you don’t like that about introverts leave us alone, we prefer it anyway.
@@Sean_XT exactly and it’s awesome you used the cat analogy because I consider a cat my spirit animal 😂
I even hate those extended family reunuions
@@RebelHart9 I just realized that cats are like introverts, dogs are like extroverts, foxes are like a mix of cat and dog, and I heavily associate myself with foxes while being an ambivert
@@AlphaFX-kv4ud foxes are my favourite animal! They’re cat dogs 😂
One of the most hurtful things I’ve experienced as an introvert is the feeling that no matter where I am or who I’m with, I have to prove to people that I’m worth their time. It sucks, and there’s times when I feel like no matter what I do I’ll always fail that “test” so I’d rather do things on my own because I won’t disappoint anyone or be a drain.
You're exactly me🥺🥺
Felt everything you wrote. That's us, introverts. 🤝🏻
Yea I feel the same. 😢
yes, Yes, YES!
I can only be sociable in the workplace as colleagues have no option but to be there.
I can't attend social functions even with people I know well due to the feelings described by the OP!
I literally could not have said it better myself ❤
Introverts have lots of things to speak but they rarely find people who actually want depth in conversations.
Exactly
Fact
Facts
Oh gosh super fact lol
True!!!
I’m an introvert and I hate how society just acts like it’s a crime....
Like damn I’m sorry I’m that way...
The volume in this bus is astronomical.
Some became introverts due to the society itself. That's an infuriating reality
@@user-rp5or1ik5l agreed
When people behave this way I usually say
This is my personality I am sorry but no sorry
Society doesn’t seem to like different things
Ive found it as an introvert, we don’t want a “what’s the weather” it is more interesting to hear something like WHY is the weather. Long, deep conversations that you can just sink into and relate to are key 🔑
yeah- as a generalization, introverts tend to be deeper thinkers, so they find small talk very hard to navigate...
If anyone wants me to go away all they have to do is bring up the weather and I die of boredom. Or talk about decorations, celebrities or fashion. I rarely meet anyone that talks about anything worth breaking the nice silence for.
YES! We dont like small talk because its awkward, boring and kind of a waste of time. But i would be more interested in long conversations!
@@MatrixAdic I feel you. As an introvert, if you want me to run away from you or if you want me to ignore you like you don't exist, try small talk with me.
I heavily agree. When I’m texting friends, I tend to ask questions about things they’re talking about because I want to engage in a conversation with them, but because I’m always asking them things, I feel like I’m being stupid or annoying a lot of the time
What annoys me is people thinking we are being rude when we are just wanting to be left alone. I have finally stopped caring what others think and have embraced being introverted. Not everyone wants to talk or socialize so let them be without being mean to them.
I’m the type of introvert who will be shy, not talk, etc. But when I get comfortable with you. I won’t shut up. Ever.
Lol this is so relatable
Same,where are u from?
@@droidhelpingtech4893 I’m sorry but that’s private
@@just_kuroo6204 ok bro😊
In that case , stay away , far away..
Introverts on social distancing: “I’ve been preparing for this my whole life”
😂 Exactly my answer when asked how I'm doing. I'm doing great. If not for the death tolls and my compassion towards extroverts going nuts with themselves, I'd keep a lot of it!
Yes lol
Like a dream come true😌✨
Exactly😂
Lol. Introverts dream came true when lockdown came
The worst part about being a introvert is being forced to socialise with other people I am not in common with.
agreed
Have never enjoyed organized group activities, loathe "forced fun" events at work, and loved COVID lockdown. I'd been practicing for that my entire life!
😂😂
Me to I love learn more silent places without people disturbance
I understand COVID shutdown was heaven on earth 🌎❤
Someone asked me
"Dont you feel so alone living in your own world?"
I replied, "Dont you feel so small living in other people's world"
And dang her face expression changed bc she knew it was true.
True. 💯
We don't need to change ourselves for them to like us or to fit in, you can't push someone to change that easily to like them or to meet your standards because they were born that way, to be an introvert but sometimes introverts can socialize when they are with a good people or when they are with the people whom they're comfortable with.
Damn, that hits hard...
am a thinking introvert... tho i LOVE to stay alone and and like it when ppl respect privacy and leaving alone... i do like to just talk to a few friends... but truely I SHOULD SAY THIS WHEN ANOTHER PERSON ASKS...
That's...........deep🥺🥺🥺
wow, that's harsh. lol
The most annoying thing in introvert life
1.when someone visit our home those we don't known
2.people asking "why are you quiet ??"
3.people forcing us to speak
4.we don't find people to share our things(thoughts)
5.even if there are 10 people around us we always feel alone
6.parents forces us to talk to relatives in phone
7.people with us feel so bored and this hurts us
8.we have only few(1 or 2) friends
That's totally me 🙂
I somehow relate to all of this including the Only Friends I have (that too, Only Online )...that's creepy yo...
Same here also
No 4 so true...i really wanna talk to somebody for example about my fav anime or something like that😐😐
Yap yap
I have a few close friends but the friendship is deep. Extroverts tend to have loads of shallow relationships
What makes you think that
Extroverts talk alot
Which means they will reject negative people without second thought
Extroverts can also hv good and loyal friends
Same
I have like 3 friends I’m not joking because they are the only friends that understand me. I see family the most and I spend more time alone then anything. I’m not shy though in big crowds I can talk to people I’ve learned how as I grew up but I can only take so much before I need to get away to recharge. I think the best thing an introvert can do is make everyone aware that your an introvert that way people can understand just be straight up about it. My family knows when I step away it’s not because I’m being rude I just need to recharge.
i was kinda lucky to have one of my friend that is introverted-
I agree with this! Growing up, I was always very shy and didn't make friends easily. I enjoyed staying home by myself, and never felt the need to insert myself into social situations with other kids my age. My sister always made fun of me for having no friends, because she was an extroverted social butterfly who became friends with every person she ever met! When I met my best friend, we immediately hit it off and have had a deep meaningful relationship for twenty years. My sister, who has thousands of friends on Facebook, has never really had any close friends or a best friend. She claims to be very popular, but I've seen a lot of her friendships come and go very quickly. They're all very shallow, and I think she spends a lot of her time feeling lonely... that is until she goes out and makes a dozen new friends on any given weekend!
I'm in my 50s. As a child I was all these things as described in your video. I was labelled even by my family as being a black sheep. My dad especially thought my introvert traits were nothing more than me rebelling, doing them purposely to get at him. Funny thing, in my 30s when I went online I was able to learn that I wasn't defective that I was an introvert. Since then I've learned a lot and have been better able to manage in the world. It's great knowing that those labels I had growing up as being defective weren't true and that there are others much like me. It has given me confidence.
My family blamed me for being slow... today I know that I'm not slow, but I like to have a second thought before I answer.
Same experience here. My mother, the only extrovert out of the 4 of us, took a particular disliking to me ever since I was a very little kid because, unlike my sister, who turned out to be a "social introvert" (her mbti, INFJ, is famously known as a "social chameleon," so she came across as an extrovert; now, her energy levels are actually a lot lower than mine), and, unlike my dad (enneagram 9 ISTP), who would reluctantly go along with what my mother wanted, my introversion was a lot more obvious. According to her, I was always fussy and didn't get along with other kids in my age group, preferring to play or work by myself, or got along better with much older kids and old people. Given that a majority of people are extroverted, like her (ESTJ), especially children, she's never seen a kid like me so thought there was something "abnormal" or "slow" about me, and scheduled play-dates to force me to socializing with other children, which only proved counter-productive (being an enneagram cp6). I guess from her point of view, my introversion caused her significant embarrassment because I probably came across as "rude" to the other parents, so spent my entire childhood trying to force me to change. But kids don't appreciate being forced to change (and people CAN'T change, anyway. Speaking from a lifetime of experiences trying to re-invent myself, as well as the fact that my mbti type/enneagram remains consistent). I've never fit in with other people, no matter how much I'd tried, even when I was actually quite social in my late-teens/early-20s, nothing could change the fact that I was just a loner by nature; even in my family, I've always felt like a black sheep. That "wall separating" me from the rest of humanity part is 100% relatable. Until I took mbti tests (albeit out of curiosity), I've never known why, and was always thought of by others that there was something "wrong" or "abnormal" about me, but, turns out, I'm just an introvert and independent-minded (INTP).
I'm happy you were enlightened enough to figure it out. I don't know why people can't help themselves especially now with so many free and low cost resources around.
I'm sorry your family and your dad were as*holes to you :(
Im 20 . And my aunt just said iam crazy, my mental is sick and defective today . Im feel bad cuz my familly dont know abt introvert feel , they dont care abt my heart , my feel and whats going on ,they just can judge me all day . I hate my live
That one teacher: " leT's StAnD uP aNd InTrOdUce OuRsElVeS tO tHe ClAsS"
True! I really hate introducing myself to the class😢
@@-.-7066 it's like: "tell us something interesting about yourself!" and then you are like: "Uhhhhh ejggbfjegjejgugg I- I like cats-"
So true, Like when teacher told us to say a poem in front of class or something kdjsejksdjdjd
Damn!!! This was like d worst part for me in school...but somehow I used to manage...
@@jiya5478 I know right?
Fun fact: we introverts are much more louder online than in real life
@Chiyori exactly hahahhahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
True 😂😂😂😂😂
Ya absolutely right 🤟🤟
very true
Yessss
I’m an introvert & I’d much prefer spending time w/my pets & books then people. Embrace being an introvert. Understand what works for you, know your limit & definitely apply boundaries in your life. Being an introvert is not a negative mark against you as a person. Once you understand it, you’ll discover it’s a blessing. Keep a positive attitude & do what brings you peace, stability & happiness.
I like my family and friends time but I also like coming home being alone in my own space relaxing. Best part of my day is coming home to my own space.
@@ryans413 - I think of it this way: As introverts we don't need to feed off of others in order to feel good. For us it's the opposite. We have the power to simply feel good on our own. Almost as if we are more complete in a certain way. We are also more sensitive to the neurotransmitter Acetylcholine compared to extroverts. This chemical makes us feel good when we turn inward. We also store information in different parts of our brain than extroverts, favoring the parasympathetic side of our nervous system which is associated with relaxation and focus. So we're typically going to enjoy going deeper subjects than most extroverts. Of course extroverts can enjoy those deeper subjects too, usually less commonly though.
@@IKARIANOFFICIAL as soon as I get home I can feel it I start to feel more happy I get an energy boost I’m more relaxed and I entertain myself very well. When I go to family’s houses especially if I’m staying over for a long time I feel my energy drain even if I’m enjoying myself I have to get a way. I feel like this in the grocery stores too that’s why when I shop I do it as fast as I can because just all the people being around me drains me. Then when I get back to my car I get that energy back like instantly.
"You appear shy when you meet new people." YESSSSS. YES MAN YES and I am not shy! In no way. It's so frustrating when people say that to me just by mistaking my quietness.
Yeah, shyness and being introverted are different. IIRC a big thing about introverts is they lose energy when around other people, vs extroverts who gain energy when around other people. Shyness is a different trait.
@@mattm7798 True, I'm not shy, but I prefer to be on my own. People wear me the hell out, some faster than others - wife exempt.
The shy label is a curse of people who actually listen to what others have to say and think about it carefully before replying.
@@mattm7798 I think it's a lot more complicated than that. Indeed I'm starting to rethink the introvert/extrovert paradigm entirely. I've come to believe that the concept of introversion is just other people trying to blame you for the fact that they aren't interesting.
@@john.premose exactly!I am usually sarcastic when I am annoyed with the question ' u dont talk much,do u?', I usually respond with 'no,I do.Its just that I dont find you interestin enough'.lol.But there might be some truth to that.If am not interested in discussin the thickness of someone's eyeliner or ridicule someone's dressin style,doesnt mean am dumb and shy.Might very well mean that the person across is too generic and borin for me 😏😏
The most annoying thing about other people when being an introvert is being asked "why are you so quiet?".
if you don’t like them you can just say “why are you so loud? leave me be”. loud can be replaced with intrusive if necessary, if it’s someone you don’t mind or you like them you can just say “i am who i am”.
I hate that question!!!
@@reminiscence7555 No reason to be a dick. People are curious
Many people have asked this question in school , I also don't like this question
This is even more annoying because i go to boarding school
Introverts are always talking to their soul
Ya true
True, PERIOD!!
I agree! This Happened to me a while ago, My teacher told me to answer the question after my other classmate answered then my heart is beating so fast and i shaking a lot so i tried to calm myself bc i know that if i got so so nervous i probably embarass myself infront of them and I don't want that to happen so i tried calming myself by saying "hey don't be nervous do you know that if your answered that question confidently you will got points if you got points you will get higher grades if you get higher grades your parents will be proud then you will success if you success you will get better job if you get better job you will get money and become rich if you become rich you will be able to buy anything you want" or i just imagine the things i badly want
@@bruhaintnowayugonnanowme3942 because im also introvert
@@bruhaintnowayugonnanowme3942 if you're introvert you will know that
I always find excuses for missing parties even when someone personally invites me it feels better to be alone than attending a party😎
ye luckily I didn't agree to go to some party after graduating from pri school
I'm also an introvert but with the right people it isn't that hard to say something. Making presentations in front of my class is horrible though.
And two achievments I'm proud of: I can hold eye contact when talking to girls and I can look into the face of my crush when talking to her (at least when I do, very rarely)
But the thing I'm most proud of myself: I can dance with her at prom 🙂
I'm glad you're doing well. I've always been alone. Even in kindergarden, all I did was sit all day and watch others play. I just couldn't talk to them. I've had a few friends, but they don't want to be with me anymore. One of them went to a different school, one said he never wanted to be my friend, one I lost because of moving, one just stopped talking to me and my closest friend chose someone else over me.
I am an introvert only talkative with my friends and spend most of my time at home
@Baby Sooya!!! yes! I hate when I'm forced to do a group project. Just this year we had an assignment in one of my classes to make groups of 3-5 people and film our own series. The problem is we had to find our groups outside of class, so literally just talk to people or text them during the day and that's something I dread the most because I have this fear that the person will be mad at me for bothering them and because I've never talked to them or texted them they'll think it's weird I did now. And obviously noone's going to invite me to their group because I don't have friends.
It makes me happy when the teacher says you can do an assignment in groups OR by yourself. I can just relax and do the work myself
With the wrong people there's no need to feel that you must socialize. I was asocial by choice for many years because I didn't feel it was important. It became a handicap when I started working for larger comoanies I havent changed how I feel, but I've become a good actor and can fake it convincingly when I must. Fake it until you make it works surprisingly well on others.
@@inimene6 Frinds aren't people who you do things with. Friends are people who care about you and are happier being with you than without you. If you are happy without friends, you are doing better than those with who aren't happy with themselves. Live long enough and any friends you may have will be gone.
I hate when extroverts find out you're an introvert, and then try to "fix" you.
I just become scared of them. I worry about draining them if I utter a word to them. Would you say that’s close to or far from the truth?
Kinda depends on how they "fix" you though if they want you to be more social they might bug you to go outside with them they might tell jokes that make you laugh, other times people pretty much force you to go outside for example: my family wanted to go to the beach I told them I wasn't going dad said that wasn't an option it's those people that force you and say they "want the best for you" when they just want to make themselves feel better.
Nah, cause once I get comfortable, I'm extrovert just like in online community
@@iichxrryluna1426 that's how I am too
@@iichxrryluna1426 hmm interesting
Me being an introvert minding my own business
Other people:"She is arrogant and rude".
"She is boring".
"She thinks very high of herself".
"She is emotionless".
"She is selfish".
I am tired of hearing all these words.Dont know how to deal with all this.
ya 100% correct😣
Soo relatable can't agree more
Sometime I feel too lazy to speak and people starts asking me "Hey, why are you so quiet?".
It's frustrating. Why can't they just let me be myself.
Yes. Same here. They find me snob. They find my life boring. Too quiet and lifeless.
Don't worry, just move on. Ignore them😇
I, an introvert, experienced a time where I was in need of help in school for a math question I was struggling on. I asked the teacher to go over it when we were going over questions and someone in my class said "are you stupid?" I felt regret for asking the question and now I have a deeper struggle for asking questions
You did what you should do when learning…asking questions! The “ you’re stupid” person clearly has issues and needs attention. Keep being you and never stop asking questions. 👍
Sorry to hear that. Those are my fears as well. I feel like my questions are stupid, so I never ask them. 😢
I’m in school and I never ask any questions to the teachers. I ask my friends there to explain to me the things I have doubts about. I can never ask teachers because they will always yell or get annoyed with you if you don’t understand what they’re saying repeatedly. I’ve also given up asking them because I rarely ever end up understanding something. It’s much better to ask others and if I still don’t understand, I just give up…I’m too dumb to understand anyways…
My stepson was always afraid to ask questions in class. I told him I guarantee he’s not the only one in that classroom who doesn’t understand (something).
Also, if you’re having trouble “getting” something the teacher’s trying to teach, it may be that they don’t know how to explain something clearly.
I had experiences when I was younger being very rudely shut down when I tried to talk to other people. It left a lasting mark on me reaching out to make friends. I don’t think I’ve deliberately made an effort to do since then and I’m in my 40s now.
The worst thing for me is going to social events because I convince myself I'm going to have fun even when I know that I'm not. This leads to the problem of not knowing who to go with because I feel like I'm stopping whoever I'm going with from having fun since I don't have fun at social events.
Add alcohol and you become an extrovert for that night.
Me too
@@laksuh6926I don’t drink see my problem lol
I also don't like accept movie theatre .
Me to
As an introvert , wearing a mask and being in lockdown was a blessing for me.
true blessing
they don't see my face,and I'm so happy,social distancing is another blessing.
Bruh
@@sheenaphoebekateherrera7353 Honestly I can relate very well
Wearing a mask finally enabled me to actually show some facial emotion out in public without anyone realizing.
I enjoyed it so much that I was upset when the world started opening back up. Tho it lasted over a year I still wouldn’t have minded it lasting longer. Not the disease just the peace.
I hate when freaking teachers ask us to say something about ourselves or introduce ourselves to the class. As an introvert, that is pretty annoying and uncomfortable.
Does Sasuke-kun comes home once in a while?
Or explain something to the class. I know the stuff but I pretend I don't so I don't have to explain.
@@hadimohammed9530 Yeah
Ikrrr
IKR
I think many of us introverts weathered the pandemic better than most people. “You mean you want me work away from other people and from home as much as possible? Finally!”
Hardest thing for me is dealing with the idea that telling loved ones that spending time with them is hard for me will make them uncertain and/or uncomfortable in our relationships.
I being an introvert love to speak to strangers online more than speaking to people whom I know in real life
Atlasssst I found someone who is my type
I have always been that and i thought it's so weird of me
@@hiddenwoman105 hahaha.....not at all.....it's our special quality 🤭🤭🤭
@@nikitabiswas6033 yassss yassss!!
My gurrll❤️
I agree, people are nicer online and give me more empathy and encouragement than real people I know. Being in Victoria during lockdown for over three months has shown me how much people just don’t care. Chats or comments on Facebook or you tube have kept me going. I also realised that apart from immediate family, my relatives don’t care either. Clarified so much for me.😬🇦🇺
Group projects and meetings are the worst.
@Gabriella Garza I can relate to this
My whole job requires teamwork and it annoys the shit out of me. I enjoyed being a picker at a warehouse more than all my other jobs.
*time to go and meet with my partners while they talk about celebrities and i sit there trying to think, to then go home and do it all by myself. as long as they present it i’m cool with that*
@Gabriella Garza I am an extreme introvert and I am extremely shy I can't even speak and ask something to a worker in a grocery store.
True
Some of the hardest moments as an introvert to me, was my last school trip. Since I had to share a room with at least two people and we were not allowed to walk around ourselves so we wouldn't get lost, during the entire four days, I had about one hour for myself. I always felt exhausted after every conversation and wanted to have at least five minutes without all these people. Everyone constantly asking why I was so quiet, obviously didn't help. The worst part was that most of the activities we did, were to get to know our classmates and the local people better, so we always had to do stuff in groups and had to always interact with someone. Until these few days I didn't realize how hard it was to be around people for a long time.
I relate to you... I recently was on a class trip too and I went to bed with a headache every evening because everyone was so loud and we had no time for ourselves... the teachers and a few other classmates/exchange students prepared a little good bye party at the end and I went back to my room after 15min because I just couldn't take the loud noise and all those people telling me to "have FUN" and stop being so quiet and stuff... even the teachers told me the day afterwards that it was rude from me to go away so early. Like, this is not MY definition of fun, it's stressful and physically really exhausting for me and after one week, all I needed was 1 freaking hour to myself! Society is really not made for people like us.
@@scarontop I totally agree that society is made for extroverts, our natural urges and definition of fun is often considered "rude" by other people. By the way, it's funny how you sent this reply two days before my next class trip. Wish me luck!
@@tinobiushecht-4205 Good luck 🥴😅
@@scarontop Yes, even your natural interests and habits are to be regulated by the society.
Totally relate. I can say it’s gotten better as I’ve gotten older. Try being shut up with 40+ girls and women at Basic Military Training (boot camp - Air Force). I thought I was going to literally go crazy from the stress of being around all those people ALL the time. It was horrific.
I was fired from a job largely for being introverted. It was an office job that required me to be on the phone. It wasn't a lot, but it was enough to give me at least a few panic attacks a week. Couple that with a very extroverted and nosy co-worker who liked to tattle to the boss if she felt someone in the department wasn't doing their job. I was her main target and this got me pulled into my boss's office to see what was going on. I explained how much I hate being on the phone and that if they want me to be a better employee they should transfer me to a department that didn't even have phones on their desk. They fired me instead.
Funny thing is as an introvert I did work in an insurance call center. As I was helping others it gave me the focus to talk on the phone. But otherwise no.
Fun fact as an introvert : when you unknowingly & mistakenly eye contact with someone it feels really awkward like damn😂😝
Why you do me like that? 😂😭 Like jeez- I HATE MAKING EYE CONTACT
Mee too I hate making eye contact
@@rashidvk788 i'm like 🙄🥺
If I make an eye contact with a random stranger, I cringe and my brain reminds it me again and again and again so I could cringe at myself lol
My brain is my enemy
yea xD
Being an introvert allows me to observe new people to find out who they really are. Kind of my super power. You can learn a lot from just listening and observing before jumping into friendship.
people in school around me always talk about random stuff near me because they know i'm too busy focusing on my work or whatever and that i dont care about what they say so i agree with you
I'll be honest, I've never really realised that I can actually do that. I've felt iffy around certain people and then they start complaining about stuff that I literally can't control (and stuff that I can but it takes time so I will give them that, hut being autistic don't exactly help much) and then I'm just like, ah, that's why I felt weird around you, thanks for letting me know, you suck.
@@yousufpasha1823 that happens to me sooooooooooooo much dude I was being bullied and in class someone right next to mewas talking about it with her friend and I felt like screaming I'm right beside you in her face.
@@Hito833 bruh what who would brag about bullying someone whilst they're sitting next to you lmfao
@@yousufpasha1823 no the person didn't bully me they were talking about the person who was
As an introvert, I'm more alone in a crowded room, even if it's people I know, than at home alone watching a movie, and as far a talking in a group, I feel that most people just want to hear themselves talk anyway,
I related to every bit of this video. Glad I'm not alone here. Thank You
Love the irony
As an introvert going to school is a nightmare not bc im too lazy to study its bc socializing is very hard
Yeah... especially when teachers give you a group project, to _cure the sickness of introversion_ from all students
I don’t think that’s introvertedness!! That’s social awkwardness!
@@adrianpena1234 it kinda comes as a part of introvertedness lol people dont like to hang out with us early on. They prefer fake friends for social status
When you don´t have your own group of friends and you have to make groups it feels awful to be left behind, you are the only one who waits till the end to see if there was some else who couldn´t find a group to work with him or her.
It's really hard for me to make friends that's why I spend most of my time alone on the first month of school. I'm lucky if I make 2 friends
When you were a kid and a introvert and these were the biggest pains:
Forcing to talk to family on the phone.
Forcing to go to a school dance, or talk to the teachers for help.
People trying to talk to you for literally no god damn freaking reason.
Called “shy” when you are really a demonic beast.
You are a virg- A gamer, and might have bad habits.
:]]
Bruh the pain tho I'm still a kid and I'm a introvert
the family one is one i relate too
“People trying to talk to you for no dang freaking reason”
Especially at parties(that you were forced to go to) random people would just try to strike a conversation so you give really bland answers to try and hint that you don’t wanna talk BUT THEY CONTINUE TALKING
I can relate to all of it 😅
Yep
People: Talking to me for no reason
Me: So you have chosen death
I wouldn’t be so introverted, if I knew more people I have in common with
Soo true
True, I don't talk to people cus i don't really know what to say with them.
@@Ltmqt SAME here!! It's like you can imagine what you would've said AFTER the conversation, but DURING it... your mind just blanks in fear and it gets real awkward unless you know the person. Like, you don't know what to say or do, because you're afraid the person won't understand or take it the wrong way. You just have that constant fear of messing up so you end up not talking... at all... unless you know them and they know you. Like my besties! They're the only people I know how to talk to 😅.
@shaanviswamy I just can't start a conversation with people cus idk how to start one or what to say, I can only ask for help to people i know, other than that I doesn't say nothing else, unless someone asking me something I can answer them, but that it. So the result end up making me have no friend, I try harder when I'm in high-school tho. People I talk the most to is just my mom and sister.
Just ask the Unabomber!
I was always told to not just stay in my room BUT WHAT WOULD I DO?! Just sit and say nothing and be cold and not learn stuff or enjoy myself. I golly gosh hate this also I hate how people always say I’m too quiet.
Lockdown: Exists
Introverts: It’s my time to *SHIIIIIIINE*
yes
True! Everyone was moaning about my country's three long lockdowns - except me, in my element 😃. It's the opening up again that bothers me.
We been practicing for this moment our whole lives
STORY OF MY LIFE
Yes, I want that because I Get Bullied by my own friends and classmates, I don't want to have a fake friends anymore.
"Asking for help but you can't", is so relatable.
i was a real introvert when i was a kid growing up and still am.....
Yep I can relate...Whenever I want to ask something to my teacher or classmates I try to brainstorm questions but when I'm already in front of them nothing will come out of my mouth making things awkward
im literally crying right now remembering those things😭😭😭
Dude,so true.I can never ask my teacher questions.I can't clear my doubts.
@@karthikkaligotla5075 yes and then cry alone on the desk hiding your face😭
No. 4, not only is working in a team a burden, I end up doing all the work, because I’m good with essays and work assignments, and whenever I mumble out an invitation for someone else to contribute, it feels like the’re doing it halfheartedly or ignoring me, but the teacher always makes us all feel great by saying that we did a great job, so all is good, right?
Just ask the teacher if you could do it alone ans tell them why (privately obviously... public speech is 100% cruel punishment)
I hate being told to just “stop acting that way”. I’m not “acting” this way, this IS who and what I am. If you put aside your wanting me to act like you and actually take the time to let me be comfortable around you, you’ll find out I’m actually quite sociable to friends in small groups. Parties and large gatherings are mentally and physically draining to me, they do not energize or excite me.
1. You appear shy when meeting new people 1:27
2. You'd rather avoid parties and big social events 2:00
3. You feel under-appreciated 2:36
4. You feel that working in a team is burdensome 3:07
5. You feel extremely uncomfortable when in the spotlight 3:48
6. You would rather do everything by yourself 4:26
I hope I could help! :)
And yes I relate to these struggles :)
First on this comment lol
Thank you :)
Nice
Thanks
I relate to these to... 🙁 most of the time I just put a fake smile on. 🙃🙁
You forgot one: people accuse you of being "anti-social".
Because not everybody is aware about kind of personalities, thus, some pple may believe that introvert = arrogant person.
@@fadwakabiri6844 exactly
Exactly 😒😔
I feel that
Yeah people treat introverts as they r weak😔
As an introvert, things like saying, " Hello" are in my mind but never make it out of my mouth.
I am a big introvert and I'm usually underestimated, undermined, misunderstood, even by my own family members but as long as I know what I am and what I'm capable of, I just smile about it.
How can you just smile? Don’t you want to be part of something with other people?
"During Corona Virus Lockdown"
extroverts: anxiety attacked
introverts: weak (evil smile 😈)
🤣 same
Same
Yeah
We were prepared in the best way
Coronavirus: I'm here to bring you boredom and lock you in your house🦠
Introverts: "You have no power here." 😈🤠😎
Coronavirus: "Understandable have a nice quarantine."🤨
Introverts: "We sure will have a great time at home." 🏡😎
I was actually happy that we have been quarantined 💀💀
Yep
Same
Yea but the vaccine is here if it works then life goes back to normal
same
LOL same af
I tend to be sensitive so being an introvert makes me feel more confident.
I’m an introvert and I strongly relate to 5 and 6. I’ve been labelled ‘antisocial’ by people.
Silence is my best friend
Who never betray me.
True that.
True
But depressed me😭
XD
Jesus Christ can also be a friend who definitely will never betray you. If He calls your heart, answer “yes” to Him.
Being forced to socialize. Happens most of the time. Still don't like it.
It made me start to hate people.🙂
@@a.i.c.e5212 same though I wouldn't call it hate maybe just "not like" people too much
Same. Like a neighbor came in our house straight went to my bedroom like tf? And sat on my bed I was like shocked my heart beat increased that lady literally looked straight to my face and asked my name i became shy cuz out of nowhere she appeared and I don't know her I said my name. idk I couldn't look at her face and my mom was behind me like do something... along with that lady was another women as if she was watching and drama.Like in my bedroom with 2 women and my mom and 3 pairs of eyes on me. That lady hold my chin and said,"why r u so shy? Look at me." Like bitch then don't barge into my room and come to talk to me.I would have locked my room. Omg. 😭😭 my mom didn't help me.
@@lovemyself7021 oh my goodness! That's totally invasion of privacy. Oh dear I feel sad for you and if that were to happen to me, I would have the same reaction as you. Most people always ask me why I'm so shy and quiet. They don't understand that it's not that I'm shy but I'm just not up to talking to random people.
@@lovemyself7021 yeah I'm like " tf I'm not your friend . Don't talk to me like if we are soulmates . "
I’m an introvert but feel very comfortable on a stage with a guitar and mic. Fronted a few bands in my time even though I used to get very anxious in company. As soon as I put on my guitar I am a different man. Find it much easier to communicate.
I have always felt that talking to others or asking for any type of help was an imposition. It feels that joining in a conversation was nothing more than butting in.
The worst thing about being an introvert is that people consider you as rude while you are not, this is heartbreaking
I agree with you.
Yes ..i agree too
Have experienced it
To be fair, rudeness isn't something that requires only one "side". Person A can see person B as rude, without person B _intending_ to be rude, and A's feelings are perfectly valid - but they don't suddenly grant any rights to A. B's behaviour is equally valid.
Yes 😭
My classmates when we aren't doing online classes anymore: YESS I CAN FINALLY GET TO SEE MY FRIENDS
Me when there's no more online classes: *mental breakdown intensifies*
I'm actually both. Because I want to see my homies who I can talk my shit with but I dread the thought of going outside.
I got better grades in online school then I ever have according to my report card
happy i graduated before school had to go back to in person. got the advantage of it greatly improving my grades as well
@@Jpeg_skeleton for real lol. I got almost all straight A's in online, but now have mostly C's B's and D's in the actual classroom 😅
@@raenam126 did we get the same report card?
Hardest thing for me is that when I don't wanna participate in social events, people are automatically gonna think "wow, that person doesn't know how to get along with other people at all" (which is called "makisama" in my country) It's kind of ridiculous that I'm literally just minding my own business, out of people's sight, yet they can still assume stuff.
Imo my country's filled with extroverted people. So I never really heard "I know how you feel" from others. It's always "Come on, get out of your comfort zone. You can't keep going like this." Maybe they got good intentions, but unnecessary life advice just ticks me off. Let me be myself and figure stuff out on my own
Pov: you're in a public place and you think people are staring at you and you get shy
i get 100 doubts when people do that. So true.
Or when you think people are talking about you...
True 🦋🦋that's why I love being alone rather than being surrounded by people 😌that's me if you like it or not, that's your problem. 🤓
Introverts sometimes ask themselves, "Is introversion a blessing or a curse?"
Dude I ask myself this all the time because there's perks to being an introvert like not getting in trouble at school for talking to much and more
But then downfalls like not being very social and much more
As an introvert I think introversion is a failed blessing
A blurse
Ikr? There was a time i faked being an extrovert because i absolutely hate being an introvert and then whenever i would get home i would feel exhausted and tired because i had to put a mask on everyday! I finally gave up but I'm having a hard time accepting myself as who i am as i don't like being a shy, quite and overall an introvert person:(
@@jinhub2175 all introvert have these problem . But don't hate yourself. It is the truth and we can't change our dna. The only thing that we can do is accepte whatever we have and improve ourself . If we think to change into an extrovert then our life will be like a drama. It is ok to show yourself don't hide anything. I'm also having a hard time. But now I'm trying everyday myself to be better. Your profile pic is the biggest inspiration that I got . Now I decided not to give up and do my best . It must be very hard to love yourself but we have our own world for joy happy and heal . We can find happiness in every little things . We have a really soft heart that can be broken in very little things. These are common things. But I am pretty sure that everything is going well and everyday we can happy from what video you watching and music to you listening . This quarantine is a blessing and it is time to build up personality . I always felt sad for being alone but now I could at least talk to my mom . Hiding something is really hard . You have to open up about yourself. I think we choose the better world. I hope everything will be fine 🙏
Happy to no that there is lots of people like me existing in this world. Parents tell that phone is not good for you . But I found being online is more comfortable .
Sharing my purple heart 💜
I can definitely relate to most of these, I always hard a really hard time when it came to projects where you have to present and when doing group stuff I usually feel left out of conversation.
Thankfully I had a few friends who understood and would talk to me instead of the rest of the group which was nice.
Really enjoy these videos explaining stuff like this, although it being really obvious for me, I get some sense of validation hearing it. #3 hit so hard. seeing everybody else get the opportunities and experience the "fun stuff" at work, and myself sitting behind with my tedious projects (include #6 here) watching everybody else talk about everything and anything and getting socialized. one can feel left behind in such situations.
As an introvert, I feel uncomfortable when I tried to be funny but no one laugh, so I'll decide to never try again.
Yeah this is why I always think twice before I say something
😁 absolutely right. I have tried a lot.
Yes,,me too when others stare at you like talking with their eyes "what is she talking about" "she's bored" "is she trying to be funny" "is she ok" ..
@@Strdh_511 exactly! That feeling. It was so hard for us introverts to voice out our thoughts. So it feels very disappointing everytime we try but no one acknowledge it
I swear when that happens I'm like
You know what, this is why I don't talk anyways, and then you won't hear me saying not a single other word. But at least I tried or whatever.
Extroverts call it 'struggle'
We call it 'Comfort zone'😂
We talk less and type more😂
🤣
Amazing
Facts
True.... 💯
Relating😶😌😌😌
The worst part of being an introvert is being a good listener ... everyone tends to present their problems to you and then they start with small talks, afterwards they talk over you ...
Spot on, thank you very much. Sometimes I think I'm the only introvert in the world or that I'm a little crazy for feeling the way I do. Knowing I'm not alone is comforting.
I also hate it how my classmates can get friends that fast, while me im just a ghost they're passing by.
LOL so true
Freaking true..I feel alone
Same, even my one of my classmate
called me a "ghost" because i'm so quiet •‿•
Exactly like how do they get friends so fast
@@karri17 by talking ;-;
I'm an introvert , and I have only 2 friends and when Im with them I'm so loud because I feel comfortable
You are so lucky to have 2 friends. All my friends just disappeared. But, then some days I happy they disappeared.
Me too I have one friend that I'm being with(she's extrovert) and I have 1 online bestfriend who is from Germany and I'm from Philippines (she's extrovert too)
I am very introverted person and not often friendly but I'm the one who approached my German bestie first even she's extrovert and I am introvert because I feel she's a right person for me to become my friend so I become friendly to her
@A'TIN REIZA introvert po ako pero hindi nmn po ako nahirapan makuha ung loob nya kasi extrovert sya and napakabait po nya and I hope pag balang araw magkita kami Sana hindi agad maubos ung battery energy kasi alam ko pong extrovert sya siguro marami ung gustong gawin and paghahandaan kopo iyon
@A'TIN REIZA yes po pero I'm happy na I'm introvert kasi sila sinasabi nila na sa parents na Ang inam ko daw pala hindi daw ako gala Ng gala,hindi daw ako pala-labas Ng Bahay,at di daw ako palabarkada but sometimes naiinis ako sasabihin nilang gusto nilang magsalita ako Kaso pag nagsasalita nmn ako di nmn ako pinapakinggan and sasabihin nilang anti-social ako at masungit at hindi daw ako marunong makihalubilo at makisama
But,marunong nmn akong makisama at pinakikisamahan ko nmn sila pero sadyang mas prefer ko na magisa ko kesa makihalubilo sa ibang tao kasi mas nagkaroroon ako ng energy kapag magisa at tahimik lang pero kung pupunta ko sa crowded place or noisy place mas gusto ko na kasama ung tao na close na close ako para di ko feel na magisa atlis dun nasulit nmn ung energy na naubos ko dahil kasama ko sila kasi kapag nasa crowded place ako at kasama ko lang ung tao na kilala ko lang mas nafefeel ko na magisa ako dun sa sitwasyon na yun kahit ang Dami dami ko nmn kasama kesa sa nasa madilim na kwarto ko at ako lang magisa na walang kasama
@A'TIN REIZA Hi Co-A'tin 💙
Very true. But people blame us for being quiet thinking we are ignorant or ignoring them
Number 3 hits extremly hard ... people dont laugh about my jokes, people talk over me, people just plain ignore me. When i talk with someone and another one comes to the conversaition, the 2 talk and im left out and being ignored.
As an introvert when I meet new people they say I’m shy… and in my mind I’m like “What do you want me to say if I barely know you”
So true, that happens to me
That’s so true. I was standing instead of sitting and my friend said “sit down”, I said “no I like standing” and then a random girl at the table said that I’m shy just because I don’t want to sit down…
Why is this so true
exactly we dont know what is their interest
EXACTLY
"Being alone for a while is dangerous. It's addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore." Can anyone else relate? I've been isolating myself for ten months already, and I think this is the real downside as an introvert. I have been worrying about how to interact with people once everything is back to normal.
Sis, I feel you. I honestly feel so relaxed right now, no office politics, no bossy coworkers, no small talk... man I’m really worried it’s going to be really hard (and exhausting) on us once we have to go back outside again :(
Yea ,I can totally relate on this,it almost feels like i would rather be alone and doing my own stuffs with no one disturbing. Listening to music for hours. But I know someday we'll have to get back to real life and can't be alone for my whole life :0 When I meet people in real life and friends,I'm afraid I can't even talk normally to them , and it kinda starts to ruin our relationship s
A key point in this will be to slowly ease ourselves back into another pace. And on the good side even extroverts do tune down a bit and don't return to noisy and fast pace in an instant. I see many actually shocked over how easy it is for everything to slow down and lose pace. People not getting half of the things down they usually rush through in a day. Some gain a better understanding of thing working different for people who choose to not go along with the busy rush in life.
ten montths is nothing, I have been alone for over a year. It is fucking sweet how peaceful it is, like an ocean that nothing has ever swam in all to yourself.
i know...
One part of being introvert is people think you are untalented because you don't have uproot confidence like extroverts who love to express what they got.
I find it very harsh people judge me from their perspective of me being shy and timid. When I can show alot of potential if they don't think being expressive is all there is
Oh god. Asking for help is the hardest thing ever for me. It just is hard. I struggle and keep it inside. Makes me really burn out when asking is hard.
Being an introvert making friends is the most difficult task specially when you are new to a place. People are already talking with each other so easily leaving me wander if they already know each other . While I sit back figuring out what to say and to whom !!
For me I get friends by simply not starting a conversation but just someone who would come up to me. And if they got something they like to talk about that I also like then I'd open up
@@doritolegend9664 same here
@@simratmann4323 yeah lol, we get adopted by extroverts usually
How do u feel when ur an introvert but teacher calls u to introduce urself in front in class but ur a transfer and u dont know anybody
@@doritolegend9664 I'm an Introvert myself and I agree and I prefer small crowds 2 or 4 friends Is good enough.
In 7th grade I figured out I was going to constantly overlooked if I didn’t force myself to step forward. I listened carefully to learn how conversations worked and safe subjects I could bring up. Started taking all the speech and drama classes offered. Continued it through high school and college (small, local places). At work I forced myself to volunteer for groups and speaking assignments. It was literally H3LL! Probably a large part of why I have no colon today. It never became easier, but I learned I could do it, even if it meant sleepless nights and having a bathroom close-by. It was more satisfying than doing all the work and then having some uninvolved extrovert present my work badly. Happily retired now, staying at home away from everything and most everyone (few close friends, also introverts). A friend sent me this note: Introverts unite / separately / in your own homes. That’s how we roll!
Another facts about introverts are they're talkative to other introverts and the people who are comfortable with them
INTROVERT ALLERGIES: 💙
- Social obligations
- Phone calls after 6 pm
- Groups of more than 5 people
- Host that force you to stay at there house
lol hope someone can relate to my introvert life 😅
Groups of more than 2 and phone calls in general in my case
@@horrorzone476 lol honestly yeah that’s me on a tense day 😅💕
Yes indeed
i hate phone calls
Correction: *Phone calls, period.
(What degenerate people still use a PHONE?! Let that die xD)
This channel knows who I am more than my parents do
yeah, same here really, my parents aren’t bad they’re just against the whole psychology of how the brain works. my dad thinks he didn’t affect my life right now by when i was little constantly threatening to take things off me for crying. I can only now cry a little bit, it’s just screaming instead because i literally can’t cry out of natural reflex of the fear i went through
this channel knows more about me than i do
Same
Same
Same here, thinking of sending these to my parents, lol
Classic introvert here. I love my time away from people to regroup, reset and replenish. I love one-on-one conversation, but sometimes that can be too deep, and people are standoffish because of its context. I attract extroverts and their need to be fueled with drivel conversations. I often feel on an island, as my need to work alone can be misunderstood. I am the weirdo at work, but when things get need something reviewed, I am the one to clearly look at it.
The part about not wanting to talk about personal things because “it’s none of their business” I’ve always felt rude about that. I didn’t realize it’s a normal thing for introverts. It’s not at all that I have anything to hide or anything like that I just don’t see it to be important that you know these things about me. I’d much rather talk about an interest we have in common. I see talking as a tool not so much as a thing you do for fun. I’ll talk business without any issues but what I did on the weekend is irrelevant. 😂
Reading comments, I realised that there are many people like me.i'm not the only one who likes to stay alone from society😌.
yes
True i thought i m only the one
My mom thinks that I have some kind of mental disorder just because I am introvert 😔😔
Tru yar, even I feel the same
Bruh same like how come i never thought that there are 7 billion people living in this world and i cant find someone like me😅😅😅
Nobody asks the extroverts to speak less than why ask introverts to speak more .. it's the same thing but sadly people don't realise
Yeah, instead of asking introverts to talk more, they should ask extroverts to listen more
@@Isabel-lg5im exactly 💯
EXACTLY!!
💯AGREED
I'm an ambivert and when there is an extrovert around me I listen more but when I'm around an introvert I talk more (and I listen too ofc)
My friends often think of me shy but I'm not, actually I prefer spend my time with like-minded people and there are few of them around me
Something that I enjoy about being an introvert: saying "no", which means I don't have to do something I don't want to do, which frees me to do something I want to do.
How people say hi: "Hello"
How introverts say hi: *raises eyebrows*
Why did this make me laugh 😂😂
I will either just smile or nod
@@uin5943 that's me lol
I'm sad cuz this is true
So me😐
Another point I like to add :- we introverts tend to observe people and analyse them to such an extent that we can pretty much exactly predict how a person would react to any situation. We tend to exactly understand people but it's hard to find someone who accurately understand us.
Correct and def better at determining who is even worth talking to etc.
Mhm
I don’t talk to my mom Bc she dosent ever understands me
I am also an introvert
This is soo true !!!
Thanks for sharing! Introverts are usually the sweetest people
Extrovert: oh so you’re not coming to the work party. You must have better things to do
Introvert: yes, I actually do have better things to do than spend the night force laughing at lame jokes
Force laughing at lame jokes .. exactly 😃
Me: yeah i need to play games!!
I other night I went to one of my old friends partys, wasn't sure if it was a good idea or not at first. But ended up going anyways, 45 minutes in and I've spoken a total 10 words to 3 of 15 people. I just minded my own business and stuck to my own occasionally talking to the two people I knew there. I relate to this but in a way going to those events can benefit you, or it could feel a complete waste of time. Honestly depends on the setting for me. Like if I feel the need to walk away for a sec and I can't im probably just gonna go home.
LOL WISE WORDS
Me: *stays home and watches the SAD-ist animations over and over again*
People empty me. I have to get away to refill
The bitter Truth
Same
facts
Exactly.. My family gets offended but I don't care anymore, I have to recharge.
@@TLovly77 you do what makes you feel comfortable
Thanks, I can relate so much!!! So, just a quick question: do people really think it is more normal to talk nonsense about whatever pops in your head just to seem polite than respect each other's difference and remain silent? Because to me, the second one seems WAY more logical!!