10 Struggles Only Introverts Will Understand
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- 10 Struggles Only Introverts will Understand... #introvertstruggles #introvertproblems #introvert
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Hahaha , thank you for the one where we eat in our car, so many memories! 🤣
I have an exceptionally comfortable car, but how did you know that’s my fav lunch spot at work? 🤗
You are awesome
Good video, but we gonna ignore the fact that this man has the entire map Skyrim and 2 gorgeous bass in the background slapp like on the video and may the blood of the dovah flow with you
Fun Ro Dah will happen if you dont
Introverts:
Extroverts: "you should talk more"
Introverts: speak
Extroverts: ignores introverts.
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|Introverts: never again- |
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Literalyyy
IBZD Arts someone actually dared to inform me that I should socialize more
Sad truth :((
Why are we here... Just to suffer...
@@victorianastav4969 OK OK I was just making a meme... I get it....
11: Feeling lonely after being alone too much, but still don't want to hang out with people
Haha when you have to make a todo habit each day of talking to atleast 3 people a day so that you wont be depressed due to less socialixation and work exhaustion completely get it
Most relatable thing I have read so far
That's me!
@@maevalopez8107 agreed
The struggle is real!
Introverts are just people who know when to shut up. Silence is golden.
We get a little carried away with that silence thing
@@miracleisme1910 It is not by choice.
Least we don't ramble for 3 hours completely ignoring the fact the other person is obviously disinterested
I love this description
@@MrsDazl me too :)
social battery is so real, forced myself to go to a school reunion, spent longer than I expected, drinks kept me social for a while, but then I got asked if I wanted to go to a nightclub and I was like internally “dude, I already spent hours at this bar, don’t ask too much of me” lol
I went to the mandatory office Christmas party and was "social". Then I got invited along on a bar hop. Yeah, no
Bro, my social battery was out for a whole week once : I had a trip to Greece with my highschool and with like 30 other students, and I didn't know anyone except for two people that were in my class but that I didn't talk to or didn't like. So I forced myself to socialize a little, during this whole 1 week trip, for exemple when I had to share a hotel room with 2 other people that I didn't know, or when we had to eat in the restaurant. The only time I had alone during this trip was like, 20 minutes once when I was the only one wanting to stay alone in my hotel room while the others visited the city. Plus I was tired and a little sick even before the trip, so my condition after the trip was even worse, but I was quite relieved when I was finally back home 😅
The most annoying one is when people get personally offended when you don't want to talk. It's not you man, it's everyone.
If this were me, I'd be like, "name one topic of conversation that isn't small talk."
"Er, well... the Vikings last night... er, the weather..."
"Gtfo."
@@Whimsy3692 Found the INTJ...
Fr
Like I want to talk but ......
PEOPLE
I had another student go off on me in a group therapy simulation in grad school. He thought I was sitting there judging everyone.
Anyone got a good reply for that because it pisses me off that people who go out of their way to be rude are heroes but if I simply want to hold back on talking until I am comfortable to do so, then I'm rude and unfriendly?
11. When the teacher says "Pick a partner", you just sit there and hope some one picks you, while you see other kids picking partners immediately
I relate. Thoe I get up and walk around aimlessly untill someone tells me to join the group or the teacher tells everyone I still am not part of a group and finds a group for me to join.
That why you need atleast
1 friend
then end up standing there with the teacher
I would always ask the teacher to put me in a group because I was too shy to approach anyone myself
Same i usually just get stuck with whoever is left. Or no ome at all so they force we in a group of people and make me want to rip my hair out.
I love how as an introvert, your videos make me feel normal. 😂
same here
This is so true. People think you are stuck up because you don't want to socialize, yet they don't realize that doing so makes us uncomfortable.
Yes
Sometimes my social battery dies while I'm the one talking
Now I don't feel so bad 😅
Yep. Just dies mid-sentence. You know, it’s funny how it
It's true. It's like a switch was flipped and I suddenly just want to run...run away and go hide in my closet and recharge haha!
My social battery is exactly 2 hours, then I'm a zombie XD
We 💢💫 used to call it crumping...as in I'm crumping gotta go now...or let's speak before I crump
Everyone: damn you are so quiet you need to talk more
Me: says something
Everyone: ignores
Me: never talking again
Frrr
I got so tired of that happening that one time when everyone carried on talking over me i just repeated myself incrementally louder and louder until i basically yelled it at them, but not in an aggressive way. Their reactions were hilarious, they were half confused half annoyed with me shouting and half amused by the ridiculousness of it. I said to them “I didn’t think anyone heard me so I thought I would turn my volume up”
I just talk when i must
Extroverts are just annoying
@@matthew3774 OMG that happened to me too, and then they're mad at me for shouting...
#8 made me laugh. “It turns out, you’re just quiet.” Then the blinks-so relatable. My coworkers complain that I don’t talk enough to them, and they take it so personally, and it’s not personal.
Man tell me about it
everytime someone says about how bad lockdown was i always have to act like it wasnt the best 2 years of my life
Yep 😊
It absolutely was!! I loved it!
Also annoying:
Knowing the right answer but your anxiety keeps you from speaking
Ouchie. Related to this one a little too much
Ugh yes I struggle with this a lot
Yp
yo if it wasn't for my anxiety, I would be fucking President with my ideas
Fax
When social distancing and masks provide a level of comfort that isn't really related to medical concerns. There, I said it.
I’ve always been practicing social distancing and feel like everyone is finally catching on😂
I used to always have a mask on just to block out any interactions😂
Yes! Kkkkkk I'm so grateful don't have to do a handshake, neither to kiss people, here in Brazil it's very comum, and it's like aaahh so unnecessary
I feel bad about all the sick people but social distance has been good for me. I'm not sad I couldn't crowd in a smelly gymnasium with you and watch you kids try and act, with 100 other parents desperately trying to catch something cute on camera for Facebook. Pass.
Yup!!😂☺️
The social battery thing is so absolutely accurate it hurts. It hits out of nowhere and I need to go be alone before anyone notices. I can't do sleepovers. I get tired of company after a few hours, man. Let me sleep in my own four walls.
YES this is so relatable, people always ask me if I'm okay because I look sad but it's honestly just my normal face lol
Introvert only has one best friend, that friend is the internet.
This wins the comment section
The only comment ever
@@j-hopeis6memberofredvelvet751 yeah ! Army💜
I think it could be himself 👀
@@danielaeiterer i agree.. 👍if i dont have internet i do other stuffs...
I'm always so relieved with zero regret when a social event is cancelled.
Its just I always think maybe it was my chance to socialize but then I'm like nahhhhh
I don’t use it as a chance to socialise
I’m fine with like...In my school there’s events where you play games and eat food
I don’t talk to people, if I see my classmates I just say hi and ignore conversation and just eat and play games-
My school ended no last tour because of covid, and i 100% regret
A had a master degree group project with several cancelations and that was such a relief.
I didnt want to go anyway but I'm going to act like I did so it's not awkward.
When a plan is made:
I don't want to go but If I say No they are going to ask questions and I would like to avoid that maybe I'll just not show up, wait but then their going to ask more questions nevermind I'll go.
Introvert a person who quietly observes. A great listener. A person who can follow directions.😄
**government announces quarantine**
me: has a mini dance party inside my head
The People: Get out of the house. Be social. See the sun.
Me, an Introvert: *sits in the library parking lot reading*
The people: That’s not social.
Me: *rolls the window down*
Not the window bees will fly in.
People: get out of the house see the sun be social
Me: sitting in the garden of the house 🏠 taking vitamin D from the sun ,being social with the ants 🐜 ( i don’t like them actually but you know the social life is hard )birds 🐦 and reading a good book 📖
But if I see the sun, the sun can see me. That's not okay.
Ceilinh
Omg but that’s mean we are being social and this is what they want at least they will leave us in our special social life 😂
**rolls the window up**
“Your such a good listener” is what I hear all the time.
That's a mood.😂😑😑😑👍
Well... I hear it a lot too but is it that bad?
“Talk louder please” is what *i* always here. 😑
Yea im sUrE that EVEryOne says that to u
@@skulltothebone5003 no, it’s good. But I don’t actually listen lol if it goes too long I just decide to desconect
It's so sad that extroverts rarely understand how introverts feel, like...I have to put on an extrovert faced whenever I go out because people judge me and questions my manners and that makes the already weak battery die even faster and it sucks
When you do eventually say something it feels like no one has the same reaction to you as if someone else said the exact same thing and ignore you or awkwardly move on so you just give up speaking entirely.
“Maybe I’ll see you there.”
Every introvert knows what this is code for. 🤣
It means their will never meet them,rite? Imfao
"Maybe ill see you there" means - " You definitely wont see me there because ill be at my house."
I'm already exhausted just thinking about interacting. Hahahaha!!!!
Maybe=OH HELL NAW IM NOT GONNA MEET YO AGAIN BITCH
LOL it means your not even gonna come
Fun thing about being an introvert is that when you get mad and say something everybody gets so SHOCKED and offended 🤣🤣
Ikr lol 😂
This one time my friend poured the wrong chemical during an experiment and messed it up and we had to start over, and when I got mad at her she was so shocked 😂
Now she basically tells all of our friends that I get really scary when I’m mad and uses that as an example lol
Yup.
It's like you're not allowed your one moment of justified anger. But everyone else does it to you all the time 😒
That is so incredibly true. People spout off and rant all the time. You have one rare moment of public anger and everyone looks at you like you just ran over their dog.
Or when you repeatedly ask someone not to do something , and after like the 6th time you get annoyed, and they have the nerve to ask why you're angry
Everybody in school were complaining and sad about schools being online while to me this was exactly what I wanted school to be like
The worst thing is when you go to a place you like (for me it is my local stable, I have to talk barely to anyone and I can hang out with animals which gives me a lot of comfort) and there is that hiperenergetic person. They drain your social battery at a triple speed and after a while of talking to them (because of course they will start small talk, they always do) you just want to return to your cave, learn how to photosyntesize and never come out again.
Don’t you hate when you’re eating in your car and someone parks next you
Yup, I feel like 'go away'.
ah! It’s the worst! ‘I feel like I should move my car to that other spot but I’m afraid it’ll look too obvious’ 😕
Yes
@@Lostsage01 I don’t be caring I move my car anyway 😭
It's like: "bro, please go to another lot I want to be alone".
Gets text:Calm
Gets phone call:Extreme panic attack
Its so true, I ignore the call and text
Later on....💜💜
Me,ok
This is why I have a call block app and constantly keep my phone on do not disturb and if they don’t leave a voicemail I won’t call them back and if I know them I’ll wait for the call to end then text them. 😂
Unless it’s family or something business related.... I probably still won’t call them back... or like... doctor or health stuff.
Gets phone call: PANIK
presses phone call*
Person: hello is any body there?
Me: dissapears
@@AliceRose413 👏🏼🙌🏼
Oh man, I relate to point 10 so hard. Going all the way to a shop and seeing it full of people so you just loiter outside awkwardly for a bit but give up in the end because it's just too much.
When you are comfortable with your 2 friends and start opening up 1%..and they say- I never knew you could chat this long...thought you were quiet...
Me in my mind: back off....enough of opening up
For students:
1. Saying “here” during attendance
2. Trying to figure out how to get a pencil without asking
3. Thinking through every outcome of having the teacher call you
4. Searching the lunch line for friends
5. Speaking so quietly the teacher asks you to speak up
6. Waiting for friends in between classes
I can’t think of 4 more
7. Hold your pee in class because you don't want the attention
8. Being late to class is your worst nightmare
9. You have received several awards for being the quietest in class
10. Having a teacher tell you that you need to ask more questions but you never have questions you want to ask
11. Having to present in front of the whole class without breaking eye contact
12. Losing participation points because you’re too afraid to speak
13. Always being the last one to get with a partner because you’re too scared to get up and ask somebody to partner up
14. Having classmates telling you to talk and smile more
16. Teachers forget your in their class and barely acknowledge your existence.
(Happened to me too many times. I just want to be seen!!!😭)
Wanting to be asked to answer a question because you know the answer but at the same time hoping the teacher will ask someone else to answer
why is this comment section so relatable?? i found my people.
Welcome brother, to our introverted
s o c i e t y
Yeah ikr.. I literally liked all the comments when reading😂 so relatable
Now if only some of these people went to high school with me. Then again being introverts we’d probably glance at each other once and remember it as a little awkward or not at all and it wouldn’t go anywhere else so it wouldn’t really matter anyway
one of us! one of us! one of us!
I'm happy to be here too lol welcome
soo relatable, one that comes to mind: seeing someone you haven't met in years and stare at them to be sure it's them. Sudden eyecontact and then just moving on and hoping they didn't quiet reconise you.^^
11. Finally you have the feelings to hang out with one of your friends but they say 'only us? Why don't you invite others?' and then you feel like going home, cancel every plan you've made, feeling betrayed but that's okay you've been dealing with it all this time and continue living your life as usual
“are you okay?”
“yeah i’m fine why?”
“oh you just looked at little.. 𝙨𝙖𝙙.”
they try to comfort me......i just wanted to recharge in the middle of class by sleeping
Me just causally minding my business and someone thinks something is wrong. It's quite annoying honestly.
@@anissa2361 same. Just let me and my resting b!t©π face just sit here we didn't ask for you to speak to us.
Yes! 😂 sad but so true
Suki?
Me, don't get invited to hang out
Me: Gets offended
Me, actually gets invited to hang out
Also me: Finds every excuse available to not go LMAO
yup
So relatable 😂
accurate
That sounds more like social insecurity than introversion. It implies that you want to join in, get angry when your excluded, but then experience fear or aversion when you do have the opportunity. Unlike the many of the assertions in this video introversion is more about how a person recharges their energy reserves. For the extrovert, the dopamin that accompanies social interactions is a strong motivator. Introverts are more sensitive to acetylcholine, a reward endorphin closely tied to memory. Introvert can find the same levels of happiness alone that an extrovert requires company to achieve.
But with your post you have hit upon a truth that is often times not understood. And that is the fact that there is more to a person's personality than simply introversion and extroversion. We read that, and think, well of course. But it is amazing how often we need to be reminded of the obvious. In the MBTI model of personality makeup, four factors are looked at that predict very well how a person might behave and feel. That system has been expanded to a fifth factor that deals with how actively a person takes action upon their choices. In each of these factors there are, on a sliding scale, those who tend either more cerebral or more carnal. And by carnal I simply mean social up to and including the more carnal of activities.
And so with the addition of this fifth element we can see that there are indeed not only sixteen but rather thirty two distinct personality manifestations. Every one of these manifestations save for just one, has some factor that tends toward the carnal. And thus we can now see clearly why many if not most introverts both want to engage socially but simultaneously shy away from what part of their personality is driving them toward. And it tells us the role personality plays in the propagation of our species. Thirty one out of thirty two distinct personality types and tend toward, at least in part, the carnal end of the spectrum.
The one personality type that is not at all tended toward the carnal, is the INTJ-A. The takeaway here is, that is can be enormously helpful to know and understand your particular personality type. When you do this, it's much easier to find strategies that will help you better deal with conflicts such as the one you describe. Either by allowing you to overcome your tendency toward finding a way out of things your invited to. Or by simply embracing the chance for solitude without regret or resentment.
#endhatrednow
Empathy is only human wow omg that’s actually something I never thought about. That really explains it a lot. Thank you!
I just experienced number 8 the other day with friends who ironically were trying to convince me I was an extrovert. Apparently they though I looked angry but my "social battery" had just died. 😂 I actually became exhausted and started falling asleep. Then they left and I woke up and did two hours of work 😂 😂.
Had to turn off the sound in my phone because whenever it rang, I was close to a panick attack. Not sure if it's me being an introvert or my anxiety, but the silence makes me happy.
Being an introvert is also being overly cautious around your friends, because you never feel like they care about what you have to say. You begin saying something, they look bored, you panick and shorten whatever you were saying to the max. And when you find friends who really listen, you take up all their time speaking and it's hard to stop, because you're so happy.
so true
It really be like that tho
Yeah..my life is just like this
One time I spoke to my best friend 3 hours non stop...😅
@@Lodosssc You have a good friend, he seems to be a pro listener
Introvert: speaks
Extrovert: "Oh wow, you CAN talk!" hahaha!
Everyone else: ignores what introvert said, laughs along with extrovert's funny and clever observation
Intovert: *never again*
thats am i xd
thats true every time I say something louder than normally my friends or classmates say it... when I told them (my friends) not to they didn't understand that it makes me uncomfortable, only once I didn't regret it when a girl said that I have beautifull voice
Whenever i speak to express myself, people would stop me from talking even though they nag how quiet i am in the first place
@@light8697 Same. It's annoying. Do people think that you are mean, because you are quiet? I get that a lot.
I know!
Another pet peeve of mine as an introvert is people showing up to your house unannounced
You describe exactly what I feel and think. It’s so good to see your videos.
You forgot one:
Other people: "Why do you never talk?"
Introvert: "Because i have nothing to say ..."
Add: “to you.” at the end of this. I have stuff to say to the right person.... sometimes quite a lot if it goes well. But honestly I can’t risk engaging with anyone that I don’t find holds my interest. It will only encourage them.
@@GG-wc3nx I can relate. With some friends I talk a lot, but with most people I just don't have nothing to say
@@GG-wc3nx same
Very simple introvert logic i agree
fr. my parents think i'm depressed because i'm so quiet but like, nah fam. i just don't wanna fake enthusiasm and pretend to be interested in irrelevant topics.
“Having your small, triple A-sized social battery DIE.” Oh my god comedy gold.
This is amazing when I realise there are so many of us. Most of my circle of influence aren't introverted or close or seem to be aware of introversion so I always have a hard time being with them, but I got my most beloved friend, my imaginations, thoughts about everything and anything!!
Frank james is my best friend and he doesn’t even know it
Anonymous Turtle laughing...he’s not the only one either. Has lots of ignorant friends...
“Not all heroes wear capes.”
And now...
“Not all best friends get the appraisal they deserve.”
Kirsten Cowan , uuuuh, you mean friends of whom he is ignorant?
INFJ I presume?
brownin329 who?
When you decide to actually comment on a conversation but get talked over, then you think no one heard you but then that one person asks what you said and you know it’s really stupid but tell them anyway and then it’s just awkward silence.....just me? Ok.
By the time someone asks me to say it again...i forget what i said,it happens all the time so my usual reponse is:nvm (but it's pronounced that way)
It also happens to me aaa
Nope. All the time. Sometimes when I speak in a conversation that's a relevant to the conversation they look at me with this look like they'd rather have someone else speak even though what they were saying was just as boring but somehow people liked it more. I don't speak in school too much anymore. It's happened too much. Even if it's just answering a question.
This right here. The one I hate the most. Don't push/ask me to talk if you won't listen. Argh. Happened quite often before already that it pushed me to stop trying anymore haha
Same hear, my voice is just gone like a breeze, oof.
Always love watching your videos, FJ. As an ISFJ, I can totally relate to these 10 struggles. I especially like the one about getting depressed when you finish a book. 🙂
This is way to relatable. Literally every one was spot on.
The most annoying thing is when somebody asks, "why are you so quiet?"
What am I supposed to say to that...?
"You don't interest me enough to be spoken to regularly."
Something along those lines.
@@ExcuseMyWeebRudeness thats savage but thanks
usually I just say I'm a shy person but its gets repetitive when they ask you the same question over and over and you keep having to come up with new answers 😤
Me: why are you so loud?
"Because conversation is an inconvenience to my quietness."
The amount of times I've apologized for not seeming empathetic.
Emma Rahner I switch it on consciously.
Like when people say "don't look so angry!"
Uuugh and all those times I get why are you always angry? Questions ....
@@Karo27007 oh yeah totally! I noticed I always look the angriest when Im concentrating myself, so the more I concentrate to get along with people, the angrier I look.
@@iTzProLike1 so true!! 😂
ughhhh yes!! also when you have to act fake disappointing/excited when a social event is canceled/planned, respectively. I hate lying and faking feelings in situations like that.
It’s quite amazing as I always feel like I’m the only introvert in my circle of friends or in my family, or at work. Reading the comments here makes me realise there are plenty of us!
The worst thing is when that social battery dies in school
Mine usually dies by the last hour...it's when my classmates ask me ALOT of questions like:Translate this,explain this,is there homework and if there is can i copy it then please translate it,help us clean up etc. etc.
And i still need to fix my uniform and bags since i never clean it up throughout class and i live in the Phillippines so there aren't any lockers and all of them are either social butterflies or jocks(though we don't have a field since i live in the capital city and we're surrounded by small houses & stores 1 meter from the gate,1 of the latter broke the teacher's desk when trying to backflip and 1 of the butterflies kept talking to me i almost forgot a test though the entire class are asking me to translate it to english(3 of our subjects are in english and i'm the only byelingual who speaks both English and Tagalog( Filipino))
I feel your pain
Mine is already dead the moment I get to class when I haven’t even said anything to anyone
@@Jay_Park_ same but i sleep in class and it gets drained again right before school ends
I felt that.
I feel as if he were narrating my life. One more: waiting a minute before you leave your apartment cause you heard voices in the hallway.
I can relate!!! LOOOL
Hahaha, yup. Also hiding when you see someone who knows you, like in a store.
Sameeeee
I do that too, omg
Or waiting 5 to 10 minutes in a bathroom stall until you hear that the entire bathroom has been emptied because you’re too afraid that you’ll intrude on the conversation
This humor is so relatable.
LITERALLY your videos are so spot on😂👏
Not all introverts are shy, introverts are people who get energy from being alone
Giorgia B - That’s how I am. I’m not necessarily shy. I just energize when alone or when I’m with those very close to me in my home. I get grouchy if I spend too much time with people in general. They annoy me, especially if they are mean to me and expect not to be to them in return (hypocrites), shallow, or willfully stupid (not if they are mentally challenged though for whatever reason).
facts, being shy and an introvert are two different things, but it's possible to be both.
I'm both introverted and shy 😂
Exactly, I've built strong self-confidence and am not afraid to speak and express. I actually enjoy to entertain others and definitely I am not invisible to people even if I wanted to. But after some social time I need to recharge alone and I rather spend time on my own or with one close person than go to party or shopping or whenever I have to deal with people.
@@BeardedBarley1 I relate to this so much! If I act mean to a person who was mean to me, ppl just outright say, I knew you were a snake! So, she being mean to me is nothing but if a quiet person does that in return, they are snake! Where's the logic!!
“Nevermind, it was full of people...”
No truer words have been spoken.
i hate going to crowded restaurants where you have to wait even 30 minutes to just order. Waste of time.
So me! 😂 Especially the getting excited thing and the battery dying.
I remember myself getting depressed after finishing a movie series, now I try not to bond too much with the characters :P
I absolutely hate when people tell me something they're excited about and they expect me to look happy for them, which I am, but when I express it I sound so fake omg
Omg, yes! No one believes it when I express things like that. I can understand why though, listening to the words that come out of my mouth I can hear how stilted and unnatural they sound and I'm thinking, "that's not what I meant!"
People are constantly accusing me of being sarcastic 😭
DUDE IKR
I can relate to that.
people bringing their babies into work is a big one... I have to fake like I'm amazed, actually I'm thinking wow 7 billion people on planet, hardly an accomplishment
Ah, yes, eating lunch in the car. No crowds, no chit-chat, no masks, and I can watch Frank's channel in peace. It's the perfect lunch spot.
Thanks for reminding me that
I really need to clean out my car. 😄
Agreed!
Hey the video is posted two hours ago. Why there written a week ago on your comment 🤔🤔
Miriam W. I love eating alone, it just feels better
@@theultimatenoor Bruh I was thinking the same thing
@@DonnaJordan1964 yeah it's weird ? How it can be possible 🤔
It seems as if you are in my mind 24/7 and display all of my thoughts into a short CZcams video. Guess I’m not the only one who goes thru that lol. Great videos!
This hit so many point throughout my life. Great job!
You should add the "Oh hey, you can actually speak, laugh, and smile!"
Me: ....😶
People are so rude with their quiet-shaming!
@@wesrm1 some of them, yea i agree
wesrm1 I’m quite but when someone pisses me off especially at school 🤪
@@kaykayssl267 quiet*
Rebecca A All of them. If I want to say something, I will. Who are they to comment?
another introvert thing (I think??): taking HUGE detours because walking ten minutes longer is definitely better than just walking past this group of people that's gathered on my usual way.
🙌
Ouch. I feel attacked.
Yep
YES
*ABORT MISSION YOU'VE BEEN EXPOSED*
I've just watched the video of how true introverts are and I thought "oh then I may not be introvert" but now I 100% relate to all these points. I don't like being invisible, like people don't noticing me but I also hate being the center of attention when many people keep staring me asking me if I'm okay and I say yes but they don't believe me.
Definitely started to relate as the numbers increased. Especially the reaction to sudden change of plans and reaction to canceled social functions.
"Hey, are you okay? You look mad"
Bro this is just my normal expression
That's me, all the time, every day.
I get that 10 times a day like leave me alone that's my normal expression
Me all day
that's me... every day...
my mom , my family or my juniors (senior too) they gonna be like can't you smile? or why she look mad...
This is me and mom ALWAYS asks if im mad or sad :,) and when i tell her im not she just asks more 😭💗
“ArE yOu oKaY?” “YoU sHOuLD tALk/SmILE MoRE?”
uuuuuggggggghhhhhh
"Cheer up"
Oh my god...all the time !!
Literally
I finally gave up and started giving out fake up smiles
It was so tiring that I had to get out of the socials groups every few hours to charge myself up
Talk less, smile more, don't let them know what your against or what your for.
If you get the reference you are know my favorite person
@@itsacookie8657 You wanna get ahead?
Fools who run their mouths off wind up dead.
"if you are sad, don't be sad"
-pewdiepie
Wow this guy put every single struggle introvert have and i relate so much I mean I always knew I was a introvert
I received a Kindle as a gift 10 years ago and it's still the best gift I have ever received! Always a next book to read!
I LOVE the coment section. It's like finding my Lost family.
Ik Right?!
Wanna be friends
Yassss
Introverts unite
Yesssssssss
YES! Also, point 11: Being upset when you're never invited to any social gathering but not wanting to go when people invite u.
@Divoký Lev Wow I can so relate. I often feel relieved when people cancel but at the same time I feel ignored and unappreciated. And those are real triggers for me, I hate that feeling. I have a deep need to feel like I matter and count, which is probably confusing for people since I often withdraw. I think introverts live with many contradictions. Feeling alone but not wanting to meet people. Wanting to feel that people try to included u but not actually wanting to be part of it. Life is hard😅
@@eleonore-8969 with internet . Introverts life is more simple
Yes! Then I guilt trip myself for the next week or so! 😆
Yep, accurate!
I got "your my type" ad featuring this man just before this add
The thing is that I’m an extroverted introvert…. And also an empath….. so I get happy for people and sad for people but it’s SO EXHAUSTING being around people!!
I fondly remember kids on the school bus turning around and asking me
*Kid:* Why don't you talk?
*Me:* (Removes headphones) Because I have nothing to say.
*Kid:*
*Me:*
*Kid:* Turns around awkwardly
smooth
Hi 👋
Cantwasait
i agree why talk. when you don't have nothing to say. Especially : if you are a infj we just don't talk to just be talking .when we don't have nothing to talk about are you a ( infj )
Just a question 😉 you can answer if you like .
@@darleenbrown3906 Exactly. Why waste my breath and talk about nothing?! 🤣
^this^ a thousand times ^this^
Yes! This! A million times!! Every family gathering I get some version of “Oh Sami you talk too much, haha” (when, of course, I have not said a single word) Why add verbal non-important pollution to the already crowd infested chaotic air?
“I thought you're a big jerk who's just too good for all of us but turns out, you're just quiet” LOL! I can relate so hard to that it's not even funny.
I can relate to this too...
I did not like that
My mom says I think I'm too good for everyone cause I don't want to talk that much..... Yippee I'm living the best life 😐
I get the opposite. New friends will tell me about how I’m not as innocent as I look😂
@@gunybjarnadottir7870 bro same
@@gunybjarnadottir7870 I've gotten that too.
Love this. Makes me feel loads better that I'm not the only one out there... !
You sir James nailed it
You know you're introverted when you can't even socialize with your own family.
Right. Sometimes family is the worst.
bruh
Family just talks about other people's life and stories and gossips and it is so boring.
Can't even tell them i got an A on an exam like a month ago...
My sister was the first extrovert to take me under her wing.
"You're a good listener"
Well, yeah, but that doesn't mean I wanna listen to you :b
Ya when I realise I can't get through to my brother that I don't care even when I say so multiple times to him. I just go to the washroom or my room shutting the door on his face because he is so relentless. He literally as ranting about his game to me and I go to washroom and then he continues ranting about his game right outside the washroom.
So true. I often have people spill their guts to me and honestly either I'm wishing they'd shut up or I've tuned out and am thinking about something completely different.
“You are such a good listener”
Me: I was reading a book on my phone and didn’t hear any of what you just said
Ugh couldn't have said it better my sister won't shutup she talks alot i really hate it when i keep asking her to shutup but she won't i even say that ariana has released a song for you "shutup" 😆
100% agree.
I recently discovered you and I’m just loving your videos on introversion 🙌🏽🙌🏽
This video us so accurate!!! Helps knowing it's OKAY being as I was born. But at times it's been hard.
The feeling of belonging I got after watching this one... Oh man, this was so on point, I can't even😏
fr tho 😂😂
ok maybe it's just me, but when I am in a social situation and my "battery" runs out, I start to dissociate. It's like I'm not even there, I cant focus, I cant concentrate, I'm super tired, and I can't hear what people are saying? Anyone else went through this or am I just a crazy person?
When my battery runs out either the wall or my phone becomes really interesting lol so I can relate
One time at a little cousins house I was playing with them, then I go into what seemed like a semi-unconscious state. Then I emerge from it, probably at least 5 minutes latter. I don’t know what happened then, I’m unsure of how much time passed, and someone was probably trying to talk to me. Overall it was a fun experience that took me away from the socialness of it all and gave time to recharge
Yes! Me too!
Like I'm still looking at them and sometimes even nodding and still knowing when to say things like "that's great" or "wow" - but I have no idea what they are talking about anymore.
I feel like a jerk, but I just can't focus anymore.
You’re not crazy. I can totally relate!!
Same! I usually excuse myself to avoid being disrespectful, though.
I had to practice excitement to better fit into social standards. You have to really work on the tone and pitch of your voice, it's where the secret lies. For every voice it will be different, but a slight rising of pitch will help. Also, I practiced a lot in the mirror with face expressions and that's what I find works for me: a faint smile will look more genuine than a broad smile, but don't go too Monalisa so people don't think it's a sarcastic smile, curve your lips a bit and show some teeth (maybe a third to half depending on their size, what looks more natural); widen your eyes a bit, like you're a bit surprised, but not full on shock, you don't want the whites of your eyes showing above or under your eyes when you do that or you might look terrified, and you can try to very slightly rise your eyebrows with it so it feels more natural, maybe half a pinky finger or less. To accompany, if you're in close range you can: shake their hand if it's a professional setting, like someone telling you they got a promotion, but keep your hand firm, don't squeeze their hand too tight and move it twice with conviction; give about two pats in the shoulder if it's someone you're not very close too, like a friend of a friend, as it's not a very personal contact; if it's a friend, give three pats in the opposite shoulder, in a side hug way; if you're up to it, give then a hug; if you're not up for contact, just move your hand a bit or put one arm over the other (folded, not crossed) and pat your own arm close to the elbow, fold and unfold your arms, it looks more natural than it sounds. A safe choice in contact is also to read what other people are saying. Use for reference an extrovert that has a similar relationship than you to that person (family, friend, acquaintance, coworker) and follow their lead, so if they shake hands, do it too, and so on. So this is my tutorial on how to look naturally excited, I hope this might help with social anxiety if anyone feels like trying. It is a lot of work in the beginning, but it comes naturally once you get used to it.
Bruh, number 9 got me!!! Growing up, I got that so freaking much😂
"Hey you look dead inside"
"......??"
How do you respond to this stuff? You just walk into a room "are you okey?", you sit down "having a bad day?", getting home after a long day "aww what happened?".
It's just my normal f a c e
YES exactly. I was rlly good at faking excitement in school but one day i was just sooo freakin done so i was quiet most of the day and just enjoyed my books and was just daydreaming. Alluvasudden teacher comes over like "omg r u ok u haven't talked like at all today and u seem rlly sad" like REALLY?!?! Honestly its like if my default isnt BEAMING HAPPY HAHA its sad and mopey like no im in lala land riding dragons i am PLENTY happy hon.
when you're happy but your face just doesn't fit to your mood lol
I make a worse face. Simple as that.
@@Sam-jf9nn I died here XD so damn fricking relatable...............almost the same incident just that the teacher in your case was a group of some random ppl in my case.....
My new teacher was like super kind to me the day we met and I just went along. And the day after I heard from my classmates that she thought that I had some family problems or even was suicidal just because I looked "sad" and she even shouted at my classmates that they weren't considerate enough to me.
But that was just my normal happy face
Another struggle: friends who don’t understand introverts. How many memes do I need to send to you before you get it??
bitch please my friends don't even speak english
I got tired of explaining...so, I don't have friends anymore.
@@katiehunt3083 That's relatable
When the teacher asks the class whether they want to do the projects in groups or individually and everyone’s yelling “groups” and you just sit there tearing your brain apart and mumbling “individually”
Yea the battery thing is completely on point. 👍🏿
#11: Instant panic when the doorbell rings. And immediate relief when you find it was just the UPS guy leaving a package on the porch.
😂
🙀🙄👏 my feelings exactly.
#12 taking days or maybe years to reply to a text message because you are afraid of the unknown that comes with that kind of social interaction.
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Ha ha 😂 YES! Sometimes someone's at the door but I just hide in the bathroom ans wait for someone else to answer
When people say: "Oh you are so lucky. You always so calm, nothing really annoys you." lol...
@Karen same
When in reality your palm are sweating or you have stomach ache from anxiety but just don't show it
In your brain, you actually scream for help and hope you can gtfo here quickly.
actually me: trying not to have a nervous breakdown, feeling sick and having a headache bc of anxiety :')
to those people: "I was fine until you talked your words at me!" (lol)
IKR i always feel like I'm not excited enough about things loll
I've been in most of those scenarios. Thanks for the vid. I like how you get to the point w/out the BS preamble