Shocking CONFESSIONS of a HABITUAL CHEATER with Laterras R. Whitfield
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00:00:00 Introduction
00:02:25 Laterras Whitfield's "Feather Story"
00:05:15 Lack of INTEGRITY and Brokenness
00:10:09 Discipline and Compatibility
00:15:00 Dealing with SHAME in Marriage
00:19:25 Struggles of Marital Intimacy
00:29:20 Meeting A Woman's Needs
00:39:10 TRUST in Relationships
00:44:03 Double Standard in Relationships
00:48:51 GRACE in Marriage
00:53:53 Neglect in Relationships
00:58:38 The DIVORCE Journey
01:03:33 Transparency and Trust
01:12:49 Value of Self and Consecration
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Not sure if I my wife and I fit your demographic but it is possible to to be married and not cheat on your wife. 40 years of marriage, up,s and downs and even being $420,000.00 in debt which left us $93.00 in the bank. So why would I want to cheat on my wife when i took vows that I would honor her? What we must remember is the price for sin is heavy, very heavy. I’m so sorry that this young brother couldn’t keep the vow of his marriage however Gods grace is sufficient. There is no woman walking on the planet that is worth my soul. The $420k debt? Is gone paid in full And through all of that Gods grace kept us
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Amen... What stood out most is God you know how our father see marriage and how it suppose to be. Bless to you and your wife Amen 🙌🏽💜🙏🏽
You're a Blessing 🙌🏾 in your mindset,for all loyal Women who seek marriage.
You are a breath of fresh air and you speak with clarity about honoring God. Sad to say a lot of men don't honor God this way. They're bonded in perversion and carnal minded . Getting married is a sacred act of two people taking vows and going before God asking him to bless the marriage. Unfortunately most people leave God out after they get married and that is why marriage doesn't work. God bless you for honoring your vows and staying the course!🙏❤️
@@Msspeedywow Miss Sabrina thank you for your kind words means a lot the reason i make such a fuss over my wife ,?Well because I love her and she stuck with me during our financial upheaval we were actually down to $93.00 to our name but she always encouraged me never belittling me in any form. At my highest weight I was 330lbs and during this never heard one hint of sarcasm now that im down to 207lbs she still is the same. Love ❤️ her so very much
We always talk about why we cheated no one talk about how the non cheater cope with the cheater after being still living together. It is a psychological trauma difficult to overcome
So true. This what I go thru
When I tell you it's difficult. If you ask me to marry again...this same husband, it'd be an unequivocal NO. And I love my child to eternity.
Very difficult. Ppl say just leave. Sometimes you can't just pick up and leave.
@2intriguing1 Same here, it has been a very rough almost 3 years.
@coriettapadilla9977 hang in there, 15 yrs in, it won't get easier if you don't create a sense of self, boundaries and goals within the marriage. You wanna always make sure you're filling your cup if you're constantly pouring into others🫶🏿
The same way a man dates you is the way he is going to be married to you.
He cheated on her when he dated her, and he cheated on her when he married her.
Mine was a virgin til marriage then cheated a decade in.
I really don’t think men know how much it hurts to be cheated on. It can leave a person scarred for life.
It's not men, it's selfish people, there lots of women that cheat too.
40 year old woman here. Staying single is the best choice I've ever made. I practice celibacy, I still look 30 and I sleep PEACEFULLY every night knowing that no one is making me look like a FOOL out in these streets😆 Life is WONDERFUL when one makes GOOD HEALTHY decisions😊
Good for you. Don't settle.
Do you not desire to be in a relationship in the future or you’re planning on staying single for life?
@@beverleyreid7572Don't settle...? Wow that's what you gathered from this meaningful conversation? Men are who we are. At the end of the day, no one cares what other people think. Being single and lonely isn't cool. I'm not saying to be in a dysfunctional relationship. I am saying cheating isn't the reason most people get divorced. Work on the other issues and cheating probably won't happen. Cheating is a symptom, not the disease.
P.S...being single doesn't mean we are lonely! I travel,enjoy lovely dinners and dancing and engage in healthy activities. I despise when people try to put us in the box as being LONELY. SMH. Them people just hate on our peace...lol. I made the decision to not destroy my beauty or peace with children and a husband who is never truly satisfied😄😄
@evedelgado2345 You said the key thing that hit the nail and that is "they hate on our peace. " This is so true because most people are so used to drama. I'm in my late 40s and ended up in a toxic situation with a man. Now I cry at night missing the person I was for so many years. Now I have to do double praying as I trust God to continue to heal and restore me. It's not worth it to live in dysfunction just to have someone. Stay in that peaceful place and don't let anyone shame you.
Regardless of the platform, you’ve always respected your ex-wife and honored your word. Thank you for your vulnerability and integrity 👏
Most men tell the other women lies about their wives to justify their cheating.
A man can’t honor his wife AND cheat! It’s one or the other!
WHERE AND HOW SWAY??????? Idk how you got that outta all of what he said. Thats not love.
Pickmesha vibes 😂
@@zach3841 I’m confused by your comment as I never mentioned anything about love🤔
I love how he still covers her, because its obvious that he was not the only problem but he doesnt put any blame on her
The emotional intelligence and transparency of these men is astounding and refreshing! 🥰
His message on taking accountability rings so true. My ex husband cheated on me in the first year of marriage and my intuition told me. He never admitted it until 10+ years later in marriage counseling when he was trying to manipulate his way out of admitting his present cheating. It hurt me so bad that he was so conniving to admit it to a third party instead of me, solely to get out of being open & honest to address things head on. I knew enough then to decide that was the nail in the coffin for me. I left the marriage and never looked back. Mistakes are mistakes, but accountability helps people own them. Poor behavior patterns go beyond mistakes. Some cheaters fall into the act from a desperate place. Others plan, lie, manipulate, gaslight, etc. to keep cheating as long as they think they can get away with it.
Well said, totally agree.
cheating isnt a mistake
Share your experience, it's so sad about these ungrateful me
If you're in a sexless marriage for months and months, it's going to be a serious problem. 😒😒😒
YOU STUCK AROUND FOR 10 YEARS THEN LISTENED HIM GASLIGHT?? WHEW CHILE
Cheating will destroy your marriage and only God can heal the relationship between wife and husband 🙏🏾
True👍
This man’s story is just like mine smh, men are not thought to have self worth so we look at sex totally different than how women do. Now the journey to becoming that man that understands what it mean to have self worth and to stop sleeping with a bunch of girls is hard work within it self, just looking at girl alone is like second nature to us , growing up as a West Indian man i saw men get praised for sleeping with girls and if you don’t you are called names for it, so now as a grown man it’s hard to break those bad habits that you thought was cool. I am now on this crazy journey that will most likely make me loose friends and that’s ok, respect to this man for sharing his secrets with everyone to indulge in, what he have done is hard and should 🐝 respected.
Sometimes when you grow and improve and start losing “friends” you’re actually shedding dead weight… keep making you better
Hardly Initiated and the Dear Future Wifey Podcast are two of my favorite podcasts. I love that these podcasts have open discussions with both men and women without the toxic bashing of each other. It's so refreshing. I wish continued growth for both podcasts and that you guys are surrounded by people that will pour positivity into your spirit.
At 42::50 Ryan says he’s a firm believer that a good man can cheat. Look up the word cheat.
There is no good in the definition of that word.
It’s crazy to me that after ALL of these guests and lessons that this is still a belief.
There’s a quote that states: When you know better, you do better.
What you know, you are accountable for. You have to be VERY careful with your words and what you do to others because it will CERTAINLY come back to you.
Those who love themselves and their mate are exclusive with their bodies. Sharing your body outside of your relationship AND standing by a person who does such dishonors you both. It’s a huge risk-health wise, mentally and spirituality. I wish people loved themselves more.
We have to do better.
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Well said & so true
I wonder if he believes good women can cheat? I doubt the answer is yes. I've watched the show a few times and he doesn't think realistically to me. He wants but doesn't give what he wants. Typical of people these days.
@@JaneDoe-dp6rg women can’t cheat because they will be tied in emotionally
Yaaasssss! About the pre-engagement counseling, pre-marriage, during marriage, post-marriage monthly check-ins! I'm for ALL of it! 👍🏾🙏🏾
I have been single for many years and I think you can be as beautiful and fo everything to please your mate but if they want to cheat they will and some couples stay together for money issues and do what they want.
I agree.
I appreciate him taking accountability by saying he lacked integrity instead of pointing out a flaw in his partner as an excuse to his infidelity
I appreciate this whole thing.. We are constantly torn apart (black relationships) we need to talk.. communication is real! Thank you all for authenticity!🎉
Please bring Lateras back. He's awesome and I love his Dear Future Wifey podcasts
What you mean? Did he end his podcast?
I really enjoyed the podcast with Tony Gaskins, and now with Laterras Whitfield. I’m already a subscriber to Tony so I’m about to subscribe to Latteras Whitfield and Hardly Initiated.😊🙏🏽❤️👍🏽
Please do another collab! Very authentic conversation that is needed among African-American males.
Yep because they cheat like it's the standard .. 🤦🏾♀️
ANOTHER ONE!!!!! This was an amazing collab. Laterras was demonstrating so much maturity and authentencity. MEN & WOMEN LISTEN UP!!!
Honest question for women: how are you being a wife, mother, working full time and catering to your man and not being completely drained all the time? Marriage sounds awful for women tbh
It really does. Lol
It is a lot of work tbh you have to be married to someone who is helpful and fills in when you need a break. You have to definitely have God on the inside of you. Wisdom. Prioritize. And take a day of rest. Take care of yourself also
It really was too much for me. He expected EVERYTHING, even 50/50 on bills and gave very little in return. Wanted sex all the time but had a hard time giving me the least emotional support or validation. Not sure I want to marry again. If I do, it will have to be wayyyyyyyy different and he will be a provider.
This is truly an epidemic that’s rarely spoken of, and the danger here is that drained mothers can sometimes lack the strength (and/or the skills) to truly nurture their children… and kids learn their base behaviors and priorities at young ages from their parents. Mothers are usually the primary role models of intimacy, and creating nurturing environments for children. We talk a lot about daddy issues, but don’t talk enough about “mommy issues” that exist in our community, due to the lack of emotional intimacy that is very prevalent and emotionally unavailable men are often a byproduct of emotionally unavailable/drained mothers.
It is not if you marry your best friend…be equally yoked.
Sometimes women want to do every thing for everyone and I blame society for that. We are only now learning to be soft, vulnerable and allowing ourselves to be tired.
Having that conversation BEFORE marriage is very important - what are your expectations, what do you want out of this union…honest conversations that are ONGOING…because life happens sometimes.
My husband and I live off the following:
When I am weak he is strong, where he is weak I am strong, where we both are weak, we will outsource (get help)- it’s worked perfectly for us and we both are very happy and constantly check in with each other
14 minutes in and my minds 🤯 He keeps it so real. 🙌🏾We need more people in the church to keep it real. Because it definitely goes down in the church 😳 And nobody wants to talk about that.
Dear Future Wifey Day 1 fan here!!! Laterras is a disruptor! He continues to disrupt what the culture views as “normal” (toxicity, improper communication, lack of self-awareness & accountability, double standards & etc.) for the benefit of God’s Kingdom! I am so proud of him!! He represents Christ & the DFW community well!!!!☺️☺️☺️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wow! Thank you so much! That means a lot.
Laterras is so full of wisdom and knowledge. I just love how his words just bring so much depth into the topic.
I really enjoyed watching this. Gotta be honest I was scared to watch because I thought I was gonna be triggered. I see a lot of the same mistakes he mentioned were also made in my marriage early on. I’m very much so like his wife. I wasn’t being fulfilled,appreciated, helped with the kids, prioritized so his sexual fulfillment wasn’t my main concern. The whole painful part in watching this is he’s grown and learned a lot but how much pain has to be inflicted to get the man that he is now. I wanna be loved right the first time.
This discussion proves that we were not built for cheating it is too painful!!
And stressful. Men always act like it's a natural thing yet that man in southern CA just shot up a bar a couple months ago where his wife worked cuz he got cheated on.
It hurts. It's not normal or okay for either sex. Even logically it makes no sense to put yourself and your partner at risk of diseases and such. Monogamy is healthy but it requires us to not be lazy and care for each other's needs.
The Hardly Initiated guys should be guests on the My Future Wifey podcast, or they need to do a solo show with no guests. Laterras has always been transparent about his story. We now want to know Ryan and Tysean’s story, who they are-past and present. We’re curious about possible growth/change of views since starting the podcast
I couldn;t agree with you more!
Yeeees!!!!!
Yess!, people connect to truth and transparency, they need to return the favour.
That would be nice. But I don't think these young men are not on that mature level yet. They are awesome youtubers who provide a platform for others. But they are not experienced enough to share and don't have the wisdom to be vulnerable yet. It takes time to get there.
@@cjones2171 They are in their early and close to mid thirties. I think some of us are still curious about their stories-their experiences and what shaped them, and if this podcast has had any effect on tnem. Also Laterras is good. He asks the right questions and provides great insight. Sometimes speaking through things provides therapy, which can lead to growth.
This was a great podcast!
As a woman... I really appreciate the courage to enter this space, share the journey, inspire hope, and speak to the calling of husbands! Hats off to you gentlemen!
If your wife “not wanting to have sex with you” is enough reason to walk away from marriage, you’re not marriage material. Just date and have girlfriends, but don’t waste your time getting married! Marriage requires soooo much sacrifice and if you already have deal breakers just don’t marry. Stop sending the divorce rate up when you have a long list of reasons you’d leave. I don’t have a list of things my husband can do that’ll make me divorce him because beyond my vows to him I’m in COVENANT with God and I’ll honor it until the day I leave earth.
With this said, I married a beautiful beautiful man. God truly did bless me with him - he’s worth every sacrifice, the effort and my lifetime commitment. Even in our disagreements when I can’t stand to look at or be around him God is advocating to me on his behalf. It’s like God always has a say, the ultimate say and his ultimate say is what always brings us back together and helps us to reconcile.
Say it louder sis 🗣️❤
Because he doesn't even hear that he didn't meet her needs either. And then divorced her. He probably needs to remain single. Bc the feather story JUST CAME TO him last year. Maybe his platform is gonna be his ministry bc sounds like he didn't have a right to divorce his wife.
This was beautiful, thank you for sharing and may God continue to bless your marriage 10 fold ❤❤
Another one with Laterras Whitfield please!
Excellent content on this podcast. Also love the fact that Laterras is honest and is NOT a hypocrite. Love his wisdom about marriage.
I like how he as a man is being very expressive in steps to healing to be a better man.
This man should give a course on this. If I would of known this before, I would not be divorced. Church’s need to speak more about these thing before any pastors marries anyone anyone . I applaud you my brother. For what God has poured into you.
Why are yall saying marriage brings out the worst in you? I disagree. Marriage brings out who you really are. Marriage is a beautiful thing if you are with the right person, it should bring out the best of you.
ANOTHER ONE!! I ❤️ both Laterra's vulnerability and the brothers of Hardly Initiated! Thank you both for your ministry!!!!
I know the video hasn’t even dropped yet, however I’m so happy you all finally got him on here I was anticipating this for some time now! Excited 😆
You and me together! When I saw his face I’m like “Oh my goodness”! 😮 I’m so looking forward to this conversation and am praying I can catch it live. 😉
@@t7cooley420 Me too!! ☺️
Meeee too Sis!!! 🌻
Me tooooo😅
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"I'm not going to criticize my hand for hurting, I am going to meet the needs of my hand"... great quote
Another one please ! Thank you for the open honest conversation Mr. Whitfield and to the wonderful team conducting the forum - kudos to you both as well !!!
I love Laterras wisdom and growth. He has evolved tremendously as he transparently share his journey. I’ve been a huge fan of Dear Future Wifey for years and witnessed it. I have enjoyed this collaboration and yes, pleeease do another one! Great job gentlemen ❤❤️
Another one…….Laterras is so transparent and I love it. Most people lie to themselves so it’s hard to hear truth. I would love to have a man who was this transparent but is willing to accept my transparency . However, when a woman is this transparent it’s hard for most men to accept it. This was a great episode, you guys asked him so great questions. Bring him back and I pray for your podcast as well🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
So true!
The fact that he’s still covering her and protecting their business even after the divorce says alot about the man he is! This was good!
I’m feeling like it’s a marriage that can & should be reconciled.
@@tawainahollis4770thank you so much for saying this. I agree that they could be reconciled.
OMG, as a divorcee and my marriage dissolving due infidelity (and other things) this was so enlightening to hear this from a male perspective. I can only hope that those who see this are honest with themselves, make their needs known and make their relationships a priority! He truly dropped some gems on this.
Also, I feel like he needs to get back with the first wife because clearly there's a respect and reverence still there for her and that's a great starting point.
I agree with you absolutely! If they’re both single, with such great friendship between them and all the life lessons the both have learned, the should definitely get back together!
I don't know if he is married again but if that is his first wife and she still alive that is wife period....he should go back and mend that...that's why marruage is so serious in the first place u know? U don't get to stay that again after u already said it...it's until death do u part!
@@lala5061Just because he’s become a different man and learned from his past poor choices, doesn’t mean he should go back or that she should take him back. Sometimes relationships that ended need to stay that way
I agree
Ummmm just because you think he respects her doesn’t mean they should be back together. He should have some respect for her now as he’s the one who made a mess of the marriage.
This was really really good!! 44:15 reminded me of this scripture :
“But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. Now early in the morning He came again into the temple, and all the people came to Him; and He sat down and taught them. Then the scribes and Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in adultery. And when they had set her in the midst, they said to Him, “Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses, in the law, commanded us that such should be stoned. But what do You say?” This they said, testing Him, that they might have something of which to accuse Him.
But Jesus stooped down and wrote on the ground with His finger, as though He did not hear. So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. Then those who heard it, being convicted by their conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.””
John 8:1-11 NKJV
It’s really interesting that men wanted to stone the woman caught in adultery but not the man committing adultery with her.
Jesus acknowledged what she did was wrong but pointed out the hypocrisy of the men when he told them “he who has never sinned throw the first rock” and no one could because they had all sinned.
I’m 100% against cheating man or woman but it’s interesting the reaction when a MAN FORGIVES a woman for cheating on him vs a woman who forgives a man for cheating yet it exposes the hypocrisy in ALL OF US.
We all want grace but we never want to give grace yet we sin against our Maker every single day and EXPECT to be forgiven, interesting species we are, thank God for his mercy.
Great episode, lots to learn from! Bring my friend Latty back! 🙏🏾
This story was recently discussed on their episode with Lecrae and Tim Ross
Sex is not a need ! Nobody die for lack of sex.
Exactly. These Black men are making excuses.
This right here is exactly why so many marriages fail. Are you a man? Do you know what a man is? Do you know how a man thinks? How can you say sex is not a need. Madness
This is why there is so many sexless marriages. Women like yourself get the kids then thats it. Shut down. Shop close. Madness
Sex is a need for a man. A need is anything you need to function. Just say it's not for you but it is for most men
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I'm so glad you guys collaborated. I have recommended both channels because there's so many bad things said about Black, male podcast hosts. People don't even realize there's great ones you can actually learn from. DFW is one of the main reasons I attracted the relationship I'm in now versus what I was in last year. It was hard going from an 8 year relationship, to dating an undercover F-boy for three months, to now dating an absolute sweetheart at 32. There are great men out here and thankfully they have you guys to watch and learn from.
Wow! That just blessed my heart. Thank you
@@DearFutureWifey thanks for your sincerity in your work!
It’s rare to hear somebody be so transparent about their life. Even including their mistakes and learning from them. God bless you brother 🙏🏽
This podcast is so Rich Laterras!! Thank you so much for being transparent, vulnerable and Real!! God is truly going to get the glory out of this on so many levels!!❤❤💜💜
Wow! What a pivotal conversation! I pray that this podcast goes viral and saves marriages! Many marriages go through this season and don't make it out! Hit so many important points! Please take head! 🙏🏽💜💪🏽
Definitely - ANOTHER ONE! It's so refreshing to see accountability from all sides. The counseling is a must! I'll look forward to the next collab!
The ugliest men cheat, how??? I don't want any ugly man talk to me unless he has a nice body.
Wow, so many intelligent, conscious men in one room. This talk is such a blessing 🙏. Thank you gentlemen.
Thank you for your vulnerability Bro. L! ❤️🙏🏾 We need this double healing conversation
This is my first time listening to this podcast, and I thoroughly enjoyed this article. Another one, please
Awesome podcast!! REAL TALK!! Thank you Laterras R. Whitfield for your openness and for sharing such wisdom! God has truly blessed you to be a light, and an instrument used to show other men how to be a kingdom man! I applaud the man of God you are today. You have so much to share that will help both men and women! I pray that God would bless you with an amazing wife! You deserve it, and have so much to give! God bless you!
I came accross this by accident and totally enjoyed listening to you gentlemen. I'm always interested in learning how men think, feel, and interpret things. Because if I'm lucky enough to find that love again in my life I want to be everything he needs. Cause I know pouring into that is the same as investing into myself as well. So thank you for the great information.
My morality was gonna be compromised with my exhusband who repeatedly cheated without any intention on stopping and healing so I had to leave!
OMG BOTH MY FAVORITE PODCAST! YESSSSSSS!!!!! This was amazing! And the EDITING!!! Grade A!!! Love this!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Please another one! This conversation is so needed among men and women! Wow the vulnerability and humility is the reason im a Dear Future Wifey podcast fan. Thank you Laterras for the wisdom. Loved this conversation 👏🏽🔥
Wow! What a powerful topic, thank you to the speaker for being vulnerable with us..... And thank you to the host for building men from inside out. Man hold hold power as heads, as long as we have broken men, we will have broken relationships, broken marriages and broken families that will produce broken children and the circle wont stop because it can only stop with Men, healing and taking back/reclaiming their positions as leads
I also want relationship check points in my next relationship as well. I think that is the key to a successful relationship/marriage.
Most chosen husband/wives are not the person you've imagined marrying, nor do they meet ALL your expectations of a spouse.💯
Very excited about this episode.. I thoroughly love both of these podcasts, and this was a great move! Also, cheating is very painful on both parties, but recovery is possible "when" both partners are willing to do whatever necessary. Marriage is for mature, selfless people.. It requires renewing of mindset and ideas about what marriage should look like. There is always communication , sometimes in a whisper before a scream. We must stay checked into our mates and their needs and communicate what is needed as marriages evolve because leveryone changes!
Thank you gentlemen, this was so eye opening. I was married for 31 years and divorced my husband because of years of infidelity. If only we approached things as shared in the interview maybe we would have had a different outcome. I will know for the future.
I love watching both of these podcasts. I love the gems of knowledge being shown on all the episodes. I learn something on each episode. I pray both podcasts be available on open forums as they are for years to come. I’ll always chose to watch these podcasts. Lord bless these men with God fearing, prayer warriors, agape love with the peace of God ladies in all their lives.
Please be safe, careful, alert, intentional in your ways in these open platform streets. The Devil is in sheep clothing. People are not whom they seem to be.
Stay strong men and peace of Gods coverage on your lives & the good work y’all doing.
Please do more collaborations with Mr My Future Wifey! I truly pray your future wifey comes soon.
"How do I fault a woman for running into a bunch of mes on the way to me" Mr. Larerras R. Whitfield, sir you just said a whole word right there sir!
Thank you for sharing. It makes my healing more possible.
Laterras has always been very real in all of his conversations, and I respect that about him. Thank you, Great Men, for all you do to touch lives positively.
As I began learning that I struggle with codependency too, I related to & identified that in laterras when people came after him about laughing when Denaya jackson told her story…. they thought he was being immature, but laughing at people who seem witty to us when they are just merely “being” i feel is a developed trait from codependency that people misunderstand. It may come from subconsciously being a people pleaser………
Awesome conversation! I wish more people would take accountability for their actions.
Now that is sooooo very true, folk should be responsible in being ACCOUNTABLE for their actions. It is sad enough but it's really disrespectful for a woman to call herself a queen or a boss lady while sleeping with a married man and saying it doesn't matter because they are separated WOWWW.....
They are still married and if you see that as as a commitment to you, girl WATCHOUT because no way he's not going to stay committed to you.....if you've got to sneak, hide, move away OR anything unordinary that's not the one that you think.....
it is important when the other party takes accountability for ones' action. Thank you, Laterras, for mentioning this because this hit me hard.
My ex-husband refused to accept and apologize for the hurt, pain and the infidelities. We have a child together and it has been one of the hardest healing processes for me. I still have to communicate with this man, and it can be very difficult at times.
New Subbie here "Hardly Initiated".
A great episode! It’s so refreshing to see a mature and respectful conversation about relationship issues. Instead of bashing one gender or the other!
This was a great conversation! Laterras has helped me in so many ways! Keep up the great content!
Men and women need to understand and make personal conversations their first form of intimacy. Imagine getting your most intimate questions asked and HONESTLY answered, then each person's desires are shown by their natural actions...not grudgingly. 🤔😯🤭🤗😍
Love his honesty and transparency!!! Because a lot of men are out here cheating! Not all men but more than most! It’s awesome that a man, a brother is starting this conversation and talking from a man’s point of view and perspective! Not to mention and man of God! This was awesome!!! I pray that men can hear and receive from this brother!
This was SO wholesome and healing. The bit on 'Integrity' was quick but deep! Thoroughly enjoyed this video.
Absolutely loved this episode…. So insightful and informative. Also so uplifting. A God of second chances ❤
Thank U Laterras for always being lit and transparent. You are so awesome brother. Many Many More Blessed Returns 🙌🏾 🎉🌟❤️
Good informative and very much appreciated. You all opened my eyes to many things that my husband is doing even now. He's also a narcissist, so that's another level issues that he has. And that's driving him even the more to cheat, lie, manipulate, and mistreat his family. But I appreciate your platform and the transparency of your situation. More people need to hear this, especially the cheaters. It may open them up to seek help.
I love how
- he explained that God's hand/oneness of the union left his marriage when he cheated
- he said that you gotta consistently work on your marriage, make checkpoints and give each other grace
- he told the feather story
Love both podcasts ;)
This was the DEEPEST and BEST conversation! 💜
Love Laterras and his work!!!! Less than a minute into the video and can't wait for the dialogue!
I never watch Hardly Initiated before, I watch because of Laterras, I need another one with you guys. This was Great, Very informative. God send Mr. Laterras in our lives to break generational curses, to educate us about ourselves, each other and what it means to walk in obedience to God. God bless all of you in your work, transparency and the willingness to be humble enough to talk about hardcore subjects.
Generational curses were broken by Jesus in the cross
OMG!!!!! Laterras you were sharing SOOOOO MUCH ELEVATED, LOVING, INSIGHTFUL, SPIRITUAL and POWERFUL TRUTH in this interview!!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
THANK YOU!!!!!!❤️😊❤️ As a saved, divorced African American "seasoned" woman who's also a licensed therapist, I'm trusting that one day GOD will grant the desires of my heart to be a guest on your Dear Future Wifey Podcast!🙏🏾☺️🙏🏾
In the meantime, I'm going to continue listening to WONDERFULLY EDUCATIONAL conversations like this and sharing the links with friends and family!!😊💕👏🏾👩🏽💻💕👏🏾😊 God's continued Blessings to all of you!! ❤️🤲🏽❤️
Awesome so proud of you black men! This podcast is a blessing and confirms all hope is not lost in our community.
HI…Let the haters be your motivators! God bless
he need to stop it, 28..is old enough, acting like he had a teen marriage; he just was an immature 28yo with lack of self control & selfish at the time. how could he say he wanted to fill the void in the marriage and was cheating b4 the marriage?🙄thank God for grace & mercy & a chance to grow & be better. He has alot of wisdom to share so hopefully others can heed and don't make the same mistake.
Yes, you’ll breaking it down.✅💯
Deep experience and testimony to inspire sooo many people!! Great discussion!!
I was 25 my husband was 53 when we got married he died at the age103 I have never cheated on him
Thank you for this opportunity to hear messages like this ❤ I’m learning so , much! When I’m ready to step back in the ( when my teenage children are grown up) dating scene 🎬 I will be more active to be a better partner!
ANOTHER ONE ☝🏽 🎉. Thank you for your vulnerability while sharing your testimony. Being introspective through the lens of faith takes courage and accountability. I pray both men and women learn from your story to become more intentional with themselves and their partners. Thank you. 🎊
This is so great! Especially in light of how men podcast / talk shows degrade women. This was a genuine and honest conversation. I especially appreciated it when he brought to light the hypocrisy and double standard in the "body count" issue. Our bodies are temples, and it's both men and women's responsibility to honor themselves.
Nothing but gems dropped. Great conversation. I don’t even know how this ended on my newsfeed, but I’m glad it did.
I love watching Dear Future Wifey Podcast. That's another one of my "go to" podcasts
This is great! This is so needed for all couples and necessary for premarital counseling
I just subscribed!! Yes Fellas this channel is so needed in our lives. Blessings.
One thing I learned in my marriage is to love God first and then man. The commandments are divided first about loving God and then your neighbor. Am so encouraged by the guest speaker.
Yeah, I need to hear from Laterras' wife because I hate just hearing any man justify leaving his wife due to sexual issues, "I'm a highly sexual man" blah blah blah. And one of the host said even condoned you leaving your wife. So far, this episode is challenging to want to stay and listen to the rest. I'm going to give it another 30 minutes.
This is a very difficult issue to discuss. And even more so when there are aspects of the marriage you can’t discuss to paint the whole picture. I think most people have the image of the serial cheater who is just cheats for the fun of it (and there are many like this) but there are also people who do this with complicated motives. It’s not as black and white as we like to think.
Interesting that it's appreciated that the ex-wife experienced trauma but we don't get any info on what this high sex drive/ lust for novelty comes from.
He actually said he would never tell her issue of why they really divorced to protect her.
@@Heyu7her3 His podcast is Dear Future Wifey and he unpacks all of his issues there.
She acted like she didn't want to have sex, and or not as often as Laterras. How do you NOT want to have sex with your husband, and or ok with him masturbating...smh
This was so good and it has helped me see I still have some work to do on me because I have hidden somethings that I thought I did not heal from and I need to. You need another collaboration!!
Great conversation between men, and talking about real stuff. This is a great video that will definitely help school a lot of young Christian men better understand the dynamics involved with dating, marriage, and the importance of communication in relationships.
Great grown grown conversation with Laterras. Blessings Black Men!✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
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Dear Future Wifey family here! Can't wait to watch this interview; it's sure to be LIT 💯
SN: My first time watching this channel was the Tim Ross/Lecrae interview and I really enjoyed it!
Another One.
This was awesome guy’s, I sent this to my two sons💜
My New Husband HAS GOT to be a student of Dear Future Wifey😂
May The LORD pour back into you fella’s what you all poured out!🙏🏽💪🏽👏🏾🔥
Thank you buddy!
Another one really enjoy that conversation. I learn a lot. Thanks for sharing. Can’t wait for the next one.❤