Dr. Tony Attwood on dealing with Bullying
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- čas přidán 28. 08. 2024
- As a part of the Aspie Mentor panel discussion at the June 2014 Flying High with Autism Conference (Pensacola, FL), Dr. Attwood SKYPED in his comments on how to deal with the 17 most common stressors of people with Asperger's/HFA.
The stressor research was the basis of the book: Been there. Done that. Try this! (Jessica Kingsley Publishing). In the book, each chapter presents anecdotal wisdom, insights and stories by the Aspie Mentors who have learned how to deal with the stressor.
At the end of each chapter, Dr. Attwood adds his advice on how best to succeed in overcoming the issue. Here is a video excerpt of that wisdom.
Adult bullying is a huge problem as well. Amazing how supposedly respectable people in positions of authority will viciously go for Aspies. And the silent majority are more silent & complicit as adults, it seems.
A neuro diverse & tolerant society = a better and more advanced world for everyone.
Yes. The bullying does not stop in adulthood. If anything it gets worse especially if you are good at your job then people see you as a threat as well as weird.
Talentedtadpole exactly it forced me out of the workforce too even in volunteering positions
I've been bullied my whole life, started at school and every job iv had, I'm a broken person. Was diagnosed as an adult for autism, I have bad dyslexia.
My school experience was like being thrown into a cage with wild animals. They knew I was vulnerable, they knew I didn't understand and they hunted me down. There was no such thing as diagnosis 50 years ago and there was no such thing as support. There came a point one day when I was being attacked that I went on the attack. Looking back, I think there was some strange advantage to being autistic in that 'fight or flight' was entirely wired into my head. Once it became 'fight', it was like everything slowed down and I could see everything coming in advance. I feared no pain. It was like some hidden ancestral survival mechanism kicked in and I was unstoppable. I had that experience more than once but it wasn't long before the bullying subsided. That was a victory but there are always bullies that are not as overt and eager to exert some kind of power over those of us that are vulnerable. There's still no protection. I'm afraid I'll never find much redeemable in the human race.
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Thank you for this,
Bullying behavior is a tool those who posses both high social skill, along with dishonesty / grandiosity use to intimidate each other!
Simply put, the target is just a prop used to intimidate the bullies actual rivals, those with similar social status. Number 3 in a hierarchy will humiliate number 26 in order to rattle number 4 and number 2.