lol'd but really the options in the US are terrible. Our "culture" is so mixed up there is no solid idea of refinement. Women who look good will often have no morals or any mindset for family. Others might have great bodies but ink and dress it with insanity. But then if you go for a church girl then you might have to dial back a lot of your interests. That's a big compromise but it's the best you'll get imo.
I’m pretty sure it’s no way near this number. Most Japanese girls don’t speak english which is why it may look like they avoid foreigners but once you pass the language barrier, you won’t have a problem in Japan. This guy is blowing shit way out of proportion.
Introvert means that you recharge and feel more relaxed when alone, as opposed to being in groups. 20 dates in 1.5 year is about 1 date a month. Considering i really never go out, minus those dates. You consider going “out” once a month, not introverted?
@@yungjamez312 I'm so introverted I don't go on dates at all lol. And when I do go out I hate when people talk to me. It's taboo in Japan as I'm sure you know, but in the States it's not uncommon for people to randomly talk to you when you're shopping or standing in the checkout. Super awkward. I do have social skills, like your descriptions of your texts with your dates, I've had similar people ghosting me and I just don't do it anymore.
You say that the street interview videos cherry pick only the positive interviews but I would say it is something entirely different. The reason japanese women say on camera that they would date a foreigner even though in reality they would not do so is because in Japan people do not want to lose their face under any circumstances and the general way of living there is to avoid conflict. So what japanese people say and think is entirely different. Japanese people are probably the most polite people in the world but what they say about the gaijin once he has left the restaurant is a different story. Regarding dating in Japan as a foreigner: The bigger the gap between your behavior and theirs, the harder it is, especially if you are unwilling to adapt to their culture and way of doing things. You come across as slightly frustrated but try to see it from a positive light: 15% is not a bad number, you just have to play the game until statistics work out for you. In the US more women might be willing to date you, but then you got to weed out the gold diggers. Enjoy your time there and avoid drugs no matter what, the drug policy there is harsh to say the least but you probably already know that.
Actually in the US, probably less women would want to date you. They see 80% of men as below average according to an okcupid study and another study shown how 63% of men in the last year were not in a relationship, pretty brutal lol
One thing I noticed, being fluent in Japanese (JPLT 1, etc.), is that Japanese men who are good conversationalists, are 10x better than me at entertaining women. I'd have to work very hard to match them. The more I was exposed to Japanese society, the more I felt rather incompetent socially. I'm of course on the spectrum, which doesn't help. I don't like the idea of having to entertain a woman either. I believe soul mates probably don't exist, because women are wired differently from men. Women who weren't willing to monkey-branch to the enemy after losing a war, were also murdered. Women have the ability to jump from one man to another, even to the man who killed her husband. I think the word "misogynist" is politicized and meaningless, but I'm starting to dislike female nature. In any case, not trying to sabotage anyone's fun, but I'm interested in people staying safe and avoiding crazy women, divorce rape, etc. The men who seldom get divorced, are rich men, because they remain the best she can probably get for most of her life. And she knows that. But at that point he's just staying married to, strictly speaking, an opportunist. A golddigger. If he's willing to accept female nature, he can still have a productive relationship with her his entire life. Hopefully they have children, because at least his woman will love his children, and then they have something meaningful in common and he has a reason to keep supporting her.
You been there a year and a half and you've been on 20 dates, that's wayy more than the average run of the mill bloke who has one or two dates a year. What are you smoking mate
Need more vids like this - the blatant fetishization on CZcams by those channels doesn’t help at all. This vid is a reality check for all. I think despite the somewhat open sexual stances( media ) most Japanese are extremely conservative, or give up on the slightest hurdle. I still run into a lot of confidence man type of people.. who just gloat about their game but end up frustrated like that German /Italian you talked about. To be honest I think your introverted and reserved manner will tend to lead you down a path to match up with people and women who will definitely appreciate and treasure you. Respects for hating hub- that joint is trash Keep these sincere vids coming as they are rare to find out here. My only advice is going to classy upscale restaurants and cafes- I’ve always run into really cool people. I do wanna hear your experience with the “confidence man” type foreigners or people who try to size you up for no reason and how you manage to deal with it
Super based comment man thanks for watching and totally agree w you. I’m a little confused about the “confidence man” you’re talking about? I’d love to do a video on it if you could explain to me a bit more
Most inward focused country in the developed world. Most Japanese people don't need anything from the outside. Most Japanese people don't want anything from the outside. Unless you "score" a gaijin hunter, you won't get far without knowing the language, knowing the culture, and being a cut above the rest of the foreigners in the country. Last part actually isn't hard because most Westerners here are scrawny or obese. But, you're still fighting against the locals who are at least fairly healthy. Theeeeeeen, you have to get over the in-group hurdle within the in-group. Most people in the country hang out with people from work, their major, or a club; and they'll go to places that appeal to whatever niche those entail. Theeeeeeen, you have to get over the work culture if you actually find someone willing to date or hang out because it'll be a miracle if she actually picks you for her blue moon time off. Not impossible. You do have to know and respect the situation.
Oh, one more thing. Everyone here is also taught to conceal their true feelings for the collective harmony. So, if you think reading the air in the West is tough, you ain't seen nothing. The signs here get really subtle.
@@regalchic I'm exaggerating a bit for effect. Knowing the language..and not being creepy...really does start to break a lot of the barriers down. But still, not everyone is going to want to date you.
I'm with you on like 90% of what you said. Before even coming here, I was hip to the whole dating scene and the nutty stereotypes, like the idea that just 'cause you're from a Western country, girls will instantly fall for you. I've chatted with some long-timers around here, and they mentioned that 20 or 25 years ago, it was kinda easier to woo girls as a Westerner - they were more open and curious. I guess the increased competition (since there are more of us here now) and the crap stereotypes spread by some lame sexpats and weebs hasn't helped. Personally, I've been good with scoring dates 'cause I'm still young, hit the gym a lot, and care about myself in general and just not about looks. Plus, I always try to be genuine and respectful to every single girl I've met, unlike some of these obnoxious, big-headed foreigners I've bumped into. Even with my so-so Japanese, I've managed to catch more attention than my money and time can manage rn. But when it comes to the real deal relationships? Different story. It's hard to vibe with someone on a deeper level, mostly 'cause of the cultural differences and folks here seeming a bit emotionally "checked out". Japan's got a lot going for it in terms of living conditions. But as a foreigner, you've gotta hustle and work on yourself to bring something special to the table, whether that's for a potential keeper of a partner or just life in general.
I feel like the real deal relationship thing is the same when dating Chinese girls in the US also. You go on a date and maybe you have a good time but the connection usually just isn't there. The cultural divide is big enough that if you have options it doesn't make sense to force a relationship with someone who isn't completely on the same page as you. Also I've been told by several dates that they think Americans are dumb which is starting to get a little like, yeah I get it. I'm sure not everyone thinks that, and honestly they have a point in some ways, and there are probably just as many Americans with that kind generalization based perspective but it is something that stands out as someone who grew up in western culture.
@@rorschach775 it’s funny how everyone has opinions on Americans everywhere in the world yet they all consume American media, goods, tech, medicine, etc. agreed that plenty of Americans are dumb…but cmon
@@yungjamez312 yeah I think it has something to do with the way the different cultures study though. Like in America it is cringe to be a try hard even if you are dedicated, so you try to play down the effort. I don't get that impression from eastern cultures but I could be wrong. It seems more pragmatic in the east. People who don't try hard there are losers. But there's a good amount of misplaced confidence for try hards in any culture.
If anything, they are usually really reluctant to leave Japan, their green card is not worth shit to them. Alot of them are interested in traveling or studying abroad, but will always come back.
Preach brother. I was honestly going into this video skeptical, since I'm a pretty big lefty, but nah, you nailed it. As someone who has been living here for 5 years, have N1, speak Japanese daily for work, the mindset of "japanese women will fall for you for being white" is complete and utter bullshit. My thing with the videos of "women agree they would date a foreigner", it's not that they're lying or anything, it's just like you get a camera in front of your face, and asked that question point blank, how could you say No unless you already have prior prejudices (which, you know, racists can fuck themselves). Like others have mentioned, in the end of the day, the cultural is too different from the west, which can cause a lot of people to reconsider. And they're totally not wrong to feel that way. How many times have you heard stories about japanese/westerner getting hitched too early and then getting a divorce over communication issues or cultural differences. I'll share some of my experiences. I'm also pretty introverted, but have had gone on some dates. Some things I'll mention, dating apps are pretty hard. It's flooded with too many fuckboys traveling looking for "their tour guide ;)". Even my good looking guy friends struggle on Bumble because, most people see non-asian person, and go "nope, tourist, bye". There is also a tendency for guys to rely heavily on google translate to communicate with gals, which ends up coming off as a bait and switch to women (from my japanese gal friends' experiences). Another annoying thing, you'll run into women where the date goes well, and then they ghost you. I know quite a few people who've had the same experience. My baseless theory is just some women want to try "the foreigner experience", but then go "hmm, nah not for me", which I can't blame them because of what I said about the cultural differences. Speaking Japanese well will get you attention for sure, but it's on you to keep the conversation going. I feel like most gaijin hunters run away when you start speaking good Japanese. That being said, I feel really uncomfortable when someone is on me because I'm "strictly" a foreigner, like you said, it feels so superficial. Here is my honest advice, try to date someone who at least speaks some english or other foreigners who speak Japanese. Some of my best experiences were other foreigners, shit just didn't work out in the end. For Japanese women, if they speak some English, they've probably studied abroad, which means they're pretty open minded and aware of the cultural differences, and will be tolerant of you when you commit a cultural faux pas. Big agree with trying to get into the Japanese underground/art/music scene. You'll meet really cool and open minded people. I'm a pretty big lefty and felt immediately comfortable around these types of people. Met my current partner through a friend who's in the art scene.
dude you are fuckin hilarious lmao. also as a fellow american living in the boonies here in Japan for a while I can tell ya you got all of the shit figured out. good on you bro.
I know this was two months ago but in my recent trip to Japan, I found this place called Highest Bar which is located in the same building as a Hair Salon. But that place is an international bar where I met these lovely Filipino Japanese women who spoke pretty good English and they were super lovely and amazing. Even the one Japanese woman there, also spoke English. I believe it’s a hostess bar as well but in my experience, I was treated very well by everyone. Even the manager.
I usually dont comment, but it seems like you read them. When you said you probably watch other 'Japanese' content if you watch me, I realized, no... I actually only watch you and not even because of the japanese content but because youre a very chill and cool dude. Keep going man and i'd be really happy about some gym content even tho you dont like working out.
Thanks you so much!! I suppose that I could do something like that. I’m no expert on the gym or fitness but I do know a fair amount. I could probably give some lesser known pointers or some tips for dummies haha. Great idea!
4:00 a good italian accent sounds closer to russian in english. That is because the we pronounce with hard sounds. A guy i know married to a japanese woman told me that the most awkward italian guy is still more energetic and charismatic of the average japanese guy,just a matter of attitude,but that also varies on the city. He adviced me that Osaka may be the most accepting to foreign style. I would assume Kyoto to be opposite. Look at the brightside,i know for sure that there is a lot of gold under the surface,and if you can offer what others cannot,you are set for the best. Looking at Shintoism,most japanese are secretly freaks in the sack,they just don't know it yet😂.
You really should stop basing Japan off Anime. You forget that most marriages in Japan are sexless. That cheating is accepted and normalised. That Japanese girls act innocent but are far from it. I have so many Japanese friends. How Japanese girls say and know more than me, a Westerner and that how amazingly they change their persona once a boy walks up. The Chinese even has a name fr it… green tea. You boys are so delusional 😂
Fundamentally he is right with everything he said here. The only thing I can add as an older guy who lives in America, the situation is a little different when you go to Japan as a professional and not as a student or an English teacher. When I was in my 20s I did the jet program a long time ago. Dating was fun but most people couldn't take me serious because I was relatively broke. I have since gone back and I have an IT career and women have definitely takien me seriously.
If you're using dating apps like Bumble in Tokyo, your best bet for a great long term relationship is a girl that has spent decent time overseas or a halfu Japanese woman. If she's Japanese with little English, it could be a disaster, unless you are just looking for something short term. I'm 6'2 so I've never had the height problem, but I did have one girl say I was too tall.
I'm just a regular brown dude in Toronto and I once hooked up with a cute tourist from Tokyo who was staying at a hostel down the street from the bar we were at. We hung out for a week and she straight up told me that most of the guys she met here would never get any action in Japan, regardless of their looks or even money. I asked why she liked me and she said that I knew how to talk to her. Idk what that means but I know I need to quit my labour job and get into sales or something. I never did believe those CZcams Shorts you're talking about. It's like those Jimmy Kimmel videos trying to convince people that no one in America knows a lick of geography.
Been here for a bit over the past decade, and yes, the status aspect to Japanese women's desire to pair with a foreign man can play a significant role. If you're someone who's into metal, there are also so bars for that such as Bar GODZ in Shinjuku.
As a Western moving in Japan, there is tons of foreign people moving here right now. Japanese people are becoming more unimpressed with white westerners or black people.
@@caps900 yes let me tell you something that is no big secret. They are racists, only very few Japanese people interact with westerners and that’s the way they like it
you're an entertaining chap you are. this is the second video from your channel i've seen and it seems to me like you have a good head on your shoulders. i like that you're trying to assimilate and that you tell people how it actually is. FWIW i've been in japan for 15 years so i've been around.
all those other CZcams videos "Do Japanese Women Like Foreign (White) Men" you can tell their image of "foreign" men is almost 100% from fantasy Hollywood movie media content.
You have better options and meet more interesting people if you can speak the language and just explore your interests Relationships are way more difficult. I think that’s why most people just visit Japan or stay there a few years and don’t live there longer
Appreciate you making a video like this. Couple of my friends like to play into the jokes about "improving the Japanese birth rate" and having a "kawaii Japanese gf." I needed the anecdotal and helpful evidence that Japanese women aren't the waifus that are waiting for them. 😂
People look not only at sex but also at real life. They probably don't want to become intimate friends with tourists. Whether you can settle in Japan or not will be a big factor. Western men don't seem to think about that. Currently, any smart girl would not approve of the option of going overseas.
This is a late ass comment, but I just recently found out about your content. You're the chillest MF on the planet. Have you ever considered live streaming your day to day? You seem like an entertaining guy with a quality personality. I hope to see more of you! Cheers to many more videos hopefully.
Hey man. Thank you for watching. I’ve definitely considered steaming. I’d like to be more interactive with the subscribers. I’m just not sure how i can make it work with my weak phone camera and lack of internet. But I’ll look into it now that you’ve asked! Thank you for the inspiration
@@yungjamez312 I'm glad you've already seen the comment! Thanks for the reply. A great place to start would be a discord server or a place where you can build a following. if you need any help I'll be here. :)
@@z0mbie789 thank you brother! I made a members discord recently that’s 5 dollars to join if you have the spare cash! The info is in the descriptions of my new videos
@@unkopower7899 Exactly. E.g. a finance job in Akasaka. Let's say an income of 200k USD per year, that's probably like top 3% of Japanese male income. Or how about 1000k USD as an entrepreneur? Then just go date the "Minato girls" who may be 10/10s with plastic surgery or what not. Soon they'll have robot arms and a vice grip hoohaa.
This is good content and I’ve thought about saying similar - Japan is super fetishized especially the dating from the outside Coming here my experience is that they aren’t serious about long term dating especially if you don’t know the language and culture well
This is gonna Sound so weird but I’ve experienced the opposite I’m 6’3 Scandinavian muscular and I went clubbing once or twice when in Japan and a lot of Japanese girls tried to get home with me and etc but this might just be because I went to the right places but I got a lot of attention
It's unfortunate that some weirdos travelling to Japan are giving foreigners a bad reputation and causing trouble. Although I guess this could be said about any popular global metropolitan that attracts a lot of tourists.
Lol very true. It’s funny bc the same people that complain about japan being racist and unwelcoming to foreigners are the same people that act like idiots here and make no effort to assimilate
Lol just* 20 dates in 2.5 years in JAPAN where he said 75% of women don't wanna date him. Dude is lying or just out of touch about how succesful he is with women.
Is hub full of goofy mfs? I get the feeling it’d be like that. I’m a Hispanic/white dude who is around 5’7” and get the feeling it’d be hell out there for me. Luckily I’m in the military though so I’m glad the be in a wild environment
It depends on what a woman wants. Ethnicity doesn't determine if they would or not. If they are not into you. They are not into you. Some like and want and some don't and some don't care for who it is and their ethnicity.
A week in Tokyo is the perfect amount imo. You just have to know what to do. And 2 weeks in other cities sounds great. If it’s in your route, definitely spend 2 days in Shimoda, Shizuoka. Lesser known, quiet, not too far from Tokyo. However it’s more of a beach/summer area but could be great any time I suppose. Maybe look into it
If you can’t get dates in your home country then don’t expect miracles in Japan. There are more gaijin than ever in Japan and due to social media these days foreigners aren’t nearly as special as they think they are. All that being said, your odds will be much better outside the big cities where there are fewer foreigners. I live in southern Japan and all the guys I know that live here have never had any problems finding cool girls.
@@yungjamez312 I recommend you watch it on your post work out it’s freaking beautiful. I be cranking it’s OST while I’m in the zone. If you know, you know.
I’ve wondered about this! Haha I’m lazy af and really have no interest in spicing up my content like that, but I do wonder if it would be worth it in the long term for the sake of getting more attention
@@yungjamez312 your simple thumbnails and honest titles made me start watching. it feels like old youtube, where people just did it for the love of it. you said in some video that you're hoping to get money from it, which i get, but it still has that authentic feel. i think trying too hard to grab people's attention wouldn't match the content of your videos
Bro you don’t need money to have a good date lol. As long as you have good conversation skills you can make anything work. Walk around the city and grab some cheap food… it doesn’t have to be an extravagant date. It’s all about your mouthpiece
True however I’m shooting it to lead into either 1) more dates (more money) or 2) a love hotel for the night which costs money. And idk if you live in Japan but generally the girls here expect far nicer dates than American girls from my experience
I did alright, im 6"2 205.. Athletic and speak conversational japanese though... but there is a market.. but usually the girls will have Fascination with hip hop and R&B culture the ones who like Black men i noticed haha
Step aside my introverted friend. It’s more like 75% would date a gaijin but in their mind they imagine a tall handsome kind guy. Foreign Nanpa boys are killing it. You’re telling people should do this or that but you don’t know shht
@@yungjamez312 good on ya, man 👍 keep goin. Fact is not all gaijins are created equal. Japanese and approach ability, Tall, blond, fit, outgoing gaijins clean up here. It’s important to be able to approach to get the girl you want long term. I’m in my 40s living in Japan still getting attention so go get em’
"75% aren't going to be interested in dating you"
I think the statistics are worse in the US.
lol'd but really the options in the US are terrible. Our "culture" is so mixed up there is no solid idea of refinement. Women who look good will often have no morals or any mindset for family. Others might have great bodies but ink and dress it with insanity. But then if you go for a church girl then you might have to dial back a lot of your interests. That's a big compromise but it's the best you'll get imo.
I’m pretty sure it’s no way near this number. Most Japanese girls don’t speak english which is why it may look like they avoid foreigners but once you pass the language barrier, you won’t have a problem in Japan. This guy is blowing shit way out of proportion.
> Introverted.
> Went on 20 dates in 1.5 years.
Man, we have totally different definitions of introverted.
Introvert means that you recharge and feel more relaxed when alone, as opposed to being in groups. 20 dates in 1.5 year is about 1 date a month. Considering i really never go out, minus those dates. You consider going “out” once a month, not introverted?
@@yungjamez312 I'm so introverted I don't go on dates at all lol. And when I do go out I hate when people talk to me. It's taboo in Japan as I'm sure you know, but in the States it's not uncommon for people to randomly talk to you when you're shopping or standing in the checkout. Super awkward. I do have social skills, like your descriptions of your texts with your dates, I've had similar people ghosting me and I just don't do it anymore.
no, ur socially retrded, no an introvert.@@SolarisKane
I feel like introverts from the US are nothing compared to Japanese people, introverts from the US might come off as extroverted over there
Yeah, you are using the incorrect definition
You say that the street interview videos cherry pick only the positive interviews but I would say it is something entirely different. The reason japanese women say on camera that they would date a foreigner even though in reality they would not do so is because in Japan people do not want to lose their face under any circumstances and the general way of living there is to avoid conflict.
So what japanese people say and think is entirely different. Japanese people are probably the most polite people in the world but what they say about the gaijin once he has left the restaurant is a different story.
Regarding dating in Japan as a foreigner: The bigger the gap between your behavior and theirs, the harder it is, especially if you are unwilling to adapt to their culture and way of doing things.
You come across as slightly frustrated but try to see it from a positive light: 15% is not a bad number, you just have to play the game until statistics work out for you. In the US more women might be willing to date you, but then you got to weed out the gold diggers.
Enjoy your time there and avoid drugs no matter what, the drug policy there is harsh to say the least but you probably already know that.
This is very true most girls here would say yes likely even if they know inside they never would, just for the sake of looking good in the public eye
Actually in the US, probably less women would want to date you. They see 80% of men as below average according to an okcupid study and another study shown how 63% of men in the last year were not in a relationship, pretty brutal lol
One thing I noticed, being fluent in Japanese (JPLT 1, etc.), is that Japanese men who are good conversationalists, are 10x better than me at entertaining women. I'd have to work very hard to match them.
The more I was exposed to Japanese society, the more I felt rather incompetent socially. I'm of course on the spectrum, which doesn't help. I don't like the idea of having to entertain a woman either.
I believe soul mates probably don't exist, because women are wired differently from men.
Women who weren't willing to monkey-branch to the enemy after losing a war, were also murdered. Women have the ability to jump from one man to another, even to the man who killed her husband. I think the word "misogynist" is politicized and meaningless, but I'm starting to dislike female nature. In any case, not trying to sabotage anyone's fun, but I'm interested in people staying safe and avoiding crazy women, divorce rape, etc.
The men who seldom get divorced, are rich men, because they remain the best she can probably get for most of her life. And she knows that. But at that point he's just staying married to, strictly speaking, an opportunist. A golddigger. If he's willing to accept female nature, he can still have a productive relationship with her his entire life. Hopefully they have children, because at least his woman will love his children, and then they have something meaningful in common and he has a reason to keep supporting her.
You been there a year and a half and you've been on 20 dates, that's wayy more than the average run of the mill bloke who has one or two dates a year. What are you smoking mate
Need more vids like this - the blatant fetishization on CZcams by those channels doesn’t help at all.
This vid is a reality check for all.
I think despite the somewhat open sexual stances( media ) most Japanese are extremely conservative, or give up on the slightest hurdle.
I still run into a lot of confidence man type of people.. who just gloat about their game but end up frustrated like that German /Italian you talked about.
To be honest I think your introverted and reserved manner will tend to lead you down a path to match up with people and women who will definitely appreciate and treasure you.
Respects for hating hub- that joint is trash
Keep these sincere vids coming as they are rare to find out here.
My only advice is going to classy upscale restaurants and cafes- I’ve always run into really cool people.
I do wanna hear your experience with the “confidence man” type foreigners or people who try to size you up for no reason and how you manage to deal with it
Super based comment man thanks for watching and totally agree w you. I’m a little confused about the “confidence man” you’re talking about? I’d love to do a video on it if you could explain to me a bit more
Most inward focused country in the developed world. Most Japanese people don't need anything from the outside. Most Japanese people don't want anything from the outside.
Unless you "score" a gaijin hunter, you won't get far without knowing the language, knowing the culture, and being a cut above the rest of the foreigners in the country. Last part actually isn't hard because most Westerners here are scrawny or obese. But, you're still fighting against the locals who are at least fairly healthy.
Theeeeeeen, you have to get over the in-group hurdle within the in-group. Most people in the country hang out with people from work, their major, or a club; and they'll go to places that appeal to whatever niche those entail.
Theeeeeeen, you have to get over the work culture if you actually find someone willing to date or hang out because it'll be a miracle if she actually picks you for her blue moon time off.
Not impossible. You do have to know and respect the situation.
Oh, one more thing. Everyone here is also taught to conceal their true feelings for the collective harmony. So, if you think reading the air in the West is tough, you ain't seen nothing. The signs here get really subtle.
Wow! That's a lot to deal with. Why don't you guys just date fellow foreigners their?
@@regalchic
I'm exaggerating a bit for effect. Knowing the language..and not being creepy...really does start to break a lot of the barriers down. But still, not everyone is going to want to date you.
@@TheKiltedGerman I see..
So you pretty much have to live like a local to be considered dateable.
I'm with you on like 90% of what you said. Before even coming here, I was hip to the whole dating scene and the nutty stereotypes, like the idea that just 'cause you're from a Western country, girls will instantly fall for you. I've chatted with some long-timers around here, and they mentioned that 20 or 25 years ago, it was kinda easier to woo girls as a Westerner - they were more open and curious. I guess the increased competition (since there are more of us here now) and the crap stereotypes spread by some lame sexpats and weebs hasn't helped.
Personally, I've been good with scoring dates 'cause I'm still young, hit the gym a lot, and care about myself in general and just not about looks. Plus, I always try to be genuine and respectful to every single girl I've met, unlike some of these obnoxious, big-headed foreigners I've bumped into. Even with my so-so Japanese, I've managed to catch more attention than my money and time can manage rn. But when it comes to the real deal relationships? Different story. It's hard to vibe with someone on a deeper level, mostly 'cause of the cultural differences and folks here seeming a bit emotionally "checked out".
Japan's got a lot going for it in terms of living conditions. But as a foreigner, you've gotta hustle and work on yourself to bring something special to the table, whether that's for a potential keeper of a partner or just life in general.
Totally agree and am on the exact same situation as you bro.
I feel like the real deal relationship thing is the same when dating Chinese girls in the US also. You go on a date and maybe you have a good time but the connection usually just isn't there. The cultural divide is big enough that if you have options it doesn't make sense to force a relationship with someone who isn't completely on the same page as you. Also I've been told by several dates that they think Americans are dumb which is starting to get a little like, yeah I get it. I'm sure not everyone thinks that, and honestly they have a point in some ways, and there are probably just as many Americans with that kind generalization based perspective but it is something that stands out as someone who grew up in western culture.
@@rorschach775 it’s funny how everyone has opinions on Americans everywhere in the world yet they all consume American media, goods, tech, medicine, etc. agreed that plenty of Americans are dumb…but cmon
@@yungjamez312 yeah I think it has something to do with the way the different cultures study though. Like in America it is cringe to be a try hard even if you are dedicated, so you try to play down the effort. I don't get that impression from eastern cultures but I could be wrong. It seems more pragmatic in the east. People who don't try hard there are losers. But there's a good amount of misplaced confidence for try hards in any culture.
japanese doesn"t wants any foreigners or they don"t care about them.
If anything, they are usually really reluctant to leave Japan, their green card is not worth shit to them. Alot of them are interested in traveling or studying abroad, but will always come back.
I already know your going to blow up, got the personality and storytelling capacity for it!
Thank you for watching bro
Preach brother. I was honestly going into this video skeptical, since I'm a pretty big lefty, but nah, you nailed it.
As someone who has been living here for 5 years, have N1, speak Japanese daily for work, the mindset of "japanese women will fall for you for being white" is complete and utter bullshit. My thing with the videos of "women agree they would date a foreigner", it's not that they're lying or anything, it's just like you get a camera in front of your face, and asked that question point blank, how could you say No unless you already have prior prejudices (which, you know, racists can fuck themselves). Like others have mentioned, in the end of the day, the cultural is too different from the west, which can cause a lot of people to reconsider. And they're totally not wrong to feel that way. How many times have you heard stories about japanese/westerner getting hitched too early and then getting a divorce over communication issues or cultural differences.
I'll share some of my experiences. I'm also pretty introverted, but have had gone on some dates. Some things I'll mention, dating apps are pretty hard. It's flooded with too many fuckboys traveling looking for "their tour guide ;)". Even my good looking guy friends struggle on Bumble because, most people see non-asian person, and go "nope, tourist, bye". There is also a tendency for guys to rely heavily on google translate to communicate with gals, which ends up coming off as a bait and switch to women (from my japanese gal friends' experiences). Another annoying thing, you'll run into women where the date goes well, and then they ghost you. I know quite a few people who've had the same experience. My baseless theory is just some women want to try "the foreigner experience", but then go "hmm, nah not for me", which I can't blame them because of what I said about the cultural differences. Speaking Japanese well will get you attention for sure, but it's on you to keep the conversation going. I feel like most gaijin hunters run away when you start speaking good Japanese. That being said, I feel really uncomfortable when someone is on me because I'm "strictly" a foreigner, like you said, it feels so superficial.
Here is my honest advice, try to date someone who at least speaks some english or other foreigners who speak Japanese. Some of my best experiences were other foreigners, shit just didn't work out in the end. For Japanese women, if they speak some English, they've probably studied abroad, which means they're pretty open minded and aware of the cultural differences, and will be tolerant of you when you commit a cultural faux pas.
Big agree with trying to get into the Japanese underground/art/music scene. You'll meet really cool and open minded people. I'm a pretty big lefty and felt immediately comfortable around these types of people. Met my current partner through a friend who's in the art scene.
OMGGG you speaking factsssss W video +1 sub. Love you man
Thanks for watching homie
most gaijin hunters are rejected by japanese men..
Most gaijin looking for japanese women are rejected by gaijin women. But yes, it's usually the uggos or weirdos that goes for gaijins usually.
dude you are fuckin hilarious lmao.
also as a fellow american living in the boonies here in Japan for a while I can tell ya you got all of the shit figured out. good on you bro.
I know this was two months ago but in my recent trip to Japan, I found this place called Highest Bar which is located in the same building as a Hair Salon. But that place is an international bar where I met these lovely Filipino Japanese women who spoke pretty good English and they were super lovely and amazing. Even the one Japanese woman there, also spoke English. I believe it’s a hostess bar as well but in my experience, I was treated very well by everyone. Even the manager.
I usually dont comment, but it seems like you read them.
When you said you probably watch other 'Japanese' content if you watch me, I realized, no... I actually only watch you and not even because of the japanese content but because youre a very chill and cool dude.
Keep going man and i'd be really happy about some gym content even tho you dont like working out.
Thanks you so much!! I suppose that I could do something like that. I’m no expert on the gym or fitness but I do know a fair amount. I could probably give some lesser known pointers or some tips for dummies haha. Great idea!
japanese doesn"t wants any foreigners or they don"t care about them.
Really like your content g.You're such a good storyteller
Thanks for watching bro
JAPANESE WOMEN ARE SO KAWAI!!! YOU ARE SO LUCKY TO BE LIVING IN NARUTO LAND.. ITEDAKI MAS 4 READING!!!
Weirdo
japanese doesn"t wants any foreigners or they don"t care about them.
Can tell you are a genuine guy Hoping for your success on CZcams brother 🙏
4:00 a good italian accent sounds closer to russian in english. That is because the we pronounce with hard sounds.
A guy i know married to a japanese woman told me that the most awkward italian guy is still more energetic and charismatic of the average japanese guy,just a matter of attitude,but that also varies on the city.
He adviced me that Osaka may be the most accepting to foreign style.
I would assume Kyoto to be opposite.
Look at the brightside,i know for sure that there is a lot of gold under the surface,and if you can offer what others cannot,you are set for the best.
Looking at Shintoism,most japanese are secretly freaks in the sack,they just don't know it yet😂.
You really should stop basing Japan off Anime. You forget that most marriages in Japan are sexless. That cheating is accepted and normalised. That Japanese girls act innocent but are far from it. I have so many Japanese friends. How Japanese girls say and know more than me, a Westerner and that how amazingly they change their persona once a boy walks up. The Chinese even has a name fr it… green tea. You boys are so delusional 😂
needed something in the background to clean my room. Ended up subbing. I’m fuckin weeeaak 💀
Thanks for watching homie
I like how straight up you are bro. I f with that
Let’s goooo
Fundamentally he is right with everything he said here. The only thing I can add as an older guy who lives in America, the situation is a little different when you go to Japan as a professional and not as a student or an English teacher. When I was in my 20s I did the jet program a long time ago. Dating was fun but most people couldn't take me serious because I was relatively broke. I have since gone back and I have an IT career and women have definitely takien me seriously.
Makes sense
Damn bro never really commented on a video but I love your authenticity Fr Fr keep it up
Thanks for watching man!
Love the videos man
Thanks for watching bro!
That story about the Italian dude made me laugh. Good luck to you out there.
Thanks for watching bro!
"To get up in them watery guts" - I'm learning all the new lingo today!
Them sugar walls
LOVE THE VIDS
If you're using dating apps like Bumble in Tokyo, your best bet for a great long term relationship is a girl that has spent decent time overseas or a halfu Japanese woman. If she's Japanese with little English, it could be a disaster, unless you are just looking for something short term. I'm 6'2 so I've never had the height problem, but I did have one girl say I was too tall.
Me love you long time. Too long
I'm just a regular brown dude in Toronto and I once hooked up with a cute tourist from Tokyo who was staying at a hostel down the street from the bar we were at.
We hung out for a week and she straight up told me that most of the guys she met here would never get any action in Japan, regardless of their looks or even money.
I asked why she liked me and she said that I knew how to talk to her. Idk what that means but I know I need to quit my labour job and get into sales or something.
I never did believe those CZcams Shorts you're talking about. It's like those Jimmy Kimmel videos trying to convince people that no one in America knows a lick of geography.
This feels realistic even though I am very late to the party. thanks for a honest to god video man.
This channel is gonna blow up for sure. Liked your content, you earned a sub!
Thank you for watching bro!
Been here for a bit over the past decade, and yes, the status aspect to Japanese women's desire to pair with a foreign man can play a significant role. If you're someone who's into metal, there are also so bars for that such as Bar GODZ in Shinjuku.
I am not white or a guy and I don’t plan on dating in Japan but this video was entertaining as fuck ngl, love your narration
These video are so good 😭
You’re the fuckin goat!
@@yungjamez312 new favorite CZcamsr keep it up
Your videos are great thank you for keeping it real
Always!
Keep it real homie, but never to the streets Yo !
As a Western moving in Japan, there is tons of foreign people moving here right now. Japanese people are becoming more unimpressed with white westerners or black people.
A lot of japanese people tend to marry Korean or Chinese/Taiwanese, IF they end up marrying a foreigner.
@@caps900 yes let me tell you something that is no big secret. They are racists, only very few Japanese people interact with westerners and that’s the way they like it
Damnit lol
Good content brother! keep it up!
Thanks for watching bro!
You are a good-looking white guy, you will find someone in JP.
Informative, great!
AY SAY WHAT YOU GOTTA SAY, SOME PEOPLE WON'T GET IT, BUT KEEP TALKING THE TALK MAN!
Thanks for watching man!
found you randomly, nice channel bro
Thanks for the luv homie
you're an entertaining chap you are. this is the second video from your channel i've seen and it seems to me like you have a good head on your shoulders. i like that you're trying to assimilate and that you tell people how it actually is. FWIW i've been in japan for 15 years so i've been around.
Hey man thanks for watching. Hope I can stay here for that long. Have a nice day
all those other CZcams videos "Do Japanese Women Like Foreign (White) Men" you can tell their image of "foreign" men is almost 100% from fantasy Hollywood movie media content.
Without a doubt
That imitation of the italian guy was hilarious
Thanks for watching man
Are you on crack? His Italian accent was horrendous, lol. Sounded like a mix of German and Scottish, lol…
Man I just love your content😂 so funny!
Thanks for watching bro
@@yungjamez312 the way you describe things and stuff… I have so much fun with this😂👏
Your videos just popped on my feed and this shit's funny and honest
Thanks for watching!
Bro's hella insightful
You have better options and meet more interesting people if you can speak the language and just explore your interests
Relationships are way more difficult. I think that’s why most people just visit Japan or stay there a few years and don’t live there longer
True true
japan can be depressing like america...in terms of dating
Depends on where u live in America
Appreciate you making a video like this. Couple of my friends like to play into the jokes about "improving the Japanese birth rate" and having a "kawaii Japanese gf." I needed the anecdotal and helpful evidence that Japanese women aren't the waifus that are waiting for them. 😂
Hahaha I know people that make those same jokes. Yeah no
Are you training just all around MMA or a specific martial art? I'm moving to Japan early next year so I've been searching around for BJJ gyms.
I commute to a gym that has classes in all of the above. Grappling isn’t nearly as popular as striking here, but there are definitely BJJ gyms
facts
3:05 Almost rolled off my bed laughing
Great presentation style and content!
I like the videos, you seem cool. Cold approach here is a lot of fun if you speak Japanese. Hit me up if you ever come to Osaka
Thanks for the comment bro! Osaka is a bit far for my broke ass right now but would love to when I get the chance!
People look not only at sex but also at real life. They probably don't want to become intimate friends with tourists. Whether you can settle in Japan or not will be a big factor. Western men don't seem to think about that. Currently, any smart girl would not approve of the option of going overseas.
video has 2012 vibes
Is that a good thing? Or are you calling my content low quality? Haha
@@yungjamez312nah it's good it means it's authentic
Wow, this is the first time I've ever heard "sex-pat". Makes sense though.
This is a late ass comment, but I just recently found out about your content. You're the chillest MF on the planet. Have you ever considered live streaming your day to day? You seem like an entertaining guy with a quality personality. I hope to see more of you! Cheers to many more videos hopefully.
Hey man. Thank you for watching. I’ve definitely considered steaming. I’d like to be more interactive with the subscribers. I’m just not sure how i can make it work with my weak phone camera and lack of internet. But I’ll look into it now that you’ve asked! Thank you for the inspiration
@@yungjamez312 I'm glad you've already seen the comment! Thanks for the reply. A great place to start would be a discord server or a place where you can build a following. if you need any help I'll be here. :)
@@z0mbie789 thank you brother! I made a members discord recently that’s 5 dollars to join if you have the spare cash! The info is in the descriptions of my new videos
@@yungjamez312 fosho
Japanese girls guard is insane
Ahahahahha "they don't lick my balls"
Real shit. Bummer for the sexpats, they'll actually need to have a personality and make a real connection with a woman. Their worst nightmares.
Hahahah this
or just have $$$
@@unkopower7899 Exactly. E.g. a finance job in Akasaka. Let's say an income of 200k USD per year, that's probably like top 3% of Japanese male income. Or how about 1000k USD as an entrepreneur? Then just go date the "Minato girls" who may be 10/10s with plastic surgery or what not. Soon they'll have robot arms and a vice grip hoohaa.
I might be foreign, but there ain’t no height difference! 😂
4:18 yes japan is quite similar to the west in terms of dating scene
this is urban scavengers;)
I might move there or somewhere in Europe for the public transport, things are too far apart in a lot of America
I love it here and am so thankful to be here. Guarantee you love it
This is good content and I’ve thought about saying similar - Japan is super fetishized especially the dating from the outside
Coming here my experience is that they aren’t serious about long term dating especially if you don’t know the language and culture well
No doubt
That's a game I played about 20 years ago , not much has changed
good video. your italian accent went from arnold to scottish wtf
Hahaha I suck at accents thanks for watching
You should do a video on McDonald's over there, and what it's like. That and maybe their 7/11 as well
Cool idea man I’ve thought about that
Honest review.
Less than 15%. More like 5%.
Thats because the number of foreigners who meet the requirements is very small 👌
We need to know why you're in Japan and where in the US you're from! interesting video man
Thank you man maybe I’ll do that video tonight as I’m finally getting over the flu
This is gonna Sound so weird but I’ve experienced the opposite I’m 6’3 Scandinavian muscular and I went clubbing once or twice when in Japan and a lot of Japanese girls tried to get home with me and etc but this might just be because I went to the right places but I got a lot of attention
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''sex'-pats is a good term lmao
that's Austrian accent, you're welcome.
It's unfortunate that some weirdos travelling to Japan are giving foreigners a bad reputation and causing trouble. Although I guess this could be said about any popular global metropolitan that attracts a lot of tourists.
Lol very true. It’s funny bc the same people that complain about japan being racist and unwelcoming to foreigners are the same people that act like idiots here and make no effort to assimilate
So you're saying there's a chance?
Owl city is dope though low key.
*high key
Lol just* 20 dates in 2.5 years in JAPAN where he said 75% of women don't wanna date him. Dude is lying or just out of touch about how succesful he is with women.
introvert that went on 20 dates in 1.5 years :)
that’s 1 date a month
3:06 loool lmfaoo haha
hey man, what's your camera ?
Mhm... He be callin it like he saw it. Sadly,he's pretty much dead on w this. I'll leave it at that.
haha I can totally see Italian guy going off
Is hub full of goofy mfs? I get the feeling it’d be like that. I’m a Hispanic/white dude who is around 5’7” and get the feeling it’d be hell out there for me. Luckily I’m in the military though so I’m glad the be in a wild environment
To be fair I haven’t been there in FOREVER but it was when I went
@@yungjamez312 Dude I feel bad for you. What’re you out there for? Language school or abroad study?
@@Slaydurstrictly language school here in Tokyo. Looking to go to college here after I graduate
It depends on what a woman wants. Ethnicity doesn't determine if they would or not. If they are not into you. They are not into you. Some like and want and some don't and some don't care for who it is and their ethnicity.
hey i'll be in Japan in october and wanted to spend a week in tokyo and then taking trains across the country for 2 weeks what do you think
A week in Tokyo is the perfect amount imo. You just have to know what to do. And 2 weeks in other cities sounds great. If it’s in your route, definitely spend 2 days in Shimoda, Shizuoka. Lesser known, quiet, not too far from Tokyo. However it’s more of a beach/summer area but could be great any time I suppose. Maybe look into it
@@yungjamez312 ok shorty thanks
If you can’t get dates in your home country then don’t expect miracles in Japan. There are more gaijin than ever in Japan and due to social media these days foreigners aren’t nearly as special as they think they are.
All that being said, your odds will be much better outside the big cities where there are fewer foreigners. I live in southern Japan and all the guys I know that live here have never had any problems finding cool girls.
Ey mayne. What's your opinion on the new Madoka Magica movie?
Literally no idea what that is
@@yungjamez312 I recommend you watch it on your post work out it’s freaking beautiful. I be cranking it’s OST while I’m in the zone. If you know, you know.
@@yungjamez312 Its kinda like for teenagers powerpuff girls with drama
now make one for latinos and black men
Ight lemme just change my race rq and I’ll get back to you after some field research
Yo gotta invest more into your thumbnails if you want more viewers, keep it up man
I like the thumbnails they feel raw and you know what ur gonna get.
I’ve wondered about this! Haha I’m lazy af and really have no interest in spicing up my content like that, but I do wonder if it would be worth it in the long term for the sake of getting more attention
big flashy thumbnails dont work like they used to, still frame with one graphic works really well
@@yungjamez312 your simple thumbnails and honest titles made me start watching. it feels like old youtube, where people just did it for the love of it. you said in some video that you're hoping to get money from it, which i get, but it still has that authentic feel. i think trying too hard to grab people's attention wouldn't match the content of your videos
@@slamspamthanks for the comment man I totally agree. I don’t have interest in not being authentic so I think I’ll stick to my current format
Dude you are funny haha めちゃ面白かった
Thanks for watching fam
Bro you don’t need money to have a good date lol. As long as you have good conversation skills you can make anything work. Walk around the city and grab some cheap food… it doesn’t have to be an extravagant date. It’s all about your mouthpiece
True however I’m shooting it to lead into either 1) more dates (more money) or 2) a love hotel for the night which costs money. And idk if you live in Japan but generally the girls here expect far nicer dates than American girls from my experience
How do black men do there? I feel like if its hard for white males i can only imagine what its like for us dark folk 😂
Hey bro! Thanks for watching. Obviously I don’t know so well considering I’m white as a ghost but from what I hear it’s far worse for black dudes 😢
I did alright, im 6"2 205.. Athletic and speak conversational japanese though... but there is a market.. but usually the girls will have Fascination with hip hop and R&B culture the ones who like Black men i noticed haha
Do a room tour next time
Great idea actualy. Will do it when I finally clean my place up and organize my shit
you should colab with gerbert johnson
Just checked him out and immediately subbed. Love this type of content thanks for the rec
amen brother @@yungjamez312 🙏
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3:45 the most german accent but not italian hahaha
Step aside my introverted friend. It’s more like 75% would date a gaijin but in their mind they imagine a tall handsome kind guy. Foreign Nanpa boys are killing it. You’re telling people should do this or that but you don’t know shht
You could be right I’m not an expert
@@yungjamez312 good on ya, man 👍 keep goin. Fact is not all gaijins are created equal. Japanese and approach ability, Tall, blond, fit, outgoing gaijins clean up here. It’s important to be able to approach to get the girl you want long term. I’m in my 40s living in Japan still getting attention so go get em’