7 life changing mindset habits to soothe the anxious soul & live lighter | hard-learned lessons
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- čas přidán 19. 07. 2024
- IG: / rowenatsai | Ok ok I know, LiFe ChAnGiNg has become a meme at this point but these mental habits I've learned throughout the past few years have really helped change my outlook on life and become my best, most grounded, and productive self. Here's to collectively soothing our anxious souls and living lighter together. :')
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0:00 Intro
0:48 1) Your world = what you choose to fixate as on
2:52 2) “People are in our life for a reason, season, or lifetime. The pain comes when we put them in the wrong category”
4:37 3) You’re never too [fill in the blank] for anything
7:30 4) Don't wait to start living
9:15 5) “No one is going to move my leg but me”
10:39 6) Instant vs delayed gratification (ft. cancel culture)
12:39 7) Only we know where our ❤️ truly lie
15:34 New outro song 😉
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"We notice a lot of dislikable people. But we never seem to notice our disliking minds." - Buddha. Wow, that quote really hits hard when we consider all the trash talk and judging in our mind we do! Super inspiring and eye-opening stuff.
I sent it to my therapist. I think all of them should have this quote. I typed the one about one foot in front the other she shared. Then hung it in my mirror I need this one daily 🤣
@@scorpiotransformed4772 I just can't understand it. What does "our disliking minds" mean? Our own mind which doesn't like things? I don't understand.
@@calmingambienceasmr6108 because being aware of thought is the first step to change. Sorry u don't get wanting to change starts with an accepting mind. No person on earth can change you. However u can move mountains once ur mind changes. This comes from a person very close to death so change can happen once the mind bends to a better state
@@scorpiotransformed4772 Oh ok. Positive mindset can make positive changes. Thanks.
@@calmingambienceasmr6108 u got it 😄
Welp I definitely spend a lot of time just in my own head and I catastrophize things all the time
Same here..at this moment if I remember ( haha) I say to myself that not all I think is true. I am not omniscient. Or I say out loud ' Stop'.
Same here 😬😪
Fear likes to exaggerate. It is the ultimate drama queen.
@@creepywallet I will try this out, thank you!!!
That’s what I have been during for school and I have to just sit there and tell myself to stop 💀
New video idea? How about the fear of rejection (breaking up, being alone, person you like not liking you back, etc.)?
“Hurt people hurt people” and yea “judging someone or oneself doesn’t add any meaning into my life” I relate with you. You are inspiring me. And this sweetest potatoes community. 🍠🍠🍠🍠🍠
GANG GANG!!!!! shoutout to all my Potato family.
I'd really like to see 7 mindset habits for : Inner strength// growth // handling rejection(by friends, in love or at job) // inner peace
“Every day may not be good... but there’s something good in every day.”
- Alice Morse Earle
Have a wonderful week everyone :)
How to build habit that sticks:
1. Start with incredibly easy habit
2. Break the chunks
3. If you slip, it okay. Get on track quickly
4. BE PATIENT it will take some time and progress
I hope this helped, thank for the video
Loved it
3 sessions in with my psychologist and I'm two weeks into learning how to love myself and teach myself that not everyone hates me. Two weeks ago i started with the big picture- the 'I'm gonna exercise, eat healthy and do what I love' but after two weeks of waves of anxiety and depression I talked to the psych and I came to the realisation that it's good to set a big picture goal- but what are the smaller steps to getting there? Now I'm here, researching how other people love themselves, mindfulness and compassion in order to implement smaller things into my life
4:00 a wise woman once said, "i dont want friends, they d i s s a p o i n t me"
ahh I see you are also enrolled in Stampede University
What you said about your mother being truthful but not as compassionate and you learning not to fight her really resonated with me. I have this almost self-destructive habit of starting arguments that I know will lead nowhere, because even as an adult I'm still looking for that approval and validation, as if somehow my mother agreeing with me on everything would bring me fullfilment. 🙈
the way I see our generation is an overrated mentality of "enjoy the moment" "seize the day" which in itself has a great value but when it causes living without personal values, this mentality loses its own value and brings in long term dissatisfaction.I appreciate your content Ro, thank you 😊
Reconnecting with flow, with mindfulness and being present is so important in our modern society! We get trained to be working towards achievements, to be productive, to strive for visible growth. We sometimes forget that personal growth lies in calm in introspection and in going with the flow
Hii
@@gunjandeshmukh5665 Oh hello 💛 so great to see you again! haha wishing you all the best for your studying! 🌞 we will get back to studying live only on tuesday feel free to join us 😇
Thanks for such an insightful contribution to the topic tho
my anxious brain really needed this today
Idk every time i watch rowena's video, i always be ready with my notes, because i feel she's giving me a lecture about life
Rowena, you continue to amaze me with your wisdom. These lessons are like hard pills to swallow because it's so difficult to start, but these are steps to starting a better life. And it's just another great reminder that the path to self-discovery/care/love is a rough journey, but also wonderful when we do get to a better place. Thanks again!
I was being afraid of silence till 2 years ago... now I strive for calm and reconnecting with myself.... these are priceless ^^ thank you Rowena ^^
Since everything has been feeling quite chaotic lately- you making this video is a sign. I absolutely loved it and the part 'only we know where our hearts truly lie' has resonated with me so much! Thanks for this. Love, always
"Something turbulent need to happen" is so true and so so sad!! It wasn't until the war came into my country that I started to value everything I have and perceive the life absolutely different as earlier
You are awesome. A truth teller for sure. As a 64 year old, you already teach everything I've needed a lifetime to learn Thank you.
this was so insightful and I'm just so grateful for your presence here on yt 🥺
I love you, Rowena! Watching your content evolve and grow with you has been such a great pleasure/honor over the years. Your videos always come at just the right time and I'm so grateful for you!
I appreciate your candor and honesty in this video. I feel like I don’t see self examination very much and I love that you can see a flaw in yourself and work on it such as judging people. I did/do the same thing and it is polarizing and it makes it hard to make friends but it’s amazing that you recognized that in yourself and are working on yourself. I wish more people were like you! ❤️
im so happy that i found your channel, you don’t know how much you have helped me strive everyday
this is a really relatable video especially the hard-learned lessons. I went from outgoing people pleaser to a judgemental narcissist, in college, which stemmed from not knowing how to handle failures of early adulthood and resulting in projecting insecurities. Even when I find solutions to these insecurities I find myself wanting to project these thoughts to my friends who are going through similar struggles and was confused why it worked for me and not for them. In the end, the notion of wanting people to act the way you like or create things you like only ends with you wanting to isolate yourself or others removing themselves from you, leaving you stuck with your own thoughts for a long period of time is a tricky thing to be in.
omg this is so me right now
Just a few mins ago, I was literally quite upset and anxious about things, then got recommended this. Thank you. 💖
My weekly habit now consists of watching Ro's weekly new videos.
Dude. So much relatability here. I love how you expressed your take on the two wolves. My take on it has been that everything is a practice, and to choose our practices with what's in line with our values. I'm going to have to watch this again. That first one definitely stood out the most to me 😊
omg thank you for this, i needed this sm!
it has now been a while since i found your channel and honestly your tips and mindset overall helped me a lot these last months with my mental health and confidence. i tried a lot of hobbies including filming and i realized i love to make videos as well and even started a channel of my own. so honestly thank you, you have no idea how much you helped me! 🥺
omg rowena u hit it right on the head. I have such a hard time trying to focus on people’s intentions instead of reacting to their delivery, but ive seen ppl do it and they live much lighter lives
So much wisdom packed into this video! It truly is amazing how much we are impacted by the perspectives we choose to take as we navigate through our lives.
this found me at the exact right moment in time! thank you so much 💛 i love the way you talk & how you integrate spirituality in a very practical way 🙏🏼
I went skydiving recently and people were like “I would do that if I was dying” and I’m like why not experience it now. Btw I loved it and I’m going again and hopefully again!
You are putting things I don't know how to say or ashamed to do into words, thank you.
The first person on the internet I've heard talking about friendship struggles. Honestly, I'm overwhelmed in the best way 💛
Thank you Rowena, I believe each of us has a part to play in this unlimited world drama. I appreciate the attitude you have to whose Charing in lovely spontaneous and honest way. Big hug.
Oh my god the fifth point has shocked me so much, it’s a really good to quote to help someone get up and begin doing things right away, loved this video a lot!
This really resonated with me and I thought I was being openly mindful up until now and going with the flow. Taking a deep breath and re-realizing my concept of mindfulness and going with the flow!
I love this so much! Love learning new things or being refreshed to a certain thought, through your videos.
Thank you Rowena for being the big sister I wish I had! 💕
Your transparency is magic. Thank you so much for this.
This pandemic shifted my life so much, and I give my gratitude to you because your videos help me a lot to live through these years of crisis. Love you, Ro ~ ! < 33
I have always been so judgemental about everyone including myself, doesn't mean that I look down on people, contrary to that I tend to see that people/others do it better, know better while i keep assuming that i need constant validation and reassurance from them to know that I am good enough. till this day, I am hard on myself, I keep having negative self talk which sucks and makes me so sad and anxious... especially in these times where I am looking for a job and I need to value myself and stay confident....love your videos they help rethink and reorganize my thoughts
Thank you for making this video.You’re like an answer to my prayers. I was going through a lot in my mind and thank God that I found your channel and this video.
whenever I watch your videos, I feel truly hugged by your words. your content is so warm and comforting. thank you so much Rowena!!
Omg that quote tho you hurt because you're hurting that's so true and so deep. Only once we start looking inward we start realizing such things. I loved the video btw
I *adore* Rowena, she's so genuine and sweet☺
7:23
What you said makes a lot of sense
and it reminds me of this thing I watch somewhere about the art and skill of zen
that we need to keep our mind empty so that those thoughts wouldn't get some kind of stress
and removing them will show the even better opportunities on how we can look at things in a better way and not think of the negative side of things. I can't emphasize this enough but it's just life changing tbh.
And also, every time that I feel down, feel like I'm just not good enough or that I'm not getting work done I always come to your channel. I always feel happy when I watch your videos and they inspire me to do more and turn my life into something I would not regret.
Lots of love to you sis
appreciate that last reminder on the importance of being true to yourself. appreciate these vids
the timing of this video for my life is 💯
I have been feeling so anxious recently so this video came at the perfect timing! Thank you Rowena! ❤️
the ending song is absolutely adorable, plus your hugs and winks haha... heart-warming💗💗
I just came across your videos and I’ve only watched a couple so far but I’m incredibly grateful that I’ve made it here. Your videos are inspiring and the way you explain things is very helpful and easy to follow.
Here I am again saying I love your sweater. And these mindset habits are really a good foundation to really really keep us on living the life we want without getting pressured with the noise we have right now 💜
Watched this twice. I may watch it again. This is probably the most in depth I've seen from your videos Rowena, and it was so beautifully eloquent.
Thank you Ro. I've been watching you for a year and 1 month and I'm really feeling myself getting more mature along the way, living and thinking in healthy ways. Also I let go of redundant things, relationships and people ("trim the fat"). As Fel puts on her IG bio, we're outgrowing things to grow more from within. Just so you know. Love you guys!!!
These are excellent, I definitely agree about people being here for a reason, a season or a lifetime! Very balancing thought when stressing about relationships 🙌🏻🧡
May you always have so much peace and happiness in your life
this video genuinely relieved so many stresses on my mind rn, the timing of this was so beautiful ty
I took notes and will definitely refer back to these points to reflect! Thank you for teaching us these lessons you've learned. :)
I have been decluttering youtube channels that don't bring value to my life, so I totally understand the point you made about why people watch specific channels with various contents! It almost seems like we get to see what people of the CZcams world desire the most.
I am in this weird phase where I am constantly judging everyone and looking for ways to sabotage my relationships. Thinking how I am an awful person who has no empathy. It is so difficult to navigate through life when you yourself don't have a solid ground. Watching your videos really help me stop for a moment and try to look at everything with positivity. Thank you so much!
I love your videos and I really felt that when you were talking about being overly judgmental. I was so critical of everything outside of myself in college and I definitely think it stems from shying away from dealing with yourself and all your problems. But yeah, love you friend!
Thank you, Rowena for this video!
I have always struggled with my own mind and its pattern of finding and being fixated on things I do not like in people or things. In the end, being this self aware on my pattern, I then brought judgement and harsh criticism onto myself. Tbh it is really a struggle as it connects back to ego and sense of self and I questioned myself so much to a point of a vicious cycle of anxieties.
As for the gratification bit, thank you for talking about cancel culture! There is a Vox video talking about how people are more divided with cancelling each other or trying to humiliate the other side into joining their side. Slowly though, I do see a shift in from cancel culture as people are starting to realize its countereffects instead.
such an amazing video. your energy is so calming and the insight is outta this world. happy af youtube recommended u to me.
Just wanted to send you a sweet short reminder than you are incredibly valuable and warm my heart every time I listen. Appreciate your sweet soul and impression muahhh😘
I threw this video on to have something in the background while i wash dishes but this was insanely helpful. The "go with the flow" talk was so needed
Rowena making me rethink life again
I am now on video three and IDK what to do or where u have been but I am so grateful I am finding u now. The last six months I have lost all my old habits and have felt so lost... I am 100% using ur system theory to get this show back on the road it makes so much since.
My spirituality and beliefs are just, Rowena now. Girl u r literally so smart, and its so great to see you share your experiences and lessons learned in life with all of us. Thanks for making these amazing videos 🖤
These videos are literally such a bless, it feels like having a deep coffee conversation with you and on a personal level. I just adore it and I adore you hihi Thank you for the amazing Video and for the thoughtful content. XO
I’ve watched you for years, Rowena, and this is my fave video of yours to date ✨❤️🤗 Thank you
Your incredible... you are quickly becoming my go to for introspection, self growth, and healthy habits and thoughts. Thank you so much! Don’t stop!! ❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️
So glad I invested these 16 minutes and 16 seconds! Thank you Ro!
Excited for the new vid ahhhh!°
You are glowing😍 Love your content as always.✨
I saw that you uploaded a video and internally I was like thank god I need this right now. love your content
Regarding number 5: I somehow learnt that lesson from Harry Potter - he saves himself with his own patronus in year 3, but he only realizes he has to once Hermione says nobody’s coming 😱😱😱
Rowena, thank you for this much needed video💖 The entire world needed to see but most importantly really LISTEN and understand this empowering, real and inspiring video! I resonate with all the tips! If anyone reads my message, focus on yourself, always believe in yourself because you got this💜
So true....resonates with me
This video came up exactly when I needed it ❤
I totally needed this wise words right now, Love u und the knowledge you're sharing Rowena ♥️
She uploaded this before ap exam month, THANK YOU!
You are one of my fav! Your content makes a good difference and I very logically agree with what you share, such good vibes!
So insightful! I'll love to hear you talk about self-reflection and growth in the future!
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This was really helpful. It opened my eyes to some things I’ve been avoiding for a long time. Thank you
omg i love this one ro ;-; i was in kinda tears and chills at the end! idk this one just came at the right time and i was in the right headspace to receive all of this. thanks as always. you're like the 大姐姐 i've never had 🍠🥰
Found you today and have been binge-watching your videos. Love your humor and your messages
“the person who is gonna help you the most and the person you've been waiting for your whole life, is actually, yourself."
i needed to hear this today.
idk why i’ve been waiting for someone to come along and "help" me make things alright, in my life.
Even though, i do take full responsibility and accountability of my life and for myself, i still was waiting for someone to make things alright.
Putting this comment out there, so that maybe in a few months of time when i come back to this video and read my comment again, i would've changed than who i am now.
Thank you so much for this video Rowena ~
needed this video. this genuinely made me feel safe and motivated
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I'm in love with that teal sweater
Hello Rowena! I have been watching your content for quite some time. This video really made me ponder about the way I think and judge other people. I do think my judgmental thoughts about other people come from my own insecurities. It's been quite hard as I am trying to reframe my mindset and the way I think about myself. I'm trying to take small steps to becoming true to myself. I also want to avoid making negative assumptions and jumping into conclusions about other people. Thank you for your thought-provoking video
Conscious decisions and being true to yourself really resonates with me. I've been reading How to do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera and it has opened my eyes on how I think about how I've been going through life.
A lot of times, due to traumas I didn't even know I had or pushed far away, I've just been auto piloting even though I thought I was doing what was best for me and everyone else. Because of that I've been feeding the Evil Wolf way more than the Good wolf. After changing the way I think, I've been loving myself more and bounce back much faster from negative experiences, but I still have times where I potato. Today actually I spent a long time in bed with out motivation, but I allowed myself time and kindness (rather than "yelling" at myself for reasons I should be up), even some gross sobbing. I've learned painful moments are temporary even if they feel like "forever" but the best part is feeling better and going back to the things I want to do. Anyway, I hope anyone who has read through this or even glanced at it has a lovely day and to remember to be kind to yourself always and to be present. 💛
Such a good video! Really trying to live the life I want to live and it always helps when you have a reminder to do so, thanks♥️
thank you for all your helpful tips and advice :)
10:00 I totally relate but when I realized that wasn't gonna happen I fell into a depressive state thinking I'd be lonely forever.. It took a while (and therapy) for me to learn to find joy in life by myself for myself
wooow the best video i have seen in a looong while ! thank you ❤️❤️
Just found your channel!! So happy love your energy!
your smile at every opening video just makes me smile for some reason too!❤️❤️✨
Thank you for sharing your ideas ♥️ I cannot relate more to everything you said. Literally
This video really helps to change my mindset, thank you for that x
loving your content💗💗💗