How to use sarcasm if someone is insulting you; putting you down
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
- Sometimes a look or a remark like, "What's your point?" will stop the person in their tracks who is giving you the back-handed compliment or in any way trying to bring you down.
why are people so awful? always hurting one another.
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It's because people are too concerned with themselves they are not respecting people feelings. A lot of people live acting morally superior . They think they can do what they want and no one else can. They like boosting their egos . Always ignore drama and keep a dignified silence.
More like feeling they have a lack of it.@@infinitive7654
I used this technique yesterday and it worked amazingly. When I asked this person insulting me to reiterate, they stammered. People like that are cowards who don’t have the courage to tell people what they think to their face or in a direct way. Don’t tolerate when people treat you like that, love yourself enough to stand up for yourself and call out any disrespect. You only endure what you tolerate.
I tried this on someone who name called me. I asked them, why would you say that and gave them a dumb look. It was so funny cause the person that name called me was lost for words; and by the time they had something to say back I already walked away. Your the best Marie. I love your work. Please keep posting. P.s that person who named called me never bothered saying anything negative to me again. Situation was resolved without much effort and I was able to keep my integrity.
I usually repeat what they said and turn it around toward them. Usually when that happens they wanna say they were joking etc. But it helps them to see how it sounds when it's directed toward them and they usually don't like it LOL
J Sun sounds true.
exactly
Please give an example :)
i do that all the time. then they get offended and quiet... love it.
These people are inconsiderate because they are so conceited and unsympathetic and self absorbed. They are usually quite snobby and like thinking they are above people. They are not thinking about people's feelings that's why they lack respect. The best way to deal with inconsiderate people is to understand they are to self focused and are not thinking about people's feelings. If people show disrespect they lack respect. It's all about them. It's best to keep it polite and respectable and mind your own business and dont overshare or try and be the centre of attention. Because these self focused people love drama and criticism and making a fool out of people. They love being better and perfect and act like they own the place. It's best to smirk or roll your eyes or say excuse me lets keep it polite. But dont take them seriously that's what they want .
I have always had good luck with asking them to repeat what they said, especially if others have overheard the comment. People know when theyre making rude comments, and often will not want to repeat their insult when others are watching them get called out for it.
Unless you're surrounded by a bunch of shitty people like the bullies.
Nelvin78 right then theyll say nothing
Or nvm
Like b true say it
Veronica Abbott Cazares yeah
you seem like a nice woman--thanks for your expertise
Ahaha, I love sarcastic comebacks like that; it doesn't necessarily lessen the pain you feel, but that sweet silence that hangs as they try to recover from an attack they were hoping would work is just the best feeling XD
With silence you let THEM start thinking that their attack was weak; you let THEM panic about how they made themselves look like jackasses, ahaha.
And you can just sit there in silence and watch them destroy themselves :D
Reach for the silence, dead silence is our god (laughs psychotic & histerically).
You are an angel! Thank you for taking the time to share your knowledge here. You truly brighten up the internet with your genuine, caring personality. I have a sister who I’m realizing has NPD. I’m her main supply and it really saddens me. She puts me down or ignores me when I make positive small talk i.e. when driving I might point out a beautiful tree. Her response is whatever Lisa. It makes me want to cry. That is just one example. All I want to do is love her and have a close friendship with her but I can’t. So now I’m cordial but trying to keep some distance. It kills me inside but I have no choice.
It's like the response "Interesting, tell me more." :)
thank you so much, so eloquently put! love listening to your advice
You've earned my subscription:-)
Mine too!
Eli Cho Mine too
Thank you Marie. With you I learned something. I learned something by spotting a wolf in sheep's clothing in my house. With your advice I've finally got tools to ridding him away...slowly but surely!
This is an excellent life hack
I have chronic illness, an autoimmune disease Ankylosing Spondylitis, in addition to a narrow spinal canal in my neck, and nerve damage in both wrists and elbows...... Someone once told me, "Maybe you need to go back to college and relearn how to paint. Maybe you're painting wrong." WTF!?!?!?!? I eventually went no contact, and should have way sooner.
BTW, I have been making art since I was a kid, self taught. I did take classes in HS and college, majored in Speech Communications and Business Operations, AND an Art Gallery Certificate. I took Business and Speech Com instead of majoring Art, because I knew I would have to run a business to sell my art. I created and sold art for ten years before I had to stop due to pain in my hands caused by nerve damage, the narrow spinal canal (born with it), and my autoimmune disease (that I was born with)....... Pretty F'ing low ball.
Got carpal tunnel surgery on my right hand, and such a big difference! Still on hiatus from my art cause I have a lot of health stuff I need to focus on first.
I should have told the person they should go back to elementary school or Kindergarten, and learn how to be nice to people. lol
Your advice is always spot on! Love your videos.
Here's an interesting one......What would you do if a doctor who doesn't know you accused you of faking an illness or treated you like you're some crazy hypochondriac when you clearly feeling ill?
Or a doctor who's not convinced a particular disorder exists and writes you off?
This has happened to me, unfortunately! = (
Tell him that you know a better doctor and insult him in front of others telling he is fake and needs money.
I would ask the doctor why he/she thinks you are faking an illness when you are experiencing physical symptoms.....at the very least, it could just be a manifestation of anxiety
Really excellent, practical advice. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom.
This is such a good advice . my siblings insult me constantly and tell embarrasing things about me in front of ther people then smile.it ends up me feeling bad about myself. This advice is so helpful
Oh wow your right,I hope I remember that,they can't explain it cause they are lashing out emotionally for there own problems.genius.
I feel more confident now dealing with these kind of people. Thanks
More good advice. Yes, perplexed look on my face. Thank you Marie!
Thanks Marie, great advice.
This is a really good video; I'm working on a monologue for college at the moment and I have portray in a sarcastic point of view. This has been a lot of help but I shall also used it for emergencies too. Thank you so much. :)
thank you so much..your videos helped. it gives me confidence.
WOW! Great video, thank you so much!
thanks for the lovely advice.
I must try THAT!!!!!, most of the retailers I see everyday are sad people,thanks 😁
Thank you I needed this
really good advice Marie Cheers
Excellent video.
Thank you so much you are really awesome each time I will meet a bully next year in high school now I know what to do
Thank you for that advice! Very helpful! :)
thank you soooooo much i love all your vidz your like a miracle worker
This is great advice.
Hi Matt, sure you could do that, but you have to make sure the person you are dealing with is rational, and often these types aren't. Remember, if it doesn't work, they will realize they have "gotten" to you and the problem will get worse. But if this is a person who is normally very caring and considerate and this was just a mistake, confronting him/her could work, because then they would realize they hurt you.
Yes, we must be careful to not confront a psychopat.
Marie great advice I will give it a try. btw you dress so pretty and look fabulous!
Thank you soooo much for this video I have this problem a little too much with the nicest people making comments about me! And I think I could move on if I could just stand up for myself i don't know why it is so hard sometimes
You're always welcome, btw I really like your sense of style. So classy. :)
good one. thanks
Yes this is similar to what I use if I get insulted through social media or in person just say Awww realllllly thank you.. and smile!:) even though it may still hurt in the inside just react positive and they get all confused. Lol
Being smart-ass is the key, sometimes puts them off edge
+DcFuels X I was being to sarcastic for taking insults but now I really do take insults as compliments
You're suppose to know you for yourself and not go off of what other people think of you, whether it be good or bad. I used to feel like that then I stopped giving a fuck because no matter how much you try to make yourself better whether it be by getting smarter, fitter, wealthier, people will always talk shit.
AiDeN FrIeDmAn-YeTtAw yea me to but now I work nightshifts I work alone so I don't have to deal with people/drama it's really nice!
Andreia, I will do that! Thanks so much for watching my videos!
Brittany, that is a hard one. I would try and just talk to him/her about only things related to work. Keep the conversations extremely professional. And when they make derogatory comments, I would nod and smile, and pretend that you didn't get the negative connotation...that you didn't realize he wasn't being entirely nice.
had some people making fun of my walk in public, I didn't realize they were doing it until I was way past them walking.
What brought me down about it, is how lame people's attempts are to bring other people down, and how effective they can be. It made me really sad.
sorry to here that
Thx. I pray I have the guts to do say stuff like this. I need to speak my mind more. I think I'm going to tell my coworkers that what they said hurt me but I forgive them. This way the power is left in my hand not theirs.
Marie gives great advice.
Recently I was at a wine crawl. At the first stop I thought the guy was free so I ordered my pour. A couple admonished me for cutting the line and said they were next but they were standing so far back I assumed they were observers. I apologized to them said I was sorry and didn't mean to. The woman started being sarcastic to me she said well, my parents are from the south and some of us were raised with manners. That was very hurtful and unnecessary from a stranger, after all, I apologized sincerely to them. So I got up close just so she could hear and quietly I said my parents are from the south, too, and they raised me not to be a bitch like you. I was smiling when I said it then I quickly walked away. I'm so tired of people being rude and sarcastic for no reason after you've apologized to them.
loved this, lolol!
Thanks
Some idiots get too personal.
Ahh love it 🖤
Truth!!!
Wow thank you Marie....thank you so much by the way you are Beautiful
Hi Marie! I have been watching your vids :)
anyway, I wish you could have a video that is not about helping other people with this and that, but maybe a video about you and your family or anything that you like that will show us more about you.I'm curious, I bet your other subscribers are too :) would be fun i guess.. :)
Awesome ! Can't wait for new bids 😁
Vids videos. 😊
Why do us humans never think of our own mistakes and blame others for it... :(
That is called a deflection due to a self defense mechanism, most likely
great tips thanks I am polite to ppl n i have learned it now by experience that I "attract" rude ppl it's like they can read it on my face that I won't react so they just take thier sarcasm frustration n rudeness on me...it's like nothing else to do so let's just be a jerk to someone polite... thanks but no thanks now I am prepared some of them will hate the new me.... bcoz I have been thz person who starts covering my
you should really make a video audio steps for meditating you sound so centered love the tone of voice
I love your videos. They are good common sense. I have weak social skills because I have Asperger Syndrome, and using your advice I don't come across sounding like a psychology textbook. Thank you.
Hey Marie,
What if this person is your boss? Can you still give them this response or should you handle it differently?
You don't understand. I have verbally abusive people around and they don't care about these gestures. What should I do?
colene lalgie just be like "your mom" and they get mad lol
Give them a bullet to the head and plan your escape route
hahahh...
colene lalgie you could say something like "I'm sorry you feel that way." And walk away. It can be a little empowering to assert that you're not absorbing their insults. (Then cry in private of you need to. Point blank-don't show them that they're getting to you. They abuse you to hurt you. That's what they want. Oppressive people don't respect boundaries.)
Everyone has a place in this world. Find a job in a place where you will find professional and classy people. Trust me there are jobs and work settings where you will find a few of those nice people.
lol u are right!ty!
I'd hate to get on her bad side
What to do after a breakup, when your ex or their friends text you and pester you to get a rise out of you? Just a suggestion
I have family members like that . But they try to deny saying anything wrong . I am apparently being too sensitive or taking things as a personal attack
Well thanks that really help he stop insalting me
Hello Marie. I love your videos, and I love that they are practical. Thank you so much for helping people! I hope you can help me with my question. I love to go out and socialize, but every time I open my mouth, people hear my accent and ask "where are you from". After I am answering, in 95% it will start the political/prejudice conversation/comments that are unpleasant to me. I do not want to be rude to these people, but is there a way to stop this pattern? I will greatly appreciate your point of view.
***** Just say where you are from and if these kind of comments start just say with a smile "Hey guys, let's change the argument!… so"
I know, people are boring as hell…but try to stop the conversation before it starts...
Ocinematique Thank you, appreciate your advise.
what should I do. my colleage bothers me alot on doing small things. she always try to show off that she is senior. and everytime she say in a dramatic way to do her things. it upsets me alot
People are too scared to insult me lol and I love it that I won't have to worry about someone idiot giving me a hard time.
A few of my coworkers do this to me and it is not funny but supposed to be a joke. It fills me with hatred.
What do I do if I ask the person to explain , and they reply '' I don't feel like repeating myself ''
this will *ONLY* work on people who will not fight you.. _in many cases,_ when FACE TO FACE: *being sarcastic (to make someone else look bad) ONLY makes you look bad (after you get slapped)*
But what if they say like "My point is your ugly"
''based on Hollywood actors & actresses, yes maybe...but then you're so ugly like me, compared to those perfect people''
AJKrazy Eve if they say "My point is your ugly" then you say so what? so what is the big deal?
could say something about " the people who put you down in order to feel themselves better" because they lack self confident? and also I came across people that they assume what I say lack self confident and try to correct me because of their lack of mental weakness (
my life u.u
" the people who put you down in order to feel themselves better" ...
...are people who are doing a PROJECTION of their lack of self confidance in you, so they need to define yourself as ''lower'' to feel they're ''higher''.
Convert yourself in a living MIRROR, so they can only insult themselves, that pisses'em off! the point of the video is, be like a mirror: what's your point?
You have to make them feel they did something ''wrong''. But be subtle, kind, and educated.
That's what they are NOT inside.
They are ugly.
great
DO NOT ENGAGE! People want to play stupid games.... dont provide opposition. Or if you must then try saying" how strange! i was just thinking the same about you! That usually earns respect from others listening and screws the attacker. Dont forget to smile at them......😁
i'm am gonna try this lol
two kicks on the butt and problem solved (y)
Lol, I wish..! It's my grandma that I have to deal with though...?! :D
she is right
Sensitive much
I once ask for explanation and she said she was just joking and that i behaved like a baby ..Now every time i see her i don't let her come close to me because she's toxic
That can work , but sometimes the other person will just take know notice what you said and have a smile on their face . U will ask the question every time they drop a bomb , and they will ignore u each and every time . Eventually u get aggressive and start a fight or something . What will be the best thing to do if the person is doing this . How do u deal with a person that plays the silent ignore game , after they dish it out .
Yeah, sadly they push you to reply with a clear insult to them.
If they ask ''what you said??'', then you go like...
- '' I don't feel like repeating myself ''
"- Aaand....What's your point?
- I'm trying to insult you. Are you stupid, or what?"
Thank you, good night.
- I'm trying to insult you. Are you stupid, or what?
- Ooh..! yes I know you tried, what I didn't know is, you were that stupid to try it.''
that's what I actually say automatically without thinking at all, need to work on my maneers. Ther's some people that don't deserve to be attended too kindly, right?
Wowwww
The pervasive abuse of sarcasm has trivialized the rudiments of it’s aesthetic richness, and this has predicated it’s negative connotation, subjectively and objectively, and although there’s polarized viewpoints, my contention remains abhorrent.
Written By: Atelston Fitzgerald Holder 1st
What if your own brother literally bullies you and no one believes you
Because when my parents aren't home he makes me depressed and angry at the same time
I don't have the guts to talk back its not me
It's so bad it's getting to the point where I have to ask him if im allowed to go to bed or not
Or if im allowed to do anything
He is 20 something and he just moved in
And im 17 years old
+Abril Landeros it does, thank you!
I have a sister like that. She has always had the attitude "I can abuse you but nobody else can". Your brother is going to do what you allow him to do. Do you have a job? If you are in high school, find a job and start saving your money. Save up about 2 or 3 thousand and move out. If you have a car and drive, you are one step ahead in the game. You will be able to get around. Just try avoiding him as much as you can. Hang in there...
My sister has been this way our whole lives. She is about to turn 50. I am 47. I told her that once our mother passed, I was done with her. She changed her tune and her attitude towards me.
Marie, and what if this person is my teacher? He always make jokes about my hair, my backpack and too many things: my hair is a little grown up, I used to use a purse, in spanish we call it "Veliz", which is a male purse. I use it because I am a beauty products salesman and that purse was a gift from the company when I signed up.
This Saturday when I entered to the classroom he said: "Hey! What's up man!? We were just talking about you?" and I said "Oh really? Why? What were you talking about?", and he started saying "Oh, we were talking about ugly things (I really don't remember what noun he used/said. I don't remembre what he said after this). I just put my face like =/... I didn't know what to answer, I just smiled fakely. After that I sit on my chair and he told me: "Why didn't you come last week?" and I said "Oh, it was because I went to a course of my job". I didn't know how to say "course". He didn't understand. I was asking how does it said that word. A classmate helped me and said "conference", so I said "I went to a conference from my job", and he said "You went to a conference with that hair? Oh my God! You look like a hippie!". After that he reforced what he said asking my classmates "Is it true or not he looks like a hippie", and some of them agreed moving the head up and down". I got mad, I confess. I didn't know what to answer. After that he said "That's a lack of professionalism".
After this I don't remember what I said.
Right now I just got bored just by writing what happened =/...
In the break I tried to talked to him. I told him "Teacher, I want to talk you. Why do you bother me a lot? I don't do anything to you. Why do you bother me a lot?". After saying I don't remember the exact words I said. He answered: "What? What are you saying? Get in the classroom. Come on", ignoring completely what I was saying. I got mad even more.
+Manuel Medina
that man is gay as hell and he got a crush on you lol
Yes he likes you in a different way and wants you, just tell him that you are not like that, and you are not interested in him.
Manuel Medina Hola, He sounds so negative and with issues. His behavior is passive aggressive, and maybe he feels something is wrong but because he's proyecting himself.
And he's bullying you. After you tried to talk with him, I think it was a good idea, and seems you did it in a very educated way, because it shows that you're noticing how he makes fun of you, or trying to bother you but is a signal for him that you are noticing and that is non respectful how he's behaving with you . Hi is unprofessional and totally lacking of ethics. And how he ignores you, is because he can't believe you're defending yourself?, maybe.
I don't know what has happened, but I hope the situation has stopped or at least he has understood that what he was doing is bullying and totally irrational and violent behavior.
I'd talk with someone else in a higher position if he hasn't changed.
Hope you are doing well.
Sorry for my English, I speak Spanish.
Peace.
Manuel Medina one or the other ask him if he likes u and or report to higher ups
I have a friend who doesn't care about me and responds with "cool" whenever she doesn't care about me
Shelly cool.
she's not your friend...
(Counter attack) talk about someone they don't knew as describing them in a sarcastic way , (ending) connect ur talk, to ur friend frm past which u where talking about ( keep a smile on ur fucking face as u will make them think) -ve being + ve haha
I'm usually like that but they don't get it.
Maybe they can't believe I'm able to say sarcastic things to them?
Or maybe they YES get it, they yes were hurted, but act as if they don't?
The only answer is: if days later, or months later I receive some other self evident agression from them :)
(so yes, it worked).
I FEMALE AT WORK IS LIKE THAT
how shall i react when somebody swears at my pearents??
+kitty_cute 123 BEAT THEIR ASS or call the POLICE to remove them off your parents property
😂😂
My dad is like that I blocked him I hope that will help
Hello dear did you think it's an insult when your fiancée told you get your own car your own apartment
Sarcasm is really nasty, I don't use it, I prefer to be straight forward and is sad how many people are actually proud to use it.
Sarcasm could be beautiful when used by good intelligent people. They never use it for hiding themselves behind the words & meanings.
Only cowards use it that way, they never go straight forward.
im used 2 it, but I then get aggressive and moody interacting with them types,cos im tryna prevent myself 4rom lashing out..cos im feisty,only with those who are not loyal and that I cant trust -backstabbers ...
I was being sarcastic the first time saying thanks for the compliment but I've gotten used to it that insults are complaints to me
What a very knowledgeable woman do you have any degrees?
Do a video on how many times you've been cheated on.
Iam not like Thees typed of younger women on earth so Respect, The member the manager and princeeseseseseses
That doesn't always work , cause some people just keep quite , when asked to explain , and they will just repeat what they are doing in a fashionable way .
Then just ignore them
Can I adopt you?