feeling behind in both work and love

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  • čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
  • hi besties. recently been feeling like i am behind in my life. i know it is a universal feeling and part of starting over, but it also feels so nauseating amid the many uncertainties. so if you are also feeling a little lost and are starting over, i hope you know that you are not alone! work and relationships in your twenties can feel so hard and i feel you :")
    [chapters]
    00:00 intro
    01:05 let's catchup from bryant park
    02:02 why are our twenties so hard?
    03:17 being single in your twenties
    06:10 figuring out your career is so hard
    08:36 some gentle reminders
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    [about me]
    hello! i am a twenty-something living in nyc. i recently left my job as a software engineer to pursue my entrepreneurship dreams full-time. i love reflecting on my feelings and twenties, as well as oversharing on the internet. thank you for being here :)
    hang out with me on ig! @joyfullencounter
    [tags]
    feeling behind,quarter life crisis,figuring out life,feeling,navigating single

Komentáře • 457

  • @joyfullencounters
    @joyfullencounters  Před 2 měsíci +132

    I feel very nervous being this vulnerable about how i am feeling. I know it is part of the process & that feeling behind is a universal feeling, regardless of where you are in life. Social media tends to show only the highs & wins but i want to be open about not just the good days but also the not so good ones too:)

    • @skysmith9412
      @skysmith9412 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Your honesty makes this channel special.

    • @hirozzayz8164
      @hirozzayz8164 Před měsícem

      Can I be your bf?

    • @AppleTech1511
      @AppleTech1511 Před měsícem +1

      The best advice I can give you when it comes to this chapter in your life is do what makes you happy. I wish I had learned that sooner when I was younger in my late twenties.
      -Mark

    • @PM-mm3pz
      @PM-mm3pz Před měsícem +1

      It took me until 38 to drop everything and I head into nursing, hard and challenging...but once i stopped searching for what I thought I wanted..it fell into my lap..career and a wife

    • @clovemao329
      @clovemao329 Před měsícem

      my my arent we the same but me with a surplus of not having job experience, how should i start 😅??

  • @serenityssolace
    @serenityssolace Před měsícem +311

    28, no job, no girlfriend, no university degree and a very hard to cure illness. Stay strong

  • @OhNoNotAgain42
    @OhNoNotAgain42 Před 2 měsíci +599

    At 27, you are not “starting over”. You are just “starting”. That’s pretty young in the scheme of things. Nothing wrong with changing and growing during this period in your life. That’s what your 20’s are for.

    • @joyfullencounters
      @joyfullencounters  Před 2 měsíci +11

      i love this :"D

    • @onlymesohyper
      @onlymesohyper Před měsícem +1

      Well said 😍

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před měsícem +2

      Dude at 27 she has been out of high school for almost 10 years!!! I don't know how it will all turn out but lets be real if she had a super good situation she at leas has options.... But if she is behind she might have a very limited number of options open to herself!!! Stuff just does not reward effort but results and many of the rich young just got super lucky (and also tend to be very difficult people.)

    • @OhNoNotAgain42
      @OhNoNotAgain42 Před měsícem +15

      @@donaldlyons17 I’m more than twice her age. At 27, I already had 2 degrees and was on my 2nd career. A few years later, I completely changed careers and hadn’t even yet met my wife to be. Mid 30’s stuff began to gel. Those early experiences helped me decide who and where I wanted to be. I had no way to even be aware of what my life would ultimately be. 20’s are a great time to be adult without certainty.

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před měsícem

      @@OhNoNotAgain42 Well not to say for you your 20's were not a sign of problems but is someone said "feeling behind in both work and love" I tend to think they know themselves and their situation better than I do.... SO NOPE IF SHE SAID IT IS A PROBLEM THEN IT IS A PROBLEM PERIOD!!

  • @btsborahae5041
    @btsborahae5041 Před 2 měsíci +303

    I'm turning 30 and I don't have savings, a job or bf.
    I'm figuring out life as well.
    Luckily my family and friends are very supportive of whatever decision I make. :)
    We got this! *virtual hugs* 🫂

    • @namisan9310
      @namisan9310 Před 2 měsíci +4

      oof that's rough ..

    • @scarynightmare9130
      @scarynightmare9130 Před měsícem +5

      Same here I m turning 30 this year but no savings no career nothing

    • @blessingfriday6951
      @blessingfriday6951 Před měsícem +2

      Sending you lots of hugs dear 🫂

    • @fatisummer9106
      @fatisummer9106 Před měsícem +6

      31 here no savings no job no love

    • @wuzhexi4845
      @wuzhexi4845 Před měsícem +2

      it's totally ok, the first important thing is to keep physically healthy, then whatever other things just let them happen, at the end of the day, no big deal

  • @Vibrantly_Monochromatic
    @Vibrantly_Monochromatic Před měsícem +159

    there should be a support group for us girlies between the ages of 24 to 35, for all of us where its tough to find jobs, have references and give emotional support in our darkest days. Its tough doing these things all alone and nothing have the support needed to weather this storm.

    • @Yawn777
      @Yawn777 Před měsícem +1

      So true, I would love it ♡

    • @Sugar-hr9il
      @Sugar-hr9il Před měsícem +2

      @@Yawn777 but girlies arent really interested in a group like this tho

    • @Yawn777
      @Yawn777 Před měsícem +6

      @Sugar-hr9il And who are you to decide if they are or not? Sit down lmao

    • @Someone-ji6ni
      @Someone-ji6ni Před 21 dnem +1

      We should really make one.

    • @mjkasey20
      @mjkasey20 Před 15 dny

      I’m down let’s make a discord

  • @stephenliao450
    @stephenliao450 Před 2 měsíci +116

    love what you said: "there's no such thing as being behind in your own life"

    • @joyfullencounters
      @joyfullencounters  Před 2 měsíci +4

      🥺🫶🏻

    • @theoneandonly4486
      @theoneandonly4486 Před měsícem

      Hi beb need bf? Im ready...​@@joyfullencounters

    • @menumlor9365
      @menumlor9365 Před měsícem

      Yes there is. I use to have a coworker who is 46 who finally decided to take his life serious. That’s 28 years he just wasted doing nothing.

    • @Adrian-mi9fo
      @Adrian-mi9fo Před měsícem

      @@menumlor9365 If you look at it, it's almost as if it took him 28 year worth of experience to finally get serious and be well in life, so 28 years isn't totally wasted at all. We all have our separate pace.

  • @ismbks
    @ismbks Před 2 měsíci +122

    youtube algorithm knowing me on a personal level is lowkey scary
    im also about to turn 27 and i feel the exact same way, it feels good to know im not the alone but at the same time it is scary being so uncertain about your future when everyorne around you seems to have figured their life out

    • @joyfullencounters
      @joyfullencounters  Před 2 měsíci +4

      yea i feel that on a personal level :") slowly but surely

    • @MyFirstHandle
      @MyFirstHandle Před 25 dny

      Just stay away from comparing.

    • @ismbks
      @ismbks Před 25 dny

      damn there were like 10 views at the time i posted this

  • @athan4752
    @athan4752 Před měsícem +82

    Life doesn’t “start” when you get a bf/gf or job.
    Life encompasses everything that we do.
    From eating, sleeping and reading, to traveling, spending time with people that we enjoy, or simply being in each moment. Living is an art, a gift, an experience.
    Our life starts before we can even form memories and lasts until after we’ve lost many of them. Jobs and romantic relationships are just a part of the adventure.
    Stories don’t start once the dragon is defeated or when the prince and princess live happily ever after. And neither does life.
    Wishing everyone reading this all the best on your personal adventure!

  • @AmolSampatraoRamteke
    @AmolSampatraoRamteke Před měsícem +40

    At 25 had 6 figured salary, a life partner and and a beautiful kid.
    Today I am 42 I don't have a salary and a family. Life is uncertain we have to live everyday as it comes.
    Grass on other side is always green.

    • @ming3706
      @ming3706 Před měsícem +6

      yup, they dont know everything could come falling even after success. Your story dont just end after you earn the money, or have a family, it continues. The best part is, you get to start over again even when you are 40.

    • @MyFirstHandle
      @MyFirstHandle Před 25 dny

      I have a relative of mine who is 70 years old no kids and her husband is dead. They are rich because they have no kids to look our for.

  • @allielin6742
    @allielin6742 Před 2 měsíci +107

    Staring over by just-turn 38. No job, no bf.
    A big space to fulfill with❤tears laugh and dancing

    • @k.p.4818
      @k.p.4818 Před měsícem +2

      I am sort of in the same boat. How is it going

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před měsícem

      It always seems better when something works the first time but best of luck!!

    • @DGBG24
      @DGBG24 Před měsícem +1

      Same

    • @allielin6742
      @allielin6742 Před měsícem

      @@k.p.4818 started rowing my boat - New Job : Big company, nervous
      - New Relationship with my Ex : Genuine, light talk becoz I am calm now and realized life is short so I cherish the ones I care.
      - Journal Writing : Fun🙂‍↔️ all emotions and facts ONTO the paper. Go!

    • @allielin6742
      @allielin6742 Před měsícem

      @PockyFTW hii, thank you for supporting and boosting.. I make fun to myself, of the situation at times. Except life, nothing should considered too serious.
      This is what I sing to myself when I’m in my dark days.

  • @Karenmarquesf
    @Karenmarquesf Před měsícem +18

    I am 27, and I feel SOOO behind. I have never had a relationship, I was just fired from my job, and I have no idea what I'm gonna do because I don't wanna do anything related to my degree anymore.
    But, unlike most people, I don't feel sad because I'm comparing myself to others, I feel like that because I feel like I am VEEERY FAR from achieving anything. Far from getting into a relationship, from figuring out what I want in life, from having a stable career, from settling down... And I'll just keep feeling miserable and lonely this whole time, cause I don't know what to do... yeah

    • @lauragweyani6631
      @lauragweyani6631 Před měsícem +2

      Sis, I FELT this!!

    • @DJcyberslash
      @DJcyberslash Před 2 dny

      Why no relationships?

    • @Karenmarquesf
      @Karenmarquesf Před dnem

      @DJcyberslash why i've never had a relationship? Well, basically, it just didn't happen...

    • @K-POPTamilified
      @K-POPTamilified Před dnem

      I know how it feels !!!! I am 27 and exactly in the position as you. Still haven't figured out what I want to be. I think I will slowly but surely get there !!!!

    • @DJcyberslash
      @DJcyberslash Před dnem

      @@Karenmarquesf you don't have any guy friends or anything?

  • @EternalLoveAnkh
    @EternalLoveAnkh Před 2 měsíci +28

    This is a great video. I started my life over at 27 too. I just got out of a serious relationship at the time. At 18, I went to college but I dropped out a year later because I didn't have the accommodations I needed, due to my disability. But I wrote 3 self empowerment books at 30 and at 33, I returned to college to finish what I started. Now, I'm getting my PhD.
    RJ

    • @joyfullencounters
      @joyfullencounters  Před 2 měsíci

      :")

    • @EternalLoveAnkh
      @EternalLoveAnkh Před 2 měsíci

      @@joyfullencounters What do you do now?
      RJ

    • @verpadamofficial3111
      @verpadamofficial3111 Před měsícem

      Wow, such a sturdy previleges, I have to learn from you but your video is math 😢, what is self empowerment, I dont understand where I suppose to begin, I am 28, no job, how?

  • @rakhimukherjee2040
    @rakhimukherjee2040 Před měsícem +6

    I am 28 with no job, always wanted to do something else and this has brought me behind others. But its okay, we're all figuring out life :)

  • @sunnni_
    @sunnni_ Před 2 měsíci +30

    I just became 27 and I am just now feeling like my life is starting the way I want it to be and its very exciting. I never thought I would have even made it to 27 and I am truly blessed and happy about it. I no longer let "societal clock" get to me anymore. Life is meant to be enjoyed and I spent too much time not doing it. But I am sending you love and good luck for your dreams on starting a tech startup, that is an amazing goal 🌼🌼

  • @tonycornea6945
    @tonycornea6945 Před měsícem +8

    Watching this at 3am turning 27 , recovering from past relationship .. I'll pray for everyone's journey, I hope one day we all figured it out.

  • @Shanayavids
    @Shanayavids Před měsícem +30

    Hey girl you don't know how much you've inspired me.. I will turn 27 on August 20th..never dated all my friends are settleling down. Here I am still wonder what am I supposed to do.. I'm glad knowing that I'm not alone and there are people around the world who are living life just like me.. ❤

    • @DGBG24
      @DGBG24 Před měsícem

      Yes so keep going 💪

    • @winshwesinoo3442
      @winshwesinoo3442 Před 16 dny

      Hey Shanaya! I’m also turning 27 on August 20th! Haha you’re my birthday twin!!! 😊😊 same here! Most of my friends are settling down - getting engaged, getting married, etc while I just feel very lost in life. So much uncertainties for my future and honestly life scares me so much at the moment. But I feel like I can only keep trying everyday and hopefully one day something extraordinary happens to me haha

    • @Shanayavids
      @Shanayavids Před 15 dny +1

      Hii twin 🥰 yeah we should not worry however enjoy these precious moment.. Who knows three years from now we might have kids which will make us look back to these days where we spend worrying about things we have no control :)
      Every moment we step has a purpose, hold on to that hope 😌

  • @civnfne
    @civnfne Před 2 měsíci +29

    Hi Joy, just wanted to say that I am in a similar boat..
    I recently turned 28 and I am currently working as a software developer full-time. I often find myself wanting to quit so I can have time to start my own business and travel, but I struggle with the expectations of society and fear of failure. I also find myself becoming increasingly lonely and I feel like everyone else around my age is already getting married, etc.
    Your videos make me think more seriously about jumping ship.
    PS - You are very beautiful!

    • @joyfullencounters
      @joyfullencounters  Před 2 měsíci

      I feel this so much. Going on your path feels both fulfilling & lonely. Thank you for sharing and we got this!

  • @iamjerose-oldchannel
    @iamjerose-oldchannel Před 2 měsíci +16

    i’m starting over too :) at 37… you got this!!

  • @eightsisee
    @eightsisee Před 2 měsíci +2

    love the way you think and I totally understand you during these times I go back and forth all the time! in the end you gotta focus on you and they will come.

  • @muumuiDiaries
    @muumuiDiaries Před měsícem +2

    This hits close to the heart. Good luck! and cheers to new beginnings a new canvass and anything is possible!

  • @HoangVoKe-xd3op
    @HoangVoKe-xd3op Před měsícem

    This video is so touching! It is truly amazing to open up about your struggles and post them on CZcams lol. You have a very clear idea of what is going on and what to do. Wish you the best ❤.

  • @addeu_
    @addeu_ Před 2 měsíci +26

    I graduated from my masters degree at the end of last year. Living with my parents. Last month, I finally got a job that I quitted after two weeks. Today I just sent in my immediate resignation letter after one day of working at new place. Starting over at 27 is definitely a challenge. You know what you want, and you feel the rush to get it asap, but its easier said than done. We will get through this girl!

    • @jake9854
      @jake9854 Před měsícem

      but girls live an easier life than boys tho

  • @debolinaguha511
    @debolinaguha511 Před 2 měsíci +2

    thank you so much for posting this! I have been feeling very lost and directionless in life. Everyone seems so far ahead of me. Thank you for making me feel not alone in this journey! As long as we keep trying, good things will surely come!

  • @janedi4691
    @janedi4691 Před měsícem +1

    You got this! Love lots of things of things you said.. I feel encouraged!

  • @daisyslife919
    @daisyslife919 Před měsícem +8

    I found these days, there are so many CZcamsrs losing their regular job, especially in tech. I was laid off recently and am looking for job proactively. You're young so don't need to worry about the samll bummer. Take the time to step back and think about what you really enjoy. You will find the unique way for your own life.

  • @sherlyxie9892
    @sherlyxie9892 Před 2 měsíci

    I love your courage to take a risk and pursue your dream ❤ As well as how you encourage people not to regard life as a tracklist.
    You go girl. Wish you all the best 😊

  • @TC25323
    @TC25323 Před měsícem

    Thanks for your video Joy. I'm in similar situation as you career wise, but 13 years older than you. The uncertainty and nervousness is understandable. I feel that too at times, but as you said, take it one day at a time. Good luck and stay positive.😊

  • @Lezra
    @Lezra Před 2 měsíci +7

    I can very much relate to you. Im 21 turning 22 in a week, post grad international student. Everything has been overwhelming after finally stepping out, im always anxious about career and love. I know I’m still very young but the pressure gets to me very easily. Love the video and goodluck with everything ahead Joy ❤, rooting for your success

  • @ebifried
    @ebifried Před 15 dny

    totally relatable and love that you've posted this for everyone to relate and feel a little better about 'feeling behind' when there's no reason to!

  • @vaishnaviyadavofficial
    @vaishnaviyadavofficial Před 2 měsíci +2

    Couldn’t more agree Joy! Turned 28 and realised that everything I expected myself to be, I am totally at the opposite end of it.
    Similar to your journey, leaving a full time career after years and. Being single in my late twenties is scary and beautiful at the same time. Amazing video ❤️

  • @melissatelier
    @melissatelier Před měsícem +2

    first of all SENDING A BIG HUG!!! thanks for being vulnerable :) and what's with life at this point?? I'm 22, but I have a few acquaintances getting married, others having babies, others have babies already turning 3 years old, others getting a job at a big company, others just ???
    and thanks for the "there's no such thing as being behind in your own life" I wish I had heard that last year when I was struggling with postgrad crisis, but even now, it feels like a warm hug to my heart knowing that it is true!

  • @IvelinaDobreva
    @IvelinaDobreva Před měsícem +5

    I am also 27 years old and relate to almost everything you said in the video. Undoubtedly, I needed to hear this message. ❤ I am not going to say that we don't know these things, but a kind reminder is never too late. 😊

  • @vivienlehne1561
    @vivienlehne1561 Před 16 dny

    You GO GIRL! I am rooting for you.

  • @shatayupatil1617
    @shatayupatil1617 Před měsícem

    I'm glad I came across this video. It's a reminder that chasing your dreams is paramount, especially in youth when risks are minimal and our capacity for adventure is at its peak. At 24, I'm fortunate to have found my path. What I've realized from pursuing my dream is that everyday life becomes a joyous pursuit, not a chore, when you're clear about your aspirations.

  • @aiden14412
    @aiden14412 Před 15 dny

    Thankyou so much for posting this . I was beating myself over for feeling so behind in my life and listening to you made me feel understood and relaxed

  • @defenderofdemocracy2231
    @defenderofdemocracy2231 Před měsícem

    Man I’m turning 27 this year and this is exactly how I feel. Thanks for posting this. I don’t want others to feel this way, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone in this journey.

  • @just.kimmin
    @just.kimmin Před 8 dny

    Loved this and your vibes! Thank you for making this beautiful video, really needed to hear this today. ❤❤❤❤

  • @marie6815
    @marie6815 Před měsícem

    this video is so relatable. sometimes I feel that I am behind, and it seems that everyone around me is settling down/engaged/married (rationally not true, but on social media it seems this way, and with certain groups of friends, the majority are engaged or married). am on this journey to be okay with "not conforming", to be kind and supportive to myself.

  • @WarriorZoa
    @WarriorZoa Před 2 měsíci +2

    It's definitely can be though to start over at any age, depends on what point of life you're in. Always go in your own time line and not what or how you see yourself in others timelines. Create your own time line, take your time with it, especially with relationships. I haven't been in a relationship in years and I just got into one and it feels weird being back in a relationship after a long time. But it's a fresh new chapter in your life and any relationship has their own challenges.
    Be yourself, take your time, create your own time line and look back at what you already have and built that up to your current point in your time line.
    You got this!

  • @arunavoray
    @arunavoray Před měsícem +1

    In exact same boat, 27, left my full time job 8 months ago and starting over with my startup. Just "Naive Optimisim" Keeping me going. Happy to see you talk about it. I am loving it so far.

  • @jayvie9117
    @jayvie9117 Před měsícem

    turning 29 net month when I saw your vid and all these awesome people's comments. makes me put my life into perspective.

  • @itstheg.o
    @itstheg.o Před měsícem +1

    I'm in the same boat lol. Recently turned 27 and making a career pivot into a completely different field, but I finally found what I'm passionate about. I can definitely relate about 20s being so hard, but also I believe if you truly are doing what you love, things will figure itself out :) Best of luck!!

  • @heehaaification
    @heehaaification Před měsícem +1

    i don't know why your video was recommended to me, but the algorithm did its magic and I was compelled to click - so glad i did!! I think the reason why your video showed up is because I also feel a little bit lost and uncertain about the future and it's so nice to someone in a similar age to be going through similar experiences - you also seem like someone I would wanna be friends with in real life!!

  • @AnYa3312
    @AnYa3312 Před měsícem

    ughh thanxxxxx so muchh I turned 27...same situation....Gov exam prep. didn't worked out so still a fresher struggling for a single job and yeahhhh nothing as in dating sort tooo... Universe made me see this ...Thankyouu..

  • @ganeshkiran1729
    @ganeshkiran1729 Před měsícem

    Well said , i'm also facing the same situation. Thank you for the sharing and hope our life will figure out sooner.

  • @phichful9547
    @phichful9547 Před 8 dny

    Girl!! Thank for sharing. You are not alone and I am very inspired by your courage to put yourself out there in the social media world. I’m 27, no bf, lost friends and still trying to figure out my life. But I never give up. I guess i learned that the scary it is, the more know about my potential.

  • @jocelyn9568
    @jocelyn9568 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I felt this so hard :') glad to know we're not alone haha - thank you for sharing your journey!! will be rooting for you

  • @EdwardInTX
    @EdwardInTX Před měsícem +1

    I like that. Life is not a checklist, it is something to experience

  • @elachettri7158
    @elachettri7158 Před měsícem

    Hello I just saw your video and I’m at age 27 feeling Same emotional ride of what ought to be and not to be. Just letting you speak confidently itself speaks volumes about your choice that you made strongly. Getting inspired and will continue with your journey channel😊

  • @AmiF-ok1to
    @AmiF-ok1to Před měsícem

    I saw this little note I made back when I was 18. Reading it now, all the goals look too extravagant and unattainable. Right now, I only want peaceful life where I tend to my garden and eat 3 meals a day, but even that kind of peace is turning to be a stretch in my new reality

  • @little.dragon1246
    @little.dragon1246 Před měsícem +1

    Good luck in what you are looking for . When I was in my 27 year old. I didn’t have to worry because I had my life together at 10 years old.

  • @mistahdieu
    @mistahdieu Před 2 měsíci +2

    so relatable, i’m turning 27 soon myself, feeling unfulfilled at my 9-5 and also started a yt channel as a result lol. am definitely experiencing similar feelings to you. you’re not alone!

  • @mushfiqahartley5540
    @mushfiqahartley5540 Před měsícem +1

    Same girl! Only got my first official job now at 27 and I am living the single life. Thanks for the video though! It’s really good. Keep it up❤️

  • @khushibhatia3826
    @khushibhatia3826 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Your videos always make me feel so seen and heard ❤ lots of love!

  • @kraumipig
    @kraumipig Před měsícem

    It's good thing you are starting whatever is your age. I am the same with your age and still not starting and you don't need a bf/gf to be complete.. You yourself is complete. Focusing on self love and having your goals is great.

  • @ernestoruas
    @ernestoruas Před měsícem

    You're starting. and that's totally fine. I am pretty sure with 10 years of experience you'll start on the right path

  • @carllyndonabrantes2436
    @carllyndonabrantes2436 Před měsícem

    Thanka for this video. This helps a lot!

  • @georgew8586
    @georgew8586 Před 2 měsíci +1

    We each need judge life success, based on our own circumstances, not others. I went back to school got job not quite doing what I wanted, worked through multiple companies and advancement paths. Found my calling early 30’s, moved with a transfer 1,200 miles. 30 years later looking back yes it was worth it for me and where I ended up and our financial wellbeing.

  • @miss_puja_9
    @miss_puja_9 Před 11 dny

    I'm also 27 and i have left my job at 25 and almost 2 yr i was unemployed and lately i found what I actually want to do and now I'm clear about my goal and now I'm working for my goal and today found your video which gave me the relaxation of that I'm not actually alone what I'm going through..

  • @adrianacristina0797
    @adrianacristina0797 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I feel you. I’m also almost 27 and i decided to change careers, i already had a new job lined up, in a new country, and at the last moment it fell through. I’m considering going anyway since i already have a place to stay and just look for a job when i get there but the whole idea of moving countries without certainties is so daunting and scary. I’m the same as you when it comes to dating, i just can’t do apps. I also thought i’d have my life figured by now. You’re not alone ❤

  • @isamargt
    @isamargt Před 29 dny

    Thank you for this video from a fellow 27 year old who feels very lost in life ❤️ I’ve never been in a relationship and trying to date has been awful. Even though I have an okay job I feel extremely directionless and unhappy. I was recently accepted to grad school so I hope that changes things for me.

  • @davenue
    @davenue Před 2 měsíci +1

    Haha this feels very relatable in NYC as well, especially at 25 when I wanted to start something myself. I think I save a lot of mental energy by not being attracted to social media. There were times before when I often compared myself to others close to me, and it definitely felt like what you've said. I've grown slightly more comfortable knowing that I'm always going to be behind since I'm not going the same path as most do. Who knows, maybe we'll see some amusing scenery this way.

  • @romansoehuazelei1925
    @romansoehuazelei1925 Před 2 měsíci +1

    You are just starting. It is never too late to start. With a little bit of courage, you can defeat any obstacles. I have been there. I know that.

  • @giangnguyen1603
    @giangnguyen1603 Před měsícem +2

    I did start again in my 27s with nothing much at that time since I was in school most of the time and in and out for several jobs. But at least if you decided to choose something then you have 50% winning already. Be brave and work hard on it then you will get the fruit later. Wish you all the best.

  • @sammyveju1533
    @sammyveju1533 Před měsícem

    The hard shell and vulnerable part was sooooo relatable.

  • @kenandlisa
    @kenandlisa Před 2 dny

    I would say you are starting a new chapter in your life, it’s new and exciting and your journey/ story✨ But I understand where you are coming it’s the “unknown of” that can create some levels of anxiety sometimes.

  • @UnforsakenXII
    @UnforsakenXII Před měsícem +3

    I feel you. Finishing a PhD in theoretical physics and trying to switch into a completely different field in finance. Person that I've talked to the most for 5 years just sorta passed and now I'm an emotional wreck :^ )

  • @lukhaily4723
    @lukhaily4723 Před měsícem

    Your vid is so inspiring!! Thank you for sharing all these wonderful things

  • @isa_virtual
    @isa_virtual Před 2 měsíci +1

    Great video and great advices at the end 🙌🏾

  • @withlovehj
    @withlovehj Před 8 dny

    Im soon to be 23, I feel like this. But lately I'm trying to not compare my life to others and just keep working hard..Better days are coming for all of us ✨️

  • @caeee029
    @caeee029 Před 20 dny

    27 is very young. I’m 34 right now and I feel the same, having to start over when it comes to career choices. When I was 27, I felt like I had my life under control. But years later, here I am, without a job and feeling lost. There are times when I feel like I’m past my “prime” and I’m falling behind as well but then I realize that life is not a linear journey. There will be a lot of turns and ups and down. Our journey is different from one another, so don’t ever think you’re falling behind. And when you feel at your lowest, then it only means that there’s no other way but up.

  • @hollywarner4191
    @hollywarner4191 Před 2 měsíci +1

    It’s okay I am going through similar :) I’m 26, finishing my Masters in Europe this summer. I’ve had two relationships here that didn’t last and I don’t want to date right now so I can just focus on my thesis and work, and I don’t know where I will move for a post-grad job. I could move to DC since I’m having a hard time finding work as a non-EU citizen and my salary would be so high in the US. I thought I would be in Europe forever, but it’s just not working out like that. But that’s okay! Starting over again can be frustrating but I am looking on the bright side of making more money, being closer to friends and family, being in a more social place, etc. It is a blessing to be able to start over again and shape my own life :)

  • @kamertonaudiophileplayer847
    @kamertonaudiophileplayer847 Před 2 měsíci

    It's amazing. You do a great job. Good luck.

  • @jestaint
    @jestaint Před měsícem +1

    girrrrlll i am 27 and will be 28 this year and i think i found this video just at the right time because i feel so behind and lost at this v moment. idk what to do, ive been trying out things but im mostly grazing at it and not going all out.

  • @priscillavtran
    @priscillavtran Před 2 měsíci

    Hi hi! Just found your channel and omg, this was so refreshing to watch. I couldn't relate even more esp when it comes to careers. Cheers to the exciting but nerve wrecking journey of navigating life through our 20's haha.

  • @handiherawan_
    @handiherawan_ Před měsícem

    i wish you all the best in life, i'm 40 when iam at your age i regret so much because not trust my own gut feeling.. just trust your gut even though the circumstance looks bleak and terrible, ignore logic. that's what all can say for you. good luck joy.

  • @jnjrisse
    @jnjrisse Před měsícem +1

    I'm glad that I'm not alone. I'm 27 but I never had a boyfriend because it's not really my cup of tea until now. I still enjoy my singleness...I also try not to put pressure to myself to get married since I've witnessed from my friends and colleagues how difficult it is.
    I'm currently taking my masters while working at the same time. I'd feel lonely and get teased sometimes for being single but I don't really care. I just don't want to rush things.
    I'm just really thankful that my parents think the same way that I do and they're always supportive to me ❤

  • @kadeeeartiaga
    @kadeeeartiaga Před 2 měsíci

    This hits home 😭

  • @funny-stories425
    @funny-stories425 Před měsícem

    Enjoy what you have and everything will come unexpectedly 😊

  • @sumrigs670
    @sumrigs670 Před měsícem

    I am 29 and still figuring out my life. Do not worry. U will do grt. 👍

  • @Mieayam95
    @Mieayam95 Před měsícem

    I really needed this😊😊😊 sending lots of love to us girlies here❤❤❤

  • @julieqiuli9360
    @julieqiuli9360 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Me about to turn 25, also in the same boat 🥲 starting over can be nice because you don’t have that existing baggage and there are so many possibilities and so much potential. It’s both exciting and a bit scary to not know what will happen next. But you got this!

    • @joyfullencounters
      @joyfullencounters  Před 2 měsíci +1

      thank you!! yea the possibilities makes it scary but hope it is all well worth :")

  • @BeyCinema
    @BeyCinema Před 2 měsíci

    I'm 25, but I totally feel the same. We got this :')

  • @lauragweyani6631
    @lauragweyani6631 Před měsícem

    I relate with video a lot. I feel so stuck at the moment majorly because I am still grieving my big sis who passed away 6 months ago. I get discouraged whenever I think of what the future holds.

  • @numulaa_1204
    @numulaa_1204 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you fro sharing your thoughts on this, it really means a lot.

  • @serendipitygaming6785

    I am 30 and let me tell you what suprised me. During my twenties I felt so behind everyone else and I didnt have a job.. I was a college dropout, emphasis on "was" I live in a place that allow for re education, did so with pretty darn good grades. I am motivated and Life has given me a passion, and a way forward. You know what i have learned? MOST people you feel behind, their olympic fire probably have already burnt out or is close to burning out, I have gone to multiple schools during my lifetime and i would dare to say that just a handful of people still working hard out of all of them. I had a past that's why it took 30 years to get my life together, but my 30's is set up to be the best fucking years of my life. I am not rich yet, maybe in the future but at least i got a road to walk on, and i no longer feel behind. :) You just need to find your passion and give everything you have, and your 30's can be the best years of your life. + you are beautiful so i wouldnt count on you feeling behind that long. 27 isnt old. 30 isnt old. still got 2/3 of the road to go and you can make a lot of changes in just a couple of years.

  • @senhuawu9524
    @senhuawu9524 Před dnem

    i feel the same way... stay strong everyone

  • @ItsLittleFattie
    @ItsLittleFattie Před měsícem

    Hi Joy! I bumped into you and this video on CZcams Home. Similarly, I am turning 27 and still feeling lost in my career, my life and else. Happy to see people having clear targets in life at their young age, but I believe we all have our own pursuit and pace to get things done. It is never too late to start sth new. Appreciate your courage and wish you all the best!

  • @WebWordsWave
    @WebWordsWave Před 2 měsíci +12

    I am 29 yet i am still in my parents basement.. so your type of life is heaven for me. 😅😅😅

  • @marina_souto
    @marina_souto Před 21 dnem

    This is funny: I don't know you at all and for some reason CZcams recommended your video to me, but I feel the exact same way, since I'm turning 27 in a few months and I'm at a very similar situtation as you in life. We are all on the same boat haha, so we're not behind, we just have our own unique journey 😊
    I really hope you can make your dreams come true and make your business a success. I feel like you already have the resources and the courage, so its a matter of consistency and work, and you're going to achieve what you want :) Cheering for you and your business, you got it!

  • @francescaaaaaaaaaaaa
    @francescaaaaaaaaaaaa Před měsícem

    im turning 27 this year! I cant wait to change and start over! Hugs to us!

  • @yyy-ml1yg
    @yyy-ml1yg Před 2 měsíci +1

    we want a blog about your study routine, how u managed to land a job in SE within 8 months of intensive study and how also u managed to not burn out and managed to work with Studying

  • @IuanColeYoung
    @IuanColeYoung Před měsícem

    27 turning 28 this year, just broke up with my partner a couple months ago. Thankful I'm still gainfully employed but it's a role that I don't quite know where I'm heading. It's comforting to know there are a few peeps out there in a similar situation, but here's to hoping that all of us find a purpose, healing, love and fulfillment in our lives soon.

  • @asia.sajdak
    @asia.sajdak Před 2 měsíci

    great video! fingers crossed you will succeed here x

  • @briantep458
    @briantep458 Před 17 dny

    i have all these feelings but in my late 30s. I do think you deal with it easier as you get older, mostly because you learn to accept things and develop other areas that give you confidence and joy

  • @authenticwj7515
    @authenticwj7515 Před měsícem

    those are some awesome reflections

  • @CyndyTangerineyyyy
    @CyndyTangerineyyyy Před měsícem

    Hi Joy! New to your channel & just subscribed. Happy to be here. (: Thank you so much for sharing your story & insights! You are very wise. (: Excited to watch more videos on your channel!

  • @jessicaLim8
    @jessicaLim8 Před měsícem +2

    Hi Joy, my name is Jessica, and I want to thank you for making this video. I stumbled upon your video today when it showed up on CZcams. Your video came to me at the right time - I am in my twenties right now, and the difficulties you mention in love and career resonated with me. I found myself agreeing with everything you said! (Haha) I am grateful to know that apart from myself, there are more people, like you, who I can relate to - I am experiencing the same emotions and wonder at times if I am "behind in life." I am interested in seeing more of your videos and look forward to watching more of your content. Cheering you on and wishing you the best in life!
    Sincerely, Jessica

  • @davinaaudra_01
    @davinaaudra_01 Před 23 dny

    Well,first pardon my English
    I don't know if you read my comments but,thank you so much to post this
    And God bless you.

  • @Chingu1111
    @Chingu1111 Před měsícem

    I'm 23 and i feel like lost after completing my college...most of my friends are either working or married.. you know that feeling when life is really hard and nothing is going on your favour... I'm single all my life and don't even have any working experience but I've this hope wothin me that soon I'll have a job and ny life will be change .... let's do this and let's shine in whatever we do from noww oon