Ben Affleck Opens up About Fame, J-Lo and REGRETS? Body Language Analyst Reacts.

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  • Ben Affleck opens up about life, fame and regrets! Rumors have been circulating about Ben Affleck and J-Lo, reports claim they are going through a divorce, in this interview with Kevin Hart, the Oscar winning director, screenwriter and actor opens up about life, fame and family but what do his body language, facial expressions and word choice reveal, find out now!
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    SOURCES
    The Importance of Eyebrows in Human Communication
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    Expression of Contempt
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    Eye- Blocking and Memory
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    TIMESTAMPS
    01:22 Can You Read His Body Language?
    03:17 Ben Affleck's Body Language
    12:07 Why is This So Different?
    16:40 Powerful Psychological Principle
    21:11 Does Ben Affleck Hate Fame?
    26:45 Life with J-Lo
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  • @samanthaxnicole
    @samanthaxnicole Před 7 dny +287

    I think he said JLo "represents" something important to people to distance her from the public image she has. As we saw, he values his privacy and feels strongly that there is a difference between how he is perceived vs who he really is/how he identifies himself. It seems like he feels the same for her, and he is distancing her from what she represents to people just to subtly remind us that we don't really know her either.
    Great video, as always :)

    • @TheBehavioralArts
      @TheBehavioralArts  Před 7 dny +95

      What an interesting perspective. Because he also talks alot about how the public persona celebrities have is fake so it would make alot of sense that what he means is people love what she represents because that’s all they know. They can’t love her because they don’t know her. Such a great interpretation, thank you!

    • @samanthaxnicole
      @samanthaxnicole Před 7 dny +20

      @@TheBehavioralArts Thanks :) It almost felt protective of her to me, like he wasn't distancing her from the fame or the greatness but he was distancing our knowledge of her personally as a way of respecting her privacy.

    • @evap.5121
      @evap.5121 Před 7 dny +10

      @@TheBehavioralArts I thought the "she's so famous" gesture just wasn't genuine. It was trying to cover up something or another thought or feeling. His focus is more on what people think. To me there is a lot of effort on his part to appear a certain way or hide his true feelings in general about everything. He ranted at a roast recently so I think he's focusing on appearing neutral and positive and feels embarrassed about that

    • @TheBehavioralArts
      @TheBehavioralArts  Před 7 dny +19

      @@evap.5121 it’s definitely possible that there’s some of that. As you know, eye blocking isn’t a conclusive gesture it doesn’t mean one thing so it can be emphasis but it can also be blocking. Like I said, I can argue that one both ways and I think that’s fine. Let’s not fool ourselves into thinking body language can always give us all the answers. 🤗

    • @IAmMaruG7
      @IAmMaruG7 Před 7 dny +4

      @@TheBehavioralArts I thought he mentioned it to emphasize the story he was telling about time square and draw the picture of how famous she is, so one can only imagine the type of attention that would elicit, especially in a place like time square. I also do think there was something of protection like the first commentor said.

  • @GalaxyOfBoltz
    @GalaxyOfBoltz Před 6 dny +137

    I can only speak for myself but I met Ben once and he was shockingly kind

    • @MyFakeAlterEgo
      @MyFakeAlterEgo Před 5 dny +23

      Ditto. Very nice. My dog ran up to him and threw his front legs around Ben's waist, and he only asked, "Does he bite?" I told him no, and he just looked confused while I tried to herd my other dogs. Later someone told me Ben was terrified of dogs, in which case, he took it like a champ. I've always rooted for Ben, and I've never been much of a fan of Jen.

    • @Maya-ig9kx
      @Maya-ig9kx Před 5 dny +2

      ⁠I thought he owned a dog

    • @pameladigaetano8119
      @pameladigaetano8119 Před 5 dny +3

      That is wonderful to know. Too good for her....

    • @pameladigaetano8119
      @pameladigaetano8119 Před 5 dny

      ​@@MyFakeAlterEgoAwesome 👌 story 😅

    • @Howdy1957
      @Howdy1957 Před 4 dny +1

      I love Jen, very hard worker.

  • @jesse_sweed
    @jesse_sweed Před 7 dny +314

    I like the new segment of playing clips in silence to see what we can notice in their non-verbal communication

    • @raquel7675
      @raquel7675 Před 7 dny +7

      I love it!

    • @Phoenix_flying
      @Phoenix_flying Před 7 dny +5

      Agree. It’s interesting to see the cues you pick up with just body language and no audio.

    • @DawnDavidson
      @DawnDavidson Před 7 dny +5

      Super useful! I am auditorially sensitive (I also do a lot of eye blocking for concentration, like Affleck seems to), and I’m quite confident in my ability to “hear” subtle cues in someone’s word choice and tone. But playing the video alone is helping me to feel more confident in my visual body language reading. I absolutely nailed which clip was which, even though I didn’t consciously pick up the visual cues of contempt, for instance. Overall, I could sense the “tone” of what he was saying without the sound, though. It was very interesting.
      Thanks, Spidey! Keep doing this, please!
      Also, I wonder if there might be times that it could be useful to play the audio only, without the video, and see if we could guess what visual body language was going along with the audio cues of tone, word choice, pauses, and emphasis (or lack of it.) So many people focus on the physical body cues to the exclusion of everything else. But I’ve seen/heard you taking both into account, and I really appreciate that.

    • @mayakyen3695
      @mayakyen3695 Před 5 dny +3

      Yea its brill!

  • @BrookeYoder
    @BrookeYoder Před 7 dny +57

    I feel like being characterized as an angry person in general is a lot different than just being angry that your picture is being taken when you don't want it to be.

    • @JojoBean-zo7nx
      @JojoBean-zo7nx Před 5 dny

      But then do the most to have ur picture taken lol let's not act like Ben hasn't joined Jlo in baiting the paps for the last 3 yrs...making out on boats , recreating her Jenny from the block video... smh....of he's disgusted it should be with himself

  • @tm1830
    @tm1830 Před 7 dny +135

    #1 Neutral because of his lack of expressions and looking down; He almost looked embarrassed. #2 Someone he admires because his eyes brighten/widen, and he looks upwards.

    • @tm1830
      @tm1830 Před 7 dny +8

      ADDED AFTER: Looks like I caught embarrassment vs contempt.

    • @TheBehavioralArts
      @TheBehavioralArts  Před 7 dny +20

      Wow! Really really great job!

    • @Liolia22
      @Liolia22 Před 7 dny +6

      @@tm1830yeah! I was gonna say the same, he’s looking downward so much in clip 1. Hand gestures downward, too. The body says so much.
      And now we know that first clip was him talking about his dad & lack of fulfilled potential, at least that which the father desired for himself.

    • @hellemarc4767
      @hellemarc4767 Před 7 dny +3

      @@tm1830 there was embarrassment and contempt.

    • @thia41012
      @thia41012 Před 6 dny +1

      After- Did I completely misunderstand the instructions? I had shortened it in my mind as one is positive the other is negative but didn't really see either one?

  • @yolandagray3587
    @yolandagray3587 Před 5 dny +9

    His talk about accountabilty and self responsibility is part of working a sober program.

  • @phoenyxpetersen4551
    @phoenyxpetersen4551 Před 7 dny +63

    Your (Spidey's) comment on Ben Affleck's positive attitude at 20min reminded me that I once met a camera man who had worked on Argo. And he had pointed out that there's many self absorbed a-holes in the business but Affleck stood out positively in terms of being down to earth and having a lot of positive energy.

    • @pameladigaetano8119
      @pameladigaetano8119 Před 5 dny +1

      Totally agree. They seemed such a mismatch. He really seems like a person you can just hang out with...wonderfully down to earth 🌎 and easy to talk 👄 to!

  • @empea3837
    @empea3837 Před 4 dny +8

    Hi taking responsibility is part of the 12 Step Program. Good for him for working the program and I’m glad he is healing.

  • @LeahJo488
    @LeahJo488 Před 7 dny +55

    I actually laughed out loud when you were pointing out a phrase Ben used...you kind of grinned and said "as frat boys tend to do". Omg! That was HILARIOUS!!!!

  • @clarav.7937
    @clarav.7937 Před 7 dny +44

    Clip 1 - no admiration
    Clip 2 - admiration

  • @henryhealing444
    @henryhealing444 Před 7 dny +19

    Sobriety and a LOT of therapy gave him insight/accountability. Acting gave him those eyebrows. Thanks for the breakdown. It's a really interesting video.

    • @mrsmacca126
      @mrsmacca126 Před 6 dny

      JLo’s hairdresser gave him those etebrows

    • @user-gf1rr5sf5w
      @user-gf1rr5sf5w Před 4 dny

      Yes. It was interesting. I appreciated it being intelligently presented too

  • @susanlewis1875
    @susanlewis1875 Před 6 dny +7

    For me, Affleck's 'frat boy' image has a good deal to do with his wardrobe.

  • @srarisa3362
    @srarisa3362 Před 5 dny +10

    I love this game!
    clip 1: Ben looks down, shakes his head, rolls eyes with his eyelids closed, makes a small gesture of disdain and moves his shoulders as if he was uncomfortable.
    clip 2: He put his hand is in front of his chest, as if what he is saying comes from the heart and he looks up as if something is elevated next to him.

  • @JoeyBeeFit
    @JoeyBeeFit Před 7 dny +47

    Hey Spidey! Just wanted to say that i appreciate you, your channel and the community that you've built here. 👋🏻

  • @Mrs_Mama_MFT
    @Mrs_Mama_MFT Před 7 dny +33

    I think it’s hard because I thought I saw some disgust in both clips but he was a lot more animated on the first clip and he definitely had the lip scrunch, which made me feel that one was more negative.

    • @hollystiener16
      @hollystiener16 Před 5 dny

      Yeah, he looked annoyed and negative in both, but the first clip more so.

  • @Belle1111Earthangel
    @Belle1111Earthangel Před 7 dny +11

    Ben just looks stressed out even when he's smiling so im over it 😂

  • @jasl9987
    @jasl9987 Před 6 dny +14

    The way you do your videos is so interactive and informative. I really appreciate the time ans uniqueness you put into them.

  • @KH-yz6eu
    @KH-yz6eu Před 7 dny +10

    In re to the story of Ben’s father being in jail when he was in 7th grade:
    I took the non-verbal behavior from Kevin Hart as one who clearly understood Ben A’s story of his father being in jail as “relating and understanding” the embarrassment of having your friends knowing about your father being in jail. But being so innocent that he wasn’t quite sure to how to handle it emotionally.

  • @kristy137
    @kristy137 Před 7 dny +22

    I always hit like before I finish your videos. Always interesting. Thanks Spidey

  • @Cassie-pt7mt
    @Cassie-pt7mt Před 6 dny +11

    I grew up in an abusive alcoholic family. Often times, as a child, I wanted to escape, change locations, go over to a friends house... anything different.
    But, I learned, no matter where you go, there you are.
    You take your problems with you, no matter where you are or who you're with...
    Ben needs to fix himself if he wants to be happy.
    Happy, healthy, content, complete, doesn't lie over there with a different woman, it lies within.

  • @Mrs_Mama_MFT
    @Mrs_Mama_MFT Před 7 dny +187

    When he said Jay Lo is so famous, my instinct was he was being sweet because he is so famous and yet I thought he was elevating her success over his.

    • @JoeyBeeFit
      @JoeyBeeFit Před 7 dny +23

      Yea I think that he was over exaggerating her fame.

    • @christinamitchell6608
      @christinamitchell6608 Před 7 dny +44

      No she’s def always been more famous. And she loves the spotlight which is one of the reasons why they clash

    • @sunshinecasey
      @sunshinecasey Před 7 dny +21

      ​@@christinamitchell6608I think you're confusing fame with popularity.

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk Před 7 dny +18

      @sunshinecasey nah....its true. She became way more famous than him.

    • @yamalasubryan1270
      @yamalasubryan1270 Před 7 dny +3

      Clip 1 he seems calm.

  • @IAmMaruG7
    @IAmMaruG7 Před 7 dny +17

    About eyebrows and facial expressions... they always get me in trouble. I make like 100 different facial expression within one sentence. I wish I didn't. People often misinterpret me. But my mind is going at 60mph, and face is changing from word to word.

    • @pameladigaetano8119
      @pameladigaetano8119 Před 5 dny

      Got you! Sometimes it can be a curse 🤬 to be so animated. I do the same. You and I should have been actors!!!😂 LOL

    • @hollygolightly6243
      @hollygolightly6243 Před 4 dny

      Same I’m too enthusiastic in my speech and my facial expressions are all over the place 😂

  • @KatkaJessie
    @KatkaJessie Před 7 dny +20

    I love how engaged you are in what you are doing. That' s why you are so good at it (sorry for my english). Sending much love from Slovakia 🙋

    • @bluecollarlit
      @bluecollarlit Před 6 dny +3

      Your English is good, in this comment.

    • @pameladigaetano8119
      @pameladigaetano8119 Před 5 dny

      Yes! Great 👍 English. Your post was so sweet and friendly. ❤ I think you made many people smile.

    • @KatkaJessie
      @KatkaJessie Před 4 dny +1

      @@pameladigaetano8119 thank you! ♥️

  • @stephanijeopdevelt5600
    @stephanijeopdevelt5600 Před 7 dny +31

    I find this eyebrow topic so fascinating. I'm high masking on the Autism spectrum. I move my eyebrows like crazy. My whole facial expressions are totally over the top, as it feels to me. But that's what I learned to do for people to get that I'm socializing 😅

    • @pearlosibu
      @pearlosibu Před 7 dny +1

      😅

    • @jerushieful
      @jerushieful Před 7 dny +1

      😮👀😅😉

    • @Phoenixhunter157
      @Phoenixhunter157 Před 7 dny +1

      Same. Usually I have just a flat affect but I overcompensate with facial expression, especially in the eyebrows. Also asd

  • @robertareason7299
    @robertareason7299 Před 7 dny +48

    Clip 1 negative clip 2 positive

  • @UrMidnight
    @UrMidnight Před 7 dny +53

    I'm a Ben Affleck fan going back to movies like "School Ties" (even though he played a small part in this movie, but I'm a Matt Damon fan as well) also "Dazed and Confused" (where Ben plays a bully... & in it we'll see many, many actors we know and love now, & were just coming into the acting game..MUST WATCH if you haven't already). Lets not forget "Good Will Hunting" where both Ben & Matt each received Oscars for.
    Now going back to Ben Affleck, he is a very animated person. He talks with his hands, & unapologetically wares his heart on his sleeve. He's notorious for starting & holding conversations on & at any level with a down to earth sense of humor.

  • @margierose05
    @margierose05 Před 6 dny +4

    When he talks about the perception of frat boy and others, he constantly opens his hands and pushes outward. Does that mean he was rejecting the idea and giving emphasis that that's not who he is?

    • @TheBehavioralArts
      @TheBehavioralArts  Před 6 dny +2

      Yep. Great catch. Palm outwards is negation everywhere in the world and that outward push is a distancing gesture. You nailed it

  • @guitarsz
    @guitarsz Před 7 dny +14

    I love that you took away sound. i just happened to do that a few weeks ago on my own, and noticed it clearly emphasizes those behavior clues

  • @user-gl7sq2sr6g
    @user-gl7sq2sr6g Před 5 dny +32

    Love your videos, Spidey! Just came to remind people there is nothing wrong with being a mechanic, or doing custodial work, etc. if that is what feeds you and your family, and you are not unhappy in your work. Some people look at life like a competition, or look down on these very necessary type of jobs, jobs that some people take no issue with. If you are unhappy in what YOU do, YOU make that change for yourself. But don't look to society for approval about what YOU want to do with YOUR life, and don't put others down for what they choose to do with theirs. Remember that life isn't about how famous you become, or about how much money you amass.
    I remember reading this little story at a Jimmy John's once years ago and I feel it serves as a good reminder that true success and happiness are often misunderstood by our (American) society:
    "How Much is Enough"
    The American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied, “Only a little while.” The American then asked why he didn’t stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?” The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.” The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat, and with the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise.” The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this take?” To which the American replied, “15-20 years.” “But what then?” The American laughed and said, "That’s the best part. When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.” “Millions?” asked the fisherman. “Then what?” The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evening, sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos!”

    • @pameladigaetano8119
      @pameladigaetano8119 Před 5 dny +2

      Beautiful! Thank you for sharing this 🙏 ❤❤❤❤

    • @mmcs4973
      @mmcs4973 Před 4 dny +1

      I didn't feel that Ben was looking down on the jobs his father did, and he confirmed that. However, his problem with them is that his father, clearly, was unhappy and unfulfilled at not following his own dreams/ambitions. Ben comes across as authentic and thoughtful .

    • @user-gl7sq2sr6g
      @user-gl7sq2sr6g Před 4 dny

      @@mmcs4973 I feel the "pushing a broom" terminology can come across a little condescending but I completely agree with you that his father was obviously unhappy with his work, very sad. So my main thing is just do whatever brings you happiness/fulfillment, I hope that's something we can all strive for. ❤️

  • @teresajtd
    @teresajtd Před 7 dny +25

    I think clip 1 because his body language looks engaged and excited.

  • @evap.5121
    @evap.5121 Před 7 dny +26

    I love that you have a passion for sharing knowledge and teaching beyond just giving the analysis. That really does set you apart

  • @thatssewjessica
    @thatssewjessica Před 7 dny +7

    Thanks for covering this!

  • @sm5574
    @sm5574 Před 7 dny +40

    With the curved fingers in front of his chest when talking about his teacher, I interpreted that as relating to his (metaphorical) heart. As in having an emotional connection with the teacher, or that his teacher taught him how to open up his emotions to improve his craft.

    • @IAmMaruG7
      @IAmMaruG7 Před 7 dny +2

      i also saw the correlation between the fingers scrunching up, not all the way closed, but pointing a little to his heart.

    • @ParaplegicKeanuReeves
      @ParaplegicKeanuReeves Před 6 dny

      Or just to " open up" .....ahahaha🌈

    • @melindapye7435
      @melindapye7435 Před 3 dny

      That was my impression too. It was really meaningful to him and he was figuratively speaking from the heart.

  • @virginiamorales1591
    @virginiamorales1591 Před 7 dny +6

    I know that his household was a toxic environment. He didn’t have a happy childhood. He started to have alcoholic problems in his early teens.

  • @pinkgorilla99
    @pinkgorilla99 Před 7 dny +22

    Haven’t watched yet to weigh in on the clips but I ALWAYS hit like 👍 before I even watch.
    You Rock, Spidey!

  • @MrsK976
    @MrsK976 Před 7 dny +7

    His Hs director for theater and my director were best friends. Matt Damon came back to HS drama festival finals right before they hit fame. I sat with my director and he with him- the mentor Ben speaks of. You brought back the memory to me.

  • @sandralewis1162
    @sandralewis1162 Před 7 dny +5

    @27:11 he is talking about his children and he says"this shit would never happen if I wasn't in this life.. But I also know I like this life for them better than the one I had"

  • @leahhoehn
    @leahhoehn Před 7 dny +19

    Clip one neutral. Clip two high regard. The second clip he was gripping his fist, holding it near his heart and raised his hand to the sky.

  • @montyollie
    @montyollie Před 7 dny +3

    When he said they were out with Jen... I actually thought he was talking about his first wife, Jen Garner! LOL

  • @BeckyE84
    @BeckyE84 Před 6 dny +3

    I get so excited when i see your new videos pop up! I think i was pretty spot on with the no sound clip: during 1, I'm thinking, "he is looking bored and derisive". Like ok, here's this guy, I'm going to list these things, it's really dumb. He's looking to the sides and shaking his head a lot. During clip 2, he's looking straight at kevin and emphasizing more, eyebrows up, trying to make a case. And then even that look up to the ceiling, like, see this person is up here.
    Keep up the great work, Spidey! Also, if you've read this far, have you seen the Netflix documentary Dancing for The Devil? Its about how these current famous Tik Tok and CZcams viral dancers have gotten caught up with this cult leader leader. Really interesting, there are interviews, videos and social media posts you might be able to analyze the behavior of some of the people. Just a suggestion!

  • @justacitygirl
    @justacitygirl Před 3 dny +1

    Clip 1 he was frustrated, clip 2 he pointed to his heart, more compassion.

  • @demep488
    @demep488 Před 7 dny +9

    😂 use nice words, you know how frat boys tend to do. That was funny. Nicely done ❤️

  • @cc-vq8bm
    @cc-vq8bm Před 7 dny +4

    As always, thank you! I learn so much from your videos and as always you are so mindful to be unbiased.

  • @youareheretofeelgood
    @youareheretofeelgood Před 6 dny +3

    We come here because your kind heart calms us down. You always share parts of yourself that help us! You're so cool and a genuinely nice person. We suffer from Panic Disorder, and this is a wonderful place to find peace. You take such good care of us. We love your advice about being kind to others who are being self-critical. Love you!

  • @jeffhidalgo6037
    @jeffhidalgo6037 Před 7 dny +15

    So glad you decided to cover the couple formerly known as "Bennifer".

    • @thekeysman6760
      @thekeysman6760 Před 7 dny +5

      'Bennifer' in inverted commas implying so-called or supposedly, not quotation marks quoting someone.

    • @SupernovaX72
      @SupernovaX72 Před 7 dny +5

      @@thekeysman6760I never knew that lol thanks my grammar is horrible.

    • @thekeysman6760
      @thekeysman6760 Před 7 dny +6

      ​@@SupernovaX72No, just your punctuation. 😉 Grammar is about syntax and sentence structure, which was perfect! 👍😁🕊️💜

    • @rebeccaspratling2865
      @rebeccaspratling2865 Před 7 dny +5

      ​@@thekeysman6760I love that you educated them without being nasty. People are less likely to learn when someone is nasty to them. 💛 Thank you.

  • @EtherealLuz
    @EtherealLuz Před 7 dny +8

    Clip one he shows disdain, looking down a lot, hand movements in a downward motion and a lot of head shakes. Clip 2: positive. Nodding his head, lifts his hands, lifts his head.

  • @carsonderthick3794
    @carsonderthick3794 Před 7 dny +22

    The closed eyes makes sense to avoid distraction

    • @samstromberg5593
      @samstromberg5593 Před 7 dny +2

      Yeah makes more sense to me as we’re trying to keep distractions out rather than the thought in
      Like I guess both are true but phrasing it the first way just I think is more accurate

  • @TheOriginalDelnario
    @TheOriginalDelnario Před 4 dny +1

    He also avoids eye contact in the first clip, but has strong eye contact when talking in the second.

  • @323azteca
    @323azteca Před 7 dny +5

    He switched his position when talking about his practice videos with matt damon. So cool!

  • @soulstar1144
    @soulstar1144 Před 7 dny +5

    It feels like Clip 2 is about the person he admires. I chose that option because there was a lot of looking/gesturing upwards, sort of like holding someone in a high regard. And the change in the camera's POV is very telling. Kevin Hart looks super intense while he's listening.

  • @rlms56
    @rlms56 Před 7 dny +40

    He hates the limelight and married to someone that loves it. Just a matter of time.

    • @247Sarah
      @247Sarah Před 7 dny +14

      You have to admit, he’s in the wrong profession if he hates it that much. Perhaps a career in auto repair would serve him better. People would be able to get to work because of him. There’s honour in that.

    • @heather5208
      @heather5208 Před 7 dny +11

      @@247SarahThere are a lot of actors and directors that keep their personal life private, but I do believe for he and JLo to have worked they would have needed to solidify those ground rules and really work together on it.

    • @user-qg9gf3qz3o
      @user-qg9gf3qz3o Před 7 dny +1

      ​@@247SarahHe is explaining that he loves hes job which he understands it has its ups and down.

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 Před 7 dny +10

      I think subconsciously he does not hate it as much as he says he does. Why go into Hollywood? Why marry someone twice who feeds off & loves the limelight & attention. Why are ppl babying him so much? If he wanted privacy so much he gas enough money to go live in a valley in Timbuktu..
      He is a grown ass man. J-lo cannot be blamed for his decisions. He needs to stay away from all Jens & seriously sort himself out. Going back & forth between these 2 women does no one any good especially not their kids.

    • @alexcoal5111
      @alexcoal5111 Před 6 dny

      So you didn't listen to the video, you just came to leave a negative comment

  • @sylviaopriessnig2514
    @sylviaopriessnig2514 Před 7 dny

    thank you so much... waited so hard for the next video 🙂

  • @Lmapmpmfa
    @Lmapmpmfa Před 6 dny +7

    Clip 1, neutral. Clip 2, admiration
    1. His body moves side to side evenly. His gestures don’t seem very emphatic. He doesn’t look up and down. He transfers energy from hand to hand as he speaks, but does not favor one side to the other or make a strong direction punctuation (i.e. no hand punching forward or up or down). His body language shows no particular emphasis as he goes through the conversation . He seems to be saying with his side to side hand and head movements “Well, it could be this. Or it might be that. But you never can tell.” He shrugs his shoulders a lot.
    Clip 2. He becomes physically more excitable with hand movements. He looks more directly at the interviewer. He looks up (full head movement) and gestures upwards with a hand. He has that far off slight grin at times that people get when they are thinking fondly of something or someone. His eyebrow flashes are more emphatic as he continues his speaking.
    There is so much in both, that I could talk about this for as long or longer than your whole session.

    • @TheBehavioralArts
      @TheBehavioralArts  Před 6 dny +3

      Ha! You’ve earned your magnifying glass icon! Nailed it!

    • @Lmapmpmfa
      @Lmapmpmfa Před 2 dny

      @@TheBehavioralArts I’m always humbled when you compliment me. Thank you Spidey❤️❤️❤️

  • @piaauman9020
    @piaauman9020 Před 7 dny +4

    i really, REALLY loved this. he is such an interesting person to watch, excellent story teller, and to see you analyse him is very compelling. excellent video, dear spidey

    • @silviav5265
      @silviav5265 Před 6 dny +1

      Yeah he took a different take on talking about body language

  • @mariadoloresAMBASSADOR
    @mariadoloresAMBASSADOR Před 7 dny +3

    Hooray, thank you Spidey. I love when you do this.
    So I think the first clip is someone it really likes. He has a warmth in his eyes and a soft smile. His face seem warm and relaxed, and in the other shorter clip, his eyebrows are tense.
    😊 OK I’m going to watch the rest now. Fun and exciting. I appreciate you so much.

  • @bryangonzalezmusic
    @bryangonzalezmusic Před 6 dny +1

    “The way frat boys tend to do.” 😂😂😂 I laughed out loud on that one.

  • @amberthomas3939
    @amberthomas3939 Před 7 dny +3

    I was thinking that the gesture when he's talking about his drama teacher was connected to his heart.

  • @leilaquinones4323
    @leilaquinones4323 Před 7 dny +29

    Clip 1 neutral clip2 positive

  • @karenmusa3052
    @karenmusa3052 Před 7 dny +5

    Wow, very interesting. We don't realise just how much we give away without knowing it.
    Thanks very much 😊

  • @susieries3947
    @susieries3947 Před 4 dny +2

    Your comment on how people perceive you got me. I was perceived in high school as being very sophisticated when actually I was painfully shy. 40 years later and having lost all my shyness I went to our reunion and was surprised to find out that the ones I perceived as mean and “popular “ were suffering angst just like me. Actually I was just totally self centered and I think most shy people are. “are they looking at me” was drilled into me by my mother who told me how beautiful I was from infancy which literally gave me the creeps. I could go in how that influenced my sisters perception of me and herself . Weird life as I think back.

  • @drcorrigan
    @drcorrigan Před 7 dny +1

    Great video. Love what you do. I always learn so much from you. You’re awesome.

  • @kathrynmoore2370
    @kathrynmoore2370 Před 6 dny +6

    Why are so many resistant to analysing themselves/ their part / their decisions when that is the most beneficial thing to do. It's also really hard to help a friend in need when they refuse to look at things honestly . You can become the enemy when you won't agree with their delusional version of things , of how their situation came to be.

  • @ashlele3365
    @ashlele3365 Před 7 dny +1

    another great video, thank you for filling our need to learn about this deeper

  • @mayelasanchez5258
    @mayelasanchez5258 Před 7 dny +5

    Wow! What a study subject Ben turned out to be 😊 thank you for this video

  • @Phoenix_flying
    @Phoenix_flying Před 7 dny

    Loved this Spidey. You’re the best.

  • @WOELS1807
    @WOELS1807 Před 7 dny +6

    I love the sensitive positive way in which you always present your content. Wow! Thank you! Most content on YTube is very negatibe IMO ; not yours.

  • @melissaf.5898
    @melissaf.5898 Před 7 dny +4

    “Like a frat boy would” 😆. U had such a cute smile after u said that. 😁💜☮️

  • @caliblue2
    @caliblue2 Před 7 dny +3

    So Ben and Kevin Hart are buddies. That explains ALOT.

    • @scilines
      @scilines Před 5 dny +1

      Such as what? Just curious

  • @JacquelynMassey-yf7mz
    @JacquelynMassey-yf7mz Před 5 dny +1

    i dont think he was being negative about JLo's fame but I sensed him express how overwhelming her fame sometimes feels for him because of how famous she is. not negative or positive but overwhelming.

  • @MenelmacarGR
    @MenelmacarGR Před 6 dny

    31:58 Watching this channel for so long, I can pinpoint a Duper's Delight when I see one. :P
    Great content, Spidey!

  • @fuelthesoultarot2310
    @fuelthesoultarot2310 Před 7 dny +2

    I hear pain.,😢 I love Ben. Also, I think those tapes would be a great documentary on Hulu like others have made. He could be very proud & vulnerable of his work. Very admirable of him to be open in this interview. Bravo 👏

  • @Virag_Viktoria
    @Virag_Viktoria Před 6 dny

    Spidey, I like your behaviour analysis videos the best cause I can learn a lot from them. Thank you very much again! :)

  • @Yo-pz1em
    @Yo-pz1em Před 3 dny +2

    i know ben from my childhood. and i’m going to tell you…he is a very very nice guy. he and my bro were classmates.
    his dad did custodial work with my mom… i won’t say where but it’s a prestigious place. my mom moved up the ladder-his dad did not.
    that courthouse is right next to the place where his dad did custodial work though. i know exactly what courthouse he’s talking about.
    i will say i have sooooooo much respect for ben’s mom.
    i don’t care what the tv shows about Ben. he’s not as pretentious as tv portrays him to be.

    • @melindapye7435
      @melindapye7435 Před 3 dny

      Oh, that's interesting. I wonder if Will Hunting was partially based on Ben's father? He was a custodian at a prestige school and had enormous potential that he just couldn't seem to make it happen. Always getting in his own way.

    • @Yo-pz1em
      @Yo-pz1em Před 2 dny

      @@melindapye7435 no it was not made on his father. it was based off of george dantzing. not his dad. i believe matt wrote it with ben while he was studying at harvard. from what i recall…can’t really remember. i do remember when the movie was being shot in cambridge…i was so excited to see robin williams. i used to work in a video store called video pros…lol and robin williams walked in. lol

  • @amycazare5437
    @amycazare5437 Před 5 dny

    i've learned alot from watching ur videos. I like watching some of them over and over and over. I feel that the way u explain them gives a sense of resonating with the person in question or the question in question. I apply what ur talking about to u also. ur baseline and hand gestures when u talk is resounding to me. in a sense not in it for the views but to spread a true knowledge , learning lots of people r full of shit now days and crap we were taught as we were growing up.....at home, in school etc. I just want to say thank u for not being selfish with the knowledge. I'm finding out I have a lot of interest in the y's of person rather than the hows and the what's of them. I'm learning the different aspects that make a person with a soul and how little u can know about them and still just know the true them..I hope this makes sense to u, cuz it was kinda hard to put into words how I genuinely felt about u and ur videos....its hard to know truth without truth in it. thanks again.

  • @guitarsz
    @guitarsz Před 7 dny +11

    Fantastic analysis. You are truly so great at this. 🙌
    For what it’s worth, I do wish them well and hope they stay together happily if that is what’s in the cards for them.

  • @gloriayoung392
    @gloriayoung392 Před 7 dny +1

    Great video 👍🏼 thanks for sharing 🙏🏼🙏👍

  • @cheriereuther7037
    @cheriereuther7037 Před 7 dny +1

    Love these breakdowns 👍

  • @kayemm1973
    @kayemm1973 Před 7 dny +2

    For me clip 1 showed discomfort but I mostly got that from the shoulder shrugs. On watching with the audio i still see and hear the discomfort but mostly about his dad, about trying to suggest his dad inspired him but mostly by his dad's negative experiences, but also balancing that with not wanting to judge him (acknowledging they were bring judged by his classmates too, which must have been so hard).

  • @user-gb1it8vf8z
    @user-gb1it8vf8z Před 6 dny +3

    I Think he Had Alot of Anger in in him he needs to release like suppressed Anger that Somethings triggers if he doesnt like something or someone anger builds up in some peeople.No body knows Ben but the people who Really know Him 😊

  • @evyl0076
    @evyl0076 Před 7 dny +3

    it also almost seems that his slight stutter when saying 'f' 'field trip - as though he was going to drop the 'f' bomb (or variation thereof) but stopped himself.

  • @regib1992
    @regib1992 Před 7 dny +22

    Having dealt with a Puerto Rican chick from the Bronx that loves to fight, extreme anger issues and narcissistic behavior, hyperthyroidism with a bit of vanity, I can only imagine what he goes thru with JLo I wonder why he even got back with her in the first place

    • @lisabrightly
      @lisabrightly Před 7 dny +2

      Maybe her hyperthyroidism made her so aggressive...

    • @tm1830
      @tm1830 Před 7 dny +3

      Also for someone who doesn’t really like the spotlight. Seems incongruent.

    • @Mrsjam96
      @Mrsjam96 Před 7 dny +2

      Because she’s soo pretty!

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk Před 7 dny +9

      The heart wants what it wants regardless whether logical or illogical

    • @RealMuzik4
      @RealMuzik4 Před 6 dny +3

      Maybe he thought with time she changed, matured and calmed down, but she didn’t.

  • @maricelaluna4227
    @maricelaluna4227 Před 6 dny +2

    Ben affleck is a great actor and writer that’s why he is easy to read !!

  • @thejanetflights7396
    @thejanetflights7396 Před 7 dny

    Love this, thank you… I would love it if you played the clip, explained it and then played it again... For those who are trying to catch up it is so helpful❤

  • @Christine__D
    @Christine__D Před 7 dny +1

    First video is someone he holds in high regard. He uses both hands and really his whole body to talk. At the very least he is emotionally invested in this person.

  • @LeiJ1111
    @LeiJ1111 Před 7 dny +1

    Mori!!! 😂🤣😂🤣
    "Like frat boy tends to do" 😂😂😂

  • @jodievukmir3187
    @jodievukmir3187 Před 7 dny +3

    I am such a fan of this couple being together but if it isn't right then it isn't right

  • @FiendishCatmom
    @FiendishCatmom Před 7 dny +1

    Clip 1, engaged. Highly connected and positive that his perspective is right. Clip 2, angry and trying to convince his interviewer that outside random accusations (grabbing the air) are being pointed at him. Grabbing the air above his shoulder his body was portraying that the accusations were external, but close to what his truth (his body) is.

  • @carolmills6609
    @carolmills6609 Před 7 dny +3

    Very fascinating information thank you for sharing

  • @WeTHEPreordainedPeople...

    Great channel ❤

  • @user-gb1it8vf8z
    @user-gb1it8vf8z Před 6 dny +3

    I believe that everything u said I Agree because people who know me know what my expressions mean when I make them😊

  • @olgabushak2942
    @olgabushak2942 Před 7 dny +1

    When was this interview filmed?

  • @merrilew
    @merrilew Před 7 dny +4

    I love to watch your channel and I’m learning so much. At 60, I realized I have ADHD so I look at things through that lens sometimes. I look at him and definitely see ADHD and so many things that comes with. I’m trying to figure out the collectivein body language and ADHD personality traits

    • @DawnDavidson
      @DawnDavidson Před 7 dny +1

      I also have ADHD, diagnosed late in life. I don’t know if I necessarily see it in him. But I do resonate with the closing of the eyes to block out distractions. Do you do that too? I’ve had issues with it, because I will also add a little frown of concentration sometimes. Some people have concluded that I must be mad at them or judging them, when I’m just concentrating on listening.

  • @Tamara_W
    @Tamara_W Před 7 dny +17

    Ben’s dad made it possible for him to be successful, why would he speak badly of his dad, who was working for a living.

    • @becbell4913
      @becbell4913 Před 6 dny +3

      My thoughts too....

    • @sarahr2498
      @sarahr2498 Před 3 dny +1

      I think he’d benefit a lot from some therapy.

    • @melindapye7435
      @melindapye7435 Před 3 dny +1

      Well, it sounds like his dad had some trouble with the law which tells me, he was not a great father by any stretch.

  • @IntheMidwithDom
    @IntheMidwithDom Před 7 dny +8

    29:36 how do you know which Jennifer he’s talking about. I’ve never seen him and j lo with the kids. Could it have been Jennifer garner? I didn’t see the actual interview… just a thought

    • @247Sarah
      @247Sarah Před 7 dny +2

      I’ve seen it more of it elsewhere, it’s definitely JLo. I’m sure Spidey watched enough of it to be sure of who she was also.

    • @heather5208
      @heather5208 Před 7 dny +2

      He doesnt really talk about his relationship with jennifer garner in the interview. It was definitely about JLo

  • @weicco
    @weicco Před 7 dny +1

    Maybe he is just doing that "Will Hunting" shrink scene but mixing both Matt Damon and Robin Williams roles in one 😃No kidding, that movie came to mind the instant I started watching this!

  • @mfigueroa2013
    @mfigueroa2013 Před 7 dny +2

    Im torn because in the first clip he seems more energetic and seems to be smiling more but in the second clip it looks like his hand motions are like looking up to someone. ⚖️

  • @rriley6963
    @rriley6963 Před 7 dny +14

    This interview was pre-taped a while ago. All of the interviews for the season are ready to drop a once.

  • @barbaracooper3918
    @barbaracooper3918 Před 7 dny +12

    Clip one he doesn't whole in high regard. The second he does because he looks up and more enthusiastic about.I missed alot...lol. That's why you are the professional!

    • @thekeysman6760
      @thekeysman6760 Před 7 dny +1

      " in high regard"? What? And even 'hold' wouldn't make sense.

    • @thekeysman6760
      @thekeysman6760 Před 7 dny +2

      A lot*, two words. Alot isn't a word.

    • @aen1083
      @aen1083 Před 7 dny +2

      @@thekeysman6760 "Hold" would make sense in the context. "Doesn't hold in high regard" makes sense there. Give the person a break, you aren't the spelling police, and anyways, they are simple mistakes that anyone could make. If you have to reply, at least say it kindly instead of rudely.

    • @thekeysman6760
      @thekeysman6760 Před 7 dny

      ​@@aen1083No, you're incorrect, and saying the truth about language isn't "rude" at all. That's your psychological projection*. The OP made no sense and still doesn't with 'hold'. It would have to say "doesn't hold in high regard in the video" to make sense. Correct, 'helping' communication be universally understandable and translatable too isn't "policing", which is ridiculous to say as it's impossible to police it! And correct, neither I or anyone is the "spelling police". 😂

    • @DawnDavidson
      @DawnDavidson Před 7 dny +1

      @@thekeysman6760dude. Way to prove the point. It was clear from context they meant hold. No need to belabor the point and maybe make them feel bad in the process.

  • @susanm4424-w6k
    @susanm4424-w6k Před 7 dny +2

    The comment you made regarding how people see you and how you think you are, my opinion of myself is just one opinion, and yet several people have this same thought about me. It is very on point.

    • @DawnDavidson
      @DawnDavidson Před 7 dny

      Thank you for emphasizing that. I agree that it’s an excellent point. I’ve heard variations on it, but never heard it out quite like this. Our opinion of ourself is only one opinion, whereas if we are hearing the same or similar things from other people, that represents many opinions, not just one. Useful!

  • @nicoleallen1751
    @nicoleallen1751 Před 7 dny +1

    Great analysis! The ‘what part did I play in this’, you picked up on the disconnect….Why? Because this is AA language and not his 😂