My Narcissistic Sister Tried To K!ll Me, and My Family Brushed It Off As a Joke. Now Everyone Rea...
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- My sister is turning into the biggest bridezilla. And I can’t stop laughing. (u/Cute_Quarter_9399 in r/weddingshaming)
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A 5 years old kid tried to kill a newborn baby with a pillow and the family treated it as a funny story to tell later?? What's wrong with these people??
Many years ago I walked into a room in a friend's house, where my partner's 3 month old baby was sleeping. In there I found our host's 6 year old daughter pushing a cushion onto the baby's face.
I took the cushion from her, and checked the baby, but didn't tell anyone...I just couldn't face being told I was lying.
Because when you find out how often it happens you wont believe it either
These people? Yes, something is wrong. Though I have no room to talk. I tried to kill my sister, too, but not for any malicious reason.
Long story short? Was a SUPER religious child who took the Bible LITERALLY. Mom walked in on me putting a pillow on my sister's face, and she ripped me off her. Then, she asked me what I thought I was doing. My response? "We're trying to see the angels." Mom had a LONG talk with me that day.
Had another instance where another of my sisters did the same to the next, but this one was malicious. Baby took a toy from her, and she retaliated. Luckily, Mom also walked in on this at the right time and ripped her off. Long talks were had.
We do laugh about it today as adult sisters (the four of us) but we are now aware if any of them has children how we need to be very vigilant and make sure children understand the consequences to such actions.
I really do think SOME kids just don't have the full understanding of the finality of death and that once it happens, there is no coming back.
Mom had to explain to us that if our sister died, there was no coming back, and I very clearly remember the feeling of dread, fear, guilt, and sadness once I realized how severe it could have been.
These people in this video? Absolutely not.
@@katherineleblanc9218 this is why i cant be a parent.
@@michellealinateague9892Same. I refuse.
Confirm: in Italy wedding guests DO NOT PAY FOR ANYTHING , they only bring a wedding gift. In fact, it is incredibly RUDE to make your GUESTS pay. 'Guest' means everything is on the host of the event. That lie was strange.
I'm an American and I never knew people make their guests pay for their own attendance! Then again, I had a Covid wedding and cost and Guest list was very minimum as far as weddings go. I didn't even have to pay for the venue🤭
Only grifters expect payment from guests.
Same in New Zealand we don't pay to reserve our seats, or eat food. But drinks and dresses will be our own cost and we will give a koha(money) for their wedding fees as a gift 🫶🏼.
Even in India ... Guests do not pay... A gift, also can be some money as a gift and sometimes I have seen invitations where they strictly say "no gifts and only presence and blessings to the couple"...
@@kankananath8655 just like India, in Indonesia guests don't pay either. Both countries culturally known to have an average 200++ guests in a wedding, still neither make the guests pay.
Your own sister tried to kill you and your family treated it as a joke that’s mega messed up
That's because sister is the golden child and they literally don't care about OP at all
Yeah wonder where those bad genes came from
There's a whole ass sitcom in here. Some writers should sit down and take notes.
The OP mentioned later on in the video that they did take it seriously. The parents never let the older sister near OP without their supervision. And, the sister went to therapy but “said all the right things”.
Who the hell makes a wedding guest pay to reserve their seat?
Ppl who wants no one 2 come
Imagine the meltdown when hardly anyone from her side shows up. The MIL was surprised when she heard about it. It's safe to say that the fiancé wasn't having his family pay.
I'm italian and I can confirm no one here does that. It would be so so rude, guests would boycott the wedding
No one if their head is on properly...but then again this bride has quite a few screws loose I'm surprised hers hasn't fallen off
Gold diggers that often like a distant cousin of mine end up having no one not even her folks attend the wedding. The marriage only lasted 5 months by the way
I just want to say, “not having attention” for 4 months as a kid is not an excuse for how the sister was.
No, from the story it doesn't sound like the sister was neglected.
The mother was ill, so she had to be away and that, of course, threw the family into chaos for some time. The father had to continue to work so he got a nanny, which is more than most people would do. The aunt was there to help too. He made time to drive his sons to their sports AND for two daddy-daughter outings each week for a 5-year-old. That's not neglect. That's more than most families with 4 children get done when both parents are present.
And it was only for a relatively short period after which mom was back.
It's not something that would bring a "normal" child to try to smoother their baby sibling. They put her in therapy for 3-4 years, so they did get her help and she didn't improve.
Something seems to be very wrong with that sister and it's not just "I didn't have my mommy for a few weeks when I was 5".
This is not a bride. This is insanity. Tell your sister to get married by herself because I don't know any sane person would put up with this. The amount of money she's demanding is highway robbery.
The sister is insane. There were so many red flags. It seems like the fiancé and his family are just as scummy. I feel so bad for that baby…
Sister is actually insane. Manipulating your mother like that to get 100k for a wedding (Which is ENTIRELY too much money for a fucking wedding) and then making your bridesmaid pay 2.6k+ just on "Bridal responsibilities", making them lose weight and maintain their hair like a control freak, and then the nerve to charge your guest $150 to attend the wedding (not to mention this is probably going to be a destination wedding where they gotta pay for plane tickets, hotels, rental cars, etc.)
This woman is insane and that fiance hearing all this and not stopping it means he has no backbone. She will walk all over him for YEARS to come
Yeah. That dude is beyond screwed if he has kids with her. She might "accidently" drown them or leave them in a burning hot car, and then blame him when he was at work at the time she had them.
Not to mention she only had her family pay for everything, her husband's family didn't pay for shit.
Years later her husband will be complaining that women are crazy and how he's a victim that was complete manipulated and didn't see it coming.
His heart will give out in a few years
A 5 year old being evil is something society turns a blind eye to. Society does not believe underage people can be evil
Fr, just because the "evil child" is a popular trope in the media, doesn't mean it can't happen in real life
a 5 year old trying to murder an infant is fucked up... put her in therapy and actually help her get her emotions in check.
One time I was babysitting my 2 younger brothers. My youngest brother was 8 (I was 17), he grabbed a kitchen knife and tried to stab me because i wouldnt let him eat ice cream for dinner. I disarmed him, sat his ass down on the couch and didnt let him out of my sight for 3 hours. my parents took him to counseling, and we moved on. it was never a subject to make light of or throw it in his face... wtf
Sis doesn't need therapy, she needs a straight jacket. The parents let her mental illness get worse before they finally saw her, as an adult, became full blown unstable. Mom was more to blame for being easily manipulated by sister (golden child) and she refused to see OP was the victim. Dad was the only one with a working brain and common sense.
She was put in therapy for years with multiple professionals, and she fooled them. What else they could do 😑
yeah mb. i commented before i got to that point of the video
@@LunaP1straitjacket.
Sounds like a hostage situation... Imagine making a combination or $250,000 & still wanting her siblings 100 grand?!?😮
Don't blame the age gap for not being close. I am the youngest of 7, only girl and my closest in age brother is 8 years older and we are all super close. Your sister is just evil.
This family is just a train wreck.
The family seems quite healthy. The sister is a sociopath. No one is at fault here
Narcissists are created by people & circumstances. So, it is the parents fault. Narcissists are created in childhood.
Some people are born bad.
As a parent, this is hell. What can you do?
Wow, was not expecting a whole BPD stigma tirade in this. Just to be clear, what the commenter said about BPD was wrong. What they are describing is more like NPD aka narcissistic personality disorder. Can BPD people display these traits? Of course, they are part of the same personality disorder cluster, and in fact most people display one or two traits of narcissism and it's perfectly healthy. But you're more likely to see a borderline have a panic attack and threaten to hurt themselves to get a parent to stay than you would to see them try to suffocate the "competition". Narcissists manipulate with calculated, malicious intent, while borderlines manipulate out of fight-or-flight desperation. Neither are okay, but perpetuating the rumor that borderlines are manipulative and dangerous makes getting them help even harder to accomplish.
Thank god this is in the comments. Hearing that entire BPD tirade really hurt.
AND both disorders don’t automatically make people evil!! I’ve personally known people with these disorders who went to therapy and genuinely worked on themselves to become better people and resist their disorder’s tendencies!! People with personality disorders are only ever ‘evil’ if they choose to refuse help and perpetuate their toxic behaviour.
(I’ve been personally abused and attacked by several people with NPD and it genuinely ruined me, and even though I don’t have any personality disorders I still don’t think people with these disorders are evil)
THANM YOU!!!!! i have undiagnosed bpd that was severe from ages 11-14 (i was verbally and emotionally abusive, especially towards my romantic partners which i regret. The kickstarter was my physically and verbally abusive ex gf) and it's horrible to hear the stigma. I have 2 friends with BPD (one diagnosed, one prof. recognized) and they're thw highlights of my day. They're not abusive to me, or make me feel meek. They're my best friends and we get along really well. I just want mfs to realize ppl with personality disorders didn't want those disorders
Bruh I can confirm that if we tried setting entrance fees to weddings literally nobody would attend. Coming from a person born and living in irl Italy, rather than her isekai version
BPD is actually allowed to be diagnosed before 18 since it's best and easier to treat before secondary life issues develop that'd complicate treatment
It would be interesting to read the older brothers' takes on the situation: did they both joint the military to GTFO of the house as soon as they turned 18?
The shit sister threatened OP with a good time by removing OP from the wedding and her life.
I would thank her if was the OP! That woman is a psycho!
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it...
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
Didn't i see your comment in another reddit vid
Lol they are bots, they do this a lot😂@@nelissaortiz5405
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Don't pay anything. Disappear three days before the wedding.
my sister did the money for the wedding thing my money became her money and her giant wedding. my brother tried to kill me 4 times before he tried to get me to end myself but so stupid me won’t let him win. my brother fed me caustic soda at 18months old should have killed me.
BPD is borderline but she has NPD narcissistic personality disorder
$5,000 for a dress? My entire wedding in 1999 cost that. Absolutely insane.
Not allowing you to be alone w crazy sis says it all. They knew how troubled she was if parents took these obvious steps. Ying-yang parenting.
10k for a Dress!? The damn thing made of gold?
My wedding dress cost £70.00 (approx $140 at 2007 exchange rates) because my mum and I made it by hand. It's extra special for that reason.
Yes I can't even imagine spending a fortune on a dress you wear once.
Jokes and pranks are when both parties are laughing if not and it’s constantly a “joke” it’s just bullying.
I would've been the one to ask, "If murder is a joke, then why was Ted Bundy arrested?" Shock learning tends to work well in these cases sometimes. Would ask in front of a boatload of people so it leaves a lasting impression.
story 1: OP should have just refused to be in the wedding party at all, and if that is a problem just refuse to even go. also any bride/groom with special demands for wedding party needs to pay for it themselves. so sick of all this insane entitlement.
In the same way you can demand things from me, the same way I can refuse them. Celebration should not be an obligation. If I got married, the only person’s looks I would care for is my own. Selfish people often care about things not just at others’ expense (emotionally/mentally/financially) but also for irrelevant and/or destructive reasons.
26% ?!?! I'm going to go thank my parents tomorrow. Jesus.
No. I wouldn't even go to the wedding, let alone spending money for all that crap. I'd even consider dumping my girlfriend if she thought of doing any of that crap.
Dropping a BMW and 3 years rent on a single day is insane ngl
Sister realised fiance might leave if he gets a moment to think, and baby trapped him.
I’ve heard this story before but this must’ve been mistranslated or something because the original post wasn’t this badly written.
Sounds like the Sister needs to go back to therapy and figure out what her problem is and how to make it better.
As someone who was diagnosed with BPD at 16, this made me cringe a little bit. Clearly OP's sister was a serious case but I remember being in therapy and absolutely hating it. In hindsight none of my therapists were all that great anyways and i was heavily medicated due to anxiety and anger issues. I always knew what to tell them in the right way so they would believe me. I was even institutionalized at this nice place where you'd wake up to a folder on your desk with a bunch of questions about your mood that day -- from day 1 I had meticulously calculated my responses, making sure that they fluctuated at the proper rate and managed to be released within a week.
Thankfully being diagnosed so young gave me time to analyze what was real and what was in my head since it causes deep paranoia/feelings of abandonment and pure rage when you feel cast aside. Today I could feel normal and content and tomorrow i could wake up feeling empty and gloomy yet easily set off at the smallest perceived sleights. I've been in a loving relationship for 3 years and he loves the good parts of my personality. The bad parts stress us both out pretty equally. Sometimes even with 100% certainty that I have no reason to be upset about anything my rage can surge to the point I might do something bad. As a kid I'd sometimes hit my sister (we've been therapized and she wasn't innocent) but I'd get so severely punished that I eventually found other arguably more unhealthy ways to deal with my rage. My partner I rarely get to that point anymore since we both know what my problems are and how to deal with it.
Unfortunately, BPD makes you kinda an asshole. You don't want to be and you actively try not to be but even keeping it inside could do major damage in the long run. But also it makes you super fucking fun to be around as long as you aren't in constant exposure.
BPD is heavily stigmatized and I have to avoid certain parts of the internet so I don't have to deal with people telling me to off myself. If someone with any mental disorder recognized their problems and actively try to be better they deserve a chance. Sometimes even narcissists, socipaths and people like me deserve to be happy if we work for it.
Does this guy not carry any swords or meat to heal?
Right?
Really, doesn't anyone accusing OP's parents watch the video until the end? The parents definitely didn't take her sister trying to kill her as a joke, that's why they never leave them alone together and put the sister in therapy for many years. They're not enabling her madness, just that the sister was good enough to even fool her therapist and psychologist. And there was no golden child there, just a mother who was mentally weak and unstable that made her prone to being manipulated. The parents having equal savings for all their children showed that. The mother went with the sister wishes only because she was guilt-tripped and manipulated, not out of favoritism. The way she didn't really defend what she did and immediately followed her husband's decision showed that she actually knew she was wrong and didn't really want to do that. And the father didn't even know anything and immediately tried to make it right when he knew the truth, how anyone could call that favoritism is beyond me 😮💨 the parents had their flaws, but they were nothing like many of you accused them.
Right I was serving for favoritism the whole post couldn't find any
This is my elder sister
are we going to ignore the fact the OP’s sister stole her fiance from another woman???
The parents may have contributed to X’s horrific personality, but they were ultimately willing to own up and make up for their mistakes once the veil lifted. That’s already better than most parents of a controlling narcissist would attempt, even if the damage has already been done.
Watching these videos makes me incredibly grateful for the family I have.
Mom and dad didn't cause this I usually blame the parents but the therapy part can only mean one thing the only people who can usually manipulate psychologists and psychiatrists are psychopaths and ASPD is just sth you're born with
Wait, what?! I seriously don't understand American weddings, I don't expect to invite someone to my party and expect them to pay for anything other than the gas to get there. Jesus, I would have just told her to fuck off with the bridesmaid shit.
It’s not an “American” wedding. It’s a crazy spoiled brat’s wedding. We don’t do this in America on a normal basis. I have never heard of anyone having to pay for a seat at a wedding. This bridezilla is ridiculous.
OP is Canadian, but otherwise, I agree. I don't think it's the norm in the US to charge guests for attendance (it is, however, becoming more normal to ask wedding party members to help foot the bill for outfits, pre-wedding events, etc.) These Reddit stories would make you think this kind of thing happens all the time, but I think it's actually much more rare and is perceived as tacky by most people even within the same "culture"
Blood of the covenant is thicker than water in the womb.
Thank you for using the whole quote 😅
Its really screwed up that the parents talked about the "pillow incident" as a joke. They didn't treat is as a joke. They made sure the sister wasn't alone with OP. They knew it was a serious concern and basically gaslight OP.
My mom would have put a stop to that kind of nonsense.
Same.
Your mother is probably (and I wish so) a mentally healthy woman, while the mother in this story wasn't.
If I'm in this situation, I'll back out.
So 1 daughter already has issues from lack of attention, the dad only wants to focus attention on his sons and not his now two daughters, the mother had a breakdown after the OPs birth and then "time for another child"
Sounds like the parents prefered having sons rather than raising children.
I really disagree with the comments on BPD. Full disclosure , I was diagnosed with the personality disorder about 15 years ago and I've done individual and group DBT therapy. None of us would be described as manipulators. And BPD is not usually diagnosed until the person is around 12 or 13 at the earliest. It's only been in the last couple of years professionals diagnose someone under 18 with it. BPD usually has roots in ab;se or negl?ct. There is a huge fear of abandonment, and usually a lot of self-loathing.
Its not her parents fault lol. Her sister is sociopath. They didnt abuse here and etc
When dealing with people with BPD you have nothing to gai and everything to lose.
Seriously. It’s like “Evil: The mental illness.”
"Mom and Dad saved money for everyone's wedding/honeymoon."
Tell them that they can take the money it will take to be a bridesmaid and give a gift to their oldest daughter out of YOUR wedding fund, and you will have a smaller wedding with what's left. And since she's spending all of her wedding/honeymoon fund on herself, she can then cover her own costs for being YOUR bridesmaid and guest.
Expecting their child to go into debt in order to attend another child's wedding, all while paying for that wedding, and saying, "We'll pay for your wedding (which may never even happen!) later! You scrape up the money and suffer and bear a burden of crippling debt! It's what FAMILY does!" is truly abusive.
So. I have a thing I'd like to mention. First of All, I have BPD. Or at least I did (I have since recovered! Yay!). What OP is saying about her Sister doesn't seem like BPD to me. It sounds like while OP's Sister may/not have BPD there is definitely something more happening & Considering that if you have 1 PD you're more than likely have Multiple, so (I think the Sister doesn't have BPD) OP's Sister probably has NPD &/or ASPD. And I am saying this as both someone whom has studied to be a Therapist & as someone with ALOT of Mental Health issues. If I were her Therapist I would've diagnosed her with NPD &/or ASPD.
I believe dad is the real villian in the story.
Gave his wife ppd, don't care what children are going through.
Think his work is only make money.
The guests and the bridal party have to pay to reserve their spots? At the wedding?! What the whatnow?!
Honestly, NOOOOOOOO! Tell "Mom" that SHE needs to read a book on etiquette. Not even wedding etiquette. BASIC ETIQUETTE. Guests DO NOT PAY. And the bridal party ARE GUESTS.
And gifts are not COMMANDED or DEMANDED. They are graciously expected IF they are given, at all. They are NOT REQUIRED.
Mom is the one who commanded OP to be the bridesmaid, so MOM is the one who needs to put a stop to all this mistreatment of THE GUESTS and of her daughter, in particular.
Don't tell me. Mom is too busy taking care of her late-life miracle surprise baby toddler to deal with her oldest daughter's demands. Oh, but she can, and WILL, put forth the effort to COMMAND her eldest to make her second daughter a bridesmaid, with all the demands and expenses.
Being a bridesmaid is an HONOR, NOT A JOB. Bridesmaids have the RIGHT to attend the dress-shopping, and cake testing, NOT THE DUTY. They are to be INVITED to attend and share the bride's joy, NOT COMMANDED to give up their time to watch the bride do things that DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THEM.
Also, if you are going to command a woman to wear a particular dress, then YOU PAY FOR THE DRESS, NOT HER. If you want HER to pay for her own dress, then you give HER the right to CHOOSE HERE OWN DRESS. At most, you can say, "Please incorporate this color, or this pattern into your dress, so that all the bridesmaids have something in common." And YOU PAY for the common element.
For example, if you have a particular piece of cloth with a pattern you adore, and you want all the bridesmaids to wear dresses made with that cloth, YOU PROVIDE THE CLOTH. They can then provide their own sewing services, or hire a professional to make it for them, THEIR CHOICE and they then have something they can wear, that they know will suit them. Here's a hint: If the color doesn't suit your complexion, don't put it right next to the face. Choose some other color that goes well with the chosen color, and put the complementary color up close to the face, with the chosen color below it. You will look delightful, while incorporating the color that "you can't wear." A simple wide collar on a dress that is "the wrong color" for you can make it work, while the vast majority of the dress is "all wrong." Also, different people can wear different styles, while other styles will NOT work for them. So, let people choose their own styles! Bridesmaids are allowed to look like individuals, you know! And if they look like a million, the bride will look like a billion standing next to them.
You don't make the bridesmaids look bad, so you'll look better by comparison. YOU are the one getting married. Let that fact alone push your beauty to the fore. Make your bridesmaids happy and beautiful, and you will look even better, BECAUSE YOUR CHARACTER WILL BE HIGHLIGHTED. Your inner beauty WILL shine through!
But beware! Inner ugly sludges through, too.
These stories are stupid. If anyone agreed to that list of demands they deserve to lose all that money.
I would have booted myself out of that wedding pretty quick...
this is ridiculous!!
The fact that even one bridesmaid actually stayed in the wedding with all the bullshit they were supposed to pay for astonishes me.
Didn't know PPD meant postpartum depression which is contracted after childbirth and is a gateway to great depression. Family always seems to be the noose that kills good people.
I always laugh when it comes down to government paid healthcare.
I always laugh at this strawman
Is five years considered too much of an age gap? My brother and I are just under five years apart and we bonded plenty. I even heard that it was a good amount of time between kids.
Where I come from, the guests are considered as honoring the bride and bridegroom by their attendance. All this talk of money is tacky.
I just wouldn’t go, sounds like a wack sister
I remember Caroline of Monaco jokingly telling in an interview she had tried to smother her brother Albert when he was a baby and her mom or nanny stopping her... But I guess that happened in the 60s, rougher times...
OP needs to GTFO tthat family ASAP.
Edit: Well maybe not entirely, if she's set on protecting her little sister from all of that.
I am sad BIL turned out to be awful too. Thank god that Sister wont be enabled anymore.
"I was going to give you $25,000, but because you saved up money, yourself, I can give you less, later, and it will be FINE! NO PROBLEM! No favoritism here! And I'll just take the entire fund from my boys who are putting their lives on the line and may die before they even have a chance to be engaged. What else than a wedding would they EVER want to spend that money on? Investments for their future? PFAH! No way! I mean, what could they possibly even DO to invest $25,000? You won't get anything from a piddly little investment like THAT! It's NOTHING! It's no big deal to take that from them and give it to my daughter, who has always felt left out... Certainly THEY won't feel 'left out' or unloved, just because I took $25,000 from each of them. And my second daughter already worked hard to save up over half of that money, so she doesn't need the other half! I can just give her half, and it will be FINE!"
Meanwhile, her oldest daughter is earning $100,000 a year, and COULD save up, herself, but won't, because, "She felt left out and unloved."
That mother needs some SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES!
"She sent me a keto diet book through Amazon."
Send her back an etiquette book. In fact, spend all the money she's demanding you spend on gifts and clothes and treatments and make-up and wigs and hair dye, and all that stuff FOR HER, on book after book after book after book of what she TRULY needs: An education on how to be a decent human being. Or at least, how to pass for one.
Etiquette - makes you seem like a decent human being, even while still being evil. Excruciatingly polite villains are the best.
Homemade gifts are the best! When you limit gifts to "cash, check or from the list of registry items..." Well, you ain't getting squat from me!
Gifts are NOT REQUIRED and you CANNOT DICTATE THEM! Anyone who tries to dictate to me what I'm going to give them is getting NOTHING from me.
I like registries, if you're shopping for a co-worker whom you do not know very well, and want to give them something you know they'll like. I like wish lists, so I when I know someone well, and know what they would like, but do not know what they already have, I can be sure they don't have it, yet. Registries and wish lists are great for that sort of thing.
But DICTATING that "only money or items on the list are allowed" is NOT RIGHT, and will immediately disqualify you from receiving anything more than the basic, "Congratulations" from me. Seriously. Do that, and you won't even get a card. I'll just say, "Congratulations," when we meet, and leave it at that. I don't have TIME to deal with that kind of person.
Sister caught trying to smother the baby
Family "awww isn't that a cute game"
Me" that's not cute that's messed up"
My uncle tired to do the same thing to my mother when they were kids. He got very jealous over not being the baby of the family. There was a 10 year age gap between them and he was like that. After my grandfather came home one day he was trying to suffocate her. He didn't even think twice by pulling him off her and throwing him across the room. From what I was told that was the last time my uncle ever laid his hands on my mother. He was to scared of my grandfather. Though they would never leave him alone with her until my mom was an adult and they became sort of friends. It's complicated.
Screw every story that has a random flashback for boring backstory in the middle.
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What is this got to do with the story????????????????
The 13 groomsman and bridesmaids sounds mason like and a lot of "big fancy" colleges are into that kind of stuff.
I attended a wedding where I was a bridesmaid. I didn't have to do or pay anything, just attend. Even on the wedding day, everything was taken care of by the coordinator's team. Hearing these stories of bridesmaids being busy with important wedding details actually makes me guilty 😅.
FTR, people with BPD are not a bunch of master manipulators. Some have those traits,but definitely not the majority.
Is turning into an adult and realizing your family is messed up like a rite of passage now? Siblings trying to kill each other is so common my therapist literally just shrugs and says"yeah sister's are like that sometimes" opon hearing these stories
If one of my siblings try to unalive me and my fam try to down play it.. I'm calling CPS police the news everyone and shame them
wedding where guest must pay to attend. Is that a cultural american thing or just a new trend from the last generations ?
It comes from narcissistic people that grew up obsessed with social media this past generation. It violates the rules of hospitality to host an event and make guests pay so it definitely is not traditional.
@@joshuawells7415 Thank you. It is crazy where this civilisation is going. The more people to refuse to abide those frivolous behavior the sooner this will end.
Nope, even we're classier, more gracious, generous, and civilized than that. It's standard to just bring a gift, and often, if you had to buy a plane ticket, no one sweats that part.
As someone with a very large Italian family and having been to several weddings, I can confirm it is not normal to pay like that. You bring a gift, that's it
If OP’s sister is pregnant i pray for that child she sounds insane and i could only imagine the worst for the baby
The sister is riddled with demons and it need to be casted out. Her husband is under her spell.
Other than excusing the attempted murder (which is a big deal) her parents don't seem to be grooming the bridezilla. For all we know, she didn't get the attitude because the parents showered her wirh love and affection, rather almost the polar opposite, because she got little attention as a kid, since the mom was at the facility, dad was always at work, and the nanny had to take care of OP and her 2 older and troublesome brothers. Since X was neutral, she got the least attention, which turned her into the most insane one. Throught the story, the parents only give in when the are guilt tripped or manipulated when the sister brings up the past. Other than that, they don't seem to play favorites
Nah Idk what that "Sisterly bond" thing is either. I was born exactly 1.5 years after my sister, and she hated me and bullied me my whole life
Wait? Did they say the parents saved up money for their wedding but not their education? If you tell me just that, I know the parents are bat shit crazy! No offense to anyone married, but let’s be honest here, a wedding is a luxury item, not a necessity. You can be married without a wedding, you can have a small wedding, you can have the wedding at a later time, renew vows. There are so many options. If you live somewhere where you need to pay for a higher education, that should be the priority for savings. Not a wedding. I would put wedding so far back on the priority of huge costly expenses. Like down payment on a house, car, investments for the future. All that is more important. And no one should be obligated to pay to go to a wedding, again, it’s a luxury item, if you want it, you pay for it. A wedding holds no value for anyone but the couple and maybe immediate family, for the rest is about as useless as a birthday party. So no, you can’t make people pay to attend.
Slight note to myself, you can have guests pay for their travel, all that stuff, but not the event itself, like entry or food, preferably not drinks either.
why does this start out as my sister but the story diverges to her sister
I love the sagas.
12:56 who the fuck is talking here? Why is her sister suddenly the fiancé's sister? How does her grandson who isn't even born factor into this?? Is op illiterate?? Also, his sister?!
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who noticed that part went absolutely sideways. Did the AI mess up lol?
I was looking through the comments, just to confirm that I haven't missed anything. 😅
And really, this weird change made me suspicious about the whole story. Changes like that easily happen when telling a made-up story; one, one really has no emotional or personal connection to because it either never happened, or at least not like this, or it happened to someone other than the storyteller. 🤷♀️
What also made me wonder about whether this might be a fake is, that at one point OP states that her sister's fiance is a good and stable guy, who's calm and down to earth, and then later writes, that he's always displayed some mildly concerning behaviour... 🤔
Dang, I wanted the wedding to have a lot of nasty drama.
"Interest on student loans right now is 26%" Where does the person live? Is this a typo?
This would be bad for credit card rates let alone student loans
right?
Hard pass on going to that wedding lol. If you want me there don’t put a bunch of restrictions in place
I like an update on what the brothers say about all this including there 25k each an how it was used.
i don't think the parents were evil for the neglect, but it *is* neglect. yes, sure, mom was sick and dad was busy, but they still neglected the sister and don't even get me fucking started on how they treated op
God help that baby the insane sibling is having or has already had.
Sorry, don't have that insane bride money.
If your charging me to go to your wedding I’m not going
Wait, since when did Minecraft get Molotovs?
it’s a mod
of course the arm chair psychologists detecting BPD, because, what else could a be - gosh
but it's also the same with the mother being away, it's not up for bystanders to decide, how a little child reacts to that, or how impactful it may have been, just because she's the bad guy in Op's story, I bet if she weren't, people would feel differently about the back story, also a nanny and an aunt are not replacements for motherly love and attention, and since the dad was an npc in her life, of course she could have felt overlooked - three appointments a week to spend time compared to being a constant presence in his sons life, yupp he s*cks too - also, why add more drainage on top by creating another baby, if it was an accident, you're not obligated to carry it to full term, they also could have made the more responsible decision and end it early, especially when they already knew that the sister reacted badly the first time
+ could it be, that Op was an accident too? that they were fine with three, but incompetent in using protection - when you're done, you're done, which means you can cut things of earlier to prevent those surprises from happening 🤦🏻♀️ these parents s*ck, they failed both their daughters
26% on student debt is insane. 😮 totally unbelievable.
Not all BPD people are liars 😭