One For The Streets | Episode 28 | Give It To Me Straight Podcast
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
- Why do people get into relationships when they’re not ready to be loyal? And why are those they cheat on oftentimes ready to give them second and third chances? In this episode, Alex and Jon discuss a cheating partner wanting to come home, how a wife plans to get back at the woman her husband cheated with, when being best friends with the opposite sex goes too far, and real expectations about those honeymoon stage feelings.
(0:00) Intro
(13:32) Is there compromise when it comes to kinks?
(14:43) To pursue or not to pursue
(17:07) Getting healthier starts with taking that first step
(19:41) Clear your search history or don’t lie
(25:35) The grass isn’t always greener
(30:29) Taking back your cheating husband but make it petty
(32:34) Can you learn to trust again?
(35:07) Why does your boyfriend has sleepovers with his female best friend?
(38:19) You’ve found religion but your partner hasn’t
(45:09) The honeymoon stage won’t last forever
(49:44) Stuck in the gray area
(52:56) Icks
(57:10) Listener Review
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You should do an update video. Do any of these people who write in about their problems and take your advice tell you what ended up happening? I bet there is some crazy stories! Love GITMS 🖤
I was just thinking this! I need updates lol
For the woman who's boyfriend is going to another woman's home to sleep...dump him, girl. If someone loves you, they wouldn't put themselves in a situation where questions about their loyalty can be raised. You deserve better!!
Not always. People make mistakes. Give him a chance.
DUMP HIS ASS!!! 🗣️ If my boyfriend of SEVEN YEARS told me he has more fun hanging out with a girl when I’m NOT there, GOODBYE SIR! He should go be in a relationship with the ‘best friend’ then. If you’re boyfriend really loved you he’d want to be doing all those things (getting drunk, singing songs, wrapping his arm around your waist) with you and not some other girl.
@@andersonvieira2052lmao no, that’s not a “mistake”. Come on now.
It is a horrible mistake, but he can change, why not wait of year or two before deciding to dump someone? Life is not easy and people are not perfect. And the one thing I know is that people can change. @@DelaneyWalker
YES! Dump that loser! He's awful!
To the girl who left her abusive husband and is afraid of dating: I was single for 3 years after my abusive relationship before even being open to be dating. Time doesn't matter but what does matter is trusting yourself and trusting that you will recognize the red flags, also remember how strong you are and what you've gotten through in your life and know that you can get through anything again
"Enjoy the butterflies of life" Alex you are my Buddha. I absolutely died but honestly speaking truth in volumes
I guess I’m lucky because i still get butterflies when my husband of 9 years (17 years together) calls me during his lunch or on his way home. And I still love being around him constantly.
i love how stressed he gets when she keeps getting sidetracked not discussing joshua tree 😂😂
Alex is so right about the woman who is now religious and her boyfriend isn’t. It’s not always an end all be all, butttt most of the time you can end up with 2 totally different sets of morals, lifestyles, and ways you want to raise your children that do not align. That is really important in a relationship to have similar values and people will naturally long to have partners who align with them like that.
I have come to look forward to new podcast episodes on CZcams every week! I’ve honestly never been as excited for any podcast in the past but between the chemistry you two have in front of the camera and your sense of humor and REAL talk… I can’t get enough! I’ve been going through a tough time in life and your podcast has been one of the best little escapes that I look forward to every week. Thank you for being yourselves. You’re both so great. 🫶🏼
Wow, Thank you so much! I’m so sorry you are going through something, it will get better ❤️❤️
Alex: “butterflies of life”🤩 …loving all these little quotes😂
I really miss you guys 😢😢😢😢. I’m desperate and rewatching ones I may have missed.
Yay! 👏 had to pause and comment soon I clicked on video.. I know this is gonna be so hilarious 😂 and look forward to every post! Wish y’all could post a vid everyday least maybe every other… hahaha ❤
Another awesome podcast! I love that these videos come through while I’m cooking dinner ❤
Love from Australiaaaaa x
Love Australia! I need to make my way back down to Cairns!
@@giveittomestraight omg I wish I was in Cairns right now! So beautiful there
FUCKKKKKK y’all are my FAVORITE podcast I was pumped when I got to work this morning & opened CZcams n seen a new episode posted ❤ I’ve been struggling with some shit lately (that’s outta my control) but anyways y’all made my day start off in a good mood and laughing love y’all and thank you for the shit you do! fuckin rockstars 🤙🤙🤙
Thank you so much that means a lot, keep your head up 🤙
Alex is right about the religion situation. It might not matter in this specific stage of the relationship, but once you get married, and then have kids, religion plays specific parts in those stages of life. So why wait until then to deal with it? I was raised Catholic and married a Muslim. It was very important for his family that we had an Islamic wedding ceremony. If I was not okay with it it would have been the tragic end of a 14 year relationship. We have been together since 16 years old but even then we knew then the importance of religion in his culture and family. And when the time came there was no conflict.
LETS GOOOO!! i wait for this shit every week let’s see what y’all talking about!!!
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Loveeeeeeee these two 😍
☠️ “take her bills and set em on fire… 😂😂👏👏 I’m on ur side John!!
I woke up didn’t see the new video on my feed so I looked it up instead because I know every Monday at a random time in the middle of the night you guys always post and are consistent ✨
Turn on the bell notification ❤
We try to post it by 1am every Tuesday
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ REVIEW. Hilarious. Full of drama, great advice, and lots of laughs.
Damn you guys are couple goals, you call each other out but tolerate the most too. Binged all episodes and now I have to wait but it's worth it. I look forward to Jon's rage and inability to read and Alex's cheerful and can-do attitude. I agree more with Jon and most scenarios but Alex can always give both sides of the coin advice as well.
Glad you enjoy our Pod! I definitely need to start reading more 😂
@giveittomestraight As a fellow dislexic I had my sister read all the assigned books in HS and I would go off of her cliff notes to pass my tests. It's funny when you can't pay attention to the question cuz I do the same....I may have ADHD too 🤔
love when I open CZcams & see a new episode from you guys 🎉
From the beginning issue with the men’s shorts my husband must be weird then 😂 bc he insists his shorts go past his knees and hates when they are short lmao
Haha, Jon is a strong believer of the short shorts
@@giveittomestraight nothing wrong with that!! It’s easier to shop for him then😂 I struggle finding shorts that are specifically past the knee sometimes
To the woman with the new found faith;
(with respect to Jon & Alex)
I think the way the conversation went with Jon & Alex is a prime example of what Alex was trying to communicate.
Just as an example:
Jon representing a wordly view
Alex representing a religious view
Values are important and should be foundational for any and every relationship. If you do not have basic common values - it's bound to crumble.
Also, your partner (like Jon - in this case... Not saying he never will - but there will be many STRONG disagreements and opposite view points that will MATTER to you personally and WILL strain your relationship)
Don't wait to see how far along down the road you're able to make it until it doesn't work!
Make a conscious and informed decision (based on what matters to you as individuals and then as a couple).
If you're meant to be together, then let God bring your paths together in HIS timing.
I dont know what faith you've found, but if it's Christianity... There is a verse that instructs us not to be unevenly yoked. Why? Because your relationship will hinder your number one relationship with God.
That doesn't mean God is anti relationships, He created us for relationship. It just means our relationships should be built on the foundations of your relationship with God.
Hope that helps and makes sense.
And Jon is right, it doesn't have to be an ultimatum...
But consider this, God doesn't force you to make a decision and He'll respect your decision to choose who you want to be with.
Just know that God knows what's best for you... But you can't have your cake and eat it. You're either all in, all out or on the fence... Dont be the last two options.
Again, I am assuming this new faith is Christianity... If not then I hope this still helps in some way.
Responding to the girl who wants butterflies: Butterflies are fun, but to me the security of a long-term relationship where you're both still in love and evolving over the years is even sweeter. Get the thought of wanting butterflies out of your mind so you can be present in your relationship and look for things between you that bring you joy. There's also role-play haha. Like go to a bar and pretend you're meeting for the first time then go make out in the bathroom, idk I saw that in a movie and I think it'd be so fun haha
Jon: “he’s for the streets” 😅
One for the streets two for ect could totally be a segment or series u do lol
Its 1:10am Im definitely not going to be bed now 😆😂
The snort before saying “I’m kind of the shit” 😂 Jon is hilarious
I’m with Alex on the religion thing it’s a big deal and eventually it will be a deal breaker.
Not necessarily. People can/do make it work. If people communicate, validate/understand, and respect one another then it's going to work.
I am with Jon. You can make things work, breaking up is not the answer for all kinds of indifferences.
Just respect each other’s beliefs. And as Jon said, he would go to the church for her once in a while because it doesn’t matter. Its a different story if she starts pushing him to do something he doesn’t want to and make him feel bad about himself or vice versa. But that can happen with anything, be it religion, money, food, hobby etc
Alex had some seriously hot takes lol. Three years in and you want to open up the relationship 😩
Another prime example of religion leading to conflict... even between Alex and Jon who quite possibly hold the same views on religion haha!
LOVE the podcast guys!
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Arguably the prettiest part of your drive across America was in the middle of the night. (Utah)
Where did you guys get those stands or little tables that you use for your mics
Not John claiming he’s not a Swiftie and quoting champagne problems in the same video 😌💅✨
I’m cracking up about the rim. Why did I know it would be a rim?!?!
Elvis Presley - Blue suede shoes 38:15
I too have recently busted a rim Alex 😂 the tire immediately lost air lmao.. I was like fuuuuck I gotta buy a new tire and hide it from the hubby but I told him my fuckup anyway, fuckit. 😂😅 it was his Cadillac CTS 🥲😓
For the Facebook one-- when i run into an old classmate or something I will fall down a rabbit hole of looking up crushes, friends, enemies, etc. lol
Oo congrats on your cholesterol 👏 that's a big win ❤🏆
Butterflies of life 😂
How do I message them to get relationship advice!?
Jon, put the new toilet seat on! 😂
Alex, it’s probably too late now. I don’t know when you guys record this but target released a travel bag 35 L and it’s the best carry-on ever.
Encore!!!!
Jon do not compare religion to Christmas light shopping. I agree with Alex. Religion is part of your core values.
The religion thing, Jon buddy, love you…but Alex was right on that one
Blue suede shoes by Elvis
1 for the money, 2 for the show, 3 to get ready and 4 to go
I figured I didn’t say that right 😂
@@giveittomestraight you were almost there! Haha ps loving your podcast
38:23 occasionally things champagne problems by Taylor swift right??😂😂
One for the money, two for the show
I never was ready so I watch you go
Butterflies happen due to anxiety and nervousness... If you feel safe you should feel love, not butterflies.
People may cheat, but can still be forgiven. You are not always going to be happy by dumping someone that made a mistake. We make so many mistakes in life but some people are acting like they are perfect.
Cheating is not a “mistake” it is a willful and intentional action that is a betrayal of trust and respect.
Of course you should forgive, walking around with hate in your heart is poison.
But do not go back to that woman who doesn’t respect you
There is no “accidental” “oh no I fell onto this random dudes Peen. That’s bullshit. Anyway who tries to claim that was an accident is deceptive and untrustworthy.
People make mistakes with cheating and that doesn’t mean you have to separate. It is something that can be worked through
Dear lord that religion question was rough. Joining a religion just so I can pray for y’all. 🙏🏽 That’s how you start a Monday drive 😂
On the religion one... she should have that conversation with her boyfriend but I feel like it's up to him to decide if that's a deal breaker for him.
The only thing i wanna hear on the next podcast is jon sayin "this place is f*cking faancy!" 😂😂
I’ll see what I can do 😂
@giveittomestraight thank you for replying 🙏. You guys are amazing! Binge watched all of your podcasts already and just started watching last week. Im a home health therapist so your podcasts make the long drives so much better. Amazing job guys!
That was not a White Lie… that was a straight up Lie 😂
I can say I don’t look up random people on Facebook and definitely not exes. Why give the option for temptation? Also if it’s just women, it’s weird.
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@@giveittomestraight to each their own lol. In my experience and my closer women friends, the people who do that have ended up cheating. Maybe we just got unlucky with our picks 😂
I think you guys are a tad harsh about people who are in a long term relationship and miss the spark. I think it’s super normal to go through that transition period and feel a little weird about change. I still think you should be confident, happy, and fulfilled in your relationship, but there’s a pretty big difference between “wanting to experience butterflies” and “wanting a new partner.”
I think just knowing that your feelings are normal is enough to put them to rest. And if not, then THAT’S the sign that it may be something bigger.
Sexy date nights, spicing things up in different ways can bring some butterflies back:). Get creative!
blue suede shoes
I mean, looking up your exes...it depends on the context..why are you doing it? Just to see if you are doing better than they are? Thats still a lame excuse...theres no reason for it especially if you claim to have "moved on" and are in a new relationship..I dont know. I personally just think theres no reason to do it, but if you do, dont lie about it and if your partner doesnt like it, then knock it off.
Alex, do BJJ with Jon! It’s awesome.
You can change out just the toilet seat lol you don’t need to rely on the man! Also why do men bring up gender roles only when it’s convenient to them?
If you've gained weight and don't want to spend tons of money, try thrifting! ❤