Part 1: Tamera’s Emotional Return and Important Message
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- čas přidán 26. 11. 2018
- Tamera opens up about how her family has been coping with the tragic loss of Alaina Housley, and she has an important message on healing the divided nation.
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“She was my niece from marriage but she was my friend and sister from the heart.” Beautifully said Tamera
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@@nirmalabhagwandin6635 your life's an L
wait who passed from her family?
@@locheyy her niece Alayna.
Why was she crying?
That “I’m ok” BROKE ME😢😢😢
Melanin Queen it’s okay not to be ok
Javar Walton-Cooper yes. I’m a survivor as well. It sucks. I’m with you Tamara and Tia!
@Melanin Queen you are so right because when she said I'm okay and broke down that clearly showed she really isn't okay.. and it's okay not to be okay...people somehow feel like they have to have this strong strength when a devastation has happened and you don't.. it's okay, you don't have to and it's even okay if you don't want to right?
And then the tears!☹
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I just realized she's wearing black because she's grieving.
what does that mean? im sorry im very curious
@@_mya4glockss575 It's tradition to wear black after a death of the loved one. It's to show to the outer world you are in deep grieving so others around you may be respectful. Hope that helps.
Orrrr she’s just in black...
@@_mya4glockss575 when a loved one dies people usually wear black or dark colors
She never really wore black because she always felt it was a sad color
I found this from TikTok when she cried I love tia and tamera with all my heart..
Was it the one that said, Me after losing that person I'd never thought I'd lose? If you did, I saw it too and I had to see why she was crying because I love tia and tamera so much.
@@billieeilishstan2003 that’s the one I saw
@@billieeilishstan2003 yeah I saw that one
Do you know why she was crying like what happened?
@@becca5499 her nice passed
when someone ask me "how am i" the tears automatically start rolling
lala E. Yes and sometimes when try to hide it or be strong you just can't.
lala E. Same
me toooo
Ugh I hate that😭
lala E. Yhasss and then they try to hug me after they ask😩
Omg the sadness in her voice kills me...
I don't know if you'll ever see this but Tam, it's okay NOT to be okay. 💙 God is with you.
Rosa Isela what happened to her. Where did she go
❤️❤️
Marian Nimoh her niece, by marriage got shot in another mass shooting, so she took time off to grieve with her family.
Amen
'God' 😂😂😂
It’s only been 2 weeks, Tamera. It’s ok to not be ok
yesssss cardi mami
I would never be OK if it were my niece.
what happened
What happen
Moon-young😳
“I’m ok.” *immediately starts crying*
This goes to show how desensitized we’ve become as a society. She’s clearly not ok, nor ready to be back at work, yet we’re happy to see her back. She needs time.
Agreed with this. We have created a society of masking emotions and no one is genuine
So so true😢
I lost my son almost 2 years ago suddenly. I went back to work a week later. Seems soon but i needed a schedule back. I needed to know i wake up at 6:15 am, i do yoga and work from a to b. I make dinner, etc. Yes i grieve still and recognized that not having simple goals was not helping me either. I still took the appropriate amount of time to plan necessary things. I cried everyday in my car for months. Two years later it isn't always tears but he he definitely at the fore front of my thoughts. The grief is forever unfortunately.
I imagine Tamara maybe felt the same and needed to her schedule back and to have the focus of her day not entirely be grief.
“Honestly, Im not okay”…that is what she could have said
@@christineshultz7615I am so sorry for your loss. My mother died four years ago and I think of her everyday. I still cry.
Tamera just seems like the sweetest person. You can literally feel her heart as she speaks! Such a sweet soul.
I know I hope I get to meet her someday!! I love sweet and nice people like her!! Not to brag I’m just like her tbh!!
Mike Carter
That's such a horrific thing to say. Congratulations, you're an asshole.
@Mike Carter wow you're pathetic.
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I love her
0:36 That "I'm okay" with that fake smile represents so many of us sadly lying through our teeth hiding our pain and sorrows. I've never seen Tam so broken since S1. It truly breaks my heart to see her like that. I really wish for her strength and I'm sending love to her and her family 💕 🌻
i was JUST about to post this. literally.
What happened in S1
Yup! I’m crying watching this
She is usually such a ray of sunshine
@@kindakomplicated4537 I meant to say throughout all five season I've never seen her so broken.
“Tell me some more about Alaina :)”
I lost my dad two years ago, and people never know what to say when I reminisce about him and get emotional. What Loni said is exactly the right thing to say.
Just thought that was a cool moment of empathy :)
Will Smith I lost my dad about 4 yrs ago.. and I agree that’s the best thing a person can tell you. The memories are what hold us together sometimes
Sorry God bless you
You are truly correct. I wish people would ask me that instead of saying life goes on!!
@@Kenzieann34 absolutely ❤️. hope you’re doing okay. grief is such a rollercoaster, isn’t it?
@@lovelynaomi723 thank you Naomi, that’s very sweet ❤️
I saw her cry on tic Tok and I had to find out why she was hurt I am such a huge fan every since sister sister . So I look up this story and just let me say when I herd her say I'm ok , I can feel the pain she was trying to hold in and cover up and I began to cry with her losing someone that you are so close to may it be family or a friend especially at a young age and the way she past it's something that is so hard to recover. Her niece not only was she beautiful she looks as if she brought so much joy to her families life as if when she walk in the room she brought nothing but love n sunshine . I know that this happen a year or so ago but I pray for her family and any one who has lost someone in that way like she said this world needs more love more supporting each other life is to short . So my love I share with all. All lives matter no matter who you are I love you for just being you
Same here
Mettoooooo. I'm like who hurt my girl??? It's an old clip. But just saw it today on tiktok
I saw too! I’m like “wait what happened?”
Same
Same here .. I had to find out what happened.
I knew the moment she said "I'm okay" I knew it wasn't true. You can see the pain and heartache in her eyes. I like everyone else have never seen her so broken and it's heartbreaking to see her like this. I will continue to pray for her and her family, because losing someone you love is no joke.
she probably meant it in that moment but knowing that people weren't actually asking about her but about how what happened affects her - it's a reminder. your current state of being and what affects it are two different things. so she was ok for a moment and then everything came back and then she moved forward with that. and tears dont always mean someone isnt ok. just like laughing doesnt always mean someone is good/fine etc. emotions, mental health and the grieving process are so vast. best to never assume such things and let people be free to feel out how they feel inside for themselves.
am i saying you're wrong in assuming she wasnt ok? no. i think that's a default response pending a person's tone, body language, facial expression, etc and knowing what has happened. but a healthy person does have moments of being "ok" in the midst of hard times which gives a relief to the stress of processing a situation. it's when you stay down and cant come up for air that you have a problem.
i hope this doesnt offend anyone. i've just processed so much grief, trauma and loss and i hate when people assume how i feel instead of asking. i hope y'all have a pleasant holiday season and please stay safe out there.
@@worshipcatalyst1 I know exactly what you mean ☺️
Nataylee Givens losing someone is no joke
So true. Sometimes “I’m okay” just means “I’m pushing through “.
@@brittanyreid4855 who did she lose ?
Oh Tamera ☹ She should have taken more time off, still so raw 💙
like a month. WAYYY to early.
Unfortunately, most jobs won't allow more time off.
Mgmt Girlyeah yup and it depends on the family member you get more if it’s a parent
Time can't heal a loss so great. She explained why she came back. The best thing for her was to move forward. Plus, she has a story to share in this emotional time, this is the best way/time to share it.
True but for some people grieving is easier when they get back into a normal routine. Only time can heal that pain but it will never fully go away
"Tell me some more about Alaina"
I loved that moment, she could see Tamara needed to keep talking about her and gave her that space. Not just to talk about what happened but the person who was lost. That was really beautiful
She IS a phenomenal actress, I believed the ” I’m okay ” until she broke down
Actress? Dude she was actually and probably still is hurting...
@@scout9120 u didn’t understand what their saying
@@scout9120 bruh they meant when tamera was acting like she was okay, bc she’s not
@@monkeyaddict1 ohhh
@@Vilevic666 I got it now and omg I love Vic Fuentes
I was not ready for 0:36 - 0:55....I'm crying for sweet Tam & her family! RIP Alaina Housley
You ain't never lied tears starting falling
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When Tamera said she was okay and that long pause after showed that she isn't okay and is still getting over it. Tamera take your time. We love you♥♥♥
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What happened
Her niece died
I remember going back to work after my mom died. And the moment they asked how I was doing I broke down. I cried everyday, I took bathroom breaks often. It was only God who got me through this. I cry less but I still cry and I still can't believe it.
Time really is what it's going to take. Someday you think you are fine and the next thing you know you calling someone crying having a panic attack.
My heart go out to Tamera and her whole family, I know how close they are to one another.
My heart shattered when she said she was fine and started crying
"My friend and sister from my heart"
The tears started flowing the minute she said that 💔
Love Tam and you can just feel how heartbroken she is. Those girls are just more then coworkers they are her family and you can feel that. I’m so glad Andrea was there for her❤️ that must have made Tam feel a little better
I haven’t really got it yet like why is she crying ?
@@Taehyungsfeet444 Ik 😭😭😭i dont know
@@Taehyungsfeet444 her niece Alaina, who was 18 years old at that time, died from a mass shooting last 2018
@@Taehyungsfeet444 niece passed
A friend of mine once said at our mutual friends funeral . Grief is all the love you have for that person . With no place to go. That’s why it builds and builds… and finally explodes into tears
Who else instantly started bawling ? 😭
Yes
Koca BEAUTY TV I did it’s so heartbreaking. Poor tamera and the housley’s
So me when I cry
When you ask someone if they're okay when they're trying to be and really not okay I went thru this when my mom passed
In 2020 I'm still here tearing😰💔
ImaBeautieQueen ! Girl same!!
Ok I’m not alone
I’m watching it and I’m crying
@Fyebabe's green beans and potatoes
Tamara is leaving the show😱omg
2021 and it sadly became a tiktok sound
I don't think people realize what a loving and pure spirit Tamera has. God truly outdid himself creating her; never before have I seen someone so true to her faith and convictions consistently even as a celebrity. Breaks my heart to see someone so special go through so much pain and grief. This world is full of too much tragedy.
I watched it hundreds of times, and it’s still make me cry, I can tell the pain in your voice, it hurts.
This really made me tear up, when she said she's ok and then I saw that tear in her eyes, it really touched me
she was truly missed .R.I.P to her niece and all the victims but her being the youngest
Wat happened to her
@@TJ-sj5ge she was shoot
*shot
@@TJ-sj5ge She was shot at a party.
@@TJ-sj5ge She was one of the 12 victims in the Borderline shooting of Thousand Oaks in 2019.
It’s been over a year since my mom died and I wanna break down every time someone asks me if I’m okay 😩 the pain never goes away no matter how early you come back to work.. you will always feel that raw and emotional feeling of loss.
hope you're doing okay and sending love your way xx
I’m so sorry! Lots of love to you ❤️❤️
Me too!! It will get easier.
I’m so sorry for your loss
Psalm 34:18. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
As she remembered the heart ache of grief, she began to tear up but she firmly reassured herself. Then, she closed her eyes and took a deep breathe before she began to speak. Ladies and gentlemen, that truly takes STRENGTH.
when she said "i'm okay" and starts tearing up... i lost it!!! my heart :((
Andrea Regalado!!! I miss seeing her and Tam’s dynamic on camera !! That was sweet seeing her best friend in th the audience in support of her coming back on the show after such a hard time 🙏🏾
Why do i cry whenever i see tamera cry
Bemnet Teshome girl everytime!!!
"And God shall wipe every tear from their eyes; and there shall be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. For the former things are passed away."....Revelation 12:4
Amen
Andrea there for Tam, such a great friend ☺️
She is one of her ride or die friends.
Tamera is such a strong woman❤ she still tried to put on a smile even when she's broken inside
Keep pushing Tam❤, God will bring you the comfort that you need 💖
Every time I see this clip & as soon as she says “I’m ok” the tears roll…!
“I’m okay” 🥺 I felt her pain ...
When she said “im okay” 0:36 and then she started to get upset. I really felt that. My thoughts go to Tamara. God bless her heart. Stay strong!!! 💖💖💖💖
I didn’t even hear anything about this. I Googled why she was crying on the show after someone clipped it and put it on Twitter. I’m so sorry for her and her family. How awful. 😔
What happen ??
There was a shooting at a bar in Thousand Oaks and her niece was one of the victims :(
She’s probably been strong for her family and hasn’t had time to really grieve until she’s asked “how are you”.😢😢
The thing about grief is you have to find the balance of grieving and moving forward. That is the hardest thing I’ve had to do thus far, it is not easy. After losing my mom unexpectedly in August of this year, I can totally relate.
This.😢
That moment when you're hurting inside and for a moment you think you're fine, then someone asks you how are you, and immediately the tears begins to flow. I felt that in my heart. It is never easy losing someone you love and care about. I cried literally as soon s she started talking.
We my family and I lost my brother and I feel her it hurts sooo bad 👎 first months unbearable pain , I think you never get back to normal because you are missing that one close person but theres no other way than forward you just have to live with it the rest of your days until we are back together with that person someday ❤️
Praying for and your family.💕💕
I cant count how many times I've seen this.....and when she says "im ok" the "sorry" i break down 😢
Tamera is a beautiful soul
I was so excited for Tamera to be back but watching this I realized she needed more time. My heart and prayers go out to Tamara’s family and to all the other families who have lost someone.
Its one thing to be grieving over the loss of a loved one but to then go online and see hateful comments from people because of statements made by her husband has got to be killing her!! EVERY VICTIM AND THEIR FAMILIES OF THIS TRAGEDY HAS MY HEART AND PRAYERS!!! May the blessings of the Lord keep them at peace!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@Mike Carter stfu hating ass bitch
Some are hateful some are speaking from anger regarding Trayvon. She deserves her moment to grieve her kins loss, but you shoildnt have to lose a loved one in this manner to access the pain it would feel. Trayvons mother lost her child, to hear Adams comments muat have hurt too. We must be careful what we say, none of us our exempt from the potential of this pain.
@Mike Carter like I said stfu hateful bitch
@Mike Carter I had time off work to go support my husband at his uncles funeral, I know numerous people that have time off to support their in laws as when you get married you become a family
@Mike Carter you said what person gets time off work for in laws dying its actually pretty common
Tamera is so strong for being so open about this situation.
This gets me every time so many of us try and put on a brave face and her showing her vulnerability speaks volumes of her strength of character!
Man grief is a journey. My mom passed a few months ago, and the pain is real. I truly hope her family has the support that they need especially her parents ❤️
Grew up watching her on TV. Seeing her cry makes me cry. It's like seeing a sibling cry.. hope God gives her and her family strength.
0:34 - 0:50 Literally exactly how my first therapy session went.
"Draw near to God and He will draw near to you." -The Bible
EXACTLY how it went. Same
Exactly how I was when talking to my therapist a week after my grandma passed away
I am crying. This is so raw right here. Tamera we love you and your family and we mourn with you all.
I just came into this video because i saw a clip of this on social media. and I just want to say my family has been in pain last 2-3. My uncle passed away and he actually was always active at the borderline bar/restaurant and I definitely feel your pain. I came in here to show love to those who may be grieving because I am there with you. Giving a big hug to whoever needs it because sometimes during grieve we feel so alone… ❤
Ugh it kills me to imagine the pain all those effected by these kind of violent acts.. God bless to all ♥️
This support between these ladies is so so strong, and I can feel the love in this.
My heart breaks for her. You can hear the heaviness in her voice and heart.
For her to come on after such a tragic loss is so strong. Using her platform and voice to try and make a change. If I went through this I’d be ugly crying. I’m so so sorry..
I just lost My Dad in June and I felt this. When you are genuinely trying so hard to be okay but you're not and someone asks you. That heavy deep breath and then the tears come. It hurts every time.
This broke me down, because I lost my aunt the Friday after valentines in a house fire. And I haven’t been able to grieve but this helped me start that process!
The second she said “I’m ok” I lost it! 😢 im so so sorry for your lost Tam! My condolences to you and your family ❤️
Ugh this makes me cry and hurt for her. I have the same type of relationship with my niece from my husbands family. I’ve known her since she was 7, she just turned 21 and she really is one of my best friends. I love her so much so I know Tamera is broken by this as I would be too. I saw comments on another video saying “she wasn’t even her real niece.” It doesn’t matter that they didn’t share the same blood, they were family. My heart goes out to you Tamera, I can’t imagine what you must be going through.
If you ever felt pain, that silence after saying “I’m okay.”, resonated with you the way it did with me. It’s okay Tamera, you’ll find the light out of this. 💞
I love how the girls at the table have such a bond when tamera said I’m okay they all were silence because they no she is not okay are not ok so much love for them 💜
I've watched this video many times since it was released and I am comfortable now talking about it. I am from the town where this shooting took place. At the time I was frantic thinking about if I knew anyone that was there. Thankfully I didn't but my heart goes out to those directly affected by it. I was home that weekend and the fire broke out. I was so torn up about what was happening to our town I was lost for a while. Tamera's words explain it all. I don't think I will even get over the fear and suffering myself and people around me felt but I will move forward.
Sister Sister was one of my favorite shows growing up, I never had a sister but watching that show made me feel as if I did have one through them.
Thank you Tamera for everything back then and now.
Love shall over come grief, always.
You're allowed to still not be OK Tam even when you're moving forward❤️ God is with you
I can feel her pain because I lost my eldest cousin in the bar I’m still hurting from that tragic incident 5 years later 😢
When someone says are you ok ? I think it's hard to not cry!
This makes me cry everytime because we have all been here and smiled and said I’m ok while breaking down
First time seeing this video. Tamera said what I’ve been saying for years. You NEVER get over losing somebody you love, but rather God gives us grace to “move forward”. ❤️
I've watched this three times and every time Loni asks Tam if she's okay I still lose it! She's so hurt! My gosh!
Beautifully said I'm so sorry for your loss I know she's in heaven smiling
Lots of love to you and your family Tamera! You all are in my prayers!
I felt all of her pain and sadness when she said I’m ok really had me crying it’s to okay not be okay it’s hard to hide emotions I felt all of this when I lost my dad, so I know how Tamera feels. I felt all oof pain
Having a niece now myself, I can feel her pain. The idea that something could happen to my niece makes me sick to my stomach. I respect tam so much for coming back so soon and having such a positive attitude. I would want to set everything on fire and someone go pay for what they did.
Powerful. Touching. Impactful. Her words and the way she handles herself is so heartwarming. The hurt and grief is real she may have the strength the go back to work but she also has the strength to express and show how she feels. empowering.
It takes real strength to do what Tam did, much love ❤️
Sending my condolences to you and your family 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
We love you Tam Tam! Take as long as you'd like to grieve❤️
people who impact our lives in positive ways .. and light up our world dont last in this world .. i lost my aunt ..she was a free spirit ..loved everyone and was so kind hearted .. she was also young ..just 29years old
this made me cry, such a tragedy and hardship for the family. especially since she was so young. grief in a family is something you never get over. RIP and i wish everyone affected the best
I grew up watching Tamera on tv and she almost feels like a big sister to my childhood, seeing her hurt like this breaks my heart so much ❤️
i felt that “i’m ok”🥺💔💔
This was really hard to watch, so heart breaking.
The pause, the silence, the tears. Wow ❤
It's April 2019 and I still cry watching this. Ugh still so sad.
When you are holding so much pain, the words “How are you?” are the breaking point.
The thing is when you are going through this, the tears comes out everywhere, anytime, no matter if you’re at work, traffic, at the market, you’ll never know. I lost my mom 2 years ago, and it hits me everywhere.
Although this was 2yrs ago , i would like to tell Tamera and family and friends of Alana how sorry i am to hear of your loss 😥
I pray time has lessened your grief .
God Bless all 💙
Definitely made me cry…. I don’t think I knew of this story- just came across a clip of Tamera crying and geesh, she’s such a sweet and genuine woman, anyone with a heart would be in tears. I hope with time, she’s healed
This video just popped up… 3 years later and thing haven’t change in the country. So sad
Loni looks lovely👌...Tamera too as always...its sad when we loose ppl in our families...stay strong girl 💖
They were all so supportive & that really pulled on my heart strings. That touched me deeply
I still cry when I re-watch this.
Tamera,
Love is truly what we need in this world, now more than ever. I wish you and your family the very best during these critical times. My heart goes out to the families affected by gun violence. Alaina and all the victims of gun violence will not die in vain, as you stated. We need to do better! This has to stop!
XOXOXOXOXOX
Thalia T.
You can feel her pain radiating through the screen. I am so sorry for you, your family, your niece and every victim of gun violence and their families. It’s not fair you’re being put through this pain when the people with the ability to change the gun laws seem the safest from their harm. I hope you guys are doing better. She will always be with you
I remember being so sad when I heard this news. I wanna give you the biggest hug ever. Bless you and your family. ❤️
Tamera I felt that “I’m okay “ 😢 I’m so sorry
She is so strong though. I love her, god bless her and her beautiful Babies🥺🥰